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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 09:43 AM
11

The question is why aren't men obsessed with their looks? Better looking people are rewarded in every aspect of their lives. Man or woman. Good looking people have top tier lives and you should do everything in your ability to accentuate your looks to the best of your ability. If you are a man who isn't trying your hardest, being bitter over why women are, there is something wrong with you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 04:51 AM
2

Who agrees to this bs, this total pick me energy with LVM behaviour. To quote Aparna "I don't like humor sense"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:30 AM
21

I wonder if she's in a relationship or married. I already know the answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:17 PM
9

Well I don't expect him to but we do. I find it comforting to think that the first thing we think in the dawn is each other. I think the only time we've missed morning texts is either because of an argument or sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:10 AM
12

Lol when the man can carry and give birth to my children and take my last name I will get down on the knee and propose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:10 AM
18

Good he's not even worth responding to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:03 AM
5

Honestly 80-90% work done sounds like a dream come true. The average indian man without adhd can be expected to do 10% of the household work on a good day. I would take the 80-90% hell I would take the willingness to do work even
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:20 AM
12

I don't live in a developed country however there is an enormous amount of stigma associated with being an illegitimate child in a lot of countries. I just don't think that amount stigma is something you should voluntarily subject your child to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:15 PM
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Do not have children without marriage. At least your kids will have legitimacy and you will have access to a better legal recourse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:56 PM
12

At the same time as hvw I don't think we should accept this narrative. We shouldn't let relationships govern our sanity or absolve ourselves from the blame of overintetvesting or being a pick-me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:50 PM
6

Yes I found it particularly annoying that she had something negative to say during each of her dates. Even if you don't enjoy their hobbies or interests it's extremely rude to dismiss them from th get go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:37 AM
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I cannot emphasis the eww enough. I actually want to see the pick-me's who would actually swipe right on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:14 AM
11

You can't find a cream in india without brightening effect. It's so pervasive. As a darker skinned woman I've spent most of my life being told that fairer skin is beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:37 PM
13

Yes the answer is a resounding yes. Stop dating a nearly 30year old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:33 PM
5

Pretty much. I used to have a major crush in high school to this guy who was my friend. He wasn't even good looking but completely avoided me when he found out that I had crush on him. We had similar hobies and interests and would have made a good couple. Shortly after I was asked out by someone better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:40 PM
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Are you a indian woman living in india? Cos I would love to dm you about certain issues that I fear only we have to face. I think the more terrifying aspect is living as a single woman in this country where you either struggle to find a safe living space or face subtle ostracism from people around you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:16 AM
6

Well he clearly wants to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:13 AM
7

Same sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:22 PM
137

Oh god both the Indian men from india were NVM 💀 while the one indian woman they feature is clearly HVW. The difference between men and women in my country is alarming. And thanks to the arranged marriage system they have no motive to change. They can scroll through 100s of women and pick some naive early 20s girl their mommies can customise. If you are indian woman living in india you are better off single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:22 PM
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Lol this reminds me of a story. Last year I snuck my bf into my parents home when they were out for a quickie. I told him he had to be fast and he lasted half an hour. I told him it was regular sex if he took so long considering the stress I was under. Honestly the almost-being caught stress was not fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:17 PM
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Dislocating my jaw has been a severe trauma for me (ever since witnessing a car accident with a dog in my teen years) Reading this gave me jaw twinges I cannot imagine being in this position. I have to consciousnessly remind myself that this is not normal and that my partner has never brought me physical pain let alone trauma. I cannot imagine sleeping with another man let alone the same man who abused me and then gaslit me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:48 AM
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They are trying so hard to virtue signal. Telling everyone that the ring didn't matter, the proposal didn't matter, the thought that went to it didn't matter so she can be happy with her cheap ring and thoughtless proposal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:13 AM
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Omg that's so much worse. This man decided to forgive his daughter's abuser. What a waste of space NVM. I don't know why I assumed it is a woman (guess my own internal sexism)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:12 AM
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This show is the Indian version of white-washing a concept. They brush aside the blatant casteism that is the fundamental concept of arranged marriages. Also how the show doesn't acknowledge the social power plays or teh colorism that's the prevalent in indian society. It tries to portray this rosy picture of arranged marriages when in reality the arrange marriage system fundamentally stripped away agency of plenty of women while reinforcing caste and economic boundaries rigidly. I hope none of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:07 AM
2

No the daughter was to 'forgive' the mother and continue the relationship 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:02 AM
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I am planning on doing an article on something related. Without going into too much detail about how the burden of contraception falls squarely on a woman. So there isn't much of a 'freedom of choice' as much as a burden and the risks associated with female contraceptives being largely ignored
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:49 AM
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This woman disgusts me. My mother would have beaten someone to death and gone straight to prison if someone molested me(or my future child) and yet this pick me mother daughter duo wants to maintain relationships. Honestly they disgust me. Weak women like this should be excommunicated also why I staunchly refuse to entertain any pick-me's in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:34 AM
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Gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:44 PM
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He doesn't get it at all. He's bound for isolation and being the weird older guy in the club everyone avoids. He doesn't understand the point of treating women as fellow human beings and still thinks they will 'make or break' his life. He's never going to meet anyone or live happily. He's a self sabotaging NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:38 PM
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Yup. I find it convenient that it was a judge (possibly a neutral party) who was murdered in cold blood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:00 AM
8

Ew words cannot express my disgust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:05 AM
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Ew I would cut ties. Though wouldn't give him a divorce so that his side piece never gets legitimacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:07 AM
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Pretty much. If the woman is settled and prepared to be a single mom yay her. Most of the time women have these children without the financial stability and hoping these non committing men would stay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:47 AM
7

Which is why having a child before the marriage is always a bad idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:17 AM
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I feel bad for her. Most women I know who've gotten into bdsm and hardcore kinks have had bad childhoods
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:36 PM
62

Jhene Aiko is definitely pick me. I love her music. But sis needs to develop some self esteem and stop playing the 'cool girl'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:57 AM
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To me the end goal is being an HVW. Having an HVM is a nice bonus but not a necessity. And in my country finding an HVM would be extremely difficult because society had taught men that by the mere virtue of being a man he is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:34 AM
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He's 34 and speaks like he's 24
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:02 AM
5

I love the response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:04 AM
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The world will be a better place if this happens. Men who would rather fuck a toy is not going to bring anything to a table in a relationship. So they are effectively removing themselves from the gene pool(which is great)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:07 AM
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Aw. I remember reading this as a child and deciding unrequited love is pointless. I was an imaginative child and always fancied myself in love with boys I barely spoke to. Reading this story was a reminder that they would never know or reciprocate my feelings. That it was pointless to love someone who wouldn't love me back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:18 AM
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Lol good for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:26 PM
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I met my SO at 27. Not married yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:33 AM
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I was in a similar situation like you. Both of us are working but from the first date we took turns and that became routine. Then we broke up and got back together. Since he wanted to get back together I did not offer to pay the bills. He was pulling all the stops to impress me so took me to a bunch of new places. Now we are more at 80-20
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:20 PM
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Na am saying he's that bad. We are both fucked of someone jumps us
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 03:02 PM
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God no. Am more aggressive than him so no. If someone jumps us am our best bet
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 12:20 PM
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I live Mia, knowing how vehemently a mainstream 'actress' is against porn should open their eyes. Except they won't cos 'muh dick'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:00 AM
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I've always seen "I eat ass" = "I expect anal"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:18 PM
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I just followers her on insta. She's amazing, to have courage to speak up and be transparent about her struggles is a good counter to people saying shit like "porn is consensual"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:40 PM
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Who are the women who swipe right on such profiles. When the first statement itself is setting the bar below ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:25 PM
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I am so grateful for FDS and this lesson. Shortly after my bf and I had a break I contemplated a few flings to get my mind off him. Thankfully I never went through with it. I cannot imagine how it would have felt to go from after sex cuddles and words of love to just the dude leaving!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:11 PM
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Imagine using sex as a currancy for a scrote to take care of himself. Truly disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:35 AM
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Reality is RP for women. Women who are delusional about men get punished by life. So there doesn't need to be plans laid down because a vast majority of women are well aware of the shallow and fickle nature that men posses. When you get older he will cheat. If you get sick he will leave. If he has an option for a younger, more attractive mate he will leave. Your personality, education, talents means nothing as long as you're attractive enough to fuck. And you can be the biggest doormat, cook, cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 03:02 AM
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I was shocked at the whole comment chain. What toxic ass people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:53 PM
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An indian guy claiming female orgasm isn't necessary. Why am I surprised?? (Am an Indian btw so not racist, also no community should be above criticism when they hold extreme views collectively)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 05:55 AM
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Yes thry don't want someone who would engage them, sustain them but they want aesthetics and shallow waters that they can control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:46 PM
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I am so proud of you OP. A disease like that and weight gain should have eroded your self esteem. Because women judge themselves on utility. Except you rose above your conditioning and saw your true value. I am damn proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:39 PM
2

Best ending ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:19 AM
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Because he's only thinking about himself
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 08:10 PM
2

more women probably want to date a guy who is into spending time working out than one who is into spending time playing video games), More would by default would prefer men who do not center their lives around video games
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 08:10 PM
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Because you are the only one getting off in a bj...you can't be that stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 08:03 PM
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All these hollywood men and politicans are either pedos or willfully turning a blind eye to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:17 AM
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I like her. She's pretty funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:17 AM
7

Oh definitely. I absolutely adore him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:12 AM
9

Yup the way he talks about his wife. Definitely HVM qualities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:12 AM
7

Didn't he make a joke on how Hollywood is not all pedos and it turns out he is. Call me a conspiracy loon but I am convinced that Hollywood and a lot of politicians (all powerful men ofc) and heavily into pedophilia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:11 AM
2

Didn't she still end up marrying him. He was a terrible choice and she could do better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:07 AM
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Lol seeing you start firm on your standards made him backtrack so fast. Such is the nature on NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:39 AM
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Lol he's not attractive enough to be waving that red flag before the 2nd t xt. Block and move on, good on him for bringing it up early enough so you could leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:39 AM
20

This kinda bs is exactly why I would never move in with a manchild. All this labor and not even the legal validation of getting half his assets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:52 AM
18

I hope she cheats. Because this is just so tragic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:50 AM
25

Actually don't respond to him at all. Leave him on read and delete the number. Blocking him will giv him the validation that you cared, don't give him that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:39 PM
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Lol am loving the energy. Fuck with him and then stop replying. These indicisive man children need to be stopped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:37 PM
9

It's so funny because indian courts seldom give the wife 50% of assets. Wonder what koolaid (rasna) this desi pick me is drinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:56 AM
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I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:11 PM
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Ew. Just to prevent this in my country heavily pregnant women are left at their maternal house. My country is self aware culturally that men don't take care of their wives and they are better off at their maternal homes. Typically in my house we hire a caretaker to take care of the infant for the first couple of months. Also the new mother gets herbal bath and good home care at her house. Though a lot of father's do come and stay at their wives homes during this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:54 AM
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What a wonderful couple. Honestly made me year up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:42 AM
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Just block him. As someone from a minority community I've also been appointed as some kind of default spokesperson on similar issues and I find it so soul suckingly frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:40 AM
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It's funny cos the actual dude in the pic ain't fat. I bet he has no problems getting girls either. The issue is the dudes with fat rolls who expect their GFS to have model bodies and complain that men have unrealistic body ideals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:26 AM
2

I understand that this is a need but personally I could never date someone like that. There will definitely be guys who reject me if I had one night stands or indulged to promiscuity for me hiring a hooker is a similar red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 04:21 AM
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But isn't it also advocating a second and a third chance when in reality people seldom change. There is this narrative in popular media that a man can be changed with the right woman, I really despise that line or thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:53 AM
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Surprise surprise!! I want to feel bad for her but I can only imagine the sheer amount of damage her pick-me book has inflicted on other people As someone who lives in a patriarchal country surrounded by pick mes I have little to no sympathy for them. On a related note have you noticed how it's always the pick mes who are the biggest advocates for marriage. Recently I was talking to my fam about why I do not support marriage as an institution and my aunt who is a borderline abusive marriage was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:51 AM
15

An anti feminist from india?? An indian man who is misogynystic. This is unheard of. Living in this country I've never encountered one /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:04 PM
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I am loving FDS s YouTube recommendation today 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:36 PM
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The whole hurtbae bit. She's so beautiful and soft-spoken why was she with this NVM. Hetrosexuality is a curse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:02 AM
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Thank you for telling me this. I hope you do find your 'the one' and tell us all about your journey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:27 AM
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With this kinda energy she will be doing the housework for the rest of her life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:32 AM
8

Yup that's just disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:31 AM
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I love that they too were moved by her tears. Honestly it's just hard to watch. We need to just extend our kindness to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:32 AM
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Lovely. Am glad you are looking for for each other #couplegoals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:23 PM
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Good for you sis. He sounds gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:20 PM
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Literal bridge troll. This is why young women need FDS so they develop self-worth and stop letting these assholes treat them like cheap fuckdolls. God the part about being in severe pain made my skin crawl, why is she putting up with this sort of abuse???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:19 PM
15

The problem is also the women entertaining these bridge trolls. From their mommies to fuckdoll mommy GFS who put up with these terrible men because'love' gag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:39 PM
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I dunno where these women find these bridge dwelling trolls who refuse to bathe or groom themselves. All my male friends like grooming for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:06 AM
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Am with you on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:06 AM
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I've never thought about this. Though two of my friends have the avoidant attachment styles and both of them are in relationships where the guy is more invested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:23 AM
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Lol when my bf of 1.5 years broke up with me he attempted ghosting and due to my hounding ended it over a 3min phone call. I feel like it's women who always put themselves at risk and attempt closure. There is no need, you know they would just as easily leave " without confrontation" if they were the one making the call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 08:31 PM
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I actually find a little bit of beard attractive while my so hates it. He even made a joke once saying all the bearded guys I find hot prolly look ugly without it. So men know about beard-fishing. Also whether he has a beard or not am not going bald downstairs unless I feel like it. No one can tell me what to do with my privates. You can chose not to sleep with me but that's your problem not mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:33 PM
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He sounds terrifying!!? Why would you want to be with someone so obsessed with you, I won der if he even likes her or just the idea of her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:27 PM
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Oh thank you for pointing this out. I was thinking the exact same thing, how's she different from the side chick. She's dating a man a decade older, did not commit to her before sleeping together, refused to break off with an ex and she misses him???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:42 PM
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Ooh I love her. And Ali Wong on being unapologetic about succeeding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:24 PM
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Honestly it lasted me a month and a half before I started seeing the flaws in the relationship. But honestly I did not heal at 3months after the 1 year relationship ended (I am a weak ass bitch)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:21 PM
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My bf and I are in different houses during the pandemic. So far he's got me medicines, some essentials, dropped by to visit me everytime he goes out to buy groceries, gets me sweets just to drop by and say hello. We usually meet for a few minutes on the road ( I live in a gated community) Other than that we talk on the phone twice a day, text and video. He's far from perfect but I see how he's acting during this crisis, like dropping by weekly to visit his grandparents, helping out his family to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:09 PM
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I was going through a very heartbreaking breakup, and this friend told me 'you are never going to get closure. What you want is to him to take you back and that's never going to happen. So understand things have ended and move on' This really opened my eyes to the fact that when I was complaining about the lack of.conversation and closure I really wanted him to apologise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:16 AM
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Lol on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:12 AM
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It's not even reaching out, he sent me msgs for 5months before I responded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 06:51 PM
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Honestly to me this reeks of entitlement. We barely even talked and yet he thinks I would be dtf 4years after a tinder match. Also he didn't even use his real pic, it was one of this funny novelty accounts!! This especially after I told him I am in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 06:50 PM
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Not like 4-5 years ago when it was just in it's introduction phase. Another point to note that he didn't have his own picture instead he was playing a character from Harry Potter. Thus the swipe right in the first place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:59 PM
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Honestly I live in a conservative country and have never spoken to him in an inappropriate manner. Also this tinder match was 4years ago!! He's a creep and sounds entitled to sex. When he's a 3/10 on a good day!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:35 PM
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I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:26 AM
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This is why, we as women need to stop doing this just for our partners. Don't like anal, don't do it. Don't like choking, hairpulling, spanking- don't do it. Instead we are conditioned by libfem pickmes to think it's ok. Slowly we get older and we realise we don't have to do anything we don't want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:12 AM
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Lol you know she's going to wear this for the damn wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 01:49 AM
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How long have you been together. Such unexpected shitty behaviour without any warning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:20 AM
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I am not your guy, friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:20 AM
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This should be the basic standard. I can't believe this dudes that have the audacity to expect their women to be hairless while they don't do the bate minimum maintenance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:41 PM
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Because it's always the cheaters fault. You could be q literal goddess like Hera and some fuctard like Zeus would still cheat on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:47 PM
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Lol what? This is the most absurd text exchange I've seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:05 PM
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She will learn in her own time. This is exactly the reason why I don't do pickme rescues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:22 PM
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Great. You know when some dude brings his dick up so early into the conversation he's just looking for some easy action. I feel bad for whoever takes this bait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:50 PM
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And yet every single comment is about how this is not Islam. What is Islam if the majority of the followers oppress women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:13 PM
4

Ew why do women put up with such low standards. It makes men think that women having the 'bare minimum' standards is high maintenance. No is non negotiable and am not obligated to pleasure you. The bar is really on the floor with these women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:00 PM
7

Whose set up is this? I think my judgement on this depends on the couple I love pink and girly set ups. Even though this one is clearly trying too hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:34 AM
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This is the kind of red flags you ignore which gets you killed. Like that man who murdered his wife and 2infants so he could start again with his mistress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:48 AM
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This is so fucked up. I would be so devastated if this happened to me. I mean no one deserves to get an std, especially on a monogamous relationship where you think you are "safe" This is why relationships with LVM can ruin your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:15 AM
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Is it in india? Whenever I hear unbelievably fucked up situations, I think it's probably india or one of the Asian/Arab countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:59 AM
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She's only 18 and putting herself down. She's going to unnecessarily sleep with less attractive men, fall on love with fuckbois and have the same men call her a wh*re when she asks for commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:52 AM
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I think it's a good way to see if a man is worth spending any time on if he has pornhub premium or onlyfans account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:50 AM
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This is why they push the 'fetish' 'kink' narrative. So they can get away with depraved shit and pass it off as a link. Poor women end up feeling completely mentally and physically fucked over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 02:38 PM
10

