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ny-lady/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:20 AM
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I still like close in age and Im old. I think most women want closer in age no matter how old you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:44 PM
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They are awesome. You could consider making prints, T's, etc with these to sell. Food for thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:08 AM
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Imagine being the one he crawls back to because you let him stick in your butt. Wants nothing more from you than your butt. Be proud he cheated because you gave up your butt and doesnt actually want you for more than that. Thats what I see in that comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:41 AM
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There is certainly more hostility between women today over my younger years. My friend and I talked about this not long ago, she sees it more than I because of work and she uses Facebook, she sees behavior I dont. I have not used it in at least 7 years now. Still in my older years I experience more of we look out for each other, lift each other, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:59 PM
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I'll compliment anyone. I cant count the times Ive went up to a strange woman and complimented her shoes, top, etc. Cant do that to a man! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:49 PM
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Then when you give a man one, he thinks you like him. In general you cant compliment men you're not dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:18 AM
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Why is that even posted in that sub? What does boob size have to do with relationship advice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:41 PM
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So does mine! LOL Many guys actually like smaller breasts and many dont like fake ones either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:03 PM
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Really its the parents job to teach their daughters about this. My parents did. Unfortunately we don't all have good parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:27 PM
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Funny they didn't need it all through history. Porn has been around a really long time yet men were not obsessed with it or claimed they 'needed it' two decades+ ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:22 PM
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I bet!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:07 PM
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I got out of that you let that crap man stay in your life not that we are responsible for their behavior. We are responsible for ours and need to cut him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:13 PM
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Many men dont seem to understand what love language really is, they turn into something that fits their narrative not what it actually is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 12:48 PM
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Im an acts of service and men want to turn that into hes slaving away for you. So not the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 12:45 PM
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Sadly this is more common than people think...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:04 PM
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Almost every post mentions the age thing, for a darn good reason!!! Its disturbing and so sad she cant see it. I wonder if they have some sort of womens shelter in the country she is in like the US since hes stuck her with no money....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:02 PM
21

Granny sternly cautioned me against older men My parents were the same way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:40 PM
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Yup!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:37 PM
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Im sorry for your loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:45 PM
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Self reflection is powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:43 PM
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What I read here is you have dated some crappy men and correlating your libido to it. Its 'low libido' men that give you low libido. You are not 'hot' for them because they just dont do it for you like that. Watching porn daily is not healthy at all. Look up what porn does to the brain. That said, I know low libido exists from lifestyles, age, diets, meds, ect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:04 AM
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Well, at least hes honest so you can swipe past him. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:52 AM
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Live a pay it forward life. It changes people on the other side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:46 AM
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Who you find attractive and who you would date are two different things. I may find a 25 year old man attractive but I would date him, hes too young.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 01:29 PM
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Good thing Im single with a great life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:12 AM
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You can usually find things just by Googling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:04 PM
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The bar is really low. After reading some other subs.... The bar is buried deep inside the earth and you cant even find the bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 05:16 AM
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I didnt read all that but Ive helped a drunk woman before too. So many guys will so take advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:22 PM
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This pandemic is sure bringing out peoples true colors...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:02 PM
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In my life I have only known two women who did this, and both of them came from a background of severe sexual abuse to the point their physical boundaries had been broken down and they literally didn't know any better. And they want to call it 'female nature'. No its trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:44 PM
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Many of those man channel men look like crap and aged badly! Some of them are my age range and look so much older than I do and their men age like wine baloney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:10 PM
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Ive never even had a man ask about my sex/N/body count nor have I asked. We may discuss past relationship stuff but now about the sex. This whole n count or body count, eww. They were partners not a notch or a body. If a man were use notch or body counts about past partners/lovers Id be turned off
/r/askFDS30/05/20 04:52 PM
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Important people in my life do too. Even my mom and step dad. Even some of my parents friends Ive know for years now. These are all 60+ couples. Even have chats about RP/MGTOW, simps, incels, reddit, beta/alpha, etc, etc. The Karens and Stacy thing. One of them specifically asked about the Karen/simp thing he hears now. Also told him about Chads and Tyrones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:27 PM
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Exactly! They watch them all and comment the same things! LOL Clearly you have not gone your own way when I see the same posters no matter what man channel video I stumble on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:07 AM
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You want to start somewhere with some skin care try CeraVe. Use it day and at night. They have a line for both. Our skin rejuvenates as we sleep. Wear sunblock, so many men dont.
/r/askFDS28/05/20 01:14 PM
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Right! They act like you suddenly look 70! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:37 AM
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I was called an ice queen in my youth for not sleeping around. I took it as a compliment because I didnt lower myself to sleep with crappy men that wanted to use me for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:55 PM
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Brainwashing. We have been conditioned to think the only way to have a good life is to be attached to a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:43 PM
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At least he tells who he is so you can avoid him! Im betting he is not even good looking either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:38 PM
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If you have a Burlington in your area, I find great dresses there all the time for $20 or less.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 12:27 PM
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My long term partner in my 20's Ive mentioned before, all was good then one day a switch flipped. Knew him close to 10 years before we even dated, ran in my circle of friends. How the hell did I get here?? Thank goodness he was my only real bad one. Lesson learned. I have a 14 stitch scar from him on my forehead. Its a reminder I survived as some women dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:57 AM
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Its because they need a caretaker and women dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:35 AM
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Is he living under a rock? A womens debt is talked about all over the man spaces. LOL They harp on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:34 AM
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Im with ya. You broke trust before we even had a chance to build it. Lying out of the gate is a hard nope. People on dating apps on both sides pull this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:31 AM
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Yup!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:22 AM
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Im grateful for my friends, even more so after reading some of the stuff i read here with 'pick me' friends. My friends dont take crap like dont from a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:21 AM
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Imagine thinking just because its 'legal' to chase 14-16 year olds is ok. Like most of these men pulling this garbage would want some non teen guy to be with their daughters. Yeah they would all be on board with a 36 year old man going after their 14-16 year old daughter! Baloney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:47 AM
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My goodness the praise over just doing normal parenting things for a man. I changed a diaper. let me post it on FB for validation Im such a good dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:34 AM
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I did too, I tried Tinder maybe 4 years ago and made it two weeks before I noped out of it. LOL It was just BS energy sucking. u/TarotMamba Right!! Maybe Tinder should just be a bromance app since its mostly men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:27 AM
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They are banning an already low user base, good one fellas. LOL About 22% of Tinder users are women. That may even include the bots and sex workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:08 PM
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On dating sites they bring it up in minutes!! 9/10 times. If they would just state in their profile looking for FBW/Casual so you could avoid swiping on them and those that want hookups can. I don't get this from majority of men I meet in person that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:07 PM
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The anxious-avoidant dance. I always wondered why my avoidant was attracted to me as Im the complete opposite of the anxious women hes dated/attracted to. He is a Fearful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:14 AM
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I can only work with a secure if you're an aware avoidant actually working on it. As a secure with a dismissive avoidant side when I dated an avoidant nothing I did worked with him as he was unaware and didnt want to work on himself. Jebs forum can be a good read. https://jebkinnison.boards.net/ Find a therapist that works with attachment issues as not all are equal and good in this area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:02 AM
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I text back fast all the time because I dont have anything going on in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 02:36 AM
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Its terrible. I mean, if you have a beard groom it and make it look nice!! Just shows they are lazy to take care of themselves. Get a trimmer, it takes minutes to trim!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:53 AM
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Right, Id be embarrassed of myself...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:51 AM
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Marriage is not the be all of life. And many men are not worth marriage. Sheesh men today can even give a women an orgasm! LOL Why would you marry them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:43 AM
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Traumas. Emotionally healthy women dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:17 AM
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A simp to me is a pick me man. Its been turned into any man that is nice to a women in any way or dates a women over 25 now a simp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:40 PM
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What the? LOL I. Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:23 AM
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Who is triggered? Mr Paragraph.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:18 AM
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Id be turned off. Yes hes a bad guy. The nude thing and guys firing off unsolicited wanker pics is out of hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 02:01 AM
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This is what Ive experienced with my partners. Such a shame this younger generation of men have become porn sticks and not turned on by making his lady orgasm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:52 AM
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Clearly her parents damaged her. My parents would have been hell no at 16 with a 21 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:43 PM
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Id end it and quit that job too. Thank the lord I work for myself and never have to deal with any nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:19 PM
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In my area is finally happened in that past couple weeks or so. Its been hard to buy since March.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:54 PM
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Its only low effort if its not a family heirloom and some BS left over ring. Passing a family heirloom is not something to scuff at IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:00 PM
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Yes on Etsy, they have infiltrated Etsy with the China junk. Soon as one is taken down 10 more pop up. I wish they curated like Amazon Handmade as you have to go through a screening process and be approved as an authentic handmade seller. Surely dig into the shops about section and reviews. Big sign is little/to no info in the about section, no location and no profile picture of a person/their branding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:57 PM
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They are so nice, durable and so affordable. Its become a popular alternative in the past decade. With the money saved get a good photographer! And who knows how many blood diamonds are floating around...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:51 PM
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Ive never dated a man that had issue with sex toys. Never dated a man that wasnt out to give me pleasure either. My pleasure turned them on. Its sad this younger generation of men are not turned on by pleasing and getting their lady off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:24 AM
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I hear ya. Part of its hindering identity theft as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:29 PM
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Are there much for man bots? I know there are many women ones leading them to some sex site or the like. So really its probably only 15% women on apps! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:27 PM
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Yes, you can look up the stats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:47 PM
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Im one of those women business owners but I wont use Tik Tok! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:48 PM
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Im going through something like this now. We have things in common, hes well groomed, good looking, have deep conversations, etc but its just not there for me. Im not sexually attracted to him at all even though hes a sexually attractive man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:38 PM
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Sometimes two good people just wont work. Its just how it is, we dont fit with everyone. Its ok, its normal we wont fit everyone we date/meet. Ive dated some good men and we still didn't fit together for the long haul. One was a hard and fast deal breaker, he wanted kids and I didnt. We had to split so he could find a women that wanted children too. He found that and Im happy for him. Im happy I dont have kids, we both got what we wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:33 PM
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Yes, form is very important as you'll injure yourself and it can put you out for weeks or months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:27 PM
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So many men that lift neglect their legs too and the women dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:24 PM
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Estimated 78% of Tinder users are male. Who cant be alone? There are more women in the population than men yet they flood dating apps and women dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:16 PM
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Its total brain washing. People couldn't possibly be happy not attached to someone. Frankly, how many out there attached are the unhappy ones and the single people are good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:13 PM
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People on both sides cant see someone is good being single. Its brain washing that the be all of life is to be attached so to someone and marry off no matter who it is as its better than being single. They are projecting. And really like anyone wants someone with them when they are not attracted to just to not be alone. Yes a pity relationship. Let me sign up for that because it sounds so fulfilling...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:09 PM
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Seems more RP like to me. Ive only been there when its brought up here. I dont venture into many subs as its so much toxic nonsense and women hating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:22 PM
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As Susan Winters says, if you're confused its because you're clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:33 PM
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And yet so many men think their money is what makes them some prize. They are clueless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:31 PM
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Is something else going on with him? You're already being exposed being less that 6 ft from each other. Hugging you and being within 6ft exposes you just as much as kissing would. I dont understand his line of thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 11:39 AM
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Same at 46!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:32 PM
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Good men exist, they are just harder to find. Frankly, now a days good people are harder to come by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:08 PM
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Im not a fan of scrotes and don't use it nor all men are trash. Its the same to me as AWALT, women are parasites, etc as in the man spaces. Im not going to act like the men we are trying to avoid. If Im always talking all man are trash and scrotes that is what I will attract in my life as its bad energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:53 PM
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Projection at its finest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:33 AM
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If a man cant wait till an infection clears... What 7-14 days? Run. Hes not rejected its your lady part needs healing, like my goodness!! Yeast infections can burn for many women and then the 'creams' many use. Does he want yeast medicine all over him? He wants you to have it burns sex? Sheesh even Drs tell you wait till infection clears, like this is normal for ANY infection! She posted a thread on Reddit of all places, its over/should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:05 AM
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Right...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:52 AM
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Its ok, we've all had at least one bad one, its life and teaches you lessons. Own it and grow, you got you. Know you do. And a sign of a good or a bad, a red flag, is how they treat cashiers, waitstaff, etc. They treat them poorly or in this case hes annoyed you're nice, he/she is probably not. Speaking of cashier, this gas station I frequent on the way to work saw a cashier that I haven't seen in at least three weeks. We chatted quick and she said, it was nice the customers asked and cared abou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 01:17 AM
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And men are the logical ones??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:40 PM
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General rule of thumb is at least 6 months out of a relationship. They ended a few weeks ago or so, heck no. Emotionally healthy people need time to process, heal, reflect, etc. You cant do that in two weeks and just jump to the next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:07 AM
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Thank you. I like all kinds of cake but I still love box Duncan white cake with chocolate or vanilla jar frosting. Ha ha. Mmm Spice cake too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:58 AM
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Thank you. Pfft, I should have eaten some cake today! LOL I haven't had cake in some time, I love a good cake!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:24 AM
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Online dating is a sh*t show. Last I used it was years ago and I lasted two weeks. Such nonsense. I can just imagine how much worse it is today... I know there are people that do meet and work but really its more of an exception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:19 AM
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This. You don't need some book of a profile but a bit of info, come on now. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:14 AM
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Thank you. I love the word hoopla. hahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:08 AM
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Happy Cake Day! Cake Day for me too. haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:49 AM
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I just delete their number. An interested man not into some RP game or any game will stay in contact/confirm. Men that plays lets give her anxiety, run. Its emotionally abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:45 AM
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No confirmation communication, no go. Even me and my gal pals/family would 'check in' like see you at 4 at xxx or cant wait to catch up, see you at 6, etc, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:41 AM
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Seriously!! From stuff I read they seem to think makeup is some new thing. I think more women wore daily makeup/never left the house without from the 20's to 50's. It was the 'norm' to 'look like a lady'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:54 AM
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There are a few articles on this, its been happening more than one thinks and is even talked about Im sure. Update. There was a thing about this and what to do about it on my local news channels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:43 AM
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They think women only look nice because of men. Hello, I just like to look nice! Im a women and like to look like a lady. Frankly tons of people look like slobs today. There was a time and for a long time where Everyone dressed nice! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:40 AM
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They hit it faster. They dont seem to see what men look like around them! LOL Men in my age range(mid 40's) look 55+. They look way older than I do. I see way more poorly aged men over women. Single or married and the wife always looks Way better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:47 PM
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What the baloney is this!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:36 PM
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Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:54 AM
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LOL LOL Many men would feel emasculated staying home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 12:28 AM
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Good, move out then so you can hang out with your pedo friends all you want. What crap friends he has that they think its ok to creep on his kid sister..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:49 PM
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Funny I was upvoted and their rebuttals were down voted. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 08:58 AM
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Not there but was banned in Red Pill Women for couple days because Im not in a relationship so I don't know anything. A post about a 'captain' that leaves rotten moldy smelly food for his lady left in his truck for a week. Repeatedly talked to him about it knowing it bothers her really bad, bad enough to post on reddit. But what do I know? I dont have a current man. Never had a man leave me rotten smelly moldy food to clean. Yes a good 'captain' would leave his lady rotting moldy food left in hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:37 AM
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If anyone bothers to look, false allegations are pretty rare. I see this all over the man-spaces like its 90% false allegations. LOL And reality, so much goes on unreported.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 01:25 AM
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I dont thinks its BS. Im totally an acts of service. I also think many will have a mix, its more so one dominates. Like attachment. Sure, I love a good gift but wax my car instead. Gifts are appreciated but waxing my car wets my whistle over gifts. We are all different. Surely some men will try to manipulate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 01:11 AM
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No is a full sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:06 PM
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Thing is our 'high' standards are just normal standards. I mean a guy with his life in order and doesn't treat you like crap is a bare minimum not high standards! LOL After things I read here, Im grateful for my dating life, wasnt perfect at all but darn close compared to what many deal with... Like I. Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:00 PM
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My mom was the same way. Just like I always say here, she taught me to not date those older men coming after me. My dad would have brought out a shot gun if some 40 year old man was creeping on his 18 year old daughter! All women deal with pedo pervs starting at a very young age. Yes, men are the prize... Fathers that lurk here, watch out for your daughter as creep men start early! To add I was 11 in the 80's, its so much worse now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:45 PM
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He doesn't realize it starts when we are 10/11 years old... You dont have to man hate to be annoyed by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:08 PM
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Only thing Id want from then is how people dressed. So many look so sloppy or trampy today. Men actually wore pants and a nice shirt, now they look rolled out of bed half the time. Women run around with their butt cheeks/thongs out and see through yoga pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:00 PM
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I post this so many times here... I. Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:43 AM
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I want to know how they think some 33 year old women would want an almost 70 year old man? Like really, what goes on in their brain?? LOL Probably message 22 year olds too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:24 AM
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Yes, I want to rub your pubic hair looking beard, its so hot...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:14 AM
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If it wasnt his best friend it will be another. End it now. This post screams Im trying to force myself to love someone I just really dont. Doesn't mean you have no love for him or care for him but this is not love for the long haul or you wouldn't be here posting this.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 01:03 AM
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And they say women are needy and need attention... You dont reply in 30 seconds they start insults. My goodness. LOL Fast way to weed out a man is not replying right away, they start getting butt hurt. Helloooo, Im working and cant be on the phone, hello Im sleeping, hello Im hanging out with my family, hello Im driving, etc, etc. Get over your needy self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:54 AM
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I never dated one, I didnt even get past a date with one as they gave me that vibe of Im abusive or very needy. Tons join or become a cop for a power trip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:41 AM
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Ive so had one circle several times over 20 years. Claiming I treated him so well and he regrets it. He never met one like me. Truth to it but not my problem! Ive literally been over it for 20+ years! LOL If I had personal social media, Id bet he would circle more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:04 AM
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Run! No need for elaborating why, run!
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 02:57 AM
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There is, many times they are Anxious Preoccupied attached. AP's can make one a pick me/cant be alone type. Some are avoidant, they jump person to person avoiding feelings. I never understood it till I understood attachment and myself. I was one that could not jump to the next and needed my time. I didn't understand people that did. Im a Secure with a Dismissive side so I need that time. Secures can be alone, take the time and process feelings. My DA side if triggered I need a bit more alone tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:46 AM
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Yes. Most will want want to get in your pants. Sure, there are exceptions as I have one in my life, but trust men want to have sex with you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 04:43 AM
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Totally use it. And really read your skin, you'll know when something is too much, ect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:53 AM
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You can use a C serum, just use for your day routine and not at night with your Curology. Or take a Curology night off and use the C serum that night. Its dont use together, it can be too much for your skin. I tried Curology while I liked it my Retin A, CeraVe and The Ordinary work better for me. I use my C serum for days. My routine is 3 nights Retin A, two nights my acid peel, one night C serum and one night with night cream only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:26 AM
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Yes, as a mid 40's lady with barley a wrinkle. I took care of my skin and stayed out of the sun. CeraVe and The Ordinary are good go tos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:18 AM
5

They so over rate. Its one of those things too, bragging about looks or what a good lover they are will be the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:41 AM
3

Agreed!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:11 PM
3

When I had personal social media back in the day, no man was allowed to have until we were actually dating. I dont know you, you dont get access to my private social media, friends and family are there. I haven't had any for years now so I dont have to deal with it. Its freeing not to deal with social media baloney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:57 PM
8

This guy is a scumbag. And people wonder why Im glad I never married...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:00 AM
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Or the fact that people can grieve and still make decisions. Hes acting like her brain just stopped working just because shes sad. As far as I see, shes thinking clear as day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:58 AM
9

LOL LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:50 AM
1

You're welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:24 AM
1

Whatever works! haha. Its way better than settling for someone that doesn't add to your life and treats you like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:22 AM
3

I see some of this at events I attend. Events that are at least 90% men of all ages. I have a 'guy' hobby. For real all the stuff I read here/some stuff linked from other subs Ive become even more grateful for my dating life. Not perfect but my goodness, looking back I see even with the bumps it was pretty good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:20 AM
4

Yup. Some of the jobs actually have limited contact with people. At least in my area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:12 AM
12

If he wasn't famous, he wouldn't be getting women like this. He'd be an 'average Joe'. And his wrinkles are deep for his age, he has not aged like fine wine like the man spaces say! They act like hes some god. That said, I can appreciate his acting going back to the Basket Ball Diaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:15 AM
3

I usually date with in 5 years over or under, 10 tops. I tend to be attracted to more late 30's men over my age men, mid 40's. They look way older than I do. Some of them would look like my dad if I dated them. Late 30's men are more of a 'looks match'. I want to age with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:13 AM
22

Tons of places are hiring and many are paying more than usual it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:08 AM
1

Nothing more attractive than a clean groomed man that doesn't live in wrinkled ratty T's with a pube hair looking beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:51 AM
13

How are they not embarrassed of themselves? Just like a thread in RPW about her BF constantly leaving her rotten moldy smelly food to clean up left in his truck for a week. Repeatedly tells him how much it bothers her and keeps doing it. Id be embarrassed of myself leaving my man rotten food that is gross and knows it bothers him. I was banned from the sub for a couple of days over my comments. I dont have a man so what I said was invalid and banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:29 AM
17

They play this wall baloney when older women have a line of men out the door and a man the same age is invisible. And the older ones think their money makes them special and they will have a line of women. Not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:17 AM
1

Sometimes you just need extra! Sheesh! Condoms can dry me out a bit doesn't mean Ive lost being aroused by my man and doesn't mean there is something wrong with me or the sex. Some lube helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:58 AM
8

Funny you don't have to be hurt by men to recognize a clown... A clowns a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:29 AM
13

Im a dont bother for the next month or so at least. Do you, hobbies, clean stuff out, etc, ect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:35 AM
17

They think its as big as an eggplant when it should be a Gherkin sweet pickle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:21 AM
10

Hows that working out for ya buddy? I bet he has a line of women... Not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:23 PM
6

Seriously!! Some of the stuff I read here makes my skin crawl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 10:52 AM
19

Guys who brag how good they are in bed will suck in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:08 PM
17

Looks like a copied comment on one of those manspace videos on Youtube. LOL Those videos are filled with angry bitter men that think they are special snowflakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:59 PM
9

Usually kidnapped, drugged and being forced to have sex with strange men, what a privilege...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:44 PM
12

Never had a man ask this, I only read it in the man spaces. If a man did it would instantly turn me off as he just revealed his cards. I'll build my own table, just sayin'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:40 PM
10

They do exist, they are just harder to come by. Ive dated some good men in my years and my step dad is a good man, 25+ years hes been in been in my life. Him and my mom are like lovey teenagers! LOL Some of the stuff I read here, sheesh... Just note a good man doesn't mean you work. Two good people dont always mesh. Doesn't make either bad, you just dont fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:03 AM
1

