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| 1 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseHad a guy off OLD insist I pick the restaurant. I picked a nice place that I have always wanted to try. He agreed, then canceled, claiming he was sick (pre-covid). He asked again, after recovering from his presumed illness. This time, he picked the place. It was significantly cheaper than what I had selected, but okay, it's not like it was Applebee's. The date was a disaster! He sat us in the bar, got drunk, and never suggested food, just drinks (I am not much of a drinker). I finally asked the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:22 AM |
| 23 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦The standards don't relax once we are in a relationship. Either it's HV or it's not. If a potential suitor, or long time beau, paid enough attention to what my interests are that he could plan a day around them, be they antiquing, golf, dancing, or opera, that's HV. Saying "hey, wanna go to Goodwill some time" is not. Also, that suggestion about stargazing sounds like a good way to end up on a true crime podcast; I would probably avoid that one even if I was interested in astronomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:25 AM |
| 20 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦Yes exactly. If a man payed attention to what I enjoy, and thus knew I would love this activity, particularly when concluded with a lovely meal, it would indeed be high value. It's not the expense, it's the attention to detail, to my interests, and effort to plan it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:15 AM |
| 32 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦I take exception to thrifting being a poor date. I love thrifting. I would be thrilled to find a great guy that I could take on a thrift hunt, maybe hit a couple estate sales or an auction. We would drive around to the different shops and sales, talk up a storm, compare Playlists on the car stereo, check out each other's style in thrift acquisitions, then have a nice dinner. And if he turns out to be no fun, I would at least have found something cool at the local Savers! But I have yet to find a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Can you ever press charges on a guy?Often, an advocate can accompany you to make a delayed report. Contact the YWCA or whomever provides those services in your area. If Google can't help with finding a women's resource center, call the sex crimes or crimes against persons division at the nearest large police department and ask them. These centers also often offer therapy at no cost to survivors of sexual &/or domestic violence. Let me be very clear- even in my backward ass state, a drunk person CANNOT consent. That old "get a girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:14 AM |
| 23 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!My ability to embroider demonstrates that I have the patience & skill to stab something over and over and over until it is beautiful. Make of that what you will, sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:05 AM |
| 3 | I think all women should have height requirements actually. 😌Match on OLD- so, you look tall in your pictures, how tall are you? Me- 5' 9" and I love my heels, too. OLD guy - oh. Well, I am 5' 6" Me- I know, it's in your profile information. Never heard from him again. I have had variations on this conversation several times & I am over it. I don't care, but they always do. And I am not trading in my stilettos & kitten heels to assuage his feels. So I guess I will look for tall men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:18 AM |
| 2 | I surveyed a bunch of men so you don't have to! : Why guys ask those VERY personal questionsMy ex husband told me that he used to ask women about their families to see if they had daddy issues. He sought women with daddy issues on purpose. Of course, he told me this after we were married, too late for me to run for the hills. Now, if a man asks me personal questions in a singles environment like OLD or in a bar, I obfuscate and ask them about themselves. And my legit favorite podcast is The British History Podcast. Guaranteed to weed out all but the serious history nerds. (But it is ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Help an old friend, or avoid the drama?Thank you. This is solid advice and I will follow it. I miss her, but other things take precedence. I might revisit reaching out in a few years, when my kids are in college & wounds are healed. Thank you again! | /r/askFDS | 27/09/21 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Guys barging into the bathroom on purpose seems to be a big issueQuite sure this is why the ex left me alone in the bathroom! It hurts like hell, but you get some peace and quiet while your intestines are fomenting a rebellion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:18 PM |
| 10 | It's the edit for me ~~~I swear my ex takes a damn survey of everyone he knows before dealing with me! And they give him terrible advice. Me- you took my stimulus money out of the old joint account. Give it back. Him- (screaming in a parking lot in his boxers) You are turning into the crazy ex-wife! Everyone we know thinks you are nuts! Just ask! They say I need to be more hard ass with you! Me- I don't take polls about personal issues, but ok. Give me back my money or I am calling my lawyer. Him- slams door shut while… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 04:29 PM |
| 4 | Want kids but dread raising them?Yeah childbirth smarts a bit, and pregnancy is no walk in the park. You really do forget much of the pain, although that doesn't help much at the time. I strongly recommend a birthing center, where you can be surrounded by other women- midwives & dulas. My girls are teens now, and they have no time for LV BS, yet they have big open hearts for people (one daughter is pan) who deserve their efforts, mostly as friends as they aren't really into dating. Nor are they into any of the crap all those Af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Scott BakulaHe went to my high school, although he's a bit older than I am. I always heard he was a great guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Keep your friends safe! 🌸We would use the ASL sign for Help. Right hand as a fist on your open left palm, then lift your hands together. Kinda looks like you are asking for a beer, but meant "get me the fuck out of here!" Also, one guy who kept hitting on my drunk friend on Bourbon Street... I asked to see his ID, and the dumbass gave it to me! I refused to return it until he gave me back my tipsy friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:09 AM |
