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not having an opinion that the same as you ≠ must be a young girl saying that
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 10:40 PM
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Totally agree... For some kind of reasons some RP guys are angry at us for trying to become good wives. If they would work on becoming good husbands they would love this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 09:13 PM
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If this is really a rule for you then it's important you keep that rule. If you bend your boundaries for whatever a guy wants it's very easy to get used. Think about what makes you feel comfortable and do that, if that's waiting for sex till marriage then you should do that! You will find a good man who will respect your boundaries if you respect them.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 09:07 PM
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I mean, duh... Ofcourse I want the best partner I can get. Even if I was poly I would want the best partners I could get. Same thing with men, we just want different things in partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 09:06 AM
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If he doesn't want to marry you from the start he probably never wants to marry you... Maybe get over the whole romanticism of a wedding and propose a courthouse wedding. Say something like, "I don't care how, I just want to be your wife". If he doesn't want to do that, you might have ruined 5 years.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 09:03 AM
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Maybe education is a better idea then changing the law
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:58 AM
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Occupant is not the same as tenant, if you don't pay rent you aren't a tennant. Also, that can take MONTHS. Eviction is a hard process.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 08:57 AM
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Most attractive men do, I mean, hair mouse is a thing. I wouldn't want my husband to look like a slob all the time, please do embelish!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:43 PM
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They aren't a tennant because there isn't a contract, you also can't just evict someone. It's pretty illegal in most countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:31 PM
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So when the dude is done with me I will just be kicked to the curb while having no career, or any financial assets? Bitch, he gonna sell that house and give me half for not fucking up his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:27 PM
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People being A LOT more conscious about who they marry might be a good idea. If you marry a crazy bitch who will ruin your life and take your money and kids it's kinda on you that you married them in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 10:18 PM
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I actually do agree with this... I'm a bit of a serial dater and when I wear lighter colored clothes I felt like I leave more of an impact as opposed to wearing dark clothing. I thought it was more because so many women only wear black nowadays, never thought about symbolism or whatever. Interesting :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 06:46 PM
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Some people just cheat... Whenever they feel slightly unhappy in the relationship they pull back and search for that happiness elsewhere. I don't think that's a typical male or female thing, it's just a piece of shit thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 12:54 AM
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Good communication skills is a huge one! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 12:24 AM
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They've been in a LTR for a year and he knows she wants monogamy. OP needs to figure out if this is a deal-breaker for her and if it is, it's better to next than hope he will change one day.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 11:47 PM
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Don't have sex with women you don't know and don't have sex without a condom. Aka: DON'T BE A FUCKING IDIOT
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 10:40 PM
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Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 08:50 PM
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Totally agree and I'm 21...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 07:57 PM
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I thought it just meant that women have better sex in their 30s but I guess it's a global conspiracy to artificially inflate our worth.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 07:51 PM
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I totally understand! I actually have struggled with some long term health problems for a while... If I have a bad week or few weeks and can barely get out of the house I don't feel like showering or taking care of my hair/nails... I do try to look my best when I meet up with friends or dates and I get some pleasure from taking care of my nails but sometimes I just don't have the energy. Maybe get a routine for when you are in your lazy girl phase and a routine when your in your high maintenance…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 06:38 PM
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First you should find out what your face and body shape is. Some hairstyles look amazing on girls with square faces but terrible on girls with round faces. Same with body shapes and dresses, my sister and I CAN NOT share clothes. We would both look ridiculous xD That's a pretty good starting point.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 06:21 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 06:09 PM
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You should try saying what you think if he asks you, so in this case: "I think doing more paperwork is a bit unnecessary" and leave it at that. If he disagrees say something like: "sure, we can do it your way!" DON'T BE SARCASTIC WHEN SAYING THIS If it is something that would jeopardize your health or happiness it's fine to not do it of course, but these aren't very huge problems. For the bag, if you don't succeed getting out the stain give the bag to him and don't get into it anymore, it's his …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 02:58 PM
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I'm a poor student so at the moment, yes. But if you pay for groceries I cook dinner ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 02:03 PM
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There are no masculine men is not an opinion, it's an observation. And it's a strange observation because there are plenty of good, strong men, which means there is something wrong with you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:48 PM
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the specific incident yesterday was when I was working on immigration paperwork. Someone at his job who immigrated made a suggestion of additional paperwork we could include, but according to anything I've read / seen - it's not required or needed. He asked me what did I think, I told him I didn't think it was needed and explained why Don't know why he gets angry. How do you give your opinion? If you just say it matter as fact he shouldn't get offended. If he has a different opinion you can just…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:40 PM
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Well, you are wrong. Read the surrendered wife and start being a pleasant, feminine woman. All of the sudden all men are masculine around you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:27 PM
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Then you should break up with him if he doesn't give you what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:26 PM
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Look, you can be extremely angry at me for some reason but you are the one asking for dating advice. If you aren't ready to hear the truth you shouldn't be on this forum.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:25 PM
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If you attract feminine men it's your fault. It's not the rest of the world that is wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:23 PM
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The whole tone of your post is very negative. You are blaming society for your dating problems, that's not cute.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:17 PM
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Hypergamy is also female nature, but people aren't bound to their nature. I trust my man he won't jump every hot young thing because he isn't a literal cave man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 10:25 AM
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I would start with reading the surrendered wife, it really changed my mindset. But I always knew I wanted a man who was the leader in the relationship, is this a dynamic something you're also interested in?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 10:09 AM
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I personally feel a bit icky about secretiveness in open relationship. I at least would want to know who my partner is having sex with and I would prefer to meet them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 10:06 AM
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True, but I would probably giggle about it and tell my mom.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 09:57 AM
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Why don't you just ask someone to go on a date? It's obvious you're at least interested. Or even better, flirt with them so they ask you out on a date!
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 07:47 AM
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This whole sub is full of tips, or make a new thread
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 07:45 AM
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Yes, but so are most desirable people. Most women aren't extremely beautiful, most people aren't extremely intelligent. I believe you can make most men your captain by inspiring him to lead, just by being a feminine woman you will attract masculinity from other people. Op obviously doesn't know how to do this and instead of learning this she decides to blame the world. Not a good look, I hate self identified victims.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 12:03 AM
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Extremely rich people. They also tend to be a bit more into the captain first mate dynamic.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:56 PM
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bulldoze them if they get really out of line We are talking about romantic interaction, not professional interaction. You probably act a lot different on a date, I hope at least...
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:38 PM
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You are preaching the choir.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:32 PM
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She is delusional. Masculinity is in a crisis but how could it be that plenty of women find good strong men and OP is surrounded by 'soy boys'?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:31 PM
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Where do you live? There are PLENTY where I'm from.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:28 PM
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Even wussy guys can be capable leaders. But they won't if you act like a dominating bitch.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:26 PM
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What do you mean by confessing how you feel? It sounds very juvenile... It's fine to ask a colleague to grab drinks or dinner sometime, pulling someone over to tell them you have feelings for them sounds a bit creepy tbh. Just start dating and show them how awesome you are!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:24 PM
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Totally agree, OP sounds extremely entitled.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:21 PM
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Lots of resources on the wiki, or just search on here for girl game.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:15 PM
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Hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:14 PM
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Dread game is deliberate. If a guy deliberately makes you feel like that he is a piece of shit.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:14 PM
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The common denominator in your interactions with men is always you... Maybe you have too much of a masculine energy and you need to soften up a bit. I tend to pull the masculine energy out of every guy I date.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 03:07 PM
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Omg yes 😍
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 03:04 PM
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In contrast, my man "attracts too many women" and would be someone "I would always feel insecure with." Dating someone who attracts a lot of girls doesn't mean you have to be insecure. I dated guys that were flirted with a lot but I knew they are loyal guys, they wouldn't leave me for the next new thing. It's more important to pick someone loyal than someone who doesn't have a lot of options. If he suddenly has a lot of options then he might turn out to not be the loyal type. Not feeling secure …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 02:57 PM
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I guess this guy is very good at dread game, lol. Generally speaking I have sex with my partners because I enjoy having sex with them, not because I'm scared they will leave if I won't do certain things. I also don't start relationships with guys who might cheat if they get bored...
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 12:26 PM
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Housewifes could be good friends, I guess? Are you religious? Church is a good place to find more trad-con girls. Or craft groups, book clubs, housewifey hobbies. You could also look into high society, red pill ideas are also pretty big there.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 11:07 AM
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You are so overthinking this. Stop with the buzzwords and just do what you want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 03:43 PM
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It really depends. You are still in the honeymoon period within the first year. If you can look through the lovey dovey feeling and still see what the other persons weak points truly are. Most people don't, tho.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 03:03 PM
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I'm not really very experienced in poly relationships... But do you guys have individual date nights? I think that could be a good idea to spend all the attention on one wife without the other there. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 03:00 PM
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by this I don't mean a hoe stage or anything, just their inevitable 'caring about the wrong shit' phase and their inevitable 'growing pangs' phases. How do you know you're not caring about the wrong shit? I also am in my early 20s and I'm 100% not sure if what I'm doing is the 'right' thing. My friends also choose to have different life paths than me, it's good to have friends who are slightly different. You don't want to be part of an echo chamber. The friends I do drop are the ones I have 0 th…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 10:32 AM
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I don't think this has anything to do with anything.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 10:19 AM
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You can never fully see if someone is a good captain in 6 months.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 06:11 AM
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Marrying someone while you're still in the honeymoon phase is a pretty bad idea. He might as well have NPD or APD and is love bombing you (or vice versa for that matter.) Hope you are the exception to the rule and it works out for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 06:10 AM
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The cost for both rings was -140 euro's. That's a price I like! I can never understand how people can spend thousands upon thousands on a wedding/engagement ring. We went on a small weekend trip for our honeymoon and next year in summer we will go to Disneyland Paris as a bonus. We kept the wedding itself small and only invited a couple friends, a bigger reception will be held next year when we move into our new house. Ok, you are basically goals!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 01:02 PM
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How can you get married to someone you barely know?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 12:59 PM
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I actually have been on a journey embracing my feminine energy for a lot longer than I was looking at this forum. I always kinda rejected being a girl, I was overly dominant and confrontational. It didn't make me very happy. I'm still a pretty intens person and I still love to argue but I mellowed down quite a bit, I feel it makes me happier.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 12:46 PM
