Chad doesn’t exist

DMD61491 · 2025-04-27T04:03:04+00:00

Call me old fashioned but if someone is using imaginary characters to use as a scapegoat for their problems of not being able to attract women…then they should seek professional help. It quite literally sounds like something you’d hear a crazy homeless dude ranting about on a park bench.

rizzo1717 · 2025-04-27T03:55:29+00:00

It’s easier for them to blame women for “being shallow” and “wanting one type of guy” than to admit why they aren’t desirable themselves.

ComplexAttitude4Lyfe · 2025-04-27T10:49:39+00:00

Better to blame an imaginary perfect man than admit they need to work on themselves.

Engineers_on_film · 2025-04-27T09:47:46+00:00

What is it that actually defines Chad? Is it just his good looks, or is there more to it than that? Few people dispute that there are in fact some very physically attractive men. I think, though, what particularly aggrieves red pillers/incels and the like isn't merely that Chad is attractive, but that he is said to have a monopoly on the women, meaning that normal guys can't get any - the 80/20 rule. But the 80/20 rule and Chad hareems are complete nonsense, though. Chad isn't convincing a bunch of women that he is in a relationship with them, taking them off the market, preventing normal guys from getting any. So if we define Chad as someone who is not only very physically attractive, but also has sexual relations with multiple women at a time and takes them all of the market, that is absolutely a myth.

BKLD12 · 2025-04-27T11:57:53+00:00

I’ve been saying this for as long as I’ve known about red pill and incels. I’m ace, so men in general don’t do it for me, but I’ve also simply observed the couples in my social circle. Family and friends tend to lean towards artsy and nerdy types. There isn’t a “Chad” among them, at least not as described to me by incels. Yet, I’m at an age where most of my peers are married. My family is also not high on drama, thank goodness. Not a lot of cheating or obvious relationship issues in general. All of that comes from the same handful of people.

I am not the best at judging physical attractiveness, but nobody is a jacked hypermasculine guy except maybe my sister’s husband, but honestly they’re both super toxic and the rest of the family avoids speaking to them unless necessary. My twin reached out to tell her about our mother’s cancer, and my older sister made her cry by saying that she was glad and mom deserves it (she also sent my twin a nasty homophobic text when she came out as bi, but I think because they were close when they were younger, my twin has difficulty cutting her out completely). Mostly everyone is just normal-looking and what you would expect from a nerdy or artsy guy. Male pattern baldness is also common, to the point that my brother just shaved his head at age 30 and owned it rather than have a bald spot. My other brother also shaves his head, and I think it’s for the same reason.

I’ve also been fortunate to have been born in a family where the men are empathetic and not insecure about their masculinity. They don’t have trouble attracting partners or maintaining relationships, and I do think that a big part of that is that they are genuinely nice people who treat their partners as equals, not like “nice guys” who are only surface level nice when they want something from you. I’ve seen how men can be, and it’s just a shame that so many men aren’t raised right and/or get sucked into red pill spaces when they’re young and vulnerable.

oldcousingreg · 2025-04-27T05:28:03+00:00

What they don’t realize is the guys they think are “chads” may have the exact same struggles they do.

Midnightchickover · 2025-04-27T03:58:02+00:00

Yes, incels have to deal with the reality of the Chad they see:

Some Chads easily attain women, while others are very Johnny Bravo-ish with immature emotional intelligence.
A singular Chad isn’t necessarily wanted by every woman, just as a singular Chad is not into most women.

-The picture of the “so-called” Chad they use in their memes or photos is actually a gay man / men.

-Or Chad is a pretty regular dude who happens to be a lawn maintenance guy, fire-fighter, or a sanitation worker.

-Chad might even be an incel, himself. Another incel will project their vomit of intelligence on the guy’s superior looks, not even realizing the same guy is an incel who believes in the same awful ideology.

octave120 · 2025-04-27T16:03:13+00:00

I’ve heard it said that you aren’t competing with other men, you are competing with a woman’s choice to be single.
Those guys who are evidently more lucky with women? They aren’t “stealing” women from you. They are simply giving women good reason to believe that being with them will enhance their life.

zonadedesconforto · 2025-04-27T20:12:16+00:00

Grass is always greener somewhere else. Its These RP guys idolize other women’s and men’s live to such a bizarre extent, while they forget to live their own. “I’m not a chad” is a nice excuse for those cowards unwilling to try.

