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| 39 | Weekly FDS Check-InShe was also a red flag. She told me that I must expect never to find a boyfriend if I want a man that doesn’t watch porn, that I was expecting too much by wanting the man to pay when he makes 4x what I make, that I wasn’t being fair to him by not wanting to spend time with him when he was angry, etc. She is no longer my therapist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:21 AM |
| 21 | Weekly FDS Check-InThere is no reason to be friends with an ex. Not responding is not enough because you’re still excited by the possibility that he will text you. There’s just no reason not to block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 09:48 AM |
| 47 | Weekly FDS Check-InAfter having read about Gabby Petito I remembered a time that an ex told me that he felt homicidal towards me. I had immediately called my therapist and sent her an email, afraid of how this could turn out for me down the line. She blew me off. I think I had some context clues that she hadn’t taken into account—namely, him telling me that he would make his ex so scared during “arguments” that she would pee herself, and also him patting himself on the back for never having hit her (I assume, outs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 09:46 AM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Check-InWhat in the world is this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 09:45 AM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Check-InPeople are still dying, why is this not enough for employers who have the option to allow their employees to work from home? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 09:43 AM |
| 45 | A nice summary of some of the common red flags we hear about on FDSThe uncomfortable vaginal discharge. Your body knows. UTIs (or something like them) every. Damn. Time. that the dude later ends up being LV or NV. How tf does it know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:20 AM |
| 37 | A nice summary of some of the common red flags we hear about on FDSI dated a man that exhibited these mannerisms and I even thought that he was gay before I learned otherwise. I regretfully admit that this ex had decided that I had given him an STI when we were on vacation in Argentina after claiming that I raped him during the sex that he initiated. He sent us to a hospital to get checked and I felt like I had no choice but to go because I needed to prove to him that I hadn’t been hooking up with men in his absence and to show that I was sorry for apparently a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:17 AM |
| 74 | A nice summary of some of the common red flags we hear about on FDSI’ve read about this keys tactic from a lot of people on Reddit. It’s appauling—these men are no different from the men that poke holes in condoms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Four years for choking her during sex. This is not okay.How do they justify this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 09:47 AM |
| 7 | I need to learn to trust my instinctsMy read on this is that in the past he had a beautiful pickme girlfriend who sexually serviced him and paid his bills while expecting nothing in return. After they broke up, he told his porn sick self that he could do better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 10 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceYes because you’re not enthusiastically consenting. To me it feels similarly to prostitution except that you’re doing it for free because you’ve been groomed into that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:34 PM |
| 1 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceGood on your brother for letting you know what he said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:33 PM |
| 10 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceI actually really like that your brother did this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:32 PM |
| 5 | What’s your best FDS quote?snip snip, bitch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Men nag for sex. Your job is to not reward it.Such wisdom, thank you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:19 PM |
| 5 | Men nag for sex. Your job is to not reward it.Does honor culture pressure women to keep their virginity until marriage? I’m interested because as I wrote in another comment, I’m about to move there. My experience has been that when men meet an American women who can speak the language, they assume that I want to have sex. As if I’m just itching to have sex with randos! I had religious men ignore my “no”s and act surprised when I pushed them away from me later. This has happened multiple times. The last time it happened to me, the guy asked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:13 AM |
| 3 | Another reason why 50/50 is bullsh*t: PERIOD PAINI did exactly this for the same reason that you did. However, for people who suffer from chronic pain (I have for 23 years), the hormone it secretes will still make you more sensitive to pain—the important thing though is that it zaps the period pain. I have NEVER been able to get a diagnosis for my period problems because gyns have always just prescribed birth control and refused to examine it. One day I hope to get an endometrial ablation so that the periods stop. I have no interest in becomin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:20 AM |
| 13 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.Thank you for the advice! I am going to be in a small village on the Aegean for 3 months, then will probably situate myself in a neighborhood like Kadıköy or Cihangir when in Isty, and the rest of my time is in Keşan. I live in Istanbul for part of every year and have been burned many times in the past for trusting too much. Now I wear a fake ring, I will never go anywhere alone with a man, I will never smile nervously at a man, no lessons with a man, no tea with a man, nothing. I’ve learned a s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:19 AM |