| 2 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.My psychiatrist: we have not seen you since 2019! Are you OK? Me: I am actually great! Just wanted to discuss an AD/HD med. Dr: you aren't taking... proceeded to list various antidepressants & anti anxiety meds. Me: nope. Don't need 'em. Dr: are you in talk therapy? Me: nope. Doing great. Sleep great. No anxiety attacks, no depression. Dr: what changed? Me: I got divorced. Turns out, I didn't need a doctor, I needed a lawyer. Actual conversation. And I got my Ritalin so win-win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:56 AM |
| 2 | How does FDS inspire your OLD experience besides vetting and having a scrotation?"I am in an ethically non- monogamous relationship" Swipe left | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 11:22 PM |
| 86 | Found this on Twitter.I keep wondering about the cyan dick... it's a lovely color and all, but seems an unhealthy tone for genitals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 10:40 PM |
| 25 | My mental health is NORMAL for the first time in my life!With husband- a cocktail of medication & a slew of doctors & therapists. Without husband- no meds, no docs, just awesome girlfriends Turns out, I didn't need a shrink, I needed a lawyer! Life is good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 06:46 AM |
| 10 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.Am I the only one bothered by "made from China?" Like is the tee shirt porcelain? I could see this as an artistic statement- looks beautiful, soft, & pliable, but nope, and if you try to break it, it will cut your hand. Plus, porcelain painting has long been treated as a feminine art, which Judy Chicago took to new levels... sorry, I am waiting in line (socially distant!) at a government office and the mind wanders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:45 PM |
| 5 | What are your thoughts on a first date where we both cook dinner together at his place? HVM? LVM?Absolutely not. Low effort, cheap, unsafe, will expect sex later. No. | /r/askFDS | 28/02/21 09:41 PM |
| 2 | This is straight out of a horror movie... being a woman automatically puts a target sign on your back. Please stay safe ladies ❤️Just came here to say that I love my new lock- uber pro. Got it off Amazon. Opens with a fingerprint or a code, so my ex can't copy my kids' keys. Auto locks, so no wondering if I locked the door or not. I can give a temporary code to the pet sitter if I need to. If the wifi goes down, there's a manual key I can use. I freaking love it. Not sure what it says about my life that I am so excited about an electronic lock, but here we are... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 2 | I took it all.When my great uncle died (never married & an odd duck) we had to clean out his hoarder house. Every gift he had ever received had been labeled with the giver's name & how much he thought it cost. Petty level: expert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:19 PM |
| 1 | From The "Book Of Negs" (Negging). This Is What Seduction/Red Pill/Pick-Up Artists Have Been Teaching Males To Do To UsOLD dude's first and only message: I love your hair color, is it real? Me: ghosts We later matched again on another platform & he called me out for ghosting. I told him "guess we aren't a good match then. Bye..." If this ever happens again, I will neg back before leaving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:38 PM |
| 7 | It finally hit me, I’m 26 and feel like time is running out. Does anyone else feel anxious about aging?I had so much fun in my 30s, and my 5th decade is starting off pretty well, too. Stay out of the sun, save some money, make good friends, don't take any shit, travel, develop a fun hobby, volunteer for something important, so much to do & see. Men will come, or they won't, or they will come & not stick around, hearts will break & heal, and you will be fine regardless. It sounds trite, but it's true. | /r/askFDS | 11/02/21 03:32 AM |
| 15 | The words we use: Is he a male or a man? Is she a female or a woman?I think I am going to get kicked out of my grammar-geeks Facebook group tonight for telling a guy that referring to women as "females" carries a connotation that might cause women to think poorly of him. He didn't believe me & suggested I take a survey as I, a lone woman, couldn't possibly be correct. I blessed his heart & told him that his "cite your sources" response was textbook & he needed to get his screenshot & go over to his red 💊subreddit where he can rake in the karma for "showing that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.But did he really "succeed in high school?' His language usage (assuming English is his first language) alone would be a left swipe from me... Edited for a word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:43 AM |
| 11 | Are all divorced men = LVM?My ex divorced me because he "couldn't deal with" my depression anymore. I had been diagnosed with treatment resistant depression some years prior. And he told anyone who would listen about it. I actually got DMs from people I barely knew inquiring about my mental health (they all meant well). Except it turns out, I didn't need therapy & doctors. I needed a lawyer. Since he moved out several years ago, I am doing amazing! No medication, no need for it. The depression left with him. Like he gasli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 12:38 AM |
| 5 | If you catch feelings easily, this might help! Stay strong! >:)I kept in touch with a Canadian ex who now lives in a major American city. He is very successful. He kept sending me anti-Biden memes, which I ignored. A few weeks ago he was asking me send him ideas for songs that were popular when we were in college, which I did. He didn't recognize one of the titles, so I sent him a Spotify link. He says "oh, I don't open links because the democrats control the internet." What? I mentioned it the next day, thinking maybe he was just drunk or joking. Nope. He … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 01:38 AM |
