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| 2 | Wife says she puts out enough“I feel like I put out a lot.” "Ok" What else needs to be said here? She feels a certain way, cool. What about it? | /r/askMRP | 28/10/24 02:19 PM |
| 0 | Please criticize my use of the tools and enforcing boundaries.Been planning to read them - will look for it. Thanks | /r/askMRP | 08/10/24 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Please criticize my use of the tools and enforcing boundaries.Thanks. IMO, you said a bit too much She asked if I'm disappointed in her. I don't see what would've been better than answering directly here. In hindsight, “I’m training that day. I’ll see if anything opens up after.” Means the same. It’s considerate but you don’t lose frame. I agree. Should I acutally see anything opens up later and take it lightly, or is it important to make an example out of the situation? | /r/askMRP | 08/10/24 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Please criticize my use of the tools and enforcing boundaries.Are situations like this one important to the dynamics of the relationship? F.e if I do manage to fit both my workout and see her like I'd like to, or agree to talk to her about it, giving the little comfort that is basically explaining: "I have goals Ive spoken to you about that are important. Doesnt mean you arent as well.". will it show a bad example? Or make openings for further manipulation later on? Because I tend not to take it too seriously but wonder if it's important to consider the dy… | /r/askMRP | 08/10/24 05:42 AM |
| 5 | What if I'm not amused right now?Pardon me for the tism, but facing a general situation like this again, a STFU reaction (which isn't to stand there like a mute) would be something like "yeah, turned out like this" or "happens" right? Then, if she doubles down on her question I just repeat myself and exit (verbal intercourse is optional). Does this sound right? Of course in specific recurring instances it is better to fix the root, but those types of questions will always arise. | /r/askMRP | 15/08/24 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Do you ever "set expectations"?That's right, but maybe in some cases you don't want her to stay within your boundaries just to satisfy you. For example you wouldn't want her to see you or have sex with your just because you expect her to, but because she really wants to, so is it really good to "lay out everything and tell her if you don’t like it the door is there"? | /r/askMRP | 29/03/24 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Public Emasculation Shit Test - best response?How does one nuke in public without coming off awkward, childish, or a hurt snowflake? Just leaving? | /r/askMRP | 22/11/23 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Wife wants to go out with no explanationCan you give an example of what would be a proportional consequence and how would you verbalize it in option 2? I'm guessing pulling away affection or attention but then how would you convey that this will be the consequence if she decides to go? | /r/askMRP | 04/11/23 03:04 PM |
| 5 | "Solve the fight" - learning from a mistakeI don't think this "let's start again" would've worked. I agree I could've taken it as a shit test and not a place to establish a boundary, but once that's been done and she took offense the loop starts. Definitely should've exited sooner (DARE and not DEER), but I do wonder if a "I know you get emotional from stuff like this and I apologize if you're hurt, but I stand behind what I've said and it's important for you to know my boundaries" would've been the right way to go and close this topic t… | /r/askMRP | 20/10/23 12:14 PM |
| 6 | "Solve the fight" - learning from a mistakeMakes sense, thank you. This will be my course of action if this happens again. The same talk will happen face to face though, so I guess it's doubling down on "nothing to apologize, figure out what you're gonna do" is the way. Should I consider apologizing for her being hurt and provide comfort while still insisting I stand behind my words in a situation like this? | /r/askMRP | 20/10/23 12:07 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?I agree. My problem always comes with the grey area scenarios. Let's say she started wearing more revealing clothes, can it cross a boundary? Definitely, but wearing shorts that are a bit too short when getting ready with you or saying something slightly disrespectful around friends can also be a shit test to see if you'll say something. Should I really have a super clear boundary line about each topic and act black and white? What's the right way to use the tools I learned in situations like th… | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 07:41 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?So do you specifically state all your boundaries? If she does something that's not ok but you haven't talked to her about it you wouldn't next her? | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 06:30 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?And if it is in public? I'm trying to understand if there are situations that should be addressed verbally as opposed to covertly like withdrawal of attention | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 08:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?When things like that happen in my life it's usually a very predictable and boring non reactive fogging response from me, as long as it's serious and AM is not fitting. With that being said I still want to know if I should get out of my way to address it later or not and understand the tools