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I mean, clearly there are some assholes here....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:14 AM
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These are the kinds of posts that make people think FDS is just a bunch of assholes. I don’t care if I downvoted because I don’t think this guy is a total pile of shit. There isn’t enough information to make a judgement call on this man. If all men were automatically just piles of shit that only think with their dicks, then FDS would be pointless. Some of them must be worth my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:24 PM
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You should tell him he is too old and not successful enough for his his age for you before you block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:36 PM
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We are all feeling kind of lonely right now, even those of us who interact with people daily. I suspect it’s not actual loneliness, but something more like grief over the loss of our lives as we once knew them coupled with fear, uncertainty, and stress. Your feelings are probably not as simple as you miss him and feel like him not screwing you over with the refund is endearing. He is still the same guy you dumped, but he is probably feeling a lot of the grief/fear you are feeling and that may be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:40 PM
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No more cooking, cleaning, or caring for him. Sleep on the couch. No affection or sex. These are not activities roommates engage in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:18 AM
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I babysat this little boy in college every weekend for quite a few years. When he was three and he would cuddle up on my chest or bang his head into my cleavage it was endearing. When he was ten and he walked up behind me while I was sitting at the table and caressed my breast, I backhanded him hard in the chest. It was a knee-jerk reaction and I didn’t feel bad about hitting him because no one is allowed to do that, not to me or anyone else, without permission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:07 PM
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Yeah, it’s weird. Unless he bought them for her specifically and they are the product she prefers, it’s weird. Most grown women are not going to be caught unprepared for their period. Most women keep stuff in their cars or bags if getting surprised by their period is a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:50 PM
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I think by full-time he meant he has no other job. Single dad doesn’t mean the same thing as single mom on OLD. Single dad just means he is currently single and has procreated. Single mom means her kids’ needs are her responsibility the vast majority of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:44 PM
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So, it’s cool for clinical psychologists to publicly diagnose someone as a narcissist that they haven’t examined? Shallon is not a medical professional and people are taking issue with her discussing what she believes to be psychological issues but because she isn’t a doctor, it’s just an opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:26 AM
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I think she gives a lot of great advice, is very perceptive, and wildly amusing. That being said, I don’t subscribe to everything she promotes or to everything FDS supports. It’s advice, not a directive. Take what you want and ignore the rest. You are allowed to have any opinion you want, but this sub is pretty clear about it’s positions and that most of them aren’t up for debate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:17 AM
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No, it implies they are looking for a free prostitute. I don’t work for free and sex without commitment and love sounds a lot like work to me. Sex workers have a service called The Girlfriend/Wife Experiences. I’m not going to provide that for free either. All of these things are freely given in the context of a committed relationship that provides me with the love, affection, attention, and feeling of safety and security I require. I don’t provide sex or experiences for a living nor do I provid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:44 PM
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There is a whole other layer. She had a video at some point (maybe recent, maybe old) of her just trashing the looks of some K Pop stars. I didn’t watch the video because it’s been deleted, but from the clips and whatnot, she is basically saying that she finds the artificial aesthetic of the artists to be feminine and unattractive and that it makes it hard to discern one guy from the next because they all have the same bleached hair, weird color contacts, and makeup style. She also said somethin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:11 PM
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I’m going to carry on buying the condoms. He can worry about planning and paying for dates. I can’t stand the smell or taste of most condoms. I don’t want to risk any kind of imbalance because of some weird lube or spermicide on a condom. As soon as the package is opened and I can smell it, my desire is reduced. I want sex too and I don’t want to be prevented from having it because of gross cheap condoms, an improperly stored condom, or because he “forgot” to bring them. Same with lube, which I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:53 PM
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I usually tell them I’m not interested in doing any unpaid work. They never understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:31 PM
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He’s not currently involved with anyone because he is looking for a quarantine partner. He is looking for a primary doormat while keeping the door open for many secondary doormats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:30 AM
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If you must use Tinder, lean all the way back. Swipe on dudes you find attractive on their first photo, you can read their bio and look at their pictures after they message you something compelling. I swipe left on a whole litany of offenses like terrible pictures, filters, cigarettes, alcohol, kids, etc. There is no reason why he can’t put his best foot forward and put a little effort into his pictures and bio. Don’t message anyone first. Don’t give out your real phone number. Ask a simple ques…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:50 PM
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Your arousal is not controlled solely by your body, why should his be? Men and women are different in lots of way, but I don’t think men would consider themselves so primitive that a grown ass adult male can’t manage to not become aroused by obvious pain. At the very least, he would go to great pains to make sure you don’t notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:31 PM
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If it’s her job, then he should pay her. Jobs imply pay. She doesn’t have an extra 8 hours a day, she is using that time to apply for jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:05 PM
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I know the cool kids here don’t advocate exposing a potential partner to FDS, but I want to know his knee jerk reaction once I get a feel for his integrity and intent. The guys who spout off men’s rights bullshit or can’t see how stupid the idea that conning hapless men into buying you dinner is (due to the incredibly low ROI) tell me all I need to know. Also, dudes who are afraid of getting #metoo’d can hit the bricks because they obviously don’t understand how to approach and interact with wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:57 PM
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The downside is that people break rules. If egos get bruised or someone feels left out, people can respond poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:36 PM
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Right, because having more adults who love you in your life is detrimental to children. Definitely causes more harm than ripping the child from the arms of a woman it has known it’s entire life out of spite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:34 PM
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He also looks 5’3”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:28 PM
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No hate group is okay. Advocating for your sub that was banned by arguing that another is doing the same thing is not valid. But, FDS is not a hate group anyway. I don’t know anything about the other sub, but I’ve spent a good six months here and I haven’t heard any calls to arms or suggestions of violence. Telling women to dump losers is not violence against losers! Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:06 AM
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Real men don’t need financial assistance from anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:49 PM
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You didn’t scare him away. You took out the trash. How is behaving like a normal person doing something wrong? This had nothing to do with you except that you expected to operate as any normal person would operate during the early stages of dating. Do not contact him again. He wants you to chase him. Don’t. The only mistake you made was not shutting it down as soon as he said he wasn’t actively seeking a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:43 PM
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Exactly. Clear boundaries and clear consequences to crossing the boundaries. “If you do not stop the behaviors that you know hurt me, I will leave you. If you can’t provide the relationship dynamic I want, I will leave you so we can both find more suitable partners because it will be clear that we are incompatible. Take steps to get help and commit to following through or I will leave you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:58 PM
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It’s really only something that can be seen in hindsight. If I went 20 years back in time to slap the shit out of my 20 year old self about all my embarrassing behavior, 20 year old me would still imagine she knew better. It might seem ridiculous to suggest OP go hang out with a ten year old and see how easy it is to manipulate them despite how they will have in common, but it’s almost the same thing as a 29 year old man and 19 year old girl playing house together. His priority is not OP. Being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:52 PM
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Boost her self-esteem every chance you get. Also, if her father is not in the home or active in her life, I feel like it’s important for her to know what happened between you two when she is old enough to hear it. It’s hard not to feel abandoned when you don’t have good and loving relationships with your biological parents. Even children who are adopted into the best possible families who have wonderful childhoods or are lucky enough to get a step parent who treats the child like their own alway…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:27 PM
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“The only thing I value from a relationship with a woman is the sex she reluctantly gives me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:10 PM
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My guys make messes and only ever help clean up if I drop something on the floor while cooking. Like my dudes, would it kill you run the vacuum once in a while? Your hair is the majority of what it picks up but for some reason whenever I haul the vacuum out, you take off like someone yelled ‘Fire!’ But, endless hugs, smelly kisses, and laughs make it all worth it. These creatures are so silly and so loving that it’s easy to overlook their flaws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:05 PM
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RIP your inbox...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 06:47 AM
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Of course some relationships will end badly, but if all of them end badly why should I expect it be any different with me? Relationship end for lots of reasons, they aren’t all explosive and require you to go grey rock on each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 12:09 AM
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I don’t trust men who aren’t on good terms with any of their exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:00 PM
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Yeah, I’m going to give him a pass and her a high five. Not only is he consumed with his incredibly high level job doing incredibly important work to benefit the world 20 hours a day, he has to do it while walking on eggshells lest he offend his criminally narcissistic boss. Losing his position will result in countless more deaths due to the massive volume of deadly misinformation that is constantly flowing from our leadership. These aren’t normal circumstances and anyone who wouldn’t step up to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:23 AM
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It sounds like he might have needed a place to stay right now. I wonder if his ex wife knows what he has been up to lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 05:48 AM
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That book haunts me and gives a wonderful perspective of what it was like living in Russia at the time. If you liked that, try Lisa See’s Dreams of Joy. It’s about the cultural revolution in China. Communist dictators be wild!!! Rand gets a bad rap because of the right wing lunatics who think paying taxes is unconstitutional and a part of Atlas Shrugged was about how the rich are robbed of their hard-earned money to give to the “lazy poor.” But, most of those guys are not rich, and their ire is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:59 PM
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I edited this a bunch because I kept putting little stories in and getting way off track. I do have a bunch of interesting stories and I was considering writing them out. Whenever I think about how much I have to write about a topic, I immediately imagine writing a whole ass book and this time I took it to the logical conclusion of my clients reading my book and feeing violated. But, publishing a whole ass book is not likely to happen... Here are two thoughts I edited out: I only cleaned for one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:39 PM
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It was such an unbelievable story line at the end. I found the allegory of the useless brother who became a corrupt government official acting under the pretense of doing good for the people to be pretty spot on (and currently very relevant). But, I didn’t feel much sympathy for the “poor iron magnate.” A lot of Rand’s work, obviously, is colored by her experiences in communist Russia and I do see the warning she was communicating with this part of the story. I can see why she took issue with a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:50 PM
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I read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft in January and it made me question every relationship I know. I have a unique view into people’s marriages because I clean their homes. I have been working for most of my clients for 10-15 years and most of them have been married for much longer than I have been working for them. I know who still has sex and who have a hard time spending time together. I see what kinds of gifts they give each other and how they respond to various trials. But, I obvio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:22 PM
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What is Ayn Rand’s philosophy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 06:06 PM
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I’ve read thousands of books. Not all of them are good. Atlas Shrugged is not a great book, in my opinion. I’m not sure what kind of judgement you are making or what you are basing that on. Does reading a wide variety of books make someone less of a feminist? Why does reading books that people uphold as a major touchstone of their flawed mindset in order to better understand them make me not “truly a feminist”? I don’t think it’s think it’s very feminist to assume that because a woman reads a bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:57 PM
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I’ve read everything in publication by Ayn Rand and can confidently say that most people who would claim Atlas Shrugged is their favorite book don’t read books and definitely didn’t read that book. The may have read the bumper sticker...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:26 PM
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This is hate speech! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:23 AM
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If you delete his number, you won’t be able to contact him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:22 AM
