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| -2 | What are your seduction unpopular opinions?I think thats still game. Just inner game | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 04:13 AM |
| 1 | How often do you change your phone number?Ah okay. To answer your question I dont change my phone number at all. I havent had a problem with hookups trying to contact me because it's a second phone thay I dont really keep on me. | /r/seduction | 17/06/26 04:36 PM |
| 5 | How often do you change your phone number?I just have a second phone dedicated to this | /r/seduction | 17/06/26 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Unpopular Opinion: Strip clubs are the best place to learn “Game”Basically all the communication that is not verbal. Posture, tone, how you move, facial expressions. It's how you subcommunicate things like warmth and confidence. It's how you create a fun and flirty vibe. I like your idea of training in a strip club, but let's be honest. If you've got terrible game youre "punishment" isnt gonna be a glass of water thrown in your face. It's gonna be you losing a confidence battle and a frame battle, and paying for a private dance. So I'd argue there's almost no… | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular Opinion: Strip clubs are the best place to learn “Game”Okay. So how do I practice opening and my non-verbals? | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Admit to have no experience to be more confident on dates?Yeah. I believe honesty is the best route, but it's how you say it that matters. You're basically opening up to a vulnerability which can be very attractive. I'd advise practicing how you say it so it doesnt sound too pathetic, but I think it's a good approach. If you intend on being honest with her it allows her to leave early and so it filters out girls that won't put up with inexperienced guys. Those girls wouldnt have helped with you develop anyway. I suspect if you intend on stating youre n… | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 10:10 AM |
| 2 | I want to try going to a club but I have some questions..I go out semi-regularly solo to clubs and bars. And it's not really my scene and so I was scared too at the beginning. 1 - You cant dance because you dont dance enough. And if you dont feel comfortable dancing then dont dance. Nowadays when I go to clubs it's a lot of girls enjoying music and dancing, and guys just stand around awkwardly watching the girls. If you actually want to dance you can use an AI that can tell you what specific things to search on YT. But it's generally the basics of urb… | /r/seduction | 08/06/26 05:20 AM |
| 1 | When You Experience Firsthand How Flaky and Fickle(Some Women) Are You’re Constantly Reminded Why It’s a Numbers GameThis sounds more like she forgot your schedule and made a plan that doesnt work. Which could be annoying. I would've offered a new day in the future and leave her to actually flake or follow through with the new date. | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 04:39 AM |
| 8 | Do you still talk to men?I always talk to men. When I enter the bar I immediately search for an "anchor man". Basically he's judt a guy I think I'll get along with. He has a certain look about him I can't quite explain. He sort of looks like he was invited to a pool party, but he can't swim so he's sitting at the edge of the pool with only his legs in. Like he's sort of awkward and to the side of the room. (Sometimes I talk to 1. Sometimes 2 or 3. If I talk to a few different guys and they all seem cool I introduce them… | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 07:51 AM |
| 2 | If I built a Duolingo but for social skills, game, etc, would you guys use it?Yeah sure. | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Is It Ever Ok To Walk Away Mid Sentence If A Woman Is Showing Disinterest?I wouldnt. Assuming you're out in a bar or club, If you upset a girl that drinking she may do something crazy out of spite. Maybe ruin your next approach. Or after youve gottn a nunber they could talk shit about you to that girl and make the number more flakey. Maybe just stop yourself and explain you can see she's disinterested and ask how she feels. If you still get the impression she doesnt like you wish her a good night and then walk after. | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 05:49 AM |
| 2 | How do I playfully handle women who assume I'm gay?Not sure if I can help you, but there is a style of pick up called "Dandy game" that uses the gay vibe. It's things like "If I wasnt gay I'd be all over you." And if she responds positively you go with "wait, did you seriously think you can convert me?" Again I'm not too familiar with it, but a couple of examples are Russel Brand and that guy Patrick from Keys to the VIP s2e8. | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 04:35 AM |
| 5 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?Well congrats on your progress so far. I dont really have an answer to your question, but I am also a later bloomer. I come from a similar background with the crazy parents, but in retrospect I wish I had access to anti-depressants. I only took this seriously at age 29 and lost my virginity at 31. And still then it's just been better and better relationships. So you can imagine upsetting it can be looking back at my 20s and teens. I guess I would like to remind you of the girl's perspective. And… | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 03:03 AM |
| 1 | I did everything I was supposed to do as a man to improve my looks... I'm still ugly; was it all pointless?It was not pointless. If what you're saying is true then you are further than most. The problem is the focus on looks alone. I'm sure if you spent some time on social skills and pick up you'd get a lot of girls in real life settings (not the apps). Problem is that apps neuter you. They limit your attractiveness to looks alone. Whereas in real life settings you can leverage you looks, voice, confidence, non-verbals and general game. | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 05:44 AM |
| 1 | FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.Youre right of course. I suppose I just like taking responsibility. It reframes everything as a skill issue and makes me feel like I have more agency. But yeah, it's not my fault. But I still would like to navigate through this as best I can. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 04:35 PM |
| 2 | FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.Lol. Start picking my nose and swallowing the boogers. This is the true mystery method. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 04:32 PM |