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I thought having biological children was never going to happen with your current boyfriend? I think the biggest change is that you have another human being that is your responsibility. You need to care and protect this small thing for basically the rest of it's life. Physical and mental changes are relatively fleeting compared to this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 09:56 PM
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"Haha, look at that person eating mayonnaise on the bus! Weird." But that's kinda weird.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 05:40 AM
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You are very uncomfortable with good reason, I believe. It might be a good idea to say that you fucked up in the vetting stage and should consider moving on before getting more serious :/
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 05:05 AM
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Beauty is more objective than you think. It's signifiers that you are a healthy person who can produce genetically superior off spring. Sounds disgusting but that is what attraction is about.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 12:49 AM
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"good, because otherwise I'd have to go and get her back because I can't resist her" That's a VERY weird comment. scrolled past an album with photos of just her Also pretty weird... He did delete them when you told him you felt uncomfortable. So, that's a good sign. My BF explained that when they were dating, she went to visit her family in Venezuela and came back with breast implants, which is why he broke up with her. That's also very weird. Why break up with someone because they got implants?…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 12:32 AM
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I feel really bad for him... He is doing so great! Shit happens to everybody! I think the best thing you can do is express to him how happy you are, I don't think trying to rationalize it to him is going to help very much. If he thinks he is an absolute loser but his wife is super happy he can't be that much of a loser. Cognitive dissonance can be used in your favour this time!
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 12:09 AM
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Realistic, not pessimistic! Nobody owes you anything and vice versa.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 12:04 AM
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Don't do these things if the motivation behind it is that he should love you/ behave a certain way because you cleaned and cooked for him. That's what a covert contract is.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:59 PM
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If he broke up with you a week after the trip would you regret doing these things for him?
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:46 PM
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the girls I dated with very soft religious affiliations also tended to have high N counts and a greater chance of being dishonest. Well, that's absolute bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:45 PM
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Be careful with why you are doing relatively big favours for a new bf. Some people will start a covert contract in these situations. "If I do x for him he has to love me!" That is not a good motivation. Only do it because you want to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:41 PM
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It's weird that it's even a thing, just like international women's day. Having a special day for 50% of the population doesn't make it very special.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:26 PM
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Choose a new chest of drawers for him and re-organize a spot in his room Did he ask you to do that? As for the dress, I'm not hugely into long sleeved dresses for cocktail parties. For the rest it's cute!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:19 PM
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Norma Jean was a 6/7 out of 10 and Marilyn Monroe was a 9/10 out of 10. Dita von Teese used to be a 5ish and now she is also very very hot. Natural 10s don't excist but you can definitely make yourself a 10. So when I don't feel well and am extremely tired I'm a 3 if I dress to the nines and feel healthy and confident I could very well be a 10.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 10:01 PM
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I honestly don't give a shit. You are slightly obsessed with her. Ask her out or just ignore her.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 06:46 PM
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It really isn't different. Be professional. Don't shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 06:44 PM
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Sure.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 06:43 PM
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You seem a bit obsessed with her... She probably doesn't stalk your Instagram account, dude. Ask her out or ignore her.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 06:41 PM
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BMI of 27 is not fat tho... Slightly overweight maybe but not fat. Don't worry too much about it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 06:30 PM
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I know :(
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 07:58 AM
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I also do that with my friends and it's fun, I guess. But I was more talking about going to the movie or grabbing lunch or something.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 06:58 AM
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Actually, I'm more into lawyers and I do prefer hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 01:23 AM
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Omg he's so hot, the way he talks to people is making me soooo wet You know how hot it is when a guy just starts talking to a bunch of strangers and the strangers actually enjoy the conversation? That's really fucking hot. I'm probably not the only woman who thinks that way. Confidence and social skills >>>>>>>> Looks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 12:23 AM
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Omg, YES! I have a huge thing for hands!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 12:16 AM
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Not even a FWB, friends actually do fun shit together. More like a bootycall...
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 11:49 PM
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You know what is the best way to get to know people? Just keeping your mouth shut, your ears open and seeing if their words match their actions. Get practice in dating or just talking to strangers on the train or whatever, getting to know someone while not asking them a million questions (or being a judgemental bitch) is a really good skill to have!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 11:25 PM
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I totally get where you are coming from! I'm also into the idea of swinging and threesomes, especially the thought of my partner having sex with other girls turns me on very much. Maybe openness to new experiences might be a thing that you should vet for in a future partner? A good thing is ask them to go to a restaurant with food they never tried or go to a concert with music they never really listened to, if they are enthusiastic about trying new things outside the bedroom they might also be e…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 11:14 PM
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Don't shit where you eat and all these problems literally don't exist. If you can't be a professional person you don't deserve a raise or promotion, doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 12:23 PM
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Look into 24/7 BDSM. Might be something you're interested in.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 06:01 AM
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Tell him immediately when you feel slighted. Just say that comment hurt or something like that. Don't stew over it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 05:59 AM
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You're welcome! Conflict resolution is a very good skill to learn but it's pretty unnatural. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 05:52 AM
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So, the only problem is conflict resolution? Neither of you are wrong. You need to understand where the other person is coming from but you also need to find a solution to your problem. Express how you feel "I feel very sad/angry etc. when you do x or situation y happens." Don't be accusetory, just state how you feel! He probably won't get defensive then and he will probably explain his behaviour or how he feels about the situation. Ask him how the two of you can solve this. It makes him feel li…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:08 PM
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breasts might become too big What? Seems like it would be a plus to most men haha But seriously. Going through the process of extracting an egg cell is absolutely brutal and in your case very unnecessary. You will go through very very heavy hormonal therapy, it's generally speaking WAY WORSE than pregnancy hormones. You should search for some information and show it to him, it's not a great alternative. Also your body will change, you will not stay a beautiful 25 year old forever. He sounds more…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 12:35 PM
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I don't know, I don't know him. But you should leave.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 12:25 PM
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he's like a brother to me. Even bigger reason to break up. He deserves a girl who finds him attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 10:17 AM
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No, cheating is a huge red flag. It's purely about what most men want, not trying to moralise.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 10:16 AM
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Then you're the second type of man; the "every woman who is nice to me wants the d" guy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 10:52 PM
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Ughhhh. Oke let me rephrase. If you want to have sex with a girl she needs to be attracted to you, if you want to have sex with a guy he needs to be attracted to you. Better?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 10:48 PM
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I do not think of sex this way. It's too transactional. Very easy to get into the realm of using sex as a bargaining chip.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 10:38 PM
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Allowing someone to have your body Shudder you just think very differently about sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:12 PM
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No, its an act. You act upon eachother. One party doesn't throw their genitalia to the other party and walks away, we aren't squids.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:07 PM
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No, YOU make it the definition of the word. You think everything is a reward for everything. You don't GIVE someone sex, you have sex with them and because you don't give it to them it cannot be a reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 08:00 PM
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Sex is not a reward but sex is rewarding. And I do what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:54 PM
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Then call it rewarding instead of a reward. It makes more sense with what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:50 PM
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Because seeing sex as a reward doesn't really make any sense. Women aren't passive beings waiting to be turned on, so they aren't the reward, neither are men but it is a rewarding experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:47 PM
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How are you going to have sex if no one makes an effort? If no one makes any effort nothing will happen, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:43 PM
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Something being rewarding and something being a reward are VERY different things. Sex is rewarding but it isn't a reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:38 PM
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What if you both put in equal effort? Is it still a reward then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:33 PM
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No, because sex is not a reward. I can also take charge and seduce a man, would I then be rewarded with sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:27 PM
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Sex is not a reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:25 PM
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Uhmmm... You win women over but sex is not a reward. That sounds like girls don't enjoy it and 'give' it to guys because they are so masculine and alpha. That sounds a bit gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:23 PM
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Is this a negative dynamic? I enjoy being 'swept away'. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:16 PM
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Safe choice? What choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 07:08 PM
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I'm not your sweetheart
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:11 PM
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Regular guys don't
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:56 PM
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Pointing out IOIs to a man seems like a way to get him interested in the woman Excactly, dumbest thing you can do
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:38 PM
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It's actually the truth lol Men don't leave is you keep them happy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:37 PM
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I still don't think it matters. Having one partner that you thought was the love of your life and it not working out is more impactful than having had 50 ONS.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 05:34 PM
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Uhmmm... I fall to hard if anything.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 05:33 PM
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Who are you talking about? I know quite a few people who met their LTR through tinder. Most were not virgins. I also know some girls who can't get to commit to a man and they are virgins. Not being able to get a partner is more of a personality issue than a not being a virgin issue.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 05:28 PM
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That has nothing to do with pair bonding.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 05:16 PM
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But... Is he really?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:27 PM
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No, Adrianna is a lot hotter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:24 PM
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Is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:18 PM
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Excactly, lucky you!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:13 PM
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Noticing the female form they will always do ofcourse, but you forgot how borderline autistic most men are. You notice a girls subtly flirting with him even though it seems extremely forward in your eyes. He probably thought she was just being nice and very clumsy. I just ignore it and talk about it with my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 03:12 PM
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Ignore them. A good guy doesn't even notice a different woman flirting with him if he's happy with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:59 PM
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I look for a boyfriend who is loyal so I don't need to 'mate guard'.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:55 PM
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Break up with tour boyfriend and get other roommates and DON'T CHEAT. No good man will ever marry a cheater.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 10:18 AM
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Do you have any proof?
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 10:10 AM
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If you decide you really don't want marriage and children than it's fine to stay with this man and not have those things. You don't need to get married to love eachother. Resignation to some of these core wishes is not very healthy tho, so you really need to figure out if you truly want kids. Good luck!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 06:35 PM
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Are you completely sure you don't want to get married and not have any children of your own?
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 06:25 PM
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I agree so much with this. If I followed all advice on sex over here I would never get a boyfriend , at least the type of boyfriend I want.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 06:09 PM
3

