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I hope I can comment here, but what does it matter if the guy understands that or not? How does that help him?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/26 03:37 PM
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Bro what are you chatting about? No one is talking about adding up or calculating interactions. Volume is just the level of people you are meeting. Meeting 3 people at a meetup, then another 5 people at a party, etc etc. It your not meeting single women you can’t date and can’t get into a relationship. You need to meet people
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 03:33 PM
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I’m not sure I fully understand? Interacting more and meeting new people is the goal no? Is that not volume? I’m not saying every interaction will be the same, but by having more interactions, will a person not be better at maneuvering and figuring out signs if a person is interested or not(whether it be friendship dating etc?)
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 02:25 PM
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So is volume just not the right term? Because I’ve seen so many advice on increasing the amount of people you meet, which will increase the women you meet which will lead to you meeting more single women and then potentially having connections with them.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 02:04 PM
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In terms of dating, it touched on stuff like self improvement, looking your best etc, stuff that’s basic that everyone should be doing. I’m not advocating for like the extreme views it talks about. I just personally think, don’t take everything to an extreme, which is what those pill cultures do, along side feeding into people self hatred
/r/ExRedPill28/06/26 09:53 PM
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Yes the loneliness epidemic for men exist and no it isn’t ONLY about relationships. It’s multiple reports and studies show men have less friendships, go to college less, graduate less, joining the workforce less, obviously dating less, and of course self delete themselves more. All these things are connected and driving the male loneliness problem. Yes women face similar issues but it doesn’t seem to be to the same extent. Social media and algorithms are also aiding the advancement of this probl…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/26 09:34 PM
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Can you touch on how you can leverage an ig into something more?
/r/seduction20/01/26 09:19 PM
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I think you touched on something important. I also have parents who didn’t have a healthy relationship. Thinking about it even in school guys mainly wanted relationships with women to be with them. I also struggle with personal confidence and I think I’m scared that it might take years to build and I already feel I’m behind in regards to relationships with women. And honestly reading women pov stuff makes me more scared to interact with them. I 100% know I need more exposure and interactions wit…
/r/ExRedPill01/12/25 12:03 AM
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Oh I can imagine. Deep down I want to be with and around women. But because I’m not I think too much about women in general which I just don’t think is healthy
/r/ExRedPill08/06/25 02:56 PM
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Would you consider yourself an extrovert or a social person? This is advice is great don’t get me wrong but I considered myself an introvert and not that social of a person. Plus I have social anxiety(not trying to say any of this as an excuse) I say that to say that I think I work best in smaller groups of people rather than larger groups. And you mention you was in multiple groups, which maximized the amount of people you meet which is a good thing. But just from my pov, it seems so exhausting…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 05:24 PM
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I know this is silly to ask but how do I meet more people? Like yeah I know there’s meetups and events and stuff but the few times I’ve tried it hasn’t exactly worked out. Like I went to an anime con last year and had a good time. And I felt comfortable giving compliments to people on their cosplays and stuff and sometimes a mini conversation would happen. But these events are rare 1, and 2 it’s not like people go to these events with the goal to meet people and make friends even if that can hap…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 04:23 PM
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Most of my close relationships are online homies. I did recently reach out and reconnected with my best friend from college and that was out of my comfort zone but I did it. We haven’t met up yet but we still chatted, but even with them the topic of women always comes out eventually. I do want to see a therapist just not in the right situation atm to get one. But is it wrong to want a partner to be emotionally connected with? I get it can be a problem if that’s the only person but also your part…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 03:49 PM
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Yeah i know women aren’t a monolith so every women is attractive to something different but to me looking good kind of just means being fit, not necessarily jacked but a decent size, and I have a pretty skinny built and it just seems like everyone is bigger than me. Which I guess proves your point I want to look a certain way for myself but also appeal to women. I do have an idea of where I want to be in life but I also don’t want to get there and then not know how to flirt or date. I’m already …
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 03:43 PM
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That’s the thing tho, it’s not like I’m doing those things with validation from others in mind, I do do those things for myself. But because deep down I know those things can lead to validations, and I want to be validated, especially because I’ve basically gone my whole life without it. It’s hard to explain but I’m not really chasing the validation either. Like I said in the last paragraph in the original post I basically just lived my life normally. Like I did all the things I was “suppose” to…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 03:18 PM
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What was the reel about?
/r/seduction26/12/24 04:04 PM
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Yeah I agree. I do think women usually have a cap on how much viewers they get compared to men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:58 PM
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The article was from 2011 so it’s much more common and regular to run into women with “nerdy hobbies” now than back then. Yeah a nerdy thirst trapper will get more views but at the same time a nerdy woman who isn’t thirst trapping will get more views in the beginning than a nerdy guy talking about the same shit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:56 PM
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Yeah times have changed since then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:37 PM
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I never said anything about outside sexualization, but nothing I mentioned involves dating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:30 PM
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In the last few years not even 😂. People get views just from talking to chat nowadays or live-streaming their regular lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:19 PM
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Yeah that’s kind of the point I’m trying make. Initially it’s easier for women to get views and it’s mostly because of their looks. However the same is true for both genders and that if you want to be massive you need more than looks, you need to be entertaining, skilled at a game, funny etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:17 PM
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How is a man getting to 20k?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:10 PM
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I can’t really speak for the e boys since I see way more e girls than e boys. Not discounting what you say but I still think that’s still a small minority. Also you sort of proving my point, Bieber and the rest are famous for what they do not how they look, they just happen to all be good looking guys as well, which of course adds to them being famous but that’s not WHY they are famous
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:09 PM
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You’re right but in the beginning stages it’s easier for women to usually get views. That’s why I mentioned for men they get views for what they do rather than how they look
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:39 PM
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On the “what do men mean when women have it easier” post I’m surprised no one mentioning things outside of dating. I don’t think my comment showed up but this is what I wrote People are only talking about dating but it really needs to expand to the internet in general. If your an average-above avg woman it’s easier for women to get views on social media (YouTube,twitch,ig,etc) initially. If you have nerdy hobbies as a woman you also get a boost in those communities(anime/cosplay, etc). Not to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:32 PM
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I figured but I need to start getting some shots up and attempting to meet people, I feel like it’ll at least be less judgmental than one of the big 3 dating apps. I also live in a big city so boo here might have a decent amount of people…idk tho
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:43 PM
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Anyone used the boo app before? Apparently it’s for friends and dating and I need both so I’m kind of intrigued
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:39 PM
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I’ve seen people say detach yourself from the outcome but never really understand it. If there isn’t an outcome why do anything? Why approach her, message her etc then?
/r/seduction25/11/24 11:18 PM
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Crazy cause it’s mainly Twitter and tiktok for me and I don’t even follow or like any of their content
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:57 PM
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Idk I feel like she went out of her way to hurt him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:56 PM
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Hmm I probably do this to an extent…I’m cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:35 PM
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What’s the psychology of getting depressed seeing too many baddies on social media? Why does that happen
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:29 PM
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What are some of y’all favorite subs for dating/life help outside of this one(if it count)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:46 PM
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Maybe I need to just put my desires for women to the side and start befriending other DOODS. At least I’ll have someone to take decent pics of me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:38 PM
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I’m only posting here cause I can’t even go back to the mod due to the mute. I thought about sending a chat one of the mods but that feels excessive but at the same time how your suppose to be a subreddit that helps people then turns around and judges those same people struggling. I’m not even an incel but it seems like some of the people their actively look down on people who struggle cause that message was such a low blow for no reason
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:40 PM
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I got banned off incelexit for something so trivial it’s ridiculous. And then they lowered it to a temp ban but left off judging my problems like everyone has the same personal journey. My fault I struggle socializing for a couple years
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:36 PM
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Yeah i usually agree but i think some people def use it as a chance to just get followers lol. Not trying to be a fan so I unfollowed once she ain’t follow back (granted my account also sucks but still)
/r/seduction06/10/24 01:56 AM
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I was just at a anime convention(animenyc) a month ago and I wish I had this then lol. Very easy to just go up to someone a compliment their cosplay and potentially spark a convo. I tried to get a girls number but she said nah but gave me her ig and never followed back lol However, a lot of people (women) aren’t alone and are usually with friends/a friend. Also a lot of good looking guys go to these as well despite people thinking anime is still just some basement dweller hobby
/r/seduction05/10/24 10:01 PM
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I can’t for the life of me stop thinking about dating/fixing my non existent dating life. I just hate that I know I have to play the game to maximize my chances. Posting on social media, shooting my shot damn near daily, etc etc and I get exhausted thinking about it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 01:52 PM
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Bet good looks. One more question, how do you know/avoid potentially DMing girls who are friends? Or does that not matter? And do you follow regardless of her following count/ratio? Cause I tried this before but I usually look for girls whose ratio looks like she’d follow back (not alot from my experience)
/r/seduction15/09/24 12:33 AM
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Alright so I read them but don’t some girls see it as a red flag if a guy is only following women? Do you follow local dudes as well to balance it out? And is your account public or private I don’t know if you answered that
/r/seduction15/09/24 12:15 AM
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Where are you finding 100s of locals to DM? What’s the gameplan? Do you add them then DM? Do you have a good profile?
/r/seduction14/09/24 11:40 PM
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How did you get over your trauma? I grew up with an (verbally) abusive mother and I feel like this is the reason Im such a quiet person and don't like talking. Plus i still live with her and sometimes she still lashes out on me. Hell she lashes out on me sometimes for NOT talking.
/r/seduction08/09/24 11:09 PM
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Why do men seek casual relationships where as women seek long term relationships? In my case as a guy when I say causal I mean it as, we go on dates hang out get to know each other and if we like each other the talk would happen. I feel like if you go in looking for a long term people could fake their wants/not be authentic
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:59 PM
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Can someone explain to me why women keep saying to not approach them in a sexual/romantic way? What does this mean? If I approach a women it’s 8/10 times because I find her attractive but everytime I read any women sub it’s like I’m in the wrong for finding a women physically attractive without speaking to her? And that it’s wrong to approach for that reason. I get that you shouldn’t be overly aggressive if you decide to approach(I usually just compliment someone’s outfit then see if anything el…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:40 PM
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Honestly I’m kind of like you but I think I finally figured it it out(partly). You have to be in a place where you know most people there are into the same shit as you I went to an anime convention for the first time and I was handing out compliments left and right and even was able to approach some women and have a convo with em, asking about their cosplay/if they made it/how they like the con so far etc (even if nothing came out of it) Now I just gotta figure out where to find an environment l…
/r/seduction25/08/24 01:58 PM
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For me it’s a bunch of reasons. I’m lonely, I’m horny and a virgin so I think about it alot. Like others mentioned validation and self esteem ties into it a bit. Also because it’s “hard to get” I guess kinda of put it on a pedestal
/r/ExRedPill24/08/24 11:27 PM
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I was thinking of DMing saying it was nice to meet you or something and if she doesn’t fb from that I’ll just unfollow. My social media game not all that tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:52 PM
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I had a ton of fun at the anime con yesterday. It just felt easier to talk to people. I was giving out compliments and even approached a couple women to talk to them. Got cockblocked once kinda and the other gave me her ig but it was good vibes. Don’t think I’ve ever been that social in my life tbh Edit: the girl said she’d follow me back on ig and she hasn’t yet and she posting idk what that means tho
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:43 PM
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Yeahhh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:49 PM
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Anime con
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 04:42 PM
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I should be able to get at least one number or ig at this con tmmrw
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 04:33 PM
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Bro I’ve heard 😭 I’m not even looking for that I’m just going to try and talk to girls and maybe see if I could get a few numbers I just hate starting convos with people so I know there’s a chance I’ll go and then end up mute
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:19 PM
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Going to an anime con this weekend and in my mind I should be able to get some numbers or at least socials since I’ll be around people with similar interest so it should be easier to start convos with people but in reality I know Ima pussy out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:27 PM
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Yea I know it’ll be good practice for like an eventually date and just learning how to be more comfortable around a woman etc but I’m scared to even just ask lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 03:11 PM
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So I’m like 75% sure if I ask this girl I’ve been chatting to for like 2ish weeks I’m discord to meet up she probably would. I just have a few problems mostly in my head. I never actually hung out with a woman 1v1, I never met anyone from the internet, I also feel like I would look at it as a date even tho it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 02:09 PM
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This is a late reply but I honestly sometimes it feels like that sort of advice is dated? Not that it doesn’t happen still, but from my experience and my knowledge I’ve seen guys simply approach women they don’t know(whenever I was on a college campus). Or guys shooting their shots at girls on instagram/social media. I never done it but it seems more normal nowadays with gen z people anyway
/r/ExRedPill31/07/24 06:22 PM
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What about social media? (IG specifically) I know Reddit hates to say it’s not important but obviously for my generation(z) it’s seems it’s important for most people. Maybe you don’t necessarily need a million followers but I’m sure women like it if your at least active on it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:46 PM
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What are the best ways to put yourself out there as a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:34 PM
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That girl I was messaging on discord for a couple days, I haven’t message her in a few days and she hasn’t sent anything either. Shit like this kind of pisses me off cause it’s like if I don’t ever say anything she’ll never start the convo first Granted it’s not like we’re friends or anything stronger but damn a lil initiation would make me feel like you want to get to know me too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:52 PM
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Yeah she mentioned a bookstore that’s popular. I just don’t know the time in which to ask since we just started messaging each other
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:49 PM
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Yea she did mention a popular book store in the city but I don’t know if I should ask to meet there so soon since we basically are still strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:46 PM
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I wouldn’t say afraid. Like I know I need friends so I’m just trying to play it cool but if I do find her attractive I also need dating experience since I have none so I wouldn’t know which route I’d go
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:41 PM
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I’ve been talking to dis girl on discord for like a day ish. All i know is we live in the same city but I don’t know what she looks like. I don’t mind just be friends but i always get stuck after having regular convo(what you do for work/school,hobbies,etc). What else am I suppose to ask/talk about? When should I suggest a potential meetup?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:30 PM
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Looking up events and man it might just be over for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:48 PM
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I keep looking up how to meet/get/date women content hoping something will click eventually but then get disappointed when it’s more or less the same information just said differently. I need to get outta this cycle
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:36 PM
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How do you do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:46 PM
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I made a post about if dating is fun as a man the other day and the replies were depressing to say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:12 PM
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? Where did I say anything about interacting with them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:07 PM
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Yeah it’s rough man can’t really do much about it when it’s happening
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:33 PM
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Never been in a relationship but if I was probably not
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:26 PM
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This is such a silly problem but I keep falling in love(exaggeration) with women I see on social media(ig tiktok twitch etc). Like constantly seeing women who are my exact type is probably not healthy. Also the slight delusion that I could potentially get with them doesn’t help
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:51 PM
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This is my inexperience talking but what exactly is safe sex? Saw a post about how this woman wants to ask for std testing before fooling around and like in theory I get that and understand that. But does this also include oral (both ways)? And if it does how the hell do people just have spontaneous hookup sex
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 06:52 PM
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No but if she ask I’ll send a pic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:19 PM
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I posted about trying my discord method the other day and update I got to chatting with one girl after dming her making a reference to something she said in the chat. Some decent back and fourth getting to know her, will probably message her later today and get to know her more. Only slight negative is we both live in the same city but she’s not here for the summer, and I still don’t know what she looks like but I guess this matters less atm. Both of these are probably my overthinking tho Might …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:02 PM
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Of course that’s why I never done it before. Though in my defense I checked to see if they were active in the server before messaging and they weren’t or the server is dead so I had nothing to really lose
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 03:18 PM
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Yeah I knew it was probably an extremely long shot but I had to try something I guess. And agree being out of your comfort zone can be a good thing but having anxiety makes leaving it so much harder
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:18 PM
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Yeah but I’m the same way 😭 that’s why I feel like I could relate to someone who’s always online but actually wants to do stuff but just never had the company to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:16 PM
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So what skills should I familiarize myself with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:08 PM
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I agree it’s probably better to meet people irl but from what I noticed most people just happen to also be online. Social media games dating apps people meet all types of ways now. I’m at the stage where I just need to meet anyone and I’m trying as many different online avenues as possible. I’ll eventually try irl but I’d feel more comfortable meeting someone online then linking up in person or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:06 PM
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Maybe I’ll DM a DOOD and see if I can just make a friend or something and take it from there
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:51 PM
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Tired DMing random women on discord who I share servers with and got nothing…might actually try to find real life events to attend but I know there so outta my comfort zone ima probably freeze up. Why the hell is it so hard just to meet women let alone any of the other shit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:47 PM
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Yeah guess i gotta find a place to be a regular at. I tried creating a discord server with people in my city but that died, wonder if cause I didn’t plan meetups or anything. I never saw myself as the leader kind of person but I feel like you damn near have to become one of you want to create a social circle
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:06 PM
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Do anyone of you know someone who completely turned their non existent social life into a actually social life, or did it yourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:29 PM
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I’d like to think I have many of those qualities (probably have to work on communication) but the thing is those qualities don’t really help me meet people in the first place. No one knows me so no one can see those things about me. I’m very introverted and have social anxiety so that makes it even harder to meet people(i don’t really go out honesty). But even when I do “go out” I don’t just talk to people around cause I feel that’s kind of intruding/potentially bothering people(though the few t…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/24 12:19 PM
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What does it mean to be an amazing partner though? I feel like I kind of understand it(having the right qualities I guess) but then how do you actually show those qualities? What even are those qualities? And another question. I see alot of advice talking about looking for a partner, but what if I’m not in that time of life yet? Like although I have no experience if I was to gain some I’d want to start causally first before committing to someone. Is that wrong?
/r/ExRedPill21/06/24 10:35 AM
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Oh yeah fasho you get it. I def need to stop the mental masturbatation first and foremost(and the actual masturbation while I’m at it) and find a way to be more social
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:46 AM
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I read models but I’m still not getting opportunities to actually put it into practice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:44 AM
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Didn’t even know thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:43 AM
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I keep telling myself I need to stop reading any/all dating subs/women subs etc etc. it feels like I’m looking for the secret formula but I know I don’t find it reading on Reddit. And I keep making myself somewhat depressed reading how hard it is for men in dating all the double standards the bar is low but actually high blah blah blah
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:10 AM
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Yeah I feel like it is but I never done it and I don’t know how to do it without coming across as thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:24 PM
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You got any other ideas? I wanna ease my way into meeting women online first (not dating apps) but honestly most avenues for that are kid of duds
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:10 PM
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100% why I hate myself every time I think of this idea. Best way to find someone with similar hobbies but worst way because in my experience yeah every guy always goes for the girl either in publicly or privately so I have no way to stand out really
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:02 PM
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Usually mostly dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:00 PM
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Thinking of joining/finding local discords again to try and meet women but last time I did this I met 0 people(also don’t like DMing people)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:56 PM
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I get that but what’s the difference between approaching a woman you see once a week at a coffee shop or if you see a woman 3 times a week in class? Are these both considered cold approaches?Approaching a girl you see at a house party is probably warm but you still probably know nothing about her so it might as well be cold Idk in my head approaching anyone you don’t know regardless of context can be taken as disturbing someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 03:21 PM
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I know there’s a difference between cold and warm approach, but like I don’t see how it really matters in the bigger picture. Regardless you(as the man 90% of the time) have to approach first and initiate the convo, you have to be the one to ask her on a date, etc etc. so what does it matter if it’s cold approach( not knowing her at all) and warm approach( you probably have a mutual friend in common or something)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:14 PM
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It’s interesting reading women centric subs and seeing that a 85% (in regards to men) of their problems are very neutral. Like do they not understand that men also face some of those same issues or do they not care
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:55 PM
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Getting older I realize that men and women usually show attraction differently (for the most part). Guys are usually more straight forward while women are more passive( ?). So I think alot of guys end up struggling because they expect women to show attraction the same way men do and get upset when that doesn’t happen or the few girls who do move like that don’t do it to them Or maybe I’m just full of shit idk
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:33 PM
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True no clue if she’s even active on it but it’s worth a shot I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:13 PM
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Sadly but my ig…hell my social media presence in general sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:30 PM
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ima wait to see if I see her one more time and if not then yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:21 PM
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Yeah chances of me seeing her again slim to none so it’s a really nothing to lose type of situation
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:04 PM
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Yeah 2-3 interactions I think we had good vibes each time, I should’ve asked for the number yesterday but my head wasn’t in the game
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:54 PM
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So the chances of me seeing this girl on campus again are pretty low but I found her ig and now I’m debating if i should take the risk and send a follow request
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:44 PM
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I absolutely hate having to approach as a man. The actual process of walking up and saying things. I even hate doing it online because I feel like women usually know if you messaging them it’s cause you find them attractive(same irl)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:46 PM
