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| 20 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!I came here to say, what is this fart casket he spends his time in.bleh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:23 PM |
| 5 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.I'd go back in there take a shit into the trash can and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:38 AM |
| 2 | I’m sick of pick me articles claiming their husbands infidelity made their relationship ‘stronger’Yas. Sooooo much accuracy. Thanks for wording it for everyone to remember. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:42 AM |
| 32 | It’s heartbreaking to see young women/teenage girls being preyed on like this.Yeah it sounds like that to me too. It sounds too well aware of what's going on and conceptualized thoughts about the feelings and behaviours. I think it's something weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 02:41 AM |
| 19 | How to be emotionally abusive 101Some guy told me I had a nice jacket..... But it looks kind of big on me. Expected it to hurt my feelings and when it didn't he continued to just assume it did. It makes a huge difference to finally know the names of these manipulative tools these @ssholes use. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:30 PM |
| 10 | I broke up with my boyfriend todayI know this story all too well. Here's to a better future without them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Found this on Twitter and felt it in the gut!Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 16 | This is a hard but important lesson to learn.Yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 03:01 PM |
| 2 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Sorry but me too haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | I didn’t accept my NVM father’s worthless apology for once.Love this. All of it. So true. Glad you figured it out at all. I wish I didn't spend so much time struggling underneath the weight of all the stuff but hey. At least we get to see it for what it is finally and that's awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 04:51 AM |
| 2 | I didn’t accept my NVM father’s worthless apology for once.Yeah. It's harder to deal with when you're living with them still. But I find if you don't really take the step and enforce your boundaries For Yourself ( not particularly expecting a change from abusive people because you can't change them. You can just indicate that you're not to be fucked with) then you , still carry around the trauma from those people. I finally did many years later than I would have wanted. When you don't learn the lesson of how to actually lay down your boundaries then unf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 12:42 PM |
| 23 | Don’t give men your time when they have nothing to offerOooohhhhh this right here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 12:35 PM |
| 3 | I didn’t accept my NVM father’s worthless apology for once.Thank you. I lived a similar abusive life with my dad. I actually dont if he ever "offered me peace" as just expected me to adapt to his moods ; crazy fucking abusive, or making a joke or jokes at my expense and thinking it's funny. It took me many many years of psychological abuse until my mid twenties I finally said no more. He treated me like garbage as I was visiting around Christmas and I said if you don't treat me like a daughter I'm not you're daughter and disowned him. Then usually I wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 04:32 AM |
| 13 | Jasper Bloom was the ultimate NVMSinging my life with her song. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 04:20 AM |
| 17 | The teen boys at r/ memes want us to know FDS is THE WORST and should be sHuT DoWn. They cry out to god Reddit for help 😭🙏Hahahaha. I love you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 04:16 AM |
| 93 | Stop over explaining yourself. LVM don’t care about your feelings, and nothing you can say will change that.I sent long emails. Every time I did a huge chunk of my dignity left with that send button. My god how I wish I could turn back time. At least he is gone and dead to me so that whole experience can go with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Lesson learned!😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:17 PM |
| 58 | FDS is nothing like those incels or the subculture they have of pillers, and it is odd you would think that.I think this should be pinned. What happens when another sweep happens where Reddit pretends it cares and starts banning communities. There are a lot of women who use this to have support and its the misinformation needs a clap back. Thank you for putting it so eloquently and tastefully with your word blanking. It was very well considered and delivered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 08:00 PM |
| 8 | Hitting the wall is BSYeah I wish saying " you look so much younger for your age" wasn't acceptable to say. Not only that but expected to act like it's a fucking compliment???? It's not a compliment to reinforce the idea that it's supposed to be bad to age as a women. I want to punch throats. Now when they say they thought i was younger , "yes my voice has a very youthful pitch" to get them away from being sexist assholes right off the bat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Another reason why studio Ghibli is better than regular "Anime" that is hyper sexualized and full of "Fan service" for basement dwellers. Regular anime is full of misogyny and portrays women as objects.I love studio Ghibli and that's pretty much all the anime I will ever watch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 04:26 PM |
