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No. Stop brigading from other subreddits. Get yourself together.
/r/MensRights07/12/18 09:56 PM
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I’d also like to add “go for no” from Chris Boss’s Never Split The Difference. It’s about building empathy in negotiations. For example, instead of saying “don’t you want me to succeed?” And going for a ‘yes,’ try saying the negative inverse: “Do you want to see me fail?” And get them to say ‘No.’
/r/seduction09/07/18 01:03 PM
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How has nobody brought up cuffing season? Because it's cuffing season right now.
/r/seduction14/11/17 07:41 PM
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Sounds like you're in the shallow waters of relationship island. Question is do you want to dock your boat or keep sailing? If you want to keep things going as they are, don't blow her up and if she doesn't contact you it's not your choice anymore. If she does nothing has changed. If you do reach out, you are inadvertently making yourself emotionally vulnerable (whether you mean to or not). If you're ready to take that little but irreversible step and reach out, I wish you best of luck and hope …
/r/seduction02/09/17 01:00 AM
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you missed the "signals" Absolutely
/r/seduction02/09/17 12:52 AM
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This. Once OP goes on the date and hopefully does well, he can joke about it in the future and say "do I get a second non-date?"
/r/seduction02/09/17 12:50 AM
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My point exactly
/r/seduction03/07/17 07:26 PM
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Do people commonly self identify as a noob? Even so, terrible advice even for a noob.
/r/seduction03/07/17 07:06 PM
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Deleting Facebook is something I strongly advocate for for many reasons, but for dating it's got its pros and cons. Been off mine for a year now. Girls who want to look at my life can see my Instagram, which is great because it means they see my lifestyle rather than my beliefs and life history. There are many photos of me in high school I'd rather nobody see. That said, I've missed out on a few (not many, but a few) opportunities to connect with girls because of the fact that they're weird abou…
/r/seduction03/07/17 06:00 PM
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I stopped watching about a minute or so in. This guy went from "getting her number" to "you're an obsessive stalker who is imagining your life together" in under a minute. Now I'm sure some guys do go nuts with it, I've ready some clingy stuff on this sub. But it's definitely the exception rather than the rule. Yeah you should absolutely find a girl you're interested in on social media, especially if it's a bumble or tinder date. You meet a girl at a bar and you search her on social media, that'…
/r/seduction03/07/17 05:48 PM
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I think you're taking what he's saying out of context
/r/seduction03/07/17 05:39 PM
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Pack up your 3 foot dick and go back to r/theredpill
/r/seduction29/05/17 08:38 PM
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all I asked was to grab coffee That's where you're messing up. Wrong demographic for coffee. Coffee is what you use as an excuse to "study" with a girl, then you take her on a walk afterwards, dates in college mean getting drunk at a party and together, even the girls who say they want a date.
/r/seduction18/10/16 04:55 AM
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She'd laugh cuz it means she's internet famous. This is a 20 year old girl we are talking about here. She wants to be on camera. EDIT: Three words that prove my point: Girls Gone Wild
/r/seduction18/10/16 04:50 AM
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I was just gonna say. 90% of this guy's game would get you shut down post-grad, I cringed at certain points and then was shocked when the girls actually responded well to it. Then she said she was 20 and I was like "Oh well no shit."
/r/seduction18/10/16 04:48 AM
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2.) Don't write clickbait posts
/r/TheRedPill27/09/16 05:11 PM
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How many responded to that line (who weren't bots): 6/8 How many have I actually met up with: 2 (Reason being because I've started seeing someone and did not have an interest in pursuing anything further with my matches beyond trying pickup lines) How long have I used tinder: since June probably I think it's also worth noting that a conversation typically goes something like this: "I'm having a bad day, cheer me up" Response: "You're cute/ it'll all be okay/ when I'm upset I like to get milkshak…
/r/seduction27/09/16 12:14 AM
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That depends entirely on you and your own game
/r/seduction26/09/16 07:28 PM
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You're probably an attractive guy if you're pulling matches to the point where you can say "98% success rate," I mean you have to have a minimum sample size of 50 presumably recent matches to come up with such a statistic. For those of you who aren't finding success with this one, here's one I've found to be pretty successful (success being that they engage with you long enough for you to get the number): "I'm having a bad day, cheer me up." Can't say it's 98% effective but it hasn't let me down…
/r/seduction26/09/16 03:26 PM
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A) your approach is not low-pressure, it’s pretty direct, which is fine. Any approach is gonna be direct, some less direct than others. It's a matter of making sure that subconsciously your approach requires very little commitment for her to respond to, because that's how you hook her. Example: you open up with some clever ice breaker, well now she's either under pressure to be clever back or to entertain the conversation you've started, and that's if she's a remotely considerate person. She can…
/r/seduction22/09/16 02:28 PM
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The title of OP's post is "How To Start A Conversation With A Stranger When You Don't Know What To Say (And Why You SHOULD Talk To Strangers)", not "How to build intimacy and depth with someone off the bat" because that's not gonna happen with a stranger on a bus or in a public forum when they've got other shit they're focused on and probably don't want to get deep with you over 5 minutes. Depth is reserved for the dating, after you've gotten her attention and she deems you worthy of depth. Yes,…
/r/seduction21/09/16 07:53 PM
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If you think that, then YOU have nothing to offer the recipient. No stranger is going to "invest in a meaningful response" to any opener you give them, it takes finesse and a confidence in your ability to carry a conversation. You shouldn't open by fumbling around your pockets with pieces of paper thinking it's smooth. You're gonna embarrass yourself, and if she laughs she's gonna be laughing at you. She's gonna text her friends about the fucking weirdo she met today.
