Should I cancel my date with him?

throwawway2091 · 2019-11-26T03:44:38+00:00

"maybe you will end up not liking me" girl shape up your words. Sounds not confident, we know you are, act like it lol

rftw2013 · 2019-11-26T02:49:31+00:00

Not defending him,but Sis, keep it light and sassy on the texts. You seem insecure. We know that most of the time, it's not a match, but we still put our game face on and keep our mind open to the possibility of meeting someone nice.

You're the prize, Sis; act like it. Of course he's gonna love you!

randomgirlimok · 2019-11-26T03:58:11+00:00

Sounds way too insecure and would end up being a stage 5 clinger. Also asking about your attraction to your other date sounded like jealousy issues

rad_daphne · 2019-11-26T03:19:53+00:00

He sounds pissy. I don't like him.

velocity2ds · 2019-11-26T04:42:02+00:00

Omg I’m sorry is this guy seriously asking you if you were attracted to your last date??? Omg he comes off like such a loser

haveanicedaytoo · 2019-11-26T05:19:22+00:00

1- Trust your gut.

2- "maybe you will end up not liking me" - DON'T DO THIS. Might as well just be telling him 'Hello, I'm insecure!'

It should be more like, 'Of course you'll end up liking me, but maybe I won't end up liking you.' You're the prize, not him.

dackaroo · 2019-11-26T04:50:09+00:00

Follow your gut sis.

jewdy09 · 2019-11-26T06:57:02+00:00

He doesn’t like Eskimos? What?

What man tells a woman he barely knows that she is clearly smarter than he is? Men always think they are smarter than women, especially if they are really stupid.

TheObservationalist · 2019-11-26T04:54:28+00:00

Yikes. What's with the racism and then the self castration? Just cut this bullshit off.

fdsthrowaway · 2019-11-26T04:55:52+00:00

To be honest, I really don’t like it when the person I’m going to meet comes off as insecure so a big X for both of you I guess.

His texts sound vaguely passive aggressive to me, like he wants you to feel bad for him. It might not be a terrible date, but that’s a trait that might carry over into his personal relationships.

iasminag · 2019-11-26T07:07:48+00:00

He might not have much game but if a guy said “you might not like me” I’d get bad vibes too. Maybe he didn’t know what to say? He definitely wants to say something you’d want to hear.

I know what you are doing, I’m just telling you to stop!! Being sassy is a lot better. Hit him with a light joke, some light flirts, never make yourself seem under. I used to do this too and my ex got overly confident and arrogant. He thought he could stop liking me at any time.

So now I do the opposite: “everyone likes me if I want them to” / “I don’t fall in love easy at all, it takes a bit of effort” /etc. But keep onto the fine line, seem playful but sweet. Caring and warm yet able to drop him if he doesn’t suffice. Always with a warm smile.

Also, keep texts to a minimum. Video/audio calling is a lot better if you haven’t met face to face. You gauge more from it.

CSQUITO · 2019-11-26T03:04:49+00:00

Use your own judgement for this one, I think. People on the internet don’t know the full conversation, context and all of the little details. Sometimes you need to figure it out yourself

keithmorrisonsvoice · 2019-11-26T02:48:19+00:00

Eh, see where it goes and report back. 😈

normabelka2 · 2019-11-26T09:51:36+00:00

What, you need to level up mentally. « maybe you will end up not liking me » wtf never sell yourself short

Ms_Tilly · 2019-11-26T18:35:05+00:00

This is an insecure man. He's going to be like this even if you fell madly in love with him. I used to get "why do you even like me?" texts from my unattractive ex even after we'd been together awhile. I didn't love him for his looks and gross body, I loved how much we laughed together and the awesome sex. He never trusted why I was with him and got nastier and nastier about it until I bounced.

darnray · 2019-11-26T04:12:20+00:00

Just out of interest, which "anti-Islam" author was he referring to. If he holds any alt-right/socially conservative/anti-feminist views, run a mile as they tend to also have retrograde views of women.

Title	Should I cancel my date with him?
Author	raggedclaws_silentCs
Upvotes	13
Comments	25
Date	November 26, 2019 2:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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