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| 3 | How do I love and Trust men?At age 19, you can certainly start dating seriously, but depending on your current spaces (college? What country you live in?) you will likely not find any men with marriage at the forefront of their mind. Most men your age are not ready to take long term commitment seriously and most older men will feel you’re quite young and not appropriate to date seriously quite yet. Set expectations now for how men should treat you. If a man is interested, expect he take you on actual dates, not going to pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/21 11:01 PM |
| 7 | Struggling with roles (married 6 years, 1 kid)Hello! Welcome to the community. I don’t have kids yet, but I work full time and take care of 100% of the house responsibilities so I have learned a few things about time management. Some of the other ladies will be more helpful in child-related advice. The main two pieces of advice I have are to maximize your time efficiency, so you can get the same amount done with less time and effort, and to embrace a service-oriented mindset. I maximize my efficiency with routines, daily and weekly, and try… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/11/20 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Husbands Being Baby JealousDisheartening? Excuse me? I am in no way indicating that this comes from a lack of trying. My sister just had a baby three weeks ago and her baby cries every time her husband holds the baby. It’s been very hard on him, and he is doing his absolute best to help and be involved, and is struggling. I am coming from a place of compassion to men, not judgement. He’s also working all day, as men have for millennia, meaning she’s still doing the majority of the housework and child rearing. Thats what t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/20 12:24 AM |
| 33 | Husbands Being Baby JealousI’m sorry I don’t agree with you here. Of course a man has a responsibility to take care of a woman while she cares for the infant. But there are growing pains associated with all major life transitions, and the first few months of an infants life is one of the hardest seasons for a man because he simultaneously loses the physical/sexual relationship with the woman he loves, she is often highly emotional and can be dealing with a lot of exhaustion, depression, and hormonal changes, pain, and he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 06:32 AM |
| 9 | "Spiritual Growth" - such an awkward phrase.What else should I call the growth I’ve experienced over the past year or so since accepting Christ as my savior? I’ve abstained from sex with my partner since March, thanks to nothing other than the love of Christ, I’ve found myself many times over less tempted to swear, or tell lies, have maintained a daily dialogue of gratitude with God and asking for guidance and courage, have began reading the Bible for the first time, and making an effort to read scripture daily. All of this is growth than… | /r/RPChristians | 14/08/20 08:56 PM |
| 24 | Pornography & Menhttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/e9hjon/the_consequences_of_pornography/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf This community has explored my controversial stance on pornography in depth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/20 09:56 AM |
| 4 | Learning to be a truthful, honest, respecting womanHonestly, this may not be popular among our more secular participants, but while I’ve never had a regular problem with lying, beginning to walk with Christ has made me way more honest. Not only is it so hard to lie when you know Gods love for you and wish for you to not sin against Him, He has also worked through me, giving me the courage to go out of my way to be virtuous in situations where it would be a lot easier to be selfish. Whether or not you believe in any particular thing or not, just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/20 04:01 PM |
| 5 | A Guy asking a question!Feminism is a privilege. Feminism means “we no longer need men, therefor we no longer respect men.” The reason we don’t need men is because we’re not in any physical danger, food is cheap and easy to come by, jobs are no longer physically demanding or dangerous, and home security is something you can buy. Respect is a foundational aspect of the masculine. Men need and crave respect. Men are beaten down psychologically by women/wives constantly reminding them that they are not needed, that their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/20 09:35 PM |
| 14 | A Guy asking a question!It’s likely a positive feedback loop. It wasn’t effeminate men -> masculine women, it was both happening at the same time, reinforcing one another. For example, the advent of the BC pill allowed women to act like men, decades of Hollywood glorified casual sex, women entered the workforce, having been liberated from the constraints of child rearing, and began telling men to be more sensitive and supportive. Men, with their reproductive success prospects hanging in the balance, began to comply, af… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/20 10:33 AM |
| 3 | I Took Paid Time Off Today...Praying for you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/20 05:10 AM |
| 10 | My man wants me to share my money without sharing responsibilities inside the houseOur modern mindset is so inherently selfish. That isn’t meant to be a criticism of you, but of the modern paradigm of relationships and marriage. “I deserve” and “not fair” and “mine” and “I don’t have to” shouldn’t be in any married person’s vocabulary. Modern marriages are two selfish people trying to build a life together and in that construct, husband and wife will fight constantly. Marriage used to be two people coming together for a shared purpose, in service of one another. Cooking and cl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/20 09:20 PM |
| 2 | I'm new to this, so my post will probably be removed like every other post I've posted on reddit... Anyway, based on red pill philosophy, what is the function of women who arent in their "peak sexual market prime" or whatever it's called. What if you are passed your prime, and are single? Still try?Historically, women who have not been able to have children or get married, for any reason, have dedicated their lives to the service of their community as caregivers for elderly/disabled/children, teachers, nurses, etc. If you want to date, you should! If you want to adopt, do it! But often, women who have no families are absolutely able to find worthwhile purpose in life that isn’t necessarily “career” drive. Caring for elderly family members, being a long term nanny, volunteer work, ALL have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/20 12:43 AM |
| 7 | Size of status differential for “career” womenHow did you view your intellect compared to those you were in a relationship with? I’m only a nurse, but we still make good income, and for a few months I was making more than my partner. Now, we’re making about the same. But, my partner recognized the feminine skills that are involved with a caregiving field, and while I know I have a strong intellect, I admire and look up to him so much. For his ideas, leadership, perspective, I’m almost always asking his advice or opinion instead of feeling t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/20 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Chastity and New FaithI didn't realize that was an option. Thank you for your time and advice, I will bring this up to him. | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 07:41 PM |
| 4 | Chastity and New FaithHis family is my only source of Godly Christian Biblical advice. I have gone to church with them and have had long endless dialogue about all of this with his mother. She's the one who told me they chose to abstain for a while before marriage after having premarital sex. They were against cohabitation but knew we were on track toward marriage, supported my partner's practical considerations in the decision, and also think it's less than ideal but think it's wonderful that we are pursuing faith t… | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Chastity and New FaithThank you for your support. A lot of this is uncharted territory for me, I wish I had more faith-based role models. I'm not sure how much to encourage him versus trusting his judgement. I will keep praying, and I'll talk to him about the timeline. He also believes that abstaining will encourage him to marry me sooner, which he believes is a good thing, but I'm still unsure what timeline he has in mind. We have temptation, of course, but we also are proud to be in control of our actions here. The… | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Chastity and New FaithThank you for your thoughtful response. I think he is concerned about the support of his parents, and mine, who believe we are young. He believes they will be much more supportive in a few years. But he knows that whenever he asks, I am ready. I will continue to pray for him. | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Chastity and New FaithIt's not in my hands. But I recognize what you are saying, and appreciate your advice. I think having the support of both our parents is very important to him, and all of them are encouraging us to wait. I trust his judgement on this. | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 06:44 PM |
