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| 1 | My sister took her life and my world is fucked.I can't even imagine the level of stress that you're probably feeling right now, but I sincerely hope you can heal from it. I'm getting the vibe that you're serious about progressing yourself mentally, emotionally, and just in general, and believe it or not, you're likely to grow a shit ton from this situation, even though it might be hard to see that right now. Whenever I'm feeling really down, I go back to this video because it shows that there is hope, and that once I surrender to experiencin… | /r/askTRP | 30/03/20 01:25 AM |
| 1 | How would you overtly show a girlfriend, person you're leading at work, or close friend, that you care about them, without being supplicating?The word "genuine" gets dicey. Where is the line drawn? For example, when you hold the door for people. You don't do it expecting them to say thank you, or view you as a good person, or do whatever else for you, BUT, you know that "holding doors for people" is a smart thing to do, and so you incorporate it as a part of your persona, and you keep doing it regardless of the reactions of everyone else because you already decided to adopt it. You're not expecting anything out of it, and you're not g… | /r/askTRP | 28/03/20 03:02 AM |
| 1 | How would you overtly show a girlfriend, person you're leading at work, or close friend, that you care about them, without being supplicating?I feel like the difference between a covert contract and being compassionate is that one you do as a state of being because it's efficient in the long term, regardless of how specific people take it, and the other you do expecting a direct one-to-one gain from it. I think it's a smart long-term trait to adopt, but I'm curious how to incorporate it. | /r/askTRP | 28/03/20 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?You're right, it's definitely insecure. Looks like I'll have to find a way to make a rule I follow to avoid overly deluding myself and being too available, and then force myself to view myself as the leader for initiating. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/20 05:58 PM |
| 1 | When is it useful to get mad on purpose?Even if I don't use all of this, this was really insightful in terms of what to watch out for and what to be aware of. Thanks | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 11:15 PM |
| 3 | When is it useful to get mad on purpose?Why is wanting to improve and explore the boundaries of interacting immediately dismissed as autism? Not to group you in with everyone, but "lifting, confidence, ngaf, and the trp handbook" only address a part of self-growth. There's knowledge to be obtained everywhere. Closing the door because you feel like you already get it only leads to the same stagnation that a cult or religion does. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?I wouldn't think so, but it might be something to work on. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?I see what you're saying here. Yeah, I probably am over-thinking this. Thanks for the heads up | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?Is that so? Might be something to consider. What does that have to do with my original question though? | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 05:30 PM |
| 0 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?Quite an over-reaction for a normal conversation. It's like you're trying to assert your own value through your advice, but I digress. I do agree though, it's best to create a reality where others approach you. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?I'd have to disagree here with your initial statement. In my POV, it depends on the venue. If it's your first time at the gym and you initiate with someone once, how would anyone know that you're high value? If you're new to a college or work, how would anyone know that you're high value without first warming up to you a bit and knowing what you bring the table? I feel like your analogy applies more to a "regular" somewhere, or an owner, a party where you show good social skill and already initi… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?Gyms are still open for you? Wow, I'd love to be where you're living. And yeah, that's what ends up happening to me sometimes, and then I feel like I'm some needy dude. But lately, I've been interpreting it as though I gave them a chance, but that these people are either overly shy and insecure, or they have a stick up their ass, so I'm better off not wasting my time with them anyways because they'd drag me down. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?That makes sense. So you're basically saying that it's more about how I act during the conversation itself rather than whether or not I was the initiator? | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?It's one interpretation, but why that one out of all of them? I feel like taking on that interpretation just leads to insecurity because I'd be negatively interpreting a vague situation. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?That's an interest opinion. Would you mind sharing what lead you to making that conclusion? Like if someone started conversation with you 4 times with you never initiating, would you never feel like they need you more than you need them? | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?Do you think this is more just general social skills? | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Is being the one who's always initiating and starting starting a conversation with people whenever I bump into them being needy or supplicating, or is it just being a social person who reaches out?You think so? I feel like it depends on how needy I come off during the conversation, but I could see how them not initiating by the 4th time means that they're like not as interested, which means I could come off as needy. I'll probably have to create some sort of mental rule like I'll initiate 3 times, and if the person never reaches back, then it means they're not putting the effort that I put in to create a spark and so if they don't reach out again, then it's they're loss. Like a 3 chances … | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 03:29 PM |