correctly. | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Shit tests and fogging through the phone?I guess that right now after I've learned to use fogging, passing shit tests etc, and I get my needs met, the current goal is finding that alpha-beta balance, and learning how to be a good leader for this partnership, as opposed to being just good for myself and for my needs. This is probably what makes me "fall" again in situations like this and show blue-pilled behavior again. | /r/askMRP | 23/03/23 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Shit tests and fogging through the phone?This is a good reminder, thanks. I realise that even when I'll get more experienced using wisnifg techniques and controlling my frame, I have a problem with understanding proper leadership. Thinking only about myself and giving no fucks about my woman doesn't require much decision making, but after all if I wouldn't love her there would be no reason to stay together, she may as well just be a plate. It's much harder for me to understand when's the right time to be there for her and show consider… | /r/askMRP | 23/03/23 11:59 AM |
| 4 | Shit tests and fogging through the phone?Love this post, but I am not asking how to avoid talking with her, nor do I think its best to just hang up every time a shit test or criticism appears | /r/askMRP | 22/03/23 12:25 PM |
| 1 | foggingIt's true they have nothing to fight with but some people will try to demand that you apologize | /r/askMRP | 22/03/23 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Tried to deal with criticism, feel like I did badYes 100% if I could go and see her or even if the whole talk was face to face it would have gone totally differently. I feel like that's exactly why this type of situations only happen to me when it's not possible and I need to deal with it without seeing her the same day. We do have a date planned out and we do have a lot of fun when we see each other, but it's not possible every day. | /r/askMRP | 21/01/23 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Tried to deal with criticism, feel like I did badAnd how would you deal with someone that insists on hearing "I'm sorry" when you already did admit your mistake and owned it? Having a hard time dealing with "is it so hard for you to apologize for hurting me? Why can't you just say 'I'm sorry' for me?" | /r/askMRP | 21/01/23 01:52 PM |
| 1 | I fogged, and fogged, and fogged...I agree with everything you wrote. The apologizing thing has been my frame as well, but then when you're up against a "is it really that hard for you apologize for hurting me?" attitude, what can you do that's not DEERing your actions? Just stubbornly refuse? I find it a bit childish. Maybe you can still apologize for hurting somebody while still standing behind your actions. | /r/askMRP | 20/12/22 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Gigantic Shit or Comfort Test?I think that boundaries are something that can and sometimes should be expressed verbally. If she crosses a boundary that you've set its a big problem, bigger than just removing my time etc... I'd use this tactic with expectations you have from her that are not concrete boundaries. | /r/askMRP | 28/08/22 03:45 PM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?I am not in a place where I'm looking for a partner for life, but for the first time since being single I'm enjoying the feelings. I want to spend more time with her, I want to introduce her to my world, my friends, and she's looking like a great first officer for my ship. On the other hand I still enjoy the company of other women and the overall feeling of being free to do whatever I want so I don't really know if it's the right choice to give up on all of this, even though being single is not … | /r/askMRP | 23/06/22 06:49 AM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?That's right, but even then when does it become worth giving up all the other women? | /r/askMRP | 23/06/22 06:39 AM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?Appreciate your input. Thank you. I don't know why their ask has to warrant leaving? Does it make you feel too guilty to just say, no thanks, without dumping them? No, I'm leaving because it was always an ultimatum, they develop feelings for me and it eats them up that I see other women. And if it's not an ultimatum it gets to this point in a few weeks. Be as honest as you can about these things with these girls. I just guess it will boil down very quickly to "Well, then you should decide wh… | /r/askMRP | 07/06/22 04:46 PM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?This is a great post. I am implementing most of what he said, but I'm still wondering on the subject of exclusivity. Girls respect me and they don't ask for too much, if they ask for exclusivity I leave. Other times they don't ask for it but they let me know they get hurt by it. I know I shouldn't care but I'm just not that ruthless, I don't get any joy knowing I'm hurting those girls and I've encountered some that I wanted to promote and they deserved it but I always get stuck on the "but is it… | /r/askMRP | 07/06/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?It's not. Most of the time I just end it if she catches feels, but maybe I should look at the other option, I just don't know what's the right way to look at it | /r/askMRP | 07/06/22 09:48 AM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?I'm guessing you're trying to say I live in other's frame and don't care at all or do what I really want. I'm really trying to only think what's right for me and act only according to my ideals and wants even though I do doubt sometimes if it would be