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OMG - same here. He met me at the same size, 16/18. But now I’m “bad for his image” and he has to think of the future of his unborn children, as I would be a bad influence (too fat and a “demon democrat”) lol Ugh, OP. I’m getting heated for you all over again. They are so TEXTBOOK. So sad to have a personality created by YouTube.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 07:14 PM
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No, no he did not. He just stands on the backs of other men doing important work and asks for applause - just like you said, Lol He constantly told me he offered me security, protection and provided. When I asked how, what, or why, all I got were crickets. My dad was a man’s man. He was a welder by trade, the most handy man I’ve ever met. I was his helper for all his projects. He also got my mom flowers and jewelry for every occasion and I never got into my car without it being started up, warme…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 06:16 PM
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You’re not alone. My posts in this subreddit are the most embarrassing, but it’s just your brain and heart being in different places. The heart will catch up!
/r/ExRedPill24/07/23 09:39 PM
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Redpill is a narcissists dream - they already had these ideas - these stupid videos just give them that bit of approval, puts their shitty thoughts into words. I know it’s awful, but the peace of mind you’ll get from not having to hear these stupid arguments (my ex’s favorite was “men built this world, so get over it”) will be worth all the heartache you’re feeling now!
/r/ExRedPill24/07/23 09:36 PM
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My ex already had narcissist tendencies, but his alignment with redpill made the relationship 10000x more unbearable. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Take a bit of comfort in knowing you are not alone in this awful turn of events.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/23 09:31 PM
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I find it so funny too, because when he started on his redpill journey, he was big on the “men are protectors and providers” but he made mention that the reason he wants two women is because it will bring in more resources to a household. Sooooo he wants to be a leech? It’s so crazy how much contradiction is in redpill. Thank you for the article!!
/r/ExRedPill12/06/23 12:28 PM
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A centrist might be a better situation because maybe it wouldn’t feel so impossible to find common ground - he’s completely conservative now. Which just doesn’t even seem to make sense with his upbringing and his past beliefs. It kind of makes sense now when he started giving me a hard time about being really passionate about BLM and hating Candace Owens.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 01:08 AM
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Here’s where it makes me crazy - my ex is also black raised in a pretty liberal household. 🙃 he’s completely changed his perspectives, which is an okay thing if you learn and research, your opinions change as you grow. But this was like an overnight change that he was embarrassed about. He voted for Trump in the last election but celebrated with me when Biden won. He okay started sharing his new conservative views within the last year. It’s just such a mindfuck!
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 12:44 AM
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Other than my crumbling mental health? I guess that’s something he “un-built” Lol Honestly nothing beneficial to anyone, including himself. He built another relationship while with me and that’s about it. He plays video games, he plays volleyball, and he works. His car is in someone else’s name, he lives in an illegal apartment with a roommate, doesn’t have health benefits. I feel ridiculous even being upset about him when I list these things. It’s funny, when he started his red pill journey, he…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/23 05:13 PM
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I’m trying to get away for good. I’ll go a while without talking to him and get pulled in for a little bit before I painfully remembering what an awful person he is. Lots of cycles of lovebombing and then this stupid shit to discard. I’m happy to say he’s blocked again and hoping to keep it this way. Just hard sometimes since he’s been a big part of my life for a long time. Reddit is where I go when I miss him (not really him but just things we used to do) to snap me back to reality.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 11:37 PM
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That’s the thing - we could be arguing about anything and would somehow make its way to this “men are better” thing. He forgot my birthday, didn’t get me anything, and used the “men built this world, I have more important things on my mind to be handling”.😅 I’m not the type to start a gender war in conversation, especially with him. I do think men and women are different but it’s a good thing. I love men who aren’t assholes the same way I love women who aren’t asshole! My ex is never accountable…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 11:33 PM
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OMG THANK YOU! Yes, my ex is literally the most “unmanly” man I’ve come across. In the sense that he’s never done manual labor in his life. Which is totally fine, but kind of crazy to be using this specific arguments to prove his superiority. Best part, he says I emasculate him constantly. How you ask? I once waited weeks for him to change a tire and battery in a car I was planning on selling. My neighbor decided to do if after he realized how long I was waiting. It took my neighbor like 30 minu…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 11:09 PM
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There’s a lot of things he says now that make me scratch my head. He mentioned that scientists are working on artificial wombs so women would be obsolete. I asked if he would then raise a child by himself, he said no, he’s raise it with another man. Lol so I’m just all types of confused now.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 07:20 PM
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Thank you for this! It’s so frustrating to think that any one gender could just take on society by themselves. It’s such a dumb statement.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 06:40 PM
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He actually doesn’t. It’s very weird - everything he has accomplished is all because he is a special boy (my words, obviously). He thinks he’s top of the top because he is smarter and faster than “civilians” (what he calls regular people, and no, he’s never been in the military). He’s a big gamer and pretty athletic - he speaks in gamer terms. Honestly, it’s ironic for him to be so far in the redpill when he’s not doing anything to better himself in any way. I think he just tries to bring everyo…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 05:32 PM
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Ahh yes, when he’s on his way to his Amazon delivery job and I’m handing him his lunchbox. Lmao
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 05:26 PM
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😂😂😂 it’s so annoying but I’m usually so shocked by his statements, I just have to stop and walk away. Because why does anyone’s brain work like this?!?