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I’ve been getting a lot of obvious scammers approaching me on my neglected POF account, so I tried to find information about men scamming women on OLD. All I could really find was stuff about women scamming men. It made me think how easy it would be to scam men if you are an actual woman who speaks English and lives in the US (or any other target-rich first world country and speak the appropriate language).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:57 PM
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He just looks like disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:51 PM
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Is this a troll post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:53 AM
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Delete his phone number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:49 AM
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It doesn’t seem to support it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:40 PM
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So is the pick me, but she is fully clothed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:31 PM
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Why is the other girl nearly naked? Kind of undercuts the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:06 PM
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He wants to stay in your guest room? Like a roommate? Is the fucker paying you rent? Send him a Venmo request right now and kick him out when he looks confused. It doesn’t matter that he was drunk. We all know that alcohol is like truth serum. He meant what he said, but didn’t have the balls to say it until he was loaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:54 AM
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A bidet is a wonderful thing. The water pressure can be high enough on the rear setting to penetrate if you aren’t careful. But, it isn’t a substitute for washing with soap when you shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:48 AM
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He’s probably enormously fat too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:42 AM
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He can show this screenshot to his baby daughter one day when she is grown to show her what LVM means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:39 AM
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I killed one last year that I’d had for seven years. It tripped the breaker for a very dramatic exit. I replaced it and never leave the new one plugged in after that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:24 AM
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Because everyone is buying TP every time it is available when a month ago they would only get it when they needed it. The supply chain that is stocking your stores was put into place ages ago. So, the amount of TP they have coming in is still the amount that would normally be delivered to refill the already mostly full shelves. Except now, the shelves are bare so a few cases a week just isn’t cutting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:14 AM
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Demote you’re washcloths for #1 now and save your 8.5 rolls for your bum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:03 AM
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I’m with you and OP. I like to rub some salt in their wounds. Sometimes I play along like I’m going for it, then block. Whatever I feel like will be the most amusing. It’s over anyway, why not have a go at them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:59 AM
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They tried to slip abortion restrictions into the senate’s relief bill. 500 billion dollars to bail out corporations with no oversight and no disclosure of the recipients until after the election and abortion restrictions. Yeah, that’s exactly what we need to make sure people can afford to live for the next few months with no jobs. Brilliant. One of my clients is a baby nurse. I can’t even imagine how horrifying it must be to in your third trimester right now. Hell, any trimester.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:56 AM
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Agreed. This is the same kind of nonsense we see when people criticize FDS. Seems like she is trying to bait the response that “women don’t need to offer anything, they just need to exist to be desirable.” Next she will ask for advice about her 12 cats and help lying to her partner about her time on the “cock carousel.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:48 AM
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Starbucks will remake your drink if they made it incorrectly. They don’t even reuse the cup. They don’t count the cups or anything. This is ridiculous. It’s obviously not some mom and pop coffee stand that needs the revenue. (It’s obviously Starbucks or some other giant coffee chain that can be found in a grocery store that requires more than one barista/a manager.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:39 AM
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Me either. My sister told me about it the other day. I bought a $100 bike from Amazon warehouse and other than not feeling very comfortable standing on it and not having a cadence measurement, it works great. Honestly, doing it with the class was so much less tortuous than just putting on a 20 minute YouTube video. The time flies by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:14 PM
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Date anyone that seems like he might be worth your time, but pay attention to your feelings. If you feel anything that is more than just mild irritation in the first few weeks, it’s over. There is no point in spending time with someone with whom you immediately require couple’s counseling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:28 AM
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And you are a humorless prude... Actually, I have kind of a crude sense of humor. I’m just not ready to engage with you like that because you will categorize me as the whore under the Madonna/whore dichotomy and treat me as such. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just be ourselves straight out of the gate and be able to trust that everything a man says is true? What a world!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:21 AM
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This happened all in one week? This just seems like basic incompatibility. There shouldn’t be this drama in the first week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:15 AM
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Peleton is offering a 90 day free trial right now. You don’t need their bike and they have a bunch of different class offerings including meditation and yoga. Great list, by the way. Thanks for all this work. I’m going to get on my bike now... Edit: to add supercook is an app/webpage to help you find recipes for the food you have on hand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:04 AM
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Why should you feel bad? No one knows of the majority of your cringey behavior but the dudes involved and I doubt their opinion matters much to you. Most of that behavior was due to your socialization to be nice/understanding/accommodating or the LVM who enjoyed stringing you along. You were trying to be nice, but you just didn’t realize that you were working against your own interests. Now that you know better, you can do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:01 AM
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If the login information belongs to someone other than him, he is definitely LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:37 AM
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I’ve had two men try and tell me that they have been tested (<1,000 have been preformed in my state as of now) and have been isolated since the test. Bitch, stop fucking lying and trying to put women in danger because your penis can’t take a few weeks off. The redpillMGTOWincels might have a point. Maybe we should start only dating virgins. Imma head over to the Engineering building at the U when this is over and get me a nerdy/awkward dude is who about to graduate with an engineering degree. I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:10 PM
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That post gets reposted all over the place and held up as the herald cry of FDS. I do actually think that going on dates with the sole intention of getting a meal is a crappy thing to do, but FDS is not promoting that women waste their time. I’ve said it a million times, but there is no “free” meal worth the time spent being tortured by some blowhard who has no self awareness and won’t shut up. I don’t care if a man doesn’t want to pay for our first date because it lets me know that he isn’t all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:17 AM
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Men on OLD have stuff written in their profiles where you are beyond “ask”? I’m shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:53 AM
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A man who is very interested in you will want to make contact with you every day. He will not want to risk you forgetting about him or another man occupying your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:13 AM
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Groups of men who hate women are talking about how to manipulate and use women for sex with minimal effort and no commitment. We talk about how to judge if a man is using above tactics to use and abuse us, to determine his level of actual interest, and if he will add value to the lives we already have. We do this in order to determine if we should let men have access to our bodies and our care because a long term commitment with a man who adds value to our lives is the goal. This is not hate. I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:52 AM
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Of course it’s fine for them to act like being a single mother means a woman has diminished value. Most people have kids after a certain age. This is the reality I live in and I understand that. I’m not going to rule out a man with kids, but I will rule out a man with an ex who doesn’t appreciate my value to her children and wants to act like a fucking asshole to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:37 AM
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It’s because they have nothing to do. They have nothing in their pantries, a kitchen with one glass, a few random plastic forks and spoons, and one peeling Teflon frying pan. They have no creature comforts in their homes and aren’t industrious enough to come up with any ideas for projects or crafts nor do they have any of the supplies. They also don’t care about the state or comfort of their living spaces. 14 hours of video games appears to be getting old, eh boys? Meanwhile, every one of us lad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:30 AM
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Great idea, dummy. Force a woman to marry you who has no interest in you or your gross dick. That sounds like a happy life for everyone. Gotta love a man who proposes marriage based on a few pictures. He’s probably a total catch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:19 AM
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I can’t imagine anyone putting their grandma at risk just to split the check and get some disappointing D. But, here we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:08 PM
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No need to wait. Drop him now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:34 PM
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He couldn’t wash his hair? He’s on TV!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:31 PM
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This guy is not only stupid, but he is a liar. There is no way he got a test in my area. Of the minuscule percentage of men on OLD who have any value, none of them are actively trying to engage with new prospects right now. Even the scammers have cooled out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:22 PM
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Eleven states require the consent of everybody involved in a conversation or phone call before the conversation can be recorded. Those states are: California, Delaware, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania and Washington. Most states only require that one person consent to the recording, but you are correct and she should familiarize herself with the laws of her state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:05 AM
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I’ve never wondered that. I have my shit on lockdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:54 PM
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Why are men so determined to talk trash about women in their profiles? Saying shit about how some women are crazy or leeches is going to make all women swipe left. I’m also very amused by men who fee compelled to chastise the scammers and bots in their profiles. As if that is going to have any effect. Thanks for letting me know your critical thinking skills are far below average.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:52 PM
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Why is it that men are either so afraid of a false accusation that they can’t interact with women in a normal fashion or they still imagine this is okay behavior. Document everything that happened in the past. Keep your phone on record when you interact with them. Feel free to go speak with Dean once again about this matter and his response with your phone recording. Unless you have a union lawyer, you probably don’t need to pay for one for this situation. Dean’s boss would probably shit a brick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:40 PM
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Oh, the people at your will discriminate against you for being single dating? Makes perfect sense. Dating is frowned upon in our culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:27 PM
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This man should be totally offended by this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:14 PM
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You have no lingering to-do list? You have no projects that have been on the back burner? I’ve got a huge mending basket to deal with, all the gear for learning handlettering, I’ve cleaned a bunch of my cabinets and closets out, practiced with a new nail enhancement system (I’m glad I’m not out in the world on the regular in these early stages), and planned my garden. I got a bunch of shit done in the past few days and I still have a lengthy to-do list. I’m pretty happy with my progress, though.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:49 PM
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You want to come over, Baby? I was going to make a pumpkin pie and maybe steam up some broccoli.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:31 AM
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Fucking amateur. This doesn’t include the breakfast, bulk grains, or baking cabinets. And you know I have more than five rolls of toilet paper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:12 AM
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The only person he has in his life to ask for help is the woman he treated like a doormat? Do a cost benefit analysis. This person is a shit human and a waste of space. Let him figure it out on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:08 AM
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I must have really shriveled the dicks of the Fuckbois from my past after shit canning them when I finally realized that they were piles of shit and that my Pick Me ways were not doing anything for me. )The contrast between my behavior when I was trying to get them to treat me like they care and when I no longer care if they live or die is pretty stark.) I haven’t gotten any calls or messages from past penis. On the bright side, I ran into a man from college the other day who was always a wonder…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:06 AM
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Kit Harrington!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:49 AM
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It’s such an antiquated idea. People need to just let it go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:47 AM
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You have a gift for words, lady. Write this story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:33 AM
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Jesus. Dude doesn’t have anything to do but watch porn with his dick in his hand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:32 AM
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Is receiving gifts a love language? I thought it was gift giving...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:35 AM
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Even if he isn’t going to violate, he certainly doesn’t seem to give two shits about OP’s comfort. He won’t care about her pleasure or happiness either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:04 AM
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I have an obscene makeup collection. I don’t wear makeup every day, I just enjoyed buying it and playing with it for a while. I’m single with no kids, so I have lots of discretionary income and pretty girly things are what I choose to buy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:58 PM
15

