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Removed for spouting red pill talking points. Society does not "tell men to be feminized."
/r/ExRedPill26/07/26 11:57 PM
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To quote OP's own post: It took me a while to figure this out, but I have started to realise social magnetism is a completely different skillset. It also has far less to do with how impressive you are than I once thought. Someone can be average on paper, but still have charisma, warmth, humour, social boldness and actually make people feel something. Whilst a very impressive individual who is physically fit may come off as stiff or try-hard. And then: Since recognising this, my dating and social…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/26 04:44 PM
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It's not nearly as big a factor as you're implying, and I have to assume you're about to say some incel bullshit if you start off by insinuating that OP isn't drowning in pussy because he's not tall/white enough.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/26 04:59 AM
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No idea. People viewing your profile, maybe? Because it's not relevant, and the only people who believe it is are those who are pilled to the gills.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/26 03:55 AM
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Dont listen to the advice of the women in here, this is not a sub where you'd take dating advice from the kind of women that hang around here Jesus Christ, dude. As your fellow mod, I can confidently tell you that this is a bad look. It comes across as misogynistic.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 10:29 PM
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Okay, yeah, lying about being active in RedPillWomen and basically admitting to being a transphobe. We're done here.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 09:18 PM
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You're active in RPW and are clearly some kind of right-winger and/or TERF. I'll refrain from instabanning you, I suppose, but I'm going to err on the side of assuming you're here in bad faith if it comes to that.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 08:45 PM
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Dude, they're not answering because you've been caught by the spam filter. I've elected not to approve your comments because I have to assume you're here in bad faith.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 06:51 PM
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Removed several of your comments for violating rule 5. Enjoy your ban.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 06:44 PM
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Removed for violating rule 5.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 06:41 PM
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I'll tentatively leave this up in case you have some context or a question, OP, but please give me a reason not to just take this down as red pill bullshit. Anecdotally, I can tell you that this is not a gendered issue. My dad often fails to take me seriously until I lose my shit at him.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 06:38 PM
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I'm not saying they didn't get the idea from porn. I'm saying porn is not to blame. If you don't see the distinction, I'm not sure I can help you. The solution here is to change education, not to change porn (which can't feasibly be done anyway).
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 01:13 PM
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Most people don't fight in wars either, but you wouldn't blame war movies for people thinking real war is just like the movies. I'll happily die on this hill. It is not the job of fiction--including porn--to accurately model reality, or to do anything but entertain. Parents, teachers, and non-fictional media are responsible for educating the public on how to have safe, consensual, satisfying sex and relationships. People getting their sex ed from porn is not porn's fault. And even if it were, wh…
/r/ExRedPill23/07/26 05:38 AM
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People have instinctive sexual urges, yes. They do not instinctively know how to have sex. You'd be amazed the things people come up with on their own that aren't "insert tab A into slot B." Moreover, while the specific acts people enjoy may be learned, there is some evidence that interest in kink is either innate or formed in early childhood, like any other aspect of sexuality. But regardless, I'm not sure how any of that is relevant. The point is that you don't blame fictional media for puttin…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 10:32 PM
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You certainly implied it with your complaints.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 10:23 PM
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As a man, you are statistically more likely to be raped than falsely accused of rape. I know you said you aren't afraid of false rape accusations, but surely the same principle applies more broadly. Why are you more afraid of being accused of something bad than having something bad happen to you?
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 09:14 PM
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You know those videos are very often staged, right?
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 09:10 PM
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Some people have always been kinky, and the vast majority of people have at least a couple kinky fantasies. I'm at work and so don't especially want to put that into my browser history, but look it up if you don't believe me. The only difference is that now we have names for this stuff, and it's more visible.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 08:54 PM
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If people start driving like something out of the Fast and Furious movies, do you blame the movies? Obviously not.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 08:49 PM
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Yeah, the problem isn't porn. It's lack of education. (And common sense; obviously choking someone is dangerous.)
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 05:41 PM
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Not really. I don't think a man is any more or less obligated to protect his family than a woman is. The man in that scenario probably should have been more willing to protect his loved ones, but I also can't really blame him for being terrified. It's easy to moralize about what you should do in a situation like that, but much harder to make yourself act against all your instincts when the chips are down.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/26 03:45 PM
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I'd say that's the wrong way to be a person. Being shitty doesn't make someone less of a man.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/26 03:14 PM
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You know we can see your comment history, right?
/r/ExRedPill21/07/26 04:40 AM
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I haven't watched the interview--I have minimal patience for this sort of nonsense and don't particularly want to reward it with clicks--but I agree wholeheartedly with everything you've said here. It's true in a certain sense that the rise of the right is a response to progressivism, but their blame is totally misplaced. Lefties aren't the ones making your life shitty. And I'm deeply tired of all the gender war rhetoric, both pro- and anti-manosphere, running with the assumption that there's a …
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 11:01 PM
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There's a lot going on in your comment, but I'm going to boil down all the problems I have with it into one specific question: Haven't you ever noticed that this only goes one way? Like, no amount of "punitive rhetoric" from the manosphere pushes anyone into feminism. It's only ever manosphere adherents claiming that feminists have gotten too extreme.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 08:11 PM
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? I'm not the other person's alt.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 05:22 PM
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First, sure, it's easy enough to block someone who sends you a dick pic. It's less easy to block 100 men who send you dick pics. I've never used dating apps, but I (woman) have dated online, and I can assure you that being treated like a piece of meat and inundated with harassment does take a toll on your mental health. Second, you are ignoring that there is also a risk of in-person abuse. These apps do not screen for sex offenders, if I recall correctly, and reports of abuse often go unpunished…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 05:12 PM
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Depends on what you mean by "easier." Yes, women get more matches. They also get more harassment.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 04:36 PM
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As someone who was deeply involved in red pill and the manosphere and watched hours of the whatever podcast, the fresh and fit podcast and other misogynstic podcasts, I can assure you that much of their content is framed as a "war against feminism", therefore it's literally a fact that they exist purely because they don't like feminism. Why do you believe them when they say this? Even if they're being honest (they might not be), that doesn't mean they're correct to blame feminism.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/26 01:21 PM
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I (woman) actually find shy people attractive. The problem is that I'm not the most socially adroit person myself. Staring at the floor and hoping the other person is braver than you has a low success rate for obvious reasons; when both of you are doing that, you're distinctly unlikely to get together. As such, I've gotten somewhat better at making my interest known over the years. But it's still not always easy. Also, for the record, I didn't have any romantic experience at all until I was 24, …
/r/ExRedPill16/07/26 10:22 PM
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Yup, along with a bunch of other mental illnesses.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/26 06:55 PM
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As a woman, I tend to find people who could be described as "highly competent" exhausting. I don't have the energy to keep up with someone who's constantly doing shit. They want to work, go to the gym, buy groceries, cook, do their taxes, and then go out with friends all in one day. I can do two of those things on a good day. (They're also more likely to have drunk the capitalist Kool-Aid, but I digress.) Just a reminder that different people really do like different things.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/26 06:17 PM
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Suffice to say there's a reason they use it to treat PTSD. You should talk to your doctor before touching any substance if you're on meds, but mine raised no objections. And it unironically saved my life. I spent a year in a suicidal spiral and no amount of therapy or medication did anything to help. But within a month of me trying weed for the first time, I was feeling noticeably better and clearer-headed. It didn't fix all my problems, but it got me to the point where the therapy and medicatio…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 07:23 PM
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Therapy, most likely. Maybe psychiatric help. At the very least, they need to go to a doctor.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 06:16 PM
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We literally already know that OP plays football, and as far as we know the alcohol is the only issue with their diet. Which isn't great, to be sure, but you don't drink to the point it becomes problematic unless there's something deeper going on. They also mention past betrayals and not liking their friends, which tells me this is not a simple problem with diet and exercise. Telling someone who hates themself and struggles with alcohol that all they need to do is eat better and exercise more co…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 05:37 PM
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I mean, yeah, but I'm sure OP knows that. People who drink too much don't do it because they think it's good or helpful. They do it because it seems less bad than the alternative.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 04:54 PM
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I'm not the person you replied to, but I'll throw my two cents in. For me, learning to trust again took a lot of therapy, medication, and weed. I'm not saying that's what it has to look like for you--in particular, the weed is very hit-or-miss and I probably wouldn't recommend it to someone who already has an alcohol problem--but you do have to at least try something new. After all, what you're doing now clearly isn't working. Also, remember that there will always be risk. You're risking being b…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 04:51 PM
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I downvoted because it's nearly useless advice. When you're that depressed, you aren't going to have the motivation to do those things anyway. But even if you did, it's a Band-Aid on a broken leg. I've been reasonably active and still suicidal.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/26 04:33 PM
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I think part of your problem is that you're going into all this with the intention of meeting a romantic partner and are absolutely uninterested in anything else. Firstly, you should probably be more open to meeting new friends. But secondly, even if you just view them as a means to an end (you shouldn't), befriending other guys can still be an avenue for finding a partner. Sure, you're not going to date them, but they also know people. Maybe they'll introduce you to some friends who are your ty…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 07:42 PM
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As many people have told you, there are options other than cold approach and doing nothing.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 03:18 PM
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"Making an active effort" does not have to mean "hitting on every woman you see until one gives you her number." Knowing that the person asking you out asks every woman out and has no specific interest in you is a huge turnoff.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 02:04 PM
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What lack of empathy? People have been quite nice in this thread.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/26 09:02 PM
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Whatever, dude. If you think most women want red pillers, you clearly believe in the red pill.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/26 05:07 AM
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If you believe in TRP, you aren't a "better man."
/r/ExRedPill11/07/26 04:58 AM
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I'm a 30-year-old woman. I have seven suicide attempts under my belt. I'm not saying my life is even especially hard--I, like everyone, have both problems and privileges--but it's not like I've never struggled. As to your point, you might be able to find someone who would do that. Would you be able to find a safe, non-abusive person who would do that? I sincerely doubt it. Who would fly someone out to live with them after a month and a half? Nobody in their right mind. Nobody you could trust. Be…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/26 04:55 AM
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Tried to kill myself several times in part because I was convinced I was an unlovable monster. So fuck off.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/26 04:53 AM
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Bullshit. You don't fall into this line of thinking unless you're already at least a little sexist. And "poor women, they can't help being innately shallow" does not actually help your case.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/26 04:51 AM
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Weird way to spell, "I hate women."
/r/ExRedPill09/07/26 03:51 AM
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~50% of people are men. ~50% of people are women. Most people are straight and monogamous. The math ain't mathing.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/26 03:49 AM
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This doesn't even make basic mathematical sense.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/26 12:31 AM
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"Women couldn't possibly understand what it's like to hate yourself" sure is a take.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/26 12:31 AM
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you're saying feminists are highly attracted to men, and highly enthusiastic about getting into relationships with men? Some are, some aren't. marriage and birth rates have dropped drastically Birth rates tend to go down in developed countries where people have access to birth control and healthcare and can therefore choose how many kids to have and keep their existing kids alive, instead of having accidental pregnancies all the time and making more babies to replace the kids who died of prevent…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/26 08:31 PM
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Dude, what are you talking about?
/r/ExRedPill06/07/26 07:39 PM
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Put simply, no one is immune to propaganda. To expand on that, a person can believe that all genders are equal, that social norms surrounding who initiates a relationship or pays for dates should be abolished, that men are no more naturally assertive than women, etc., and yet behave in ways that don't fully align with those beliefs. Even the most progressive feminist in the world still grew up in a patriarchal society, and their upbringing is bound to affect them even if they've made the conscio…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/26 02:48 AM
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Violence against women has literally gone down as the availability of porn has risen. I don't fully agree with the article's conclusion--after all, correlation does not always imply causation--but at the very least, we can confidently demonstrate that porn use does not cause violence against women on a societal scale. If it did, violence against women would have gone up since the advent of the internet. Instead, it's dropped significantly.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/26 07:14 AM
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I can't look too deep into these right now (will try to later), but my immediate thoughts are as follows: For the first two, "some people are addicted to social media" and "social media is addictive" are two different claims. For the third, I don't especially trust one person's opinion over a whole meta-analysis, especially when that person is trying to sell me a book.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 05:06 PM
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Could you link me to this evidence?
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 04:57 PM
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Ehhhh. To be honest, the moral panic about social media is just that: A moral panic. It's true that social media companies are trying their hardest to make their products addictive, but I find it kind of strange that we all just buy into the idea that they've succeeded. It's actually kind of convenient for them, to paint them as so powerful and competent. I know of at least one meta-analysis that doesn't support the idea that social media is bad for your mental health. Personally, I think the wh…
/r/ExRedPill29/06/26 04:50 PM
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I agree, we can't tell everything about someone's genetic quality and that's true for all animals when they select mates, but that doesn't mean the signs that we can tell aren't what attracts us to someone. One big problem with this claim is that conventionally unattractive people date, marry, and have kids all the time. Another is that a lot of conventionally attractive traits are not actually healthy/optimal. Most shredded male celebrities have bodies which would be impossible without steroids…
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 06:11 PM
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You can perhaps tell some things by looking at someone. You can't tell whether they have asthma, a heritable mental illness, or some kind of genetic anomaly. And your point regarding wide hips is kind of odd considering that "as thin as possible" was in recent decades (and to a large extent still is) the beauty standard for women.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 03:52 PM
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Evolutionary psychology is mostly bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 03:40 PM
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You can't actually tell whether someone has good genes just by looking at them.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 03:39 PM
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People have already given you good advice, but I wanted to add that my boyfriend literally prefers older women, with no apparent upper limit. Says he's investing in me and I'll get hotter as I age.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 09:14 PM
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You have yet to elaborate on how porn use can be degrading, so what am I supposed to think? Yeah, I'm sure it can be, but so can literally anything. Singling it out leaves me with little choice but to assume you put sex on a pedestal. Hell, you've outright stated that you view exploitation surrounding one's sexual identity as uniquely tragic.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 05:38 PM
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Man, if you think that merely having the wrong kind of consensual sex degrades your soul or whatever, I cannot help you. Sex is only one small facet of who we are, and you need to stop putting it on a pedestal. It's honestly not that big a deal. This is exactly the kind of thinking that leads to incel beliefs. They prop sex up as the core of a person's being, then lament that they've failed as people by not having it. In reality, the kind and amount of sex you have says very little about you and…
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 01:07 PM
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No shit sex can be degrading, but that depends entirely on how the people involved feel about it, and you can't actually tell from watching a sex scene whether that's the case. And good luck trying to create a world without porn. Some of the oldest known art is porn. It's right up there with intoxicants when it comes to things you can never get rid of. Thinking we are defined by sex is the problem with a lot of people.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 05:18 AM
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Porn addiction is an unscientific term which mostly describes people whose relationship with porn is pretty normal, but whose sex-negative beliefs cause them to feel moral incongruence. See: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too And the extent to which porn can be harmful could be significantly mediated by better sex ed. Shaming people for porn consumption is useless, and in fact contributes to the problem. Moreo…
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 12:28 AM
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Might be time to take a break. Anger is justified, slurs are not.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 12:03 AM
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This was a good comment up until the slur.
/r/ExRedPill22/06/26 11:06 PM
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Not loving the sex-negativity in this comment. Referring to having sexual interests as "depraved" is pretty fucked up.
/r/ExRedPill22/06/26 11:05 PM
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Two points: Did you actually click the links? It may have linked to unreliable sources, or to different places than where it actually found the information. The problem isn't that AI is never correct. It's that it's hard to tell when it's correct or not. Also, it's true that a relationship with reversed gender roles carries risks. But so does a relationship with traditional gender roles. So does every relationship. So does being single. Nothing in life is without risk.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/26 06:19 PM
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AI in general is EXTREMELY unreliable. It's not actually "artificial intelligence." It's essentially the same technology as the predictive text on your phone. You know how when you type something, your phone suggests what you might want to type next? AI is doing the same thing. It collects data from the internet and guesses what to say in response to you based on that. It doesn't think or make decisions. If you ask it a question, it's not answering you based on what the truth is or what the expe…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/26 12:48 AM
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Well, its creator did a nazi salute on live TV. Twice.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/26 12:45 AM
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I can't imagine saying "I ignore data and evidence in favor of anecdotes and whatever vibes correctly to me" with so little shame. Good luck navigating life with that horseshit in your brain, dude.
/r/ExRedPill19/06/26 03:49 PM
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Motherfucker, what are you even talking about? First of all, it's not nitpicking to point out that you said something with your whole chest when you have absolutely no evidence for it, whereas my own position on unproven things is generally more like "it's a possibility." If you don't see the difference, I can't help you. Secondly, YOU are the one who brought up "whether I've tried it for myself or not." I wouldn't have brought up my own experience at all if you hadn't done so, because one perso…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 11:51 PM
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Uhhhh... I don't believe in aliens, or at least not that they're visiting us. I think it's plausible that some other lifeforms could exist out there, but there's a huge fucking difference between saying something is possible and confidently asserting something for which you have at best anecdotal evidence. To say nothing of the fact that the scientific consensus flat-out disagrees with you; masturbation is, in fact, good for your health. Also, I have tried it. After a traumatic experience, I was…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 10:52 PM
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Oh, fuck off with your unscientific gibberish.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 08:17 PM
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Consider why you need others to see you as "masculine" or "a real man" or "a real adult." It honestly doesn't matter that much.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/26 08:01 PM
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There's infinitely more science opposing red pill claims than supporting them.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/26 05:28 AM
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I'm 30 and have only become more of a political radical over time. My areas of concern have broadened, not narrowed. Don't project your own selfish bullshit onto others.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/26 04:21 AM
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Well, those are just ordinary women being interviewed on the street, so I don’t think it’s something you should completely ignore. FYI, those interviews are very often staged, especially when done by manosphere types.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 07:14 PM
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Your inability to distinguish between the two != there being no difference between the two. No more than a colorblind person being unable to see the difference between two colors means they're the same color. As far as I'm concerned, love is when you care about someone even if they can do nothing for you. There are people I love who have been gone from my life for years. They by definition cannot give me anything. I nevertheless care about them and wish them well. I would help them if they showe…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/26 01:10 AM
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I'm not expecting you to understand this, given your own proclivities, but using someone for what they can give you as opposed to loving them for who they are is generally frowned upon.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/26 12:54 AM
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Quit being a shithead. I quoted you verbatim.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 08:13 PM
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Fuck off. Your shitty way of seeing the world isn't the only way.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 08:12 PM
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It's very obviously this part: also since having one woman you can get back to all the time does reduce the mental workload from having to juggle different women and hence get to focus on other manly endeavors in life like your business, your career, your hobbies and whatever project or important things (maybe charity) in his life. You're talking about a wife like an employee you hire so you can focus on the actually important parts of your life.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 08:04 PM
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"This is what people tend to chase in life" != "This is what actually makes people happy."
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 08:00 PM
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Actions may speak louder than words, but your beliefs determine your actions. If you don't see why thinking the way he does is a problem, I cannot help you.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/26 07:59 PM
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? This guy may not deserve an explanation, but the average person absolutely does.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/26 06:14 PM
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You don't "need" to have a partner by any specific age. Do what you want.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/26 02:30 PM
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If your values cause you to consistently side with the people at the top, you are somewhat responsible for the state of the world and decent people should avoid you.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/26 06:38 AM
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What exactly do you think values are if not your beliefs?
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 03:26 PM
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????? Sharing values is arguably THE most important part of a relationship. What if one of you wants sex before marriage and the other doesn't believe in it? What if one of you wants to raise the kids Christian and the other wants to raise them Muslim? What if one of you wants an abortion and the other is pro-life? Your values determine your actions, and you are defined by your actions. What could possibly be more important?
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 02:34 PM
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thanks for making it clear you do not give a shit about reality or anything else other than your ideology LMAO. Just saw this edit. Pot, meet kettle.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 01:54 PM
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Your values are a HUGE aspect of your nature.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 01:34 PM
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The apps are also 80% male. No shit women are going to be picky.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 01:15 PM
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Cool, a random image whose source I don't know. Why should I care?
/r/ExRedPill21/05/26 01:05 PM
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You cannot change someone who doesn't want to change. You cannot force someone to see the humanity of people who aren't like them if they don't want to see it. You cannot logic someone out of a belief system that isn't based on logic in the first place. Yes, these guys are, to some extent, products of circumstance. But there are men out there who grew up under the same circumstances, were inundated with the same bigoted propaganda from birth, and still didn't turn out as right-wingers. So the gu…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 05:19 AM
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Women don't actually "go for only the top 10% of men." That's a myth born of cherrypicked dating app surveys.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/26 03:29 PM
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There's a difference between "this person is physically attractive" and "I actually want to date this person." You can decide the first from a glance. But their personality decides whether they're worth your time or just nice to look at.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/26 02:37 PM
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Sunsets and Christmas lights look nothing alike, but both are still beautiful. Not looking like a particular attractive dude doesn't mean no one will find you attractive.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/26 02:34 PM
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You're being misogynistic by even thinking that's a serious, widespread problem, and Christianity is the progenitor of a lot of the misogyny in our society.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/26 05:52 PM
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Then maybe don't comment on things you lack context for.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/26 05:58 PM
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Yeah. I am extremely skeptical of separatism in general.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/26 04:33 PM
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I don't really care either way. I neither regret it nor wish I'd waited longer.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/26 06:38 PM
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... Huh? Twinks are all the rage these days.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/26 06:40 AM
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I lost my virginity when I was 26. No one I've met has ever cared.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/26 06:39 AM
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I can no longer see your comment, but the impression I got was that you thought this dude was doomed to some kind of nonconsensual cuckolding dynamic because he lets his wife take charge, which is obviously absurd. I may have misunderstood, but you really could have made it clearer which part you took issue with. There are a lot of weird CHUDs who think an individual woman being dominant is the worst thing imaginable.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 02:34 PM
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Again, why do you care what others think?
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 01:13 PM
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I am not talking about his statements that women are above men. I am talking specifically about female-led relationships. And like... Yeah, man, burden of proof is on you here. You can't change that by pretending otherwise.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 01:12 PM
4

Why?
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 04:56 AM
3

Sure, it can help if you have an actual medical issue, but merely having lower-than-average testosterone levels is not, by itself, a problem requiring treatment.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 03:31 AM
4

Why do you care so much what other people think?
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 03:29 AM
3

The vast, vast majority of men will not benefit from testosterone therapy.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 03:28 AM
2

I find your statement that power exchange is the mainstream standard a bit odd, considering kink is a fringe subculture. I think we may be referring to two different kinds of power dynamics here: The vanilla/"default" setting of m/f relationships which is usually depicted in mainstream media. In this style of relationship, it's typically assumed that the man will initiate the relationship and eventually propose, take charge during sex, and provide for the woman financially. This relationship sty…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 06:21 PM
3

This dude has some stupid ideas about women being superior, but there's not actually anything wrong with his relationship.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 04:23 PM
2

Oh, the horror.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 04:23 PM
2

You do realize that a) a dominant woman does not inherently lead into cuckolding, and b) there's not actually anything wrong with cuckolding if everyone involved is into it, right?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 04:15 PM
7

I say this as a domme: Women are not naturally better than men at anything. Men are not naturally better than women at anything. Most gender differences can be chalked up to socialization. Don't go from one form of gender essentialism to another. People are just people.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 04:10 PM
2

I'm a domme. While I'm ideologically opposed to social hierarchies, I have an intrinsic desire to be the dominant one in romantic/sexual relationships. Nothing in particular made me this way; I've just had nonsexual dominant fantasies since I was in single digits, and sexual ones since puberty. It's not that I'm not aware there are other ways to navigate relationships. Those ways just interest me a lot less. None of which is to say that I think power exchange relationships are superior to vanill…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 04:01 PM
1

This is literally just "violent video games cause violence" bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/26 05:57 AM
1

Uh... No shit? Dude, I'm a woman, a feminist, and a domme. I've thought plenty about sex and power dynamics. But the thing is, there's nothing wrong with consensual power dynamics, and their existence is not by itself misogynistic. Moreover, it is not porn's job to model moral perfection. It's entertainment. It's supposed to be hot, not teach you feminism 101. Even when porn presents dynamics that would be unhealthy in real life, that is okay. It's no worse than action movies depicting violence …
/r/ExRedPill30/04/26 05:22 AM
1

Appealing to the male gaze is not inherently misogynistic. A thing can be targeted toward men without being anti-woman. Like, come on. Dudes are allowed to jerk off to stuff made for them.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/26 04:46 AM
2

God, you're an idiot. You didn't even click on the "studies" link. I know this because if you had, you'd have seen that EVERY SINGLE PAGE is down. Not one of those studies is actually available on those links. At least be curious enough to actually check whether a study exists before you cite it. I can't imagine being so intellectually lazy that I just google a question and grab the first link that agrees with me without even checking if it contains the information it says it does. And here's my…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/26 05:05 AM
1

Did you miss that I quit consuming porn for a year and saw no positive effects? Plus I have literally linked an article debunking the concept of porn addiction. And anecdotes are not data. For every story of someone who hated working in the porn industry, there's a story of someone who loved it. Besides, most porn is amateur anyway. You need to stop lying to yourself. Like, just say you think sex is evil and corrosive. Doing so would be more respectable than insisting that the data is wrong with…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/26 04:46 AM
1

There is no credible evidence of any of that. I literally just linked to a study suggesting porn use is not linked to misogyny in the comment you replied to. It's not linked to reductions in sexual performance either. Nor is the porn industry uniquely evil. There's exploitation in it, but there's exploitation in every industry. Nestle kills babies, but something tells me you don't go around telling people to stop eating chocolate. See: The comment I linked in my other response, which is full of …
/r/ExRedPill25/04/26 06:10 PM
3

Then read the book. And there are plenty of feminists out there who do their best to treat men that way. I'm one of them. The shitty feminists are loud, but they're far from all of us.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/26 12:34 AM
1

Reddit isn't showing me your other comment for some reason, but I can see the first part of it, and it's bullshit. The evidence that trafficking is a widespread problem in porn is scanty at best. This comment has a lot of relevant links around the human trafficking moral panic: https://www.reddit.com/r/SexPositive/s/B8WJ0XAJgL Also, trafficking is a problem in the tourism industry, but something tells me you don't yell at people for going on vacation.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/26 06:45 PM
1

Dude. If I point out issues with the studies I find on google, you'll just say there are better studies out there and I'm cherrypicking the bad ones. Besides, the burden of proof is on you. But I can provide evidence for my own claims. I'll just drop this article here, and point out this quote from the linked study: [M]oral incongruence around pornography use is consistently the best predictor of the belief one is experiencing pornography-related problems or dysregulation, and comparisons of agg…
/r/ExRedPill24/04/26 04:46 AM
7