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I understand why women don’t like men who watch porn for various of reasons but do they understand that men watch porn mainly cause they are horny and are lonely(for various reasons)? I would never watch porn if I had a partner and I assume most guys feel this way. But every time I see women blame porn on a guy due to the side effects of it they never mention the why he was using it in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:28 PM
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Lmao yeah man it’s wild. And I’m not even looking at it from the gf angle like if we end up just being friends I’d be cool with that too but it’s the same problem, it’s one thing to have younger or older guy friends as a guy but having a younger friend who’s a girl just seems…you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:07 PM
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Yea same and it’s killing me cause she’s the first girl I approached and said more than 10 words to her. And it might be my inexperienced but the potential vibes just felt right, it sucks but I’ll get over it eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:51 PM
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I’m 25 in my last semester or so in college and I’m assuming she’s 18-19 as she said she’s finishing her freshman year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:31 PM
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Cant stop thinking about yesterday, just talking to a girl had a positive impact on my general mood I want more of that feeling. And it sucks that she’s too young cause I think we really could vibe with each other from the short interaction we had. A few people told me to ignore the age thing and just be friends with her but it’s still too big of a gap imo for me to be comfortable Ima probably try to have another interaction with her, or try to talk to a different girl and hope she’s in my age r…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:50 PM
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So i approached a girl a few weeks ago telling her I liked her outfit. Saw her today and after 10 minutes of should I shouldn’t I, I walked up and ended up having like a lil minute(long ass minute) convo with her but figured out she’s too young to go further but I still feel proud as hell of myself
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:37 PM
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Yeah but I didn’t have any luck but I’m chalking that up to not having a good profile/pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:55 PM
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It’s so fucking annoying to have dating and sex and women on your mind damn near 24/7 and not having any.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:10 PM
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Yeah and it sucks cause both men and women feel lonely but no one wants to take that first step. Hell even me I’m scared to approach women platonically irl and online cause you never know how it can come across and I just rather not risk a misunderstanding
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:03 PM
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I won’t dispute this point but it just hasn’t worked out for me. I’m still in college(25 but almost done) and even then people come to class and not talk to anyone. Maybe it’s cause I go to a commuter school but most people aren’t talking to each other randomly before/during/or after class And I joined a school club once and while the people were nice, the group basically all had the same major and knew each other prior. So even though I was going every week it started to feel like an extra chor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:56 PM
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As one of those lonely guys, it’s both. Platonically all my friends are online so when I go out in the world I’m usually alone(not counting my brothers but they are also older than me) And this is partly why I’m not a fan of go to so so event and meet people. Cause from my experience people go to events WITH people they already know and not to meet that one guy who’s there all by himself. Romantically it’s more of the same. Not to mention it’s on men to initiate convos/dates/etc and that’s hard(…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:43 PM
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I notice with alot of dating advice a majority of women are looking for relationships first and alot of guys are looking for sex first or at least early on
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:51 AM
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Nope she smiled and said thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:15 PM
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Took me 30 minutes to get the confidence to approach a girl and tell her I liked her outfit but I did it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 09:10 PM
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I can’t for the life of me figure out what improve social skills means and how to do it. On the outside I’d say my social skills are decent, especially if someone starts the convo with me and I know they are open to talking But for whatever combination of reasons it feels like I’m surrounded by people who are anti social/introverted/quiet/social anxiety etc (just like me tbf) and I’m expected to start a convo with anyone (men and women) and carry it and it just seems like alot of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:29 PM
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Maybe cause I already find it difficult to find one girl just to talk to but hearing/reading about women having a roster is so…interesting. They always believe the guy is doing it so they can do it, they talk about how if one guy isn’t doing something they move on to another guy, constantly comparing all the guys to each other etc. it just feels and sounds so fake. I understand not putting all your eggs in one basket early on I also feel like it’s easier for women to actually date like that beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:06 PM
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What classifies a guy as boring?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 02:55 PM
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Just 2 months into the year basically and I haven’t don’t made any progress in the social department
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:11 PM
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I mean yeah but I struggle initiating/approaching/starting the convo
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:02 PM
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Hey how’s your day going
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:41 PM
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2 months in and I’ve talked to 0 women nothing changed yet smh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:36 PM
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I keep telling myself I need to stop reading any post that are dating related because 9/10 ima come out feeling worse about myself but I get bored and can’t help it 😵‍💫 Anyway I’m feeling pretty bad about myself at the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 03:00 PM
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So what’s the solution to get out of this cycle
/r/ExRedPill31/01/24 05:33 PM
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How do y’all feel wearing a popular piece of clothing/sneakers etc? Like there’s a pair of sneakers I want cause they look cool and versatile but also every 10th person wears em
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:09 PM
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Real sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:15 AM
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I tried but idk. I think I’m just my own worst critic and and I’ve seen other peoples good pictures and know mine doesn’t compare
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:53 PM
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It seems so exhausting and I didn’t even get any good enough to share
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:49 PM
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I took about 60 and found one that I liked but cause the lighting was ass I can’t even use it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:47 PM
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I tried to take some pics of myself the other day and I failed miserably. Idk how women can just see seamlessly take great pictures/selfies/poses and make it look effortlessly. Came out thinking i might be uglier then I thought that’s how bad I felt 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:44 PM
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One of those days were its hitting hard that I know 0 women in any romantic capacity
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:16 PM
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Yea something so easy shouldn’t be a problem but I overthink everything. Thinking like maybe she doesn’t want to talk to anyone, or just what to say/how to carry the convo etc
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 03:31 PM
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Classes start tmmrw and I’m not ready at all. Partly cause I know myself and I’m most likely not going speak to any woman classmate despite that being my goal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:52 PM
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Brought a tripod to take pics of myself maybe I might try dating apps again once I collect a few
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:18 PM
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Trying to cut porn out tbh but that’s easier said than done. But honestly I’m more excited about experiencing foreplay/exploring a woman body before the actual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:17 PM
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Yeah you would think living here it would be easier to find someone but it’s the opposite for me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:15 PM
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Semester starts next week and my goal is to talk/make friends with at least one girl in each class. That basically means during that first week ish I have to force myself to sit next to a girl cause after that seats basically become unofficial assign seats And I know myself it’s hard to approach classmates I don’t sit next to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:29 PM
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Maybe cause my grandparents aren’t American but from what I know…it seems similar to now. Pretty sure both my grandmas had kids young and with multiple men. I know one was a store owner and the other was a waitress for like 50 years(she’s married) Ion know much bout either grandfathers tbh but I know both had alot of kids(one had 9, 7 with his wife(my mom was the outside one go figure) and the other had 6/ 7) but idk if he was married
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:17 PM
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So me and the boys were having a debate Who’s a bigger cultural icon, Audrey Hepburn or Marylin Monroe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:34 PM
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I absolutely suck at initiating/approaching convos with anyone, irl and online.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:20 PM
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I feel like a girl best friend would do wonders for my life right now instead of trying to date
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:42 PM
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Yeah I feel like nowadays this the biggest indicator that you’re an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:55 AM
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What age did y’all start feeling like an adult? Birthday next week I’m turning 25 and while I def feel slightly more mature then I did a few years ago I still don’t feel like an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:41 AM
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The things I want to do and experience are on the other side of all the fear and anxiety I’m facing but there’s like a big ass wall that I can’t seem to climb no matter what and it’s killing me inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 11:01 PM
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We do have things in common. And I’m not trying to get friendzone im just trying make friends. I seen many online friendships turn into real life friendships. This is just another aveune I’m trying to take to get more comfortable being around and talking to/with women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:18 PM
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Yeah I feel you but somewhere in my mind that comes across as simping because her replies are already filled with other guys doing the same thing. Like yeah I’m more focusing on a friendship vibe but I still wanna stand out too
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:09 PM
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Most the people I’m considering don’t even live in the same state 😵‍💫 I just want to get more comfortable building friendships even if it’s online right now
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:05 PM
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This is so much easier with the bros 😭 most times the girls I follow either don’t post enough for me to do this, only really post pics or post about stuff ion really care to interact with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:01 PM
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Your right but I overthink literally everything if you haven’t noticed by now lmao. Like I’m sitting here thinking what should my first message even be. A casual hey wassup. Something straight forward like “hey we been following each other for a while and I’d like to know you more” but that can come off strong. Lotta my mutuals are into anime so I can go with the “what you’ve been watching lately” but idk
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:56 PM
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See this feels too strong 😭 this is like step 3 and I’m still on step 0
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:53 PM
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Most these people aren’t even in the same state. Tho it’s not uncommon for meetups to happen eventually if ppl get close enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:52 PM
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I know I should cause there’s nothing to lose (except a follower I guess) but there’s so many little fears. Like she probably has other guys DMing her or she can “expose” me for Dming her idk
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:47 PM
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How would you go about messaging women on social media(Twitter in this case). Not even on some shooting your shot shit but on some I just want to know you more kinda thing. We already follow each other but outside of that we barely interact. I always fear messaging women cause they could take it as shooting your shot (even if that might be the case sometimes)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:33 PM
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Oh I wanna visit Portugal, def in my top 5 countries I wanna see
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:24 PM
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I need to learn another language. Took Spanish in middle and high school so I remember some from that, and I live in nyc so lotta Hispanic/latinas baddies I can impress if I’m good enough But I also took a French course 2 years ago(I don’t remember much from it) cause I wanna travel Europe one day and I feel like French is a versatile language to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:10 PM
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Yeah tbh the most I learned was probably from my brothers and all they said really was use a condom
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:03 PM
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Did you guys have good sex education in school? Honestly thinking back I don’t think I did. I remember there’s was a a section of science class in 8th grade for like a month that was based on sex education but I remember it being alot more fear based, like talking about stds and stuff. Nothing since then really
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:58 PM
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Taking initiative is something I hope to do more of this year. Not just when it comes to starting conversation with people(I need to do this tho) but in all aspects of life. Saying fuk it and applying to internships and jobs, or doing more “solo” dates like going out to the movies alone or a restaurant alone instead of waiting for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:42 PM
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You’re right you can’t tell just on looks and what they post if they are a good match or not. Like from their post you can tell if we have similar interest or not sometimes. But there’s a part of the brain that doesn’t care lol Yeah I don’t have much going for so that’s why I don’t even really post on social media, my life right now is dull and boring. So these women probably wouldn’t even look at me. It’s weird cause they in my age range and they look like they have full and exciting lives whic…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:36 PM
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Bro you have no idea. One girl I saw on tiktok has like a nerdy side and a baddie side to her and we live in the same city. Had an internet crush on her for too long
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 02:55 PM
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When I was younger I had that phrase of following ig baddies thinking maybe one day I had a chance with them I eventually got over that but now I replaced it with keeping track occasionally of just normal baddies/very attractive women I see on tiktok or ig but don’t have super large followings. Which may be worse in a way 😵‍💫. Like I feel like if I level up I’d actually have a chance with some of these women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 02:50 PM
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Ball knower
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 02:45 PM
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Bet ima go find some Barnes and nobles to visit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:44 PM
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Yeah I’ll def look into it. I want to be around more ppl my age and tbh I never thought people still go to libraries like that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:33 PM
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My school is not in that type of location. Outside of the campus library and the nearby Starbucks that’s always packed. Maybe I’m wrong though and haven’t scouted the area enough
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:26 PM
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Yeah I think one of my mini goals this year is to become a regular somewhere but I got no clue where 😭 only place I can think of is my campus library but most my classes back to back and then I just go home
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:07 PM
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Well I rarely go to bookstores or libraries in general so I don’t even have the opportunities to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:02 PM
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Oh I’m aware. They can get ALOT of attention just because they like anime/manga. Then 10x that attention if they like to cosplay as well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:00 PM
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This my dream tbh. I don’t go to any bookstore often enough for this to happen to me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 02:54 PM
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I’m not going say I tried this but I have tried standing around in a section I like hoping a girl would come by and browse near me but that hasn’t happened yet
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 02:52 PM
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Sometimes my mom gives me advice about approaching women and she always thinks the library is the best place cause I’ll find someone similar to me(quiet, probably introverted) Granted I don’t go a lot but the few times I do I run into the same problems(headphones, they look busy) and I can’t bring myself to intervene
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 02:46 PM
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I never understood why some men would ghost after having sex with a woman once. If it was a hookup up thing I understand but taking the time to go on dates and stuff and only do it once seems…inefficient. Maybe this is just a Reddit thing? Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:42 PM
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I don’t know how many lonely Saturday nights I got in me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:07 AM
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Yeah it’s weird. Like I think their expecting you to not like them for the looks but to like them cause of the other stuff. Which I understand a little bit if everyone only appreciates you for your looks, idk it’s a weird dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:30 PM
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Yeah I left a comment there and the op gave me advice but I don’t think women understand or fully get that men don’t approach PEOPLE in general.(approach as in walk up to someone). I can’t think of a time I ever approached another man to start a convo or become friends with him, but if he was in my vicinity I’d talk with him
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:17 PM
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Y’all think with the rising prices of streaming services now we might return to psychical media, for movie/tv at least?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:13 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/xNQZKSPlV5 I feel sorry that this stuff happened to her but I feel like women don’t get the full touch deprived thing. It’s not so much of being touch deprived, it’s about wanting to feel desired. I can’t think of any way other then sex that as a man I can feel desired. On the other hand I can think of a couple things that can make a woman feel more desired(go on dating apps, posting a picture on social media) Of course I could be wrong also but it’s ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:05 PM
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Why are social skills in men seen as attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:45 PM
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I’m just going to research events and stuff cause I want to be more social this year. I spend way too much time at home doing nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:19 PM
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Figured…I’m not that guy sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:16 PM
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Any events where a large group of people gather I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:53 PM
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It’s common advice to go to events to meet people but honestly…does it work? I have a feeling that people go to events and talk with people they know are or came with and not the guy who comes alone. Basically I’m asking if anyone has experiences making real friends at events
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:49 PM
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Yea maybe not help subs but more subs for them to vent at least. Feels like there aren’t any for men which sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 03:04 PM
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Maybe I’m wrong but there seems to be more women help subs then their are for men. TwoX, women, girlssurvivalguide, black ladies etc Why aren’t their more for men? Or if they do exist their not as close to being as active
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:42 PM
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Yeah I was down bad (I still am but not that down) I’ll give it a try tho since I have nothing to lose tbh. Even without it there’s women everywhere here, just gotta get my anxiety under control
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:38 AM
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Bet 🫡. I tried snap before by just adding random women but none of them were local and convos usually just died. But your thing is just going to wear the heatmap is? And ya I have anxiety that’s why I’d prefer talking online first over walking up and talking to someone Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:25 AM
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I live in the biggest American city lol. I never thought about doing that Snapchat idea, might actually try that out. Wanna be more active in general on social media as well since I hear people make friends that way as well
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:17 AM
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Zero more or less. I’m trying to hit as many avenues of meeting people as possible. Starting with online since that should be the easiest. I have online friends already but non nearby
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:09 AM
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Well i made a big post listing things I liked so I’m assuming they have something in common with me if they joined
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 02:02 AM
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I tried to make a discord server with people from my city, got 20ish ppl to join from Reddit, but it’s fucking dead which was my worst fear I was always a believer that it’s easier to make friends in group settings rather than one on one convos online but maybe I was wrong. Feel like I need to do something quickly but I have no clue what to do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:59 AM
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Yeah that’s what I usually been doing. Sometimes it feels like I’m going two steps toward one step back and it gets annoying that I’m not progressing faster. Just gotta keep reminding myself that everyone grows differently
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:55 PM
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I actually did make a bucket list recently. But looking at it now it’s alot more bigger goals than smaller goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:53 PM
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Yeah a lot of the things I really want to get done are social stuff. Creating or joining social circles. Making friends to go out with etc. with me it starts with just talking more, since I’m a pretty quiet guy in general
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:50 PM
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Yeah you’re right I try to break it down to the smallest steps Like step 1 would be just talk more with men and women. Learn how to initiate convos etc but I always struggle with the first step due to anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:30 PM
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I live in nyc so probably
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:20 PM
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New year resolutions aren’t as easy to make up and stick to. Like I don’t want to make losing my virginity or going on a date a goal because that requires another person On the other hand I want to make it a goal to do something fun/out of my comfort zone once a month but I know me and know I’ll probably won’t stick to that I need a good in between medium
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:17 PM
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I wanted to ask this to women only at first but anyone can chime in, what’s considered dating success to you? Is it amount of dates? Something that leads to sex? Something that leads to a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:06 PM
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Yeah the thing is the imagination thing is weird to me cause like, I got nothing or no one to imagine. Idk I’ll figure something out trying to make next year my year
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 07:02 PM
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Yeah. Even myself I mainly watched it cause I have a high sex drive (I think) and I’m fucking lonely. I’m making it my goal to not watch anymore cause I noticed I have slightly less anxiety when I don’t watch it and I also notice many women complain about guys watching it, so I’m trying to just cut it out
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 06:55 PM
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Why are the affects on porn so bad on guys compared to women? And do women porn adjacent (erotica novels) also affect how women view men/relationships/sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 06:44 PM
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Telling other men to stop thinking about women 24/7 while I sit here and do the same thing >>>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 04:47 PM
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I don’t get that last line. I leave women alone and I’m still “suffering”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 04:39 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/blackladies/s/8mQ4mLm9bs Seeing post and comments like this be so demoralizing sometimes. Like no matter what I won’t be good enough to date
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:28 PM
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Thank you. That’s my goal for 2024. Less fear more action. Now I just gotta find these lonely women and rizz em up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:30 PM
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I wouldn’t say I’m needy since I don’t even try yet. Though I’m slowly learning that part of being an attractive man is social skills so I know I need to up my game on that. Right now I know i want to get experience; talking to women, going on dates/hanging out 1v1, kissing/making out/eventually sex. Just have a fear of actually trying and failing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:02 PM
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My mind understands dating is a numbers game but then I freak myself out that I gotta potentially talk to so many people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:41 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 09:31 PM
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Well how do you catch a fish if your not fishing. It sounds dumb when you say it out loud
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:15 PM
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I never understood the “don’t chase women” thing. Like in hs and early college my friends were chasing women and had success while I wasn’t chasing so by default had no success. So how the hell do you get women if you don’t chase? (Chase to me means approach, keeping the convo going, taking on dates/initiating hangouts etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 02:39 PM
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Ok well I never “chased” women and I have 0 experience at almost 25 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 02:32 PM
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Even on Christmas my family still finds a way to be dysfunctional I’m just tired of it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 12:56 AM
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Yeah same my shit is dead lol. Even if I do something interesting there are rarely any pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:47 PM
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Bet but then what’s after that? Do I just start mass following and hope a few people following back? Or do I send a message first then if they reply/we have a good convo then I follow? And I’m guessing my account needs to be unprivated as well
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:42 PM
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Yeah same. I’m active on Twitter but honestly I don’t know how to even shoot my shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:35 PM
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Yeah Reddit I’ve done it but on ig/Twitter I haven’t cause I honestly don’t even know how to find locals in my city on them. If I did I might try but my ig especially isn’t really all that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:30 PM
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What are y’all thoughts on shooting your shot on ig/Twitter/social media. It’s basically the modern day cold approach. Have y’all done it before? Guys have y’all had any success doing it? Ladies do you even answer random DMs?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 01:58 PM
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Yeah but it’s a commuter school so no dorms. And most people kind of treat classes like a job. They come in do the work and just leave and rarely talk with others
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:16 AM
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Basically I’m all asking for in my life right now, happy for you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:05 AM
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To the women who think it’s a problem/red flag, what is the solution for guys like this then? My issue is social anxiety based, not a creep not ugly etc. I just never put myself out there. Yea my social skills need work but they aren’t the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:43 PM
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Yep. One of my biggest regret was not using social media in hs. Now it’s super important but I’m basically a ghost in it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:20 PM
