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| 21 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control? | ADVICE | est-la-lune | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 07:05 AM |
| 6 | What are your experiences with women who are voluntarily childless? | Q4men | est-la-lune | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/17 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Free Friday - Ladies who knit and crochet: what are your current projects and/or favorite patterns? | DISCUSSION | est-la-lune | /r/RedPillWives | 17/03/17 05:02 PM |
| 5 | My male coworker is treating me like a child, how do I earn his respect? | ADVICE | est-la-lune | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/17 02:59 AM |
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| 1 | "Stop focusing on women, follow your mission and women will come to you" Does this Red Pill tactic actually work in reality when it comes to getting women?I agree. People still have to put themselves in a position to meet others and make an effort, but I think most people can tell when someone's desperate and get turned off by that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/19 04:48 AM |
| 5 | Q2women: who are the sexiest male rockstars/popstars in the history of music?Looks wise, Jim Morrison and Robert Plant. Dance moves considered, Mick Jagger and Steven Tyler (I've met him and he's super friendly! We danced together). I also have a soft spot for Roger Taylor (the drummer from Queen) even though he's much more feminine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/19 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend not dominant enoughI completely agree. I just feel wary about suggesting that OP throw away an otherwise good relationship when there are things she hasn't tried to do, which could help this relationship (recognizing how her behavior could contribute to this problem and communication). Even if things don't work out she'd need to at least learn communication for her next relationship. Assuming her boyfriend is young too it's hard to say whether he'd be a good leader or if he's just struggling to lead the relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend not dominant enoughI agree that being passive is not always negative. People who have strong opinions about everything are exhausting to be around. However, it's these quotes from OP's original post that make me think hers is NOT a healthy type/level of passivity: "I am extremely submissive and want a man to tell me what to do and how to behave and basically dominate me." "I always ask him things, and he says whatever you want and it is making me extremely upset." I don't think there's something fundamentally wron… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 06:05 AM |
| 14 | Boyfriend not dominant enoughThere was another part of my comment where I said that passive ≠ submissive though. I don't personally know any men who want to be with a passive woman (except the manipulative, abusive ones). I know plenty of men who want to be with a submissive woman, though. The problem (as I see it) is that being too passive is just a way to avoid taking responsibility, making decisions, or not doing certain things (such as opening up communication with your partner) because you expect the other person to in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 01:29 AM |
| 22 | Boyfriend not dominant enoughMy boyfriend is nice and kind of passive and always asks me what I want to do and I say I don’t know. This is passive in and of itself. Have preferences! Have opinions! Make decisions! He doesn't need to make daily decisions for you, and he's probably also frustrated that you're so passive. Passive ≠ submissive. Passive: "I don't know what I want to eat for dinner." Try: "I want Mexican food, do you prefer restaurant A or B?" If he says: "I don't care, what do you prefer?" Don't say: "Whatever y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What is your ideal man?Around 5'8", medium length dark hair/brown eyes, strong nose/profile, maybe some facial hair. Not super lean and jacked but also doesn't have a dad bod. Dresses nice but maybe a little edgy or with style. Definitely well groomed even if he has facial hair. Absolutely must make me laugh, dark humor is a must. Confidence is absolutely non-negotiable. I'd rather have a person who is kind than a person with impeccable manners. N count doesn't matter as long as he can maintain a long-term relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 04:10 PM |
| 5 | Depressed husband/infertilityI'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through but I'm glad to hear you have each other and you're here to support him. It's very easy to become depressed about things we can't control, about the cards we're dealt. But remind him that his fertility issue isn't his fault and isn't something he can control, but that you do have options as a couple to overcome this challenge together. It's not the end of the road. Here are two quotes that resonate with me: "I can bear any pain a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Hello ladies, what routines do you think will help in aging well?Sunscreen. Reapply throughout the day and don't forget to apply to your hands/chest/body. Wear a big hat. Drink plenty of water. Get plenty of sleep. Stress reduction or meditation. Drink less alcohol. Eat more veggies, fewer sweets, and fewer processed foods. Don't overdo your skincare routine. Less is more. I use water (cleanser dries me out and exacerbates skin problems), sunscreen, moisturizer, BHA to manage breakouts and retinol serum for anti-aging. Done. Wear less makeup. Spend more time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else sad about losing their looks?Our faces change over time. I used to compare my face to how I looked at 20 and worry that I was getting old (which is stupid because I'm not). In my case I was stressed out and not taking care of my skin (picking). Over the last year my face has healed and I completed school and I'm much happier. I started to think of myself as pretty again, just different than I was at 20. It's easy to get stressed out about looks because men think 20 year olds are the most attractive, but you have a husband w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 03:38 PM |
| 13 | I have zero sympathy for men who go after wrong girls, then act surprised when they get hurtI don't think any of these examples are unreasonable or a logical stretch. But the point is that you don't get to selectively enjoy the attractive and good qualities a certain type of person has, and then get to act surprised by the bad qualities the same type of person has. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/19 03:17 PM |
| 4 | Would it be hypocritical want to be with a virgin, not being a virgin myself?Your attitude towards the experience has clarified your values and has caused you to remain abstinent. That's a great thing. Unless you're going for someone who is extremely religious, I think most people would be understanding of your situation. Of course you're also less likely to find male virgins outside of religious communities and as you get older. I personally think your best bet is to look for someone who has similar values and attitudes about sex, not someone who has a particular N coun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 06:25 PM |
| 2 | How is RedPillWomen Ideals different from Slavery?I'm sorry to hear that's been your experience. That's not okay, and I hope that you have someone you trust IRL that knows more about your relationship who can help you. If it was me, I would leave that relationship; I also know that it's not easy to make that decision, or to follow through especially since you're married. I agree that it's incredibly selfish behavior. Empathy is something people should be capable of by age 23, even though young people can sometimes be impulsive and selfish. I kn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 06:15 PM |
| 2 | How is RedPillWomen Ideals different from Slavery?It should go both ways all the time. Respect is the foundation of a relationship. The easiest thing you can do is to stand up for yourself. Obviously this is contingent on your safety. If you're afraid that your husband will hurt you then you should proceed with caution. Meet your own emotional needs wherever possible. Communicate your feelings, needs, and opinions. You said that your love languages are to receive affection and acts of kindness. How can you fulfill these needs on your own or in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Short women don't deserve tall menCongrats, you know how to be condescending in multiple languages! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/19 05:16 PM |
| 4 | How is RedPillWomen Ideals different from Slavery?BDSM relationships work because both partners consent to perform certain actions that contribute to the relationship dynamic. To be successful these types of relationships require a high level of communication and ongoing consent from both partners. There is some overlap between RPW and BDSM because both relationship dynamics are based on a submissive female partner (other types of BDSM relationships exist but this is the most common) and dominant male partner, whereas BDSM tends to have a diffe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Short women don't deserve tall menI'm 5'0" and I have a preference for guys who are 5'8". But if I was attracted to someone for reasons other than looks (y'know, because we'd be good together in a relationship), the last thing I'm worried about is his height, or offending another woman just because she refuses to date "manlets". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/19 05:25 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women With Abusive Partners Ignored Obvious Red Flags And Are Therefore Not Victims But Complicit In ItIf he's charming and telling you everything you want to hear, something's up. I agree with this particular point. I also think that, to an extent, some people are just vulnerable to being manipulated by others and for whatever reason don't see these types of things as red flags. I don't think that makes women complicit in the abuse. It's easy to say that it's someone's responsibility to get out and not let this situation happen again, but since we're talking about people who are vulnerable to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/19 03:46 PM |
| 6 | CMV: Women With Abusive Partners Ignored Obvious Red Flags And Are Therefore Not Victims But Complicit In ItDoes he treat you well and others like shit? This is a big one, because women tend to only judge a man by how he treats them and not others. Eventually, you'll catch one too. Incorrect. A lot of abusers are very charming toward others, and when women speak out about the abuse other people invalidate it because they perceive the abuser as a good guy. The signs that you wrote about are obvious with violent physical abusers, but there are plenty of men who are emotionally manipulative/narcissistic … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/19 03:34 PM |
| 1 | How to play hard to get while in a LTR?I was in the same kind of relationship with the same kind of guy. We broke up twice. A few things changed after the first breakup, because the threshold of what I considered tolerable behavior changed and he knew that I was willing to walk. But he never really showed me the same drive to grow and change of his own accord (a trait of mine that I prize above all others) and I was still unhappy. When we broke up the second time for good I never, ever looked back. He gave me the same speech, that we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Doormat vs DeferenceI'm sad that these kind of posts need to be made (re: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/deowuz/checklist_or_toolbox/) but I'm happy these posts were made and extra happy that you're making them. Just sendin' some love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 02:19 AM |
| 16 | Regarding "submission"..I disagree. You don't want to consistently demonstrate to someone that you're putting yourself last, or that none of your opinions and preferences are as important as his. YOU come first because unless you take care of yourself and advocate for your own needs and desires, you're not really demonstrating that you have any value other than carrying things or putting a plate on the table. Maybe you and your husband are different but most of the strong-willed men I know want a woman who challenges t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Me IRLIf you're struggling at 5'10" you're approaching the wrong kind of women. Whatever they had in common, avoid. Save not only your kindness but your time and energy for the type of woman who's relationship material to begin with, i.e. not one who thinks she's owed a 6'1" guy because she exists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/19 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: For those women who 'don't care about height', why is this point never mentioned in their dating profiles?Ah, that wasn't my intention at all. I'm not perfect, so I don't expect the other person to be perfect. But then again what is considered a "flaw" is really subjective. I'm not going to waste time pursuing people if I think they have too many red flags or I'm not attracted to him for X or Y reason. Obviously they won't be perfect but in a relationship then yes it would be important to validate your partner's flaws. I just assume at that point that none of those flaws are actual deal-breakers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/19 05:26 AM |
| 7 | I Made a Passive-Aggressive Comment to My BoyfriendSometimes when you address a problem together, you're going to have disagreements, become frustrated, or even unintentionally hurt each other's feelings. I don't think you're supposed to feel good about your problems, you're supposed to feel good about working together to resolve your problems (which you did). In other words, use your discomfort as motivation to resolve conflict in a healthy way (not attacking each other by being passive aggressive or even mean), so that you can grow from it tog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 02:26 AM |
| 3 | I'm clumsy, absent minded, and "behind" compared to other women my age(28). Boyfriend gets upset at my lack of common sense.Grew up with my BPD grandma and a single dad. Are you at all familiar with Lawson's typology of BPD mothers? I mention this because NPD has a lot of similarities with BPD, and your mother sounds like Lawson's Hermit type, the "life is too dangerous" message that can cause some children to manifest learned helplessness. I recommend therapy if it's something you have access to. Then I recommend cutting ties with your parents and moving out. The biggest step you can do to break the cycle of learned… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: For those women who 'don't care about height', why is this point never mentioned in their dating profiles?I agree. My immediate reaction to your comment is to argue that there's a difference between strangers and our partners. Since you're looking for clarification I'll let you continue before I get sidetracked on that, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/19 05:25 AM |
| 24 | Q4A: For those women who 'don't care about height', why is this point never mentioned in their dating profiles?As a woman I don't consider it my responsibility to validate someone for any perceived "flaws" they have. If a man is too insecure to approach tall girls (disclaimer: I'm not tall), then that's his problem. If a man is confident enough in his height to swipe right on a woman who's the same height or taller, she's going to give him an answer anyways by swiping right (matching) or not matching. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/19 03:06 PM |
| 2 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?Fear guided most of my decisions and cost me some of the same opportunities I was afraid of losing. Of course it's only in hindsight that I recognize what decisions were "wrong". If I had the opportunity to do everything over, I'd be more disciplined with my time and money, accept being uncomfortable, not date my ex-boyfriend, date the musician, embrace failure, and not make as many excuses to change. I'd try to be a good person, stick to my boundaries, and actually enjoy life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:15 PM |
| 3 | News on The Red Pill; Reddit's Major BlunderIf TRP is shut down how will the rules about male participation on this sub change? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 04:02 PM |
| 3 | boyfriend troubleAlso, you're 19. You're gonna meet other guys you get along with and have a lot in common with. You're operating with the mindset that he's the best you're going to have, instead you need to overcome your insecurities because tbh he sounds like a standard 22-year-old... not worth your best years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to overcome abuse without seeing a therapist?Something that's illegal is not always immoral, and something that's legal is not always moral. There's new research being done on psychedelics and there may be huge benefits for people struggling with PTSD and other mental illnesses: https://www.businessinsider.com/psychedelic-drugs-making-comeback-medical-science-research-2018-8 Click through the article for links to peer-reviewed publications on the subject. Ultimately it's up to you to decide whether the benefits of acquiring and taking psyc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/19 04:31 PM |
| 4 | How do you feel about someone trying to look good (as we are told we should) but look significantly different without makeup?If you look dramatically different with makeup, then people can tell you're wearing makeup in the first place. They might be shocked by what you look like without makeup, but it's not a big secret you enhanced your look. The heavy makeup that's popular on IG is really easy to spot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Why is our hypergamy bad but men’s polygamy fine?Marriage is an investment for men. Humans are biologically expensive, so fatherhood gives the offspring themselves a better chance of reaching sexual maturity. In exchange for resources, a man needs some degree of certainty that the offspring are his - either by controlling the woman's sexual behavior, or by establishing a bond with her. Men's physiology makes them crave sexual variety. And sexual variety is a good investment strategy. By giving some of your resources and status to one woman (hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you have different standards for men depending on what relationship you want from him?There's actually a paper from Cornell that addresses Tinder users' intentions: https://arxiv.org/abs/1607.01952 And here's the article that breaks down the paper to help people get more matches: https://medium.com/yulyas-blog/what-real-statistics-tells-about-tinder-and-how-to-get-more-matches-according-to-it-8e984b822813 Basically, men's primary reasons for using Tinder are casual dating and sex, while women's primary reasons for Tinder are browsing and chatting. Casual sex seems to be the least… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/19 11:52 PM |
| 6 | Changing for A ManFor single women: don't change for one man. Change for the type of man you want. Mostly psychological/behavioral. Unlearning codependency, improving communication skills, cultivating abundance, setting boundaries. But I also dove deep into my interests... cooking, coffee, music, fashion. I'm healthy and have a nice body, but I started exercising for the mental/physical boost. I always knew who I was, but when I changed I became confident in who I am. I think the more chips fall into place, the e… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/09/19 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you have different standards for men depending on what relationship you want from him?What do you mean? Tinder is a hookup app and users match each other based on attractiveness. Of course people are gonna try to hook up with the most attractive person. But women select partners for LTRs based on many factors, attractiveness, status, compatibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/19 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you have different standards for men depending on what relationship you want from him?Women want a LTR/husband who checks the boxes. Women don't intentionally choose high-value men as sex partners, they choose them as relationship partners. The only time this scenario happens IRL is when the woman's perceived value is too low for the man to consider a relationship. Either because the woman is batting above her league due to ignorance or because some defect in her relationship strategy prevents her from getting a relationship. When this happens enough women consider settling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/19 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Do women not love men like men love women?For /u/taste_fart this is another way of describing someone who is serially monogamous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | (Discussion) How much does having a feminine personality matter?And a common misconception in otherwise well-meaning but desperate women, because gradual is the last word I'd use to describe the way men experience love. Bitter pill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/19 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Best feminine and classy beauty/style tips?Mind = blown. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 01:56 AM |
| 2 | (Discussion) How much does having a feminine personality matter?This was my experience too. I think a lot of men's ideal woman is feminine, but competent, with strong values and personal boundaries. I learned the hard way you can be a good match for someone in many ways (most couples aren't 100%) and they will still try to take advantage of you if you're too desperate/unable to put your foot down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/19 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Angry feminists rant, absolutely disturbing.Feminists are always saying that women should support each other's choices, and yet, this person is comparing motherhood to slavery and suggesting that real feminists shouldn't have kids. Which is crazy - wanting kids is completely normal! Most women want kids! I empathize with her because I don't want kids, so I understand that she's coming from a place of frustration from being judged for her choices. But the way to get other women to respect you is NOT to judge them for choosing motherhood. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/08/19 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Is Sexual Liberation a facade?How do you define preservation of your own kind? Literal self-preservation, preservation of your country or race, or preservation of the entire species and planet? Because some people not reproducing is necessary to ensure the stability of a country or region's social and economic stability. And that's not "spooky", it's just something that people need to come to terms with in a world where some people literally can't stop multiplying. Just as a certain number of people need to continue reproduc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/19 11:21 PM |
| 13 | How to transition from friends to dating?You guys kissed, so I think it's safe to assume that he's attracted to you! Obviously... don't rush ahead and sleep with him. You've already done the easy stuff, coffee and drinks. Transitioning into "dating" doesn't have to be awkward, the key is to escalate to more romantic dates. If you're comfortable doing so, you can initiate them. Ask him to a nice dinner or the symphony (something that can't be misconstrued as "hanging out"). See how he responds. If he agrees to the date, steps up and tre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 10:41 PM |
| 20 | Why the f*ck is it so hard to find sexy cotton panties these days?Seconded. The website also lets you search for cotton specifically, and they have great sales (there's one now where you get 10 for $35). | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Is Sexual Liberation a facade?You can never be immortal... your genes may get passed down and recombined for a few generations or for the rest of human existence. But once you pass them onto the next generation they're not yours anymore. Your consciousness ends with you, so, YOLO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/19 11:19 PM |
| 14 | Great bf, but nervous about how he handles his mental healthIs it possible that he's self-medicating and acting out due to the stress of his residency program? If so, it may be worth his time to explore better ways to manage his time and stress. Even if he didn't go to med school right out of undergrad based on his age it sounds like he may have been in a long residency program and over time that can have an impact on his mental health. If he currently isn't, I would find a way to really lovingly suggest that he actually schedules time for himself, that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Are there actually decent guys on dating apps? Tips on vetting?Haha "Bay Area normal", I love that. It's like being in Wonderland compared to the rest of the country. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/19 05:02 PM |
| 5 | Is it too late to for him want me? Can Long term FWB turn serious?I'm going to add something to this. You clearly want something more, and have a great opportunity to create space. Use that opportunity. (And please do NOT have sex with him if he comes to visit). Tl;dr I know, but I really hope this can help you: The journey is the most important part of discovering your value and making positive life changes that will benefit you no matter what the outcome is here. Don't make these changes for him. Make these changes because, like he said before, they're going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/19 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Are there actually decent guys on dating apps? Tips on vetting?Grew up there! I don't know much about the North Bay... but the whole area is a place where you can "follow the money" (not as a gold digger, just as someone who's looking for a quality man), and that does help you weed people out. I'd say, put yourself out there in the right areas, get out of your college town as much as you can. Continue working on yourself, download some higher-quality dating apps, make opportunities to meet men organically. A good friend group can also help you out a lot in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/19 02:09 AM |
| 8 | Are there actually decent guys on dating apps? Tips on vetting?Dating apps are a viable option, Tinder is not. The downside to the Bay is that nobody gets married before 30. The upside? Honestly, I thought vetting was easier because the high COL meant that you could easily pass up anyone who failed to "launch". You're interested in older guys so just look for guys who have their own place/maybe 1 roommate max, no kids from previous relationships (this one should be easy). Hang out in Palo Alto or the nice parts in/around San Francisco where you think you co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/19 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Book EquivalentThe author uses the word bitch tongue-in-cheek, not to validate your SIL's type of behavior. It's a book about learning to set boundaries and maintain your independence, which is an undervalued relationship "strategy" for women. I wrote a response to /u/HB3234 recently endorsing "Bitches", if you want to read more you can take a look at our comment histories. I think this book could be the most well-received by your SIL out of the RP literature, but she seems... reactive. I agree with /u/HB3234 … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/19 06:50 PM |
| 2 | How do I enjoy my quiet alone time?I think there's value to anything that helps you get into focus-mode. So if you enjoy painting, reading, or knitting then that's a good way to prime your psyche to accept the quiet. I also think you should keep meditating. It gets easier, especially as you learn to improve your focus on other tasks, too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/19 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Improving behavior/relationship valueI think Argov's books are important and remind us women that submission should be EARNED and given when a man shows that he's Captain material. Too many women cling to the first man who's willing to make a commitment, but both partners need to demonstrate value, maintain their independence, and actively vet each other for compatibility in the early stages of a relationship. If you're too sweet and submissive early on, then guys may think you're desperate, low-value, or a doormat. When you get co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 01:33 AM |
| 2 | If male sexuality is predatory, do females enjoy being the prey?You quoted me out of context. That's not the LTR strategy, what you quoted is the sex strategy. I don't disagree with the LTR strategy you wrote on this comment - "Guys who are good at dating make the woman they want be receptive." But you can't leap from "women want to be wooed" to "women enjoy being eaten". That's ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/19 06:50 PM |
| 1 | 22 Year Old Female looking for direction and general life adviceGood luck! You sound great and you got this. :) You may want to look into monetizing a hobby such as selling crafts on Etsy, blogging, or tutoring remotely. Anything you can do from home or on odd hours would be perfect! It may not generate a huge income but it will help with groceries and gas here and there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 07:02 PM |
| 34 | Is he interested or just wants sex?!Women his age are more advanced career-wise and looking for more serious relationships. My worry is that he chose to date someone younger because he thinks younger women are easier, or better for a casual relationship. Stick to your decision not to have sex. That sends a message that you aren't easy (to him and anyone you date moving forward) and that you're worth more respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 07:00 PM |
| 2 | If male sexuality is predatory, do females enjoy being the prey?Women do often give an IOI before the man approaches which gives him confidence to follow through on the approach. But if she doesn't give any indication that she's interested and he still approaches, then he's 1) really daft; and 2) will probably come across as creepy unless he's attractive and can quickly establish a rapport. I agree that women's opinions about men do change and we fall in love gradually over time. However, pursuing a woman over time for a relationship is different than pursui… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 06:54 PM |
| 1 | 22 Year Old Female looking for direction and general life adviceA good question I have to people who have completed degrees in the medical field is if you think I should be working or not during college? In a perfect world, don't work while getting a STEM degree, especially if you need straight As to get into those programs (and if they're like the ones at my community college, you do)! Take out what you need but stick to a budget (this will be easy because you'll be too busy studying and taking care of yourself to go out much). These are good programs and i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 06:31 PM |
| 54 | Is he interested or just wants sex?!He's 7 years older than you, and he's a man, so he wants sex. Do you really think he wants to spend 2 months dating someone only to be rejected for sex and then not be sure when he's going to get sex? Obviously you did the right thing by being honest and saying that you weren't comfortable proceeding. Next time, that's a conversation that you need to have before his pants are off. The best thing you can do in this situation is not to contact him for now. Don't offer up sex to get his attention b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 06:16 PM |
| 3 | If male sexuality is predatory, do females enjoy being the prey?Your take on this dynamic is over-exaggerated and somewhat disturbing. We appreciate strong, decisive, and dominant men... but we do not get off on being coerced, and if that's your perception of the SMP maybe you've spent too much time around drunk women with weak boundaries. :) The weaker a woman's boundaries and the lower her standards the less chasing she'll require, but the principle is the same: You have to 1) be attractive enough to get her attention. We often make split-second judgments … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 05:45 PM |
| 8 | Fashion TipDepending on what you have/what occasion you're going for, either a pair of nude pumps (won't take away from the pattern or structure of the dress) or ones that match the pink center of the flowers (to make a real statement). I'd also upgrade the necklace to a string of pearls and do some 50s-inspired pincurls/cat eyes to play up the vintage look! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/19 12:42 AM |
| 6 | Wife PrivilegesI think you should simply avoid doing anything that a wife would do for her husband (another person commented on what these things are) but also... show him you do these things for yourself. You want him to see that there are privileges, he just doesn't have access to them yet. I don't really think that you need to be proactive about setting these boundaries, just don't do these things, and then if he asks you to meal prep for him you can find a nice way to say that you'd love to go to the farme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/19 12:02 AM |
| 8 | Dealing with discouragement from a rad-fem motherIgnore your mom. You're becoming an independent young woman with a different standard of personal presentation and conduct. I get the impression you want to respect her because she's your mom, but because of her personal bias she seems unable to recognize that your goals and the way you're changing is good for you. Do the right thing for you, because your mom's advice is going to make you unhappy and it's not worth following simply to preserve the relationship. She may come around eventually, or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 06:36 PM |
| 3 | The bar on male physical attractiveness is set so high. Why do women rate most men as physically unattractive?These data show that the 10-year human population growth rate peaked in 1960 which is not inconsistent with the birth control pill decreasing the overall fertility rate. The population continued to increase because people tend to be born faster than they die. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/19 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Improving SMV when you are already thin?Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?Amen to this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/19 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?The math doesn't work out unless most (but not all) of the subjects were lying about close to 1/2 of their partners. It's uncomfortable, but I recognize that logically. Anyway, I hope we can agree that while lying about it in any form is a no-no, the argument that women are sleeping with orders of magnitude more guys than they claim is exaggerated. We don't disagree that much, but as a woman who IS honest, my view is somewhat clouded by the opinion that it's better to judge a woman's behavior an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/19 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Improving SMV when you are already thin?I know The Rules Revisited is on the External Resources Mega-List but this specific article should be as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Improving SMV when you are already thin?Can you give product recommendations for eyelash growth serums? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 05:02 PM |