| – | Do you guys have any good DHV topics that use body language as a segway to demonstrating social awareness indirectly?No, you might be onto something here. I personally wouldn't discuss politics, but the concept of getting them to feel a certain type of way and diving deep, and then being vulnerable enough to take the risk of sharing your real opinion makes it more clear why things ended up well for you. | /r/seduction | 26/03/20 08:58 AM |
| 1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?Well, there's the usual unexpected things that make me laugh, like anyone else. If I could pintpoint something, probably confusion, absurdity, and frustration. Like if someone is dumping their really intense emotional shit on me, there's times where it's so over-stimulating for me that it's like an internal frustration and confusion that brings out laughter. It is a bit strange tbh, I'll probably get it checked out regardless | /r/askTRP | 22/03/20 12:45 PM |
| 1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?The issue is when the laughter comes up and it's this uncontrollable urge. Looks like I'll have to try out shit and whatever sticks, I'll keep | /r/askTRP | 22/03/20 04:45 AM |
| 1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?What's the way you do it? | /r/askTRP | 22/03/20 04:33 AM |
| -1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?What makes you think I'm trying to be edgy? | /r/askTRP | 22/03/20 12:01 AM |
| 1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?I agree, it is. Might try and get it checked out | /r/askTRP | 21/03/20 11:32 PM |
| 1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?It is. It's confusing af because it's out of character with who I am | /r/askTRP | 21/03/20 11:31 PM |
| 1 | I want to own my laughter, since it's my natural emotional response, but the things I genuinely laugh at tend to be really offensive, uncalibrated, or outrageous with little context. Any advice?This is one of the few things that I've been finding a bit of a problem because the laughter is uncalibrated. I'd love to own my own shit and be like idgaf. The issue is if someone laughs mid-conversation when the topic is serious and it is completely unrelated to anything, it comes off as offensive and immature, especially in more professional settings. | /r/askTRP | 21/03/20 10:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you learn to influence people on an emotional level?I was thinking more one-on-one but I see how that could work in groups | /r/askTRP | 20/03/20 05:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you learn to influence people on an emotional level?That's a good idea. Is this a majority? I'm seeing so many trends where in groups people are trying hard to one-up each other, or someone is constantly trying to share "something cool", or someone is offended because you're not constantly reaching out. And what's even more annoying is these fake people rarely reach out to you, if ever, yet they get offended or question you when you ghost them. Like fuck, I wish I could understand what it's like to always need validation on an emotional level. Li… | /r/askTRP | 20/03/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Make sure to read "The Game". Not a summary of the book. Actually read it, from front to back. My mind is being blown right now.Have you even read the book? Not if you're hot, but rather if you're high value. Looks play a part in that. Average looking is enough for most girls who are available. You say "remotely physically attracted" but how many guys do you really think fall into that? Girls have a fuckability line, if you meet it, you're in, regardless of if there are better options. | /r/seduction | 19/03/20 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Make sure to read "The Game". Not a summary of the book. Actually read it, from front to back. My mind is being blown right now.Why do you think so? | /r/seduction | 19/03/20 08:07 PM |
| 1 | From a seduction perspective, is it better to put the spotlight on others?No canned routines for me or weird dancing monkey shit. In fact, that's the take-away I got from the book. The only thing "canned" I'm doing is the openers, and I'm turning them into something I do naturally, and vary depending on where I approach. Imo, what "The Game" did is give a cheat code for social confidence. They stay in the conversation long enough to build comfort or garner interest, then honestly, they can just exist as themselves and be high value while being non-reactive and keeping… | /r/seduction | 19/03/20 08:06 PM |
| – | Make sure to read "The Game". Not a summary of the book. Actually read it, from front to back. My mind is being blown right now.I appreciate you sharing The Truth. I already read the summary, but I feel like that doesn't do it justice. I'm going to stop reading once I'm done with The Game so I don't become paralyzed from overthinking, but it'll definitely be fun to dive into once I've broken down my limiting beliefs. | /r/seduction | 18/03/20 04:56 PM |
| – | Make sure to read "The Game". Not a summary of the book. Actually read it, from front to back. My mind is being blown right now.What were your thoughts on Tyler Durden? I'm close to finishing the book, and hearing about what he did made my blood boil tbh. Mystery seemed so passive too, in that he just let it happen. | /r/seduction | 18/03/20 01:51 PM |