| 55 | Yikes....... I mean.. at least he admits what 90% of men won't (scroll)That photo alone is enough to describe their entire relationship dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:19 PM |
| 10 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.I am moving to Turkey in several days and this worries me very much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:10 PM |
| 15 | Los Angeles Matchmakers?I am also in Los Angeles and I have to say that dating guys from Southern California will likely bring you to an early grave. SoCal is just Peter Pans left and right, the only difference being that these guys from the matchmaker have more spending money. Not only does SoCal breed Peter Pans, it also attracts them so it mostly doesn’t even matter where they were raised either. The only men I have ever entertained in LA have been from the Midwest and they ended up here not for the weather or the b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 45 | Female pick up artists? Pfffft don’t flatter yourself men. Women have been vetting, weeding out men and voicing their concerns since forever! Don’t act brand new.I once dated a guy who said that he doesn’t qualify it as sex if he didn’t orgasm. I said “well, then I guess that makes me a virgin.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:48 AM |
| 3 | He absolutely despises her.Thanks, yes. It’s not hard to acknowledge that although I no longer like him, he is still not dumber than a taco. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:26 AM |
| 7 | He absolutely despises her.Is he a dog? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:25 AM |
| 51 | He absolutely despises her.I had a therapist tell me to have sex with an ex after he took me out to dinner to encourage him to do it more often. I thought she was nuts. I later told him the crazy thing she said and he agreed with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:08 AM |
| 21 | Facts. Straight up facts.Why is it that they think that rubbing the general area really fast over jeans is going to do it for you? Why is it that when the pants come off, they just try to do the same thing? It’s like they’re the dentist in Little Shop of Horrors just going crazy with his little drill. I almost want to laugh before I yelp in pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:01 PM |
| 6 | 🤡🤡🤡This got me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 12:04 AM |
| 28 | Yet another example of emotional abuse when girls under 20 get groomed and marry older men with significant age gaps. This husband threatens to cheat when he doesn’t get what he wants with his young wife. They have 2 kids…A guy her age would say “I can see that you hate sex so I think we should live apart now” and threaten divorce if she won’t fuck home. The difference is the language but the idea would still be the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:59 PM |
| 5 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:08 PM |
| 2 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentHe had wild mood swings almost from the beginning and he isn’t able to reel in his emotions even if it’s the tiniest thing that sets him off. He also has no identity unless he’s dating someone, has extreme depressive symptoms, and disorganized attachment. I was confident in her diagnosis of him even though she hadn’t interacted with him herself because there are a few people in my family with that diagnosis. He certainly has narcissistic traits, but he tends to hide from the world and would self… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:49 PM |
| 9 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentWhen I read the book it was like Bancroft knew my NVX inside and out. I was ready to leave him after reading it, especially when my therapist told me in the same session that his BPD meant a future of emotional abuse for me. But in the next sentence she said to sleep on it and that I should approach things with an open mind because men with BPD have been shown to be able to make huge changes when they fall in love. I don’t know if this is part of the way that CBT functions (? I am so out of my e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:18 AM |
| 45 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentThis is maybe a crazy question to post here, but: my NVX used to continuously ask me why we weren’t having sex (starting 2 weeks in). I held my ground and said I’m just not ready yet. 2 months in he tells me he loves me. Not long after that, he tells me that he doesn’t consider it a relationship if there is no sex. After an argument in which he ripped me to shreds, after weeks of him telling me that I limit him sexually, I finally gave in and had sex with him because I wanted to make up. He got … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Share your badass breakup stories!Male feminists are “sex work is empowering” “feminists” or “let me introduce you to feminism” “feminists.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 09:58 PM |
| 8 | Where to Find HVW Who Put Sisterhood/Friendship First?Fourth here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:37 AM |
| 27 | Share your badass breakup stories!I was on tour out of the country for a couple weeks, while the man I was seeing was back at “home” (not my home country, but a place where going on a few dates means that you’re now in a relationship). I had heard from mutual friends months before that he asked out a mutual friend while he was seeing me. Thinking that someone must have gotten it wrong because everyone goes for coffee, I had naively ignored it. He sent me poems every day while I was gone, but I was so busy that I didn’t have time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:51 AM |
| 27 | Share your badass breakup stories!This is amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:37 AM |