| 4 | Chastity and New FaithI do not find your response to be too harsh or firm, it is what I am looking for. All the churches in my area are closed for the quarantine, and due to my work schedule as a nurse, I had been working weekends and nights often, so regular attendance was difficult, and we are still looking for a church that is conservative (most are progressive here in a very liberal city) and looking for a church that would actually help and not hurt our journey in this. I would marry him now if he asked, or agre… | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/20 06:40 PM |
| 1 | A lesson I learned from a stranger on the busThank you so much! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:12 PM |
| 5 | A lesson I learned from a stranger on the busIt doesn’t have to be a big enthusiastic smile! I can’t help but smile when I think of the things I’m grateful for, think about my favorite moment of the day, or a memory from my childhood. And I’m sure I’m not constantly smiling, it’s just a much more conscious part of my day. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you smile at a stranger? They look away. But the impact it has made on me has been so positive, I don’t mind if some strangers think I’m odd. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:03 AM |
| 10 | A lesson I learned from a stranger on the busI’ve found that a simple “I’m sorry but that makes me uncomfortable” is usually sufficient if someone is being rude, and if someone is flirting harmlessly, I won’t engage but I don’t like to be cruel either. I don’t want to discourage men unnecessarily, and politely know I’m unavailable. I also don’t make the habit of walking around not-great parts town by myself or going out to bars, where most of my more unpleasant run ins have occurred. Most men are genuinely charmed by a smile, but will resp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 05:59 AM |
| 13 | Podcasts for redpill women?Thankful Homemakers and The Homemaking Foundations Podcast are great, very much Christian but most homemakers these days are. But tons of great tips for cleaning and meal planning and grace. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 06:05 AM |
| 3 | What are some physical hygiene tips/Ways you like to care for your physical hygiene?What type of hair do you have? I have a lot of fine, wavy long hair. I use a silk pillowcase (prevents frizz and breakage) and twist my hair into a loose bun on the top of my head secured with 2 small clips (not a hair tie!) that is fully combed through and sometimes a drop of oil combed through if it’s feeling dry. In the morning, I just let down my clips and comb again, freshen with dry shampoo and it’s good to go. I wash about every 5 days and blow out with a large round brush, and do oil mas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 07:01 PM |
| 103 | My boyfriend (24m) says some concerning things and It’s hurting me (19f)That’s so disrespectful. Men who are relationship/marriage material have a protector or caregiving instinct toward women, and such hurtful and purposefully careless words are a HUGE red flags. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 05:20 AM |
| 4 | What is the meaning of nurturing?It’s the embodiment of a woman’s role as a caregiver, to children, to her man, or family, elderly or otherwise. It is joyfully and contentedly cooking for, caring for, serving the people we love. It is bringing a meal over to a grieving friend or neighbor. It is being a great listener. It is welcoming a husband home with a warm hug and kiss. It is putting others before yourself. Helping people see their own strengths and helping them become the best version of themselves. Each person should leav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/19 11:41 PM |
| 25 | "Being home cures everything"Happy new year! So much of the feminine role as a caregiver is under appreciated. Yes, cook and clean for your man, but taking care of him goes so much farther! Nurture and nurse him as well! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/19 11:30 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill Resolutions!Make routines and stick to them! | /r/RedPillWives | 31/12/19 11:28 PM |
| 47 | Any advice on how to be married to a Beta Husband?What specific beta behaviors bother you the most? It is possible that the more you show him adoration, respect, admiration, the more he may begin to fill in his shoes as man of the house. If he is indecisive or unsure of himself, instead of taking the lead, tell him you trust him to decide and give him a warm smile and a kiss, and walk away. He may have been emasculated by previous women, even teachers, his parents, older siblings, and the more you can do to admire him for his masculinity, the m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/19 02:19 AM |
| 8 | The Consequences of PornographyI 100% agree. The porn issue and the child drag queen/trans movement have pushed me over the edge to no longer call myself libertarian. My partner feels the same way as you, and I pushed back at first, but have come to see he is absolutely right. A free society is only maintained by a moral people, and “live and let live” ends the moment they come for my children. I don’t know how to reverse degeneracy that has saturated every part of our culture but I’m trying to do my part. Thank you for your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 08:43 AM |
| 4 | The Consequences of PornographyName one law not based on morality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 07:41 AM |
| 2 | The Consequences of PornographyThe point is that there’s other ways of promoting conservatism and moral values than legal means. Sorry that “makes no sense” to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 02:02 AM |
| 4 | The Consequences of PornographyI’m not calling for prohibition and there is no need to be so condescending to call us deaf. I’m calling for more acknowledgement about the harms of pornography on our children and partners, the people we love who are suffering. I couldn’t care less how anyone chooses to spend their Saturday night, but this is a very important conversation to have for a community who cares about the future of viable marriage and child rearing. How about a pay wall? Or specific subscription services that verify a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 12:55 AM |
| 10 | The Consequences of PornographySociety “wants to believe” porn is harmless, casual sex is empowering, marriage and moral standards are oppressive, that the highest aim is epicurean hedonism. I have heard countless stories about men and women who cannot have healthy sex if they watch too much porn, including but not limited to inability to orgasm - read the comments: there is your evidence. Again, we can’t study the effects of porn without a sufficient control group of people who have never watched. That is a red pill against … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 12:46 AM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyThank you for this | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 12:28 AM |
| 5 | The Consequences of PornographyI have been a libertarian for years but the past few months have taught me how important it will be throughout my life to advocate for conservatism in every capacity in my hands or else we lose everything the us was founded on. The founding fathers made it clear that a free republic as ours may only be kept by a moral people, and we are losing it - look around. Without any moral standards “liberty” will degenerate into something completely unrecognizable. It already has. How do you regulate porn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 12:20 AM |
| 3 | The Consequences of PornographyJust because something is addictive does not mean everyone who partakes will become an addict. Like unhealthy food - we still accept it as addictive, neurochemically speaking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 04:15 PM |
| 11 | The Consequences of PornographyOverstimulation is known to desensitize. Whether or not she may have been able to orgasm without porn, we’ll never know. But I’m not really sure what your point is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 03:53 PM |