To create loving men, we must love males. Loving maleness is different from praising and rewarding males for living up to sexist-defined notions of male identity. Caring about men because of what they do for us is not the same as loving males for simply being. When we love maleness, we extend our love whether males are performing or not. Performance is different from simply being. In patriarchal culture males are not allowed simply to be who they are and to glory in their unique identity. Their …
/r/ExRedPill24/04/26 04:38 AM
1

Then cite that research. I know of at least some that disagrees. I'm also aware that a lot of anti-porn "studies" are funded by conservative/religious thinktanks.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/26 04:31 AM
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Disagree. There's nothing about watching porn that will inherently make someone a misogynist.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/26 01:07 AM
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You are making the classic mistake of confusing attempts to combat oppression with privilege. Here is a small list of ways in which women are oppressed in the United States: Many of our elected officials, including our president, are known to be serial abusers of women and girls (and some have been caught on camera admitting to it, with no consequences). Women could not open their own bank accounts until the 1970s, within living memory. Marital rape (which can happen to anyone but affects women …
/r/ExRedPill23/04/26 02:05 AM
2

I am perfectly aware of that shit. I am, in fact, pretty informed on manosphere stuff. But a) it was still toxic, and b) he specifically claimed that TRP was less toxic in 2015. That is the claim I am disputing.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 08:14 PM
2

Oh, fuck off. I literally conceded that TRP has likely become more toxic over time in one of my comments here. But I also provided you with direct evidence that TRP was toxic in 2015 too, and you don't care. You can't bullshit me about this; I was there. And regardless, anything that treats women like a video game (i.e. you just need to press the right buttons to get what you want) instead of diverse people is inherently toxic.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 07:59 PM
2

Dude. He said that date in his first comment. He wasn't "spelling it out for me." You can just admit to misreading things.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 07:44 PM
2

My brother in Christ, he literally said he was talking about 2015 in the initial comment.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 07:40 PM
7

You are missing the point. The study also shows that even very short men have only a couple fewer partners than very tall men.
/r/ExRedPill20/04/26 01:03 PM
5

Source for this claim? But even if that's so, that's not say that being short is some kind of hopeless prospect as a straight dude. Like, the data says short dudes aren't fucking that much less than tall dudes.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/26 10:38 PM
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My link to my comment doesn't seem to be working, so I'll just copy and paste what I wrote: There's a fair amount of research on height and sex/relationships. For example, here's one article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10480972/ It doesn't answer your exact question about whether height is more important than personality, but it does count mean and median numbers of sex partners by height for men (and women). Want to know what the difference between median sex partners for very sho…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/26 07:46 PM
2

Then she sucked and you're better off without her anyway. Don't judge all women by one bad relationship.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/26 07:44 PM
8

My boyfriend has cried in front of me several times, and I only love him more for it.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/26 06:39 PM
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Anecdotally, I can tell you that as a 5'5" woman, my first boyfriend was 5'4". It's not just that I didn't care he was shorter than me; I actively thought it was cute. That's not to say I have a specific preference for shorter people--I don't really care either way--but there's something to like about every height. Taller than me? Can envelop me with a hug. Same height as me? Cuddling is easier because there's no need for awkward maneuvering to make sure everyone is sufficiently snuggled. Shorte…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/26 10:30 PM
2

That's not how anything works. Stop taking random shit you see on the internet so seriously. People are infinitely diverse, and so are their relationships.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/26 06:57 PM
2

Basically incel shit. They believe in red pill stuff, except that they think they personally can never be an alpha/Chad/whatever and therefore life is pointless.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/26 04:01 PM
2

There's a fair amount of research on height and sex/relationships. For example, here's one article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10480972/ It doesn't answer your exact question about whether height is more important than personality, but it does count mean and median numbers of sex partners by height for men (and women). Want to know what the difference between median sex partners for very short (5'2" to 5'4") men and very tall (6'0" to 6'2") men was? Two. Two sex partners. The media…
/r/ExRedPill13/04/26 11:04 PM
3

Have you considered that a) he has everything that would make you happy, but maybe not everything that would make him happy, and b) he may have other things going on in his life? What if he's battling a drug addiction, or his parents fight constantly, or he's struggling in school, or he's dealing with mental illness, or his dog just died? No matter how happy someone seems, no one is ever 100% happy. In particular, all these "alpha male" influencers seem like insecure losers who hate themselves, …
/r/ExRedPill13/04/26 07:49 PM
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Firstly, try a different therapist. Secondly, even if a "Chad" really can get all the girls he wants (solid maybe), that's not to say he's happy. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but getting laid by itself will not make you happy or fix your mental health. It might help some, but then you'll realize your life honestly isn't that different than it was before. You're seeking external validation when what you need is self-esteem, which is different.
/r/ExRedPill13/04/26 04:59 PM
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Man, a girl not being interested in you is not the end of the world, especially at your age. Like I said, I didn't date until well into my 20s, and I'm far from alone. You're judging what your whole life will be like based on a time when people are at their worst. People in high school suck. They have all the interest in sex/romance of adults and none of the maturity of adults. You grow up a lot in your late teens to early twenties. You won't always feel like this, and girls won't always be this…
/r/ExRedPill13/04/26 04:56 PM
3

Again, they may well be lying to impress one another. And just because someone has done something good for you (e.g. encouraging you to get into athletics) doesn't mean they're right about everything. A person can be great in some ways and kind of suck in others. Don't listen to anyone who pressures you to do anything.
/r/ExRedPill13/04/26 03:45 PM
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Firstly, how do you know this? Do you see it yourself? Or do they just tell you it's happening? If so, they might be lying. Secondly, even if it's all true, it's not the norm. Most people aren't having tons of sex or relationships at 16. Hell, I'm a woman, and I didn't get into a relationship until I was almost 24 and didn't have my first kiss until I was 26. And statistically speaking, the younger generations are waiting longer to have sex and relationships. You're well within the norm here, bu…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/26 08:55 PM
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Does height matter to some women? Yes, definitely. But I'm a woman, and I've dated guys ranging from 5'4" to 6'2". (I'm 5'5'" myself, for the record.) There are plenty of us who don't care about that sort of thing. Moreover, you're a teenager. A lot of the girls who refuse to date someone under a certain height now will mature and be more open to people of different heights in a few years. But even if that doesn't happen... Do you really want to date someone who's so shallow anyway? If someone r…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/26 08:50 PM
2

I'm a woman. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 26. You're fine.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/26 07:24 PM
3

Don't join the military. It's a machine that kills brown people and causes climate change for absolutely no good reason. It's a force for evil in the world.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/26 07:21 PM
1

Ha, I'm always angry. But thanks.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/26 03:22 AM
1

No one said women don't have the right to protect themselves. But I would dispute that cutting men out of your life is "protecting" yourself, and while you certainly have the right to do that, it does make you an asshole. And it's really fucking weird how sexist you are given your apparent concern for women. (Or rather, it would be weird if you weren't a radfem. They're notoriously sexist.) Calling a woman a pick-me for daring to disagree with you is pretty goddamn misogynistic and gross. It's s…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/26 08:51 PM
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Yes, yes, disagreeing with radfem bullshit means I have internalized misogyny. I'm sure I do to some degree--everyone does--but it's frankly pretty sexist of you to assume that every woman who disagrees with you is just too patriarchy-brained to form their own opinions. It's weirdly paternalistic and treats other women like we're too stupid to make correct judgments, so you have to do it for us. Like I said, I am perfectly goddamn aware of 4B shit. I understand that many women have been traumati…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/26 08:46 PM
1

Yeah. Being anti-red pill is good, OP, but the evopsych stuff... No thanks.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/26 08:39 PM
0

I know perfectly well what 4B is about. It's radfem bullshit, and I hate radfems. They're not feminists in any meaningful sense. 4B isn't about "decentering men" or whatever. It's about cutting off, again, 50% of the human population based on innate characteristics. It paints all men with the same brush--marginalized men or powerful men, good men or bad men, innocent men or guilty men, it doesn't matter. They're all unworthy of a woman's time according to 4B types. Yes, OP should probably spend …
/r/ExRedPill10/04/26 12:57 AM
1

As a fellow woman and feminist, I can't agree with this. While many men are awful, gender essentialist stuff like the 4B movement--which demands you cut out 50% of the human population based on their gender--is never the answer.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/26 11:08 PM
4

That it hasn't harmed you (that you can tell) doesn't erase the people who are dead because of it.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/26 01:20 PM
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Do you want me to do that? Dear god, no. I don't want almost anyone to use AI, for almost any reason. It is, like I said, wildly unethical. As for your point, congratulations. You got one (1) benign response from the Misinformation and Mental Illness Machine. But are you aware how many people have killed themselves and/or others after becoming obsessed with ChatGPT? LLMs and poor mental health are a terrible mix. Hell, the robot itself says it's not a replacement for therapy. Look up AI psychosi…
/r/ExRedPill09/04/26 01:18 PM
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This is extremely dangerous advice. AI causes a lot of people to slip into delusions. It's also just pretty unethical to use, even discounting the mental health risks.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/26 04:19 AM
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This is a job for a therapist.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/26 02:33 AM
7

Exactly. Like, okay, I can understand still wanting casual sex or whatever, but why bother with a long-term relationship? If you truly think so little of women, what do you think they could bring to your life?
/r/ExRedPill07/04/26 07:19 PM
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I'd have far less of a problem with men going their own way if they would actually go their own way instead of making it everyone else's problem.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/26 07:18 PM
13

The whole "number of sexual partners is super important" thing is a red pill talking point. Obviously you're going to get pushback against it on this sub. And when you make a public post, you can't be too mad that you're getting advice, even if it's unsolicited. Posting is inherently inviting people to comment on your words.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/26 11:16 PM
3

Source? Random anecdotes don't count.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/26 06:25 PM
2

The biggest problem with your point is that it's just not true. For one thing, Twitter exists, and you can say any ghoulishly misogynistic thing you want on there with no repercussions. For another, I report misogynists on reddit all the time, and rarely do I see any results. Shit, one guy on this very subreddit got pissed at me (a woman), threatened to "touch [me] when we meet in person," and started commenting on my posts in unrelated subreddits. I blocked and reported him. I checked on his ac…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 10:52 PM
1

I don't know if I'm interpreting this correctly, but to be honest, it sounds like you're only afraid of leaving because you don't want to hurt her. Regardless, you might want to talk this out in therapy.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 10:34 PM
2

This is such an unhinged belief to hold given the state of women's rights the world over.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 10:25 PM
5

Ehhhh. I was arguing with red pillers pre-2015. They were not much better then. It was always a right-wing political movement.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 05:38 PM
12

The problem with that is that there's no one thing "women actually want." TRP and adjacent ideologies treat women like a video game: If you press the right buttons, you win. But there are no cheat codes for human relationships.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 03:29 PM
3

Using economics to understand human relationships is a bad idea in the first place.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 03:10 PM
4

You are aware this subreddit is against ALL red pill shit, right?
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 03:08 PM
14

The fundamental principles of red pill are also dogshit.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 12:55 PM
2

This reply has nothing to do with the point being made.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/26 04:37 AM
4

Yes??? I am indeed a woman with female friends. That's batshit behavior.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 09:04 PM
5

"It vibes correctly to me" is not proof, because not everyone gets the same vague feelings from the world around them. I do not vibe at all with your bullshit, for example.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 08:54 PM
4

Deliberately fails to reply to someone to test them.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 08:53 PM
4

The fuck are you talking about? No sane person does this.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 06:40 PM
3

[citation needed]
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 06:36 PM
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Firstly, I'm proud of you for getting out of TRP. That takes a lot of introspection and effort, and not everyone is willing to put in the work to change. Secondly, oh, hey, we have a bunch of the same disorders lmao. ADHD, OCD, and sleep apnea here as well. 🤝 Shit sucks, doesn't it? Now onto the actual advice. It does sound like you're doing a lot of stuff right; you may just be getting unlucky. But could you elaborate on what kind of social clubs you attend? Are they just for meeting people, or…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 10:22 PM
3

I agree. "TRP has gotten worse" and "TRP used to be mostly benign" are different claims. That's a bigger problem for you than it is for me. While I hold that red pill spaces have always been toxic cesspools, I'm willing to concede that they've gotten worse, though I suspect that's more a consequence of having a larger audience than a shift in beliefs. I take far more issue with your claim that TRP was ever mostly about self-improvement. I was there in the mid-2010s, and I remember what red pille…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 07:42 PM
2

At no point did I say that people who have relationships are necessarily morally superior. What I said was that resenting women will make it harder to date, which is a completely different statement.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 07:27 PM
2

I'm not saying everyone can tell with 100% certainty whether a guy sucks or not. I'm saying that a lot--not all, but a lot--of people notice your real feelings even when you don't say them.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 06:20 PM
3

Have you actually put in the effort to apply each therapist's advice? How long have you stuck with a given therapist? Your options are basically to resent women for the rest of your life or to try to change yourself. Whether that involves therapy is up to you, but what you're doing now clearly isn't working.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 05:19 PM
4

Therapy, my guy.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:38 PM
2

And you don't see how this could possibly be self-defeating and something you should work on overcoming?
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:34 PM
3

Being upset about double standards does not justify misogyny. You can acknowledge that certain social norms are unfair without blaming or resenting women. Again, like I said, I've had to go looking for relationships when I wanted them. Most people don't have a relationship just fall into their laps, regardless of gender or attractiveness.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:31 PM
4

You have no issues making friends or networking, but you don't talk to any women ever? I find that hard to believe. No, I'm not as conventionally attractive as you describe yourself. But I have at least one female friend who's more conventionally attractive than me, and she isn't getting asked out all the time either.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:28 PM
2

No women talk to you? Ever?
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:25 PM
2

Yes, it's unfortunate and unfair that men are expected to approach. But what are you going to do about that? Blame women and stay single forever, or gather your courage and start asking people out? I'm a woman. I find shyness cute and attractive. But I am also socially anxious and bad at asking people out. I've managed it, but it's not easy. Remember that what you're asking is difficult for a lot of women, too.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:24 PM
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You seem to hold this belief that shy women get showered with positive attention from men. This is not necessarily true. I was a shy woman for most of my life, and I got asked out IRL in a non-sexual harassment-y way like... Once? Ever? When I've wanted a relationship, I've usually had to go looking for one.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:22 PM
8

People can, in fact, tell more about you than what you intentionally put forward. It's not hard to tell when a guy resents women.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:19 PM
3

You're using nuance as a shield for how awful TRP has always been. In truth, there's been very little nuance since the beginning. I remember arguing with red pillers in 2015. They weren't much less toxic than they are today; there were just fewer of them. Does TRP give some helpful advice? Obviously. But almost any ideology or group can provide at least incidental help to its adherents. That's not the point.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:08 PM
3

Dude. I'm not asking you to sub to /r/thebluepill or whatever. It's a dead subreddit anyway. I'm asking you to look at their post on why TRP sucked even 10+ years ago. It contains an archive of quotes from red pillers, which easily shows there was far worse shit going on than just negging.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 04:01 PM
3

TRP has always been toxic. I'd recommend checking out the pinned post on /r/thebluepill, which is 11 years old.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 03:27 PM
2

I said absolutely nothing about "peaking" in your early twenties. No one "peaks" at any particular time. Regardless, diluting the word "pedophilia" to mean "any age gap between adults I don't like" is gross and harmful.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/26 06:23 PM
2

What the fuck are you talking about? Being attracted to someone who's old enough to drink, drive, smoke, die fighting overseas in the military, work full-time, get married, and have children makes you a pedophile? That's deranged, dude.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/26 01:17 AM
2

Come on, dude. Suggesting being attracted to someone in their early twenties makes you a pedophile is batshit. They're literally an adult.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/26 06:13 PM
2

There is nothing useful in red pill ideology that can't be found in less toxic sources.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 03:51 PM
3

Women's views are also affected by patriarchy.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 03:49 PM
2

Go away, red piller.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/26 01:16 PM
3

We understand what "peak" means in the context of red pill. We're just challenging the assumptions that underlie the concept. Or at least that's what I assumed was going on here. When someone asks you to define "peak," I think what they're really doing is prompting you to think about why it matters. Even if there is such a thing as a "peak" age, is worrying about it going to do you any good?
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 11:07 PM
6

Man, most of your comments in this subreddit are fairly banal, but every now and again you decide to just chuck your inane beliefs into the conversation unprompted like a Molotov cocktail. I don't get you.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 09:25 PM
7

Firstly, have you brought this specific issue up to your therapist? But more to the point, it may be true that it's easier for women to find casual sex/relationships. I'm not entirely sure. But even so, such encounters tend not to be especially satisfying for women. We're a lot less likely to orgasm during casual sex, we have to worry about pregnancy, and we're at a higher risk for violence and abuse. I've only had a couple casual online things, and I can't speak for anyone else, but for me at l…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 06:35 PM
7

Knock it off with the red pill rhetoric.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 02:30 PM
2

My dude, the only question I've seen you post is "How do you know my beliefs?" Perhaps there were some in the OP; I can't see it now and I don't recall. But I cannot answer questions you have not asked. It doesn't take some kind of social genius to read your tone here. Believe it or not, it's really not that hard to figure out someone's attitude over text when you have multiple comments by which to judge them. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ An employer can only profit if they pay you less than what you bring in. The…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/26 09:54 PM
2

For the record, I'm only engaging because I'm bored at work. I know full well you're just wasting both our time. Your tone makes it very obvious what's going on here. If you were genuinely weighing manosphere vs. non-manosphere talking points in your mind, you wouldn't just have linked a video of some red pill dude rambling and been like "Debunk this bro." You would, at the very least, have phrased your title differently. Logic and objectivity are good things, sure, but a lot of CHUDs take pride…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/26 09:15 PM
1

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=JAQing+off
/r/ExRedPill23/03/26 08:36 PM
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I’ve never in my LIFE, no matter how many women-heavy spaces I work in, spend time in online, hang out in, whatever, heard a woman actually talking about wanting the 6/6/6 thing. Literally never. Same. I'm not sure I've even heard a woman express a desire for any of those things individually.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/26 01:14 PM
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Yeah, yeah, everyone who disagrees with you just doesn't ~understand~ your shitty beliefs. Buddy, I've been arguing with red pillers for 10+ years now. I've never heard one of them make a single decent argument, and this video isn't going to be any different.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/26 12:55 PM
2

I'm not sullying my YouTube history with whatever this is.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/26 05:06 AM
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Not the person you responded to, but I've told any number of men online that my preferences differ from the stereotypes. The ones who seem relatively well-adjusted are often just like "Huh, interesting." But the ones who are red-pilled or think of themselves as hopeless? They never listen. They just accuse me of lying.
/r/ExRedPill22/03/26 08:48 PM
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Undoubtedly this is true for some women, but most women can't orgasm from PIV alone anyway, so it's not that big a deal to the average woman.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 10:04 PM
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Oh, fuck off with your disingenuous "you're just being emotional and biased, but that's okay :)" bullshit. I acknowledged the study. That's just not the point. The point is that you are citing one (1) study by biased actors to justify your sexist, unscientific nonsense, then throwing out "yeah women are biologically hardwired to be hypergamous, but the manner in which hypergamy is expressed is changing so I'm totally not a misogynist bro" to placate detractors. The claim that hypergamy is innate…
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:45 PM
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It’s about the quality of the research, not who does the research. Oh, come on. The latter inherently makes the former suspect. You don't think the researchers' biases could possibly influence the results at all? And you cannot have watched the video section I linked in the time it took you to reply. Go watch it. Seriously. I want to know what possible response you could have.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:31 PM
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"Yeah, the manosphere cherrypicks evopsych, but you can totally draw all the conclusions you need from my cherrypicked study, bro!" Eyeroll.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:28 PM
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Citing a study by evopysch guys to prove evopsych is valid is like citing a study by homeopaths to prove homeopathy works. IMO, this person has thoroughly debunked the entire concept of evopsych. Yes, yes, it's just a(n incredibly well-researched) YouTube video, but at least watch the section I linked. And check out her source doc if you need further confirmation that she's not just making shit up. In particular, note the sections on replication.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:26 PM
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For fuck's sake, at least click the link before dismissing it. The post links many studies.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:17 PM
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I was arguing with red pillers 10 years ago. They weren't any better than they are now. If you don't believe me, just check out the pinned post on /r/thebluepill, which is 11 years old.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:07 PM
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"empirical evidence" whatever, dude. https://thescienceofsex.substack.com/p/debunking-manosphere-evolutionary
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:05 PM
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evolutionary psychology lmao
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 01:01 PM
3

Fuck off. No one should be objectified.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/26 12:59 PM
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That's the image of himself he shows you. How do you know it's true? Because he says so? Even if he has women on his stream, he's probably just paying them to be there. Besides, who cares? He's clearly not happy. He takes no joy in having sex. He flat-out admits he tries to get it over with as quickly as possible. Even if I were to accept that "Chads" get laid twenty times a day while the average man never touches a woman or whatever, so what? Having a lot of casual sex won't make you happy. Cas…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 05:58 PM
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You mean it shows you bullshit designed to make him money regardless of the truth. I've seen a couple clips of him. He's utterly soulless and joyless. He doesn't even enjoy the sex he has. All he cares about is money and performing masculinity for other men's approval. He's a vapid dipshit. Why would you listen to anything he says?
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 05:48 PM
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Man, most women don't care much about dick size. It doesn't make any physical sense; the shallower part of the vaginal canal is more sensitive than the deeper part. Sure, size queens exist, but as a woman myself, I can't say I understand them. I've had dicks inside me ranging from smaller than average to larger than average, and it really doesn't matter that much, except that bigger requires more preparation or it just hurts.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 12:54 PM
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Why would you poison your brain with that shit?
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 12:47 PM
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Oh, fuck off. When your point is "it's cool for men to not support feminism because there's legal discrimination against men," it's not whataboutism to point out that the same logic applies in reverse. By your thinking, why should women support men's liberation if there's legal discrimination against women? If the presence of legal discrimination against your own gender justifies not supporting others' rights, no one should support anyone's rights.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/26 02:54 PM
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My brother in Christ, there is legal discrimination against women too.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/26 02:27 PM
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It's about manipulating women into sex, landing yourself a wife to abuse, and/or climbing the social ladder. That's it.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/26 07:46 PM
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Firstly, "real man"? Seriously? Secondly, I'm not sure LBJ is the role model you're looking for. And thirdly, while it's true that people can get overly pissy about language, it's really not that hard to just not say slurs or whatever. Becoming a fascist because you can't tolerate being told to change your behavior is snowflake shit.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/26 05:51 PM
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The problem with the progress we made in the 2010s was that it didn't go far enough. We needed (and continue to need) a total reorganization of society, and what we got was more neoliberalism. When shit sucks for the majority of people, many of them are going to turn to reactionary politics.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/26 05:24 PM
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Fuck off, red piller. No one wants you here.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/26 01:33 AM
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Not loving the generalization here. People of all genders can fall for a shitty person's facade.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/26 05:19 PM
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This is what confuses me about black pill shit. Like, okay, let's say you're unlovable and can never find sex or a relationship. (I doubt that's true for most incels, but for the sake of argument, I'll go along with it.) So... what now? Why make it your whole personality? Why spend the rest of your life scrolling through incel forums and making yourself miserable? Can't you just focus on other stuff and make the most of what's available to you?
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 11:56 PM
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¯\_(ツ)_/¯ And most of my friends these days are guys. Almost like we're all individuals and we all have different experiences. I'm curious why you unblocked me, though.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 11:01 PM
2

... Huh?
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 09:29 PM
1

Does the idea of femdom appeal to you at all? Might find more positive rep there. Granted, a lot of it will be focused on small penis humiliation, but I've also seen a fair bit of completely genuine, non-degrading appreciation for small dicks on my kinky alt account.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 09:09 PM
2

Quoting sources is an archaic demand from when everything was in physical books. In the information age, it just shows narrow mindedness or laziness. holy shit lol
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 06:42 PM
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I know. But I figure it's worth a shot.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 03:52 PM
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I can't possibly explain everything wrong with this conception of human sexuality... but there's someone who can and has. The video is long but very funny and very worth it. https://youtu.be/31e0RcImReY?si=cOqCcaW1at3H2_Qj
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 02:53 PM
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Dude. Use your eyeballs. Read. No one is debating whether or not pretty privilege exists. I assume most of us would agree that it does. The question at hand is whether women are into average men to the same degree that men are into average women, which is completely unrelated.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 02:32 PM
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?????? This post isn't about pretty privilege. It's about whether women find average men attractive. Two separate things.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 02:24 PM
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"It's not incel bullcrap," they say, indulging in incel bullcrap.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/26 02:21 PM
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Not sure why you're getting downvoted. I largely agree with you. The extent to which fiction shapes our values is way, waaaaaay overblown, usually by people pushing moral panic bullshit (e.g. "violent video games cause violence" or "dark romance normalizes abuse"). It's true that fictional narratives can influence our thinking to some extent, but no one is going to read one (1) book with anarchist themes and become an anarchist, for example. That said, I do think fiction can sometimes help human…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/26 11:47 PM
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The truth is that men and women are more alike than we are different. I'm a woman, and I've never found men difficult to understand or relate to. I'm attracted to some celebrities, sure, but I'm also attracted to just, like, random dudes I meet in my day-to-day life.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 11:11 PM
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Man, you are taking random shit you see on social media way too seriously. Some TikTok video about men being ugly isn't a representative sample of 4 billion people.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 10:50 PM
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Yeah, man, you're just being sexist. Misogyny is not just "men acting like men," and women should not, in fact, shit-talk men either. No behavior is male- or female-specific.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 09:18 PM
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Man, that's just your headcanon. We don't have any specific information on those comments. Regardless, it's definitely sexist to decide that a behavior--any behavior, reasonable or otherwise--means a man is "acting like a woman," and to treat that as a bad thing.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 08:27 PM
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Oh, no, not a feminist! The horror! Psst. My guy. Broadly speaking, this is a feminist subreddit. No one even brought up women shit-talking men except you, so I don't know where you're getting that.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 08:02 PM
2