Im not a fan of facial piercings on anyone. I think a nose stud or ring on a man is girly. To me this is a women's piercing area. A tiny little stud in the nose for women not so bad. Men with ear gauges, meh, not attractive to me. There is no going back stretching out your ears. That said, to each their own. I personally wont put any holes in my face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:08 AM
24

All you need to know is a man that really wants you wont run away. These men are weeding themselves out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 10:48 AM
3

My usual... I. Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 09:03 PM
5

Yes, lugging around groceries all over, no labor involved... I. Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:38 PM
2

Yes, I know nothing about relationships because Im not in one currently. I have no life experience as an older women. Not in a position to give advice just because Im not in a relationship at this time? This is how you treat fellow women here? FYI, terminal illness intervened but yes make your assumptions and give me a ban over my posts. No man I ever dated left me moldy pungent smelling rotten food to clean up. I also dont see a man as a good captain that would do this. But what do I know, I do…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 02:12 AM
18

Sure that helps but really its in the skin care/how you took care of yourself. That women is pale and burns, she didn't live a life in the sun. Shes like me! LOL Sun is a huge factor in aging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:29 AM
9

Agreed, Im a Dypsort fan over Botox though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:26 AM
14

Frankly I dont see this as a thing to do, marriage is a big deal and vet like no tomorrow so you do it once or never. I think vetting takes three years minimum. My experience, not all bad relations either, it just took that time to Really see everything. Wasn't bad but it wasn't for the long haul. Sometimes two good people still dont work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:00 AM
10

Whats funny is I made bank at 18 back then and drove a nice car at 18 too. I made $500-600 a week cash back in the early 90's. I sacrificed my nice car later in my 20's to start a business/save more. College would have just given me a debt hole. I wasnt interested in working for someone else the rest of my life and you dont need school to start a business. Ive been self employed for a decade+ now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:36 PM
3

Ive tried it on and off over the years and I never make it past about 30 days before I dumped it! LOL Its been years since Ive even bothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:43 PM
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Not my experience either. Men I meet are intrigued and interested I run my own business. I swear this a internet man space thing. I met a man many a years ago and he would not date me as I didn't go to college and drove a paid for 'beater car' at the time. I got rid of my 'nice' car to dump the payments to save money. I had a full time job and a side business I was starting back then. I was not good enough for him, I wasn't 'accomplished' and didn't drive a fancy car. He basically said that stra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:20 PM
6

And people wonder why I dont bother with OLD... LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:44 PM
5

This!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:13 AM
9

Im a Secure with a hardy Dismissive side. Im emotionally available but I can be triggered by people that are 'needy', etc, faster than other Secures. I need more alone time. I know myself well and understand when Im triggered and what it is. Dated an avoidant once, its sucked. LOL I think Thais Gibsons Youtube is great for attachment. She was a Fearful Avoidant. And more than likely yes, your avoidance has kept you away from relationships, emotional availability and intimacy. To add it is good y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:02 AM
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Yup, if you have any doubt, that is your answer. Any of my long terms I never doubted it in any way, he showed up. I knew 100% I was his lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:28 AM
6

Yes, my typo is important info to be pointed out. Would anyone here not be embarrassed of themselves leaving rotting food for someone to clean up? Would you leave it for your mom, grandma, etc? Would a good Captain leave rotting moldy food instead of taking 15 seconds to dump it in the garbage?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 03:02 AM
6

Im not encouraging her to get angry. You want to read into it to fit your narrative. Seeing what it is, its not anger. Ive been in a long term. I would not repeatedly do things that bother my partner and is gross. Seriously, if my man had to keep asking me not to leave rotten food for him? Im sorry, Id be embarrassed of myself.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 01:39 AM
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In no way did I say she should have an attitude. This is gross food he leaves like a kid. Why would he not do this simple task of throwing away rotten food? Adults should not be leaving rotten food for others to clean up. Seriously, are any of you here leaving rotten food for your partner to clean? There is compromising then stuff that is ridiculous to put up with, like rotted food left for you to clean... Id be embarrassed if I left my man to clean some moldy rotten food I left, repeatedly, kno…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 01:16 AM
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Why should you have to ask your partner over and over and over to throw out rotten food that smells/grows mold? This is gross. Im sorry you should not have to tell your partner repeatedly like hes a two year old.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 10:16 PM
6

Im a busy person and like my life. Many people are not worth making room for, they wont add to my life so they dont get added. Im also one of those that doesn't actively date like apps, etc. I just live my life and men come into by chance. I met every long term partner this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:44 AM
6

he will cheat on you too one day. Yup, it will end just like it started. Thats how karma works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:04 AM
2

Sunblock, sunblock, sunblock and minimize peek hours in summers specially, 10-2. Use sun umbrellas, hats, etc with your sunblock during those peek hours. Less is more. Cloudy days can cause more damage than a sunny day not using sunblock daily as well. Sunblock is also for certain lighting like florescent. Use on face, neck and back of hands in particular. Driving can be a hand 'killer' we dont think about. Its also best to moisturize when skin is moist from a shower/bath as well. CeraVe, The Or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:45 AM
7

Glad I never had any either...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:49 AM
21

Let alone you're mid 30's now with a man that looks like grandpa/your father....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:46 AM
23

Forgive him. They just slipped and fell in each others parts and accidentally had sex. I fell, it was 'a mistake', forgive me honey bun. Cheating is a choice and has consequences. The trust is now gone and no going back. Even those that stay, its still always there in some way and its changed you/the relationship forever. Anyone that participates in cheating sucks. You have sex with a man you know is taken, you suck as much as he does. You find out hes taken because he lied and you still keep ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:27 AM
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No way, its all lies, it was blissful, all marriages were perfect and now feminism has rUiNeD the perfect 1950's marriages. Those women loved their old abusive husbands and loved having 5 kids with him trapped because he was 'the provider'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:11 AM
14

I'd prefer sitting on the street and listening to a hobo screech about the end of the world tbh. Yes! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:05 AM
3

Oh and they want to claim well men 'work labored jobs' so it ages them. I worked labored jobs till my mid 30's so that argument is garbage. Some of my labored jobs were roofing and landscaping. I did a lot of roof tears /shoveling gravel roofs, dug dirt, hauled heavy plants around, stone, etc, etc! LOL I liked my labor jobs as they kept me in shape and the day went by fast. I wasn't the only women on these jobs. I wore sunblock, clothes that covered my skin more and hats while men ran around shi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 11:55 PM
4

Yeah men early/mid 40's have deep wrinkles like the man in this article. married or single men I come across. Even at 50 they look 65! Guts too. I dont need a man with six pack abs in perfect shape but I dont want a giant beer gut with man boobs either. Its not attractive and I dont expect a man my age range to look 25 in any way! LOL I barley have any wrinkles at all and no crows feet. Im still the same size I was in my youth... Im 130 at 5ft 7. I started to take care of my skin in my 20's. I k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 11:37 PM
24

Ive always stayed away from military men and law enforcement. Military men/police tend to be very needy or a whack job, controlling, anger, etc. Not much in between. Im sure some good ones exist but its rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:34 PM
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And we know if any of these men had a 19 year old daughter would not be having 40+ chasing her. No good father/parents wants their daughters dating old men. My mom and dad would have told a 40+ man to go kick rocks and never come near me again at 19.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:23 PM
21

Im 46 and dont want them and Im realistic. Neither of us are young but they look so much more aged than I do it would look like Im dating an older man when we are close in age! My 65 year old step dad looks younger than this guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:19 PM
5

He looks older than my stepdad and hes mid 60's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:14 PM
1

They also always want to bring up some 1950's baloney. Well in 1950, men were better. Not man whores and shamed for sleeping around. Many were probably virgin/virgin. Today they promote pump and dump till they can find some virgin... They want some 'traditional' virgin and they are in no way 'traditional' themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:51 PM
11

Im just glad I lost mine with another virgin. We were awkward together. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:47 PM
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I'll add more. https://www.rutgers.edu/news/older-fathers-put-health-partners-unborn-children-risk-rutgers-study-finds ​ can experience decreased fertility and put their partners at risk for increased pregnancy complications such as gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and preterm birth. Infants born to older fathers were found to be at higher risk of premature birth, late still birth, low Apgar scores, low birth weight, higher incidence of newborn seizures and birth defects such as congenital hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:00 PM
18

Sperm banks dont take sperm from men over 35 for a reason and if you look there is plenty of info on aged sperm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 10:56 PM
2

Some stuff I read here is insanity...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:00 PM
2

Exactly! He totally made that up. Its so the other way around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:58 PM
3

No such thing as pressure to get small boobs! Its so the other way around!! Where did he even come up with that? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:48 PM
3

LOL. Since when has there ever been 'societal pressure' to have small boobs???? Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:43 PM
10

Let alone there is no way his utilities jumped that much! Hes full of crap. Even if she lived there full time it would not increase $300+.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:11 PM
3

I don't buy his utility bill jumped $300+ from her sleeping over! That is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:03 PM
17

Why cant people wait another month or two? Find something to do in your life. I cant believe the amount of people that cant just ride it out for now. Take the time to evaluate your life because you cant handle not trying to date for a few months out of the rest of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:39 PM
31

Any man in my life time that declared himself good looking was not. Any good looking men never said a word about their looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:05 PM
3

Well, they do reach their SMV at 40's... best time of their life to chase 20 year olds. They have a line of hot young 20 year olds waiting for them. ​ Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:57 PM
12

I say it all the time here this is what my parents taught me before I even dated. How right they were...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:16 PM
2

Hes still old and so is his sperm. Most women in this forum want famlies and his sperm is filled with birth defects now. Let alone hes just a crappy man.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 11:55 AM
3

A thread over jars? LOL My goodness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 02:15 AM
6

We can agree to disagree. Take care.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 02:07 AM
4

One of the saddest things Ive read on reddit but live the life you want being a doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 01:51 AM
12

Exactly. My parents, specially my mom taught me about men like this when I was a teen. They were not wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 01:42 AM
9

Doormat is NEVER a good thing. No such thing as being a doormat for the right man as the right man you'll never have to be a doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 01:32 AM
6

Women his own age range dont want him and they see through his BS...
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 01:29 AM
5

Those stats are people and what happens between those people. They are not invalid. And really 25 and 40? His sperm is old and so is he.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 01:25 AM
7

His sperm is old and he is old. Shes only 25.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 01:22 AM
48

Studies say it takes about a month to hit them when women are hit during it already mourning it by the time you break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:35 PM
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This, this guy seems like a tool. And hes 40, she wants a family she should find someone closer in age with healthy sperm and wont be old/tired as the kids are growing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:32 PM
13

Statistically is very high failure rates.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:30 PM
17

Hes 40, run.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 08:29 PM
25

Signs of an avoidant attached man. Break the cycle as an avoidant cant give you what you need unless they are self aware actually working on their attachment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:28 PM
0

Dairy is inflammatory for most people. I know Ive come across articles and YouTube videos about this. There are others but that one I know off the top of my head. There is also the blood type diet which I follow a bit. Come to find out things not good for my blood type tend to bother me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 01:18 PM
4

Gray hair is sometimes just genetic too, my aunt had almost full gray by 17 but no others in the family did. One of my male friends had full salt and pepper late 20's. He has nice thick hair too, hes now 39. Its ok to age and we can age gracefully. And always do it for you. Big thing is take care of your skin and dont beat it up in the sun, its ages you the fastest. I personally think many women really grow into their beauty late 20's-early 30's as we lose that 'baby fat' from our face and look …
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 01:11 PM
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My mom taught me young about older men that would come after me. I saw them as old, eww why would I my 'dad' but she sure enlightened me. She was not wrong! Heck, I was cat called at 11 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:28 AM
32

Crying! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:49 AM
3

When they say it they dont realize I am by choice and I like it! LOL being single is not a bad thing. So much brain washing and your life is crap if you're not attached. Not. Some of the stuff I read here, my goodness... cesspool is right. I dont venture into other subs much unless its linked here for that reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:46 AM
10

God bless my single life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:27 AM
6

Classic Dismissive Avoidant with narc tendencies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:01 AM
8

They hate themselves so they are mean to others to make themselves feel better. Hurt people hurt people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:51 PM
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This happens all the time when he wants an open thing. She has a line out the door and he cant find anyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:30 PM
7

So we now have to communicate even before we makeout not to choke... Sad state of men these days...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:46 PM
15

Im personally for love as its harder to find. A guy with more money is easy. That said, Im for love if a man has his life in order/getting it in order. Nobody wants to be with someone thats always broke because they're bad with money, does not try to improve work wise, bouncing job to job, living in moms basement, etc, etc. You got to the point you wrote this post, you dont really want to be with this guy. You have your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:44 PM
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Or you know many of us use condoms so there is no DNA involved? This is thrown all over the man spaces, they cherry pick info and there is no hard scientific info to back it, its speculation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:46 PM
4

They think they have super sperm till 70...
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 03:37 PM
3

That dating app study is even from a heavy user base of 35 and under! Its a crap study. And sure any man may find young 20's women attractive but finding them attractive and wanting to date them are two different things. Not like I have not seen some good looking 25 year old men but I certainly dont want to date them, Im 40's! LOL So many stats back up most date in their age range and what you see out in the real world but they want to deny it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:37 AM
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Its just cope for those men. Older men are invisible on dating apps and older women are not. Also even stats show most people date in their age range, specially for marriage. There is not an abundance of relationships with 15+ years of an age gap. Its more on the rare side. Its in the 3-10 range. And the men I see in real life look way older than they are and women look their age or younger. Most men I come across married or single my age look 10+ years older. People assume Im mid 30's and Im mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:28 AM
3

Im in the same boat at 46. Frankly I have more men after me now than my youth. Sure some just want fun but others want to really date. That part is no different from my youth. The older you get the less you give a F what anyone thinks too and its freeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:18 AM
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It does for men as well. Their fertility falls off by 35 and their sperm can cause birth defects. Fertility is not just a women thing. Mens older sperm is filled with more defects than womens older eggs. Fertility issues are 50/50 over 35 and sperm banks don't take sperm over 35. The men in the man spaces never seem to talk about this and harp on women for 'rotting' eggs and the wall baloney. Its better for both genders to have children before 35.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 09:13 AM
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The wall thing is just fear mongering in the man spaces by a bunch of 35+ men wanting to chase 20 year olds. Women need to get this crap out of their heads. And what I see out in the real world is men looking old by 30 not women. I see the opposite of their men age like wine... Its cope.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 09:01 AM
6

Its prescription but it keeps collagen going we lose and can actually get rid of wrinkles. Starting younger with it can be preventive. Its a retinoid thats much stronger than retinols that you find over the counter. Retinols are a great place to start. Anyone just starting skin care I recommend CeraVe and The Ordinary. There are some good Youtube videos out there. Angie at Hotandflashy does good videos and tests products. This women didn't start real skin care till 50 and now 57.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 08:53 AM
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I was just going to say look into Curology. Im glad you mentioned as it does seem to work with many and reasonably priced. I'll add, The Ordinary seems to be a good line to check out. I love their acid peel.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 01:25 AM
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I started mid 20's now mid 40's and barley any wrinkles. Trust ladies do it! Add Retin A. Start early with this. Dont forget neck, chest and back of hands. Skin care and limiting my time in the sun all these years aided in my minimal wrinkles. Some of its genetics. Days out I try to skip 10-2 sun if I can as that she strongest hours in summer. I have a sun umbrella and fun beach hats when Im out peak sun hours.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 01:22 AM
5

Im with ya. I feel like Im stalk your posts as we are the 'same'. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:11 AM
8

I feel bad for you younger ladies as men have become worse over the past two decades. Sure Ive come across crappy men in my time but nothing like the crap I see today with their porn dicks, gaming, anal obsessed, immaturity, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:44 PM
8

Seems to be a young guy thing as never heard that garbage out of a mans mouth in my age range.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:39 PM
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Ive only heard this nonsense in the man spaces on the net. And plenty of people buy cars with no test drive, just sayin'! LOL My last two cars I ordered and took 8 weeks to get. When you know you like a car you dont need to test it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:36 PM
15

Really this is for everyone, so much brain washing that you cant have a good life without a partner or kids. Im glad I never followed the brain washing, I rebelled it! I was just always working, doing things, had my friends/family, etc so I was never bothered by I dont have a BF. Anyone I dated popped into my life and didnt chase it, it happened living life. Divorce was at an all time high when I was a teen, I just knew...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:29 PM
1

For real! haha. Looking back and reading others experiences our awkward virgin to virgin is a blessing! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:10 AM
1

Im all for let it all go till we open up again. Do you, clean out closets, paint your living room, read a new book, work on a business, etc, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:03 AM
3

Live your life the way you want. Not what your friends say, your family, society, etc. Do you, do what makes YOU happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:00 AM
4

Beaming I haven't been his apartment red flag? Its five months now... To me this is not normal at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:44 AM
6

Glad I lost my virginity to another virgin so we both 'sucked'! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 10:17 PM
12

My friends and I never do this either, its just bad juju and we are better people then that. Any D convo we've ever had one of us mentioned he was a king snake(as in too big) never about smaller! LOL To add, just like I dont say all men trash or scrotes. Thats lowering myself to their level. Its like the man spaces with their AWALT baloney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 10:02 PM
16

She needs to go stalk hotter younger men. See how he likes it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:23 PM
5

For real, my mom taught me back in the 80's when I was a teen! I was FDS before I got here. Bottom line it, she said make your own money, be a good person, stay away from older men as they wanted to use me and dont let a man treat you like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:22 AM
8

Karma at work, it always comes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:07 AM
3

Your FWB better be giving you O's or at least doing his best to! haha. What is the point of sex if its not sex you enjoy! Any man Ive had sex with wanted me to O on his face or man part! It tuned them on when I got off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:48 AM
27

Im a buy furniture, etc and upcycle, refurbish, etc. A man that did it too, yes! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:39 AM
1

My goodness... As Ive posted many other times... I. Just. Cant...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:00 AM
3

Ive had one FBW thing, lasted 1.5 years. This was back early 2000's. Wasnt looking it randomly happened. I wasnt in a place to be in a serious relationship and neither was he, we had things to work on. We did have a good thing, he was a good fella, we knew what it was, respected each other, etc, etc. We had some hot sex! LOL. It can happen but its more on the rare side. Id advocate against more or less but it can work with the right person. Still vet that FWB and you mutually get what you want o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:53 AM
3

I cant stand that people say that. Even if I had kids Id get a care taker, thats what they are there for. It can be a huge burden taking care of elderly when you have your own family. My mom went through it was I was becoming a teen, its was hard. It was hard on all of us. Also to note so many stick their parents in a home and hardly visit, its very common. Yes have kids thinking they will really be there for you... Oh and to add, Pfft, even if I go to a home Im going to have a fun life still! T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:38 AM
2

So much brain washing, specially with many religions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:35 AM
2

Thank you, you'll get there!! I shared this in another thread before. For anyone thinking they cant have a fulfilling like without kids/a partner. A childless non married woman. 13:15 minutes in. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tVIh4TdQhs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:26 AM
6

I knew by the time I was 18 or so I didnt want kids. Didnt care about marriage either. Ive always wanted a long term partner but if it happened it happened and if it didnt that was ok too. I have an easy stress free life. Good family, friends, love my work and have my hobbies. Im certainly never bored!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:01 PM
20

Im one of those older single childless women and Im not the unhappy one out there! LOL I always went 'against the norm'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:41 AM
25

Im with ya, I'll stay sex free if I cant have that hot passionate sex. Heck no will I be used as a 'cum dumpster'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:33 AM
5

For real...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:29 AM
68

I find it sad so many women experience one sided sex and do so for years. All my boyfriends tried to pleasure me, it made them hot. This is my norm and should be the norm. What the heck is the point of being with a man that is not hot for you and hot to give you pleasure? You are hot for each other and want to please each other. I dont really know what its like to have sex when we are not hot for each other. I also find it sad so many men are not turned on by getting a women off. How does it not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:47 AM
11

Brain washing, single people should not be single so lets hook up any two singles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:59 AM
3

Im fortunate to have a few good gal pals and are like me. We 'attracted' each other in our lives. Some of the stuff i read with friends... I appreciate my friends so much more. I see how good I have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:54 AM
11

Single life is excellent, just sayin'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:36 AM
11

Right, Id tell my BF as soon as I talked to him what I won! This guy plotted to suck money from his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:31 AM
3

secure people don't need to write this shit on reddit. Exactly...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:08 AM
3

You cant win sometimes, you just have to ignore it. Live the life you want. Ive been at the opposite end because I dont want kids so Im a bad person!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 09:46 AM
5

Reality everyday people out there find someone great. Dont ever doubt this even if it takes time to find them. No scarcity mindset, just have an aware mindset. Another reality, personality/how you're treated plays a HUGE role, a bigger role than looks. The hottest man can be a dink and the more 'average Joe' is the bomb. You fall for the 'average Joe'. Your 'average Joe' becomes your hottie. Looks may get you in the door but doesnt make one stay. Its the rest of it that makes you stay, the hes a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:58 AM
2

So many think because you're good looking life is just easy. Life is not easy for anyone. Now the way we live can make things easier but it wasnt so easy to get there. You worked for it. And thats just it, good looking you face no discrimination, people trying to use you because of looks, people thinking you are no more than looks, good looking means trauma free childhood so how dare you have anxiety as an adult, not one insecurity because you're actually human. Good looking people just have per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:48 AM
9

Exactly!! id rather be single forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:16 PM
5

You will as I went through it my 20's. Took time to heal and you will too, you got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:14 PM
6

I went through something similar with that crazy narc I dated in my 20's. Im so glad we never had children... It was back in the mid 90's. I see my scar everyday that reminds me Im alive. 14 stitches on my face. My one eye took months to heal and one side of my rib cage is still more sensitive to this day. All was good then one day a switch flipped and how the hell did I get here? I dont talk about it often and glad Ive never encountered a man like that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:09 PM
5

Frankly most Ive come across in my life with money are jerks, its the broke to average income guys that were the nice ones. They are the ones that took you to dinner and didn't cry and whine some 'equality' gold digger BS. Ive only encountered it using a dating app and in the man spaces on the net.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:51 PM
9

Dont forget suck the life out of her youth...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:48 PM
5

Im glad I never really had it, Ive always went against the 'norm' even in my youth. Im not the unhappy one out there and many that follow the 'norm' are the unhappy ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:45 PM
5

Yup. People are so brainwashed into thinking you cannot have a good live without a partner attached to you. I find it sad so many out there are so dependent on having a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:43 PM
24

And so many men think their money and 'status' makes them the prize. Not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:03 PM
6

Small claims court, just file. What a scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:56 PM
101

This, really it hits both genders. Single people are seen as 'worthless' or 'broken'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:53 PM
3

The word drama means I cause drama. Anyone, male or female that has 'dont do drama' in a profile has things to work out inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:30 AM
22