| 2 | How to recognize future fakingHear hear. 🎉🎊🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕✌️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:34 PM |
| 30 | I don't know who needs this but... If he wanted to he would. If you have to chase him for it, then he doesn't want you. If you have to excuse his actions, then he doesn't want you.If you feel unstable or insecure, then he doesn't want you. Someone who loves you will show you. Never settle.Been there. This will pass. I'm learning how to stop giving him residence in my mind. That's the real empowerment I find. Taking back my life from being lied to in such a violating way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:13 AM |
| 7 | NEVER beg for a man!👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:08 AM |
| 13 | "YoU CaN'T TeLL mE WhAT tO WeAR!!!"Society treats her like it was her fault. That's why this analogy works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:07 PM |
| 2 | I used to seek validation and closure from my past relationship. A very wise HVM told me “if he’s telling you who he is through his actions listen to him and drop him, sis!” No truer words spoken. Lesson learned. Moving on...Thanks love. Appreciate you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:34 AM |
| 2 | I used to seek validation and closure from my past relationship. A very wise HVM told me “if he’s telling you who he is through his actions listen to him and drop him, sis!” No truer words spoken. Lesson learned. Moving on...Thanks girl. I'm trying to get through that forest where I can see not all men are like this. This guy was Really good at it. Like shockingly. I always prided myself on my value for honesty and being a good judge of character. So the fall from my reality construct was pretty steep lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 02:00 PM |
| 4 | I used to seek validation and closure from my past relationship. A very wise HVM told me “if he’s telling you who he is through his actions listen to him and drop him, sis!” No truer words spoken. Lesson learned. Moving on...I had a nightmare. I was being chased by a man who was a drug addict because I was selling drugs and wasn't giving him any. It was a scary endless chasing dream. But when I woke up, I realized I was the chaser. I've been addicted to the love bombing. I was addicted and wanted more of the shitty drug he offered me. But his real identity is a complete liar, a user, untrustworthy, abuser of women. He will always get what he wants, but I have to take my lesson and know in the end it wasn't me and th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:01 PM |
| 1 | !!!Haha yeah I was in fact the one who is an idiot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:18 AM |
| 2 | !!!Haha yeap. 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 3 | !!!Ouf. So embarrassing I said Gandalf instead! 😂🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 4 | !!!Yeaaah. There is much to love about those books though. I don't really recall the relationships as much in the books... I think maybe the movies made more emphasis on them? I loved how Granger was depicted as the intelligent one. Having a smart lead character as a heroine was great. JK Rowling made some great contributions to the way women can self actualize in this world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:56 PM |
| 29 | !!!Yes that reminds me from the scene from HP where Dumbledore brought Harry to find a locket horcrux in this really cursed underground lake area. And he drank this terrible sadness potion through, then wanted to drink water and Harry touched this cursed water with dead people in it that started to drown him. Don't be like Harry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:49 PM |
| 14 | !!!💜🤟🍁!!!!!!! Gotta find another way to find friends that aren't the worrrst | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Always look into a man’s background before meeting them like this (it’s free):This seems like a great service to offer women. Casual background check with a relationship horoscope on the side to boot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 01:37 PM |
| 0 | My seemingly HVM boyfriend used prostitutes before he met me.Yeah I don't doubt that. | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 05:44 PM |
| 2 | My seemingly HVM boyfriend used prostitutes before he met me.Hold on though, if he Paid women for sex, instead of pretended to emotionally desire women in efforts to get into their pants, isn't that more upfront about where he was at? I think more details as to where he was finding the sex workers and what kind of person is he showing himself to be, what his attitudes toward women are and how he treats people, and maybe how he treated the sex workers too. I don't like the sex trade, but all the snakey men that exist who use women for sex until theyre read… | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 04:50 PM |