| 2 | I really hope his gf leaves him over this. How is she not supposed to take that personally? Of course he won't answer the question.I was adopted, so.... But too bad my ex wasn't as nice (or thoughtful, or hard working, or smart) as his father. Maybe he wouldn't be a NVM ex! I miss my former in-laws, even that crazy cousin, far more than my wasband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 3 | HVM are secure in their masculinity... he’s taking dancing lessons from another guy without me 😂I took years of dance as an adult- tango (mostly American Smooth), Latin, swing, ballroom... It is an amazing workout & way more fun than any exercise program I have ever tried. I am utterly uncoordinated, yet I can waltz & foxtrot up a storm. Backwards & in heels. Try it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 05:47 AM |
| 11 | Thoughts?Do you know my nephew? That's what he did. It was super sweet- and covid safe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:55 PM |
| 8 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthI'm sorry, I couldn't read it all. The poor grammar & lack of punctuation gave me a headache. Dude can't work a comma = my lady parts become dry as Arrakis, only without the cool spice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 09:31 PM |
| 136 | LVM/NVM thinks gift cards are an acceptable gift for GF. Thread is full of neckbeards defending him/telling her to cOmMunIcAte her needs to him.My last mother's day with my ex, he ran up to Walmart day-of and got me some bags of gummy bears and handed them to me. Was confused when I was displeased. I bore you 2 children & this is the best you can do? Don't miss him. Today, picked my kids up at school & one asked "why are there flowers in the car?" "Because I buy them for myself now." "That's awesome, mom!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 11:49 PM |
| 3 | Men and their repulsive homes 🤢Saw a guy on Tinder... married, with a profile saying his wife won't touch him. Photo is a bathroom selfie in no shirt & with his pants half down. Weird hat on his head. Pants are old Dickies, with pubes sticking up out the top. Huge gut. Pasty pale skin. Bathroom is just drywall & tape, not finished, laundry on the floor & the toilet seat is up. Oh man, I wouldn't touch that either! Not with a 39.5 foot pole! Needless to say, a screenshot went to my friends for our amusement. Really, that's all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:49 PM |
| 171 | A man who doesn't immediately apologize and listen if this happens is not a man you need to be around.We had family therapy to help my ex in his relationship with our kids. I was mostly quiet, because the issues aren't really about me. The (female) therapist asked my opinions on some things & I offered them. Ex kept interrupting. I would just stop talking with a smile on my face. He was making it very clear to the therapist what a douche he was by his behavior towards me. Finally, he interrupted one too many times and the therapist told him "you had your turn. You interrupt her every time she ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 4 | Which of you saved this girl?When my ex-husband & I first split up, I got him gifts and signed them from the kids. He got me nothing, and didn't help the kids get me anything for birthday, Christmas, Mother's Day. That was the end of that. Never did it again. Now the kids are older & shop on their own. They get me gifts. They get him a card. And he complains to me that it is store-bought. Evidently, he expects teenagers to get out some crayons and color him a picture? The kids are having none of his nonsense. I may have bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:24 PM |
| 10 | Which of you saved this girl?This so hard! Funny how the broken picture on the wall was one he gifted me, the broken dishes were gifts from my father or souvenirs of trips he wasn't on, or a door or cabinet to the house that I owned, not him. Now, ironically, he tells my teenager that she needs to control her emotions better. Really, dude? Luckily, she sees right through his bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:14 PM |
| 8 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?I snorted our loud at this and startled my cat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:48 PM |
| 10 | Stole this from the Tinder sub, this woman is my hero for todayI have not had anyone off a dating app ask me for my fantasy yet... I am feeling left out! But I also don't reply to men whose open line is "heyyyy beautiful..." Right now, all my past matches have faded away & I am only talking to one. It has been a week or two & mostly we talk about food, restaurants, and regional differences in curry. Probably not sexy, but now I need to experiment with coconut milk. In the kitchen. Not the bedroom. And my actual fantasy? A handsome, interesting, smart, funny… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:38 PM |
| 9 | X post from r/witchesvspatriarchyYeah. One group used to do a big skyclad Beltane in this private campground about an hour away. Very crunchy granola with Pagan trappings. All I could think of was ticks & chiggers! NO. And then friends who went started telling me stories about alcohol & drug fueled sexual improprieties and I was so glad I never went. I can commune with nature just fine with my clothes on, or in my backyard skyclad within a privacy fence. I do attend festivals to hang out with my Pagan peers, but these are in pu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:06 PM |
| 6 | X post from r/witchesvspatriarchyThanks for the heads-up, as I am looking for some good witchy subs for my daughter & I to join. Clearly that would not be a good fit for us! Honestly, I have remained a solitary all these years because I don't like being creeped on. No, dude, I don't want to participate in the Great Rite with you or anyone else! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:25 PM |