I completely agree! That's why I don't need to have a wedding party but I do want to get married. So, it feels a bit weird to me 😅
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:59 PM
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I'm sure she can handle it. She's a big girl. Give her some breathing room.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:51 PM
2

😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:48 PM
2

The women were speaking, honey.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:38 PM
4

Uhmmm... So you want a wedding but not a marriage? I was more thinking of a small get together renting out a restaurant or something. I mean it's your life, but I don't get it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:28 PM
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You could have party that you've been together for x amount of years and have give eachother a speech. That would be kinda cute! Marriage, just like all great things, has many risk but if it's great it's really great.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:21 PM
1

I said none of those things, you're putting words in my mouth. Again, you could ask for clarification.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:10 PM
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If that's what you think I think that's fine. You could also ask what I meant but that's way less fun, isn't it ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:56 PM
2

I said in my comment that I wouldn't leave if shit hit the fan and then you told me that I would (?). That's not disagreeing with someone that is misunderstanding someone. You can't agree or disagree when you don't get what someone is saying.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:43 PM
2

If those other women also know what they want in life, yes!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:22 PM
2

It is helpful because they can express themselves in a safe environment. If it really bothers you stop going.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:12 PM
2

I really don't buy the whole 'sex is the most valuable thing you can offer to a man' story. Sex is too cheap now a days. Saving yourself for marriage SERIOUSLY cuts down your dating pool to sad beta's who would do anything to get laid and religious freaks. We are still the gatekeepers of sex but sex is not the thing I offer to my potential partner, I offer a soft and warm spot to come home to. I offer a companion that supports him through everything. I think the uttermost important thing to wait…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:11 PM
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I don't buy this at all. In my experience and what I've heard from friends and acquaintances we fall as hard the first time as the 100th time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:09 PM
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True but you TRY to overcome that. If someone just gives up you can't pull them around like dead weight. Never said I would leave when life throws shit, don't put words in my mouth.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:04 PM
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It's literally a support group for people who have had to deal with alcoholics, many of them were married to them. They need to get these stories of their chest. They are victims just as much as the addicts, you should have some compassion.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:50 PM
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I tend to go for the ambitious, more wealthy men. I really appreciate a man who is successful, I think it's very sexy. I wouldn't leave if shit hit the fan and we lost everything. I would stay because I trust he can figure things out and get himself back on his feet. Although if he chooses to just stop working and travel the world on his savings or something dumb like that I would very much consider leaving. That is not what I signed up for. Commitment to me is when both parties try their best t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:45 PM
2

You now know how he handles pretty important financial decisions... If this is a deal-breaker for you it is a deal-breaker. It would be a deal breaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:28 PM
6

I think it's a pretty good idea to divorce an alcoholic. Power to them.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:23 PM
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First thing I thought, humor has very little to do with BMI
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:19 PM
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Brushing your teeth isn't about getting them whiter or even battling bad breath. Dental hygiene is EXTREMELY important for overall health. Set an alarm and make yourself do it, get into the habit! It's very hard to start habits but it's great when you build good ones.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 04:32 PM
1

This is what he wants to do with his time right now. Can't really do anything about it if you've already had a conversation with him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 04:21 PM
5

This will probably lead to sex, are you oke with that?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 11:57 PM
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CALM DOWN!!! Just keep dating and get to know eachother, see if he would be a good partner before jumping in a relationship. But maybe you aren't even ready to date yet if you are still so hung up about your ex... That's something you need to decide
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 12:51 PM
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Then go hiking in the afternoon the next day. You can cook together before he goes out. This is very much a difference of who you guys are down to the core, it's really shitty you only found this out just now.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 01:34 AM
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This is really shitty advice. She has a great man. She should read the surrendered wife and get these crazy ideas out of her head. She can be a better person while still being married to this man. Don't listen to this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 01:29 AM
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If it wasn't an issue before you guys moved in together it might be because he has found 'going out' friends now. I used to think I was a complete introvert but I'm actually extraverted who has a lot of introverted friends, when I found a group who also were extraverted I went out a lot for a while. I honestly don't know how you can handle such a huge personality difference... Isn't there any activity you like to do together? If you've been together for 3 years I'm sure you have something in com…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 01:23 AM
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OP never mentioned having children in her post or whether she should quit her job. If she wanted advice on the long term and having conversations about the long term she would ask for that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 10:19 PM
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I'm tired, just like he is when we both get home. Sex life is great. That is the one thing I will NEVER neglect. But I feel like I've been slipping a little when it comes to chores...and even working out. Get a maid!!! Sometimes we both have stressful days at the same time. When I have a stressful day, I want to chat and need a hug. When he has a stressful day, he needs alone time. I give him alone time, but then I'm resentful. What can I do? Maybe you could bitch about work with your girlfriend…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 01:32 PM
2

True, I think you can turn it around. It's not easy but it's almost always possible.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 11:17 PM
1

What do you mean by concern trolling?
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 02:12 PM
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Make a new thread!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 01:22 PM
1

Wanting to be in a relationship with me. The rest is pretty self explanatory.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 06:24 PM
1

Life is unfair, my dude
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 02:25 PM
2

Openness to experience, intelligence, ambition and they must really like me :D
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 02:24 PM
2

You really believe males pushed themselves to their full potential They didn't push themselves to be better than the rest, they were born better than the rest. Because of their superior genetics more females want to mate with them and they ain't gonna turn down free pussy. Doesn't matter if they walk on 2, 4 or 8 legs. I'm not sure how walking on two feet helped humans get great but it obviously did because we now all walk on two feet.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 02:12 PM
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A set of friends who encourage reconnection rather than infidelity or breaking up when relationships encounter difficulty. I feel personally attacked by this point.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/11/18 12:07 PM
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She has a cute dog tho ...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/11/18 11:52 AM
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Because males who could walk upright were more attractive because they had a better chance of survival. So women picked the men who walked up right, so her offspring could walk upright until the whole of the species could walk upright. This is basic evolutionary theory.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 11:36 AM
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Oke... I was literally talking about ALL men, except for the small percentage that are just extremely lazy or manipulative from the core, also men I wouldn't date because they don't have the baseline requirements are GENERALLY SPEAKING good guys. There are a HUUUUUUUGE amount of high status men. I'm dating three of them at the moment. They are also all are kind, decent, good men with a great personality. If my particular girlfriend is bitching about someone not being a good man its not because t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 10:45 AM
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I personally only know one woman who views men this way until she falls in love again with some schmuck. Don't think women who think this way will ever come to this sub, unfortunately...
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 01:18 AM
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I think this is a really pessimistic view... It seems strange, then, that “good men” out there seem few and far between. I dare to say I know more good men than "bad" men. Even guys I dated and it didn't work out doesn't mean they are bad guys or fuck boys. If every time you break up or don't continue dating a guy you make them the vilian then yeah, all men are pigs. Most guys I know aren't unambitious or liars, most guys actually are good men...
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 12:21 AM
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I love the nice girl trope, tho! The thing is that the nice girl, just like the nice guy, has no idea what the opposite sex even wants. RPW want to get to the bottom of what men want to get and keep a good man for life. I also personally don't go around bragging about what a good gf I would be and ranting about being single. It's not a good look.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 12:09 AM
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I think a big part of it is that you feel more happy with yourself. People pick up on that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 02:43 PM
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No. Her job is literally to look good. She has personal trainers and private dieticians and doctors, probably a lot of help with the kids. It's a lot harder to get those results when you do it alone, especially when you have a 'normal' job beside it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 02:34 PM
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Wait... "He really makes me laugh" or "He actually listens to me." Wasn't having the hots for a man the most important thing to have relationship succeed? In my post you were bitching about how these things could sustain a relationship if you weren't 'sexually attracted' to him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 01:19 PM
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She's an actress and a model. Her job is to look good, normal people don't have time for that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 01:07 PM
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I've never seen a woman who suddenly got horribly unattractive after child birth... Only times is when they gain A LOT of weight. Just keep eating healthy and excersizing.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 01:06 PM
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First thing you need to do is manage your depression.... You can't really share your inner warmth if it isn't there in the first place. I don't know a good way to help you with this. I do have a friend who had a lot of trouble with her depression and tried to kill herself every three seconds a couple of years ago. But now she is very happy during the good days and the bad days are a lot less bad. So don't lose hope!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 12:58 PM
2