| 2 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?They also need to live with the consequences of their decisions and not blame others. I think this doesn't get emphasized enough. Sexual desire is something that's tricky to navigate and sometimes we make the wrong decision. But you can be forgiven for more than you think by taking responsibility for your actions, instead of allowing the consequences of your actions to destroy your self-confidence. As people we make the best decisions we can at the time we make them. The consequences of our acti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 04:35 PM |
| 13 | To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it?Furthermore OP your husband is marrying you because you have a lot of other qualities that he's looking for in a wife, one of which that appears to be, you know sex is special for the two of you. Don't beat yourself up. An experience has value if you learn and grow from it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Feminine style on a budget?Good luck! I also use an app called Stylebook to upload pictures of my clothes and plan outfits, you can probably build your library quickly if you only have a small capsule wardrobe AND there's an outfit generator! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?No. My response is that you need a better metric to judge a woman's sexual history than assuming that she's lying to you. Or you can judge her behavior and then you don't have to ask. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/19 04:02 PM |
| 4 | Should I break up with college boyfriend and pursue man 10 years older than me to try and find a marriage?Never, ever put out to make a guy stick around. Ever. Never works. Why do you think that he wouldn't stick with you unless you put out? Have you had this conversation with him? What kind of timeline is he interested in following? Also... based on the fact that you're in an area where there's a big hookup culture and not a lot of pressure to get married, finding an older guy may not help that much. He may want to get married sooner, but you shouldn't rush into getting married if you're still in s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 11:01 PM |
| -1 | Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?I worked out the math for you (and I'm happy to DM it if you're not convinced), and here's what can happen when the average N count doubles under polygraph test: Some of the women were honest, especially the women with low N-counts. Some of the women with high N were honest, some reported a count that was 2x higher than the anonymous test, and some reported a count that was close to the real one on the polygraph test. The average doubled after the polygraph test, but there were certain groups of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Feminine style on a budget?Congratulations on the weight loss! I think your style is perfect for the capsule wardrobe. :) https://www.whowhatwear.com/how-to-capsule-wardrobe You can customize this for your needs (e.g. more dresses or work clothes, fewer tops and shoes) and choose basic pieces from fast-fashion brands (H&M, Zara on sale). I recommend stretchy jeans and other pieces where there's some room for your body shape to change (think a boxy tee with a long cardigan, jeans, and booties). As you get closer to your go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Should I break up with college boyfriend and pursue man 10 years older than me to try and find a marriage?How old are you and your boyfriend? What age do your peers typically marry at? Age disparity is associated with an increased risk for divorce. I'm assuming that you're young (maybe 19 or 20?). If your relationship is healthy and loving, and your boyfriend is on a good career path, there's nothing wrong with you sticking the relationship out. He's not going to be in college forever, and you won't have to work forever. You're still a virgin, and you're well within your right to say that you love h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 09:12 PM |
| 1 | What or who is the perfect woman?I think of settling as dating someone who is beneath my league. Personally I tend to be hard on myself though, so people usually tell me I can do better. It's really hard to date within your league if you don't have an accurate self-perception. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?Those numbers (2.6, 4.4) are small enough that lying about 1-2 partners is going to make a huge difference. I'm not going to argue that the average woman lied. That's pretty straightforward from the data. But I don't think you can reach the conclusion that all women lie about 1/2 of their partners unless you break down the data and eliminate other explanations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Recently i've noticed that even as a woman, if I apply the same techniques and mindset as the guys over in trp do towards women , only in my case to men, I get the same desirable results and it's awesome. I just read trp like it was written for women instead of men and the outcomes are still theThat's actually sad to hear. :( I'm glad it worked out for you then! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Meal ideas to bring to boyfriend’s place?Slow-cooked meat can be reheated and used to make a great number of meals from bowls to tacos using rice or tortillas, chopped onions, guacamole, pico, and a pinch of cheese. Since you can control how the meat is prepared and use fresh ingredients you can make them relatively healthy too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 07:45 PM |
| 5 | Shutting down sex while vettingI second this advice! As you get comfortable it's important to show signs of physical interest (non-sexual touching, a goodnight kiss) but setting boundaries on the time and location of your dates makes it pretty clear that 1) sex is off the table for now, and 2) you're committed to getting to know him by doing things together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 07:14 PM |
| 8 | Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?Look at the source that was given by /u/Blonsomio below, women attached to the polygraph reported an average (mean) of 4.4 partners. The median number (here's the difference for you: https://www.purplemath.com/modules/meanmode.htm) also doesn't suggest that a large number of women have hundreds of partners, as TRP claims. Yes, women are dishonest about partner count but not by orders of magnitude. You can't continuously double numbers until you reach one that you're willing to accept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 07:02 PM |
| 2 | How can I get my face to look as beautiful as it possibly can be, naturally?I honestly believe that less is more when it comes to skincare, so if you're having trouble sticking to your skincare routine go ahead and scale back. Your skin needs time to absorb different products so you're better off sticking to the basics (cleanser + moisturizer + sunscreen) and one or two actives designed to target your biggest concerns. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Recently i've noticed that even as a woman, if I apply the same techniques and mindset as the guys over in trp do towards women , only in my case to men, I get the same desirable results and it's awesome. I just read trp like it was written for women instead of men and the outcomes are still theMost men will commit to the right woman but there are many men on Tinder who are looking for hookups. Tinder is too easy to use yet doesn't match users based on compatibility. I met my ex-boyfriend of 2.5 years on Tinder but there are better apps out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Chad, Dylan, and the Myth of "the Bad Man"Here's what I took away from the post about Dylan, from this one, and from the comments here: Both Dylan and Chad are a subset of the 20%. However, the main difference between them is that Dylan's sexual strategy is manipulative, while Chad's is opportunistic. Both Chad and Dylan will have sex with the all-American sorority girl, the goth girl, the sports groupie, the vintage fashion collector, or the shy girl who reads at coffee shops. But Chad maintains a single frame - the alpha all-American … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 05:48 PM |
| 35 | Recently i've noticed that even as a woman, if I apply the same techniques and mindset as the guys over in trp do towards women , only in my case to men, I get the same desirable results and it's awesome. I just read trp like it was written for women instead of men and the outcomes are still theThe foundation of TRP's message (I won't go into the problems with TRP) contains self-improvement and the abundance mentality. On RPW we don't talk about abundance much because RPW focuses on what to do when you're in a relationship, not before. But abundance (and confidence) are extremely important. Abundance makes the difference between picking Mr. Right Now and Mr. Right. Abundance allows us to feel secure in our boundaries. A RPW doesn't "spin plates", but she may go on two dates next week a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 04:58 PM |
| 6 | Q4All: What are your boundaries for opposite-sex friends in a relationship?For me? Be honest about who you previously hooked up with, dated, whatever. Let me be friends with your friends, including anyone you have history with. If I see something that upsets me I'll speak up, and if my SO acts shady or refuses to set boundaries then he can enjoy being single again lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Can someone tell me what this coummity is aboutAlso, if you choose to apply certain principles of RPW to your life, then be consistent. For example, if you decide to dress more femininely and do your hair and makeup, then do so every day and make it a routine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/19 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How to avoid over-clinging to guys?Thanks for bringing this up. People who grow up with women who suffer from BPD also tend to have these symptoms. My grandma has BPD and when I was in my teens/early 20s I acted the same way as OP. OP, you want to figure out whether you meet the diagnostic criteria or have a parent/guardian who does. If you are diagnosed with BPD then you need treatment and medication. If you're suffering the consequences of a bad upbringing, therapy can help. Personally, what helped me the most was to maintain v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/19 05:54 PM |
| 0 | Transitioning from "his girl" to "his girlfriend".He's not going to interpret you having plans one Saturday as pulling back and chase you because of that. You've already given this guy your whole weekend... he's going to interpret your plans as you having a life, which he expects you to have anyways. Done early on, having friends and activities outside a budding relationship signals abundance and sets boundaries on your availability. At this stage, the man will respond positively to this. Now that you're 3 months into this relationship, missing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 06:06 PM |
| 4 | how would you advise your younger self?Having sex with a guy won't make him love you. You need to set boundaries and have a value-driven life. No is a complete sentence. You're not in love, you're codependent. You don't need a relationship to be happy. The sooner you learn that, the more heartbreak you'll avoid, and the better of a person you'll be, and the better men you'll attract. Your grandma probably has BPD, which is the reason that you're codependent. YOU'RE NOT YOUR GRANDMA. You have enough self-awareness to stop being angry,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 06:38 PM |
| 7 | I'm 25, but should I wait to date?Changing your appearance will boost your SMV and make higher-value men interested in seriously dating you. However, natural-looking changes will only boost your SMV by 1-2 points, but you can further enhance those changes with the right beauty and personal maintenance routine. However the best thing you can do to target a high-value doctor is to compensate for any shortcomings in your appearance with a killer RMV. The nose job of the soul, lol. Every man wants a beautiful wife, but these men wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 06:04 PM |
| 5 | Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing?Go check out some of /u/girlwithabike's posts. Turning a hookup into a LTR/marriage requires both pre-vetting and an extraordinary level of girl game, neither of which appear to apply in this post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/19 10:36 PM |
| 11 | Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing?I'm glad it worked out for you, but this strategy is risky for women who want a serious relationship (e.g. OP) or marriage. I know people who began relationships by hooking up, but usually there's overlap in these people's social groups or they're friends and that allowed them to pre-vet each other. Since I don't think that's the case here, it's always better to play it safe around someone you meet online or from a cold approach since you don't know their character. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/19 05:26 PM |
| 10 | Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing?I know men tend to do this (especially with someone they meet on an app), but based on OP's post this man is being inappropriately upfront about wanting to have sex early. Her post doesn't read, "Let's keep things casual and see where this goes"; it reads like he propositioned her and then backpedaled by dangling a relationship to get her to agree. I tend to view sex as a way to judge compatibility with someone prior to investing in getting more deeply involved with them, and if someone doesn't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/19 03:23 PM |
| 1 | do you think RPW gives good advice?Isn't that the truth! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 09:20 PM |
| 2 | do you think RPW gives good advice?I know! I was interested in first paragraph of your comment because I can't imagine how anyone thinks it's possible to salvage a relationship with these kind of men (or why someone would want them to lead a relationship to begin with). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 06:55 PM |
| 4 | do you think RPW gives good advice?Many of them picked the wrong mates but rather than admit that they are trying to frame themselves into the relationship they want and lie to themselves about who they picked all under the guise of traditional ladypersonhood. This 100%. Most of the women who post with relationship problems would be better served by dumping their man, going into "nun-mode" and trying again later with a guy they've carefully vetted, not the first one who wants to be exclusive. If your man is defective you have to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 06:36 PM |
| 4 | What are your femininity/beauty routines?I love The Ordinary! The brand has done wonders for my skin, I can't recommend it enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/19 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Which are the typical features any Red Pilled Woman could agree, that man of high value possess? (Advise for a 28M)To give OP the benefit of the doubt I think he's asking for advice on what qualities RPW are looking for so he can emulate those qualities. I agree OP should also learn vetting but we encourage users who are struggling and want to start over to enter "nun mode" and practice self-improvement before dating... I think OP needs monk mode. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/19 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Which are the typical features any Red Pilled Woman could agree, that man of high value possess? (Advise for a 28M)For me one of the biggest ones is I want a man who is self-motivated. I think being externally motivated (or "inspired" so to speak) isn't good because it's easy to experience setbacks or come to feel nihilistic about one's purpose in life. I want someone who is so passionate and excited about what he does (career, hobbies) and he does it primarily because it challenges his intellect and skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/19 04:45 AM |
| 4 | CMV: For men, worthwhile relationships exist but they are so rare that actively looking for one is NOT worth the effort.I believe this. But it's like looking for a speck of gold on a white beach. Just came here to say this resonated with me a lot. I don't want kids of my own and that's been a huge struggle for me dating. Sometimes it's discouraging to be looking for the exception rather than the rule. There are people out there who do want genuine connections with other people, but I agree a lot of relationships just suck. :/ Anyways, hope you find your speck, or at least comfort and connection from within and fr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/19 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, do you want a relationship/marriage with no kids?I don't want kids! I decided not to have them when I was 16, and I'm 25 now. I'm an only child and grew up around my parents' friends who had no kids. As a teenager/adult I feel awkward around them... some I love, but I'm not a "natural" and I think that contributes to a lack of interest in being a parent. But as I've gotten older my reasons have changed... I do feel strongly that there is a lot going on socially and environmentally that makes having (biological) kids not the best choice. I know… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/19 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?I did tell OP she needs to be careful. A woman needs to learn appropriate vetting strategy to choose a compatible partner who loves and respects her... and then have enough confidence in herself and her decision-making strategy to accept the end of a relationship without becoming emotionally damaged. Marriage is not a fool-proof ticket to everlasting happiness unless you know how to make mature, thoughtful decisions about who to date and don't have issues with codependency. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?I went through your post history to better understand what you're trying to say. OP is secular, asking for secular advice, which I gave her and is not inconsistent with advice previously given on this sub. And in practice, my advice - don't have sex before you're 18, don't jump from guy to guy, always chose sex as a conscious decision - is sufficient to keep OP's N-count low - by the standards of the college-educated, secular community I belong to. The final choice belongs to OP, who may decide … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?Sex with what other guys beforehand...? Before marriage? I'm not sure what you mean. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?Most likely OP will have more than one long-term boyfriend during her life. I did not mean that she should cheat nor do I think the rest of my comment suggests she should. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 06:41 PM |
| 76 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?I'm not religious and I don't date people who are religious. Having some sexual experience and being comfortable with physical intimacy is important. And as long as you only have sex with long-term boyfriends, most non-religious people don't think that's too much. Just make sure that you're not "serially monogamous" - the kind of person who always has a boyfriend and whose emotional well-being hinges on her relationship status (that's super unattractive). But you're also 15, so I reaaaaallllyy u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Dating as RPW?Apps represent niche demographics within the dating pool. Unless you are using an app to target a niche demographic (Christian, childfree, investment bankers, whatever) or hone your vetting skills, to be successful you need to reach a demographic that isn't using dating apps. I have the best luck meeting people through mutual friends. There's a higher basic level of respect and rapport, ghosting is frowned upon, your friends have the tea on someone's past/ability to change, and they can help you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 08:47 PM |
| 4 | Are most women doomed to marry a man that isn't attractive?Unless you are below average (average being a 5) with no room for improvement (weight loss, beauty routine, style, RMV, etc.), you're not doomed to marry an unattractive man. That being said attraction is so subjective... if you're a 5 and think 5s are ugly, then you have to do some self-improvement. If you think you're an 8 but can't attract them, then maybe you're not an 8. This whole dating thing works out better if you're comfortable in your skin but also know your worth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/19 03:34 AM |
| – | Self CareSleeping ;) Going to a coffee shop Knitting and crocheting Getting outside Trying something new | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/19 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Relationships and feeling attraction etcThis makes sense to me. You should research codependency. I grew up with a grandma who has BPD and many of my interpersonal relationship problems stemmed from being raised with an insecure, codependent attachment style. When your attachment to someone is insecure you feel the need to chase or prove your worth to the other person. If you think that you have issues with codependency and anxiety then a professional can help you work through these better than a stranger on the Internet. That being s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/19 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Why does the red pill add sexism to great advice?Lol I'm CF and I agree that the sub is also designed to be a circle jerk. The underlying idea that some people don't want a traditional family is perverted to reinforce the members' fixed mindset that everyone else is crazy for being normal. The gatekeeping there is ridiculous because they're more afraid of being wrong than finding avenues of self-validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 03:38 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?On Saturday I'm graduating with my Masters. I'm grateful not to have any student loans or debt because my dad was kind and thoughtful enough to put aside money for my education! I'm nervous about looking for a job but looking forward to the future. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Am I allowed to be pleased sexually?His words should be backed up by his actions, which I'm not reading here. And you shouldn't need to pry for the truth when you attempt to communicate with him. If he doesn't respond to a direct question with an honest answer, that's a red flag. Another important thing to keep in mind is that desire is not negotiable. A guy who is enthusiastic about you and wants to please you will show you, and that's not something I think he's doing (based on your perception of/comments about your sex life). Al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Am I allowed to be pleased sexually?Yup. Humans not only use sex to procreate but as a bonding tool. He should want to please you just as much as you want to please him. Sex is something you share. And there are very few emotional and physical downsides to having sex regularly when you're in an exclusive committed relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 04:31 AM |
| 7 | Am I allowed to be pleased sexually?Most women do not orgasm from PIV and need clitoral stimulation. This is normal. Telling your partner what pleases you and expecting him to treat you as more than a hole is not asking too much. Sex is an important part of a relationship - how's the rest of your relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Abstinence - Telling HimI think she means that the past is something we can and should learn from. When a certain kind of behavior gets you nowhere are you going to keep making the same mistake or are you going to change? None of us are perfect, so we hope that men will appreciate that we're trying to move forward and be a better person. Will all men be able to accept that? No. But if your present actions don't convince a man that you changed based on your past behavior, then that's a rejection that is probably for the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/19 07:44 PM |
| 8 | Is it ever appropriate the text FristWhy are you waiting? Why are you impatient? When you're getting to know a guy, go do your own thing. If he's interested, he'll message you. When you establish a meaningful relationship, the game changes. Then you can spontaneously text him when you have something thoughtful to say or to suggest plans that he'll enjoy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/19 04:03 AM |
| 3 | Relationships and feeling attraction etcBeing head over heels about someone is normal in the beginning. When you have an uncertain attachment with someone, though, you're always on your toes around them. You always have to prove that you're worthy. But when you have a secure attachment with someone, you proved your value to him at the beginning, and now he knows you're someone that he wants to protect and be his partner long-term. When you're in an unhealthy relationship, or when you're 16 and starting a new relationship every month, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/19 02:45 PM |
| 1 | People that cry AWALT are going for trash but instead of admitting it- they blame the womenMen aren't hypergamous. They don't 'trade up' or drop you if you stop being relatively high value in their eyes. Yup. Most men I know try to date up to begin with, not down. So when they have a relationship there's no reason for them to trade up. The problem (from a woman's perspective) is when her value increases and the boyfriend's values stagnates/drops. That could be because she loses weight or suddenly gets attention from a more attractive man. Of course the opposite also happens, but that'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 06:57 PM |
| 1 | abundance mentality and acting alpha work for higher value males onlyYour theory is pretty much correct. We're not attracted to men because they're assholes, but men who have value. What I disagree with is that there are other ways to signal abundance and value rather than being an "asshole", and that these are strategies that average men can use to be successful with average women. Women are taught that attractive men are the highest value (e.g. Prince Charming). And that's sometimes true, but sometimes not true. I've met plenty of attractive men who have dead-e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 06:40 PM |
| 8 | How to resocialize and make the right friends or new friends?Boundaries! The only people who disrespect your boundaries are people who don't respect you to begin with. We only have so much emotional energy; don't waste yours on people who aren't willing to reciprocate. Having friends we can turn to for emotional support is great. But people who need excessive emotional support need a therapist, not a best friend. You're not responsible for someone else's feelings - be willing to say, "I don't think I can help you with this situation anymore" to someone wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/19 10:58 PM |
| 8 | Book Club: Fascinating Womanhood Chapter 21: The Feminine Role Vs The Working WifeMost households in my area are dual income out of necessity. This is not a matter of one-upping the neighbors with a bigger house and a BMW. This is a matter of kids having access to a good school system and not being exposed to crime. The concept of having a stay-at-home-parent is great and something that I enthusiastically support. But the author (maybe because of the book's age) doesn't seem to appreciate that a dual-income household is a necessity for many people. People also need to have re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/19 08:09 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend hates my unatural blonde hair and keeps bringing up how I got it done without consulting him.Men don't need to respect a woman to be aroused by her. Below, /u/teaandtalk insightfully suggested that your boyfriend has a Madonna/Whore complex. Her comments are spot-on. Your boyfriend is perfectly turned on by your new look, and he's angry because he's turned on because you no longer represent the type of woman he respects. Your boyfriend associates a certain look with a certain type of woman. He is incapable of separating these things. I think he's being kind of unreasonable. Dyeing your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/19 05:15 AM |
| 10 | Now that having children out of marriage is no longer certain doom for the child, does it make sense to be so tight-assed about "cheating"?Having children outside of marriage is still bad for children. The fact that people are still upset about cheating even though we have DNA tests and birth control has nothing to do with paternity and everything to do with the fact that we, as humans, want to be "enough" for someone else and not humiliated behind our backs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/19 08:29 PM |
| 1 | The description of this subreddit is very close to that of RPW, as strategies for women in dating marriage and femininity. But this is like our evil twin sister that thrives on negativity. So lucky I found you guys, as this seems to be the louder voice in our culture latelyThis is such a lovely grain of wisdom: "True femininity is being confident, beautiful, healthy, intelligent and knowing what you want." ...But the whole sub reads like a bad satire of TRP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/19 02:14 AM |
| 2 | CMV: It’s not possible to have a “just for me” slut. Either a woman is into sex or she’s notI think my problem with your analogy is that you don't separate "slut" from "enjoys sex". I'm not really sure what you're arguing. There are plenty of women who enjoy sex and respond enthusiastically when men put in the work. That's the honeymoon phase. The difference is that a woman who's interested in a ONS will be aroused by a different level (and kind) of effort than a woman who wants a LTR. And is the goal really to get women to act like porn stars? Because there are a lot of ways to show y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/19 02:51 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend says he never wants to get married??Maybe he read something that struck a chord for him. Or he had a conversation with someone who sees things from another perspective. The idea that "men's lives are ruined by divorce" is nihilistic even though it contains a grain of truth. Marriage is important to a lot of people, who aren't perfect but want to make things work for better or worse. And here is one encouraging article: https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2018-09-25/millennials-are-causing-the-u-s-divorce-rate-to-plummet “One o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/19 02:36 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend says he never wants to get married??Many women on this sub are actively discouraged from marrying a RP man. Marrying a man who values marriage and has a combination of alpha and beta traits is upheld as a goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/19 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Need help navigating through this breakup.New experiences. The more you see and experience, the less you see in black-and-white, the less judgmental you become. People are animals at the end of the day. Most are moral only because they think they're going to be rewarded for doing so, not because it's the right thing to do. Don't become attached to what other people think or do because in the end everyone reaps what they sow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/19 12:02 AM |
| 3 | An intro, from a father looking to the futureYou too and best of luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/19 01:34 AM |
| 11 | An intro, from a father looking to the futureHave a good relationship with your wife. Be able to model trust, respect, and admiration. Complement each other's strengths and weaknesses. Teach your daughters your best habits and skills. Teach them that they can be the smartest person in the room and also the prettiest. Teach them time management skills so they can make the best of every day and for their futures. Give them space to make a few mistakes and enough love and forgiveness and honesty to help them grow from that. Teach them that ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/19 03:16 PM |
| 74 | I hate children.You're not guaranteed to catch "baby rabies" and have a change of heart the second you turn 30. There's a lot of freedom that comes with knowing what you don't want and filling that negative space in your life with things that actually make you a better person. And aside from the reasons you shared (which are mostly personal), there are a lot of social and environmental reasons not to have kids. Don't force yourself to enjoy the company of children just because you want to be RP. These "rules" a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | [advice] Slight NSFW, how do you relax during sex?I want to add to this, no matter how much I wanted to have sex or how attracted I was to my partner at the time, I was never as comfortable or relaxed at 18 as I am now. Experience is valuable (with sex you also have to be careful how you get experience, but that's another issue). The more you do something, the more comfortable you are doing it. Over time you have better perception of your own skill. The other thing is that over time I became more relaxed and less cerebral. I actually think medi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 03:10 PM |
| 1 | It’s wild how much cooking changes the dynamicSecond the Instant Pot! I throw frozen chicken breasts in there and they're ready to eat less than 30 minutes later. I also strain and save the cooking liquid for rice. For two people the 3 quart size (about $60) is sufficient, but the 6 quart one (the size of a standard crock pot) is better for cooking meat. There's also a sauté function which is great for one-pot meals. I also recommend the book "The Food Lab" by J. Kenji López-Alt. He uses science to break down basic recipes. Since you sound … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/19 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Opinions on balancing college?Try a pomodoro timer app too! They set a timer for 25 minutes and a break timer for 5 minutes (you can skip the break timer). Once you reach a certain number of pomodoros you get a long break. You can program the apps with your preferred time interval - I wouldn't go below 25 or above 50, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/19 03:15 PM |