| 5 | The Consequences of Pornographyhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4600144/ It’s a very widely accepted addiction model that the flood of dopamine in response to increasing intensity of stimuli is a part of every addictive process. It is a defining characteristic. I’m happy you have a healthy marriage but my assertion stands that pornography is and has been disastrous to our culture and society. Do you have kids? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Women of VirtueNope! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Women of VirtueYou’re 100% right. I’m not talking about virtue for selfish purpose- obviously. I’m encouraging women that men aren’t just looking for the easiest lay and that in a world of porn and hook up culture, men will still choose women of virtue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/19 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Women of VirtueI absolutely agree with you. One of those serious social consequences for lack of virtue was pregnancy out of wedlock. Why are some women still adhering to virtue in abstaining from risky sex in the modern day? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/19 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Women of VirtueOkay. I’m certainly not implying men have no other ambitions beyond getting the girl. Obviously that is not true. But that when a man does desire a woman, it isn’t just sex he’s looking for- it’s sex and yes, a life with, a woman of virtue. My partner has many professional goals and ambitions that have nothing to do with me, but he does express the sentiment that he wants to be the type of man who could deserve a woman like me, something he believes will be a lifelong pursuit, not something that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 01:04 PM |
| 5 | Can't stay in a relationship, always thinking I can find betterWhat are you doing here? Why are you posting on red pill women If you don’t want a red pill perspective on your choices? This reply is consistent and in line with everything we believe as a group. The truth is that high value men will not commit to you. Being hot is not beautiful. Having loads of casual sex is not beautiful. Do you still want to be going on sexcapades when you’re 40? Continue on this path and you will end up used and alone. You won’t be the first or the last. It’s a lie feminism… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Can't stay in a relationship, always thinking I can find betterExcellent. It’s a different game entirely to be wanted for a good time vs wanted for a lifetime. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 04:25 PM |
| 6 | Career for redpill womanI'm not choosing a "career" but I am working as a nurse until I'm married and have children. Might end up going back to it once my children are older. Any of the caregiving fields like being a schoolteacher nurse or nanny can increase RMV and potential motherhood qualities. And it helps me save up for my future family someday. If you mean medicine, like being a doctor, I advise against it. You're going to be committed to the job until you're 30 at least, make enough money to emasculate/subtly en… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Mindfulness in ServiceI’m not working because I’m forced to work. I happen to be making money to help save up for a house and to ease the burden when I’m staying home for children, but I feel that caregiving is my god given purpose and I have chosen to spend 40 hours per week serving my community. Once I have kids they will be my full time priority, but once they’re older and self sufficient, I will return to this service (maybe part time) for my older adult years. He has told me without hesitation that I do not have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/19 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Mindfulness in ServiceThank you! Best best luck to you, I’m a new nurse and the job is hard but so so fulfilling and so worth it | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Mindfulness in ServiceI’ve thought about this a lot! We’re both highly industrious and hard working people. He actually does not have much more “free time” than me. When I come home from work, I work on the house, and when he comes home from work, he works on developing new programming skills and projects to excel in his field. We take free time together often to watch a movie or read or have friends over. If I need a night to just hang out, I take it, and he does the same. But I’m very much okay with having all hous… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 08:56 PM |
| 12 | Mindfulness in ServiceBeautiful - gratitude. Yes! To make it worse (on the guilt front) he’s been working so hard recently on moving his career forward which has meant working hours at home. It’s much easier to work dutifully and selflessly for someone so ambitious and admirable compared to someone just sitting around all evening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Mindfulness in ServiceJust read the post, thank you so much for sharing. Will certainly work towards less control in my communication style :) he actually does help me a lot when I communicate my stress, and will take me out to dinner when I’m exhausted or bring home pizza, and I’m generally not overwhelmed at all. I think 90% of the issue this particular day was just a lapse in my attitude, not that I was truly desperate for help. I was just being lazy and grumpy. Whoops! 😕 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Mindfulness in ServiceI think you may be misunderstanding - this is such a small glimpse into our lives and not representative at all. I always share my struggles with him. He knows I’ve had my harder days and easier days. And he has a lot of weight on his shoulders to provide the type of lifestyle we both hope for someday. While nursing does make me busy, it’s not a career, and isn’t just about the paycheck, it’s another avenue of serving my community, and we’ve spoken at length about how to ensure I’m not sacrifici… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 12:34 PM |
| 13 | How do I get more in touch with my femininity? Cross post / someone told me to try this sub.It is a difficult world for masculine women and feminine men. It’s easy to become resentful of your gender, and leads many of these people to decide that gender is “all made up” because if that’s what a woman is supposed to be, they must be a “bad” woman, and that’s not a comfortable thing to feel - so you reject the premise entirely. I know many women very closely who have taken this path. But I’m going to assume, that because you’re here, and you’re asking how to be more feminine, that your cu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 04:52 AM |
| 5 | Are Moms Doomed to Get Fat?I’m also very petite and have worried about childbirth for that reason. Did you have any challenges carrying or delivering? Was your pelvis able to accommodate? Hope you don’t mind me asking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/19 03:21 PM |
| 5 | Seeking advice on being a more proactive partnerIt's all about where your sources of motivation lie. Please don't take offense at this comparison, but the post reads like someone who's overweight and says she wants to be skinny but can't stop eating ice cream. You might want it, but the motivation is not there. Same for you: it will take a serious task of cognitive restructuring to align your motivations externally, to become selfless and thoughtful, instead of internally, or (your words) self absorbed. Young people are, as a rule, never diag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/19 10:50 PM |
| 11 | Struggling to be supportive.Hi :) I wanted to reply as a fellow young woman whose boyfriend is also at the beginning of his career. He's not in a period of slump now, but he's had waves of increasing confidence separated by troughs of despair over the past year, the extent of which I found difficult to understand at first. He got a good degree, he's smart, charismatic, thoughtful, ambitious... I knew he'd have no problem finding a great job! And of course he did, but he hated his first job, and is now transitioning to one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/19 10:27 PM |
| – | Self CareInstead of a list I just want to share I had the most wonderful self care day yesterday. I drove out to montauk (the tip of Long Island in NY) had some blueberries and read a book on the beach, did some hiking out by the lighthouse, sketched with my charcoals outside of a little cafe with a hot chai latte, drove to a little local bakery for an almond croissant and fresh bread, and then to a lovely vineyard on an estate for a glass of wine at sunset. It was just the perfect day and I feel complet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/19 01:00 PM |
| 1 | At what age and how did you meet your boyfriend/husband?Pretty unorthodox but I was engaged to someone else at 21, who I should have said no to. I felt way too young and unsure and the engagement was very pressured and some might say manipulative (military and would have made a lot of extra money if we did a courthouse wedding). I even used to flip my engagement ring around because I didn’t like looking at it. But I was afraid of never meeting anyone better so I decided to settle. We were engaged almost 6 months before I got up the courage to break i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/19 01:02 PM |