I didn't even click the link, just going by the title. No man I had a relationship with didn't care about my pleasure. It made him hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:26 AM
15

Me too or some guys on dating apps. No man I ever dated or went on a date with had an issue with a $20 dinner... Funny the good men in my life see no issue with this sub. Or gee in many women's experience if a man doesn't take you on a date hes not really into you, its just the way it is. Its not like its something we make up, its facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 04:46 PM
3

I dont go into those subs as they make my skin want to crawl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:07 PM
4

They call those GWC. Guy with camera.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:49 AM
114

Need a nude to trust? LOL I. Just. Cant...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:43 PM
4

I had one reach out Saturday night... havent spoke in a month. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:51 AM
12

Its the pushy fast types or more over the top over it naturally happening. For me personally i just feel it in my gut. A radar goes off. Any man I ever had a committed relationship with, it naturally flowed, I didn't doubt it, it didn't make me question it, etc. Doubt, off feelings, etc was a man I never went on a date/got past some dating, it felt off for a reason even if I couldn't put my finger on it. Sometimes the red flag beamed in my face. Gut feelings are there for a reason. If you have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:13 AM
33

They call any man a simp thats not a dick head and not chasing 20 year olds! You chase/date women over 25 at any age, simp. You are actually a nice man, simp, you treat people with respect, simp... They just dont see they are jerks. There is a difference in taking crap from someone that you shouldn't and just being a jerk. Just because a man is nice to women doesnt make him a simp and just because a man is nice doesn't mean he takes crap from people either. IMO people who are balanced are nice, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:35 AM
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They just want to bash other men because they dont feel good about themselves. Their projection is real. Some of the man shaming Ive seen in the man spaces is unreal and they have the nerve to talk about women. They are way worse than any crap women. Hypocrites. To add, my definition of a simp is a pick me man. Simp is not someone who is nice, hes just a nice normal guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:12 AM
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They dont seem to understand many of us actually want love, be cared for and be attracted. I cant spoon and snuggle with your money, your money doesn't make me feel special nor loved, its just money. Money doesnt buy happiness, its buys stuff. And frankly many guys with money are dick heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:05 AM
3

Id say most women would be fine with many as long as they are not toxic and you're neglecting things in your life/your relationship for said hobby.
/r/askFDS05/04/20 01:47 AM
9

Funny how oblivious they are on how much their fertility drops by 35 and fertility issues are 50/50 with both genders over 35. Mens older sperm causes more defects than a women's older eggs. Sperm donation banks dont take sperm over 35 but they have super sperm till 90!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:40 AM
22

I dont go to that crap hole unless linked here! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:34 AM
3

Men will still keep coming and yes some of those men will still think you want to have sex, hate to break it to ya... haha. Its not going to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:25 AM
7

Its so doesn't, I swear life gets 'easy' in your 40's and you give less F's what others think! You just own yourself even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:22 AM
4

They do, have you seen what men are looking like today? haha. Ive posted here before, I have a 'guy' hobby and at event is about 90% men of All ages and most look like crap and its not ugly per say. Its dressed bad, over weight, balding, man boobs, just dull, pube beards, dirty looking clothes, etc. Id say a good amount of men are 35 and under...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:19 AM
3

My goodness those old men chasing me at starting at 16, gross. You're still good, you didn't hit the wall yet, its over at 25... LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:12 AM
7

And really any women of any age can easily find sex/dates/fun if they really wanted, men cant without buying them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:09 AM
8

Its scares of men not worth dating. Trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:03 AM
17

Right... They are not fine, its a more rare to see a not aged beyond his years older man. I come across some men my age and I swear they look as old as my dad and Im 46... They dont have younger women chasing them but I have younger men chasing me. Sure, some just want fun but some actually really want to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 12:59 AM
5

The more religious they seem to be the bigger jerks they are. Churches are filled with predator fake men of god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:08 PM
2

This kind of thing is over the top pick me, my goodness. I cannot believe some of the stuff I read that women put up with. Like for real the man is covered in shit and sleeps in shit.... I cannot even comprehend dating such a man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:03 PM
11

Ive been an instant delete the number since cell phones existed so I could never text/call even if I had some weak moment. It was my own self protection! Frankly I never saved their number either. I dont save a number in my contacts until there is actual potential. Delete them out of your life fast and swift!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:54 PM
4

Funny I never had a BF smell or leave skid stains on sheets or his underwear so this is not 'its men its normal'. Its just normal for gross men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:40 PM
4

Right?! Though I dont always sleep well, peri meno night sweats! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:44 PM
8

Only people I know in a good marriage are my parents and some of their friends. They are all 60+ though. The rest, well... Im a 40's lady and SO glad I never married!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:41 PM
25

While some women may play this hard to get game for most of us its not a game, we are just not interested! Im not playing Im just not interested in dating you. Get over yourself just like Ive had to get over someone that wasn't interested in me. You move on and live your life. To add or heaven forbid we have a life and not up a mans butt at their beck and call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:57 PM
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Just like they say any man that dates a women over 25 is a simp. Yeah, ok... Most people date close in age for both genders so the simp calling is garbage. These men hate and shame each other way more than any women would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 09:23 PM
5

I was taught the same thing. Im also gen x, we grew up as independent children and you cant just turn it off, its who we are. Me being dependent on someone for money makes my skin want to crawl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:09 PM
10

If you're confused its because you're clear. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JD8S47QOmLU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:30 PM
29

he doesn't want anything serious with you. Say it louder for those in the back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:26 PM
14

If a man likes you, he will eliminate any doubt. This!! There just wont be doubt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:21 PM
2

And really its just a good beat. I jam in the car! haha. I added it to my playlist weeks ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:41 AM
40

People into each other will always make the time even if its limited, they will show up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:30 AM
31

Ive never really been a pick me... Its not like Ive never dated a bad guy or did something stupid. Just to note! haha. I'll say this, any man I had a serious committed relationship with showed up, I didnt doubt their feelings, when they would text, etc. Ever. They didn't pull back, they didn't crumb, they didn't not talk to me for days, etc, etc. They courted, we courted each other, they opened doors for me and showed up Everyday consistently. We showed up for each other. I 100% knew they were i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:23 AM
6

Its all about them and your feelings are invalid, you're stonewalled. I even understood his attachment, Im very educated about it. We didnt get far either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:17 PM
28

Its the worst when you match in so much and hes avoidant. I had one of those...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:07 AM
51

Thats just it they want a 'traditional feminine' woman but they don't act like a traditional masculine man. All they do is complain and whine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:37 PM
44

I want to know what these guys bring to the table that say 'what does she bring to the table'. We dont need some guy to pay our bills so what do they actually offer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:34 PM
15

Let alone there are jobs in desperate need of employees right now... He just doesn't want to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:58 PM
3

This kind of thing happens of a lot of people. Its linked to a rise in depression and anxiety. I dumped mine years ago and only have a couple of business accounts. No Fakebook even for business.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/20 12:23 PM
4

Im a thrift shopper. I have found some of my best clothes at thrift stores. I do tend to buy pieces that are more timeless over trendy. If Im going to really spend its a timeless piece. I think brand is irrelevant, its the fit, the look and how You feel. A $12 top can look as good as a $80 top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:00 AM
29

Chad, how ironic! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:51 AM
18

23 year olds dont even have teeth that white.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:49 AM
21

I for ditching personal social media or be very limiting what you share if you do use it. It is so exposing, can be toxic and you dont even see it, causes unneeded anxiety, etc. Youre asking how to make social media 'better' like you're 'thirsty' for attention on SM, why? Why do you need to share your life like that? Why do you need to make better stories? Why is this even important? How will this improve your life? How will any of this SM stuff make you more feminine? If its not business relate…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/20 03:05 AM
10

Bottom line it, hes just a liar. Deflect/change the subject because they were caught in the lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:01 AM
12

My mom and step dad share cooking. My step dad is surly the grill master. They do things for each other/share household chores. They act like lovey teenagers after 27 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:41 AM
12

Most of those just 'talk to him', etc, clearly dont know what a healthy relationship is/never been in one. So many need therapy... Some of he stuff ive read makes my skin want to crawl. When a man is into you it will be as clear as day and you wont doubt it. Any relationship Ive been in I never doubted if he was into me, there was no pull backs, there was no going days without talking or none of the nonsense people put up with. While these relationships didn't work out it wasn't because thy trea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 08:49 PM
12

I get it. Im mid 40's and have had guys Im not even dating ask. Its 50/50 on who gets it. People have to add to your life, partners, friends and even family. Toxic people make you toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:43 AM
33

Ive read some articles that say about 50% of people on apps are only looking for validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:42 AM
76

Yup, 11 too. Back in the 80's!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:37 AM
10

Yes, I posted to add to the music list! Very fitting. Its cool shes still going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:37 PM
13

Dont they realize this can happen to a women in the middle of the day going to the grocery store? They seem to think the only women that get rapped wandered in a dark alley in the middle of the night...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 12:15 PM
17

Yup, there was a thread here I think where the BF showed naked pictures of his GF to his dad!!! Nude pictures can end up on porn hub, happens more than one thinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:08 AM
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Im a dont ever send nudes... if you do at least always cut your face off!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 12:20 AM
3

Yup!! Even reality for many not during a pandemic. Best time ever to be single! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 12:15 AM
6

Me too, if I remember correctly I found FDS from one of those Youtube man channels mocking it. I found my 'people' here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:23 PM
13

I was pretty FDS before I got here, my mom taught me and Ive never been one to ever need a man or have low self esteem, even in my youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 10:34 PM
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Good men will pass on you if you have revealing photos. Hes going to think your a tramp/attention seeker. You want a line of crappy guys, show your body! To add, so glad I dont use OLD, Id rather be single forever! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 10:19 PM
13

Police are already reporting a spike in domestic calls...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:53 PM
176

Not even! LOL She cant even get a 'you'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:51 PM
2

I hear ya!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:45 PM
20

A lot of the time its some sort of self esteem/traumas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:38 AM
43

Feminine men tend to be needy and it will trigger my avoidant side rather quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:13 AM
5

My step dad, hes been around for almost 27 years. I have dated some good men, we just didn't work out for other reasons. Two good people dont always work. I have two guy friends, ones more acquaintance level but both are good guys, not perfect but they dont treat women like crap and see them as people. They both actually want real relationships. Good men are out there, they are just harder to come by. I persoanlly dont have the mindset all men are trash and scrote talk. I know Many guys are seri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:00 AM
2

Projections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:19 AM
9

LOL LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:43 PM
14

Funny its always the men crying about being alone but always say women cant... I gathered many men on social media are out there crying about it too. Seems they have nothing else in their life. I literally have tons of things I can do during this, I dont even think about dating, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:58 PM
29

Can I say how glad I am I work for myself? I work alone and dont deal with anyone but my online customers that are mostly women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:40 PM
26

Fertility clinics say its 50/50 with fertility issues over 35. But you know, they have super sperm till 70...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:24 PM
8

Yes on the gym selfies! LOL Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:05 PM
1

Some are so insecure! For real Im not even thinking of past guys and Im not the only one! I swear its more men stuck on their past!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 02:57 AM
4

Im in the boat those early beginning stages men should do some courting, men who dont usually are not serious/not into you enough/just want sex. Those that talk 'equality' crap are not the men to date. So many of us know darn well when a man is not courting, hes just not that into you/wants sex only. For me is not some expectation, its just how it is, he doesn't court in some way(even a 'broke man' will find a way to show you hes into you/serious). Hes just not in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:55 AM
3

Or him being ok with 45 + men chasing after his 18 year old. If the shoe was on their foot, heck no. My parents taught me to stay away from those older men for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:19 AM
4

Our brain doesn't even fully develop till mid 20's. Yes, having a baby before our brain is fully developed is such a good thing... And for real on all women thinking about last partners!! When Im into a man, Im so not thinking about a past wanker at all, Im thinking about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:13 AM
5

Just because you dont have a partner doesn't mean you're lonely or alone. Even if you have lonely moments sometimes doesn't mean your are actually lonely overall. Im not looking for a perfect man, Im looking for a perfeclty imperfect one. Nobody is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 08:22 PM
6

My gyno was still running, they didnt let more than 2 in the waiting room at a time and a 'guard' at the door before I went in asking if I felt sick etc before I was let in. So call and check, they may be running with precautions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 08:13 PM
6

So you need to live your life and dress for your neighbors when you're quarantined at your home? My goodness, my neighbors can take a hike if they want to judge what I wear taking out the trash. They are the ones with the problem judging comfortable clothes when Im home. This guy is just a control freak.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 07:47 PM
12

High value women and high value men are self sufficient and content with themselves as people. They don’t NEED anyone, they want someone who adds to their happiness and joy. This!! A lot of that you 'complete me' BS is societal brain washing that you cant have a good life not having a partner. And then those that are just insecure and cant be alone... A point made in this YT video, a childless non married women. 13:15 minutes in. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tVIh4TdQhs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:37 PM
23

Some guys like this are avoidant attached. They will never marry or stay with someone long enough unless they have done therapy/aware of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:00 PM
7

Right now people should be social distancing so he should not have even asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:30 AM
8

At home taking out the trash?? I can see running around town but shes home bound taking out the garbage.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 12:10 AM
5

Huge red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 12:08 AM
3

And really majority just make average incomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:54 PM
6

I have a line out the door of under 35 men if I wanted to go there for some fun! A couple sincerely want to date. Im 46. They think Im in my 30's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:50 PM
15

If Leo wasnt famous he'd be a 'nobody' like any other guy. Hes not That good looking. better than some but more average to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:45 PM
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I in no way wanted them at that age either! Sheesh I dont even want 40+ men now and Im in my 40's, they look so much older than I do! Im also very realistic at my age, neither of us are spring chickens but sheesh they look 60 at 45.... I look more mid to late 30's and Im almost 47.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:40 PM
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Yup. They act like some app study is actually valid. Specially when is a younger crowd using it. And even so they may find younger women attractive but finding them attractive and wanting to actually date are two different things. I may find some 25 year old guy attractive but Im in no way going to date them! Im in my 40's, hes a 'boy' still! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:36 PM
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Even stats back up women date closer to their age but want to ignore this. Or big age gap relationships have Huge failure rates! And really why do they think young women want a wrinkled guy with a lowering sex drive and ED issues on the horizon with old sperm! LOL Ya know they read some dating app study, a study done with most users 35 and under or read a comment from a guy bragging he gets 22 year olds at 45. Its the exception not the norm. To add I remember a Youtube comment abut a 47 year old…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:21 PM
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f had to talk someone into having sex with me knowing that they don’t actually desire me. I would want to crawl under a rock and die. Right.... Id feel pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:04 AM
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Dump him, hes controlling and will only get worse in the future. I had one of those in my 20's and turned violent.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 10:53 AM
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I think social media filled with selfies is a thirsty pick me. Some here and there is fine. Id also say good men dont want women who lives on social media constantly posting selfies. They would prefer her not posting stuff for attention and low key. Look at me, look a me with selfies attracts crappy guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:13 PM
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So the guys at 25 on ED meds today is a myth? 25 year old guys on ED meds is not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:40 PM
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Yes!! just because he picked someone else does not make YOU not good enough!! Reread what I wrote. I dont ever think Im not good enough because a man is not interested in me. It was about him not me. I know darn well Im a good person and because someone doesn't want me doesn't suddenly make me less than... This guy is crap anyways, hes wounded. You also only saw some post on social media, you don't actually know anything. Social media is curated and people show what they want to show. For all yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:45 PM
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Hes a wounded person, anyone that jumps person to person has wounds to heal. They will continue to jump person to person to 'fix' the wounds that will never be fixed until they stay alone and do the work on themselves. Frankly you dodged a bullet!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:07 PM
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Get rid of the 'good enough' thing. Just because someone doesn't want you doesn't actually make you not good enough, you just dont fit. Mindset shift, you Are good enough, always have this mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:03 PM
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No hymen no diamond and promoting pump n dump at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:41 PM
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They are legit but sure as sh@t some men exploit it/misunderstand it. Im totally acts of service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:41 AM
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I. Cant. Even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:50 AM
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I have things to refurb-upcycle-makeover. Some old school Home Interiors stuff from the 80's. I also have this cool metal piece that used to have a clock but it broke so I'll turn it into a mirror and change its color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:13 AM
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But, but PaIr BoNdInG is the holy grail of making a relationship work....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:39 AM
5

Total control freak!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:14 AM
3

What in the what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:45 PM
5

She needs to leave so he can find a pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:39 PM
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She has to ask to clean? Holy F!! I just read total insanity...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:20 PM
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Specially my age, 'nobody wanted me' or 'I'm crazy', no, I just dont need to be attached to a man to be happy. I find it weird people just cant think this can happen for both men and women! I let any of them think what they want, they are just projecting/making assumptions. I really only feel it so often because people that meet me or know me just know Im a happy person as thats the energy I vibe and it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:41 PM
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Reading some of these posts makes more grateful for my best two gal pals, they are FDS type ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:35 PM
2