I know. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 07:53 AM
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Hey, it's your life! For me being someone's girlfriend is a pretty big deal and not something I like to rush. I wouldn't even went with him to the wedding after only knowing him for a month... But if you feel comfortable it's fine, right? I would be freaked out in your position, which is why I use the word icky.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 10:15 PM
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Yeah, I think my point is pretty clear 😅
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:55 PM
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Riding the same bike and liking the same tv-shows don't make you compatible. You only know him on a very surface level. That makes me feel icky, committing to someone you don't really know...
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:28 PM
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No no no. If that scares him off he isn't a good guy. Vetting is EXTREMELY important.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:22 PM
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They haven't been in a relationship with him. Being vulnerable is not a bad thing, jumping into relationship also isn't necessarily a bad thing but it can turn out to be a really big mistake if you don't really know the person.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:21 PM
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zero physical attraction I feel pretty physically attracted to him. women TALK THEMSELVES INTO A SHITTY DUDE. Then talk themselves INTO STAYING. He isn't a shitty dude, don't worry. As soon as the OP determined this guy was a zero to her on the physical attractive scale Never said that and after a couple of hours he is ranking pretty high. Women and men are different. For men looks are a non-negotiable, for a lot of (not all) women it is negotiable, if he is amazing in different ways and makes m…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:19 PM
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So you commited to your man before knowing if you guys were compatible and not just in love? Seems more like luck than wisdom that it worked out well...
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 01:59 PM
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Oke, sounds like an absolute fairytale. But fairytales don't exist in real life... Have you talked about marriage before committing to him? Do you know if he wants children? How compatible are you really apart from giving eachother tingles? This story makes me feel a bit icky...
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 01:42 PM
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I think you should be single for a little while longer... You're still very hurt from the dude who cheated on you and you need to give that a place before you can fully dive into a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 05:47 PM
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She can decide that because he creeps her out. That's kinda definitive in my book.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:52 PM
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I can see if I click with the person and grill someone out at the same time!!! Again you can also talk about hobbies or something but I want to get a bit deeper if I may start a relationship with someone.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:49 PM
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Or you just don't care what is "appropriate" to talk about and you talk about whatever it is that you want to talk about. But if the only thing you are able to have flowing conversation about is marriage, kids, job, you will probably become very bored in your relationship. Never said that is all I talk about or all that OP has talked about. But if you want to dive deeper on a first date that is very good imo. Get to know eachother as quickly as possible, time is money.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:35 PM
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How young is too young to get married? And why?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:26 PM
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What? So you create a connection by talking about the weather and what you're watching on Netflix? I talk with a date about what they look for in a partner, what I look for in a partner, what went wrong with past relationships, what we want in future relationships. I also talk about what kind of music and movies I like and stuff but that LITERALLY doesn't matter. How is that not getting to know eachother well? Is this another US thing?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:26 PM
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I mean, you already feel trapped after three weeks, you're gonna feel like you have a life sentence after you get married. I would gently dump him. Hey guys! Remember my post about how important it is too see as much value in your partner as they see in you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:08 PM
1

Ooooo because of the Viking thing ... I'm sorry I'm pretty slow...
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 10:21 PM
3

The deeper context is that looks don't matter a huge amount to me. It's more about who he is and what he makes me feel like... Are you jealous or something?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 10:19 PM
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Is this like a US thing? I'm just literally shocked ... No one gives a shit about those things over here.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 07:40 PM
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Because the only thing that makes a woman a woman is wanting to wear a dress /s
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 12:52 PM
5

Maybe a bit off-topic... But getting a fine for some weeds in your front yard? Wtf? Are the weeds like 1m high or something? Where do you live? I'm so confused.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 12:32 PM
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I've actually been in a relationship with one of these "gorgeous, travelling guys". He was fine, I guess, but never in months made me feel the way this guy did in a couple of hours.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 09:41 AM
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Yeah, he seems like a lot of fun! But only the first date so I'm trying to be calm.......
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 09:24 AM
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Yeah, this doesn't really help anybody. The girls here are looking for a good husband not a hot husband. Because he has such a dominant and masculine energy I think he is super hot... There are plenty of happy relationships where the woman is more attractive than the man, it's a dynamic that is proven to work.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 09:17 AM
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We were talking for 4-5 hours or something and attraction was established pretty early on. It wasn't a 20 min coffee date, then it would have been slightly creepy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:36 PM
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Yeah, I understand. I was more talking about not jumping him until we're exclusive. I don't want to sleep with guys who aren't at least a little bit serious about me. Not acting like I'm not interested, that's just dumb.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:33 PM
2

Well... That's awfully specific 😅
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:24 PM
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It didn't come out of no where. We had a conversation about how dating rules are bullshit and I would like to talk about past relationships and what went wrong (see how they think about their exes is very telling). I see it as a good part of vetting, seeing how someone views the short-term future. Some guys are liars and psychopaths but I they are a huge minority.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:02 PM
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I try to react to every guy who sends me a nice message, because maybe they're really amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 03:18 PM
2

Generally speaking you know a person quite well after a couple of months of dating. But some men are very good at lying. If someone has been in an affair since the two of you started dating and you are 10 years later you might want to consider leaving... If he has been hiding his heroin addiction for years you might want to consider leaving... It doesn't happen a lot but it does happen.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 12:26 PM
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I think that's bullshit. Porn has a bad influence on young men because they don't learn about 'normal' sex. Most women know relationships are very different from romance novels because everybody around us has relationship problems. Relationships are normal to talk about but sex is still a taboo.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 12:13 PM
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Unless you analyze it logically Extremely masculine behaviour, not feminine at all. You're gambling every time you do this with significantly worse odds Not if you're in a healthy state of mind He who knows not why he acts should cease until he does. Also very masculine behaviour: "acting". I'm more into receiving. If I don't receive what I want (in this case good sex but it could also be him not being committed enough etc.) I'm going to see if I can find a better match in another man. You just …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 03:09 PM
2

If you're in a healthy, receptive state of mind your intuition wont tell you shit that is bad for you. Thrusting your intuition is extremely important as a feminine person. This is a huuuuuuge difference between men and women. Not everything about choosing a partner is going to be 100% logical.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:42 PM
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Femininity is all about listening to intuition and how we feel. It isn't a poor mode of being, maybe for men but not for women.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:25 PM
2

Femininity is all about listening to intuition and how we feel. It isn't a poor mode of being, maybe for men but not for women.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 02:25 PM
2

If you cannot tell someone is definitely not crazy, don't fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 10:01 AM
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Don't fuck girls you don't want to have children with or get sterilised.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 09:59 AM
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Women can abandon the kid without any consequence even after giving birth. without any consequence Except living with the fact you abandoned your child. But that isn't a big deal at all, right ladies? (this is sarcasm btw)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 09:48 AM
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It is very much emotional. I can't make it any more concrete for you because it just isn't, there isn't a magic trick that makes someone good in bed. It is a feeling, nothing more and nothing less. I know this is hard to hear for guys, but no need to project your anger on me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 09:09 AM
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It's very hard to explain... Buttt I'm gonna try my best. It's very much about a vibe, maybe not caring about the others pleasure? Maybe confidence? But those are things that could be fixed when the correct energy is there... But if you don't have this thing that is very hard to explain it can't work. Generally speaking you can already feel this magnetism when you talk to one another. Before I have been dealing with red pill philosophy I have had the problem of not having the same connection out…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 10:04 PM
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I only have sex with men I have a real connection with. And I don't mind wasting 1 n for finding a partner who truly fits with me in every way. But that's probably an unpopular opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 08:09 PM
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Connection outside of bed and in bed are not the same thing, generally I have both but it can be different. Which is so fucking disappointing :(
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 08:07 PM
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Yeah, I prefer a long term, exclusive relationship with amazing sex.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 05:09 PM
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I do expect amazing sex within the first few times I do it with someone. It's very much about the energy and connection between two people that makes sex amazing, exploring kinks with a partner makes the sex even more amazing but it doesn't help if 'it' just isn't there. In my experience, if the connection isn't there you can't really fix it and I wouldn't be able to live with 'nice' sex for the rest of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 04:15 PM
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Seeing the same amount of value in your partner as they see in you is very important. Good to vet for that. I also wasn't really talking about myself, just situations I have seen with friends etc.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 02:49 PM
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But it has to be alligned. If the guy thinks he is worth more than the girl or the girl thinks she is more valuable or whatever it won't be a good relationship. I also don't really buy into everybody being a x/10 it's a lot more subjective than that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 02:42 PM
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Honestly, sex for me is very important. Sex isn't supposed to be 'nice', it's supposed to blow my mind and leave me speechless for a little while. If it's just 'nice' I would also lose interest pretty quickly. But I would give this guy a chance, first time having sex with someone is always a bit awkward. Maybe not the most popular opinion here but less than amazing sex is a deal breaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 02:08 PM
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It wasn't a match, move on to the next dude. There are plenty of them. Also if you already are uncomfortable with what you were wearing people will pick up on that, if you felt comfortable wearing a pretty dress he wouldn't even notice that you were a bit over dressed.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 08:43 AM
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I also prefer to date down in looks... But very handsome men generally aren't as attractive to me in other ways than just looks.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 10:43 AM
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This is much deeper than what I was thinking about. I saw value more as the superficial stuff; Career, looks, intelligence, confidence etc. I also think A LOT of women don't go into dating looking for someone with the same mindset. And if you are very compatible in that way you will overlook a lot of superficial 'flaws' from the other person. Most of all, a man with a mindset compatible with me, is also a man whose value I can raise as his life-partner. That is so much goals tbh
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 10:33 AM
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I also wasn't talking just about SMV, I was more talking about the person as a whole, the complete package deal. I think game playing is more beta behaviour than alpha behaviour tbh. A true alpha doesn't need to play games to get and keep women. What the players do is act like they aren't interested but they actually are. When a true high value man isn't interested he just isn't interested, he isn't acting or pretending but if you want to give him free sex why would he turn that down?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 09:27 PM
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This was more about girls who are in the beginning stages of dating, not really when they are already married.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 08:41 PM
1

I am Dutch (ethnically) shudder Please don't ever say that anymore...
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 08:05 PM
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Yeah, it fucking sucks. They treat you in such a way that you get addicted to their attention. But personality and ambition is also important for a mans value in my opinion. Just don't accept mind games, from anybody.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 07:53 PM
1

Toss the vibrator and experience what feels good with your own two hands. If something feels very very good teach your partner that. I also had alot of trouble with reaching orgasm until I met an absolute sex god who taught me how I needed to be touched, but you don't need someone else to learn that. Just expirement! without a vibrator.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 06:33 PM
2

Maturity and age aren't necessarily the same thing. I know 30 year olds that are extremely childish and 20 year olds who are very mature and know what they stand for. I think looking at the type of women a man dates and gets serious with is more useful than how old they are.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 02:50 PM
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Move to the Netherlands. We have absolute giants over here who prefer girls your height and if they're shorter than you it's only going to be 5 cm shorter or so. :D
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 12:54 PM
3

I use a zarqa facewash and skin serum, a L'Oréal eyecream and I cover that shit with a thick layer of Nivea cream at night and during the day a slightly thinner layer. For my hair I use a guhl leave in spray thing and I brush it through. Make-up is mascara through my brows (I have very dark hair, don't do this when you're a natural blonde) on my lashes and some bright red lipstick. I'm not very high maintenance on a day to day basis. I do like going all out when I go out tho 😁
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 05:09 PM
1

