Sending nudes?

Kara__El · 2019-01-14T05:31:37+00:00

I trust my husband, implicitly... but Google and Samsung? Not so much. In fact, he's made it pretty clear that he wouldn't want me to risk it. Unlike some couples, we see each other nightly, so there's really no point.

noyouarestupid · 2019-01-14T04:22:50+00:00

I did it once when I was dating a guy long distance. In my opinion that's something that should reserved for your husband or at least a very long term relationship. I felt very guilty about it after we broke up.

Wolfssenger · 2019-01-14T08:21:14+00:00

Generally a bad idea unless engaged, married, or otherwise marrying soon. Very few men can be trusted to rid them if things go sour. They likely will not do anything malicious with them, but they'll stay. Most aren't comfortable with that.

lovelynotblond · 2019-01-14T08:23:22+00:00

I’ve been 4.5 in a LDR with my fiancee and think it is a lovely way to boost his day and sexual desires. The pictures are never vulgar and never bottom part naked. I feel sexy and confident when I send them. I would never send them if we were not in a serious relationship and he is the only one I’ve sent it to.

AnarchoNAP · 2019-01-14T03:47:09+00:00

Unless I had some unrealistic security set up, it’s a bad idea.

KittenLoves_ · 2019-01-14T08:57:34+00:00

If you're reading this and are considering sending nudes, here are some things to keep in mind:

There is always the possibility that they will get out some day, somehow.

He could show them to other people, someone looking at his phone may see, etc.

Never include your face or any identifying features.

Whether or not sharing nudes is right for you depends a lot of your personality, his personality, and the status of the relationship. And I would strongly advise against sending nudes to someone you haven't known for very long.

RubyWooToo · 2019-01-14T19:06:00+00:00

Oh hell no!

Look, most women who unwillingly discover their nudes on the Internet sent them to partners they trusted. I know, because it happened to me, and it's not a humiliation that I would ever wish on another person, even my worst enemy.

Never ever make the mistake of thinking that this is the type of thing that happens to other people and not you.

NotaNPC · 2019-01-14T04:21:30+00:00

I do sent them, I enjoy taking them.

peculiarmiss · 2019-01-14T06:16:18+00:00

I’ve sent nudes and racy pics to my SO, but they never show my face or identifying marks, with the exception of some classy pinup style stuff from a boudoir shoot. He’s actually the first person I’ve ever felt comfortable sharing that with, so I don’t have any exes to worry about.

Basically, my rule of thumb is if I wouldn’t want my mom to see it, you can’t tell it’s me unless you’ve already seen me naked.

FriedNotStirred · 2019-01-14T11:19:37+00:00

To my husband whom I trust, yes.

Ironiaton · 2019-01-14T21:28:28+00:00

There was a time when a lady would never allow herself to be photographed with a phone in her hand.

In my youth the advise was that you should never hold a drink or a cigarette in a photograph.

Now I will advise my daughters that they should never, ever allow themselves be photographed in anything less than swimwear. Never.

aisle-is-closed · 2019-01-14T08:03:20+00:00

Did it exactly once while my husband was traveling. Hated the way it made me feel, never did it again.

est-la-lune · 2019-01-15T04:51:48+00:00

I never send completely nude pictures, just ones where I'm wearing underwear (and crop out my face). That way I wouldn't be completely mortified if they got out. And it's strictly a boyfriend thing.

noyouarestupid · 2019-01-14T20:17:29+00:00

It greatly risks devaluing your body and image.

immaculacy · 2019-01-15T04:00:47+00:00

I don't want to, in case accidents happen. Like someone finding it by going through the phone or the creepy tech company storing it.

RightfullySqualid · 2019-01-15T13:53:57+00:00

No. You should never put yourself in such a vulnerable situation. What if you break up one day? The only guy I ever sent them to is my now fiance. And we're catholic so no plans of getting divorced. (And since coming back to the church I've decided to remain chaste until marriage, but I digress) But I've regretted sending them and have been against them even in our situation (even before finding myself a practicing catholic again) for a long time now. Do you trust the tech companies? Even if you do, which you shouldn't, phones can get infected by viruses just like computers.

bambiliftsweights · 2019-01-15T19:59:15+00:00

I send nudes to my Captain at work sometimes via Snapchat.

I personally love it. We’ve been together for 6 years and I think it’s a great way to keep things spicy 🌶 + it drives him crazy and eager to come home.

However, I would never send random nudes — I know too many horror stories about them being shared.

Pro tip: less is more. Guys love to be teased and slowly shown all the goods 😉

ImTheCaptainNow24 · 2019-01-17T21:28:45+00:00

I have, but only after I was married, and only if my husband or I are away on a business trip where we can't be together. But I don't make them classy. I don't even know how a classy nude is supposed to be different from a trashy nude...?

I'm not that concerned about them getting out. My naked body isn't that much different from any other young woman's. I have nothing to be ashamed of.

TheBunk_TB · 2019-01-14T15:08:19+00:00

Somewhat offtopic (for humor): How do you get "the other" to send them?

Zegiknie · 2019-01-17T15:43:05+00:00

I once heard most of those pics online weren't put there by exes, they were hacked.

I'll sometimes just send a snap of the lingerie without me in it, or an innocent selfie with the kids but I'll make sure my face and hair look amazing.

MoDuReddit · 2019-01-14T09:58:47+00:00

EDIT: Rephrasing.

I think it depends on your current stage. If you're still finding your captain, how comfortable are you with the subject of your online voyeurism being brought up? If you're in for the long run, I have no comment.

Title	Sending nudes?
Author	ChuckUFarlie14
Upvotes	13
Comments	34
Date	January 14, 2019 3:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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