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 03:44 PM
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I just feel like the further out you get, the less the accomplishment means to right here and now- when he throws the “men built this world” I always think of like 1920’s men building skyscrapers by hand. Totally something to be in awe of but what does that have to do with right now, this particular discussion. It would be so frustrating to be talking about something vile he would say about women and then he’d justify it with “well, men built the world so get over being the weaker sex”. I do rea…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 03:42 PM
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Haha I always said that and he’s bring me all the way back to when all doctors were men. Or worst, cavemen hunting. 🙃 I’d be so fucking done with the conversation, I’d just walk away.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 03:33 PM
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I’ve never thought of this! He’s very narcissistic so he does throw his accomplishments around, but I absolutely think you’re right. Bigger accomplishments will be harder to deny than when he got a karate trophy in high school. Lol
/r/ExRedPill30/04/23 03:30 PM
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Reading me (and him) like a book. I’m a ridiculously empathetic person and this unfortunately means I give people the benefit of the doubt way more than anyone deserves - a narcissist’s dream. After this shitshow of a relationship and becoming a victim of abuse, I don’t trust easy unless the person earns it.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/23 03:05 AM
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YES! Makes me crazy - it’s like it’s more important what he looked like to other men. He would take guys under his wings to teach them red pill things but, to me, it was like the blind leading the blind. Lol mine definitely loved watching the competition between girls. I played for a little too, until I realized it was dumb as fuck. Especially when I looked at the other girls and didn’t see anything he said he valued. 🙃 I’ll never understand it.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 09:43 PM
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Thank you!! He’s an idiot, I just continue to look for clarity because I’m still hurt by losing someone I invested a lot of time with.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 07:10 PM
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I appreciate your comments - of course being desirable is how you get a partner. But if you have a partner that you can see a future with, it’s not necessary or healthy to keep a harem of women around you. It seemed like he was more obsessed with looking like a playboy to other people, and less about the life he’d be telling me he wanted. Just I’m trying to figure out what’s the goal of all this? I thought self improvement to find a partner of value, but if you have that already?!?
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 06:27 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 07:58 PM
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Yep to most of these - Mine definitely did everything in his power to keep me insecure - looking and commenting on other women’s beauty in front of me, claiming that I made him this way due to a rocky relationship (me not trusting the man to lead), fights that went in circles forever until I just gave up because it was a waste of time and I was tired, no empathy at all for anyone ever. The weird levels of safety was a new thing - I once called him after my plane had been diverted, just for comfo…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 01:47 PM
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I’d love to read that article you mentioned - “how can I love you if you won’t let me do this?”. My ex used that line constantly - about everything imaginable. I’d love to get some insight if you remember the author!
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 01:38 PM
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Looking forward to it! Thank for apologizing. I get what you were saying though - the situation sounds like an open and shut case. Lol
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 09:35 PM
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Maybe - I mean, some people will be with anyone who validates them. So I understand that could be a factor. But he’s a fit guy who always dated/slept with bigger women. I’m fine with him “finding” his new preference, but leave me out of it. Lol you can’t force your “standards” on someone else. Just find someone else.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 09:29 PM
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He doesn’t give a shit about anyone who’s not him.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:52 PM
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Haha, at least you stuck with your preferences! It’s sad but I do think he needed more male role models and help with being a better person in general. Mentorship, not red pill bullshit. He said my weigh negatively impacted his “image”. Like he’s some sort of celebrity. 😝
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:49 PM
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Everyone deserves a redemption story - I hope you find yours!