I absolutely love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:00 AM
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I think the issue is where I come from women's sexuality is completely repressed. While men always get the free pass of pornography or even practice GFS the women needs to be pure and virginal. Even 'modern' woman who can be self-actualised, educated, liberal by all terms and definitions is still a xp cted to have repressed her sexuality and desire. The counter culture is this narrative is of the new age dating apps and hook up culture. The issu ofc is the sexual abuse that accompanies or the wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:49 AM
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The answer is already there. She just needs to re read what she's written.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:27 PM
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I agree with what you are saying though I have my reservations. At the end of the day I am not going to have casual sex because the risk reward pay off is not there. In a conservative country there is no winning. Exploring your sexuality comes with infinite risks and marriage is a whole other battlefield of patriarchy expectations. At the end of the day I am slowly realising that not exposing myself to such risky behavior is the ideal route. Thank you for taking the time to talk it out with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:52 PM
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When someone posts publically like it's a joke why isn't there a system to check their history. More and more children are being trafficked, child abuse is a growing problem exacerbated by pornography
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:15 PM
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Rich and powerful men are more likely to be LVM because they have so many things catered to them. It's funny because Elon Musks mother looks like HVW how she raised an LVM is a sad surprise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:20 AM
0

Except I am not talking about Madonna or whore at all? I am talking about exploring personal boundaries and in context that being inexperienced can be harmful as well. I am not denying the risks that sex possesses but can you not understand the perspective I am coming from. Because the fact that sex is risky and a woman should not have casual sex under any circumstances is what every man in my country will tell you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:56 AM
1

In order to maintain power, your MUST set terms and conditions for sex with you But how do you get there? The alternative to exploring your sexuality is stable, monogamous relationship where the man promises you commitment. In my country men will easily do this to sleep with you and perhaps a year in he will state caste and communal differences in why he can't be with you. There is no assured monogamy or commitment other than an actual wedding The “empowering” part is setting the demand for how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:53 AM
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That is true. But isn't the act of sex itself freeing? If all your life you've been told not to desire. The mere act of desiring and acting upon that desire can be empowering. Would it be different if you fooled around with him and knew he could get you off? I just have difficulty reconciling these vastly different povs because their points of intersection are alarming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:18 AM
0

Ok assuming that yes the sex could be potentially bad. But the bargaining chip is so intrinsically tied to vulnerability. The alternative would be to go the traditional marriage route. And yes most men in my culture would easily wait 4 months or even give you marriage if you are a virgin. But your value is entirely tied to your virginity and chastity. Furthermore how do you explore your sexuality without losing your chastity? How do you even know if you enjoy penetrative sex if you've never had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:09 AM
11

Yup for me the show ends when Barney and Robin get married. They live happy, child free lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:59 AM
33

It's true tho. If you give something away for free don't expect someone to pay more afterwards. Also, and I cannot emphasis this enough, DO NOT HAVE BABIES WITH NVM ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. Married, not engaged, not dating and especially not jn a situationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:13 AM
75

Lol servants get paid. Honestly there is not a term invented for a person like this because even the English language couldn't forsee this level of sheer entitlement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:10 AM
20

Also the reason why they didn't work out was because the writers wanted to give a "happy ending" to Ted and Robin undoing all the character development for both the characters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:55 AM
7

Seriously effed up and rife for abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:04 AM
1

Are you ignoring the risks that bc pills have or just stupid. Every form of bc catering to women are accompanied with a myriad of health concerns. Even moving on I like how you are blase about abortion, what about in countries and states that women don't have easy access to it? What do they do? Move borders? What if you are a poor college student Condoms are 97% effective but completely dependent on your partner using it. What if they don't? Stealthing is an alarming new phenomenon. Rape, abuse …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/20 05:06 AM
11

LVW are ultimately self sabotaging. Not only do they collectively bring down the value of women but they ultimately damage themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:39 PM
42

A fool and her money are easily parted. She's going to wake up in her late 30s and realise that she's lost her money and a good part of her life in a one-sided relationship. I hope the sex was worth it sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:55 AM
3

Yes but how much more identifiable is a picture to a name. Furthermore plenty of rape/roofie allegations exist, have those men had their photos in a publication? Even as am writing this it's funny that for a man to be accused to convicted of rape is so contingent on proof, even if the woman was drugged with physical scars. When it is theft it is so much easier to point towards the culprits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:16 AM
2

Are you Indian? Fyi you fit the stereotype to the tee
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 09:20 AM
27

I think I would struggle and build my career long term than sell my sexuality and appeal short term. Being a stripper, cam girl also closes the Avenue for many jobs, it removes you from the dating list of many, brings about ire and unwanted sexual advances etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:21 AM
8

Well in a relationship at least once a day (phone/video call). In the first stages of dating, constant texts. Greater than 48hrs means he's clearly not invested, so am out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:51 AM
7

Future HVM in the making. Happy mother's day 🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:24 AM
1

Ah makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 03:58 PM
12

You are pretty attractive. I have no idea why you don't get attention on OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 03:52 PM
17

Boss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:46 PM
39

This is why I feel no sympathy for them. They create their own hells
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:13 AM
1

Lol stay pressed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 11:06 AM
1

No one anyone's truly. Only time can have answers to that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 11:05 AM
1

Sorry there was one handsome guy at 29. He's still good-looking at 31 but took him off tinder hopefully permanently.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 10:23 AM
1

Somewhere depending on 7-8.5 depending on personality and other factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 10:22 AM
4

Tha ks for telling me this but I live in India so I know the cops wouldn't press charges (it's been 4 years since) and thankfully I am in a happy healthy relationship and have since realised my self worth. This is also why I love FDS because it honestly emphasis on validating how you feel and definitely gives you guidelines for how to weed out terrible men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:22 AM
5

Yea and you know no one would even consider this an assault. It was during.y pick me phase and I was looking to lose my v-card. After this i realised sex would be terrible (which was my general expectation of sex) and painful with this dude so I bailed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:00 AM
11

I think it's fun for a short time. When I was a kid I used to make my mom play tougher levels of mario while I watched. Even now I enjoy watching my younger cousin play (she's really good) I wouldn't consider as quality time together or whatever but it's just a mindless activity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:34 AM
69

I bet if it was a gif of a woman throwing things all of reddit would be like "make violence is ignored" "you wouldn't laught if it was a woman"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:57 AM
173

I love how pics fr the camera were released but you never see this when a woman is raped. Good to know a Rolex watch is worth more than a woman's body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:52 PM
35

Oh my God this just brought back some terrible memories. I went on a couple of dates with this guy, tall, doctor, very smart etc. So he dropped me back home after a date and kissed me. It was a mediocre kiss with way too much tongue and like 5mins in he shoved his hands inside my shirt and groped me. It was with zero finesse and it literally hurt my breasts. I went violated jumping out ofthe car and broke contact. I wish I was ruder to that douchebag but I was too nice!! What a jackass, if I cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:58 PM
3

Wow you are so stupid it blows my mind. You want a mommy sex slave who will love you unconditionally while you provide nothing for her. Everything in this world is a fucking transaction, if you can't pay the price don't play the game. The world is not structured so that all your needs are met like some mewling baby begging for some pussy. Take yourself out of the gene pool and don't procreate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 08:04 AM
1

I am with you on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 07:53 AM
55

Wow this is so pathetic I feel bad. Imagine wasting 6 years of your life on a man who didn't even give you the gf tag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:39 AM
16

Haha dm me the link. I will follow you on tiktok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:35 AM
228

What a hero. The kind of people who deserve to live and thrive gets taken too early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 02:52 AM
3

Oh god I didn't realise how hateful this community has become.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 02:39 AM
8

Yup pretty much. Especially with new men it is always a risk, gotta make sure I am not sending the 'wrong signals' by being too friendly etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 02:30 AM
6

Maybe instead of seeking relationships seek therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 02:07 AM
2

Lol what?!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:47 PM
4

I like my men sensitive but cross dressing is a whole other phenomenon. Also just because I support trans rights doesn't mean I find them attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:41 PM
1

Once we were making out in his car and it was raining heavily. One thing led to another and he ate me out. I think the fear of being caught while being so turned on had me almost shivering. Sexiest thing in bedroom was that "this is us forever" outside was something random when he said "you are my happy place" Sexiest thing he does is kinda rub against the pulse points ln my wrist. It's weird but I like slow repeated touches
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:24 PM
3

They could but they seldom won't. It's just the basics. When you build a rapport with someone for so long you have a much better idea of who they are as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 07:56 PM
5

Yes why FDS recommends waiting for 3-4months. She could have even been another statistic. But noo women having standards is the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 07:53 PM
3

Femcels can't get men as boyfriends or husband's. While yes men will fuck fuck anything they are way more pickier when it comes to dating and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 06:50 PM
3

It's a fallacy to ever expect any relationship to be truly equal. I want children and a partner who provides. Someone who thinks paying for dates is too much, is not going to be a stable provider for me and our children. Vetting is an effective process on who you want to procreate and who will take care of you during your period of vulnerability.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 06:48 PM
0

She's an attractive woman who makes valid points and won't fuck them. Can a woman be any worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 06:17 PM
2

Haha yes I can see from your comments that you are not entitled at all
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 06:10 PM
1

Haha good one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 06:04 PM
1

Listen bruh I come from an upper middle class family and probably will pick a guy who is from the same bg. Together along with some parental help ofc we would get a house. It's not being a gold digger that's how marriage works
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 06:01 PM
4

Yes the default is the man paying. Only after coming to reddit did I realise this "paying for dates"is a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:44 PM
3

Do you not talk to your dates, establish a rapport before meeting up?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:43 PM
5

Ok so you get sucked off by an intern anyway. So in both the situation the only difference is the better house?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:42 PM
2

Lol so do you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:03 PM
15

Dude it's amazing. I've seen post after post her subtly insulting black women and thinking that the mere fact that they are white and male gives them the pick of the lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:01 PM
2

Are you an orphan? What a tangent
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:56 PM
2

You can count on us to be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:55 PM
0

Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:55 PM
1

Sure you keep telling yourself that. While well adjusted HV will get married and procreate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:54 PM
0

And you need to make sense of what you are writing. Essentially you are agreeing with my pov
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:54 PM
1

Isn't that literally the way to treat someone like a queen, give more expect less. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:05 PM
2

Here's the thing he was the same way with his ex and if we don't work out, will be the same way with the next woman. He doesn't do this to gain brownie points he was brought up chivalrous and HV which is what makes him a catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:01 PM
4

That's where you are wrong. A man invested in a woman is HVM, not some douche who thinks paying for a date is simping.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:59 PM
1

Not at all, if you don't pay for the date you are not invested ie not the one for me. You are one of those guys who thinks attractive women shouldn't be self aware that they are attractive or they lose their charm, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:58 PM
5

Lol the alternate sounds like I will be slaving away in a tiny house while cooking and cleaning while my RP husband gets his dick sucked off by some hooker anyway. The mcmansion sounds way better
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:55 PM
3

Not black dude. Wtf??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:37 PM
8

Lol men who claims paying for dates makes them a "gold digger" are kind of the men who never have any gold to dig. I come from a well to do family and make money, I am not going to end up with a man who thinks paying for dates is gold digging. What a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:09 PM
2

Lol my bf who is qualified, from a well to do family and conventionally attractive, has never hesitated a moment before paying for dates. He is what I consider HV. Men like you are definitely not
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:07 PM
2

Once again a man who calls paying for his dates as a "treat" or wanting "femininity" as a value is not a man I would even have in my social circle. So it's not a loss for me or women who are like me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 03:02 PM
2

And you are not the kind of man I would want either. It's no surprise, any man who considers paying for his gf as a "treat" is definitely not the kind of man I would like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:46 PM
1

In context of a relationship a HV would be purely in terms of his investment towards me and later towards the potential relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:42 PM
1

Uh huh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:40 PM
2

Lol you must be a cheap date if dinner is all it takes for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 02:33 PM
1

Yea pretty much. Plenty of these strategies work and it encourages women to have standards. I can see why men would hate that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:39 AM
2

Why do you think that KPop is all the rage, asian men are doing well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:37 AM
13

That doesn't sound high value to me. Ultimately we clearly have differing opinions on what HV means.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:36 AM
14

Is using printed paper'good for you? I thought it was a terrible substitute for rolling paper as it burns too fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:35 AM
13

It's one of the qualifiers, to me it signifies a man's investment towards me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:33 AM
1

Lol I was 26 we had taken a hotel room. We went drinking to this really fancy place, came back, fooled around and slowly ended up having sex. It hurt really bad for almost 3days afterwards, and we had sex multiple times that day. I guess the good thing was the third time it didn't hurt as much. And obviously he was reassuring, understanding and very loving towards me during and afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:31 AM
2

Lol at the Johnny Bravo vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:25 AM
1

Ive already picked 2irl so going to stick with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:20 AM
1

Because a vast majority of men are the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:17 AM
2

What's your favourite food?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:15 AM
7

It sounds like you have a problem with people being black?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:15 AM
1

Kinda attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:09 AM
1

Attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:09 AM
6

Attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:08 AM
2

Attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:07 AM
2

That's exactly what I thought as well
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:07 AM
3

You are very attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:06 AM
1

Honestly who doesn't want validation. I would consider myself to be in a happy relationship and my bf validates me a lot. I send him my cooking pics during quarantine or even some pointless things I did and he always praises me. Flipside I love it when he sends me his gaming achievements. We don't exactly share hobbies but we are proud fo what the other person does. I think to be appreciative of your partner's gestures and also acknowledge their struggles is what makes a relationship happy. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:01 AM
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Pretty much. If you don't raise your personal standards then you will be the same 'whore' judged here while simultaneously being taken advantage of. I would rather be judged a high maintenance bitch over all this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:54 AM
0

I am already doing well in life. Thank you for the concern
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:50 AM
5

Oh yea they are shitty men. Duh. Entitled assholes who think their dicks are the biggest gift to offer women. Lol bet you are one of those men considering the reply. And to think I thought you had a valid criticism. LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:41 AM
62

So normal women? Ofc RP and incels hate normal looking women and feel they are entitled for some perfect Stacies
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:40 AM
1

That's pretty much on point. In fact I would say the rapid deterioration of western civilization would be authoritarianism. But ofc RP is just about getting their dick wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:36 AM
3

Whoa you are smoking. No wonder everyone here is so butthurt over you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:33 AM
4

Lol yes we totally do. Making fun of shitty people is basically all of reddit. But do link me to the specific post you are talking about because I don't understand the context.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:31 AM
0

Na that's for shitty people. Plenty of reddit threads dedicated to cringy people, FDS focusses on shitty men (and there are plenty).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:27 AM
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It's clearly a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:26 AM
1

What you truly wish is reality
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:14 AM
1

I think the msg is never SIMP for a man??!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:14 AM
13

Because they want to fuel their fantasy of women being the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:11 AM
13

Why is everyone so butthurt about what FDS posts? Yes because women having expectations or even fantasy is the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:10 AM
7

Yea I get that. That's exactly the kind of man who I would avoid dating. Someone who terms spending on your dates as "high maintenance"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:08 AM
1

Yup unless you are completely asocial it's relatively easy to date in India. Hooking up though would ofc be very difficult but it's ridiculously easy to seriously date in India even if you are an ugly man. I guess qualifications and such are of a greater importance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 10:07 AM
48

Yes that's the reality. I've never met people irl (thank god) who are so obsessed with body counts and who pays on dates. In fact never been on a date where the man didn't offer to pay. Goes on to show that the men here are truly low quality
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:29 AM
9

Low maintenance is not an attractive trait. I want someone who puts equal effort into the things I like just like I would do for them. Low maintenance people are the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:27 AM
3

Yea all of my male friends seem to have no issues dating. Even one of my cousins who I would consider below average (who's gained a lot of weight last year) has a gf now. I think men here must be particularly repulsive to not attract anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 08:11 AM
2

That song is so catchy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:55 AM
1

What's wrong with all of you for targetting users. I don't get you people at all
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 05:08 AM
10

Honestly you guys are honestly sick. I would not believe that your porn addled brains think this is reality
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:16 PM
5

Pity you can't do anything about your face
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:29 PM
31

The actual mommy gf art is gorgeous. I bet he nicked it from some tumblr artist uncredited. I bet these dumbfucks couldn't come up with art unlike the generic ugly anime girl below
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:41 PM
7

No because the only thing men vue from women is goodlooks first. He wants everything and more that a woman can provide but he wants a beautiful face and body to go with it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 03:17 PM
3

seen Seen you seemed to have missed the key word there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:15 PM
3

Even when I was a virgin I was very clear on my boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:10 PM
2

It's nice that all the men are complimenting you. You look average at best and that's me being nice
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:44 PM
7

Fucking someone is not the same as dating someone. Men have gotten their dicks stuck in clams so having a man fuck you is of no value
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:39 PM
1

Yea we were together for 1.5 yes and it's been a year since we got back together. Yes I understand the point you are making because the emotional investment is lower in this case. But honestly I would still give it a shot. I hope it works out for you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:02 AM
1

I cannot answer the former because I don't know her. You can only have the answers after you talk to her. My ex sent me a text something along the lines of "can we talk? I miss you and I think of you all the time. If I haven't lost my chance can we meet up. I promise I won't let anything get between us from now" am paraphrasing but something along these lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:56 AM
1

I think once you text her and later talk to her she will be open to meeting you if she sees a future. For now I recommend starting out with a heartfelt text
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:48 AM
1

Yes. Write her a thoughtful message and then call her up. And yes I've gotten back with my ex after he explained his pov to me and cleared the air about some misunderstandings.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:45 AM
1

Lol ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:38 AM
1

Personally I think it's because she thinks you are a dick and clearly using her for sex. And no isn't the whole sctick that men control commitment and women control sex. So yes men define the relationship usually and you are wrong about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:37 AM
1

If you have been dating for 3months why haven't you defined your relationship. My bf told me by 2nd date he was looking for something serious and asked me to be his gf by week3. How are you guys dating for 3months and not defining shit!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:34 AM
1

Nope because this sub is not irl. Very few and very attractive women get approached and bombarded by attention. If you are average you gotta develop a personality, be more approachable etc
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:26 AM
1

The girl in the pic looks like this south indian actress
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:22 AM
2

Lol yea I noticed. I have no idea why people want to follow me even
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:18 AM
18