Carloverguy20 · 2025-04-27T22:31:32+00:00

Anyone who still calls men Chads, and Tyrone is stuck in 2017 lol.

Ok-Luck-7499 · 2025-04-27T04:56:12+00:00

Women like all sorts of men - not all muscle and money.

pridejoker · 2025-04-29T05:35:36+00:00

I agree. The mindset seems to share similarities with the guy at the gym who accuses everyone bigger/stronger than themselves of steroids.

nithtom · 2025-04-27T14:19:56+00:00

The ubermensch

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2025-04-27T14:57:01+00:00

Chad doesn’t exist yet. But he can be genetically engineered. LOL

jjaynum1 · 2025-04-27T14:18:22+00:00

It probably has to do with all the posts tall/decent guys post on r/tinder, and how easy it is for them to get laid, just because of those two factors. Real life/ In-person however, i think it’s fair game for most guys, still though, to say this isn’t at all true, is also unrealistic. I’ve experienced online dating, and noticed whenever it came to simply hooking up, they’d almost always ask for ALL my measurements first; to say i scored every-time would be a lie, but the times i did, im able to make them laugh, or I “passed” their inspection 😂.

The truth is if woman are gonna hookup with someone, they wanna make sure the guys is worth it, so they can brag about it to their girls; so if he doesn’t possess any positive qualities, they’re less likely to pursue them just to get laid, especially with online dating. There’s such a huge pool of men to choose from online, i doubt woman would take the time to read out every guys profile. They’ll likely take a look at a photo or two, and swipe from there. Then they’ll message you to talk a little, make sure you’re not a creep, then eventually ask for “measurements”.

What i see on r/tinder is a lot of the times girls message and match with 6’2+ guys and say they don’t care what they say, they just saw “6’2” and want them regardless. But hey, don’t take my word for it, feel free to go check it out for yourselves. Point is, while online dating may be tougher to get laid for avg/below avg men, In-person dating is much better, because let’s face it, not many men are out here doing cold approaches to woman, so when you do approach them, (properly ofc), you’re already seen as more confident than most men, and you’re more ahead of the game.

Confidence is key irl. Anyways, i suppose i might be preaching to the choir, but perhaps not, im not that active in this community tbh, so let me know, what do yall think? Good take or Bad take?

KingKunta2-D · 2025-09-17T14:39:45+00:00

You can say you don't believe in it. But results speak for themselves It's getting kind of exhausting. And I'm on Reddit, less and less. But this subreddit has been consumed by an echochamber Rather than a place for a lonely men to leave the red pill. Or a support group for men who were in the red pill.

Just because you don't think you pick off of looks doesn't mean you don't. People have standards that are inherently physical you decide whether you're going Go on a date with a guy within the first minute of meeting them. We all do. It's human. No ones going to give you an award For claiming that you date guys with good personalities. But you complain about every previous ex you had for being an ass. What happene

ArtifactFan65 · 2025-04-30T09:36:14+00:00

Chad is just a tall and attractive masculine guy.

Plus_Manufacturer909 · 2025-04-27T16:44:19+00:00

Chad is very real insofar as Prince charming is real. As long as woman think he exists he does

Something_qwerty · 2025-05-05T08:48:52+00:00

Yes he does.

Chad men are ones that women genuinely desire. Women actually are willing to make fist moves for those men. women ignore all red flags they have. They can be violent, selfish, lack empathy, intelligence hell they could be a known child molester and women would still love them.

women will have sex with them instantly, chads don't have to date, slowly build women's interest and show why they'd make a good useful dog to be "loved". Chads don't have to pay to pretend that they are desired by women like all men who aren't born perfect have too, they actually are desired.

And what the hell does being far right have to do with any of this? Is it so you can demonize these men and feel superior? "They have a different ideology so they're evil and lesser than me."

Gay people prove looks matter even more. Gay men are like regular men where their tastes are varied and every lesbian I know wants the perfect woman. If she doesnt look like a model all she is is a tool to be eventally replaced.

Everyone on this site has this, just world mindset that isn't reflected in reality.

IamHereAndNow · 2025-04-27T04:25:56+00:00

Well. But he does. Check various experiments on dating apps with regular guy vs top 10% guy. The outcome is completely different, communication is a) initiated by girls more often b) even weird messages are overlooked or considered funny. So at some level of attractiveness rules indeed change and instead of men pursuing the gravity turns.

Title	Chad doesn’t exist
Author	samof1994
Upvotes	79
Comments	71
Date	April 27, 2025 3:48 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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