Hey, so what the fuck? Not tolerating misogyny from other men turns a guy into a woman? This such bizarre, sexist nonsense.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 07:54 PM
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The problem with those behaviors is that they're a violation of what the other partner wants and consents to. If all parties involved were to consent to and enjoy those acts, I would take no moral issue with it. It's a bad idea, sure, but people are allowed to make bad decisions as long as they aren't hurting anyone who didn't agree to it. Like, getting drunk, driving a car, eating expired food, and joining the military are all potentially harmful to varying degrees, and yet few people would tel…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 03:49 PM
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We may be talking past each other. My initial point was not about vitriol toward abusers, but rather vitriol toward men broadly. I assumed you were defending that vitriol. Edit: The conversation, to my eyes, has gone like this. Me: The left is dickish to men. You: It's okay to be dickish to abusers. Like, you see why I assumed you were conflating men with abusers, right? Caveat about good men or no. If I don't assume that, your comment strikes me as something of a non-sequitur.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/26 02:33 PM
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I'm a woman too, and I just can't agree with this. Yes, there is a massive and systemic problem of men abusing women. But that really doesn't justify treating men as inherently predatory, or making blanket statements about how awful men are. And even if it did justify it, it would still be wildly unhelpful. I have met so, so many good and kind and decent men who flat-out hate themselves and/or their sexuality because they are constantly assailed by gender war shit online. Be as nasty about preda…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/26 02:15 PM
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Eh, I suppose that's fair. The left does have some issues with unjustified vitriol toward men. (The right hates men too, but in somewhat different ways.) I'm just not sure we're all that kind to women, either.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 11:37 PM
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I mean, that's certainly true to some degree, but I feel like that's less of a "women are angels" thing than a "men are all evil predators, women are all helpless and harmless" thing. Though I admit that may be semantics. (I've also noticed that in some ostensibly progressive circles, queer women's sexuality is often viewed as predatory, but I suppose that's still to a lesser degree than men's sexuality.)
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 11:33 PM
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Just want to say that, while I understand why people are angry at you, I appreciate that you came here instead of just accepting your biases as truth. "Don't believe everything you think," as they say, but a lot of people do just uncritically believe whatever pops into their heads. You have to be thoughtful and self-aware to realize your emotions might be lying to you.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 10:52 PM
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I feel like a lot of red pillers could benefit from adopting the attitude of "If a woman does [shitty thing], that means she wasn't worth my time anyway." Like, okay, a woman leaves you for a richer guy or whatever. That's horrible, but it's a her problem, and you probably dodged a bullet. Surely you wouldn't want to date someone like that anyway. On a related note, if red pillers truly believe that AWALT, I don't understand why they'd want a long-term relationship anyway. If women are so awful,…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 10:50 PM
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This. OP, if it wasn't her past, it would be something else. Your brain is looking for stuff to be anxious about. I (OCD sufferer) agree with the suggestion to look into OCD. Not saying you have it for sure, but some stuff aligns.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 10:44 PM
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I mean, yeah, someone who's disinclined to monogamy in the first place is probably not going to be satisfied by a monogamous relationship. But someone could also just go through a phase where they're exploring or don't think it's a good idea to settle down for whatever reason. Promiscuity during that period isn't going to damage them, necessarily.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 10:17 PM
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The only people who validate that some women suck are in the manospehere though so it'd be nice if other people were more realistic about the "reality" of women. ??? I don't know where you're getting the idea that most non-manosphere people think women are made of sugar and rainbows.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 10:12 PM
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Wait, so you assumed OP was referring to, like, orgies? Not how I read it.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 03:25 PM
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... Not necessarily? Look, I can't speak for anyone else, and it's not like I've had a ton of casual sex or anything. But sex in relationships is typically much better for me. Love and familiarity elevate the experience quite a bit. I can really only see this being the case if there's some kind of sexual incompatibility going on.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 02:15 AM
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I'm a woman, and I've broken up with people for not giving me attention and love on a regular basis.
/r/ExRedPill24/02/26 04:49 PM
2

I mean, it's no secret that far-left leaning people are fucking delusional and are known to/have ultimately ruined society, ???? what lmao
/r/ExRedPill24/02/26 01:54 PM
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This isn't really the right subreddit for this question. That said, here are my guesses. Wolf = Maybe she really likes wolves. Ace = Maybe she's asexual. Just guesses, though.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/26 04:28 PM
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There is absolutely no reason to believe that having a lot of sex damages your ability to connect with others. Get over your puritanical bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/26 05:03 AM
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Seconding octave120's question of what you think we're failing to address here. I've never specifically sought out red pill content, but I've been arguing with red pillers for 10+ years, so I'm well aware of what they believe. Not everything OP said was perfect, but I think she's broadly correct that red pillers tend to mistreat women who make them feel insecure.
/r/ExRedPill21/02/26 12:02 AM
2

Read The Dawn of Everything by David Graeber. Human history has not been one long string of authoritarian regimes, not at all.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/26 06:50 PM
2

So... just vibes.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/26 06:47 PM
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You're going to need to cite a source. My understanding is that hunter-gatherer societies, while not necessarily bastions of social justice, were and are a lot more egalitarian than many other societies.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/26 06:43 PM
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I have rarely felt like I had to "deal with" a partner. When I have, it was a sign of a bad relationship. Good relationships do, in fact, feel better than being single for at least a large portion of people.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 03:25 AM
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And no one outside Reddit has heard of RP, so it’s not exactly mainstream This was true 10 years ago. Today, Andrew Tate is a household name.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 03:22 AM
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Maybe don't spread unscientific red pill bullshit on an anti-red pill subreddit.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/26 09:49 PM
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I don't know if this helps, but my boyfriend literally prefers older women, with no apparent upper limit. It's not like people will stop being interested in you after you hit a specific age.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/26 06:23 AM
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My boyfriend is the sweetest, kindest person I've ever met. I've never seen him treat anyone poorly. I know he's made mistakes in the past, and will probably make mistakes in the future, but the important thing is that he makes an effort to be good to people. I appreciate that more than I can say. We've been dating since March of 2025. He's moving in with me this weekend.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/26 09:56 PM
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Considering you immediately dismissed a potential alternate explanation for the data you've allegedly seen, I don't think you have any room to talk here, dog. Besides, I know how this game goes. I turn to a search engine. If the studies you're citing exist, I explain my take on their conclusions and/or methodology and provide alternate explanations and/or links to studies that disagree. You tell me those aren't the studies you were referring to and accuse me of deliberately picking the studies t…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/26 09:08 PM
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The "your brain fully develops by 25" thing is a myth. I broadly agree with encouraging OP not to think it's over for him, but just saying.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/26 08:51 PM
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If you won't put in the effort to provide sources, why should I put in the effort to look them up? I am, in fact, being generous in my assumption that you aren't just making shit up entirely.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/26 08:44 PM
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Massive [citation needed]. But even if this is true, you likely have causation backward. It could easily be that people who have difficulty staying in relationships have a higher number of sexual partners, not the other way around, for example.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/26 06:08 PM
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My boyfriend is the seventh person I've dated. I still care about all my exes and hope they are happy, but I'm not in love with them anymore. Your first love can be very intense, yes, but it isn't necessarily the best love you'll ever experience. For example, I was very passionate about my first boyfriend, but I was also very insecure in the relationship. In my current relationship, I feel just as much passion, but I'm much more secure and less anxious. Moreover, I'm probably a better partner no…
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 11:32 PM
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I have OCD and suspect OP does too. I'm... honestly not sure if posting here is good for him. It seems like a compulsion--he's seeking reassurance that the red pill isn't true. Which may seem fine, but the problem is that when you reassure someone with OCD, you reinforce the need for reassurance. By reassuring him, we may just be making things worse. On the other hand, I'd much rather he be here than on some red pill forum. And the relationship between OCD and reassurance is more complicated tha…
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 11:12 PM
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There's... a lot to unpack in this post. Firstly, I'm sorry you're struggling, and sorry for what happened to your friend. You both deserve better. Have you considered therapy? I notice that's absent from the list of things you've tried. Working on yourself like that may or may not help you find a partner, but at the very least, it might help you process the loss of your friend. Secondly, it's true that a person's worldview is informed by their experiences. Like, obviously you're never going to …
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 11:03 PM
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I'm not the person you responded to, but I'm a woman, and my boyfriend has cried in front of me several times. I only love him more for it. I appreciate that he feels safe being vulnerable with me. Love without vulnerability isn't love at all. (I've cried in front of him too, of course.)
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:54 PM
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The "facts don't care about your feelings" crowd sure loves to cite vibes when it comes to their own beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 08:19 PM
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I am a literal Domme in a FLR. Oh, hey, same. 🤝
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 02:40 PM
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Respectfully, seeking reassurance on this subreddit is not helping you. It's compulsive behavior, and every time you give into it, you make the compulsion worse.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 01:33 AM
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I would appreciate it if you proved that, yes.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/26 09:57 PM
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Gently, I'd like to ask how we know that this isn't some kind of red pill op where our quotes will be taken out of context to make us look bad or some shit. Especially given your hidden history.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/26 04:59 PM
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Bitch, please. Just because you're a soulless husk incapable of love doesn't mean everyone else is too. Again, absolute skill issue. Edit: My response to your other comment: Someone knows nothing about OCD. And I don't know why you think dating a fetishist is some kind of L, even assuming that were necessary for me. Oh, and here's a fun fact for you: My first boyfriend fell for me without having seen a picture of me. Acting as if women can't be disliked is genuinely unhinged. But hey, good on yo…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/26 03:18 AM
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When it comes to extreme obesity, it's a fetish (an outlier), not a rule. Same goes for the 0.1% of women who would prefer a midget. You're being incredibly disingenuous here on multiple levels. First of all, I don't know why you think "it's an outlier" is some kind of argument against anything I've said, given I have repeatedly stated that most women do not prefer short men. Part of my point is that outliers exist by the millions. And considering studies have found that most people have at leas…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/26 01:26 AM
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Come on, dude. Attractiveness is subjective and cultural. There may be a biological component, but if you've spoken to more than, like, two people about what they think is hot, you'll know that that it varies greatly from person to person. Men are "supposed" to love skinny women, but BBWs are a popular porn category among men. Women are "supposed" to love the Captain America build, but twinks are a popular porn category among women. My first boyfriend was an inch shorter than me at 5'4", and I l…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/26 12:44 AM
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There is a difference between "women tend to prefer taller men" and "I am short, so no one will ever love me." The majority of people, even people with qualities that are broadly considered unattractive, get married and have kids. It's possible for most incels too, but they'd rather wallow in self-pity. Which is fine, they can do what they want, but then they go and make it everyone else's problem. Any reddit thread that even mentions a woman existing is full of dudes howling about how evil wome…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 04:24 PM
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Yeah. OP, I've said this before, but you should really look into getting treated for OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder, if your translator has trouble with the acronym). I have it, and I'm pretty sure you do, too. Constantly doubting yourself and seeking reassurance is a common symptom.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 02:36 PM
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Firstly, only some of them do that. Secondly, even some of the ones who do that will then turn around and blame others anyway. Or they'll turn to fatalistic rhetoric like "It's not women's fault, but they're biologically wired to hate men under 6 feet tall." And moreover, accepting blame isn't quite the same as taking responsibility. The latter implies an attempt to do better, which many incels never bother with, or only make token gestures toward.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 01:34 AM
2

In that case, I would suggest talking to your therapist about getting diagnosed with/treated for OCD.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/26 04:35 PM
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Did you ever find anyone else attractive while you were with your ex, even in passing? Did it interfere with your love for her at all? I don't think that's how most people work. The part of your brain that is attracted to other people doesn't just turn off when you're in a relationship. Thinking someone else is hot doesn't mean you're actually unsatisfied with your relationship or would leave your partner given the chance. Like, surely you have fantasies you don't want to play out in real life. …
/r/ExRedPill04/02/26 04:07 PM
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Firstly, I'm proud of you for working on bettering yourself and your mental health. But more to the point... What exactly is wrong with having a celebrity crush? Most people, even when in a relationship, can look at a celebrity or fictional character and think, "Damn, I'd hit that." Think about actresses or characters you find hot, maybe even fantasize about. Would you ever have thought your ex wasn't enough just because some hypothetical person was also attractive? Would you have been unsatisfi…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/26 06:53 AM
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whether they are frustrated, lonely, and single has absolutely no connection to the spread of hate speech. ... What? This doesn't even make sense on its face. No one who's angry has ever let slip a slur that they otherwise wouldn't have said? Every type of man is exposed to various types of online discourse; the internet itself doesn't radicalize anyone. Are you sincerely arguing that every single mass shooter is just Like That and would be even if they were never exposed to hateful content? Bec…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/26 06:19 AM
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The point is that there have been several manosphere-inspired mass shooters, and popular figures in the manosphere abuse women and encourage their followers to do the same. Have you ever actually been on incel forums? I have, and they're cesspools of hatred. Even the incels who never commit acts of violence themselves are still responsible for spreading the rhetoric that leads to violence.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 05:54 PM
4

Don't pretend you've never heard of Elliot Rodger and his ilk. Playing dumb isn't cute.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 05:40 PM
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I have a full-time job. My boyfriend is fresh out of college and looking for work. As long as we have enough money to be comfortable, I don't give a shit.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 03:52 PM
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Dog. There have been many mass shooters inspired by the manosphere, to say nothing of the way it teaches men to abuse women. Incels are a hate group, regardless of what the original meaning of the term was.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 03:51 PM
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This is at best tangentially related to your post, but I want to throw something out there. Have you considered the possibility that you may have OCD? I know that probably sounds weird, but hear me out. The stereotype of OCD is someone who cleans way too much or always has to double-check they locked the door, but you actually don't have to care about cleanliness or physical safety at all to have OCD. Some OCD sufferers have completely different symptoms. For example, all of the following are ex…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 12:00 AM
2

You admit you think straight men are better than bi men, and yet you want me to believe you're not a queerphobe. Whatever, dude.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 01:36 AM
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That has nothing to do with what the person you are responding to said, and also says nothing about liberals and leftists as a whole. Most of the abusers I've known were conservative, and the conservatives in power now are all either child sexual abusers or covering for child sexual abusers. Yet something tells me you would think I shouldn't generalize based on that.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 01:35 AM
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You're allowed to do whatever you want. But some of those options make you an asshole and a bigot, like I said. There's nothing about a man's attraction to other men that affects your relationship with him. The only possible reason to be disgusted by queerness is queerphobia. It's similar to saying you won't date people of color. I may have criteria for the people I date, but there's a giant fucking difference between "must not want kids" or "must share some interests" and "must be straight." If…
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 01:30 AM
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Lmfao. I'm a bisexual woman who does not discriminate much based on appearance. I'm sorry for whatever happened to you, but excluding bi dudes from your dating pool because of a bad experience with one is bigotry, plain and simple. Bisexuals are not more likely to cheat or whatever horseshit you think.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 01:12 AM
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Yikes. You are allowed to not date someone for any reason, yes, but some reasons make you an asshole.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/26 12:56 AM
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Exactly this. OP, I don't know if this helps, but I (woman) didn't get into a relationship until I was 24 and didn't lose my virginity until I was 26. I also think shy people are super cute, and while I'm not good at approaching people, I like taking the lead in relationships. Compatible people are out there; it's just a matter of finding them.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/26 03:35 AM
4

So? Being rich doesn't mean you should emulate him or trust his products.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 07:10 PM
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LLMs are terrible for the environment, trained on stolen data, and prone to dispensing misinformation. There's also some preliminary evidence that they diminish your cognitive abilities, because you're relying on them to do your thinking for you. Why not just write the stories yourself? Sure, you may not be a great writer at first, but a) you'll improve over time, and b) AI writing sucks too.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 07:08 PM
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He literally did a nazi salute live on TV. Twice. And loves to talk about how white people are being replaced by people of color, a classic nazi talking point. But even if he's not a nazi, he is, as you said, a complete idiot, and a deeply awful person.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 07:06 PM
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I hate referring to it as AI because it fuels people's delusions that it's actually intelligent. It's not. It's basically doing the same thing your phone does when it suggests the next word in a text message.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 07:02 PM
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Well, there's your problem. Grok is a product controlled by Elon Musk, who is a literal nazi. If you have to use so-called AI, at least don't use Grok.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 07:01 PM
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Stands for "large language models." It's another term for what we call "AI" (and IMO far more accurate, because "AI" isn't artificial intelligence at all--it's more like glorified autocomplete).
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 06:59 PM
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Don't use LLMs.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 06:48 PM
2

Those are a good start. Maybe take up something social too, like meet-ups, classes, clubs, etc. Personally, I've met a lot of great people through TTRPGs.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 12:16 AM
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Young men feel shitty because of late-stage capitalism, the same reason everyone feels shitty. They just blame feminism because it's the only explanation they're given and/or anti-feminism comes with appealing beliefs like "you are inherently better than women." I don't know what you're proposing, but the solution here is to overhaul our economic system, or at least to make people realize that's what's to blame.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/26 12:14 AM
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Appearance matters a bit to me, but it's far from the most important thing. I'd infinitely prefer to compromise on appearance than values or personality. Luckily, I don't have to compromise on anything, since I have my boyfriend. We met online, so I got to know his personality a little before I saw his appearance and liked him for that reason first. But when he sent a picture, I immediately thought he was really cute. Now that I know him well, I find him even more physically attractive.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 06:02 PM
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Yeah, I get that. Shit sucks. Fingers crossed for you.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 02:19 PM
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I'm sorry. That fucking sucks. There may be other free/cheap therapy options out there, so try looking into that. Regardless, I wish you well and hope things get better for you.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 02:10 PM
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Appreciate the apology. Please, try therapy again. I saw you said it doesn't work, but bear in mind that you often have to try a few therapists to find the right fit.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 02:05 PM
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I'm not asking you to list it all out. I'm asking you to consider those factors. Dog. That is literally just basic math. What do you think you'd find if you asked the average 17-year-old vs. the average 70-year-old whether or not they've dated someone? Firstly, even if some people are treating you badly, that's no excuse to be shitty to random unrelated people. Secondly, I have been following your responses in this thread, and nothing remotely like that is happening. You threatened suicide and t…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 08:32 AM
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How many times have you asked someone out? How well did you know these people before? Under what circumstances? All that matters. And remember, very few people have relationships fall into their laps. Most people have to try several times just to get a relationship off the ground, let alone to have a successful relationship. My dude, I literally provided you with an example of how the passage of time tends to lead to finding romance. It's not a cope if it's true. Gen Z is having sex and relation…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 08:13 AM
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First, have you tried actually, you know, asking people out? Second, you are clearly quite young. I didn't get into a relationship until I was 24 and didn't lose my virginity until I was 26. This shit can take time. Third, I'll be blunt: From your comments, you seem very unpleasant. Your attitude is likely driving people away.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 07:58 AM
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It varies a lot from person to person and relationship to relationship, but everyone has something they need to work on. Maybe you have a bit of a temper, or you tend to withdraw when hurt, or you overreact sometimes. None of that disqualifies you from a relationship, but you should try to improve on your flaws if you can. For the temper example, you might learn to take a few deep breaths instead of snapping at your partner. Or you might date a few people who aren't right for you before you find…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 10:02 PM
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Thank you. I'm sure you will. It may take some time and effort, but you're already showing that you're intelligent and thoughtful just by taking the time to critically examine your former red pill beliefs. I think you've said you're in therapy too? That's a very good start. None of that guarantees that relationships will be easy for you, of course--almost everyone needs to put in work in order to find a good relationship--but you're headed in the right direction.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 09:48 PM
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That's very fair. Personally, I'd infinitely prefer someone who's not my physical type but has a great personality over the reverse. Of course, you don't necessarily have to choose--it's often possible to find someone you think is both physically and emotionally attractive.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 09:39 PM
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I do my absolute best to treat him well, and he tells me I succeed. We'll probably read this together later because we like to go through my reddit comments, and I know that as soon as he sees this, he'll assure me I'm an amazing partner. I choose to believe him, because even though my self-esteem isn't always great and I often struggle to believe I'm a good person, I trust him and his judgment. So yes, I like to think I treat him well. He hasn't had many opportunities to protect me, but when I …
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 09:37 PM
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I mean, it matters to some degree in that you ideally should find your partner at least somewhat physically attractive. But it's not the most important thing, not by a long shot.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 09:30 PM
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I'm a woman dating a man, and I'm definitely the dominant one in the relationship (which is exactly what I want). I'm usually the one who chooses what we're doing at any given moment, I have a job while he's looking for work, and he's more traditionally feminine in a lot of ways than I am. I haven't had many opportunities to protect him, but the one time one of his friends mentioned someone disliking him, I immediately wanted to throw hands. I could not possibly have less interest in the kind of…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 09:28 PM
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That is not, in fact, a feminist subreddit.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/26 08:21 PM
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I am not the person you replied to. But I am a feminist, I am exclusively into submissive people (regardless of gender), and I don't care about height. I'm 5'5" and have dated people ranging from 5'4" to 6'2". Whatever ideas you have about women's preferences are likely bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/26 01:49 AM
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There is no good evidence that humans are innately hierarchical and plenty of evidence to the contrary. While we live in a very hierarchical society now, there have been countless societies throughout history that were much more egalitarian. For more on this, read The Dawn of Everything by David Graeber.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/26 01:37 AM
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I think you may benefit from reading this post I made a while back: https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/1hfqesl/what_red_pillers_get_wrong_about_the_girls_love/
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 08:37 PM
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There is so much wrong with this. Firstly, feminism is not "the other extreme." It is the radical idea that women are human beings, with all the rights that entails. Secondly, the "biblical model" ignores several basic realities. One is that men are not innately built for leadership any more than women are. Anyone of any gender can be a good or bad leader. Another is that everyone should always have the right to refuse sex, because bodily autonomy is a thing. A third is that there are countless …
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 08:26 PM
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If it helps, recovery is rarely linear. Even if you are trying to quit TRP, you are likely going to relapse sometimes, at least at first. That doesn't mean you're not making progress. I, for one, am proud of you for moving forward even if it's hard. Seek therapy if you can.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 12:09 AM
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The idea that if something makes you feel bad it must be true is a fallacy.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 12:07 AM
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You probably shouldn't use the term "beta male." That said, my boyfriend is a sensitive person. Cries more easily than I do, loves animals and cute things, needs reassurance sometimes, is generally submissive. All of those are reasons why I love him. I like soft, sensitive people. I don't want some emotionless meathead. Undoubtedly some women do want that, but it's not most of us. Our tastes are just as diverse as men's.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 12:06 AM
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For whatever it's worth, there are a fair number of feminist critiques out there of heterofatalism/heteropessimism.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/26 12:01 AM
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Exactly. They can be somewhat appealing in fiction, but I have zero interest in dating anyone who could be described as a "bad boy" irl.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/26 11:59 PM
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Fuck off, red piller.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/26 02:32 PM
1

Fuck off.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/26 02:15 PM
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It's a significant problem among red pill types.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/26 05:16 AM
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Don't be a dick.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/26 05:08 AM
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I mean, sure, but that isn't really the result of women who hate men passing legislation or anything like that. Those laws were typically passed by patriarchal men, with few to no women involved.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/26 08:13 PM
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Consider this: Some women certainly do hate men, and there are certainly too many of them. But those women don't have any real power. Men who hate women, on the other hand, run the government and many corporations. They can write legislation or company policy that makes women's lives worse. All that women who hate men can really do to you is make some shitty comments. Which sucks, sure, but all sorts of people are shitty about all sorts of things. That isn't necessarily part of a broader pattern…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/26 05:08 PM
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what does this even mean
/r/ExRedPill13/01/26 05:47 PM
1

That's normal. You can't get over indoctrination in just one sitting, usually.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/26 05:45 PM
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Imagine citing ChatGPT as a source. Like, I don't know what specific statistics the person you are responding to is referencing, but LLMs are notoriously unreliable.
/r/ExRedPill12/01/26 12:26 AM
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Check the pinned post on this subreddit.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/26 12:32 AM
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I don't quite fit the bill, but you might be interested in hearing this regardless: My boyfriend and I are long-distance (until February, anyway), but when he's here, he's the one who cooks and does household stuff like that. I currently work full-time, while he's looking for a job. I'll likely be making more money than him even when he does find work, and I don't give a shit. (My ideal scenario involves us neither of us working full-time, but I don't know how feasible that will be.) I greatly d…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/26 11:34 PM
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Evolutionary psychology in general is mostly bullshit. The idea behind it isn't bad, necessarily, but one of its big problems is that "we behave this way because we did X in the past" is basically impossible to prove. Even if you can prove that we did do X in the past (which isn't always viable), how can you ever prove that socialization isn't the real reason for our behavior? For a long but very funny and very worth it video on why evopsych sucks, try this. She links sources for everything in t…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/26 11:17 PM
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Firstly, you are assuming that those women are a majority of women. Secondly, no, getting likes on social media does not necessarily translate to fucking a lot. Just hooking up with people who like your posts online can pose a huge safety risk, which most women are acutely aware of. Why are you acting like dating apps actually have anything to do with how many dates people get? There are far more men than women on those apps, so obviously most men aren't going to have much luck on them. But that…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/26 04:04 PM
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Oh, please. Why are you scared to be honest? Clearly what you mean is that the majority of women have an entourage of adoring men, while the majority of men are poor neglected babies. Which is absolute bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/26 03:00 PM
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"Why are women scared to be honest about this thing I've arbitrarily decided is true?"
/r/ExRedPill07/01/26 02:43 PM
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Lol fuck off. You have no idea how women work.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/26 02:30 PM
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I never said it was impossible to enjoy someone's company while also settling for less than you want. I said that people tend to settle down with someone whose company they enjoy. Not sure what your point is here.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/26 04:34 AM
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... Huh?
/r/ExRedPill06/01/26 04:33 AM
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? If you think the only thing that differentiates romantic relationships from platonic relationships is sex, I'm not sure what to tell you.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/26 01:54 AM
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Where is your evidence, then? What arguments are you making? Elaborate.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/26 01:27 AM
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You are simply asserting things with no evidence or arguments. Have fun with that, but don't expect anyone to take you seriously. Demonizing women and feminism is perhaps an understandable response to your trauma, but it will only ever make things worse for you. Blindly trusting your biases is a recipe for disaster. If you want to have meaningful relationships with women, you need to understand them as full humans who are just as intelligent and multifaceted as you are.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/26 01:25 AM
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Come on, dude. You don't even know this person's gender. But even if they're a woman, and even if this is somehow an example of "female nature," that doesn't make them wrong, to turn your own logic around on you. Like, would you listen to a feminist who peppered their arguments with things like "men are trash," even if they were otherwise making good points? And no, there is not anything particularly wrong with "the modern female psyche." No more than there is anything wrong with "the modern mal…
/r/ExRedPill05/01/26 01:06 AM
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? History and politics are not gendered.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/26 12:48 AM
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lmao what
/r/ExRedPill05/01/26 12:47 AM
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Firstly, I'm glad you turned to us instead of immediately jumping down the manosphere rabbit hole the moment you started feeling this way. Too many people just drink the Kool-Aid without examining whether any of it is justified. Good on you. Secondly, my premier suggestion for just about everyone dealing with this sort of thing is therapy. Will it help you get dates? Not directly, but it may help you cope with these feelings and process the stuff you struggled with growing up. As a bonus, it's a…
/r/ExRedPill31/12/25 09:44 PM
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Knock this off. It's not remotely uncommon to be inexperienced at that age, most women don't actually care, and perpetuating this belief just worsens insecurities which make people shitty partners.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/25 04:46 PM
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I'm not a mod here, but from experience modding elsewhere, I know it can be like playing whack-a-mole. It's easy enough to ban someone when they start behaving badly, but a lot of people either mostly lurk or ride the line between "shitty enough to ban" and "just kind of a dick but not banworthy."
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 07:54 PM
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My guy, they literally are a mod lol. If you truly want to leave TRP, you should probably reexamine your beliefs about feminism. Chances are you've got some misconceptions going on. It's true that a lot of people who call themselves feminists do and say shitty things, but that's less to do with the ideology itself than the pop culture understanding of feminism. Many self-identified feminists don't actually know a lot about feminist principles and just have the vague feeling that women should be …
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 06:09 PM
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... What does this have to do with being ex-red pill?
/r/ExRedPill22/12/25 02:23 PM
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Whatever, dude. You've adopted this belief based on absolutely nothing, and you're using "common sense" as a shield for the fact that you don't have any arguments or evidence. Believe what you must, but don't expect to convince anyone else if you can't produce even the tiniest reason to agree with you.
/r/ExRedPill20/12/25 12:20 AM
3