Na the reality is men wouldn't give an ugly woman a chance. While women would because women are better. Cass in point the original statement about pretty women and ugly men. Come back when there are enough handsome men with ugly women and then I will agree with the statement women are shallower than men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 09:52 AM
22

they think they deserve better than average Except they totally do. How many handsome men have you seen with ugly women? There is next to none while plenty of women go for uggos
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 09:31 AM
23

I've never met a man who hasn't been extremely visual and shallow. I dunno which world you live in
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 09:14 AM
2

Ikr Stalin was a total hottie. Him and Che
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:42 AM
3

Lol gender critical does not want men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:25 AM
1

Na I want em live and fucking up his ugly face
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:11 AM
4

Lol you want infinite therapy fuck doll. It doesn't work that way and functional adults don't need constant reassurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:08 AM
2

I know this gorgeous girl who dates uggos. Of the three I know, the highschool one dumped her, the uni one cheated and the present one is verbally abusive. She's beautiful but has a really tragic childhood. The quote "we only accept the love we think we deserve" holds true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 06:00 AM
4

Must be easy for you because woman of all races have together decided not to fuck you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 05:12 AM
41

Eww especially at the rough sex and buys you things but doesn't want things. The entitlement level of these pornsick men are insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:38 AM
2

Boo hoo men have always won tbe infidelity match and women are closing in like the wage gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:24 AM
1

Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:22 AM
2

Nothing there is a reason why they are not in the gene pool Flipside there would be mandatory testing on who can be parents, way too much CP nowadays and horrible parents Children should be protected.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:22 AM
4

Because women are finally waking up the reality that men are the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:11 AM
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Honestly I had a great time on Bumble. I loved using funny pick-up lines and mist of the guys were super nice. The only issue was pretty soon I realised a lot of guys were looking for something casual even though their profile didn't specify the same. Overall the guys were way better on Bumble than tinder Also it's funny that men here are complaining about the lack of originality when 90% of the msgs I've received on tinder is hi or hey
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:05 AM
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What I find funny is the truly hypocritical nature of Indian men. The same men crying racism on international forums are the men who have their momies pick out fair, virgin brides. Also most likely the men who vastly tout their own caste superiority, they would game the system if they were on top. The only reason they are outraged is because white women won't fuck them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 03:34 AM
1

Lol why would they become hot if gender swapped. Ugly man would become an ugly woman and realise that being fucked is no great treat. Maybe we will finally have some female bombers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 03:06 AM
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I think you might be attracted to men if you think men are with worse looking women. Men have always focused more on visuals, if there is a choice between a hot but slightly mean chick and an average but super nice chick the dude is ALWAYS going to pick the hot one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:30 AM
2

Lol you know that's how incels make the news. By gunning down a bunch of unsuspecting victims
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:36 PM
8

Boo. All the nerd boys wanted Stacey just as much, they just didn't want to admit it. No one gives a fuck about ugly nerdy girls, they are dime a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:34 PM
1

Na he has a nice fat cock (bet it's bigger than yours)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:33 PM
1

My type has always been skinny guys, hell I could wrap my fingers around his scarecrow forearms. I like vulnerable men, I love it when my guy nuzzles me or lies on my lap after work. Never likes the alpha dominant types, don't like gym rats and definitely do not like stoic men. I like the romantic, clingy types who want monogamy and commitment. Am not white so ofc the blue eyed blonde Chad's never appealed to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 06:48 PM
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The thing is the best you can do is slightly above your looksmatch for women. Literally every woman I know from Stacy to Becky has known that you can't even score a looksmatch, if you are lucky a point above. Not only do men overestimate their attractiveness, they definitely care way more about looks. I know guys who would fuck an ugly chick but never be seen with her. Yet somehow all these men have convinced themselves that women are the vain ones when you hardly ever see a man settle for anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 06:40 PM
15

Na there are plenty of women who want the nerdy gamer type. Hell during my teens years I was so into a nerdy, pimpley gamer dude who didn't give a fuck about me. The girl he went for was Stacy. Though he did come out of the woodworks once I got hot just to hit on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 06:33 PM
8

Because they think getting laid is the end all be all. They are making the dessert the main course and are going to end up unfulfilled and unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 06:27 PM
10

Yup you are right. I assume most of them are basement dwellers or scream at women on dating apps for rejecting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 01:05 PM
5

I do not dislike any of the men I am close with which is my family, cousins and close friends. Plenty of gross men out there but thankfully I am a good judge of character and have been blessed with great friends all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 01:04 PM
151

Wow I hope the world doesn't spoil this kind young man and he continues growing up to be an HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:16 AM
2

Yup we are all about male robots and lesbian orgies for the future
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 10:23 PM
30

But how else would you be "empowered"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:55 PM
6

I wonder why men are so opposed to a female sub advocating having standards. Please do provide the screenshots for this weaponizing false accusations for advantage
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 09:54 PM
68

Such terrible advice all around. Reminds me of a story my bf told me about a terrible date he was on. Apparently after the date when he kinda withdrew she straight up invited him to her place. He declined and cut contact. It's such terrible advice to tell women to have sex straight up. It causes men to devalue you( other than the sti and physical risks). The story about the date makes me wonder how many women buy into the false narrative that early sex "locks down" a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:51 PM
128

I will tell you the secret. Don't have one night stands
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:43 PM
10

One threatens rape and violence while the other is about settling down and having babies with the right man. Goddammit how could I not see they are both the same!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 09:41 PM
3

How is FDS remotely similar to incels? The point is to settle with man! But I can see how having standards could be confusing. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 09:37 PM
8

Rich, conventionally attractive man who wants monogamy. If there was a polling on that definition of 'beta' every single woman you know would be lining up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 09:07 PM
9

I used to think my bf has "conservative" views but honestly that man is a saint compared to the men here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 09:04 PM
13

This sub has been flooded by incels. The "discussion"posts have become straight up absurd and women bashing. I've bern actively contemplating leaving this sub spare a few interesting posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 08:33 PM
2

Ffs I find the whole coming on the face extremely degrading. And somehow this shit is normalised now...wtf??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:59 AM
21

This is just sad. I think am gonna stop trying to date after 32, all these men sound absolutely awful. I think I would rather be single than end up with someone like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:54 AM
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Honestly my mom was always pretty bold. Over the years I've slowly indoctrined her to my way of thinking and actually she has a lot of FDS ideas ahead of her time. You can change someone only if the root is there. I think the essential thing would be to move away and b financially independent so that you can have your own views. 90% of desi women I know are total pick-mes, even some of my liberal educated friends fall into the trap of wanting to please a man. I think we definitely need to modify…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:32 PM
1

I don't know how you are raised but I cannot leave my parents at their old age to settle in a new country. Especially because I am an only child. Yup there are plenty of posts on HVM if you don't know enough about the sub don't argue about it. I do live in a liberal part but traditional values are still vastly enforced. In fact at the end of the day people don't even marry outside their subcastes. And no why are you assuming I am having sex with different men, I can hardly stand men let alone ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 04:52 PM
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So sorry to hear that. Listen if you ever want to talk or need support please PM me. My heart breaks for you and I can only offer you internet hugs. I hope you heal and grow. This will pass Op and you will thank the day this awful human being left your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:36 AM
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Why wouldn't you consider settling with a woman below you. Here you are preaching for woman to make sacrifices that I bet you wouldn't make. There are pl nty of average single women that you wouldn't even give a second glance because they are beneath you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 07:52 AM
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I haven't given up anything easily. Bleh like I would sleep with random men. At the very least my father raised me, why should I give up his name for some strangers. Look at the entitlement in your comment like you know anything about my life to make that assumption. I also like how you did not counter any of the points I made merely because there are no counter arguments. The only reason I would get married is because living as a single woman in my country and culture is next to impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 07:41 AM
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Na I am not the problem, I am a response to the problem which is male entitlement. Let me paint you a picture you are 12 and you haven't even thought of boys and one day a stranger on the road tells you to correct your neckline because what you are wearing is inappropriate. Or 13 when a random man grabs your ass at a temple. Or 16 when you hear of your classmate who had sex with her college aged bf because she loved him and 6months later her dumps her. And now she's crying in the classroom and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 06:04 AM
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Am assuming this is a massive troll. Because no one irl would be so cruel, inconsiderate and somehow still see himself as the victim....wait it's a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:01 PM
2

And yet here you are flaunting your degr you. Men are shallow, I've seen the cases, I've seen real life. There must be less than 1% of men who are genuinely good in relationships, even 20% is an estimate too high. But I've definitely seen some good men who are in relationships, the aim is to find someone like that. But even if I don't I do okay
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 05:25 PM
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Yup which is why men ain't shit. I have my assets locked down, plans for the future without him. I would be a fool of I trusted any man at any point of my life. Look at women who invest years in a relationship and get dumped jn their 30s. Women who built their husbands and get cheated on. Best thing for a woman to do is built herself up and be prepared for a good life regardless of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 05:23 PM
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I am dating someone who is conventionally attractive, from a wealthy family and earns significantly more than I do. And he is actually a good human being. Honestly who can be a "better guy" incels here who think a woman in 30 is post wall? Or that education in a woman doesn't matter? Why would I want a man who doesn't have any desired qualities and is still super picky. Fyi in many social circles a man is harshly judged and potentially disowned if he picks someone from a different socioeconomic …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 04:19 PM
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Well since you have neither I can see why you wouldn't flaunt it. I passed from the 2nd highest ranked Uni in my country and I make decent money. And men are shallow af, especially in the circles I am in. I am dating someone who I would perceive as HVM. You can be bitter all you want but doesn't matter if you can't do well irl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 04:06 PM
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Lol RP men is never going to be my go to. And I don't know a single man with a professional degree who hasn't married across. More importantly I am financially well off enough to be by myself Why would I waste my time on RP men who are barely qualified? Your answer is indicative that you don't have any desired qualities that would attract a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 02:28 PM
32

Eww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:01 PM
24

I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:20 PM
3

Aw. If that will steer me clear from RP men I am good
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 10:05 AM
9

Honestly am with you on this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 10:01 AM
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Na men ain't shit. So between two shitty options I would rather pick the hunk who can fuck me good without the emotional baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 09:54 AM
4

So the same as TRP without the good sex? What's the point exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 09:51 AM
0

I wonder how many of those men ended up being murdered. That studies look shady af(but also clearly abusive, think rape and domestic violence is double counting victims, also the impact of male domestic abuse and female domestic abuse is vastly different). But I will give you taht men have fewer resources maybe MRA should stop bitching about women and work on that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 09:23 AM
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Na these are the men who get married and stay married. I have two uncle's who fit this characteristic, they are also the ones in the happiest relationships. No smart woman would leave such a man, the kind of man you see raising your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 09:01 AM
3

Lol if I had such a sizable inheritance I would never date such a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:19 AM
3

Yes please. That's definitely a great idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:09 AM
2

Both my cousin and bff are married to HVM. They both met in college and had long relationships before getting married to them. I always thought my cousin was a pick me(but I was wrong as she clearly enforces boundaries in her relationship, she's just very diplomatic about them) but they have a very egalitarian relationship. Both the men work hard, are affectionate to them and very supportive of their wives choices. So there are definitely HVM, we just need to find them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:07 AM
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I bet there is past trauma there. Either the kitty got abused or saw the owner got abused. I knew a dog who hated men. She was a total sweetheart to all the girls who came to the house. The owner was a divorcee whose husband was abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:57 AM
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He definitely is HVM since you are not you wouldn't understand
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 07:29 AM
2

Haha why don't you read the news. Am sure you are TRP with the blatant validation seeking. Did mommy not love you enough??
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 07:11 AM
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You know why. Because the beta buck according to RP is the actual HVM. A good looking guy who wants commitment, children, wants to pool our resources and build a future together. A man with dreams and commitment. He's the real high value man that every woman wants to commit to. He's definitely not in this sub hating women and complaining he can't fuck and dump women like Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 07:10 AM
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The same things I have with a vagina a law degree, a good job, inherited wealth, good work ethic and great head from reviewers. Honestly if I were a man I would have easily found q nice woman who met my criteria and settled down. Now what would you have if you had a vagina. Your sense of entitlement would be immediately blown out of the water when you experience some ugly dude jackhammer you or shove your mouth down on his dick. Or better yet you play pick me for some TRP dude you helped "built …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 07:04 AM
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Nevertheless women who have the freedom of dating are not the type of women being oppressed - systemically or otherwise. The world is so easily black and white for you because you do not understand how oppression and being disadvantaged works. A bad date for a man is a woman making him spend money, a bad date for a woman is being cut into pieces that her body has to be returned in three separate bags. Mate selection is extremely crucial for woman. Look at the domestic violence and child abuse he…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 06:52 AM
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Cos Chad has the better dick. At least with Chad the expectations are upfront, why would I fuck a shitty TRP dude who is trying to Gaslight me into a situationships where I neither get the good sex or the commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 06:34 AM
2

Enough to be aware of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 06:10 AM
3

Na you definitely aren't. But what they described is also not a good man
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 05:49 AM
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I want marriage because legitimate children, we can pool our resources together and lead a better life, inheritance and other legal issues and most importantly I want to love and share my life with someone. With state enforced monogamy and sharing of resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 06:28 AM
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I've definitely been there. The minute he committed iw as all over him. Calling and texting and clinging on, he even subtly pointed out that I was being needy. But instead of handling it like an adult, I became emotional and more clingy. It was the breakup that woke me up. I finally looked at the relationship and wondered how the guy who promised "he would never leave me" leave me. There was so much self loathing that I had to process before I became okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:19 AM
37

What an NVM not even worth the space his texts occupy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:56 PM
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It's because Lib feminism has been shoving down porn is ok narrative. It's ok for men to consume, no one wants to wife the pornstar. And men are definitely not going to budge on that. But ofc feminist men who are ok with their GFS performance are the same men who "do not believe in monogamy" and "sexual boundaries" ultimately there js no winning for the women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:53 AM
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Yes ok so I might be on the paranoid side but these are the things I cross checked because I met my bf on OLD Checked his uni alumini listing Checked all his family members on social media as he doesn't have any social media Checked his car registration number to confirm if his name and approximate address was real Checked his workplaces social media employees public page Tbh quite an alarming number of information is publicly available. Might as well confirm. My cousin recently found her classm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:55 AM
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Damn dude this is me. I was cringing so hard reading this, am ashamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:32 AM
1

No it just means I can't tell my family and friends I've never had a child. Or tell my future husband I've never had a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 08:15 PM
1

No it means you cannot opt out
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 08:10 PM
1

No which part of you cannot undo things did you not understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 08:06 PM
1

A human being is not a mistake. If at 19 I had sex I cannot claim to be a virgin, if at 16 I murdered aman and was let go doesn't bring the dead man to life. Life doesn't undo things because time passes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:58 PM
1

I don't agree with that sentiment. And if OP wants to make the information public there is nothing wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:47 PM
1

Well hes not asking for financial assistance. He's only asking for a mere acknowledgement when he exists. You cannot deny something that has happened
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:40 PM
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No I don't think adoption system should be abolished but you can't refuse to acknowledge your child. If you didn't want a kid you could have chosen not to have the kid, once you had the kid you can't pretend the kid doesn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:29 PM
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I found it reddit hypocrisy at its finest. Also that "good" christian family is never going to make it to heaven if there was a christian God
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 06:33 PM
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I don't think you get to "opt out" once the kid is born. Honestly that thread enraged me. How dare they pretend this living breathing feeling person just disappear because the parents feel its inconvenient to acknowledge their mistake
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 06:30 PM
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This is like the best analysis of the situation I've seen. Kudos op
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 09:13 AM
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Lol so 5'5 irl then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 07:45 AM
8

Only on reddit I see these threads. All the women I know have had their exes resurface, or the fact that onlyfans has blown up. Where are these monk mode men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:44 AM
3

Yes and peace for women from creeps. Seems like a sweet deal for women too
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 05:39 AM
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Because I don't believe in arranged marriages or marriages in fact. The way I see it's a system set to exploit women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 05:38 AM
7

Says who?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 05:20 AM
2

Lmao I am pretty sure my job will sustain despite the bots. And if the kind of creeps who use toys would leave women alone in peace then I am waiting for the day sexbots hit the market place. vibrators have given women more satisfaction than men ever have
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 05:19 AM
2

You keep telling yourself that. As more women enter into workforce and slowly but steadily outearn men
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 05:10 AM
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Yea that's the thing. The competition on the market is insane for any job, which is why women taking a maternity leave is a huge career setback
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 05:09 AM
1

What exactly has COVID 19 changed? All the women in my lives have more men hitting on them, while I've heard more single male friends talk about loneliness. More women are employed in hospital industry while less women have died from the infection. So if you are claiming that female is the future then I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 04:47 AM
4

Lol sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 04:40 AM
9

I know someone who quit nursing and is struggling to get back to her field. So you are wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 04:29 AM
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Fall back to where exactly? A minimum wage job? Through which she can't support herself? Because no degree is going to get you a good job when you've been out of the workforce for months let alone years
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 03:06 AM
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Na you have no idea how the system works. My mom is a homemaker. Most of her life she cooked cleaned and did 100%of the chores while my dad purposefully kept money from her, made her borrow from her parents to pay bills, made sure anything she spent for herself was money she had. After I was born he could see my grandparents provide for me and further exploited them. There is a miniscule percentage of homemakers who don't face some sort of abuse. A vast majority of Indian women face abuse in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:58 AM
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This is such a textbook neg. Not worth your time responding smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:27 AM
7

Am not surprised. My S/O is richer than me and very sheltered. His world views are an epitome of entitlement and naivety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:38 PM
3

Yes my father. After retirement he's gained a lot of weight mostly because he loves to snack. It drives mom and me up the wall but what to do? It's not possible for him to gym, I would rather he do a bit more portion control. I constantly worry about his health. My s/o is on the skinnier side and I want him to gain a bit and eat healthier. If I ever get married to him I would definitely force him to eat healthier, preferably we would cook more meals at home. I am a good cook so I think I could c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 11:07 AM
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Red pill ideology as seen on PP has reinforced that vetting process for me. Personally it's made it clear that it's better to be single than find someone who believes in RP ideology and sees me as a lesser human being. It's also made me appreciate myS/O a lot more. I listen to his ideologies which I always found quite on the "conservative" side and realised he is not and leagues better than tons of guys in here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 10:55 AM
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I disagree with the divorce thing and the socioeconomic bit. I come from a middle to upper class family and guys are hella entitled. A class above me would be insane. Also in my country women stay with cheating wife beating husbands, a guy with a divorced mom is more likely to be empathetic. and also realise that women don't have to put up with shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:10 AM
1