| 1 | FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.Well nothing is clear. Just her actions aren't matching her words. She sends me lovey-dovey memes; she asks for my birthday and then reveals that Aquarius and Scorpio enjoy exploring life's mysteries together; She code switches a bit and she wants to be involved in my life decisions. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 04:21 PM |
| 1 | FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.I used to understand it as "hooking up". But I think short term is basically any relationship that's not long term. So any relationship that does not hope for a shared future together. ONS, temporary romances (let say if she's travelling), FWBs, that sort of thing. It can also refer to dating without pressure. Meaning one could be open to a long term relationship later on, but for now just wants to test the waters. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 03:36 PM |
| 2 | FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.Yeah I'm her main. When you frame it like that it makes for sense. I will admit I am scared because of past situations. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 10:12 AM |
| 0 | FWB says we short term, but she acts like it's long term.I'd argue not considering the girl's wellbeing, communication in a relationship and potential fallout is underthinking. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 09:57 AM |
| 1 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?I'm just thinking about your comment again. Of course what you're saying is 100% correct. What I'm saying is "connect instead of take advantage" is more than just a mindset shift, but something you need to act on and take deliberate steps. I guess at this point it's just semantics. Basically I'm asking what exactly does "connect" mean with regards to these professions and and I'm asking if there exists a unique way to connect with nurses or airhostesses. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:52 PM |
| 12 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?This is very helpful. Thank you. I was wondering about this exact thing. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:19 PM |
| 2 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?I'm not struggling to get laid. You're talking about some other guy. I'm just asking a seduction question on the seduction subreddit. For context, I noticed on my feed that "most promiscuous professions" popped up again. It's something that's been discussed on reddit since back in the day. And now I'm curious what to do with that discussion. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:02 PM |
| 5 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?I'm not worried. I'm asking how to game nurses and air hostesses. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 01:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?From what I understand this wasnt the official roster from the hospital. This is an agreement that nurses come to amongst themselves. Ive also heard of 5 day and 3 day equivalents from different nurses. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 01:25 PM |
| -1 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?Now why didn't I think of that? | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 01:23 PM |
| 24 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?Yeah I know it's silly. But I was scared the comments would just re-confirm what I'm saying and no one would give useful advice. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 09:18 AM |
| 0 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?Im not interested in verifying the information. I'm assuming it's true and going from there. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 09:10 AM |
| 9 | I'm told female nurses and air hostesses are promiscuous. But how do I use this information?I used to work in hospitals and in ERs and it was rough. Now I'm out and Ive got a lot more free time. In the hospitals I worked nurses had cycle 7 days - 7 nights - 7 off. So I'm wondering if I can somehow meet on their off days. Any advice on how to meet them or socialize somehow? I understand young nurses can be more recluse. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 09:09 AM |
| 15 | Is There Anyone Else Here Who Likes Going Out By Themselves?Sort of. It's always a drag to start, but I've always enjoyed it more alone. Every lone outing feels like Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist. | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Realized I don't actually know how to hold a conversation.You need a source? Literally just try it. | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.I'll try doing this more. Thanks man. I found your comments super helpful. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.I agree with what you're saying. But just so I understand. I try to figure out if she's worth a long term relationship, but that's deceptive because it leads her on. Instead use this order: I should start by running game and stating I'm not looking for something serious (like from the beginning), then later on see if there's something for longterm. Only other thing I can think of is to use night game exclusively for hookups and frequent places where I know the girls are not for dating long term.… | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.Okay. I'm asking for advice about seduction on the seduction subreddit. You're free to ask for advice too. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.I mean, true. I'm a "let's see if you're good enough" boy. And if I dont think she's right and I don't see a long term relationship, then I'm a fuck boy. Thing is I dont have the looks to get girls to agree based on their lust. So I'm trying to use game to compensate. So yeah I do agree with you. I should remove the relationship signaling behavior that I display early in the game. Only signal those once I've made a decision to be in the relationship. I'm just working on the actual mechanics of w… | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 10:19 AM |
| 2 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.So with the last girl is different to the second girl. These were 3 different girls. For that last girl we did eventually meet and we kept it friendly. After meeting her I realised I do not want a serious relationship with her. So I'm trying to pull back abit to so my actions match my intentions. Just so I understand, If you're saying I should have disqualified her more as part of that initial attraction process then I can look into doing that in the future, sure. For the second girl, Honestly, … | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.Sure we can use that. But I'm not ordering a steak. Im the chef trying to cook the steak better. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 04:53 AM |