| 5 | NVM destroyed meWait. Do we have the same husband? Well, mine is an ex-husband now. I was left a shell of myself by the time he left. Yep, he left me. Guess he had used up everything I had to give like that stupid tree in The Giving Tree. I hate that book. Pickmesha foliage. Sorry, I digress... Anyway, I am So Happy now! I don't miss him at all. I have to deal with him because we have kids, but I just find him a pathetic loser. Because he is. I was on a bucket of meds when he left, all psychiatric, and now I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Men deceive women all the time with hats and beards, yet women never call it out!All the OLD pictures are of dude in a ballcap? Swipe left. Beard or porn 'stache? Swipe left. I want the hair on his head, not his face. My ex used to grow out this wretched beard-like facial hair; looked like a drowned possum with mange had died on his face. If he did shave, he used my pink razors because he liked them better than man razors. Whatever, dude. So I am now firmly anti-beard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | If you got a dick pic, it's your fault. Remember!I have actually never received one. But I am old, and only been back at being single 2+ years. I suppose my time will come? I should Google a giant penis pic to send back... or just a lot of laughing face emojis? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:30 PM |
| 4 | And guys wonder why they are getting ignored. I deleted the match already but I'm dumbfounded. My bio talks about my hobbies, things i like to talk about, my current goals etc. Him: 🚘🏎️🖥️✌️🤪How many guys have sent me "hey" as an opening line? I cannot count them all, like the stars in the heavens but significantly less bright. I don't answer to "hey." If he can't send me a complete sentence, I ain't got time for that low effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 6 | Poly RelationshipsI have a friend in a long-term MWM poly relationship. They all live together in the suburbs, she stays home with the kids, both men work at excellent jobs, and it works quite well for them. Legally, one is her husband, but the kids call both of them dad. Never asked who is on the birth certificates. Lovely people all around. I think it works because they have no jealousy in their relationship I know another group that is MWM as well, and seem quite successful. I only know the married couple, not… | /r/askFDS | 30/11/20 02:50 AM |
| 15 | another profile of a unfunny & self entitled man - you better laugh or swipe left (translation in comments)Ok. My German is rusty & I thought that's why I had trouble reading this, that it didn't make sense because my language skill was weak. Nope. I was reading it mostly right, he just doesn't make any damn sense in any language! Nach links! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:00 PM |
| 201 | We are not far from this time. I’m just saying, men have been trying to gaslight her forever.As I mentioned in another thread, go read "Yellow Wallpaper" from 1892. Terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 08:12 PM |
| 20 | Radical Feminist LiteratureI suggested to my daughter's English teacher that she have the class read "Yellow Wallpaper" and she did it! That's how I started down this path. (Short fiction from 1892) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:40 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, please helpI must concur that there are enough red flags here by yardage to shame a Christos instalation. And you know this. Just chiming in to note that in the future, I might avoid telling any man I was arguing with that anything makes me feel vulnerable. That's like saying "Here's my button, please push it." Don't point out your own weaknesses in such a context. It just shows them how to hurt you. Show this man the door and lock it behind him. | /r/askFDS | 28/11/20 04:13 AM |
| 2 | This online dating profile... I have no words. Yes that is a chicken sandwich. His only photo. How he thinks this is enticing to anyone is beyond me...CHICKY SAMMIE! Come on, I can't be the only one who thought that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:47 AM |
| 9 | Like notify your girlfriend???It's like back in college, Art History professor puts up a slide (back when there were slide projectors) of an early Renaissance painting & we look for the symbols... Only instead of decoding religious art, it's Out-the-Scrote. Actually more fun than college! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:44 AM |
| 20 | Will the gold christen country girls please stand up? Poor Jamie needs someone to drive him around and pay his meals. OMG ladies I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣Dude is like a rejected Mellencamp album that should never happen. Also, as a former English teacher, this caused me physical pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:39 AM |
| 6 | OLD EntertainmentI went to a workshop at a con called "Cosplay is not Consent." Some of the young male cosplayers were complaining about people touching them and petting their costumes or taking pictures without asking and how that's so wrong... and here's middle-aged female me trying so hard not to laugh. Welcome to a woman's life every damn day, especially a cosplaying woman, dudes. Sucks, doesn't it? | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 02:50 AM |
| 2 | House Hunters - Delusional HusbandsI admit that I dream of buying a house & flipping it. I used to run the office for my dad's construction company, so I could totally do it... I am not at all handy myself, but I know the right subs, how to budget and bid, how to read a blueprint, pull the permits, how the market works, etc. and still have my industry connections. Someday it will happen! Goals! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:51 PM |
| 5 | In the interest of all of our safety, what are some reputable background check and more in depth resource sites?Oh! Might I add another thought? Try Newspapers.com, it's a subscription service but not expensive, and searches nationally (USA) through myriad newspapers. You can set parameters for dates & regions if you want, or just search by name and see what pops. If he made the papers for something, good or bad, it will show up. Also handy for history & genealogy geeks such as myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:42 AM |
| 11 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Had this happen 2 weeks ago or so. Guy asks me to lunch day of. At 11:30am. I was at an appointment, and even if I wasn't the answer would still be no. He then tells me he has to leave town for the weekend. I tell him to have a nice trip. Never heard from him again. Not keeping me awake at night one bit. | /r/askFDS | 11/11/20 04:34 AM |