| 5 | He has hurt me, but i dont want to hurt him.Toss a stick into the wind and see if he brings it back to you. Literally or metaphorically. Oops. I think im actually telling you to get a pet dog. This guy is Mr.Wrong let him go. Your emotions will catch up and agree with you. Dogs are Awesome. Don't ever forget how cool they are. Think of how SAFE you can feel with someone you havent been bit by. Emmulate that with the people you invite into your personal bubble. | /r/askFDS | 11/10/20 12:17 AM |
| 6 | He has hurt me, but i dont want to hurt him.Live in the NOW and you will pave the way step by step, now by now, to the future you want. Start analyzing what their actions say to you. Its the only way to decode the real intentions of bullshit men. A lot of people are incapable of SAYING hard truths, they act it out but can't say it because quite frankly they either lack emotional awareness or are HUGE cowards.......... in my case it was both. It took a while to accept he was a bullshit coward. If YOU love someone.... You tend to treat them… | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 11:13 PM |
| 2 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?Wow. That's really cool ❣️ | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 06:49 PM |
| 2 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?Thank you. What may I ask is your first language? | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 05:35 PM |
| 2 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?I see. Yeah. It's unfortunate the people there as therapists oftentimes haven't really gained self awareness of their own perspective before they make themselves available to others of all backgrounds. | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 04:57 PM |
| 2 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?Okay thats good advice. Thank you for your thoughts 💐 | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 04:51 PM |
| 2 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?But yes, im struggling finding someone here because I'm in a country where English is the second language and they also sort of ... Have a long time cultural issue with English speaking people. So while living here and needing therapy and mental health support .. im afraid of not being understood or having that person be biased against English people which is an underlying anxiety of mine. | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 04:40 PM |
| 2 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?Do you find that with English being your second language the therapy quality if it is in English doesn't suit your needs? Do you find there is cultural identity lack of understanding from your therapist to you? Also yes. I had a young male therapist once and he asked me if it was that I was having a hard time with my feelings of if it was that I haven't conceptualized my feelings yet. It was the most bullshit question I have ever been asked when I'm in a crisis. I hope he left that field. | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 04:38 PM |
| 38 | Everyone was retweeting this with 'she's so beautiful I hope she dumps him'. I can smell a LVM a mile a way.Omg. People working out the disagreement on the internet amicably. I love this community. 💚💗❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:52 PM |
| 10 | please take the time to watch this 1 minute video on reactive abuse.Ahah yeah didn't know it was a trend. Must be something with their never growing up... Entitlement to everyone else's energy to sustain themselves .. just full on bearded man baby pissing their diapers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 01:08 PM |
| 17 | please take the time to watch this 1 minute video on reactive abuse.Hope you're finding warm hugs in your choices these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:44 AM |
| 36 | please take the time to watch this 1 minute video on reactive abuse.Egh. He got so drunk on his 30th and was in my bed and literally Peed my bed. I calmly woke him up, kind of was grossed out but whatever he was mega drunk so I just tried changing the sheets. This was all at like 7 am, he started to berate me and call me horrible names... Cornered me and continued seething. I asked him to leave a few times, he wouldn't just got worse, and then I slapped him across the face once I couldn't handle it anymore. My roommates heard everything , and had to give me her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:15 AM |
| 6 | How to level up your emotional health after years of abuse and internalizing painful social experiences?How did you find it? I've been looking for therapy and went to a few therapists but they were so bad and expensive. After so many times of restarting the process with another therapist and also not having an unlimited budget I stopped looking | /r/askFDS | 05/10/20 10:09 AM |
| 4 | My ex posted this on Reddit. I blocked him here as well now.What? Don't block? Why. Do block. Put up the wall so you can move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:46 AM |
| 21 | Good morning FDSHahahahah 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:30 PM |