| 5 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.No. I dont think it is I think the problem is I want to get to know the girl first before making a decision whether its a long or short term relationship. But the process of getting to know the girl seems to be a husband action and not a fuck boy action. So in that way my words dont match my actions. Like I understand why it would be shocking that this guy spent time getting to know you only to reveal he's only had physical attraction to you and doesn't want you in a serious way. But how else ca… | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible/worth to sarge sober in the night?I usually just flit around and never stay with one group long enough for them to invite me for drinks. A trick I can give you. If social convention forces you to take a shot (someone buys a round of shots and invites you in), it helps to always have a chaser nearby with a straw. As you take the shot don't swallow and hold it in your mouth. Quickly pretend to drink the chaser, but you're actually spitting it out into the chaser using the straw. | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 12:29 PM |
| 3 | Going out alone tonightOnly advice I can give is find spots that play music from the late 2000s early 2010s. And also spots with a stricter dress code. But unfortunately you will likely need to visit each spot and do your own recon. Remember you can always ask the bartender what's the normal age range, when is the place busy and also ask if they're open late on weekdays. | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Going out alone tonightHonestly anything works. Its just nice to have something external to tell you what to do. Also it's more your non-verbals (look, clothes, posture, tone, vibe/energy). Having said here's some I use: If she's alone: Hey, did your friends put you in time out or something?/ Is this the naughty corner or something? If she's with friends: Hey (get their attention) I saw the all of you and I wanted to tell you a joke. What's brown and rhymes with Snoop... Dr Dre. (Hold frame) Hi my name is X (get some … | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 11:38 AM |
| 3 | Going out alone tonightI just realised I answered OOP assuming he was talking about nightgame. I define nightgame as the places where alcohol and drugs could be present. So if you want a list: bars, hotel bars, night clubs, lounges etc. Use a subreddit for your home and ask about the nightlife. But just anywhere thats open late and selling alcohol. So every music festivals. Recently I realised sports events could also work. Daygame is literally everywhere else and you'll need a different approach for this. So back to … | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 11:05 AM |
| 95 | Going out alone tonightAvoid alcohol. Try to gain social momentum (state) at such a rate that you naturally keep up with everyone's lowered inhibitions. Have 3 openers prepared. Write them down and keep it in your wallet. Then have a short story prepared so you can just start yapping if theres an awkward silence. Walk in. Find the first man with alcohol and dap him up. I call this guy the anchor. Introduce yourself. And just be honest (say youve been at home for too long and decided to go out alone). Then tell him tha… | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Need advice with bullshit and banterThanks. I found this very helpful. Also big fan! | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with one-itis or fixating over a certain chick? Ignore herWell its gotten to the point where I am finally getting dates with girls and getting results, but it all feels fake. Because it feels weird going on these dates when I already like the muse girl. So I'm stuck until I gather the balls to actually make a move on her. If she likes me back I win. If she rejects me it would free me up to date others, so I also win. The truth is I'm just scared. | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Need advice with bullshit and banterOkay. I used to do this, But I noticed when I do this "Yes and" tactics, I can go too far upset people. Like the Steve Jobs comment may get me weird looks and it might be my non-verbals or tone of voice. I think they can detect im not being sincere and read it as a sarcastic or mean comment. | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 02:02 PM |
| 0 | I have absolutely no idea how to attract women. Any ideas?Look good (outer game) and be good (inner game). | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 12:04 PM |
| 6 | Struggling with one-itis or fixating over a certain chick? Ignore herMaybe. Oneitits was a major reason why I got involved in pick up and social skills. I started taking control of my life in the vain hope that I could shoot my shot. As it stands I know that she would reject me. But I'm almost there. I view her as more of a muse at this point. Like she's inspired so much positive change in my life that even if she rejects me I wouldnt be mad. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 06:35 PM |
| 1 | I (41M) was part of a celibate cult. I’ve left it. Help me start a new life of dating.I started relatively late. Only started trying at 29 and lost my virginity at 30. I'd recommend giving the wiki of this sub a read. Lots of general advice and resources. I personally like the old PUA content like Mystery and Brad P. Its a lot of structured game (that is pre-rehersed lines and approaches. Canned material similar to a comedian). So the Mystery Method is a book I'd recommend. It does give a lot of insight into how a girl finds a guy attractive. Looks are important but it accounts f… | /r/seduction | 26/04/26 08:05 PM |
| 1 | How to maximize opportunities being the only guy with a group of girls?Forgive me. His name is Tucker Max. I think he discusses it in his book "Mate", but I heard about it from a 3rd party source. So this is the method he used to meet his wife after being a degenerate for a while. Basically he made a list of all his hobbies and things he would be interested in. Then he spent some time gathering info on those circles. Info like F:M ratios and also the average hotness of the girls. Then he ranked them and joined the rop ranked circles. Once in, he became friends with… | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 08:11 PM |
| 1 | How to naturally become more dominant?It creeps me out a little. But youre saying women find this dominant? | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 08:04 PM |
| 1 | How to naturally become more dominant?What am I listening to? | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 04:17 AM |
| 5 | How to maximize opportunities being the only guy with a group of girls?I think it's called the Max Trucker Method. befriending sll of them and then ask if they know any women that'll be right for you. | /r/seduction | 24/04/26 09:21 PM |