Hell, if they just went outside once in a while for some fresh air.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 12:00 AM
3

I went to the grocery store yesterday just to pick up a few things I would be loathe to do without in case I had to hunker down. I was shocked to see the frozen vegetable section decimated. I saw a lady struggling to reach a box of bags of frozen beans at the back of a top shelf so I offered to grab it for her. My only motivation was to make her laugh at how I didn’t even need to step on my tip toes while she was trying to step up on the lower shelf. Everyone was being polite despite the crazy a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:55 PM
9

How does cancelling travel, sports/entertainment events, and encouraging people to social distance make companies money? Toilet paper and Purell aren’t exactly huge money makers. Beans, rice, frozen vegetables and pasta were all gone from the shelves at my supermarket. None of those things are big money money makers. If this was about making money, then telling people the virus was not a real threat would be the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:46 PM
29

A few weeks ago I checked out YouTube for FDS videos and there were only three or four. There are many more now. FDS is an interesting place and will garner lots of clicks. It’s only going to cause more women to join and become enlightened about how being nice and accommodating is counterproductive. Those videos will result in more women having higher standards. Cool, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:40 PM
2

I give the loud and unrelenting treatment. Is that preferable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:36 PM
3

Encourage her to get long term contraception if possible. Having a child with her husband would make her situation so much worse when she finally decides to get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:34 PM
76

You know what I’ve noticed? My overall attitude now is “no” and it seems to make men more interested in approaching me. It seems as though holding yourself in high esteem makes men want to chase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:29 PM
191

Yeah. Like they have been accumulating too many recessive traits over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:44 PM
119

Where are all these men with money? The overwhelming majority of men I interact with exclude themselves from my consideration when they reveal their abysmal financial situation. You are homeless? You can’t get a credit card? You work at the gas station? You need to wait until payday to do anything because you have no gas in your car? The fuck??? I’m not talking about young men who haven’t established themselves yet. I’m talking about men over 35. The problem isn’t so much that I want a man to su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:40 AM
6

Gross. Just gross. I get this kind of thing a lot. Of course you want to fuck me. But, but, but I need a reason to fuck you, Stupid. I can rattle off 25 reasons not to fuck you, Sir. can you give me even one why I should? Your wanting to fuck me is not a reason why I should fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:08 AM
41

Send the Venmo code in response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:53 AM
82

I think some men actually believe this is a real fear. They don’t realize how rare false accusations are and that almost every woman they know has been violated sexually in one way or another. They have been indoctrinated by this ridiculous narrative that other men are using to combat the reality that they can no longer count on women not reporting their shitty behavior and on not being held accountable. But, a lot of these men are also the men who believe they are supposed to try and wear a wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:46 AM
79

A muscular ass hits different than a fat ass. If it’s solid muscle, it’s not going to feel feminine. As much as I would love to be attracted to women, I’m not. I don’t want a man with big soft curves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:37 PM
126

I dated a man like this for a minute. His thighs and butt felt so large and feminine. It was a total turn off. I have thick, feminine legs with lots of muscles. Most men have smaller legs than I do and I’m glad because that guy’s huge curvy body felt so feminine it was gross.I tolerated the big girl body but I ended it when his horror show of a financial situation was revealed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:11 PM
30

Did she marry a special needs person? Like what in the actual fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:39 AM
21

Most of the men you will find on OLD are not qualified to date/approach any woman at all. A bunch have lifestyles or beliefs that immediately disqualify them. Of the few left, most will tell you outright if they aren’t looking for anything serious. Others are not subtle at all and say sexual things right away, often it will be something they can plausibly deny was sexual. I’m here looking for friends, no drama, friends first and we can see what happens from there, I’m open to anything from a hoo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:03 PM
12

Not for a first date, but if a man was like let’s go to the giant sunflower field or ride our bikes downtown and check out the annual flowers expertly planted everywhere or he suggests going on a mushroom hunt, I would be delighted. Only because flowers and mushrooms are some of my favorite things. It’s not hard to figure that out about me but I would be super impressed if a man picked up on that and suggested the date during the proper season. The bar is hella low... There are tons of free thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:46 PM
2

You are fine. Do whatever you please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:16 PM
2

Hahaha. That’s flattering rather than creepy. I’m just here yelling at myself to stop being such a sap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:29 PM
64

Why bother with life without parole for piles of shit like this? He’s a completely irredeemable waste of resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:40 AM
13

How do you know if you have followers? Edit: figured it out. I have 2 as well. Creeeepy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:17 AM
46

It’s negative traits that I have collected from past boyfriends. If I still loved those dudes, I’d still be with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:56 AM
46

“Photos reserved for genuine matches.” Never gets an opportunity to send a picture. Hey stupid, if you can’t attract women with your looks, you need a personality or some money. This guy clearly has none of the above. And he’s pretty old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:05 AM
29

I’m guessing a lot of these men are recently divorced and misread her lack of sexual interest as a personal flaw instead of just another in a long line of behavior changes that indicate her misery. The rest are dudes just letting you know they are looking for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:56 AM
12

Ask them for money when they do that. They will fuck right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:53 AM
9

Yeah, it’s the election that makes hate content a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:38 AM
3

Why were men more attracted to an already pregnant woman? Because they couldn’t get you pregnant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:24 AM
13

Hair and makeup is the time consuming part. I usually wear the same outfit for any first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:21 AM
6

This is the same girl who says sexuality must not be a choice because no one would choose to be attracted to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:28 PM
11

Not all men who spend money on you have good intentions, but all men who expect you to split are wasting your time. Not paying means he’s not interested in anything serious with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:17 PM
5

Let him know he can edit that poorly written copy/paste. It’s saved on his phone for fuck’s sake!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:39 PM
52

This is why women don’t report this shit. Not even her husband believes her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:37 PM
81

Imagine your motivation about a major life decision being making some future other person jealous. What a pathetic long game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:24 PM
67

I’d love it if instead of incels creating fake OLD profiles as Chads to see what it’s like for them, they would try doing that as a woman to see what it’s like for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:49 PM
24

When I make a split decision without much thought and it seems as though I have no real justification for it other than it seems right, it has usually turned out well for me (or neutral). I realized I do it a lot more with business decisions than personal, but I have learned when I get that feeling feeling, I need to go with it. That is always a good and compelling feeling. When I get a strong bad feeling about someone or something that seems irrational, I never ignore that. I can’t say for sure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:01 AM
5

I get approached a lot by submissive men. I’m tall and very straight forward with good self esteem. They seem to think this means I don’t want a masculine man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:50 AM
18

He should be protecting his child from that kind of shit, not engaging in it with his asshole friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:38 AM
18

“You can take my rent off the top of the paycheck you are now giving me every week for birthing and nannying your children, cooking for you, cleaning up after you, and having sex with you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:25 AM
148

Men are very good at revising history to alleviate guilt. They actually create scenarios that are just plausible enough to allow them to actually believe their own story. What really happened is he let his dick do the thinking and it made terrible decisions that hurt you and a child, and ruined his life but in his mind he is being unfairly persecuted because his wife drove him to it. This is why men didn’t see a connection between their coercion and women claiming they were raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:05 AM
5

I think we should do the minimum to make us feel like we look good. During the week, I’m not trying to get all dolled up and I need my clothes to be functional. But, I can do a five minute face, wet my hair to turn my bed head back into curls, and make sure the jeans and hoodie I’m wearing to work in fit well and are clean so when I catch myself in the mirror, I like what I see. Everyone can budget an extra 5-10 minutes in the morning to paint the fence a little. I think the hardest part is taki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:25 AM
16

Right? How about we triage the issues and put our resources toward the most widespread and impactful ones first. Men who will do anything to get out of paying child support or are massively delinquent cause a much, much larger and more common problem than cucks getting cucked. That’s pretty fucking rare. How many women do you know lied about the paternity of their child? How many women do you know who fight constantly to get the money they need from men to support their children? The ratio is ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:20 AM
47

Girl, you need to have some “money problems” and be short on rent for a while. Protect yourself and pad your bank account. I’m sure his father will understand but if he doesn’t, suggest having him over to dinner to discuss you options for your “$1,400 a month rent.” Your boyfriend will shut up pretty fast if he imagines you “inadvertently” telling his father about the money he is stealing from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 08:03 AM
13

Or god forbid you say something like his dick isn’t enormous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:56 AM
25

I look better with makeup. That’s why I wear it. I don’t look great with foundation on, that’s why I wear very little if any of it. The people who become unrecognizable when they take off their makeup are the people who are wearing a ton of it. If a man can’t tell the difference between enhanced skin, and a poreless makeup mask that has changed the shape and skin tone of a face, then he is a fucking dimwit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:55 AM
1

Have you tried Vitamin C for your acne scars? There are lots of inexpensive options (<$10) and you will see results quickly if topicals can do anything for your skin. Make sure you are wearing sunscreen every day to protect your skin from further damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:46 AM
12

Nothing says man baby like a dude pushing 40 in front of his backyard grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:36 AM
12

Prison is probably the only place where a man like that might understand what it is like to constantly be aware of predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:33 AM
77

So, stripclubs make keep men up all night shitting? I had to go back and check her age again. The last time someone tried that tactic, I couldn’t even drive yet. What a tool bag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:30 AM
24

This is why we should all just lie about our sexual history. I’m not a fan of dishonesty, but men seem to have no problem lying all the time and saying whatever they think women want to hear. Turnabout is fair play. It’s very hard to start lying at my age, but anything worth doing is usually a challenge!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:43 AM
74

For real. According to the men who lurk and post about FDS constantly, they only respect women who don’t sleep with every man who buys them a drink. Which is it boys? Do you want us to fuck or no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:26 AM
10

The text is gone, so I can’t read it. It probably is some dumb girl being manipulated and abused by a shit man, but I’m wondering if a lot of these kinds of questions are just troll posts designed to make women come up with creative ideas for women to bend over backwards for dudes. Seriously, is his orgasm that important? If he isn’t putting in the effort for her orgasm, then it’s definitely not. With a problem like his, he is going to have to do like many women and go without an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:20 AM
30