| 1 | I need advice on how to deal with my emotional blockage and doubts in relationships that keeps me from being sure of major decisions/long term commitment with my current BF. (21F)Ambition isn’t wanting to be rich quick or famous. Ambition is about the day to day hard work it takes to move upward in the world. To make tomorrow better than yesterday. I personally wouldn’t take a gamble on this guy. He sounds like a nice guy but for husband material, I need a Good Man, not just a nice guy. Sure he could grow up and get put together. But there are already good men that are already grown up and put together. We always say not to date or marry someone for what you hope they mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/19 08:17 PM |
| 19 | How to Have a Productive Talk about the FutureYou’re just prolonging an inevitable conversation. I understand you’re afraid of rejection. It’s scary. But men shouldn’t be these slippery commitment phobic people we make them out to be sometimes. I hate when women say things like “girl lock him down” because while I guess that may work for some people, I need my man to be head over heels for me and trying to lock ME down. I’ve been with my boyfriend officially for about a year, but even before we were exclusive, we were best friends and he wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/19 02:25 PM |
| 4 | Why is lying about your past frowned upon in the RPW community?this is excellent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/19 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Present Over Perfect: when it comes to the food on the tableThe point is the attitude through the process. How you react when things aren’t perfect. We can all work on perfecting different and new recipes, but I’m speaking more on how we present meals whether or not they meet our standard of perfection. Give yourself time and patience for trial and error, but find joy in the process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 08:09 PM |
| 14 | What can a teenage girl do to prepare for dating?A really great post for teenage girls popped up recently. I'm not sure if you've seen it, but I think it has great advice. I think the problem with being too committed too early in life (I know from personal experience) is that you don't know yet who you are, and relationships have a way of molding people. You can fall into a trap of becoming the person you think you should be for the person you're with. You can begin to identify as so-and-so's girlfriend, instead of you, which makes breakups ve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 06:50 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I’m so grateful to be two weeks away from my second bachelors degree in nursing! I have been so blessed by the opportunity to care for so many people in need through my clinical rotations, and to be ready to serve my community as a registered nurse. I am taking a road trip at the end of May following graduation to drive 3,000 miles back home to Oregon, back to my love after 12 months of long distance, and I’m so excited to pour my energy into loving him and starting our new life together. I’m so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Insecure and wanting more affectionHugs to you. Long distance can be so difficult. I’m in the middle of a long distance spell with my significant other that’s ending in a month (yay!) but we’ve been fortunate to break it up with physical time together. Does he make you feel loved when you are physically together? Because once the distance ends, you’ll be able to better gauge what kind of partner he will be for you. Despite countless words of affirmation from my SO I still also get needy sometimes, and I’ve learned that I can expr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Tied the knot!I might be moving to Portland this summer! Would love to reach out if I end up there ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 02:20 AM |
| 6 | No contact for 3 weeks with my ex...I hope you find happiness. He clearly doesn’t care about yours. One of the most important things to feel in a healthy relationship is security, and he would never give that to you. Work on growing into the best damn woman you know how to be, and you’ll have no problem finding a good man a few years down the road. Keep your standards high for yourself, and part of that is keeping high standards for how any man will treat you. You will someday be wanted just as much as you want someone, and it wil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/19 09:56 AM |
| 14 | Thank youI am so thrilled for you! Best wishes ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/19 09:45 AM |
| 2 | PodcastsAnd for specific homemaking stuff, I love the modern homemaker. She’s so sweet, basically an honorary grandmother in my life to teach me all sorts of tips about running a home. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/05/19 01:14 AM |
| 5 | PodcastsHomesteady!!! A guy and his wife and kids live out on a farm and raise animals and garden, and it’s so wholesome. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/05/19 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Finally moving in (f24) with my boyfriend (m25) of two years in two weeks.When you say, "from home," do you mean you're moving directly from your parents house to a place with your boyfriend? There is a HUGE learning curve living on your own, and doing so with a significant other can be rocky and damaging on the relationship if you're not very careful. Many RPW will advise against living with someone before engagement, which I'm not advocating for necessarily, but I moved out at 17 and lived alone for a while, and with roommates in the following years, and one year wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/19 06:31 PM |
| 5 | Dating since February and taking it very slowlyFor heaven's sake do NOT ask this man where he sees the relationship going. He already told you the answer- that as he gets to know you better he'll devote more time to you. You can not demand or pressure time or commitment from a man. Just like he cannot demand or pressure sex from you. It has only been 2 months. He is busy and seems to be a very highly driven and successful man. All you can do at this point is continue to work on yourself and be the best damn woman you can be. You mentioned al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 10:11 PM |
| 5 | Angry MenThey already did, and I am honored. Thank you so much for your support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Angry MenThank you for your comments, however I think you have misunderstood. My addendum is not in reference to destructive anger. Yes, that is absolutely a form of strength. My addendum is a reference to men who are acting like children, or women, and throw a fit when things don't go there way with no action - hypoagency, not agency. Abusers are also often weak, because they force women into submission instead of earning it and inspiring it. Bullies I define as men who take out their anger on a weaker … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Angry MenExactly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Angry MenI'm not sure I understand your point. Obviously a man consumed by anger can become paralyzed into inaction. I'm not encouraging anyone to marry a perpetually angry man who isn't doing anything about it. I absolutely agree it isn't our job to heal men, but anger can be an exceptional motivator, and we should give it the respect it deserves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 04:50 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsGet rid of any and all clutter, it will build up quick in a small place! Don’t keep anything that isn’t essential and find creative storage space like under the bed. A tiny couch like a love seat is much cozier than a big couch you’re always tripping over. And avoid complaining about the space or drawing attention to it in other ways. The more cozy and at-home you seem, the more he will also. And as much light as you can let in, open windows and doors, the better. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/19 03:09 AM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsWith spring on its way in, does anyone have advice to keep the ants out? Favorite products? No matter how clean I try to stay, they always find their way in from time to time, and I found my first baby ant this week indoors! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/19 03:05 AM |
| 35 | "That's not fair"And he is a truly good man, turned stone by a cold woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 02:28 AM |
| 12 | "That's not fair"The advise wasn't about the weekly gesture, it was for a general shift in behavior to be the best possible girlfriend she can be at all times for as long as she can maintain until either things get better or he leaves. I agree though, it might be too late. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 02:26 AM |