/r/seduction21/09/16 07:01 PM
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"Nice, he sounds handsome. Did he ask you out?"
/r/seduction21/09/16 06:40 PM
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"Oh yeah? Meet any interesting people in the last 15 seconds?"
/r/seduction21/09/16 06:04 PM
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This is the weirdest fucking thing ever. Sure it's "spontaneous," I get that. But...no...Just say "Hey, how's your day going?" and there you go
/r/seduction20/09/16 05:21 PM
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I just go through life acting like a cock and assuming every girl likes me. (not actually)
/r/seduction15/09/16 02:53 PM
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Yeah man, just gotta form your own opinions and morals and judge things based off of that. That's how you'll find yourself surrounded by like-minded people.
/r/seduction14/09/16 04:03 PM
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Everyone here is saying you're not obligated to any of them so fuck it. That is the absolute worst advice unless you want all of them to shun you. Sounds like you have a grand total of 10 girls (6 acquaintances, 4 casually dating you). Here's what I'd do: The 6 you're just flirting with, don't stress over unless you want to start casually dating them too. But from what you've said about the situation I would say don't worry, let them come through. As for the other four, unless you don't give a s…
/r/seduction11/09/16 01:05 AM
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That's crazy... But seriously this is an awesome post. Good job! The best PUA focuses on all social interactions, not just interactions with women in a flirtatious setting.
/r/seduction07/08/16 12:50 AM
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Hey since you're interested im starting an RTP seddit lair on group me. PM me your email or phone number (whichever you'd prefer) and I'll add you!
/r/seduction02/08/16 11:08 PM
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Hey since you're interested im starting an RTP seddit lair on group me. PM me your email or phone number (whichever you'd prefer) and I'll add you!
/r/seduction02/08/16 11:08 PM
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But by turning down leg work you may also be turning down opportunity
/r/seduction01/08/16 09:33 PM
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Make a knock knock joke that ends in getting her number. I have a friend who swears by the strategy of "letting them message you first," but he infinitely swipes right and has much lower standards than I do.
/r/seduction01/08/16 02:44 PM
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r/Dating_Advice
/r/seduction30/07/16 08:29 PM
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There are millions of guys in your position. I recommend lurking on this subreddit, reading the sidebar links, sifting through field reports (tagged with [FR] on this sub), reading some of the top posts and comments of all time, and just trying to get a solid understanding of the game and some PUA (pick-up art) techniques. The catch-all piece of advice here is gonna be that it's all a matter of mindset.
/r/seduction29/07/16 03:09 PM
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Great post. 2 is solid and 5 is actually a great strategy to employ not just in seduction but in other areas too. I used it during interviews when I was looking for a job. I would send an email to a potential employer or a follow up after an interview and say "thanks / good talking to you, I will follow up again next Thursday." That way if they didn't email me back I had an excuse to follow up.
/r/seduction29/07/16 03:19 AM
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I actually loved this step the most. I was trying to organize a date a few weeks ago and I said "does Thursday work" and said "I might be free Thursday after work but I get off pretty late." Didn't wanna look like a tool so Wednesday afternoon I was like "Friday night might work better for me" and she said "I'm going out of town Friday - Sunday." Completely butchered that and we stopped texting after that interaction. If I had just said "what does your week look like?" I could've easily gotten a…
/r/seduction29/07/16 03:16 AM
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I actually do improv comedy According to this you're a dating coach. That and you're an improv comic? You're just the ultimate package aren't you? I would love to see your coaching site and maybe a reference to any works you may have published in your 10 years of being in the dating business. Call me a skeptic but #factsonly as you said.
/r/seduction27/07/16 03:17 PM
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I have a feeling OP had this work with him once with a mediocre chick and decided he was now ready to teach the seddit community how to do it. Going through OP's history you can clearly see he's a Chad who is new to the community and hasn't read any of the posting guidelines. Dude becomes a PUA expert every time he catches a glance at a bar.
/r/seduction26/07/16 05:02 PM
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Dude's right. Go back to TRP
/r/seduction26/07/16 04:57 PM
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You don't take well to constructive criticisms do you?