This claim honestly sounds like some weird moral panic thing right-wingers would come up with. "The woke mob is canceling time-outs!"
/r/ExRedPill20/12/25 12:12 AM
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Genuinely what the fuck are you talking about? "Common sense"? There are a million things unrelated to penis size that could cause the kind of insecurity seen in red pillers. Iirc, Tate himself said he was bullied for being mixed-race. That alone could be the catalyst for his issues. Or someone could fall into TRP due to insecurity in other aspects of their appearance, or because they're worried that not being wealthy will make them undesirable, or due to mental illness, or just because they've …
/r/ExRedPill20/12/25 12:10 AM
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Don't love that phrase. The implication that small = bad is still there.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 11:40 PM
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????? I am a woman. One who's mostly dated men. Again, this is just something you've decided, not something with any evidence behind it. Unless you've taken a survey of the penis sizes of manosphere figures, in which case, please do show me the data.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 11:39 PM
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Absolute [citation needed] for that last line. Yes, most red pill grifters are deeply insecure people. But there's zero evidence that's the common thread.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 09:31 PM
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My first boyfriend was 5'4". Everyone I've dated has either been confirmed or suspected as neurodivergent. And I think I've dated exactly one person who didn't dislike their own looks. If you don't want to put effort into dating, fine, don't. But stop making excuses. Just be honest that you're too lazy to try.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 08:51 PM
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Go away. Wallow in your self-imposed misery if you must, but don't drag others down with you.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 08:49 PM
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Fuck off.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 06:54 PM
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Uhhh... What? Not loving the gender essentialism in this comment.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 06:14 PM
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Assuming that someone must have a small penis because they are insecure is toxic and contributes to the stigma surrounding certain physical features. That doesn't help anyone.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 03:10 PM
3

Let's not body-shame.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 02:55 PM
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The vast majority of women do not do this, imbecile. If they did, you'd have some kind of proof, which you don't.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 02:30 PM
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Citation fucking needed on all counts. You're just making shit up to justify your misanthropy. Enjoy being miserable for no reason, but don't drag the rest of us down with you.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 02:29 PM
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The behavior of a tiny sliver of the female population does not say anything about women overall. Some men simp over hot female criminals as well. Go away. No one wants you here.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/25 12:07 AM
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Come the fuck on. "Hundreds of thousands of likes" (many of which may be from bots, from men, accidental, from alt accounts, or any number of other invalidating things) is the tiniest possible sample of 4 billion women. Not everything you see on the internet is representative of popular opinion. Besides, I could just as easily say the opposite. I've seen tweets by men saying awful shit about women get hundreds of thousands of likes. Does that mean men in general hold those views?
/r/ExRedPill18/12/25 12:06 AM
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You'd be surprised how many manosphere weirdos hang out here just to argue.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/25 11:56 PM
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You're arguing with a strawman. No one has ever said that only personality matters, merely that it is an important factor.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/25 09:07 PM
2

Most women don't orgasm from PIV regardless of penis size, so it's really not that relevant to most of us.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/25 02:34 PM
3

What??? This is horseshit. Try actually talking to people IRL instead of using dating apps. They are 80% male, so obviously you're not going to have much success on them.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/25 03:23 AM
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Proud of you for getting out there and actually interacting with people. There's no better way to debunk the red pill than just being around women. I would also like to add that most rape accusations, false or otherwise, never even get investigated, let alone go to trial. So the odds of someone ruining your life by making such an accusation are fairly low. (In fact, men are statistically more likely to be raped than to be falsely accused of rape.)
/r/ExRedPill04/12/25 05:26 PM
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My best friend makes more money than I do is and is fairly conventionally attractive. To my awareness, she does not have hordes of suitors constantly throwing themselves at her. Sure, she's had a few people express interest in her, some of whom she dated and one of whom she eventually married. But your perception that attractive women are drowning in a sea of adoring men is simply false. Even the majority of hot people have to at least put themselves out there in order to date. I have never know…
/r/ExRedPill03/12/25 11:35 PM
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If I went to the gym all the time and made $100k/year, I'm pretty sure I'd still have to approach people to find relationships. Besides, if we're comparing fit and successful men to fit and successful women, that's necessarily not going to reflect the reality of dating for the average person. We were talking about perceived societal value. I brought up abortion to demonstrate that women are not nearly so valued as you think. Dating apps are not the whole of dating, nor are they reflective of rea…
/r/ExRedPill03/12/25 11:11 PM
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I am a woman. Not counting sexual harassment incidents, I think I have been asked out... once? Ever? I am almost 30 and not, to my knowledge, unusually hideous. Your belief that women can just have relationships fall into their laps is based on an extremely small sample size, and does not reflect reality. When I've wanted relationships, I've had to look for them, just like anyone else. Moreover, the assertion that women "will be valued no matter what" is fundamentally absurd. We are valued prima…
/r/ExRedPill03/12/25 09:38 PM
2

What, that I actually care about other people and myself? Real L there, sure.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/25 07:05 PM
2

All of it, dipshit.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/25 07:00 PM
2

Go away.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/25 06:21 AM
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That's not the part I take issue with. I take issue with the rest of your comment.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 10:32 PM
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Black people statistically are the most violent race by ethnicity, does that mean I should avoid all black people for my own safety? No one even said anything about avoiding men. They were just pointing out that it is demonstrably inaccurate to say men love women more than women love men. Blue pillers love to cherry pick data, but when a mediocre women can get 1000 likes in 10 minutes when opening a dating app, us men have to adapt to the market. To the extent that this is even true, whose fault…
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 10:27 PM
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[citation needed] on all counts.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 08:44 PM
3

I have argued with this dude (PutsWomenOnPedestal) extensively. He literally believes that men are innately, biologically worse people than women. You're steelmanning him by suggesting he thinks it's due to patriarchy, but he absolutely does not.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 07:13 PM
2

Where? Show me examples. Link me to people saying women have no responsibility at all for gender roles.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 04:16 PM
3

No one in either of your threads has claimed women bear no responsibility for the state of society.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 04:12 PM
4

... Which is functionally the same thing as being a right-winger.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/25 04:02 AM
2

Come on, dude. I hate AI too, but AI detectors are notoriously unreliable. Besides, OP has too many grammar mistakes to be AI.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/25 02:49 PM
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From the way you talk about therapy and women, and the way you hang your self-esteem upon your ability to get laid, I'm not sure how true that is.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/25 01:59 AM
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My guy, if you think therapy is bullshit because they don't "help you get girls," you have some shit you need to work through in... well... therapy. You shouldn't be going to therapy with the primary goal of getting laid. You should be going with the intent of improving yourself and your mental health.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/25 01:57 AM
3

Good riddance.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/25 03:22 PM
13

Hookup culture existing doesn't make TRP true.
/r/ExRedPill19/11/25 02:44 PM
3

I want you to think about something. You're black, right? How often do you consider white people's point of view? How often do you relate to them? How often do you wonder what it might be like to be white? I'm guessing the answer to all those questions is "fairly often." In a society where white is considered the default, where most of the people you see on TV are white, where pissing off the wrong white person can get you killed, of course you're going to spend a lot of mental energy relating t…
/r/ExRedPill18/11/25 05:01 PM
2

I'm a woman and I literally have an inexperience kink. You are making some truly baffling assumptions about what all women want.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/25 04:51 PM
4

I am a woman. When I have wanted a relationship, I have had to go out and find one. I have been asked out (in a non-sexual harassment-y way)... I think twice? Ever? And I'm almost 30. You are assuming dating is significantly easier for women than men. And sure, it is... in some ways. In other ways, it's very hard for us too. Nobody has it easy in the dating world.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/25 04:33 PM
3

It's pretty depressing watching you repeat racist stereotypes about your own ethnicity.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/25 04:27 PM
3

No one said that, but okay. And that's still not what gaslighting is.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/25 02:20 PM
3

I know you deleted your account, but on the off chance you're still reading... Firstly, LLMs are notoriously unreliable. Never listen to anything an "AI" tells you. Secondly: Again, does other people being assholes justify you being an asshole? I mean, maybe if you're being an asshole to the same people who mistreat you. But if you're a dick to random women under the assumption that they would be dicks to you if you got to know them... yeah, preemptive assholery is not cool. All you're doing the…
/r/ExRedPill18/11/25 03:45 AM
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I'm sorry she did this to you, but you can't project your experience with one woman onto 4 billion women. If I judged all men by the worst any man had treated me, I'd hate all men. I don't.
/r/ExRedPill16/11/25 08:28 PM
2

If you can't have meaningful conversations with your friends, what's the point of being friends with them? This seems like a pretty irrational fear, but even if it does happen, your response should be to find friends who don't drop you the moment you request emotional support.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/25 01:30 AM
2

Well, probably don't start off with that. Start off with "Hey, would you mind if I vented a little?"
/r/ExRedPill15/11/25 01:26 AM
1

I can't speak for anyone else, but I personally am flattered when someone feels comfortable enough to share their insecurities with me.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/25 11:46 PM
1

If you actually have a poli sci degree, it's pretty embarrassing that you got so little out of it. Nah. You're just sealioning. Again, have the day you deserve.
/r/ExRedPill13/11/25 05:07 PM
2

Everything about this is so utterly delusional that I honestly don't know where to start. Have the day you deserve.
/r/ExRedPill13/11/25 02:38 PM
3

Allegedly, being an asshole got you relationships. But were they happy, healthy, fulfilling relationships? I doubt it.
/r/ExRedPill13/11/25 07:33 AM
12

Without specifics, it's hard to say what the problem is. You could be coming on too strong. Could be not coming on strong enough. Could just be bad luck. Regardless, TRP isn't the answer. Manipulative behavior may help you get your foot in the door with certain insecure women, but it won't help you build lasting or healthy relationships.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/25 07:43 AM
3

How many times has it happened?
/r/ExRedPill10/11/25 06:27 AM
12

Could just be a her problem. If this is a pattern, maybe you're doing something wrong, but one person rejecting you doesn't necessarily mean anything.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/25 05:49 AM
8

What are your methods? If we know how you generally interact with people, we may be able to troubleshoot. But bear in mind that pretty much everyone gets rejected a lot and/or has a lot of failed relationships.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/25 05:20 AM
1

Lmao okay. First of all, liberalism is center-right, not left. Secondly, universities may lean left, but in a lot of the US, the school curriculum is controlled by fascist lunatics. Also, as a green-haired LGBT activist with a ring in my noise, tattooed all over, body count in the hundreds, hating my own culture: School was not what radicalized me. That was just, like, life.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/25 08:06 PM
9

Read the OP again and tell me this is just a "tiny disagreement." Dude is pilled to the gills. That alone is grounds for a breakup.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/25 05:12 PM
7

Firstly, this isn't a relationship advice subreddit. Secondly, for a lot of people, "just break up" is the answer that will help them most.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/25 05:05 PM
10

I'm on team "just break up." I am neither miserable nor single. It's just that if you're posting on reddit about your relationship, things are probably fucked. Besides, most relationships don't work out, so statistically speaking, "just break up" is usually the correct answer. Also, this dude fucking sucks. No one should date a red piller. And OP is basically carrying the relationship by herself.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/25 05:01 PM
14

Team "just break up" is usually correct, including in this instance.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/25 04:47 PM
2

I have no idea whether this is a pro- or anti-red pill comment.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/25 06:00 AM
2

The media and education tend to be left-leaning? Lmao.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/25 06:08 AM
2

Fuck off.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/25 06:40 PM
3

Your inability to see the value in research on far-right groups says more about you than it does about OP.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/25 06:32 PM
7

Uhhh... Fucking what? Love bombing is literally a tactic used by cults, so obviously it can be done in a platonic manner. It's also gender-neutral and a deliberate manipulation tactic, not just "when you're too nice to a woman."
/r/ExRedPill03/11/25 03:52 AM
4

If a woman bails because you're communicating honestly, that woman sucked anyway. Just be upfront. Playing hard-to-get is a great way to wind up in shitty relationships.
/r/ExRedPill03/11/25 02:39 AM
11

Red pill tactics "work" in that for a certain subset of vulnerable women, they can cause emotional dependence. They also can "work" when sprung on someone who's already invested. What they never work for is building a fulfilling relationship or making anyone happy.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/25 09:14 PM
2

Lmao @ the comment that I'm not "wired right." Right by whose standards? Sorry, buddy, but nature doesn't care that you think women should be submissive. It produces countless submissive men, dominant women, and other people who don't fit your arbitrary prescriptions. Facts don't care about your feelings, and the fact is that most people are neither naturally submissive nor naturally dominant. "Women should be submissive tradwives" is a conservative delusion based on zero biological reality. The…
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 08:35 PM
2

Okay, sure, but the specific definition of red pill we're talking about here is a misogynistic ideology.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 08:29 PM
2

It's going great for me so far. Netted me the love of my life. Besides, I've had nonsexual dominant fantasies since I was in single digits, and sexual dominant fantasies since I hit puberty. It's not some decision I made. It's just how I am.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 05:53 AM
2

Men and women are different. You’re going to have to get over that. I turn 30 soon and have yet to be disabused of my belief that men and women are fundamentally the same. Men have never struck me as having alien motivations. Frankly, the inability to empathize with women that many men display is a skill issue born of never bothering to try. And again, it’s not a matter of “shaming” anyone. It’s what a lot of men see as desirable in a partner. You can cry and stomp your feet all you want. It’s n…
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 01:48 AM
7

I think you might want to ask yourself why you're avoiding well-off women. Is there a specific reason?
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 01:03 AM
2

I don't understand the definition of "red pill" and "blue pill" you're using here.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/25 12:22 AM
2

Men and women are not very different, and pretending we are is a blatant excuse for your double standards. There's no reason to hold us to different standards. If a man judges a woman for her past despite having a similar past himself, he's clearly internalized some misogynistic bullshit about how sex ruins a woman. You're making some bizarre assumptions about me. For one, I've already met the love of my life. For another, I have minimal interest in being protected, and I'd rather we provide for…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/25 09:19 PM
11

Come on, dude. Men famously care more about dick size than women do.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/25 10:26 AM
2

That you unironically call people "hoes" as if having a lot of sex is a bad thing is really all anyone needs to know about you.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/25 05:22 AM
2

I think wanting a chaste virgin wife is stupid--abstaining from sex until marriage provides few benefits and has massive downsides--but I don't think it's inherently problematic... if you yourself are also a chaste virgin. If not, you're just a hypocrite. A woman who decides she wants stability, however, is not a hypocrite as long as she is also willing to offer stability. You're also creating a false dichotomy between stability and good sex. Generally, people have better sex in long-term relati…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/25 05:19 AM
3

Fuck off. No one taught me not to submit. I just have no natural inclination to do so. I have an inmate desire to be the dominant one in a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/25 08:05 PM
2

Go away.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/25 10:11 PM
3

"Submit." Eww. Most women have zero interesting in "submitting" to someone else. Personally, I'd rather set myself on fire than be submissive to a partner. And yeah, there's nothing wrong with being traditionally feminine. There's also nothing wrong with not being traditionally feminine.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/25 08:21 PM
2

Yes, yes, everyone you disagree with is a psychopath. It couldn't possibly be that some people just recognize that shitty feminists have no real influence over society. God. Imagine whining about dumb feminists when the only people anywhere near the levers of power are milquetoast moderates and violent misogynists.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/25 07:32 PM
3

Some feminists are stupid. So what? Every group has at least a couple idiots among its ranks.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/25 07:26 AM
2

Yes. Not with everyone I've dated, but with most of them.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 08:41 AM
2

... What does any of that have to do with the comment you replied to? Besides, the phenomenon you're describing is a red pill concept, and largely imaginary. Red pillers think women are all evil sluts who only want to fuck Chad when they're young, then take anything they can get once they hit the wall. The reality is that people of all genders date around when they're young. As time goes on, they develop a better understanding of what they want in a relationship, and their tastes change. It's no…
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 06:56 AM
2

Internet, because I'm terminally online. My first boyfriend was a Discord friend I fell in love with. Most of my other relationships have started on reddit personals. My boyfriend now is someone who messaged me on reddit after enjoying some of my posts.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/25 01:42 AM
2

Skill issue. It is entirely possible to be happy as a short person and to enjoy others' company. You need to get over yourself. You can never be tall, but you can stop having an ego problem. Besides, the tall people I've dated have not been any happier or better-adjusted than the short people, generally.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/25 07:44 PM
5

The (largely imaginary, btw) benefits of being tall are all social benefits. You hate people, so why do you care?
/r/ExRedPill25/10/25 07:39 PM
3

Then why would you want a relationship in the first place? A relationship consists entirely of human interaction.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/25 09:48 AM
2

Yes, the Clintons are monsters too, and Bill is probably a child rapist as well. Your point?
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 09:20 AM
2

Don't really care about that one. YOU probably should, though, given you lot like to pretend you care about law and order.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 09:17 AM
2

Oh, sorry. You just would have voted for the child rapist if you could have. My mistake.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 09:06 AM
2

Considering you voted for a child rapist because you couldn't handle minorities existing, I don't think you're in any position to talk about derangement.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 09:03 AM
2

App data proves it. LMAO. Dating apps don't prove shit. The environment there is completely artificial. Women are forced to be picky because they are vastly outnumbered. Plus those apps attract shallow people and people only looking for hookups in the first place. To say nothing of the fact that they aren't designed to get you into a relationship--they're designed to keep you coming back and paying for premium features. Just because a woman is in a long-term relationship with you, it doesn't mea…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 08:19 AM
5

No one who blames the "woke radical left" for everything, or supports a child rapist as president, is a good person.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 08:08 AM
3

What's absurd is claiming most men are unlovable. The vast majority of people wind up in long-term relationships. If women find you unlovable, that says something about you. Not everyone who struggles with dating is doing something wrong, but if women unilaterally have no interest in you, yeah, probably a skill issue.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 08:07 AM
3

most are unlovable Skill issue.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/25 08:00 AM
1

If the only difference between you and your opponents is that you happen not to be in power, you are doing a bad job. You're supposed to be better than your oppressors. I'm just going to leave you with this quote from feminist author bell hooks: To create loving men, we must love males. Loving maleness is different from praising and rewarding males for living up to sexist-defined notions of male identity. Caring about men because of what they do for us is not the same as loving males for simply …
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 07:19 PM
1

Firstly, you are blindly assuming that no one who says "I hate men" ever really means it. I can assure you that I have met many people who not only specifically say they hate all men, but mean it. That you don't mean it that way doesn't mean it's an okay thing to say. Secondly, you are also blindly assuming that I lack sympathy for female victims. Like I said, I'm a woman myself. Being mistreated by men comes with the territory. But I don't think that's an excuse to hate men. After all, some mis…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 07:43 AM
1

I'm a woman and a feminist, and while I disagree with the comment you replied to, I disagree with you, too. Gender essentialism of any kind makes you a bad feminist, and that includes hating men. Many men behave badly, but not all of them, and the reason has a lot more to do with patriarchy than anything innate to men.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/25 12:03 AM
4

They listed several examples of the immature behavior TRP encourages.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/25 08:31 PM
3

After reading your comments here, it wouldn't matter to me if you were the hottest person alive. I still wouldn't touch you with a ten-foot pole. Your problem is your shitty attitude, not your looks.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/25 08:29 PM
4

Did you even read the comment you responded to? He already has one failed startup under his belt. Pretty sure that's showing weakness.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/25 07:21 AM
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How do you know taller people are happier? You can't actually tell that from the outside. Also, my most recent ex was 5'7" and probably autistic, and my first boyfriend was 5'4" and probably ADHD. Neither being short nor being neurodivergent is a death sentence for your romantic life.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/25 09:42 PM
7

Ah, yes, the tried-and-true tactic of dumping men's emotional problems onto women. Makes everything worse for everyone.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/25 06:55 PM
2

That's the thing about a lot of shitty ideologies. They appeal to you with things that seem innocuous at first, like "We should prioritize our own country." (I still fundamentally disagree with that idea, because it implies that the people of one country are somehow better or more important than those of another, but I at least understand why some find it appealing.) But then you slip farther and farther into the rabbit hole, and suddenly people are talking about how the Holocaust didn't happen …
/r/ExRedPill20/10/25 09:25 PM
2

The "set of tools" thing only works if you assume that all women are wired the same way and can be picked like locks, which is itself a worldview.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/25 09:20 PM
2

Here's the thing, for most men, they generally do not care about the socioeconomic status of their future partner. Do you have a citation for this? Because I'm willing to bet this is a lot less true now than it used to be. Now that the economy is dogshit and you typically need at least two people contributing financially in order to survive, it stands to reason that men would, in fact, care some about their partner's earning potential. Though I should note that even if they don't, there are non-…
/r/ExRedPill15/10/25 10:28 PM
2

Dude, what are you talking about? Maybe earning potential just matters more in long-term relationships because you're, like, going to be living with the person and sharing finances, and you presumably don't want to be homeless? You don't need evopsych at all to draw that conclusion.
/r/ExRedPill15/10/25 08:10 PM
3

? That statement doesn't seem to have anything to do with evopsych. It just seems obvious. Why would someone care about earning potential if they don't intend to have a long relationship with the other person?
/r/ExRedPill15/10/25 06:23 AM
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You gotta walk. Look, I get it. I don't have BPD, but I do have ADHD, and I get really attached to people. But you deserve so much better than this asshole. And you can find better. Most people are not like this.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/25 05:06 AM
9

Except that a significant portion of evopsych's claims are not falsifiable. "This is how we lived in the past and that's why we behave this way" is not actually a falsifiable claim.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/25 07:56 PM
1

My own interactions with incels.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/25 08:03 PM
2

Bullshit. Most people who consider themselves incels have never even had enough interactions with women to know how women feel about them.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/25 07:52 PM
2

I don't know why you insist on labeling people who may just be single/virgins as incels. If someone wouldn't choose that label for themself, it's pretty shitty of you to call them that. I hate to give this place traffic, but... https://incels.is/ comes to mind. Seriously, look around a little on those forums.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/25 05:38 AM
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If someone is not an asshole, they will not identify as an incel. I don't know what's so hard to understand about this. I've talked to dozens of these people. Self-identified incels are, to a one, shitty human beings. No one would choose that label for themself if they weren't. No one looks at the violent misogyny of the incel community and thinks, "Gee, maybe I'm one of them" while also being a nice person. The two things are simply incompatible. Like I said, look up incel forums and tell me wh…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/25 03:40 AM
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? What did this person even do?
/r/ExRedPill03/10/25 11:39 PM
1

You're adding a bunch of connotations attached to the word beyond the literal meaning of involuntarily celibate. Yes, because that's how words work. 97% of the time, when someone refers to themself as an "incel," they don't just mean "virgin." They mean they blame women for their relationship struggles. Go spend some time on incel forums and you'll see what I mean. Though I don't actually recommend doing that, because you're liable to see some truly horrible shit. There's absolutely nothing wron…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/25 11:36 PM
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There are no "normal incels." If you self-identify as an incel, you have fallen down a right-wing pipeline.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/25 08:47 PM
2

Phrases have meanings other than the literal words they contain. The word "incel" came to refer to a specific ideology when incel communities turned violently misogynistic.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/25 08:45 PM
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It's not so much that someone "realizes" they're an incel as that they make a decision to identify with that label. Someone who doesn't self-identify as an incel and doesn't subscribe to their misogynistic ideology isn't one. That said, the age at which people make that choice varies. I've heard of it happening anywhere from early teens to late twenties.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/25 04:45 AM
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"Incel" doesn't just refer to dudes who have trouble getting dates. It's a term for a specific misogynistic ideology. If someone is (genuinely) nice, they aren't an incel, and vice versa.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/25 04:40 AM
2

Citation fucking needed that most women cheat. IIRC, a larger number of men than women report cheating when asked. Also, how does getting upset when you say stupid shit about us prove your point at all?
/r/ExRedPill02/10/25 05:42 PM
2

<3 Always happy to yell at red pillers, ha.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/25 01:54 AM
3

Your views are such absolute bullshit. I love my boyfriend because he's vulnerable with me. There's no point to a relationship if you can't show your soft sides to each other. I've never cheated at all, nor ended a relationship because someone was too open with me. Hell, I've left relationships because someone became more distant.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/25 01:07 AM
3

What??? There's no credible evidence to suggest women are more likely to cheat if you dare to show an emotion in front of them. And pretending this is some universal rule is bizarre given that certain cultures have seen crying as manly. Besides, the fuck is the point of a relationship if you can't be emotionally honest in it? You might as well just jerk off and call it good if there's no emotional intimacy.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/25 03:29 AM
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>men oppress women for millennia >women are discouraged from doing the same work as men >work that is done by women is underpaid, undervalued, and underreported >"Uhm ackshually women don't do the same amount of work as men so they don't deserve the same rights" Imbecile. Also, everyone deserves the same rights regardless of how much they "contribute," because a human being's worth is completely independent of their productivity. Hope that helps!
/r/ExRedPill28/09/25 11:13 PM
3

Nah, there was some red piller asshole who responded to you. Not sure if you saw. I was arguing with him.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/25 05:04 AM
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Did you forget to add the rest of the post or something?
/r/ExRedPill26/09/25 04:48 AM
4