| – | Own Your StuffOops: I was in a strange mood the other day, and during a conversation with my SO, I kept challenging what he was saying for no reason and giving him a hard time. This is very unlike me, and as soon as he called me out, I instantly heard my sisters voice through all my replies (very much the opposite of a RPW). I felt terrible, not sure what was going on, but a good reminder to be his sweet supportive girlfriend, and not try to be one of his guy friends, which is how I came across. Ugh! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 01:49 PM |
| 2 | What living together means for vetting?Traveling is great advice even to do before you move in as a tiny test run! My SO and I are going to Bali in June and I can’t wait, and we’ve had a few other trips and camping retreats. Also, I stayed with him for 3 weeks in January and that’s also a nice test period. I wasn’t working for those weeks, so it was a bit more like a vacation than what it will really be like, but it went perfectly. Neither of us were longing for alone time and we didn’t bicker at all. I did see a bit more clearly wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 01:36 PM |
| 5 | What living together means for vetting?You bring up a lot of good points here. I'm currently having this conversation with my boyfriend, about when to move in together, and I've lived with a boyfriend before, got engaged, and had a similar hard time leaving even though it was the right thing to do for many of the logistical reasons above, and others, such as breaking the emotional commitment of 4 years, which is hard to do whether or not you live together. For me, I choose to take the advice of my very conservative christian grandmot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/19 07:48 PM |
| 10 | Are Tattoos Unlady Like?I’m quite conservative, in a very committed and traditional relationship, and my man loves my tattoo. It’s a flower branch that comes up my side up to my shoulder blade, and he thinks it’s beautiful and sexy, and feminine. However, I don’t know if covering up a scar is a good enough reason to get one, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with scars. If you want a tattoo, you should get one, but not to cover yourself up, but as an expression and a part of you. However, you might have some men who… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 12:14 AM |
| 44 | Things your SO cares about that he probably isn't telling you.Such a great reminder! And to add, to when he’s ten times happier, you will be too! Women often complain about doing this or that, but the time it takes me to make dinner, do the dishes, and clean the house while my man is busy working comes with rewards of incredible magnitude - his love, adoration, gratitude, and appreciation, with loads of snuggles and kisses and sugar on top. What do you get in return for 4 hours of binging on Netflix? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 03:27 AM |
| – | Own Your StuffThis one is maybe a win and a loss as I work toward learning best how to navigate this sort of situation with my SO. He has a presentation to make this morning as a round two of a big job interview, and last night he asked to present it to me and ask for my advice. I confirmed he wanted my advice, and he said he really needed it. So he gave the half hour presentation, and then we spent another two hours going through it and cleaning up the structure, wording, and inconsistencies. It's for a data… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/19 07:10 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffI used to also have pretty excessive phone usage! Then, on christmas day, my phone broke. Fixing it would have cost quite a bit, but I didn't want to spend 800 on a new phone, so I bought a refurbished one on ebay for half the price. The downside to this was that I had to wait a week and a half for shipping. So I took a break from the phone - I called it a cleanse. I let the battery die after telling enough important people my phone was broken, and wrote down important phone numbers, and then di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/19 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!I will definitely let you know how it goes! And I'll ask him to reach out, I'm going to do some shopping and time management planning today and see how I feel. I think if I can focus on the kitchen, and if the other girl can handle the rest of the hosting (greeting, getting people drinks, helping with seating) and then giving an extra two hands in the kitchen for stirring and serving, i think I might just pull this off. and I'm going to have fun with it! I love cooking and hosting, so this, to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!You've been wonderful to give me so much thoughtful advice. Thank you. However, please trust me that this is not unfair in any way. It's not out of my own pocket, it's courtesy of the donors to his professional organization, from the group's account. The group doesn't have that much money, and he is very careful with spending it, and asked if this was all possible. I want to do this. I spoke to him last night, and he's going to ask the girlfriend of one of the attendees to give me a hand. He kno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!Love this - I'll definitely keep this in mind. I think I'm getting major points for doing this, and am putting more pressure on myself than he is on me anyway. He's going to ask one of the s/o's of the guys attending to give me a hand, even with just drinks at least could make my job much easier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!This is so sweet, thank you xx | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!Yikes, getting nervous. Thank you for your thoughts. I'm splitting three five pound roasts in three crock pots. This I can do the day of, and will take little effort. Green beans are a great idea, I can do that the day of, buy them prepped and throw some oil and seasoning, and roast a few batches about a half hour before serving. I think I'll do mashed potatoes in two big pots, and two big tin pans of salad. The rice casserole and rolls I can make the day before, the rice is simple, each cup of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 05:19 AM |
| 2 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!I ended up opting for three five pound chuck roasts instead of the brisket, which I've made before. Good suggestion to do something I've done before, and the chuck roast was more affordable.... and probably better in the slow cooker, create that fall-apart meat | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!Great suggestion! I have julias cook book actually! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/19 01:56 AM |
| 2 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!I've never considered the range of butter quality! what a great idea :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 10:03 PM |
| 4 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!Nice, congrats! What a feat. It's actually an event for him and members of an organization he's the president of, not my own friends or neighbors or anything like that. I imagine this makes it easier - I won't have to worry about the more social aspect of hosting, and focus more on the work like a job. He's pairing up a bunch of members in a mentor/mentee relationship, and this is an event to announce the pairing, so a lot of the night will be taken up by a lot of that. I think a few of the memb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 10:02 PM |
| 9 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!Thank you! It's not really in budget to hire help, but I love the idea of using cheap plates. You're right about the color! maybe I'll get purple potatoes and carrots or maybe replace the cauliflower with broccoli or green beans. Thank goodness no kids!! I can't imagine the chaos of doing all this plus entertaining little ones. Gosh I haven't even considered music, I should really get started on a playlist, and make a list of things I need at the store. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 09:09 PM |
| 9 | Cooking for 35 people... Help!Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I will go to the store today and try to find maybe some nice clear plastic plates - would at least be better than flimsy paper ones. I can imagine regretting the choice to take on the dish-washing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 08:55 PM |
| 5 | Appreciation of Shower Time with my CaptainMy boyfriend read this post to me this morning, and said “damn I need to step up my game. Lots of good ideas here....” So just want to say: thanks! ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 10:26 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend might fail out of his program, what should I do?Make sure he knows that you’re proud of him and respect him for who he is and not for his degree. I’m in a similar situation, my s/o isn’t failing but he constantly worries about it and threatened to drop out during last finals week. I made sure he knew how much I believe in him, and tried to show him what I see through his eyes, an intelligent, competent, incredible man, and that I trusted his decision to drop the second major and find a job if that’s what he thought was best, but that if he ke… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/19 09:34 PM |