| 5 | How do I deal with my exes treating their new girlfriends better than they treated me?To see that they'd gone on a trip a few months in already when he and I only drove to go camping a few hours away at most over three years..... It hurt but is also laughable because I would have hated being on a plane with him and going anywhere with his grumpy ass. It just flat out would have been another awful experience to add. Sure I felt the spite of my not being " good enough", but the gratitude of not having his terrible energy dragging me down anymore of having to fight with him in Engla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:18 PM |
| 11 | Well since she's doing all the work anyways, and u r just uselessly on the side, she might as well ditch ur ass and be in a relationship with her self or find a HVM. But yeah, you just "hang back"... pff...**boys on Reddit . Pretty sure it's all just 13 year old gamer boys all over this site. Or "men" who are as emotionally developed as that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:07 PM |
| 23 | Well since she's doing all the work anyways, and u r just uselessly on the side, she might as well ditch ur ass and be in a relationship with her self or find a HVM. But yeah, you just "hang back"... pff...That's just such a backwards conclusion. Let her set the course and sit back but he's the captain? How delusional. People on Reddit are total losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:50 PM |
| 3 | These are the kind of pickmes who are detrimental to other womenHaha i got close to a guy that said he was one of those. You don't even want to know how that turned out. RIP you godawful piece of shit wherever you are lying to the next group of people reinventing yourself out of necessity. XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:58 AM |
| 2 | These are the kind of pickmes who are detrimental to other womenI think they're being facetious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:57 AM |
| 35 | When i saw people calling this a sub for "nasty/evil/crazy/scary" women i immediately got hopeful and wanted to see whats up, not despite of the reputation but BECAUSE of it. Because every time women are doing something RIGHT it's rebranded by men as "nasty/evil/etc"Is there anyone that goes over to men's pages like mgtow and incels to harass the men as much as they do women here? I'm curious if women even remotely doing the same behaviours that we get in our inboxes. I had some guy message me a bunch vehemently arguing some point and I tried to reason with him twice before ignoring, but yeah, anyone? Sup with that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Come share some of the wisdoms your moms and grandmothers, or other strong female role models have said to you :) <3Fuck that makes me so angry. I am so proud of her. 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:17 AM |
| 5 | Thank you from my heart, trulyThank you for articulating all of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:09 AM |
| 5 | Come share some of the wisdoms your moms and grandmothers, or other strong female role models have said to you :) <3Well.... If it's any consolation, my mom fought long and hard her whole life under the weight of my dad's oppression. I live with the resentment that she never left it but just kept changing her game until we were grown up and got away ourselves. Such a wonderful and incredible women, but in her story I don't get to have that satisfaction that she told him where to stick it. I didn't get to see her get liberated and live her true best self. Her sacrifice of herself to a male captor to raise her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:48 AM |
| 5 | Come share some of the wisdoms your moms and grandmothers, or other strong female role models have said to you :) <3Oh my god. She is such a good person. I'm grateful you shared this story. Thank you, and thank you to your mom for her character. That's beautiful. ✊🙌💝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:27 AM |
| 14 | Come share some of the wisdoms your moms and grandmothers, or other strong female role models have said to you :) <3Uhhnuuuhh she is Awesome. I do not regret this post at all. Thank you for sharing your mother's coolness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 09:16 AM |
| 14 | Come share some of the wisdoms your moms and grandmothers, or other strong female role models have said to you :) <3Oh.my.goooood. your mom is So fucking cool. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 09:15 AM |
| 3 | I know I could be a HVW but I do not believe it deep down. Looking for advice and reassuranceHaha. We're so spicy. I do just hate the words BPD being thrown out in women's forums. | /r/askFDS | 13/09/20 12:26 PM |
| 33 | Quinn is often seen as an airhead, but she actually exudes pure FDS energy.This made me really want to rewatch daria | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 12:07 PM |
| 5 | I know I could be a HVW but I do not believe it deep down. Looking for advice and reassuranceYou stated you think it sounds like BPD, the modern equivalent to the old medically sexist "hysteria" diagnosis for women back when. Sure doesn't sound like cold hard facts to me. I'm not taking it personally. I'm standing up for her because that kind of feedback isn't cool | /r/askFDS | 13/09/20 11:54 AM |
| 1 | I know I could be a HVW but I do not believe it deep down. Looking for advice and reassuranceListen to the book "a return to love" by Marianne Williamson | /r/askFDS | 13/09/20 11:29 AM |