| 2 | if you had to choose between investing into either salsa/bachata or yoga as a hobby to maximize the chances of finding a future girlfriend, what would you pick?I'd focus on dancing. For a few reasons Dancing is a social activity that can be done outside of formal dance class or dance socials. Like at a bar or night club. Also yoga always struck me as more inward focused and introverted whereas Dancing in more outward. In this way dancing has more reach. Odd thought, but imagine doing yoga in a grocery store vs bachata While yoga has better F:M ratios, remember if you get into it youre gonna be part of a core group of approx 20 women. If you start datin… | /r/seduction | 18/04/26 06:24 AM |
| 1 | A small shift in texting that makes conversations way more engagingYeah I guess. I associate it with fun. Just look at a girl and take a shot at some factoid. "You look like someone with an artistic ability. Do you paint?" Something like that. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 03:35 PM |
| 11 | A small shift in texting that makes conversations way more engagingThat example you gave is called cold reading. Its a fun way of getting information. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 12:40 PM |
| 1 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"Apologies if something I said was upsetting. I'm not really upset. More confused and trying to learn. You sound like someone with lived experience so lemme ask you. From your perspective: 1 - What’s the line between a man being clear and leading a girl on? Is verbally stating "I want something casual" enough or does a guy need to do more to make it clear? 2 - At what point would it be leading a girl on? The initial meeting with the flirting and the bantering? Second date? Like when does it becom… | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 12:22 PM |
| 7 | Girl keeps smiling and making eye contact but ignored my Instagram request — what does this mean?Honestly I dont think you can interpret any meaning from her ignoring your request. 2 options I can see. Silently accept her as a friendly, pretty presence in your work place and appreciate that she makes the place nicer. Or talk to her IRL. I'd recommend talking to her and not mentioning the IG Request at all. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 08:58 AM |
| 1 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"Yeah, that would feel awful. I'm sorry that happened to you. Two months is enough time to start seeing it as something real, so having it suddenly reframed like that can feel really upsetting. I try and do it early. Second date earliest although some comments are saying I should try even earlier. For me it's still a hard conversation to have but I'm trying. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 04:22 AM |
| 1 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"Bring it up earlier? I'll try it out and see if it helps. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 03:54 AM |
| 2 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"I found this very helpful. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 03:53 AM |
| 1 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"If you're asking why I dont state upfront that I'm looking for a hookup. It because I dont go into it assuming it's gonna end up casual. That's a truth I try and figure out during the dating process. If she agrees to go on a date with me I want to keep an open mind to the chance of a long term relationship. For me it's a 2 date process. At the end of the first date I explain that I find her physically attractive, but I want more connection before I consider a serious relationship. So when can we… | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 03:50 AM |
| 2 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"What you are saying is exactly what happened to me recently. On a second date I explained to a girl that this isnt going to work because XYZ. Later on she got very upset because she remembers me promising her marriagedespite XYZ. Like she rewrote history. I'm actually considering finding ways to record these interactions for posterity. Anyway. I asked if she was okay with something casual and she agreed. Now after sex she's taking back her agreement. Feels like I need to learn how handle this si… | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 02:37 AM |
| 3 | "Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"Usually the second or third date. I dont want to commit to a serious relationship on physical attraction alone. So I give some time to get to know her abit. | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Fun or creative questions to ask on a date?How do you get these into a conversation? | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 02:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you handle dead chats when girls suddenly go cold and stop responding?I take ghosting as a strong indication of disinterest. I have 1 female friend that is actively anti-social media and even she responds to my texts. And another that has a very busy life and she still respond (after 2 days, but still). If a chat is dead and you were previously on good terms I usually try something like: "You never write... you never call... rents due... and the kids are worried sick. What should I tell them?" If no response I wait a few days before sending them that gif of Homer … | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 08:24 AM |
| 85 | What is a Theory you have about seduction that you know is true but just can't prove?Social circle game is superior to day, night and online. If you're looking for longterm relationships with reliable access to sex and feels. | /r/seduction | 14/03/26 07:56 PM |
| 1 | How much does race matterMaybe. It is context dependant. This is what I've gathered online based on coaches quoting "research". It matches my anecdotal experience. But as always YMMV | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 10:04 AM |
| 2 | Where to find a shy cute girl who is nerdy or alternativeJoin a wealthy church with lots of families and young adults. Join a few of their home cell meetings. Instant exposure to loads of shy girls and nerdy girls. | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 06:09 PM |
| 15 | to the pros here, You go to a house party you barely know anyone and in the distance in kitchen there's a girl all by herself."That's fine. I'm not trying to be your boyfriend." | /r/seduction | 03/02/26 08:12 AM |
| 15 | How much does race matterIn my experience about 1 or 2 in 10 will flat out reject you on race alone. As in they cant feel attraction towards someone due to there race. Also, anecdotally ive notice about 1 in 10 will feel more attraction towards you due to your race. Like a fetishization almost. The middle 7 or 8 girls out of 10 will notice race, but they are willing to play the game if you can. | /r/seduction | 30/01/26 10:38 AM |