/r/seduction26/07/16 04:29 PM
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I agree with and appreciate your 4 point plan, but I would disagree with your tactics. A lot of it seems like overkill or lacks depth, and if you want to sleep with a girl on the fist date it's 100% making her comfortable with the idea before you get to that point. You can't do that with canned answers or lack of depth. If she is with a group of friends just tell her friends that you are going to take her for a second and you will bring her right back. This is where the cockblock friend immediat…
/r/seduction26/07/16 02:52 PM
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There's nothing wrong with a canned answer, especially a canned opener, so long as you know how to use it. Otherwise you'll sound like a kid on the playground trying to remember a good diss he heard but who can't say it properly. You are asking about shit tests, read the side bar. Here are a few of my other canned answers that help conversation along (but aren't necessarily for shit tests): When picking her up on the first date in an uber: "(Uber driver's name, usually something foreign) and I w…
/r/seduction20/07/16 08:09 PM
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That's because Australia has the hottest women in the world
/r/seduction19/07/16 04:59 PM
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Congrats, you held a girl's hand and can die a happy man for that. Meanwhile their boyfriends are actually having sex with them and are the ones who are developing a relationship. Enjoy your two long distance dry spells as an emotional tampon for these women, at least you've got your moral high ground. I'm sure as soon as those relationships end those women will come RUNNING to your side with nothing but you and a white picket fence on their minds. And we aren't all desperately seeking a soul ma…
/r/seduction19/07/16 01:07 PM
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Don't focus too much on yourself and how you're coming off. Focus on what she's saying, try to learn why she says things the way she does, and if you sense she's feeling a bit uneasy or as if she's shy then show her some humor to bring that comfort. When you listen more, you won't find yourself at a loss for material to work with or interesting things to talk about.
/r/seduction18/07/16 06:34 PM
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I think you're misunderstanding the point of PUA theory. Of course you should enjoy your date and be present and engage with what's going on instead of trying to assert yourself on every level and beat the game. You are on the date learning if you want to be with this person just as much as the other one is. But let's assume you do enjoy your date and like how things are going. You enjoy her presence and her energy. You're in to how she giggles and what she wears. Now what? It's all for nothing …
/r/seduction18/07/16 06:23 PM
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I think the biggest thing is that TRP is about getting past some bitch who crushed your soul because "you have the world to her and that wasn't enough" and seddit is about improving yourself so you attract better women who won't pull that shit on you, and knowing the red flags. The classic TRP story is "I was a beta, my wife / girlfriend / girl I had a crush on fucked another guy. Now I don't give a shit and I'm an alpha and I get tons of play." I don't think TRP is necessarily bad, I think that…
/r/seduction16/07/16 07:14 AM
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We aren't talking about the date, we're taking about the LMR. Last minute resistance. If you would let a man go down on you during your period you are an absolute savage.
/r/seduction16/07/16 07:04 AM
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Sorry, I'm merely a mortal
/r/seduction15/07/16 10:58 PM
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Guys don't have shit tests. We have red flags.
/r/seduction15/07/16 07:37 PM
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Doesn't matter, fuck it next.
/r/seduction15/07/16 07:36 PM
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Good thing too. TRP would downvote you in to oblivion for saying women are people.
/r/seduction15/07/16 06:17 PM
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I just go everywhere in joggers and button ups, that way no matter where I go I'm good
/r/seduction15/07/16 05:07 PM
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Yeah they enjoy it, geeky/shy/awkward chicks just don't really know what they're doing on dates and lack confidence a lot of the time. They just want things that aren't conventional or very direct and can be hit or miss. If you're looking for these kind of girls you aren't looking for sex anyway, you're looking for connection; honestly just go with the flow and find out for yourself what works. Sometimes awkward people can be very empathetic and sweet, sometimes they can be complete assholes wit…
/r/seduction15/07/16 03:47 PM
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This is seddit. TRP has a very different perspective on women.
/r/seduction15/07/16 03:32 PM
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Thanks my man
/r/seduction15/07/16 03:18 PM
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Don't become lame to try to get the lame girl. Words to live by. OP has value, it's a matter of finding someone who matches that value.
/r/seduction15/07/16 02:09 PM
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If only
/r/seduction15/07/16 01:47 PM
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Tell her to bring the dog
/r/seduction15/07/16 12:49 AM
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I'm not going to just because it's the Internet and this girl and I may or may not be hooking up for the next week, but I'd be open to posting it after she moves.
/r/seduction14/07/16 09:06 PM
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all of seduction might boil down to simply just getting her turned on and essentially either killing or meeting social conditioning / LMR constraints. That was brilliant. Yes, give her the red pill and learn how deep the rabbit hole goes. Pun intended.
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:37 PM
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Have you slept with her before? Usually women fail at an LMR if you go down on them. 80% of the time they say no because they want you to like them more, but if you go down on them they get thrown for a ringer because guys never do that. The only time I've experienced an impossible LMR is when it's that time of the month, but women don't usually go on dates if that's the case. You seemed to have done well, so kudos. Probably shouldn't have let her run off in a storm, though. Don't push the sex t…
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:28 PM
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I assume that since you're going to the beach with her and her family it's pretty serious. Every girl is Daddy's princess. At 22 you're just some kid she's dating. I'm sure hugging and sitting beside eachother is fine. But my cousin brought her boyfriend to a family hangout a few weeks back and he was handsy as shit, I almost slapped him. He would kiss her and stuff in public, and I felt like it was really disrespectful towards the family. Like who the fuck does this kid think he is? Honestly be…
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:16 PM
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It means having an income and hobbies outside of dating and work
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:13 PM
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Dude you need to get on tinder plus; it's $5 a month but that's cheaper than going to bars to meet people. Also throw the occasional super like to girls who are slightly above average, because they never get super likes. Just start swiping right and make sure you don't have any red flags in your tinder pics and your bio is witty. I average 1 match a week, granted I swipe left more than I probably should and work a lot so I'm not on it all the time. I probably get responses and follow throughs fr…
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:08 PM
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Had to be there and understand the vibe - it went over pretty smooth.