Yeah, watches are such a cute accessory! And painting nails makes me feel so much more feminine, just keep practicing 👌
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 04:58 PM
4

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you need to grieve more before trying to get in a LTR again. You will project her image on every girl you kinda like right now. You don't really miss the new girl you miss your ex.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 01:30 PM
1

I mean, that sounds awful to me but EVERYONE CAN DO WHATEVER THEY WANT BECAUSE IT'S THEIR LIFE. Stop discussing your future with your mother. This, basically.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 01:09 PM
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I don't really feel confident giving you fashion advice because my body type is very different from yours but as for some little tips; keep your nails painted and start wearing watches. I love big metal watches from cluse or rosefield, it's slightly more masculine and edgy than small leather watches which I think would fit your style very well.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 12:58 PM
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Maybe you just have to choose your wow element: low cut OR short OR tight OR brightly printed. But I think that is a thing for every age group, it gets into the too much territory very quickly. Maybe young girls could get away with a little more wow then when they are older. It's very much a case by case thing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 07:20 PM
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That sucks! Weird that it has become a pattern instead of just one guy... Have you had some nice guys to date or are they all very flakey? And maybe take less effort getting ready so you won't feel as cheated when they cancel. Just a little mascara, brows and lip colour is fine for just a date.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 07:10 PM
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I think more mature women can still wear fun and bright colored dresses. It's pretty hard to determine what makes a dress age appropriate or not. Some women in their 50s could get away with wearing a more low cut or a really short dress. Some women are better of covering up, no offence... I think you should just wear things that make you look beautiful. I sometimes have the same problem with friends my age (early 20s). They would wear outfits that either look shit on them or look shit together. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 07:02 PM
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I am just saying this may become a patern
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 10:00 AM
0

With icebergs you also only see the tip...
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:45 AM
1

Here is the answer to your real question. I get the immediate attention of a lot of high value men. Ambitious, successful, intelligent, cute. Butttttt I don't work atm and I still live with my parents. If working and having your own place are relationship requirements for those men there is shit I can do. A few of them do keep in contact for the sole purpose to see if I am 'suitable' yet. Good thing about this is I can totally fix all this shit and get a man who I want. It could be tons of stuff…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:44 AM
1

I'm going to be disgustingly floaty here but: I am in touch with my feminine side at all times so I don't have to look a certain way to feel feminine. (but painted nails do absolute wonders.)
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:31 AM
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A good leader sets clear and attainable goals to the ones he leads. Pushing you to eat healthy and bringing you to places that are full of carby treats AND expecting you to also get a complete meal is only making it harder on you. I would definitely talk with him about it and figure out what he actually wants because the things he want don't match up. Maybe next time he will come up with something even more ridiculous. Like wanting to go out for ice-cream everyday but you HAVE TO BE a size 0. It…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:27 AM
1

Totally 100% agree.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:18 AM
0

Sure, that is your opinion. You see it as being totally reasonable and I see it has him being illogical and really not understanding weight loss.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:10 AM
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You should totally do what you want. But if you felt weightloss was more of a priority for you then it's ok to focus (maybe a month or two not the rest of your lives) on that. I was not particularly talking about you in my comment, point was more it's fine to say no if something is important to you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 09:02 AM
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Guess what, even captains are wrong sometimes. Doing something for your partner doesn't have to be bad for her health or totally dangerous to have a right to refuse doing it. If her partner expects something that is bad for her overall wellness it is also a step too far in my opinion. This is bad for her wellness because it fucks up one of her goals, which is losing weight. He is being very contradictory in his wants. Does he want a skinny pretty wife that will only eat a salad or does he want a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 11:26 PM
4

So transfobia and feminism? Great, two of my least favourite f words. Blegh.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 10:44 PM
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I have been reading a bit more in the comments and it seems he wants her to lose some weight but he also wants to keep dining out. Which is fine but it really limits what restaurants you can go to and makes it very easy to just say fuck it and get some carby delicious pasta... It's not really helpful when someone wants to lose weight to keep dining out this much. I think this is a time OP might say that she can't.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 10:41 PM
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Call him tomorrow and talk it out. Don't be accusetory or a mean bitch about it. Just talk it out like adults, which I assume you aren't but still.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:42 PM
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Why do you NEED to go out to eat 3 times a week? Seems like a waste of money. But it's going to be pretty hard being low carb and vegan, maybe you can say you can go out to eat once a week and make that your cheat day? Or go to vegan/vegetarian restaurants once a week and a "normal" restaurant the other time?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:38 PM
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Delete Facebook. Problem solved.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:34 PM
2

For me a big part of it is being a shoulder to cry on for friends, being kind and respectful to everyone (even homeless people deserve this, I don't feel disgust for them but neither pity), loving people I care for unconditionally but not putting up with behaviour that hurts me. It's a mostly a combination of vulnerability and strength that I think is my femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:19 AM
2

Heuuuuy noice
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 06:06 PM
1

but insists on his will Uhmm... What do you mean by that? If I have an argument with my partner we both calmly explain to eachother how we feel and try to find a compromise, if he is more emotional than me I'm not going to up the ante with even more emotions! Generally speaking I'm more emotional tho...
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 03:13 PM
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Having a career doesn't make you masculine, cooking and baking doesn't make you feminine. Femininity is not what you do it's who you are and it probably already is inside of you. Being feminine is being sensual instead of sexual, being soft and flexible instead of hard and rigid. See what femininity means to you and if you find your femininity he will stand stronger in his masculinity. It's very much an introspective process. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 02:44 PM
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I'm sure he really likes you! I mean, most guys wouldn't take some girl to their sisters wedding or meet their parents (there are ofcourse manipulaters and weirdos). But he does seem extremely indecisive... Are you sure you want someone like that to be your husband? ...just sayin...
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 12:40 PM
3

Do you have a partner who you live with? It's not necessarily non-redpill to divide chores between the both of you if you work equal amounts. Just tell him you have a hard time doing everything and you need some help. Maybe he can do laundry and you cook? Or the other way around? See what works for you. But don't start the conversation that he is required to do it but that you need some help.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 12:27 PM
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I heard that before, that I would be an amazing mother bla bla bla. I got ghosted by one of them a couple of weeks later and the other was too busy for a relationship. So, it really doesn't mean shit. Look at actions, not words.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 12:21 PM
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So, you have met his family and stuff and you guys are sleeping with no one else? Isn't that basically a relationship. Tell him you need an official relationship and you have to start looking for one. He'll either wishes you good luck in your search or he'll be your boyfriend after you told him that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 11:16 PM
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I remember a few years ago meeting the colleague of an ex, and receiving a very abrasive response when I told her what I did for a living at the time. Don't let some jealous bitch ruin a relationship for you years later. Men don't really care about how much money you make and his colleague doesn't understand how someone who doesn't make a lot of money could date someone who does. Fuck her. I'm sure you bring a whole lot to the table.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:50 PM
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also I’d say I’m a 5.5 and he’s a straight 10 Awww, love makes you see them that way <3
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:46 PM
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Guess you also fucked that up in some way, just like OP, or he was very very dumb/naïve. Your choice.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 04:26 PM
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I disagree. Trust is also a big part of commitment, giving someone your keys is showing that you trust someone. No man would trust a prospectless FWB with the keys to his home, if he did he would be extremely stupid...
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 04:20 PM
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There is no consent issue. No is no is no. But you should say no. But he did cross a predetermined boundary, which is a red flag imo. So, how do you move on? I would say don't continue the sexual relationship with him if you see so much value in this, tell him you weren't ready for it and you want to slow that part down. Don't meet late at night at his place anymore, that is bootycall territory and you know it. Although being bootycalled when in a commited relationship is pretty hot. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 01:47 PM
0

Impossible, I'm hot af.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 01:25 PM
2

Try riding a bike in a pretty dress ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 01:05 PM
1

I always wear jeans and a shirt (I'm living in the Netherlands, wearing a dress is not really day time appropriate over here) but there are a lot of different jeans and shirts you can wear. A plain white shirt tucked in some skinny jeans can still look very feminine. Or you can go for a more cutesy flowing blouse instead.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 12:19 PM
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My tip is hang shit on the wall. It will also help the acoustics of the place. Also fresh flowers are nice :3
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 10:13 AM
2

I still advice to get out of dating for a while. You sound a bit bitter....
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 09:01 PM
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I already know we can be together long term, that’s not the issue. But you have been on less than 5 dates? How you know that?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 08:52 PM
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*No desire to marry or a need for pre-nup Everybody should get married with a pre-nup tho.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 08:47 PM
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Only understand it as a kind of coping mechanism for men that you shouldn't be jealous someone will take your girl because she isn't really yours... Do you mean that it would be easy for her to get another guy?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:08 PM
4

No cheaters and no broke men. Also love bombing (blegh) and getting too sexual too soon.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:59 PM
3

You were never his, it was just his turn. What do you mean by this in this context?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:56 PM
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Also get busier. Get a few more fun hobbies, maybe get into painting or a new sport. Just distract yourself with fun stuff. But don't feel bad if you want to spend time with him, just tell him you miss him. Guys love that shit.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 01:10 PM
1

If he doesn't see himself being in a relationship on date 3 it doesn't matter if you wait on having sex or not, he will never marry you. Only reason to wait having sex for 1-2 months is because it might SERIOUSLY impact vetting, which it already has with you. I would suggest a small break from dating.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 01:05 PM
1

You broke up with him via text. What did you think was going to happen?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 07:09 PM
7

Have standards and have a life and people consider you "hard to get"
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 04:27 PM
2

Great for lazy girls like me 😁
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:43 PM
3