Preferences are preferences dude. Like the entirety of this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 05:22 AM
2

Yes it really does. He likes all sorts of weird conspiracies which I brushed it off, but slowly I've been listening to them and they are pretty interesting. At the end of the day I think people putting in effort is what makes the video
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 06:55 PM
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Honestly their personality and relationship comparability was what I was looking out for. Other than surface level conversations Were they staunchly monogamous? Are they looking for something serious? Will they respect my boundaries? Are they enthusiastic about me? Me and my bf don't really have a lot of common hobbies. But ofcourse we grew up with similar backgrounds, actually maybe 2kms away from each other's house. I've been taking a low-key interest in his hobbies, the kind of books/podcasts…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 06:08 PM
1

Who is shaming anyone for preferences other than this thread. Which is staring that individuals should not prefer curvy woman and it is somehow wrong. At the end of the day ofc I can't date outside my preferences just like you can't. But neither can the preferences be unrealistic (in which case we can't date at all) or impose my preferences on somebody else (like saying thicc is not attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 06:01 PM
0

this entire post is aesthetics, definitely not about health.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:55 PM
3

Yup traditionally every marriage in my culture is paid entirely by the bride's family, other than insane amounts of gold, expensive clothes and "gifts" to the groom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:32 PM
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Yes but that's unrealistic and such as expectations would hurt anyone I end up dating. The key to loving someone is to start with reasonable expectation
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:09 PM
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Lol all you awful people on the thread is exactly why I vet men before sleeping with them. I don't expect my partner to be tall and super fit and the same applies to me. In fact in the real world I've met men and women(more women than men) who don't give a damn about looks. Next time you guys cry about no getting laid or women judging you for your heights realise that you are all shallower . The point of this post just seems to shame women and men who prefer thicc women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 02:23 PM
4

I think all the men in here definitely are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 02:15 PM
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Feminism does not need to focus on men's issues. Are you crazy? Do you not understand the point of feminism? Also no the ideal standards of beauty is based on fertility of the woman. And big breasts, ass, small waist, clear skin are indicators of that. I like how you picked japan, how about latin america or west indies. Do you think they have ever picked the petite woman trope? You've clearly picked and chosen your own personal biases against what the larger world considers attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 09:06 AM
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Men have always liked thicc women. Small waist, thick thighs, fat asses, big breasts were a part of greccian painting or Harappan figures of fertility. Even today the actual thicc body type that wins millions of insta followers are the same. It's big butt and flat stomach which is a genetic rarity plus exercise. Just plain fat women who are insta famous have a huge female following, they aren't prized for their beauty. You are crazy if you don't realise the unrealistic expectations of beauty imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 05:45 AM
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No way. I honestly would only date someone who has similar career goals and a teacher is really not upto par.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:58 PM
1

If you can't understand what I am saying then there is really no point in continuing this conversation. In brief I am stating that convincing someone of sex. Which is what the original statement was about is a bad take on the issue because male or female you shouldn't have to convince or whine a no into an yes. A no should be taken as a no at face value. What about these statements are so complex that it is evading your comprehension entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 02:55 PM
2

Isnt that what rp strategy is about. I distinctly remember this guy who kept trying to force this latina to sleep with him and then came on her despite her repeatedly saying she was not okay with it. When is verbal consent so blatantly ignored. A no is a no. That's preschool advice, if you can't follow what a literal toddler understands then you shouldn't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 02:46 PM
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Well then don't sleep with them. Raise your own damn standards instead of convincing someone. I highly doubt that someone who desires you wants you to force them. It is absurd and a rapists justification.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 02:24 PM
3

Completely you can constantly see men's expectations and the kind of women they hit on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 11:56 AM
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If someone wants to sleep with you they are not going to play games. All these strategies are to lure unsure, impressionable or vulnerable women into sleeping with you. Where she feels pressured because she hasn't mastered the art of saying no and feels disgusted afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 09:21 AM
3

Am not discounting his looks but am saying his personality adds to the charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 09:20 AM
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We've been dating for almost 2 years now♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:41 AM
8

Why do you want to sleep with someone who is not 100% into you. Someone who wants you instead of this weird phenomenon that you have to convince women to sleep with you. If you want true "alpha" ideology maybe that's what RP should preach. Don't sleep with someone unless they are eager and 100% into you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:21 AM
48

You know I remember thinking at 26 at how I had made out with random guys and been on dates but no one ever held my hands. I had a bf is highschool and several short month long "could bes". I remember feeling so hurt that in all the years no one had shown this basic level of comfort towards me. And then I went on this 2nd date with a guy at 27 and he asked me if he could hold my hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:19 AM
3

My so told me he was looking for a relationship by date 2. I honestly thought he was pulling my leg cos he's a good-looking dude. I've had friends tell me he looks like a flirt. Honestly he's the most committed, straight forward person I've met and the only person I've been attracted to. I think his honesty and emotional vulnerability what is so attractive about him, it's not just me he gets hit on constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:05 AM
19

Na I think kids like putting up stuff for social media like blogs. Even my younger cousins snapchat the most innocuous mundane things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:32 AM
123

HV parents produce good kids. This is why you should marry someone loving and considerate so you can lead by example
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:31 AM
16

Oh god this is a sentiment that only rapists have
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:22 AM
1

Na if desperate beta means kinder compassionate men that's what I would prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:13 AM
1

I don't agree on the paying for all dates or expensive dinner dates mostly because it doesn't translate to my country's dating culture at all. For starters I wouldn't go on dinner dates with someone I don't know very well. Also there js a lot of male entitlement for date paying. I live in a patriarchal country and most men by default will pay for dates. If am looking for someone more liberal taking turns to pay establishes more equality. Also though some concepts of HVM are universal, I also thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:11 AM
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Sex workers are highly exploited. Especially in countries without sufficient regulation on the matter so I disagree with the premise that sex work is mostly a choice. Furthermore individuals can be judged on their life choices. Personally I judge men who buy these services harsher
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:38 AM
81

Wow what toxic shit. Hope she grows tf up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:29 AM
4

Except that's not what the studies say
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 10:02 AM
8

Or men are more likely to be promiscuous than women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 09:33 AM
8

That's like 3red flags jn 3 sentences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:58 AM
42

Oh my god I actually laughed out loud at this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:45 AM
9

Because I've had a couple of friends who've had pleasurable experience with it. Also because I find the act interesting, and stimulation down there pleasurable. Ofcourse putting a dick up there might not be pleasure at all but I wanted to try and test it to make sure ( not worth the health risk I now realise)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:03 AM
29

God I can't even bring myself to feel bad for this woman. And this is why despite wanting to try Anal I would never (also to note my so thinks anal is disgusting and unhygienic)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:12 AM
1

You must have insanely low standards. That's not how the real world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:51 AM
1

Haha says who? Every single man I know from law school has married a peer or married someone from a wealthy background. Infact the women in my batch have married men from different fields unlike men Similarly even in rp the basic requirements are always feminine, modest, around or below 25, pretty to say the least. You must be operating under major delusions if you think men do not have preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:36 AM
3

Yes and if a woman expresses her emotions she's just as likely to be termed needy, clingy and hysterical. Most men and women who have unbridled emotions are punished. But ofc manosphere likes to imagine that they are the victims for everything. Also within the confines of a relationship you can be vulnerable, but not entirely for either gender. That's what friends are for. If your emotional well-being is entirely dependent on one person, the system will collapse when they leave. As witnessed by …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:26 AM
1

No because I want to be in the world where men are capable of such unconditional love
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:17 AM
1

Actually arranged marriages is a norm for LVM even in conservative cultures. So it's not the conversion aspect which is key but the arranged marriage aspect. Which even Hinduism has.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 07:11 PM
30

Na no HVW from this sub would do this. Probably an incel larping on how he thinks we speak, all this so he can put this data up on incel forums and cry about how easy women have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:50 AM
12

Wow this is brilliant. Goes on to show, everytime some woman justifies an NVM you know she's lying to us and herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:20 AM
7

Uh huh, you see that all the time. Men staying super fit with fat wives and never cheating. I would like to move into this dreamland of yours
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 01:51 AM
5

Put effort into the relationship. Maybe focusing on just the physicality is why the gym bros get dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 01:50 AM
22

Unsustainable effort into the first month of a relationship maybe. A year into a relationship is mostly parties balancing it out, if the effort is constantly on the decline the parties will lose interest. Sure the first month of working a job is exhausting, doesn't mean a year into you stop working and still expect to be employed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 01:48 AM
14

Yes but there is nothing that can be done. I had consistently told her why marriage was a bad idea, or why she should date mor but she was ve y insistent on why they would work. A lot of marriage drama is slowly but steadily loosing it's sheen. But she has rejected FDS and now choses to make sly remarks on my relationship instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:24 AM
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I tried introducing a friend to FDS and faced so much resistance. On questioning why she was so triggered it became pretty obvious that by FDS standards her husband was LVM and she was a pickmeisha( a fact that I knew) so clearly her impulse was to fight it.she couldn't formulate one coherent idea as to why FDS doesn't work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:02 AM
15

I completely disagree. Coming from India where most brides have to "wait" till marriage I've heard absolute horror stories. A lot of lvm lurk behind the garb of traditionalism to completely manipulate women. An inexperienced woman is easy prey, especially to a man who patriarchal society has conditioned to think superior. I cannot emphasise enough that waiting till marriage and a lot of traditional values are absolute bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:00 AM
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The thing with women bashing FDS are mostly triggered because it forces them to be introspective. It forces them to look at their own relationships and realise it's short comings. Instead of acknowledging that, they chose to lash out. Hope that LVM was worth it sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:51 AM
1

You wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:45 AM
1

In the hands of a few men. Even now one can argue that real power is in the hands of a few man. Dismantling power structures to an extent is what lead to the "American dream" the country where a lot of immigrants from Europe and to an extent Asia made it big
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:44 AM
0

It's there in the title?! Are you not reading what we are "debating" about
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:43 AM
1

Yes you know how society functions. Since projection is a thong, men want 20% can't get that so settle with whatever comes their way? Spare the bottom 20%
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:42 AM
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That's clearly not the point I am trying to make. I am saying dismantling or changing an existing system will come with issues. It won't crumble society, what will crumble society is authoritarianism. Concentration of power is never a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 04:46 AM
0

The same way you pulled out 80% number out of your ass
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 04:43 AM
1

Yes giving equal rights to any subjugated group will see pushback. What happened to labor when slavery was abolished or economies when colonialism was stopped. Giving rights will inevitable stop the free labor from exploitation. Isn't this common sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 03:31 AM
5

No to all of this. My social media is private, and any swipes or attention on dating sites seem pointless because I know for a fact men "like" and "mass swipe" on all accounts. So it's pointless to be validated by this sort of attention. I don't have casual sex and I was single for several years so male attention has never given me validation. That being said, as someone who grew up as an ugly duckling I am glad that I do not face hostility. Men treat unattractive women like shit, I know guys wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 02:40 AM
1

Na I don't like bodybuilders at all. Skinny to lean has always been my preference, sure lean with some muscles would be idea. But if the choice is between a ripped guy and a skinny guy with no muscles am gonna go with the skinny one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 02:14 AM
10

Well atleast you never have to do that again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:11 AM
1

The bottom 80% are not incels, if the bottom 80% of any society refuses to participate in society the society will crumble. You must be an idiot not to see that. Women are not rejecting 80%, women are rejecting the bottom 20%. Also regardless of whether patriarchy made them successful feminism didn't crumble their society, meaning the same values could be imposed on other countries without society falling apart
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:51 AM
3

If that is true then nothing in the post can be taken at any face value. Personally I don't believe men to be unselfish, if he's paying all her bills he might expect her to be obligated to him. That's not a dynamics I see myself in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:32 AM
136

Aita has been levelling up. They consistently call out age gap couples nowadays and yea this situationship deserves YTA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:10 AM
3

I am not offended at all. I am amused at the stupidity
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 08:02 AM
10

This is hilarious. Yes quit your job and remove yourself from the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 04:39 AM
31

Lol I have seen the opposite happening. Plenty of us have seen our exes emerge out of the woodworks, other than random msgs on insta. I've also seen casual acquaintances (mostly men) trying way harder to make conversation. We live in interesting times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 03:56 AM
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I am just so tired as a woman. As an indian woman everything is just a million times worse for us. Rape statistics is going to spike up drastically once this lockdown is removed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:24 AM
2

Mostly"pickmeishas" are previous reiterations of our past selves. Like a child reaching for the flames, you deride them because you know they are going to get burned.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:53 PM
2

You are wrong about Bezos being an hvm. He's rich but not HVM that's the key distinction. What makes a man HVM in a relationship will not be money, looks etc even though that's a n added bonus. Simply put an HVM would be a provided, committed to stay(the basics) Obama fulfils this imperative and Bezos does not( looking at Amazon he's in fact an awful human being as well)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:10 PM
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Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 04:10 PM
1

Perhaps this is also based on age and other factors. Tbh it could also be that she has had a liberal upbringing and th men who she intends to marry might have the same outlook
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 03:39 PM
1

I have no issues telling you what country I am from. I am from India (it's a big country with vast socioeconomic differences which is why I felt the need to emphasize the same)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 03:03 PM
2

Well I apologise for misunderstanding. As I stated it's not very uncommon where I live for women to wait till marriage to have sex. But I do come from a liberal circle where premarital sex is not frowned upon, but these things are also correlated to economic and social structures.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 02:50 PM
217

Good thing the woman saw the red flag and fled. He's such a jackass for exploiting the fear of a woman he allegedly loved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:33 PM
29

Same. I was of the opinion even before FDS but always felt conflicted because of "liberal feminism". I am so glad to have found this sub and have my feelings validated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:23 PM
2

If you start a statement with "granted I have a hard time believing" there is an implication that you need the party to prove what they are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 02:06 PM
2

Though I do not need to prove to internet strangers or justify my lifestyle choices. We do not live in the US, but none of us are religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 01:48 PM
2

All my friends are very qualified people so there was never a hookup/clubbing phase for us. So I don't think there is a distinction to be drawn on ONS and LTR. I guess the only way to conclude this is different folks different strokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 01:27 PM
0

I think you are wrong about this. I am a woman who has 90% female friends, not a single one of us has ever dated the "high n count" man. In fact a man like that would automatically be considered as "unsuitable for long term" and therefore "unattractive"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 12:46 PM
2

Nope you are wrong. That's a regular man NOT high value
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 12:39 PM
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An attractive man is not a high value man. To be high value would be someone who is a good provider, stable, and has good impulse control. A man who jumps from one woman to another is not high value at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 09:53 AM
2

Why don't you try communicating. Tell him "dude that sucks" or get on top and ride him at the pace you like?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 09:07 AM
7

To be honest I like being "good" in bed and that largely means pleasuring my partner. The same applies to him, consistently my so has taken care of this. Starting out because I had zero experience he was showing me the ropes, making sure I was comfortable and having fun. I think him being so considerate in bed has shown me that I should be considerate too. Isnt your partner having the time of their lives also a goal of sleeping with someone. Goes on to prove that TRP men are not the kind of men …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 09:02 AM
5

Yes women are a Hive mind. The only guys I've been attracted to are men who have been eager, established that they were looking for commitment and smart. That has consistently been "my type"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:55 AM
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Nope you are way off about that. A cheating man is a low value man, unless the woman is desperate and afraid to be on her own, she will not voluntarily chose to be with a man who cheats.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:49 AM
2

Lol yes one woman's cuckloading kink is every woman's judgement on men. Look at the divorce statistics for infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:47 AM
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Lol no woman looking for commitment will pick a guy who brags about his previous"conquests" that is almost an immediate red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:43 AM
11

Pretty much. I think most average to above average men have this option. Some more than others and I think the defining character would be men who do not make this choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 08:35 AM
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I feel like you have no idea what a high value man is. If we break down the biological imperative where men look for sex and women look for commitment. Then the high value of a man would be a man who provides that. The highest value would be a man who wants to stay, not forced to. A man who has the option but has the impulse control and commitment not to follow through.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 07:47 AM
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Men who cheat are low value. It shows a distinct lack of character and impulse control. If what a woman wants is a "provider" and 'father for the children" then a man who cheats is obviously the bad choice
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 07:27 AM
4

Am sorry are women on social media funding an industry that thrives on trafficking? Social media = porn is the biggest load of bs ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 06:08 AM
7

You are hilarious dude. I am kinda fascinated how someone can live under such delusions
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 05:58 AM
21

Wouldn't you want someone to let you know if your fiance was creeping on another girl. Extend the same curtsey to a fellow human being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:06 PM
20

Lol what if the dude who taught me to pick dude who bought me stuff?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:05 AM
13

The post is deleted now. Damn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:50 AM
2

By other men. Women are not the one killing men, yet women are getting killed by men. See the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 07:32 AM
16

Do not have babies unless you are prepared to be single mothers. Especially of you are NOT married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:00 AM
1

Whateven?!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 09:02 PM
2

Yes except it's different from the shit catered to men. Look at any erotic writing from tumne to Ao3,2which still has a huge female base and consume erotica on the regular
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:53 PM
-1

Lol whatever you tell yourself to sleep better
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 01:54 PM
0

It's really sad how pressed you are. I am well educated, in a relationship and have a uni degree job. I would make that offer to you rn except I already have a maid and she's more qualified than you probably. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 01:49 PM
0

Lol sure
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 01:44 PM
15

Meh like they say a fool and their money is always parted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:01 AM
10

No I know. As a lawyer I know that the pool of men don't improve with educational qualification or higher income. Value is associated with the person. I think we all face the blindspot that when we see a good looking man with good education we assume he's an HVM. More often than not that's not the case. Either way as awesome as you sound, don't settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:06 AM
1

They are not the same
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:02 AM
-1

Sure you keep telling yourself that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:02 AM
0

The fact that you are so pressed about FDS unprompted says volumes about you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:25 AM
23

No he's not an HVM. I know HVM who've turned down flings cos they were looking for something serious, they would never be jacking it to a girl they barely know on video. Also you are an attorney for God's sake you should have a better pool of men!! Please sort yourself out before you settle for some shitty dude who will end up draining your resources and soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 04:32 AM
1

To take the first step v to dominate is completely different. The only man I ever fell in love with is the one who asked me permission to hold my hands at 26. He's initiated but always been respectful with my boundaries. Ofc such men exist in plenty, just harder to find I guess cos most of them are not on reddit actively hating on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:21 AM
0