| 7 | Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my CoworkersI think basic car skills are necessary (the same way basic sewing, cooking, and cleaning skills are). I changed my headlight yesterday. It took 5-10 minutes and cost me $17. If I took my car to a mechanic I could've been charged upwards of $100 and probably would be scammed to buy something else. It's absolutely incredible to me that this knowledge is easily accessible and yet people choose not to learn. Unless you need specialized equipment to do something, you should probably learn how to do i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Opinions on balancing college?You should check out the books "How to Become a Straight-A Student" and "Deep Work" by Cal Newport. He argues that most of our time is spent inefficiently because our attention is divided. For you, that's going to come from a combination of ADHD, school, work, and your personal relationships. Kind of like defragging your computer, the goal is to block off your time so that you only have to focus on a single task. The purported benefit is essentially what ADHD medications do: block off all distra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Today I realized I am a female beta. A female "nice guy" We finish last too, apparently.People who don't want kids don't date people who do. The only situation where that happens is when they're desperate or the other person is dishonest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: What if 'Going Wild' is an act?What I mean is that we enjoy doing those kinds of things because we enjoy attention. Hooking up is a form of attention, but that doesn't necessarily mean we want to hook up* - just that decision making is impaired when we're drunk. After that you can either accept the consequences of your actions or deny them, and I think since most people don't even know how to get the good kind of attention they're going to opt for denial. *Want to vs. want to act on it. Obviously you can have wild thoughts an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: What if 'Going Wild' is an act?Of course women want sex. Alcohol destroys our ability to make sound decisions regarding who we have sex with. It's ok to have impulsive thoughts, everyone does. It's generally not okay to act on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/19 04:27 PM |
| -1 | My boyfriend just broke up with meBecause we don't have context, and just because someone says they're a sociopath doesn't mean they are one - especially a 21-year-old. Other information is needed to make that diagnosis. His reaction was extreme, but poor social skills are another completely plausible reason that he doesn't know how to process OP's confession. Either way, OP should be careful because he's not a good person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 04:58 PM |
| 11 | Discussion: What if 'Going Wild' is an act?A lot of women don't go out with the intention of hooking up, but rather dressing up, having fun, getting attention, taking pictures, etc. That's what we enjoy, not getting pumped and dumped over and over again. But these behaviors are usually accompanied by getting extremely drunk and being in an environment permissive to sex. We rationalize our behavior as a "mistake", a "one-time thing", "unwanted", "nonconsensual", etc. because our intention was never to hook up, but continue to attend sexua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/19 04:51 PM |
| 7 | Remaining ChildlikeAnd empowerment. People become bitter when they have no power or think they can't do anything to change reality. Acknowledging what you can do, however small, helps you maintain control over your life and be able to appreciate everything as if you are innocent (but not naïve). | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/19 02:26 PM |
| 1 | First time dating a manly man and dealing with his "lack" of emotions. Help!Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/19 02:16 PM |
| 3 | First time dating a manly man and dealing with his "lack" of emotions. Help!You're used to a certain level or type of emotional engagement from your partner. You said that he doesn't want to express his emotions because he doesn't want to feel vulnerable and hurt. Besides showing him that you can be vulnerable around him, how have you responded when he's been vulnerable around you? I think that getting emotional support from your S.O. is important. But it sounds like you have a guy who's so uncomfortable with his own emotions that he's not willing or able to do that for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/19 05:36 PM |
| 11 | Co-worker is obnoxious, want to deal with her like a RP lady would.I personally think the best policy is to limit the practice of RPW in the workplace. You want your male colleagues to see you as equal and you don't want other women to play these kind of games. That being said, you should always handle yourself with tact and grace. Whatever you do, don't play her games. Her behavior is immature, unprofessional, and offensive. Your best bet is to ignore her if possible, or otherwise redirect her shenanigans back to work. Report her when she says anything racist … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/19 05:19 PM |
| 13 | Should I (18f) leave him? (19m)Run far away. You're too young to be stuck in a relationship with someone who treats you this way. Continue working on your self and find someone better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/19 11:55 PM |
| 1 | [Advice] So I realized I do want to have a traditional relationship, but no one around me seems to support thatA good compromise is to be polite, efficient, and stand your ground. Put your energy into being someone that's not caught between those extremes. Men don't want to compete with women, but they don't want a woman who's a pushover. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/19 10:46 PM |
| 6 | How to be a more independent womanThe advice he's trying to offer you is spot-on, but become independent for you, not for him. When you're independent and have a life outside of your relationship, you have more to offer than your cooking or your sexuality (the basics). A combination of things are required to make you a really unique, stand-out woman. Remember, your boyfriend doesn't want you to go crazy, but he doesn't want to be bored. Step one is to resolve your anxiety. Go back to basics and make sure your self-care routine i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/19 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Am I Just Hypergamous?It feels like a lot of this would be solved if my bf just acted more like my ideal man but hes rather insecure and dominance doesnt come naturally to him. You can't change your boyfriend. Im sure many of you would just leave and get a more dominant/masculine man but the truth is that my RMV isnt very high, mostly due to a deformity/disability If you found one guy who loves you and is a decent person, you can find someone that you're more compatible with who also loves you and is a decent person.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/19 01:29 AM |
| 6 | After coming out of a committed relationship I’m realising my male friends aren’t all they seemedWomen think that our male friends are immune to the fact that we're women. We assume that they see us as "one of the boys" and appreciate us for who we are rather than for our sexuality. And some men do feel this way about us, or are very good at compartmentalizing and know that for whatever reason sex/a relationship is off the table. Women are offended because we think, by the very nature of the fact that we had a relationship with someone else, the guy should get the message that we're not att… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/19 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types?I think ENTP is a high-dominance type with both masculine and feminine traits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 01:05 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types?ENTP, and I broke the Enneagram... (but I'm probably a 7). Sounds about right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Seeking friends for support!Cat pics and retro shoes? Sign me up. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/19 12:34 AM |
| 5 | Relationship of convenience vs. relationship of passion?There was a post on TRP a few days ago that advocated serial monogamy as a sex strategy for men. Sometimes men offer commitment to a woman because she meets his short-term needs. I was in this kind of relationship a year ago, and I think that's what you're experiencing here. Your theory is spot on. The relationship is convenient for him, and that's the problem. He doesn't need to offer you anything besides the promise of exclusivity and look what he gets - sex, food, adoration - all on demand. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/19 10:50 PM |
| 1 | How Did You Attract Your SO and Hold His Interest?Guess I'm spending more time with my PhD friends. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 01:38 AM |
| 6 | Always Be Sure to Tie a Live Duck to Your Right Ankle.I love this post and the EC tag system. The stuff that's on the sidebar and posts from ECs are what new users need to see and focus on exclusively. Comments on posts asking for advice are not the primary literature of RP theory. New users should exclusively prioritize advice from ECs (I'm not new, I'm still learning, but I know what ECs are my "favorite" and do this too). I feel for these people who think they need to be a Stepford wife or that they're going to be 4ever alone because they slept … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 09:27 PM |
| 3 | How Did You Attract Your SO and Hold His Interest?Where do you meet Renaissance men? ;P I have sooo many interests and I prefer people who are kinda the same way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Trying to transition to more feminine, but... (18F)Good luck! My dad can be too private sometimes, and that's where my mom is a great resource. Usually one of us will have an idea what the heck he's thinking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 08:31 PM |
| 20 | Trying to transition to more feminine, but... (18F)Given your age he probably sees you wear a dress and thinks, "Holy cow, she's not a kid anymore." Unless you're going on about RPW at home and actively confronting him with ideas that he may or may not be receptive to, he may simply have something going on. I don't think you should worry about offending your dad with a dress - it's not provocative, right? You're an adult! Be a classy lady if you want to! As for the dressing up... Start small. If a dress makes you too uncomfortable swap out the t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 07:46 PM |
| 4 | Age Gap Red FlagsSerial monogamy is common for 20-somethings, but a man is never going to put this kind of relationship before his career. Men don't have biological pressure to get married at 25. They're experiencing a sexual peak. They're interested in sex and making money so they can have sex. A man who has a career, owns a car, a home, has savings and investments, and has sex and relationship experience is probably looking for something more meaningful, and that usually happens between 28-35. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How to cook good meals for husband and family with limited time?I do all of my cooking between a cast iron pan, Dutch oven, and Instant Pot with a crappy old pot for boiling pasta. As others said prep things ahead of time and throw them in there. The Dutch oven is great for baking bread, braising meat, roasting, stews, and pasta sauces (you shouldn't cook tomatoes on a non-enameled cast iron). I use the Instant Pot for rice, shredded taco meat, and hands-off slow cooked soups, and the cast iron pan for searing steak, eggs, and pizza. Dutch oven is an investm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/19 02:48 AM |
| 7 | How to be as attractive as possible?Other things: Drink enough water and take care of your skin now (see /r/SkincareAddiction). Get 8 hours of sleep - and structure your day around getting enough Zs. Don't wear too much makeup. Clear skin, a touch of mascara and some gloss are enough! Wear your hair down straight or loosely curled - these are neutral, attractive styles. Wear clothes that are flattering and somewhat modest - develop your personal style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/19 02:25 AM |
| 2 | [help] I know I need to be more feminine- but there's something in my wayI'm not sure how to reassure you. :/ Straight men aren't attracted to women who are mannish. Unless you're able to compromise (be an efficient and respected leader at work and in your community, but feminine and vulnerable for your S.O.), you're going to stay stuck where you are now. As for your last point, the reason you can lean into a man's frame and maintain self-respect is because he respects you. You vetted for a partner who shares your values, who makes you a better person and vice versa.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/19 02:02 AM |
| 8 | [help] I know I need to be more feminine- but there's something in my wayOne: I think your disgust stems from a misunderstanding of what "submissive" means, and that you associate emotionality with weakness. Submissive women aren't passive bystanders to relationships. Both partners take an active role. For example, a couple wants to buy a house. The wife tells her husband that she wants X, Y, and Z, and her husband has the realtor find houses with X, Y, and Z. They tour the homes, and she provides an opinion on each, and discusses the pros and cons with her husband. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Who do you resonate with/feel inspired by?Almost forgot - I also shop at Nordstrom a lot, especially for coats and shoes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?I need to give my thoughts time to cook. You know, lady logic. /sarcasm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Yeah, but it's hard to build mutually beneficial and emotionally satisfying long-term relationships in a period of friction. Nobody wants to be the guinea pig when your emotional and financial security is on the line. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 11:03 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?No worries. I'm just having fun with this post, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Unfortunately, it seems like when women out-earn their husbands, the relationship suffers. Research has shown that those marriages tend to have a more unequal division of labor, be more likely to result in infidelity and even divorce. Here's the part you forgot to include with your statistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?And I'm here, too, to let you know I really think you missed my point. But w/e. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Women can't support men. Nobody's wages are high enough to support anyone, often including the kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?LOL mistyped comment. Oh boy, no wonder I'm getting these responses. *Rather NOT stay in an unhappy relationship. I have my own money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Because both partners are needed to maintain a similar standard of living that a single person raised in a two-parent household is used to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 06:14 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Significantly lower earnings is dead weight. A woman has no reason to be upset that her boyfriend earns $100k a year if she earns $160k, but if he's earning $50k a year that's a problem. Just an example. The actual numbers will vary person-to-person by lifestyle preference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?If I misinterpreted the tone of your first comment, it's because you appeared to make a general assumption about my priorities based on what I think is a completely reasonable standard for women to have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 03:54 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Really? I'd rather be single than be with someone I don't love, or stay in an unhappy relationship simply because the other person has money. Your comment makes no sense. You make the assumption I care more about money than love, but I claimed that women are reasonable to want someone who makes at least an equal contribution financially. Would I reject a man who earned less money if he was an otherwise ideal husband? No, but I want a man who is driven and earning potential is one indicator of th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 02:52 PM |
| 6 | How did / do you “Glow Up”?A lot of things... But the one I'm proudest of is that I kicked my skin picking compulsion. I rarely pick now. I have a more consistent skin care routine and use better products, which helped me break the picking cycle. I stopped using cleanser and Differin. I'm obviously not 13 anymore, but my face is clearer than it has been ever since. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/19 02:33 PM |
| 9 | Q4W: Do women have any reason to cry about the marriage market?Women are justified to expect men to contribute an equal or greater proportion of the household finances, especially given that wages are decreasing. No matter what the ideal world is, the real world is an oversaturated job market that requires expensive college degrees, significant accumulation of debt, and dual-income households (whether that's your spouse or 4 roommates). I was 14 when the recession started - as an adult, I'm dealing with the consequences of the economic reality that was crea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/19 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Who do you resonate with/feel inspired by?A loooot of places! American Eagle (jeans, blouses) H&M (basic tops) Forever 21 (trendy shoes) Nastygal (statement pieces and accessories, 50% off for students through Unidays) Levi's (that sherpa trucker jacket that's everywhere right now) Zara (skirts, dresses, and coats) Free People Free Bird Shoes Target (band tees) Things to look out for: colorful stripes, suede, earth tones, bold prints, bell sleeves, band tees, corduroy, denim, tortoise, snake, platform shoes, A-line mini skirts, wrap dre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/19 01:02 AM |
| 1 | I feel guilty for wanting a monogamous relationshipThanks! How do men tend to respond to being asked about kids on the first date? I'm always hesitant to try this one because most people say "yes". | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 03:04 PM |
| 3 | I act like an insecure child instead of a woman; how do I become more mature?I second meditation! Here are some of the benefits: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/12-benefits-of-meditation I personally noticed that I went to sleep more easily, that I was more relaxed and kinder to myself, had a better attention span, more patience, and was less stressed and able to make more informed decisions. If therapy (or getting into therapy) is a problem for you, then mindfulness and meditation alone are keystone habits that you can use to make a big change. I also recommend jou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 03:02 PM |
| 2 | I feel guilty for wanting a monogamous relationshipThere's a term for that - the sunk cost fallacy. I'm a huge fan of Daniel Sloss' "Jigsaw" which is a dark comedy show on Netflix. In it, he talks about how life and relationships are like a jigsaw because people try to jam the wrong piece into their lives. Years can go by before we realize that we filled a hole with someone who doesn't belong there, and rearranged the pieces of our jigsaw to make that person fit. He asks the viewers on the fence about breaking up to consider the future. How woul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 02:53 PM |
| 7 | I feel guilty for wanting a monogamous relationshipI'd love to see a vetting master post with ideas and questions to ask, because sometimes it really sucks, or I don't think of certain things. But vetting seems to be the key. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/19 09:17 PM |
| 5 | Who do you resonate with/feel inspired by?I used to be too fun! I was so insecure, and acted very desperate around men. I was on a date with a guy when he stopped and straightened my shoulders out. He had that rock star je ne sais quoi and strutted everywhere he went. I thought we looked so cool, and so I started to mind my posture everywhere I went. A lot of groupies were underage and they were sneaking into clubs and doing things that pushed boundaries - not really in a good way - but what I consider so appealing about them is the jux… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/19 09:11 PM |
| 35 | I feel guilty for wanting a monogamous relationshipYou're not wrong. Wanting a monogamous relationship is normal. Here are my thoughts: I think there are two things that are contributing to our generation's apathy towards long-term relationships. One is an openness about casual sex. A lot of young people want love, but abundant, cheap (openly advertised) sex makes us apathetic toward each other as a whole. Even basic respect has to be earned, because the other sex assumes you're a fuck boy or a whore. But the other problem is economic. My parent… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/19 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Renee Wade - a load of bsI wanted anyone reading the comments to get a general idea of what they're up against - and what she's really selling, so they can cook the same thing at home. I was actually just thinking about how many vulnerable girls I've seen here lately. I hope nobody actually spends $$$ on her stuff, or anything for that matter that can be done with your advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/19 07:08 PM |
| 3 | looking for a lesson learnedI think the simplest answer is that your ex isn't the person you thought he was, so I echo other commenters who suggested you improve your vetting skills. But I will add: Being a pacifist is relationship suicide. By far the easiest way to have your time wasted, or worse, get cheated on. You have to apply pressure by setting and enforcing boundaries, and communicating information to your S.O. that he can use to make decisions. Pacifism can easily turn into passivity and indecisiveness, and neithe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/19 06:28 PM |
| 6 | Who do you resonate with/feel inspired by?Depending on the occasion I either dress up as a 70s housewife (dressy casual), 70s rock groupie (parties), 70s girl next door (weekend casual), or 60s Parisienne (fancy). (Can you guess my favorite decade?) My personality is a weird mash-up between a 60s Parisienne (coffee shop culture, literary snob, can be haughty), witch (meditates, owns a black cat, obsessed with the moon), and 70s housewife (coordinated and non-fussy, cooks way too much). | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/19 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Renee Wade - a load of bsThe examples you gave are the keystone habits of forming and maintaining relationships - your values. When a woman is true to her values and intentions (e.g. dating with the end goal of marriage), her behavior changes (not having sex too soon). A woman must learn to value marriage before she will implement the advice not to have sex too soon, or to attenuate her personal style to please men, etc. Basically, if a person is a plant, and self-help is a leaf, we have to grow our own leaves by planti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/19 12:03 AM |
| 22 | How can I help my younger sister?One, don't lie to your sister to protect her feelings. She's an adult, and she needs a reality check. Two, since she can't do anything about the gaudy tattoo, I advise you to hold your tongue if she asks for your opinion. Or you can say, "It's your tattoo, the most important thing is that you like it." Since most of her problems are within her control, 1) honesty is the best policy, 2) when she's done being mad at you, give her the tools she needs to get her confidence back and shift her thinkin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/19 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Advice on RMV and getting an education?Yup! I don't know much about education requirements and career paths in ECE, but if you end up getting a Masters your dating pool opens up to other post graduates. I get tons of messages about socials and other ways to connect with graduate students (outside of my program). | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/19 11:23 PM |
| 4 | Advice on RMV and getting an education?You don't want to be with someone who thinks you're not "good enough", even if that person is high-status. Furthermore, if your skills are better suited for ECE than STEM, for example, pursuing a science career is going to bring you more stress - and that carries home, which is exactly where your work shouldn't be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/19 10:52 PM |
| 2 | How to determine if someone is out of your league?Men who want a relationship with you probably don't have a much higher SMV unless they perceive you to have a high RMV. Here is the chart of SMV: https://therationalmale.com/2013/06/20/smv-ratios-attachment/ Remember this chart is relative. A woman's peak SMV is not necessarily a 10. And your mileage varies by what kind of men you're trying to date (don't go younger). If you want to attract men who are an 8, be an 8. Do the leg work to improve and then maintain your appearance. If you find that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 05:58 PM |
| 14 | Lies we tell ourselves: I don’t look my ageLooking too young or old for one's age is a no-go. A woman in her mid-20s who gets mistaken for a teenager may struggle to date men who are 30, because even though men find 20-year-olds hot (high SMV), 20-year-olds have low RMV. Looks are insufficient to form a long-term relationship, but looking good for your age is an asset. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/19 05:00 PM |
| 7 | Identity Crisis (recently red pilled) (20F)Also, for a lot of people STEM is smart choice financially. My advice is not to abandon your major (unless you are very lucky and don't need to work or make much money), but to re-evaluate your time management skills and work-life balance. A lot of times we don't hate what we do, but we hate that one thing consumes all our time and emotional willpower. And if STEM is that for you and it keeps you from expressing your femininity in other settings, then maybe it's not right for you. But you also d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/19 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Man I'm I'm interested in says he's into girls that will "put him in his place"I will! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/19 01:50 AM |
| 50 | Is this weird or am I overreacting? Girl texting my fianceI don't think she's trustworthy, but your fiance seems to think she's a dunce, so unless you have a reason not to trust him I wouldn't worry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/19 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Man I'm I'm interested in says he's into girls that will "put him in his place"Somewhere in the sidebar there's a post about dominance levels. With this man I see a couple options. One, he's looking for a high dominance woman who is submissive to him. Two, he's looking for a woman who is dominant to him. Based on your description of him, he's probably not low dominance so this woman would also belong to the high dominance category. Your job would be to figure out your own dominance level and assess him for compatibility. If you guys are on the same wavelength then demonstr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/19 07:10 PM |
| 1 | How much of a dealbreaker is penis size?Self-reported data skews longer. I'm low-balling with the 5" average because I don't have an exact number, but my point is, a 4" penis is no more different from the average than a 6" one. Women are just shocked because we believe 6" is average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/19 06:27 AM |
| 1 | How much of a dealbreaker is penis size?Any deviation from average is not "ordinary", but a 4" penis is only an inch below average - I don't think that's abnormal enough to consider it a deal-breaker. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/19 03:35 AM |
| 1 | How much of a dealbreaker is penis size?Not really. It's on the small end of "ordinary", but where I live there are a lot of not-white people and I wouldn't be surprised to see a 4" penis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/19 02:48 AM |
| 10 | I feel like I’m becoming depressed and I don’t know how to stop this?What I'm reading is this: You did something to break your boyfriend's trust, and now your relationship is suffering. Based on the information you've offered here, you're having an emotional reaction to his lack of trust because you're scared that the relationship is over. You feel guilty for whatever happened. You want him to forgive you and for things to go back to normal. The only thing you can do is change your behavior and move forward. That's the only way he's going to forgive you - you dem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/19 07:37 PM |
| 16 | Where to go from here? Red Pill SO abandons animal in parkA lot of people (especially first-time cat owners) ignore how much attention and stimulation cats need, especially previously feral ones who are used to being outside. Aside from the obvious (a medical issue or being stressed out because of the other pet), the cat could just be depressed that your SO has a new job. Cats usually do this kind of thing for attention. Quite frankly, I can excuse him for not knowing any better, but he acted impulsively, without critically assessing the situation, and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/19 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Impressing with food!A seafood pasta with a cream sauce that has a hint of lemon sounds delicious and super easy. Surf 'n' turf tacos (throw beef in the slow cooker and cook up some shrimp or batter white fish, then pair with homemade pico and guacamole) is another tasty but casual option if you want to showcase your basic cooking skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/19 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Does becoming more feminine attract men?The more feminine you are, the more universally attractive you are. That being said... having fun with your personal style can show people how unique and confident you are. A good rule of thumb is to match pieces that are low-cut with something that offers more coverage, or something that's baggy with a sweater that hugs your assets. I also use those rules to match colors because I have a lot of bold, vintage-inspired statement pieces. Makeup and accessories can go a long way if your clothes the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/19 06:58 PM |
| 1 | How much of a dealbreaker is penis size?The range of what I consider acceptable is 4-7". I find smaller penises more comfortable and my ideal is 5". If a guy told me that his penis is "nothing out of the ordinary" I would assume that he's within the range that I consider acceptable, so IMO the only reason she feels deceived is that she's used to guys who are bigger than this man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/19 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Having trust issuesI still caution you to take them with a grain of salt. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, no matter how crazy they are. If he rationalizes cheating on her because of how she acted, then he will rationalize cheating on you because of how you act. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/19 10:15 PM |
| 1 | How to "detox" from CCing?Intercourse can't selectively cause microchimerism unless there is an active mechanism which suppresses it in some cases and not others. Unless there is a study that suggests such a mechanism and addresses how this is beneficial (and I said study, not the opinions of one person on a Reddit thread), then you have absolutely no right to make scientific conclusions about your personal beliefs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/19 07:44 PM |
| 11 | Having trust issuesUnless you know her personally and can confirm she has mental health issues, whenever a man says "My ex was crazy" that's a huge red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/19 07:25 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend is just coming out of a severe depression after a period of unemployment. I have engagement on my mind. If and when do I bring this up or do I even need to?OP, have you discussed marriage before? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 11:35 PM |
| 3 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?Concurrent sexual relationships, inconsistent condom use, and disgusting fetishes (anything that involves human waste or can cause serious injury) are the only things in a man's sexual history that concern me. I'm not personally concerned about N-count, if we're compatible the number tends to be in the right range. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 09:31 PM |
| 2 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?I don't think the act of sex fundamentally damages women, but the emotions we attach to sex. Some women who think they are damaged forever because some loser who earns minimum wage ghosted them and they think What's wrong with me? instead of, Whatever, he's a loser anyways. That insecurity impacts all future relationships and becomes a black hole of anger and resentment. Abundance and confidence are indispensable to making smart value-driven choices. People put on an aura to make themselves appe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 09:28 PM |
| 1 | how did you meet your guy?Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/19 07:12 PM |
| 7 | how did you meet your guy?Do you mind saying what app you used? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 06:15 PM |
| 1 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?Yes. I don't go out of my way to make male friends or to avoid them, but deep down, the only friendships that are truly platonic are between heterosexual people of the same sex. Now, I have male friends I'm for sure never going to be attracted to. There are some I consider good-looking, but for many reasons would never pursue. And there is one who is in the danger zone of being attractive and having only one absolute deal-breaker... I don't think the boxes need to be completely rigid. But being … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 06:10 PM |
| 0 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?Unfortunately? Yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 02:50 AM |
| 1 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?Never do FWBs. Either you are platonic friends, or you're attracted to each other and willing to start a relationship. It's great for partners to also be close friends, but they are two different relationship dynamics - one can exist in the absence of shared values, and the other cannot. Proceed with caution. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 07:56 PM |
| 2 | RPW does not mean we are playthings for men.There's a spectrum between being doormat and bitch. On one end of the spectrum is the princess who bosses her boyfriend around, or the woman who posts that men are crap on social media. She does what she wants without regard for consequences. She doesn't treat men (or women, or anyone for that matter) with respect. She is focused on what others can do for her and not how she can serve others. On the other end is the Stepford Wife who tolerates abusive behavior because she has too much respect fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 07:37 PM |
