Tips for a better you?

est-la-lune · 2018-03-07T06:04:30+00:00

Have you ever heard of keystone habits?

Examples of keystone habits include exercise, food journaling, meditation, etc. Keystone habits obey the Pareto Principle. They take up a minimal amount of your time every day but pack the biggest punch. They lower the amount of willpower needed to perform complicated tasks by routinizing them.

For example, I'm trying to wake up at 6 AM every morning. Waking up early gives me enough time to eat breakfast, get ready, etc. without rushing. Setting these habits individually is exhausting, and unnecessary, because simply changing my wake-up time gives me enough time to do what must be done!

I suggest you keep a journal and write down what habits you want to break/form. Keep track of when you perform each action and what the cue/trigger was. You'll begin to identify patterns for your cues, from which you can generate keystone habits and break especially tough ones by eliminating your triggers.

ClearHue · 2018-03-08T01:46:55+00:00

If you're having trouble keeping yourself motivated, here's one trick that worked for me as a fairly young person. Since taking the red pill, I've found that my biggest motivator for working harder and being a better person was not to help myself, society, or some abstract ideal. It was to help my hypothetical/future children. It might be part of biology, because just imagining how doing the right thing would make me a better mother actually makes me more excited to do things I have trouble committing to.

For instance, I would tell myself "I need to study for these tests and put more effort into these courses so I can teach my children to be diligent." "I need to stop harshly criticizing myself whenever I make mistakes, or else I'm probably going to do the same to my kids." "I should wholeheartedly pursue a fulfilling career, so I can show my kids that life has amazing opportunities that are worth working for."

Of course, this effect would probably be 100x more powerful for the lucky women here with kids.

Buckets-Of-Crazy · 2018-03-07T03:38:42+00:00

Just wanted to say about the fear of forgetting something you want to say and jumping in the middle of other people's sentences, that I'm exactly like that and I found that crossing my fingers helps.

You won't forget because it'll be at the back of your mind that you are doing this to remember something important. :)

Hope this helps you a bit.

[deleted] · 2018-03-07T16:54:48+00:00

I journal about my day every night before sleeping. It takes like 15 minutes. Allows me to find out everything I analyse everything I did wrong and things I could have done instead.

durtyknees · 2018-03-07T19:31:52+00:00

Know and own your flaws, so others can't use it against you (and also so you don't sabotage yourself with them). And if you can't fix those flaws, always be mindful to compensate for them.

tempintheeastbay · 2018-03-07T19:07:02+00:00

I also need to get better about telling him my problem and not just telling him my solution. He does say he likes it when I suggest possible solutions.

I posted this in a diff thread but it might be easier to think of this rule as "no complaining". My BF also likes it when I suggest solutions because that's showing a positive, proactive attitude. What he HATES is whining - I think the key is to be positive, vulnerable and thoughtful when you bring up problems, not negative, accusatory, and reactive (aka... a complaint!).

Title	Tips for a better you?
Author	Redpilledcf
Upvotes	15
Comments	10
Date	March 7, 2018 3:26 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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