| 10 | Sewing adviceFind a picture of the style of skirt you’re looking for. Then, go to a fabric or sewing shop in your area, Joann’s is a common one where I’m from, and talk to the ladies there! They’ll help you find a pattern (not sure how much you know about sewing) which is basically paper cut outs that you pin to fabric as a guide to cut the pieces the right size and shape. They’ll help you find a good material, and explain how different materials will hang on you (stiff vs lightweight vs heavy etc). Do you h… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/11/18 02:49 PM |
| 2 | Husband frustrated with work, passive and lethargicHope it passes soon ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/18 05:36 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsDoes anyone have a favorite shower or tub cleaner? I just use the basic ones but hate the way they smell. I’m thinking about trying the kind that you spray each time you shower, but don’t know how well they work, and would have to find one that smells really nice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 08:51 PM |
| 5 | Raise your standards – a social and cultural imperativePart of what I'm trying to do is change this. Mate selection shouldn't just be about money or power, it should be about the next generation - hence, picking men with strong values and ideals or "character" that they would teach their children. I also have advocated several times on this sub and in my personal life to choose a man with the work ethic, not the bank account, of a successful man. I'd choose a hard working lower class man over some kid who inherited daddy's trust fund without a callo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Raise your standards – a social and cultural imperativeI would never claim that women are victims of poor quality men, that's the opposite of what I'm saying. Women are to blame for all of this. I'm calling for women to choose not to be with these men, until the men get it together. And some women might be happy with "good enough" but the point I'm making is that if as a collective, women improved themselves and then raised their standards, men would have no choice but to work towards self improvement. The answer to your next point: stop being an av… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Raise your standards – a social and cultural imperativeYou’re probably right.. I guess I’m just still trying to get the message out there. I encourage women I know to do the same. I’m trying to provide some deeper analysis of why the things RPW believe are so important. We all know we should have standards and expect commitment, but I think some readers might not grasp why these things matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 02:15 AM |
| 13 | Raise your standards – a social and cultural imperativeI don’t mean to say all men are bad, so sorry if that was unclear. I was mostly caricaturing the women constantly complaining about there not being any good men out there. I think that it is absolutely true, though, that no man is as good as he could be, nor are women, and that by holding higher standards for ourselves and others, we can move society forward immensely. I also know so many good men! I am with a wonderful man and have tremendous respect for my exes. But I’m disheartened by the wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 01:15 AM |
| 2 | How to exude femininity/happiness while depressed?You are more capable than you think. Whatever you have gone through, you have survived, you have made it this far and have not met your limit. Human beings are incredibly resilient. Find inspiration in those who have succeeded and persevered against all odds. You are more than what you see in yourself. Keep one foot in front of the other. Take care ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 01:09 AM |
| 12 | How to exude femininity/happiness while depressed?I have some experience in psych, so I'll try to give my two cents. Happiness and joy are not necessarily the priorities you should be aiming for. No one is happy all the time. There is a lot of pain and suffering in the world, and times can be very difficult. What you should instead be working towards is composure, strength or perseverance, gratitude for the things you do have, warmth, compassion for yourself and with others who are also suffering, and a will to make tomorrow better than today. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/18 09:13 PM |
| 13 | Husband frustrated with work, passive and lethargicI'm so sorry you and your husband have been going through this. Unfortunately, you can't do much to help him with his career, because he has to achieve success at work by himself. It's hard to know what at work is within his control vs external factors, but this seems like a negative feedback loop - the worse it goes, the less drive and confidence he has, and the worse it will get. He might need another man that he looks up to or works with to help him snap out of it. He might need to hit a "roc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/18 06:48 PM |
| 3 | How to handle perfectionism and lifestyle changesJordan Peterson says we should treat ourselves like someone we’re responsible for helping. Most people when they try to make big lifestyle changes, improve productivity, eat better, work out, etc, we become a tyrant/slave dynamic within ourself. Don’t talk to yourself like a slave: “you have to do xyz and be perfect or else..” but instead, talk to yourself like someone you care about. Encourage yourself to do the best you can every day. Forgive yourself if you slip, but keep your expectations hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 05:16 PM |
| 1 | The Conservative WomanBingo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 03:28 AM |
| 6 | The Conservative WomanI think you may have misunderstood my message. I agree with you wholeheartedly! Conservative women specifically are able to embrace femininity because they're not trying to replace men in society. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/18 07:41 PM |
| 2 | The Conservative WomanThis post isn't exactly about politics, "conservative" can mean many things. I believe the modern republican party is often not even conservative. It's about ideology, values, and the way we think about society and our roles in it. Sorry if you think it isn't relevant. Conservative in this context especially means upholding traditional views on marriage and family, in contrast to modern women and feminism, and comparing that to a broader discussion on the role of government. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/18 07:21 PM |
| 2 | LTR problemsInstead of trying to find “problems” with the man you’re with, come up with a list of non negotiable things you need in a husband. Not small or specific things, but qualities you don’t think you could be happy without. I posted my list, you can take a look, and while I could be happy without some of these things for a casual thing, or a year or so, if you’re truly looking for a life partner, these are essential. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9e4x9d/what_i_look_for_in_a_man_husba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/18 10:00 PM |
| 1 | What I learned about male psychology in line at the airportThank you, means a lot! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 06:03 PM |
| 6 | [Serious] Do you condone men cheating?Thank you loneliness. My father had an emotional affair with a woman who respected and admired him. I don’t blame him for the divorce. I blame my mother for becoming something unrecognizable to both my father and my sister and I, the years of emotional manipulation and abuse, combative and competitive nature, controlling, etc. I think realizing this at a young age was my first step towards the red pill. I’ve been on a mission ever since to not end up like her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/18 06:16 PM |
| 2 | What I look for in a man: Husband MaterialOkay, some men. I agree with you, which is why I said it was the opposite, but still have seen countless self proclaimed alphas act ridiculously in a fit of anger. I’m sure many TRP men understand the difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/18 10:12 PM |
| 1 | What have been your top vetting questions..I think this is a fascinating question that I have been considering since last night. I think it warrants its own post. However, I think more important than the questions to ask the man are the questions to ask yourself about the man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/18 01:38 PM |
| 30 | Pro tips for enhancing your SMVClean the look. Some of the best advice I've heard is that you should shower, remove all makeup, exfoliate, shave, comb hair back, and then look in the mirror with plain black shorts and tank top. Is your hair in good condition? Here's a pro tip: when your hair is wet, take one strand, and stretch it. If it breaks immediately with no stretch, do a moisturizing treatment mask with oil. If it stretches far and then breaks, it needs a strengthening keratin treatment. healthy hair should stretch sli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Proactive skincare routine?This book is my skin nutrition bible. It is so beautiful and aesthetic, organizes ingredients by season, explains all nutritional content of different foods, and includes skin care tips in the back. Get. It. Eat Beautiful | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 01:02 AM |