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Same tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:35 PM
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Why are we as humans addicted to waiting for the last minute to Christmas shop
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 03:12 PM
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Basically why women here would prefer to not date an older virgin. In hindsight they are legit reasons but like I feel it leaves older virgins stranded. Like we missed the boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:38 PM
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Nah it’s not that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:26 PM
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Looks like it got deleted
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:38 PM
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It was the top post here when I saw it and now it’s gone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:38 PM
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That sexually inexperience men post hitting me like a shotgun to the chest…damn
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 01:19 PM
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What’s the women equivalent to a man following a bunch of girls on social media who don’t follow him back?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:50 PM
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Yeah I feel you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:06 PM
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That’s actually very interesting tbh, I sorta knew women do it to but I have no idea to what extent
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:59 PM
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Yeah first step is the hardest for me tho, I’ve been trying to ease my way into it by joining online communities but idk not much has came from it. Thinking about starting my own but idk
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:59 PM
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Yeah and I feel like it’s worse as a guy with no experience. Cause sometimes I wonder if I’m good enough, or what I’m missing etc and it just becomes a whirlwind of thoughts I shouldn’t be having
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:30 PM
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I’m starting to dislike how much women are on my mind. Like there’s 0 women in my life but I’m still always thinking about them(maybe that’s the reason) Like I’m thinking about how to meet more, how to eventually date, I obviously think about sex. It’s just so much mental energy. I know some people say getting laid doesn’t really change you but for me I believe it will cause I’m the of person we’re if I could do something once I know I could do it again and won’t have to stress as much knowing I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:12 PM
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Why do you think some people fear change? Like me for example, I know I need to change if I want a social life that will lead to a dating life but actually taking those first steps are like the scariest thing imaginable in my head. Part of me feels like I’m scared of trying and failing but at the same time also scared of trying and succeeding
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:35 AM
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Not necessarily but because I never been in position to get women and lack of prior experiences it does feel hopeless sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:18 PM
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You get it. I’d probably be slightly more open if more women started convos with me but that’s rare. And most people in general nowadays are just more closed off
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:12 PM
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I hate as guy how “aggressive” I have to be when it comes to pursing women when I have the opposite personality.Doing a lot of the “heavy lifting” in the early parts(initiating, etc). Also probably going have to play the numbers game as well
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:56 PM
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No it will be I think but I think any first is usually more special even if it’s not in hindsight
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:16 PM
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Yeah like whenever it happens to me it’ll probably still be special, but just to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:06 PM
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I mean I always thought when I was younger it would be special to lose it to another virgin, experiencing something new for the first time together but now..yeah it’s whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:02 PM
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I could understand why some guys care but tbh after a certain age guys probably should give up on it. I’m a virgin but I’m like 95% sure when I lose it the girl won’t be one
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:53 PM
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Lmaoo I actually hip to both games even tho I don’t play em, might be the move
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:34 PM
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Yeah might try to find some of those discord servers but those are really hit and miss, especially cause it’s more guys than girls in em
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:03 PM
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I wouldn’t say I’m nervous talking with women online, maybe shooting my shot to initiate on social apps but here on Reddit not really. I won’t lie though i do get a little nervous if their looking for VCs cause I don’t have privacy at home
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:37 PM
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Idk about others but I have real bad anxiety from my childhood that kinda just carried on and gotten worse as I got older. That plus reading stories about girls just wanting to be left alone and from experience seeing girls rather just be left alone cause their always wearing headphones and stuff backs up what I’ve read. I personally feel more comfortable if they start the convo with me cause then I know they actually want to talk rather than me potentially making them uncomfortable even if that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:18 PM
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Yeah the few times I found someone it usually goes well for a little bit(a couple hours min to a couple days max) then it usually burns out. But actually finding someone is a hard with all the attention women usually get
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:09 PM
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You’re probably right I just gotta get over my fears of leaving my comfort zone. I keep trying to find shortcuts but that’s obviously not working
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:53 PM
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Oh yeah fasho I know I’ve talked to women online but I’m trying to have more 1on1 convos with women. Tbh I’m hoping to meet someone online who also lives in my city and wants to meet up, but that’s hard to pull off
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:48 PM
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Yeah your right, I think I tend to use experience cause I know if I can do it once I can do it again. But finding women online to socialize with one on one is…a interesting task in itself
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:39 PM
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It’s probably not productive but I’ve been trying to find women online to talk to(not dating apps) to build up whatever little experience I can get in speaking to women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:29 PM
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I’ve thought about complimenting a girl I sat next to on her outfit one day but idk I don’t want to come off to strong and just ended up not doing it. I also didn’t think I built enough rapport with her to say that even though in theory I don’t need that much to say that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:25 PM
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I partially get it but in social situations isn’t there always fear? The fear of making someone uncomfortable by mistake or stuff in that nature
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:22 PM
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There was a post yesterday about confidence in regards to men and I guess it’s gone now but I wanted this question answered. “What does confidence look like in a real situation though? Is it just being able to initiate conversations? Is it being able to then carry those convos?” Like what’s an example of a guy being confident in a social situation or with meeting women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:10 PM
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It’s kind of hard to know were I stand smv wise. Like I believe I’m good looking enough but I feel like I’m still missing something
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:11 PM
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I actually believe i follow and pass both rules
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:51 PM
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It’s actually starting convos that I struggle with. Walking up and saying legit anything. That plus never knowing if a girl even wants a guy to actually approach, whether it be a cold or warm approach
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:45 PM
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Being a late bloomer in terms of dating sucks man…like I’m at a point were I rather had a bad experience then having none at all. This plus a lot of FOMO plus my mind is always thinking about sex…it’s just a horrible combination of events…or lack of events
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:29 PM
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Hell I’d argue even average women could get a 1000 if they wanted without posting thirst traps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:47 PM
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Yeah honestly one of the best benefits of having clout
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:04 PM
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When you think about it it’s kind of insane how many beautiful(non famous people) have 10k plus followers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 02:51 PM
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Tell me about it…overthinking a killer
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:29 AM
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Same(my own experiences, or lack of experiences in my case)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:24 AM
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Yeah I figured, I don’t wanna say I’m the smartest guy ever but I’ve been thinking lately how being smart hasn’t exactly gotten me what I want due to lots of overthinking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:23 AM
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What do y’all think about those articles that say people with higher intelligence struggle when it comes to dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:16 AM
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Hope it works out for you homie
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:53 PM
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Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:54 PM
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Real, I don’t meet a lot of women either despite being in college. But I do get those short crushes if I see a pretty girl on the train or on campus that I never see again
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:45 PM
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Hmm for me it’s usually surface level stuff. I find her attractive, etc. like stuff you can notice without even talking to them tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:41 PM
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Do y’all still get crushes? Either irl or celebrity crushes?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:34 PM
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Yeah I know but sometimes I read it just to gain different perspective but honestly it just adds more anxiety to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 07:01 PM
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Another post on twox(my mistake) saying there’s a lack of quality men but is the bar really that low. Like I know I have the potential to be a “quality” guy but because I don’t have the confidence the other qualities that it seems women are looking for are basically invisible(I’m also invisible since I don’t put myself in situations to get women but alas)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 06:50 PM
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You just like me lol. I also wanna do it cause I feel like it’ll help me talk more in general which I struggle with
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:59 PM
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No clue yet I’m kinda just randomly brainstorming
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:45 PM
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Thanks you, yeah gotta find my niche before even thinking about starting I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:44 PM
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I’ve been thinking of starting a mini vlog/internet journal/lifestyle but I don’t have an interesting(or any) life 1. 2 from what I noticed it’s mostly women who get solid views from these type of videos compared to men. 3 I’m camera shy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:23 PM
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FOMO is probably one of the biggest issues I’m having. Not just dating wise but just life in general, I’m lacking life experiences I think I should have. And even though I’m going through life at my own pace it still doesn’t erase that feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 03:35 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/s/8TjkoT7NIb This thread so depressing but I can’t help but relate. Just in general I don’t see any fixes for this in the near future so it’ll just continue to get worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 04:49 PM
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I gotta take an 8am class next semester and my commute is 1:30.. im cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 08:17 PM
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Men loneliness shouldn’t be special I think many(especially) younger people overall are lonely. I personally think it gets more mainstream attention because the things I listed will mostly have a negative impact on society compared to women, since it appears that even if they are lonely most don’t let it affect their goals/day to day life. Not to mention the higher rate of self deletion from men compared to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:00 PM
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Sadly I’m probably one of those guys if not counting my online friends who I never met irl yet
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:55 PM
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I feel like when people talk about “men loneliness” they never really paint the full picture and make it mainly about dating. But things like less men going to college, less actually graduating from college, men dropping out of/not joining the workforce, etc all contribute to the bigger issue. Hell men loneliness is an issue to the bigger problems of society…we are cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:50 PM
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Hmm I think my mom knew but told him it won’t get serious unless he stopped for good which he did. Granted my mom ignored alot of red flags with my dad
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:17 PM
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Is it right to give a partner non negotiable in a relationship? For example that person smokes but you tell them if they want a relationship with you they have to quit 100% My mom did this to my dad and he did end up stopping(didn’t even know he smoked)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:03 PM
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Hard to tell were I stand tho. Like I’m not fat im skinnyish ,I’m tall, I’ll get occasional looks (I think? I usually doubt it). The handful of approaches I did nothing bad happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:09 PM
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Idk if I should focus on getting a date next year or focus on creating/joining a good social circle. And you would think getting one singular date would be easy and it probably is but I overthink everything and if getting a date is level 10 I’m probably at level 2/3
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:42 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Yeah I very much want to start casual and I’ve tried a dating app in the past but I got no matches and I live in nyc, so that kind of hurt my confidence so I just hopped off. Granted I probably didn’t have a good profile looking back it still hurt. I might give the online communities thing another try but most of them are already so established and big so new people have a hard time coming in and making friends(same in irl tbh, this is why I’d rather start my own community)
/r/ExRedPill03/12/23 02:51 PM
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No she wants me to go to my school library/cafe and if I notice someone approach them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:01 PM
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Even my mom is telling me to learn to approach women 😵‍💫
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:29 PM
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What does a healthy social life where you can consistently meet single people to expand your social circle and dating pool look like? What hobbies, what events etc
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:52 PM
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Yeah it was in regards to success with women cause you gotta talk to em first but I don’t even do that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 10:29 PM
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Closed mouths don’t get fed but damn do I have a hard time opening my mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 10:10 PM
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I was trying to make any type of eye contact first but she was not looking up from her phone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:50 PM
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Cute girl sitting near by id approach if I had more confidence and she wasn’t wearing headphones smh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:28 PM
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I didn’t say the word easier anywhere in my reply. I didn’t say anything about sleeping around. Yes women face their own issues and have their own struggles in regards to life and relationships, but so do men. And I don’t know anyone who said anything about being entitled to a bangmaid. But if you see people doing what you want to do(men or women) you will feel some type of way wondering why you can’t do it as well(perhaps anger wasn’t the right word). When I say harder I wasn’t necessarily comp…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 04:25 PM
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So I agree with you but I think the problem comes from when a guy wants to do the same thing, but can’t because it’s harder to achieve. And I think this is where a lot of the anger and resentment from men come from.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 02:50 PM
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It’s joever for me I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:39 PM
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Thank you for the reply. I think I’m pretty interesting and funny when people get to know me but because I’m rarely meeting people it never even gets that far. Nowadays it just seems like everyone has their guard up and it’s hard to enter their lives and vice versa(women especially)
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 09:11 PM
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But what if she does ask? Maybe I read too much social media but it seems women very much prefer someone with experience
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:24 PM
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Should I be lying or omitting the fact that I am virgin to women when I get to that point? Read a thread recently where the guy lied he wasn’t a virgin and somehow the girl found out and ended up not doing it with him Now obviously lying is wrong, but in this case lying and omitting are basically intertwined.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:13 PM
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Saw a comment on another sub saying men have to level up to keep up with what women want today, and like I slightly get it but level up from what to what? You always hear the bar is in hell for guys but then head things about needing to level up it’s all so confusing. It’s like men today are getting punished for what men of the past did
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 02:07 PM
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I need to increase the quantity of women…people in general I talk to. Like I could probably count on one hand the amount of…surface level conversations I’ve had with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:18 PM
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Idk about turned off but I’d think she’s outta my league
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:14 PM
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What sorta vibes? Is it the way they look, act, carry themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:14 PM
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That’s the thing though. Any girl I usually do talk to I talk to normally. I’d love to have deeper conversations with women and ask those questions but I I don’t know the steps in between meeting a women and getting to those deeper questions
/r/ExRedPill23/11/23 02:04 PM
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Yeah maybe I want “success” with women because it’s personally validation. I’m more or less 5+ years behind in experience compared to normal people when it comes to dating experiences. And idk how you got women don’t like me from my post. Women don’t even know me to have a chance to like or dislike me which is part of my problem And by success I don’t even mean sex. I mean just connecting with women on a level pass acquaintance which I never really had before. That’s why it’s hard to know what I…
/r/ExRedPill23/11/23 01:48 PM
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Just wanna find people with similar interest. So I like anime, movies ,music, etc so other people who also like those things
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 08:55 PM
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Tbh I wouldn’t mind starting my own lil group but run into the same problem of actually finding people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:50 PM
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Hmm I guess to me going to meetups can be hit or miss because you are unaware of the group dynamic. Like the people who previously know each other would be more likely to talk to each other rather than the new guy(this more or less happened to me when I tried to join a school club) It’s hard to break into already established groups
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:18 PM
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You used one of those r4r subs to meet them? But I do agree I rather meet people I talked to online rather than just randomly meet people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:42 PM
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Has anyone actually tried going to meet ups and has success actually meeting people? This advice is given often but idk part of me feels like it’s a waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:28 PM
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Approach to me means initiating conversations. That’s why in the other reply I was saying there isn’t a real difference to me between cold and warm approach since you have to start the convo as a man most of the time anyway Currently I’m not sure what I can offer a women. I have money saved up so I can def go on dates. I think I’m a good listener, I’m not ugly Your last question again…I’m not sure. It’s up to the other person if they think I’m cool enough to want to hang out with
/r/ExRedPill22/11/23 01:26 PM
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Yeah I guess. But I feel like I need to learn how to turn conversation into a friendship first before I even think about dating, but because I’m so behind on dating I’m trying to everything all at once
/r/ExRedPill22/11/23 03:33 AM
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I understand the concept difference between a warm and a cold approach but honestly it’s hard to grasp the difference. For example last week I had a chance to approach a girl I sat next to in one of my classes last semester. I guess this would count as a warm approach since we kinda talked here and there but not really friends. I ended up not doing it cause I didn’t have the confidence Another example would be a girl in my class this semester. I never talked to her before despite being in the sa…
/r/ExRedPill22/11/23 02:20 AM
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I feel like my issues will never be solved as long as I live in this dysfunctional household. Thought my childhood was pretty decent until recently. Now I know every problem I’m facing(anxiety, being quiet, low confidence,etc) comes from everything that happened(happening) at home
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:39 PM
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Sadly you are right. From my experience missing out caused me to be where I am today. Now I’m just trying to figure out how to fast track myself to get all that experience ASAP
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:18 PM
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Just saw a tiktok about a guy basically going above and beyond for a date with this girl and the girl basically ended the video saying he’s number one on the roster now Idk I feel like if I’d put that much effort and planning into a date I’d like to be the only person you are seeing but I guess that’s the way the game is played
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:16 PM
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I feel like I’m so close to figuring out this approaching women thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:24 PM
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Damn just blew a chance to approach a girl I sat next to in one of my classes last semester.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:57 PM
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It’s mostly my social anxiety but I really can’t get over actually approaching and initializing convos with women. The (2.5) times I did it nothing bad happened and nothing came out of it either but I remembered it took weeks of confidence to build up. It’s not that I fear rejection(I do) but alot of the fear comes from disturbing someone. Like I’m selfishly inserting myself into your life(or trying to)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 11:28 PM
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Bro I feel you. The girl had headphones on and it was on the train, a situation according to Reddit seems like a no fly zone and the guy still was able to get her number
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 11:09 PM
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Yeah it looks like the first step is the hardest but afterwards it becomes second natural almost
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 10:13 PM
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Basically flirting, looked like he got her number
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 10:11 PM
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Just seen a guy rizz up a girl on the train and honestly it looked easy for him. Wish i had that type of sauce
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 10:05 PM
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That’s a good perspective actually i should try to adapt that more
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 05:16 PM
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Kinda? It took me a lil longer to get it then usual. But I also never used it(?) to get a real job either so it’s kinda just something there I guess. One of the other replies kind of explained it in how it was like checking something off a checklist, like I was “suppose” to get it so it never felt like a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:45 PM
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I would say being smart is my biggest value(?). That along with pursing my bachelors, working out, and being not ugly(I hope). But how does any of this translate to being social settings/conversations is one of my humps
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:00 PM
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I def am suffering from lack of external validation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:52 PM
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If getting my associates suppose to give me confidence then? I did that and I still feel the same Or working towards my bachelors? Or something small like improving my style, I think I look good wearing these new fits but it doesn’t really translate to (sustained) improved confidence of self esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:39 PM
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What is suppose to give someone self confidence and self esteem? I understand to an extent why they are attractive qualities to have, but how do I know I have either. What accomplishments leads to having enough to be considered attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:23 PM
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Yeah it’s mainly social anxiety(from childhood traumas) and not being in enough social environments if I’d have to guess. Like I know as a guy I have to be the one to mostly approach but like most guys I don’t wanna come off creepy or too strong or bother the person or whatever. Like it really feels like a foreign concept to just walk up to a girl(or anyone tbh), chat with them for a bit and try to get their number/socials.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:46 PM
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It’s a mix of a lot of different reasons tbh. In high school I didn’t really use social media for anxiety and mental health reasons(like seeing my friend post a pic and get 50 likes and I’d post and only get 3 etc). So when high school and early college for me ended not having someone on social media is basically a fast track way to lose contact with people That and the people I did really vibed with move. Also I was always known as the quiet guy(still am tbh) and I feel like that may have stopp…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:38 PM
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I feel like the next year for me going be the most important in my life. Turning 25, no experience relationship wise, and I want to change that. And I’ve taken steps in the right direction but now I feel like I need to take bigger steps,especially socially. Need to try to build a social circle from scratch, need to learn to be more comfortable going out by myself, etc But my social anxiety is so good at holding me back and a reason my life been pretty stagnant for the last handful of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:22 PM
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Yep. My parents would always argue(still do) and they have no clue that it affected me so deeply and I can’t even open up about it cause they just wouldn’t get it. And I can relate to having a very high baseline of anxiety and overthinking. I’m not in a position in life right now where I can move either. So I’m trying go figure out how to fix all my issues while also still constantly dealing with them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 02:44 PM
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My childhood really set me back and it’s driving me crazy. Lots of verbal abuse(even to this day if I’m being honest) which led to social anxiety/me having a quiet personality(don’t like talking) which women usually don’t like in guys. That plus being an introvert already led to lack of self esteem/confidence(pretty sure women hate this in guys as well). Which led to avoidance of social situations and social isolation for me. And it sucks cause I feel like I have a decent enough hand to be a goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 02:07 PM
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So I’m a big anime/manga fan and last week the anime club at my school had a cosplay event or whatever but fuck man do they seem…uncool for lack of better words. The event took place in an open space and they were just blasting anime music and some of the people around were getting annoyed etc. I know I’m suppose to get out my comfort zone and meet people and meeting people with similar interest is a good start but idk if I’m judging some of these people too harshly or what but I can’t see mysel…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 02:56 PM
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Only thing I can think of is making eye contact a couple of times but I don’t put much stock into that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 01:02 PM
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So every Thursday I see this girl in the college cafe at around the same time. Sometimes it looks like she’s doing work and sometimes it looks like she’s doing nothing. I do think she cute but I don’t like her or have a crush on her. Is it acceptable to approach her and introduce myself/try to start a lil convo with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 12:58 PM