| 1 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateAs others said, self-presentation should be authentic. My personal style is bold, vintage, and artsy; I want an educated man who values those things. "Skintight, low cut or short" works for everyone regardless of personal style and color preferences. Cheap clothes make you look cheap no matter what, so I think the best advice is to wear something that brings you joy, looks clean and pressed, and didn't come from a $5 clearance rack. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 06:58 PM |
| 2 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateBlack is basic and versatile. Nobody forms a negative association with women who wear black unless the cut and style are otherwise suggestive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Why should women reject the “princess mentality”?Everything with these people is a production. Without exception the princesses I know want marriage and a family, but lack a highly developed self-image and see relationships as status symbols. She may be happy with something low-key, but she needs to show up her parents or friends to prove that he loves her. Most of the time, these people are under intense pressure to get married and have kids. I know a princess who even feels entitled to expensive things she hasn't earned. I think they're very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/19 02:05 AM |
| 7 | Dominant MenNarcissism is a personality disorder that overlaps with BPD. I grew up with someone who has BPD, and she caused tremendous emotional damage that still sends shock waves through my life and my relationships years after I went very low contact. The farther you can get away from this abuser and learn to recognize the symptoms so you never invest in another one, the better. A man who loves you and wants a future with you will never treat you this way. Never accept abuse because you are afraid to be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 08:10 PM |
| 11 | Dominant MenNo. There is a difference between leadership and dictatorship. The narcissist, by definition, has his own interests at the core of every thought and action. They are relationship dictators and captains are relationship leaders. RPW are "compatible" with narcissistic men because we're targets for them. Part of the vetting process for us should be the ability to recognize narcissism and run as far away as we can. FYI, narcissism has a lot in common with BPD. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 07:57 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: Explain this: why are the doctors And lawyers I know not married to 19 year old supermodels, and instead are married to normal women?Yes, but the average man isn't a doctor. The men I know who went to medical school or are applying to medical school (young men who aren't married yet) don't want a stay at home wife, they want women who have the same demands of time and lifestyle. As they get older and become established, I'm sure many of those relationships will break down (people and circumstances change). At that point when he's already got kids and a great career, that doctor will date a younger woman with a less demanding … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/19 07:50 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffI'm under 110 pounds! I'm getting better at staying hydrated. I removed cleanser from my skincare routine and my skin cleared up SO fast. I use micellar water to loosen any makeup and then rinse with cold water. I'm super obsessed with how soft my face is. I performed the last experiment I need for my thesis and my hypothesis appears correct, but I need to repeat to be sure! I secured the final member of my thesis committee, so my next step is to set a date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 05:32 PM |
| 5 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?Yup. You can't have a strong relationship unless both partners have approximately the same level of investment and the same expectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 05:15 PM |
| 6 | How to nun mode without becoming a complete hermitPick a couple of acquaintances that you feel comfortable with and asking them what's fun to do around the area, can you show me around, etc. Check out some nearby coffee shops and cafés, find a farmer's market, go to the beach, exercise, take a class, etc. Great way to meet people? Bring a book to a coffee shop. If you're scared to do things alone I recommend taking yourself out to have a sit-down meal. Once you cross that hurdle, not a lot of things are awkward anymore. :) Bumble also has a fri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else feel bad for other women who haven't found their captain?That works too. I personally hate "what if you" suggestions, but for people who don't know there's another option it's a good strategy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 07:30 PM |
| 55 | Does anyone else feel bad for other women who haven't found their captain?To give RPW advice to feminists: Don't give them an opportunity to be defensive ("What you're doing is wrong" or "There's a better way to do X"). When you give advice, emphasize what your female loved one gains from changing her behavior. She doesn't care what men want ("Men don't respect you if you sleep with them too soon"), but she may be receptive to something else ("I waited to have sex with my husband until we were in an exclusive relationship, and I think our mutual respect is stronger be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else grew up thinking shared interests were a major cause of attraction?Looooooool you are so dead wrong. Guys in rock bands win out against everyone. You ever seen Mick Jagger? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/19 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Share your online dating success story!I met my ex-boyfriend on Tinder. After we matched, he messaged me a couple of days later and we started chatting. We went out a week later and that was that. :) There were a lot of problems in our relationship, but he was by far the kindest and funniest guy I've ever gone out with. We were together for almost 2.5 years. He was a great college boyfriend, and a fundamentally good person, but not the kind of guy I want to marry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 03:22 AM |
| 2 | Circular dating strategyYou're welcome. I'd never come out and tell a man "Hey, let's hurry up because I have a date with Tim at 5 P.M.", but I really think the strategy can be useful in a RP context. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Circular dating strategyI don't agree with everything OP is saying (there needs to be adaptations for this to work in the bigger context of RPW), but if you don't enjoy someone's company, ghost. Then find someone else. Don't keep men around just to get stuff, but don't get rid of your options too soon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 10:08 PM |
| 9 | Circular dating strategyThere is no reason to accommodate a man who has offered you nothing beside his time. Both men and women need to prove they are valuable to each other before a relationship is established. Let me clarify some things... Dating = going on dates non-exclusively, not having sex. Relationship = exclusively seeing a single person, having sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, women are the gatekeepers of sex. At the stage of dating neither of these things should be offered yet. There is nothing in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Things your SO cares about that he probably isn't telling you.I think the single-biggest expense for most people is housing. Rent, mortgage, property taxes, utilities, insurance, maintenance, the whole shebang. A better house is a safer neighborhood, better schools, better social networks for the kids. Where I'm from, the amount of money required to jump from an "okay" neighborhood to a "good" neighborhood is more than the amount of pennies one person can save. And not many people whose kids are under 18 volunteer to leave, because the jobs are better than… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Coming to terms with not having kidsEveryone should leave the world a better place than we found it. Embody the saying "it takes a village": You can help your friends by babysitting or simply bringing the family a home-cooked meal to help ease the pressure of parenthood for them. Act as a positive role model for your friends' children as they get older by demonstrating the values of friendship, family, and community. If you want to make an impact on a larger number of children, you can volunteer or teach them. I think there are ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 08:22 PM |
| 6 | RPW and ChildfreeI'm 24, and adamantly CF since I was 16. I structured my whole adult life around that identity. I don't think being CF and RP are mutually exclusive. RPW is about women's sexual strategy, which is usually marriage and children. But the strategies taught here apply to any woman who is interested in marriage or long-term partnership. It's about making yourself a better person and your relationship a better relationship. Unless you want to be a parent, those have nothing to do with children. Biolog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Differences in eating habits between men and womenMaking pasta is time consuming and requires the right equipment. I use room temperature eggs and flour for the dough. The amount of "active" time required is under an hour, and you can freeze or dry additional servings. The only problems I had were using cold eggs, and not working the dough long enough. I don't think pasta is hard to make at all. You can get a nice hand-crank pasta machine for less than $70, but I'm sure there are even cheaper versions out there. The hand-shaped pastas require m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/19 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Swallowing the (T)red pill: The Raw Truth of Weight ManagementI definitely don't have Celiac. But the amount of pasta I consume isn't healthy either. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 01:26 AM |
| – | Monthly GoalsLose 5 pounds Perform the last experiment for my thesis! Complete the methods section of my thesis Draft the results section of my thesis Drink 60 ounces of water every day | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Differences in eating habits between men and womenHomemade pasta is a game-changer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/19 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Swallowing the (T)red pill: The Raw Truth of Weight ManagementThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 04:10 PM |
| 6 | Swallowing the (T)red pill: The Raw Truth of Weight ManagementI had a complete physical this summer and am healthy on paper. My grad program is becoming more stressful and between that and some personal stuff I think I'm emotionally under the weather. Five more months... | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 04:10 PM |
| 7 | Swallowing the (T)red pill: The Raw Truth of Weight ManagementMy BMI is 22.7 and I'm constantly hungry so I eat a lot of junk. That ends up making me more hungry... lack of nutrients, lack of water, sodium, a lot of espresso. I'm so exhausted that exercise is a nightmare for me and even though my weight is normal, I was 100-105 for a long time and now I'm 110-115. I'm short so the difference is barely noticeable but a worrisome trend. I started drinking an adequate amount of water and my goal is to recomp what I eat. Nobody gets younger and I won't have an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Opinions on casual sex?You can satisfy your physical urges with masturbation. There are very few negatives. When that's not possible, there's an underlying emotional component. It's normal for women to want both sex and intimacy. You can share emotional intimacy with friends (because they respect you). You can experience physical intimacy with yourself. But FWBs don't stand at the crossroads between these two things. Real relationships do. FWBs put restrictions on the amount of emotional intimacy because there's a sex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Women and Cooking on TRPCooking is the same as science: a series of techniques, connected and unconnected, sometimes performed with the assistance of pre-made materials, that can be combined to create a final product. When you start working at a lab, someone teaches you how to perform common lab techniques and you practice them many times. The more theory you learn, the more you can combine those techniques to create something new - a paper, your thesis, or Thanksgiving dinner. Women start by saving recipes on Pinteres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Stubborn Partners & Walking AwayI sort of agree. The pain of loss can trigger people to change behavior, but I don't think the original relationship can be saved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Advice for engagement period?Congratulations! :) Single, but cooking... Dunno what you have around the kitchen, but you don't need a lot of gadgets. One of my favorites is the Instant Pot because of the numerous functions. A 3 quart one is big enough for 2 people. I also have a pasta machine, which makes a great gift and is kind of fun, but not essential. Here is a video I found the other day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79_IsTV8X-c I think the basic concept here applies to so many things. Use fresh ingredients when you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/19 05:39 PM |
| 7 | CMV: A "Career Woman" would be one of the worst type of people to date.On the other hand, co-dependence is unattractive to both men and women. Where is the balance between too independent and not independent enough? Because life is expensive and some of us have careers for practical reasons. Surely we're not going to give that up for the wrong person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/19 05:00 PM |
| 5 | Something RP and BP should agree on; childfree is the way to go.I'm CF so I agree from the standpoint that not having kids is the best decision for me, personally. But most of the problems associated with parenthood come down to inappropriate spouse vetting, weak parental boundaries, and lack of financial/time management skills. Having kids is important because imbalanced population dynamics can have enormous social consequences (look at Japan, the Baby Boomers, or countries where a huge portion of the population are minors). But not everyone should have the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/19 04:40 PM |
| 12 | My (24F) former bf(24M) for 2 years reached out to me. What does he want?Men love sex! And they do tons of stupid and shady things to get sex! He's your ex. Why hasn't he stated his intentions? If he chooses not to, I think you should assume he's not being honest with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Unfaithful of me to wonder what could've been with my ex?How long were you single before you started dating your current fiancé? It's likely that you have unprocessed feelings about the breakup. That being said, I have dreams about past relationships from time to time. And they also tend to focus on the good stuff rather than the bad stuff. But the thing is, you broke up with that guy for a reason. If things had gone well, then he'd be your current fiancé - but you can't separate the good and the bad from people. I think it's normal to think about oth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 04:29 PM |
| 12 | My (24F) former bf(24M) for 2 years reached out to me. What does he want?It's male biology. Doesn't make him a bad person, but doesn't mean he wants to get back together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 04:21 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffThese are all great ideas! I already turned off notifications, but Instagram has a stranglehold on me because I love to browse. :( I'm going to set my phone aside during the day and see if that helps. Did you notice a change in your sleep quality when you weren't using your phone? I snooze for hours every morning, but I'm asleep for 7-8 hours every night. I want to be a morning person because my work starts late so I can afford a few hours to exercise, eat breakfast, stretch, and get ready, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 04:17 PM |
| 1 | How to date in the modern world?Good luck, I wish you the best! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/19 03:57 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffMy phone lets me know how much screen time I had each week and I'm not doing great. I think I spent an average of 5 hours... every day... on my phone. Most of that is browsing Instagram for fashion inspo, Spotify, and playing games. I got a text warning me I was on track to surpass my data this month. I feel stressed out when I'm on my phone! Has anyone else busted excessive phone usage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/19 05:43 PM |
| 2 | How to date in the modern world?Masturbating helps you figure out your body, what appeals to you, and lets you "practice" in a safe environment without negative consequences. Confidence is key, and the best way to control others' perception of you. It's also important because confidence is what you use to navigate new situations or ones where you don't have a lot of experience (such as sex). That may be something like, "Can you show me what you like?" or "I'm not comfortable with this and want to stop". A good rule of thumb fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/19 05:05 PM |
| 9 | How to date in the modern world?Men want to know that you're interested because sex is important for them the way relationships are important for women. They will typically do this by touching you to gauge your responsiveness. Touching your hand, a hug, etc. Men want to know that you're receptive to physical contact. The kind of men you're seeing aren't going to waste time on you unless sex is achievable. Touching is not inherently a problem. Escalating physical contact too fast is a problem. Men want things other than sex, bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 05:52 PM |
| 4 | I Have a Huge Creative DesireWhat we create is a reflection of ourselves. Even if you have to be more of a "shark" to get your music out there (if you choose to make money from it), the actual content you create reflects your femininity. And that's really beautiful! Make music that makes you happy. The rest of it is just... business. The business side is what you want to separate from your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/19 04:45 PM |
| 2 | I Have a Huge Creative DesireThere are technical principles to art, writing, music, etc., but for me the creation of art is by nature an emotional process. Strong emotion and intuition are associated with femininity, but I don't consider the process gendered. To me art has sexual energy because there's an exchange happens between the artist and the audience, where the audience reacts and the artist responds. Your creative (or regular) work is not the place you want to be submissive. Keep RPW out of the office and keep the o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/19 02:31 AM |
| 3 | Sending nudes?I never send completely nude pictures, just ones where I'm wearing underwear (and crop out my face). That way I wouldn't be completely mortified if they got out. And it's strictly a boyfriend thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/19 04:51 AM |
| 4 | Dating and intuitionI agree that intuition is feminine, but I think success in dating is based on strategy and intuition. My intuition is never wrong about who I'm going to fall head-over-heels for. But without some kind of strategy or metric to asses the value of those relationships, I wasted a lot of time (and a lot of tears) over men I had no future with. I agree with /u/Kara__El that passing up your "soulmate" over a show or some other interest is stupid. Matching your values and lifestyle is more important tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Mental Illness Red FlagsI was raised by someone I also suspect has BPD (my grandma), so I empathize with any struggles you had. That's a tough upbringing and a lot of damage that has to be sorted through later. A person who goes to the trouble to recognize defects of character and behavior, and then makes a plan to correct them OR seeks professional help to do so, is someone who has a good grasp of the reality of their illness and what is necessary to become a mentally healthy person. I'd go so far as to say that the a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Everyday Lingerie?When you subscribe, you can choose to skip a month before the 5th or 6th or make a purchase. You're only charged if you forget to skip a month. The website claims that you can skip as many months as you want or pause your subscription without being charged. I wear a 30DD/XS so I buy bras from Nordstrom. The price point is not the highest, but a set from a brand such as Panache or Freya can run up to $100. Not economical. (By the way, FigLeaves.com has many of the same brands as Nordstrom but a b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Going to the club aloneIf your goal is to mitigate social anxiety by approaching and flirting with men, you absolutely need a friend to help you navigate that situation safely. You will not be rejected in a night club. However, I also feel that you will build more confidence by being friendly and interacting with men in settings without alcohol. Clubs are fun, but they do attract unsafe people so you need to be careful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/18 12:20 AM |
| 2 | If you want kids, how would you feel about someone who's not sure? Or vice versa.I'm 110% sure I don't want kids. Coming from the other side of this, I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't sure. They may want them someday. They may not. Right now, they're ambivalent, and that's kind of a dangerous place to be about such an important decision. Personally, I consider not being on the same page about having kids to be a deal-breaker. Given your age there is time, and a chance, that he's going to change his mind. But the dangerous thing about people who are on the fence is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/18 12:44 AM |
| 5 | I’m 20, should I spend time getting straight As or looking for a husbandBetween 3-4 kids, student loans, and whatever financial baggage your future husband brings, you're going to lose money by getting a graduate degree. What are your academic and professional goals? Unless you're interested in medicine, networking is often more important than straight As. Second, don't become hyper-focused on a particular outcome. You're 20 years old. You have so many ideas about what's going to happen in the future but you have absolutely no way to predict those outcomes. Unless y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 07:41 PM |
| 4 | What are your favorite feminine hobbies that aren't "basic"?As a hobby? Several times a year. As an interest? More than once ever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/18 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsPerhaps some of the nuance was lost during translation? My experience is that Japanese books aren't as sensational as American ones. Some of the expression is probably lost during translation and/or to differences of culture. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/18 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Tarot Tuesday: Midsummer Spreads AvailableI'm currently interested in someone. Our history is complicated and we've never gotten the timing right, but we have amazing conversations and many things in common. I want to stop texting and meet up for a date. He just returned from a trip and is usually more straightforward with making plans. Am I overthinking things? What's the best approach to take in this situation? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/18 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Who inspires us?I really like Emilia Clarke. The way she portrays herself on social media is very different from her Game of Thrones character. She is a liberal feminist, but she presents a good balance of femininity, modesty, and not taking herself too seriously. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/06/18 02:22 AM |
| 3 | A New Way of Looking at Relationship Dynamics - Part 1I tried to quantify the dominance level of my past partners. I put myself around a 6-6.5 because I have a dual nature of submissiveness/dominance depending on the person and the scenario. I was happiest in the relationships where my partner had the closest dominance level to mine. The lower the dominance level, the more commitment I got from that man, but also the more unhappy I was in the relationship. Out of two past relationships where the man was higher, the 7.5 was too high already, and the… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/06/18 07:40 PM |
| 9 | Is this normal in the US?Here's my recommendation. Since you're from the U.K., I'm using terms that apply to schools in California. He should attend community college for 2 years. I paid $30/unit. He can take classes to get an associate's degree (A.A. or A.S.) in business or teaching as he completes transfer coursework for physics. For transfer requirements from California community colleges, I used this website: http://www.assist.org/web-assist/welcome.html He'll need to complete either IGETC or CSU-GE requirements for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/18 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Father's DayMy dad is awesome. :) He's not perfect but there are so many things I love about him. He worked hard to provide for me so that I could go to college without debt. He encourages me in any endeavor that I'm serious about. He never acts too busy or bored to talk about the things I love. He's very kind, generous, and good with animals. He has killer taste in music and some of my favorite memories are us on road trips swapping playlists in the car. He's adventurous and funny. He has a long fuse. The … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/18 08:04 PM |
| 2 | How to handle financial difficulties in a fairly new relationship?What concerns me is that when your last relationship ended, you had to move out and spend a large portion of your savings because, if I assume correctly, you shared a lot of those household assets with your ex-boyfriend. I'm not trying to imply that your current relationship is going down the tube - but I want you to be very careful and think about the implications of being in debt to someone you've only been dating for 7 months. Personally, I'd be more embarrassed to owe my ex-boyfriend money t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/18 07:38 PM |
| 1 | My take on the term "alpha widow"I agree and thank you for your perspective! Bad things (and people) happen to the best of us. How we choose to respond is largely ours to control and determines what we can gain from a bad relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/18 07:20 PM |
| 8 | My take on the term "alpha widow"The reason that these "alpha widow" experiences are so damaging is because women are susceptible to them when our self-esteem is low, but having low self-esteem makes us unable to re-script the narrative and learn from the experience. Our experiences have both an objective meaning (how others observe the relationship), a subjective meaning (how we experience the relationship), and a lesson (what we learn from the relationship). In these types of relationships there's a huge disparity between the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/18 06:19 PM |
| 2 | How are you currently trying to improve yourself? (For yourself or your SO)Being able to find the right person and successfully navigate that relationship requires a deeper level of personal awareness and understanding. I was pretty obsessed with my fantasy of meeting the one that I never bothered to question the level I was playing on. I'm open about my own shortcomings, but being open to oneself is more critical, and it's something I'm very, very glad to see from a different perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/18 05:55 PM |
| 2 | How are you currently trying to improve yourself? (For yourself or your SO)Late post, but something I want to put on the record: For a long time, I was obsessed with RPW because I kept thinking that I wasn't doing enough for my ex-boyfriend and not being a perfect girlfriend. The truth is that I did more for my ex-boyfriend than he earned - but not enough for myself. We broke up for good a month ago (after breaking up once before) and I'm starting to fall in love with myself and gain awareness of what I'm capable of. I'm finally able to go back to basics, unattached an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/18 05:51 AM |
| 1 | How to better handle height difference?I think you misunderstood my comment. Everyone makes mistakes and has shortcomings, and I was being transparent about one of my own. My intention wasn't to advocate that OP copy my behavior, but to point out that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Nobody's perfect. I've been on this sub for a while and I'm receptive to its message - there was no need to take the comment literally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/18 05:32 AM |
| 1 | How to better handle height difference?It's not RP behavior, but it's true. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/18 04:19 PM |
| 2 | How to better handle height difference?I can't speak for everyone, but as a short woman, I've learned to be more aggressive to compensate for my height and often my gender. That's not an attractive quality! The grass simply looks greener from the other side. Your boyfriend is clearly a confident guy. Bring something to the table as his girlfriend - your femininity, values, and personality - that show him you're a good commitment instead of worrying about something you can't change such as your height. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/18 02:49 PM |
| 1 | I cannot deal with conflictI just cannot deal with anything that I consider conflict. Is this because I grew up in an environment that was constant daily arguments and escalation? Yes, it's possible. You probably adapted to avoid these kinds of conflicts because they were 1) common and 2) you had no control over them. Do you also have problems with control? For example, compulsive behavior, impossible standards, or even plainly telling others what to do to "resolve" conflicts? If so, these may also stem from the environme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/18 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on graduate school?My comment is late but I'm a graduate student in biology so I hope my experience is useful. One, 20-30k for undergrad is low. The stated cost of tuition, fees, books, and other expenses for my university is around $30,000/year, and I attend a public university. I think it's worth it, especially if the more expensive school has access to better resources and you are already comfortable taking on that debt. I attended community college for 3 years. After I transferred, I graduated on time without … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/18 03:13 AM |
| 2 | What is the Rpw opinion about bikini pics on social media?In my opinion, the biggest problems with bikini pictures are people who take them in places other than the pool/beach and who place unnecessary emphasis on a woman's breasts/butt. As long as you're comfortable wearing the bikini and are careful about how the image is presented, I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with occasionally posting a bikini picture. Most people aren't at the pool/beach often, so the frequency of posting should be low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/18 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Are dating apps useful for a follower of RPW?You don't have to sleep with every man you date, and for that reason, I think dating apps are a great way to quickly gain experience without increasing your N-count. That being said, be careful! Always meet your dates in public, don't give your number out too quickly, and don't be afraid to block or un-match people you don't like. Your chances of developing a LTR heavily depend on what app(s) you use, but they also depend on what you bring to a relationship, what kind of boundaries you set, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/18 12:27 AM |
| 8 | Housewife and part-time workEven though I think Dr. Peterson's advice is generally good, I don't think a career should be a person's main source of emotional fulfillment. I, personally, think the main functions of a career are to achieve financial security, build interpersonal skills, and provide intellectual stimulation. A challenging career that is a good fit in most areas can stimulate personal growth and motivation. OP, you may not enjoy meeting deadlines and be easily overwhelmed. However, they are still applicable an… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/03/18 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Non Stay-at-Home Homemaker?I don't have personal experience to offer, but I think time management and efficiency go a long way! I suggest you actively plan your time. When I took labs for school, we were given preparatory assignments to make sure we could utilize our lab time effectively. Knowing what you want to accomplish each day, and sketching an outline for how and when you're going to accomplish each task, is invaluable. Cal Newport has a couple of useful books, How To Be A Straight-A Student and Deep Work that disc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Balancing Femininity and IndependenceI think it's healthy to change you behavior based on the context of your surroundings. Real people have multi-faceted personalities. Biology is a great example for this: every cell in our body contains the same DNA, but the parts of that DNA that are read and expressed are different depending on the functions that need to be performed by different cell types. I think personalities operate the same way. There are some aspects of my personality that are in conflict, but they're not expressed in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Overcoming addiction to attentionI enjoy relaxation frequencies and rain sounds for meditation. Drumming tracks are also helpful because the rhythm makes it very easy to calm down! For confidence, any type of music works. My favorite genre is classic rock, but I'm trying to listen to more jazz/blues and music from the 60s. I mentioned this before on RPW, but classic rock is a very masculine, sexy genre, and I think the polarity helps me tap into my feminine side. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Overcoming addiction to attentionThanks for sharing! I'm a very open person and struggle with many of the same attention-seeking behaviors you described. The part about being confident and self-conscious is also spot-on for me. Meditation and mindfulness helped me a lot. So has music. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/18 06:26 AM |
| 13 | Tips for a better you?Have you ever heard of keystone habits? Examples of keystone habits include exercise, food journaling, meditation, etc. Keystone habits obey the Pareto Principle. They take up a minimal amount of your time every day but pack the biggest punch. They lower the amount of willpower needed to perform complicated tasks by routinizing them. For example, I'm trying to wake up at 6 AM every morning. Waking up early gives me enough time to eat breakfast, get ready, etc. without rushing. Setting these habi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/18 06:04 AM |