Youre welcome, and thank you, it was 20+ years ago so long past it. I was very naive to a narcissist at 23. New women's theme song. haha JoJo-Man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:26 PM
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Jojo- Man Commenter said: I like that the overall message of the song is that she's loving herself, loving being by herself and with her girls and loved ones, so if she wants a man, he'll have to love her as hard (or harder) as she loves herself and her loved ones love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:23 AM
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I find it sad she even posted this and questioned anything... This is a go kick rocks you're a scumbag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:47 AM
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Only crappy guys have a problem with it. They act like we promote violence or the like. How terrible we dont want to be treated like crap by men and some of their crappy behavior gets exposed. Women learn they were being treated poorly, abused, etc. So ToXiC!! To add, the constant we are all about getting 'free dinners' and mens money seems to be a thing with them... If anything this sub debunks we are after their money, FDS is about making your own never depending on a man for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:12 AM
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You got there even if it was later. So many never get there... My 20's were sucked up by a narc, my one real bad man. Someone I knew for years before we even started dating. Things were good then one day it wasn't and how the hell did I end up here?? It happens at least once to all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:06 AM
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They are projecting and societal brain washing. Im one of those people where my life didn't revolve around men. I just lived my life. Men came into my life by chance. Im not the unhappy one out there! Those people projecting were. To add, I have not had a string of bad relationships either, I just never needed a guy to be happy, they added to my happiness/life. If a man doesn't add to my life Im not going to bother with him.(people in general actually, even friends)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:25 AM
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I cant believe the amount in the thread that dont like kissing... That would be a deal breaker for me personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:20 AM
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Im thinking... Im glad not stuck quarantined with a crappy person and glad I have my immune booster vitamins(first thing I bought when this hit) and nutritional/electrolyte drinks if I happen to get sick. They are better than just water when youre sick. Im prepared to get sick. Reality, majority of us Will be exposed to it in the next year even lowering the curve. F any dude right now! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:47 AM
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Its normal. I feel people, we are all feeling it. I wont even see my parents, they are 60+. Im feeling it myself on the work side as being self employed with a very steady business and its taken a Serious hit. Im glad I work alone and dont have to lay people off, Id feel so terrible. Positive note, I work alone isolated in a private work space so my risk is less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:28 AM
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My mom would have done the same thing! She would have went into the office and told them to kick rocks and pulled me out of a shit school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:06 AM
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Cheating is a choice not a mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:01 AM
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He just fell and it slipped in, oops, mistake...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:59 AM
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Youre welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:59 PM
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They all throw that cat thing around like its a bad thing or supposed to offend us. Um we like cats, many people do! LOL We had pets growing up. I will have pets till the day I die man or no man! LOL. Pets help people live longer, reduce stress, etc and research backs it up. I got my first own cat at 18 when I moved out, yes I got him because I was a bitter lonely 18 year old man hater... palease. He lived for 19 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:27 PM
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Isnt it nice? Such truth, Ive had some good men and its not a chore. You just flows and its easy even with bumpy parts. My guys we didn't work out for other reasons but its not because they treated me like crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:48 PM
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Participating in cheating any way or pestering someone to cheat is low value for sure. Keeps is real, Susan Winters. Id also recommend anyone knowing about attachment, tons of channels to learn from. Personal Development School - Thais Gibson is a good one specially those with anxiety/avoidance. Dr Todd- Not about dating but behavior, etc. Hes kind of dry but talks about a lot of real stuff. Go to skin/body care. Kind of off topic but Id say FDS on leveling up taking care of your skin, etc. Angi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:35 AM
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Unfortunately...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:55 AM
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A lot of sex workers are actually shutting down and web cams are booming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:40 AM
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Major insecure gal in my eyes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:59 AM
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Me being open emotionally triggered his avoidance. Any closeness, run, any closeness talk, stonewall-run. I was very open and honest with him in healthy ways, he ran then circled back. I was very aware of his attachment and tried to work with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:50 PM
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And people want to wonder why I never married... I have not dated a bunch of bad men but this kind of thing happens all the time even if you stay fit!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:41 PM
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I feel bad for younger, Im older and men are still more like real men at my age. Sure they are all ages but not like the younger men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 02:07 PM
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there's only the feelings of pity and feeling sorry for you. This! You dont see us posting threads on Reddit crying we are single... Just sayin'. I find it sad so many cant enjoy single life at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:17 PM
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Id say both. He knew who she was and wants it changed now. She feels the need to get mens attention on social media, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:11 PM
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Reality, there are just a bunch of crappy men using apps. Its about them not you. People who also make such assumptions about others are projecting their own crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 11:50 AM
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Id blast my friend and say hes not marvelous and I dodged a bullet! Pity him not me, hes a pornstick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:15 PM
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I like this one. She has some good info on her site as well. https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:35 PM
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Im a Secure with a hardy Dismissive side. I dated an FA, my secureness triggered him to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:22 PM
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They seem to think this sub is all about manipulating men/men for free dinner! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:33 PM
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I have two. I dont go out of my way to make male friends, I have my gal pals. I have some other acquaintance male friends but we only chat when I run into them. In many of our experiences, male friends are not really friends, they are waiting to get in your pants.
/r/askFDS17/03/20 03:01 PM
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I was just going to post clean out closets, etc! Great time to haul out unneeded things as organize, etc. Deep clean your place.
/r/askFDS17/03/20 02:56 PM
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I was attacked one time in datingoverthirty by some guy. He called out my FDS posts with some get free dinners BS. LOL The thread had nothing to do with dinners or the like, he just wanted to be a troll. Some of the stuff I see posted is so 'pick me' and Im completely insecure for both genders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:39 PM
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No man I ever dated asked nor have I asked a man... This is an insecure crappy guy thing it seems. Even my crazy narc from my 20's didnt even ask! They want to cry 'pair bonding', like bonding is just about sex when its not. They want you with a no count/low count yet they run through a bunch of women, beg for sex on the first date, etc, etc. So many want some virgin yet promote pump and dumping. The hypocrisy is unreal with some of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:24 PM
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Men that fast, I run. Red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:54 AM
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I swear none of them read a thing here! LOL Where do they read we promote manipulating men and this sub is about manipulating men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:32 AM
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Did you tell her it was not true? Come on, men age like fine wine...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:25 AM
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As a mid 40's its more late 30's for me, we are more a 'looks match'. Men my own age range look older than my step dad and hes mid 60's... My mom and step dad both look more mid to late 50's not on their way to 70.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:21 AM
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Toxic people make you toxic. People also come into our life to teach us lessons. A reason, a season or a lifetime as they say. Many dont make it a lifetime. Do what you need to do to find some better friends.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 01:16 PM
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Find one that knows attachment. Not all will be good in this area so find one that specializes more in attachment wounds. Jebs forum can be an enlightening read. https://jebkinnison.boards.net/
/r/askFDS16/03/20 01:07 PM
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It is in society as a whole now. More depressed people than ever on meds, shooting junk in their veins, etc. Studies show more women are on meds but women are more likely to go seek help and men dont but should. Social media is playing a huge role in depression for many.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 12:57 PM
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Preferences are not so black and white though. I have a preference for taller men as Im 5ft 7 but doesnt mean I wont date someone shorter than I prefer. I have. We are attracted to who we are attracted to, its the whole package. Whats more black and white is how you're treated. And it is up to you to be a good man, it is your decision. Now others can decide if you're enough for them but doesn't make you less of a good man. Just because a man may think Im not good enough for him doesn't mean Im n…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 12:13 PM
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Dont worry about this, 'worry' about being a good fella. Trust even if a women likes it a bit bigger will still be with a man a bit more average part if hes a total package. He stimulates her in many ways, treats her well, etc. Sure there will be some women out there that want what they want for size but for many of us we need the whole package not just the D. D is abundant but one that treats you like a human is more rare.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 04:43 AM
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Really is can depend on the women, I like more 'average' as average fits me. Some women like bigger as it fits them. I just know a very large man down there is not for me, he doesn't fit me. Sex is uncomfortable as hes too big.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 03:57 AM
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I hear ya and Im a Secure with a hardy Dismissive side... Im very low anxiety and I was an anxiety ball dating an avoidant! LOL
/r/askFDS16/03/20 03:33 AM
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I dont know, I care about humans? Id rather men get a life than being a porn addict? We would rather have more good men around? We'd rather have men around that wants us and not just our lady parts? And dude... stop being a whiner. Even average looks men, etc can step the F up. No women whats a whoas is me whiner. Stop living in a scarcity whiner mindset. Everyday average looking people get into relationships everyday.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 03:26 AM
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Rock your life and be a good human. LV has way more to do with behavior, how you treat others/women and yourself. Level up in your life. A good women doesn't want a man with one chair in his living room, a gaming system and watches porn daily.(not saying this is your life) Porn literately changes your brain wiring like drugs. I mean... men at 25 today are on ED meds because of porn, this is not normal... Porn has also become very violent/unrealistic. Back in my day porn was pretty vanilla. And a…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 02:20 AM
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Avoidants cant twist up the most secure people!
/r/askFDS16/03/20 01:59 AM
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I do, I have dated some and have some in my life like my step dad, etc. They are just harder to come by. More so today, specially for younger women. I also think part of it has to do with the energy you carry, you're bitter, angry, etc, you'll attract bad energy in your life. You're insecure giving a needy energy, you'll attract users/manipulators. For me its not necessarily just LV/HV, its worth dating. EX; An avoidant man may be HV in many areas and be an over all good man but not worth dating…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 01:26 AM
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Me too, I know they existed once upon a time ago! Only thing I see is cans still in Pringles! haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 01:36 AM
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What in the what?! Its E coli and makes you smell!! How do they not have a some sort of infection/rash from not wiping?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 01:29 AM
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A ring around the toilet is another!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 01:20 AM
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Here is another hottie. Hes 47 I think, aged like fine wine. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtCAKno3zALipFdpdY1ZLjA/videos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 12:41 AM
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They dont care, they are thinking of themselves chasing young women. They dont care he'll be 65 and shes 38 taking care of a grown man that now has health issues and looks like her grandpa and shes not even 40 yet... Or he dies off and leaves her widowed 'post wall' with their post wall garbage. Who cares i got to suck away her youth...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:50 PM
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They so do!! Way more defects than a women's older eggs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:43 PM
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Yeah, my doc is very about keeping you natural looking/using injections for prevention of wrinkles. I was using them as preventive. They so have sunblock driving gloves! I use my skin care on my chest, neck and hands. I use my Retin A in these areas too. Some cant take Retin A on neck and chest as its strong but can use retinols, Retin A is a retinoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:15 PM
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I bought my umbrellas on Amazon a while back. Just Google sun umbrellas. Really just get a consult, you need to see someone that fits you. Ive had them done, Ive been warn off 6+ months now but my doc is all about making you look natural as possible. If i wanted duck lips, he wouldn't do it! LOL Really botching is pretty rare and its a bad injector. See someone in your area with a good rep, get a consult so your informed. Most do it for free and its about what you want. you can just do 11's, ful…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:30 AM
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Cute arse sun umbrellas too! I rock sun umbrellas as well, sunblock only goes so far. Also injections are way more affordable than one thinks and can be natural looking and be preventive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:08 AM
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Yes!! I barley have any wrinkles at 46. I stayed out of the sun and started skin care/keeping up with sunblock about mid 20's. I use Retin A, CeraVe and The Ordinary today. My skin is the bomb at my age. People assume Im mid to late 30's. Start skin care early! At least do your best on wearing sunblock and washing your face before bed with a nice night cream. Use on face, neck, chest and hands the most, these areas age the fastest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:53 AM
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Donation sperm banks dont take sperm over 35 for a reason. Mens fertility drops off by 35. Anyone can look this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 02:32 AM
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You're doing you now, know it takes time and its ok. Just know your life is not crap because you're not attached to a man, married, have kids, etc. This in large is societal brain washing you cant have a good life without a man/kids. You Can. People should Add to your good life. Partners, friends, etc. Really this is on both sides and not a gender thing. Live your life the way you want, just be a good human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:51 AM
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Right... and seriously I have 100 other things I could do thats more fruitful than a $15-$20 meal! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:27 AM
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It can set you free. Maybe start with just deactivating one if you have a few. Maybe clean out friends lists, mute people, minimize your use, dont share much personal life, etc. Even when I had personal social media I limited what I shared about my life. Posted funny memes, music, ect. Im anti Fakebook and wont even use it for my business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:17 AM
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this should be my cue to get up and leave going forward A respectable man wont say any of these things and pressure you/whine in any way. They just weeded themselves out.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 12:57 AM
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Denial, uneducated and its spread in the man spaces like men have forever to have babies. It even been said a man should freeze his sperm by 35 if he wants kids later just like womens eggs. Really men and women are more or less neck in neck with fertility drop off. Sure a man Could get a women pregnant past 55 while the women cant, very high chance they will need IVF and the kids will have a host of problems even with a younger very fertile women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:53 AM
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No, its all about getting a free dinner here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:19 PM
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My parents taught me to stay away from guys that old for a reason... They want to use you for sex, your youth and groom. My parents were right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:16 PM
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I cannot stand when a grown man uses ur and u.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:08 PM
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Also the ones that finally want to start a family late 40-50's. Your sperm is now old full of defects, more defects than a women's older eggs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:06 PM
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Love not having any personal social media, no lurkers, no looking me up, sliding into my DM, etc. They would have to look at my business account that doesnt show whats going on in my life, its products, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:59 PM
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So you let your kids sit hungry watching their dad eat? What the...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:03 PM
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Yeah because the sperm bank not taking his old sperm was just myth... They dont take sperm over 34/35. It amazes me on how many men are oblivious about their fertility but seem to know all about a women's!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:26 AM
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About 5 years is normal. Its the 15+ age gaps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:23 AM
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My parents taught me to stay away from older men too, any good parent does. My mom and dad taught me those older men wanted to use me for my youth, sex and groom me. They were right. But, but, they did it in 1950 so its normal, no its not, I was taught this back in the 80's. Like my mom and dad didnt know a thing or two... Let lone I just saw them as old as my dad, eww, why would I want a man as old as my dad at 22? Gross. Also large age gap relationships have a Huge failure rate for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:21 AM
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Its not on the floor, its buried deep in the Earth now... LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:03 AM
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Truth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:02 AM
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A reason why I dont do dinner dates before I meet a man... And my goodness these men with splitting or asking for a pay back over $20 or less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:13 AM
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LV is about behavior not your height for most of us. Height is a preference thing. Many that have dated shorter men their behavior was a factor not the height. Like his insecurity about it and its projected in the relationship/other areas of his life. You cant take Some posts as an actual whole on what we all think or like its some 'FDS standard'. People who shame to be mean are projecting something within themselves.
/r/askFDS12/03/20 10:23 AM
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50 wanting some young slave virgin for babies. His sperm is full of defects now and will probably need IFV. Yes, your virgin wants that old sperm. "gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and preterm birth. Infants born to older fathers were found to be at higher risk of premature birth, late still birth, low Apgar scores, low birth weight, higher incidence of newborn seizures and birth defects such as congenital heart disease and cleft palate. As they matured, these children were found to have an in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 09:21 AM
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They dont even realize they are a weirdo with dolls. You're so messed in the head you'll bang dolls and brag about dolls. Thanks for taking your messed up self out of the dating pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:59 AM
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This. She went and lived her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:28 AM
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My parents taught me to stay away from older men as they wanted to use me for my youth, sex and groom me. There is a reason why my parents taught me this back in the 80's!! Yes my parents were so wrong and now im just a 'bitter old lady' jealous of 22 year olds. No, young ladies have to look out for themselves so much more that I did at that age!! heck, Im glad Im older and dont deal with what younger women do today. Im feel bad for them. My youth was 'easy'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:37 AM
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In the man space a simp is any man that dates a women over 25... Load of bull. And yes, agreed with your mom, its worse. Im 46 and men are not the same...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:19 AM
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They think being an 'old maid' is a bad thing... I get to do what i want when i want and if I really wanted sex or a man I can go find one. I have hobbies, good friends, good family and good work life. Ugh, my life is just so terrible as an old maid.... because ya know Im not attached to some man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:16 AM
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Its total cope. I want to know what planet they live on when they say women become invisible by 30... My mom even got married again at 43, shes 60's now and they are still married. Lovey like teenagers all these years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:04 AM
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1918's version of FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:07 AM
6

But its all FeMiNiSiMs fault...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:04 AM
0

Im the stranger that would of said debt is sorry a@@.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:13 AM
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Yes, STDs are not on a HUGE rise in 60+ people because nobody wants anyone anymore. Stats even show majority of people date in their age range. Yup your life is over after 25.... They cope so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:07 AM
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Im 46 and so much chasing... To add, mix of HV/LV guys of all ages just like my youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:03 AM
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There are services for this or you have to go to the sites that have your info and ask for removal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:40 AM
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Any man Ive ever dated is fine with mine trimmed and I wont shave it bald for anyone. I dont even like men bald. I like it trimmed so the hair is still soft and not sandpaper 5 o clock shadow. I want to see man parts not a bald boy. His stubble irritates me and I certainly dont want to grind on top of him on sand paper... Im older though, it seems this is more a younger man thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:54 PM
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Ladies I suggest searching yourself too, places you've lived, emails, old phone numbers etc are all over the net for many of us. My first apartment at 18 is on the net, I lived here back in 1993...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:45 PM
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Tons of sites do it. You can find stuff just by searching phone numbers and names, you dont even need a background service to find dirt. Just Google them or use Duckduckgo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:39 PM
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It's better to be alone and with 10 cats and boxed wine, over subjecting yourself to the insanity and destruction of dating apps This!! LOL I'll take bottles though. haha. I kind of feel the same way about personal social media. SM can be so toxic to so many people and they dont even realize its happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:33 PM
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Id say most HV people dont use OLD on either side, we are out living life. Not to say some of you using are as you're not but a good majority are.(I hope you get my point) Seems many here are quitting OLD, you've learned. There was some study done on how many just use it for validation/being bored and no intentions of meeting people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:28 PM
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Yup. I dont watch any of them. Let alone I see these as people acting a fool for attention. Id never want to be on any sort of show like that and I have to carry my whole life. There that show called Unreal that shows what its really what its like. Some seasons are on Netflix. To add, I just dont really watch TV at all and the only reality shows Ive watched are ones on HGTV. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:20 PM
3

All the men I was in a relationship with made sure I got off, it made them hot. Just like oral, all of them loved dining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:22 AM
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Its why I only made it about three weeks. I found its an energy suck cause it was just a bunch of crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:53 AM
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Im in the boat good people are the prize and two prize people coming together win the whole lot of prizes. Be it partners, friends or family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:48 AM
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real life experiences say the exact opposite? This! LOL Its not what I see with anyone women really. Nor their men age like wine, its the opposite! Im the mids 40's one that 'nobody wants'... If anything I have more men chasing me now than in my youth! All ages just like my youth. I dont even use apps or personal social media, its just out living life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:45 AM
5

what we've become? Seriously. Causal sex has a bunch of risks. Excuse me for not sleeping around... To each their own but to shame a person for not doing it..?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:36 AM
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When they turn 40 their value is at its highest peak... aged sperm and all. Now chasing 20 year olds like they are hot. That 'money' they have makes all the 20 years olds hot for them since all women only want a man for his money. Not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:54 PM
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A lot of Drs are narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:49 PM
8

I got a number Friday evening. He knows some people I do so we all just chatted. We 'bonded' over something similar we do for work. It just happened randomly and offered to help me with something. Text that evening to see if I got home safe and we chatted today, we are meeting up this week. Things can happen when you just smile and not really looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:40 PM
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When someone has been consistent for almost two months then poof, ignored texts and now not talking for days, thats a problem. Im not a big texter and so many things can get mixed up this way but when one has been consistent for a couple months and now they are not, thats an issue. Also anyone I know thats actually into someone IS going to respond and keep in contact even to say Im busy/I need time we will talk tomorrow.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 03:36 PM
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And a man that does want it to work will tell you they need space, they just dont stop talking to you, not respond, etc. This guy told her who he is, believe him. He said Im a flake.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 12:43 PM
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I dont remember how many years later but Ive had one circle a few times over 20 years. Claiming hes never found anyone that was a good as I was to him. Sorry guy, Im long over you and no going back. Last I knew his life was a mess. I dont have personal social media so some cant just find me and message. Its nice not to have to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:39 PM
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I. Just. Cant. Even...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:23 PM
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So the men would be ok with their wife having a folder of nudes and snapping with male students and paying him like a prostitute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:54 AM
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I find that men who do this are avoidant or just not that interested. Any man I had long term with stayed consistent and didn't pull away for days. Men that really want you and want it to work dont put themselves in a position to lose you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 11:40 AM
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They would be nicer to the blow up, afraid they would pop it... LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:35 AM
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I hear ya! Dont project your crap me! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:25 AM
3