| 6 | I know I could be a HVW but I do not believe it deep down. Looking for advice and reassuranceWell yeah she's asking for help with that, and this is a really thorough post that can address the same issue other people who share it can learn from. If you're personally having fatigue don't come into the comment section and cut her down. Just pass it by and let other queens help future queens. Here she is saying she has been the object of social rejection and competition with women in her youth and is taking a chance opening up to a women's community and you want to misdiagnose her and thus … | /r/askFDS | 13/09/20 11:27 AM |
| 12 | NVM Ex-husband meets new meHahahahaha amazing. 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:27 AM |
| 3 | This. This is what I am working on with myself at the moment. Trying to get to the bottom of why I accepted what I did. Ladies it’s very useful to look inwards and see what is going on internally! Why are we allowing subpar shitty behaviour or traits?I was lonely, he came with the personality I wanted to be around, mirrored the person I would want to be with after learning me, said some things to make me feel valued. But I didn't value myself well enough to call it over the red flags. I let myself be a casualty to some guys unaddressed issues. Next time I will step out of the way and let that mother fucker roll allllll the way down without taking me out too :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Relapsed in contact with LVM, looking for some reminder of why to keep levelling up!Thank you. He did do the romance and affection. He did it all right. But yeah a people pleaser would while they're two timing. Total sack of shit. I want someone true and real. I need to get well to be able to really know. I am worth that. I am worth someone actually loving me. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Relapsed in contact with LVM, looking for some reminder of why to keep levelling up!Hoooly fuck did I ever need to hear that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Relapsed in contact with LVM, looking for some reminder of why to keep levelling up!Thank you love. Appreciate the resource ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 12:12 AM |
| 2 | So I realized...How have things been going with you? I actually broke at some point and called him on the phone. Set me back like 4 months! Curious to see how others have been doing. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:40 PM |
| 27 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Thank you. I don't like this chatter about how those other feminist subs "did something wrong" or " something other than us to get cancelled". It is a matter of women's spaces being targetted and standing by our sisters is essential. I'm glad for this Reddit exodus. This place is dominated by weirdo sad and sick men. It's just too bad they wont see this content and maybe have some things click one day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 11:59 AM |
| 16 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.I'm scrolling through all the posts on posts I have saved and screenshotting all of the comments. I dont know what I'll do when this gets banned. It's all so important for me to keep the work up ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:24 AM |
| 5 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.So what happens to the comments and posts? I've saved Sooooo many posts that I look back to to help me... Would everything be erased???! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:56 AM |
| 65 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.This sub is the most important part of Reddit for me. It helped me recover from a reallllly insanely abusive relationship. It helped me pick myself up and stop accepting less than I deserve. It's not only the handbook that is the gold here. It's the community. It's the comment section under the readings and posts that I have derived such timeless and empowering advice. If they ban this sub I guess I'm leaving on too. Unbelievable that it should be run by misogynist people who can't let women hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:34 AM |
| 6 | This is satire but the truth bells are ringing for milesYup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:47 PM |
| 7 | A fun response to the hot-crazy scaleThis whole thing is a sarcastic response to the crazy hot matrix though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:59 PM |
| 24 | He made a lot of points even for hetero girls 😂 “who would want to be attracted to walking trash!”This is so fucking funny. I love this human. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 11:12 PM |
| 3 | A win!I'm going to read this often. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 03:29 PM |
| 3 | A win!Nice to hear you can get better. I'm still little more than a sad puppy but I know I should be more. It's like I'm feeling sorry for myself for even being put/ have accepted all the bad treatment. Like a self confirmation that I deserve to be and feel this way. I see I'm in a victim stance still. Gotta keep truckin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Another one from instaYupyup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 08:14 PM |
| 8 | If a man is confused, you're going to get used.Mhm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:08 AM |