| 4 | Proactive skincare routine?I LOVE almond oil for my post-shower total-body moisturizer. But get a good moisturizer for your face. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 12:59 AM |
| 22 | suggestions for how to act/feel submissive and serve husband?I think you are misunderstanding the word she is using. Submissiveness is not enslavement, it is not abusive, it is not something that is forced upon a woman, and it certainly is NOT weakness. It is a woman's voluntary choice to give herself to a man she trusts, respects, and loves. It is the hummingbird that lands on your finger, not the one trapped in a net. Please be kind to this woman, please stop cursing at her for the relationship she is choosing to cultivate, a type of relationship this s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 12:49 AM |
| 15 | suggestions for how to act/feel submissive and serve husband?We often recommend the book The Surrendered Wife as a great starting point, although it seems like you already have a great start! I'm really beginning to believe through many hours of observation and conversation of couples that the key to maintaining a happy marriage is just that - maintaining. Keep treating him the way you have as his girlfriend once you're his wife, and encourage him to do the same. Don't stop looking up at him lovingly and with admiration. Adore him. Respect him. Be excited… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 12:39 AM |
| 2 | What happened to women? Lessons from my mother.I'm sorry you don't see any usefulness in my experience. I also will be working, which I mentioned, but will still try to prioritize the home and family whenever possible. I don't know what the lesson is. I'm simply sharing what happened to my family, and thanking the community for helping me avoid taking her same path. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/18 06:14 PM |
| 2 | What happened to women? Lessons from my mother.This is so true, and difficult for people to acknowledge. Many people do horrible things to their spouses, but it often comes after a pattern of negligence, complacency, or resentment from their wife or husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 10:52 PM |
| 4 | What happened to women? Lessons from my mother.I agree. It’s why I made the post, it’s why I talk to my SO about it, and I think it’s generally why I’m so obsessed with relationship and marriage theory. I hope I can continue this effort for the next 30, 40, 50 years. RPW has been such a valuable community for this reason. I think that conscious effort is required for most young women these days, with so many environmental influences pushing them in the opposite direction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 10:50 PM |
| 4 | What happened to women? Lessons from my mother.Thank you. I have seen similar things, and it is so heartbreaking. However, in my parents situation, my mom changing had much more to do with her career than my father, many years before he left. He was faithful and devoted to her for a very long time through all of it, and moved out because he no longer recognized the woman he married. She became obsessed with her work, corrupted by money and appearances, and was never present or attentive to him or the home. My father wasn’t a perfect husband … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 08:19 PM |
| 2 | I have a wonderful and awful problem in my relationship.I think that I would tell him this the next time it comes up. Let him know that you acknowledge that you're sometimes irrational and childish, but that you're trying not to burden him or your marriage with it. Don't see it as just shutting yourself up, but instead work on actively finding the root of your emotions, and conquering the source of your insecurities, or whatever it is that's preventing you from finding peace. This way, your state will be genuine, not a "cover up" that he obviously ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 11:45 PM |
| 5 | Struggling with Finding Committed FriendsI had a similar experience in college. While I did find friends, I always felt like there was a certain wall I couldn’t break through with many female friends, and most guys at college were only interested in one thing. I think a lot of it has to do with maturity, you seem like a woman in an environment of people very different than you - sorority sisters etc. You are graduating soon, which I think you should be heavily looking forward to. You will be going from a space of 18-22yo heavily libera… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 01:16 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsAny favorite summer dinner ideas? I’m sort of in a rut and all my favorite recipes are a bit heavier and better in the winter. I’m trying to come up with some really great ideas for home date nights and I can’t seem to come up with much! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 03:34 AM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I’m so thankful for my week off starting this Friday! I’ve been invited to come with my SO to his grandfathers 90th birthday celebration, and I will be meeting new extended family for the first time, which I’m so thankful for too. He says he’s excited to show me off and knows everyone will love me. He’s also meeting my dad for the first time right before we make the trip, and I’m so thankful to have my two favorite men finally get to know each other. There will be much bonding over shared love o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 03:13 AM |
| 10 | What I learned about male psychology in line at the airportThank you!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 12:03 AM |
| 7 | What I learned about male psychology in line at the airportOh my goodness, thank you so much! You are so kind, and I really admire your work! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/18 11:10 PM |
| 27 | What I learned about male psychology in line at the airportOf course I also meant women should be bolstering the pride of their husbands :) and I guess I just really believe the world would be a better place with more confident, proud men. It’s not just a personal sexual strategy. It’s a reframing of gender relations, in the way that we should treat boys, in the way we talk about Father’s Day, and many other examples that have nothing to do with our own relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/18 10:17 PM |
| 4 | Letter to Young Women Part 2: The charm of the caregiverGood luck!! If you haven't gotten a job yet, the most important thing to ask is what the ratios are. My first job had me working 1 to 30 sometimes on the overnight shift, which is just too many people, and nobody ever received good care. Another critical piece of advice: take care of yourself. You won't be any good to anyone if you burn out or aren't well rested and fed. The first month I worked I never took a lunch break even though it was taken from my paycheck, because there's so much work th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 12:12 AM |
| 3 | Letter to Young Women Part 2: The charm of the caregiverHa! That is so sweet of you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/18 11:12 AM |
| 2 | A letter to young womenThank you so much! Part 2 is up and I've already got ideas for a third. I'm not sure if I have an exceptionally special routine, but I make sure my space is clean, I decorate with nice soft colors, candles, and soft blankets, I have warm lights instead of harsh white bulbs, and create a space that makes me feel feminine and comfortable. I have a nice blush pink silk bathrobe that I wear around the house, I try to do a face mask and hair mask every Sunday while I'm doing my laundry, and have made… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 11:45 PM |
| 4 | A letter to young womenMost moms are doing a fine job, but they have to now compete with feminism, their teachers, the media, and a community that tells them that being hot is the only way to find a man. They’re also dating young men that have been watching porn daily since they first got access to the internet at age 12, and not a magazine or two like your generation, but an endless supply of brutal and vivid sex. Girls feel like they have to compete with that too. We have completely lost traditional values on the co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/18 07:51 PM |