/r/seduction14/07/16 05:53 PM
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It depends. The more someone talks the more comfortable they feel so 90% of the time if they talk a lot its because they are nervous and talking makes them feel better. I was just looking to hook up so i didn't mind how much talking she was doing, and I made fun of her for it so she knew I wasn't a quiet beta. But if I were looking for a girlfriend I never would have gone for someone who takes up so much air, or someone who is so uncomfortable with silence.
/r/seduction14/07/16 05:52 PM
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Neither would I
/r/seduction14/07/16 04:08 PM
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Not really a field report. But here's what I'd do: Next time you see her at the gym, just cold approach and be like "Hey, how's it going. So last week I noticed you in the parking lot, and I've been kicking myself for not asking for your number."
/r/seduction14/07/16 02:15 PM
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Yeah right, and have a thousand other men using it? I want to help the community but every guy has to have his own tricks up his sleeve.
/r/seduction14/07/16 02:11 PM
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I think 90% of it is giving off a relaxed vibe and not putting pressure on yourself to be smooth. Women feed off of energy, so it's all about the right mindset.
/r/seduction14/07/16 02:05 PM
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Oh the dog is next time. I slept with the owner to make doge jealous.
/r/seduction14/07/16 02:04 PM
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Yes, much treat. Very doge style.
/r/seduction14/07/16 02:03 PM
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Yes, actually! Well, not a struggle but definitely a realization. It pertains to the f-close when she says she doesn't want to sleep with you on the first date. I wrote a field report a couple weeks ago where I ran in to a similar situation. I reapplied the same close strategy this time, which I didn't really include in my original post to keep it more direct. Here's what I learned from my previous FR: Women in this situation want to have sex with you and very happily will, but they don't want t…
/r/seduction14/07/16 01:59 PM
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Inverse of this is true. I cold approached a new manager of a store I always went to. Got rejected, now I drive 20 minutes out of the way to go to another store.
/r/seduction14/07/16 04:46 AM
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"My palms aren't sweaty, you just seem to be wet in all the places I'm touching you"
/r/seduction14/07/16 04:44 AM
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You see it all the time and don't notice it happening because the ones who cold approach well start casual conversation in a coffee shop or on a train or bus and turn it in to getting a number and save putting on the moves for their date
/r/seduction14/07/16 04:41 AM
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Good on you man! I have a tinder date this weekend with a girl who seems similar. Seems like even if I put the moves on her she will hold off until date 3 or 4.
/r/seduction14/07/16 04:38 AM
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Get on tinder, change your description to "On this cruise" and reduce the geofence to 1 mile. As soon as you set sail, start swiping. Otherwise, it's all in-person approach after that. Don't ignore your family time just to chase tail on a cruise, though. You're there with the fam, if you see a hot girl run up to her and be like "Hey, you're cute and I'm busy. Let's exchange numbers and I'll text you when I'm not" or some bullshit like that. But don't ditch your family.
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:42 PM
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Went on a date with a tall girl last weekend. I consider myself average at 5'10", and she was as tall as me if not an inch or so taller than me. It didn't affect anything. I asked her post-coitus how she deals with guys who are shorter than her, she said she's so tall that it's hard to find guys who are her height so she doesn't care about height anymore. She told me she once went out with a guy who was 5'5" and felt weird about it, but the deal breaker was the fact that he didn't pay for the da…
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:31 PM
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Hey look guys, I found the Alpha here!
/r/seduction08/07/16 06:14 PM
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Tinder exists for this purpose. It's great. I honestly noticed that the place I pick up the best quality women for dates (not total skanks but not prudes either) is at Barnes & Nobles and at upperscale coffee shops (not starbucks). You could also try the gym. I've never done that because my apartment has a fitness center, but I hear good things from my friends who pick up girls at the gym. Bars are cliche and just a bad look overall, unless it's a college town where everyone is barhopping to fin…
/r/seduction08/07/16 06:09 PM
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Yeah, this is a shit post. I can't tell if this guy is trying to talk techniques for escalation or just overbreaking the physical contact barrier. Here's how you escalate: 1.) Hug her when you greet her. When you hold the door for her, put your hand on the small of her back as she walks through and you follow behind. When you open the car door or walk up/down a curb, offer her your hand so she doesn't fall. 2.) Gage her intimacy comfort level when you're sitting next to each other by complimenti…
/r/seduction08/07/16 06:00 PM
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She honestly could've been in to him, but if he's the kind of guy to get this blown about a girl who isn't even his SO then that suggests he may be very needy and she probably started to see that and dipped.
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:35 PM
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How old is your friend, like 16? Sorry to be a dick, I know it sucks to get lead on and I'm sorry for him, and I hope he feels better. But this is the game and he needs to learn to play it or he's gonna keep getting crushed. Also I'm curious, did you freindzone him or the other way around?