| 10 | In the interest of all of our safety, what are some reputable background check and more in depth resource sites?And don't count on internet services for complete accuracy. I ran myself through some of those on-line people searches & got all kinds of incorrect crap, or stuff about a cousin who has the same name & age. I do use our local website for court case searches, however. It's accurate & goes back a good 3 or 4 decades. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:30 AM |
| 69 | To the left, to the leftWe called these men "Push Me Pull Yous." The worst one I ever dated took me on a lovely date & told me how much fun we would have together that summer. "See you on Friday!" He said when he dropped me off. Evidently, he meant a Friday in September, as that was the next time I heard from him. Years later, he moved out of state, got sober, came out of the closet & married a lovely man. They are the cutest couple & I am so happy for them both. Hard to be mad at him, really. But lessons were learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:20 AM |
| 7 | I’m so over OLD. Yes, please scold me for not messaging you first. Fastest way to my heart (translation in comments)Schweinhund! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 03:17 AM |
| 3 | Dating an LVM is like going to a bad hair salonIf only there was a Yelp for scrotes, like there is for bad salons... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:09 AM |
| 21 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesMy worst date ever was back in college, in the days before OLD, so it will have to wait for another thread. I have not been on many OLD dates, and the few I have were just meh. One guy actually became a pretty good friend, another asked me out to dinner but then ghosted, but there was this one dude... did the coffee date (pre-FDS), he seems fine. No red flags, but no serious attraction either. He asks me to dinner, my choice. I picked a rather pricey establishment but not out of hand crazy expen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:27 PM |
| 8 | “People only have power over you if you want something from them”Also, sad but true. I will not be totally free from my ex until I no longer require his payments (maintenance & child support) to survive economically. But that day will come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:58 PM |
| 10 | “People only have power over you if you want something from them”Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose... Best when sung by Janis Joplin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:56 PM |
| 3 | ahhh, the real hystories:Check out the British History Podcast for all the amazing history of Englandl; Jamie is a former lawyer & British ex-pat living in Portland trying to cover the entirely of history chronologically. He is great & he tells it like it was, all sourced & meticulously researched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:22 PM |
| 38 | ahhh, the real hystories:Yep. And they gave themselves manicures. The Anglo-Saxon men were quite salty about it indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 02:04 AM |
| 38 | Anyone ever try paid online dating?I found Match a waste of time and money. All the men were unattractive or far away or both. Paid for 3 months and didn't have a single date (well, I did find an old acquaintance & we had coffee to catch up, but that wasn't a date). I think it varies in effectiveness by area. Maybe eharmony is better? I am interested to see other opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 12:37 AM |
| 25 | At what age did you stop dressing up as Ninja Turtles and Batman and start wanting to be ‘pretty’ for Halloween?Ah, I remember my sexy cat costume... ears, tail, little collar, brown dance suit (totally covered wrists to ankles, but skin tight), comfy & warm... dudes would come up to me and I would look them straight in the eyes, and they would flee. I had yellow contact lenses with slit pupils, like a cat's, and the dudes would freak the fuck out. Danced all night with my friends and had a great time. My teenaged daughter asked me the other day, "can I get these weird red contacts for my cosplay?" Oh, ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Extremely toxic relationship- any advice appreciatedLeave. It will be ok. I stayed with someone who made me literally crazy for years longer than I should have. He finally left me! I was a shell of what I had been by then, I guess like that damn Giving Tree, he had taken all I had to offer & left. I cried. I went to support groups. I had therapy. And then a friend told me that my ex was an idiot, that I am smart and cool and hot. And I believed it. Years of being told how much I sucked and all my fears about being alone & broke... just gone. I am… | /r/askFDS | 02/11/20 11:06 PM |
| 20 | LVM out here “cooking” dog food and frozen broccoli on “dates.” I’d literally rather go to the field.This. Maybe with some pumpkin. That's dog food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:23 PM |
| 33 | Stay away from Portland. There's nothing for you there.OMG I just matched on OLD with a guy from Portland who moved to my area! It's like you have met him! Sent me a ton of pics of him with famous people, goes on about wine, and ghosts when I won't drop what I am doing to eat lunch with him. Boi, bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:19 PM |
| 37 | Why did he ask these questions?Reiterating some others, block & delete confusing weirdos who turn a date into an emotional job interview. And yes, I have been asked the question about lying in a job interview for a job that required an extensive background check. My answer? Of course I lie. If a friend asks me if their teeth are yellow and I know they can't do anything about it, I say "you look great!" If some aggressive scrote won't leave me alone, I will lie and flatter until I am safe. If my ex-husband is getting in my bus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:46 PM |
| 7 | Poor birthday gift from boyfriendMy ex-husband could not buy me a gift to save his life. I would make a damn list at Christmas & he would still show up with random shit he bought at the mall the night before. I called him out once & he said he wanted to be creative and not use my list because that "wasn't him." But I would ask for things I needed (we were poor at the time) and he would get me things like cheese plates. Cheese plates? What? I mean, I love cheese, but when my shoes are worn out and I ask for shoes, buy me the fuc… | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 04:40 PM |