| 4 | I wish I was born a lesbianCan I ask you, how do you maintain good friendships with women? I feel like I've had bad relationships with women and have always been on the outside. Which meant connecting with men more and it's just not what I want anymore. Men are the worst even if they seem fine they always have ulterior motives. Any reg lady friendship advice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:06 AM |
| 3 | For the first time today I looked in the mirror and loved myself. Inside and out.Love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 01:48 PM |
| 10 | Is it unhealthy to be friends with potentially Low Value Men?Hey. You're on the right track if you want to be respectful of all people in your life. Those guys sound like turds and they're going to learn hard lessons from it. Hope you find some good friends. Doing extracurriculars in something you might have interest in could give you friendships based around something you can actually see come out with something. Or start a kayaking club or something to bring people out of the woodwork. You don't have to be a follower, you can just use this to take the i… | /r/askFDS | 30/04/20 02:09 PM |
| 5 | Sending love to all the queens healing from jokers.Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 08:50 PM |
| 20 | Instead of bothering to cry over LVM, perhaps consider...Can confirm, teared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 02:32 PM |
| 3 | What are the typical true motivations of LV exes who contact you to "apologize"?Oo which one, I didn't see that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:09 AM |
| 7 | Not to spill your secrets to menYeah. The hobbies route is usually a good bet. I'm sure it's doable 😊 we can do this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 02:20 PM |
| 28 | Not to spill your secrets to menI need more gfs admittedly. But I'll get there. I don't trust men anymore. I see manipulation in so much of the interactions I have with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:18 AM |
| 50 | Not to spill your secrets to menHad a "male friend" try to trauma bond with me after having heard the term manipulator that I used. Gave me an experience with a guy friend and used it to open up my deep trauma. Then he said " but I'm completely over what happened". Yeah? If friends lean on each other for support why would you use that to trigger me as some sort of exploratory conversation piece for yourself? No longer talking to him anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:17 AM |
| 3 | Have we labeled the anxious-insecure attachment type pickmeisha?Love this post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 11:53 PM |
| 17 | Total shitshow in Trueoffmychest right now. These people are depressingSo sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 09:16 PM |
| 18 | Total shitshow in Trueoffmychest right now. These people are depressingThe thing is it's just arguing with little man children on the internet. Anonymity is so annoying . You know most of these people don't broadcast these views in their actual lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:54 PM |
| 30 | Total shitshow in Trueoffmychest right now. These people are depressingInstead of being able to follow my arguments they just started trying to poke holes in them semantically. Tells me they're probably like 14 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:21 PM |
| 39 | Total shitshow in Trueoffmychest right now. These people are depressingLike fucking smh right? I don't know if these are like 13 year old kids I was arguing with or some sad trolls... The anonymity of Reddit conflates these totally fucked up words so that the sad mentally ill men might believe it, while others are just being jerks because they're immature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:21 PM |
| 10 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.Nonono. Get out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:55 PM |
| 6 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.You're in a den of vipers. I hope you get out. Those men don't deserve you. You don't deserve this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:55 PM |
| 8 | 💗Yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 06:06 AM |
| 2 | This explains a whole fucking lot, actuallyAwesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 11:07 PM |
| 8 | I decided to check out the relationship_advice sub after seeing posts from there on FDS.Probably was a fake office with his friend wearing a fake wig. They sound like 🤡s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 03:28 PM |
| 7 | help meYou are every bit of worth taking the path of self discovery. Any person or thought that said otherwise is toxic and designed to hold you back. Even if it's a version of yourself you have in your mind that you need to unzip and grow out of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 12:41 PM |
| 14 | help meAlso your thing about still caring about them. If he objectified you he doesn't respect you. And once you get to that place of self respect you will realize that you ARE worth having people in your life that respect you. Thinking that connection is the only one you'll have is the LVM lie that you will jump over and leave behind. Rooting for you! I know this shits way complicated but knowledge is your shield and therapy is your sword. And fuck, anti depressants can even be your cast while you're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 12:36 PM |