Oh god. Firstly so much narcissism in assuming what turns you on is universal yet unique that no woman could figure it out. Secondly from the tone and attitude you are the kind of man that FDS seeks to avoid. So you can keep your dick to yourself cos no one here wants it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:13 AM
1

Yes knowing what makes YOU tick has been every FDS woman's fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:16 AM
5

I think most sessions with my so have been great. But this one time we were lying in bed post sex, and I just started kissing his neck. The second round was just so incredibly hot and erotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:15 AM
1

The women are also Princesses and of noble birth. So I don't get your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 09:29 AM
1

Approached for a date has only happened a couple of times in socially appropriate settings. Though there was one memorable occasion where someone left a note to the waiter saying that I have a beautiful smile and to always keep smiling (which was nice)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 03:47 AM
13

It's never sudden, it is a culmination of shitty behaviour that women tolerate. It slowly piles up before it's bursts free and she realises she can't take it anymore. I am witnessing a couple rn where the wife is at her wits end. He ignores simple requests, refuses to do chores, expects her to cook clean while they both work. All he does is chill with friends and game. I know that she's going to leave his complacent ass
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 04:01 PM
5

I wouldn't care at all. I wouldn't care of they are prettier that me either. Honestly I just never ever want to meet them. My bf has had two LTRs before me and I never want to meet the other women he had loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 09:08 PM
27

This why picking out good friends is a basic life skill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:28 PM
-1

Yes ofc I wouldn't expect any different opinion from a misogynistic man anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 05:33 PM
-2

A lot of FDS women are in their early 20s. It's never too early to start establishing boundaries and self worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 04:48 PM
2

Yup HVM is basically a man who has coon decency to take care of their partner and themselves. A fact that reddit seems constantly shocked about. FDS also aims at being independent, finding such a man and marrying him. Seriously it's a terrible sub letting woman run astray and hating on poor men. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 04:15 PM
2

None of them are FDS woman are they? Are you unable to comprehend the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 04:12 PM
-2

No FDS woman will let any woman casually fuck her let alone in some alley. You've not understood the sub at all
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 04:11 PM
1

I live in a conservative country. So men expecting virgins is the norm than the outlier
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 08:17 AM
2

His dick is not going to be in me if I'm not wet enough. A miniscule percentage of women orgasm from penetrative sex. I wouldn't trust a dude who doesn't care if am aroused enough before getting to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 08:17 AM
2

I don't think anyone is owed to have their preferences spelled out. I like pretty boys, to me that trumps height and body structure. In fact I prefer skinny guys. I don't need to tell men that's my preference, if I have to reject someone I would say am dating someone or am not looking for anything right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 05:50 AM
3

I hope you don't let these insecurities hold you back. Mostly in sex everyone is present at the moment. If you are in bed with someone go with the flow and do what makes both of you feel good. Believe me when someone is enjoying sex they are not going to be thinking of other men or women in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 09:30 PM
3

I said women might prefer bigger dicks for ONS. I honestly think it's personal preferences. Either way you are average why are you worrying? I don't think anyone has been rejected for dick size unless they are super small
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 09:15 PM
13

What an adorable video. Warmed my heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 09:11 PM
3

Here's the thing what are you looking for? If it's romance, penis size is not a thought that occurs till you get to the point where you are ready for sex! One night stand yes thr woman would probably care about your dick size. But again there are personal preferences and woman who prefer avarage. So yea it's not an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 09:08 PM
3

I think the expectation is that it should be proportional is all. Tbh you have nothing to be worried about with average. Are you put off by s normal vagina? Or maybe super tight? maybe a dick has a same expectations. Unless you are an absolute dick no one ks going to be overly mean about that. I think unless you are below average no woman is going to kick you out of bed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 08:46 PM
1

Thank you girl. This is the kinda inspo I need in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:37 PM
21

Throw the whole man out and lose way more than this dear weight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:52 AM
6

Honestly it came up very organically in our conversation. I have a great ass so it's not the first time guys have "accidentally brought up" anal with me. But yea my bf said hes actually pretty grossed out by it. So it's never come up again other than me offering to peg him every now and then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:42 AM
3

Honestly most normal men don't, even after a brief break when me and my bf got back together he told me if I had slept with someone he didn't want to know. He was never impressed or saw it as something commendable that I didn't have an n count. Honestly most men obsessed with a woman's purity are definitely men you want to steer clear
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 07:46 PM
31

Oh thank god. After sleeping with this swamp moster she decided to level up to a goddess. Good for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:56 AM
8

There is just so many double standards in desi culture. The fact that my bff (highly qualified) was asked dowry, or another one of my friends who got dumped because his parents disagreed to her caste(5yrs in) and he got married to a pretty, much younger girl with heavy dowry. It is impossible to live in India and not be pink pilled. Yes and I completely agree with the shallow part. I've always been steadfast in the fact that I want to wake up next to someone and be happy when I see his face. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:55 AM
7

Or the fact that he only had one wife. Even parvati is considered the reincarnation of sati. Like a man who is hot, powerful and loyal. Is there even a better package?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:50 AM
2

I could not agree more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:49 AM
3

I find it so baffling you even have to ask this question. Yes women enjoy sex. Personally I need a deep emotional connection to truly enjoy letting go or being vulnerable but of course women enjoy sex. like duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 11:41 AM
7

This is the worst human being I've met online. Seriously, you know he's going to (and probably already has) shared his exes nudes. This is exactly why a vetting period is so necessary before you become intimate with someone. Imagine sleeping with someone like him and then finding out the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:08 AM
0

I am in my late 20s. I guess it's a combination of being conservative, not finding/ having a long term relationship that caused me to wait so long. ( Was in my my mid 20s when I lost my v card) If we breakup I don't think I can look back at our time without pain. Yes I would say my relationship fulfills all these criteria. Personally he's the only man I've loved romantically, the only person I imagined marriage and children with, the only person I've enjoyed being sexual with. Ofc i would surviv…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 09:14 PM
4

God I can only offer you internet hugs. I hope you are safe happy and healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 08:41 PM
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God you are the definition of an LVM. Your views are not special btw, billions of Indians, Arabs and Pakistanis have very similar misogynistic worldviews
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 08:35 PM
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Na sis Don't let one troll make you believe all men are trolls. You only need to find one good one
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 08:29 PM
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Walk out sis. You know he's going to project those unrealistic expectations onto you. Btw so many of insta models are photoshopped, do men not realise that big asses also come with stretch marks and cellulite most of the time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:41 PM
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Yes. I've only been in one serious relationship and I hope we end up married. If it wasn't commitment and marriage I wouldn't be in this relationship or any relationship. I was perfectly happy single.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 09:19 PM
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Yes so is my current bf. It is always the simple things that makes big differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 06:50 PM
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I wish people would learn to appreciate the other person in a relationship more. I was actively dating for a long time and I've met so many entitled and unappreciative people. It's not hard to show someone you care and better yet reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:36 PM
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Looks gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:55 AM
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In his statements? Are you unable to comprehend context. Edit: I see that you are
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 04:33 AM
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And I am making observations as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 04:28 AM
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And women do the same thing. Do you think women don't have the fear of missing out? Or the fact that many women are told that having sex early on will attract the liberated man, or even that sex by 3rd date is a prerequisite?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 04:27 AM
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I wouldn't want to be with any man who judges me over my past Seems fair. I would definitely judge a man for his past so he can judge mine as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 03:29 AM
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To quote Jigsaw stand-up special you have to love yourself 100% so that the person, if you love yourself just 20 and find a person who lives you at 40% you would think that they love you while they love less than half of you. You've indulged in ONS so should the woman who wants a relationship with you expect a "seductive scarlet women" or some unattainable "maniac pixie dreamgirl" you chased and didn't get so you settled for her? Your post reeks of double standards. You expect some untouched vir…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 03:28 AM
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Because we live in a society. Women are conditioned way more to be normative than men, social conditioning of women have been studied. Women are more likely to be gatekeepers in social circles and men will more likely consider you unsuitable for LTR(a fact that has been time and time again discussed on this sub) Thus regardless of how you interpret these are the rules of the society we live in. And society is not kind to "sexually liberated" women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 03:14 AM
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I am always dumbfounded by this competition men seem to have with invisible men. The focus of dating should be inwards, if a guy dumps me I don't think there must a better girl out there who he would commit too, I think he wasn't worth my time and move on. As for personal boundaries for attraction I will not fault you for that because I dislike men who engage in multiple ons because it shows a lack of emotional connect to sex. I wouldn't say that criteria is unreasonable but to want to engage in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 02:54 AM
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Yes women are more picky. Casual sex can come with unplanned pregnancy, STDs and general social shaming. I don't understand even the miniscule percentage of women who do have casual sex tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 02:33 AM
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Listening to you talk here is pretty indicative of why women don't like you. Bi woman who has dated both sexes, it is easier to be emotionally and physically fulfilled by women. But I like dicks as well so sometimes I put up with shit because it's easier
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 02:32 AM
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That's the answer then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 02:29 AM
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And she's been settling ever since. This is why married women are unhappier than single women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:12 AM
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I am 5'7 so taller than me has been my requirement. Ideally someone 5'11 and up just because the visuals of us a couple is more striking that way. That being said am in a LTR with someone who is 5'8.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 03:12 AM
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For me it's pretty much the same guys I know, they are just texting more often. A couple of them aren't even flirty I think most of them are bored and see me as a "safe" friend because I am in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:33 AM
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Ew I would rather shoot myself that put through the task of making lists and giving point systems. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:55 AM
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Wow this is why you should have children be raised by HVM. They make life better for everyone around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:47 AM
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Reminds me of this statement I read that red flags are supposed to be obvious. This guy is just that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:55 AM
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Some people aren't on social media which in itself is not a red flag. My S/O isn't on any social media but because I am a paranoid lawyer I cross checked all his info with other sources and managed to find his family's accounts. I met him on OLD so I wanted to make sure he wasn't married. So the lack of social media isn't a red flag and I would say that's an HVM trait if he isn't. However try and check info on him if you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:41 AM
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Yes and I don't care about men who don't care about these things. I am blown away by people even debating this, I graduated from a prestigious university and other than a few people literally everyone from my profession has married someone from the same stream. My long term ex who was a doctor ended up marrying a doctor. People in high profile jobs pics their partners with similar education level.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 06:17 PM
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Erm why would I? I hav dated men who fit my criteria and am dating men. So let's see, like I said the point of FDS is to set your boundaries and find a man who fits into them. Nothing wrong with that when there are plenty of HVM out there. You just need to filter them better
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 09:37 AM
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C. Men don't assign high values to any of the things you mentioned. There you go. We don't want men who don't want well educated, independent women and we don't want men who cannot bring to the table the same things we do. You realise you and I are gunning for different groups. We want articulate, kind men who fulfill our needs and who feel their needs are fulfilled by us. If you don't fit into that category why are you arguing with me. By FDS standards you are LVM and not what am looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 08:35 AM
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Nope am with you on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 08:06 AM
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Higher earner and massive weddings have never been feminist concepts fyi. The point of FDS is not find a high earner it's to find a man who will care for you. At the moment what women bring to the table is good income, good education, attraction, caring and fidelity. Why is it so impossible for a man to bring the same. If he's not bringing what you bring to the table or counterbalance it why even go for commitment. Sounds like a valid statement to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 07:39 AM
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There is no rule book. You figure it out for yourself and it you fail you fucked up. Look at women who were in LTR and never got married (and now desperate) or women who got knocked up. They didn't "pass" the system and now are considered "bad catches" same applies for men. If you are not HVM you don't get women of the same calibre what's so unfair in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 06:48 AM
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Yes, the point I am making is that the burden falls on the woman regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 06:33 AM
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Your therapist claiming not to understand you means you need to get a new therapist. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and make you happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:05 AM
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Am with you on this as well. Disregarding one facet for another will always be detrimental. Also a point to note that the same dude who held my hand was physically my type and conventionally attractive. You don't have to sacrifice on looks to get a good guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:28 PM
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You know the first time that video came out I thought "there must be a reason why a sister would attack her bil" turns out I was right. He needed to be smacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:51 AM
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Yup some very attractive guys are just not "boyfriend material". After uni, I briefly dated a guy who had modelling gigs. Even though he was very attractive, he was also unfiltered, a little dumb and kinda entitled. It's fun when you are fooling around with someone but the criteria for men I want to be in a relationship with is always higher. He eventually wanted commitment and I blocked him. He became very persistent and made some threatening statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 02:28 AM
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Lmao yes equal rights and wanting sex from women is the same. This is why my criteria for dating men irl is not dweebs who use reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 04:19 PM
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Lmao like I will take advice on mental and physical well being for someone who does that for a living. It's a bit like a gymnast advising you a ametur on what an acceptable routine is. When you never want to be a gymnast in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:16 PM
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Completely with you on this. I think attraction is so based on how they treat you as well. The guy who asked permission to hold my hands (at 27) turned out to be my best kiss. That being said I am attracted to faces over bodies. Foxy eyes, high cheekbone, clear skin, thick eyebrows and preferably big hands...oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 02:05 PM
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It's genuinely adorable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:20 AM
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He's a total POS. He's not even close to being a hVM. And please stop putting yourself down, you are only 29. You are unmarried, attractive, good person and great prospects ahead. You list out what qualities you want in a man and date till you find someone who fills them. Be ruthless, built yourself up. And please for the love of God see this asshole of a man for who he is. A cheating whore who manipulated you, gaslit you, put you down. You think he's going to happily marry someone and remain fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:22 AM
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So it's an effective strategy to eliminate the 'unmateable'
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 03:42 AM
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Also women survive corona than men. Are you saying it's an effective strategy to kill Chad's as they are the ones getting laid during this time?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 03:28 AM
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If you are looking for internet validation against people who know you and your relationship irl. Then you know you are doing something wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:58 PM
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Honestly I feel the same way. Though I would rather adopt children than have bio ones. My country allows single mothers to adopt. And in this current climate I would be just as happy raising a child regardless of whether I gave birth to her It's a hard thing for a woman like me to accept especially because I've always had strong maternal instincts and had this notion of a husband and a daughter etched into her brain. But slowly am seeing the value of having a better life for me and my kid(future…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:47 AM
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Sounds awful iam glad you are in a better place both physically and mentally. And from the sound of it he sounds like a classic LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:24 AM
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Hey you can get better orgasms with a vibe in any case. Either way it's all for the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:53 AM
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I really wish I could reach over and hug you. I am settling for internet hugs. I hope the only time your eyes fill up with tears during sex is because you feel loved and connected to the other person that it's an emotional experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:48 AM
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Good for you sis. And consider it just a facet of your past, don't let that get you down or determine your self worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:38 AM
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Honestly I feel the same way. Also about men who continue to flirt with you after you state that you are committed. They are not disrespecting the relationship they are disrespecting you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:37 AM
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Do you lack reading comprehension. I am stating that I wasn't attracted to them. I realise that you want nothing ti shake your fragile worldview but that shouldn't prevent you from reading and understanding statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 02:05 AM
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But that's the point am making. Here op is claiming that he wants women who are extremely attracted to him from the get go, yet I've men pursue me purely for the fact that I was not attracted to them from the get go
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 01:47 AM
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Tbh I wonder if men actually want that. I've notably been pursued by two men, both of them have been good looking and am sure offered casual sex. In both the cases they seemed more 'into' me after the realisation that I was not looking for an ONS or was attracted to them. I am just 6 on a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 01:34 AM
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Well I am well educated, earn good money, am well read, a decent conversationalist if you share my interests, open to new hobbies, good cook, and a generally affectionate person (to my tight list of loved ones) I am also from an upper middle class family and is set to inherit property and gold (obviously as an indian woman) What I expect from my partner is similar in terms of education, family wealth, open mindedness and a good temperament.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 04:55 PM
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That sounds like a legit dream. You are right, this conversation really opened my eyes to some obvious red flags I've been ignoring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 04:40 AM
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Thank you. I do have a safety plan in place with a new job ( though at the moment that prospect is looking bleak). I think approaching 30 and living in a conservative country with everyone telling me I am past my expiry date has really been messing with my head. The thought that I may have no option at all, while with the mere virtue of being a man (with good looks and money) entails him way more options than me. All these thoughts have been weighing heavily on my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:09 PM
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I think it's taken me off guard because we've been upfront about our goals and expectations. But as year2 is approaching and the time to make concrete plans for the future such signs become huge red flags. I've also noticed that he's not proactive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:39 PM
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He thinks she's too young to marry (she's 27) he also made a statement on why he always thought marrying before 30 was a bad idea. (He's 31)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:34 PM
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Sorry I missed an end dot. It was 1.5 yrs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:33 PM
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That's true. I should focus on other things as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:26 PM
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I agree, his style of confrontation has really shown this LVM side. It's pretty recent behaviour tbh( we've been together for 1.5yrs) which brings definite doubts about him talking me for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:25 PM
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Yes but I guess my questions were more in tune with the statement. Like follow up questions, like why do you feel that about so and so incident etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:23 PM
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I made a statement on why he felt cohabitation was a bad idea for engaged couples. He has been acting prissy ever since his sister got engaged and seemed to be of the opinion that it's "too soon for marriage" He also refused to answer when I asked if it bothered him that I was so anxious most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:21 PM
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What a terrible human being. Like I have no words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:47 AM
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God when did common decency become a standard eve. There isn't a single acquaintance in my life whom o would tolerate such a behaviour from. Let alone my bf?!! Why do women allow themselves to be treated so terribly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:03 AM
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I definitely agree with this sentiment. There were men I actively pursued during my pick-me days who were objectively worse looking than me and still treated me badly. And still I've been with and been pursued by men who are much better looking and high achieving than the men I've pursued. Always raise your bar than lower them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:50 AM
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I completely agree. I used to think this was a compliment till I realised it was not. I might get flack for this but if you are "difficult to love" you know the people who stick around actually love you. People who put in consistent effort into the relationship are the ones who stay. That's why the woman playing mommy/wife to the manchild cooking and cleaning has difficulty leaving while the dude who plays videogames and forgets his GFS birthday does not have difficulty cheating bor leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:06 AM
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Correct me if I am wrong but wouldn't a normal relationship combine all 5. Sure you can prioritise something but that should not be the only way you express affection. Like mine is words of affirmation but my s/o is touch. So after arguments I want to reassure and receive words in kind while my s/o wants to hold hands or cuddle. We do both. He's not expressive and I am not affectionate but I think we communicate so that both of our needs are met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:31 AM
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Honestly multiple times a day. If a guy doesn't text me and keep in touch immediately after a date I am going to assume he's not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:01 AM
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So for relationships with no children female cheating is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 02:19 AM
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I completely agree. My current bf is miles better than all my crushes. Notably crushes who rejected me. In highschool I had a boy run away from me because he knew I had a crush on him. (I had my glow up post Uni which is what makes the wall laughable to me) But when I look at my bf and all the idiots who rejected me I feel shocked. Cos he's the kinda guy whose constantly telling me how attractive he finds me and keeps trying to find excuses to touch me. Looks honestly is such an subjective param…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 04:12 AM
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I rolled my eyes so much that I gave myself a headache
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:29 PM
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I am gonna say 3 years with my current relationship where within 2.5 years I expect some confirmation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:29 PM
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This is beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 06:27 PM
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A lot of these advises are things my mom talked about. Except I live in a conservative country so it just sounded like traditionalism. Liberal Feminism appealed because it was so diverse from any advise I had ever listened to. Slowly I started seeing the cracks, as more and more of my friends fell into unhappy cycles and unhealthy relationships. "Liberal feminist men" used the same "woke" tactics to Gaslight us and settle into worse situationships. I am glad for FDS because it made me realise ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:19 PM
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Beyond everything this was just sad. I legitimately felt her lack of support and love from anyone. And that despite not expecting the bare minimum humanity from her husband she still loves him. I can't even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:13 AM
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I think society conditions us to take on all the responsibility. I've seen most women in my family take on 90% of responsibility and men somehow still respected. I've only known a few couples in my family where the guy takes up chores and even in those relationships they cheat. Yet somehow it's a considered taboo to be unmarried in my country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:46 AM
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Imagine being married to this dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:16 PM
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UGH even if I mind melded into some shitty hybrid I would find out men who think like this and not have sex with them. You sound gross and immature!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/20 09:52 AM
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Will you love a woman unconditionally. Just because she exists. She doesn't have to be pretty or smart or do chores. She just exists and you love her unconditionally. You realize that's absurd right. You want a woman who does things for you yet you want to be loved unconditionally. I wonder what goes on your brain. I really do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 04:21 AM
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I completely agree. I remember reading a study that showed people who throw things and express outward violence as a sign of anger are also more likely to harm others/hit others. Isn't that the same logic a guy with sex dolls of little children is going to escalate with the real thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:10 AM
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You can start by looking at men who like the "teen" category on porn sites. I may get downvoted for this, but I've always found it disgusting that somehow it's normalized to watch 18year old do degrading things like a week makes her magically grown up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:08 AM
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Honestly these are the only brands I've heard of. I've only recently tried them because they are available online and they are quite good. I wish I lived in a country where it was more accessible to get good chocolates because I absolutely love them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:47 AM
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As someone who is Indian, let me tell you the casual sexism in the country is astounding. I've had uncle's who spend their entire lives with their wives catering to every whims and needs tell me why I need a man in my life. Or my grandmother advising my cousin to "lower her standards".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:36 AM
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Wow just wow. But in a lot of traditional Indian households the men and children would be served while the woman would eat last. I like how tradcon takes the worst aspects of traditional culture and makes it worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:56 PM
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If you are sharing a story on the internet be prepared to hear both sides of it. You've called the man a low value but why is your friend outside the purview of judgement? Regardless of whether you agree of it, that's the reality of the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:47 PM
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generic Lindt or Godiva It's funny you would mention these because they are imported chocolates in my country so better quality and more expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:40 PM
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I never had doubts about his commitment to me. After our second date he told me he was looking for something serious. There was a week long break because I was out of town but he texted me and then kept the conversation going. Before I moved back(a month later) he asked me to be his gf. He picks me up for all our dates (ofc even though I have a car and can drive) and the first thing he does is kiss my hands. We've been dating for a year and a half and every date till now(whether we are angry, ir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:38 PM
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Op says people but you know it's men buying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:12 AM
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By men. The violence against men is by men, so is violence against women. So please don't wait for the sympathy tears when violent men kill others and then themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 10:03 AM
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Op you are the one calling them HVW or LVW not me. So you judging other women would make you an LVM right?! You have diverted from your point and are not addressing any issues I've raised. It's pointless to argue with someone who is clearly obstinate so adios. Good luck finding your pornstar HVW.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 06:07 AM
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Don't respond. That's it, no point in engaging time-wasters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:41 AM
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Not to be harsh but your friend sounds like a LVW. Knocked up, poly harem cult and with an unmarried dude a decade younger. What was the expected outcome here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:28 AM
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Lol so according to you women who act in porn are HVW and women who oppose it are LVW. "It increases men's expectations" It decreases the pleasure that women experience. Hardly any woman wants to be chocked, spat or slapped during sex and yet it's normalized. More and more woman are realising how fucked up these practises are and there is no fault with these women choosing to distance themselves from men who watch them. I have it on good authority (from certain female centered subs) that there a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 05:00 AM
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No one is jealous of porn op, and most men who obsessively consume porn are not desirable partners. There are so many objections to porn ranging from the exploitative nature of the industry to the normalisation of violence against women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 04:24 AM
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Has the therapy helped with your stagnation. Have you made concrete changes in your life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:21 AM
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I am 29 and am nearing the 2nd year of my relationship. Even though we've talked about marriage I don't see him making any concrete steps towards it. Worse yet am in a bad place in my career and tbh I would rather focus on that than marriage. Yet it bothers me that nothing in my life seems moving ahead. What should I do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:24 AM
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Yes. Am looking for something long term. Anything that doesn't lead to marriage is a waste of my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 09:48 AM
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This proving the point of male entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 06:12 AM
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Honestly I feel bad for the pickmeishas convincing themselves that size doesn't matter. I've only started having sex and the feel of something thick filling you up is perfect. If a dude doesn't have that why are you even having sex with men. Also bigger dicks are so visually appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:41 AM
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Except the burden of carrying and raising a child will be on the women. Other than the emotional support ofc. The consequences for a wan choosing a wrong man is way higher
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 03:57 PM
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I shave, sometimes I just trim. Personally do what makes you feel comfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:18 PM
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It's like none of you have experienced love or been in relationships. It's an adjustment where both of you try your very best. If you are both constantly trying to make it work- upkeep and maintenance -the relationship will flourish. If either party gives up or stops trying the relationship will break down. If you want to be a baby and complain about how unfair life is. Take yourself out of the game because you are not winning anything. Only try to date if you are willing to be invested, engaged…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 08:29 AM
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Do you know how ma first dates I've been on before finding my S/O. Finding a half decent man among the sea of awful awful men was a massive task. No way I want a harem. Just one good man that I can be monogamous with is more than enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 05:16 AM
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When I was a virgin I never understood these sexual assault claims where the woman was naked and in bed. When I actually started having sex I realised that there are so many variables, sometimes it hurts, sometimes you get turned off, Sometimes it just hurts. Once I was in bed with my SO and it hurt too much. I asked him to stop and he did instantly. When I apologised he seemed completely taken aback. Instead of whining about it or pressuring me to do more we just laid in bed and held each other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:01 AM
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Ew no.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 04:51 AM
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They can't. Unmarried women on average earn better and are happier. No matter how red pillers like to frame that the world gets destroyed of you hit your 30s without getting married, it doesn't. Women should strive to be better and independent, that's almost common sense advise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 04:38 AM
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Pretty much this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 04:36 AM
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Lol I would also like to add that divorce is highly frowned upon. Your wife could completely alienate you and you can do nothing. The court system favours women a lot and it's very hard to men to get a divorce if a woman is opposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:12 PM
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You live and learn sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:49 AM
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Thank you for this. I get more and more disillusioned with me and don't see the point of being with someone. Marriage sounds like a trap to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:08 AM
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Lol I bet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 07:57 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 07:52 PM
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It made my heart hurt because I can relate. Sometimes we are told to rely on ourselves when we are young, we kearn it as keep your expectations low. As a daughter of an absentee, disappointing father I've always known that men are unreliable. But often in relationships that translated to expectations kept low and still being disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:36 PM
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Are you the collective of the average teen girl? A spirit encompassing all their collective experiences? Is that why you feel my statement is untrue. Otherwise STFU
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 06:23 AM
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I feel like the movie went against the tenants of the book. The whole point of the book was that people don't change so don't expect miracles and settle for a shitty situation. If a guy hasn't proposed in 7years he's not going to propose, if a guy hasn't called you he's not going to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 06:17 AM
1