Sure, but that's on him. If there is something physical or mentally wrong (as in a addiction) it's his responsibility to go to a doctor or fix it other wise. It isn't OPs responsibility. If he doesn't make steps to fix it he might not be captain material.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:22 PM
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I love this!!! I also really like experimenting with hair colors and make-up. I actually stopped dying my hair completely, I gave myself a balyage (spelling?) and I dye that part crazy colors. Just for my hairs health. This is harsh but: ugly people look better when they do things to blend in. Pretty people look better when they do things to stand out. This sounds terrible but it's sooooo true. If you're gorgeous and you dye your hair bright blue you'll still be gorgeous and you stand out more, …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:00 PM
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Not necessarily. Some people are just very addiction sensitive.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:46 PM
2

With my ex I arranged little days out on his birthday or the weekend of and he did the same for me. So, we went to theme parks and zoo's or did a high tea or high wine. And this was all very secretive, ofcourse. But that's more because the two of us just are shitty gift buyers...
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 09:32 AM
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I thought this was a thing that happened during the pregnancy, just read a comment that she still tends to be a nagging wife. But I still believe this would help. Sending a text like, "I can't wait to have you inside me" is always a good idea imo. I love sending naughty texts to my bf.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 09:28 AM
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This impacts her in a mayor way. Being kind and hoping for the best will work for some problems but addiction is something else. She shouldn't bring him down but she also shouldn't passively hope it gets better. This is a time to be assertive in getting your needs met. He needs to see he has a problem and he needs to work on this, if he doesn't OP needs to move on. She also makes it quite clear she treats him as her captain, so that most likely isn't the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 09:13 PM
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If it is a real addiction it's gonna be harder than 'just stopping'. Good luck to him anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 07:31 PM
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You're the mother of his children now... I would say be a bit more slutty for him. Send him naughty texts when he is at work and whisper in his ear what you want to do to him after you put the children to bed. You can't expect a man to just be ready for sex whenever, warm him up a bit!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 06:22 PM
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I will say, though, that he suffers from a pretty severe porn addiction, and I’ve tried to talk to him about stopping. I fear that making a big deal of it may make it worse, however. That's the problem right there. You should have a serious conversation about this. There is nothing wrong with watching porn sometimes but when it gets in the way of being intimate with your partner it's a huge problem. This impacts your well-being, if he doesn't make changes you might have to go look for a man who …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 06:10 PM
7

I know! It's so weird that you feel so much prettier with nail polish on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:26 PM
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Use a good base coat and put top coat under the nail to connect the top part and bottom part. So basically wrapping the tip in top coat. They last between 4 and 7 days. Sometimes I use top coat again to make them more durable.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:25 PM
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At 20 my then BF didn't see me without makeup (I wore it to bed when I was with him) Omg I can already feel my skin dying as I read this T.T
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:17 PM
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Being able to be comfortable with eachother is also extremely important. Coming home, washing off your makeup and snuggling in pajamas after dinner is amazing. And I look amazing just wearing his shirt and a ponytail ;)
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 11:18 AM
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It's great their relationship has gotten better but others shouldn't get the idea that this is what happens when you just sit it out. That OPs relationship improved is the exception to the rule. If you are being abused than this story will give you hope that it might get better, but it most definitely will not get better.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 11:11 AM
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Do you have any hobbies? I'm in theater and all my best friends are theater nerds. There are plenty of activities that alot of women are into, so try one. And you can definitely be friends with someone who doesn't have a lot in common with you, it makes life more interesting.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 08:37 AM
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Honestly, men make their minds up very quickly. If you don't know what they want then they don't want the same thing you want and you should next them. Men generally will tell you exactly what they want, if they say that you should believe them. I would let him initiate the next date and let yourself be entertained by him. This is one of the best things about being a woman imo. :) Just STFU and enjoy the ride.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 08:29 AM
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Figure isn't the most important thing in the world, unless you're 600lbs or something. It's the complete package guys want and some guys even love a bit more flesh. OP is 50 lbs heavier than normal, that is something that not a lot of men care about... I've gained about 10 kilo getting into my adult body and I still get the same amount of attention from guys, not just sexual attention also guys who genuinely want a relationship. I've even been told by a few that they prefer girls who are slightl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 08:18 AM
1

I still believe you both should have left eachother. This sounds toxic af.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 08:03 AM
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I know that. You should still leave if your partner has hurt you, it doesn't matter if you're male or female.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 08:00 AM
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Being skinny has more leverage for long term commitments Uhmm no? It raises your SMV, sure, but that has very little to do with being in a relationship. Ugly and fat people get married all the time and hot women get plated all the time. Shit is a lot more nuanced than what you are saying.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 11:12 PM
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Sounds great tho ...
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:53 PM
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The question is also; do you want to be wife material for this guy? The beginning fase of dating is not only for advertising yourself it's even more about vetting your partner. Could you be married to a man who is such a picky eater? How would that effect you in the marriage? Those are the kind of questions you should ask yourself. And this guy definitely has more than two flaws... As for you, just be a kind and feminine energy in his life and let him know who you really are so you both can see …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:46 PM
1

It's your choice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:26 PM
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Honestly this isn't a grey area... This is post is saying to girls who are abused that it "might turn around". This is terrible advice! 99.99999% of the time it only gets worse. Don't stay with an abusive partner and NEVER lay your hands on your partner in any way, shape or form. IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED YOU SHOULD RUN.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:22 PM
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If your partner gets you so worked up you want to punch them you shouldn't be with them. I have been hit with a pool cue and punched in the face by an ex. I have poured drinks over him and bit and pinched him. I should have walked the first time he hurt me and he should have done the same when I first hurt him, but we thought what we had was love. You don't realise how bad it is when you are in that situation. If someone physically hurts you, you need to not be in eachothers lives. I don't even …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:15 PM
2

Online dating is very useful. Some websites make the vetting process go a lot easier.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 05:02 PM
2

And it makes you feel so terrible. :(
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 04:24 PM
2

I wasn't talking about what men want. A FWB (so basically only having sex) situation with no chance of commitment is worse for girls than being pumped and dumped.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:45 PM
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Sex is thee ultimate thing that a woman can give to a man. I respectfully disagree. There are resources much more precious than sex. For example, time. Being plated and strung along for months/years is a lot more hurtful for a girl than having a couple of ONS. Just imagine how different things could have been if OP refused to have sex so soon and made him wait until he showed clear signs of being willing to commit. That would never have happened.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:12 PM
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I actually have a guy friend who I'm pretty close with who is so fucking attractive. Decent looks, very confident, almost intimidatingly smart and rich. He just texted an old girl he used to fuck, they hadn't spoken in a year. He was at her place three days later. They didn't fuck that night, but he's coming around again tomorrow. Bet they fucking then. I feel sorry for her... I want to call her and tell her to block him forever. We girls need to STOP THIS BULLSHIT.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 01:05 PM
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You completely broke his trust by breaking up with him. Do you want to spend years of your life rebuilding that trust again? Maybe he won't ever be able to completely trust you again. Leave the poor guy alone. He doesn't want a long term relationship with you. He literally tells you that, believe him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:54 PM
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There is a difference between being red pill and being a fucking asshole. Just say to him you think you aren't compatible and next him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:41 PM
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Well, it really doesn't matter what men think because you feel uncomfortable with yourself, right? If you want to lose the weight then do it, but most guys don't mind a little extra woman. Some men might find you more attractive how you look now. But you don't and that's the most important thing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:31 PM
1

I honestly still think you should always leave someone when they abuse you, whether they are a man or a woman. But it's your life. Edit: If you are being abused DO NOT STICK AROUND! I've been there and generally speaking it only gets worse, not better. This story is an absolute exception.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:24 PM
3

Contemporary is just another word for modern. You can wear modern clothes whether you are 10 or 100, just like you can wear vintage at any age.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:19 PM
2

Good for you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 12:14 PM
1

Just because someone has different political views doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. As long as they aren't annoying extremists.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:19 AM
2

You're welcome! And their are plenty of other hobbies that you can go for, these are just examples. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:16 AM
2

Congratulations!!! And for the no friends thing... Are you religious? Church is always a good way to get into a community, I hate church but I can't deny they are a close knit group. If you also aren't religious I would say get into a hobby that is 'traditionally feminine'. So, theatre or yoga or a book club etc. Sports are also a good one! There are plenty of all girl sports teams.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 05:55 PM
2

Just being a warm, soft and comfortable place for him to fall back on. It could be sharing a bottle of wine on the couch and watching a movie that relaxes him or maybe he likes being alone for a little while to unwind. My boyfriend loves deep intellectual conversations while hiking, it distracts him from work drama and it happens to be something I also really enjoy!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:26 PM
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You can be co-captains, idk if that's a thing, but you should still respect your husband's decisions. What makes women nagging shrews is not respecting their husbands opinion or abilities which translates to a man as you not trusting him. So, if he makes a decision you trust him completely and if you make a decision he trusts you completely. So for example your department would be everything finance, from paying bills to taxes. He will trust you completely in that and it will be your thing. Mayb…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:09 PM
1

What if it takes 10 years to conceive naturally? What if you or your husband are sterile? Or even more drastic things happening in your lives. It's great you want to plan for your future but the future doesn't care for your plans. Having a idea of what you want is different than a 10 year plan.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 02:54 PM
3

It's called oneitis. It's basically the same principle.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 02:48 PM
2

I kinda like the exciting, just falling in love kinda of feelings...
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 02:44 PM
3

Read the surrendered wife. Like, yesterday.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 07:49 AM
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I think the 'real' alpha widows are generally more on the FWB side of things. So, the guy she has slept with is of higher value than the men she can get to commit to her. Which makes her think of those men who are willing to commit as losers etc. In this scenario it's kinda the girls fault, if only for being deluded. If you were in a relationship with a great guy and you regret that it didn't work out, that's completely natural! I think this is what you're going through, just take some time for …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 07:42 AM
2

It is sometimes pointless to try to control how you feel or what thoughts you have, better to shift control onto how you react to it. Definitely!! When I first started reading here I thought controlling your feelings was the point of STFU. But, you just can't do that, not in a sustainable way anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 07:27 AM
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If you are very very angry you don't want to wait to scream at your partner. Coping mechanisms are necessary to STFU. Which is why this advice always annoyed me, I didn't know how to follow it. It's like saying to a kid "here's a car, you're supposed to drive it. Good luck!" instead of teaching them how to actually drive the car.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 07:24 AM
2