| 18 | help meI'm not going to say your problems don't exist. But start with knowledge. Getting through the handbook really helped me detach from something I never thought I would be able to. Sounds like you're on the brink of a revelation and you just need to keep pushing. Eat up all that knowledge and perspectives then do the things you're not ready to do like kick the junk out of your life once it's realized. I never thought I would kick those ex pieces of shits out of my life but im telling you. Its going… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 12:31 PM |
| 77 | Thoughts?Eghh I was cringing the whole time waiting for the moment where he turns out to be a jerk. This was awesome 💙💐👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 10:22 PM |
| 7 | Why FDS was created :)Yes!!! Also which book is this :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Need help moving on from a liar.You're right. He's a person who chooses to live in the shadows. He didn't even come clean . We figured it out as he fucked with both of us. And worst, after she and I didn't talk. He still controlled the rhetoric of what played out and put out the chance of the full truth coming out. He will hide himself in the shadows behind his wife. Driven by shame. Probably over time of the unresolved consequences he will even grow to resent me because she will never really trust him. It won't be his fault. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 04:53 PM |
| 38 | Reminder: men/women who are willing to meet while in this pandemic are TRASH. -not my convo-I don't use those apps for fear of lessening my opinion of men even further, but isn't there a way to get these types of guys banned by reporting them? That's so abusive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 07:02 AM |
| 203 | So I realized...Thanks. Really needed that. Especially in light of finally shutting down communication with him in the middle of this. Really needed to hear this ✊ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 06:53 AM |
| 12 | What does a HV relationship looks likeI look forward to the answers for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 04:42 AM |
| 3 | I didn’t know there was a place where women criticise both the mainstream “sex is empowering” rhetoric and the “tradcon” rhetoric. Thank you FDS ❤️I love that. " My sexuality does not define me" is the best mantra to focus on in terms of rights of identity and power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 05:04 AM |
| 95 | I didn’t know there was a place where women criticise both the mainstream “sex is empowering” rhetoric and the “tradcon” rhetoric. Thank you FDS ❤️I felt this way for so long. To not believe that "sex is empowering and is the only course for feminism" just gets you lumped in with conservative pro-life anti-women. But NOPE. Sexuality and "womens liberation" is extremely exploitative for women and I dont give a shit anymore. It is SO nice to know there is a community that gets this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 06:59 PM |
| 18 | Lordt.Ahah. Aaahh. yep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 08:34 PM |
| 43 | Don’t tell the men you know about FDSYay friend space | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 06:57 PM |
| 29 | How can we save this girl who’s thinking about saving her ex who’s an unremorseful rapist?Wonder if she follows Charles Manson on Instagram. I think she has unresolved problems herself and needs professional help for what this saving abusive men complex is. This really sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 09:06 AM |
| 3 | We need to stop letting society pitch us against each other - we are stronger together<3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Need help moving on from a liar.Reading the FDS Handbook. Flying through it. My god that guy is such a bag of nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Need help moving on from a liar.Thanks. Youre right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Need help moving on from a liar.Your grandma is an awesome woman. Thank you for your words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Need help moving on from a liar.Thank you for your response. My emotional self really appreciates your point of view. Im sorry that happened to you. Being the "other girl" in some liar's manipulative web is a tough position to recover from because i feel both betrayed, and because im the " other girl" I feel ostracized and unworthy of asking for help by what role i played in the triangle. It means a lot that you said this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Need help moving on from a liar.Thank you so much. Your words are heard and very appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Need help moving on from a liar.Thanks. This rationale is important for me to understand. Very appreciated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Need help moving on from a liar.I just want to say thank you to you all for your thoughts. They are medicine to my soul and self evaluation. I know I'm in a "pickme" state of being rn. But I'm trying to learn and tell that mentality fuck off finally. Thanks for your help and time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 11:25 PM |
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