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:34 PM
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Wow, thanks for the warning. We should give you a warning about men now, too: They want to have sex with women because it boosts their self confidence. I know, it's insane, but you've been warned.
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:30 PM
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After you build the habit of walking toward the women you find attractive I want you to stand beside them. This is more suitable for nighttime environments Walking up to a girl who is standing or sitting alone on a bench at night and propping yourself right next to her is a great way to get maced.
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:27 PM
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Wow, NSFW
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:23 PM
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Just use tinder and set your age preference, seriously. If you are friends with family on facebook they won't see your tinder account, and so what if they do? They are on tinder as well. Plus they won't know what your age preference is set to. Just do it.
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:22 PM
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Texting is for relationships, use it only to set up a place to hang out I get it, but (unless you're a really shitty texter) texting can establish more trust which makes her more open to the idea of going home with you, and it gives you things to talk about and ice break with on the date. You are continuing a conversation in person that you started over text. Obviously don't overdo it, and if texting isn't working don't force it, but it's all a matter of the vibes you exchange with eachother.
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:18 PM
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I'll add that if it's at the point where you've asked her out and have plans, what's the point of getting her number? You can contact her via tinder. I usually don't plan something until I have their number, but I'm just saying if the date is planned on tinder keep contact over tinder. I had a good talk with a girl over tinder then said "shoot me a text and we'll plan something for next weekend" and gave her my number. Silence. I finally send her a tinder message two days later: "If your thumbs …
/r/seduction08/07/16 05:13 PM
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It's mostly for narrative purpose when talking about a girl he hooked up with
/r/seduction07/07/16 05:29 AM
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See you have it good right now, you are getting in 3 month relationships instead of 3 year ones. That's perfect at your age. As Jim Jeffries says, the first three months are the best because that's as long as women can go hiding their crazy sides.
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:39 PM
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College friend of mine used a 1-4 scale: 1: Would not fuck 2: Might fuck 3: Would fuck 4: Out of my league
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:27 PM
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uve I see why you follow the minimal texting rule
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:25 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a strong text game as long as you back it up and close in person. Having a good text game can help make girls more comfortable with the idea of fucking you after your date. But if you are a shitty texter the opposite will happen.
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:23 PM
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It's just a really good absolute rule to follow for guys with no game, because it keeps them from fucking up and ruining the date before they go on it. After the first date let the texts fly. It's just a matter of not texting a girl and having it be exciting and then the in person sucks and you look like a tool (or vice versa)
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:21 PM
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Oh man, I'm the opposite. Let's exchange notes.
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:17 PM
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Yeah you handled that fine man. I'm extremely sarcastic with women so when I say something serious that sounds dumb or rude they think I'm being sarcastic and then I'm in the clear.
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:15 PM
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I deleted my facebook a month ago and haven't looked back. However I did get an instagram and started posting pictures from my new Nikon, so I'm not like that creepy dude who isn't on social media. Honestly when talking to women you should wear the no facebook thing like a badge of honor. Tell them you deleted yours, and have an interesting reason why. Only downside to having no facebook is that other apps like spotify and tinder no longer work without a valid facebook account associated with it…
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:09 PM
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Put your arm around her and be like "sorry my hands are full"
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:01 PM
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How did that work out for you? That's a little too friendzone-y if you ask me.
/r/seduction06/07/16 03:00 PM
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The other day a girl in a bar asked if I could take a picture. Sure, I said, taking the girl by the waist and handing the camera to her friend and posing. Then I posed with the other girl while the first took another picture. After that I was happy to take their picture, but they didn't want me to! I'm gonna have to steal this.
/r/seduction06/07/16 02:58 PM
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I felt like she was trying to claim ownership of me by doing this, but the at the end of the night I ended up alone anyway. Yeah, that's exactly what she was doing. But you ended up alone anyway. Sounds like it was your first date, and you put the responsibility of leading the date in her hands. She didn't know what to do so she went and talked to some other people, and you followed her example. She wanted to be on that date with you but you didn't show her attention and lead things, so it's pos…
/r/seduction06/07/16 02:56 PM
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Poking: Never. Poking's actual purpose is that when you poke someone you aren't friends with and they poke back, you can see each other's profiles. But it's a horribly dumb way to try and open with someone. In fact, just don't poke anyone ever. And by mutual friend I mean using it as a talking point. Say you and the girl you're trying to reach out to are both friends with someone on facebook and you have no idea how they would know eachother. Use that as an opener. I talked to a girl once who wa…
/r/seduction06/07/16 02:46 PM
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I've done it over facebook before. Thing is on facebook, girls get hit up all the time by random guys who used to have crushes and never made moves, so you have to have the perfect excuse to reach out. Start off by throwing her a like, then another next time she posts, then chill on it and see if she likes more of your stuff. If she does, she's probably reciprocating your attention. At that point it's normal to PM and be like "hey how's it going long time no see." If she doesn't, wait a week or …
/r/seduction06/07/16 01:58 PM
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Yeah, I don't really drink the TRP koolaid. It works more or less, especially at the beginning when sense of humor and sarcasm haven't been established so texts can be misconstrued very easily (and you can ruin your date before it happens). It also prevents desperately texting a girl. BUT everything in moderation I say. I think hard and fast rules apply best to men who are getting in to the game / back in to the game. Once you have a couple of ongoing conversations happening with multiple women …
/r/seduction05/07/16 02:51 PM
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Haha I mean as long as it's fun to text there's nothing wrong with it, only if you feel yourself starting to "fall in love." She's in to you man, don't worry about anything.