| 5 | Using OLD - What are some good things to put in your profile to communicate you are not there to play games.I swear they don't even read the profile anyway. And they will let you know right away regardless. Men I have matched with this week, first communications- "Hey" "Is that your real hair color?" "I love making love during a thunderstorm" (it was raining at the time) "Your feet are so sexy" "Your beautiful" Thank you for your interest, but it's a no from me. Next. Not gonna disrupt my day or put on makeup for such low effort. | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 04:29 PM |
| 25 | Need advice: Am I overreacting?This. Throw both of them away. | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 04:22 PM |
| 14 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateChomsky. Maybe some Derrida? AKA How to make me run for the door in 20 seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Not sure if this belongs here, but I can't take a man with bad spelling and grammarGot a Tinder match today that said "your hair is naturally blonde, isn't it? (It's not) Sorry to lead with that. Your beautiful." Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:50 AM |
| 2 | My ex-husband called me aggressiveYeah it's like they take a poll amongst their cronies! I don't talk to my friends about him except to laugh because I just don't think about him much. He gets no free-rent space in my head, but evidently pondering my evil ways (like making him actually abide by the decree) is a hobby for him & his cohort! Poor sad little men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 11:26 PM |
| 2 | My ex-husband called me aggressiveDo we have the same ex-husband? Mine sent the most heinous texts after I threatened to take him back to court as he owed me a small amount of money & some important paperwork. Evidently, I am mean & crazy & he should have left me ages before he did because aaaaall his friends told him to, & his friends were telling him to be more mean to me but he was being nice instead, blah blah blah... I told him to talk to my lawyer. Sent screenshots to my friends. We laughed at him. He. Can't. Hurt. Me. Any… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:38 PM |
| 26 | 🙄 also, why do men insist on calling us “females” tfDude using the word "females"- thanks, now we know who not to date. Nothing dries out a vagina like a guy saying "females." Seriously. My crotch is now as arid and sandy as the Mohave. Might grow a cactus. Know several women in law enforcement. Wanna up that speeding ticket? Hit on the cop. Mention her butt & she adds illegal lane usage. Tell her her vest must be crushing her boobs? OK, speeding, lane usage, oh look, your plate has a cover! Those are illegal here. Keep it up buddy, she's got all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:16 PM |
| 66 | Every day my faith in men gets closer and closer to zeroWorked for a construction business, in a trailer, often alone. New office machine was delivered by a sales representative. He hooked it up, and starts chatting with me. I was polite, but I had work to do & was not interested in him & his evident poor dental hygiene. He left eventually. But he returned. And called. I started locking the door. The carpenters started eating lunch where they could see if any cars pulled up. Still he called. I finally called his employer & said, "hey, love the thing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:44 PM |
| 10 | What are some good FDS-positive female singers and songs?Been listening to Pink's U+UR Hand today. And Salt & Peppa's She Thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:31 PM |
| 14 | TELLING THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN TO USE HER OWN MONEY TO SUPPORT THE KIDS.. found on Insta. The audacity.Note to self. Do not reproduce with a man who cannot correctly use apostrophes or "you're." Dude might be in for a rude awakening. The (US) state I live in decides the minimum child support and will collect it if you wish. The court can order more, or the non-custodial parent can offer more, in addition to that minimum. Hope she's got a good lawyer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 04:36 PM |
| 2 | This is the attitude we need to have about men!!! Made me smileMaybe it's a metaphor about his skill with his sword? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:56 AM |
| 9 | I’m really curious...is “showing a bad financial situation” a thing on OLD in Canada? My male friend said “Maybe they’re trying to show you that they’re money smart” it’s not attractive to me at all and I don’t think I’ve seen this kind of profile from other countries..Hey I love a trip to the thrift store to hunt for treasures, but the Walmart? No. What kind of date will he plan? Split a meatball sandwich and waters at the Subway in the front of Walmart followed by walking a tour of the Aldi down the street? He will probably ask for gas money! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:18 PM |
| 21 | Men arent2 logical.My ex cried at chick flicks. He also screamed and broke stuff when upset. To his credit, he's in therapy now as his inability to control his emotions was impacting his relationship with our children. I had to take him to court over some shenanigans & he got so angry, he sent me hateful texts, blocked me on social media, and changed the password so I couldn't use the family streaming service. Old me would have been hurt, or argued his points about how I suck at everything. New me was just confuse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:37 PM |
| 8 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?High school. Went to the movies with a group of friends. The ex of one of my friends decided I was his date & kept trying to make out with me. During the movie. A movie about genocide under Pol Pot. What about The Killing Fields says kissing would be welcomed? Of course, this is the same dude who slept in my friend's front yard after she dumped him, until her dad finally turned the hose on him & called the cops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 02:10 AM |