| 35 | Share your badass breakup stories!It sounds like he had some problems pre-dating the fake proposal, possibly related to commitment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Keeping in contact with ExesI would tell the guy I’m leaving unless she stops because that’s wildly inappropriate. He would either tell her off or she would get picked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 18 | No she did not! 🤣 Bow down to the Queen!They do it just before the holidays so that they don’t have to get you a gift and write you a card. I am serious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:09 PM |
| 5 | Keeping in contact with ExesShe is trying to make her ex’s new girlfriend jealous but in the process she looks like a 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 08:48 PM |
| 28 | After listening to an episode of the podcast, I made a FDS-inspired comic. Here it is!His underwear is turned inside out btw, because he was going to do laundry 2 weeks ago but then he got busy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Blocking is therapeutic.Thank you for the comforting words. I have no desire to get back with this waste of air and have already met an enthusiastic man who (so far) is willing to invest his time and energy into making me happy. I can finally relax when I’m alone and I’m sleeping better already knowing that there is no chance in hell that that man will be a part of my future! I mean, who in his right mind wants to “dominate” women? And shame them for not being sexually open to his libfem repackaging of the patriarchy? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:09 PM |
| 12 | Blocking is therapeutic.This helped me tremendously. I blocked an ex yesterday without saying the words “we are broken up” after my fifth attempt at ending it. I felt horrible because he had been treating me halfway decently, as in, hadn’t even gotten mad at me in two weeks and finally booked us the trip he’d been promising since the beginning. I told him that he clearly has a porn addiction and he responded that he doesn’t deny that it influenced his sexuality but behind his aggression and objectification was a fear o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Broke up with a psycho, afraid of him retaliating. SOS.I know someone whose Adalock was broken by an intruder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:48 PM |
| 17 | LVMs will harm your daughtersMy mother was a major pickme and allowed her absolve boyfriend to live with us for free and she bought him a car while she continued trying to support all of us working part time due to a disability (he never worked). The man never accepted me. Hell, I think he was constantly showing me how much power he had over her. He would flash me too and come into my room right after I got out of the shower to catch me changing. He would talk about my body to my mother and she would laugh as if he didn’t j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:04 AM |
| 15 | Once a liar always a liar?This makes me wonder if he had raped the ex and he feels guilty for it, and that’s the reason she’s not responding to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:02 AM |
| 28 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?Dead/faraway look in their eyes, switching positions every few seconds, jackhammering from the start, telling you they want to lick your asshole (and then getting upset when you don’t derive pleasure from it), not looking you in the eye, getting annoyed with you for being uncomfortable or in pain, not spending enough time getting you warmed up, telling you you’re “limiting” him sexually, asking you to deepthroat him, wanting to pull your hair, no sensuality or really touching you with his hands,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 05:41 PM |
| 3 | I had to post what this guy sent after EIGHT YEARSThis just made me laugh so hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 03:24 AM |
| 2 | A Study for PickmeishasRather than agree with this study’s conclusions, I’m going to assume that those who were having sex without condoms were in committed relationships with a higher chance of not being treated as objects for male pleasure. Wouldn’t that make more sense than semen being the new Prozac? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 02:13 AM |
| 9 | Could you call him if you were in the hospital? If not, DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM.Oftentimes these kinds of men come from mothers that babied them for much too long. I had an ex whose mother sacrificed herself for all the men in her family, to the point where she died young of breast cancer. Her son expected me to carry all the responsibilities of the relationship and he didn’t believe he should ever have to reciprocate (for anyone). Your can bet money on the fact that, were this man in your situation, he would have expected you to take him to the ER and to stay alongside him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 06:13 PM |
| 7 | Pickmes think this is funny and everyone online is tagging their boyfriends. The she tripped, fell, and hit her head. He knew about it still kept the gate up and then also fell. This is awful.I think it’s the part where she says she was in so much pain she thought she was dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 03:58 AM |
| 11 | sneak peak into the realities of a pickmeishaMy guess is that it’s an annoying plate to maintain and when they start to feel down, they can use you as an ego boost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 07:59 AM |
| 2 | Woman’s husband is pressuring her to engage in his foot fetish despite her not being interested in it.This guy belongs behind bars!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 05:20 PM |
| 5 | What does FDS make of this guy?And to think people were telling her in the comments that it sounds like she’s found love... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 06:34 AM |
| 5 | When you put 60+ hours of prep into your bf's birthday, only for your toxic bf to whine about how nO oNe NeeDs hIm. I don't really understand why men do toxic shit like this and spoil things for themselves, when their girlfriends already pour their life and soul into their relationship.He should know in that case that he needs to show his appreciation for the cake. And eat it! It’s about maintaining a relationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 07:28 PM |