| 34 | What does respect really mean for a guy?Respect has to start as an internal feeling you have toward your man. Do you think he’s admirable? Do you value his opinions and judgement? Does he impress you? Do you look to him for guidance? Do you trust him to take care of you and your (future) children? If the answer is no, I’m sorry but it likely won’t work out long term. You can try to change him but this often ends in frustration, disappointment, and pushing him away. If the answer is yes, you might be asking how to go about showing it. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/18 07:40 PM |
| 12 | Young, educated, well traveled, well read....and expecting?My heart truly goes out to you. This sounds like such a difficult position, and I understand all your fears and concerns about bringing this child into your life. But you will never be alone. I’m not sure if you have any family, but there will always be communities you can find, whether in a neighborhood, a church, or a single mothers group online, or elsewhere. Being a mother is a wonderful thing, and many women look back on unexpected pregnancies in complicated situations with disbelief that t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/18 03:03 AM |
| 7 | How to be less serious?Depends on the type of woman you strive to be. Many women forget to smile, which can lead to men perceiving them as stand-offish, rude, or unapproachable. Even a beautiful woman, with a persistent scowl, will find that men won’t often come talk to them. It might seem awkward at first if you’re not used to it, but smile gently at people when they talk to you, nod, and actively listen, and you will instantly be perceived as more feminine, gentle, and engaging. Some people say the best way to go ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/18 02:40 AM |
| 3 | A letter to young womenI’m so sorry! I realized the post was getting quite long but more is definitely coming. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/18 07:20 PM |
| 7 | A letter to young womenThank you!!! I love the community and will definitely keep writing. Your support is invaluable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/18 05:13 AM |
| 10 | A letter to young womenBingo. Such a great way to explain this phenomenon and I wish more women understood this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/18 04:44 AM |
| 4 | Self CareGo on a nice drive, alone or with SO Try a new recipe Bath, face mask, sugar scrub Massage night with SO plus candles and massage oil Baking treats to give out to friends, neighbors, coworkers | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/18 03:52 AM |
| 3 | 21, I'm still unable to find a relationshipI think being wanted and desired by a man is a major turn on - not sure why any woman would want to be with someone who isn’t interested in her. It might hurt, but remind yourself you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. You can’t force love, or force commitment on a man. Once you’ve been rejected, there’s nothing left to do. Let him go, with grace and humility. You say you want to find a man willing to give you ltr. Wrong. Be the type of woman worth it. The type of woman a man w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 10:58 PM |
| 4 | Clarifying strength - alpha vs empty confidenceYou’re right, but you’ve totally missed the point. The point is - I didn’t perceive one ounce of weakness. What I saw in my man that night was raw, honest, strength. My man was not quitting, cowering, lying, making excuses, growing resentful, or denying responsibility. That is weakness, and you’re right, would leave me running for the hills. Instead, he was bearing the weight of the world on his shoulders, fighting his battle, and doing so despite having an easy way out. I didn’t just think it w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 02:54 AM |
| 1 | GonewildThat’s the great thing about personal liberty. Live your life the way you want. I hope you find what you’re looking for. But please don’t tell me how I should live mine. Your post is cruel. I’ll never be anyone’s plate. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/18 05:54 PM |
| 1 | GonewildCan’t it be mutually beneficial? Do you really think committing to a woman has no benefit for a man? I know for most women today that’s probably true, but what about traditional relationships? He changes the oil in my car, and I make him dinner. He takes care of the house and I keep it clean. He gives me affection and I happily take care of him sexually - whenever, wherever, however. I hope to be a wonderful mother for his children someday. I think my man is amazing, but I would never call him a… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/18 08:00 AM |
| 6 | GonewildAbsolutely. I’ve told my man several times that if I was a guy in 2018 I also would probably never feel like I could trust a woman enough to marry her. I’ve seen a lot of men go through hell and it breaks my heart. Close friends. I will advocate in any way I can for the rest of my life for equal treatment in courts. I absolutely understand that many of you men have experienced a world where women have told you your masculinity is “toxic,” women that have emasculated you, manipulated you, and lef… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/18 07:45 AM |
| 5 | GonewildHi guys. I think there’s been a serious paradigm shift in our culture since the invention of birth control and the explosion of feminism, allowing women to explore their sexuality on a much deeper level than has ever been possible in history. In the history of human kind, having sex for a woman came with a huge risk, whereas there was literally no evolutionary “downside” for men. This had caused a relatively stable gender relationship for many generations in which men would court the most desira… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/18 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Seems like betas make better partnersI absolutely agree. However, it’s not their responsibility to change. I see it as my responsibility to show my man that I am worth committing to. A man in his natural state is driven to have sex with as many women as possible, there is no evolutionary “downside” to doing so. But for the right women, these men would give up the rest to ensure their children with this woman have the highest chance of survival and thriving. A good marriage is absolutely the way to obtain long lasting happiness and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/18 03:03 AM |
| 10 | Three Traits of a RPWI think this is amazing and also strive to be the sort of woman you describe. Thank you for sharing. The other thing I would add is that she shows the men around her that she is worth the commitment, doesn’t ask or demand it, but through her charm, gentleness, strength, and yes, beauty, she makes men even self conscious, she “tames” them, and instills in them the desire to improve - to be the sort of man who might also deserve her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/18 02:58 AM |
| 55 | Seems like betas make better partnersI think many of the men on TRP have misinterpreted what it means to be alpha. They have experienced a culture that tells them their masculinity is “toxic” in a society that treats them unfairly in court, where they’re told to be more like women, emasculated and effeminate. TRP represents a pendulum swing past true “alpha” due to resentment of the world they’ve experienced. True alpha men are wonderful fathers and husbands, and would do anything for their families, even give their life. I could n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/18 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Need help. Currently dating a PERFECT match but there's only one issue....Yep he’s also from a poor family. I think it’s common for dominant men to want to be in control and that generally means not having to depend on anyone or anything. Look into the philosophy of stoicism and Marcus Aurelius. I think both our men are stoics. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/18 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Need help. Currently dating a PERFECT match but there's only one issue....When I first started dating my current fiancé, I felt the same way. I had grown up in a very liberal family and nobody I knew owned guns. He is in the military as well, and comes from a very conservative background and has been around guns since he was a kid. He owns 4, including two pistols, an AR, and a 22, and he has a concealed carry permit and always has one on his hip. It made me a little uncomfortable at first, especially when he talks about being totally fine using it if he had to. Since… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/18 05:16 AM |
| 5 | Tough TimesIt’s totally a man thing. My fiancé is the same way. His brother is dealing with serious health issues, chronic DVTs which can be life threatening, undergone about 8 surgeries and gives himself daily injections of blood thinners... and the last thing he wants to do is talk about it. All he’ll say is “he’s an (last name), we’re strong, he’ll be fine.” Same thing when his uncle passed. Not a word except “he was a good man.” Bringing it up, talking about it, often makes it worse, unless he brings i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/18 05:58 PM |
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