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Regarding that quiet men thread, what exactly do y’all mean by proper communication skills(I’ve seen this comment a few times) Like me for example I always been quiet(part due to social anxiety and part due to that’s just my personality). I have no relationship experience because surprise…I don’t really talk to people. But does that mean my communication skills are bad? Like if someone started a conversation with me I’d say I can carry myself well(asking following up questions, actively listenin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:31 PM
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No but I know I need to get a life
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 02:35 PM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 01:59 PM
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Hm I could see that. It’s Sunday morning and I still have that feeling a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 01:59 PM
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Wonder if there’s a reason why feelings of loneliness increase x50 on Saturdays (for me anyway). Like damn was I down about being alone doing nothing (like usual) wishing I had a partner to do literally anything with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 01:46 PM
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Yeah this me, never tried but for a variety of personal reasons (social anxiety, cptsd etc). Yeah I also complain despite never trying or read these forums looking for the shortcut to finding the confidence to actually try. Part of me thought it would just “happened” but that’s obviously not the case. I have to actually make it happen but also reading all these subs and seeing how the bar is on the floor but women also go through so much from men(catcalling, unwanted approaches etc) kinda just s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:05 PM
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Damn that’s me.(had anxiety regardless)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:33 PM
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My biggest regret is not using social media in school I think. Back then the reason I didn’t use it is cause I didn’t(still don’t) like taking pictures/posting pictures, posting what’s going on in my life, worrying that I’m not getting as many likes as other friends, seeing people similar age doing better than me in life. Etc This in term cost me to lose basically any connection I had which has me at step 1 right now. I understand now having a social circle is important to meeting women but I al…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:01 PM
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Oh fasho. Guess I just gotta get use to knowing that regardless it’s going to be awkward
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:05 PM
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Yeah I get you. My IG isn’t up to par so I never went the social media way. And I do have to learn to create those moments but idk something just hold me back. And yeah I know women don’t like being approach from what I’ve read so that’s why I have so a hard time trying to figure out how to meet women. Cause in my head even in “social” situations it’s still up to me as a guy to approach and start a convo with a women 8/10 times I think I’ll start doing the compliment thing just to get use to say…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:04 PM
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Agree but I’m in a stem major so my classes are majority guys and the few girls I see always comes exactly when class starts and leaves right away. No time to even introduce myself if I wanted. And the classes are pretty small (20ish people) so I feel like it’ll be awkward to walk up to one of the only girls in the class when I have no business to tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:57 PM
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Both I guess? I want experience dating and to get that I need to learn to talk to more women (people in general).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:27 PM
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Yeah I heard that before but knowing when a girl is in a good mood plus knowing exactly how attractive I am kinda leaves a lot up to chance lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:25 PM
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My school is weird since it’s a commuter school but I’ve tried a club but it wasn’t for me. Been busy this semester but I’ll look into other clubs again. I do see people in the cafe but again they always look busy or have headphones on so I don’t wanna bother them. I’ll also check out those speaking events
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:17 PM
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Probably but I feel like I have to fast track myself cause I’m so behind in terms of experience
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:13 PM
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I feel like I should start talking to one new woman a week to start getting experience but I run into the same problem of not knowing were to meet said women. I could approach on campus but literally 95% of women seem unapproachable (headphones, looks busy, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:58 PM
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Damn it’s over for me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:23 PM
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Yeah will do. I’ve actually thought about potentially uploading those videos to social media (YouTube tiktok) cause you never know if you can catch lightning in a bottle and blow up. But I feel that’ll take even more confidence to do but it’s just another idea I had
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:28 PM
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Thank you ! My new solution right now is to start recording myself talking to myself just to get use to talking. Then I’ll transition to talking with some online friends I have to build up a rapport of talking and talking with people. Hopefully that builds up enough to where it can translate irl. After that…well I still have to learn to approach and initiate convos but that’s a few steps ahead of where I am now
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:02 PM
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I agree but I honestly don’t think I look bad tbh. Hell sometimes it feels like I’m fasho above avg in looks. I got the height(6ft) and I got a skinny ish built and I’m working on adding muscle
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:53 PM
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Yea definitely it’s the most important step but I’m also having the hardest time even trying to attempt it.(possible childhood trauma) Like I could talk to people if they start convos with me but I rarely start convos and in group settings I tend to get even quieter. This mixed with some low(ish)confidence and self esteem you can see why I see it as s big hurdle
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:51 PM
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I wanna complain about being a virgin but I know it’s pointless since I’m not taking the most important first step(talking to people) All the other self improvement stuff I’ve done/doing doesn’t really matter…yet
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:41 PM
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I feel like this an ideal situation but even then I’d probably wouldn’t want to bother him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:19 PM
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Do you guys approach other men as you do women? For example you see a guy sitting alone and you just casually start a convo with him? I never done this because I have no need to so maybe that’s why I feel it’s awkward if I wanna do it with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:11 PM
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Yeah fasho. I find myself wanting to compliment women but like I said they usually have their guards up and for good reason. It’s really feels like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:04 PM
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Ah I try to avoid being aggressive cause I’m a guy and don’t want to scare anyone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:52 PM
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Idk if it’s just me but it feels like I’m rarely in those situations. Almost everyone walks around with headphones on and I just rather not disturb them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:35 PM
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Oh yea of course I’d glance if I notice but never stare. I just never found the right way to approach while also making her comfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:23 PM
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I’d say so cause I don’t just randomly say hi to people I see
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:12 PM
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Well you have to approach to get to say hi and potentially start a convo no?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:09 PM
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But if I approach won’t she thinks I’m only approaching because I like what I see? I can acknowledge her as a human but what if she just assumes that I only approach due to her looks/what she’s wearing/etc
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:53 PM
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Oh im not in situations where I’m making women uncomfortable, like you said it’s mostly just neutral. But I think the uncomfortable comes from me overthinking talking to a girl and I just end up not doing it because I don’t want to make her uncomfortable or make her feel like I’m bothering her etc
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:23 PM
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The only places I can see myself approaching right now is my commuter college or online. But the thing is to me it seems that most women I see on campus have a very closed off body language and just want to be left alone.(also majority I see are wearing headphones so that’s a no go) Even the few women in my classes(CS) they basically come to class right when the teacher starts talking then leave asap, or come in early and still have their headphones on. And I’d like to practice online but I don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:19 PM
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Yeah I’m just trying my best to improve in all areas of life. I even think I got some real potential cause I know I’m not ugly l, I got the height,I know if someone gets to know me they’ll probably like me(platonically at least) ,but i just overthink legit everything and it’s hard to get out of my own head
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:13 PM
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Hmm it’s not mainly just an online thing though. Some stuff is reinforced from irl as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:10 PM
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Hmm I see what you mean. I probably a similar problem but not to that extent, also social anxiety so I struggle starting convos with most people but if people start them with me I’m decent
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:09 PM
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How do you guys get over the fact that a lot of women(so it appears) feel wary by default around guys. Like no matter if it’s a social or non social setting there’s always some level of fear. (Reading this sub/the dating subs/twox doesn’t help lol) Like I feel like I’m a normal guy but because of all those fears I don’t approach or initiate anything with women despite men having to do that 90% of the time. And I feel like saying one wrong thing gets you put in the (creepy/bad guy) category. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:53 PM
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Honestly never been to a club (social anxiety plus don’t want to go alone) but honesty I might just throw myself out there in the deep end and see what happens soon
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:24 PM
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Yeah I was going add that I also have a skinnyish frame (especially arms) but I’m tall(6ft) but I don’t think any of that really matters before actually talking to people
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:22 PM
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I’m self improving but I don’t feel like I’m actually making seeable progress if that makes sense, though it’s probably my fault at the same time. I realized my social anxiety most likely stemmed from childhood “trauma” and that’s why it’s difficult for me to talk/start convos with people(I’m not a mute but I don’t go out my way to talk to people, tho it seems like most people don’t nowadays but that’s a whole other story) and obviously when it comes to women you gotta initiate the convo as a gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:05 PM
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I haven’t given up per say but I’m scared to start as a 24m. Lack of experience along with social anxiety and possibly some cptsd are the reasons I want to try cause I think I’d make a good partner but I also don’t have a lot going on for me yet, it’s weird
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:30 PM
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Lol meant school clubs. I joined one last semester and the people there were cool but it didn’t really get me out my comfort zone. Going to look for another school club this semester
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:22 PM
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I’m still struggling trying to approach women(people in general I guess) new semester started and same problems. I’d see a girl sitting alone but it’s impossible to even attempt to approach because most women are wearing headphones/ don’t want to be bother. Not many women in any of my classes but the few that are basically do the same thing and only take their headphones off when the teacher starts talking and right back on when he stops. (Commuter school btw so no dorms) Going to look into club…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:15 PM
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I hate that as a young black guy it just never clicked for me. I know it’s mostly a confidence/anxiety issue and I just can get over the hump. I’m 6ft and got skinny ish muscular built but just the actual approaching and talking part I’m ass at
/r/seduction13/08/23 02:43 PM
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Your right but from the outside looking in I shouldn’t be struggling. 6ft tall skinny ish muscle built(working out), I don’t think I’m ugly but I’m not sure exactly how good looking I am. Live in nyc so no storage of women But I’m an introvert with social anxiety and some childhood trauma and I’m not really a social person and this is my main problem I believe
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:34 PM
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I get that and I am doing it(maybe slowly but doing it nonetheless) but does every relationship have to be meaningful? I’m only 24 and I’m not really looking for the one. I just want to have fun like other people in my age range
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 02:10 PM
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I’m not saying any of this is wrong but it feels like it’ll take years to do all of this and by time I’m actually “ready” I’ll still have no experience with women to actually know what I’m doing. Do I really have to throw away my youth
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 01:26 PM
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How as a guy do I know if I’m attractive(look wise) or not. I feel like I am but lack of confidence,self esteem and external validation I question it sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:56 PM
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Of course I don’t want to wait any longer to start my life lol I’ve been reading these types of subs for years without much improvement(socially anyway). And my social skills aren’t as bad as I think I just don’t have many opportunities to showcase them due to my anxiety and not making the first move to start a conversation Currently I’ve been searching for groups online that also meet in person, or events I could go to to potentially meet people. I know I have to leave my bubble but that’s prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:41 PM
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Therapy is not an option at the current moment but it should be soon-ish. I live uptown and my school is in Brooklyn so it’s already a hour plus commute, I only got a couple semesters left so ima just tough it out. I do prefer being more in the “city” though Still going to live at home until I can complete my degree at least. I do have a part time job but I don’t have to leave the house to do it which isn’t good for my situation lol. Again, I do know I have to open up more avenues and meet peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:13 PM
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I can’t speak for everyone but I’ll speak for myself. I’m 24 and I def think the reason for my lack of dating life is lack of social life(nonexistent) and not having the confidence to actually shoot my shot. But making friends seem very hard nowadays(again in my experience) I live in nyc and go to a commuter college. People treat college like a job here basically, just come in and go after class is over. I joined a club and nothing came out of it. Granted I have social anxiety as well but I’m st…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:47 PM
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I get this but something with me still hasn’t clicked. Like I’m always thinking why would she want some random guy talking to her. And deep down especially if she’s attractive she probably knows I also find her attractive and that’ll be off putting to her Plus not knowing what to say is another reason
/r/seduction31/05/23 01:27 AM
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I just said it in another reply all the school orgs/clubs meet at the same time once a week. I’m going to try and join a different one next semester but I’m not going have my hopes high of meeting anyone. Like I said most people here are kind of just doing their own thing so it’s hard to connect
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:58 PM
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My school is kind of stupid cause all the clubs all happen at the same time, but yeah next semester I’m going to try different ones and see what happens At the moment no, I do have a online friend who lives near by and we planning to meet up soon so maybe that’ll change
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:48 PM
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Yeah I have social anxiety but like I said it’s not a normal college experience due to it being a commuter school, so no dorms to just meet or see people doing shit. And it’s still nyc so I’m very cautious about taking the trains late at night alone, I could Uber but that’s an extra 50-80 dollars depending how far in the city I want to go
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:47 PM
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I’m still struggling with putting myself out there. 24m I’d like to think I have potential to be slightly above average in terms of looks, 6ft tall, slim build but I’m working on adding muscle, my social skills(which I realize is the most important aspect in all of this) are decent if someone starts a convo with me, but I rarely start a convo myself since I feel like I’ll be bothering the other person. But that stuff aside where do I even go to meet people my age? I’m still in college but it’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 12:27 PM
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Appreciate the advice brodie
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:12 PM
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I see what you mean but it’s kind of hard to spin my situation positively I guess. Yeah all the things you listed are positive but I just want to have a normal experience if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:46 PM
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Yeah I figured, this probably the most solid answer. I have tried to fix it on my own but more often then not I find myself taking a step forward then a step back.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:43 PM
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How do I not let being virgin(m24) eat away at me. It’s mostly my fault since i never put myself out there or even asked out anyone(anxiety) but still..this feeling isn’t a good feeling lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:24 PM
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Yeah trying is the hardest part for me because I’ve been so content with my life prior that..sounds silly but I don’t know how to try. Or when I think I’m trying it’s like I’m not trying hard enough it’s a weird cycle I’m looking to break
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 11:22 PM
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TBH i know I shouldn’t be reading these subs(this, the dating subs, etc) but I keep coming back to them lol. Part of me is hoping to find that one piece of advice that’ll kick start my social/dating life but obviously that doesn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 11:16 PM
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23m here. I don’t think I’m ugly but it’s probably because of my social skills (I’m the quiet introverted guy), not putting myself out there and just recently not knowing how to even show interest in a girl even if I did have the chance to show interest. Also lack of confidence and self esteem probably
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:21 PM
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Well it’s not just social media for me. Girls my age 20-24 just seem infinitely more mature than me from what I’ve seen
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:28 AM
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One of my(many) problems is that I don’t feel my age/feel like I’ve done enough for my age(23). I have a cousin who’s a year older then me and she just brought a house while I’m still struggling to get my bachelors. Or seeing girls on social media traveling or just having fun and I’m stuck in my room 98% of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:11 AM
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Sadly this is my biggest weakness as a man. I’ve complained about having no luck with women but the truth is I never even tried fr outside a month on bumble were I had subpar pics and bio. I want to date and lose my virginity (literally on my mind all the time) but I know I should take a step back and build friendships but nowadays…that’s probably harder to do from scratch then to find a girl to date
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:02 PM
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Honestly I’ve been on these subs for about 4ish years and I’ve barely made any improvements(Covid took 2 years away but still). The most I’ve done was introduce myself to a girl in my class who I saw outside of class and had like a 2 minute convo with her and got her ig. She never showed up to class again lol. Think most guys are looking for an easy fix and it doesn’t exist(sadly). This year I started doing more exercise(I’m skinny but trying to get more muscle) and I joined a school club to try…
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:15 PM
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1, saw her near my school asked if she went there she said kinda but not really I asked what class she takes and she ignored me and kept walking Big win for me just talking to her but that was a week ago and i haven’t talked to anyone since lol
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:35 PM
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Damn the first 2 are def me and it sucks realizing it so late(23) and trying to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:35 AM
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Thank you for the advice. I think in my head because I feel behind socially and relationship wise i end up putting more pressure on myself to make sure every interaction I have is a home run and end up freaking out and not doing anything at all. Def gotta just break it down to the basics and not expect much, but it’s easier said then done
/r/seduction30/09/22 04:15 PM
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So basically the things that should make confident don’t really matter? But the act of doing things is confidence?
/r/seduction30/09/22 01:03 PM
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No I think my anxiety has me avoiding jobs. I know i need one but I’ve been looking for online stuff more even though I know I could get a fast food one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:38 PM
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Same I feel like I was finally ready to take that step right before lockdowns and I’m just now slowly gaining some momentum(not in dating but life in general I guess)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:34 PM
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I feel you, I’ve heard being the quiet/mysterious guy thing can work but I’m just never in any positions to actually have a chance(again, mostly my fault since I don’t really do anything social besides going to school, and even then it seems like no one wants to talk here either) Def need to portray more confidence and your right I don’t need a reason but having a reason makes it easier I would think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:22 PM
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It’s hard to not feel like a loser sometimes having no success with women even though my lack of success is because of me and not putting myself out there. But I’ve been the “quiet guy” for so long that it’s hard to just flip the switch and start conversing with anyone. I know it’s probably a confidence issue but I have no prior experiences to pull confidence from so it’s like an endless loop in my head Just venting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:02 PM
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Being social is unironically my problem I think. For most my life I was able to cruise by being the quiet kid/guy and now I realized I probably should’ve been more social back then. And now that I’m trying to be more social it almost feels foreign
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:55 AM
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Guess I need to find a place to become a regular at. I’m in school but because of the type of school it is it’s very hard to make friends, plus everyone doesn’t talk
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:50 AM
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How does one go about creating a social circle from scratch
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:40 AM
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Reading women only subs is kind of eye opening, it feels like women have a list of reasons to not trust men. On the flip side it makes me not want to approach(I don’t already but still) or even interact with women(Exaggerated) just cause I don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable or think negatively of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:22 PM
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So how do I stop being lonely. I don’t go out a lot but the few times I do most people are in groups already. Approaching doesn’t seem to be an option considering 90% of people wear headphones nowadays. I’m introverted and have social anxiety but it feels like I have to be the one to force conversations cause no one likes to talk anymore. I know I need to get my muscle and money up but trying to just improve my social skills seem like a challenge
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:08 PM
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This is the hardest part to get over in my head. I’m more on the skinny side but if I go to the gym and gain muscle and start getting attention ima feel weird cause deep down I’m still the same person, I just look al lil different now
/r/seduction06/08/22 03:11 PM
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You know the answer already man I don’t know why you need people on the internet to confirm it for you
/r/seduction05/08/22 06:54 PM
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Yeah I’m just overthinking lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 12:50 PM
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How does one not feel jaded after going from no success with women to having success? Like if all of a sudden I get attention from women after getting a six pack but I’m really the same person prior to the 6 pack how is that suppose to make me feel? I get that I’d be more attractive but deep down I’d be the same person and it just feel superficial Or maybe I’m just overthinking it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 12:43 PM
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My thing is if women have all these options, how am I suppose to stand out
/r/seduction20/07/22 11:47 AM
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Yeah I feel like the last few years I’ve been looking for the easy fix but i don’t think it exist. I do want to try conventions but i don’t know if it’s an acceptable place to try and meet women. People usually go to those things just to enjoy themselves and not get hit on/flirted with from my understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 02:12 PM
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How do I actually go about meeting more people(women in general)? I just feel like the older I get the more unlikely people are trying to find and create new relationships. The thought of starting a random convo and it actually turning into something real nowadays seems like a foreign concept. I’m from nyc, m23, nerdy hobbies/interest(would like to meet people with similar interest but these people are usually online and actually finding them locally is hard). I’ve tried one dating app(bumble) t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 01:55 PM
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Ah fr? Ima try the others and see how it is
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 04:49 PM
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Funny enough I was told not to put my height in my bio since a it’s already on my profile, might just add it back
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:53 PM
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Just made a bumble last night, but I’m not sure my profile really stands out lol. My bio is 2 lines cause I don’t know what to put there and didn’t want to repeat things I had in my activities , my prompts aren’t really that interesting either and I only gotten 3 likes in about…10 hours I guess living in nyc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:32 PM
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So what’s the mindset I should have while dating then? Should I be trying to be friends with the girl on the date in hopes she has other friends? What if I want her(the girl I’m on a date with)
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:14 PM
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Yeah the pressure comes from yourself but it also comes from your environment. Like me for instant, I seen people get sexual with each other since middle school. Like yeah I wasn’t ready for that at the time but it adds to the fact that so many guys feel “behind” in life cause they didn’t experience anything at what looks like a normal age
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:24 PM
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Nerdy stuff like manga/anime, movies, coding, exploring places in my city I have t been to before…stuff like that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:21 PM
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How to go about dating for the first time? Like where should I consider taking girls, how to go about escalating, etc 23M
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:11 PM
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It’s weird cause girls can make stuff like that their personalities and still have guys after them but a guy making that his personality is seen as weird
/r/seduction08/06/22 01:42 AM
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Well what do you do if she wants more(exclusivity, relationship)
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:26 PM
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Also wondering from nyc, everyone either doesn’t want to be bother or has headphones on.
/r/seduction03/06/22 03:05 AM
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Yep 😭 I got 3 good pictures I’ll use, but I’m trying to get a 4th
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 06:09 PM
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Man this post is basically about me. At zero socially due to transferring to a new school then covid happened. Even then people here don’t really talk to each other so sometimes I wonder if it’s just me or if everyone is like this. Of course I want to date and I plan to try OLD but man I feel like the cards already stacked against me and it’s going be hard to overcome it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 05:23 PM
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Just curious, judging from your post history you seem kind of similar to me(thinking about getting laid all the time). I can’t really give any advice but all I’ll say is just keep improving and eventually it’ll click. Keep putting yourself out there(that includes posting pictures online) But go at your own pace so you don’t get overwhelmed
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:56 PM
2