What is the payoff? Fucking men? That's never been the end goal for women. For most women it would be to find someone to marry and just makeup and looking slim will not land you someone for ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 03:52 AM
1

Have you gotten that looked at? I had ulcers a few years back and felt the same. Especially if you are subjected to stressful situations irl
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 07:12 PM
1

Ugh don't even. I would be so jealous of that kinda skinny aesthetic. Am naturally on the curvier side so losing weight proportionally is an actual task. I eat junk for two days in a row and I can feel my jeans get tighter
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 06:46 PM
2

Yup am with you on this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:37 PM
2

I want someone who wants me like I want him. I want to be loved and adored. I also want someone who will engage me intellectually, who has his passions and interests. I want someone who I can cuddle and love and adore without the fear of being cheated on or walked out on. Someone who won't take advantage of my nurturing side. A monogamous forever that we both work towards and open communication. Where we built and grow towards being better to both each other and the people around us.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 06:26 AM
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I bet it's india. By the way this girl is pickmeisha extraordinaire because she's choosing a man who isn't picking her. He must have been cheating with his fiance for months. I know two couples who had the same religious differences with the parents threatening disowning. Both of them stuck to their grounds and one of the them have gotten married while the other couple in their 30s have not married anyone else. They are hoping to wear their parents down. This guy is a spineless coward who led th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:54 AM
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Indian and I only find indian men attractive. I don't do flings so I have no preference in that. While I do find men of other races attractive, have never dated them and probably never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:36 AM
1

Lol if paying for the first date is gold digging then you don't have any gold to dig.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:15 AM
2

Like i said easy filtering out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:10 AM
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Na you are confusing attractive woman with an average woman. Most average women face the same things I've responded with. They get ignored during their teenage years, hardly any man asks them out, they develop crushes and get rejected. Men are not special for experiencing this, this is everyone's experience. Also men can be way harsher in their rejection than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:07 AM
1

Lol I am always amused by the "can't pay your bills argument". It always helps filter out men who can provide at the first instance. I want a man who I intend to marry and have children with, the first instance of him being a good provider is putting his best foot forward and paying for a date. If a man is unable to do that then he's clearly not a man I want to be with. It is as simple as that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:04 AM
1

Clearly you don't understand FDS. One of the core principles has always been to be financed independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 04:57 AM
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What is the end result both subs are promoting? FDS monogamous, self worth and finding someone you can marry and love. Redpill fucking as many women as you can. Who is the villain here?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 02:20 AM
1

Eh the point is not to land a rich man. The point is to find a man that cares about you. Big difference
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 02:19 AM
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Lol so cheating is male nature and acceptable but somehow woman looking for the best isn't? Whether you are a ride or die bitch or a gold digger according to you men will cheat. So what possible benifits does she have going for the broke dude. Many years of struggle and then unexpected infidelity? Where is the winning scenario for the woman here at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 02:08 AM
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Lol what is this Bob the builder bs? Noone gives a fuck about your struggles without the end result. I was an ugly duckling growing up, there were phases in my life that I could have been the "ride or die" kinda women. Guys didn't give a fuck. Not only did men ignore me but with the limited interactions I've had with them they were mean. I build myself from ground up, tomorrow if I gain 30 pounds and stop putting in effort the same thing will happen In what fairyland did you grown up that women …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:59 AM
3

I think I am somewhere between preparation and change. Right now rather than my relationship my fear has been about being stuck in a dead-end job while I hit my 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:05 PM
2

As a curvy woman (like medium on top and XL bottom) I've noticed that more confident extroverted men are more interested in me. It could be a factor that I have a very cold demeanor. Regardless most of the men have been on the pushier, aggressive side.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:58 PM
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It's funny that my type has always be super skinny in contrast to my bodyshape. The guys who've pursued me have always been the cocky sorts while I prefer shy, introverted types. The one dude who fit my criteria and was super persistent was also uber confident. Never got why he was so till he took off his pants. Sure it's just one story but from what I hear from my friends this alpha/cocky phenomenon has some truth to it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:49 PM
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With my limited sample size I can't disagree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:44 PM
2

Isn't it more of a question for men considering hardly any women orgasm in piv sex and men don't seem to care. To your question I would be very annoyed. What's the point of sex even if one of the parties is not enjoying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 05:44 PM
1

Also what you define as "top tier" men is vastly different from how I would describe the same. Top tier to most women would be a good human being, caring, has a steady job, wants to settle down. Traits like being protective, planning ahead, being generous etc is what makes a man top tier. That being said I do not disagree with the sentiment. If what most men want is to fuck the most attractive women out there is more achievable rather than finding a good man to marry and build a life together wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 02:40 AM
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Na men who want relationships are not going into get onto those with hoes. One of my good friends was on two dates recently, one of the girls who came on strong and another shyer one. Though he had no problem flirting with the girl who came on strong, he's now in an exclusive relationship with the 2nd girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 08:00 PM
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So then it's a terrible idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:20 AM
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Well I know a couple of women who are SAHM. They all come from wealthy powerful families and have inherited wealth. If you fall under that category then yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:07 AM
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Nothing. Relationship is friendship with extra benifits and pitfalls. Perks include sex, some specific vulnerability, a lot of continuous proximity and a joined life together. These are the things I would distinguish. Also fine in the context of a relationship wouldn't emotional satisfaction and security be a two way street? Doesn't the Christian wedding vows specify in sickness and in health? This the implication that the other partner would stick around thus providing security even in adverse …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 02:43 AM
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I can only laugh at the absurdity of this statement. I work a great degree, work in a lucrative field, why would I need a man to give me direction or leadership? Emotional security and stability is something I expect in all relationships, what kind of friendships do you have that lack emotional security or stability?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 02:32 AM
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The same way anyone keeps anyone around. Common interests and shared points of view. Also if the dude didn't have the dick why would many women keep him around?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 02:16 AM
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why don't you learn to comprehend better? Where does it say United States. I am blown away by the sheer arrogance with which you clearly perceive the world around you. There is nothing further I can tell to a person like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 05:51 PM
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I live in a third world country. How shallow to assume that your first world problems are the reality for everyone involved. These are things that happen to women, just because you have the luxury not to experience them doesn't make it less real.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 05:40 PM
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Lol also a majority of crime against women are committed by men, women die in childbirth, more girl children are denied education, more femal foeticide is committed in the world. Since you had a story about your country let me tell you about mine. Once our maid very casually told us the story of her sister's 2nd girl child being taken to a special grandmother because they couldn't afford a girl. Or this young girl in my hometown was abducted from the gates her college campus and raped (she was a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 03:27 PM
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Lol a famous rp saying. Everyone is loved with conditions, if not immediately at some later date.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 03:02 PM
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And if I was the girlfriend I wouldn't force my bf with the mortal fear of heights to go skydiving just because I have fun. The part of being in a healthy relationship is to accept each other's nos' and limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 09:55 AM
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Na I judge my face without makeup. Also i rate my whole self face, body, personality included just like how I would look for a potential partner. If someone has an amazing personality i would find him attractive just like face trumps body. Also personal preference included cos I've always like skinny, nerdy looking guys so that remains my go to
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 03:33 PM
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*to having more sex not to a relationship that leads anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 03:29 AM
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Lol as a woman from india this shit would never fly. Also in urban India as misogynistic as the country is, a lot of FDS is low key implemented. If my fiance got me a fake ring I would dump his ass and my conservative family wouldn't blink an eye. Men being cheap is a huge red flag in my country
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:44 AM
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Yes we are all coached into thinking that being a good gf is being nice to a man and suppressing our emotions in the fear of being seen as crazy/needy/ clingy. I am now open and communicative on what I want? If my standards are not met I just cut off contact
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:12 PM
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For a year I played the perfect gf, controlled my emotions, planned our dates, split the bill 50-50, went to the gym, fooled around when I wasn't emotionally ready, changed my plans and schedules to.meet him. And guess what girls just 1 argument a few weeks before out 1year anniversary he dumped me over a phone call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:43 AM
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Thank you. I never complain about going Dutch, infact I always offer to pay. If a man takes me up on the offer he is a man I will never see again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:12 AM
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Clearly you have not read up on FDS principles. Regardless of commitment there is a 3month rule, enough time to get compatibility before sleeping with them. The commitments is to be prior to physical intimacy and the intimacy post requisite period to vet someone. The reality is without sex on the table it is enough and more to discern objectively if the guy is good, if the guy is worth committing to. Yes if I slept with him immediately after he brought up monogamy I would be a fool. I waited to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:36 AM
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It's a difficult line to walk for a man these days I think I disagree with this. The expectation has always been the same. Women want men who care for them and will provide for them. If a man is genuinely interested in me and wants to pursue me I will not see him as desperate, in fact that is a plus in my book. I would describe my long term relationship s/o as an hvm in the terms that he asked for a serious relationship by second date. That shows a man is committed and wants to keep me, not desp…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 01:52 AM
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Like I stated, I offer to pay. But the point is that it is a point of determining whether the other party is interested in me or not. In a date we are the best foot forward, I am looking for a man who will do the same. Why would I want to date a man who won't even pay for the date he asked me out on? But can't it be percieved that paying for all dates is a desperate act of a low value man? What determines a lvm? A man who automatically wants to pay for the date/ wants to impress me is hvm on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 01:26 AM
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You don't have to agree with that logic at all. FDS is trying to avoid men who argue with that logic. Anyway I've always seen men who pay on dates are the ones clearly more invested. I always offer to split the bill, the men who take up the offer are the ones I know are not invested. Men who are interested, want to date me will use this as an opportunity to show he's invested. It's a good discerning factor to determine who is interested and who is looking for something casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 01:35 PM
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This is so true. When I was a virgin I used to imagine sex as this amazing all encompassing feeling and thought I had a "high libido" for getting myself off thrice a day. In reality for me to even come close to an orgasm with a partner a million things have to align. And this is with a man who I love and have been in a LTR with. I cannot imagine how terrible sex must be with ONS. Though sex is fun and pleasurable, I know I could survive just as well with a vibe and 15minutes to get the thought c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:16 AM
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I agree and sometimes when you stare at the attractive woman it's more admiration than jealousy. As a bi woman in a conservative country pretty sure lots of women have mistaken my staring for glaring than just looks for admiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:25 AM
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Lol I've never ever agreed to this. Even as a kid when people used to say looks don't matter I used to retort that my husband needs to be handsome. I've always maintained that when I wake up in the morning and look at his face I want to feel happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:50 AM
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Pretty much. Rn my LTR just cancelled plans and I made alternate plans with a friend. Before FDS I would have argued and been upset and possibly sulked. Now I have plans for the evening and will enjoy the day. Never depend on a man for your happiness. Find the happiness by yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:28 AM
3