/r/seduction04/07/16 06:50 PM
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What was your dating status with her before your trip? How was she back in the day? I assume that you two were boyfriend / girlfriend and then you broke up so you could travel free of any ties, and you are now courting her again since you're back? If thats the case you need to realize that you hurt her when you broke up last. Now she's got the defense up big time, she's resentful, she feels insecure about what you've done and who you've been with since you last dated, she's mad at you and wants …
/r/seduction04/07/16 06:35 PM
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If she isnt prepared to sit down with you and have fun and let both of your opinions exist in their own right, she aint worth your time man. Everything about this. OP should just cut his losses, she sounds like a bitch.
/r/seduction04/07/16 06:31 PM
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Yeah I definitely like her, it's just that I'm happy where I am in life and don't want to have any relationship evolve emotionally for a bit. I've had 2 LTR's in the last 10 years and I am trying to put up a block against the things that lead to oneitis. I should clarify that I didn't "find her" on Instagram, we knew eachother beforehand. I just used it as a platform to open.
/r/seduction04/07/16 05:50 PM
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I would say you should make your description something humorous instead of descriptive or informative, and maybe wait for your matches to start opening for you. Sure your success ratio will plummet, but your goal seems to be meeting up over casually flirting (which is what younger women use tinder for these days). The ones that want to meet up will reach out to you. Maybe invest in tinder premium so you can throw more swipes out there and pump up your number of matches, casting a wider net?
/r/seduction04/07/16 03:15 PM
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Oh man, I'm not even that smooth on tinder. I just send "Drinks saturday?" to my matches, maybe bantering beforehand would improve my success rate. But these girls don't seem interested in keeping the conversation going or meeting. This is OP's issue. Something isn't clicking between his opener and the banter.
/r/seduction04/07/16 03:11 PM
1

Currently seeing 3 girls but this one is the one that genuinely makes me laugh. Sounds like early-onset oneitis. Be careful!
/r/seduction04/07/16 03:04 PM
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Ha yeah right
/r/seduction04/07/16 02:27 AM
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She's using your inside joke so that counts for something. It's like saying "not this time" instead of no. Consider the fact that she's someone with plenty of her own insecurities, you already know you're in to eachother, and you didn't ask her on a date you asked her to go to "tag along" to the beach with you. She won't hit you back with an alternate to that, and this is also the text game not the in person. She's either: A) Interested in going but doesn't want to look stupid / do some thing st…
/r/seduction03/07/16 11:00 PM
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/r/seduction28/06/16 06:20 PM
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No it doesn't matter. There was a girl I liked in High School. I would text her all the time, always try to hang out, and I always got lead on and she always went out with other guys but kept me around. When I started dating someone else, I just ghosted her. Just before I graduated college, I saw something of hers on facebook. After not having spoken for years, I figured I'd throw her a like. An hour later she liked something of mine. PM'd her and said something about something (can't remember) …
/r/seduction28/06/16 05:35 PM
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Oh man, sounds like you need to work on your approaches. Luckily that just comes with practice. You should invest more time in hobbies, though, and try to meet girls through doing your hobby.
/r/seduction28/06/16 05:19 PM
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Make a top hat thinking pose and then blurt out an astute observation on the bus that is funny. Don't do any of that
/r/seduction28/06/16 05:14 PM
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Excellent post! The receptionist at the hospital has a lovely necklace - tell it to her. The old man down the road has a kick-ass Mercedes parked in his garage? Chat to him about it. I think the most important thing you said here is this part. It emphasizes the fact that you shouldn't wait until you're trying to flirt to practice this. Practicing this regularly with anyone and everyone is a great way to mentally get over the idea that you're trying to flirt and therefore psyching yourself out in…
/r/seduction28/06/16 05:13 PM
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Hello there again DishonoredPie. It's me again, the guy who used the term Ice Queen. Been seeing eachother a lot on this subreddit, haven't we? For all intents and purposes it means a cold and shallow woman who is hot and knows it. A common characteristic is to try to subliminally extract compliments and validation from guys. She will pretend to like you by acting flirty and fun when she wants attention, but she will forever lead you on. Move on bro, if you don't respect yourself neither will sh…
/r/seduction24/06/16 02:14 PM
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It was really hard and cringeworthy to read through this whole post. Be an experience is definitely true. But you wrote this with so much douchey-ness
/r/seduction23/06/16 03:40 PM
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Nope not in her communication style, but thats a big age gap so in that sense yes she is out of the ordinary.
/r/seduction23/06/16 03:36 PM
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You are being a beta. Just stop texting her bro. Sounds like an ice queen and you're more in to her than she is in to you.