I got a question do you actually have any success when it comes to women?
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:41 PM
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I got feelings for a girl I never even met before
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:03 AM
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Well I think that’s why people gravitate to this sub in the first place. We want to be a top option to these women despite them having so many options nowadays
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:18 PM
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Man I live in nyc but I’m just scared/nervous I won’t get a lot of matches/dates due to the pool of successful men here lol I’m planning to throw myself in the fire once I get some good pictures and finish models but even then I still have a lot of doubts
/r/seduction06/04/22 06:54 PM
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Dude living the dream lol
/r/seduction03/04/22 09:53 PM
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Nyc, but it’s a CC so a lot of ppl don’t really come here to make friends or whatever, just come to class and go about their day
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:33 PM
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Nope I moved to a new school the same year Covid happened and this my last semester here. I should be going to another school in the fall. But yeah I basically never had a chance to create anything social here
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 12:48 PM
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I guess talking with women/trying to get dates I’d the main one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:01 AM
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I’ve been reading self help(in regards to women,self improvement etc) stuff for a couple years but putting it into practice is the hardest thing ever. Any advice on how to make it easier/get over that hump
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:44 AM
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How do you create sexual tension on a coffee/walk date
/r/seduction28/03/22 06:34 PM
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Yep lack of confidence and putting myself out there are hopefully my main problems. When I get good pictures of myself I wanna try dating apps and just try to get low effort dates (meeting for coffee, going to the park etc) and then go from there. Hopefully my plan works lol
/r/seduction27/03/22 12:22 AM
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I get you but it’s hard for someone like me to just flip the switch when I never really done it before
/r/seduction27/03/22 12:03 AM
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Ah so your kinda like the complete opposite of me lol. I rarely go out and im pretty quiet around people and just don’t talk to much people in general so I’m my situation I guess it feels like I have to chase to get somewhere
/r/seduction26/03/22 11:58 PM
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I mean what about someone like me then? He out there putting himself out there and chasing while I’m not putting myself out there. What’s the middle ground
/r/seduction26/03/22 11:38 PM
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I’ll keep your post in mind thank you
/r/seduction22/03/22 07:07 PM
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Man you really have to play this game to be attractive…it just seems like so much work. I never dated but I feel like I’d be the “nice guy” in your scenario and it sucks knowing that I’d probably won’t be seen as “exciting”
/r/seduction22/03/22 06:55 PM
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Thanks for this. I’ve been on this sub for a couple years and still haven’t made many improvements. Def will read this and your last post and hopefully put everything into practice( this is the hardest part for me, actually doing it)
/r/seduction04/03/22 02:06 PM
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The more I read stuff here the more I feel like I’m fucked lol. I’m an introvert, I got social anxiety, I’m quiet, I rarely go out etc. I’m 23 and I feel like I already missed the best chances to socialize(or learn to I guess) I don’t think I’m ugly, I’m 6ft tall, I’m working towards a degree in tech so hopefully a good paying job as well but none of this will matter in trying get women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 04:20 PM
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People always say go out but where? Only place I’m around women is one of my classes(the others are mostly guys). I’m not just going to randomly start going to nightclub/bars cause that’s just not my thing at this point in life. The only thing I could think of is using OLD but I need..funny enough, confidence to even put myself on there(plus decent pics of myself)
/r/seduction28/02/22 01:34 AM
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So how do I get rid of being that nervous loser and get confidence? Out of all those things you listed I’d say I only really have the the first one
/r/seduction28/02/22 12:42 AM
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So how do I get confidence?
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:02 PM
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Why don’t you call it a date?
/r/seduction24/02/22 02:35 PM
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Why is that I have to live an exciting life while many woman can be just as lazy and still be a catch. I’m not trying to complain even though I am but damn lol
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:18 PM
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The more I read this stuff the more I feel like I’m fucked man. I want to be a guy who gets multiple girls/have the option too but I’m not a “bad” boy. I don’t have the confidence or the looks. I’m pretty quiet 99% of the time so I’m not just going say some outlandish shit. I don’t want to call myself a nice guy but I def think I’m a good guy(or try to be)
/r/seduction15/02/22 02:07 PM
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Mine is just muster up enough courage to download dating apps and go on a date
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:15 PM
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I’m basically in op situation but these comments aren’t very helpful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 03:05 PM
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What’s the secret
/r/seduction25/12/21 12:08 AM
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Mostly the first one, but at my age(22) and not having any success before I feel like it’s expected that I have some sort of experience already but don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:10 AM
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I’m not sure where else to post this but it’s just a random thought, but as a guy who hasn’t had any success with women(due to not trying/scared to try) how do I not let it effect my daily thoughts (which it does)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:00 PM
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Thank you and one more question if you don’t mind Similar to OP I have no experience at 22 because I legit just never put myself out there. How do I even start when I’m not even around people(classes online) should I get on apps and learn to talk to girls before asking them out?
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:53 PM
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What kind of dates should a guy with no experience consider doing?
/r/seduction19/10/21 06:08 PM
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Got this a lot myself and I never know what to say or how to navigate it
/r/seduction21/09/21 08:48 PM
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So as Introvert I’m basically fucked dating wise...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:30 PM
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22 here who hasn’t even put himself out there. I’ve been told I’m cute/handsome a couple times but not enough to really boost my confidence I want to try apps but I don’t have enough good pictures one and two I wouldn’t even know how to carry a convo to eventually lead it to a date And speaking off dates I don’t go out very much so just going out and potentially meet people is another set of anxiety
/r/seduction19/09/21 07:07 PM
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Not op but for me I’m 22 and never tried but have similar feelings as op
/r/seduction12/09/21 01:31 PM
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Surprised isn’t exactly the right word since I always knew but actually being 1 of many men trying to stand out is interesting and why I personally never even bothered trying in the first place Of course this is Reddit and not having a irl pic makes it 100x harder lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:26 PM
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Redditors looking for other redditors to talk to, either people looking for friends, relationships, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:37 PM
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I’ve been hanging around those r4r subs recently (weird way for me to get confidence) and man does it show me how dating apps probably are. So many guys just messaging girls hoping she replies. Not only that post made my girls are usually the ones that are upvoted. A girl posted she was looking to lose her virginity and got 500 messages, I did the same and got maybe one who was trying to “sell” a hookup This just a small rant I guess and I just felt the need to post this somewhere lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:25 PM
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Appreciate it man, maybe even add how to handle online dating as well
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:52 PM
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Hey man can you make a post about nyc game or something? 22M lived here my whole life but don’t really know how to navigate the scenes
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:47 PM
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A mix of anxiety, low self esteem and confidence. Maybe even lack of experience at my age (22) where it seems a lot of guys and girls have some I’m just scared to put myself out there even though I want to be. Afraid to use dating apps cause I’m being judge on mostly on looks, don’t approach irl cause I’m rarely outside anyway plus I don’t want to be seen as a creep. Not to mention I’m pretty quiet and introverted by nature It’s just weird for me man
/r/seduction30/07/21 01:10 PM
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Anyone have advice for a quiet/introverted/nerdy guy. Everytime I try to put myself out there it feels like a mental block is stopping me. I don’t think I’m ugly but I do have some confidence/self esteem issues(too afraid to even post pictures of myself online) I’m have a regular body(not buff, not fat and not too skinny)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:30 PM
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Ah that makes sense. Can’t you do the same thing with tinder dates too to make her comfortable? Meeting up in public before going straight to a place to hook up?
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:32 PM
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Can you explain why?
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:22 PM
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Ok so as a person who lives with my parents and also not a nightlife person what do I do. In my head I’ve been planning coffee dates as a first dates then maybe walk around whatever area
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:22 PM
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See as someone who’s never dated it’s hard to see myself being so..aggressive? especially with someone I just getting to know? Like am I suppose to just casually touch her knee or thigh or something? Or walking grab her ass? How does that work
/r/seduction29/06/21 09:09 PM
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I get that you always gotta pay somehow to get sex but I don’t wanna do a straight up transaction of money simply for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 08:39 PM
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Oh I get you bro. When I say connection I don’t mean anything super deep, I just want it to be with someone who at least finds me attractive and not cause I had to give her money. Also what’s smp?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 07:56 PM
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Trust me man I do wanna get it over with but paying to lose it will feel like a cheated experience that I don’t want to go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 07:36 PM
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Well outright paying I’d probably be uncomfortable and nervous around her. If I know the person already there is already at least mutual feeling and can be more comfortable. Not sure what your trying to figure out with these questions
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 07:20 PM
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Well yes but I rather not outright pay for it. Would rather have somewhat a connection to the person I’m having sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:58 PM
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I rather not pay for it, that would make it feel too transactional and wouldn’t help me improve on skills I actually need imo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:42 PM
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Neurotypcial?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:26 PM
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Idk what made you jump to that conclusion, but no I’m not on the spectrum. I never said anything about not having friendships in my life all I said was I currently don’t have any friends now. I’m an introvert so if I don’t reach out people usually don’t reach out to me and that’s how most my friendships have died down if I don’t see that person everyday I just prefer to be alone and enjoy my own company
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:01 PM
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I don’t drink or smoke currently and want to learn to speak and get with women without alcohol in my system
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 02:41 PM
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I do actually live in a big city, but I’m ashamed to say I don’t really go out much unless I have someplace to go. I don’t have any friends to wingman or go out with I’m not sure exactly how attractive/unattractive I am, I don’t plan to spend money on OLD(do people have to?)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 02:22 PM
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How to not give off friend vibes on a first date then?
/r/seduction26/06/21 02:00 PM
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Not sure if this is the right place to ask but does anyone have advice on how to start dating as a M22 year old with no experience? I want to start using dating apps but I’m not confident in the few good pictures I have, even then I don’t really know how to flirt through text(or in person for that matter). Plus I’m an introvert/quiet person by nature so I don’t even like to talk a lot. I know it shouldn’t be my overall goal but I do want to lose my virginity so I can stop thinking about sex all …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 01:36 PM
1