I wish iMessage would let the other person know when you take a screenshot. That would really make dudes like this blow a gasket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:06 PM
14

You will want to speak with a lawyer to ensure your agreement is enforceable. That sounds like something a judge will not respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:55 PM
3

I think creeps approach all women on OLD the same way. HVM are not on old trolling for tail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:49 PM
87

I guess if he also said, “That’s why I got my engineering degree so I could make $100K a year right out of school after only four years. I know I am going to need to save a lot of money before I can afford to support a large family a career in engineering will become even more lucrative as I work my way up the ladder.” Honestly, I think men should be required to compensate a woman for her work in the home and with the children, especially if she has no income or is otherwise unable to establish …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:40 AM
25

Rude? The sad fact is that taking one look at him and turning on your heel would be considered pretty rude, but that is exactly what you should have done. But, you were actually very polite. I’m proud of you for being such a decent person!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:20 AM
115

Despite not ever intending to bring a man to my home after a first date, in addition to getting myself ready, I usually clean out my car, bless my kitchen/bathroom, empty all the trash cans, make the bed if it wasn’t done that morning, pick up any random shit laying around and vacuum all the carpets. I bet that checklist would blow dudes on /datingoverthirty minds. Most dudes can’t even be bothered to remove food trash and dirty dishes from their bedside tables.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:56 AM
15

Flex with some fucking punctuation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:40 AM
17

There is no reason you have to tell anyone you don’t want children. If someone wants to be a dick to you, just tell them you can’t have children and let it hang there. Asking a woman when she is going to have kids is completely inappropriate and if someone lacks the tact to understand that, make them feel like a total heel by telling them you can’t have children. Maybe you will spare some other woman who can’t have children of her own but wanted them this asshole’s behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:38 AM
17

There is no point to trying to get him to write like he managed to get through public high school. I’ve tried many times. They either get offended, try to explain why it’s unimportant/more efficient, or he will respond with an artless overly formal and stilted abortion of a reply in an attempt to be snarky. It’s pretty hard to get through a basic education without adopting the writing standards of a few of your more militant teachers. Educated people care how their writing represents themselves …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:21 AM
44

After watching the movie Hard Candy, I feel like I could perform a vasectomy myself with some alcohol wipes and baby scissors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:25 PM
12

It really does seem as though men are not at all concerned about how their writing represents them. If you call them out on their shitty writing, they get offended or blow you off like it isn’t important. I’ve informed men about mistakes (misquotes or something confusing) on their profiles and they rarely fix them. If someone pointed out a typo in my bio, I would be mortified and nothing would happen until I fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:10 AM
2

Nope. In fact, it’s the opposite. I never had orgasms from intercourse prior to the surgery and now it’s pretty much impossible to have sex without multiple orgasms from penetration alone. I am fairly certain this is just because I can relax knowing I won’t become pregnant. That was a huge stress prior because I always knew I didn’t want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:18 PM
0

I’m not telling OP what to do one way or the other. I would never presume to tell a grown ass woman what to do when it comes to a major life decision. I simply gave her my story and perspective. Obviously OP is tired of hearing about how she will change her mind. Just because she is a young woman doesn’t mean she can’t think and make decisions (and probably mistakes too) for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:13 PM
2

My uterus tried to kill me. It also tricked my brain into not having a problem with the situation. I didn’t go to the doctor after the blood clot situation because of that. I went because my eye was swollen shut after splashing around in some questionable water on a hot summer day and I thought I had a parasite or something. I asked for a B12 shot while I was there because I thought I was anemic but didn’t make the connection to losing all that blood. (Nothing was wrong with my eye, it was proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:03 PM
0

Making any decision does come with the risk or regretting your choice. You are right. Part of being an adult is accepting the consequences of your decisions. It’s not true that almost every woman wants to get sterilized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:47 PM
0

OP wants to get sterilized and so did I. Everyone needs to do their own research about the risks and benefits and make the decision that is right for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:36 PM
45

Yeah, she probably begged him for the entire week before the dinner to get his dress pants laundered and pressed. The dinner was probably the rehearsal dinner for her sister’s wedding or her company Christmas party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:27 PM
25

I’m happy to not have to hear the gem about how women are more abusive to children and their partners than men. Yes, tell me more about how the vagina is the only muscle in the human body that becomes less toned with use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:24 PM
5

When I was 26 I asked to be sterilized. The answer was a resounding no. When I was 36, I had a period like a firehose. I woke up one night every few minutes with outrageous cramps. It turns out I was having contractions. I sat on the toilet and “gave birth” to an enormous blood clot. It filled my two hands. It was not a miscarriage. When I went to the doctor they did a blood test and sent me immediately to the ER for a blood transfusion. I was four units low. A transvaginal ultrasound revealed a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:16 PM
4

I’m a foot taller than him! A FOOT! That guy has nothing to live for but internet trolling. I feel really sorry for that itty bitty little thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:04 AM
16

I went to Amsterdam a few years ago with my sister. We took a tour through the red light district at night. It was so creepy. The women are in rooms with glass fronts up and down the street. I couldn’t even make eye contact with them, they were so dehumanized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:47 AM
38

A FWB situation a fair deal for women because they are getting sex just like the man is. If I can paid for having sex and he can’t, obviously my participation is more valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:16 PM
6

I got a strange one the other day. He wanted to know how I save money, specifically when it come to healthy eating. I suggested he eat less meat and more beans and other plant protein sources. You want to talk about a contentious subject? Americans find the idea of eating less meat an anathema. He just thanked me for the information. No push back at all. Weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:45 PM
22

It isn’t possible for me to go longer than two hours without responding to a message from a man I like. I can always find a few moments to reply even if it’s just to say I’ll get back to you later. No one goes more than a day without a response unless I really don’t want to talk to them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:45 AM
20

Send him your Venmo. They freak right out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:39 AM
19

I’m on OLD. I’m 41, I am attractive, funny, smart, charming, never married, no kids, and I make more money than I spend working part time. I’m a very capable person, but I also enjoy doing the typical wifey things. I’m a catch. I also love being at home and can’t wait to get back when I’m forced to leave and I work alone. So, I don’t meet a lot of new people in real life unless I make an effort to get out. If I’m on OLD, there will be other people like me on OLD. Yes, there are lots of piles of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:53 AM
6

Make a post and you will get some. They are kind of fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:39 AM
12

The money you loaned him is gone. It also probably covers your obligation for the remainder of the lease. Maybe you can ask him for the money before you let him know what is about to happen so when he brings up the bills you will be leaving him with, you can just call it even. Or if the roommate wants compensation, tell him you’ve arranged for BF to handle it with the money he owes you. Don’t be afraid to lie about why you are leaving. Your grandmother is old and her health could change at any m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:28 AM
43

How is a woman making a choice “setting women back?” Isn’t being free to make your own decisions as a woman the whole point? No one is forcing me to put up with a Dusty, no one is telling me I must pay for half, and I’m not socially required to pretend that I respect a man who makes less money than me. I’d rather be alone than tolerate that shit. It’s my choice to be and I’m happy to have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:16 AM
25

You can just make an alt and alternate between the two after a while. Click on your avatar, you should be able to make one in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:28 AM
159

Because men think FDS is for tricking men into buying us dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:23 AM
8

What is it called when a man lies to a woman to get her into bed? If she consented to sex with a man who told he wanted to peruse a relationship with her when he had no intention of doing any such thing, is that consent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:41 AM
36

It’s a huge red flag if someone you are dating introduces you to their children right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:24 AM
38

Oh, you silly scrotes. You can’t tell when a woman is wearing makeup when it’s done to appear natural. Most of us don’t wear blue eyeshadow every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:20 AM
25

You would cost him $5 at most because the Uber driver wouldn’t be able to pick you up. And you would be wasting the driver’s time. There is no point to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:20 AM
123

Amazon, Postmates, a phone with a sophisticated reminder system, there is no reason why he can’t take 5 minutes to order what he needs to make his wife feel special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:17 AM
10

This sounds like exactly what I want. The awkwardness might reveal itself to be him struggling with the balance of wanting to make a move and not coming on too strong before you are ready. Maybe you could just ask him why he seems nervous. It sounds like you want a little more contact, so you could say something a little flirty. If you want more texting or phone calls between dates, tell him. Maybe he wants more communication too but doesn’t want to seem clingy. If he is a HVM and you tell him y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:36 AM
32

A million dollar idea thwarted by a $1 condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:02 PM
31

And somehow the a greater number of different dicks has more impact than if she had sex the same amount of times with fewer dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:59 PM
21

Well, she is ignoring his wants and needs in the bedroom. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:56 PM
11

The only thing that matters in this calculus is that the people in his country treat her like a sideshow freak and it sounds like it’s only a matter of time before someone does more to her than harassment. It’s a no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:51 AM
26

“New phone, who dis?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:45 AM
29

Yep. There are so many things that can be done for free or very little money. Hell, he can just tell me to get ready for some marathon oral after a full body massage. That will go really well for both of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:41 PM
27

Give yourself a break. Figure out how to go about fixing your mistake. Learn your lesson. He is about to learn his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:38 PM
61

Him being broke is a good enough reason to break up with him. Why would you want a man who is likely to become a financial liability? If you have money in your savings account and his car needs a repair to run or his dog needs to see a vet, you will feel obligated to pay. It would be a pleasure to help my partner should he need it, but if he can’t manage his money you aren’t helping him, you are supporting him. And fuck that VD bullshit excuse. Asking you why you seem upset...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:19 PM
9

I think it can best be thought of as how jealous his friends will be when they see you with him. That’s pretty simplistic and no normal man would consciously make that a priority, but everyone does it to an extent. Your partner is a reflection of you so you aren’t going to bring some neck beard to your office Christmas party. The only thing you can do is level up, which you should be doing anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:15 PM
10

It’s kind of important to know what someone’s obligation might be under various circumstances. My ex’s parents were ridiculous narcissists and the options were all terrible should his father die and leave his wheelchair bound mother with MS alone. I made it clear to him that I would never live with either of them and pointed out to him that having never gotten her US citizenship, she might not have health insurance here. She is Canadian, but it’s unlikely she would leave her huge expensive house…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:01 AM
21

Right. They didn’t act like a pickmesha. That kind of confidence is beauty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:43 AM
21

I’m curious about how those women behaved at the beginning and why those men found them compelling. I know a few couples like that too, but I feel like the men in those relationships are very special. They certainly aren’t the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:25 AM
4