| 58 | Be difficult for abusers to loveVery good move. I love that you refused to fight with him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 11:56 PM |
| 3 | What is the most embarrassing thing you put up with as a former pickme?There’s no use in feeling shame. You did what you knew at the time and you’ve bloomed so much since then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 07:44 PM |
| 10 | What is the most embarrassing thing you put up with as a former pickme?Yep I did that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 12:43 AM |
| 16 | What is the most embarrassing thing you put up with as a former pickme?I hope you’re out now! Wishing you the best <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 12:43 AM |
| 2 | I have absolutely no wordsWOW that guy is low | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 07:59 PM |
| 1 | No means noBut why the cow’s tongue though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 08:59 AM |
| 10 | No means noCow’s tongue is normal in tacos and Ashkenazi sandwiches! I’m sure she didn’t have a cow killed for its tongue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 08:59 AM |
| 1 | It’s still abusive.Holy what?? What year was this? That’s terrifying! They could just as easily have not continued Ronnie’s contract. I would have assumed that when they beat up the doll with her cries recorded into it that they would have lost a lot of viewership. But then again, I remember how happy people were that Snookie got punched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 09:56 AM |
| 6 | It’s still abusive.IIRC he also pushed her in public in broad daylight on the show and they aired that too without any kind of hotline or anything at the end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 08:04 PM |
| 42 | "Does she expect you to read her mind?" Yep, next questionAnyway if a man assaults you while you're having sex with him no further free consent can possibly be gained because he's already put you in a position of fear and abuse. You can't consent under fear and abuse. It's rape from that moment on. Period. I’ve never seen this articulated before, but it is 100% true. There is no way to “enjoy the moment” when you are afraid for your safety. I’ve spent so much time wondering if I should ignore those feelings of fear because maybe the feelings are unreas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜How did you feel about spending it with his parents? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Omg this is a no. You deserve SO much better!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 05:04 PM |
| 8 | V-Day PlansCan I ask how often and quickly he responds to texts? I had a situation like this and he told me a few weeks in that he wasn’t going to be texting me regularly. And when we did text to make plans, he was very slow to respond, though always on his best behavior when we were together (he even drive me home from a surgery and would come over a couple times a week just to carry my heavy musical instrument up the stairs). Turns out he wasn’t that interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Stop Calling Men "HVM" after two or three datesI’m PMing you. I want to share everything I know with you. Sending love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:41 PM |
| 15 | Man rejects woman who then finds another boyfriend. He suddenly wants her after she’s in a new relationship and asks Reddit how to get over his feelings. Daily reminder to take zero shit from these men!Notice he writes his age but not hers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Beware of Love Language discussions on the first date - RED FLAGIt’s just the circumstances working against us, not that you’re not putting out fast enough for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:57 PM |
| 1 | All the relationship subs are FULL of these types!!I feel so terrible for your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 10:31 AM |
| 4 | When an LVM is your therapistThat’s a load of bullshit. It’s happened to my friends as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 08:58 AM |
| 31 | Sex isn’t worth it for womenComplaints of blue balls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 06:25 AM |
| 73 | Sex isn’t worth it for womenI would like to see a post on “exclusive FWBs” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 06:19 AM |
| 13 | When an LVM is your therapistOne of the biggest problems with couples therapy is that there is no judgment of what is or isn’t abusive coming from the therapist. They treat you like both parties have fucked this up equally. The victim says what’s wrong and the perp sits there looking sad and who does the therapist put the blame onto? The victim, for being so direct and so forward so quickly, or maybe something else (I don’t know?!?). Such a load of shit. In my opinion, if it’s gotten to the point where you have to go to cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Please feel free to message me. Maybe I can help more | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 07:54 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Your mental health is most important. You don’t have to date! Take time for you to do what you need mentally. If someone is right for you, then they will have to be as patient as you need them to be. It sounds like what you’re going through is a response to trauma. No need to make yourself uncomfortable unnecessarily! If you’re not trusting men at all then take a vacation from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 06:17 PM |