That’s not necessarily a bad thing since most SAO storylines were tied up by then or used in alicization (the evil guild leader being one of the villains)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:10 AM
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Tbh I think alicezation is peak SAO everything(feels, tension, entertainment) 50 episodes of great buildup and delivery
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:59 AM
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Is dating really so...superficial? Posting what I’m doing ok social media to make her jealous in hopes she wants to finally go out with me?
/r/seduction01/06/21 03:35 AM
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Thank you man, hopefully I get some good pictures soon and try to get dates through online dating and getting out there and gaining experience 🙏
/r/seduction07/05/21 07:26 PM
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I would def say my goal would be to get as much experience as I can get right now. As I am now I doubt I can close on a first date(but I also don’t know if that’s easy to do or not) but I do want to lose my virginity at the very least. So you recommend sticking to basic dates? Meeting for coffee/going to park kind of stuff at first to gain experience?
/r/seduction07/05/21 03:42 PM
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Hey man can you give more advice on how to date in NYC? I’m 22 and want to start dating but have no clue how to go about it. In my head I plan to use dating apps and meet girls somewhere downtown for a date(coffee or something) but I live uptown and with my parents so coming back to my place is out of the question right now
/r/seduction07/05/21 01:07 PM
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Man you’re probably right but with me I just overthink everything that it’s hard to just “go with the flow” I’m a quiet person by nature so I’m not that good with small talk, I don’t put myself out there enough but I also don’t know how to...it’s just a lot
/r/seduction04/05/21 01:50 PM
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I’ve been lifting 15 lb dumbbells at home for a couple months now and they still feel kinda heavy at times? Aren’t they suppose to feel lighter when I do it consistently? Am I not doing enough reps?
/r/askTRP29/04/21 06:55 PM
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Yeah a lot of comments got it. For example me, I’m 22, never had a gf or even expressed interest in a girl to her. But it’s like everything you see online women have high standards or talking to multiple people I wonder how I can even stand out( not to mention I’m an introvert/quiet person) So yeah it’s like why even bother playing the game. Don’t want to seem like a creep or a simp by showing I’m interested in a girl.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 06:59 PM
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Flirt how? What am I suppose to say/do
/r/seduction26/03/21 11:10 PM
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No
/r/seduction16/02/21 08:37 PM
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So if I’m on a date and we’re both sitting there quietly I shouldn’t say anything? Just let the silence build up?
/r/seduction16/02/21 12:58 AM
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I’m 22 and haven’t started dating yet but I feel this can be one of my problems. Like I know I’m a good person but how do you display that while also not being boring?
/r/seduction02/02/21 03:38 AM
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This is something I myself have to work on. Even my mom gets mad at me cause I don’t talk enough. Sometimes I just find it pointless to fill in the quiet blanks if you know what I mean. Any other advice you can give?
/r/askTRP09/01/21 03:19 PM
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Why would OP want her back if she was messing with other guys tho? Even if it’s just to fuck
/r/askTRP02/01/21 12:02 AM
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This post is basically me. I’m 21 and want to have sex but I never talk to girls/dated before. I planned to start this year but corona kinda got in the way. All the advice in the comments been great but if anyone can give me advice on how to actually start that’d be great
/r/seduction05/10/20 03:06 PM
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Same man, can’t make friends in a online class and can’t learn to talk to girls the same way either
/r/seduction24/08/20 02:23 PM
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Reading models now and I hope he eventually explains how to do this and if it can work for me
/r/seduction28/07/20 09:01 PM
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The funny thing is I originally planned to start using dating apps around my college to start to gain experience before all the corna stuff happened. Now I feel like I should wait until things cool down cause if I’m lucky enough to get a date I don’t even know where I’d take her since I’m being cautious of the virus myself.
/r/seduction27/07/20 03:45 PM
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Man it’s hard not too when you never had any I guess. I just started reading models so hopefully it can help me like it helped OP
/r/seduction27/07/20 02:40 PM
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Proud of you man. I’m 21 and haven’t started dating yet but stories like this make me excited to one day experience and post about my own
/r/seduction27/07/20 01:30 PM
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If you don’t mind me asking what do the dates consist of? What leads to the sex? Were they al one date then sex or multiple dates?
/r/seduction17/07/20 01:23 PM
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Talk about what tho??
/r/seduction16/07/20 12:38 PM
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Plan to make at least one friend when the next semester starts and we’re back on campus
/r/askTRP22/06/20 07:31 PM
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Definitely trying to improve myself no matter how small it may seem. On meeting girls I’m not sure how right now, city is just reopening and the only place I would know would be my school but that’s not til September
/r/askTRP22/06/20 07:28 PM
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I just assume if people wear headphones they don’t want to be bothered. Don’t want to approach and disturb someone feel me
/r/seduction12/05/20 02:49 AM
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I was going try online dating but cause of corna it doesn’t even make sense to do so right now imo. I live and go to school in NYC too so there’s plenty of pretty girls on campus but I never approached. Everyone either looks busy or got headphones in. My plan was to probably match with someone who goes to my school and take them to the coffee shop or get pizza together. Then just walk around getting to know each other
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:01 PM
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To piggy back of the top comment, I’m a 21 M virgin but it’s more frustrating then anything. I don’t think I’m ugly but I’m very quiet so I never approached or let my feelings known towards a girl. I got a skinny built, but I’m probably stronger then I look(can do 100 push-ups without stopping if that means anything) Been on this sub for a few years but I’ve yet to take that very first step. I was planning to do something this year but due to the corna virus the likely hold of that happen is sli…
/r/seduction11/05/20 03:35 PM
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Honestly needed this man, thank you. I often overthink everything but a simple good morning is manageable
/r/seduction01/05/20 02:19 PM
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This is def me, I never tried putting myself out there so when I actually wanted to I just felt weird trying to do it
/r/seduction30/04/20 01:37 PM
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You really got laid by asking what’s 9 times 4? What did you talk about on your walk? Was you touching her(like hand around her shoulder) on the walk? I’m just curious cause I’m still trying learn to talk to girls myself and sometimes it feels like I wouldn’t be able to hold a conversation n
/r/seduction23/04/20 02:33 AM
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Is it possible to sleep with the friend once and still be friends? I feel like I know the answer but I’m just asking
/r/seduction14/04/20 09:47 PM
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Yeah one of my main problems is I overthink a lot so even knowing what to say is a challenge as silly as that sounds. A simple good morning/afternoon could work for me. And by showing interest what do you mean? And isn’t showing too much interest a turnoff? How do you find a balance
/r/seduction12/04/20 05:27 PM
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Well I have a very quiet personality(quiet, doesn’t talk a lot, doesn’t seem convos) and this probably the reason I’m still a virgin. Of course I want to go out and have sex but my personality along with social anxiety and confidence is hindering me.
/r/seduction12/04/20 12:58 PM
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I see where your coming from but the way you worded this post...comes off wrong. I can’t give any advice cause I’m basically in the same situation as you but you don’t gotta be a “bad boy/fuck boy” if your goal is to sleep with lots of girls
/r/seduction06/04/20 04:36 PM
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I’ve been the quiet kid most of my life so shifting to being social is like the hardest thing to do. Every time I tried I always failed
/r/seduction30/03/20 01:50 PM
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See my genuine self is still pretty reserved and quiet. So for someone like me it’s hard to even meet people and get them to stick around
/r/seduction05/03/20 02:45 PM
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Man I feel this is harder as a virgin. I’m 21 and of course I’m trying get laid. However I also don’t have the confidence to even say hi to a girl i don’t know so it’s like a whole inner conflict in me
/r/seduction24/02/20 12:31 AM
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Well I took a semester off since so not much. I was mostly in my room most of the time since I never got invited out and I tried going to events myself but that was kind of boring
/r/seduction15/01/20 07:04 PM
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Not really, I was close with one guy and he tried to introduce me to his group. But idk I never clicked with the others I guess
/r/seduction10/01/20 04:51 PM
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Social circles never really worked for me. I tried to get into a few in college but everyone was always closed to each other then me so I never stood a chance.
/r/seduction09/01/20 11:25 PM
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I want to start dating next year and this seems helpful. Hopefully I can put into practice the things I’ve read here over the years.
/r/seduction02/12/19 12:09 AM
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How do you go about building both attraction and making her feel comfortable? When I think of attraction it’s mostly how someone physically look, but is there more to it?
/r/seduction26/11/19 08:34 PM
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This is def me but I have a question, do you need to make the girl fall in love with you to have sex? Or just a certain amount of dates? Growing up you hear sex is about love and stuff when that’s not always the case
/r/seduction26/11/19 02:22 PM
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Did u get her number or anything? Good job btw, I still can’t approach
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:52 PM
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Me and you are in the same boat, hope it works out for both of us. All I can say is keep trying I guess(something I’m not even doing yet, still have a lot of anxiety)
/r/seduction08/11/19 06:17 PM
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I’ll do home exercises, lift some weights/do pushups throughout the day. I’m a fairly skinny guy so I’m starting slow. I don’t really pay attention to what I eat since I have a fast metabolism, but I’m not eating junk food everyday or anything. Structure wise not really..I’ll try to read stories for my enjoyment but that’s about it. Interest/hobby wise I’m interested in keeping up-to date with basketball news/stats and music/ pop culture I guess? But I doubt this can be considered a hobby (not s…
/r/seduction04/11/19 12:51 AM
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I don’t have 3 of 5 things you listed...damn But this is a great post cause your giving out facts. The main reasons I get depressed is cause i don’t have much friends and I’m a virgin who wants to get laid ASAP basically. I feel like getting laid will help me short term at least cause I’ll be excited about it for a while (I think)? But like you said when I eventually start to date and she notices I don’t have much going for me...then yeah
/r/seduction04/11/19 12:33 AM
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I’m def always thinking about sex recently (like the last year at least) my goals right now is to complete my education (college) right now even though I’m currently taking a semester break. Most of the things I like to do for fun are more..indoor activities, but the few times I do go out I def feel confident in my style. I made a post recently about going out and just doing stuff, I’m not use to doing it so I still need to practice that. I’m not the biggest talker either so learning how to say …
/r/seduction29/10/19 02:32 PM
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Honestly that’s the type of person I want to become. I’m 20 with no experience but I still read this sub hoping one day everything will just click for me in a way. Do you have any advice/post that explain how to start from square one to having many girls?
/r/seduction29/10/19 01:39 PM
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My thought process is that what’s the point of going somewhere without an objective sort of thing. Like once I get to the park/coffee shop what do I do. Just sit there and look around? Force myself to talk to people even if they look uninterested?
/r/seduction25/10/19 07:10 PM
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I’m good at talking and listening to my family (parents and brothers) . And yeah this sub def isn’t for most people with zero experience. It’ll def be handy in the future but for me now it’s not exactly what I need if that make sense
/r/seduction25/10/19 07:01 PM
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Same to u brodie
/r/seduction20/10/19 05:12 PM
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No clue, people say start going out alone but that’s kind of boring since I’m always alone in my room. I guess when I go back go school I’ll join clubs and see what happens
/r/seduction20/10/19 04:59 PM
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I’m 20 taking a semester off but I don’t really have a social life. It’s weird cause deep down I know I’m suppose to be out there having fun and meeting girls but I just don’t know where to really start
/r/seduction20/10/19 04:46 PM
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Literally in the same situation and it’s a weird feeling
/r/seduction20/10/19 01:16 PM
1