What in the what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:16 AM
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60,000 femcels that should be banned as bitter wine drinking post wall crazy cat ladies, single mom CC riders and gold diggers with ridiculous standards. I mean, Im just so ridiculous to want to be treated like a human and not holes you toss around like a doll and choke. Cheers! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:44 AM
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Im sorry so many of you deal with this, youre a women, not a color, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:41 AM
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Im sure, but in the US is not so much a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:39 AM
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Dont feel bad if you are aware of it and communicate with partners. And yes we should all have a life, a partner just adds to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:35 AM
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Heck I could roll with an avoidant as long as they are aware as a Secure with a hardy chunk of Dismissive side myself. Its finding an aware one that really wants to try and work at it/understands their triggers. I sure understand mine! I'll also add, its the three, 3 months or by three years. In my experience its year three when everything starts to Really show. Its not always a bad relationship either, its when you really see if you will work for the long haul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:08 AM
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I feel bad for non white women in the aspect of the fetish/exotic BS. Sure, all women face crap but ethnic women, sheesh, I know they face more crap than I do as a white woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:04 AM
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Yes, I do at least once a week at place very close to my home, its like a Cheers for me. Ive totally made new friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:56 AM
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Specially in the 35+ dating pool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:54 AM
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Yup!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:52 AM
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Ladies, ever have that time you gussied up.... Go to your favorite restaurant/local cool pub close to you/somewhere you've wanted to try. Have drink/beverage and order food to go or eat there. Take yourself out! Its an opportunity to step out and meet someone as well. You never know you could meet a man or make a new friend just eating/ordering food from the bar at a local restaurant/bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:15 AM
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He is a whack job. Glad you got out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:47 AM
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Like men that do this would want you to be following hot guys, there are intsa men, male stripper accounts, etc. Or just following any good looking man liking/commenting on his stuff. They would have a fit and we know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:45 AM
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Also avoidants can become triggered by then and start distancing/slow fade behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:38 AM
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Its always been strangers that try to hit on me not men I know on some level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:30 PM
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Im all about good energy. I can see the revenge thing but really how does it help anyone, it doesn't. Law of attraction. Speak truth but keep good energy. Im not down with all men are trash, all men are not. Its the same BS in the man space as 'all women are like that' crap. Sure many crappy guys out there but there are also good ones, they are just harder to find. Me being bitter 'all men are trash' is not going to attract a good man in my life, it will attract the bad ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:59 AM
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Funny I had some guy message me over this! he always messages me.(I know I can turn it off but Ive received positive messages from men so I dont shut my messages off, I dont sweat trolls.) His the' irony' BS... My comments here are not bitter wishing men to die, be eaten by cats, be beaten, get raped etc but Im the bitter one. LOL Im not even down with all man are trash comments or scrotes BS, its bad energy.(even though many are, I rise above that negative stuff personally, glass half full- goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:22 AM
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Nobody knows jack on both sides!! Like seriously, none of us know anything at 20!! Men dont know anything at that age but women are expected to be perfect beings knowing everything by 18.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 04:07 AM
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chosen a better provider type man They act like no guy wears a mask or changes even after years. Abuse, etc is not always shown right away. People change and true colors take time to be revealed sometimes. Just like the narc in my 20's, knew this man for almost a decade before dating him, ran in my circle of friends, loved by everyone, dressed nice, groomed, clean, etc. Seeming like a great guy and was till one day he wasn't. And it happens to so many people... To add: Also they expect every wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:24 PM
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The line 'but he wont know'. Bugger off, I'll know and Im not a cheat!! Never in my life would I pester a guy thats in a relationship, ask him to cheat, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:07 PM
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The honk cat calling that started when I was 11 years old looking 11... back in the 80's...walking with my friends or riding bikes was usually a guy in some sort of truck! Just noting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:24 AM
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And nobody really cares but their fellow angry men. They think most women are freaking out, men are 'leaving the plantation'. Um, no. Ok, bye. All their angry commenting everywhere is bad energy and thats what they will attract in their life, bad energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:19 AM
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Im crying! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:13 AM
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Abundance mentality This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:54 AM
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I told one of my guy pals too, and he sees the same thing. I mentioned 'leveling up' as a thing here and he thought that was such a great thing/term. On his way out visiting after this chat. Hes like Im 'leveling up', Im on my way to the gym! haha. Hes 57 and way above average for a man his age and keeps at it. Groomed, dresses well, full head of hair, etc. Hes a rare breed of man! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:36 AM
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Not even realizing their sperm is full of birth defects and slow swimmers/sperm count causing 50% of fertility problems. They think its all the women's thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:26 AM
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Men are really oblivious on what is like and how many guys are not worth dating/even talking to... What he went through is really what its like. He didnt even stay long enough for them to send d@ck pics yet...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:20 AM
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For real, I pop in here with my morning tea and at night when I wind down. I dont have time to go troll some mans account and send him messages. LOL Let alone happy people dont feel the need to troll people on the internet and be mean to them. These men are the ones that are going to be old, alone and bitter not the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:18 PM
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I dont know all that junk is still sold! LOL I think its so weird so many guys today have issue with it. Any man Ive dated loved going down and made them hot when I got off/waited to finish until I got off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:16 PM
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If its not BV she probably doesn't even smell bad! We have a natural smell and most men actually like it! LOL And all those lady products are bad for our lady part, I dont even know how its sold. Same with douching, dont do it unless your Dr tells you to for a reason. I had to years back with a medicated one. Irritation from laundry soap/fabric softer, she suggested I used it for a couple days. I felt like I had a yeast infection and I didnt have one. Using it and rewashing my underwear/clothes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:18 PM
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And this is a big reason why I dont do dinners or lunches for a first meet and stick to a coffee meet or the like. Even a facetime/phone chat can be faked enough and then meeting them in person, well...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:02 PM
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Im 46 and its the same, I dont even want to date them, they look so old... I see it with just men in general in my age range married or single. I tend to be attracted to more late 30's men, we are more a 'looks match'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:58 AM
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This is what my parents taught me more or less. Let alone I saw them as old as my dad, yeah no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:32 AM
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Im sure we have some avoidants/APs here. I wouldnt necessarily call it a LV/HV thing. Not one to get involved with sure. Look out for attachment and understand your own, sure. Not everyone with those attachment wounds is a bad person-LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:20 AM
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I know the feeling as a Secure and I have a hardy chunk of Dismissive too. I met him for a reason though, to learn attachment. I understood myself so much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:03 AM
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At least its groomed and full not looking like pubes! LOL I dont know how these men with half grown/pube looking beards think it looks good....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:21 PM
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Single woman by choice = spinster, cat lady Bitter lonely boxed wine drinking spinster cat lady Fixed that for ya... hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:18 PM
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1 in 6 women is sexually assaulted, most children molested are by men, traffick rings are run by men, most violent crimes are done by men. Most child pornography is done/viewed by men. Yes all men are superior and good...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:42 PM
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I dont see it as a date either, its just a meet. The dates come after that if we go there. My short stint on a dating app, Im so glad it was just a meet as i was not interested in any of them and glad I was not stuck sitting through a dinner. Sure you can nope out but Id rather just nope out over a coffee or a muffin! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:11 PM
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So true. Really you should have a great life and a partner/kids can add to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:15 AM
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Is this online never met yet? Personally for me if its OLD coffee or dessert would work( I dont do drinks) as I dont want to waste my own time on a 2 hour dinner with a guy Im not interested in. Chatting online and in person are two different things. Lets meet then see if we Want to progress, this is where he can show up. I get his tires reference. I know some here get this too. If we've already met and there is some interest and you ask me out, take me out and not for coffee, we are past that! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:11 AM
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Im sorry too. Thing is, is now you see clearly even if it takes time to get to '20/20 vision'. Literally all of us have had at least one piece of garbage in our lives even if we didn't come from a terrible childhood. Life happens and people come into our lives to teach us lessons. As they say a season, a reason or a lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:52 AM
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That was mine in my 20's, he sucked the life out of my 20's. Knew this man since I was 15, ran in my circle of friends, everyone loved him, charming, etc. Started date when I was 23. All was well then one day it wasn't. It was like one of those you dont think it will happen to you and there are. How did I get here? He wanted to marry me too... Thank goodness I got out. I wish the net was like today back then so I could understand what was happening at the time. A true narc can blindside anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:34 AM
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If hes a good guy certainly dont rule him out over divorce. It was just my preference in my youth. Divorced people can come with heavier baggage over others. This is also not to say we dont all have some and many divorced people do get to the other side or non married are not full of more baggage! LOL. But when I was 23, meh. I just wanted a man around my age that we could grow together without kids never married like me. Reality we just have to do our 'vetting' divorced or never married at any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:21 AM
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M2 is supposed to be about men just doing their thing without all the toxic crap on M1. Some of the men were even sick of the toxic crap so much so to start 2. Youd think this would wake some of them up that they are toxic and bitter but nope, lets just message women on FDS because Ive gone my own way... To add they dont bother looking up the stats for false accusations, its actually pretty rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:27 AM
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So he randomly picked your username to message out of thin air? I dont read anything I just picked some random name to harass them. Ok... Funny how we dont message the men and they message us. I have one that randomly messages. Unhappy people troll users on the internet to be rude or harass them. Happy people dont do this. Just sayin'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:22 AM
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Let alone maybe .05% of men are MGTOW. They act like most men are, so not! LOL Ive even randomly polled men and none of them have heard of MGTOW nor gave a crap about it. There are just a bunch of crappy guys not MGTOW/RP. Go your own way, bye, dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:14 AM
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They seem to think you dont have a man you're alone in life with no life. I barely have room for a man as I have stuff to do! LOL Really this is a lot of societal brain washing thinking people cant have a good life not coupled/have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:06 AM
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I think it diminishes for men over women. Many men are invisible on dating apps and women of all ages get matches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:01 AM
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Nope not at your age. I wanted no part of a divorced guy in my 20's. My age Im more open to it, its the reality of my age bracket. 40+ people. Many 40+ people never married are avoidant. So Id rather have a divorced guy thats a Secure as long as hes moved past it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:18 PM
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They just send more here by doing it. They just participate in FDS growing and dont even see it. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:56 PM
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We are always seen as bitter by crappy men. No we are wise and lived life. She is right, we dont need a man in our life as a partner to have a good life. Many men today can barely hang a shelf so we can hire services if needed, we dont need them as a partner though. Some of them have the well you'll need a man to fix your plumbing, sure, but I dont need a partner, two different things. And its not that we need the man, its we need a service provided by a professional. It could be a women that do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:43 PM
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Yup, my ex was very about opening doors for me. Any door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:34 PM
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Yes because we dont know ourselves... I cannot stand that mindset. A man knows he doesn't and it accepted but when a women doesn't, its yes you do. No, I dont!! LOL They act like kids are a pet and no big deal, its a HUGE deal. HUGE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:23 PM
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This is one of those never post on social media things. I cannot believe the amount of people that aired dirty laundry on social media. One of the many reasons I no longer have personal social media, now i dont have to see peoples dirt or their fake curated life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:13 PM
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I hear that on the timeline! I never sweat marriage as I didn't want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:53 AM
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I dont have any and didnt want any. Its been some feel sorry for me(I think they assume I cant have kids sometimes?) and the other is good for you. Kids are not a pet and not everybody wants them nor should have them. More out there than one would think that regret having children. How many have them out of pressure? How many had no idea what they got themselves into... Fostering in my second half of life is not off the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:50 AM
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Come on now, you just wanted all his 'money and resources'... Ya know none of us want any emotional connection or for someone to actually care about us. So many posts in the sub debunk all a women wants is money yet these men constantly say we are only after them for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:17 PM
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46 and over it! LOL So many guys think the be all of life is to have a man. Not. I rather drink wine, play bingo with my 'elder' gal pals and have a cat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:56 AM
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Right!! They are really oblivious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:51 AM
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they dont even get it, there are actually not many options. It only options for some crap d@ck that wont even get me off. Yeah just what we all want is some BS d@ck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:50 AM
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No man can and those that claim that don't even give you one orgasm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:46 AM
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LOL LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:44 AM
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Let me use you for rebound band aid because I have not dealt with my past yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:38 PM
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Interesting this a thing when HPV is so prevalent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:12 AM
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Boxed wine and cats! ​ On a serious note, it just takes time, its pretty normal what you're going through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:02 PM
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You need counseling, hes treating you like prostitute/sex toy on demand. This is a serious red flag. He doesnt want to do counseling Id seriously have a hard look at marring this man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:01 PM
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I test between every partner. Im not necessarily worried but better be safe than sorry. Ive been with two men in 15 years or so. It freaks me out to have unprotected sex and I dont know how so many are just so whilly nilly about it specially when they are just hooking up, seems like 'everyone' is doing it! STD/STI testing in the US is free almost everywhere at a clinic/Family Planning service. You can walk in at get free condoms at Family Planning. Also how are so many women not going in for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:32 PM
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I call them energy vampires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:17 AM
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Yes. From 'injury' from sex, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:08 AM
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Funny I just saw a commercial today to help men with a bent man part... So it seems to be a thing now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:30 AM
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I think its so weird with this cat thing, like its a bad thing! LOL Cats are cool! Many men are not worth more than a cat/dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:45 AM
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A man that wants you will never put himself in a position to lose you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:46 AM
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The basics of a decent human but you must be hot to have it... I. Cant. Even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:43 AM
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Hair is protection, its there for a reason like nose hairs and eyelashes. Sure do a nice trim but dont think you have to be bald! Any man Ive been with has no issue with some hair. Id rather a man not be bald, just trim it up a bit and look like a man not a bald 13 year old boy. To add, frankly the 5 o' clock shadow down there is like sand paper on my lady part. I like it trimmed so its still soft but not a ' 70's bush'. haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:54 AM
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Income for me is not as important as just having their life in order. Im not looking for family and marriage. I surely need to be attracted to them no matter how much they make. On an emotional, intellectual and sexual level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:06 PM
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Retro and all of the 'couples gift' holidays are over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:59 PM
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Glad youre learning early. Take this time to grow more into yourself. Our brains dont even fully develop till mid 20's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:08 AM
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I really feel bad for young women today, its so much worse for you than it was when I was young. Specially those wanting a family. Men were just not so crappy(sure they were around but today, ugh) and actually took you on a date without a fuss over a $20 dinner. They were not obsessed with anal sex, violent sex, choking and sexual assault was not as high. All I know is stay single over ever settling for a man out of pressure, etc. Your life wont be sh@t just because you dont have a man. Its not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:32 AM
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Yes, Ive slept with 50+ women using them up but you must be a virgin and I bring nothing myself to the table. What do they bring? Their money? Average income across the US is $60,000 so the average man is not made of money. Like really what do most men actually bring? Their d@ck? Whipty do, d@cks are everywhere and theirs is not special. Many don't even want to be a provider, cant or even pay for a $15 dinner for a lady. So really what do most men even bring themselves with their list of demands…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:36 PM
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Me too. I see it as a red flag when they use so many acronyms/half words/slang all the time. You cant even type a full sentence to me you're not going to put in any effort into a relationship. Acronyms have their place at times but when its the norm, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:44 PM
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What does age have to do with value of person? When did valuable people become about skin and eggs? Her tight skin makes her worth more even if shes a horrible person? Tight skin makes a person valuable? Women are only worth tight skin and eggs? I understand some women want a more traditional role but women are not just tight skin and eggs. Who knew you had to take any kind of pill to see a lady as more than tight skin and eggs. Or take a pill to be a good person.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 03:28 AM
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And the guy that made this comment and saying low value is crap. Called the women low value but not the guy for being a crappy cheater. He took a dig on her age to be a toxic d@ck. Cheating hurts no matter what anyone's age is. And cheating is low value not someones age. Would it really hurt less if it was someone younger, nope. Cheating is cheating. If you really think it would sting less with someone younger, youre mistaken and kidding yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 02:41 AM
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Yup.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 02:37 AM
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Crappy people are low value and age is irrelevant.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 11:52 PM
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Of the fact and $80 ring is not meant to be worn daily for decades. There is a reason why prongs for good rings are platinum, etc so they last.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:44 PM
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For real!! Im glad my parents warned me of things, my narc as a fluke. True narcs will blindside anyone. Never dated one a again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:38 PM
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And my mom and dad taught me this 30+ years ago. Had nothing to do with feminism, etc, my parents just knew what the real world is like and how many men are. Im not a man hater and I dont like to say all men are trash/scrote talk as I think its bad energy but I sure know there are many bad men out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:32 PM
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Then you get we are just old and bitter, no we've lived life and know better and dont want to see a young women waste her life. My 20's were wasted with a narc, at least i didnt want children/marriage so it was not as bad for me as those wanting a family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:06 PM
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I would not be able to take it and move out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:40 AM
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Like he would be ok if she had a bunch of guys stuff... You know if the shoe were on the other foot they would not have it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:02 AM
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My parents taught me to stay away from older men as they wanted to use me for sex, my youth and groom me. That is exactly what they wanted when they came after me. The old men cry well they "did it in 1950", they didnt know better back then. I can just imagine the amount of women that later in life said what I was I thinking with this old man... Age gap relationships have Huge failure rates as well. People of all ages date, get married etc and majority date in the are range. The find someone in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:54 PM
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Sounds like a pile of heavy baggage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:06 AM
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He doesn't I would not date him. A good makeout can be better than sex and I would never give that up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:21 AM
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Well I gots me 'money and status' so Im the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:10 AM
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They dont even realize they are a weirdo for wanting to F dolls... All the power to them. Thanks for letting us all know you're a weirdo so we can stay away from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:55 AM
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They actually do. Escorts use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:01 AM
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can't deal with the social stigma/shaming of being single, and they aren't strong enough to deal with the feelings of loneliness ​ This, really its for both genders. And really when you're content and have a life, you may have lonely moments sometimes but not actually lonely. Its ok to, we are human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:04 AM
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Its been anyone of us at least once. And its ok, just own it, heal, etc, etc. We are human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:26 AM
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Funny the men I had serious relationships with were more so average looking, its all the rest that attracted me. Really I only had one real bad one in my 20's, others not perfect but not bad. I wasn't perfect either but were were not sh@t to each other. We just didnt fit. Now some of those chasing, cat calling, may have went on some dates with, yeah, red flags galore. Just not attracted to, didnt make them bad but attraction is attraction. We wont be attracted to everyone and thats ok. To add, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:37 AM
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So many men have a complex dating a women taller than them... I like taller men as Im 5ft 7 but is it some requirement he needs to be 6ft 2, heck no. My serious relationships were with men 5ft 8-6ft. It just happened that way, I did not seek them out because of height. We cannot help who were are attracted to, it just is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:06 AM
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Really most women just want them to have their life in order like an actual adult and not to be treated like a hole. Such ridiculous standards to want someone with their life together that doesn't treat you bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:02 PM
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Me too and its a reason why I dont do 'orbiters' either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:53 PM
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Id look up channels like Coach Craig Kenneth, Susan Winter, Attachment videos, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:46 PM
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Im mid 40's so Im that age bracket and so may men my age look So old. Im not even trying to be unrealistic, Im not 25 and neither are they but men my age range look way older than I. Also just dress terrible, frumpy, big guts and bad hair cuts/beards. I even see this with younger guys out there! I dont know... I dress like a lady, groom, take care of my skin, etc and If I dated them they would look more like my father even at my age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:40 AM
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Exactly. That said, those with Anxious Preoccupied/Avoidant Attached your gut may be off and your attachment is triggered so your gut radar is not up to snuff. (really for those unaware not actively working on it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:16 AM
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I would not say ring as not all of us are looking for that but are looking for a long term committed companion. Frankly, if you don't want kids like me... Marriage is not so important to me but commitment is important. That piece of paper... well. That said, any man Ive had a long term with there was no question on what we were, I never doubted it, etc. While my long terms didn't work, they were not some bad toxic thing,(except for one) we just didnt work. Two good people doesn't mean its going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:43 AM
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He had to go as far as finding your Reddit account to run his mouth, who needs help here? Who is not over it? Had to stalk on Reddit of all places? The projection is heavy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:33 PM
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Ive been single more than Ive been in a relationship, Ive always been don't give a F about guys and live my life. Didnt go on dates much in between relationships either. Not many Ive met were worth it. Any men I had a relationship with just came into my life when I wasn't looking. Im also a Secure with a hardy Dismissive Avoidant side so Im more the loner type and takes a special man to even become part of my life. To add, and Im not talking about how much money he makes, status, etc, I need to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:06 PM
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Other like minded women. I was pretty FDS long before this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:07 AM
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It would depend on if it hinders them or their life and everything surrounds getting high. I know plenty of people that smoke weed that are great high value people, bust butt in life, work, etc. Cant pay his bills but always has weed... cant do any ever without getting stoned, etc, etc is another story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:50 PM
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Have a read. https://www.aau.edu/research-scholarship/featured-research-topics/men-have-biological-clock-too-rutgers-study-finds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:00 PM
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Cancer and schizophrenia as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:52 PM
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Its thrown all around on the man channels on Youtube. They dont even know about their own fertility. We are neck in neck for fertility drop off. They literately think they have forever because Mick Jagger had a baby at 70! Also all these 22 year women want old men and want families with their old sperm. But, but women like older men... yeah maybe a few years or so not old men as old as her dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:50 PM
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And so many wont even buy a $3 card...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:42 PM
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I like the Skyn ones, they dont irritate me and fit better for men, they are softer and not so rubbery? Cant explain it. haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:57 AM
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Ive been called that a couple times! LOL Call me that all you want because I dont just have sex with any guy. Its always a loser guy saying it. Yes my lady bits are frozen over and only good guys can melt it away. Low value weenies cant penetrate the ice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:52 AM
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My ex insisted he paid and always opened my door. He had the more traditional mindset of a man takes care of his lady. He'd open the door for any woman. I just did nice things for him in other ways and treated him sometimes. We didnt work for various reasons but it wasnt because he treated me like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:41 AM
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They dont think bad men exist it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:37 AM
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Read a Youtube comment on one of the Valentine videos in the man space and guy comments hes divorced twice and never did a thing for Valentines day for either wife. He was proud he did nothing for them. I can just imagine why you're divorced twice... I dont expect anything fancy but gee you cant even get a card? Us ladies even buy for our friends, kids/family for V day and a man cant even get a card! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:35 AM
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Funny they are so oblivious they don't get it, just like a cat is better than most men with their enjoy your cat garbage. They think this its a bad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:21 AM
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Back in my day they had romantic porn, it was very 'vanilla'. caressing, etc. They had whole series on romantic porn and now porn is about violence. Porn was so 'vanilla' once upon a time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:02 AM
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Funny so many men think their money and stuff makes them valuable when it doesnt. Being a good person makes you valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:18 PM
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And people wonder why I never married and very content being single...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:11 PM
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Do not feel bad for not wanting a thing for V day as im more or less the same way. Id rather stay home with some wine/cook diner together and snuggle. Im also an acts of service so wash/wax my car over buying me gifts. Its not pick me because gifts, dinners, flowers are not a thing for you. As long as hes good to you and you do things for each other that works for you is all that matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:25 AM
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Youre welcome. I have weights just like this, I got them way cheaper at Kmart years back but they are perfect to build with and compact. You may be able to find them at a better price too. linking this as an example. Weights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:53 AM
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Babys Breath rocks, it can last so long too! I know its used more as a filler but I love it by itself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:48 AM
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How would this post make you feel if it was your dating profile? From a site only active users can see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:44 AM
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We can agree to disagree. Its just not something I would do to another lady. Its something toxic Red Pillers do to women, we dont need to do it too. Sure talk about her text but cover the rest. I understand the point in talking about her profile text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:30 AM
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Look into Max Workouts. He has different work outs but geared for 35+ women as we need weight training because of our hormone changes and more HITT style cardio. Long cardio workouts are not really good for older women. Some of his workouts are different and take some getting use to. He has a program you can follow but you can just learn from its and do your own workouts. Full video to follow, foods to eat, etc. I personally like his workouts. It was worth the money to buy his program. Its a hus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:19 AM
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Well Im the type that just doesn't focus on men even if Im not busy... Ive always been the live life and a guy comes in. Im not really an active dater, dates happen. That said, my work and car hobby/car clubs. We do charity work, have events, etc. My work is also a hobby. I persoannly think Im fortunate I make a living doing what I love and feel like I dont have a job. I literally feel like I dont work and I easily work 60+ hours a week. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:13 AM
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I still dont think its appropriate and youre trying to justify it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:05 AM
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Its sad how many guys today that think 'vanilla' sex is boring/bad when its actually what makes many of us women go. Sensual passionate into each other vanilla sex is hot when you're into each other. So many women want passion and sensuality, its whats can get us off/wet. Or they seem to think 'vanilla' sex is just mish when its so not! Now I know some women like some kink and thats ok but I know many of us women want passion, foreplay, making out, sensual touching each other, etc even if we lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:58 AM
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Can I say I just love Babys Breath? LOL While I can appreciate flowers in general, I want Babys Breath! haha. And Hydrangea. Roses are not my thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:50 AM
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Agreed. While many man are jerks many do buy gifts for children and moms too. Even my own mom still gets me something for Valetines like a decor piece or fun heart socks.(she knows I like fun socks) LOL Im 40's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:43 AM
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Its ok for that too. For some of us its just not our thing and thats ok as well. For gifts for me its the thought put in over how much it costs like my socks. They buy something that suits me. Im not into jewelry so buying me expensive jewelry will collect dust while I rock out my socks. haha. Or like I collect copper pieces, find me a cool copper piece at the flea market or thrift store over a bracelet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:36 AM
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Want to add an update, a man lurking here read my post about having my car waxed over gifts. He messaged me. Bought his wife a certain gift for Valentines Day and she wasnt that enthused, he returned it. Bought supplies and cleaned the crap out of her car making it shine instead. Shes was so happy about it. His wife probably has an acts of service love language like me and learned that lesson reading here and stepped up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:31 AM
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On dating site. Now screened on Reddit is not what I would do to another women. Post the profile words not her pictures and name. Would any of you women here want your profile screened on reddit that is troll filled man haters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:31 PM
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I dont understand why her picture and name is posted here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:39 PM
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Cover her name and picture!!!! My goodness. Dont do what you would not done to yourself nor like these bitter men that do this mocking women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:38 PM
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As they say 'mercury retrograde'. All the exes come haunting! haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:32 PM
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They groomed better back in the 80's/early 90's even!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:59 AM
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Cant believe all the down votes for making sure I did not get pregnant taking my own responsibility in My own reproduction. I have control not some guy!! Why the heck would I depend on a guy to control if I produce a child or not???? Its my responsibility, its my body!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:05 AM
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Men dont think they are hit by sleeping around like women when they so are! both genders will have trouble with real bonds sleeping around. So many what to shout tradition and god when god didnt say a man should be sleeping with 100's of women nor were traditional men back in the day sleeping with hundreds of women. Double standard. And really like a virgin women wants a man that has run through a bunch of women exposed to STDs. I lost my virginity to another virgin, we lost it toghether and it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:31 AM
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This is exactly my point we need to look out for ourselves and take our own responsibility yet im donvoted for it!! Its pick me behavior depending on a man to do it. Its my own fault for sleeping with a man getting pregnant when I was not ready or he was not worth getting pregnant by. I chose to have sex with him so I have to own it! This downvote for not taking your own responsibility in who you sleep with and what protection you use is dung, but whatever. Dont level up and own your behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:13 AM
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They seem to not believe in any skin care or sunblock. Skin care/sunblock is important for everyone! Its our largest organ and needs to be taken care of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:47 PM
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I hear ya as I tend to be more attracted to late 30's men and not men my own age. The late 30's guys are more of a 'looks match' for me. I swear some are so aged they'd look like my dad dating them even at my age!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:45 PM
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You down voters think you dont have any responsibility in getting pregnant when you're not ready or getting pregnant by guys not wanting to be a father/be dead beat? Are we not responsible for who we have sex with? Is it not on us to make sure we are having safe sex or abstaining? It takes two to tango and we are the ones to take control of our reproduction. Never depend on a man to have condoms or step up. Women can use multiple forms at the same time. Birth control and condoms, or a diaphram a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:31 AM
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It goes both ways. I didn't want kids so I sure as heck made sure I didn't get pregnant. We have to take our own responsibility because we sure cant depend on a man to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:30 AM
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How about dont get pregnant by a man not ready to be a father?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:22 AM
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But, but, they age like fine wine! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:00 AM
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He is surely aged! Men age like fine wine... This is what the average 50 year old looks like, its my age bracket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:33 PM
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You can have a committed LT relationship with out living together, financial ties, etc. Not everyone wants marriage or to marry again. So many of us out there like this. I want a long term committed companion but no cohabitation or marriage. You live there and I live here. These types of relationships actually tend to last. Id say the bottom line strategy here is find someone that is good to you and do what works for you. Dont accept crap from a man be it casual, serious or friends even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:56 PM
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The aging, beer guts, beards and dressed sloppy is surely a thing. The men age like wine is horse doo. Men my age range, 40+ are Really aged beyond their years and dress terrible. Im not unrealistic either, Im not 20 and neither are they but Im not looking 60 at mid 40's like they are. I hardly have any wrinkles at all, I took care of my skin. I dress like a lady, groom, etc, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:26 PM
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So many are cheap though like CeraVe, The Ordinary and Retin A. Yeah plastic surgery is a whole other ball of wax. haha. Really anyone of us can look good as we age, you just need to do the work. Just keeping up with sunblock and washing your face before bed with a good night cream can go a Long way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:25 AM
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I'll say in this thread... I think there is a huge misconception that everyday women cannot age as well. You think its costs so much money when it doesn't. Good skin care does not have to be expensive, drinking enough water, excersice and eating well are things ALL women can do. All things that slow aging. Also for most areas, at least in the US. Botox for a year is $1000-$1500 in your forehead. Many of us make enough money for that, its not some outrageous price like only rich people can afford…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:02 AM
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Yes you can the best you can. Good skin care is not expensive, drinking enough water, exercise, using sunblock, eating more healthy are things ANY women can do at any age. Famous people are still just people with real skin, etc. Im going to look like her at 51. Im just your average lady out there using skin care, etc, etc. Sure genetics play a role but how we take care of ourselves plays a bigger one. You dont need to be rich and famous to have nice skin or be fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:51 AM
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Do you for sure. As 'cliche' as it is to say, 'live you're best life'. Do the work leveling up. Really we all have to do what works for us, just take no sh@t from anyone. Be it a man, your friends, your family, etc. Toxic people make you toxic and hurt people hurt people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:05 AM
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Another add, haha. There are a couple guys I know that would be into casual and even at a causal level they wont treat my like a crap/just some sexual object. Ive been around long enough to know the difference. Its just not my thing but could have it if I wanted. There are some casual type relations both respect each other and all cards are on the table but its more an exception. I'll always advocate wait until its a man worth a salt. Serious or casual. Stay celibate till hes worth a salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:51 AM
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I need emotional connection too, Im not into casual. I stay celibate until someone is worth giving it to. Ive had one FWB thing but it was not the norm. Ive had four long terms, one FWB that lasted 1.5 years-was cool and a 6 month. Sure some dating here and there but never made it past some dates. And also those creeps that have groped me, etc that I dont even know! LOL My only real bad relationship was a long term in my 20's that was the narc. While my others didnt work, they were not toxic and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:32 AM
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Im so glad Ive never had to go through a divorce! Long terms are hard enough to end and adding in courts, lawyers, etc, etc. Ugh. I'll take spinster or crazy cat lady any day! LOL I'll also note Im not the unhappy one out there... Im content in my life, no drama, no stress, etc and a man will come along when its time. I also believe two people can have long term stability and a great relationship without being married. That piece of paper doesnt make things work or last, if anything it destroys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:52 PM
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Im glad I never married! Im in my 40's and glad I didn't do it. Its been on the table three times in my life. One narc, one that wanted kids(I didnt so we had to split) and one we just didn't workout. Id be divorced if I married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:08 PM
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The narc I dated in my 20's tried to brainwash me saying no man will want me, etc. Yeah, ok. I never doubted it ever no matter what he tried to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:01 PM
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46 here and have at least 8 guys wanting to date me of all ages. And I dont even use OLD/social media. Im just living life. Just had a man a couple weeks ago ask me out, he was standing in line behind me at the gas station.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:49 PM
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Its sad they think that way... Im glad Ive never dated the guy above! LOL Hes an acquaintance friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:09 PM
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Well, Im considered a spinster and Im not the unhappy one out there, just sayin'. And like cats are bad thing, so many fools dont even realize they are not worth more than our cat/dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:43 AM
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Porn stick guy I know of... thinks making out and foreplay is for teenagers. His words, "thats what teeangers do". No, that was makes it hot and gets a women going. Making out/foreplay can be hotter than sex but they are so lost in porn they have no idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:55 AM
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Funny I linked this on a man channel on Youtube when they were spouting how superior their fertility is. Yeah, they had no more comments to say after that. They all went silent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:48 PM
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Thais Gibsons channel is excellent for those working on attachment wounds/understanding it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:49 PM
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Another interesting read on mens fertility. Ya know its only women... Its all us and our 'old' eggs and men have super sperm till 80. https://www.aau.edu/research-scholarship/featured-research-topics/men-have-biological-clock-too-rutgers-study-finds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:21 PM
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Come on now its all because of FeMiNiSm! Its all women's fault birth rates are dropping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:18 PM
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I find it amazing how many parents Allow their grown adult male kids to drop laundry off. Or that fact they would do that to their mom as a grow adult. Youre pathetic as a grow man dropping laundry off to mom. Hell to the no would my mom allow that! LOL I was doing my own laundry by 11.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:58 PM
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Its possible but more an exception. I have a guy friend and we are actual friends. A good majority will be your friend to get a chance one day to have sex with you! LOL Im not into having guy friends as I know better and really I dont need a bunch of men in my life like that. I have gal pals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:17 PM
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I think Leo is an avoidant and why he chases failed relations that will never work for the long haul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:36 AM
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Dating just sucks all around! haha. Even for young people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:13 AM
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You know its bad when we would rather have frozen pizza and ramen! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:08 AM
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I just live life, enjoy my hobbies, friends and family. Ive always been a person that does self work, I was more or less FDS in my 20's after dating a narc he changed me forever in good ways as much as it was bad at the time. I like to work as well, I make a living off a hobby so I dont feel like I have a job. Im lucky. I have a workshop so I like to spend time there and always have plenty of things to do! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:01 PM
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My time is too, Ive posted that several times here. Im not wasting my own time for a $10-$15 meal. Id rather stay home and eat a frozen pizza doing laundry! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:53 PM
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I just dont really date! haha And yes back in our day men were better.(46 here) Im one of those I just live life and a man will come in when its time. One thing you'll come across at our age is more avoidant attached men. They can be pretty low effort from their avoidance. May be HV with work, etc, but relations, not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:42 PM
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They seem obsessed with the men pay for dinner thing like this whole sub is about getting free meals! LOL They clearly dont actually read the threads or realize how many men out there are a holes not worth dating even if he does buy you dinner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:28 PM
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Porn was not abundant, men dressed better, didnt get in an uproar paying for a dinner and anal/choking was not a thing like today. men were also not as overweight back then nor balding as fast. Better hygiene. Sure all of this existed but it was more the exception not the norm like today. Men with giant beer guts today at all ages.... my goodness. I grew up 80's/early 90's before the internet/net porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:20 PM
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Intermittent reinforcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:14 AM
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Heck no I would never want to be 21 today! haha. Im lucky I got to experience dating and life before the internet/social media/apps/crazy porn addictions! I appreciate my 'old age'. I get your point though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:00 PM
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Those pressuring women to marry off just dont know what its like today. Even back in my day there was not an abundance of HV men and is wayyyy worse today. You are human and its ok to have these feelings. I sincerely feel bad for you young women specially looking for marriage/family and glad Im 40+. Not like guys cant be bad in my age bracket but I hope you get my point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:58 PM
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Exactly!! Its not an area it just slips in!! Gosh Im so glad I came from a time before all this porn addiction and men obsessed with anal. I feel bad for young women today. So many men have swipe and porn brain. Porn was around in my day but NOTHING like today. NOTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:42 PM
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Next up 20 videos mocking the article from the man channels on YouTube.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:12 PM
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I had a cool FWB thing, we lasted 1.5 years. We were both in a place working on our lives but met each others needs not looking for a serious relationship. I was late 20's still healing from my narc, I had no business getting into serious when I needed to heal/put my life back together. he was going through things too and had no business. We worked. This was before apps/social media and neither of us were looking, it just happened by chance. To this day if we run into each other its a hug, glad …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:08 AM
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If only the net was like today in my 20s! haha I could of understood what was happening, I was totally naive at 23 in the 90's. Met him at 15, ran in my circle of friends, started dating at 23, everyone loved him, sweet, etc, ect. Never saw it coming. He was the only bad one, my avoidant while not good he wasn't a crazy narc! LOL. My other long terms just didn't work for one reason or another but weren't toxic, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:55 AM
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I hear that, its freeing. It can make the best of people go 'crazy'! Have a business, sure is can rock for that, does for me(business IG/Pinterest only). personal end, set yourself free! haha. And even for business you dont need All social media channels at all, use what works for your business even if its just one channel and rock it. I will have no part of Fakebook even for business personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:44 AM
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It happens. Dating an avoidant man woke me so much more than the crazy narc I had in my 20's. I was pretty FDS long before this sub existed and avoidant took me down the rabbit whole of human behavior, attachment, understanding myself on the next level, more on narcissism, the Red Pill, MTGOW, women spaces, man spaces, etc, etc. And I made it here. People are sent into our life for a reason, a season or a life time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:28 AM
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Good for you. Id advocate anyone dumping personal social media(very limited use), it can be so toxic and don't even realize its happening. It can trigger the living crap out of us(anyone man or women) to act a fool. I dumped mine about 7 years ago and only use a business IG/Pinterest and have a 95% women audience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:34 AM
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Do what ever you need to do to never post it on social media even if butt hurt, angry, etc. Just keep to friends/family/etc you can vent to. You got you, you can do it! :) Edit to add, vent here if you need to, to help work through it. Ladies whatever you do or need to work on keep it off social media, reach out to a friend, family member, therapist or vent here. Always act like a lady and keep your baggage/dirty laundry off social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:22 AM
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Ugh... Can i say how glad I am I have no personal social media? While its not something Id ever post its freeing to see nothing or hear nothing from exes, toxic people etc via social media. SM can be a black hole of rumination, attention seeking for the wrong reasons, projecting your trauma, depression, etc, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:17 AM
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The gym mirror shots is another one! LOL Another hard pass for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:51 AM
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Beards are insane today. And most look like crap and not groomed looking like pubic hair. Some guys look hot in beards but most dont and I dont like kissing a face full of hair nor him in my lady part irritating it will his scruffy beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:41 AM
11