| 4 | Traditional Roles and CareersLiving on a single income is not always practical or feasible. Unfortunately, money is important. The ideal financial situation, in my opinion, is where a household brings a sufficient income to cover expenses, save for education and retirement, and pay off debts. If one income is not sufficient to meet this goal, then as long as generating a second income is not cost-prohibitive, I think it's advisable for both spouses to work. If both spouses are able to maintain the home and workplace as sepa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/18 04:04 AM |
| 3 | journalling / bullet journals?I do! I personally find the easiest thing to do is create a tracker on the same page(s) as your weekly spread. That way, you get a quick, appealing summary of what you've accomplished and need to work on. I also see a lot of people place habit trackers for the entire month or year on a single page, such as the popular mood tracking spread. I personally find it overwhelming to put that much information on a single page, but if you're someone who benefits from seeing the bigger picture or long-ter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/18 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Announcement: Flair Updates and Star SystemI have custom flair, but it's not accurate. Is it possible for the moderators to clear my custom flair altogether? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 09:15 PM |
| 5 | Baby at 42?No. It's possible for older women in good health to safely carry a pregnancy and give birth, especially with medical interventions. But the quality of what eggs remain in her ovaries will be very poor. If she is able to become pregnant successfully, then her offspring has an increased risk for chromosomal and developmental abnormalities, because her eggs are produced when a woman is in utero. Your DNA has been accumulating damage since before your mom was born. If you were born when your mom was… | /r/RedPillWives | 05/02/18 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Waist TrainersI have a short torso, so regular busk lengths are too long. I'd say that for someone my size, the length is appropriate for a regular underbust corset. There's a bit more mobility by virtue of the corset being mesh, but a true waspie would have greater mobility. I think it's comfortable, breathable, and affordable enough for an everyday corset and has a great shape for a ready-to-wear piece. I'd recommend this particular length for someone who can wear the full-length style but wants more covera… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Waist TrainersThe black mesh underbust, CS-411 I believe as I prefer shorter styles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/18 08:07 PM |
| 8 | Waist TrainersYay, a subject I'm passionate about! Disclaimer: you will not be able to permanently change the shape of your waist with a corset, but wearing one underneath your clothes can accentuate your waist when appropriate. A proper corset, instead a trendy waist trainer, is an investment piece that will last you years with proper use and care. They're also highly restrictive garments that can cause discomfort and even injury unless you wear them properly, so please be careful. For people who are new to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/18 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Waist TrainersI also second Orchard Corsets. I ordered a corset from them that arrived with a damaged boning channel. Customer service was fantastic and they quickly sent me a replacement! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/18 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Being "high maintenance" - opinions?Some assorted advice: 1) A minority of what you do should provide most of the benefit. This is exemplified by the saying, "Work smarter, not harder." Simplify your routine. Learn how to manage your time more effectively or practice stress-reduction strategies (and continue to exercise and perform skincare). 2) Sometimes good enough is better than perfect: "Less is more." Also, a more natural look can showcase your inner radiance and make you appear more confident. For example, swap foundation fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Being "high maintenance" - opinions?"High maintenance" has no real meaning. High maintenance can mean that one partner expects more than the other is willing to give. High maintenance can mean that one person holds themselves to a higher standard than everyone else in the group (e.g. the one woman who is noticeably more well-put together). High maintenance can mean that other people see you as snobby because your routine interferes with your ability to enjoy life... or puts unnecessary strain on your time. Be your best and know wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/18 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Simple Questions - January 06, 2018Can I ask an off-topic question in this thread? I bought a hard Speck case for my MacBook and it cracked really quickly. Can anyone can recommend a clear case that doesn't crack easily? I take my case off frequently to clean/rearrange stickers underneath and need something durable! | /r/RedPillWives | 07/01/18 12:19 AM |
| 10 | Is it bad that I want a high N count?Having passion for each other is important, but the foundation of a sustainable relationship, career, etc. is made of discipline and organization. Sex is not the be-all-end-all. If you derive the majority of your satisfaction in a romantic relationship from getting off a few times a week, you're never going to be happy. The point of keeping a low N-count is to be discerning about the types of men you give time and attention to. It's about maximizing your options, because you will never have more… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 06:19 AM |
| 2 | Romantic Victories!Thank you! Some big lessons from this relationship are learning to move beyond the sunk cost fallacy, to communicate, and to have more self-confidence. I'm going to keep my eye out for someone who is interested in personal growth, emotional authenticity, and a multi-faceted personal connection. :) | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/18 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Bustin’ Through Resolutions Like A BossI have a pretty good memory, but I started a bullet journal to help stay organized and wrote them down! :) | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/18 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Bustin’ Through Resolutions Like A BossI'm going to focus on the two main intentions, the components are simply areas where they are useful/will help me grow. So far this week I've used these intentions to calm anxiety during a plane ride, to cut off a stagnant relationship, and to get back into the swing of work. Good luck to you too! | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/18 07:22 AM |
| 2 | Bustin’ Through Resolutions Like A BossThis year I adopted an intention instead of a resolution! I will be brave, meaning that I will face problems head-on, seek out new experiences, and test my boundaries. I will also be excellent, meaning that I will approach all tasks in my life with mindfulness, a sense of values, and purpose. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/18 06:17 AM |
| 13 | Romantic Victories!I had a romantic victory yesterday - I broke up with my boyfriend! Our relationship completely stagnated. I struggle with communication, so after months of staying mum and hamstering away our problems, I faced my fear, communicated my feelings, and ended the relationship. I feel great and am moving into 2018 with more confidence that when I start dating again, I can apply the lessons I've learned from RP. While not a romantic "victory", this breakup puts me closer to my romantic goals and is a h… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/18 06:09 AM |
| 9 | "Desire Is Fueled By The Unknown" - Let's Discuss!I think the unknown forces us to be more mindful of our surroundings, and this is good for our relationships. When a person is highly devoted or passionate about something, or when they're forced to navigate an unfamiliar experience, they're not operating on auto-pilot. For example, if your main focus is getting the kids to the car and your wife says, "Look at that gorgeous dress!" you may not hear her. But if you're mindful of the moment, or you don't have any distractions, you now have an idea… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/18 06:00 AM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? Suddenly Finding it difficult to Accept My Nonvirgin Husband's Sexual Past Even though It is Too ShortI'm glad to hear that you're communicating! Comparison is an unhealthy behavior, and what I think is driving your feelings of insecurity. Do you really want to compare your self-worth to a woman who asked your husband to have unprotected sex with her? Hell no! You are leagues better than that to him. What I'm trying to say is that I don't think your problem is that he's not a virgin... I think the problem is that you have a problem with the women he slept with. Since you can't change the past, a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/18 04:12 AM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? Suddenly Finding it difficult to Accept My Nonvirgin Husband's Sexual Past Even though It is Too ShortIMO your husband doesn't have enough experience to be jaded by sex unless he was abused or is highly religious. It's possible your husband has a low sex drive. Has he ever gotten his testosterone level checked? Also, have you openly communicated your expectations to each other? I don't think your problem is that your husband wasn't a virgin when you met. I think your problem is that in your post you expressed certain attitudes and expectations that aren't necessarily healthy. Sex is only one com… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 12:20 AM |
| 3 | Self Care Is Not All Salt Baths and Chocolate CakeI was going to quote my favorite pieces of the article, but the entire thing is great! Whenever I embark on a new project or idea for self-care I consider two questions: 1. Does this action or behavior simplify my life? 2. Does this action or behavior have a lasting effect? | /r/RedPillWives | 31/12/17 02:48 AM |
| 2 | Is there an RP explanation/theory?I agree! The younger males will worship her with attention for a chance to have sex with an older, experienced woman. If she's able to engage the attention of students who may otherwise cut class and encourage them to perform academically (perhaps by offering sexual favors), she may also gain authority with the staff for being "good at her job". | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 07:46 AM |
| 4 | I found out that the man I have been dating for two and a half months doesn't know my last name and Im unsure if I reacted the right way.My boyfriend is from a country where the surnames are real tongue-twisters. I was afraid to say his surname out loud for a long time, lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/17 03:33 AM |
| 1 | I'm afraid my depression is going to hinder me from getting marriedI'm really glad to hear that you've tried a few things! As far as your SOs go... sometimes people don't recognize the impact of something that happens so frequently, such as a depressive episode. If anyone is being dismissive of your feelings and saying things such as "You should just be happy!", don't be afraid to point out, "I do X, Y, and Z to take care of myself" and then kindly ask them to give you actionable advice instead of telling you to change your mood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/17 06:07 AM |
| 1 | I'm afraid my depression is going to hinder me from getting marriedI think you're doing pretty well, all things considered. Have you ever tried identifying triggers for your mood swings? If possible, maybe there is a pattern you can use to help reduce them. Also, when you have a partner it's okay to communicate immediate needs or simply ask them to give you space. Even though sometimes it's tempting to ask your SO to play therapist, I think it's healthy to maintain a distinction because the average person really doesn't understand how to respond appropriately t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/17 04:17 PM |
| 4 | Beyond Red & BlueYup! I think it's better (and easier) to find someone who complements with your personal dynamic than someone who is "alpha" or "beta". And though I don't encourage people (especially women) to make romantic choices based on feelings alone, "clicking" with someone and following your intuition can actually help tremendously with the more subjective aspects of dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/17 03:25 AM |
| 1 | I'm afraid my depression is going to hinder me from getting marriedDiet and exercise can be components of depression, but you are maintaining a standard of self-care and still experiencing symptoms. At this point, I think it's wise to seek professional help. I would try therapy before medication! Another great thing you can do is to write a positive affirmation on a piece of paper or a note card and carry that around during the day. When you feel lonely or depressed, take the card out, take some deep breaths, and really try to meditate on the positivity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/17 03:19 AM |
| 7 | If men love women and women respect men, can a RPM respect a RPW?Respect is a two-way street and along with trust, the foundation of a healthy, normal relationship. Women love men too, but our ideal of love differs from men. Men and women both want to be served, but men have a greater need to be respected. The adage "women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of commitment" hopefully explains this. Women don't really need men's respect to get sex, but by giving respect and earning respect in turn, a woman can advance her sexual strategy to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/17 04:15 PM |
| 7 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountWomen who actually take responsibility for their mistakes instead of blaming men and society are in such short supply these days that some men might find such frankness and self-reflection to be rather refreshing. A nugget of gold and a game-changer for anyone who is new here. Anyone else ever notice how people are easy to forgive mistakes when nobody gets hurt? Don't want to be the person who gets hurt because of your own mistakes. The process of owning our past isn't easy, and learning from ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Question about commitmentThere's a trade-off happening. Most men aren't going to give you a certain level of commitment (e.g. marriage) before you trade sex. Men want to have sex, including the ones who see you as a long-term mate. He's going to lose respect for you if you give him sex too soon. Part of his vetting process is waiting for you to give him sex and under what conditions you're willing to do so. A relationship is not a legally binding agreement. Men are willing to enter exclusive relationships for a variety … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Is the red pill for me [22F] if I don't want to get married or have children?I think it's normal! But, imagine how awesome it's going to be when you meet someone who's on the same page and get to experience the courting phase with him. :) Location is also a huge factor. I live near a city, and had no trouble finding a guy who is CF. If relocation is possible, it may turn your dating life around 180º. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 03:51 PM |
| 6 | Is the red pill for me [22F] if I don't want to get married or have children?I bring it up right away too. That way, I don't become emotionally invested in someone I don't have a future with. /u/Ihatemost: I know many of us are afraid to disclose our childfree status to potential partners, but if you take the risk then people may surprise you. :) The bonus is that you won't waste time on people who are incompatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/17 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Need advice (something fun!)Something I really appreciate when I'm overwhelmed with school is when my roommate cleans the apartment or when my friends bring me something to eat. :) Taking care of the day-to-day stuff so that your boyfriend can focus on his GRE would be an excellent way to support him! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/17 07:05 PM |
| 2 | CMV: For Men who care about screening a woman's RMV and loyalty, nexting daughters of divorced parents is AT LEAST as important as nexting based on N countI don't think screening the marital status of a woman's parents is necessary. The high risk for divorce is because these people usually have behavior problems. Those will present themselves before you even speak to a woman, let alone begin to screen her for a LTR. If she passes all your other tests and you find out her parents are divorced, she doesn't represent the same liability that a woman who throws up a bunch of other red flags. In other words: I agree you should proceed with caution, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/17 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Seeking advice regarding relationship issues vs. moderately low RMV.I'm glad you found this encouraging and wish you good luck. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 04:39 AM |
| 3 | To those of you that have a career, not just a job?I read a lovely book called Deep Work by Cal Newport that teaches one how to reduce the amount, and improve the quality, of work that one does. In short, I suggest making a map of your life and responsibilities. Which ones can you outsource? Which ones are not that important? The trick is to schedule your day so that you have long periods of interrupted concentration. This includes scheduling breaks for email, because answering emails robs your concentration. By having a map of what you're going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 04:20 AM |
| 13 | Seeking advice regarding relationship issues vs. moderately low RMV.The most valuable thing I learned from my past was that you should never hold onto people from your past (or present) unless they are compatible with your future. Address problems in your relationship in a RPW way. How do you plan time spent together when your boyfriend is in town? What have you done to improve your RMV/SMV? Also, a big thing with men is that you can scream, "Watch out!" and they're still going to do the thing. I would express your concern but go to the gym anyways. When you're … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/17 10:49 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend feels pressured to marry me.Plus, he probably was simply upset about the nagging. As long as he didn't hurt OP and apologized for losing his temper, he had a moment - the best of us do! I don't think it's really appropriate to suggest he's harboring some secret antipathy to marriage simply because he was upset. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/17 05:27 PM |
| 3 | How men show their loveI'm not going to argue my word choice lol. Easier said than done but the concept still applies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/17 01:39 AM |
| 6 | How men show their loveFor me, the ideal combination is a man who has an independent life outside of the relationship, but when we're together makes me feel special. It's deceivingly simple, but works well enough to communicate abundance without triggering insecurity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/17 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Slut Tells and N CountOn TRP, RP theory is presented using black-and-white terms and examples. Why? Anger is a great way to motivate people to change. By removing the nuance from people's behavior (a great example is AWALT), TRP encourages men to take action. In the real world, people operate on a spectrum. Stereotypes can serve as a tool, and are exceptionally useful in groups for marketing and teaching where your relationships with individuals are impersonal, but when you form individual relationships (such as vett… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/17 09:54 PM |
| 2 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?If I could disable the Explore feature on Instagram, I would download the app again because I also enjoy posting photos and prefer Instagram to Facebook. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 10:06 PM |
| 2 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?A couple of days ago I deleted most social media apps from my phone. The only one I kept is Messenger and I use my computer to access Facebook. I definitely don't miss them as much as I thought I would, but I'm still pretty obsessed with Netflix and playing games on my phone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Slut Tells and N CountMy original comment glossed over these issues, but I'm glad you brought them up because they're relevant. The sooner a woman jumps off the CC and the more she changes after doing so, the better she'll fare afterwards. Remember that many women who ride the CC do so because they lack the characteristics and skills that make good long-term partners. If men recognize she has something to offer long-term, then theoretically she has no reason to go back. Will she face resistance? Absolutely. There are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Slut Tells and N CountI completely understand! For a woman who has never demanded commitment before sex she's going to face a lot of men who feel the same way. However... as a woman, I still encourage others on the CC to have an 'epiphany phase' and not go back to easy sex. Commitment to change is the only way to break the cycle, and some women will change more easily than others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Slut Tells and N CountMen on TRP emphasize cheating because they believe that LTRs should be 'promoted' from a cabinet of plates. This strategy ensures the relationship will always be a power struggle between a man who does not trust or respect his LTR, and a woman who is driven by fear to maintain her status in the relationship. 'Slut tells' are sometimes accurate and sometimes lose the nuance of human complexity. A far superior strategy is simply not to LTR any woman who is willing to sleep with you before making t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Slut Tells and N CountI have a friend with several. They have special meaning to her, such as family or God. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 05:03 PM |
| 7 | I'm not sure what's wrong with him, why can't he let go of the past?He's just been salty and sad whining for the past 3 months, I just don't understand him? So what it's past. we're here now, what can i do to make him feel better? Even though i feel sad at what i did, i don't think it's wrong. I just wanted to be a mom faster. This attitude is the problem, because your behavior doesn't reflect your goals. You were intolerably disrespectful to this man, and demonstrated to him that you are more preoccupied with your fantasy of getting married and becoming a mom t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/17 02:38 PM |
| 1 | What are your experiences with women who are voluntarily childless?Oh, I don't blame you. I used to read that sub, and there's an ungodly amount of circle-jerking and self-victimization. The truth they don't acknowledge is that refusing to have kids because you hate them is deviant behavior. The sub is so psychotic they even have a rule against bragging about your expensive CF lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/17 06:49 PM |
| 2 | What are your experiences with women who are voluntarily childless?What do you think about the argument that society is fucked and that it's better to adopt if you want kids rather than having your own? Is overriding the biological imperative for the good of society as a whole sociopathic, or just misguided? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/17 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Best homemaking resources?It's good for kids' educational development too. I grew up being praised for being "good at" problems, not "working at" problems. Those skills can be taught at home outside of an educational context and are essential. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Realistically, how should post-wall women go about dating?I think they are young and attractive enough they will find what they're looking for, as long as they vet the next guy better than the last, have something to bring to the relationship, and hold themselves to higher standards. They won't get a top 20% guy, but there are plenty of lower quality but decent men who could be interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/17 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Tarot Tuesdays: OctoberI just registered for the MCAT (medical school admissions exam). The exam is in March! 1) What will my biggest challenge be studying for the exam and what should I focus on personally to succeed? 2) What's the best way to nurture my supportive relationships during this time? Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Orientation - Does It Actually Exist?Our species gives birth to a low number of higher-quality offspring, and we invest significant material, psychological, and physical resources to do so. They say abstinence is the best form of birth control: that, or having intercourse with members of the same sex. Whether sexuality is biological or sociological, however, having a gay uncle - especially one who is physically fit - is a huge boon to a family in need of material resources. Think about queen bees vs. worker bees, or (rare, but pres… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/10/17 05:01 PM |
| 8 | What are the chances of a divorced mother of two marrying a high value male?When I say don't be okay with the idea of divorce, I mean that negative thoughts don't become negative emotions or actions unless we give weight to them. Divorce should be as strange as unicorns and sea monsters - not something you've pondered or planned out. I'm an obsessive planner too, and there's a point where being too realistic becomes unhealthy. It's simply distracting you from making the plans you need to achieve the desired outcome, by making plans for every outcome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 06:21 AM |
| 25 | What are the chances of a divorced mother of two marrying a high value male?I'm not married, but I think it may be helpful to change your perspective. Rather than planning your future outside of the marriage, identify problems that require attention and brainstorm solutions together. Plan your future together, even if it's not easy, and confront your problems head-on in a non-accusatory manner. If you want to make things work, you have to try - if you are okay with being divorced, then you don't have incentive to fight for your marriage, plain and simple. It also sounds… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 09:20 PM |
| 1 | RP women in movies, books, and tvOn the last post I made, someone pointed out to me that women have to try harder to be seen as equally competent in male-dominated fields. They may not actually want to "be the best", but topping the field is a good way for a woman to gain respect from the vast majority of men she works with. I don't think men consider us less of a woman because we're weaker at certain skills. They consider us less of a man, which is the face that we put on in the professional world and the one we ask to be eval… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/17 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Honest question, would you rather date a wealthy self made millionaire dropout(HS or College), or an Ivy League graduate? All else considered equal.I would go for the self-made millionaire. In your scenario, he's an investor and part-time business owner. When I'm done saving an emergency fund I want to start investing so this is something important to me. As a part-time business owner, I think he'd also have more time than a lawyer to dedicate to the relationship. Obviously in the real world our personalities have an impact on the types of careers we choose. Without additional information about these hypothetical men, I would probably gravi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 09:47 PM |
| 2 | My SO checks out girls who look nothing like me.I watched the video and my favorite comment was the guy who said he can't remember the women because it's hard to recognize a woman by her breasts! I giggled. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/17 09:07 PM |
| 3 | I swallowed the Red pill yesterday and need advice with increasing my SMVWhen you lose weight your height will be an asset to your femininity. I'm 5'0" and I started wearing heels at your age (2-3" booties as casual wear) and taking care of my appearance. I've never had an issue attracting tall (>6'0") good-looking men. If you want to keep those men however, start working on your RMV early. Anything you do now (learning to cook/clean, managing your money, education, reading for fun, picking up hobbies, etc.) will have a bigger impact on your SMV than when you're olde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/17 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: My thoughts about love.I don't think you have to be attractive, just interesting. It's rare because most people have the depth of a piece of bread. You can learn everything you need to know about them on with minimal effort and when the infatuation wears off, you get bored. People are drawn to others who have rich experiences because it's the easiest way to sort out the "I play video games all day" from the "Renaissance man" types. That's why we're obsessed with social media, because it makes us look cooler than we ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/17 03:16 PM |
| 23 | Anyone else get harassed for posting here in other subs?I use a separate account for RP-related subs. I think it's horrible people have the time of day to do that, but that's the internet for you. -_- | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/17 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Want To Be Less Of A ShrewDepression is poison for relationships. I guarantee if you find a professional who is helpful and patient, that some of these problems will get better because your mindset will change. I think your snooping nicely explains why he put a lock on his phone. Give him space when he's on the phone. If you haven't found anything, he probably just wants to play games. Now I don't think he should play them when you're together, though. My stepdad and mom spend time together before dinner, and after dinne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/17 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Understanding redpillThe main reasons I read RP and post here: I made the same mistake in my relationships repeatedly. I expected commitment but repeatedly make the mistake of having sex too soon and becoming too emotionally attached. "Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment" is the adage that allowed me to break my pattern of behavior. RP is one of the few communities that openly recognizes this truth and doesn't disavow it as oppressive or old-fashioned. A few years ago I recogni… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/17 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Want To Be Less Of A ShrewI think your problem comes down to a lack of self-esteem! I'm sad a lot so I'm snappy. I'm trying to be more mindful about it but it isn't really working. Do you have depression? I think you could benefit from seeing a therapist and having them professionally gauge your feelings. Even if you're not depressed, they may be able to give you resources to improve your mood. Remember, your boyfriend is not your therapist and your feelings aren't his fault. He deserves the best. I just know I'm not giv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/17 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Jordan Peterson on Women's LiberationThese results suggest that the use of the pill is related to women favouring less symmetrical, masculine and MHC-dissimilar men, a preference attributed to the pill-induced changes in hormone levels simulating pregnancy. I accept this as evidence for your previous comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/17 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Jordan Peterson on Women's LiberationThe quote suggests there is a correlation between her partner's relative attractiveness and a woman's satisfaction with the relationship. If anything, it implies that the pill removes the correlation between male attractiveness and female relationship satisfaction. That does not imply women on the pill date uglier men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/17 06:06 AM |
| 3 | Having children when you have a mental illness?Ever heard of ACE scores? Anything over 4 is a problem and mine is 7. Being raised by mentally ill people is hell. There were so many holes in my upbringing, and I learned defective behaviors and patterns of thinking. I'm making progress, but it's not easy! Unfortunately, my mentally ill family members are medicated. Even in a best-case scenario where children are exposed to healthy behaviors, the genetic component is one of the reasons I'm childfree. Personally, if I were to change my mind I wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/17 04:33 AM |
| 2 | How do you keep yourself up each day?I'm so jealous! I have natural waves and a lot of hair, but the strands themselves aren't very thick. I get a lot of breakage and it doesn't hold style well. In a non-humid climate I can go 3-4 days without washing or styling, but where I live it needs some pretty intense touch-ups to tame the frizz. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/17 04:25 PM |
| 1 | What are your faults and positives in the dating marketplace?Pros: - Love cooking - Long hair - Youthful appearance/"delicate" features - Spontaneous, relatively easy-going - Low BMI, good proportions - Find it easy to be submissive - Perseverant - No substance issues - High libido - No debt, decent with money Cons: - Don't want kids - Major depression - Swamped with work - I swear a lot IRL - Can be selfish and entitled sometimes - Suffer from CSP (compulsive picking) - Family issues - N count not shocking, but not perfect either - Talks too much | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, what is your personal style that helps you feel your most feminine in?I love dark but feminine, Victorian-inspired, or modern minimalist looks. I wear many monochromatic or high contrast outfits and love pieces with fitted, even tight cuts and unique shapes/draping. I prefer to show off my figure than show a lot of skin. I also love "athleisure" for a lazy, comfortable look. :P I usually wear my hair down straightened or with loose curls, and cat eyes with no eyeshadow but dramatic brows. When I wear lipstick I usually go for a red lip. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 09:58 PM |