What? I wasn't even talking to you.
/r/ExRedPill25/09/25 07:30 PM
3

Maybe try /r/malefashionadvice?
/r/ExRedPill25/09/25 12:27 AM
2

Firstly, you failed to actually respond to the person you're talking to here. You hit "reply" in the wrong place. Secondly, the only thing you got right is that TRP and feminism have nothing in common. TRP is not a "tool to guide men for success." It's a misogynistic cult that teaches men to hide their real selves, abuse and gaslight women, and generally be miserable assholes. At absolute best, TRP might help you a little in getting hookups, but it will flat-out ruin long-term relationships. See…
/r/ExRedPill25/09/25 12:25 AM
3

The redpill didn’t fail you. YOU failed the redpill. "The party can never fail, only be failed." Definitely not a cult though. YOU failed the redpill. Your supposed to be successful have a family, a wife, kids, be a provider etc. you can’t achieve these things and wanna blame it on redpill. Na bro your just failed. Not everyone who's against TRP struggles with these things. But also, these are not universal standards to which you should hold people. Not everyone wants to marry, have kids, and/or…
/r/ExRedPill25/09/25 12:14 AM
2

"Instead of blaming the shitty ideology that lied to you, blame yourself for not living up to the bullshit standards of said ideology." Okay.
/r/ExRedPill24/09/25 09:42 PM
5

What exactly do you think would change your mind? And how are a bunch of internet strangers supposed to know that?
/r/ExRedPill22/09/25 04:41 AM
3

Since you say that all women are different, do you think scientists making generalizations about human behavior problematic? Not necessarily. It's fine to say, "The average person does X." It's only when people say, "The average person does X, therefore there is little to no chance of them doing Y" that it becomes a problem. That's misuse of statistics. "The average woman prefers a taller man, therefore it's extremely unlikely I'll ever find a relationship" is a fallacy, for example. being hands…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/25 05:31 AM
3

The point is that your self-esteem shouldn't rest upon your dateability. If you hang your self-worth upon your ability to get a relationship, you'll come across as desperate and therefore will undermine your chances. I also don't know why you think it applying to everyone makes it less helpful.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/25 08:06 PM
5

I didn't believe it would be a winner take it all situation, but I did worry it might mean that all the women who partner up with average-status men (meaning most men) only do so because they can't get the higher status men and aren't actually attracted to their partners, which would obviously be depressing as hell. Look at the way you're talking about women here. You aren't talking about us like individuals who make choices. You're talking about us like a hivemind. All women are different and w…
/r/ExRedPill19/09/25 03:12 AM
4

You are conflating "value" with "dateability." You are indeed enough, independent of whether others want to date you or not. There are plenty of shitty people out there who are good at getting into relationships and plenty of good people who struggle with dating. The two things are mostly unrelated.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/25 03:01 AM
4

there is also data demonstrating that there are more single men than single women even though from a population perspective there are more women than men. This isn't actually true, or at least there aren't significantly more single men than women. See here.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/25 04:03 AM
1

The directory blurb can also provide some hints, depending on what's written there. If someone's bio says they approach things in a sex-positive and kink-informed manner, they're not a conservative. If, on the other hand, they talk about God or spirituality, obviously they value some sort of spiritual belief (and may be more likely to be right-wing).
/r/ExRedPill16/09/25 09:20 PM
3

Re: Age: My boyfriend prefers older women. Says he's investing in me and I'll get hotter as I age.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/25 07:23 PM
2

Many therapists will have a blurb describing themselves on their website. That should at least give you a clue. If that doesn't do it, a lot of them are willing to do a brief consultation wherein you can get a feel for their vibe.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/25 06:43 AM
2

What's wrong with just jerking off?
/r/ExRedPill13/09/25 11:57 PM
5

That said, I wrote another post that triggered some females who immediately began to respond the way the RP says females respond to things that trigger them or to unflattering truths. People get upset when you say fucked-up things about them. Shocking. For anyone who wants context, this is the thread OP is talking about. Judge for yourselves whether the response was unfair. I never saw the original post, but from what he said in the comments, I can't imagine it was.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/25 06:23 AM
7

I don't know who this person is, but the only pieces of useful advice TRP has are the following: Be confident. Approach women if you're interested in them. Do what you can to make yourself physically attractive. The rest is trash.
/r/ExRedPill03/09/25 02:03 AM
2

That is not a reliable source. https://archive.sltrib.com/article.php?id=4680276&itype=CMSID https://mediabiasfactcheck.com/fight-the-new-drug-bias/
/r/ExRedPill02/09/25 08:55 PM
2

You're gonna need to cite a source.
/r/ExRedPill02/09/25 05:57 PM
2

In addition to what the other person who responded said, I'm always going to correct misinformation when I see it. Plus defending freedom of expression is an excellent hill to die on, and sex-negativity (including being opposed to the existence of porn) is bad for everyone.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/25 01:50 AM
3

If you don't have the time to explain yourself, why do you expect me to have the time to look shit up?
/r/ExRedPill25/08/25 04:49 AM
7

This is not true for everyone. I've mostly dated people my age or younger.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/25 04:48 AM
6

Claims that are made without evidence can be dismissed without evidence.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/25 11:52 PM
6

Yeah, so none of that is true.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/25 07:38 PM
8

Porn is not inherently degrading to women. I'm also gonna need a source on the whole "men who view porn hate women" thing. Plus "porn addiction" is hotly contested as even being a thing. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too
/r/ExRedPill23/08/25 07:36 PM
4

You think you contributed anything of value to this conversation? Lol. All you did was unironically post, "People were happier in the past. Women also had fewer rights in the past. Coincidence?!?!?!" Without even citing sources for anything except the part where more women than men reproduced in the past.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/25 08:20 PM
5

"I'm not a misogynist, I just think it's fun to think about how misogyny makes the world a better place."
/r/ExRedPill18/08/25 03:49 PM
3

Firstly, there have been cultures which permitted women warriors. Secondly, even if there hadn't, that wouldn't necessarily point to any psychological differences between men and women. It could just be because men are on average larger and therefore a more obvious choice for soldiers.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/25 05:45 PM
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What generalities? There are few to no generalities about gender that stay consistent over space and time. In medieval Europe, for example, women were considered the lustful ones, as opposed to today's "men are hornier than women" stereotype.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/25 05:23 PM
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The thing is, it's completely impossible to ever prove that differences between men and women are innate and biological.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/25 05:09 PM
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Firstly, have you brought up this specific struggle with your therapist? If not, you should. Secondly, is there anything that does make you feel better about yourself? Anything you can point to and say, "Well, I did/do this, so I can't be all bad"? If so, maybe you can do more of that thing, or at least identify why it makes you feel that way. Thirdly, I think part of it is realizing that you have value simply because you are a person. Everyone has value independent of their actions or traits, j…
/r/ExRedPill12/08/25 03:41 AM
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Jesus Christ, dude. You're being a real fucking creep right now. Spamming someone for a response is shitty behavior. I was doing stuff and didn't immediately have time to respond. Keep this shit up and you're catching a block. Yes, conventionally attractive people of all genders tend to get noticed more initially. The point is that looks alone are rarely going to be enough to find you a successful long-term relationship. Hot celebrities may get a lot of people fantasizing about them, but that do…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/25 03:01 PM
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Firstly, due to the nature of capitalism, dating apps/sites aren't generally designed to get you into a successful long-term relationship. How would they make money off you then? They want you coming back and paying for premium features so you get a few dates that look promising, but ultimately go nowhere. The whole business model is arguably predatory. Secondly, something like this does kind of exist... on personals subreddits. I met most of my exes through those. I like them because they give …
/r/ExRedPill10/08/25 02:10 AM
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Have you tried TTRPGs (stuff like Dungeons & Dragons)? I've found them to be great for making friends if you're a nerd.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/25 02:02 AM
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Yup. I want assurance that everything will work out. I also want a pony.
/r/ExRedPill07/08/25 07:16 AM
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Like the other responder said, that's a very different situation. A more analogous situation would be if a woman were doing something nonsexual and her labia were just kind of... flapping about, I guess? In which case, if I were in that situation and my boyfriend laughed, I might be a bit wounded at first, but I'd accept the "it's just funny" explanation.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 07:15 PM
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Proud of you for reaching out to us instead of falling back into a red-pill mindset.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 07:12 PM
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I don't know if your girlfriend has ADHD, but I do, and I can confirm that even during great sex my mind has been known to wander off. It's not super common for me, but it does happen. I wouldn't take it too personally unless it starts happening a lot.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 07:11 PM
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The first reaction is always honest. No????? Where are you getting this idea?
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 07:08 PM
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Fuck off with this racist bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 06:04 PM
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Firstly, I didn't get into a relationship until I was almost 24. You're still very young. Secondly, have you actually been asking anyone out? You mention making friends, which is great. But given women are generally socialized in a way that discourages them from asking men out, you're likely going to have to do the approaching. Thirdly, how do you know how others see you? Have you asked? If your thought process is "Women must hate me because they don't ask me out," see above. Even the most attra…
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 05:12 AM
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What the fuck? It's incredibly manipulative and unhealthy.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 04:08 AM
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Danny Devito was married before he became a celebrity. This is bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/25 10:52 PM
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If you only want casual sex, that makes sense. If you want a relationship, that makes no sense at all.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/25 10:51 PM
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I'd like to address a few things you said. not only do you have to make yourself the most attractive prospect possible and compete with other men and keep in mind you yourself don't even really enjoy doing this but you don't want to be lonely. Women have to do this too. True, we're not expected to pay for dates as often, and we're not usually expected to approach men. But if we want relationships, we are expected to behave a certain way. Dress nicely, wear makeup, be skinny, don't be a bitch or …
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 06:06 PM
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Example: A person who has never experienced romantic love takes your words to heart and decides against pursuing romantic relationships, believing them to be illegitimate. They conclude that their desire for a relationship was misguided, and that they have deluded themself into wanting something that doesn't exist. They may even develop an arrogant "I'm smarter than others because I don't buy into the romance lie" attitude. As such, they decide to repress their desire for romantic affection, and…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 01:03 AM
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I said this in before the comment I linked: Though, in fairness, I'm not sure you see anyone except yourself as fully human. To which you said: Right again. You are on a roll. As you have pointed out I can’t seem to relate to other people’s motivations. We are all apes but are we all the species of ape. Sometimes I wonder. Also, compassion and empathy are two different things. You can have one without the other. I am trying to help because a) I care about other people, even ones I dislike b) you…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 11:41 PM
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Dog, you literally admitted you see others more as cardboard cut-outs than full humans. Your inability to empathize with women is one sign, but that's a far bigger one. I'm not trying to smear you here. I dislike you, yes, but I am in fact trying to help you. If you understand that your experiences are atypical, you may be better able to relate to others. I don't think empathy means "I understand exactly what you're feeling at any given moment at all times." I would argue it's more about a gener…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 08:37 PM
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"bIoLoGiCaLlY wIrEd" lmao. Evolutionary psychology is trash and can be safely ignored. If you can't respect someone who has sex with you, that's a skill issue on your part.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 06:38 PM
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No I don’t? Read this comment of yours and tell me that again. You admit to finding women mysterious and not seeing others as fully human. What's that, if not lack of empathy? I'm not a doctor, so don't take this too seriously. But I think you may be a genuine sociopath. Not in the colloquial sense of "you're a bad and evil person," but rather in the literal sense of "you don't feel or understand others' feelings." What’s empathy got to do with romance? Are you suggesting all aromantics lack emp…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 06:36 PM
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I'm talking about what YOU said. YOU said, and I quote: You can’t expect a man to respect and treat you well when you offer yourself on a platter without him having to earn it or even get to know you.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 06:23 PM
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Fuck off. Having sex doesn't make a person any less worthy of respect.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 06:07 PM
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Why can you not accept that other people may genuinely experience things you don't? You KNOW you have a problem with empathy. Why not admit that your inability to understand romantic love is most likely a byproduct of this?
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 03:48 AM
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You can have whatever preferences you like, that's fine. What you cannot do is say that women won't date unattractive men, then when it's pointed out to you that plenty of women do date men who aren't conventionally attractive, say that doesn't count because those women aren't hot. You can't complain about women wanting attractive men when you want an attractive woman. You're behaving exactly the way you say women shouldn't behave. Like, it's good to have standards. But even the most reasonable …
/r/ExRedPill31/07/25 09:44 PM
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No, but you are excluding overweight women for some reason. This suggests to me that you are only counting conventionally attractive women.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/25 09:19 PM
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That's not why you're being downvoted. You're being downvoted because you suggested unattractive men can't get partners, then made up a reason the exceptions don't count. If you're a conventionally unattractive man, no shit you might have trouble finding a supermodel girlfriend. But there's no reason only supermodels should count. You seem to be discounting women you don't think are super hot, which doesn't make a lot of sense considering that the person you initially replied to said, "Or do you…
/r/ExRedPill31/07/25 09:13 PM
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That's not what a strawman is.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/25 08:15 AM
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My point is that if you actually gave a shit about men's issues, you'd spend your time advocating for male rape victims rather than complaining about such a minuscule issue. And it's just objectively true. Read the link or google it.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/25 08:08 AM
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Men are significantly more likely to be raped than falsely accused of rape. https://www.channel4.com/news/factcheck/factcheck-men-are-more-likely-to-be-raped-than-be-falsely-accused-of-rape
/r/ExRedPill31/07/25 04:44 AM
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The only time I see unattractive men with women is either when they're older or overweight. And why doesn't that count? Older and overweight women are still women.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/25 07:59 PM
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I would say all of them except the last one are above average, with the last one being about average. I'm a woman.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/25 07:57 PM
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Well, if you bitch about how awful women who shittalk men are and then say you'd date one anyway, you're a massive hypocrite. I'm being generous and assuming that's not true.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/25 12:13 AM
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Firstly, the ways in which shitty women talk about men are not really comparable to the ways in which incels talk about women. I'm not saying that women who say stuff like "men are trash" are in the right, but they aren't on the same level as incels who say stuff like "all toilets deserve to be raped." Moreover, how many mass shootings can you think of that were motivated by hatred of men? I can think of several that were motivated by misogyny. Secondly, that's not the point. The point is that Y…
/r/ExRedPill30/07/25 12:11 AM
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Have you ever considered that women don't like you because you hate them? I see from your post history that you consider yourself an incel. But why would you even want a relationship with a woman in the first place, considering how little you think of women?
/r/ExRedPill29/07/25 01:45 AM
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My guy, this is very much an "inside your head" problem. I guarantee you are not as monstrous as you think you are. You need to bring up your body dysmorphia with a therapist.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/25 12:04 AM
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I'm glad to hear something like this exists. It's very needed.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 10:31 PM
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As a woman who lives in Washington state, I can confirm we are not lmao.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 10:30 PM
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What??? I live in Washington too. 5'9" is very much average height here. We're not uniquely tall. My 5'9" dad does not get towered over when he goes out.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 10:29 PM
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We do not, as far as I'm aware, have the exact questions used to gauge incels' political views. I would likely disagree with what the study terms "left." But regardless, inceldom is a fundamentally reactionary ideology because it blames women for men's problems. Reversing oppressor and oppressed is an almost inherent feature of right-wing ideologies. Edit: Coward blocked me for this lmao. Hey, buddy, if you're reading this, getting the last word in before blocking someone doesn't work--they can'…
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 04:37 PM
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That's not what a republic is, dipshit. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Republic Are you seriously arguing that no state or group could ever maliciously give themselves a misnomer?
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 04:35 PM
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Wikipedia also describes the Nazi Party as far-right. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nazi_Party
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 04:34 PM
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I do not trust the political self-identifcation of incels.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 04:23 PM
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"It's in the name so it has to be true. Just like how North Korea is a republic. I am very smart."
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 04:22 PM
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I think you may be overestimating how harshly others judge you. If I went to an arcade and saw some bald guy playing a dancing game in the corner, my first thought would be... Probably nothing. I doubt I'd pay much mind at all. People are generally more focused on themselves and what others think of them than they are on you.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/25 04:32 AM
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My ability to help is limited, since our lives are fairly dissimilar (I'm a 29-year-old white woman). However, I can speak to the whole "odd interests" thing. I'm a weird nerd who loves power metal and TTRPGs, but that hasn't been much of a barrier for me. There are lots of people of all genders out there who share my (and, I'm sure, your) interests. My boyfriend loves the same niche bands and niche TTRPG I do. If you keep engaging with your hobbies, you're likely to find someone who also enjoys…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/25 04:29 AM
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Very much agree with this. /u/Ok_Revolution5995, would you even like the party scene? Or do you just feel like partying and fucking around in college is some kind of life milestone you "have" to experience? Because if it's the latter, you shouldn't bother. Personally, I'm a weird nerd who's never partied or fucked around, and I'm fine with that. I can't imagine actually enjoying myself at a party full of drunk people. If that's your style, more power to you, but it's decidedly not mine. My best …
/r/ExRedPill25/07/25 04:08 AM
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That's not what they're saying. They're saying calling it an addiction is unscientific.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 10:29 PM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 04:43 PM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 02:29 PM
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By "stats" you mean "a single OKCupid survey."
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 03:01 AM
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Most of the problems men face are problems EVERYONE faces. There are problems that are unique to men, sure, but they aren't worse than what everyone else is going through. Men aren't having their bodily autonomy taken away like women are, nor are they as affected by pervasive societal misogyny. They aren't paid less for their work, they face lower rates of rape and sexual abuse, they aren't as likely to be passed over for promotions, more men than women are CEOs and politicians, they don't have …
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 01:51 AM
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Lol fuck off. Men are privileged and always have been. Now that there's a tiny bit of equality, they're throwing a tantrum.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 01:34 AM
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What the fuck? You think women can get away with just asking people for money without being scrutinized? I wish that were true. I'd get rich just by harassing random strangers.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/25 12:13 AM
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"Doesn't use porn" is an unreasonable standard, and one most women can't meet. 60% of women reported having consumed porn in the past month, according to a 2020 study. Also, the stat just isn't true in the first place.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 04:10 AM
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That Pew study is also not supported by other data.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 03:26 AM
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The other person who responded already pointed out that the studies you linked don't support your conclusion, but it's also worth noting that red pillers have been citing the 80/20 rule since long before 2020, so it's clearly made the fuck up.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 03:21 AM
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There's not really any data to suggest that the 80/20 rule is true. If it were, you'd expect surveys to show a very different distribution of sexual partners among men than they do. Numbers vary, but here's one such survey, for example. It also doesn't make much mathematical sense given that most people wind up in long-term, monogamous relationships.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 02:32 AM
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Except that this "fact" isn't true at all.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 02:14 AM
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Jesus Christ. That's awful. I'm sorry.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 02:13 AM
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Still. How do you think Jesus would feel about you manipulating women? The Bible promotes the Golden Rule, after all, and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be treated that way.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/25 08:41 PM
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That wasn't me, dude. Different person.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/25 08:33 PM
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"Weakening the human race"? So you believe in eugenics?
/r/ExRedPill19/07/25 01:11 AM
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For an alleged Christian, you sure aren't very kind. Isn't kindness one of the tenets of Christianity? Would you want to be manipulated the way you've suggested women should be?
/r/ExRedPill19/07/25 01:09 AM
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I was referring more to your gender essentialist views. That's what I find most appalling about you. Though I do believe your idea that romantic love isn't real could do some serious damage to someone who's yet to experience it or to an aromantic person.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/25 01:06 AM
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Jesus Christ this is pretentious.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/25 02:32 AM
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I'm not the one giving toxic and manipulative relationship advice.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/25 02:30 AM
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It’s quite unambiguous when someone hates me. Is it? How do you know? What if they're just in a bad mood? What if they just dislike you, but don't full-on hate you? I could construct an argument against the existence of hatred that's every bit as logically sound as your argument against the existence of romantic love. It's not hard. I always assumed that was euphemism for sex Why? Asexual people experience romantic love, and they write about it, too. Some people have sexless romantic relationshi…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/25 02:29 AM
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I don't hear a lot of people talking about personally hating someone IRL either. Does that mean hatred doesn't exist? Come on, dude. People on the internet are real people too. And even if they weren't, countless works of art spanning all cultures across the millennia have been made about romantic love. Besides, how often do you ask about romantic love IRL? It's a fairly private thing for most people, not one you just run around yelling about to random strangers, any more than you tell other peo…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/25 07:28 PM
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It could be, and would make them more attractive.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/25 06:58 PM
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It's so funny how you literally disproved a bunch of RP talking points with your own post (admitting more women were interested in you when you were a "low-T nerd") but are still carrying water for TRP in the comments.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/25 06:48 PM
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Your refusal to believe what almost everyone tells you about love is an absolute skill issue.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/25 06:26 PM
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Fuck off. The best relationships I've ever had have been ones where I felt secure.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/25 06:25 PM
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Oh, shut the fuck up. I'm so deeply tired of seeing you deny what women actually say about their own attraction to other people.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/25 07:17 PM
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Welcome to the idiotic world of radfems.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/25 07:30 AM
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Kink is to abuse as pro wrestling is to attempted murder; they look the same if you strip all context, but that's where the similarity ends. I'm sorry you had bad experiences in the BDSM community, but that doesn't mean all BDSM is inherently bad. If all parties consent to and enjoy something, then it's fine. I would advise you to watch this video. You should not have brought studies into this if you wanted to win the argument. There are at least as many studies that disagree with you. Here are …
/r/ExRedPill15/07/25 02:02 AM
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"Physical aggression" is not inherently abuse if all parties have consented. Consensual kink is a thing. Plus there's ZERO evidence that porn consumption makes someone misogynistic. And before you hit me with the "you're just a porn-brained man" bullshit, I'm a woman. And a domme, meaning I know how kink works.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/25 07:14 PM
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Dude, all they said was that marrying outside your culture will not be the death of your culture. They correctly pointed out that thinking it will is pretty racist. Nothing about this points to antisemitism.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/25 07:13 PM
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Yeah AFTER you said you're dating someone taller now. Which is completely irrelevant, because I've already demonstrated height isn't a factor in whom I choose to date. If it were, I never would have dated those people in the first place, or at the very least I would have been the one to break up with them. Here, would you like a statistical breakdown? Of the people I've dated, three were shorter than average for their assigned gender at birth (5'4", 5'7", and 5'8), one was dead average (5'9"), a…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/25 08:01 AM
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Bro, I literally told you I had dated someone shorter than me. Can you read? And I'm not inclined to relitigate painful breakups with some stranger on reddit, but suffice it to say they broke up with me for general incompatibility reasons. Firstly, even if that's true, the effect of hating "everyone" is that your hatred harms marginalized people more than others, because they're more vulnerable. Secondly, I call bullshit. I went a few pages back in your comment history and conveniently saw no bi…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/25 07:33 AM
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Not the person you replied to, but I (5'5") have personally dated 5'4" and 5'7" men. I'm dating someone taller now, but both of those exes were the ones who broke up with me. I've never given a flying fuck about height. My guy, I checked out your comment history, and let me tell you, your height is not your problem. You seem to hate women, poor people, and minorities. Most women do not want to date people who think like that. Like, classism and racism aside, would you want to date someone who co…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/25 07:20 AM
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reinforcement of gender roles to the max (which benefits women lmao) How does reinforcement of gender roles benefit women?
/r/ExRedPill05/07/25 04:42 AM
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Can you overcome it yourself? Maybe. But it will probably be easier if you involve a professional. It's literally their job to help you solve problems and improve your mental health, after all. Besides, you yourself mention trauma. That alone means it's time to involve a therapist.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/25 05:35 AM
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Are you in therapy? If not, you should be.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/25 05:24 AM
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Therapy would likely help.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/25 02:57 AM
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Women and children (boys and girls) are being raped in record numbers. This is untrue. Crime has been going down for decades. I'm not saying anything about the rest of the argument, but this point is not valid.
/r/ExRedPill30/06/25 04:55 AM
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genuine ex-redpill folks vs menslib/feminist people these two things are not mutually exclusive
/r/ExRedPill28/06/25 11:16 PM
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lol
/r/ExRedPill28/06/25 11:08 PM
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"Positivity," they say while making absurdly negative claims and promoting an absurdly negative ideology. Dress it up however you like, but the things you're saying are cruel at their core.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/25 02:50 AM
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What utter bullshit. Long-distance relationships are as real as any others. I've never left a long-distance partner for someone closer by, despite knowing I would have that option if I wanted it. And fuck off with the attempts to rehabilitate red pill shit. It's a violently misogynistic ideology, not just about having self-confidence or whatever.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/25 12:54 AM
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Dude. Read your own fucking sources. The first link was debunking that claim. Quote: They break the data up into couples where the husbands is shorter than the wife and couples where they are the same height. In 1986, 3.14% of husbands were shorter and 4.13% were the same height. In 2009, 3.78% were shorter and 4.00% were the same height. From these data, if you include something less than half of the "same height" group, you'll get an estimate of approximately 5%, or 1 in 20, couples where the …
/r/ExRedPill24/06/25 02:22 AM
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Absolutely none of that states that women exclusively date/marry/have kids with men who meet those criteria. These studies state that there are certain trends with what women on average prefer. Moreover, your second link outright disagrees with some of what you said: Men who were “overweight” reported a higher mean and median number of sex partners than men with other body masses. The results for men suggested limited variation in reported sex partner number across most of the height continuum, …
/r/ExRedPill24/06/25 01:54 AM
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Massive [citation needed] for your final paragraph. Where's this data coming from? Who says that "most" women "only" date/marry/have kids with men who meet those criteria?
/r/ExRedPill24/06/25 12:02 AM
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Lol. I'm a comp sci major (or was, rather--I'm 29 and have graduated) whose whole family is conservative. I know exactly what conservatism is. I've seen its cruel heart. Also, most forms of nationalism are innately racist, so I don't even know what your point is there. And yes, Jordan Peterson and Sargon of Akkad are, if not red pill, at least considered members of the manosphere. And frankly, I don't care enough to distinguish TRP from the manosphere. The differences between the two are superfi…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/25 05:48 AM
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Guy wasn’t attractive at all Hate to say it about scum like him, but he absolutely was attractive.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/25 08:02 PM
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?
/r/ExRedPill11/06/25 05:41 AM
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To paraphrase an old Tumblr post: If your solution to a problem begins with "if everyone would just..." you have not actually found a solution. Everyone will not just. At precisely no point in history has everyone just, and they won't start now. TRP loves to say shit like "if women would just..." My buddy. My guy. The majority of women are not going to suddenly start behaving the way you'd prefer. Even ignoring the contradictions in how they see women, it's not like all women are going to, indiv…
/r/ExRedPill10/06/25 09:35 AM
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Can't wait to hear why this doesn't count. Or this. Or this. All I had to do was google "[influencer] male loneliness." As far as I can tell, the whole "male loneliness epidemic" thing was coined by Richard Reeves, noted scion of the evil feminazi indoctrination center... uh... the American Institute for Boys and Men. Whoops.
/r/ExRedPill10/06/25 06:41 AM
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I'll do you one better than that: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1ivqdur/the_male_loneliness_epidemic/mebmye1/ https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1ivqdur/the_male_loneliness_epidemic/medqrd1/ I didn't even have to look that hard. If you search "male loneliness" on PPD, you'll see tons of red pillers bitching and moaning about how horrible women are for not putting out and curing their loneliness. That thread is full of such examples. But let me guess. These ex…
/r/ExRedPill10/06/25 02:25 AM
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[citation needed]
/r/ExRedPill10/06/25 01:42 AM
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The whole "male loneliness epidemic" thing is pushed by red pill types far more often than feminists. They usually use it to bitch about how terrible it is to be a man and how evil women are for denying men companionship.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/25 11:07 PM
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One wonders why the "truth" must resort to stuff like cherrypicking surveys from dating apps, as opposed to presenting studies.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/25 11:05 PM
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People who do those things are a relative handful--remember, for example, that the majority of eligible voters did not vote for Trump in any election. Most people didn't vote at all. So when you talk about people voting for evil candidates, you are necessarily talking about a minority of people. And of the people who do so, some of them genuinely think they are being kind and doing what's right. They're wrong, but sometimes people are just stupid rather than ill-intentioned.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/25 02:33 AM
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It comes across as a little invasive to ask someone for the details of their abuse, though.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 11:03 PM
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The truth is somewhere in between. Someone who's already interested in you is more likely to respond to you, but that's not to say that you can never make yourself more appealing.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 11:02 PM
8