| – | Make sure to read "The Game". Not a summary of the book. Actually read it, from front to back. My mind is being blown right now.I appreciate the recommendation, but I'm cutting off on the books. I feel like I have all the knowledge I need at this point, it's just about taking action. | /r/seduction | 18/03/20 11:21 AM |
| 0 | When I think of an experience I had with one girl, no TRP tactics really applied to her outside of leading and self-assurance. But she made it easy to be that way. Is it just much easier with a girl who's really confident and finds you her type?I was the one who ghosted her | /r/askTRP | 17/03/20 09:38 AM |
| – | How do you guys get over being judged for approaching?Thats a great suggestion, I dont know why I didnt consider that. Im at the point where if it means having to bus 5 hours a day to do it, I will. This is probably the only time in my life where I can find so much time to once and for all deal with this issue | /r/seduction | 05/03/20 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Have any of you guys had ridiculous approach anxiety? How did you conquer it?What were you first few approaches like compared to your more recent ones? My biggest worry is my throat getting blocked from the anxiety. | /r/askTRP | 05/03/20 08:57 AM |
| 1 | I feel like a complete fucking retard when I cold approach. Is it just something you accept and keep attempting?I'd have to disagree but I appreciate the sentiment. I've spent a year just working on myself, but no changes. I didn't do it FOR dating, but nothing changed because I wasn't taking risks. I've come to realise that unless I build the balls, the issue won't solve itself. I'm in the best shape of my life right now, with all six abs and the v-line showing. Also working towards a goal I'm passionate about. I'm much more capable at socialising and having good body language. Without approaching, shit … | /r/askTRP | 19/02/20 04:22 AM |
| 1 | I feel like a complete fucking retard when I cold approach. Is it just something you accept and keep attempting?It's a good suggestion but I have no issue with approaching random strangers. Old dudes, dudes my age, and at this point, even higher SMV dudes at the gym because there's no negative context. You're just having convo. But with chicks, your ego is on the chopping block unless you know how to not give a fuck about others' judgements which is what I'm aiming to work on. | /r/askTRP | 19/02/20 04:18 AM |
| 3 | I feel like a complete fucking retard when I cold approach. Is it just something you accept and keep attempting?How do you feel about the stigma of it? | /r/askTRP | 18/02/20 10:20 AM |
| – | I'm either over-expressive or monotone in groups. I've worked on being present and in the moment, but this always happens.I appreciate the advice but ive already read the book. I have no clue what you mean without a specific example. So far, vague concepts have being thrown with zero practical application. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 08:11 AM |
| – | I'm either over-expressive or monotone in groups. I've worked on being present and in the moment, but this always happens.So how would you go from "attention" to "giving people what they want"? Do you have simple example of that in action? | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 06:44 AM |
| – | I'm either over-expressive or monotone in groups. I've worked on being present and in the moment, but this always happens.Interesting POV. If you have leverage and meet a want/need, or can frame yourself that way, the rest works itself out. What do you think is an ideal level of attention to broadcast yourself without over-doing it? | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 06:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm either over-expressive or monotone in groups. I've worked on being present and in the moment, but this always happens.Yep | /r/askTRP | 25/01/20 03:17 AM |
| 1 | I have an issue with tonality when opening a conversation with anyone. Body language is fine, but the voice kills it.You're a lifesaver man. I'll look into it | /r/askTRP | 23/01/20 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Is changing hairstyle often a sign of weakness or insecurity?Being insecure about being perceived as insecure ironically is the insecure thing to do. Doing what you want despite being perceived as insecure by some makes you secure in yourself. You can't control others' perceptions. Even if some think you're insecure, because it doesn't affect your mood and confidence, they will eventually cave. Their judgments have no value in reality or in their interactions with you. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/20 03:07 PM |
| 1 | I don't really understand this situation. I'd appreciate an outer perspective.I don't want to game them. I'm asking for a perspectives on what are better ways to react to abrupt situations like that. | /r/askTRP | 15/01/20 07:17 AM |
| 1 | I don't really understand this situation. I'd appreciate an outer perspective.I appreciate the reassurance but it's like if that advice was given for every time someone asks for insight into a situation, no one would improve. Of course, I'll do what I want. | /r/askTRP | 15/01/20 06:52 AM |
| 1 | What's the best way to get shredded fast guys? Please share your workout and diet routineMy qualifications: I went from 260 pounds and unproportionate to 163 pounds and ripped and proportionate in one year, while only hitting the gym 2-3 times a week, and eating mostly whatever I wanted at a deficit. Getting shredded fast will likely increase your chances of loose skin and will likely lead to a yoyo or relapse. If you still want to go through with it, let me just tell you that maintaining a routine and doing SOMETHING will automatically lead to results over time. You just need to ke… | /r/askTRP | 14/01/20 09:47 AM |