I think you should also learn how to calm down by yourself, you don't have a listening ear available at all times. It's really great that I can always come back to an issue without being crazy just for being present with my emotions for a while, I don't feel a need to rant to friends about anything insignificant. Do you tell yourself ugly truths while in an emotional state? This only scares that little girl inside of you, to shut her up with fear tactics instead of love. So, it's fine to see the…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 07:06 AM
1

I think this is great to think about AFTER you've calmed down. If every time you feel upset you say to yourself you're not allowed to be upset because the actions of others may not be intentional, that is minimizing your feelings. You are basically convincing yourself you are overreacting and that is not self loving. Be careful with that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 06:50 AM
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I also got quite a bit of inspiration on my way but shhhh ;)
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:27 PM
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I think my way works better with the more visual people and your way works better if they are more logical or verbal thinkers.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:23 PM
3

But 0 commitment, and she obviously isn't okay with that in her story... And I won't actually know if he is happy with this arrangement, so he might also not be getting a good deal.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:15 PM
5

No no no. She is getting nothing out of this, he is getting sex. If anything he has the better end of the deal.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 05:51 PM
3

I would say his work is his business and not yours. So what if he does work at the last second? It gets done, right? You are not trusting him in what gives him a lot of worth in his life, his career. If this behaviour doesn't directly impact your well-being than STFU.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 10:30 AM
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If you are so emotionally invested in this man you will not even notice other guys you might want to start a relationship with. It's okay to care for your ex, it's not okay to still be in a relationship with your ex. Cut contact. It's for the best, trust me. Cutting contact with my ex is the best thing I've ever done. You will thank yourself in a year or two.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 10:27 AM
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I don't think that really matters. As long as it shows off/exaggerates your waist/hip ratio and you look more put together. That's why it worked.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 08:33 AM
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If you don't want to be poly, don't be poly... Say to him you are looking for a monogamous relationship and if he is unable or unwilling to provide that you'll have to walk. I'm sorry babe :(
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 08:10 PM
2

Yeah, exactly. Kinda going into the direction of eugenics...
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 03:06 PM
5

It's not particularly red pill but if you still treat him with respect and like he is the boss that could work just fine. I think that is more important than who brings home the bacon. And who knows how you two will feel when you've got kids. Maybe you want to be home more... I wouldn't want to plan to much when you don't know how you'll feel yet. I think the message you should learn your children is to be loving, happy and non-confrontational wives and strong, leading and caring husbands. Aka. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 11:18 AM
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I think you should bring up these issues before you do anything drastic. Have you already told him that you just don't have the funds to pay for dates so often? If a $50 date doesn't fit in your budget don't spend it! I think it's weird that he cares so much about paying equally on dates that you have to dig into your savings to pay for them. If he doesn't know this then tell him, if he does know this he has a weird idea about finances... But I personally would have nexted him on the second date…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 11:11 AM
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I'm kinda going to zoom in on the germs thing... I mean, it's natural for women to only feel attracted to a small segment of men but feeling disgust because you're going to exchange germs is kinda weird. Most asexuals don't really feel disgust toward sex, they just have 0 interest. A friend of mine also has never had a boyfriend and isn't sexually attracted to anybody but she has OCD and has a fear of germs and what not... I don't know if you struggle with this in more ways than just being gross…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 10:14 AM
1

That's why you don't stick your dick in crazy... :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 09:53 AM
2

Sure, I understand! I mean my parents never were official but then they moved in together and got married and had kids and stuff, so it's also fine to never bring it up... It really depends, if it's something that would make you feel more comfortable you could mention it when the time is there. Just don't rush it, I fucked up a few almost relationships by rushing it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 03:25 PM
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Sure, if you want to believe that you can. It's a free country.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 03:10 PM
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I'm still not sure what the point is. If you only have sex with men when they have shown you some form of commitment you will never have to worry about players taking advantage of you, because they only care about sex and will not spend more than a couple of dates waiting for it. And again this need to be in a extreme emotion all the time is not inherent to women or men in particular. It's inherent to mentally unstable people. Women are more emotional and more in touch with our emotions than men…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 03:04 PM
1

Those are PUA tactics. They want you to go crazy, it makes it easier for them to fuck you. We don't date those kind of men... Also scroll around the red pill for a bit longer, everybody is talking about avoiding oneitis and how to not care and so forth. Even men feel, I know, fucking weird...
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 02:32 PM
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I mean, you guys are exclusive, right? That shows quite a bit of commitment. I don't really believe in 'the talk' you just have to notice that he keeps wanting you in his life and spend time with you, that is really what commitment is. Not some arbitrary title. And it's only been a month, calm down
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 02:17 PM
1

Needing to 'feel' something all the time is drama seeking, because negative emotions are a lot easier to arouse than positive ones they will start a fight/drama just to 'feel'. The situation that the woman is living through her worst nightmares (aka hamster) because "he" doesn't write or is silent and then at some point escalates or feels unloved, while the man just was busy doing something else and actually believed that everything is perfect and then consequently is surprised/shocked by the re…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 02:09 PM
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But still, most women don't have this disorder. So making this an AWALT thing is pushing it, in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 01:46 PM
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I don't really understand your point? Sounds more like you're talking about people with BPD instead of healthy, 'normal' women... You can't tell me that most women like a drama filled and anxiety based relationship. Some girls do, but they are just that, girls. I think this is more a you problem than a female problem tbh...
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 01:28 PM
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To be very honest with you, do you want to be in a relationship with a depressed alcoholic? I would assume you can do better. The book is called taking your outer child by Susan Anderson.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 07:56 AM
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Oké, well... More to my previous advice.... Why did he break up with you? It seems like you may get over emotional quite easily... Does that sound familiar? I would look into the concept of the outer child. That helped me a lot with managing unwanted negative emotions. These guys are not trying to be mean they just tend to be fans of tough love. Don't get so emotional and tame your outer child, girl!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 10:20 PM
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For me personally I see RP as a personal relationship only kind of thing, so SO, friends and family. At work you need to get shit done and you need a get shit done attitude, which is not very feminine. I think if you take to much of a STFU approach people may take advantage of you in the office. But I haven't experimented much with this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 04:51 PM
2

Maybe you can do a course that enables you to start a new career where it's easier to work from home. Webdesign is huge at the moment or graphic design and if you're good you can make quite a bit of money. Other options are doing online surveys or website testing but they pay very little.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 02:31 PM
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Thank you! :D
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 01:35 PM
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Tell what you want but not in demanding way but a cutesy way. So something like: Looking for the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life with but we can start with a cup of coffee or a glass of wine ;) Instead of: If you're not interested in a LTR don't even bother. The first will probably scare off the players and fuck boys and the second will scare off everybody
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 10:13 AM
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That is when the best advice is given only triumphed by half a bottle of wodka each.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 10:54 PM
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I see marriage only as a legal document that also proves you want to be together forever and ever and makes that a bit easier without the need of complicated testaments and what not. If you're already planning on being together forever and ever you might as well sign it. Very romantic, I know.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 10:31 PM
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How did you act that he actually saw you as wife material again? Really curious, sorry...
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 10:20 PM
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Do you have any hobbies or friends you've been neglecting in the honeymoon period with your guy? Can you get into some activities a few nights a week to get your mind off of him? I also struggle with this. I LOVE attention, but I also love successful, hardworking men. That's the trade off you're going to make with these types... If he just started a business this will most likely be temporary. Don't stop telling him you miss him tho :D
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 10:17 PM
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I don't want to be a piece of shit but it's been two years, you NEED TO LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. Letting a man know how you feel is not being anti-rp. This just sounds like a weird emotional purgatory you're in at the moment, either be in a relationship or just don't be in a relationship at all. Stop guessing and start talking, girl. And if he doesn't want to be in a relationship, don't talk anymore, for your own sanity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 10:11 PM
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Go to college if you want to marry a man who went to college. A lot of highly educated (and in my opinion better and more intelligent) guys don't want someone who only has a highschool diploma. This is more cultural than biological but it's still a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 04:12 PM
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Yeah, it's kinda weird. My guy has a preference for very very tall girls (180 cm+ preferably) I'm 160 on a good day. But he still really likes me and thinks I'm very attractive, so who cares. I definitely don't. He is also much taller than I usually go for. There is more to attraction than a pre-determined 'type'.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 03:39 PM
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If you dress well, take care of your skin/body and have a good attitude you are already a lot more desirable than most women. Change what you can change.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:26 PM
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But ... This whole sub is dedicated to finding a nice responsible man who is a good leader tho.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 11:47 AM
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Have you guys met already? If not, you can't really say much at this point, even if you have met it's a very short time. Calm down girl.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 09:40 AM
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If it takes months to get to an official status, it's just useless. Men know quite early if they would want to commit, this one obviously doesn't or they would be in a relationship. :/ If they would be dating for a month or so I would agree with you but it's been almost 5 months... Wasting time on a man is never a good idea, wether you are 20 or 50.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:04 AM
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If you have already slept with him, there isn't much to lose. Except for our most precious and limited resource; time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 11:34 PM
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Seeing someone once a month is not any sort of commitment, unless those dates are 5 days long. No one is THAT busy, that is just low investment and easy sex.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 11:20 PM
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I hope she was in an open relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 11:13 PM
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You can answer questions about in what kind of relationship you want to be etc. so vetting is a bit easier. Also less of a focus on casual relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 04:51 PM
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You don't have to date a leftist dude, you can also date right winger. I tend to be more of a lefty and date a guy who is a lot more right leaning than me, it's fine. There is more to discuss than politics. OkCupid is pretty cool tho. Met quite a good number of fine men on there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 03:37 PM
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Don't really like this analogy tho... >He doesn't want to come back and find a cave full of meat, either - because his woman has been hunting, too. This makes his hard work meaningless, it takes the wind out of his sails, and it makes him feel useless and unneeded. Back then it wasn't a nuclear one man and one woman household. You lived in pretty large family groups, there wasn't one provider/hunter and one carer/gatherer it was a bit more complicated than that. >If a caveman comes home too many…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 03:12 PM
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I'm afraid this gets into shit test/comfort test territory...
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 08:37 AM
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Opening up a relationship is a big fucking deal. Communication must be flawless between the two of you, you must have very rigid boundaries with what is allowed and what isn't allowed, you must be EXTREMELY secure in your relationship and you must also enjoy the new way the relationship will be between you. Are you allowed to fuck other people? How will he feel about that? How will you feel when he goes on a date with another woman? What if one of you fall in love with a different person? I also…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 09:28 PM
2