Exactly this. It's hard to offer an alternative a cult, because reality will never provide the same certainty.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 09:43 PM
10

The problem isn't that the majority of people are unkind. It's that a relative handful of unkind people are willing to exploit and abuse others, so they rise to the top.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 09:42 PM
2

Why? First of all, that still leaves 30% of women out there who may love unconditionally, even if we ignore the massive flaws in your logic. Secondly, you can love someone unconditionally and still know you shouldn't be married to them. There are people from my past whom I will always love, but whom I would not date again.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 06:25 PM
3

What does that prove? It's a massive leap to go from "women initiate most divorces" to "women don't love unconditionally."
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 06:21 PM
2

"It's a fact," he says, providing zero evidence. If it's demonstrably and objectively true, then you should be able to prove it. But you won't find any neuroscience studies agreeing with you, because it's not really a factual claim. It's the product of bitter men projecting their bad experiences onto all women. Someone who says this shit is revealing their own emotional bias.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 06:19 PM
4

Lol @ claiming someone is "emotionally detached" when making such emotionally-driven claims as "women don't love unconditionally."
/r/ExRedPill07/06/25 06:14 PM
2

Because leaving a few reddit comments a day means you can't have a boyfriend, I guess?
/r/ExRedPill06/06/25 08:35 PM
3

AI is glorified autocomplete, my guy. Don't use or listen to it.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 06:25 PM
1

It's a lot more than "a couple" red-pill guys who say "some vaguely right-wing things". TRP is an innately right-wing ideology. Nothing like it exists on the left, and you won't find a leftist or more than a couple liberals who would call themselves red pill. Most red pillers are racist, classist, and queerphobic in addition to being sexist, all of which are hallmarks of being a right-winger. Plus many if not most red pill and red pill-adjacent figures (e.g. Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, Sargon …
/r/ExRedPill05/06/25 04:30 AM
3

there have been several times where he has made a comment like ‘I can’t stop going to the gym because you’ll leave me for a guy that has bigger muscles’. You don't see how this is a giant red flag?
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 05:34 PM
5

Firstly: If someone has toxic beliefs, you shouldn't tolerate their bullshit even if they treat you well. You aren't the only person in the world who matters. The way they think about and treat other people is just as important. Secondly: He may treat her well now. But if you read both the OP and her followup comments, it's clear cracks are beginning to show. That will only get worse as time goes on.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 05:55 AM
3

Yeah, people can believe whatever they want, but some beliefs are deeply shitty and should be opposed. You should try to change people's minds if they hold harmful beliefs. And if you can't, drop them.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/25 05:09 AM
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I mean. 95% of the people who ask for relationship advice on reddit should break up, and OP is in the 95%.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/25 11:31 PM
3

Others have made good points. But I want to point out that "be the best version of yourself" doesn't mean "you must have no flaws or needs before you can date." For example, I'm a bit needy and clingy myself. I like to spend a lot of time with my partner. I've tried going without, and it doesn't go well. Is that a bad thing? I mean, it can be. But I've worked on myself to the point that I don't (usually) panic the moment my partner is busy and can't hang out. So now it's not really a problem as …
/r/ExRedPill03/06/25 05:46 PM
3

Can you read? I never said the abstract set forth slut-shaming as the only possible cause of negative emotions following casual sex. Here, I'll help you out: It literally says the likely reason behind the negative emotions women experience after casual sex is fucking slut-shaming. And as for your "point" about drug use, yeah, no shit it can become problematic. Any behavior can be problematic. But that's no reason whatsoever to treat drug use as inherently bad, or to shame those who use drugs. So…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/25 07:42 AM
3

It's called touching grass instead of guzzling shitposts by Twitter nazis. You should try it sometime.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/25 08:35 PM
3

All of those problems are either made up entirely or not problems.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/25 12:38 AM
2

LOL. Believe me or don't, I don't care. But I really have no reason to lie. This is the internet, I gain nothing from lying. I'm in bed next to my boyfriend right now. Like, check my submission history and you'll see a meme mentioning him. You, on the other hand, seem like an utterly miserable person whom no one would want to be around.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/25 05:53 PM
2

Lol. I'm in one right now. Try again.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/25 05:25 PM
3

Even if that's true, it wouldn't make them wrong.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/25 05:46 AM
3

Did you even read the abstract of the first study? It literally says the likely reason behind the negative emotions women experience after casual sex is fucking slut-shaming. As for the second study, correlation is not causation. Besides, I don't care. If casual sex is bad for you, so what? That doesn't justify shaming people for engaging in it. Drugs and alcohol can also be bad for you. You're still allowed to make your own choices there.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/25 07:03 PM
4

How the fuck else am I supposed to take your statement?
/r/ExRedPill27/05/25 04:42 PM
2

No human being is worthless, you utter scum. No wonder women hate you. And he's fucking women who are his type.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/25 06:51 AM
8

The claim varies. It can be either.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/25 03:09 AM
11

Oh, fuck off. People like you see someone you don't think is a "Chad" in a relationship and immediately assume the woman can't possibly be into him, even though you have no way of knowing what their relationship is like.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/25 03:08 AM
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I've dated at least one autistic guy, probably more, and I know an autistic dude who has casual sex with relative frequency. Stop this bullshit. Being autistic isn't a death sentence for your romantic life.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/25 03:07 AM
16

Motherfucker, what?
/r/ExRedPill26/05/25 01:01 AM
6

[citation needed]. Women's taste in men is no less diverse than men's taste in women.
/r/ExRedPill24/05/25 06:19 PM
8

Men aren't being forced to care about women's body counts either. What's your point?
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 07:03 AM
6

Bitch, how?
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 03:10 AM
10

Lol bitching about not getting laid is all red pillers do. "Kicking and screaming about it like a child" is their whole ideology.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 03:05 AM
8

Your personal feelings of disgust are not a basis for morality. You thinking casual sex is icky doesn't say anything about its practitioners, only about you. If you shame people for doing things which you personally dislike but which don't actually affect you, you're a massive piece of shit. Someone fucking a different person every Tuesday isn't hurting anyone. You shaming others for harmless acts is hurting people. And yet somehow you think you're the good guy here?
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 02:27 AM
7

What the fuck is this sex-negative, slut-shaming trash?
/r/ExRedPill23/05/25 01:16 AM
4

The majority of Americans are overweight. The majority of Americans also wind up in long-term relationships. Knock it off.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 11:20 PM
5

Translation: You have no empathy or compassion for women, so when you see us getting shit, it just goes in one ear and out the other. But you actually give a fuck about men, so you register when men get shittalked and wind up thinking they have it worse than women.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 02:50 AM
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One of the many things you are missing is that conventionally attractive women also have it easier than conventionally unattractive women. I'm one of the latter. True, it's easier for me to date online than it would be for a man. But I've also been rejected for my looks, personality, and inexperience, as well as general incompatibility reasons. And I've been used as a sex/affection dispenser by people who found me actively unattractive but didn't think they could do better. You are confusing pre…
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 02:37 AM
4

May I suggest TTRPGs like Dungeons & Dragons? Great for meeting people if you're a nerd.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 02:28 AM
5

What's actually relevant here is the scientific consensus, and it doesn't agree with you.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 12:29 AM
3

I have seen multiple therapist throughout my life. They're goal is to turn the person to another obedient dog it's just like religion, Do as we say and obey never question anything, Just submit and obey. Well, if you go into it with that attitude already, no shit you're only going to notice things that confirm your preexisting bias. Either that or you've just had shitty therapists. My current therapist is quite obviously anticapitalist. A good therapist may suggest you adjust your behavior or ou…
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 12:28 AM
3

Eyeroll. I've dated people ranging from twink body type to fairly overweight, and from 5'4" to 6'2". I've never dated anybody muscular or with a lantern jaw or whatever. I've only had a couple people like that even be interested in me, and either I turned them down or it didn't work out. But my own experiences aside, the vast majority of people get married and have kids, so this mathematically cannot be true.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/25 12:16 AM
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People like you only think your beliefs are true because you'd never accept any evidence to the contrary.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/25 05:32 PM
3

And you know this because of all the relationships you've been in, huh?
/r/ExRedPill20/05/25 05:29 PM
3

I've been used for sex by people who were decidedly not "Chads." So fuck off.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/25 05:27 PM
3

Motherfucker, how?
/r/ExRedPill13/05/25 05:20 AM
9

You're right. This is a pointless discussion. You do not understand what people are referring to when they use the phrase "red pill," and you refuse to learn. Also lmao @ citing YouTube as a source when decrying Wikipedia's inaccuracy. Like, dude, pick one. But fine, let's say Wikipedia is an unreliable source. You can literally just google the phrase "red pill manosphere" or something like that and see what pops up. There are whole books on TRP. Again, check out /r/thebluepill, especially the p…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/25 02:41 AM
7

Bro. You literally said you got into this whole red pill thing a few days ago. Do you think that maybe, just maybe, you might not know as much as you think you do? The people who talk about red pill shit are not talking about coming to your own version of the truth. They are talking about women's "true nature." Andrew Tate is a famous red piller. And look at the Wikipedia page and the pinned post on /r/thebluepill. You will see very clearly what TRP is.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/25 01:19 AM
7

I have no political affiliation. Which means you have no ideological inoculation against right-wing fuckery like TRP. Be extremely careful with anything that presents itself as "the DIFFICULT TRUTH that THEY don't want you to know"/"the truth those sheeple normies will never acknowledge." 98% of the time, it's bullshit. The red pill blue pill came from a movie "the matrix" the main character is presented with the two pills and told to make a choice. Yes, I know where the term comes from. But the…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/25 11:53 PM
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TRP is an inherently right-wing ideology. If the misogyny didn't tip you off, considering doing some reading from, again, outside perspectives. The red pill started as an outgrowth of pickup artistry in the 2000s. It's a common gateway into the alt-right.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/25 11:34 PM
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I don't know if this helps, but the most physically attracted I have ever been to anyone was to a 5'4" guy. I'm 5'5".
/r/ExRedPill10/05/25 07:59 PM
8

There's no point in saying anything to them. They're too far gone.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/25 07:58 PM
10

You're falling into a right-wing funnel. Stop that. Get some outside perspective. Read the pinned post in this sub.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/25 07:54 PM
2

Thanks for trying to school me on woke culture but I'm fairly familiar with it and it's really not my thing. I sincerely hope this isn't true, because if you actually know anything about social justice and still have such wrongheaded views on it, you must be pretty goddamn stupid. Or possibly just cruel. Noone is assigning anything at birth, an observation is made about the baby's genitals and their sex. Do you deny that children are nevertheless assigned genders? We treat them as boys or girls.…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/25 05:51 PM
3

That you cite two violently authoritarian countries as "doing fine" is incredibly telling.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/25 05:14 PM
2

Jesus Christ, dude. The Democrats are literally a center-right party with the absolute mildest possible takes on social justice. Honestly, they mostly pay lip service to it without doing anything to actually support it. I mean, shit, they enabled a literal genocide. If someone voted for a rapist and an out-and-out fascist because they didn't like seeing the occasional trans person in public life, that's an absolute skill issue.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/25 05:10 PM
2

[citation needed]
/r/ExRedPill06/05/25 06:09 AM
2

Your bullshit doesn't even make basic mathematical sense. There are roughly equal numbers of men and women, and the vast majority of people wind up in monogamous relationships. So how the fuck could women possibly have infinite options while men have none? It's literally only that way on dating apps.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/25 02:31 AM
2

Tell me you've never spoken to a woman without telling me you've never spoken to a woman. In particular, do you actually know any lesbians? They're some of the most body-positive and accepting people I know. Which isn't to say that none of them are shallow, but if anything the correlation runs the other way.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/25 02:28 AM
2

Don't know anything about Tracey Chapman, but David Buss is an absolute clown. Evopsych is trash.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/25 05:04 PM
5

the concept you're a different gender as a man because you have feminine traits (like having high empathy or crying easily when watching a film) is pretty new and radical This is a claim absolutely no one makes. You are not a different gender just because you don't fit gender stereotypes. You are a different gender if your internal sense of gender identity doesn't match your assigned gender. You can be a feminine man or a masculine woman. Hell, you can be a feminine trans man or a masculine tran…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/25 04:24 PM
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We're literally supposed to take seriously their claim women are oppressed in 1st World secular countries so I beg to differ. Bro, Roe v. Wade got overturned and we elected a serial rapist (who was found in civil court to have raped at least one person but has MANY more allegations) president. I don't know what more proof you need. I know he's transphobic but misinformed how? In the sense he's not progressive but a conservative? Well, yes, but also here's just one particularly vile example of hi…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/25 04:12 PM
3

How can you think undocumented immigrants making $5/hour are the reason the middle class is suffering when there are people out there making more money in a day than you or I will spend in a lifetime? Immigrants, documented or otherwise, are a net economic gain for the country they immigrate to. If someone immigrates to the US at 18, that means we never had to pay for their education, healthcare, or anything else until that age--and now they'll be paying into our tax system. Besides, they create…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/25 03:00 AM
4

He has every right to vote for whomever he pleases, yes. But if you vote for certain candidates/parties, you are in fact a shitty person.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/25 02:43 AM
4

Peterson is, among other things, violently transphobic and dangerously misinformed about nearly everything. Also, TRP has no legitimate criticisms of modern feminism. Knock that off.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/25 04:48 PM
5

Right-wing and red-pilled may not be exactly the same thing, but the overlap between the two is no coincidence. Both are based on a fundamental misunderstanding of basic reality.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/25 03:32 AM
5

Lots of people get treated poorly their whole lives without resorting to being shitty people in response. So... skill issue. Also, I checked your profile. You literally look fine.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/25 02:51 AM
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Why are you dating someone with such heinous views in the first place? It doesn't matter if he's specifically a red piller or not. He's not a good person.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/25 11:51 PM
7

What the fuck are you doing on this subreddit if you have no desire to change? You seem like an awful person. I'd never exclude someone from my dating pool because they were a virgin or because of their nose or whatever, but I'd definitely exclude someone who behaved this way.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/25 08:01 PM
2

I can't seem to reply to your other comment, so here you go. I have been ostracized in the past. I lost my entire social circle once and spent a year with basically no friends. I stand by what I said. Social consequences are appropriate and sometimes necessary for someone who says terrible things. If someone--again, calmly--criticizing you can make you revert to right-wing beliefs, you were never serious about changing in the first place. I didn't "make" you not sorry. You are responsible for yo…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 07:50 PM
2

I mean... yeah? If you behave poorly, you probably ought to experience some consequences. I think losing your social circle would be an appropriate consequence for a year spreading hate online. Again with the avoidance of accountability. You agree that your behavior was at least suboptimal, but you don't want to face any consequences for it.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 07:40 PM
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When someone calmly points out that you are responsible for your own choices and blaming "wokeism" is deflecting from taking accountability, you respond with vitriol. Why? How can you ever expect to change if you won't accept responsibility for your behavior? You will note that at no point have I yelled at you or wished you anything unpleasant. I have been perfectly civil. Yet you still respond like this. It's pure victim mentality. You will never be happy if you take everything as a personal at…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 07:35 PM
4

Upon further reflection, I probably shouldn't have bothered writing out all that in my other comment. I'll leave it up for posterity, but none of that is the point. The point is this: If you continue to balk at the slightest criticism, you will always be a right-winger. If you continue to prioritize your own comfort over things like justice and critical thinking, the left will eat you alive. As you lot like to say, facts don't care about your feelings. And despite the stereotype, leftists are ex…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 07:18 PM
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He wants to be petty and vindictive. It's not about that. It's about what kind of message you send to people who hold shitty beliefs. If you continue to tolerate their presence, you are in effect telling them that their beliefs are acceptable. And frankly, it's downright unsafe for women to continue to hang around misogynists, since they're more likely to abuse us. Same goes for any marginalized group and a person who's prejudiced against them, really. Your friends got incredibly lucky that you …
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 06:55 PM
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Throwing in my own story here. I'm not, say, happily married for 20 years, but I can safely say that none of my relationships have followed the blueprint laid out by TRP (nor would I want them to). I'm a woman, and here's just a few ways I and my relationships differ from what TRP tells you: I could not give less of a fuck how much money my partner makes. I think I've dated... one person better off than me? I come from a wealthy family, so while I don't personally have any money, I have no parti…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 01:49 AM
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So, I'm proud of you for taking the first steps out of misogynist bullshit. And I'm glad you may be beginning to see the light. However, there's something in your post that's bothering me. I don't know how to put this delicately, so I'm not going to bother: Your commitment to truth and justice should not depend upon people being nice to you. You basically said you were pushed into being a right-winger by being banned/"cancelled." Not only is this failing to take accountability for your own belie…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 01:34 AM
4

To paraphrase someone else in this thread, women aren't comparing you to some imaginary perfect guy. We're comparing you to the prospect of being single.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/25 07:28 PM
12

Citation fucking needed.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/25 05:52 AM
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If we're just talking about online dating in general, then your initial statement is irrelevant because it's referring to dating apps specifically, not online dating as a whole. Moreover, don't you think the fact that the chart ends in 2020 has a teeny bit to do with over 50% of couples meeting online? Nah, I definitely don't remember anything happening in 2020 that forced people stop meeting in-person...
/r/ExRedPill27/04/25 05:07 AM
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The majority of women cannot possibly meet their partners on dating apps given that the majority of women are not on dating apps, and dating apps are on average like 80% male.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/25 04:58 AM
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Dating apps are not representative of reality.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/25 04:39 AM
4

I mean. It's not a coincidence that so many mass shooters subscribe to TRP and adjacent ideologies.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/25 05:57 PM
4

Evolutionary psychology is panned by the wider scientific community. It's bullshit. Millions of people also disagree with TRP, so I don't know what your point is there.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/25 05:52 PM
12

Oh, knock it off. TRP has nothing of value to say.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/25 06:55 AM
1

And what makes you think kindness is less attractive now than it was in the past?
/r/ExRedPill23/04/25 09:51 PM
1

Eyeroll. "All women." Blaming patriarchy is not the same as blaming men, but go off I guess. And as we all know, women are the only ones who have ever been responsible for enforcing patriarchal standards onto men. Obviously. Edit: Coward blocked me lmao.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/25 07:19 PM
3

Pretty sure shaming men for not having wives long predates WW1, but anything that lets you blame women for men's problems, I guess.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/25 09:22 AM
2

Oh, knock it off. Women are unhappier today than they were in the past... but everyone was happier in the past. It's not because of feminism. It's because of late-stage capitalism.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/25 06:20 AM
0

My guy. Phrases have meanings beyond the literal words they contain. Incel does not just mean "involuntarily celibate" these days. Inceldom is a specific right-wing ideology that blames women for men's problems. If you use that term to describe yourself, you subscribe to the ideology. If you merely have trouble getting a date but don't hate women, you will not describe yourself as an incel. I am friends with multiple people who lack sex/romance in their lives. They are, nevertheless, not incels …
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 10:17 PM
0

Sorry, but no. If you self-identify as an incel, you are far-right. Not everyone who struggles with dating is a fascist, but everyone who calls themself an incel subscribes to that ideology.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 09:05 PM
3

I am completely comfortable "putting an umbrella on" self-identified incels. They are, under the most generous possible interpretation, victims of far-right brainwashing. There's nothing wrong with being single or being inexperienced or struggling to get dates, but if you use the term "incel" for yourself, the right-wing brainworms have gotten to you.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 01:35 AM
7

Come on, dude. There's a reason there's such an overlap between "incel shooter" and "far-right shooter."
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 01:27 AM
0

Obviously evil people can exist in any society. I'm just saying it would be no more of a problem in a socialist or communist society than it is in today's society, and would arguably be less of one. Don’t rich people commit crimes/steal/kill/rape all the time? They have everything they need, why would they feel need to do any of that? Rich people mainly--not exclusively, but mainly--commit two sorts of crimes: Financial crimes and abuses of power. In a society where your basic needs will be prov…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 11:44 PM
1

Socialist societies do not incentivize bad behavior the way capitalist societies do. After all, if everything you need to survive is just available to you on the basis of you being a person, rather than being locked behind a paywall, there's no reason to hoard wealth or commit crime.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 07:28 PM
1

I mean, it hasn't even been tried very often, and most of the people who have tried it have used rather stupid methods of achieving their stated end goals, IMO. Part of the problem is most of the countries we think of as "communist" used Marxist-Leninist methods to achieve communism, which frankly were never going to work. Anarchist methods have generally done a better job of actually getting to a more equitable society when they've been applied, but they haven't been applied that often, and usu…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 07:13 PM
2

Communism is mostly a theoretical thing at this point. There are and have been various anti-hierarchical socialist societies which arguably got close (Rojava, the EZLN, Freetown Christiana, anarchist Spain, Makhnovia), but I don't personally know of any communist ones that actually fit the definition. (The definition is a stateless, classless, moneyless society wherein the workers own the means of production.) So whether communism would result in "alpha males" rising to the top of society remain…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 07:02 PM
4

If you're basing your view of communism on, say, the USSR and China, you should know that those are not communist in any meaningful sense. Communism is necessarily anti-hierarchical. (I'm not even a communist, but this misconception irks me.)
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 06:11 PM
0

None of those would be a dealbreaker for me, but go off I guess.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 06:07 PM
1

Third, there are very few communities that straight up say "hey it is okay to be a man" and young vulnerable boys are starving for validation and will go where they find it. No one is saying it's not okay to be a man. Like, the majority of powerful people are still male. The majority of fictional protagonists are still male.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 04:43 AM
1

Signed, someone who has never spoken to a woman before.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/25 04:35 AM
5

Oh, fuck off, red piller. Manosphere tactics don't work in any long-term sense (at least not on healthy women), and they do not play to women's "baser instincts."
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 04:23 PM
1

You said you could not imagine women initiating casual sex. I just told you I have done something that is at least adjacent to that. I know you well enough by now to know your beliefs are not based on any kind of evidence, but perhaps someone reading this will have their mind changed.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/25 07:58 PM
1

Woman here. Have never initiated casual sex IRL, but have initiated casual online sexual dynamics with no strings attached.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/25 06:37 PM
2

Speak for yourself.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/25 06:06 PM
6

Do you choose whom to be attracted to?
/r/ExRedPill17/04/25 02:15 AM
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No. This is unscientific gibberish. There's no evidence to suggest women or anyone else becomes "numb to relationships" because of casual sex.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/25 06:53 AM
3

If you came here to have your beliefs challenged, you would have phrased things differently. Which means that whether you're a true believer or not, you're just here to troll and start shit. Go away.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/25 12:27 AM
3

Yawn. Troll better.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/25 10:49 PM
3

I can't speak for OP's ex, but personally, there are some people in my life from whom receiving an apology would be very healing for me. Specifically because of the trauma they caused me.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/25 05:12 PM
6

But you kind of implied it by saying non-red pill dating advice lacks substance.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/25 12:08 AM
6

Uhhh... hi. Woman here. I've definitely had FWB arrangements with zero romance, and I definitely want sex out of a relationship. Granted, it's not the only or even most important thing I want, but I do.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/25 12:07 AM
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Let's say there's a jar with 50 purple marbles and 50 green marbles in it. You reach in and pull out 10. 7 of those are green and 3 of those are purple. Does that mean that all of math is wrong and you aren't really equally likely to get purple or green marbles? Of course not. It's just the luck of the draw. Random chance means that the outcome will vary sometimes. Dating is the same way, to an extent. It does depend on things that are within your control--the way you present and conduct yoursel…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/25 12:03 AM
2

Area man enters anti-red pill forum, is shocked to discover it's anti-red pill. More at 11
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 09:27 PM
1

😎
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 05:23 AM
7

To give relationship advice at all? You don't. To make a living giving relationship advice? I feel like there ought to be some reason to believe you know what you're talking about.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 01:35 AM
5

Why believe what a bunch of men say about women? Wouldn't women be a better source on women?
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 12:55 AM
8

I am generally suspicious of anyone who makes a living giving relationship advice and does not have relevant academic credentials.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 12:51 AM
1

Is this specifically for ex-red pillers?
/r/ExRedPill09/04/25 10:02 PM
11

21 is so young. I'm 29 and still changing and discovering things about myself. It's far from being too late. If you fall back down the red pill rabbit hole, that's unfortunate, but it's not the end. It doesn't matter whether you're 21 or 91; it's never too late to change.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/25 01:44 AM
1

? You're not making any sense. I'm responding to counter your bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 11:55 PM
1

Then why bother saying anything in the first place?
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 11:50 PM
2

Explain.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 05:54 PM
4

... Which has nothing to do with this post.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 06:26 AM
5

The red pill has nothing at all to do with men being heard. Besides, men's voices are the loudest ones in today's culture, and they have been for all of history.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 05:15 AM
1

"Reject reality" lmao. I'm the one who linked a source. You have nothing to back up your bitching except vibes. If you actually cared about accepting uncomfortable truths, you'd have to accept that men often make for shitty or even abusive partners, divorce is not equivalent to rape, and women are sometimes justified in initiating divorce. But it would be inconvenient to you to admit such things. You might have to do some introspection or even--horror of horrors--change your behavior if you owne…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 05:13 AM
1