| 7 | Constantly finding myself in situations where it's difficult to approachFirstly, you're a pick up artist. Not an excuse artist. In daygame situations is difficult to find someone standing idly. Everyone's doing something in the moment. I mean you could optimize for places where people are forced to stand and wait (escalators, elevators, smoking areas etc). But outside of those contexts you will be interrupting someone. If you're no approaching at least try to maintain state by talking to strangers that you are not necessarily attracted to. I find it's easier to inte… | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 07:45 AM |
| 1 | I get so fucking gassy stomach on dates/sleepover dates, i don't wanna fart up the bedroom. Do you guys have any tips??If this is a genuine problem you may want to review your diet and maybe see a doctor. If this resolves on a PPI (for example) then thats something quick that you can take before a date. | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Owen cook not following julien and vice versa on IGEh. I dont want to read into their personal lives too much. Maybe they're tired of being associated with one another. Maybe they hate each other. Who's to say? But also I dont think it matters that much. | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Even though she is a smoking hot baddie that turn every head when she walks. Should I just approach?I think you know what all of us are gonna say | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Just reading and no theory has been done. Anyone else have/had this issue?I'd say yes it is bad to spam content with no action. For me learning how to eject helped alot. So when I spoke to a girl and ran out of things to say I'd say "Aw shit. I'm out of things to say" and hold frame. If she doesn't speak I greet her and leave. Now that I've got a line to end the conversation I'd only practice openers and see how far I'd get. Then when I feel awkward I eject. But each time I try to stay in longer. Remember just day "hi" and you win. | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 08:21 PM |
| 1 | How to reject a girl?You'd be surprised lol | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 10:34 AM |
| 1 | How to reject a girl?I believe you. My problem is that honestly can be brutal. I want to be empathetic and present the truth in a way which is better for her to digest and does not hurt her. So like specific phrasing or frames that will help | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 09:49 AM |
| 3 | How to reject a girl?Meeting up tomorrow for lunch. Gonna tell her then. I'll respond with a mini-breakup field report. | /r/seduction | 05/01/26 07:48 PM |
| 0 | How to reject a girl?Yeah I can see that. Not saying youre wrong. I just view starting a relationship to be a skill. Similarly I view ending relationships as a skill. | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 09:10 PM |
| 8 | How to reject a girl?I'm probably gonna say this verbatim. Its the truth and I cant think of a better phrasing. | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 09:05 PM |
| 5 | How to reject a girl?I'm debating this. I'm 32 and shes 30. Neither of us are kids. I am being very clear. But it still feels wrong to continue down this path. I want to take control and end the relationship. | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 06:29 PM |
| 2 | What is the best career to choose where you can "game more often"If you just enter a profession and be successful in it? Then musician or DJ or something like that | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 08:38 AM |
| 3 | What is the best career to choose where you can "game more often"For some reason I interpreted as him asking out of curiosity. Like a thought experiment | /r/seduction | 04/01/26 08:35 AM |
| 4 | [ADVICE/MOTIVATION/INSPIRATION] - Beginners/late bloomers - how far did game take you in 2025 and what do you want 2026? Reflections from a 27M total newbieI was just reflecting on this. Game helped me salvage an otherwise terrible new years eve. I'm relatively new so its more just general talking to strangers with some attempts at flirting. Still that was enough to turn a bad outing with friends into an enjoyable one. | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What's the point of approaching if you can't take them out on dates?Yeah I know. I guess I was just hoping the truth was easier. | /r/seduction | 30/12/25 08:19 AM |
| 1 | What's the point of approaching if you can't take them out on dates?Any tips on how to be socially uninhibited without alcohol? | /r/seduction | 30/12/25 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Fellas, Do you take compliments on your smell as a woman shooting her shot?No. I take it as an ioi tho | /r/seduction | 30/12/25 07:43 AM |
| 7 | Be honest, if a girl calls you cute instead of hot/handsome it isn't about attraction right ?Being called cute isnt bad. A girl isnt likely to tell you that you are "hot" or "handsome" because it'll show too much interest. If you want you should aim for "cute and masculine" or "cute and strong". Or somehow add a bit of edge to your appearance. | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 03:34 PM |
| 3 | Anyone have the infield of Yad from Daygame.com? The one where he approaches a russian girl. Its the one that made him famous.Thing is he's really not a handsome guy by any metric. So I wanna see what an ugly PUA has. Largely because I relate to not being attraction at all. | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Anyone got a quick way to estimate a girls age during daygame?Im guessing make up has improved so everyone is leaning towards young 20s. So the 16 year old look older and the 30 year old look younger. | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Anyone got a quick way to estimate a girls age during daygame?Yeah at the moment I'm just having platonic conversations and eventually just asking for an age. Hopefully this way I can try get a feel for different ages, but its still so scary. I approached a group today with the eldest in the group being 20 and the youngest being 13. I just silently panicked and ejected. | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Modifying your speech for tipsy/drunk people?Got it. If they haven't gone too far what should I modify in my speaking? | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 01:15 AM |
| 2 | I think I'm deleting TinderI mean the specific time isnt the important part. Just pick a daily time limit and enjoy it | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 10:35 PM |