/r/seduction23/06/16 03:34 PM
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What happened earlier was she said bye probably expecting me to try and stay Stay as in stay in the text conversation? Did she just say "bye" like a cold ass ice queen in the middle of conversation? Do you have a date planned? I would need more context to give you good advice. Honestly, you know the vibe better than anyone. But she said bye, you said bye, and bye means bye. Sit on it, go find some other girls to text. Text some buddies, go get drinks tonight with friends. Keep yourself distracte…
/r/seduction23/06/16 03:15 PM
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How long have you been talking? How many dates have you gone on? Sounds like early-onset oneitis. Best advice I've heard (in life in general) is when the game doesn't work for you, play another game. Try changing shit up; she's playing the game by her own rules (may not even be intentional), so don't play that game. If you know she's in to you, don't worry about the texting. Some women are just independent and have shit going on in their lives. I had this exact situation happen to me 2 weeks ago…
/r/seduction23/06/16 02:52 PM
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This is solid advice
/r/seduction23/06/16 02:19 PM
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There's no problem with that, you're getting back in to the game. Everyone needs practice, and you don't want to take on more than you're ready for. I guess just be respectful enough not to waste her time and keep seeing her for practice if she becomes in to you.
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:41 PM
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That turkey's baked!
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:34 PM
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Yeah, only crazy women. If she approaches you without you speaking a word, 90% she's a basket case. 10% chance she lost a bet to a friend or is on a dare or something. You can throw vibes her way through a wink or something and she sees you and is in to it and throws vibes back at you, that's about the most you can hope for without speaking. But you'll have to initiate with her eventually.
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:33 PM
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Proof?
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:24 PM
1

I have approach anxiety and have a hard time expressing my feelings with a woman Sounds like you have anxiety in general. And there's nothing wrong with that, lots of people have anxiety but you'd never know because it's a silent suffering. I would recommend seeing a therapist or something and find a hobby that you can do to meet other people (like joining a rec sports team or something). Don't put so much pressure on yourself man. Find other ways to boost your confidence, and when you're not lo…
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:22 PM
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Yeah at first I thought about that Nick Swardson skit where he starts to tell a shitty story with no cool ending and realizes it half way through, so he makes up something cool that didn't actually happen at the end that he got from a movie. But I have no reason to doubt this. OP could be bullshitting, but I like to have a healthy faith in humanity.
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:16 PM
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If you're on a date with a girl, never ask if she's seeing anyone. The fact that you're already on a date should be the answer to you're question.
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:13 PM
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She then tells me that she thought we were just hanging out as friends. I have this moment of feeling like a compete dumbass, but I decide to see what can happen anyway. IMPORTANT: I immediately tell her I felt it was a date, never hide your intentions. Plus like come on fucking ice cream and sunset... Sounds like you passed her shit test, but didn't notice. There's no boyfriend in Germany waiting by the sea for his love to return, and she's not counting the days until they will be reunited. Pro…
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:10 PM
1

I do feel I did the right thing. It's just been on my mind non-stop the last 24 hours.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 01:59 PM
1

As someone who would've gone for it two or three years ago, moral superiority is success
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 01:55 PM
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It's bragging with a half-baked point thrown in there to legitimize it. This isn't advice.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 06:50 PM
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Hello, my name is Ryan Grey, a stage name of course, or, more apropos, a glorious sobriquet devised from the world's greatest novel, and before I tread on the verbose, I would like to inform new readers of my position and and outlook This makes it really hard for me to continue reading your post. I feel like someone who would say this has no valuable advice to give. EDIT: Read the post because you can't judge a book by it's cover. This post is entirely some self promoting Chad who needed a place…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 04:50 PM
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I try not to be savage about it, I'd honestly prefer going home and jerking off to getting involved to any degree with a drunk chick while I'm sober.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 02:17 PM
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Dollars to donuts this bitch knew she did something wrong by fucking Chad and planned that fucking journal entry. Instead of being honest about it she goes and writes a get-out-of-jail card in her diary and leaves it laying around for 12 years so she can rid herself of the guilt without facing any real responsibility for her actions AND avoid having to falsely accuse chad of rape. She knows her beta man will find it so far in the future that he can't get mad, and if he found it sooner or Chad to…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/16 12:03 AM
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No, she's probably gonna do one more personal and vindictive towards Elon. She's gonna offer to let him keep his shares in exchange for everything he has. Make him choose between everything he's built or everything he stands to gain.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/16 02:54 PM
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You've probably heard this a hundred times but honestly good riddance. At 25 it's a good thing you learned this about her when you did. Can you imagine if this had happened 5 years from now? Or if you had gotten engaged and then busted your leg? You're better off. Learn from this and try not to get serious with selfish women in the future.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/16 02:21 PM
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I feel that way sometimes too. It's hard. The highs make it just that much harder to leave during the lows and you feel like a dick for it.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/16 02:32 PM
1

That's an idiotic assumption.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 05:52 PM
2

And how does one become an alcoholic, I wonder?