Boring tools, they never developed themselves and just their body! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:36 AM
9

I was a you posted a shirtless picture even if jacked, nexted. Guys that post shirtless pictures are tools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:34 AM
6

We have to see a win as much as it punches us in the gut sometimes! We are better off. Heck the girl after you is probably hit worse, sucks you cant save her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:58 AM
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As much as it hurts that gal is a rebound. He has not done self work and jumped to the next while you're doing the work. Trust you're winning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:51 AM
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I have a thing for classic pick up trucks, haha. It happens to all women. Even me at 11 years old literally looking like a 11 year old had horns and cat calling. My friends and i did as we were usually together biking/walking. This was in the 80's, a time so different from today and it still happened. And sheesh men were even better back in my day compared to now! Aint' that some dung.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:01 AM
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Average age today is 29. Id say some have a better chance marring late 20's. Your brain fully developed and better chance of starting a stable career/income to actually get married and start a family. Does anyone know Jack at 21 on either side? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:50 AM
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Well, my mom and step dad are on 27 years now and lovey dovey still. They are active look younger, act younger etc. Both mid to late 60's. Me, Im glad I never married. Im 40's. If I did, Id be divorced by now and really no shame to those that are divorced as life happens but Im glad I don't have that baggage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:43 AM
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Im pinning a way for the smash pumper that's over in 5 minutes. Makes me so hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:52 AM
7