I’ve always been that quiet guy but have zero idea how to use it to my advantage in terms of getting girls, any advice?
/r/seduction07/10/19 01:58 PM
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So listen to people and just ask questions to get them to talk more then me? And remembering details of what they tel me?
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:05 PM
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You said something about embracing your strengths, I’m not sure if this makes sense but I think my strength is my quiet nature and how I’m not a big talker, so some people think I’m mysterious. However I have no idea how to use that to my advantage For context I’m a 20 black m, 6’0 but I’m skinny, no relationship experience at all
/r/seduction04/09/19 09:35 PM
1

So first order of business is to find a friend. After that befriend more women to learn how they move and act. Sounds simple but might be a challenge for me If a girl shows me any attention it might be difficult to try and not jump on the opportunity since I really want to get experience with girls(currently have none)
/r/seduction03/09/19 12:23 AM
1

No social circle, not working, I might be taking a semester of and no go to friend group. I wouldn’t call myself a loner but that’s basically what I am. Most friends I have I keep at a distance cause I have trust issues and the vibe isn’t completely there all the time.
/r/seduction02/09/19 11:11 PM
1

I’m basically the same as this guy, but I’m more of a quiet guy / man of few words. How would I develop social intelligence if I’m not a big talker?
/r/seduction02/09/19 09:38 PM
11

Can you go into a little more detail? I’m a quiet guy myself and I need more advice on how/what to do with women
/r/TheRedPill31/08/19 08:22 PM
1

This mainly my problem. If I think a girl is cute, I assume she already got 10 dudes trying to get with her and I doubt I bring anything to the table. Also I’m a 20M virgin sex is on my mind all the time and I want to go and get experience.
/r/seduction25/08/19 06:28 PM
3

Don’t women notice if your actually handsome or not? I get what your saying but being good looking probably helps
/r/seduction22/08/19 12:28 PM
1

Thank you, it’s definitely going to be a challenge for me since I rarely talk at all (even in group settings), but getting girls is something I want to get good at while I’m young
/r/seduction08/08/19 02:58 PM
1

So you basically try to strike up random conversations with cute girls you see and if they show interest you try to get her number/social info?
/r/seduction08/08/19 12:57 PM
1

So how do you meet/approach women? What’s your go to lines? I’m curious cause I’m trying be like this
/r/seduction08/08/19 04:24 AM
6

So what do you guys say to open a conversation? Just “hi I’m etc” or start with a compliment to her? What do you say to start?
/r/seduction04/08/19 06:49 PM
2

I agree with everything everyone else said so far. For me personally it’s probably a mix of fear and anxiety. I’m 20 and never had a real relationship but it’s because it’s a lot of idks. Idk if girls find me attractive (I’ve been complimented a few times but not enough for an ego boost). Idk if I can hold conversations (I’m generally quiet/introvert) idk if I’m interesting enough(I consider myself a “cool nerd” but nerd nonetheless) I fear building up enough confidence to talk to a attractive g…
/r/seduction04/08/19 01:10 PM
2

I’m probably not good at the smiling part, it just seems weird to start smiling at a stranger even if you think she’s cute to me
/r/seduction20/07/19 10:46 PM
1

Yeah but becoming friends with her can lead to meeting her friends no? I’m not saying op had to hang out every day with her but if she can introduce you to her potentially hot friends isn’t it worth just being friends?
/r/seduction12/07/19 05:55 PM
10

Why is everyone saying no to being friends? Lots of post here talked about having girl friends to introduce you to other girls, so why can’t op just stay friends with her? (I’m totally inexperience so I want someone to enlightening me)
/r/seduction12/07/19 02:13 PM
1

What you said brother
/r/seduction01/07/19 09:30 PM
2

Ask him to chill in his/your room to do homework or whatever then make your move when you guys are alone
/r/seduction03/05/19 04:09 PM
1

Same position as this guy and the semester is almost over. Would also like some advice
/r/seduction02/05/19 03:42 PM
1

This is sort of good advice for someone like myself who isn’t a big talker. I def wanna use my skills as a listener to attract girls and use that to connect with them The only thing I didn’t real like/understand in here was just because someone doesn’t like anime for example you shouldn’t go after them(that’s kind of what I got from it) This is semi true if you want to start a relationship with someone but if your just dating/trying to hookup I don’t think something like that would really matter
/r/seduction01/05/19 02:29 PM
2

That’s def a confidence thing then. My mindset if I see attractive girl is that she already has tons of guys trying to get with her so how can I fare against the competition. Feel me?
/r/seduction21/04/19 06:42 PM
5

Idk it just seems kinda awkward smiling at random people you walk pass. Guess I just gotta get over it
/r/seduction21/04/19 03:51 PM
1

Ayy same. Ik what you mean
/r/seduction21/04/19 01:41 AM
26

Usually when I make eye contact they either look down or away or I break to quickly
/r/seduction21/04/19 12:10 AM
1

Damn I’m black and go to a college with mostly white kids and i still suck at this stuff
/r/seduction18/04/19 08:08 PM
1

Well I know a F friend who’s 20 and does fuck her housemates. Idk if that’s the case for all of them but it does happen I guess
/r/seduction12/04/19 09:46 PM
1

Just like who you like....
/r/seduction10/04/19 05:12 AM
1

How would you start a convo in the library if you don’t mind me asking? I spend a lot of time in my school library but don’t want to disturb girls I see working or whatever (not disturbing people is one of the biggest reasons why I don’t approach)
/r/seduction08/04/19 02:32 PM
1

0 Virgin squad wya
/r/seduction07/04/19 06:03 PM
0

Tbh your already ahead of me ( approaching a cute girl )but if I was you I’d probably wouldn’t ask her out straight away. I’d ask for her snap and start talking about class related stuff. Then ask to meet up to study then after you study maybe go grab something to eat at the dining hall or whatever on/near campus Take what I say with a grain of salt, I got no experience
/r/seduction04/04/19 05:03 PM
3

Just the situation I guess. Either approach anxiety, lack of confidence or just bad general bad situation (ex : I recently met a girl who’s basically dating someone but she doesn’t have other girl friends to introduce me to)
/r/seduction26/03/19 03:15 AM
1

So you no longer watch porn?
/r/seduction15/03/19 06:18 PM
1

Appreciate this bro. Just reinforce to yourself that your the man before going out is great advice
/r/seduction12/03/19 08:26 PM
2

You hit in right on the head tbh. I’m in the same position as OP(wanna get laid and I’m college) but my biggest problem is social game. I’m a real introvert person and keep to myself for the most part (I got a few friends don’t get me wrong) but I know I got to turn it around if I wanna get laid (still be myself)
/r/seduction12/03/19 06:08 PM
6

Same as a 20 year old college student 😔it’s annoying as hell
/r/seduction06/03/19 02:30 PM
2

Hehehe a Friends reference belongs here
/r/seduction02/03/19 07:27 AM
2

A lil off topic but I feel like my personality fits the mysterious type guy due to my general quiet natural, but how does being mysterious helps in getting girls?
/r/seduction02/03/19 02:29 AM
1

Can you explain that last part a bit?
/r/seduction01/03/19 05:42 PM
3

You should def make some post here, seems you know what your talking about
/r/seduction27/02/19 06:19 AM
1

Similar situation. I’m at the point where I just jack one just to release some stress and it’s not always sexual tension.
/r/seduction26/02/19 06:18 AM
1

No not yet. Just kind of been going to a few sporting events here and there (went to one today actually) I have thought about joining clubs but I’m not sure if I’m ready to make a commitment
/r/seduction24/02/19 03:45 AM
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Yeah man you post great content to this sub and I really enjoy reading it. Its just putting words into action is the hard part, which is my problem. Like i said in my post I'm a pretty reserved guy so it tends to take a while for people to even get to know me. Even the few times I tried to put myself out there, I end up being alone in the back cause most people tend to go to events with friends (and the few friends I have arent interested in going to events) Its really an all around challenge ca…
/r/seduction23/02/19 09:11 PM
3

The dorm is co-ed but ya the floor I’m on is just all guys. There is an lounge area but I always feel awkward just sitting there by myself and most people usually go with at least one other person, so I just feel outta place
/r/seduction22/02/19 09:44 PM
3

How you meet people in your dorms? I live in a suite area so it’s just a bunch of guys
/r/seduction22/02/19 09:39 PM
4