I wouldn’t take it that serious. Most of us have Pickmesha tendencies, but they mostly come from a good place. It would be a wonderful world if a woman could could be herself and just start giving love, attention, wife benefits, and sex to men as soon as they begin dating them, but doing those things results in negative outcomes for women. Men don’t appreciate a woman unless they earn her. So, it’s incumbent on each of us to curb our natural tendencies until a man proves he deserves such treatme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:20 AM
86

If a man says he doesn’t want kids but won’t get a vasectomy it’s because he knows it will limit his options with future women. This is why you should only entertain men that are on the same page as you about major life goals like kids, where you will live, aging parents, religion/political views, etc. I only date men who agree with me on important matters or are ambivalent and men should be doing the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:05 AM
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This is the answer to the question the male lurkers ask about what a HVW is and what she brings to the table. It’s irrelevant because those attributes aren’t part of the calculation for a man when he is decides if he wants a woman or not. They simply want the woman they think they deserve to be seen with. If they imagine they can “do better” they will continue to try to do so. If a man thinks he is settling for you, no matter what he says or does to the contrary, he is not fully committed. It’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:01 AM
74

It’s his job to protect his children. How can he do that if he doesn’t know where to find them in an event of an emergency. What if the OP had actually suffered a massive stroke was unable to communicate for a few days? Imagine if her parents or other people he might ask for this information from were unavailable? What would his plan be at that point? I can kind of understand not knowing where the hand mixer is stored or being unaware of the finicky nature of their dryer because you never use th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:52 AM
59

It takes a long time to unlearn all that bullshit. I got bored and changed my settings on an OLD app to include younger men. Chatting with some of them last night after almost 4 months of active participation on FDS and a drastic reduction in dating and no sex, I can definitely see how I have become more aware of Fuckboi tactics, but I am still susceptible to their charms. Obviously, I need more FDS. It’s also easy to see the flaws and faults in someone else’s situation but nearly impossible to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:58 PM
7

Omg, the ads on that article. Fuck. I just remembered reader view. But, I do this too. Not for the same reason, though. I just get super frustrated or I start seeing someone so I delete the app. A few months later I sign up again when I forget about how awful it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:31 PM
1

Sure, if you are seeing a HVM. This man is showing OP that he is not one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:36 PM
8

Tell him you don’t get intimate for X amount of time. The trash will just take itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:04 AM
20

I’m a cheap date. I can’t drink much and I am a vegetarian. My absolute favorite meal out is $9 with tip. I’m not demanding fine dining and I’m pretty good at finding deals on other things, so a date with me is usually going to be $20-$50 for the whole show. I don’t want to make more money than a man I date again as it just causes problems. That means that he should have no issue swinging dates like that indefinitely. I can’t imagine a HVM who makes a decent wage asking me to go Dutch on a $50 c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:52 AM
19

I don’t mind going Dutch on a first date. I mean, there isn’t going to be a second date but I have no expectations that a man should pay for our dates. But, I’m only interested in giving men who do have those expectations my attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:57 AM
68

“It sounds like you are too busy to date me. It was nice chatting with you. Good luck out there.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:54 AM
14

Are you joking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:31 PM
63

I’ve been banned from Tinder. They keep figuring out its me when I find a way to get back on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:07 PM
39

I watched a YouTube video where a skilled seamstress altered a cheap wedding dress to look amazing. She spent what looked like about 30 hours (it would take a newbie probably double the time) and at least another $100 at the fabric store to make it look decent. If I’m going to spend 3/4 of a work week on something in addition to the work I’m already doing, Imma just drop a few Gs on the dress I want and have it altered by a professional to perfectly fit me. At the very least, get a dress from An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:33 PM
9

It was an epic move. It’s a sad commentary that we consider this to be brave and worthy of applause. It should be strange if a woman endured the rest of that date, but unfortunately that is the norm. We are programmed to never make people feel bad no matter what kind of shit they pull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:23 PM
22

I’m not a big fan of compromise. With compromise, everyone loses, at least a little. I’ve found that in most situations one person cares a whole lot more about the outcome, so that person should get to make that decision. I get to pick the restaurant because he never cares and I don’t want to eat garbage or meat. But, I will also cook anything he likes at home and make sure we always have charcoal so he can grill. Sure, there will be times when both people have a dog in the fight, and those are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:18 PM
29

I like to watch some real trash on TV and one thing I learned from 90 Day Fiancé is that even if she gets a divorce, she (or whoever signed up to be responsible for him) is financially responsible for him for a number of years even if they divorce. She is in a real pickle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:03 PM
44

Any man who uses the term ‘Divorce Rape’ is letting you know he won’t take responsibility for anything. They are also letting you know that they don’t see any value in what a woman does in the context of a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:46 AM
11

Is anyone advocating for those kids? What she is doing is dangerous. Where is the father? Where are the grandparents?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:34 AM
39

Months later, it was the choking that made all the difference... They just do this to get themselves off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:50 PM
9

I get about 15 messages a week from dudes who don’t live near me despite making it clear that I don’t want a LDR nor do I wish to hear about why I’m wrong about wanting to be near someone I’m dating. Most of them seem pretty stupid, but there doesn’t seem to be a great explanation for the rest of them. I suspect they just want a pen pal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:47 AM
47

Of course he did. Whether he was having a good time or not, he was going to make sure you thought he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:10 AM
12

His credit score is not 850. That’s almost impossible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:32 AM
35

And they have no issue pointing out a woman’s imperfections. “Your breasts aren’t as perky as they used to be. Why aren’t you doing more work on tightening your belly? It has been almost a year since you gave birth. Why are you mad? I’m just stating facts. This isn’t the body I married (10 years and 2 kids ago). I go to the gym every day and you complain because you need help at home.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:11 PM
21

And for fuck’ sake, stop telling me what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:59 PM
23

How? My dogs stick their faces in each other’s butts and sometimes get in the trash. A dirty diaper or sanitary pad is a delicacy to some dogs. And they don’t ever wash their hands!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:57 PM
184

I have been known to enjoy erotic imagery and literature from time to time, but I don’t have any issues becoming aroused by a man that I find attractive in a normal and vanilla romantic encounter. In fact, I have an issue not becoming aroused when I’m close to a man I like. Just sitting next to him with our thighs touching or sharing an arm rest can drive me nuts. I thought it was women whose arousal was elusive and men who get hard at the slightest breeze or glimpse of a bit of flesh. In my 20s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:55 PM
42

Don’t forget angry. They get really mad about their failed performance, especially if a woman has an unfortunate response due to her ignorance of this issue. But, we all have to learn that saying anything that can be viewed as even a slight negative about a man’s performance or his dick is met with hurt fee fees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:46 PM
46

God damn! Most of these women seem to have given their SO specific directions on how to make her feel like shit. I might be gullible sometimes, but I know that you only treat people you hate like that. These dudes can barely contain their loathing for these women and the women have no idea. These are the same women who hang around for 5-10 years waiting for a proposal, doing most of the housework, paying at least half the bills, suffering through bad or humiliating sex, while watching him play v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:39 AM
19

Then we only have ourselves to blame. At least make a dude give one reason, any reason, to choose him over all the other dicks coming at us. Ladies, if you are in reckless mood and want to scratch an itch with an internet rando, you have your choice. If it’s going to be purely physical, he needs to be the physical embodiment of your perfect man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:23 AM
9

A HVM won’t date that woman at all. He might have sex with her if she offers, but if she doesn’t meet his basic standards, nothing she can do (or not do) will make him want her for even a placeholder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:11 AM
33

I think a lot of it has to do with his judgment of a specific woman. FDS strategy works to help you recognize LVM, but it also works to encourage HVM to put in the work to obtain you. A HVM needs to feel like he has earned your attention. If you give him wife privileges or sex too soon, it diminishes your value in his eyes and he will treat you as a disposable placeholder until someone else comes along that makes him chase her. Men are always complain about women who play games, but we all know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:39 AM
14

Is he at least somewhat attractive? I mean, this is really gross no matter what, but this can’t work for gross old dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:28 AM
70

I don’t understand how it’s possible that men are still doing this. How does this ever work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:11 AM
44

If spending time with you is important to him, he will make time for it even if that means forgoing other important things like sleep. How much time do you require from a new exclusive relationship? Has he been able to provide the time you require so far? You should figure out what you want and find out if he can accommodate that. Lay it out for him what it means to have you all to himself and let him decide if he can manage it without neglecting his other responsibilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:10 AM
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I think men just think radically different from women, so their empathy looks different. Or maybe a better way to imagine it would be to suggest than a woman’s empathy is amplified where a man’s is muted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:05 PM
21

All this proves is that the average woman is so much better looking than the average man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:29 AM
109

Maybe this dude should “greatly caution” men against doing everything in their power (lying, begging, etc.) to get a woman to agree to have unprotected sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:27 AM
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Is financially and emotionally stable...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:53 AM
50

It’s a strategy to recognize and avoid wasting your time on LVM. It’s a strategy to help us understand that being alone is superior to being with dead weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:59 AM
64

Men actually be out here trying to find a woman to support them. You can buy and pack my lunch all week and we will go Dutch when we go out. This happened just today. Two can play dumb. Of course I have experienced just wanting to fuck, but dude you must be dumb if you think I’m going to the internet to scratch that itch. I’m just going to act like I’ve never even heard of a man who would let a woman pay. 🦄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:25 AM
12

I provide a recurring service (cleaning houses) that I ideally will provide until one of us dies or moves. If they want to nickel and dime me, it won’t work out. When times get rough and money is short, services like mine are the first to go. So, if someone has a tight budget before they hire me, I’d rather not get involved. If someone has plenty of money, as most of the people who want to hire me do, and are also trying to negotiate $85 every other week to $80, they are telling me that I don’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:47 AM
23

It’s like when stuff doesn’t go on sale ever. You assign more value to it. I learned long ago to never accept clients who try and negotiate my price. My price is an exceedingly reasonable flat rate for the work I do and it’s nonnegotiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:45 PM
22

This man is broadcasting his abusive nature at full volume and she refuses to hear. It’s going to be years of torment before she extracts what little will be left of her after suffering this abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:24 PM
23

So, he designed a bot to maximize the number of scammers he matches with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:34 PM
28

“They never complain.” - Every Dude That’s a glowing review! But, yeah. They are complaining, just not to you. That’s why you are so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:32 PM
36

She must be. Those must be press on nails placed to look janky. No way they would still look shiny after months of growth (except the pinky).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:29 PM
198