| 8 | Some self discovery and self healing ideas (spiritual level up! )I find the path of the Fool in the tarot very helpful, reminding me that the fool isn't an idiot, the fool is simply inexperienced and naive & must travel through the path of the archetypes/major arcana to become what she is meant to be. It helps me forgive my younger self for mistakes, reframes them as learning opportunities, and keeps me moving forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:48 PM |
| 5 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!I had my youngest at 38, and I wasn't the oldest mom in the ward. Plus there's fostering, adoption, step-kids... you got options still. One of my friends just went to the sperm bank & had a baby on her own. She has an amazing career and an equally amazing daughter now. Sorry he's being an asshat, but snaps to you for recognizing the negging bullshit & having none of it. Hold your head high and look right past him like he's invisible if you are obliged to be in the same house with him for the hol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:36 PM |
| 136 | If only men would be more “natural”Or, alternatively, they get eaten after mating... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:59 AM |
| 56 | Another trash Tinder profileDance. Why do I picture him doing an interpretive dance at sunrise on a Mississippian mound (we have a lot around here) thinking he's all suave, but he really looks like Squidward in that one SpongeBob episode... This dude is the kind of jerk who comes to our annual Pagan event and wonders why all the teenaged witches call security on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:57 AM |
| 10 | are men ok lolI feel like writing scrote haiku now... I embrace this rabbit hole. This might keep me busy all night! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:56 PM |
| 14 | She gave him her best years but once she's hitting menopause he wants to cheatMenopause was my friend. No more period, no more cramps, no more migraines, no more pregnancy risk! She needs a good lawyer, as she can still get maintenance (assuming there's an income discrepancy), at least where I live, for several years. And half his retirement, half the house, even half his social security. I want to hug her & tell her it will be fine- ditch the shitty husband and have a wonderful life without him. Then laugh while he's the old guy at the club... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:54 PM |
| 17 | What? Should I ask him if he can take me on his bike to a field he knows? The low effort I swear, this was his SECOND message to me!My first boyfriend in college had a motorcycle. I loved riding with him, felt like riding a horse, but faster & unlike a horse, it didn't spook at stupid stuff. He was initially annoyed, however, that I didn't clutch on to him like his previous girlfriends had. Well, I grew up on a horse. My balance was excellent & grabbing the saddle horn was for amateurs, why would I grab onto him? He decided that was cool with him & we went on many lovely rides in the country. But I knew him & trusted him; I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 103 | are men ok lolEvidently he has perfected asexual reproduction in humans? Perhaps by budding? Also, as a former English teacher, I question his ability to understand commas. I suspect he can find the comma key with his fingers but not a clitoris... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:26 PM |
| 22 | FDS Strategy today vs courting beforeWomen actually had more rights during the Colonial period than they did in the later 19th century. And during that early era, there was a ritual called "bundling" where a suitor would spend the night in bed with the object of his affection, but with a bundling board stuck between them. No premarital spooning in early US history! Courting, of course, was an upper class activity. No one was taking the Irish immigrant laundress out for an afternoon carriage ride, nor did a woman whose parents had b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 01:19 AM |
| 13 | Pathetic, dramatic LVM cries on reddit over his GF existing before she met himCan someone explain the obsession with a partners previous sex life, like asking for a "body count?" How is that anyone's business? Why are people counting? Shit, I am in my 5th decade on this planet, I can't remember every bad scrote decision I made in the 90s! Are people keeping spreadsheets or something? Hell, what would I even name that Excel file...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 1 | What a beautiful story! This is how us women should look out for each other!🥺❤️❤️❤️One of the things I was trained to look for was use of the word "Daddy." Does the girl/woman refer to a man as Daddy or have "Daddy" tattooed on her? When taken in combination with other clues, it can indicate trafficking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 03:04 PM |
| 41 | Just another reminder that many Disney films are a breeding ground for teaching harmful stereotypes to our young women. Prince Charming is a LIE.Ursula didn't go to Ariel, Ariel went to Ursula. Ariel chooses to sacrifice everything she knows and loves- her family, her voice, her species- to chase after a man she doesn't actually know. And, thanks to Disney magic, everything is just fine at the end. Girls raised on that BS- change everything you are and he will love you- become the ultimate Pickmeshas. In the fairy tale, the original theme - don't be an idiot teenager for love and sacrifice who you are for a man- remains intact because Ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:33 AM |
| 21 | Just another reminder that many Disney films are a breeding ground for teaching harmful stereotypes to our young women. Prince Charming is a LIE.Yep, this. And the Hercules myths are elaborate, interesting stories but Disney ignored them & made up some bullshit. Where's the Nemean Lion? The man eating horses? The tragedies? He married Megara, had children, then was "stricken with madness" by his nemesis Hera & killed his whole family. Disney left that part out... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 03:31 AM |
| 96 | Just another reminder that many Disney films are a breeding ground for teaching harmful stereotypes to our young women. Prince Charming is a LIE.The Little Mermaid is the WORST. Sure, give up your freaking VOICE for a dude you have never even properly met??? I studied a lot of fairy tales in their original form in college. They were never exactly intended as children's literature, more as folk tales to perpetuate what society wanted from its members- children should be obedient, women perform certain roles & men others, monarchy is good, the woods are scary and bad, generosity and kindness are rewarded, the evil should be punished, marri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:45 AM |