| 1 | I think I'm deleting TinderI dont use it personally, but I understand it's supposed to be more of a passive investment of time. Put up a good profile with good pictures and use it for 1 hour a day. Quickly funnel into a date and if she's hesitant you move on. Hopefully IRL game gives you a sense of abundance and you'll quickly abandon tinder girls if they aren't interested in moving things forward. | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Do I need to give negative feelings to women in order to build attraction and keep a long term relationship?You're talking about 2 opposite ends of a spectrum, but its good that you're acknowledging this. I only understood it when it happened to me. Met a girl in a friend's circle. She was cute. We didnt talk much. Then at the end of the night she says goodbye and says "I hope we never see each other again". You can imagine why that girl would be on my mind for the next few weeks. What did I do? What did I say? Is this a trick? So the idea is that attraction can occur even with negative emotions. | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 09:05 AM |
| 2 | Any tips on non-verbals? Specifically being more expressive?So far ive been relying on getting into state then approaching people. I imagine I become more expressive, but only after I've got some momentum behind me. I'm hoping that eventually "States become traits" and I'll naturally be more expressive, but until then I just need to brute force it. I'll try what youre suggesting and see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 10/12/25 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Any tips on non-verbals? Specifically being more expressive?Im pretty sure he was able to pull a random pair of girls into our friends group by smiling and having a fun, energetic demeanor. So I believe you. | /r/seduction | 10/12/25 03:33 PM |
| 9 | how do i have sex in the car with an FWB?If he's going to ask you to have car sex then I think you've established enough communication to work through it. Just remember car sex can be very awkward. I've got a small 2 door so we had to use the passenger seat (back seats weren't spacious enough. I'd recommend starting with something non-PIV first and going from there. Maybe hand job or oral. Whatever the space allows. I wouldn't recommend taking off all the clothes, just pants down and PIV. Other logistics, find somewhere discreet and ke… | /r/seduction | 10/12/25 03:17 PM |
| 5 | What are your best flirty questions or innuendos to spice up platonic date banter/convo once rapport is built?I place a fist against her shoulder then when she looks at me confused I shove her back. Like Bruce Lee's 1-inch punch, except this is a 0-inch punch. When she asks why I did that I become indignant and deny it happened. "What are you talking about?" "Why would you say that? I would never punch a woman." | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 09:50 AM |
| 2 | Should I still talk to this girl at my gym?The obvious answer is no you shouldnt talk to her. But I'm assuming you're still interested in her because you're asking the question. In my limited experience you'll need to significantly change who you are and you'll need to have less platonic experiences with her as it'll reinforce her rejection of you. And remember it's alot of work for 1 girl. And remember there are reasons she could've said no that have nothing to do with you. | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 10:21 AM |
| 1 | mid Week FRThis was insightful. Thanks for posting bro. I've noticed that if the girl is still cold from the opener you tend to cold read anyway. Maybe shake it up with a false time constraint or try expand on your premise first. I think you might have more success if you make her more comfortable (at least superficially comfortable) before try a cold read or push pull. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Why all these alpha males on YouTube still unmarried or still figuring it outI know you're talking about 'alpha males' and not necessarily PUAs. But still. Your observation might be survivorship bias. Guys who get into long term relationships aren't actively practicing seduction and so they dont contribute towards those goals. Having said that, check out Adam Lyon's content. He's a seduction coach that is in a marriage. | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 12:56 PM |
| 0 | Daygame SDLs are the ultimate form of seductionNever tried for one, but I imagine that daygame SDLs rely heavily on logistics and prep. | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 08:19 PM |
| 8 | Why do some men lose interest the moment a woman actually likes them back?I've done this. I'm just being friendly, but she's mistaking it for flirting so I eject. Or she reveals something about hersrlf that's off-putting. Or she's flirting back, but it's coming across as mean spirited or uncalibrated. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 12:00 PM |
| 2 | how to deal with cockblocking friends?Befriend her friend. Also consider using a wing. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Nice guys are just unattractive guys who tried to be kindI think the bottom line is to be results orientated. If being a nice guy gets the results you want (ONS, LTR, loving caring wife. Whatever your goal is), then do it. If it doesnt work, then reflect and figure out what's the problem. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 03:37 PM |
| 9 | Does anyone think the "nice guy syndrome" thing is total bsIn my limited experience you want to start of nice until they are comfortable and then break the nice guy persona as soon as you can. When breaking rapport just don't be malicious, but something like teasing her, making negative assumptions about her. As long as the underlying emotion is fun and teasing (not malice) its usually taken well. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 07:20 AM |
| -12 | Just watched my natural friend open a set (a girl and her boyfriend) and it was beautiful.Lol yeah true. I have been getting into alot of PUA media recently. | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 05:23 AM |
| 1 | First day experience of clubbing and need some help1 - I have canned lines and stories prepared. Ideally you should just talk off the cuff and use free association to come up with conversation. But sometimes you see and opportunity to talk to a girl and having something ready to talk about it useful. 2 - the girl is the group and the group is the girl. I've found that when you open up the girl, you must open up the group aswell. She's there with her friends and you'll need to respect that. After a quick story or comment I usually ask how does ev… | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Just watched my natural friend open a set (a girl and her boyfriend) and it was beautiful.I think I'm gonna invite this friend circle out more just to observe him and see what I can learn. He's already given me a few things I know I can work out. | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 02:32 AM |