| 7 | How do you keep yourself up each day?I actually prioritize doing my hair over my makeup. Unless you have severe acne or scarring, a little bit of mascara and concealer can go a long way. It's better for your skin and reduces the impact of your skincare routine. I wash my hair every 2-3 days. Dry shampoo and a quick touch-up with the dryer is usually enough to rescue my hair for day 2/3. I highly suggest optimizing your routine. Do meal prep on Sundays for the whole family. Do outfit prep for the week on laundry day. Put your coffee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Positive or approachable body language?For sure! I also don't go to campus without mine as I need more flexibility than a tablet (I use Numbers and Keynote a lot). But, I only carry one notebook to compensate. I also have a desk in my lab where I can leave extra things between classes! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 03:37 PM |
| 8 | Positive or approachable body language?Don't use your phone to browse, especially while walking. /u/teaandtalk Gave you good advice for how to behave on campus. Classroom: Take notes by hand. Once, I started a conversation with someone because she had a gorgeous bujo (bullet journal). Good notes make you appear competent. Competence will encourage others to approach you and form study groups, which are easy ways to create a support network on campus. When you are unique (but not distracting) you stand out. Compliments are easy ice br… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 04:18 PM |
| 5 | Is being depressed unpleasant to men?I was diagnosed with major depression when I was 14. Depression is unpleasant to everyone, not just men. To put this into perspective, when you're sick, you go to the doctor. You don't ask your best friend to perform surgery or prescribe medication. The same is true for a major depressive episode. Tell your SO, "I'm not feeling well today, I'd like some time to myself," or "Let's do something low-energy like watch a movie." Personally, I have a low baseline mood and when I have major depressive … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Does a man's N-count matter to you?Exactly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/17 04:03 PM |
| 0 | Does a man's N-count matter to you?A man doesn't reach his peak SMV at 25; "low" is a relative statement. As far as the 80/20 rule goes, the top 20% can afford to play the SMP based on looks and superficial characteristics (the way women do) because they actually have an abundance of options (the way women do). My experiences are anecdotal. The men I know/have been with who are "high status" have the personality of a rock. High body turnover = under-developed relationship skills = low RMV. I over-simplified these theories for bre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/17 05:14 AM |
| 2 | Disclose high number?Where I'm from, 5 is considered very low. When you are from a BP area having a low N-count can even be a red flag. (I'm not trying to justify this, because promiscuous behavior is always unhealthy and unsatisfying, but pointing out the differences in expectations). There is also a lot of relationship drama and deception among young people in college. A lot of women get hurt before they learn how to vet men. My experience growing up in a BP area is that relationships are of low importance and you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 03:42 PM |
| 5 | Does a man's N-count matter to you?My two cents: Men who are younger than 30 have low SMV anyways. But even when they have higher-than-average SMV, in my experience they have zero RMV. A young guy who actually has exes, and never refers to them as "crazy" is the millennial male equivalent of a unicorn. :P For me, as long as someone I'm dating doesn't raise any red flags and can check that box, breaking down his N-count is simply unnecessary. Those guys usually don't have the highest SMV so they tend to have lower N-counts anyways… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Which other subreddits do you read?LOL Bran's voiceover did NOT help! Jaime turning on Cersei was really satisfying. I think Tormund is okay for now, but I won't be happy until he wins over Brienne haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/17 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Which other subreddits do you read?Love that you and /u/hyperfemme follow the GoT subs too. Nice to meet some other fans here. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/17 08:47 PM |
| 3 | What RPW "idea" DON'T you subscribe too?Right. The truth is, I was at risk for depression and divorce long before I became sexually active. My "mistakes" are symptoms of a pre-existing lack of self-respect and impulse control. Nobody forced me to make those mistakes, and nobody was forcing me to continue making them. I made really simple changes in my behavior and met my boyfriend a month later. Low-quality relationships are damaging, but are symptoms of low self-esteem and lack of boundaries. Make decisions with confidence and treat … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 06:33 PM |
| 2 | How should a RPW handle life once she becomes an adult?This is a really good point. OP, I assume you are going to start with community college and if you're not committed about transferring to a 4-year institution look into what Associates degree programs your school offers. In the state where I live, some community colleges are even accredited to offer Bachelors degrees for 2-year programs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/17 12:11 AM |
| 1 | How should a RPW handle life once she becomes an adult?Why can't you do both? Part of "experience" is becoming a well-rounded, interesting person. Take a photography class. Now you have a new hobby and something to bond over. You are not old. You are not playing catch-up, and if anything, you have 2 more years of maturity than most incoming freshmen. Just relax and create a balance between life and academics (my calc professor suggested Cal Newport's book "How To Be A Straight A Student" one pretty rough quarter). | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/17 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Help. Me. Please.Most of the time when I feel 'horny' I'm usually bored or need to work off some steam. Exercise and a good book (or another mentally stimulating activity) could help you unplug from your daydreams about sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/17 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Advice: keep going or bail on a new relationship?Of course! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/17 12:07 AM |
| 2 | My male coworker is treating me like a child, how do I earn his respect?Thank you, these are a lot of useful suggestions! We actually have a very small lab, so my P.I. and I are pretty close. I also didn't mention, but it is important, our lab manager and I generally get along. I don't think he's sexist whatsoever but I happen to consider his style of teaching to be more condescending than always necessary. The difference in personality is really stark too - he's very stoic, I'm very bubbly and sometimes I come across as air-headed. Anyways, we get orders every day … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/17 12:06 AM |
| 7 | Advice: keep going or bail on a new relationship?I think you should give the relationship a shot! You mentioned in the comments that asking for sex made your previous LTR feel emasculated. Don't forget there are other ways to blow off steam... a couple of good quality sex toys, if you don't have them already, may be a smart investment! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/17 09:50 PM |
| 2 | My male coworker is treating me like a child, how do I earn his respect?My job isn't signing for shipments, though, my job is my research project which I have already proved I am competent at and getting good results. THAT is why I feel entitled to respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/17 05:15 PM |
| 1 | If you're looking for a simple, free way to design a weekly or daily schedule - try schedulebuilder.org!I found a similar website last week and have been using it to outline my basic schedule/availability over the week and print a copy to post on my desk! I keep a Google calendar handy on my devices but this is great for mapping out the week in more detail than I need on Google. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/08/17 07:58 AM |
| 1 | My male coworker is treating me like a child, how do I earn his respect?Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/17 09:44 PM |
| 2 | My male coworker is treating me like a child, how do I earn his respect?Hi, I especially appreciate you taking the time to comment! My boss (P.I.) is female and spends a lot of time coaching me on how to stand up to the guys, which I appreciate, but need to practice. To me warranted criticism should also be constructive. Ideally, I would be happy to take responsibility for the mistake by going downstairs, asking them to replace the order, and putting the item away properly. But my lab manager's idea of a teachable moment is the equivalent of telling me: "You screwed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/17 05:14 PM |
| 2 | My male coworker is treating me like a child, how do I earn his respect?You brought up a great point. He's from another country, and I think where he's from my mistakes would make him look bad. The other grad student screws up a lot too, but has been on vacation this summer so I was the only one until this week. Anyways, the item was ordered from an on-campus vendor so they exchanged the item for no cost. He kinda ignored me when I tried to explain this, and when I explained that the other student missed it too, which is why I feel like I'm being singled out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/17 04:16 AM |
| 7 | PSA: "gender is a social construct" is not the same as "a persons gender is entirely socially constructed"In my opinion, a social construct is anything that separates a species from the most basic aspects of biology (food and reproduction) and physics. Examples of things that aren't social constructs could be: Cats are biologically programmed to be good hunters; humans typically have 1 of 2 sets of compatible sex organs; we must have sex to reproduce (defining sex as PIV); most living organisms have the same genetic code; the sun rises at regular intervals; time is simply a unit of measurement for c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/17 03:58 PM |
| 3 | Self Care/Presentation Tip Exchange!I'm petite too and those recommendations are spot on. :) My fast guide to bra fitting is to select a bra that has a wide band (at least two hooks, but possibly three if you have a large chest) and is made of sturdy but stretchy material. Try the bra in 1 band size smaller and 1 cup size larger than your normal size. For example, if you typically wear a 34B, try a 32C. The cups shouldn't gap or bulge, they should lay flat. The shoulder straps shouldn't be loose. The band should be snug on the loo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/17 04:01 PM |
| 6 | "What other people think of you is none of your business" and similar quotes: how true are they?I think people should put value in how others perceive us. Humans don't exist in a vacuum of time and space. We constantly interact with other people, and how they see us has an enormous impact on our opportunities. I think that's true for everything from dating to academics to careers. Becoming mindful of how others perceive you shows restraint and consideration (politeness). Treating others with respect also usually negates any bad opinions about you they may have. As for strangers, being agre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/17 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Wanting more affection from long-term boyfriend, but work and other obligations get in the wayDo you mind sharing your experience and how the problem was resolved? I'm not OP, but work-life balance in my relationship can also be tricky. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/17 04:27 PM |
| 2 | What personality and behavioural traits do you think develop in boys and girls who are raised by single fathers?I was raised by a single father. I have a lot of masculine traits such as being independent and competitive. However, being 100% masculine all the time is emotionally draining. I'm personally trying to find a better balance between the masculine personality I bring to my academics/professional work and the feminine personality I bring to my relationship. For me personally, my dad encourages my femininity and he is the natural leader of our relationship. But he also expects me to be financially i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/17 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe that women hate each other?I don't think women hate each other, but I think we compete with each other and are not always aware we're doing so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 09:57 PM |
| 1 | I'm having a lot of trouble physically presenting myself as feminine...starting to lose hope.My mom is apple shaped and has a lot of luck with low-carb foods. Weight training and building your glutes can also give you the illusion of a more defined waist. Also, your genes are only part of the equation. Your eating and exercise behavior during pregnancy and raising children is important too. For one - you don't need to "eat for two". Exercise during pregnancy is important and safe unless your doctor says so. Model good behavior for your kids, and teach them self-restraint. It goes a long… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 02:27 AM |
| 6 | How can I strive toward the RPW ideal while in college?Agreed. As a pre-med you have to keep your head in the game. Focus on school and your friendships/networking. If you want to have sex, I highly recommend an exclusive relationship - there is less drama than riding the CC - just take your time to find the right person (date without having sex and learn to vet). | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/17 01:50 AM |
| 3 | RPW and relationships with your parentsMy parents are divorced, so I don't model my romantic relationships by theirs. My mom and I only became close a few years ago. She's not particularly feminine, and never taught me how to dress up or be a lady. I learned how to be pretty on my own. Being a lady is harder. :P Conversely my dad and I have always been close. He leads the relationship because he's my father. Growing up I saw my grandma do nothing but nag and emasculate him. However we always treated each other with mutual respect and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/17 01:44 AM |
| 2 | RP Relationships & Abortion?Try to get some sleep, eat some healthy food, and meditate. Put yourself in a better head space to take actions, and good luck. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 03:17 PM |
| 6 | RP Relationships & Abortion?A couple of things: This is a serious relationship and I think your boyfriend deserves to know you're pregnant. However, I think that unless you are actively trying to get pregnant, one of your responsibilities as a sexually active adult needs to be the use of reliable contraception. It's also really important to be open with your partner about your stance on abortion and other sexual health issues before you have sex. You should be able to have confidence that your partner will help you through… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/17 11:44 PM |
| 2 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomThat's another piece of advice I think is well needed, since I tend to freak out about everything (and then keep it in!) The habit I picked to start with is picking my hands when I'm stressed and anxious. It feels like a very aggressive habit to me, but I think being mindful of my surroundings and keeping busy in positive ways will help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/17 03:46 PM |
| 2 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomThank you! I'm going to make a list of my bad habits and see which ones I can easily cut off or will make the biggest impact on me. I think managing them one at a time is much better than trying to tackle them all at once. Your advice for my second question is well taken - I think I really needed to hear it, so thanks again! I'm also curious to know what your cards say about how to foster more intimacy in my relationship, and/or improve the quality of time we have together. (I'm not very good at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/17 04:14 AM |
| 2 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomAre you still doing this? :) I have a couple of questions: How can I overcome the bad habits I'm struggling to change? How can I improve the quality of communication with my boyfriend? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/17 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Appreciation for our men and their Myers-Briggs personality typesI'm not sure what my boyfriend's Myers-Briggs type is, based on [https://www.16personalities.com/personality-types](16Personalities) he's probably an INTJ. I'm an ENTP ("The Debater"). Things I appreciate about his personality: I have a strong sense of what I consider right/wrong, but I can also appreciate different points of view and so does he. He's not very concerned with what he's supposed to think, rather what he knows to be true. His public persona is different than his private persona, wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 04:05 AM |
| 11 | girlfriend donating eggs and It's making me uncomfortable. Thoughts from TRP women?From what you've written about your GF, your discomfort probably comes from the fact she has serious red flags. If I were you, the fact that she's willing to undergo such a risky procedure (for the reasons you gave) is enough to reconsider the relationship. Women generally have stronger intuition than men so if your gut is telling you something is wrong then you need to take action. Donating her eggs is your GF's choice but continuing the relationship is yours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Getting the best partner you can get and the effects of career choicesI want to be a doctor and I think that's a good reason to get married young! Upcoming doctors are financially dependent on parents/loans because it's hard to earn a living and do what's required to get into medical school. Plus medical schools will perceive you as having work-life balance, which is good. Having a support system is crucial to success and if you choose a specialty with regular hours (NOT surgery, lol) there's no reason to panic. Honestly though I wouldn't recommend medicine as a c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/17 04:54 PM |
| 1 | RPW Views on Social MediaI use social media a lot and am on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Reddit, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc... My social media presence is curated, though. I don't dump every aspect of who I am on every account; they serve a purpose and are simply different facets of my personality and interests. My mom follows most of my accounts and I do adhere to the rule, "If you wouldn't want your mom to see it, don't post it." | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/17 04:24 PM |
| 2 | how many of you actually work out?I'm on my feet a lot but otherwise, not really. I prefer running and weight lifting to other exercises, but I'm not very consistent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Female Nature And Magic/SpiritualityI'm a scientist, but that being said there are so many things we don't understand about the human brain. I know light of a certain wavelength is blue. However not everyone has the same emotional response to certain colors, tastes, scents, etc. Our genes are one explanation for differences in perception. There's also the element of randomness. In biology we accept that two genetically identical organisms may diverge due to environmental stressors and, yes, pure chance. Biology essentially makes o… | /r/RedPillWives | 01/08/17 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Questions about RPW beliefs from a newcomerSimply put, a doormat is a woman who does not set or enforce boundaries, thus her S.O. does not respect her and takes advantage of her. A submissive woman does enforce boundaries and communicates her concerns to her S.O., but ultimately allows him to make decisions for them as a couple. Regarding deference of decision-making, I want to stress that it's not appropriate for your S.O. to micromanage your life (nor do men want to). However, when plans affect both people - having dinner alone with fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/17 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Troubles understanding and controlling my libido (NSFW-ish ?)Please do! I thought I wasn't a good candidate for the IUD and I love mine. I've only had mine for ~2 months now but so far my experience has been very positive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/17 04:29 AM |
| 5 | Are any of you childless?I stopped frequenting that sub because I got tired of being downvoted for making sane comments... Also, they pretend to be inclusive of parents, but one time I saw a woman (who got a tubal ligation and has no kids of her own) get attacked for being a step-parent. As a childfree woman I understand our need for community because there are many places where we are harassed about our choices, but the sub is toxic! You can't post about your shiny jetski because that's "unfair" to people who don't hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/17 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Are any of you childless?I enjoy reading your comments, but I'm so glad to hear that we have something in common too. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/17 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Won't see my girlfriend for a whole month. Tomorrow is our last day together.For me, regular communication helps a lot! A good morning text, asking me how my day is going, and even pictures help me feel closer to my boyfriend when we're apart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 11:04 PM |
| 4 | I'm in the process of vetting a series of guys and have been going on a lot of first dates - can you girls link some killer first date outfits?Black is actually a great color for clothes because it's incredibly forgiving and sexy without being flashy. Rather than avoid black clothes, try to focus on cut and shape. I love your example... from the waist down. The black sweater Taylor is wearing is kind of shapeless and uninspired. There's no play on texture or feminine details (e.g. lace or accessories). My rule of thumb is to pair "sexy" on one end with "conservative" on the other: a crop top with a pair of jeans and a jacket, or a cute… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Quitting birth control changed everythingI got an IUD last month after taking the pill for 5 years. Based on my experience, the pill is not a suitable contraceptive for long-term use. They're easy to forget and the route of administration leads to too many side effects. I think it's smart for doctors to recommend IUDs for young women. When I asked mine for an IUD, she said absolutely, and explained that she recommends them to young women before the pill and that's becoming more common practice. It's weird how nobody questions the dange… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/17 09:54 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend's Family Seems Unsupportive of Our Dynamic?Exactly. OP, your boyfriend's relatives think they can treat you with disrespect because they treat him with disrespect. Your boyfriend must stand up to them on his own, because the problem is bigger than you. Also, be careful not to schmooze family members who disrespect your SO. Nobody wants their family to be actively trashed, but they also know when their family is trash. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 07:36 PM |
| 26 | Boyfriend's Family Seems Unsupportive of Our Dynamic?Honestly, I think telling them you're doing what your boyfriend says is provocative, especially when you know they're feminist as can be. You're only going to win points with them by expressing your own empowerment, and even then, they may not recognize your form of empowerment as valid. In that case, I'd let my SO know what happened, why it made me uncomfortable, and let him resolve the situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 04:56 AM |
| 2 | I am struggling to accept his job as an actorI will think about writing a post about these things when I have time, thank you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 08:59 PM |
| 2 | I am struggling to accept his job as an actorI grew up with a single father and I think he had an enormous impact on my ability to switch from one mental state to the other. My dad expects me to have a career, be independent, hardworking, and driven. But we also have a personal relationship where I can defer authority to him without being a doormat because he respects my achievements. Without being independent and spontaneous, the relationship I have with my boyfriend would be suffocating. Without being able to be feminine and yielding, my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 08:21 AM |
| 5 | I am struggling to accept his job as an actorMy boyfriend is an actor and this comment is accurate. Men who have high dominance careers aren't inherently bad or less trustworthy, and they still want a feminine woman, but you will always come second. Unless you're also stupidly independent (and a soft place to land when you're together), these relationships can be very difficult. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Personal Positive 7/9Many kinds! I love taking pictures of food, animals, portraits/fashion, nature, and architecture to name a few. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Personal Positive 7/9I hung up the poster my step dad bought me for graduation and am organizing and cleaning my apartment. I also bought a tripod for my new DSLR! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/17 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Breakfast: Mini caprese quichesThank you! <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/17 03:29 AM |
| 5 | Breakfast: Mini caprese quichesIs there a recipe or do I just fold everything into the pastry, bake, and stuff my face? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 05:40 PM |
| 7 | Monthly GoalsI want to write in my journal at least once a week. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 09:14 AM |
| 2 | Link List: RP, Relationships, Self Improvement, Education, BlogsFYI, your blog layout is adorable! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/17 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Meeting His FamilyAsk your boyfriend what his parents' hobbies and interests are! Try to create a strong impression by showing interest in them as people, rather than scary older versions of your boyfriend. When a relationship has long-term potential, you're not only dating your boyfriend, you're dating his friends and family. You don't have to get along with everyone, but be natural and don't forget to ask questions too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/17 03:45 PM |
| 1 | What is the value of attending college for a RPW?http://www.wiley.com/WileyCDA/PressRelease/pressReleaseId-75997.html I wish I had a better source for OP, but a woman's level of education is important for her kids. The source I provided is only one example. College isn't always the answer, but if your kids want to become doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc. they need a degree. A competitive college environment isn't just about drinking and hooking up - students need discipline and professional networking skills to succeed after graduation. The di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/17 05:27 AM |
| 8 | Lies We Tell OurselvesYou can't control other people's feelings or actions, only your own. When I stopped pretending to be a victim, everything changed for the better. My professors aren't "out to get me" when I get bad grades. Men aren't animals. I'm not oppressed. I'm not perfect, and there are a lot of things I want to change. But, I now understand that every single one of them is within my power and don't blame other people for my shortcomings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/17 10:28 PM |
| 5 | Navigating educational institutionsThe best way to avoid SJWs at university is to think. You're going to encounter a lot of people - whether they're SJWs or not - who are happy to get spoon-fed information and regurgitate whatever the professor says for an A. Keep an open mind and be critical of the information you read. SJWs love to weaponize science, but they cherry-pick facts to push an agenda. Take a research methods course especially if you don't have a strong background in science and read everything you get your hands on w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/17 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Lots of FriendsI'm not close to many people, but I have a lot of friends. School/work make getting to know people and maintaining close friendships hard. But, I tend to be open minded and easy going so I enjoy meeting people and letting friendships develop organically. I live in a large metropolitan area where people are very outgoing and friendly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/17 03:23 AM |
| 6 | Partner Won't Admit He Likes Traditional RolesWhen I started reading RPW, my boyfriend and I were already together for a year. I knew he'd be receptive to my change because he grew up in a country where there are traditional gender roles. As for you, bring him your problem. "I know it's important to you for both of us to have jobs, but I hate working." If he presses as to why, let him know you prefer traditional gender roles, and let him devise a solution. Men basically walk on eggshells around women and he may be conditioned to think you p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 03:48 AM |
| 3 | In need of adviceThreesomes are never a good idea, especially in exclusive relationships. By allowing your SO to have sex with another woman, you've given him permission to push your boundaries. Here's an example: I remember when I was younger, I was afraid to sneak out; then once I snuck out a few times, I became confident that I could leave the house without being caught. I became more bold and about how I snuck out and when. And even though my dad probably knew, he never said anything. What your SO is doing i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 03:38 AM |
| 4 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenCan I share a personal anecdote with a happy ending? My aunt and uncle lost a child, and they just celebrated 29 years of marriage (after 36 years together) this year. I understand it was my aunt's tragedy too, but they were able to support each other despite the loss. Considering how deeply men and women today misunderstand and disrespect each other, I think that's huge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 12:07 AM |
| 3 | Spending nights together vs moving inHave you tried switching to eBooks or PDFs? They're compact and more economical than printed books. Plus, you can get a lot of classic works for free on the iBooks store and at various sources online. Honestly, the portability of a digital library and the ability to search for any piece of information is worth the drawbacks (staring at a screen), and if you get PDFs you can modify them and take notes using an app like Notability. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 07:42 AM |
| 1 | How much compassionWhat's his living situation? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 08:40 AM |
| 16 | Understanding infidelityIdeal Captains (men who accept that traditional gender roles and relationship dynamics are necessary to maintain successful long-term relationships and ultimately desire marriage) don't usually post on TRP. TRP and RPW are both red pill, but they aren't complementary or compatible sexual strategies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 05:43 AM |
| 1 | How long should two be dating before engagement/marriage?I want to date someone for >2 years before engagement/marriage. I've never taken long to decide how far I'd be willing to go with someone, but I want to know that my partner is committed, adaptable, and capable of personal growth. Those things are harder to assess when you're young! I don't have an upper cap (I don't want kids so marriage isn't urgent, but I want to get married before 30), but after a couple of years if it's not something that's been discussed... next. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 04:49 PM |
| 5 | One man's reply to my post about living together before marriage.My boyfriend and I enjoy having our own space and except under less-than-ideal circumstances I'd prefer to keep separate houses before I was at least engaged. You can learn a lot about someone's habits from careful observation, though. The rest is compromise. My housemate does things I can't stand, but not everything is worth fighting over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Advice for Meeting His Overprotective MomBefore I met his mom, I asked my boyfriend what kind of things his mom enjoys so we had something to discuss! Learning about your SO's parents as individuals is good conversation and shows you're genuine and committed - your SO is special, not just someone you're trying to check off boxes with. You don't have to get along with his parents, but going beyond basic formality is a good strategy. Does he have siblings or close relatives? Getting to know one of them before you meet his parents helps t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Why do you or don't you want kids?I don't want kids. I don't think people should have kids unless they 100% want to have kids. My personal reasons have changed over the years, but right now, I feel most concerned about the welfare of our planet. There are enough people in the world and I'd rather take care of the ones who are already here than make a new one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/17 06:34 AM |
| 3 | He asked for my preference for the first date...?I think it's really important that men sometimes ask for our input. Otherwise, it's not leading, it's controlling! I use my dad as an example because we have a healthy parent-child relationship which means that he leads and I submit. But he is also a very thoughtful, kind person who highly respects me and has high standards for me. In a romantic relationship, the authority of one partner is not assumed, so you have to show a man through your actions that it's okay for him to lead and that you su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/17 04:01 PM |
| 4 | beta bf not sure what to do?If he needs the extra assistance, make a calendar or a checklist for him. Add things such as "Go to the grocery store", "Go to John Doe's party", "Make the bed" if he's struggling with basic tasks. Then let him decide whether or not he wants to do those things. You're not his mom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 05:38 PM |
| 11 | He asked for my preference for the first date...?When a man asks for my opinion, I always give him my opinion. I learned this from trying to pick restaurants with my dad. He'd always ask me, "Where do you want to eat?", and even though I knew I wanted Mexican food, I said "I dunno, you pick!" One time he got so frustrated at me that he snapped at me! I eventually learned that even if I truly don't have a preference, what he wanted was for me to make a decision. So in those cases I always narrow down choices for him - "I want to have Mexican or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 05:55 AM |