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:40 PM
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I’m in the process of fading out. It’s stupid but I’m afraid of his reaction to just leaving. He usually guilt trips me back into the insanity. But I’m truly over it. I don’t want to be spiteful but it’s hard not to hope karma strikes him hard. I like the way you put it - he won’t find another love like the one I was offering; someone who will challenge him to be better. He’s going to be stuck with yes women who will co-sign every dumb decision he makes until they’re everyones in misery.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:38 PM
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Ironically, his confidence and how sure he was of everything he did. He was fun and carefree - things that I wasn’t naturally but got to be with him. Even when he was making dumb decisions, he made them with gusto. Lol it was nice to be with someone who took risks so confidently, and he usually made it work for the best. This was attractive to be since I’m so risk adverse. Opposites attract I guess? I’m not an airhead - I have two masters, so definitely book smart. My street smarts could use som…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:27 PM
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His new predatory nature helps with staying away. I’m 33 and dating a 20 year old sounds like my personal hell - where would the common bond be, you know? Reminiscing about dial up and free minutes after 9pm. Lol Honestly, he’s already got his next girl lined up. Which pisses me off to no end. I know it won’t be fulfilling for either of them but that’s not my business. It does hurt that he gets to move on to this girl and I’m left picking up pieces and asking strangers on the internet for answer…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 08:07 PM
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Oh definitely, I wouldn’t pick him again knowing all I know now. Even with dating, I think I have more knowledge now on what are red flags and keywords that are connected to red pill. Much smarter now!
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 07:58 PM
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I’m guessing that preference didn’t work out in the long run? What made you pick those attributes in particular? My ex speaks very poorly of single moms and anything plastic. I hope you’re back to dating regular people. I understand getting back to normal is ridiculously hard. I say things sometimes about masculinity that can only be traced back to red pill. So frustrating to have to rewrite your brain.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 07:53 PM
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Inexperience and low self esteem on my part - he was my first long term relationship so I very naively thought we’d mature together. I didn’t even realize how much I bring to the table until very recently. I’m not completely faultless in the relationship- I expected things from him that were unrealistic. But I made up for where he lacked and vice versa. We’ve had some amazing times together and he’s pushed me to do things I’ve always wanted to do but didn’t have the confidence to try. I did the …
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 06:55 PM
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I’ll check this out! He definitely used the other girl and their inappropriate “friendship” to persuade me to act in ways that were very outside my comfort zone. Luckily, his family and my friends confirmed that I was too good to continue to put up with his shit - it just took me more time to get to a place to realize that he’s not even a person anymore. He just regurgitates what he hears on these channels but his actions don’t align. Thank you for the new term and resources - I never want to be…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 06:26 PM
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Thank you!! That’s something I would always fight him on - I’m genetically predisposed to high cholesterol. I’ve had it since I was 8 (genetics fucking suck, I feel you on that!). I got my numbers down to the normal range being more active so that my blood work was perfect. Not good enough for him - he said he can’t “be with someone who weighs more than him”. Sounds like a you problem, sir. Lol Who wouldn’t want a shot with a model? But let’s be real. He’s underemployed, in debt, and not very “a…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 06:14 PM
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Thank you! He absolutely is manipulating me - and it’s embarrassing it worked for so long. I’ve always been self conscious about my weight so I guess that was the easiest thing for him to target. Red pill is fucking scary and I really hope anyone who finds this sub sees the destruction it causes. I would have done anything to help my ex strive in life. I can’t tell you how much time, money and effort I’ve spent trying to make his life easier because I loved him. but he wants a submissive women w…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 06:02 PM
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That’s the thing - all of his preferences have significantly changed and, like fucking Nancy Drew, I just wanted to figure out where it was coming from. After painful research, he’s definitely using dread and negging to keep me around. And it worked, but now I hate him lmao He says his standard changed but he’s now bagging below average women who have the personality of a doormat. I think maybe I was too much of a challenge. Definitely a creep. Thank you!
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 05:55 PM
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Lmao, thanks. It’s embarrassing that I’ve been struggling so hard to let go of him. Red pill definitely speaks to him and his very fuck up view of women.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 05:44 PM
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