The only women I can imagine who would bother trying to get a free dinner and drinks out of some poor schlub would be a broke hot girl who is way out the schlub’s league. Consider it the audacity tax. I can think of a million better ways to spend the time it takes to suffer through a meal with someone I have absolutely no romantic interest in. My time is more valuable than the cost of even a very fancy dinner. Honestly, I’d rather just heat up some leftovers at home alone than suffer the company…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:12 AM
39

“What is your net worth, old man?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:42 AM
11

You are correct. They probably also want you start providing them with grandchildren.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:40 AM
17

This is human trafficking. They are using this woman for domestic services without pay and you know he does not buy her anything other than the absolute essentials. At the very least, his mother should be paying for her to clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:36 AM
19

Hey! My Border Collies are pretty high value. If you need something herded, they will jump out of bed/off the couch any hour of the day to assist you. They are also available for smelly kisses at the drop of a hat. As many as you can handle. #notallmen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:23 AM
22

You don’t know if he is honest or not yet. If you aren’t exclusive, then he can do whatever he wants as far as other women go. At this point, the two of you are just friends. Either make time for him or cut this one loose and find someone who lives nearer to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:30 AM
1

That’s the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:07 PM
42

Thank you for replicating my study. I’m pretty sure all the ladies who have also done so will report data that supports my hypothesis that dick starts to break down around 40. I actually feel pretty bad for young girls. At least when we older ladies were in our 20s, a properly functioning dick was pretty reliably had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:42 AM
14

I hope you did something nice for your husband in return. Men are trying so desperately to hold onto the power they once enjoyed completely. The world is better for women than it ever has been and they feel like that makes life worse for them. Their response is just a passive aggressive temper tantrum. It’s pathetic because giving to and doing for your partner makes both of you happy and life is undeniably better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:30 AM
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This is a tactic meant to cause more fear in women who want children and feel like time is running out. It’s intended to make women hurry up and settle. But if we remove child bearing from the equation (#childfree), the only possible factor about age to take into consideration is if he can still perform sexually. At 41, my libido is higher than ever. In my anecdotal experience, this is real problem for men over 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:24 AM
12

I’m not seeing what is so disgusting. He sounds like a typical 20M. If anything, he seems a little atypical because he values his friendship more than getting laid. What am I missing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:15 AM
230

Some men don’t want to burden their girlfriends with their financial worries. You aren’t his wife, so it’s not information you are entitled to have so it may be that he didn’t want you to burden you with the knowledge. He may not have wanted you to feel like taking you out and spending money was taking money from his grandmother. I can’t imagine you would be happily ordering expensive meals and drinks like normal if you knew what was going on. He managed to save $20K in three months by only tigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:17 AM
21

No human, with any human body part, could possibly give me an orgasm like my Hitachi Magic Wand. I would still rather have sex with a great lover (who is also a loving masculine man) over the wand any day. If anything, I’d say it made me have better sex and orgasms with a partner because I know exactly how to get there even if takes a little longer with his mouth versus my wand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:43 AM
81

You get a different boyfriend, that’s how. This one is busted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:15 AM
20

I don’t think they have the brains to be that crafty. I think they just simply don’t have much respect for the women who allow this type of treatment. The first time she accepted some bullshit was when it started to go down hill. Now, when he leaves her, he will feel perfectly justified because she didn’t hold herself in high enough esteem to demand bette treatment. That’s why the first time is the last time for the bullshit. Teach these devils!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:14 AM
16

She is so saucy. I’m not trying to be a gold digger, but she has very great advice and some very interesting perspectives. Like her thoughts on T.I.’s daughter. Announcing to the world that your beautiful 18 year old daughter is a virgin and single is a brilliant way to get very wealthy men to try to court her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:11 AM
29

That first comment! WTF? Of course she should dump him. There is no salvaging that relationship. All that time and money she spent on him and his food. He talked that kind of shit to his family about her? Utterly humiliating. I really can’t imagine her cooking could be all that bad in any event.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:07 AM
44

$10 in flowers. $30 dinner. Any kind of romantic gesture that costs nothing. He must not think she is worth that amount of money. It’s really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:01 AM
18

Check out SheRaSeven1 on YouTube. She has a lot of videos about leveling up and advice about being more feminine. This one sounds right up your alley. Her videos are long but you don’t really need to watch most of them, just listen. There are a lot of videos on femininity by black women on YouTube. It looks like you aren’t the one having these problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:58 AM
37

It seems like lots of people, not just MGTOW, make the comparison of FDS to angry and lonely groups of men who hate women. But, we don’t hate men. We love them and we want them to be the best they can be. Not entertaining men who don’t meet the bare minimum of what makes up a decent man is not violence or hatred against men. They can do better and join us or they can just stay in the basement posturing online about how much tail they get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:50 AM
6

Such whiney babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:44 AM
76

Of course that’s where people went. Wanting to be treated to a romantic dinner or get some flowers makes her a gold digger. If they go Dutch on everything (except when she pays the bill or buys the groceries to cook for him) and they live separately, exactly what is he bringing to the table? She is hosting him in her home, cooking him dinner, and offering emotional support all while paying for more than half. Sounds like he is the gold digger here. This scenario is far more common than the rever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:40 AM
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This is a pretty good argument for dating up. Unattractive, short, or subpar in whatever men who are not confident will turn bitter or consider your value diminish by the fact of being with him. A man’s ego is too fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:33 AM
8

Because you are a good person. Don’t worry about him, he will figure it out. He always does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:27 AM
3

For sure, I understand what you meant. But, you know how when you read stuff like that and it applies to yourself, you are COMPELLED to defend yourself. Gross teeth are gross. Chronic bad breath for any reason is completely unacceptable. Anything that indicates poor health is universally unappealing. I’m just happy I didn’t loose the tooth. Before the second root canal, there were times when it felt swollen/loose and it freaked me out. I can’t lose a front tooth!!! Of course I would get an impla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:00 PM
5

I went in for my cleaning on Monday and asked the doctor about the discoloration. He mentioned the bleaching. The dark spot is right along the gum and not very noticeable, even when I smile all the way. I have been treating that tooth delicately all my life. It’s the one that freaks me out the most during a cleaning. I feel like some things are better left alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:46 PM
17

I injured a tooth that required a root canal when I was a kid. The material they used to replace the root oxidized and left the tooth dark when I had the root canal redone 25 years later. It’s not very visible in my mouth, but it’s not there as a result of poor oral hygiene, it’s there as a result of taking the proper and expensive steps to save the tooth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:25 PM
59

It does seem like an unusual thing for a man to bring up on a first date, or really ever. It seems so disingenuous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:47 AM
192

Do you ever play dumb and ask them what the other love languages are? Or ask if that means they only become intimate with women they love and don’t hook up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:27 AM
46

Thanks! Spend you money on yourself. Here is a matte, enjoy!🧉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:06 AM
28

You are giving him the gift of not annoying him sometimes. It’s a gift that keeps on giving. No need to disrupt that now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:08 AM
18

Stop dating and focus on yourself. You aren’t ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:56 AM
10

These are the kind of people who NEED religion to prevent them from doing wrong. If it were not for the opinions of their peers, they would behave like complete monsters. As it is, they only do shitty things they think they can hide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:55 AM
304

Yeah dude, you can do better. How about living your life like the women you date (or choose not to date) are actual people with feelings who deserve to be treated with respect? How about when you find someone you like and get along with, you commit yourself to building a life with that person instead of constantly worrying about “doing better?” Your girlfriend isn’t a car, you don’t upgrade people you care about and who believe you care about them for a better model?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:51 AM
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“FDS is just a toxic echo chamber filled with bad dating advice for bitter old cat ladies that no man will have.” - LVM of Reddit Meanwhile, more and more women are flocking to a group of supportive women for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:41 AM
36

The men I come to care about become insanely attractive to me. For men, it’s the other way around. They will only consider becoming attached to women who they think are the most attractive women they can pull. You know, someone with looks their friends will be impressed by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:36 AM
107

I simply do not understand this kind of jealousy. She isn’t grinding on him in a club. She isn’t sliding into his DMs. How is a stranger having a innocuous conversation on the street a threat to the GF? Does he BF typically cheat on her with total strangers in public right in front of her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:26 AM
4

Why is he asking about your dick? Why does he have two? What is happening here beside the gross racism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:17 AM
30

Exactly. Men raping other men is almost analogous to men raping women. Compare apples to apples if you must make a comparison. Yes, what that woman did was rape and it’s wrong. But, let’s not act like we all know a woman who has done something like that. Let’s also not act like the overwhelming majority of women have not been the victim of something like that. I will happily take the issue of women assaulting and raping men seriously after men start taking the much more serious issue of violence…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:30 PM
50

In college there was a girl in our friend group who would always get way too drunk and end up making out with some random man or woman. A male friend of ours took her home with him to sleep it off and he woke up to her having sex with him. She is a small woman and he is a very large man. Did he feel violated? Yes. Did he feel fear? No. Was he compelled to “just let her finish” to prevent even more unpleasantness? No, he picked her up off his body and removed himself from the situation. Was he tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:10 PM
17

Reported rape/attempted rape? If so, double it for a more accurate statistic. There is very little upside to reporting a rape. Justice comes at a high personal cost. Most people just want to try to never think about it again, not have their character dragged through the mud while they relive it over and over again in front of dozens of people who want to not believe you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:20 AM
12

Yeah, try to accidentally put something the size of your dick up your ass, fuckface. It’s not possible to do so without a lot of force and lots of unendurable pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:16 AM
15

I don’t know any women who haven’t been molested, assaulted, or raped. By men. I know a few men who were molested as children as well. Also by men. I know zero women who have made false accusations of rape against men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:13 AM
46

So, this man felt so much fear when he met a woman who was older and fatter than she led him to believe in his profile that he needed to be rescued? He couldn’t just walk out the front door?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:59 AM
2

And 1000 calories per pint. McDonald’s ice cream is in no way actual food, but it tastes nice and has far fewer calories. It’s a crutch, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:34 AM
11

Stop being available to chat if you aren’t looking for internet chatting. Respond perfunctorily and minimally, but don’t engage in full blown conversation. If he wants to talk with you, he should get the hint and ask you out. Meanwhile, keep swiping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:30 AM
9

Good, I’m glad. I’m talking to myself as much as I’m talking to anyone else. I didn’t get McDonald’s ice cream on the way home from dropping my friend off at the airport last night. I passed two McDonald’s on the way home even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:12 AM
43