Its actually sad that this is actually a real thing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:18 AM
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Shreddies. Im crying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:16 AM
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Add this to mix ED and fertility issues when in the man space they never talk about this and its very real. They act like men are gods because they can possibly get a women pregnant past 50. https://www.aau.edu/research-scholarship/featured-research-topics/men-have-biological-clock-too-rutgers-study-finds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:56 AM
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I swear 9 out of 10 times they were in a big truck! LOL I see it as a form of cat calling personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:48 AM
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Did you even read any posts here? My goodness. So the creepy old men cat calling back in the 80's is because of Chads? The strange men I dont know that groped me is because of Chads? Men started doing this to me long before the internet. And many Chads are not the a holes, its the 'everyday' guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:25 PM
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Yes because its ok if you dont have a man? Like WTF?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:47 PM
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I had cat callers by 11 years old, have been groped by multiple strange men in public places and Ive had my butt smacked several times by strange men too just walking through a crowd, etc. Also those that blow their horn scaring the crap out of you driving by as a 'cat call'. Ive lost cont on how many strange men have touched me and invaded my space when Im minding my own business. Ive been assaulted by a man and more or less blamed for it by the police and they treated me like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:22 PM
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Good for you, Im an anti site/app/social media person. My short stint using a app just overwhelmed me(so many matches/messages to weed trough) and was a distracting energy suck. And really apps are filled with not so great men. Thing is when you stop looking someone will come in just living your life. Happens all the time. Ive had men try to pick me up at the gas station getting coffee, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:02 PM
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He sounds like he may be avoidant attached. They can be HV in many areas but bad at relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:09 AM
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Its what I want. I think I can be perfectly happy never cohabitating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:47 PM
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Id be that goof and show everyone my fun socks! haha. My mom still to this day always throws in a fun pair of socks at gift time and Im in my 40's! I like fun socks and holiday socks. Dude, by socks not a ring. hehe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:26 PM
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I turn down drinks. I just say no thanks but thanks for asking. Ive never had a man take me to dinner and expect sex or allude to that. I dont go to dinner with men I have not met/kind of know already so maybe its why I dont run into this issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:48 PM
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And do they really think its unreasonable to want a man with his life in order/working on that so you could have a family? Kids are expensive! You cant blame a women for wanting a man that has it together enough to have kids. They dont want a family with some train wreck woman why would a women want one with a train wreck man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:01 PM
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I really think some of these men are oblivious to what women deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:54 PM
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I'll add, frankly a man spending on expensive gifts, dinners, etc makes me uncomfortable. Gifts I dont need or want to try and impress me like a prostitute. Buy me this cute pair of socks you found with cat faces on it because you thought of me and know I would get a kick out of them and be a goof rocking my cat socks. haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:51 PM
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They can stay in their own tunnel think every women is all about money. They can stay alone while we find someone even if hes broke that treats us right. And reality unhappy people troll. Happy people dont troll subs sending messages projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:46 PM
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So many dont get its not about money its how you're treated. Id rather date a broke man working on bettering his life that treats me well over a guy with money that treats me like crap. Your money doesnt make me feel special, you being a good to me and good man make will make me feel that way. Im also an acts of service for love language. Wax my car or bake me cookies over spending anything on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:39 PM
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If they go searching they will see its very real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:45 AM
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Funny they never talk about this in the man spaces when its so real. Fertility for men is dropping even more with drug habits, bad diets/lifestyle, weight problems, porn additions, etc. Yup is ALLL the womens fault! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:34 AM
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New studies show they have fertility problems by 35 and have just as much risk for birth defects as a women at 35+. They want to claim women have issues when its 50/50. Men are most fertile in their 20's just like a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:25 AM
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Not the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:22 AM
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And sometimes you can tell them like it is and go your merry way. been there. haha. Similar type story chatting with a guy not long ago, called him out on his denial. His demeanor changed quick into OMG, I didn't even see that Im an a hole. he only saw his own selfish side at the time and it was so obvious when we were chatting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:19 AM
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I think some of them do too. All I know is I have tons of other things I could be doing over trying to get a free meal! LOL For real! I'll stay home and cook a pork roast covered in apples/cranberries and eat it all by myself! haha.(to add: and doing laundry while I eat my delish roast) I had one of those friends back in my late teens early 20's(Im 46 now) and whenever we would go to a club/event/concert/ect she tried to milk guys for free drinks and I hated it. I saw it asking for trouble. We w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:05 AM
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They only want to change when its over. You can tell them till youre blue in the face. I had one of those, while our relationship was not bad there were things that needed to change, I tried and tried and tried. he pushed me to the brink. Only wanted to change after it was over, begged for months but by then I was over it. My Dismissive Avoidant side was in full force! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:41 PM
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Im so glad I never married....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:32 PM
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I call them 'young bucks'! haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:50 PM
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No, Id rather eat frozen pizza! haha It happens more today than long ago but its a small percentage of women and the women that make here dont play that game Im sure. I think the men blow it out of proportion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:40 PM
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Thats just it I dont even want to have to deal with leaving at a dinner or the like. haha. Coffee, Ice cream, etc are good with me for a first meet. Im not investing myself yet either, we have not even met. Im not taking hours out of my busy life for a man I have no interest in/total tool in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:18 PM
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If its OLD and a first meet I never do dinners/booze either, I dont want to waste my own time having dinner with a man Im not interested in. How one is in a chat/text may be totally different in person now Im stuck there for two hours... Id rather watch TV and I dont even watch TV. A quick meet then take it from there. I don't consider the meet as a date, its just that a meet. Then we can do a dinner/date. I only do dinners/more extensive dates with men Ive already met because there is some sort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:05 PM
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They do, even women back in my day did. They are fewer but they are out there. Now they call it 'foodie calls'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:57 PM
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He sounds like a sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:28 PM
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Im with ya!! LOL Cats are cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:22 PM
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I surely had way more F boys chasing me in my youth over now. They wanted to pump and dump me and use my youth. Men are worse today over back in my day for you younger ladies. Im glad Im older! LOL I feel bad for young people with social media, swipe brains and porn additions being so abundant now. I was in a long term in my 20's but dont think they still didn't chase! LOL And even some of these man wanting to just have sex with me are not jerks about it like they were in my youth. Ive met some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:06 PM
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Come on now any of us over 35 are bitter / lonely with wine and 10 cats desperate for a man. They act like cats are a bad thing! LOL Cats are cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:36 PM
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They dont seem to realize it doesn't change from 20's to 40's. Guys wanted to use me up for sex in my 20's just like now and some want to actually date just like now. If anything I have more wanting to actually date me now. They always disregard majority of people date in their age range and many stats to back this up. And really some of those older guys may chase young women but when it comes down to actually seriously dating they date one closer in age. To add, this simp thing is dung, many 's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:30 PM
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I cannot stand babes, baby, sweetie! I would have been like "Im not your babes" and ended it right there! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:21 PM
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Ive had guys try to connect on Youtube as well. At least a handful. Its always on one of the man channel videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:12 PM
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I watched the Youtube video last night of her at the Super Bowl and she has wayyyy too much forehead movement for Botox. Its either worn off or she not injected. The panned in on a close up and she was 'wrinkled' up when she lifted her eyes/made expressions. That doesnt happen full of Botox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:02 PM
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For real check other pharmacies! In other countries is $20 or less! haha There are some sites you can buy it for about $20. I have not yet. Ive found them from some beauty Youtubers. You need to use echecks, Google pay or the like. That GoodRx app works good for any scripts for best prices in your area. Oh and to add, Curology is another option. They have formulas with Retin A. You can also start with The Ordinarys retinol formulas. They are stronger than drug store and super cheap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:56 AM
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I pay out of pocket, I dont have acne, etc so its a personal use thing so my insurance would not cover it. My Dr calls it in to a pharmacy in NYC and they ship it to me. I can buy it at a local pharmacy for the about the same price though. Use the GoodRx for best prices local.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:33 AM
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I pay about $68 out of pocket a few times a year. I dont know where you live and what insurance/pharmacy but that is not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:06 AM
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Im betting the new gal dumped him or cheated on him, thats what karma does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:18 AM
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There is not, it going 'bad' is very rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:40 AM
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You dont need a a lot of money! I dont know why so many think this. Im going to be a Jlo at 50. Im not rich and make average income. Good skin care does not have to be expensive, nor acid peels, etc. Nor eating right, drinking enough water and exercise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:39 AM
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Why not? Any one of us can stay in shape and use good skin care. Good skin care is not expensive either. I use drug store brands and Retin A. I have less wrinkles than her, Im 46 and Irish white burn to death skin! LOL Do we have documentation she has injections or is this assumptions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:36 AM
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For real. They need to teach about attachment wounds, trauma bonding, enmeshment, and narcissism too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:55 AM
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They so think we do when so many of us dont! I dont ever think about exes/compare at all, Ive way moved past it. Im thinking of the man Im into right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:02 AM
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The Ordinary and CeraVe are the bomb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:03 AM
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Do it! Your skin will need time to acclimate but Retin A/Tretinoin is the bomb. It keeps collagen going as we age. Helps with scaring, acne, sun spots, and wrinkles. Look up HotandFlashy on YouTube. This women didn't start real skin care till 50! Shes now 57.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:02 AM
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I'll always offer to tip. I worked in the business so I like to leave a fat tip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:56 AM
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Retin A is the gold standard and actually fights wrinkles/can remove them! Everyone should use Retin A thats how good it works! LOL Its part of the reason why I have hardly a wrinkle at 46... Our skin is the largest organ and should be taken care of!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:02 PM
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Lesson learned. Its ok, we are human and all make mistakes. Now you know. Dont beat yourself up over this like many do. Own it and move on from it. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:58 PM
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Funny Ive never sent a picture of my lady bits. Opps I was drunk. Lamest excuse ever. Nah, dude you fire your wanker to anyone like its something special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:54 PM
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Its a thing today with men, you ask your guests to pay your way. Im in the boat you dont ask guests to pay. Its like having a party at your home and you charge a door fee to your guests to cover your party costs! LOL A man asks me to dinner he pays, I ask him I pay. You dont ask guests to pay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:29 PM
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I have not had this dutch thing either but I dont go to dinner with men I have not already met and not some sort of interest already. When I did OLD for a short stint I did a quick meet first, I was not going to go to dinners and waste my time nor theirs for 'free food'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:26 PM
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Agreed! I dont have the time to waste for 'free food'. Id rather eat a frozen pizza! LOL They think everyone of us is out for a free meal, not. I can cook better than any restaurant I would go to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:23 PM
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Yes because stats say most people date in their age range but the SMV chart is the holy grail and ignore stats that majority of people date in their age range. And some app study where most users are under 30? Please. Most guys on apps are no prize. So yes spout out its the way it is when its mostly low value guys taking this survey. Women must live by an app study done by many low value guys. And frankly some low value women. STDs are on a Huge rise in older folks because ya know, nobody wants …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:43 PM
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Whats funny is they all say women over 40 dont want sex anymore, NOT! My libido is higher now than when I was younger. Then at the same time all us over 40 are riding the CC. So which is it fellas? Didn't some manshere guy make this SMV chart? And they want to throw in some app study like its the holy grail where most users are under 30 anyways. The study doesnt include much for people over 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:37 PM
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Im not a fan of the scrote crap either. Sure we can call out bad behavior but scrote language is bad energy. And posting pictures... dont do it, you would not want it done to you and dont like it when the men do that stuff. At least block faces. To add; I dont like the 'men are trash' either, sure there are bad men but blanketing men are trash, more bad energy. Its the same blanket statement when they say all women are bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:43 PM
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Id rather be alone forever than use dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:50 PM
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I intuitively knew this so young, Ive never dated anyone older than 7 years. Ive dated 3-5 year age range mostly. So many of these old men chasing some 22 year olds only think of themselves and not that when your wife is 35 you're a grandpa now with your ED, dead bedroom and changing your diapers. Who cares she has to change my diapers in the future i get her youth and leave her stuck as she ages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:16 PM
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The guys that brag he can make a lady cum 10 times usually suck in bed and acting like a porn star. Women in porn getting rammed on are not having orgasms, they are in pain most of the time and sore for three days after a shoot! They dont realize our lady part is not meant to rammed on all the time nor does this make us have orgasms..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:39 PM
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Ive lost count of how many men have groped me in my life thats how many times its happened. The men smacking your butt walking in a crowd or at a bar...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:02 PM
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Yup and when I was assaulted I was 'blamed'. The police were crap to me. I see the scar every 20+ years later, its was my face. I worked through it long ago but the scar is there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:00 PM
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I know!!! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:47 AM
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Stats say 1 out of 6 women has been raped/attempted to be raped. Yeah its 1 in a million... While I have not been sexually assaulted Ive been assaulted by a man, 14 stitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:00 PM
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Agreed if hes sexual right away, I dont bother meeting them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:08 PM
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Can I say Im glad I never married?! I'll take spinster any day or as the mansphere says crazy cat lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:35 AM
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Im for a pre coffee meet or the like. I dont want to waste my own time sitting through a dinner/extensive date with a man Ive never met. How one is in chat may be a totally different in person. Now Im stuck trying to get through a dinner with a man I have no interest in... I only do dinners/dates with men Ive already met. To add, I dont consider the meet a date, its just a meet and then we can go further/go on a date or you dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:53 AM
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Just chatted with a women tonight and the man she is seeing is a porn stick... She loves making out and foreplay, he thinks that whats 'teenagers' do. What?!? Why make out and get you aroused, Im just going to stick it in. Like women just get hot like that, not. We need stimulation! LOL He is 32. Making out/foreplay can be so much hotter and intimate over sex. Wanted to choke her out first time they had sex. Shes dumping him. Doesn't even give her orgasms. I know this guy, hes not totally terrib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:56 AM
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Biggest 'hack' is skin care, makeup will always work and look better when you have a good base. And less is more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:15 PM
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If there is any truth to it. He weeded out a bunch of F boys for her. The average good man would not even give a dung about this sub. LOL If a guy wouldn't date me because I posted here, good riddance, he weeded himself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:08 AM
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I barley have any lines and Im on my way to 47! One of my guy friends I met for lunch a few weeks ago and as we were talking out of the blue says... I cant believe you have no crows feet. It was random. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:59 AM
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I dont even mind a little gut its those that look pregnant! LOL Beer guts and bad beards are a 'thing' today... You have a beard/facial hair keep it trimmed/groomed! So many have pube beards/facial hair...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 01:07 PM
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I feel ya aged poorly and out of shape, specially men in the 40+ range. Thats my age bracket. I even have a realistic mindset, Im my age range we are not going to look 25! Its ok. But my goodness, its bad on aged beyond their years and out of shape/huge beer guts/dressed so bad. I dont need a buff man at all but not into overweight and giant beer guts. Thin to a little bit chubby is good! haha. Im actually not into those muscle head type guys. More lean/fit/bit of dad bod is more my type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:59 PM
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The comment about a women perusing a man. Fail comment. For most of us... us hitting on a man or pursuing him fails, they are turned off. So many men even say this. Your father, your bother, your uncle ect will say this. Any man I ever 'hit' on in my life. Fail. Its only worked with those that came after me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:08 AM
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Ive had guys come up to me at the gym when Im full on grunting push in the middle of a set. WRONG time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:42 AM
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Can we say bitter and a huge red flag profile projecting his baggage he hasn't dealt with? he would have been better off just saying... Im a brother/black man/whatever works here... I love white women looking for a hook up while I visit x city! Just say it. Some are down if you just lay the cards out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:11 AM
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And disrespect their best friend! What a jerk going after her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:59 PM
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Thank you, me toooo! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:56 PM
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This is me. I never sweat marriage. Im glad I didnt, Im 40's. Im in the no kids boat too, didnt want any. I just want a long term partner and not get married or cohabitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:03 PM
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Nice best friend he has... thats some LVM behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:55 PM
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I tried Tinder a few years ago, I lasted only two weeks and never looked back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:13 PM
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Happens all the time. Ive had three men want to marry me, two were good guys and one was a narc. I was so naive to a narcissist at 23. That man sucked the life out of my 20's... One wanted kids and I didnt so I had to let him go to find a women that did and the other we just didnt fit. Thank the lord I never married the narc! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:23 AM
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Nope! Stats even back this up but they want to ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:17 AM
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Whats funny they are not going their own way, if they did they would not be on Reddit subs and Youtube all the time commenting about how 'bad women are'. Go live life dude and stop obsessing about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:12 AM
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They always say that. 'Old women' are bitter and jealous of younger gals. Sure there are Some women out there like this but more an exception not the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:08 AM
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Ive had men do this to me several times in my life. Complete strangers smack my butt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:57 AM
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Its not as a never married 40's lady. Im not the unhappy one out there, just sayin'! Im amazed by people who really think you cannot have a happy life or be happy because you're not in a couple/married. You're projecting you not being able to be alone! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:54 AM
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People doing that are projecting. I get the same thing, same with me never being married. Its like people think life is all about being in a couple. Im not into the hook up thing either, I'll stay celibate until I meet someone. I feel Im lucky, if I got married Id be divorced by now. We just took the time to really know each other so we never made it to the alter. One I had to let go because he wanted children and I didn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:44 AM
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Im so thankful Im older and got to experience life before social media, apps, and porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:23 AM
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Have you tried CeraVe? Its a more no fuss simple product. Lots of times its some fragrance or the like cause issues, CeraVe is 'clean'. The Ordinary is too but there is more to get into where CeraVe is simple.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 10:17 AM
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You do but some out there dont do the work unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:13 AM
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Retinols are fine, its Retinoids like Retin A. there is a difference. Even your Dr will say some basic over the counter retinols are just fine. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 03:13 AM
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You're are welcome! been on the skin care train for years! haha.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 03:07 AM
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Yes, there is totally a difference. Both can be great for your skin but not the same.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 03:06 AM
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And social media/apps/dating sites. Its all of the above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:37 AM
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Guys 20+ years ago where better! Sure bad men were around back then but not like today! Im not even a man hatter and believe good men are out there but, sheesh men have become, meh today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:36 AM
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Big difference. You'll be fine with basic over the counter retinols. Even your DR will tell you some CeraVe, etc is just fine. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:29 AM
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I see some comments here about retinols. Retinoids like Retin A/Tretinoin are not the same as retinols. Basic over the counter retinols like CeraVe, The Ordinary, ROC, etc are fine for many. Your skin may need time to acclimate. Slow go it if your sensitive and build up. Retinols are not an issue with pregnancy, they are too 'weak' to be an issue. Retinoids like Retin A are way stronger.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:25 AM
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Its actually a retinoid not a retinol. There is a difference. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:20 AM
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Its retinoids not retinols. Retinols are fine its retinods like Retin A/Tretinoin.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:18 AM
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Yes and your skin may need time to acclimate. Some peeling is actually normal.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:15 AM
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Yes to CeraVe/The Ordinary!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:14 AM
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Try CeraVe or The Ordinary. This is what I use as well as my Retin A.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:11 AM
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I posted in this thread. I break down my whole routine. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/ermb62/what_are_some_physical_hygiene_tipsways_you_like/
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:10 AM
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Sometimes I think they do love but its 'twisted' love or they tried in their own weird/crap way. Not excusing things at all. I just think some may try but they are whacked! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:07 AM
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Have you tried Skyn condoms? I can get irritated as well but these ones dont bother me like others. And always pee as quick as you can after sex, this helps with UTIs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:54 PM
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Yeah no, many men are walking wart spreaders. And him just rubbing on you down there will pass an STD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:51 PM
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Yes ladies just own it and move on to better things, we've all been there at least once!! its ok, what is not ok is to keep repeating. If you do look within and heal the wounds. Most of the time its wounds from childhood/past relations making us act a fool. Most of have wounds/been wounded. Its ok even if you've done it more than once. Just own it and know you got you/can work through it so you dont run on the insanity wheel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:53 AM
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Funny hes know for BO and poor hygiene! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:48 AM
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Oh yeah in my area we have Race Wars on a drag strip. Its a show/taking your car on the track if you want. I know the Race Wars people travel all over the states doing these shows. I think they are out of CA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:51 AM
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I love it and have fun. I like/can appreciate classics but Im so a turbo/tuner gal driving a car that corners like its on rails! haha. I do have this thing for classic trucks though. Love classic trucks. What is funny Im so a tomboy but so girly at the same time. I have tons of tools, aftermarket parts, sets of rims, etc. But its dresses, stilettos, cute sandals, glitter, etc! haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:42 AM
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And yes the horn honking scaring you to death!! So experienced this multiple times in my life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:50 AM
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Yeah, we laughed at those old men at college bars/clubs. They dont realize most of us would see them as old men losers trying to prey on young gals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:45 AM
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Most users are 18-29 on many dating sites. And new studies show men are dropping in fertility by 35 just like women. And fertility clinics report at least 50% of fertility issues are men 35+. Really we are neck and neck when it comes to fertility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:40 AM
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The old men that came after me from 16-22, eww. Men my dads age. They dangled their car and money trying to buy me like a prostitute. I saw them as pathetic. Yeah those 40+ men are peak SMV, not. They think their money or 'status'(whatever that is) is going to win over 20 year olds. Sure maybe for a minute and she will dump you or cheat on you with a young hot buck with a hard body and hard wanker. Now a days guys are having ED problems early. Be it porn or bad diets/lifestyle. And the they are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:20 AM
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Im into car stuff/the car scene. Its 90% men at the shows/events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:16 AM
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The wall is their cope. Ive had men chasing since I was 11 years(cat calling already at this age) old now 46. Men of all ages. It has not slowed down one bit. They also say its all 'bad men' when you age, they just think you're easy/want to use you. Sure some do but they come in all ages and we deal with the types our whole lives. Yeah like there was an abundance of good men just because you're 20! LOL Like men were not trying to use me at 22. Bad men come in all ages! Then the Nobody will want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:03 PM
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Yes! On that note driving is a huge sun exposure thing we dont think about, always hit the back of your hands/driving arm! They even have SPF driving gloves now.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 01:58 AM
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I have built up so I use it all over my face no problem. Around my eyes and eyebrows, using it can give you and eyebrow lift/help with eye sag if you start early. Even me starting at 42 has helped just like Angie at HotandFlasy on Youtube. Her skin is great and didnt start any real skin care till 50! I do get a bit of dryness in my chin/mouth area, which is very common. Read your skin. Sometimes I take a break for a week or so with my Retin A. At least Always keep up with the basic wash your fac…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 01:53 AM
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If you have cold sores like many do, keep up with Lysine. 1000-1500mg a day. My brothers GF has issues and this how she combats it. to add ,keep some of the acid peels ways from your mouth area, outline the lip area. I keep my acid peel away from my lips and I dont have a cold sore issue, its just sensitive in your lip area.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 01:40 AM
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My parents would have been the same way!! LOL In reality if they had daughters would they want them around old men? They wouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:52 AM
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While some of these younger men are just looking for fun/sex with older women some actually are just attracted to them. I have men of all ages chasing and Im 46. They think Im 30's though. I cant do that young even for fun as they look like boys to me but Im attracted to mid to late 30's men. Guys my own age look like crap and very aged. And their giant beer guts...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:18 AM
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Yesssss! And you will! haha. Its surly slowed/reversed my aging and people compliment my skin all the time. What is great is you dont have to use expensive products for skin care. I wish I started Retin A in my young years. Didnt start that till 42.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 10:40 AM
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Its enlightening. I think they should teach it in high school. Same with trauma bonding and narcissism. Im a Secure with a Dismissive Avoidant side. Now I understand why I need more alone time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:20 AM
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Yup, its just fine if you need too. even if you have to take the peel of in 5 minutes, work your way up. While some just cant do it many of us its take time to acclimate. :) Specially of you're not used to acids/retinols. My skin can surely take more as my skin is used to stronger acids/retinols. Ive had fairly sensitive skin my whole life but its adjusted nicely, it may for you too. C serums and over the counter retinols are a great place to start and add in Retin A/peels.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 04:25 AM
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More adds. haha. If your still early 20's/even early 30's Retin A is great at least one night a week, use it for the rest of your life and increase as you age. It keeps collagen going and you'll be way ahead of the game even at one night a week when youre young and progress using it as you age. If anything too, do your best to wash your face at night, our skin regenerates when we sleep. Just wash and some basic night cream can do wonders. Dont think I didn't slack washing my face at night and so…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 03:22 AM
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Youre welcome! Give it time too and keep on with it, its the longer you use the better for most skin types. My personal experience. Some just use it once a week too and thats good as well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 03:14 AM
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Helps with wrinkles, sun spots, acne scarring, skin brightening and just over all good for your skin.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 03:08 AM
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Daddy issues... Some have this problem on both sides, not their fault but they need to get a reality check/need to work on those wounds from childhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:56 AM
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More additions, Retin A can be more irritating on the neck and chest but many more can tolerate retinols, its the next best thing. Your skin will need to acclimate to strong Retinols/Retinoids. Its normal to feel some burn, get some irritation and flaky skin. Angie at HotandFlashy and Dr Dray are some good Youtube channels. Angie is now 57 so she geared towards more mature skin but much of its good for you younger ladies to fight aging, the earlier you start the better. She actually didnt start …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:48 AM
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The AHA peel, its the blood red one. its a 10 minute treatment, it will burn but works so good, specially if youre older, it helps cell turn over we lose as we age. This one. Acid peel
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:36 AM
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I'll add i quit the sun by mid 20's. And today I wear cute beach hats/have sun umbrellas if I'll be in the high sun even with sunblock. I just do enough to get some Vitamin D. Keep your sun exposure minimal, this a huge factor in aging and our hands/chest/neck can age even faster as many neglect that area.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:35 AM
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Same as I posted. :) The Ordinary product I use is the acid peel, twice a week. (but they have so many good products) I use CeraVe for all the rest/my Retin A. CeraVe Day> Vitamin C Serum>Retinol Serum> SPF Moisturizer. face, chest, back of hands. Night. -3 days a week Retin A -Two days my acid peel -One day Vitamin C Serum -One night just night cream no retinol/acids. I use my night cream first, then Retin A. Acid peel nights, its peel then night cream. Vitiman C night its C serum, then night c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:27 AM
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Yet Ive slept with 100 women and a walking wart spreader but you much be a perfect virgin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:12 AM
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While more men are just not today, look into your attachment. If your an Anxious Preoccupied attached person you tend to attract Avoidant Attached men. Avoidant and Anxious types have this pull to each other even though you don't fit. The anxious-avoidant dance. To add, this goes for both genders male lurkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:48 AM
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I believe it! LOL Only few of those MGTOW/Red Pill channels are not bad, most are women bashy/delusional. Some of their content is valid as some women are cray like the a hole men but its all in how you present the info/their energy. You can tell most are coping/bitter/fakers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:22 AM
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Im just going to say skin care!! And keep up with your sunblock. Any ladies new to skin care looking to start CeraVe(head to toe) and The Ordinary are excellent. Both super cheap. Also add in Retin A. Start this early.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 01:12 AM
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Like he didnt mean sexual acts! LOL My goodness...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:52 PM
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Tons of comments of women here not wanting old men but they are 'peak SMV' in their 40's. They think their 'resources' makes them 'peak value'. They will make a Youtube video about this thread calling us all liars, bitter, post wall, etc. They dont want to hear the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:32 PM
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Yeah, good luck with her. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:24 PM
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I gave up my about 7 years ago. Set yourself free! I have a business IG/Pinterest. Every once in a while I'll have some guy trying to DM me on my business account. An account with a 98% women audience and girly products. Dude, what are you doing? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:19 PM
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Pair bonding is Far more than sex, dont let that crap into your head like its the holy grail of making a relationship last! Its fear mongering in the mansphere. While there is validity to pair bonding but its So much more than his man part/sex.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 02:07 PM
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They were, I just posted about that! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:01 PM
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Because we dont want them either, they look old already. Most 40+ men look like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:59 PM
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It may be worse today but trust 25+ years ago I got the same thing it was just in person because the internet didnt exist yet. The ones that dangled their cars and money were even more pathetic trying to buy me like I was an 18 year old prostitute. Dude youre as old as my dad, ewwww. Heck I had cat callers at 11 years old riding bikes with my friends looking like 11 year olds... If I brought home a 35+ man at 18 my parents would have freaked out and called him a perv and kick rocks, stay away fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:55 PM
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They dont seem to get you dont ask guests to pay their own way. You are his guest. And sheesh you cant buy me a burger and call me a gold digger over a meal, kick rocks. Im one of those when I used OLD dating I did a coffee meet or the first meets. I dont even want to waste my own time sitting through a dinner with a guy that I have no interest in for 'free food'. I dont have time for that. They think we are all about some free meal, sorry free food is not worth it to me to spend time with some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:41 PM
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I had a women do this once, her man and I were talking about performance brake rotors. he had the same ones I was looking to buy but they were cheap(possible to good to be true) so I asked him his experience with them before I bought. I was trying to 'take her man'! LOL Literally our whole 5 minute chat was about rotors!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:18 PM
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I have 60+ chasing me and they chase me thinking Im in my 30's. They dont realize im mid 40's. Yeah just what I want is a man 20+ my senior... Even at my age a 15+ age gap is too big for me. I stay 5-10. They they want to blab on about nobody will want me at mid 40's because Im not fertile. LOL Even though guys my age in general are done having kids or never wanted any so my fertility is irrelevant. Its all about fertility and ya know connection, life goals, chemistry, etc, etc doesnt matter its…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:58 PM
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They think they have super sperm because a man could still possibly get a women pregnant at 60, its rare or they need IVF. Mick Jagger had a baby at 70 so ya know, this is possible for all men. Not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:42 PM
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46 and no shortage of men trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:28 AM
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And they are in for a rude awakening!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:14 AM
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Its so freeing isnt it? Looking at what some go through I think Im fortunate to have had this type of mindset when I was young. Take no sh@t! Just live your life and a man with come in time when you're not even looking. Its actually how Ive always dated. Men pop into my life. Even though things didnt work out, I didn't have bad relationships except for one. We just didnt work and not perfect but not toxic/abusive in any way except for that one. Im a 'spinster' and Im not the unhappy one out ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:11 AM
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They always say this 'older' thing when its 5-10 years not 20+!! Even studies back it up. But they know one guy or read a YouTube comment about some 40+ getting young gals. Not happening for majority of 40+ men. A 40+ guy getting young women is buying them, they have daddy issues are are above average looks/in shape wise probably looking younger for their age. The average 40+ man has no chance. I certainly didn't want anything to do with men that age. I dated within a 4-7 years above me age gap …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:46 AM
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New studies show men are declining by 35 now. Bad diets and lifestyles are hitting them younger now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:29 AM
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And sheesh Im mid 40's and dont want them, they look so old!! I dont look like a grandma why do I want a guy that looks like a grampa at 45? Really I have no issue with dating men my age if they actually looked their age, Id prefer it so we age together but majority dont! I tend to be more attracted to late 30's men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:27 AM
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They dont seem to realize a women in her 20s wanting kids doesn't want old man sperm to father their children. They want a viable fertile man closer to their age that will age with them, healthy sperm and be around for the kids. Yes 22 year olds want 45+ men so when they are late 30s their husband looks like gramps with ED, dead bedroom and health issues and too tired for the kids. These men are selfish thinking of themselves and not thinking of the future of the kids or their lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:23 AM
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A lot of the FDS haters just go by the rules posted picking that apart over actuality reading the threads. If they read some of the threads they would see. Sure there is some extreme here but that goes for any community. As a whole its good though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:11 AM
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Im with ya, I just posted something similar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:29 PM
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I persoanlly dont care what he does or his education as long as his life is in order. I dont base value of a man on his job/income/education, his value is in how he treats me/others. An educated man can have a wreck of a life while the high school drop out has his stuff together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:28 PM
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I havent kept up with it but I can see them just wanting a more simple life. I can just imagine whats is like coming from that type of family...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:14 PM
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Exactly! Way more good men around compared to today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:23 PM
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Trust, men were just not this crappy. Sure they were around but not like it is today. Back in my day men actually paid for dates, were not obsessed with your A hole, didn't get into sex talk in the first five minutes of chatting... etc, etc. These things would be more and exception not the norm. Back in my day not as many bald, overweight and sloppy dressed men either. Its beer guts and man boob galore today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:09 PM
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Its worse than I thought... men were just not this bad 20+ years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:58 PM
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I like when they say your crazy but keep coming back! LOL If you were actually crazy they wouldnt come back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:48 PM
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Its freeing being content on your own. Im with ya. Ive always been this way. My live has never revolved around men or trying to find one. I live life and men come into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:15 PM
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I dont understand how they cant see reading here how so many women have dealt with crappy men and how many crappy men are out there. Im not a man hater in any way but its slim pickings out there. Its always about the 'rules'. Yes we are supposed to accept drunks, guys sending dick pics, guys asking for nudes, guys being rude, pressuring for sex and suck my dick, do you spit or swallow 5 minutes into chatting wit then for the first time, guys being abusive, guys with three baby moms, pump and dum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:54 PM
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So because Im private and dont blast my life on social media my relationship is not real, important or invalid because I dont post about it? Why are you people putting so much into social media? Social media is mostly people fake curated lives. Maybe some of you need to rethink how important social media is in your life/relationship, its actually not. It toxic for many, causes depression, etc, ect. Funny how life happened and relationships before social media. We ll lived and had real relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:18 AM
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We can agree to disagree, my relationships doesn't revolve around social media and frankly people put too much into social media. I dont find it important in my relationship and rather not have it announced to the world, my relationship is private and my own. Stop putting so much into crap social media, its not important, some of you make it that way. You want to make your relationship about what is posted on social media?! That is pick me behavior in my eyes. Get off of it!! Yes your relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:14 AM
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For sure, the term has to meet what we want as why I 'forever'. We have to do what works for us and all is on the table. Id be like your friend! haha. If i wanted marriage/family 'forever' girlfriend would not work for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:02 AM
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I could live the rest of my days being a 'forever' girlfriend. I dont care about that piece of paper and not cohabitate with a man ever again. Be together but live a part. Forever girlfriend is not a bad thing all the time if your end goal is different. Its bad when you're looking for marriage/family. I want a long term companion. Not to say i would never get married or live with a guy Ever again but its not my end goal. A companion is and we roll with what works for us. Many being together livi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:53 PM
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No dating sites/apps or personal social media for me. Its so freeing! I tried OLD a couple of time but never made it past a month before I dumped it. Im just not into it and its an energy suck for me personally. Dating sites are filled with bad apples. They migrate there. Not to say you dont meet bad apples out in life but its an abundance of bad apples on sites/apps in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:09 PM
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Reward with a BJ just to do basic life stuff. Sad. Gosh the bar is set so low today its below the basement deep inside the Earth... We cant even find the bar anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:59 PM
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Why would I pay? I can get free wieners if I wanted! LOL They really cannot comprehend how abundant dicks are and yours isnt worth it. Like their dick is special! I. Just. Cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:35 PM
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Im for keeping your relationship off social media. Social media has become the top relationship killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:29 PM
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I felt the same way back then and still do now never married. Now mid 40's. Its not the holy grail of life and not 1950! If people looked up the history of marriage it was a business deal and arranged/forced. Not about love. Who wants that? They probably didnt back then and were stuck...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:20 PM
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Im older so guys were not as bad, porn addictions and all this other stuff. And as a Gen Xer, I grew up so independent, we did as kids back then and I think this contributed to my pfft, I dont need this crap. I had a bad man in my 20's though, not a pick me but a blindside from a charming man that was a Narcissist. Yeah so naive to that at 23! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:52 PM
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Never in all my years has a man said anything about my makeup/lack of. I'll wear or I wont, its all about me! LOL I persoanlly just feel more put together with some on. Im a pale Irish blond so a little cheek color and mascara helps! LOL I actually have really nice skin particularly for my age(mid 40's) so I go no makeup more often than not. Good skin care ladies and keep up with sun block! You dont need expensive skin care either. And sure its not like I dont amp up a bit for a date, event, etc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:23 PM
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Hey now, I have dewy skin! haha. My skin care is the bomb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:52 PM
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Its annoying... those data sites. My mom does not use the internet much at all and her life is there too. No social media, ever, etc. I have a net persona I use thats fake and my life is still there... My first apartment I lived in before the internet was born is even listed! Many people dont even realize your life is there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:38 AM
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Can we say I have issues and I blame it on women with dogs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:34 AM
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Oh Id totally play with him. Yeah you know where your mind is, who are you fooling? I chew beef tips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:27 AM
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I'll say this, never send sexy pictures, they could land on Porn Hub! This happens more than people think. Or they show friends, their fathers, their brothers, etc. I know some ladies have good men and its ok to send him a hot photos but always ride the side of never do, its an exception. Only send basic selfies/pictures of you fully dressed. Also reality today, anything we send out there is tracked. Nothing through your phone or the internet is actually truly private. Go Google your name, phone…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 04:12 AM
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Just say I dont think we are a good fit, this doesn't work for me, something along those lines then go live your best life. Im all for being upfront even if they don't 'deserve' it as some would say. Speak your truth. Rise above it and always tell it like it is when things need to end. If more out there just told it like it is we would be better off! Let them get offended, lash out, etc. Its not your issue to keep it real. Own you will always keep it real. Block etc if needed. Exception if the p…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 04:00 AM
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Motive him to get a better job with better people. Bottom line he works with toxic people and hard labor, this job will age him fast. Respectable people dont act the way they are to him. Even if he 'stands up' to it, why should he even have to? He works with A holes who lack respect for human beings and want to put down people projecting their own garbage.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 03:14 AM
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Funny I just read that as I visit there! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 03:06 AM
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Im not. Im just busy. My business has exploded. Im also one of those... a man will come in my life when the time is right. Im good alone till then, I got me and life is good. I dont chase it, it will come. Many times it happens when your living life not looking. To add, I lived by FDS before I even know it existed. I was woke young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:34 AM
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So true! I know about more car stuff over most men as I have a car hobby. I grew up in a car family. I even have a pile of aftermarket parts to dump! LOL Heck I have three sets of rims for my car! haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:28 AM
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Um, I'll cook a roast for myself and have a piece in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:20 AM
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Im one of those older never married and Im glad I never married! Im certainly not the unhappy one out there! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:39 PM
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They dont understand being an 'old maid' is not even a bad thing. Its being with a crappy man that is. They also think just because you're older/single you have no life, friends, hobbies etc and we are sitting in a rocking chair with cats waiting for the days to pass. Life is only worth living for a man... not. I really cannot comprehend how they think any women that is single is bitter, lonely, no life, must be crazy, etc. Sure there are some women out there like this but its not like this for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:01 PM
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Avoidant Attached. Avoiding his own life and focusing on others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:08 AM
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Any man Ive ever hit on never worked. Only those that came after me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:04 AM
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Um, I worked in the business for years. Always time for a lunch meet or days off!! Mangers in all my years barley ever worked more than 5 days a week. Maybe long days but two days off. Excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:00 AM
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Asked you to Venmo? I. Just. Cant. Sure I'll pay my $1 termination fee to never speak you you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:58 AM
1