Translation: "I and my barely-sapient shitstain buddies like to compare divorce to rape, because we either don't understand or don't care that sexual violence is in the same category of evil as kidnapping or murder and therefore not comparable to merely losing money." Good job both minimizing the horror of rape and displacing the blame for divorce onto someone who is often the victim in the situation. [citation needed] that it's not usually the man's fault that divorce happens. I have no idea ho…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/25 02:32 AM
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Firstly, this is reddit, not TikTok. You can just say "rape." Secondly, comparing divorce to rape is bugfuck insane, especially given many divorces happen because of abuse. Thirdly, this is an example of you reducing a complex issue to something simple and easily digestible. Yes, it's true that about half of marriages end in divorce, and that most divorces are initiated by women. But that doesn't even come close to showing the full picture. It tells you nothing about why those divorces happen. K…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/25 10:03 PM
1

Yeah, so-called porn addiction is mostly people feeling bad about their completely normal porn use.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/25 06:47 PM
1

Why would you even doubt this if you know anything about JP?
/r/ExRedPill04/04/25 10:00 PM
10

About as often as hot men date short, fat, broke women, sure.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 10:40 PM
2

LLMs are infamous for simply making shit up. Like, ask them for book recommendations and they will often invent new titles. Tell him not to use them for learning new information, or preferably, not to use them at all.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 04:49 PM
2

My guy. "AI" is glorified autocomplete.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 04:47 PM
1

Yeah, I don't know what the fuck OP is talking about. At most it's possibly true on dating apps, but absolutely nowhere else.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/25 09:03 AM
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I think you would benefit from reading this post I made.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/25 05:36 PM
1

But people on the internet have no reason whatsoever to lie to you. I have nothing to gain from telling you I feel romantic love. If I didn't, I'd just say so. What are the consequences for admitting I don't? Getting downvoted? I've chosen less worthy hills to die on than that. Besides, I and others have pointed out many times that there are other phenomena at play behind societal trends. You seem to have the--in my opinion, bizarre--belief that society as it exists today is the result of fundam…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/25 09:19 PM
2

But you make universalizing claims like this all the time, like "men don't love their partners" or even "romantic love isn't real." And what is anyone supposed to say to that if you fundamentally don't believe other people's experiences could be different from your own?
/r/ExRedPill26/03/25 05:34 PM
2

It's incredibly frustrating watching you repeatedly deny things I have personally experienced.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/25 03:27 PM
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So your source for what the majority of women think is... Some women shitposting online. Okay. I don't know, man, the same way you ignore people online saying the Earth is flat? People on the internet say all sorts of stupid shit. They even get upvoted for saying stupid shit. It doesn't mean it's a widespread viewpoint.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 06:34 PM
5

Yeah, not saying the article is necessarily SWERF-y. But OP has definite SWERF tendencies.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 06:32 PM
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Then those people just sucked and weren't worth your time anyway. Why project that onto all women?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 06:30 PM
8

Ever considered that might be due to something other than your virginity?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 06:26 PM
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The majority of "blue-pilled" people do not care about that shit. It's red pillers and their ilk who make sex the end-all and be-all of a person's value. 99% of normal people won't ever ask about your virginity, let alone have an opinion on it. I'm a woman. I literally do not care that you are a virgin. I wouldn't disqualify someone from my dating pool because they were a virgin. That shit doesn't mean anything.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 06:16 PM
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Until the age of 28 as long as i believed in bluepill, i was fine despite never being loved holding out hope for the one who would want me How can you post this and then come to the conclusion that "the blue pill" is bad? You were literally happier before you got pilled. When you held conventional views on dating, you were, relatively speaking, happy and healthy. Then you took the black pill and became miserable. The obvious conclusion here is that the black pill is harming your mental health an…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 06:04 PM
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Fuck this SWERF bullshit. Is sex work always voluntary in a meaningful sense? No. But the same can be said of any work. I sure as shit never would have worked most of my jobs if I'd had any choice, and I'm not a sex worker. Moreover, actually talk to a sex worker sometime. Many of them will tell you they find their work fun, liberating, and empowering. Are there people who are forced into sex work as a means of survival? Of course. But there are also people who freely choose it. Also don't love …
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 05:46 PM
3

So where's them studies, huh?
/r/ExRedPill22/03/25 07:07 PM
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One-night stands are mostly a matter of being willing to approach a ton of people and shoot your shot. Good social skills and grooming definitely help too. I suppose it's unfortunate that it's a game of luck, but there's nothing to be done about it. You just have to do what you can to maximize your chances and try to meet a lot of people. Like, you can try to tell yourself it's not a game of luck, but that won't change the simple fact that it is.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/25 07:58 PM
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So, I think your problem--and one of the fundamental problems of the red pill--is that you're trying to turn human behavior into a simple flowchart. "If I do X, then she will do Y." You want to be able to reliably predict how women will respond to a given input. I understand the impulse, but that's just not how people work. Everyone is an individual, and ten different people will all respond differently to identical situations. So there really is no "one size fits all" for dating. There are thin…
/r/ExRedPill20/03/25 06:43 PM
7

Are you seriously recommending a channel called Hoe Math on anti-red pill subreddit?
/r/ExRedPill15/03/25 01:19 AM
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Show me where I said everyone who rides a motorcycle is stupid. And you're just as guilty of putting people into one of two boxes as I am. Your comment very much implied that there are two genders of guy--those being nerd and jock--and that women only like the latter.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/25 01:11 AM
1

Speak for your damn self. Motorcycles: Nope. Those are death traps. Going outdoors/hiking/camping: Fine if you don't mind me not accompanying you very often. I like those things well enough, but I prefer the city, and I don't have that much energy. Going to concerts: Sure, I guess, though hopefully you don't damage your ears. Going to the gym: A very good thing to do, but a boring as hell hobby. I'm a woman, and I don't want some meathead with no nerdy interests. Sure, I also don't want someone …
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 11:14 PM
1

Yeah, no, gross. Would not date a guy who was so callous.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/25 11:39 PM
2

Sure, ideally. But chaining yourself to someone you don't want to be married to for the rest of your life (or even until the kids are grown) is hardly ideal either. There's a bad choice and a worse choice. IMO, setting the example for your kids that they should stay in a toxic marriage is far and away the worse choice.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/25 04:40 PM
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But the fact that they aren't satisfied with that is a serious problem for your argument.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/25 04:34 PM
4

Your "point" about masturbation actually raises a problem for your argument: If it's literally all about sex and no one cares for companionship, why don't people just jerk off instead?
/r/ExRedPill09/03/25 02:58 PM
1

How am I deflecting? I've already flat-out told you you're wrong. You don't care. The hell else am I supposed to say?
/r/ExRedPill09/03/25 02:40 PM
1

And yet something tells me you're the sort to immediately cry "not all men!!!!!" when women share their bad experiences with men.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/25 02:36 PM
2

Bullshit. If you've had bad experiences, I'm sorry for that, but you can't just paint the majority of women with the same brush because of that. If I judged men as a whole because of the way some men treated me, I'd never interact with men again. But I don't, because that's ridiculous.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/25 08:40 PM
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Because most women wouldn’t be interested in such a lifestyle while most men would be if they could get that without commitment. [citation needed] on all counts. I am not sure if male sex symbols are promoted based on what women find attractive or what men think women find attractive. Based on comments from women here, the stereotypical “Chad” is more admired by men than women. Perhaps... but you have to remember that there are literally millions of fan works written by women about guys they're …
/r/ExRedPill08/03/25 03:11 AM
2

That marital relationships are over-rated? Not a bad lesson. If you actually thought this was a good lesson to teach kids, you'd be for divorce. Growing up with parents in a toxic relationship won't teach you not to get married. It will just teach you that shitty marriages are normal. Seeing people get divorced, on the other hand, will teach you that it is acceptable to end a bad relationship and strive for more.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/25 03:08 AM
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Stop peddling this bullshit. Women are not a hivemind. Not all of us will drop a man the moment he sheds a tear. I literally realized I loved my ex when he came to me for comfort after a bad day.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 09:22 PM
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????? You must be experiencing celebrity crushes very differently from most people. For me, a celebrity crush isn't a very serious thing. It's just a "this person is hot (and maybe has a nice personality), let me watch their movies and maybe daydream about them a bit."
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 02:19 AM
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If they aren’t lying then why is there such a huge importance forced on women’s looks in modern society? If the overwhelming majority of men really care about companionship why do they care so much about forcing women to look like sex objects. Part of it is simply capitalism. If you tell people that their looks are super important (and that they don't live up to beauty standards), they'll buy your weight loss products, makeup, and gym subscriptions. (I would also note that, while it's not the sa…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 12:32 AM
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The overwhelming majority of people I have run into, on the internet or IRL, say they are looking for both sex and companionship. On mobile so too lazy to look it up atm, but I believe most studies agree that's what people want. If most of the evidence points to you being an outlier, why do you insist that you must not be? You don't seem to be basing your beliefs on anything except a vague feeling that everyone else is lying.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 09:52 PM
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Re: Bigger: That really doesn't matter as much as you think it does. Re: Better: Sex is something you can become better at. Just look for someone who's willing to be patient.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 09:01 PM
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No one is dismissing your trauma. We're just saying that for most people, a consensual loss of virginity isn't that big a deal. Moreover, I would argue that rape doesn't have to count as losing your virginity if you don't want it to.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 08:58 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you, but the person you responded to was clearly speaking about the average consensual experience, not rape.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 08:53 AM
1

I would like to gently point out that this is (or seems to be) a man telling you what women want. Not the most reliable source.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 08:28 AM
1

For me, I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to the soft side, or perhaps to the contrast of the tough shell and the soft side. I'm a domme, so take this with a grain of salt and remember it won't apply to all women, but there's also a huge power rush at the thought of getting someone who's buried their soft side so deep to open up to you. It kind of implies, at least in the fantasy, that you're special and powerful and worth opening up to. For women without my dominant inclinations, I imagine …
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 08:20 AM
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There's just no evidence to support it.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/25 07:11 AM
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goes to a sub called ex red pill, is then mad that it's anti-red pill. okay
/r/ExRedPill04/03/25 12:14 AM
1

Hard disagree. There was no abuse in my parents' relationship that I know of. I'm still glad they got divorced. I would feel incredibly guilty if I knew they had trapped themselves in a shitty marriage for my sake.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/25 12:12 AM
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I didn't get into a relationship until I was your age and didn't lose my virginity until I was 26. You're doing fine.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/25 04:01 PM
3

Again, if it were that easy, everyone would be thin. You're making it sound like discipline is a) all you need, and b) a simple thing that anyone can cultivate with relative ease. Neither of which is true. Mobile so hard to pull it up atm, but I once stumbled across a study that said that people who believed themselves to have more willpower actually just encountered fewer temptations. So it's not that they were offered a chocolate cake and nobly resisted--it's that they either weren't offered a…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/25 03:51 PM
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If losing weight were just a matter of wanting it badly enough, the majority of Americans wouldn't be overweight. We've never been more obsessed with being thin, and yet most people still aren't. Clearly there's more to it than a simple lack of sufficient desire.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/25 05:00 AM
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Man, this subreddit has a huge problem with the vilification of porn. Like, that is clearly not OP's problem. His problem is that he doesn't like people period but still somehow thinks people should fuck him.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/25 06:45 PM
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Doubting someone's claims is not inherently gaslighting. Do you seriously want people to just uncritically accept everything everyone else says about their own experiences? That's dumb as hell.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/25 04:09 PM
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Person 1: I was abducted by aliens. Person 2: Doubtful. Is Person 2 gaslighting Person 1? Come on, dude.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/25 01:39 AM
5

Sure, but if a ton of the nazis committing terrorist attacks are also incels...
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 08:20 PM
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It is entirely possible to be both a nazi and an incel.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 08:16 PM
11

ah yes, because the multiple incels who have committed terrorist attacks were... not actually incels?
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 06:11 PM
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I'm a 29-year-old leftist who was a virgin until 26. I can empathize just fine, thanks. And as the other commenter said, virgin != incel. Someone calling you a virgin isn't shaming you for being right-wing, and someone calling you an incel isn't necessarily shaming you for being a virgin. Also, not all disagreement with someone's alleged experiences is gaslighting.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 06:00 PM
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While virgin-shaming is a thing, I know of no stereotype that virgins are necessarily right-wing.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 04:25 PM
6

what
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 02:11 AM
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I can say with 100% confidence that not all women prefer dominant alpha dudebros, because I am a woman, and I am literally a domme.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/25 07:08 PM
8

Let's not be transphobic.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/25 06:39 PM
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If you fly off the handle this hard at someone expressing slight frustration with you on the internet, I can only assume you'd beat the shit out of your girlfriend if she snapped at you. Thank god no woman will ever touch you. Have a great day.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 07:30 PM
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Threatening against violence against some random woman who has, again, done absolutely nothing to you. But women only don't like you because you're not an alpha or whatever. Okay. Who exactly do you think is lobbying politicians? The average woman is no more represented by politicians than the average man is. Most people who are rich and powerful enough to influence politicians are men. I'll leave you with this thought: As things stand, no woman will ever love you, and they'll be right not to. N…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 06:48 PM
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Firstly, the person you're replying to explicitly told you they're a man. Secondly, no???? Of course not?????? The worst thing they did was tell you it might have been your fault your ex broke up with you. Which is perhaps uncalled for, but nothing deserving of suicide-baiting.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 05:15 PM
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Holy shit, dude. The other day you were agreeing with us and posting heart emojis. What happened? And have you ever considered that this is why women don't like you? You have some serious unaddressed issues. I would NEVER date someone who told people on the internet to kill themselves.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 04:29 PM
2

Source for AI being unreliable: https://spectrum.ieee.org/chatgpt-reliability And you make the claim, you provide the evidence. That's how burden of proof works. But I did just provide you with a whole document full of sources.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 04:13 PM
2

I've read all the comments in this thread. You suddenly started being an asshole for no reason.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/25 04:11 PM
3

Valid. My best friend and boyfriend (one confirmed autistic, the other likely so) say that sort of thing all the time, so I get it. But when strangers say stuff like that, it makes me wary, since it's not always easy to tell their intentions.
/r/ExRedPill24/02/25 06:05 PM
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Where is your source for this claim? You keep just saying shit, man. Seems to me like most of it is just based on your feelings.
/r/ExRedPill24/02/25 03:53 PM
3

Jesus fucking Christ, dude. You were nice and reasonable the other day. Now you're acting like a massive douchebag. What the hell happened?
/r/ExRedPill24/02/25 03:50 PM
3

Tinder is not reflective of reality. It's a highly artificial environment wherein women are extremely picky because they are inundated by a flood of messages as men significantly outnumber them. Moreover, not liking someone's profile doesn't mean you don't find them attractive. Maybe a woman thinks a given guy is hot, but his profile is full of red flags. ChatGPT is not a reliable source. Hell, it's not really a source at all. LLMs are notorious for simply making shit up when asked questions. Ho…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/25 03:42 PM
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I can't seem to reply to your comment providing sources, but you proved two things: That women tend to marry men who earn more than them, and that there are places where women earn more than men. But you did not prove that women in those places marry men who earn more than them. And even if that were true, there are potential explanations other than "women are hypergamous bitches." For example, women are often expected to take time off work when they have kids, so it may make sense for them to s…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/25 08:52 AM
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Bro, you do realize the majority of legislators in most countries are men, right? And women make up, at most, 51% of the voting base. Clearly men have at least as much involvement in this alleged limiting of your freedom as women do. Like, I don't know where you live, but in the US at least, the draft long predates women being able to vote. If women receive more money from the government than they pay--and I only have your word as evidence, so I have no idea if this is true--that's likely to cou…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/25 08:10 AM
2

This is mostly a good comment, but I'm not loving the way you use autism as a pejorative.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 07:29 PM
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How are women taking away your freedom? And you don't have to spend money on women if you don't want to.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 06:47 PM
4

Where is your source for literally any of this?
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 06:47 PM
3

Have you ever considered that maybe most women marry men who earn more because most men just earn more than women? And where are you getting the idea that women find most men unattractive?
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 03:32 PM
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The difference is that MGTOW is, at least according to many of them, supposed to be about de-centering women. They then spend 200% of their time bitching about women. Atheism, for example, isn't about de-centering religion; it's just about not being religious.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 03:26 PM
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FWIW, some women find shyness attractive. I'm one of them. But it's true that you're probably going to have to work on that and learn to approach people. Like, the fact that I think shy people are hot doesn't make me any better at approaching them. (Which is part of why I've only really dated online--it's just easier to reach out to people on the internet, and more people are willing to reach out to you. But I don't know that I'd recommend online dating for a man.)
/r/ExRedPill23/02/25 12:54 AM
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I didn't lose my virginity until I was 26. No one I've met has ever cared. You are always the person who will care most about your sexual history. Is it possible you're misreading women's signals toward others and yourself due to your biases? Perhaps women are sending you signals and you're not picking up on them due to your low self-esteem. Or they're not sending signals toward others, but you think they are due to paranoia.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 08:45 PM
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You're not the only one sharing your experiences here, and it seems to me like maybe I'm just not physically attractive (as much as I thought) because I rarely ever have had any women interested in me while others always have someone. Do the people around you really have women asking them out left and right? If so, that's quite unusual. Most people don't have relationships just fall into their laps. They have to go out and look for them. Not having people falling all over themselves to date you …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 08:37 PM
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Firstly, good on you for questioning your beliefs. It's always good to interrogate your worldview. Secondly, I don't know if this will help you at all, but I want to share my own experiences as a woman, because my tastes are not at all what you've described. I am attracted pretty much exclusively to submissive people, male or otherwise. To the point that I only date with in the world of femdom. I have less than zero interest in being with a dominant Chad--unless maybe he was still submissive in …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 08:22 PM
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1) But who are these women dating, then? They aren't all dating the same men. I'm a young(ish, I'm 29) woman, and I know like... three total poly people, none of whom are women. Like, I suppose it's possible that all women are hooking up with the same few dudes, but most people aren't looking for hookups. If they're seeking sex/romance at all, they're probably looking to date. Also, I'm a woman who's exclusively searched online when I was looking for relationships. Never used Tinder, but I have …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 06:56 PM
5

Side note, there’s a lot of women on this sub it seems ... what's your point?
/r/ExRedPill17/02/25 02:15 AM
2

Single women are usually single by choice while single men are usually not. Do you have anything to back this claim up? So when women talk shit about men, they're just "blowing off steam", but when men do it about women, they're irredeemably evil misogynists? Double standard much? I literally said in my comment that this behavior from women wasn't necessarily justified. Personally, I think it's pretty shitty. But we haven't seen nearly the same real-world effects from online man-hatred as we hav…
/r/ExRedPill17/02/25 12:23 AM
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Firstly: Source? Secondly: So what? There's nothing wrong with being a sex worker.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/25 11:43 PM
1

Re: Happiness statistics: I'd say that has more to do with the way a lot of men treat women than anything innate to men and women. I suspect that women in healthy relationships are happier on average than single women. The problem isn't that women just inherently dislike men; it's that a lot of men are shitty and don't treat their partners well. Personally, I'm happier with my boyfriend in my life than I would be single. Re: The other stuff: I wouldn't take that too seriously. Are there women ou…
/r/ExRedPill15/02/25 02:38 AM
2

... Where are you getting the idea that women are happier without men? I certainly wouldn't be.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/25 07:08 PM
2

Yes. If a conventionally unattractive woman is not attracted to conventionally unattractive men, then is she not in precisely your position?
/r/ExRedPill14/02/25 06:39 PM
2

I find it fascinating that you don't seem to consider that unattractive women are in the exact same position.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/25 05:57 PM
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If multiple people are telling you something about yourself, you should at least do some introspection on whether or not it is true. Push past your kneejerk "of course not" response and really think about it. I didn't say you were a danger to women. As far as I can tell, no one did. We're just telling you that some of your behavior lines up with the way men who are dangerous to women behave. Like I said, whining about how "common" false accusations are is a giant red flag. It means one of two th…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/25 05:52 PM
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You are acting like a man who's a danger to women right now. As a woman, I do not trust men who act like false accusations against them are some kind of huge pervasive problem. All the data suggests otherwise.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/25 04:58 PM
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Scientists aren't even all in agreement that porn addiction is a real thing. Stop slinging this accusation at anyone you don't like.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/25 08:17 PM
2

Oh, shut up. No one had to "teach" me not to want children. I always knew I didn't.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/25 06:22 PM
2

Interesting how you won't reply to my comment rebutting your bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/25 05:29 PM
2

Why? So you can be confidently incorrect without being downvoted? Perhaps so you can turn abusive without it showing up in your comment history? Lol no.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 07:01 AM
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Is your reading comprehension really that bad? Different cultures recognize different numbers of genders. There is no contradiction between the statements "Culture A has three genders" and "Culture B has five genders." Also, explain how exactly the article misinterprets the evidence.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 06:56 AM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender Do the tiniest bit of research before spewing bullshit, I'm begging you. And no, I'm not DMing you.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 06:44 AM
3

Firstly, cultures the world over have transgender and non-binary identities, so I don't know where you're getting this "99% of people are transphobes" bullshit. Secondly, the majority of people once believed that Earth was the center of the universe. So even if you were correct... so the fuck what? Thirdly, believing in the validity of trans identities is not extremism. (Not that being extreme is necessarily a bad thing when the "moderate" position is unjust.) Extremism is comparing gender-affir…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 05:22 AM
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One would think that if the red pill were just an innate reality, men wouldn't have to violently force women to be submissive. Why would feminism ever have arisen if women were all delighted with the patriarchy? Seems to me like you're the one who's too childish to accept the complexity of the real world. Instead you try to pigeonhole reality into a neat little ideological framework. (Even a good ideological framework cannot accurately account for the whole of reality, and red pill is far from a…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/25 01:41 AM
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"If there's a case of mass abuse of the gay community, the most egregious examples of those mass -- that mass abuse is occurring at the hands of the trans activists, not the heterosexual monogamists. I think the gay community was a hell of a lot better off when they were oppressed by the heterosexual monogamists than when they're allied with the trans activists." Real Jordan Peterson quote. Peterson also deliberately misgenders people and compares gender-affirming care to Nazi medical experiment…
/r/ExRedPill07/02/25 11:56 PM
12

I would suggest therapy. It sounds like you have self-esteem and commitment issues. Or if you're already in therapy, bring this stuff up with your therapist. Also, remember that women don't all want the same thing. For example, guys are often told they have to be ultra-confident and show no feelings. But I (woman) find shyness cute and attractive, and I vastly prefer men who are willing to express their emotions.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/25 04:54 PM
13

Your reading comprehension is very poor.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/25 03:50 PM
8

Just read the pinned post, dude.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/25 05:03 PM
1

Your problem is that you're trying to attract women generally when there is no one thing that women generally are attracted to. We're just as diverse in our tastes as men are. Some women want a 6'5" alpha dudebro; some women want a 5'2" submissive femboy; most women probably want something in between, or a mix of those traits. Don't worry about what women find attractive. Just be the best version of yourself. Do what you can to take care of your physical and mental health, and be authentic. If y…
/r/ExRedPill24/01/25 08:00 PM
2

fite me bro
/r/ExRedPill19/01/25 05:24 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened to you, and to that person. Anti-manosphere content tends to focus on the harm it does to women, which is fair, but I think we should also remember that MGTOW, TRP, etc. can be immensely harmful to men too.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/25 02:45 AM
3

Fair enough. I personally don't care about being feminine or masculine, nor do I choose my partners based on those criteria. And I agree that femininity and masculinity are next to impossible to define.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/25 02:20 AM
2

I think I technically agree with this comment--being yourself doesn't make you feminine, OP--but are you also implying that men cannot be feminine (i.e. that everything a man does is masculine by virtue of it being a man who does it)? If so, I find that odd.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/25 02:05 AM
2

[citation needed]
/r/ExRedPill10/01/25 10:55 PM
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I'm a writer, so I understand that art and life can influence each other. I just don't think it's nearly as simple as you're making it out to be. I also disagree with you about porn. Yes, a lot of men do expect real women to behave like the actors in porn do--but that's a failure of education, not porn. That only happens because sex ed in most places is terrible. If we made a point of telling people, "Learning about sex from porn is like learning about cars from the Fast and Furious movies. Here…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/25 07:05 PM
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Not everyone who's nice is secretly an asshole, no. It's just that a lot of the guys who loudly say, "I'm so nice, why won't anyone date me?" aren't actually nice. They are superficially pleasant and think that should be enough to win them a girlfriend. Are there genuinely nice people out there who struggle with dating and relationships? Sure. Lots of 'em. I don't think anybody is denying that. But that's not what we're talking about when we use the phrase "nice guys." Moreover, I dispute your c…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/25 06:50 PM
3

Sex is not a "basic need." People go their whole lives without having sex and are just fine. Moreover, claiming feminism was created by the ruling class to keep us divided is absurd. What you are saying is basically "the patriarchs running society created an anti-patriarchy movement to cause division." Do you see why that's ridiculous? The ruling class benefits from patriarchy and has no incentive to sow disagreement with it.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/25 10:48 PM
5

So, I think we all know what neediness is. I actually think it would help if you defined what you mean by neediness.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/25 04:33 AM
3

You could at least. Like. Link me to something, or summarize their main response.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/24 04:45 PM
6

"You can't just make assumptions about what life was like for early humans and then use those assumptions to explain people's behavior today as innate and biological" is a pretty fundamental problem for evopsych proponents. If there is in fact a coherent rebuttal to that argument, it shouldn't take "hundreds of pages" to explain. No amount of citations for "women do X" is ever going to prove "women do X because evolutionary psychology is correct."
/r/ExRedPill31/12/24 02:14 PM
6

Okay. What's the response? Because I've never heard a convincing argument for why anyone should care what evopsych proponents have to say.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/24 02:09 PM
12

The problem with evopsych isn't that it's associated with red pill stuff (though that doesn't help). It's that it's a bunch of unprovable just-so stories.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/24 06:13 AM
4

[citation needed]
/r/ExRedPill31/12/24 05:03 AM
2

It's very rare that anyone gets with the exact perfect partner that they would design for themselves. That doesn't mean those people are settling.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/24 02:30 AM
1

And as we all know, your own personal experience is always reflective of reality.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/24 02:28 AM
2

... That's not crazy at all? It's common for people to be interested in non-consent in porn but not in real life. Hell, one of my exes was kind of like this. Also, this falls apart the moment you consider non-sexual/romantic fiction. Does every horror fan secretly want to commit violent crimes or be murdered? Obviously not.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/24 02:27 AM
6