| 15 | beta bf not sure what to do?Your values impact your behavior, and if you think that he's either born alpha or not then you're dooming him to fail. IMO, he's not mentally healthy enough to lead the relationship. Normal men hate when you pressure them to change/take action ("I constantly remind him about stuff we have to do" = nagging). I've been on the receiving end of mental and emotional abuse, and nagging isn't just annoying, I perceived it as a form of aggression. What you should do, IMO, is to change your attitude and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/17 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Newly single, but my ex-boyfriend cut me off from all my old friends for several years. How do you start dating without much of a social circle?You mentioned that your relationships budded out of friendship. What about picking up a couple of social hobbies? Not only will you make new friends, you will put yourself in a position to meet new guys too! The next piece of advice that I want to give you is common here - if you genuinely think you're a 3-4, then don't leave the house until you're done up to a 5-6. But someone who works out, eats right, gets enough sleep, etc. should be higher than a 3-4. Your actual facial features are only on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/17 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Would bellydancing or ballet be seen as RPW-type hobbies?FYI, if you don't know how to knit you should definitely learn! Grannyish or knot (pun intended) it's really relaxing and a great way to kill time when you're waiting or watching TV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/17 05:39 PM |
| 2 | I feel like such an idiot for waiting too long to have kidsOP, for what my two cents are worth (considering my age/my cat is my baby), remember that you've faced these obstacles and come out on the other side. Of course the loss hurts and you're scared! But don't let fear or the regrets you have keep you from making the best of your situation. Stay hopeful but plan for the worst, because as long as you know what you want - you have a clearer picture of what you need to do to get there. Good luck. <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/17 05:20 AM |
| 3 | Faux Pas Friday!My "aha" moment with stockings was the discovery that they make heels way more comfortable. :) | /r/RedPillWives | 26/05/17 11:26 PM |
| 3 | Women Hold Nearly 65% of the Country’s $1.3-Trillion in Student DebtI'm also a woman and in a STEM field. My experience by and large is that women tend to stick to social groups for academic support and encouragement, and the men I know are more solitary and competitive. Women are more willing to help each other, but more willing to shun each other, every time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/17 09:45 PM |
| 1 | What is Girl Game?Commenting to rave about Ian Ironwood's Girl Game series and his blog in general... it's not just you, /r/sekoiasan. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 05:25 PM |
| 5 | Ice cream datesCan you delay the invitation to a later time, such as your cheat day? That way he knows that you're strict about your diet, but that you're willing to cut loose and spend time with him. Do you know if he views the invitation as a date? Waiting a couple days, at this stage in your acquaintance, can make him more excited to see you and show that you're not impulsive or needy for his attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 05:23 PM |
| 5 | Women Hold Nearly 65% of the Country’s $1.3-Trillion in Student DebtThis is based on my experience so feel free to refute me if there's data to suggest otherwise, but... STEM fields are highly competitive and value the growth mindset. You have to be competitive, perseverant, willing to challenge yourself, and accept failure to be successful. These are not skills women learn in high school, where you're ranked in a group hierarchy based on your inherent value. Women willingly do this to form a social safety net. These female social groups are based on a fixed min… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/17 05:16 PM |
| 14 | Man giving him number instead of asking for yours?One, do NOT compare him to your exes. Not to us, not to his face, never, under no circumstances. When a man asks for your opinion or gives you a chance to take action, give him your opinion or take action. He's putting the ball in your court to see how you respond. Not doing anything or expecting him to initiate 100% of the time is being an indecisive doormat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/17 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Basics of a high RMV from a man's point of viewOP, I have two questions for you: 1) Do men make a distinction between FWB and ONS? Does the length of one's FWB make a difference? 2) A lot of men on TRP have said they take the number a woman gives them and double or triple it. Can you tell when a woman is lying or when she is genuine? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Article shows evidence to contradict the idea of rampant hypergamyI'm a woman and I think hypergamy is real. Relationships have two factors: physical attraction (based on who is going to make the best reproductive partner), and emotional attraction (who is going to make the best long-term companion). From my point of view, the ideal relationship is a combination of both. A true alpha is not a suitable partner for a LTR, but he's the best reproductive partner (woman is plate). A true beta provides emotional and financial security but doesn't spark passion (man … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/17 05:05 PM |
| 1 | spending time with momYou're welcome, and thanks for following up! That really helps explain why she values your support so much right now. I think you are generally on the right track and that anything you can do to stop her from backpedaling too is going to mean a lot. As for therapy, baby steps! There will come a time when you can't help her and if you have experience with therapy yourself, you may be able to convince her when the time is more appropriate. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 01:53 AM |
| 7 | spending time with momYou can't control how others make you feel, but you can control how you respond to them. Since she's your mom and not a friend, you can't dump her for being a "negative nancy". She needs you and probably trusts and wants your guidance. Be a shoulder for her to lean on and guide her in a more upbeat direction. Teach her the lessons you've learned. Understand this is going to be a long process but that she needs time to heal and wants compassion and patience. Get her out to try new hobbies and mak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/17 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Best RPW Ways to Manage an Intense CrushNot necessarily. You can put the ball in his court by letting him know you think he's attractive, or by giving him your number, and seeing whether he takes the lead. The men on TRP seem cold because they play the numbers game and don't form attachments to women, but men who really like you (and don't want to plate you) do appreciate encouragement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Define husband materialRed-leaning, 22, ENTP. Must be childfree and have a career. Can cook. Good with animals. Has common sense/intelligence. Leads relationship. Spontaneous, enjoys new experiences... can teach me something I don't know. No serious deal-breakers (criminal record, high debt, heavy drug use, incurable STDs, kids, hates classic rock, etc). Gets along with my parents. Must have siblings so I can be the cool aunt. :P | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/17 04:46 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend of 3 months treats me so well, but he won't let me return the favour. What am I doing wrong?No, of course not! Being bad at sports is actually a great opportunity for him to show off his "man" hobbies and teach you something. You may suggest going for a hike or playing volleyball on the beach; something to get outside and active. :) It's also a really good sign that he includes you in plans with his friends and family. Perhaps you can expand the group and make plans with yours too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 04:25 PM |
| 17 | My boyfriend of 3 months treats me so well, but he won't let me return the favour. What am I doing wrong?What kind of plans does he make? How do those plans go over - do you enjoy them? I get the impression this problem is more about your insecurities than a defect in the way he perceives you. A man doesn't pay for his plate, go to her events/shows, or help her move into her apartment. Conversely, forcing him to partake in "normal" romantic, date-y things is a form of nagging and shows a lack of respect or acceptance. Don't keep beating a dead horse hoping he's going to enjoy something he's already… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 02:07 AM |
| 5 | How did your parents' divorce effect you?My parents divorced when I was 5. They shared custody, with my dad having primary custody of me. They never badmouthed each other and still have a good relationship. Most divorced fathers don't have primary custody but my mom had issues with addiction and agreed that it was better for my dad to raise me because he made more money. I did have low social skills and grades as a kid but I caught up and go to a good university now. Most of the problems in our family came from my grandma's mental heal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 08:35 PM |
| 1 | [CMV] Feminism tries to curtail men's innate biological advantages while doing nothing about female biological advantagesThanks for the paper! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/17 09:00 PM |
| 2 | [CMV] Feminism tries to curtail men's innate biological advantages while doing nothing about female biological advantagesI believe you, but I think that's too technical for PPD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/17 01:08 AM |
| 2 | [CMV] Feminism tries to curtail men's innate biological advantages while doing nothing about female biological advantagesI promise you don't use all 4 alleles on your X chromosomes. At least provide a better explanation if you're going to disagree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/17 12:02 AM |
| 8 | Monthly GoalsStudy for at least 1 hour every day and read for another hour every day! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/17 10:11 PM |
| 3 | [CMV] Feminism tries to curtail men's innate biological advantages while doing nothing about female biological advantagesIt's true the Y chromosome contains a tiny number of genes. The most important Y chromosome gene is the SRY region, which is responsible for whether a fetus develops male or female gonads. However, the second X chromosome is actually silenced in females and forms a structure known as a "Barr body". Remember that there are 2 copies of each gene on a chromosome. That's enough to ensure genetic diversity in most cases, so 4 copies are not used. Fun fact: tortoiseshell and calico cats get their colo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/17 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Article: 15 Men React To The Idea Of Taking Their Wife's Last Name After MarriageWoman here. I plan to get married and when I do, will legally change my surname. I'll probably continue to use my maiden name professionally, though. Mine is an uncommon German surname that's hard to pronounce and harder to spell. I don't even use the correct German pronunciation because it's too difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/17 07:22 PM |
| 1 | [Advice] Boyfriend says he wants to be alone.Is he unable or unwilling to find work? If he's unable to find work, he may need to accept a longer commute or lower pay to compensate. Ask him how you can support him to make his plans more tangible. For example, if having a longer commute means he can't cook, then prepare some meals for him so he doesn't have to. If he's unwilling to find work, one possibility is that he may be struggling with feelings of inadequacy, especially if he was fired/laid off. This could cause him to lose motivation,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/17 08:19 AM |
| 1 | [Advice] Boyfriend says he wants to be alone.I think the context that he's recently unemployed helps! Do you maintain text communication even though he asked for space? I understand how hard it can be to physically implement RPW when you don't live with your partner - that's the case for me - but maybe you could try to bolster his masculine feelings? He may be down in the dumps if he lost his job and feeling useless, especially because you work long hours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/17 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Questions about this dynamicI personally love Rollo's website. I know it's easy to get sucked into (and scared by) TRP, but he has tons of well-written posts that can help you understand men better. Though the advice here is often not to spend too much time on TRP before you get familiar with RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/17 12:27 AM |
| 6 | [Advice] Boyfriend says he wants to be alone.At your age I think you should cut the cord on this relationship and move on. He doesn't appear emotionally invested and honestly, my first reaction when I hear a man wants to "take a break" is because I usually think he wants to hook up with other women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/17 12:25 AM |
| 1 | CMV: attributing "alpha" or "beta" to men is cringeworthy and it shows a lack of critical thinking skillsWho cares? Science doesn't have the answers to everything nor does it have an exclusive monopoly on how people interact with the world and what people perceive as truth. Alpha and beta are useful ways of classifying males based on behavior, period. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/17 05:29 PM |
| 8 | Would anyone be interested in a self-improvement accountability group?There's also an app called Habitica that we could use. It's an RPG-style habit tracker with a built-in group/"questing" feature. The self-improvement thread is a great idea though and I'd love to participate in something like that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/17 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Incredibly conflicted about wanting kids.Good luck! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 09:33 PM |
| 2 | I do want to be a feminine woman, but my past trauma won't allow me, I think. What do I do?Words are cheap and actions are gold. For example, you probably experience emotional pain and trauma from the abuse. A mature way to experience trauma is to accept those feelings are a normal response to what happened, and take actions to correct them. For example, when I experienced anxiety I have a nap or some tea and I relax. When past mistakes get me down, I identify and take concrete actions to ensure I don't repeat them. I want you to understand there is a difference between dominant and a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Incredibly conflicted about wanting kids.There's a lot to learn from the internet but I think staring at a screen is bad for them emotionally and socially, and kills kids' attention spans. Those aren't long to begin with! It's important to be bored sometimes and learn to entertain yourself. I don't have to explain how reward-seeking and impulsivity is bad on this forum, at least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Incredibly conflicted about wanting kids.How much experience do you have around kids? If none, I suggest volunteering around them or taking your friends' kids for the day (or weekend). From what others have told me there are rewarding and fun aspects to parenthood, but you should try to seek out realistic experiences because they will be the most valuable. Is it possible to foster on a short-term basis? If your husband is willing to agree to this arrangement then you will be able to see first hand whether parenthood is a good choice fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Incredibly conflicted about wanting kids.I've been childfree since I was 16 years old, and it's a hard choice to make. Every single day, I re-assess and reaffirm my decision. There are a lot of people who don't understand my choice, who espouse ugly and hateful opinions, or are condescending to me because I choose not to have kids. The choice is not easy and my biggest doubts come from a fear of missing out on a normal human experience. But even though I'm not 100% childfree, I don't 100% want to have kids either. The next generation i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/17 07:24 AM |
| 2 | Which MBTI personality type are you?ENTP. I'm not sure what my boyfriend's type is, but he's more of an introvert! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/17 03:53 AM |
| 2 | What do you think of dating/marrying men with a "female best friend"?Hi! -Waves- | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/17 07:28 AM |
| 3 | Q4RP: Do you read literature?STEM major here. I was an English literature major my freshman year. I was more intelligent and thoughtful back then. I've become extremely scatter-brained and forgetful, less articulate, and less self-aware the more science I study. I'm very good at studying and I know how to learn science instead of memorizing it, but my intellect isn't as good and I struggle to follow conversations more often than before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/17 07:12 AM |
| 14 | In Which I Refute The Vice ArticleAs someone was in a very messed up, abusive relationship dynamic a few years ago it grinds my gears when feminists say I'm oppressed because I want to be the submissive partner in a relationship. Feminists cannot conceive of the fact that dominance ≠ abuse, so they say that I'm oppressed despite the fact that taking personal responsibility for my decisions (a very Red Pill thing to do, apparently) has been the only thing that helped me get out of that relationship and treat my depression. Being … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Which city/town in the States is ideal for a RPW?I know CA has a reputation but based on your goals and interests, my sunny state sounds great for you. :) Outside of the Bay Area (and some parts of LA) most people are moderate to conservative. There are many Asian and Hispanic people in CA who have more traditional family values. CA is a great place if you're willing to date people who are from outside your ethnic and racial background, especially if you're RPW. Learn how to vet - you won't be hungry for options. General tips: 1) The only peop… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/17 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Would you rather be beautiful or smart in this world, and why?I agree that's true for most people, but I go to university, and there are a lot of people here who aren't intelligent but work very hard so they can make money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/17 06:36 AM |
| 9 | Q4RP: Why isn't there more realistic discussion of the "Wall" men face?Cheating isn't a mistake, it's a choice. If you don't have the self-control to stop yourself then spin plates and don't get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/17 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: Would you rather be beautiful or smart in this world, and why?Knowledge can get you pretty far without intelligence, but you have to work harder to achieve the same results. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/17 12:17 AM |
| 2 | How do those on this sub feel about stay at home husbands?She's also the best housekeeper I've ever met and a great cook, which I'm sure helps. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Broke up with my captain todayGood riddance! Now you have more girl time. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 04:54 PM |
| 3 | How do those on this sub feel about stay at home husbands?One example is my aunt and uncle who have been married for 25 years and have a non-traditional marriage. They're extremely good at communicating and delegating tasks, so even though they're not red pill, there is harmony and respect in the marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 04:51 PM |
| 0 | Why do so many young women like to travel?Danger is physiologically exciting. A lot of people get off on that kind of stimulation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/17 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: Do you have any arbitrary standards that people would consider really specific?Must be >5'10" and <160 pounds and preferably European. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/17 08:47 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: Given the incredible emphasis put on beauty in our society, how should one deal with aging/beauty-decline psychologically?Take care of your appearance to stay ahead of the curve, but accept you're on a curve. A 55 year old woman is never going to look 22 again but she can look amazing for her age. People perceive the way others carry and feel about themselves and a positive attitude can enhance physical beauty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/17 08:40 AM |
| 0 | Why do so many young women like to travel?For one, it's more dangerous for young women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/17 08:22 AM |
| 2 | How do those on this sub feel about stay at home husbands?I'm a pretty open-minded person. I don't think there's anything wrong with stay-at-home husbands or gay marriage. However, I'm convinced that successful relationships are successful because partners have delegated roles. Those roles, and each partner's energy, should complement each other. I respect and value my boyfriend because he can do things I can't. I'm really passionate about some parts of the red pill ideology and don't care for others, but if the lessons I've learned from RPW didn't add… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 08:07 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Why don't they want to climb the ladder? How does a preference for avoiding a university education advance sexual strategy?My boyfriend never finished community college and he's smarter than many of the students I go to school with. When I was a TA for metabolic biochemistry (an important foundational course for UD biology majors), most of the questions I got were exam-related. Schools teach students how to memorize examples and regurgitate them on an exam without understanding or ability to apply the concepts learned to problem-solving in the real world. Take a peek at Bloom's Taxonomy. Most undergraduate courses o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/17 10:02 PM |
| 1 | On my best behavior.I don't think you're being inauthentic. For example, would you behave the same way around colleagues as you do friends or family? I think it's normal to compartmentalize yourself to navigate different social situations. Also, I think you can be submissive and express your opinions (on big things, not minor differences) as long as you yield to your SO's leadership. So, my suggestion would be to continue having and expressing your opinions, but don't have such strong opinions that you start argume… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Help with grocery budgetI buy store brand basics. Pasta, orange juice, cheese, etc. They're always cheaper and go on sale more often. Buy bulk pet food and non-perishable/canned food. I also suggest using a broth base (something you can refrigerate or freeze) instead of buying store bought. BudgetBytes has a great freezing guide and storage time chart. She also has some pretty yummy cost-conscious recipes. In case you haven't, reorganize your pantry and invest in a good set of storage containers. Use them to keep cerea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Is this guy's standards too high? and should he lower his standards?I don't think these represent standards as much as preferences. To me, standards refer to a person's moral character, education, upbringing, income, etc. If you're selling what the other person wants then you never need to lower your standards. You may come across people who meet this description less often than normal but if you have a high success rate at attracting the type of people you're interested in, that's not a problem. I only think he should be willing to compromise on a couple of poi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/17 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Take the Autism test!Pill: Purple Score: 18 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/17 04:19 PM |
| 3 | What are your feminine skills?Working for future is great, but it means nothing if you can't stop and enjoy the present, since you're always in the present. I love this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 04:09 PM |
| 1 | It Is Possible To Say "Thank You" Too Many Times!I can't imagine getting them once a week! I used to get them once every 6 months to a year when I was a kid. The physical symptoms that come with the migraine are the worst. :/ | /r/RedPillWives | 10/04/17 04:07 PM |
| 2 | It Is Possible To Say "Thank You" Too Many Times!For me, excessive thanks usually stems from my fear of being a burden. But, our men want to take care of us and feel needed. It's much better to express gratitude once and remember what you said: "I don't need to feel bad about him doing something that he wants to do." Anyways, I hope you're feeling okay now! I used to get debilitating migraines that took me out for a whole day. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/04/17 07:11 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Women of PPD, how would you rate your physical attractiveness out of 10, and how has that affected your life?Yes, I think the woman should be the submissive partner and the man should make major decisions. The woman's input is important, but when one partner has the final say I think the decision-making process is smoother and more conducive to taking action. Source: a past relationship experience. :P Personally, I'm pursuing a male-dominated career and it's hard enough to stay competitive and bring your A-game to school/work 100% of the time! I don't want that attitude to consume me because I don't fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/17 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Women of PPD, how would you rate your physical attractiveness out of 10, and how has that affected your life?I generally agree with RP principles on relationships but I'm pursuing a career that I'm really passionate about so I can't say I'm 100% RP because I'm not interested in being a STAHM. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/17 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Women of PPD, how would you rate your physical attractiveness out of 10, and how has that affected your life?At least 7. I have a feminine/childish face, and my nose and eyes are my best features. When I'm done up maybe an 8. I'm 5'0", 100-105 pounds (BMI 20), 30DD, long hair, no tattoos, normal piercings. I lose points for being short, having a mouth on the thin side, having a chin that's pointy but has a teeny cleft, and because of my skin tone it's hard to cover redness/breakouts. Honestly I tend to dress down for comfort because I'm a student but when I dress up I get a lot of compliments about my … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/17 09:10 PM |
| 1 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sI agree with the general concept of the graph. By age 23 you can determine whether a woman is high-quality and what rate she's going to decline. A woman's peak is not the visual representation of the point where she encounters the wall or the point her RMV peaks at (neither are almost never as young as 23). | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 07:52 PM |
| 8 | Next steps?Wanting to date other people shows that a person isn't committed to the relationship. Once someone loses interest and breaks up with you, I think you should make an effort to move on and improve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 04:23 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] Outside of your romantic relationships, how has the red pill become a part of your life?Cultivating my femininity has done a lot to quiet the hamster and make my anxiety easier to manage. I've been posting here for a couple of months but over the past two weeks alone I've noticed profound differences in my mood and behavior. I go to school and study STEM and becoming more feminine has given me the piece of mind I need to maintain balance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/17 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Which in your opinion is more valuable - Beauty or Brains?I think brains are more valuable because you can't fake intelligence. But, if there was no such thing as beauty, then having the intelligence to recognize beauty is kinda pointless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/17 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Who's the most feminine woman on PPD?Age: 22 Pill: Red/purple Femininity Score: 82 BSRI: 63 masculine | 71 feminine | 61 androgynous MBTI: ENTP How you think your femininity has affected your love life. Do you think you'd have an easier time if you were more/less feminine? Some of RP concepts such as being submissive and admiring my boyfriend's masculinity have made our relationship easier and more fulfilling. As a teenager I had poor social skills, and was very trusting but unfeminine. I've heard, more than once, "I didn't think y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/17 01:20 AM |
| 3 | you & your partners' relative smv/rmv'sMy boyfriend and I are roughly the same age, therefore I can't accurately determine our SMV ratio. Check out this wonderful graph from The Rational Male. As you can see women's SMV peaks at 23 and men's peaks at 36. I love my boyfriend. He's very creative, talented, and brave. I respect him and am lucky... "when you know, you know". I consider the graph accurate. I was 21 and he was 23 when our relationship started, and my SMV was higher but my RMV was lower due to lack of relationship experienc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 09:45 PM |
| 1 | How can I let go on this bitterness?I grew up with my single dad and grandma. My dad is a generous provider and great parent. My grandma has severe untreated mental illness. She'd be pleasant and productive for a week; then she'd become a shrew and bully us. Thankfully, I have a great relationship with my dad and never took cues from my grandma about how to treat him. I completely trust my dad and our relationship is based on mutual respect and admiration. Our father-daughter relationship is strong because I admire his values, abi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 05:21 AM |
| 2 | How can I let go on this bitterness?Jealousy is dangerous and unproductive. The line between inspiration and jealousy is a person's willingness to create change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/17 02:59 AM |
| 17 | How can I let go on this bitterness?I understand it's redirected aggression. Yup. Stop right there, that's the only piece of information you need. Do not compete with her. You will NEVER be ready for marriage if you can't improve for the sake of your own improvement. I don't know what personality disorder you have or what kind of emotions you want to regulate but I strongly suggest you delete social media, read more, practice meditation and general self-improvement. Maintain a healthy diet and exercise and continue to receive prof… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/17 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Do you wish you had married the first person you had sex with?Thanks. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Do you wish you had married the first person you had sex with?Female, purple but red for relationships. Do you wish you had married the first person you had sex with? If you had, what do you think your relationship would be like now? NO NO NO. He's argumentative, attention-seeking, and completely selfish. He comes from money but he's into drugs, alcohol, partying, promiscuous sex, and generally being insufferable. His parents would pay for everything. Someone of his social class should not have the kind of low RMV he has. He'd cheat, but it would be just s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 09:08 PM |
| 4 | Some thoughts on Equal Pay Day, an annual event that spreads statistical misinformation about the gender pay gapWhen everything is equal, there's no pay gap: 1 2 When a pay gap exists, there's always a rational explanation. You can't be a devoted doctor and a devoted mom; you can be one or the other, or you can be mediocre at both. Edit: I want to expand my comment based on u/TempestTcup's quote. When I say a woman can't be a devoted doctor and mom, that's because gender roles are a factor in today's society. She can't be a great doctor and mom because that would make her a great doctor and dad. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/04/17 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Which beauty or character flaws don't you find off-putting?Same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 03:48 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Scientific Surveys are just organized collections of anecdotes, so anecdotes are a valid piece of evidence.I clearly stated it was an opinion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 03:09 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Scientific Surveys are just organized collections of anecdotes, so anecdotes are a valid piece of evidence.My BMI is <20. Eat vegetables and don't stuff your face with processed food. Do you really need scientists to tell you that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: post a picture of the most attractive man to youI think Matt Bomer is extremely handsome, but he's gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 01:58 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Scientific Surveys are just organized collections of anecdotes, so anecdotes are a valid piece of evidence.Nutrition and social science are pseudoscience as far as I'm concerned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/17 01:45 AM |
| 2 | When you know what you want but don't know how to get thereHere is my advice for organizing: Observe each room of your house one-by-one and make an inventory not of what you have, but what you may need. For example, what things do you use every day, every week, once a month? Take everything out of your storage space(s). Throw out products you haven't used in the past month and clothes you haven't worn for a year. Cross-check using your inventory and stick to the basics. Scan old papers instead of keeping physical copies and store them on a backup hard d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 01:35 AM |
| 3 | Is there hope for a girl like me?I think it'd be better for OP to stick to her convictions and not give up sex too easily, even if she misses out on someone who feels this way. To do otherwise would convince me she doesn't have the self-control to prove she's truly reformed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 07:54 PM |
| 6 | Gender differences in the animal kingdomI don't think mine would wait until she was out of food, because she loves to kiss/nibble on me when I sleep. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/17 07:43 PM |