Same boat in my second year. I tried putting myself out there (not much but I have tried) but trying by yourself sucks. When you go to event people usually go with friends so I doubt they’ll talk to the guy all alone I know guys are suppose to approach but I’m always in my head and think “ I don’t wanna bother her or she’s busy, don’t wanna weird her out she doesn’t me” etc goes through my head if I see a cute girl alone Also I’m an introvert/quiet/reserved person in general. Most of the advice …
/r/seduction22/02/19 07:01 PM
10

Cause most of us virgins trying get laid lmao And it’s kind of gets down on you when everyone around you getting laid expect you
/r/seduction19/02/19 05:54 PM
7

Where you sober by any chance
/r/seduction11/02/19 03:08 PM
1

She probably doesn’t want to seem weak in front of you, that would be my guess but I’m not sure
/r/seduction08/02/19 05:06 PM
1

So how do I become the friend that she chooses? Do I still show intent? Do I let her bring it up?
/r/seduction05/02/19 04:26 AM
1

Can you explain why and how it’ll help get you laid?
/r/seduction04/02/19 11:54 PM
5

So I have a question. A girl told me that girls like having friends who they can just have sex with (different from a fuckbuddy is what she told me) she said as long as you treat her like a normal person she’ll ask you to have sex with her eventually. Is this true? (She an online friend if that matters)
/r/seduction01/02/19 06:20 PM
1

Yeah your right. This is exactly what I need to since I’m been thinking about the sex part a lot recently (in college, virgin) and not the process 😩 it’s just that I always thought in college the process would be minimum (and it probably is idk) but I just personally have a problem putting myself out there.
/r/seduction25/01/19 02:26 AM
1

Ok so this fills the void before getting to the sex...but you didn’t really clarify how to actually get to that part
/r/seduction25/01/19 02:15 AM
1

As a 20 yr old virgin yes
/r/seduction24/01/19 05:23 AM
8

Same. I don’t want to throw someone off their flow for my own selfish reasons kinda thing
/r/seduction22/01/19 04:53 PM
1

Thanks for the reply. Yeah it seems like a lot of my problems is just being uncomfortable in a lot of situations. Not being a big talker caused me to be more of an observer in group settings. Right now I’m trying to work on giving eye contact when I pass people in terms of working on my confidence. And I do fear rejection (even though I never been rejected) it’s just that I’m use to always being in control in a sense (my comfort zone I guess) so stepping out and basically giving other people pow…
/r/seduction09/12/18 10:10 PM
1

Thank you for the advice. Part of me was thinking I could end up becoming a “mysterious guy” that I’ve read about. I also read about Sigma males and stuff like that and would probably try to take my personality in that direction as it wouldn’t be a drastic change. I will definitely look up more ways to become the person I want to be (putting it into practice is a whole other story tho)
/r/seduction09/12/18 09:52 PM
2

Hey man I got a quick question, in a similar situation like OP but my problem/fear is going to these events by myself, especially if I have to pay (ex college party) is it worth paying just to go by yourself?
/r/seduction20/11/18 05:48 AM
3

Basically what that other guy said. Any guy would basically love if a girl casually asks them out to eat in the dining hall or whatever to get to know each other. From there basically ask to do something fun (watch a movie, play video games, etc) to bond
/r/seduction14/11/18 02:44 AM
4

Same
/r/seduction11/11/18 11:28 PM
8

Homies out here watching Raj 😭
/r/seduction08/11/18 07:06 PM
2

Guess it’s too late for me, semester basically finishes in a month 😔 wanted to try and talk to this girl in one of my classes to
/r/seduction08/11/18 03:20 PM
3

I’ve seen conflicting things on masterbation. Some people says it does help them while others says it doesn’t really matter, me personally I’m basically in a similar situation as OP but I’m 19.
/r/seduction08/11/18 03:10 PM
2

You always have great advice but I feel like for someone like me (introvert, quiet guy) your advice may not work for me due to who I already am as a person.
/r/seduction02/11/18 05:08 AM
1

I’m a complete noob myself but I would say eye contact is prob the best. Though then it will feel like your staring at them, so you gotta really time it to catch their eyes and then don’t break eye contact (I still break eye contact)
/r/seduction31/10/18 10:49 PM
1

Thanks! I personally just got to learn how to be more talkative in general with people. I’m a pretty introvert person so whenever I think about approaching people it feels like I’ll be bothering them in someway and talk myself out of it. Just need to learn the right things to say for when I finally get the confidence to say something
/r/seduction21/10/18 04:41 AM
1

Sorry for the late reply Yeah it’s a college town I go to(I believe) And I got another question or two. So your saying giving a compliment is the best way to open a convo with someone you don’t know? Like telling them I think their cute or they have a nice outfit etc. Also can’t starting a convo with a classmate be easier? Cause that’s already a common ground you share? But I do understand the potential harm that could be done
/r/seduction20/10/18 08:39 PM
4

Lol I met middle of nowhere as in there isn’t much to do as in dates Also does the shit where you eat really apply to school? Like I have class with this girl now after this I may never have a class with her again
/r/seduction20/10/18 03:41 AM
10

damn I actually needed this, thanks Also a few thoughts questions 1) what if you want to approach a girl from your class? Would you do it when you see her somewhere around campus or try to do it after class? 2) lets say after you get her number, what else can you do to build that attraction that could eventually lead to sex? For example my college campus is in the middle of no where so there’s not like a movie theater I can take her to, but I’m pretty sure there’s a lot of little events on campu…
/r/seduction20/10/18 01:42 AM
1

Eh I’ve gone to a few events by myself and people usually go in groups so how exactly do you meet people? Also yeah I like my video games(I def don’t play like I use to) but I’m also a pretty introvert person so how would I go about?
/r/seduction18/10/18 10:13 PM
-1

See I understand this but what if it’s her I’m trying to hookup with? Do I wait til I don’t have a class with her?
/r/seduction17/10/18 06:06 PM
5

I doubt it
/r/seduction17/10/18 03:36 PM
8

There was a post awhile ago when a guy did this, but most of the comments were pretty mixed from what I remembered
/r/seduction14/10/18 09:23 PM
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Easier said when you’ve done it multiple times. Someone like me who isn’t waiting for that special person per say but doesn’t want to lower my standards to join the dark side it kind of eats at you alive, Especially when you see attractive girls daily
/r/seduction14/10/18 03:25 PM
2

I’m a college student so I’m trying learn on campus. In regards to a wingman it’s more of finding a homie I can trust, and that’s pretty hard atm so I’m just been waiting to gain confidence to go up and talk to a girl
/r/seduction14/10/18 01:48 AM
3

I’m in the same boat man, I’m 19 and just been waiting for the perfect scenario to happen ....but the more I wait the less I feel like that scenario is possible, so sooner or later(I’m praying sooner) I just go out there and make it myself. I know my first approach is going to be awkward as hell so I keep trying to make it “perfect” in my head knowing you can’t account for everything that could go wrong
/r/seduction14/10/18 01:28 AM
1

I get most of it but one part confuses me a lil. Should I be imagining having sex with a girl I find attractive to push me to say fuck it and talk to her?
/r/seduction13/10/18 09:12 PM
1

Thanks man
/r/seduction11/10/18 02:06 AM
2

She ode cute
/r/seduction03/10/18 01:10 AM
9

yeah but without joining a frat how would i meet girls who just wanna fuck? Just go to parties?
/r/TheRedPill25/09/18 06:14 PM
57

Lessons: They’re all getting dicked down. That innocent looking college freshman.. who knows what she’s done. \ Man this. I'm a college sophomore whose a virgin but every time i see a decently pretty girl on campus I always assume she getting it from someone else and physiologically scare myself and not approach (plus approach anxiety as well) ​
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 09:55 PM
8

Well I think your first mistake was giving her your number and not the other way around, you now put the ball in her court and it’s up to her if she wants to text or not On what you should do when yo see her....id say continue to flirt lightly like how you did already Or give her a reason to text you (ex ur going somewhere fun and u want to invite her but she’ll need the address or something) Just my 2 cent
/r/seduction19/09/18 04:03 AM
3

Don’t put her on a pedestal bro that’s going be your downfall. Treat her regularly but also show attraction
/r/seduction18/09/18 07:41 PM
1

Another fear/thought/question cake to mind and was wondering what your perspective is. So I realize I sexualize girls I see a lot( I see them then think how sex would be with them) is this a good thing or not? I feel like this also adds to my AA as im possibly not seeing the girl as a person .
/r/seduction15/09/18 05:25 AM
1

see in my mind I wouldn’t know what to say after introducing myself. Do I give a compliment “hey I saw you around and think your cute” or compliment her outfit “that’s a nice jacket”
/r/seduction14/09/18 04:20 PM
6

Bro can you stop posting the same shit??
/r/seduction14/09/18 03:50 PM
4

Again I have no experience but here’s my take You gotta take command. If your kissing and fingering her maybe guide her hand over to your dick and she’ll give you a handjob. After that I’m not sure but go with the flow and see what happens. Again maybe she’s not ready to have sex with yet. Also being your own condoms
/r/seduction13/09/18 04:12 AM
1

Well it seems like your a lot further then a lot of people in this sub(me included) but here my advice anyway. Fingering a girl is part of turning her on. You can’t just skip straight to the sex, she most likely turned down the offer to have sex cause you were probably rushing foreplay(fingering,kissing etc) so take it easy and gradually get to the sex. Or maybe she just wasn’t ready to have sex with you yet
/r/seduction13/09/18 04:01 AM
1

I hope I can get like this one day. Question though, what if you tease sex but when you leave they just call someone else? Had something similar to this happened to you before?
/r/seduction12/09/18 09:10 PM
1

Yeah apparently doing 90 days helps reboot your brain on porn and stuff so that’s what I’m trying to do. And hopefully one day I’ll just get the courage and confidence to talk to 9s-10s like it’s nothing one day
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:22 PM
1

Hey thanks for the advice. It’s just losing my virginity is all I think about now (since I’m a nofap streak) and my urges are really getting the best of me. Now I won’t lie I have not been making an effort but it’s also cause I have high standards and want to do it with someone insanely attractive
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:08 PM
9

This story gives me hope man, congrats
/r/seduction10/09/18 04:20 AM
1

Thanks for the reply, I got a few questions 1) what do you mean look for information when observing a girl? How am I suppose to figure out all that stuff just from looking? 2) Not really a question but of a fear of always thinking of the worst case scenario whenever I think about approaching a girl, how to possibly get over that? 3) how exactly do you project hookup/friendship/etc energy?
/r/seduction09/09/18 09:25 PM
10

This a great post. I started no fap about 2 weeks ago, and for the last 5 days I just been thinking of sex and how to potentially get laid (keep in mind I’m also still a Virgin and also in college so it feels like everyone is getting pussy but me) I’m still trying to use this extra energy in a different way
/r/TheRedPill09/09/18 06:02 PM
1

Can you go a little more in depth about this( after class) what exactly do you say?
/r/seduction08/09/18 10:34 PM
3

So for example I see a girl in class and I catch her eye, just keep the eye contact?
/r/seduction04/09/18 02:17 PM
12

Sort of unrelated but you kind of touch on one of my fears. How girls basically got a lot of dudes giving them attention, like I usually want to talk to those girls but just avoid it all together cause I don’t want to just be another guy
/r/seduction29/08/18 03:34 AM
2

So quickly? What’s your secret
/r/seduction28/08/18 12:50 PM
1

I’d personally ignore it and just go straight to asking for another date. But do what you feel is right/will work
/r/seduction21/08/18 02:31 AM
1

Id say try to get a date one more time and if she flakes again just move on
/r/seduction20/08/18 09:49 PM
1

I don’t know if you watch porn or not but if you do, you gotta stop watching, sounds like you have a similar problem to people who mausterbate a lot to porn. Another thing is to expand your social circle man. More people you meet more opportunities to meet girls and more opportunities to build towards building relationships. This sub gives great advice on how to seduce (it’s a seduction subreddit duh) It’s ultimately up to you in the end
/r/seduction16/08/18 05:24 PM
1

Trust me it’ll be worth it doing it the right way. Whenever that’s building a relationship with someone or meeting a girl at a party or whatever to have sex
/r/seduction16/08/18 05:04 PM
1

Same age and feeling man but to be honest you should just wait. Trust me I have an idea of what you feeling but it won’t be worth losing it to a hooker.
/r/seduction16/08/18 04:54 PM
1

Basically what the other guy said, if you just wanna fuck might as well get a prostitute. If you want a FWB you gotta become her friend first, which means doing friendly shit/dates. Seduction doesn’t always happen in one day, gotta build on it
/r/seduction14/08/18 03:33 PM
4

Thanks! I’ve been lurking this sub for a while so I feel like I know everything, but it all comes down to execution now, just gotta get out my comfort zone
/r/seduction13/08/18 03:25 AM
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Saved this post, a lot of great information. One of my personal fears is a girl I’m talking to is talking to other guys. I believe you touched on it but that’s just me. Does talking to more girls at a once make you more attractive to the girl you want? (Side note I haven’t put any of this stuff to practice yet, still working on self confidence/getting over fears)
/r/seduction13/08/18 02:26 AM
2

Rappers?
/r/askTRP08/08/18 04:56 AM
1

I heard it depends, cause now you leave it up to her to contact you
/r/seduction18/07/18 09:19 PM
1

An old friend once told me “you need to play the game without anyone knowing you’re playing the game. Stay faithful, but stay smart” I’m not sure if this fits your situation or not but if you don’t see her as wifey material you might want to move on
/r/seduction16/07/18 04:08 PM
7

Isn’t masturbating normal though? Is to stop masturbating really a major key in seduction??
/r/seduction08/05/18 11:26 PM
3

This is one of my many problems as well. Do you look at her until she looks back? How long should you hold the contact for? How long after contact should you try an approach?
/r/seduction07/05/18 03:40 AM
1

You make pulling foreign girls sound easy asf lmao.
/r/seduction26/04/18 04:20 PM
1

All of it 😔
/r/seduction02/04/18 04:28 AM
1

Well I consider myself an introvert/shy person so approaching random girls just seems out of my comfort zone Also could be a lack of confidence 🤷🏾‍♂️ Any suggestions to possibly get over it? Cause I see a cute girl every day or so and I wanna shoot my shots and say something but again not knowing what to say/my personality
/r/seduction28/03/18 01:54 AM
1

This was actually a decent video. Feels like I kind of knew everything but I have yet to step out of my comfort zone to try and get girls even tho I want to 🤔😔
/r/seduction27/03/18 08:08 PM
1

Another question, if/when I get over my mindset how do I make my intent clear and how long do I wait? If I make my intent (sex) clear from the beginning should I expect to get it that same day I meet a girl or is it more of a long term game? ( I have lots of questions since I literally have 0 experience)
/r/seduction24/03/18 05:48 PM
1

My mindset is that she most likely has a lot of guy friends already who are making her day and me saying something wouldn’t bring anything new to the table
/r/seduction23/03/18 04:35 AM
4

So my problem other then be shy asf is approaching Every time I see a cute girl I wanna say something but sometimes idk if I’m shy, or if it my introvert nature. Also what the hell am I suppose to say? Simple intro? , hey my name is, what’s ur? Say hey I like ur shoes/outfit etc Be strong and say “you mad cute what’s ur name? I have 0 experience at all (19 in College) so any tips would be great
/r/seduction23/03/18 03:43 AM
1

This is so true. I always wanna say something but sometimes idk if I’m shy, or is it my introvert nature. Also like someone said what the hell am I suppose to say? Simple intro? , hey my name is, what’s ur? Say hey I like ur shoes/outfit etc Be strong and say “you mad cute what’s ur name?
/r/seduction19/03/18 09:33 PM
1

I have absolutely zero game and experience at all but maybe you should’ve offered to buy her ticket instead of trying to randomly meet her there? Then it could’ve been like a date with just you two having a good time Idk if that’s a good idea or not tho
/r/seduction01/03/18 09:18 PM
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