| 4 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever had the audacity to say to you?Is it even real? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 10:20 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)I also have a chronic illness (connective tissue disorder) and I never put it on my profile. I’ve come to find that even fuckboys will offer to do nice things like carry heavy shit up my stairs. I think that if you were to put it on your profile then it would show that you’re insecure about it and they could use that against you. What you have now is great. Edit: a guy will never not date you because of something like gastritis. If he makes you feel bad about it, then he’s a LVM but in my opinio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:10 AM |
| 8 | Trans man didn't disclose.Wow, so the doc was a test. Like most other people here have said, the problem is the lies. You don’t want to start off a relationship by excusing lies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 03:14 AM |
| 5 | If this is your definition of relationship, No Thank You.This made my day, thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 09:55 AM |
| 28 | Never ever ever make travel plans to meet up with a guy!Story time! While living in Istanbul, I visited a guy (a refugee) in the most religiously conservative city in Turkey. Upon arrival I learned that we were not allowed to hold hands in public and the hotel staff suspected me of being a prostitute. This guy decided he needed to spend at least one night at home with his family, so I said go ahead and do it the first night I’m here. The next day he suddenly got called into work for an all-day orientation. Then while we were having dinner that night,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Made a phone background with my new mantra, courtesy of a post by u/the-cool-hedgehogI am paranoid about someone gleaning insecurity from my wallpaper, so you inspired me to subtly make this hipster reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 07:07 AM |
| 43 | If they want you, they’ll act like it*text you at 3pm the following afternoon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 08:38 AM |
| 4 | Is there anything more suddenly feeble than a man being held accountable?How should it be changed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 06:46 PM |
| 5 | Married 11 years, together for 13, and he has YET to eat me out.I dated someone like this, but one year in I got him to admit that he was afraid of touching, smelling or looking at vaginas because he had heard they were gross and ugly (he was a virgin). I asked him if he ever considered that that could stem from sexism. He seemed to understand that and felt a bit of shame for it, but touching a wet vagina still made him want to run and wash his hands immediately. It killed the mood when I once told him how wet I was. Yet, he loved sticking his dick there. So… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Married 11 years, together for 13, and he has YET to eat me out.This was the most surprising part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 05:52 PM |
| 20 | Tell his mother to retrieve his sorry assSearching desperately for this thread, but I’m not able to find it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 08:13 AM |
| 13 | OP's boyfriend of 6 years gets her a ring box with a note saying "haha you thought" for Christmas. OP wonders if she's overreacting to this joke, which her negative value boyfriend called "harmless".That is the biggest neg I’ve ever heard of! And he probably thinks she’ll hold onto him because if there’s a box then there must be a ring somewhere... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:21 PM |
| 4 | The LURE method: How to make men crave youWhat to do when the HVM is so concerned about you enjoying the activity that he always wants you to choose where you go together? How do you turn it back on him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 06:06 AM |
| 55 | Teen Vogue Feels It’s Important For Your Daughters to Learn How to Have Anal Sex This Christmas SeasonRead the article. It comes off to me like it’s trying to convince girls to be open to anal. There is such little mention of the pain associated with it. It also tells readers that in a healthy relationship, you are allowed to bring anything up, including anal. This sounds to me like a gateway to manipulating someone into doing anal—“it’s not healthy if we don’t get to at least have a conversation about doing it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 09:52 AM |
| 15 | Ending ignorance of women’s sexual organs is vital to increasing our sexual health and satisfaction. The penis gets so much more respect and detail than the clitoris.I think it’s a cross section | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 04:01 AM |
| 3 | Holiday GiftsI don’t typically celebrate it, but he does. Good plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 12:51 AM |
| 13 | Holiday GiftsThis was my original plan but then I ate the cookies I was saving for him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 09:35 PM |
| 8 | Holiday GiftsGood plan. I’m only looking to do this so that I don’t look bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 08:33 PM |
| 12 | #FuckboyFree2020 #KickHimOut2020 # LevelUp2020 Report InI’m so in. I love that I can come here to discuss red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:27 PM |
| 3 | There was a photo of a cat in my lap...I’m sorry but I had to copy yours. I sent it to him and he didn’t get it AT ALL https://imgur.com/a/cVgreCE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 09:38 PM |
| 6 | There was a photo of a cat in my lap...The sass with which I heard this when I read it! Love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 09:02 AM |
| 11 | Former BDSMers, I want to hear your experiencesDid you ever get off to being in pain? What you said about the stupidity of not being allowed to criticize a degrading sexual act because someone “likes” it is so spot on. How does being on the receiving end of something sexually violent make the whole act empowering? How is sex some kind of vacuum where all laws of human decency are allowed to disappear and that’s totally fine? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 09:02 PM |
| 17 | Wife Finds Out Husband Has Been Taking Hundred of Pictures of Naked With His Dick On Her Face While She’s SleepingHoly shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 08:46 PM |