| -1 | What's a realistic amount of money in order to retire and gain complete financial independence, if you have no wife or kids?That is true. On other hand, you want to experience life. Even to travel or attend an event that can expand your perspective, or have money to try out a creative project, you need reasonable funds. | /r/MGTOW | 13/01/20 07:15 AM |
| 1 | What's a realistic amount of money in order to retire and gain complete financial independence, if you have no wife or kids?I appreciate the perspective. I want to live mainly in Canada, but travel around a few times a year for bouts of time. Also no struggles with food or over stinginess. I can spend money on creative hobbies without struggle, for example, but no expensive cars. | /r/MGTOW | 13/01/20 07:13 AM |
| – | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.Were these approaches throughout your day, or times solely dedicated for cold approach? | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:43 AM |
| – | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.That simplification was super helpful, thank you. I'll stay on my purpose, arrange my life to increase chances while staying naturally, approach naturally with some sort of context, then indirectly compliment while navigating the interaction. It's true. Accepting discomfort is important. Cheers man | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 07:27 AM |
| 3 | I'm going to be real here, the best role model I have is my alpha mom. I've become more assertive and socially aware, but also now carry some lingering feminine characteristics I'm not aware of. What is the best move from here?I appreciate this. This is actually great advice. Pretty much at the end of the day, you'll still have to be the side-kick to someone older and more masculine until you can pick up on the traits you need | /r/askTRP | 09/01/20 04:58 AM |
| 0 | I'm at 180 pounds at 6'0 and eating 1500cal a day, and getting 70-100g of protein minimum daily. I also hit the gym 3 times a week, but my love handles and butt just won't shrink much. What can I do for this?You have a point. It looks like I just have to be patient, kind of what I was thinking from the start. I have experience with working out for years before I became obsese so it's not like I have poor form or don't know how to work out though | /r/askTRP | 02/12/19 06:11 PM |
| 0 | I'm at 180 pounds at 6'0 and eating 1500cal a day, and getting 70-100g of protein minimum daily. I also hit the gym 3 times a week, but my love handles and butt just won't shrink much. What can I do for this?I've been focusing on losing weight because I still have lower body and stomach fat despite being at 180. I'm just trying to maintain muscle while trimming fat. I'd rather be ripped than big. In terms of gains, I'm not getting "bigger", but my arms are becoming firmer and I can lift probably 1.5x the amount I did, from when I started working out 1 month and a half ago. I could only do half a dip in the beginning, and now I can do 12 consecutively so there's that. I mean I have been losing stomac… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/19 06:08 PM |
| 2 | I'm at 180 pounds at 6'0 and eating 1500cal a day, and getting 70-100g of protein minimum daily. I also hit the gym 3 times a week, but my love handles and butt just won't shrink much. What can I do for this?1500 cal a day with 70-100g protein. I eat once a day. Sometimes, I might split it into 2 meals when I need protein after the gym. And I hit the gym 3 times a week, full body. 1-2 protein bars, chicken, cheese, and then maybe a bit of rice, sometimes salad. I weigh 180 so I'm getting at least around 0.5g protein per pound of body weight, despite the huge calorie deficit. | /r/askTRP | 02/12/19 05:46 PM |
| 1 | I'm at 180 pounds at 6'0 and eating 1500cal a day, and getting 70-100g of protein minimum daily. I also hit the gym 3 times a week, but my love handles and butt just won't shrink much. What can I do for this?I went from 260 to 180 in 8 months. I was eating 1500-2000 calories a day with a few cheat days along the way, without hitting the gym. But now I'm eating 1400-1650 daily, with 70-100g protein so I can maintain muscle. I hit 180 pounds about 3 weeks ago, and I started lifting again like a month and a half ago. I go three times a week and do cardio and full body. If I have a cheat day, I make up for it the next day with a more extreme deficit. My stomach's been getting thinner, but my love handle… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/19 05:36 PM |
| 0 | I'm at 180 pounds at 6'0 and eating 1500cal a day, and getting 70-100g of protein minimum daily. I also hit the gym 3 times a week, but my love handles and butt just won't shrink much. What can I do for this?It's interesting to hear a different perspective because I've always been able to gain muscle easily. But I also gain fat REALLY easily. I guess endo vs ectomorph? Anything lower than 1500 calories is straight up unhealthy. I do it at times, but I want something sustainable. That's also why I hit the gym 3 times a week (I do both cardio and high intensity full body weight lifting). I know that hitting the gym 5 times a week isn't something I can do forever (from past experience), so I go hard fo… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/19 05:05 PM |
| 1 | I did a little tinder experiment with some "average-looking" PUAs, and these were the results I got. Interpret them how you want.Makes sense, honestly. Cold approach allows you to showcase more than just your looks. Are you average looking? | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 04:16 AM |
| – | I did a little tinder experiment with some "average-looking" PUAs, and these were the results I got. Interpret them how you want.Hmm... interesting. Did you have any success with those matches and likes? | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 12:22 AM |
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