So I apologize for the long rant - but I need to tell someone what happened and how to process this without wanting to punch this man in the teeth. I haven’t really talked to ppl about my dating life lately bc of the COVID - 19 (I work in the medical field). Also, I am a huge advocate of NEVER GIVING A MAN A SECOND CHANCE!

But...as a few other posts have said - men always come back whether it’s because of mercury retrograde, the Coronavirus, age or whatever - they always come back. Hell I had my ex husband come back on what would have been our 9 year wedding anniversary. He’s asked to see me or help me with things - and I just can’t get myself to see him in person. I asked for a divorce over the phone for a reason. I knew I couldn’t look him in the eye and say I was leaving - even if it was what was best for me. I’ve worked through a lot with how that marriage ended. We are just friends and won’t be much more. I feel like I can’t fall in love with him or anyone for that matter . But this post isn’t about him.

It’s about a guy named Chris. We met through OLD in 2018 and had a great connection- or so I thought. We could talk for hours, he wasn’t needy, successful, smart, good looking, he was super respectful - everything I was looking for in a man - but it quickly turned into Jekyll and Hyde- I just couldn’t figure out why.

He faded from my life at the beginning of 2019 after not wanting to meet me in public to explain what he was going through blah blah blah.

Fast forward to this month and I match with a guy named Mike* - but it was Chris but as a 36 year old (he was 29/30 last time). He admitted that everything he told me from his name, age, mom’s death, job was a lie. He was manipulative, lying, selfish, just all around a frickin sociopath.

Supposedly, he changed his ways and got help as his parents died right before I met him and he was an alcoholic, depressed, suicidal and blah blah blah. I gave him the benefit of the doubt - well not really just wanted to see what crap he made up next. I knew what he wanted. But I met up with him and attempted a conversation - I tried not to interrogate only because it doesn’t matter. He hurt me and internally I don’t even know why. It just changed me as a person

Plus, he is like a Ted Bundy reincarnated. I made a joke about him picking up bodies or something and referenced Ted Bundy and he just went off with all these facts about him. I love true crime - but it was just creepy.

Fast forward to 3 hours after our lunch and he says he wants to cuddle and spend time with me. He goes back and forth with this mopey act that he’s sad, lonely, weak and he’s gotten fat so I must not be physically attracted to him when I am kind of indifferent. One because I am actually not feeling good and two I just moved so I don’t want anyone in my space and I trust to go in his house.

He instantly gets pissy that I’m not answering or I’m not interested. Then says “I have a date with another match but I offered my time to you first” and says he’s going to block me. Like okay - good luck bye!

But THEN he has the audacity to call me 3 hours later to tell me he got what he wanted. He just wanted to be honest with me and told me he had sex with some other random girl. Because that is a sure fire way to win me back /s

Yes! This grown ass man called me to tell me he had sex or a hook up with another woman because I didn’t want to meet his needs right then and there. But he offered it to me first and he would have been happier with me. Plus, He expects a relationship to have a lot of sex. He claims he hasn’t slept with anyone else since 2018 (yeah okay). But seeing me today just flipped a switch in him and he was horny and had to tell me. And because I just rejected him - he had to just go fuck someone and leave.

TL;DR: LVM who had a limp dick comes crawling back and then cries when I don’t jump his bones after he showed sociopathic behavior. But had the audacity to call me and tell me he had shit sex with someone else. Okay - bye. I’ll be sure to send pics when I am in the mood to suck someone else dick and tell you all about it.

Okay, I’m done. Please feel free to share advise or story or just make me feel better.