| 10 | Just watched my natural friend open a set (a girl and her boyfriend) and it was beautiful.He's a natural so when I asked him he couldn't really tell me. This is gonna sound bad. But my face tends to look sleepy or tired. I genuinely think I'd benefit from finding a facial expression chart and sticking it to a mirror and practicing emoting. While watching him, I was reminded of how theater kids tend to exaggerate their expressions. His style was like that, but not quite that exaggerated. Also, he didn't haven't this agenda to sleep with a girl and approached with no serious intention.… | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 02:29 AM |
| 6 | I’m giving up on flirting and being seductiveThats fine. Work on the other stuff in the meantime. Are you dressing well? Taking pride in your appearance (hair, skin, exercise)? Can you improve your diet? Are you able to communicate non-verbally? I heard somewhere don’t use words if the face is good enough. Don't use the face if a wink is enough, don't wink if a smile is enough. Can you improve your profession/career somehow? Can you create a fun environment with your loved ones? Are you able to get information from strangers? Are you able … | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Any doctors on this sub? I've been recognized 4 times by my patients in bars.Ah. So my fear is that I'll be iterating some pick up model and I (the person) will be recognised. But I get your point. If you're saying that there's more leeway (I'm not THAT uncalibrated) then that is very comforting. Thank you. Having said that, I'm curious what people in this sub are reading if not at least the M3. | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Any doctors on this sub? I've been recognized 4 times by my patients in bars.Yeah this is what i do eventually. Do you rent a place in that city and spend the night? Any other logistics I should consider? | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Any doctors on this sub? I've been recognized 4 times by my patients in bars.I think it would affect my career negative. Maybe not "ruin" it in an absolute sense. Having said that reading your comment made me remember that I know a doctor that do goes out looking to get laid. I should probably message him. I definitely feel fear. And I think you're right about the assault example. Still it seems like the solution is what others are recommending, drive an hour out of town and eliminate that excuse. | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Pulled hot college Latina girlIs that so hard to believe? | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Need help with solo night game difficultiesIm not sure if I can use these sets. Im in Healthcare and keep getting recognized by my patients. Last night's one couldve worked because I did know them outside of work, but I think I freaked out and I ended up withdrawing. | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 03:12 AM |
| 7 | Quitting pornI made some headway leaving porn. From me it was affecting my sleep and my studies and eventually my job. I am an addict, so for me I had to cut my phone out entirely. Bought a LTE smartwatch and ive been dailying that thing for a while. No porn no social media. But also no camera and no QR scanner. Good luck | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 05:52 PM |
| 7 | M17, Sexy goth girl from my school constantly looking at me, how to approach her?Get her attention. Flash a smile. Good posture (shoulders back, head up etc). Look her in the eyes and say something like: "I'm a guy and you're a girl..." Offer hand of God "And I just wanted to say Hi" | /r/seduction | 11/10/25 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Anybody else Use ChatGPT?I think everyone already knows this, but good pick up is emotional and not logical. Asking her where she's from and what she does isnt great. Even if you find something to talk about it isnt as strong as you expect. Dr Aron's questions are nice because they give some examples of more emotional questions. But they just sound stupid if you approach a girl and randomly start asking the those questions. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 04:17 AM |
| 3 | Anybody else Use ChatGPT?Yes i use it. But not like that. I asked it to analyze Dr Aron's 36 questions for closeness, look st rhe underlying themes and idead and see if it could expand on those sets. I picked the questions I like. Then I asked ChatGPT what conversation threads could naturally lead to those questions. So it helped me integrate those questions abit more smoothly. So for example opener "Hey, I'm waiting for a friend and you seemed interesting and I wanted to talk with you for a bit. I really like your styl… | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Should you date with a girl who you don't find physically attractive in her pictures?I've found the halo effect can occur with non-physical things too. If I notice she's intelligent or honest/trustworthy, then that trait actually changes how I perceive her physically. Its a strange illusion, but noticing one good trait can make a person look more attractive. | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Familiar with any PUA coaches or dating coaches that help women get dates? That is where the audience is female, not necessarily the coach.Honestly i'm just applying salsa logic to PUA. I've found that learning how to follow in dance helps me understand how to lead. So I'm curious about the women's perspective. What does structured game look like for them? What are the tools and techniques? Its kinda an exercise in empathy i suppose. | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 02:05 PM |
| 0 | When in doubt about IoD's (as a beginner), should I assume she's hot or cold?I hear you. I have no problem approaching. I'm trying to calibrate while keeping a convo going. Sometimes I can't quite receive whatever feedback she's putting out, so I wanted to ask which way I should go in that context. | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 11:36 AM |
| 1 | When in doubt about IoD's (as a beginner), should I assume she's hot or cold?Indications of interest (IoI) and disinterest (IoD). Little signs that give away if she likes you or if you should back off. | /r/seduction | 14/08/25 11:27 AM |
| 7 | WHAT EXPERIENCE PROMPTED YOU TO OVERCOME MR. NICE GUY SYNDROME?Up until that point I assumed that being nice was all the was required. Im not sure why, but upbringing or culture or zeitgeist made me believe it. It wasnt until that point did I realize being nice was just the bare minimum and is somewhat lazy on my part. Not just that, I viewed my inexperience with girls as a good thing. I thought girls would like a guy that was clumsy, awkward and not too confident around them, because it would signal that I haven't been with many girls (and that I haven't r… | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 02:46 AM |