Maybe look for bi women? I'm a bi woman dating a bi man myself.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/24 08:45 PM
1

As others have said, people tend to talk more about bad relationships than good ones. After all, if things are going well, there's a lot less to say. But if it helps, I'll provide you with a positive anecdote. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. I'm pretty sure he's the love of my life. He is, from an objective standpoint, a pretty average guy, but he's incredibly special to me. And our relationship looks nothing like what TRP tells you a relationship should be. My boyf…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/24 01:24 AM
15

What do divorce rates prove? Most relationships don't work out. That's got nothing to do with whether the red pill is true or not.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/24 11:22 PM
1

It's not meant to. It's merely meant to debunk one of the pieces of "evidence" that women love bad boys. Some women do indeed go for that kind of guy, but it's far from universal, and red pillers love nothing if not taking the behavior of a few women and applying it to all women.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/24 11:19 PM
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I did read the article, and as I literally said in my comment, I am making zero claims about the morality of people in their late teens dating older people. You said this: The brain being fully developed isn’t a myth, and brain doesn’t develop through a person’s life. The article quite thoroughly debunks this idea. Our frontal love does take at least 25 years old fully developed. The article suggests that this is not universal. Our brain changes overtime and it’s not “development.” Again, the ar…
/r/ExRedPill22/12/24 01:04 AM
1

The "brain stops developing at 25" thing is ABSOLUTELY a myth. https://slate.com/technology/2022/11/brain-development-25-year-old-mature-myth.html To be clear, I'm not saying that 18- and 19-year-olds should necessarily be dating people who are significantly older. I'm just saying that this specific claim regarding mental maturity is bunk.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/24 10:31 PM
2

LOL. Most of what you just said is absolute bullshit; the rest is partially true, but your conclusions don't follow from the premises. Link me these apparent studies. I don't know which ones you're referring to specifically unless you do.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/24 06:29 AM
2

That's not even what "fuckboy" means. It's not just a term for a promiscuous dude. Genuinely nice people usually do fine in the dating market (though there are exceptions). It's people who are performatively nice in order to guilt others into sex who don't do well. Source for those numbers? Even assuming those numbers are correct, women had less choice in mate selection in the past. Powerful men prevented less powerful men from reproducing. Women had little say in the matter. Now that women actu…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/24 04:18 AM
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bro did you read the post you are responding to. bro. how can you not understand the difference between "some women enjoy fantasizing about submitting to an asshole" and "all women love douchebags irl"
/r/ExRedPill20/12/24 11:52 PM
1

Until your edit, you failed to make it clear that this was just an example of RP bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill20/12/24 08:10 AM
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Okay, and? Why do you think that video is correct? It's just some dude saying stuff.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 09:29 PM
1

So? That doesn't mean that women only desire 20% of men--and even if it did, it wouldn't prove that that's innate and biological.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 05:34 AM
1

Bro, you can literally just google this stuff to get examples. https://www.buzzfeed.com/consheabrown1/famous-women-who-dated-younger
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 05:22 AM
1

This is actually an open secret among evolutionary biologists [citation needed] pregnancy - many ways there are both male as well as female contraceptives Sex ed in the US often teaches that birth control doesn't work (I was literally taught this in my health class). Contraceptives cost money. They also fail sometimes. And hormonal birth control can have side effects. But even if none of that were true, people would still be paranoid about pregnancy because pregnancy is a HUGE risk to take. Also…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 05:19 AM
1

So? I'm pretty sure a rich celebrity woman could also pull more and hotter guys than I can. People are attracted to wealth and power, but that doesn't mean that only 20% of men can get laid.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 04:46 AM
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It may seem "obvious" to you, but there's no actual evidence that men have higher sex drives than women. Women may seek sex less than men do, but there are other reasons for that--the risk of pregnancy, the higher risk of abuse, the lower likelihood of having an orgasm during sex, etc. If YOU were risking getting pregnant and/or being assaulted every time you had sex, and to top it all off you might not even orgasm, wouldn't you be less likely to bother even if you were really horny? Plus there'…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 04:45 AM
1

That's not entirely correct. Yes, women are victims of heteronormativity and patriarchy--but so are men, and women also perpetuate those things. Nor are we helpless. We are responsible for our choices just like anyone else. If a woman fakes an orgasm, yes, there are external pressures that contribute to that, but ultimately she made her own decision. To deny that is to rob us of our agency. Moreover, we certainly are not pure. We're horny and weird and cruel and gross and stupid and lazy just li…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/24 02:19 AM
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lmfao
/r/ExRedPill17/12/24 06:32 PM
7

No one said that's the case. It's a fun FANTASY, not necessarily what women want IRL.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/24 04:16 PM
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Look into the actual statistics about gender and dating. If someone provides you a source for a claim, read it and see if it lines up with what they're saying. But don't just read one study and think you've understood an issue--find out what other studies say, how many have been done, what the scientific consensus is. As an example of the way red pillers distort the truth, you know how they're always saying that women find the majority of men unattractive? Well, that's true... if your only data …
/r/ExRedPill17/12/24 01:14 AM
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I mean, maybe, but there's two things aren't necessarily related. Like, most people these days are struggling to make a living irrespective of how smart they are. So if you're an upper middle class woman, most of your dating prospects are necessarily going to have less money than you, even if they're geniuses.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/24 01:08 AM
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I mean... personally, if I think my partner is capable of committing serious crimes, I'm going to feel a lot less safe in the relationship. But sure, you can just say stuff, I guess.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 09:23 PM
10

You seem to be taking one post I made about a common misunderstanding red pillers have as representative of anti-red pill rhetoric as a whole. This is just a thing I pointed out because it occurred to me. It's not, like, my entire argument against TRP. Obviously TRP didn't get popular for no reason. Red pillers have correctly identified that gender relations are fucked. It's just that their prescriptions are batshit insane. And obviously I'm not going to fix gender relations by making one post p…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 09:20 PM
10

... What exactly is your argument here? That gender norms are too deeply ingrained in society, so we should all just stop trying to change things and let misogynistic ideologies like TRP flourish unopposed?
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 08:59 PM
10

I mean, it's a lot more common for women to ask men out and pay for dates today than it was, say, fifty years ago. Things are changing slowly, but they are changing.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 08:48 PM
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Hmm. Hard to say. I think most women probably find the idea of coaxing out a man's soft side at least somewhat appealing as a fantasy, but that's just a guess. And like I said, what you fantasize about isn't necessarily what you want IRL. Like, a prominent feature of my fantasies is "personally fixing someone's trauma." But in real life, while I do like to uplift my partners and help them be the best versions of themselves, dear god do I not want to be solely responsible for fixing someone's men…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 08:46 PM
12

Uh... No? It's far easier to be a "low-status" guy nowadays than it was in the past. Previous generations of men were expected to be able to financially support their wives with no help. Now that women are able and expected to contribute to the finances, it's not as big a deal if a man brings in less money. In the past, it would have been financial suicide for a woman to marry a poor man. Today, that's far less true.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 08:40 PM
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That was not my intent. My point wasn't that women want "high-status" men; my point was that for a lot of history, pretty much the ONLY way for a woman to have power was to have a powerful husband. Not all women seek power, but if you DID want power, that was how you got it.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 07:42 PM
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I like bad boys in fiction sometimes, but IRL I doubt I'd want to date one. My boyfriend is a very sweet person, and I'm sure I'm happier with him than I would be with a jerk.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 07:04 PM
3

Woman here. I have never faked an orgasm, nor have I ever faked being attracted to someone. Nor am I "hyper conformistic." Honestly, it's pretty insulting to treat us as though we're totally helpless victims of patriarchy whose purity is corrupted by male sexual desire.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 06:34 PM
3

If you believe in the "top 20% of men" shit, you've still got some red pill beliefs to unpack.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/24 06:23 PM
1

"By and large"? Come on, dude. Most men are fine.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 10:08 PM
2

Even if by some miracle a woman managed to squeeze my morning word into herself, the minute I wake up and am unaroused I would instantly go limp. Maybe saying you’re fulfilling his picture perfect fantasy is a bit far, but I don’t believe a man can be hard in sex unaroused. Firstly, you're telling me that the feeling of a vagina would do nothing to keep you hard? Secondly, you seem to be severely misinformed about men's sexual responses. It is in fact entirely possible for men to get hard and ha…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 10:07 PM
3

I have no childhood trauma to speak of, for the record. First of all, I let my boyfriend cum. Not all dommes do. And there are subs who are perfectly happy with that arrangement. It is also possible to orgasm without being "satisfied," I should note. And if satisfying someone is submitting to them, is he not therefore submitting to me when he makes me orgasm? In order for a penis to penetrate a vagina, yes, it must be hard. But hardness != arousal, let alone consent or fantasy fulfillment. Surel…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 06:20 PM
2

I knew it was my sexuality but was willing to compromise because I fell in love with a friend. It being my first relationship, I was also somewhat unsure the degree to which I'd need dominance in order to be satisfied. I have been the dominant one in all my relationships since.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 05:13 PM
2

Inherent sexual fantasy. I specifically sought out someone who was compatible on that front. In fact, my first relationship was with someone vanilla, and I found it somewhat frustrating at times.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 05:05 PM
2

As a domme, this is so fucking funny to me. TIL my boyfriend is dominating me when he's begging for an orgasm.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 04:51 PM
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Advice to present yourself as less invested in the relationship than you are is toxic and will only ever lead to one of two things: Attracting extremely insecure women. Women who have a modicum of self-esteem eventually getting pissed and dumping your ass. Moreover, relationships based on "mystery" are inherently fragile, because they crumble if your partner learns too much about you.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/24 04:49 PM
1

Area woman behaves badly. Red piller somehow thinks justifies his misogyny. More at 11
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 09:38 PM
2

All the studies that say porn is bad for you are bullshit, though. They're pretty much all funded by conservative thinktanks and have a predetermined agenda. Edit: Dipshit blocked me for stating facts. Lol.
/r/ExRedPill13/11/24 04:39 AM
2

shut up lol
/r/ExRedPill07/11/24 05:45 AM
2

god this is embarrassing lmao
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 04:44 AM
2

Look, I agree you shouldn't put women on a pedestal, but a lot of what you're saying just sounds like red pill bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/24 04:21 PM
2

The problem is there's not really any data to back this up. In the 18-29 age group, only slightly more women than men are in relationships--and it probably works out that way because for the average straight couple, the man is about two years older than the woman. Anecdotally, as a woman myself, I've only had one relationship fall into my lap. I had to go out and look for the rest. Granted, it's definitely easier for women to find dates via apps/online, but that's because most women aren't on da…
/r/ExRedPill03/11/24 07:40 PM
4

What you need to understand is that men and women aren't that different, and the ways in which we are different can mostly be chalked up to socialization. There are fewer women in nerdy spaces, but that's not because women don't like nerdy stuff--it's because when we try to get involved in nerdy communities, we are often harassed by men who have a "no girls allowed" mentality. Personally, I (female) am a computer science major who loves video games, Dungeons & Dragons, and anime. My boyfriend lo…
/r/ExRedPill03/11/24 07:29 PM
1

I don't know about red pill, but she has some definite right-wing beliefs. For example, she's against kink at pride because "think of the children."
/r/ExRedPill31/10/24 11:25 PM
1

Red pillers are a tiny portion of society. They're a drop in the bucket compared to the overwhelming majority of people who are having relationships just fine.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 02:22 PM
1

The only thing you said here that is empirically verifiable is that marriage rates have been falling, and that has nothing to do with whether or not people are in relationships. Humans have an innate drive for companionship. That isn't changing.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 04:06 AM
2

The research backs this up. Certainly among young adults, more young women are in relationships than young men are. This isn't true.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 01:34 AM
0

Source?
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 01:33 AM
11

Your mom being shitty isn't a reason to compare feminism to the red pill.
/r/ExRedPill26/10/24 07:20 PM
4

I don't know about Matt Cross for sure, but it's generally safe to assume that most red pill dating gurus at least heavily edit and cherrypick their interactions with women, if they don't outright stage them.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 05:29 PM
7

Attachment theory is an actual theory used by therapists and other such professionals. It's not a pseudoscience like the others you mentioned. It's got a fair bit of evidence behind it.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 05:27 PM
1

Well, yeah, but red pill communities are full of shit.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 02:50 AM
5

I agree with you that it shouldn't be acceptable to mock someone's appearance like that, but I do want to point out that pretty much every serial killer has fans, regardless of their looks.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 01:10 AM
3

Not sure about that. After all, most men wind up with partners, and presumably most men aren't exceptional.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 01:06 AM
1

I disagree that those kinds of things don't happen online. I met my first boyfriend online. We hung out in similar circles due to shared interests and became friends. Now, that sort of thing doesn't happen on dating apps. But not all online dating is done through apps.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 01:04 AM
1

lmao what
/r/ExRedPill25/10/24 01:00 AM
10

Most good dating advice, like most good advice in general, is obvious. You should be suspicious of anyone selling you advice that defies all common sense, because chances are they're either projecting some weird bullshit onto women, grifting, or both.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 10:53 PM
2

I play both online and in-person regularly. In a lot of ways they're fairly similar--both involve hanging out and having a good time with your friends. Personally, I slightly prefer playing in-person, just because I think there's something to being physically around your friends. It's also fun to roll real dice, and we often get food, which is nice. Online can also be a tiny bit awkward when you're first getting to know the people you're playing with. (So can in-person, but I find it's a little …
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 05:43 PM
3

Others have already given you most of the advice I'd give you. But I want to say two things: First, you sound like my boyfriend. He's probably somewhat more outgoing than you are, but you two have a lot in common. And hey, just being a nerdy guy worked for him. Second, try Dungeons & Dragons as a way to meet people. I can almost guarantee you'll have fun, since you're a nerd. It's also a good way to get out of your shell, since you have to at the very least describe what your character is doing.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 03:30 PM
6

If you find it easier to empathize with abusive men than women who've had a lot of sex, no one should be sleeping with you anyway. You're dangerous.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/24 03:32 AM
1

Sounds like therapy time, then. This isn't something a relationship can fix.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/24 03:06 AM
1

Why would you want to be with someone, anyone, if you have to change who you are in order to attract them? Being loved for something you're not isn't going to be satisfying.
/r/ExRedPill15/10/24 01:51 AM
1

Proud of you for getting the help you need. Keep your chin up.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 11:11 PM
2

As I believe I've told you before, I think you may be on the aromantic spectrum. So perhaps your relationships are necessarily going to look different. Of course, it's also possible that you've simply had the wrong partners and/or the wrong kind of sex.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 06:11 PM
3

Honestly, the best depictions I've found of this deep connection have been in horny fanfiction. I admittedly haven't read too much non-fanfic erotica, but in my experience, fanfiction focuses far more on the emotions of the characters than does original erotica. Which is part of why I find it more appealing. It's pretty hard to describe that connection. Imagine trying to explain what chocolate tastes like to someone who's never had it. You could tell them that it's sweet, and you could tell them…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 04:41 PM
7

The whole time I was reading the article, I was thinking, "Speak for yourself, lady." I'm sure sex and love don't go together for everyone, and that's all well and good. But they definitely do go together for some of us. Sex is significantly better for me when I'm in love. Sex without love can be fun, but the connection is the best thing about sex. The feeling of being deeply intertwined with someone, of hyperfocusing on your shared pleasure--that's what makes for great sex. Not picturing someon…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 04:09 PM
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... So if you know this doesn't apply to all women, what exactly are you asking us?
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 03:13 AM
14

Agreed on all counts. Prenups just seem like common sense. But if you don't trust someone enough to take their word that a kid is yours, why are you reproducing with them in the first place?
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 12:25 AM
2

Why project that onto everyone who likes feminine men? It's just one experience.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 02:36 PM
2

No right to check something that is literally publicly available??? Bro, if you don't want people to be checking your post history, you shouldn't be on reddit. It's a feature of the site.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 03:36 AM
5

I mean, it's public, dude. I was just curious if this incident had actually happened.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 02:05 AM
4

I checked your post history, since you seem to be saying that this happened on reddit. Am I correct in thinking that this is the incident to which you are referring? If so, quit misrepresenting what happened. Nobody called you gay, least of all as an insult. Someone said you don't seem to like women much. That's it. Plenty of heterosexual men hate women. And, well, you don't seem to like women much considering how often you complain about their behavior. My--and apparently this other commenter's…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/24 01:59 AM
2

"Source: I made it the fuck up"
/r/ExRedPill10/10/24 04:27 PM
2

Oh, fuck off with this red pill horseshit.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/24 03:12 PM
1

There is very little credible evidence to suggest that watching porn is damaging, except perhaps in extreme excess.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/24 03:10 PM
3

Because, if we’re actually being real, women don’t want a feminine man. Excuse you. Feminine man enjoyer here. We exist. Quite a lot of us, in fact.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/24 03:08 PM
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Do you see how you're projecting the behavior of a few people you know personally onto an entire gender? That's sexism. Your personal experience is not the end-all and be-all of how people behave. Just because something has happened to you doesn't mean it's how everyone acts.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 03:03 PM
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I'm honestly not sure what you're talking about. If you're asking why some men see women having male friends as a bad thing, that's just sexism. Some people think that if a woman has male friends, she must be fucking them all, which is stupid.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 04:50 AM
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There are problematic aspects of traditional masculinity--such as the whole "men aren't allowed to show emotions or be close with one another" thing--but I don't think that being more traditionally masculine is, in and of itself, a bad thing. That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with not being that. Or at the very least, there's no sense in trying to force yourself to be some macho guy if that's not who you are naturally. After all, do you really want to be with someone who only likes…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 03:31 AM
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Yup. I had a slight anti-SJW phase because I, as a leftie, was horrified by some of the things I saw my fellow social justice-type people saying, and briefly identified as an egalitarian instead of a feminist. But when I actually spent time with so-called "egalitarians," I was dismayed to discover that they were just alt-right creeps under a thin veneer of concern for equality. Same shit, different packaging. I'm solidly a wokescold now. However appalling I find certain positions held by some of…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/24 02:14 AM
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lol
/r/ExRedPill07/10/24 04:08 PM
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What the hell are you talking about? I've learned that you can improve anxious attachment via things like therapy and learning to be content with yourself, not by just "manning up" and pretending it doesn't exist.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 11:27 PM
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As someone who has done plenty of papering over my anxiety, I can tell you with confidence that doing so without addressing the underlying issues accomplishes nothing.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 11:16 PM
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The advice to "just be a man bro" has never helped anyone in the history of the universe. In fact, it's downright harmful and toxic. It doesn't address any of the underlying issues that might be causing this behavior. You're either suggesting that OP paper over their anxiety with false confidence (which is shit advice), or that they should just magically get over their anxiety (which is also shit advice).
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 10:21 PM
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This is ex-red pill. You clearly haven't gotten over TRP's teachings about masculinity. You should work on that.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 09:48 PM
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He's doing therapy with me as well but I'm not sure if it's really working. How long have you been going? Therapy can take a while to start working, so don't be discouraged if you're new to it. This just sounds impossible and soul crushing to me. I can't be comfortable being alone. While everyone around me is having relationships, I don't want to be the guy left alone. I'm not asking you to give up on relationships forever. I'm just saying that if you can't be happy by yourself, then a relations…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 05:40 PM
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Fuck off with this sexist gibberish.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 05:28 PM
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Have you sought therapy in addition to psychiatry? It may be time to do so if not. You should also look into attachment theory--you sound anxiously attached. One of the best ways to combat anxious attachment is stop hanging your self esteem upon relationships. Easier said than done, I know, but if you're happy with yourself when you're alone, you'll be less desperate for constant reassurance when in a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/24 04:39 PM
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That's a good start all by itself.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/24 05:35 AM
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It might be for some people, but you also can't rule out the possibility of flirting. I call my boyfriend cute all the time as a way of complimenting him and flirting with him. Doesn't mean I don't want to bang him--quite the opposite. Also, FWIW, my first boyfriend was an inch shorter than me at 5'4". I thought it was adorable--and by that I mean I wanted to pounce on him.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/24 05:33 AM
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Women have different parameters for what they consider attractive. Some do just base it on physical features. That said, I believe that on average, the attitude your friend suggests is the one women are more likely to take. After all, women face more danger from potential partners, so they have greater reason to consider someone's vibe. Personally, as a woman, I'd rather date someone whose presence I find extremely comfortable than whose physical features I find extremely attractive, if I had to…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/24 05:14 AM
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People who are one kind of stupid tend to be multiple kinds of stupid.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/24 01:55 PM
1

munecat on YouTube has some great videos about red pillers, evolutionary psychology, etc.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/24 07:49 PM
2

In addition to what others have said about the "single women are happier on average" thing, even if we take it 100% at face value, remember that averages are just that: averages. Maybe the average woman would be happier without a relationship, but that doesn't mean the same is true for all women.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/24 07:47 PM
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This post starts out with something that might be a real insight, then goes in an absolutely batshit direction.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/24 10:49 PM
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If she doesn't care that you're not a virgin, why should you care that she's not a virgin?
/r/ExRedPill24/09/24 02:28 AM
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All the bad behavior you have described here is equally likely to come from a man or a woman, and the vast majority of people--regardless of gender--are perfectly capable of finding love.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/24 04:01 PM
1

Incredibly funny to whine about other people wanting handouts when a) corporations and bosses get handouts from the government all the time, and b) the capitalist class is utterly reliant upon the working class for their wealth.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/24 03:41 AM
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What is a "boss"? Bosses still exist under socialism. Erm, no they wouldn't? The little necessary work done by bosses would instead be divided among the workers under socialism. And if it's work that has to be done by one person alone, then that person could be chosen democratically. Either way, the whole "whichever asshole who happens to own shit is in charge" thing would not exist under socialism. Oh bosses don't give you jobs? Who hires you then? Let me clarify: Bosses hire you. They do not c…
/r/ExRedPill21/09/24 03:36 AM
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I can't seem to reply to your most recent comment, but I suppose that's fine, since you didn't make any actual arguments in it.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/24 03:00 AM
1

... So your whole argument is "well, they started the business"? So what? Any dipshit with money can start a business. And if you do start a business, chances are one of the first things you'll do is start hiring other people. You might hire legal help, an accountant, a realtor, movers... all of whom are doing the actual work, not you. Also, their "entire life" does not depend on the success of the business. If it fails, they can just get a job like anyone else. The worst thing that befalls some…
/r/ExRedPill21/09/24 02:19 AM
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Many socialists/communists would tell you that the majority of nations claiming to be socialist/communist have in fact been state capitalist. I'm inclined to agree. The distinction is that under socialism, the workers democratically own and control the workplace; under state capitalism, the state owns and controls the workplace. Some people will tell you that if the state is itself run by the workers, then it counts as socialism, but I think that's a bullshit argument tbh. The more layers of abs…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/24 05:44 PM
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Bosses don't give you jobs. The work would need to be done whether bosses existed or not. All the boss does is stand between you and the profit you produce. Think about it. If your boss paid you all the value you brought in, they couldn't make a profit off employing you. They mathematically CANNOT pay you a "fair wage." Moreover, the bosses would not go broke under socialism. They would just have to work like normal people. As it stands, a lot of bosses do very little, and even those who work ha…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/24 05:32 PM
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wat
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 10:54 PM
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But TRP actively makes relationships worse. It causes pain rather than preventing it. It's impossible to have a fulfilling relationship, even a casual one, if you see your partner as nothing but a sex hole who will betray you at the slightest opportunity. It encourages you to treat women poorly and therefore sow the seeds of your own destruction. If you're not actually committed to the relationship, many women will sense that and leave you, therefore confirming your fears and dragging you deeper…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 05:57 PM
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But the point is that you don't let fear of those things impede you from living your life. You have a contingency plan, sure, but you still go outside. Again, why is this different?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 05:38 PM
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What about, say, being permanently disabled by those same things? That's a possibility too. You could wind up as a quadriplegic, or horribly disfigured, or in a coma. Depending on how you feel about your life, death may be preferable to some of those things. And yet you risk them every day when you go outside. Why is this different?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 04:02 PM
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Ever been put on anti-anxiety meds? Because buspirone does not kill my emotions at all, but it does help me to think clearly and recognize when my anxiety is irrational.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/24 03:51 PM
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Ehhhh. I've had bad experiences with the mods there. I got my comment deleted because I told a mod they were being kind of a dick to someone. I was polite about it, IIRC, but apparently you aren't allowed to disapprove of a mod's behavior.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 10:32 PM
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Therapists being "a bit crazy" outside of therapy has absolutely no bearing on how effective therapy is.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 03:58 PM
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Think of it this way: If she does cheat on you, will worrying about it in advance make it any less painful? Probably not. Worrying just means you suffer the pain of her cheating twice--once in your head and once in reality. Easier said than done, of course, but try to put it out of your mind.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 03:36 AM
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The knowledge that you could find another partner is only one small aspect of being securely attached. And even if you do realize you have options, that won't necessarily stop you from wanting to cling to your current partner as hard as you can. The road from anxious to secure attachment is a long and hard one which usually involves a lot of therapy. (Ask me how I know.) You can't just take a shortcut to security by gathering backup girlfriends.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 03:19 AM
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You're a slut too, buddy. Your body count is far higher than most people's. Why is it okay when you do it but not when women do it?
/r/ExRedPill07/09/24 01:19 AM
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I'm your age and a woman. My body count is either 3 or 4, depending on how you count it. Even ignoring everything else that's wrong with this post, your assumptions about women's sex lives are batshit.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/24 10:45 PM
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That's part of what gets me about TRP. If the ideology were right about relationships, why would anyone want to have one anyway?
/r/ExRedPill02/09/24 03:38 PM
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Honestly, considering how eugenics-y right-wing beliefs in general tend to be, you're not wrong. I don't think it's necessarily the conscious goal of most red pillers to eradicate "undesirables" or whatever, but given the way they talk about genetics, it's not a big stretch to say their ideology is to some degree informed by eugenics whether they know it or not.
/r/ExRedPill02/09/24 03:35 PM
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Porn is fiction. No amount of consuming the "wrong" fiction will make someone crazy. This is like saying violent video games are corrupting the youth.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/24 02:32 PM
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Thank you, I'm just really going through something at the moment. I feel unheard and invisible. People always like to assume that men aren't ignored in conversations and social settings. I spoke to a few people and they saw "something shiny" and they just straight up let me. Well, that's shitty of them. I'm sorry that happened to you. I know that when a lot of people treat you poorly, it can feel like a you problem, but try to remember that it may just be bad luck. You are quite possibly surroun…
/r/ExRedPill27/08/24 11:16 PM
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