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 03:41 PM
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The chances are that he is learning something about humility and his natural human foolishness, about how to survive himself. Chances are the man who isn't getting shit faced has already learned something about humility and his natural foolishness and is surviving himself.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 03:33 PM
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My great grandparents drank back in the day and they had a child that was at the time referred to as a "mongoloid," and never had a drop of alcohol after that. Before joining the military my father worked his ass off at mcdonalds to support my grandma, who would spend days bed ridden because of alcoholism. He hasn't drank since seeing that. On my 18th birthday I had to have an intervention with my aunt alcoholic aunt, I was the closest thing to a son she had. She hasn't drank since. People have …
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 03:29 PM
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And those tipsy chicks while you are sober will become so easy that you will think it's hidden camera show actually. This will get you in to a lot of trouble.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 02:58 PM
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I love everything you've said. Especially when you said she "doesn't possess the psychological tools to deal deal with the guilt you feel when you know you've done something wrong." This is a very true societal trait that women have adopted because of our modern culture. They feel they can literally do no wrong. They attack things like "slut shaming" to justify their lack of self respect. They post random selfies on social media that don't have any business existing other than to garner likes an…
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 12:46 AM
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I think he was making the point that OP was unaware that Chad and his gf had probably known each other for a while before that, obviously they were in the same social circle. This could've been one aspect of an ongoing affair that the OP was not aware of when he met Chad.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/16 08:44 PM
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The fact that he's the kind of guy to hide in the basement after encountering that is exactly why it happened in the first place. EDIT: If that EVER happened to me or one of my friends, I would kick the guy in the nuts until he could never achieve an erection again. I know most of this community might not agree with me but out of respect for my fellow man, no matter how beta or zeta he gets labeled, you should never move in on a girl who has a boyfriend no matter the circumstances. Nobody should…
/r/TheRedPill26/01/16 08:19 PM
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TLDR; If you get consistent sex, that means you are a part of the super secret "I have game" Club. If you don't, you're a beta. This secret society is equivalent to the secret groups 12 year old girls make up. Honestly this is just someone changing the context of social interactions. What the author is really doing is making up a pretend group of self-titled "seduction elites" because as we all know if you say it you don't know it, and if you know it you don't say it.
/r/seduction29/07/13 06:01 AM
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I feel like "are you gay" would come immediately after "Dance with me, I want to feel like there’s no one in the world but you and me right now." I get what you're saying and what you're trying to do, and your strategy made sense at first, but as I continued to read this all I can think of is some poor guy actually following this advice and looking like an evasive douche whose trying to act like he's too cool for everyone else.
/r/seduction10/05/13 09:02 AM
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Thanks for the detailed and well thought out answer. But like the title and most of the body says, observations about girls not observations about women (edit: my mistake on the title!). This post really only applies, like you said, to college kids. One other poster had it down by saying it changes when the maternity instinct kicks in after college, then all the variations and complexities you posted start to apply as girls become women.
/r/seduction04/05/13 06:03 PM
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I'm not familiar with the term
/r/seduction04/05/13 03:58 AM
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Don't take if personally, it's not for everyone. But a lot of people lose sight of themselves and what they're really looking for. I'm sorry you're offended by what I said.
/r/seduction04/10/12 10:42 PM
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She'll be back, and on her receipt you will give her your fucking number
/r/seduction01/09/12 11:48 AM
1

How long you had that problem?
/r/seduction28/08/12 05:22 PM
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It's not a shit test, it's one of two things: it's a shit screening, or she's a people pleaser. I shall explain: 1) Sounds like she had good juvenile fun with you, which is nice. So nice in fact that it's friend material. She would have given it away no problem if you had said something like "Oh nothing like that, I just want to see you again you're really fun/cool/nice" which to her means "I'm a guy, but I have no dick." This is no reflection on you, kudos for accepting defeat. A lot of idiots …
/r/seduction28/08/12 06:32 AM
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If you consider movies to be real life
/r/seduction12/08/12 06:34 PM
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Change it to a picture of your dog or cute little nephew
/r/seduction05/07/12 07:08 PM
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I gotta ask..have you ever actually said this shit? I'm sure you're charming in person, but based off the text here you may want to rethink how you're actually coming off, not just how you think you are. A lot of guys do this kind of stuff thinking it makes them look smooth, but they're really just short shifting everything and make the date all about themselves. Just show a girl a good time in a good atmosphere and be courteous to your servers and everything's golden. Don't go shaking hands eve…
/r/seduction04/06/12 05:25 PM
1

You don't pick them up, they just meet you at the restaurant?
/r/seduction04/06/12 05:00 PM
1

If they can understand what you are saying and you are showing them something new and stimulating their brain in a unique way i think they will continue to seek that stimulation (and therefore your presence). But like any trait, you can't rely solely on your intelligence to pick up women. If you're gonna try to win her over with intelligence, you better have cleverness, creativity, and originiality (and of course unwavering confidence) since it reaffirms that Rhett Butler persona.
/r/seduction16/05/12 05:27 AM
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Flirt with him a little, and if hes doing well when he asks for the tab, say "come on, you know you're money's no good here." I've paid beforehand for bartenders and waiters to make me look like a champ doing similar things. If he's a regular he'll know the tab already and throw you a fat cash tip
/r/seduction05/04/12 09:24 PM
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Of course not, just reminding you its fiction hens very entertaining
/r/seduction05/04/12 09:14 PM
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That's because it's fiction. Story elements were changed to make OP look like he knew what he was doing. Read between the lines with posts like these
/r/seduction05/04/12 09:06 PM
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