| 5 | Seeking advice on desiring monogamyA professional therapist/counselor is the best strategy for you to unravel your behavior, but I have a piece of advice. With any compulsion or habit, you have to understand what triggers you before you can stop. Did you experience a triggering event - such as being cheated on, or losing someone close to you? Once you know your triggers, eliminate them. You can't avoid all men, but you can avoid trigger situations, such as being alone with men. Do you have a type you usually cheat with? Avoid pla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: I cooked dinner everyday for the last week. Feels great!Leftovers are where home-cooked meals meet fast food, and I don't know why anyone wouldn't love that! :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Proof: Men have prefer average women over beautiful womenThe "cute but plain" girl appears more human and personable, both through her makeup, posing, etc. They're both very pretty, though. The discrepancy could simply be time the images were posted, viewer bias, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/17 09:09 PM |
| 7 | Field Report: I cooked dinner everyday for the last week. Feels great!Leftovers are my best friend when I want a quick bite to eat and don't want to cook. Much, much better than eating out. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 09:02 PM |
| 3 | On neediness.....As a born and bred Californian, there are no more good-looking women in California than anywhere else. And as far as LA goes, I'm pretty sure there isn't a single woman who is relationship material in that s***hole. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Going through a lot of difficulties and need advice"Tell us why you are with him." This is exactly the thought I had when I read this post. The circumstances of OP's relationship with her SO is different now that he's sick. OP began the relationship with long-term goals for a long-term relationship. Her SO can no longer provide what she's looking for. I firmly believe there is more than one person out there for everyone, and I can't make OP's decision for her. She has two choices, to change her expectations or part ways with her SO because they … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/17 03:35 PM |
| 4 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityHave you ever tried giving her a diary as a present? ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 04:18 PM |
| 1 | On Elegance, Manners & Poise: Outer FemininityI love shorts, but a 2" inseam (the most common I see) is glorified underwear. You can usually never go wrong with a skirt, but for situations where you need the extra coverage go for shorts with a long inseam or pair them with tights. I pair most skirts that hit above the knee with semi-sheer leggings instead of tights because they provide more coverage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 04:14 PM |
| 10 | Why are you RPW?My thoughts exactly! In a normal, functional relationship I'm naturally submissive. My home and my relationship are places for me to unwind and tap into my natural, feminine energy. Being RP is a sanctuary, a way to stay sane after handling the masculine energy of the outside world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 03:36 PM |
| 1 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkI assumed so because many people do, so I apologize if I sounded accusatory. :) This sub helps me understand my role as a woman and how I can understand and relate to men, and that it's really important not to assume that they think the same way we do. It's normal to want those things from a relationship, but you and your SO aren't going to approach it the same way. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:56 PM |
| 5 | Feminism Bad for More Woman Than it Benefits"The increase in the supply of labor causes wages to go down. This is indisputable in either logical or empirical terms." Basic economics. Here's a comment from the post: "It's interesting how everyone understands that immigrants cause labor prices to fall, but most people don't grasp that a substantial increase in domestic work force participation, by any group, has the same effect." I use the concept of angular resolution to understand the problem. For me, Social resolution is dependent on pop… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/03/17 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Tips on Becoming More Feminine?I bought this book the other day and it's amazing! I ignore the religious language (not my piece of cake) because the underlying messages are golden. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Women Who Make Men Use Condoms In A LTR Regard Them As InferiorThey're not great odds, either, when IUDs or the implant are 99.99% effective with regular use. Someone who is serious about pregnancy prevention isn't going to use condoms as a primary method. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/17 03:37 PM |
| 2 | I just found out RPW and I don't know what to thinkYour value as a person isn't defined by your gender, but your value in a relationship is. I don't want to be in a relationship with a woman who has a penis, and my boyfriend doesn't want to be in a relationship with a man who has a vagina. Therefore, my value in the relationship is my gender, my femininity. A relationship should never be a mode of personal validation. If you want someone to validate your accomplishments, that begins and ends with you. As for everything else - take what you want … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mumCalifornia. :P One of my negative qualities is a tendency to overgeneralize or use extreme technicalities. It's something else to improve on, haha. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/03/17 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mumSimply because it hasn't always been that way! | /r/RedPillWives | 23/03/17 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mumI'm certainly "recovering" from feminism. I'm grateful someone fought for my right to get an education, but it's hard to accept that the choices I enjoy are the actions of selfish, angry people who think they are always right. | /r/RedPillWives | 23/03/17 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mumFound the comment. Funny how a group of women who pride themselves on being pro-women and anti-men are so eager to bring other women down for disagreeing with them! I'm embarrassed by my last comment now... | /r/RedPillWives | 23/03/17 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mumAside from racism and violent protest tactics used by suffragettes, how is women's suffrage negative? Anyone can simply choose not to vote. My comment is based on skepticism that a larger labor force is good for the economy. A doctor pays more taxes than most two-income households earn every year and still brings home enough money that his wife doesn't have to work. Jobs are limited. Someone who is equally qualified deserves it more than she does, and forcing her to work is ridiculous. And yes, … | /r/RedPillWives | 23/03/17 03:35 AM |
| 4 | Moving towards being more feminineCongrats OP! Yes, housekeeping leaves me with a sense of accomplishment and self-sufficiency. Even though they may be considered soft skills in an employment sense, I feel homemaking skills are essential to my well-being and success. To me, home is a sanctuary and a disordered home means a disordered mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/17 03:46 AM |
| 7 | Sarrah Le Marquand: It should be illegal to be a stay-at-home mum"Only when the tiresome and completely unfounded claim that “feminism is about choice” is dead and buried (it’s not about choice, it’s about equality) will we consign restrictive gender stereotypes to history." The exact reason I don't respect modern feminism. Ms. Marquand is essentially in favor of removing a woman's personal agency to confirm her bias about feminism and women's empowerment. Being a working mom sounds exhausting, and quite frankly, I think there are enough people competing for … | /r/RedPillWives | 22/03/17 03:30 AM |
| 3 | Feminists are 'triggered' because Wonder Woman shaves her armpitsOf course it is. If you want a real job you wouldn't major in gender studies. :P | /r/RedPillWives | 19/03/17 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Advice for young RPWI think this is one of those situations where being RPW isn't going to help you. If you have siblings there is NO reason for you to shoulder the entire responsibility of your family's finances. You have a future to look out for and this is one of those times I think it's appropriate to be a b**** about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 12:58 AM |
| 6 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?The way I interpret the Wall is the point at which a woman can no longer attract men who are above her SMV/RMV, in which case her options are to choose men with high SMV and low RMV (become a plate) or boost her RMV and settle for someone with similar SMV. To me, having the Wall be a variable time point depending on a person's genetic factors, personal SMV/RMV, and the kind of person they're trying to attract makes more sense than saying "Women expire at 30" and nicely explains why some women ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/17 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Free Friday - Ladies who knit and crochet: what are your current projects and/or favorite patterns?That's awesome and a lot of progress! | /r/RedPillWives | 17/03/17 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Free Friday - Ladies who knit and crochet: what are your current projects and/or favorite patterns?Hand embroidery looks awesome - I follow a few accounts on Instagram who post pictures of their work. What do you enjoy embroidering? :) | /r/RedPillWives | 17/03/17 07:54 PM |
| 7 | Half The Fun Of Being A Parent Is Trolling Your ChildrenI loved being trolled by my dad and I love helping him troll other people (especially my mom). Kids are not that delicate. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/03/17 05:34 AM |
| 5 | Have any RPW dealt with depression?I've had depression for 8 years and I'm probably going to have depression for the rest of my life. Untreated depression can have a severe negative impact on your ability to meet personal responsibilities such as work, school, personal care, relationships, etc. Consider professional evaluation and treatment if you can afford to see a therapist. My personal opinion is not meant to replace medical advice, however, I think your depression may be caused by low self-esteem. You need to work on yoursel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 05:28 AM |
| 7 | Life advice neededPsychology is a useless degree unless you're going to pursue graduate school (education or research) or medical school (psychiatry). Don't bother. If you want a backup degree, apply for a career program and get an A.A. or A.S. Many programs lead to well-paid careers for a fraction of the cost and time investment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 04:59 AM |
| 3 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?The entitlement/catty behavior is not new, but seemingly more apparent today now that 90s kids are becoming parents. Social media also makes this worse, because in the past the drama was isolated to one community and you could choose to opt-out by going home. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:59 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend AdviceHe has always done well with women, and at least from how he has described it, his longer term relationships were only longer term because he felt guilty about breaking up with that particular person in the particular context. Red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Top 20% ofmen characteristicsI'm 5' and my boyfriend is 6'. Tall men make me feel extra tiny and cute! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Successful post-wall marriagesMy mom isn't RP but she and her boyfriend started dating when she was mid-40s. They're happy together and very well-matched. There's someone out there for everyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 11:18 PM |
| 1 | My Hypergamy is acting up [22]I agree. My boyfriend is also creative and sometimes I struggle to accept that him following his dreams means he's going to be a "loser" for a while. OP, your boyfriend needs to step up and be a "winner" in other ways, or I don't see a future for you two. What do you want from life? Do you want kids? Do you want to stay at home? If the answers are "yes", you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with an actor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/17 07:03 PM |
| 2 | How to introduce a friend to RP?Yes! He obviously want your advice and values your opinions, OP. Continue to feed him RP material that's going to help him. As /u/VigilantRedRooster suggested, try to present this information slowly - perhaps start off with RP advice, then as he becomes more confident guide him to RP solutions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Analogy for what men look for in womenLOL, that made my day. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 06:49 PM |
| 16 | Proud SAHM exasperated that her sons grew up to be feminists who never plan to marry.It is apparent that the shunned ladies did not know how to market themselves to these guys to get commitment. Yup. I think it's courteous to put potential deal breakers (kids, etc.) on the table ASAP. "What kind of relationship are you looking for?" is a valid question to ask any potential S.O., and if you're both looking for a LTR, "What are your 5 and 10 year plans?" isn't a bad follow-up. It's uncomfortable to reveal any potential deal breakers, but I'd rather put them on the table when datin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 06:47 PM |
| 8 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?I'm financially secure (no student loans or personal debt, have access to reliable transportation, own a pet, apartment in an upper class neighborhood) and childfree by choice but I really want to get married! I want companionship, commitment, and fulfillment from building my life with someone I love and trust completely. The romantic love I feel for my boyfriend is different from the platonic love I feel for my friends. Plus, even though I enjoy my studies and am very excited about my future ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 04:16 AM |
| 2 | What does your day look like?Here was my schedule yesterday: 4-6 AM: Alarm goes off. Take a shower and get ready for work 6 AM: Make coffee and drive to my internship 7-11 AM: Internship 11 AM: Drive home 12 PM: Grab lunch and take the bus to campus 1-3 PM: Complete paper 3-5 PM: Lab 5-8 PM: Lecture 8-10:30 PM: Cooked dinner, cleaned up, wasted time online, and then went to bed Yesterday wasn't a typical day for me. I usually have more hours of free time, but they're either spent studying, on personal care/household basics,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/17 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Ladies: Who is your style/personality muse? Do you have a certain aesthetic you strive for?Extra Petite is a blogger from Boston whose style is practical and feminine, which I love! I also love everything the character Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl wears, but her personality is not RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/17 07:25 PM |
| 4 | What Are You Doing To Support Your Man With His Business, Social, Or Other Important Goals?My boyfriend and I live 30 minutes away from each other and I've been going over there as much as possible because he drives to LA more than once a week. :) | /r/RedPillWives | 08/03/17 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Are there any redpill women meetups?That makes me sad, but I honestly love knitting and think everyone should learn! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/17 03:42 AM |
| 34 | How do you feel when some guys put you on a pedestal?Powerful, then bored. Men who put you on a pedestal don't acknowledge flaws and are always trying to impress you (eg. orbiters). You can't have a meaningful relationship with a person who doesn't recognize your need for personal growth. I've noticed these kinds of men typecast me as the kind of woman they want me to be, and become frustrated that I'm not that person at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/17 08:42 PM |
| 4 | Are there any redpill women meetups?We don't organize any (there's a rule here against revealing personal information), but if you want to meet RPW I suggest going out to do "feminine" activities... maybe join a church group, book club, knitting group, etc.? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/17 08:29 PM |
| 3 | How do you keep your family organized?Can I join your family? A shared Google Calendar sounds perfect to me! Onwards... I adapted this suggestion from a book called "How To Be a Straight A Student". Buy a calendar whiteboard and different color pens for each of you. Each person's color should correspond to a color on the Google Calendar. At the beginning of the day, take 10 minutes to assign a time slot to each task on the Google calendar. These should be the MOST important tasks that must be accomplished, including a block for the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 08:37 AM |
| 2 | What do you cook for your man?My boyfriend and I don't live together, so when I cook for him I usually make his favorite, which are my enchiladas! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 12:49 AM |
| 4 | How much responsibility do we have if we are drunk out of our minds?It's sexual assault because the man took advantage of a woman who was too intoxicated to legally consent. It's personal responsibility for the woman (and the man) not to get too drunk to do anything illegal or regretful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/17 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Does reading TRP give any of you others serious anxiety?Sort of, yes, but we maintain separate terms because they have distinct meanings. For example, "dating" ≠ "in a relationship", although dating precedes a relationship and is a component of relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 07:41 PM |
| 9 | Thank you RPW! Some minor advice neededDid he ask you about your previous relationships, or did you mention them on your own? My rule of thumb is to keep this kind of information on a need-to-know basis. If your past is a recurring theme your SO is worried about, I think you should go the extra mile to make sure he feels special and important - your actions (what you choose NOT to say and what you offer as a partner) are more important than what you say to reassure him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/17 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Need help fixing my imageAre you from a really conservative area? I've never heard someone suggest a woman is slutty because she's outgoing and friendly. If anything, watch your body language because I do think there's a difference between being comfortable with physical contact and being touchy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/17 11:26 PM |
| 3 | When you don't want sexIUDs have lower hormone doses because they act locally, which may help, but I'd ask your doctor about the non-hormonal IUD if you're not ready to have kids in the near future. They last 8-10 years but you can have them removed any time. Depression is a valid argument for non-hormonal birth control. Bonus: not taking estrogen may help you lose weight! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/17 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Craziest/stupidest Women's Magazine Advice You've Read?Actually, anything Cosmopolitan posts on Snapchat is truly awful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Advice for career choice and prioritiesMe too, I made the suggestion because it was the best decision I ever made! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Advice for career choice and prioritiesI recommend the opposite. Community colleges are cheaper and transfer admission is less competitive. I've also noticed transfer students are more well-rounded and at my university system actually have higher GPAs than freshman admits. It's not a viable option for every school, but it's also not something enough people consider. For students with a 4.0, the only top-tier university in my state that is still a long shot for transfer is Stanford. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 05:42 AM |
| 2 | this is crazy....improvements after reading this sub for ONE DAY!Welcome and congrats! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Is it better to have friends who you disagree fundamentally with or have no friends at all?Surround yourself with people who care about themselves and others. You are who you hang out with but you're not actually going to agree with everything that everyone says and I think it's boring not to have friends you disagree with! It's more important to have friends who are fun, respectful, and selfless than friends who are clones of you. That's my two cents. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Still a problem"It's better to have a one higher N-count than to stay with the wrong man." I'm pretty sure even men know this because staying with the wrong man can mean you have self-esteem issues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/17 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Soft PowerExcellent, thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/17 09:14 PM |
| 8 | What is "feminine power"?Your confidence (or lack thereof) is more important than height to how others perceive and interact with you. Step 1: Don't sleep with this guy again (he's the same guy, right?). Enjoy your date, but he has you on a leash. Men who want relationships will scoop you up before another guy gets the chance to. Step 2: You can have feminine traits but I firmly believe your confidence is what allows you to unleash your feminine power. Build confidence from self-improvement and by being a well-rounded p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/17 07:38 PM |
| 6 | Reoccurring problemYup. I don't want to be my boyfriend's career coach. I want to be his safety net. The best way I can help him is to make sure he's comfortable and has the resources to take advantage of opportunities, not barrage him with career strategies when he comes home and wants to relax. We have entirely different career goals and I'm much happier that way. I couldn't micromanage his career even if I wanted to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/17 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Fear of the wall is taking a toll on my LTR. How do I stop feeling bad about myself?I can only echo what others have said. Also, take a step back and think of the situation this way: he was your friend and he knows what you've done, but he chose to be in a relationship with you. You can't change the past. Some of us make more "mistakes" than others. I don't think your number alone is an indication of your worth, but you need to use your past experiences to make better choices moving forward. What you learn from something you regret speaks volumes about you more than simply regr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/17 06:16 PM |
| 5 | Trying to Understand my Alpha BoyfriendSometimes it's better to focus on our deal-breakers than our deal-makers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 08:07 PM |
| 3 | How to keep n-count low when you are ridiculously horny (serious)It's normal to feel this way. Sexual self-control is very hard to learn, but learning self-control is useful for just about every facet of life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 09:04 PM |
| 4 | Conservative is the new counter cultureI want government, social programs, business models, etc. based on cold hard facts. Everything else is magic thinking, and I'm not interested in that on either end of the political spectrum. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Teachings from the previous generationYeah, nothing is a guarantee. I think refusing to marry her before she gets the degree is meant to be a motivator, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Is there something wrong with being a girl that wants a high n count?Sex is an important part of relationships and I think men want a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality and has some experience; it's better for both partners that way. You know how it's a red flag when a person trashes all their exes because it reflects poorly on their ability to attract and choose a quality partner? The same principle applies to N-count. If you have a lot of partners, then it reflects poorly on your ability to attract and choose long-term quality partners. It's antithetic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 08:00 PM |
| 1 | I don't know how to find guys to date! HelpTinder is good for casual dating but the chances of finding a relationship are very low. You have to balance the numbers game against the quality game. There are more people on Tinder, but not necessarily high-quality ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Teachings from the previous generationI think it's supposed to be insurance in case something happens to him and she needs to work. As OP's mother said, women should be qualified to work, but they don't have to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 05:35 AM |
| 3 | What dating websites have you had the most success on?Tinder is easy to use and a good way to boost one's confidence and start conversations with people, but this also means there are a hundred losers for every person that's relationship material. Veeeet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/17 06:46 AM |
| 3 | Girl's night red-pilled movies?Gossip Girl is toxic but Blair is amazing style inspiration, and so feminine other than her behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/17 08:43 AM |
| 3 | Girl's night red-pilled movies?I love Legally Blonde and relate to the movie a lot. Thanks for pointing out how Elle never sacrifices her femininity or who she is to become a lawyer - I got so wrapped up with her achievements I forgot that point, and it's something I need to work on! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/17 08:41 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?I'll look into it, thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/17 07:37 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?I was thinking about this the other day! Are there any books or sites you can recommend? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/17 06:28 PM |
| 1 | All you career gals...Currently, I'm a pre-med student and do research at my university's med school campus. :) Shoutout to other RPW interested/working in healthcare! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/17 03:06 AM |
| 3 | [discussion] Do I belong here?The way I see things, you can be a great mom, a great wife, or have a great career... and you get to pick two. Aside from that, I'm here because I spent many years trying to conform to feminist ideas about sex and relationships, but only got used and attracted men with serious problems. Also: I don't think you should be ashamed of sex, but coming from someone who needs to work on my own over-sharing... most people don't want to know! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 06:49 AM |
| 3 | [discussion] Do I belong here?I love this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 06:37 AM |
| 1 | How does a highschool RPW meet men?I dated in high school and it's miserable! Unless you have opportunities to wander your only options are immature high school boys. College is a much better place to date because you have opportunities to meet people your age or older. My advice? Work on yourself and see if you can attract them, but don't reciprocate for now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 06:31 AM |
| 5 | "Incredible Women Often Have the Worst Dating Lives" or Strong Independent Woman Who Don't Need No ManMaybe I'm biased, but I get the impression that people who follow their dreams into a mountain of student loan debt probably end up miserable because they have no outlet and don't make good enough money to have any (cool) hobbies. I also stopped dating men who share my career goals for this reason. Work stays at work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 06:15 AM |
| 14 | "Incredible Women Often Have the Worst Dating Lives" or Strong Independent Woman Who Don't Need No ManNumber 8 bugs me SO much. I think women should have their own money for economic reasons. But, my career goals aren't the only part of who I am. They happen to offer a great salary, benefits, and job security. But they're nothing more than a means to an end: money my future spouse and I can save and invest, use to travel, give to charity, etc. To build memories and a life together, because your career should never be your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 05:05 PM |
| 6 | Plate to LTRI know dating is exhausting... but I think you should cut your loss and move on. The fact you have to ask for advice regarding whether or not this person is committed to you is telling. There are tons of men out there who are very happy to commit and I don't think he's one of them. I can only give you advice based on what I've read but he's the exact type of guy I used to date and think could get to commit to me, but none of them wanted an exclusive relationship and I regret getting involved eve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 04:50 PM |
| 10 | Do you believe in soulmates?My two cents: if two people have the same values and expectations for the relationship, and neither has any flaws the other considers a deal-breaker, the strength and longevity of the relationship is a direct consequence of the work both people put into it. That being said, if I look at a man I've just met and can tell right away I'm going to fall in love with him, it's usually been a life-changing and important relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 08:08 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being so fucking shyI have some of the same problems, but am not shy. Do you think there's a connection between your introversion and lack of motivation? You could very well have depression. I'm still working on these issues, but what has worked for me is to make changes one step, then one day, at a time. Making spreadsheets and graphs is helpful because I can track my progress and get motivated to improve my average. If you're motivated at night, use nighttime to get your most important tasks out of the way (basic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/17 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?The hard part for me is looking for new strategies to make habits stick, because I've made progress in just about every area I want to fix and regressed at some point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/17 08:30 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?Easier said than done, but I'm eating breakfast as I type this... which is a start. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/17 04:05 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?I don't feel comfortable explaining more about my personality for you to understand why your comment isn't helpful - because I get where you're coming from, and you're not wrong, but you're not right either. So I'm going to thank you for your time to respond and choose to back out of our conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/17 07:03 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?With all due respect I've accessed resources related to wellness and know what do to. I don't need someone to hold my hand and walk me through what to eat, how to exercise, etc. I need advice from people who have been through my situation and mentally, what worked to get them to change their routines. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Simple QuestionsHave any of you ladies tried a straightening brush and can recommend one? I have a lot of curly/frizzy, medium thickness hair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 09:33 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?That's great advice and not harsh whatsoever, thank you! Unless I'm completely honest with myself, my behavior won't change, but having a strategy is a step in the right direction. Here's a good quote about your second point: "Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating." Thankfully, I'm able to keep inappropriate conversations away from my boyfriend - I'm much more closed book in relationships - but I want to integrate the good kind of communication. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 06:57 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?Do you have any tips for how to build a routine into an already hectic schedule? I don't want to sound defensive, but I'm not lazy - I do a lot - but not anything beyond basic self-care. I feel overwhelmed trying to make time for everything in my day, and that's where I've chosen to be lazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 06:45 PM |
| 3 | Simple QuestionsIf you're worried about damage, invest in a good head protectant and never blow dry your hair right after a shower (allow to air dry before you style). Also, I love Lisa Eldridge - she's gorgeous her voice is so relaxing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 07:07 PM |
| 5 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?I can't imagine "accidentally" cheating on my SO, that's horrifying! My stories are tame by comparison, but what I am scared of is "accidentally" telling my SO something he doesn't need to know. We know the basics, but I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying something about my past that might upset him. :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 06:59 PM |
| 5 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?Thank you! I think this is good advice. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression but I'm high achieving. However, I also get random panic attacks and have general low-grade depression. I've struggled to get therapists to help me. I'm extremely analytical, so they think I have everything under control. I have poor work-life balance (I need equal amounts of time out/getting new experiences and at home with my cat and a good book!). I love your edit because these are things I do! I have voluntee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysI love Budget Bytes, and I love the basic "Chunky Lentil and Vegetable Soup" recipe. Super yummy and easy to modify! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 08:01 AM |
| 3 | Declare your strengths!Oops, I need one more! I make delicious enchiladas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 07:45 AM |
| 2 | Declare your strengths!A combination of both. The obstacles I've faced helped me hone these skills, but I observed them from my parents early on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 07:44 AM |
| 5 | Declare your strengths!I'm adaptable. I work best when plans can change, so I also look for opportunities. When I set my mind to something, I have a lot of focus! I'm also extremely resilient. When plan A doesn't work, I try plans B-Z and switch to a non-Latin alphabet. I'm unapologetic and true to myself. I own and work on my flaws rather than being offended by them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 05:36 AM |
| 1 | A small request from a new redpiller regarding petsI trust my cat's judgment. When she behaves for others how she behaves for me (calm, trusting, affectionate), I know they're a good person. Not perfect, but good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/17 05:13 AM |
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