better for me change my direction, f.e move from a dating life to getting a LTR, but please show me where I'm wrong. | /r/askMRP | 07/06/22 06:34 AM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?That's really important, thank you | /r/askMRP | 06/06/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | When should you actually get into a LTR?I see your point. I don't think her having a problem is my problem, I just see it as an indicator that the "either let's end this or get serious" point is coming up, which usually ends with me ending our relations but what I'm asking in this post is insight about the other option. Also yes I do "sin" by caring for a girl's feelings so I may end things sooner or decide to put other chicks on hold, but it's only because I do have morals and think that's what's right for me. | /r/askMRP | 06/06/22 11:13 PM |
| 2 | For people who sleep around a lot, how careful are you about std's?Nah bro it's all good, always good to get some info. Thanks | /r/seduction | 14/03/22 12:54 PM |
| 1 | For people who sleep around a lot, how careful are you about std's?Yeah I guess we need to get educated better. Do you not worry about receiving oral? | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 07:38 PM |
| 2 | For people who sleep around a lot, how careful are you about std's?Got that as well, thank you. | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 05:16 PM |
| 1 | For people who sleep around a lot, how careful are you about std's?Receiving oral is the only thing I don't use protection for as well, isn't it risky? | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 03:06 PM |
| 1 | To you tell girls you're sleeping with your lay count if she asks?Yeah I am a bit insecure about it but more than that I just don't want stuff like this to be known by people around me, some stuff I just like to keep private no matter how much my lay count is necessarily. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 10:08 AM |
| 3 | To you tell girls you're sleeping with your lay count if she asks?Yeah but don't you think I can't really know if this will spread out (since it's not a gf, I don't know who she'll tell) and I wouldn't want everyone to know my low count. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 08:56 AM |
| 0 | To you tell girls you're sleeping with your lay count if she asks?I guess I wouldn't want rumors to spread out and everybody to know my low count. You never know who she'll tell | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 08:55 AM |
| 2 | To you tell girls you're sleeping with your lay count if she asks?I'm not talking about a gf, just a fbw type thing. I don't care about her number in this situation. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Showing interest in person then disappearing?You know what you're right. I guess no harm if she's responsive to my invites, who cares if I'm the only one initiating | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Showing interest in person then disappearing?Update: she didn't initiate anything, so I did and we had another fun night and it seems like more than just fuck buddies . I'm thinking of telling her the truth next time, something like "Listen honestly I'm having a lot of fun but eventually me being the only one initiating will get tiresome and boring", what do you think? | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Showing interest in person then disappearing?Yeah I guess I'll give her some space again to pursue but if she won't I guess it's fine that it's always me as long as she keeps showing interest right? | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Is giving options bad leadership?Thank you. I was talking about a situation where the girl has already been to your place once or twice at least so it's not that weird, but it's still an important thing to keep in mind. One example I had recently is a girl saying "yeah we should do something fun tomorrow, and also my roommates are not here", so I had this dilemma if I should take this as a straight invitation for hers, or should I propose that we go out and then escalate to her place, or give her two options and risking it comi… | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Good dates but she's not initiating, is this a test?Ok, then what if we do go out and she asks why I did not initiating if I wanted us to go out? I don't want to come off as the one playing games here | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 07:59 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]I mean if you live in a huge city it's maybe fine, but in a smaller town or college a reputation of a desperate weirdo that texts "hey wanna come over and fuck? " to girls can really mess you up | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 08:04 AM |
| 1 | If giving a woman head was openly on the table, no ambiguity, what would your success rate be?I mean yeah unless you have some specific thing like coming over to cook together, or do homework or anything like this. | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 08:02 AM |
| 15 | [deleted by user]I guess it can work with a chick from tinder or someone you've been sleeping with, but other than that I feel like you'd just get yourself a creep reputation and a lot of people will hear about this stuff. | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 10:54 PM |