| 33 | Male med student wants to be able to examine female patients against their will. LVM are everywhere.Unfortunately, vaginal exams given by medical students on unconscious women without their consent is a thing. So his self-righteous indignation doesn't surprise me at all. This is why I avoid teaching hospitals. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/17/health/pelvic-medical-exam-unconscious.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:31 PM |
| 91 | The fact that she feels the need to ask if she's an asshole...My ex would grab my ass all the time just to see me jump, often in front of other people. He did it once while we were putting up a large Christmas tree at my father's house & I was on a ladder. Except it wasn't me. He had grabbed my stepmother's ass instead by accident. She nearly fell off the ladder & Dad was not amused. He never did it (to anyone) again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:22 PM |
| 18 | I blocked him."Females" = deal-breaker Not flexible on that one. Use of language is telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:39 AM |
| 181 | Just watched American Murder: The Family Next DoorHomicide is actually the leading cause of death in pregnant women in the US. Scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:34 AM |
| 12 | How did you guys feel when your ex treated the next better than he treated you?Why does this guy get to live rent-free in your head? Time to evict him. He gets no real estate in your brain. I get it, I poured over every social media post my ex made for a long time, just rolling in the burning pain it caused me. Then I stopped. The pain had burned away my feelings about him. I had no fucks left to give. I don't wish him ill at all, I don't wish him anything at all. He is gone from my mind (except when we are obligated to co-parent). It's so liberating. His new girlfriend? I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:56 AM |
| 67 | Just another day of women being treated like garbage in r/relationships...I had to stop reading that sub as well. Depressing. Some of the posters are so young, I just want to tell them "oh honey, you are 20 years old. Move on. There will other, better, men." But they don't want to hear that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Update to my previous post- about me getting groped on the first date.I don't know what US city or state you are in, but where I am, the YWCA (a non-profit) offers FREE assistance to victims of sexual assault including therapy, working with police, and working with medical professionals if needed. Also, if you are a college student, contact the Title IX [9] officer at your school. All colleges are required to have such an officer if they receive federal funds. That person handles (or is supposed to handle) any complaints of sexual harassment or assault. Finally, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:54 PM |
| 18 | How and Where Did You Meet Your HVM?Facebook dating is the worst. Never had a like that was worth any effort on my part whatsoever. Match was also a complete waste of time & money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | I mean...isn’t it obvious?! Grandpa is gna show up.Companies like ShutterStock produce professional photos of random things & people (with paid models) and then sell them to people who need them. Making a website for your dental practice? ShutterStock will sell you pics of smiling people and dentists. Need to decorate your office with pictures of people using a product? ShutterStock probably already has them available. They are readily available on-line & fairly cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:08 PM |
| 6 | I think all ladies could benefit from Dianic Wicca, even if they aren't religiousEclectic rather than Dianic myself, but glad to see this here! Merry meet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:29 PM |
| 34 | "Trust me, you have all the equipment... you just need to read the manual"The bend and snap! Works every time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:54 AM |
| 8 | Another cautionary tale of the dangers of choosing a LVM: they will not hesitate to hurt you to sexually please themselves, even when you might be literally dyingEx-husband (right after we married): here, honey, I got you some pills to help your boobs grow bigger! Take them! Current beau: your breasts are beautiful & perfect. Don't miss my ex. At all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:53 PM |
| 6 | "Let them slide once, and they'll start figure skating"My ex-husband is being dreadful (you should see the hateful texts!) because I am threatening to take him back to court because he violated our decree. All I want is a bunch of paperwork for a vehicle, but he can't be bothered to produce it, so court is the logical next step. It's like he can't understand cause and effect. He just expects me to take his crap because when we were married, I probably would have. But if I let this slide now, he will take advantage for the next decade, so NOPE. It's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:21 AM |
| 30 | Former Bachelor Lead Justifies Putting a Tracking Device on his Ex's CarI used to volunteer with an organization that helped people who had been victims of sexual & domestic violence. In one of our training sessions, a DV detective told a story about a woman being stalked by her ex. The police garage damn near took her car apart looking for a tracking device they suspected he installed. Found it in the heat vent. Scary shit & very real. Poor woman, I hope he leaves her alone now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:18 PM |
| 1 | I need advice.I suffered terribly from depression. Then my LVM husband left me. After the initial shock wore off, I realized that he must have taken my depression with him when he left. My mental health is just fine now. No wonder it was treatment resistant- it wasn't my brain chemistry, it was him! So figure out freedom- your brain will thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 11:45 PM |
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