| 13 | WHAT EXPERIENCE PROMPTED YOU TO OVERCOME MR. NICE GUY SYNDROME?I met a girl that was sort of perfect (not really but you get the idea). But I didnt have the confidence or skills or anything to make the approach. I wont go into details but I didnt have a lot of time to make a move. I would only see her for a couple a days in a month for a couple of months. And then I lost the opportunity. And I deeply regretted not being prepared for that girl when she arrived in my life. It hurt. I started learning PUA skills in the hope that I'd maybe run into her again or… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?If many people are responding to me negatively then I might need to check my thinking. I'm trying to figure out if my reasoning is wrong here. Bear with me. Are we scared that she will respond with a lie or red herring, and her feedback will waste our time and energy? Or will asking for her feedback make the current situation worse? Or upset her further and provoke some retaliation? I understand we can be silent and not ask for feedback. I'm trying to figure out why we shouldn't. Does it make th… | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 08:33 PM |
| -1 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Okay, but OP's not in that situation at the moment. Also you can ask for feedback and still have an idea of what went wrong. Like you can have both. You're just asking for her perspective. And if she still doesn't answer then nothing happens. | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 08:03 PM |
| -1 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Only thing to do is review your actions. When something goes wrong, think back 2 steps and see if there's something to improve. Keep in mind that there might be nothing to improve. If possible you can try message her and ask for feedback and see if you agree with it. | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 07:24 PM |
| 1 | All the guy's I've [F22] asked out so far had girlfriendsI'm saying this with love, but testosterone helps alot. | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 02:28 PM |
| 160 | All the guy's I've [F22] asked out so far had girlfriendsAll the cute men aren't taken. You've only approached 3 that happened to be taken. You need to boost those numbers. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Why can't I reject a girl?Of course they will. But that doesn't mean their feelings are correct. And even if you are rude, their opinion of you can fuck off. You mentioned they asked favours that are not good for you. If they ask try frame it as "No, but thank you." "No thanks, but thank you for your time." Or "no thanks, but thank you for keeping me in mind" If they are asking you to explain why you declined you don't have to give them a reason. Just tell them the favour they asked for put you in a worse position. Don't… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 10:05 AM |
| 0 | Why can't I reject a girl?You need to cultivate a healthy attitude of "fuck you". If you know its bad you should say no and be willing to escalate to the point of "no I'm not doing that and fuck you for asking". Often people sense you're willing to escalate and resist further they tend to back off. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 08:49 AM |
| 1 | RSD Coach List 2010-2014Who do you think is legit? | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 06:17 AM |
| 1 | [Vent] I don't think I'm cut out for this. I got too close to her.There are a few reasons. I have a lack of experience is creating a fear of commitment. A close friend of mine is ending a 5 year marriage (total of 11 year relationship). His wife has been cheating on him for the entirety of their relationship. One of his regrets was that he did not date around and went with the first girl he met. He was inexperienced with girls and dating and that scarcity mindset drove him marry his first girlfriend despite all the red flags. While I am forming a connection ei… | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 12:23 PM |
| 1 | [Vent] I don't think I'm cut out for this. I got too close to her.Thank you. Appreciate the feedback. Yeah I'm gonna keep working on the family situation. It is a toxic environment and I suspect the ultimate solution may be to cut them off. | /r/seduction | 14/05/25 02:30 PM |
| 2 | What’s the general rule of thumb in double texting?Give it some time. People are busy. If she's still not responding here's a joke you can try: Send her a gif of a man talking to a wall and caption it saying "I found this really cute picture of us". If it she's still not engaging in a way that you're comfortable with then think back 2 steps prior to this. What could you have changed? | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 06:14 PM |
| 3 | If women are truly picky as many seem to believe...Honestly. I'm skeptical that women are that picky. I've seen girls pick absolutely terrible men that I knew I was better than. But the difference is that man put himself out there while I didn't. So this is just me trying to putting myself out there. Also, I love the idea of people and humans and how we connect, and from a nerdy (pseudo-academic) standpoint, I find it all fascinating. | /r/seduction | 22/04/25 08:37 AM |
| 1 | Approached a girl, got her insta but this always keeps happening? What am I doing wrong?It's harder for her to commit to a date when the invitation is just text on a screen. Rather organise the date in person during your original meeting and only text her to confirm the date. For a first date I invite girls to an activity I planned on doing anyway. Attending open mic comedy or something. So my plans don't hinge on her response. If she flakes I just go to the comedy night anyway. | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 10:20 AM |
| 1 | How can you tell if a girl is single before approaching her?It's irrelevant. If you sense some attraction, you approach to find out if there's more than "just attraction". | /r/seduction | 13/04/25 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Shit Test RepertoireI'm not sure if shit test or she's just qualifying me. Was asked, "You seem so cool. What's something that gets you upset?" My response was to clarify what she meant then i said something like, "If you stick around, we'll explore that later." Thing is she kept on asking me this so I don't think she was satisfied with my answer. | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 07:38 AM |
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