| 0 | If giving a woman head was openly on the table, no ambiguity, what would your success rate be?By asking them to come you mean just "hey wanna come chill at my place?"? Isn't it exactly the same as inviting to have sex? Or were you less direct? | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Field report of my recent sets, would like some feedbackGood points thank you. About the 2nd point I used to say something like "Oh it's ok we can hang out as friends" and take the number anyway, then we may go out and suddenly I'm cool and she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore, or she does have one but I get to develop my social circle. Do you think your one's better? Isn't it a bit desperate? | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Field report of my recent sets, would like some feedbackOh damn everything you said finally clicked for me now. I understand what you were trying to say and I fully agree, really important points. Thank you for your time brother I'll make sure to implement all of this. | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Field report of my recent sets, would like some feedbackI second what someone else said, where you cut the convo short and leave it to them to initiate another one. Yeah I guess it's a good idea to cut short sometimes with girls which I know from before, although I'm doubting a small thing like this will make a change. What about girls which I approach for the first time? Cutting short means asking earlier for the number? Or is there any different advice there? | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Field report of my recent sets, would like some feedbackThanks for the detailed answer. You're right, I should do the "pauses" and "less talking" even more when I approach, although in some cases it will just result in silence. For example in the 1st set where we went the same direction I feel like we'd just walk until we arrive, she'd probably pick up her phone or something. I fill like in a conversations like this, where she's not fully engaged this will just result in us parting ways and me not even trying to get the number, and in conversations w… | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Field report of my recent sets, would like some feedbackI don't think I ask too much, I talk and share stuff right from their first response of what they study / where they from. Then if this fades out I'm going for the next thing like hobbies, and we talk about different hobbies, laugh, etc. It's hard to explain because of course it's not a formula but I guess it's the most natural thing, I'm not just asking a question after question. I do agree that if its not a girl I'm seeing regularly like in a class, I can be more straight forward and tell her … | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 03:42 PM |
| 5 | Field report of my recent sets, would like some feedbackWell firstly some casual stuff like what they study, where they from, usually pretty early we get carried away to topic like their city or classes, then (or if nothing came up from earlier questions) I ask for hobbies, a surprising amount of girls like to tell me they don't have any because they're too busy studying, so I laugh and nag them a bit, "nah I don't believe you're that boring, you're hiding something" or something like this, if they do have some I talk about the hobbies they have or u… | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Why it's not working out for me in college?Well I'm positive, fun, confident, know some game, how can I see if it's something else? Only thing I can think of is coming off as disgenuine sometimes when I'm too "gamey" . Also I just don't encounter enough women unfortunately, and want to change that. | /r/seduction | 04/12/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Why it's not working out for me in college?I'm not from the US so sadly there isn't such thing here | /r/seduction | 04/12/21 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Why it's not working out for me in college?They usually don't mention it, they just distance themselves and change attitude once they find out. Probably there are ones that wouldn't care but I didn't encounter then yet. | /r/seduction | 04/12/21 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Why it's not working out for me in college?Thanks. And no, I'm in my early 20's but because of my field and location the average age is a few years older. I'll try to look for some female dominated activities although I'm not sure if there are any. Maybe Yoga or something of this sort. | /r/seduction | 03/12/21 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Best program for extremely genetically skinny?Tbh I'm eating as much as I can, focusing on proteins and vegetables. I don't think eating forcibly more than I can is a good option, but I guess I have a small stomach. | /r/askTRP | 22/05/21 11:28 AM |
| 1 | I can't make her orgasmShe said it was like an hour of masturbating and it didn't happen since, I'm actually trying to improve with this but she isn't really into it and just wants us to fuck, but I've tried my dude, I've tried so much I thought my arm would fall off but it didn't seem like she's having fun the way she has when I'm inside her. | /r/askTRP | 28/01/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | I can't make her orgasmAlways trying to get her as calm as possible and never pressuring her about the orgasm thing. We had so many rough sex, romantic sex, massages, couldn't make it work unfortunately | /r/askTRP | 28/01/21 03:45 PM |
| 5 | I can't make her orgasmI don't have to ask her if I made her cum, you don't need any special observation skills to understand if she came or not | /r/askTRP | 28/01/21 10:33 AM |
| 14 | I can't make her orgasmShe takes birth control, I heard it might have an effect | /r/askTRP | 28/01/21 10:31 AM |
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