Hopefully this post is received well. This subreddit has been great so far. My job requires me to interact with 100s (if not 1000s) of people from all walks of life. So maintaining a clean personal reputation is part of my job. It also requires me to advocate against alcohol abuse and a loose lifestyle of heavy drinking. As well as against sexual promiscuity.

I am congruent with my work (what I mean is I don't drink and I'm not into casual sex). But I still I go out to bars to practice the social skills and communication skills I've been reading about. Also getting into medicine requires a certain type of personality and upbringing which resulted in my dating life being shit. Since reading up and practicing PUA I've noticed it's had a positive impact on my work, my mood and my life in general.

Unfortunately I've been recognised on a few occasions. Each interaction has been super chill with patients inviting me for a drink and raising an eyebrow when I order a cola tonic and lemonade. But so far I've noticed these interactions have elevated the night. But obviously I can't be going out practicing M3 or Style's 5 point ladder or Kino escalation with the risk of being recognized. Things like A2 and A3 (man to woman talk, qualification, push-pull/hot-cold, DHVs, all that) becomes difficult because at that point I am not longer "chilling after a busy day" and instead risking my reputation (and therefore my career).

I'm getting over approach anxiety. I can open a 1-set and 3-set. I'm working on pairs and mixed sets. This problem I am having is different from normal approach anxiety. I also think as I become better at this it will become less of a problem. But as always I'm curious to hear input from others.