I'll take a look! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 01:04 PM
2

When I'm thinking clearly again I know he means well but I don't think this way when I'm in panic mode... He does really try his hardest but I think I'm just not really part of his thinking pattern yet, we've known each other for little over a month and met in his vacation so he had A LOT more time then and that is also what I'm used to from him now. I'm just scared I can't handle this and ruin everything because this guy is very special and maybe a very long time partner.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 08:15 AM
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I'm looking for advice how to cope with a overly active hamster, I have trouble handeling that. HOW do I control my emotions in this situation and HOW do I learn to distract myself. I mean, I understand that is what I need to be doing. But how tho? And I only told you what I do in daily life to show a lack of activity isn't really the problem not to show of or anything, didn't think it was necessary to mention in the OP.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 08:06 AM
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I do have a life, I study full time and have quite a bit of hobbies and a bunch of good friends. Despite that I still feel very much rejected and pissed off when he cancelles plans (even though we almost immediately reschedule). I can't really distract myself with anything when I feel like that. I try my absolute HARDEST not to nag and I succeed but I really really want to, you know? So that's why I asked advice from other women with busy men, how they cope with not being a priority and wanting …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:52 PM
3

Never said it was a good thing, normalisation of promiscuity is one of the the worst things that ever happened to femininity since the creation of the Catholic church. And what if they feel badly about their past? Should we still shame them for it or should we encourage them to change in the ways they still can?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 09:53 PM
2

I love that he is hard working and ambitious, I really look for that in a future partner. I know that will benefit us in the future, but it still annoys me sometimes... I practice STFU right now, but I'm scared of an implosion and a 1000s of texts flood.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 09:14 PM
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N-count is only a small part of what men look for in a good partner. If you're in your 20s and it's in the triple digits you're fucked but having had a couple of FWB or ONS apart from long time partners doesn't really scare a man of in my experience. I honestly think this sub places too much attention on being as innocent as possible. Unfortunately it is normal now to be a slut in your late 10s/early 20s. A lot of girls found out that doesn't make them happy. Are we going to ostracize them for d…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 09:08 PM
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I think this a very good story to hear for the girls who have been slutting around a bit. Having a slightly higher n-count doesn't necessarily mean you can't find a good husband. Men would rather have a nice and nurturing ex-slut than a bitchy, nagging virgin. You can change your ways, is more the moral of the story not, go and fuck as many men as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 07:40 PM
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I had a promiscuous fase, I don't see it as something positive nor something extremely negative. I wish I was more of a good girl but I learned a whole lot from it. For example, I won't have to "see what's out there" because I know what's out there... Compared to the good little girls who marry their high school sweet heart and wonder their whole life what other dick might feel like. It may be a blessing in disguise.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 07:04 PM
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I mean, we are not cave men. Nature is part of us but nurture is an even bigger part, red pill explains what our true nature is. And you shouldn't even try to get into a relationship with a non-committal man, that's why vetting is such a huge topic here.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:42 PM
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Pretty sure he says the same thing to his hot model girlfriends. I hope you will find your confidence again. <3
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:39 AM
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Ok, this actually makes me mad. He started dating you and saw you were a smaller girl with less curves, how can he expect you to change your body composition? Thats not how life fucking works. Smalls asses are also really cute and can be very well formed. Fuck that guy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:24 AM
1

Well ... You're wrong. Men will fuck basically anything that moves. It is a biological drive in men to spread their seed (ieuw), doesn't matter if the girl is a 10/10 or a 5/10. It doesn't matter if he has a objectively high SMV, a girl can be alpha widowed by anybody that has a higher SMV than her, because they won't commit. The guys that will commit to her will look like gross losers because she has fucked Adonis a few times. It's really sad ... This is pretty basic red pill stuff, tho... Have…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 11:07 AM
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Nope, definitely not the definition. Generally speaking it is a woman who shoots way above her SMV in partner choice and gets a very hot, high value guy who doesn't want to commit but is fine with fucking her.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 01:31 PM
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You kinda sound braggy, annoying and a bit deluded about your own self worth. There is something about you that makes him not want to buy you gifts that you aren't telling us, especially if you already told him you enjoy getting gifts. Could be that you are the perfect little unicorn you think you are and the men you date are terrible or there actually is something you can still work on in your personality/relationship. I wouldn't know because you only tell half a story.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 12:56 PM
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Thinking your partner will get into an affair just by being on social media is not trusting him completely, you may say it was for a different reason that you quit ig but it is the first thing you mention in your first comment. If it's subconscious it's still there, be careful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 08:51 PM
1

You explained it as the why. Affairs start when you are looking for one to start, they do not just fall from the sky. I sense a bit of distrust for your partner tho, I would look deeper into that. I would not appreciate my partner wanting to look at my phone when ever he wants , I still have private stuff going on even if I am in a relationship. Sounds a bit too controlling imo.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 08:38 PM
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We did mutually agree to stay off social media, as it so often leads to affairs Really? I mean getting in contact with any person could lead to an affair. Wasn't it a statistic that most affairs start at work? Seems like you guys really don't trust each other...
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 08:25 PM
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If you haven't been on an official date yet he might as well be.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 12:42 PM
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Playing hard to get and not sticking your tongue down someone's throat you've known for about 2 seconds are very different things.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 12:15 PM
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You can also get a great man when dressing in more Gothic attire and wearing pants don't make you look instantly masculine. Have healthy looking hair, skin and nails, try to not be fat and wear clothing that works for your body type . The rest is all personal taste.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 12:08 PM
1

Ask him to buy you gifts more? I mean, thats not that hard to figure out yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 10:39 PM
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Guys and gals can be friends. Some people just aren't sexually attracted to each other and if I notice that male friends do get too close I back off. I do remain at a respectful distance with my guy friends, so only hanging out in public, with other friends and no "date" like activities etc. ​ And it's more an assertive energie and natural leader abilities that make a man attractive, not you cooking for him. You do shit for him because he makes you feel safe and protected, not the other way arou…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 10:16 PM
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That might not be possible... Would you prefer being a mother or a career woman? I mean, you're still really young so maybe you will not want one of those things in a couple of years, but it's VERY hard to do both. And (unpopular opinion incoming) you can also opt for a more blue pill lifestyle, dividing chores, child rearing and work. If that fits you more than why the hell not? You are a free woman.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 01:59 PM
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But you can also be in a community that doesn't 100% align with your views. I mean, there is pelenty RP stuff that I think is a bit bullshitty.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 01:45 PM
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Refer to him as my man in public... Plenty of people don't wear rings, plenty of people adopt their kids. I'm pretty sure you love to tell everybody that you are not married and a stay at home mother (which is a very bad deal imo). So, ya know, stop doing that. Maybe you will get questions about how your wedding was and how long you've been married, but people generally don't bring that up in the first conversation and if your beliefs align enough they won't care at that point.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 01:41 PM
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How do people know you are not married? Most people assume you're married if you have kids together. Do you go out of your way to say to people he isn't your husband? Then don't say that...
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 01:27 PM
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Yes, because 'controling your emotions' or, what it actually is, suppressing emotions is so very healthy. You cannot control your emotions you can control your reaction. Acting like everything is just fine will only push her boyfriend away, same as nagging about every little thing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 04:26 PM
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That is a bit bullshitty tho. You can't be happy 100% of the time, that's fucking boring... (Also very hard to do for women with our fluctuations in hormones and stuff.) If you feel like shit sometimes that is fine. You do, however, control your actions and you can communicate how you are feeling differently to your bf. So it's ok to be sad sometimes just dont be an absolute nag about it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 04:12 PM
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You sound like men could easily find you domineering. Soften up a bit!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 04:05 PM
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They are more sophisticated, better in bed, have more life experiences and relationship experiences. I date someone quite a bit older and he is totally self aware of weaknesses in his personality. Never dated a guy that was THAT self aware. Only con is that they most likely will die a lot sooner than you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 12:28 AM
1

This is literally the basis for the red pill tho... Men care mostly about looks and youth, women care mostly about leadership qualities and "alphaness". I don't understand how you don't understand.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 12:24 AM
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Honestly, I think men aren't really supposed to be there during the late stages. It's absolutely terrifying for them and it's supposed to be a "womens thing". Having the older women in the family guiding you through that process and caring for you. It's a sacred feminine ritual, we don't need masculine energy in this process. ​
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 11:09 PM
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He is never going to take you seriously. He can't even cum with you there because of what you did. This is basically hopeless.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 05:32 PM
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It's definitely a thing. How many young girls don't like pink or dolls because that is "too girly" and start loving heels and make-up in their early 20s? Or the career woman who is absolutely miserable thanks to not wanting to be traditionally feminine because that is "oppression"? If I think internalized misogyny I think suppressing the divine feminine inside of yourself, which is unhealthy af. I don't know the feminist definition tho.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 01:32 PM
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Would you want to have a relationship with a man who had an affair with a married woman? It says a whole lot about someone's morals if they don't respect relationships of others. Stop dating and start maturing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 01:19 PM
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I'm dating someone who did this at the beginning. I just told him I didn't feel comfortable talking about that kind of stuff so soon. We did have sex pretty early one, but I feel like if the only thing you have to offer is sex it doesn't matter if you wait two dates or two months. You gonna get used.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 04:12 PM
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