The thing about self improvement is that you begin to see and feel the benefits as soon as you being working toward you goal. We all know how good it feels to get everything done we planned to do, to have a great eating day and for having made it to yoga or spin class, and for resisting urges to succumb to whatever bad habits we are trying to change. No matter how much weight you have to lose, debt you need to pay off, or emotional work you need to do every day that you are working toward that g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:16 AM
16

Do you need a new car? How is your son’s college fund looking? What about your house, do you need a new roof or boiler? When was the last time you went on a tropical vacation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:30 PM
16

Sounds fake to me too. But, ‘rather being with a 21 year old’ and getting a 21 year old to date you are two different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:38 PM
51

Girl, he owes you four years of back pay. Take that pile of shit for a ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:33 PM
13

45 and just wants casual? That shit irritates me no end. Grow up already, you don’t qualify to be a fuck boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:30 PM
9

But what about the sex they are owed? /s The solution to almost every superficial problem is hard work. I’ve traveled to quite a few third world countries and having seen how hard it can be to get ahead elsewhere, it has made me really appreciate the opportunities my country offers for people with a good work ethic. Most people aren’t going to become part of the 1%, but neither are they doomed to a life of poverty simply by circumstance of birth. Get another job. Get more education or attend a t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:42 AM
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A HVM will not pursue a woman who doesn’t have the qualities he wants in a partner. But, the reality of how most men decide who they want to be with has very little to do with her cooking and cleaning skills and if she will be a nurturing mother or not. Most men don’t care about a woman’s job (except when she earns more than he does) education, or what kind of home life she had growing up. Maybe the only real concern other than looks would be social status but only for men with who are part of h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:22 AM
100

That woman is so sexy. No one in their right mind (read: a decent human being) would suggest this woman was not perfect just as she is physically. The dress is not a choice I would make even if I had her body, but I don’t have her body and she can choose whatever outfit she feels like wearing. The confidence is goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:01 AM
96

They never seem to understand that unless they are smoking hot, they need to supply a reason for a woman on Tinder to pick them from among the shotgun blast of dicks coming at them on OLD and everywhere else. Saying disgusting things straight out of the gate can not possibly work on the overwhelming majority of women no matter what he looks like. And yet, they persist. I love sex, but why should I take on the inherent risks associated with meeting a rando from Tinder, no matter how hot he is, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:53 AM
33

If it’s a first date, he isn’t my man. He isn’t my man until he shows me that he wants to be by acting like a HVM. Honestly, I have no expectations that a man will pay for everything when we are in a committed relationship unless he is exceedingly wealthy. I’m not a gold digger, I not looking for a sugar daddy. I’m looking for a partner and when and if I find him, we will build a better life together than either of has on our own. But, I’m sure as shit not supporting another man again (barring i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:30 AM
208

“How dare you suggest I pay for sexual services! I would never pay for it. You should do these things for free for me!” Um, why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:31 PM
16

If her husband was truly worried that she would die in childbirth, why would he get her pregnant? If he loved her, why wouldn’t her possible death be the reason for deciding to never have children? This is so fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:37 AM
57

My boys are old men. It’s been really cold and they have been having a hard time staying outside in the yard for more than a few minutes before they have to come back in to warm up. They just sort of wilt. It’s pretty easy to choose to stay home with them every night and let them in and out 25 times a night (they still want to be out there patrolling and barking at cars, they just can’t do it for very long right now) instead of going on dates with dudes who call me ‘Love’ before even meeting me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 09:19 AM
46

Your response seemed nice. He doesn’t deserve anyone being nice to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:07 AM
34

That’s a pretty dumb move for a man whose father is about to announce his bid for the presidency. Even Trump understands he needs to pay his indiscretions off to keep them quiet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:05 AM
71

Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:00 AM
6

You shouldn’t confront him because that could put in danger. But, if you do tell him that your friend (maybe a different friend, a male one) told you what he said and the two of you were in stitches about how ridiculously fragile his ego is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:50 AM
11

Grain of salt with this one, sister. I wouldn’t put him past him, but it doesn’t exactly ring true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:44 AM
9

No, because most of them aren’t all that good looking. I want a man who enters a room with confidence, who makes me feel safe and protected, and who I can rely on to take care of what needs to be done and do it properly. That is part of where the appeal of successful men comes in, if you can succeed in your work, you can be relied upon to be helpful and fully functional in your home life as well. You know, so I don’t have to do it all myself if I want it done right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:21 PM
19

Most men like women to not be too thin. They like chubby girls, fat girls, thick girls, and some even like super size women. Women are generally more attractive than men. I’m 5’11 and my cut off is about 5’7”. I understand that being taller than the average man limits my choices, but everyone has a right to have preferences. I find plenty of short men attractive but the one thing they all have in common is that they aren’t concerned by their height. Being short and insecure is the part that wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:13 PM
2

I think it’s amusing to make fun of someone like that en masse. These trolls are deluded if they think their pathetic efforts have any impact on the women here. We are here because our old ways of allowing their bullshit yielded nothing but misery and financial burden. We are here because the advice here rings true and they are here for the same reason. HVM are not trolling FDS users trying to convince us to lower our standards. They probably have no idea about all the bullshit LVM try to pass o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:55 PM
34

Some people don’t want to be seen chatting on dating apps for various reasons, but the most likely they don’t want to be seen by their wife or girlfriend on said apps. I just tell them I don’t give out my number until after I meet someone and if they argue, I block or unmatch. When it comes to my boundaries for online dating or what I want from a relationship, if a man tries to convince me I’m wrong I’m out. We aren’t debating politics or discussing ideas, he is required to respect my wishes or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:35 PM
1

I slept all day yesterday. Does that count? Hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:09 PM
27

Being in a relationship might kill you, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:08 PM
16

Yeah, who else would spend time scrutinizing people’s faces like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:26 AM
5

I wear lashes, fill in the brows, a small amount of concealer to even out the cheeks and give my blush something to grab onto, bronze up the high points and do a shimmery blush on the cheeks and in the crease of the eye. (The matching cheeks and crease is easy and looks amazing) I’m terrible at remembering to do a lip, but I have so many! This takes me about 5 minutes after the sunscreen step in my skincare routine now that I have perfected my lash technique. I really notice a huge jump in the a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:55 AM
1

Yeah, they think they do. Most people are too nice to call them out and just ghost. This allows the men to make up whatever reason makes them feel good about why they were rejected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:44 AM
82

He looks ‘special.’ I’m sure his carer thought this was a nice thing to do for a man who will never get a woman to voluntarily touch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:19 AM
16

So, he expects women to pay for dates with him? Does he expect her to pay all the household bills too? What exactly does this broke bitch bring to the table? Dries me right up. I will wait for a real man. If he can find a woman to date his broke ass, great. But, he can’t whine his way into a date with a HVW and he isn’t making any women here change their minds. Just think how much money he would have for dates if he spent all the time he does here harassing women who find him pathetic working at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:42 AM
6

I don’t answer any questions I don’t want to. I just ask a new question that needs to be answered to find out if I’m interested. Or turn it around and ask him why he is single. Those aren’t questions that have an innocent motivation or the man is bad at making conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:09 PM
7

It might be time for a wardrobe update. It sounds like your clothes don’t fit you well. You need to figure out what styles and fabrics work best for you body type and stick with those. Shapewear helps a lot of use feel great in out clothes. Nordstrom offers personal stylists or if you aren’t near one, you can order a bunch of different pieces online and return anything easily via mail. There are clothing subscription services like Gwynniebee so you can actually wear items and purchase if you cho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:04 PM
3

This whole paragraph is giving me a UTI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:53 PM
2

I had to be told too. I’m not above being a little shady sometimes, but for the most part I find being honest to be the easiest way to go about my life. Honest people don’t suspect other people of dishonesty and don’t casually tell lies like that. It feels wrong. I don’t want to date someone who doesn’t feel that moral block when it comes to lies because he probably has no problem doing even worse things. Any kind of lie on a dating profile, including lies by omission, should be an immediate and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:52 PM
2

Hahah, that is actually a pretty effective argument. He isn’t going to retort with the information about it being all over the straight porn he watches all day or that the humiliation aspect turns him on. Just dig your heels into that ignorance and act all sus about his sexuality. He will shut up. Or, if he really won’t shut up about it make a nice big pot of bean soup and go to his house when you start to feel all that fiber working its magic. Flee in horror and leave the mess for him. I bet he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:44 PM
27

A lot of people in OLD lie about their age. They lie about lots of things that will be easy to discover in person. It’s pathetic, but I think it works because no one calls them out on it. In the past, when met with some bullshit like this, I would just ghost to avoid the awkward conversation (and likely abuse) of having to tell them it’s because they are waaay fatter or older than they led me to believe. I’m not perfect and my pictures are all good ones where I look my best, but I show my full b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:14 AM
7

I hope she knows that she can request her paycheck be deposited via direct deposit into more than one account. That woman really needs to be covertly siphoning off a portion of each of those three check into a bank account that only she has access to, ideally at a different bank from the one she and her husband use. That woman needs to start stashing away her money for a rainy day that isn’t too far in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:37 AM
24

Well, the only sex acts that can be considered gay are the ones done with someone of the same sex. Nothing a man does with a woman is gay.But, if a man wants to pursue that flawed line of thinking then him wanting to fuck your ass is just as gay. There really is no way to argue your way into performing a sex act that your partner doesn’t consent to doing. Enthusiastic consent is the standard. Anything is else is manipulative at best and assault at worst. If your partner requires something sexual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:09 AM
40

This guy might actually think he is being cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:40 AM
62

I have tried this tactic before. I doubt it’s very effective at changing their view, but it is very effective for getting them to leave you alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:51 AM
80

Yeah, it’s much more pleasurable for men because they have prostate glands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:49 AM
48

‘Helping’ As if it’s not his responsibility as well as hers to keep his environment in a livable condition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:49 PM
25

Lots of aspects of sex would seem humiliating or degrading when taken out of the context of a loving and committed relationship. Even mundane sex likes like giving oral sex can be viewed as degrading when not given and received with love. What you do in the bedroom is a private thing between you and your man. The things that bring you pleasure are the things a loving partner will do for you to bring you pleasure, within reason. A HVM may be taken aback by the idea of some of your more radical fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:36 PM
103

These men don’t consider the work a woman does raising children and running a household as having any value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:38 AM
31