Yea I completely get where you are coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:52 AM
5

Wow what a dick. That being said I would rather write a simple "looks like we are looking for different things" and end it rather than give them the reason why they fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:36 PM
1

In his head
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 06:48 AM
5

Yes and more men have left their sick spouses. Raped and murdered women too. No matter how much men like to make the women villains. Historically and statistically more women suffer because of men than the other way around
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 06:47 AM
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tradcon That's the demographic. For a lot of independent, earning women being married is a choice they can choose to make. So they will pick men they want to get married to or remain single. There is a lot more pressure on women from traditional backgrounds or certain religious, ethnic communities to get married so they have to pick a guy before a certain age. So they might pick men they are not attracted to but see long term benefits in being with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 06:44 AM
21

Oh god I just want to hug you. I can't imagine loosing a pet like this, what a jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:01 PM
1

Personally I hate people who cancel without notice so that was a boundary I let go because I thought things were serious
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:15 PM
2

I think it's the other way around. This guy had told me on the very first date that he was looking for something serious, this made me make a lot more concessions for him at the very start. The mere fact that a guy wanting something serious from the get go made me more emotionally invested and willing to negotiate on personal boundaries. It's actually a manipulation tactic used by many men as it lures women into a safety net. So I think it's the other way around, women are extremely invested in …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:33 AM
15

Lol are you taking to Kim jong un. Cos that's what it looks like 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:35 AM
9

Lol same. I was like wtf is that FDS stance now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:40 AM
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Don't have children unless you are 100% sure you can raise it by yourself. The only person you can rely is on yourself. If you are having babies by a man who isn't committed to you, no ring at the very least, then expect single motherhood (in fact if you is an LVM raising kids with a husband might be the same as raising it yourself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:38 AM
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I honestly do not know. On the surface level i want to say no. But i live in a conservative country with low divorce rates so it would really fuck up my children(if i have them). So i would stay in the unhappy situation and probably open the marriage up to prevent further instances.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:46 PM
2

There is so much more to love and sex that a simple robot cannot provide. Some distant future there wil be complex AI that would provide the same satisfactory of being in an actual relationship but i assume free will will continue making dating an ai as much as a challenge as dating a regular person. I think for a normal person, sex robots will take the same men (maybe sparse women) off the market that pocket pussy did(ie people who never did have much of a chance for reproduction)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:11 PM
2

You were raped get an abortion. Raising a baby you are not emotionally or financially equiped to deal can permanently ruin your life
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 07:14 AM
14

Lol you should read Indian matrimonial ads they are all variations of this. Want a sexist, castist, loser who is also entitled, ugly and thinks he's god's gift to woman kind? Come to India
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:08 PM
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What a clown sis. Am glad you are not with this fool, ignore him and hope you posted in the same account so he can read and weep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:35 AM
10

That's not exactly ghosting. You have him sufficient reason for a breakup, attempted to stay friends and then moved on. There is nothing wrong with this and you don't have to justify your behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:59 AM
2

Lol we went for dinner and i didn't even reach for my purse. It's one day of the year, he can pay. He had already put me in a bad mood so most of the date was him trying to get back on my good graces. I do pay for some dates but definitely not on Vday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:19 PM
6

I met my current so on tinder. I've met some terrible men out there. With my s/o it seems more to be desperation, he moved states, got out of a serious relationship and went on a terrible date with someone he met irl. So he decided to like OLD. He pursued me for a bit and brought up being serious on the first date which was a bit of a red flag. Now after knowing him for almost 2 years, i know that he's never dated casually. He also tells me he's good instincts and knew he wanted something seriou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:47 PM
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God i feel terrible for such women. Having standards is ok...but expecting the bare minimum seems too much. I mean expecting a dude to share, it doesn't even have to be a date. It's the lowest expectation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:48 PM
11

Yes like India. My grandmother to this day waits for my grandfather to finish eating before eating off their plate. But they are a very loving couple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:48 AM
21

What gold? On a shitty coffee date with a dude who can't afford 3 cakepops
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:46 AM
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Seriously girls have better standards. My bf literally picked out potato wedges which were crispier because i complained they were soggy. He just did it subconsciously between conversation midway during our 3rd date. Find good people, it's not being an HVM it's just about being a considerate human beings ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:45 AM
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I am okay with being jaded. Better being jaded than put up with bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:38 AM
3

The first one is a unicorn. A woman that is willing to be the sole breadwinner while I stay at home and yet she still finds me attractive. Tbh I don't think it's that rare. I would be totally ok with that scenario if i take a high income career and would require my s/o to contribute more to taking care of the household. In fact me and my partner have talked about the scenario that if the other person advances drastically in their career one of us would be willing to stay and take care of the hom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 04:36 AM
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Lol so she fell into the assumption that she needed to get married, realised that there was no wall and being single was better than being with you and then packed her shit and left. Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 04:27 AM
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Single men die faster so yea. I don't think it's a problem for women either. At the end of the day only people who genuinely want to get committed do
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 04:48 PM
2

Imagine thinking women would rather stay in pointless relationships than raise their kids by themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 04:43 PM
0

Yes more and more women are not opting to get married. So what's your point here?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 04:42 PM
1

Why would these women want men? Why assume that these high earning successfully women are looking for some low value man to further burden her? She would either pick route1 of having children by herself or route 2 not having children. The "feminazi" agenda would always be to find men who meet their standards or succeed on their own. The real WGTOW instead of the whinny women hating version men seem to have. And women choosing not to get married is a trend, look at high earning women choosing not…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 04:06 PM
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Lol says you and your narrow minded American worldview. Plenty of women are choosing to be single mothers, why do you think so many career focused women get their eggs frozen?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 03:32 PM
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I find it super amusing that men here complain about marriage not being advantageous to men when in reality it is. Women suffer in marriages with declining mental health and increasing labour. More women are opting out of a system that has oppressed them and not settling for men because it is expected from society. Single mothers will rise because women would rather have children by themselves than also carry the dead-weight of a husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 02:59 PM
48

Yes sister. Fuck that guy. Do yourself a favor and move on like it's a bad dream. (You can always get a friend to send the main chick evidence of his straying)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:50 AM
5

What an awful human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:43 AM
3

Yup and no matter how much you talk about gender politics. The lack of reciprocity is what ultimately hurts a relationship the most
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:13 PM
34

Yes i am going to start doing that myself. I am slowly understanding that the only person who i can truly rely on myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:10 PM
2

His favorite chocolates, last year this brand that i had to import from a different country. What did he get me? Nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:08 PM
3

Ew just ew...I hope he's at least rich
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:34 AM
14

I have no idea why this is. Men above 30 are absolute uggos(and to think they talk about the wall). I changed my gender setting and guess what most women in their 30s and put together and gorgeous. All the men want fuck buddies and have specified they are not "looking for anything serious" so gagworthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:13 AM
12

With such low standards she will wonder why all her bfs cheat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:52 AM
4

Oh my god. Imagine this kinda LVM bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:42 AM
7

Isn't this human nature the logic for women thus is avoid pickup artists, men with high n count, cheaters, men who solicit etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 05:38 AM
17

Never make decisions for a man. Wherever it's having babies or getting tubes tied I've seen time and time again with men contributing the bare minimum regardless. Might as well do as you please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:25 AM
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Tbh I remember reading them a while back and that's it. I don't understand why everyone is being so hypersensitive about a low-key point which pretty much reinforces the point I was making. I am deleting this whole conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:56 AM
8

It's never going to happen. You've established already that you are easy and convenient which btw is what he is missing. Time to accept that move on, find someone different and it will take your mind off this dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:02 PM
4

Haha it's going to be stuck in my head. They are look so cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:43 AM
6

Imagine thinking this. Imagine going about your day and some 14yr old thinks that all women would love to sleep with Bin laden...just
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 08:43 AM
14

Actually there seems to be a severe disconnect in what men understand attracts women and what actually attracts women. Look at boybands and Korean actors, the massive fan following they have. You would think their fanbase is mostly teens yet there are plenty of women in their 20s (AKA actual marriage material girls according to reddit). These men are marketed to cater to their female base, they are not strong, "I will punch you" alphas but sweeter "let me serenade you" men. No matter how much re…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 06:09 AM
20

If someone is stringing you along he's not HVM. a big part of being a HVM is how he treats you, what use is a millionaire if he expects you to go Dutch during meals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:51 AM
7

Cos women have improved and evolved while a majority of men stayed the same. They want the freedom of having a sexually liberated society yet want a gf wife who does all the housework. Women have come upon the realization that it's better to opt out than stay in unhappy situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 10:41 AM
1

Don't worry FDS is definitely not looking for men who hold this view. So they are not loosing out on a prize catch such as yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 05:08 AM
1

like why would any man tolerate some woman's "dEmAnDs Every relationship is two people compromising and putting up with each other's shit because the good outweighs the bed. If you cannot see the benefits of being in a relationship then you shouldn't be in one(and by the looks of it no one wants to be in one with you anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 05:00 AM
6

On the contrary I know a lot of women who were in LTR who are single in their 30s. Especially highly qualified women who stayed with their bfs when their careers were taking off are now single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 01:54 AM
4

I've been here for a while, it really picks up on weekends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:49 AM
5

I am completely in terms with this, further my country allows adoption for single moms. There could be my beautiful daughter out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:51 AM
36

Nothing wrong with being ugly or autistic. Some of the most contributing members in society today are autistic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:46 AM
5

As a former pick meisha I can tell you that men are just not equipped to deal with our emotions. Now when I get angry or upset I just cease contact. My bf who used to conventionally ignore my msgs, now calls me back when he senses I am upset. Deal with your own emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:44 AM
4

I honestly think the "forever gf" situation happens with LVM. I know three cases where the couple's waited for 6-9 years before getting married and only one of them was a forever gf. She strong-armed him into marrying her and now he's resentful and punishing her for putting him in the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:47 AM
1

Yes I am 29 now, if I met him at 20/21 or even my teens I would be in disbelief that I landed him. I would have completely been gone on him and he would have broken all my personal boundaries. I was bookish and very naive and he was an extrovert. I am still completely gone on him so that bit has not changed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 03:18 AM
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That is hilarious. More wives have been abandoned, beaten and murdered than husbands ever have. More wives have been left when sick than husbands. Yes women don't love men the way men do, men love selfishly and temporarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 06:06 AM
3

Lol apparently all women on Reddit are fake!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 05:42 AM
26

Well I am glad you lost your "extra" weight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:38 AM
1

It's like none of you understand love. When you love someone you think of a future with them and when it doesn't you get hurt. How bitter and cynical do you have to be to not understand basic human interactions?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 01:43 AM
2

That's great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:16 PM
5

TBH its okay to cut some slack during the OLD routine. Personally I would only hold stricter standards once I've been on a date or two. Otherwise I hope you are taking to multiple as he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:17 PM
5

I was 16 and on a date with someone my friends set up- he was 18/19. One of my friends though was very sceptical about him, dude turned up in a full basketball uniform on a weekend. Then proceeded to fidget continuously and when I asked him why he said he felt like an animal in heat being with someone so hot. I was shocked and uncomforatble, he tried to hug me when I left. Also I had to pay for the date cos he didn't have enough money for coffee even though he was the one who insisted on meeting…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 03:14 PM
5

To be an LVM is anyone who won't love care and cherish you. Doesn't matter if he's a millionaire if he won't buy you a candy bar on valentine's, or remember your birthdays. Doesn't matter if he has all the time in the world but won't spend 5mins on you. Any relationship where you are putting in the 80 to make it work. To have a job, hobbies, be presentable etc are the bare minimum. What use is a rich handsome guy to me if he won't hold my hands? A LVM is a guy who doesn't value me, everything el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:02 PM
12

I do not like this bit about spelling out to the guy what he did wrong. You can do that in an LTR and to your spouse. Not to some rando tinder date. STOP DOING THE EMOTIONAL LABOUR SIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:57 AM
5

On the other hand studies have found richer men preferring bigger asses. So this is such a demographic based question, in most asian countries it is fairer that's considered more beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:53 AM
112

This is why you should not advertise your sexual availability at all. I immediately block any dude who brings up innuendos early on because they are clearly there for easy access
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:46 AM
12

God just get rid of it. If you do not have your life together do not have children! Women have to remember that you are solely responsible for your children the man can always walk out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:26 AM
2

I hope you are well aware of the risks of hormonal bc. And raising your standards includes not making decisions that would sabotage your self worth. Are you taking bc cos it makes it a good choice despite what seems to be insane mood swings? Or are you taking it so your bf doesn't have to wear a condom. If it is the latter you are low maintenance already!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:23 AM
11

You are still not married to the chill girl after 6 years so no high maintenance woman would call this relationship a success.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:48 AM
7

OP there is a distinction between being "high maintenance/crazy" v "imposing your own standards". Right now crying for not opening a door is crazy behaviour. Since I've been both in a relationship here's my understanding of the subject. Sometimes when you act "chill" you are not actually being chill but lowering your expectations and standards. This leads to the the other person taking you for granted and you building resentment. The resentment will manifest in other ways like "nagging" or passi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:19 AM
36

Great advice. Time and time again I've heard abusive ex stories only to have it completely turned around. A friend of mine had a similar experience where the guy talked about his ex threatening him with a false rape case. Except he tried initiating sexting very early (like 4date in) and later tried forcibly kissing her. Thankfully she left before there was any escalation, now i wonder what the real story was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:36 PM
2

I think it works insomuch that it forces people to pick a side. Like if the guy/girl isn't invested they will leave, if they are invested they will pick up on the fact that they are slacking off. Every relationship is a two way street
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 06:27 AM
2

Well since I have employed it only once, it was around 2 dates per week. In the intervening period we were definitely in a committed relationship before having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 02:49 AM
1

Well i would be be a around 7in my ethnic group plus i have an 8 body. Also i am well qualified, articulate etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 06:19 PM
15

The only appropriate answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:30 AM
8

To be honest I would like to know if it was in context of something written in her profile. Seems harsh without context
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:18 AM
13

Personally someone who is calm under stress. Since i get anxious easily it feels relaxing to be around someone who doesn't think the world is ending at the slightest mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:15 AM
31

Am 29, there is no ticking time limit. I have faith that i will find the right person, so should you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:51 AM
118

Leave girl. You are 26, you have time to figure your shit out, grieve the relationship, get a new hairdo, go on a diet, join a new yoga class, go partying. Do all the fun stuff you wanted to do and then slowly look for someone new. You have a long life ahead of you so move on and leave the loser behind. Ten years into the future when you and your husband are chilling in the couch after the kids have gone to sleep, the thought of your ex will be nothing but a fleeting memory of how you were young…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:31 AM
1

No way. Not doing wife shit for my boyfriend. The only man i will move in with will be my future husband
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 06:53 AM
1

My cousin looks pretty much like me in a gender filter. He's very popular and has been in a relationship with his highschool sweetheart for almost a decade. I think i would do the same and also am tall for a woman i would be taller as a man. I would be killing it as a man
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 06:50 AM
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I think it always a balance between the two. If some guys tells you "i don't do serious relationships" but showers you with affection, pay attention to his words. He may be sweet on you with actions but sooner or later his words will ring true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:11 PM
1

Personal rule has been +/- 2 years. Not more than 5 years in any case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:52 AM
71

You need to put a trigger warning on this shit. Absolutely disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:31 AM
3

Then don't be with anyone. There is nothing wrong with being by yourself. I live in a country filled to the brim with LVM and I've decided that if i don't meet anyone with th my calibre it's better to be alone. Their disdain of me doesn't make me a LVW. I would rather be happy by myself than being tied down to an LVM who drains me of my intellectual, financial and physical capabilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:11 AM
11

Tbh I enjoy sex. I enjoy the intimacy that comes with it, i enjoy running my fingers through his hair, the feel of his body pressed up against mine, how good he smells. However penetration is the worst part of it. If i could have sex without the pain that comes along with it, and the inevitable fear of pregnancy i would enjoy it more. Sometimes i wonder if the payoff is worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:03 AM
1

I definitely care and it. I would have always preferred someone with the same experiences as me but that's not always possible. At the moment i would prefer someone with the body count of less than 5
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:16 AM
6

Damn that confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:07 PM
5

Honestly its entirely your personal preference. I do not want to know about my SO's history while he did. He found tidbits of history entertainig while I find it annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:18 PM
8

All of us have weak moments so relax. Now have an alternate hobby for Everytime you feel lonely, hopefully something that enriches your life. Something like an extra course or even knitting, something where you can see concrete results. Or better yet join a gym class like Zumba or yoga, this could be an opportunity to distract yourself as well get to know new people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:20 PM
24

God I wonder what happened in her life that she thinks this is ideal?! Anyway good on her for embracing the fact that she wants to be treated like a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:54 PM
2

There are two links and the article talks about dowry demands, and other pressures on women. Are you illitrate bruh?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:44 AM
4

Well I met my s/o on a dating app. He was there after a ltr and a pretty bad date with someone he knew irl. I would refrain from calling him an HVM because he's a bit of a commitmentphobe (despite talking about wanting a future together I don't see concrete plans and therefore may have to leave after the 2 year mark) but congenitally yes, he's well-to-do, has a great job, is amiable, sweet, takes initiative, conventionally attractive and all the works. So if you are in a more serious dating app …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 08:02 AM
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Because it doesn't fit their narrative. In India statistically more women commit suicide after marriage, so take marriage brings you happiness with a grain of salt
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:30 PM
3

Wow truly inspirational. I will definitely check out his book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:48 AM
16

He is never going to marry her. I've never met either of them yet I would bet money on how unlikely this is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:18 AM
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This poor stupid girl. By her own admission it was her dream to marry and have children she destroyed her own dream. The dating pool is scummiest for single mother and with her previous dating history the chances of her finding an HVM is next to none. She should have never gotten involved and at the very least terminated the pregnancy. She's so dumb that it is hard to muster up any sympathy for her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:45 AM
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After I broke up with my bfs I refused to drink or smoke or partake in any unhealthy coping mechanism. Stuck to my routine for months afterwards (I got back with my s/o after resolving our issues, namely him being a dick) that's my advice to my fellow sisters. Till you heal and move on from the temptation of hitting up your ex don't drink or let your inhibitions down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:12 AM
49