They dont understand for many of us the money is not that important. Just have your stuff together. What do you bring besides money? And 'status'. What is 'status' anyways? Are you emotionally available? A drunk? A druggie? Abusive? A narc? Do we emotionally connect? Do you mentally stimulate me? Do we have things in common? Do we have the same life goals? Can you handle conflict resolution? Do you even give a dung about me besides my 'holes'? Yup its all about money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:40 AM
2

Yes our life has to revolve around a man or you have no life! Not. The robot thing, yeah you weirdos... Just see an Escort! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:12 PM
12

Iver never been asked such a question ever. Id be like is that some kind of Red Pill/MGTOW thing? What do you bring? Id call them on their own crap. Cause sh@t I can build a table from scrap wood, can you? I'll build it and set it in my stilettos all made up in my dress looking fine as F.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:36 AM
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Im all about energy. Always vibe good energy. Manifest, like attracts like, law of attraction, etc. Its all your energy. Does this mean we dont encounter energy suckers? We sure do, we just rise above them and cut them off. It can be hard as sh@t rising above but do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:03 AM
13

Whats also funny is many people that have pets grew up with them so they have them as adults or those that didnt and now can. They think every women has pets/cats because shes 'longing' for children/lonely. Sure some may be/same with some men but most of just like pets!! LOL Pets are fun! Its one of those things, who doesn't like pets?(I know some dont but I hope you get my point) Pets relive stress, people live longer with pets, helps those with PTSD, depression etc. I think Im fortunate my fam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:54 AM
1

I dont watch that garbage. Its most fake and scripted anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:13 AM
3

Because I choose to be! Funny how so many dont get that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:50 AM
6

I can smell you from here crazy cat lady! hahahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:48 AM
12

Ive never even had a man ask me, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:59 PM
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They do. Any man that has ever ghosted always circled back at least once. Back in my day we called it 'getting blown off' now its ghosting. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:50 PM
4

Agreed!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:42 AM
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Seems people out there forgot you don't ask guests to pay their way. I ask a man out, I'll pay, hes my guest. He asks me, he pays. I am a low key gal, frugal and dont need gifts, out to dinner all the time, etc. Id rather he wax my car and bake me cookies! haha. Im the furthest ever from a gold digger! LOL But gosh darn a man asks me on a date as his guest and asks me to buck up I'll never see him again. I'll pay but Im paying to never see him again. I dont mind tipping, I worked in the business…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:58 AM
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I think a huge factor in divorce is those that jumped in not really knowing what it takes nor the person they married. While I never married I lived with two men and I think I could live the rest of my days never cohabitating again. I also dont sweat marriage, never have as I didnt want children. I just want a long term companion. Im a being together but live apart. Many of these types of relationships last. Not to say I would never get married its just not something I need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:59 AM
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I was told I was too picky stating this. "He doesn’t say send nudes, wyd, sup, want to F, rude nor get all needy because I don’t message back in two minutes freaking out and start calling me names, etc. I have 4 DWIs so I need to Uber to our date... or his profile screams red flags I’m bitter and carry my stuff around like a ball and chain." Would they want their daughter dating a man asking for nudes, a drunk, call her names, rude to her, needy, ask her to F in the first chat or a man that has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:41 PM
2

Women like men that stay on their own grind and not needy. Fool. A man slacking on his grind for me will turn me off. Men are 'last' when it comes to my business. That said I will make the time for a man if hes worth a salt adding to my life not trying to hinder it. I keep on my own grind, you keep on yours and we can mutually grind some things together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:21 PM
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Sure they do, they want to manipulate and groom that young mind that doesn't know better yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:59 PM
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If I got married that fast id be divorced. Marriage was on the table and there was no lack of commitment at all, we just took the time to truly know each other so we never made it. These were not bad men nor bad relationships either.(except the LT in my 20's, he was a narc, thank the lord I never married him, he wanted to!) I think the sweet spot to truly know someone is by year three.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:50 PM
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That was hilarious! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:05 AM
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Gentlemen dont talk about eating pussy in a dating profile...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:29 PM
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Apparently tons of guys have no life/hobbies if they can be glued to their phone and always reply instantly! Do they not realize if youre working, etc you cant be on the phone? Some jobs even have no phone rules. Or me, drop my project Im making with my hands shutting down all my equipment I need to use just to reply. Forget I have shipping deadlines and its how I make a living. Yup let me not make money to coddle your neediness. Yes I can hold a piece, airbrush it and be on the phone at the sam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:23 PM
2

This forum can be a good read, you can probably relate on things they go through with their with fight, flight and freeze states, etc. http://jebkinnison.boards.net/ The book Attached is a good read. These are other channels that can help you on Youtube. Coach Craig Kenneth, Susan Winter, The School of Life, Dr Todd Grande, Personal Development School - Thais Gibson(Linked her in my last post) Alan Robarge / Attachment Trauma Therapist, The Love Chat, The Dating GuyPsych2Go, Ross Rosenberg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:00 PM
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She has excellent content specially for FAs, she was FA herself. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ Until you can afford an attachment trauma therapist shes one of the next best things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:55 PM
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Look into attachment theory. You're sounding like a Fearful Avoidant. Read about and see if you can relate. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:19 AM
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I think many have a bit of feelings/connection but not enough to move into a relationship. You can have a 'love' for someone but not want a committed relationship with them. Some wont have a lick of feelings but Im betting thats more on the low end. I had a FWB for 1.5 years. I had a bit of feelings/connection but not enough. We actually had a very cool thing and we treated each other well. We were like weekend BF/GF and sometimes during the week. We had a great time together, talked about anyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:52 AM
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You'll get there, you own you're AP and thats huge as so many dont. Just keep working on it. :) Im a Secure with a Dismissive side. I have a very low anxious side but when I dated an a Fearful Avoidant he turned me into an anxious ball, they will trigger the most secure people so dont think its just you as a more anxious type. They are just all around triggering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:41 AM
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They sound like avoidant attached men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:32 PM
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4 DWIs and has to Uber it to your date....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:25 PM
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Well at least he upfront and we can pass on him. Doesn't excuse things but we can swipe away from him! LOL hes telling you who he is and we believe him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 05:36 AM
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What is funny they dont know anything at 19-20 but expect women to. None of us know Jack at 19!! Sheesh our brains are not fully developed until 25!! They wonder why their wife wants a divorce mid 30s because she finally knows herself, she got married so young and didn't know Jack. They dont get is better off late 20's/early 30's. But, but it worked in 1950... Yeah they didnt have a choice back then and they are delusional to think all that married young back them were blissfully happy. They wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:10 AM
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Back in my younger years this was not a thing, guys seem obsessed with anal sex today. I tried it with a long term partner, Im not into it. We were together for five years. He never pressured me for it ever nor was obsessed with it nor butt hurt I wasn't into it, it was something we tried. Our sex life was just fine without it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:02 AM
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All their complaining about FDS just brings more subs. As they say, haters make you famous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:51 AM
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I may be in the minority but I'll respect anyone that states what they want upfront. At least they are not trying to play games or manipulate me. Hes telling me what hes about. Really isnt this what we want? Men to be honest? If hes honest in saying hes wants short term./FWB, respect hes telling you upfront and not manipulating you into sex. You can participate or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:39 AM
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I dont see the problem either if hes upfront. At least when they are upfront you know what it is. Hes not playing games, hes telling it like it is. In reality isnt this what we want? A man that is just straight up and not manipulating, playing games, ect? we can join in or move on to something We want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:32 AM
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Im all for anyone being completely upfront. If more people actually did this there would be less BS. Even if Im not down to just F I can respect a guy saying this is what he wants right from the beginning. Hes not playing games/trying to manipulate just saying what he wants. I can go with it or not, at least I know what it is. Lay the cards on the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:25 AM
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Nope and the ones that dangle/brag about their 'status' and money turn me off. I cant be bought, Im not an escort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:00 AM
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I straight say Im seeking a long term partner because I am. Im a straight shooter. Going on dates and meeting new people is part of the process in finding a partner. If he assumes I want one with him, he just weeded himself out. Emotionally healthy people will know that if someone is wanting a long term partner doesn't automatically mean with them. I certainly know darn well if a man says he wants a long term partner doesn't mean he wants one with me, its just his end goal in dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:41 PM
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Thats how I roll for a first meets. Its one of those things... sitting with guy for two hours eating when you have no interest, its a waste of my own time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:24 AM
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I would have told him to get out too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:47 AM
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He should be embarrassed of himself. ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:23 AM
5

They think they have super sperm till 80. With the way men take care of themselves eating like crap, overweight, etc they are dropping their sperm faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:18 AM
3

I. Just. Cant...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:59 AM
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Its amazing they dont get it as I was taught these things too. They would tell their daughters the same darn things!! Like they would want their own daughters to put up with the BS many men do! Yup they would want their 22 year old daughter being with a 45 year old man... My mom and dad would have told a man that old to get lost you creep. Like they would want their daughter to be with a broke man, abusive man, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:35 AM
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Exactly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:24 AM
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They always seem to be hung up on 'a man pays for things'. Its 'toxic'. So many of them cry they want a traditional women but dont want to be a traditional man. If they really took the time to read here they would see the BS women also deal with. Its why FDS was even started! Hello?! There are crappy people on both sides of the fence!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:21 AM
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Id dump him for going through my computer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:00 PM
9

Run and never look back. This guy is a mess, a cheat and broke.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 10:57 PM
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Good you did find out early. And yes just having basic needs/relationship talks you are stonewalled, etc. Its actually sad as deep down they do want love/to be loved...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:17 PM
2

Really this is just a F boy thing not just RP men. haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:12 PM
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Most men dont even know even Red Pill exists. Its really a small percentage of guys. Also not all RP guys are tools. I have two Red Pill friends and they still love and treat women good. They are just woke men all around. I have a RP guy chasing now. Hes just too old for me though. Really nice man and we have great conversations. He does not play games at all. He loves how woke I am and sees Im not the average women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:10 PM
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I think they should teach attachment in high school! Its a huge factor on how we date, friendships, etc. I learned when I was dating my avoidant. Learned way more about myself as well. Im Secure with a Dismissive side. I now understand why I need my alone time and wasn't one that jumped man to man. We all have sides but one usually dominates and people we date, friends or family can trigger us. Estimated 49% of the population has attachment trauma. Avoidant, Anxious, or Disorganized/Fearful Avoi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:23 AM
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If you're in the dating pool 35+ there will be lots of avoidants. Many can be good men but when it gets real it can trigger them to run. I dated an avoidant once... not fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:07 PM
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I find the dating pool mostly low value. I also find it an energy suck having to even deal with all the dumb messages, etc. I don't even use personal social media. I also found it a bit overwhelming with so many messages/matches. I couldn't 'keep up'. A handful I met lied in their profile or couldn't show up on time. I also had some I never met they were so late I left. Edit to add: It took me a few weeks of using a site and an app to ditch it! I tried it against my better judgment... I just mee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:08 PM
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He was probably Avoidant Attached. Communication and committing are a thing with them. They will be the greatest guy and when all is well its does a 360. Avoidants can be HV in many areas of their life and good people but they are not good for relationships unless they are aware/therapy/understand their avoidance/triggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 09:12 PM
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Ive never had a man ask my count nor asked a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:32 PM
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What is she even doing in that thread if her relationship is so great? I mean if I was in a blissful relation for the past four years I wouldn't be on Reddit peeing on other women, Id be enjoying my life and man. Just sayin'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:05 AM
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Many men never married single at 40+ are avoidant attached and unaware they are. Its why they are single, they cant do true intimacy and closeness. They become triggered and ghost/dump you because you're 'needy' when actually its just basic relationship needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:47 AM
5

I cannot Stand 'babe'!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:31 PM
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And Im called 'damaged' by TRP for never being married at 46. I was just woke at young age and really took the time before I jumped into marriage. It was on the table but never made it. Not all bad men at all we just didn't fit and Im glad I waited. I'll take spinster any day to not have gone through what so many have... The long term partner I had through my 20's was the one bad guy Ive had, he was a narc. Never saw it coming as he ran in my friend circle and knew him for years before we dated.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:24 PM
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Right! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 07:59 PM
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Well a mans sperm starts to fall off by 35. Looks wall many seem to smash it by 30.... I really see this as Ive posted here before I have a 'man hobby'. At an event 100's of men of around of all ages and most dress poorly, bad hair cuts, pubic hair beards, look sloppy, man boobs, out of shape, etc, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:01 PM
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Dont forget she must be a virgin but hes slept with 100 women and a walking wart spreader.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:53 PM
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Im 46 and have just as many men, if not more, after me as I did in my 20's. Men of all ages just like my 20's. I look more mid 30's, pfft all women age like crap. I took care myself. I barley have any wrinkles.(Keep up with skincare and sunblock ladies) Its just a cope with its over after 30. Out in the real world most men age like crap too, more cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:02 PM
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Im my younger years old men creeped me out, Eww why date my dad? And if I brought a 40 year old man home at 22 my mom with have a fit and tell the man to kick rocks, you're a perv. Im sorry its perfectly normal to be creeped out by men as old as your dad! These old men are so selfish even trying to marry some young women, when shes 40 hes now 65 looking like a grandpa, health issues, sagging body with no sex drive anymore. Now you're 40 in your sexual prime with dead bedroom and a man too tired …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:36 AM
2

My experience as well. Id rather just stay single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:01 AM
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These guys... sheesh! Hows that working out for ya? Im glad I dont use online dating...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:08 PM
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Mine is im going to keep on with my good energy. People know the instant they meet me I have good energy. Always rock good energy and positivity even when life can be crap or you come across crap people. Even when life is crap or you come across some crap men/people, know you got this, you are better than bitter energy and vibrate high even when you're handed lemons. Make lemonade as they say. I know it can be hard but always rise above negative sh@t!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:55 AM
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Im glad I don't have any and my three best gal pals are very woke like me. We came into each others lives for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:52 PM
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Im not a texting fan either, I came from a generation when you actually talked on the phone! LOL I dont expect a man to be up my butt with check in texts when we are just even starting to date but ignoring. Bye, you're not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:23 PM
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Can they really blame taller women for wanting a taller man? I like them taller too as Im ft 7. Is it some requirement a man has to be 6ft 5, no but Im sorry Im not attracted to a man thats 5ft 4 just like hes not to overweight women. I dont know why short men get so butt hurt over a tall women wanting a tall man when there are bazillion short women out there! LOL Us taller women are not the 'norm'. Average is 5ft 4.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:15 PM
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Thats not what this is talking about, thats needy. This is it takes 48 hours, 3 days, a week later, etc. Sure, people work and have lives and may take hours but days, etc, come on now. Nobody that has real interest is going to take days to reply. If they cant, they will let you know they will be off the radar for a few days. Would anyone here or yourself no matter how busy you were let a man you have real interest in/is worth a salt hang and ignore him for three days? Doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:44 AM
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A little mascara and some cheek color go a long way even rolled out of bed! Take the 5 minutes. haha. A bit of put together face can help with a dressed down outfit.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:18 AM
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Anxious Preoccupied or even avoidants, both can have love bombing/needy behavior!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:06 AM
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Bottom line. Interested people will reply/make time no matter how busy they are even if its to say Im very busy right now lets talk in a few days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:30 AM
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You should see some of his Youtube videos. He has some where women send in pictures and he rates them. He picks them apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:30 AM
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Truth but, also some truth. Avoidant attached men can have that happen to them. Doesn't excuse things but there are men/women that do truly get triggered from closeness/intimacy and run away because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:42 AM
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So hes looking for a 'broken' women he can use and abuse because she has daddy issues. What a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:50 PM
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I wasn't saying watching the baby was balanced it was just an example of a way to help, not the be all. Like Ive said, one hand washes the other. You're not slaves to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:26 AM
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Messaged me too... He needs to get some hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:46 PM
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its one of those things hes taking care of the baby while she meal preps or he takes the baby while shes doing laundry/ironing. Its a one hand washes the other. (not just saying watching the baby equals all out but I hope you get my point )Hes participating in the household and not expecting his lady to be a slave. He helps not expects. Id have no problem as a women cooking and cleaning as long as Im given some breaks/he participates/actually appreciates what I do. We appreciate what both of us …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:08 AM
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Funny I gt a message from this person too over something so stupid! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:16 AM
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Good for you as I dated a FA/Ambivalent man and its surly a harder journey being FA/ambivalent. I wish he would get to a place to wants to do the work. Hes not a bad guy but boy is he 'a mess'. Bad enmeshment with his mother, she treats him terribly. Hes a 37 year old man that takes her crap still and he doesnt have to. Knows it but wont change it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:15 AM
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I have DA friend and Im Secure with a DA side. Shes an aware and we talk openly to help each other and she knows she can reach out to me when shes triggered. I dont get as triggered as my base is a Secure but I understand the avoidance as I have that side in my attachment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:08 AM
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They can, but a lots of its out of their control until they become aware. They dont understand what triggers them. They dont even see it until self aware. They still have a need they just try to get it elsewhere or think they dont need it. Doesn't excuse things but can help you understand it and not take it personal. Those insecure attached are not bad people most of the time, they just have deep wounds that can display as narc or needy behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:59 AM
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Society seems devalue single people. Women more so for sure! I'll take spinster for the win. haha. Just like they think we are all miserable because we have no man or kids. I know of more people in relations/married/has kids that are miserable not us singles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:34 PM
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I dated a Fearful Avoidant, its how I stumbled onto attachment trying to figure out why a guy was making me feel like an anxious needy ball when Im not. I was out of my element. Sucked he was emotionally mess as we got along well and tons in common. Im a Secure with some Dismissive. I now understand why Im good with alone time and wasn't one to jump man to man. I didnt know how others did as I was always needed to be alone before I even considered dating again. Or why I wasn't a 'pickme'. This f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:45 PM
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Its so freeing not to have personal social media, I deal with none of this baloney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:29 PM
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And people wonder why some women dont want children.... They think you're 'broken', no I was just woke and its WAY more than people bargain for. I am shammed for making the choice to not get into something I dont want. Children are a HUGE deal, HUGE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:24 PM
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I. Cant. Even...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:36 AM
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I cannot stand this, some of us do not want children and many women out there are Not fulfilled because they had children. So many are abusive to their kids, have them for selfish reason or treat them like a toy and they grow in to dysfunctional adults with attachment trauma, BPD, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:10 AM
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I had a man in the Red Pill community basically deny men have ED issues, specially as they age and ED issues are caused by old women men cant get it up for! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:06 AM
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My mom did well but as a teen I didn't see it as much as I do now. She wasnt perfect but she taught me to be a good person. Look up to who you need to even if its a thread here to gain insight or improve. I know many didn't have great parents and its not your fault just don't stay there and be a victim of your childhood. You can heal, improve and grow, always, its never too late.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 01:47 AM
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I cannot believe how many dont wear condoms pregnancy aside, strains of STIs are becoming drug resistant! So many will hook up with some gal they dont know and want to go bare!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 08:48 PM
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Apparently my comment has offended as Im now getting PMs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:47 PM
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I forgot ones that dress gangster, too much jewelry and dirty looking old socks with their shorts! LOL. I see this more so with younger men. Here is me in a long flowy shirt, cute tank/sandals and there you are looking rolled out of bed and grungy... i dont expect a man to be dressed up but at least wear a T and jeans that looks clean and not old/wrinkled/from 1980.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:09 PM
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For sure. I actually saw one recently it was like a needle in a haystack LOL. Specially at my age. Its even worse for us 'oldies'. Men my age look terrible and way older. They so dont take care of themselves... This men aging like fine wine is a cope as I see the complete opposite. I have a 'guy hobby' so if Im at an event there are 100+ men around of all ages, you might see a few attractive ones out of 100+. Bad hair cuts, dress sloppy/dated, crappy untrimmed weird beards, wrinkled clothes, gut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:37 PM
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I can see doing these things for your guy but do it the night before! If he actually appreciated it and its not some expected thing like you're 'my slave'. There is a difference, one hand washes the other. If hes treating her like a slave wife it wont get better until she stops it. This is also what meal prepping is for. I meal prep for my single self so I have food to eat. Having a family it can really help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:24 PM
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