| 49 | "Can I stick it in a little bit?" - Advice From Tyra Bank's Mom. Everyone Read This!Ugh, that feeling when they would push you again and again for sex, and then offer up their dick for a BJ instead and you accepted it because it didn’t seem as traumatic as having to have sex with them. It didn’t occur to me that I could just get up and leave! It literally didn’t occur to me until after college. I wish a parent had told me that this was always an option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 02:55 AM |
| 6 | What Are Some Grooming Habits All Grown Ass Men Should Know and Religiously Follow?Put on deodorant when you are dry, otherwise it doesn’t take. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 05:08 PM |
| 6 | What Are Some Grooming Habits All Grown Ass Men Should Know and Religiously Follow?I think they apply the deodorant when they’re wet and it doesn’t stick for some reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 05:03 PM |
| 1 | I refuse to kick my dog out of bed for a low value male (Never settle--even in your 50s!)Why would you be playing video games while spending time with another person?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 07:52 PM |
| 9 | I refuse to kick my dog out of bed for a low value male (Never settle--even in your 50s!)Screaming at the screen?? That’s just disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 11:34 PM |
| 11 | I refuse to kick my dog out of bed for a low value male (Never settle--even in your 50s!)What is up with this video game thing! I’ve been trying to figure out why boyfriends playing video games has bothered me for the last 15 years. I think possibly because they’re not bettering themselves, they’re not learning useful skills, and the games are apparently so addictive for them? Similar to porn. Can someone help me explain this better? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 09:52 PM |
| 10 | What to say when you get a low effort dateI got “let’s keep it casual and get ice cream.” I don’t know how you respond to that other than to ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 10:22 AM |
| 5 | OLD dealbreakers/red flagsLooking for “someone who can hold a conversation” (like wow, maybe you’re just sitting there only talking about yourself!) OR “someone who can hold her own in a conversation” (like whoa, I didn’t know that talking was a competition!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 01:27 AM |
| 11 | Tales from a Pickmeisha in RecoveryThat moment of suddenly realizing what they lost is hilarious to me. That’s the real post-nut clarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 07:25 PM |
| 18 | Men who double downI’ve never thought about that before. Wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 10:31 PM |
| 3 | When on a date with this dude,he bragged about being a personal trainer the whole time and thinks I'd respond to "sup". Boy byeI would write “I was in a movie” just to see his response | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:56 AM |
| 1 | Should I cancel my date with him?He was charming, not at all weird in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Back when I had a crush on an older man (10 yrs older than me)...I also was seeing someone who would ask me out (“are you free for dinner Tuesday?”) and then not get back to me on the day of to confirm it. It stressed me out because I didn’t want to be leaving spaces in my schedule for someone who might not actually be taking those days seriously. One time he canceled the day of (he worked in showbiz and they tend to do like 18-hour days) and when I confronted him about not getting back to me, he got upset and canceled our following date. Like wtf is up with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Idk what to title this to be honestYou deserve better than that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 05:29 PM |
| 50 | If he has a picture like this on his profile RUN SIS BLOCK HIMGod apparently doesn’t care about the scrawniness of his soldiers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Please give me another chance or let me shag yer mum?HA I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 01:19 AM |
| 43 | Idk what to title this to be honestYou did just fine. Delete his number so that you aren’t tempted to contact him. Give yourself the love you need. When thoughts of him come whirling back into your mind, acknowledge them and then dismiss them. Distract yourself from them. You can do this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Another guy who knows what women want better than they do...in reality is 71 and busted-ass broke“You have to be strong and successful, we can talk about what that means later “ wtf? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/19 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Is it salvageable or should I pull back?Proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/19 06:50 AM |
| 0 | Please give me another chance or let me shag yer mum?Is it possible that he wanted to call your mom and convince her to make you get back together with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 10:28 PM |
| 6 | Should I cancel my date with him?Oh I said that in response to him worrying for a while that I won’t like him. Just wanted him to stop! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 05:35 AM |
| 239 | And they have the audacity to ask us what we have to offer.Almost made reservations but wasn’t sure if you would like the place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 08:42 AM |
| 1 | Queen Sh*t MegathreadI’m glad he didn’t find you and retaliate! But I love that you did this :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 08:06 AM |
| 2 | RPW Pickmes be like:Ur perfect sweaty is my favorite one here. Gross! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Not gonna be your slutty therapist!!This is so real I’m dying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 05:53 PM |
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