Can I just say I love you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:49 AM
23

You are badass!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:29 AM
0

I am dating one. Except he's fairly good-looking. Tbh would put the gaming aspect as the part of his personality i dislike but have to bear with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:01 AM
7

Yea saw that comment. The girl must have zero self-esteem and standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:00 AM
4

Actually you sound badass and am thoroughly impressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:42 AM
25

What happened then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:32 AM
15

I cannot emphasize enough that tinder is the worst of the OLD. Don't be in tinder girls, most men just see you as an easy lay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:38 PM
4

Tbh I never found oral appealing. I just thought it was the norm and when I did finally perform it, it was better than I expected. Funnily enough I enjoy performing over receiving. But recently my bfs been convincing me otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:11 AM
14

Unfortunately there is no foolproof way. Trust your instincts, stick to the three month rule, get to know him as a person. If you still get betrayed move on, it's always on the cheater not on the victim. We shouldn't internalize the blame for shitty people and psychopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:59 AM
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Lol can't wait to see the answers for a gender reversed question...oh wait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:35 AM
10

Wow. I just have no words, my heart goes out to the fellow sisters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:34 AM
3

Never taken bc, I expect my bfs to wear condoms. And if he doesn't abstinence is the best method.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:05 AM
2

Or at least that's the way innocent love is perceived by others
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 06:46 AM
8

That was a spin on it, a better take would be innocent, hopeful and unabashedly affectionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 06:32 AM
12

That FDS actually worked for me in a relationship. When I started dating my current S/O I was wide-eyed naive, needy and clingy. I was overly affectionate, bombarded him with messages, over-analyzed every fight, apologized after, constantly made plans and rearranged my schedule to suit his needs. It seemed the more I tried the less affectionate he would be and the more he took me for granted. Took a break, regrouped and started being more independent. Now I see him genuinely put in efforts to re…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 05:30 AM
3

I found it on Kindle!! I just paid this months subscription just so I could binge read all his books!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:50 PM
23

God I just feel bad for her. She must hate herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:19 PM
9

Hey I have a great mom and I am a super loving person. So if you need big sister who is sarcastic but loving I have an offer for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:17 PM
2

Listen there are people I completely and vehemently dislike and even them I wouldn't do this. Even my batchmate I haven't met in 5years, I wouldn't leave her alone in pain when she needed help. Yet this man who you're in love with hasn't extended the basic kindness that a stranger on the street would. Move on OP, block his number and cut off all contact. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:03 PM
9

Hey do you happen to have the PDFs of any of Bruce byans books? They seem amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:12 AM
36

Oh damn I feel called out sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:38 AM
1

Personally if he's passionate about his career ambitions I would care what his salary is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:45 AM
33

Any man who thinks his exes are crazy is a man to steer clear of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:15 PM
26

I've been a pickme and a HVW in the same relationship. In my pick me phase I was always asking "When can you meet me?" "why can't you call me" I used to obsess over his bad moods, bad conversations, day dream about our future. In my HVW stage I engage myself, I don't obsess over fights, if I hang up in anger I don't call back. If a plan gets upended I expect him to reschedule and let me know. At the end that's the end goal of an FDS relationship. Being well aware that you can survive regardless …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:11 PM
3

This is such a beautiful essay. My heart hurt for her and all the women who've been denied love. That somehow consuming the very basic was seen as needy and greedy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:59 AM
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It's so funny because this is something that my mom told me. Never talk to your s/o about your family problems, never talk to him about previous men. I always thought why would I want to be with someone I can't be vulnerable with. Now I know the reality, recently a girl I know got married. She has dated several people and even got cheated on, her advice was keep your bodycount disclosure at zero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:14 PM
1

The cuntiness is for defending a shitty person who seems to be more concerned about his social standing that the kid he's bringing into the world. No self-respecting woman would want to be involved in this shitshow
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:37 AM
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I would suggest you deal with this like any breakup. Cut off all contact and block his social media. Talk to your loved ones, distract yourself. I liked the breakup sub, they are usually very supportive so join that. Heal op. Everyone makes mistakes, acknowledge it is a mistake and move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:54 AM
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In India the dating scene for different economic circles and different cities are very different. There are a lot of conservative ideologies that run through even the liberal circles so it's always better to err on the side of caution. Especially because virginity is seen as the biggest marker for a woman's virtue. I belong firmly in the middle class in an a rather conservative city. My family follows a somewhat don't ask-dont tell policy with my love life, so it is very liberal by Indian standa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:43 AM
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Don't use Tinder. Tinder is basically for LVM looking for a quick fuck, they tend to be aggressive when they realise that's not what you are here for. I would recommend other apps tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:31 AM
5

Also FDS recommends the 3-4 month wait period for a reason. Rushing physical intimacy creates a false sense of closeness and anyone can pretend to be anyone for a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:27 AM
1

Good looking, well educated, articulate, passionate about their interests (even if i don't understand it) kind and has a decent job. I am bisexual so it applies across genders, height has not been much of a factor for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:14 AM
4

I am bi and this is exactly why I've told every guy I've dated. Yes am totally cool with bringing a girl to the bedroom, but you can't touch. At best you can watch me do another woman in a chair at the darkened corner of the room. Surprisingly no takers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:45 AM
10

Anyone whose dating Leonardo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:15 PM
4

Oh thanks for following up on that. I am so glad to hear she escaped her awful situations. It just breaks my heart that some naive, innocent 15year had sex with an adult who pissed on her afterwards as a joke. Truly awful. Am glad she's doing well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:28 PM
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The 8years is very creepy. The same way i would feel if the genders were reversed. However they only have a 11year gap, that's not alarming?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:32 PM
7

And she was like, "no, so you don't have to go to the bathroom to clean up." It turns out her ex would pee in her mouth after sex so he wouldn't have to get dressed/use the dorm bathroom. He trained her into thinking this was normal. This is literally the most fucked up thing I've read. This woman was humiliated in the worst possible way and made to think this was normal. How terribly tragic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 06:54 AM
7

So infantalizing! I would be offended even if my SO left this stupid note and cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:51 AM
10

I am always amused by the "woman in prime" argument. In my 20s most of Uni students were unhealthy, flabby, bad diets, terrible sleep schedules and were extremely overworked. All sex was terrible, over-emotional and filled with drama. My peers have now landed high paying jobs, wear more expensive shit, go to the gym essentially most people have 'leveled up' There were a handful of girls in my Uni who looked good(despite our schedules) and now a vast majority do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 03:20 AM
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Literally the most pathetic thing I've read!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:33 PM
1

Terrible idea because men value looks way more than women. That means unattractive women would still get majorly ghosted after matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 10:26 AM
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This reminds me of a guy i talk to as well. Met him OLD but we kept having conversations instead of him ever asking me out, thankfully i met my current bf. I always used to wonder why conversations with him lowered my spirits before realising that there were a lot of hidden insults in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:00 PM
24

Lmao am in love with her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:00 PM
7

Thank you for saying this sis. I am trying to be more independent and have the courage to walk out if i don't feel respected. It's a hard thing to hear especially since all my life I've been indoctrinated to think marriage is the end all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:50 AM
2

So essentially you are just unhappy that you don't get to cheat with two women? Not actually sympathetic to their circumstances or anything..cool cool cool
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 08:09 AM
4

So you don't actually have evidence. Not surprised also most of FDS advice is about self care and raising ones standards. I don't see anything wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 08:00 AM
2

I adopt parts of FDS, furthermore i think that works for the initial dates not in a ltr. It's a strategy for weeding out LVM
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 07:47 AM
4

Link me the thread. Sounds like fear mongering and just general hated towards the sub
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 07:24 AM
1

Look at the bright side you will need noone in death
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:06 PM
0

No, like i said the requisite waiting period is 4mos. Also i don't see either of us marrying each other without our careers in line which will take another year. Also am not depriving him at all, we have sex because we are in a monogamous relationship. The point of dating is love op, it's not keeping a score or getting validation (or BJ's from random strangers).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 08:11 AM
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Been in a relationship for the last 2years. To a conventionally attractive man in a monogamous relationship with me, who waited because he knew I was a virgin. I get your cynicism but there are good men out there and i would urge my fellow sisters to wait it out as well. I only settled for a dude with a great jaw line, killer eyes and yet kisses my hand everytime he sees me and hugs me tight when i feel insecure. You don't need a perfect person, you just need to find the perfect person for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 08:00 AM
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Flipside as someone who is only willing to settle for long term monogamy and marriage. It is a minimum of 4months and commitment before sex. And a definite filtering out of guys who fit in the criteria of a prospective husband (has been in ldr, wants kids, is patient and kind etc) and a person who genuinely wants to be with me. In the relationship ofc monogamy, support, love is expected and not asked. Also an opportunity to be completely vulnerable and true even at a risk of getting hurt and hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 07:54 AM
5

Not true at all. In the last four years of dating, every single guy I've dated and known that i was a virgin have tried to sleep with me. Lying, offering me different things and making promises just to sleep with me. To the extent that my virginity has been fetishized or seen as a thing to conquer. Expressly most men have lost interest when they saw that i wasn't offering it up without commitment let alone marriage. So most men want a virgin in theory who will fuck like a pornstar
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 07:35 AM
4

Yes the option is sticking to your standards and failing or lowering your bar and feeling unhappy. You get to pick
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 07:18 AM
1

I completely agree. Also other cultural factors greatly influence how you view romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:45 AM
1

Don't be on Tinder if you don't want to msg first. Be on Bumble instead of being a whining b word. It's not that hard to find solutions to your problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:18 AM
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Post it on offmychest. I want to hear general Reddit bs ing their way out of this harsh truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:09 AM
3

I know it hurts. But imagine if you had a baby with such an LVM, thank your stars that you do not find yourself stuck to such an for 18more years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:18 AM
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Nope I have enough issues already without adding a dick to the mix. I have a great ass so this conversation has come up more than once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:14 AM
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I will be honest with you, the flip phone pics was it for me. I don't care about past relationships being brought up and having an ex's nudes is a huge red flag for me. Leave this guy, why are you wasting your time with this douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:11 AM
3

Haha that's the correct answer
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:15 AM
5

Any man who hasn't reproduced past 35 should be eliminated immediately (surpassed their reproductive prime and betas are usually murdered by other species anyway) /s (duh)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:12 PM
44

Good for you leaving. Though this post resonates with me a bit too much that i am side-eyeing my dude as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 07:48 AM
5

Did your father do that to you? Cause none of us with normal childhoods jump to that conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 05:09 AM
14

I always see posts like this about women having unrealistically hight standards. Yet in real life plenty of couples with good looking women with average to ugly men but very very rarely is it the other way around. Men value looks way more than women do? So why is everyone in the sun complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 01:21 PM
1

I am great thank you for asking. For now.. Isn't everything just "for now" we cannot assume anything will sustain. We only have 'the now'
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 10:04 AM
2

Lol the biggest problem with such BS is that you are assuming every woman wants the same kind of guy. My SO is goofy, hyper and skinny, he's the first guy who asked me permission before holding my hands. On really terrible days he just likes on my lap and I pet his hair. The most amazing part of our relationship is how vulnerable and clingy we can be with each other and not be judged. Also I know for a fact that I am more likely to fight about things than him, doesn't make him less "alpha"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 08:24 AM
16

Oh god I feel bad for her. Either she's being treated so badly that a Roomba seems like an upgrade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:00 PM
19

She's obviously the side chick, there isn't even a doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:30 PM
2

Nope I've always been attracted to skinny to slender.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 08:26 AM
4

That is true, at least in India they are legally protected from such atrocities. Anyway in most cases Indian men worship these women and so do their families, they are in much better position than their Indian counterparts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:14 AM
13

That's always been the reality for minority women. Even colorism is rampant in India, someone would straight up prefer a fairer less qualified women over a dark skinned one. Or the fact that darker skinned women are considered less attractive by the virtue of their skin tone, these women are dated but seldom considered "wife material"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:06 AM
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Tbh happens both ways, but Indian women I knew still married pretty qualified white men as opposed to the Indian men. Also first generation Indian women rarely marry white men as opposed to Indian men. Anyway I pity the white women who marry these misogynistic POS , these women deserved better tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:04 AM
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As a brown woman can't say I disagree. I made this interesting observation a few years back at a wedding of a very well to do family that half their sons had married white women. All the men who did married barely qualified women while all the brown women married into the same family came with hefty dowries, family wealth and good jobs. The standards for Indian women are way higher than a white woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:34 AM
1

Yes after there is a ring on it. Otherwise no way jose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:55 PM
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Lol ok creep
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:15 PM
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WAIT!! That's your answer, i felt nothing for any of the guys i dated till i met my current bf at 27. He was handsome, smart and honestly I had difficulty believing he was into me even. We waited for almost 4 months where things progressed slowly at a very natural phase. Even if we don't work in the future i am so glad i waited for an HVM. Because i ended up having sex with someone who is gorgeous, has an amazing compatability with me and spend hours afterwards just staring at me and calling me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:14 AM
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That makes you a creep, doesn't mean the wall exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:35 AM
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Most of the time when i hear "fuck that bitch" I imagine the people I hate as bitches (that being its a gender-neutral insult. Songs are fun
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 06:54 AM
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No rather ambiguity regarding finances is ok. Like I've told my s/o a round figure of how much i earn rather than go into details. "I don't think it's worth the money", "waste of money", 'afford To be these seem straightforward. If we disagree on spending habits we can have an honest discussion about it. "I would rather invest this money on something else" even a simple "i just didn't feel like bringing my card today" is more honest than "i am poor/broke" that is straight up lying. Why would i w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:55 PM
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Depends tbh, if he vaguely said he has investments i wouldn't press and respect the ambiguity. But if he willfully lied to me it's pretty clear he doesn't respect me and no man is worth my self respect. I would leave!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:35 PM
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And i don't have to convince you. I trust him and i know why his previous relationships didn't work out as well. Just because you aren't a HVM doesn't mean they don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:13 PM
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Not 31 yet but so far the plan has been to focus, work on my career and if i meet someone i do. Otherwise I am perfectly happy by myself. I've met some wonderful single women who are charming, funny and exceptional. Also i am bisexual and gay marriage isn't recognised in my country, so marriage is only a 50% possibility for me in any case.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:07 AM
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Exactly, my bf is very conventionally attractive yet has only slept with 3LTR, never been in a casual scenario. He's well educated, articulate, waited for 4mos before sleeping with me. If you think you are worth it you can find a HVM, you don't have to settle
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:42 PM
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You have basically described my bf. So for women thinking this kind of dude doesn't exist you are deluding yourself. Not to say our relationship isn't flawless or there aren't issues but he ticks the basic HVM package.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:21 PM
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F28 last month I was at an event where professional dancers would ask you to dance as a part of the teaching process. i was asked by multiple people, especially this one guy who told me he's not one of the dancers at the event. Anyway he asked me out by the end of it. Tall, good looking dude would rate him 7/10-8/10. Am already in a relationship plus even if i wasn't he's not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:32 AM
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But you are not a sex-worker so on what basis are you correcting OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:12 AM
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Because i don't want to/have to: 1.Dont like the idea of strangers touching me/ objectifying me I am well educated and have a career so i do not need to( even if i wasn't, i come from a well-off family) I respect myself and i define that as making choices that do not allow others to subjugate me Racial, historic and ethnic connotation of what prostitution would do to my identity and the baggage it carries Also I've only slept with one person who i was/am in love with and my sexuality is so deepl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:07 AM
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Ew. Don't even bother with a response. Your silence should be answer enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 07:26 AM
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I hope so. Not that any of us are immune, we constantly need to watch out not to be dragged in to some LVM s crap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:25 AM
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It's funny. I take this as a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 02:18 PM
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I couldn't agree more, especially since the standard date nowadays seems to be "let's get a few drinks!" on a first date. This is such a terrible idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:39 AM
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Yup and her options have pretty much died.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 02:41 PM
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Anyone who has one night stands or hires prostitutes is a no go for me. I think the count has to be less than 5
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 09:30 AM
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Recently heard about a girl who got married. I live in a conservative country, her advice was never talk about your sexual past. Maybe say you have 1 ex and that you're not a virgin(if you had multiple partners) and say no ex if you had one. Unethical but most men in my country expect virgins even if they fucked around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 06:03 AM
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Other dating apps like hinge and bumble or any local apps. Ones with bios especially so at least you have a vague idea of who the person is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:37 AM
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Tinder is for low effort men who are looking for hookups. If any man can't spend 5mins thinking of themselves and write a few words for a potential gf you think he's gonna put effort anywhere else. Delete tinder, it's for low effort, low quality men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:18 AM
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I loved this rant it was honestly so insightful to someone who grew in s different generation and culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 09:58 AM
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Within 2 weeks of being dumped i was on dating apps. Moving on like everything else in life is a choice that you make
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:32 AM
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Well you didn't marry them, so by your own preference you've removed these women from a wide array of men who could have married them. You are not a virgin yet you believe that by virtue of these women being virgins they are more valuable. Yet at the same time you are eliminating them from the dating pool. Aren't you the biggest hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 04:57 PM
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So are you saying you would only date virgins though 1.you effectively aren't one 2. By taking their vcards and not marrying them you've doomed them into not dating 'other high value men with similar criterion'?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 01:37 PM
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You think people decay at 30? I feel bad for you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:15 AM
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I honestly think the most "pick me" women who are pitted against each other don't have a strong female support system. I am friends with the same 6women since UNI days and we are all very different. We still love and support each other unconditionally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:41 AM
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I get this so damn much. Honestly if you give a flake a chance you are just giving him a chance to flake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:14 AM
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This was amazing. I am in awe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 06:01 AM
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Or how much porn normalises degrading women. Like "face fucking!" the percentage of women who find this appealing must be infinitesimally small yet men think its a-ok for women to gag and choke during oral. A lot of degrading behaviour has been normalized thanks to porn and women who refuse to do this are somehow the outliers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 03:38 AM
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What is sex for sex's sake. Of all the dates I've been on, and kissed I've hardly ever felt sexually attracted to any of them. For the longest time i thought I was either asexual or impossible standards. Eventually I went on a couple of dates with a guy i genuinely vibed with and bam the kiss was amazing and so was the sex that eventually followed. If i did not have an emotional attachment to him i doubt any of this would have felt as good as it did.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:14 AM
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