Gold diggers and the men who can afford to buy them may as well be another species. For us regular folks, they are simply not an option or an issue. It’s like having a thing for Brad Pitt, it’s a non-issue for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:26 AM
41

Oh, girl! Don’t judge yourself based on the men who approach you! The LVM approach everyone with tits and a pulse. It has nothing to do with you. Only 10% of the people who approach you on OLD are not sub-human because only 10% of the men using OLD are not sub-human. You have great stats! Just block the trash and don’t put too much energy or time into OLD. It’s a very shitty tool for finding men worth your time, but it isn’t impossible to do so if you can detach and be patient. If your self-este…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:03 AM
7

There is a pretty steep learning curve and it’s very frustrating. If you are ever unsure, bring it on back to your pals at FDS and let us help you decide if someone is worth your time or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:49 AM
41

He must not have been that into you. This isn’t a judgement about you. He knows not paying on a date is taking a risk that you won’t see him again and he decided to take that risk. Men will not take any risk with a woman that he really wants. That being said, I have been on dates with HVM from OLD that went okay, they paid, and then turned out to not be interested in me. I’m okay with being rejected, lord knows I do it often enough myself. But, the man still proved himself to be a HVM by acting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:47 AM
21

There are lots of high value women on dating sites. Many FDS ladies use them for many reasons even though we understand it is a shit show. It stands to reason that there will be HVM who also use them for those same reasons. The issue is that all LVM who are looking for women are also using OLD. They make online dating so tiresome that it’s easy to get discouraged and assume it’s all just creeps who use OLD. The trick is to have a rigid vetting process. Let them approach you, never approach them.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:31 AM
94

Can you imagine one man complimenting another for taking a shower or doing his laundry? Let them compliment each other for basic life skills if it will save their lives. The only being I am going to recognize for accomplishing the basic things I expect from him is my fucking dog. Good boy goes potty outside! Good boy who ate all his breakfast. Thank you for the nice kisses. I’ll be over here giving people compliments for things that deserve recognition as I always do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:07 AM
15

And you become Bar Mitzvah, you don’t make it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:45 PM
33

In my experience, most men are low value and low effort. Probably about 3 billion. But, it’s not like being LV can’t be rectified. The more women who refuse to accept what little they have to offer, the more of them there will be who up their game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:44 PM
7

Are you over 35? I’ve gotten it as well. It’s a scammer. I used to think only men were the targets of OLD scammers, but I suspect they are targeting women over 35 now as well because we are ‘desperate’. They usually have many pictures of a good looking man who appears to be around 30 year old but the profile says 40-50 years old. The bio is usually pretty well written, but I’ve seen some that read like a woman’s bio. Sometimes they use the wrong pronouns. On POF, it’s pretty obvious because they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:02 AM
89

I used to be a Pickmeisha before I found this sub a few months ago and all I found were dusty losers who wanted to move into my house, live off my income, smoke all my weed, and contribute nothing to making our lives better. So, I need to leave this sub and go back to doing what clearly wasn’t working to find a good man??? That’s some logic for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:10 PM
3

Ewwwee. I didn’t even notice his weird hair patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:41 PM
175

Get healthy, get a job, get his own place and keep it clean, shower and shave, and make things other than gaming a priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:17 AM
29

Unattractive men are also really bad at taking rejection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:26 AM
123

This picture is borderline obscene. Put on a shirt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:13 AM
11

Most people are pretty set in their ways about how they spend money. I don’t think much will change by voicing your concern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:02 AM
88

I wonder why this dude can’t seem to get laid without paying a woman $30K?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:51 AM
38

Don’t shit where you eat. Enjoy the flattery, but unless you plan to find another job, don’t date your boss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:50 AM
3

Sorry, but I don’t really buy into online gossip, especially Lipstick Alley. Regardless of these obscure accusations about his personal behavior, his message on his YouTube videos is spot on with FDS in my experience. I could be wrong and we both are free to believe what we choose, but the fact remains that he is currently FDS approved. I would not have made this post if he weren’t. If you have more evidence than one online gossip forum, maybe you should supply it to the mods so they can re-eval…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:41 PM
8

You should have put the part about this being four ago at the beginning. This is outrageous, but most of us have similar stories from our own past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:57 PM
21

A man will always tell you how what you want is wrong if he can’t or doesn’t want do the work to give you what you want. You want a man who has his life, health, and finances in order who takes care of his responsibilities AND to whom you are attracted? How dare you have such outrageous standards? Of course, it’s perfectly fine for them to have all kinds of requirements for the women they date but we need to give subpar a chance. A chance to what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:24 PM
6

I find his videos very useful. I don’t know anything about his personal life or accusations against him. I do know that he seems to anger the men who are also enraged by FDS. In, my experience he seems to support all women, including black women. Lipstick Alley has some rather nasty speculations about SheRaSeven1 too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:54 PM
2

He’s on the list of FDS approved YouTubers. It’s just a PSA, not an assignment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:19 PM
3

He is on the list of FDS approved YouTubers. Check the wiki.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:18 PM
66

There is no getting around that fact that if a man really wants to impress a woman, he would never risk not picking up the check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:04 AM
3

Are you communicating solely via email and text? Have you tried calling him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:57 AM
23

It’s not effortless to be on the bottom. Just because I can’t move doesn’t mean I’m not doing anything. If I’m not providing resistance and maintaining the proper angle, it simply won’t work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:53 AM
14

Satire does seem to be the origin of a lot of internet bullshit lately. Flat Earther shit must have originated as an Onion article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:48 AM
49

Yaaaassss! Please stop trying to get me and ladies with the same goals as me to perform the services of a professional for free. Everyone wins!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:44 AM
37

Vomitron 9000! Hahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:27 AM
14

Sold. I am excited to shed some baggage that is holding me back without my knowledge. I have one more book to earn my $20 credit from Audible for completing a challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:13 AM
18

He knows you are still on dating apps. He will be able to bring up the exclusivity conversation again by asking you about that. You could always mention the apps too if you want to nudge him bring it up. I’m sure it will come up naturally again soon, especially if you don’t plan on sleeping with him until you are exclusive. The thing about HVM is they are not okay with you dating other men if they want to pursue something serious with you. He will want to be clear about your status if he wants t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:11 AM
67

Me too. The young ones are so much less complicated and very eager to please. I went through a phase in 2018 and it seemed like someone told these 20 somethings that they are required to dive head first into a woman’s crotch before anything else can happen and they don’t act like they are entitled to head. Having read stories from women of all ages, I suspect this behavior is not the norm when these same guys sleep with younger women. Only about half of the age appropriate men that I have taken …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:37 AM
23

She isn’t going to hear it. Her worry isn’t about her emotional and physical safety, it’s about him looking like a creep for grooming/dating his granddaughter. She thinks she is in love with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:24 AM
13

Defending yourself like this is pathetic. Stop begging dude, you fucked this one up. Take it as a lesson and do better next time, Sir. But, this behavior is very unappealing and pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:21 AM
39

Hey ladies, I don’t wear a condom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:18 AM
16

Block him on text too. You don’t need to hear what he has to say when he done pouting about you being too run down to take care of him. It will be all bullshit and you don’t want to risk your compassionate nature allowing you to forgive him and let him back into your life. You don’t need a man in your life who can’t take care of you for a few days when you need it. You will get sick, you will experience injuries, you will probably give birth. These are all times when you will not be able to put …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:58 PM
21

Men want to go back to ‘traditional values’ (read: women as property) but they don’t want to give up the benefits of a woman who can work and earn her own money. This always makes me think about the flawed incel logic surrounding the good old days when fathers used to arrange marriages for their daughters who had little say in the choice. The incels imagine that if women were not free to choose their husbands that they would somehow be more likely to get woman. As father might choose an unattrac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:48 PM
12

Most musicians don’t make much money. I wonder if anyone told this dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:27 PM
18

Change all your password while you are it. If you can lock your old phone remotely, even better. And if you are feeling spicy after that is done, change his passwords too. This is petty, I’m aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:25 PM
23

I have two dogs. They are litter mates and despite being pretty healthy and hale, at almost 13 years old it’s hard not to think about their mortality so I try to spend as much time with them as possible. How can I be lonely with two 65 pound dogs that worship me to kiss and pet and snuggle? If you can, get a pet. Honestly, I am starting to think dogs are superior to men for my emotional needs. Speaking as a very randy lady, the longer I go without sex, the less I seem to feel that drive to do so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:07 AM
29

Flawless logic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:52 AM
17

And since I didn’t answer your question at all: they respond like that because they have done shit like that in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:49 AM
27

A HVM will respond with anger directed at the perpetrator. Any other response means you are dealing with a pile of shit. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:47 AM
33

What if he can’t afford to date or pay his bills? Um, then he shouldn’t be dating. He should be spending his time figuring out his financial situation. Almost all superficial problems can be solved by getting another job, my guy. We all need to pay for the things we want, no one is owed anything. I can’t afford to date a man that broke. (I can, but fuuuudge that!) What kind of man wants a woman paying for him? Oh, an LVM. The kind no one wants. Boo hoo, I want to have everything I want but I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:31 AM
8

You can recover it if you feel regret. I’m sure they warned you about the time limit for that. I bet you won’t even notice after a few days. Reddit does suck up a lot of my time, but I’m basically only on this sub and I still find it illuminating and thought provoking. I created a throwaway just for this sub three months ago because I felt protective of my main alt. I have only logged into that twice since and now I don’t care about it at all. Funny, that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:14 AM
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I love when someone’s who is ostensibly single on an online dating site tries to make you feel bad for being single on an online dating site. Sick burn, my guy. “Now I know why you are single!” Because I’d rather be single than lower my standards or decrease my quality of life? Why are you single? Because no one will lower their standards for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:08 AM
42

I deleted Facebook a million years ago, before everyone had Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat too. I never really looked back. They are filled with so much toxicity and suck down so much of your time that they really don’t add value to my life. They are also filled with ads for things I don’t want to be advertised to me. I think social media is another addiction that people think they require.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:03 AM
9

I’m trying to imagine the Downton Abbey fellows with their personal butlers who assist them with their costume changes a few times a day. I can appreciate a man who serves his country, but I have a very hard time imagining his superiors not trying to keep him well out of harm’s way. It’s also hard to imagine that promotions and opportunities weren’t more available to him compared to a regular enlisted man. But, I take your point that he isn’t just an entitled rich boy who is afraid to get his ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:53 AM
20

I’m 5’11” and I dated two men last year that were 6’7”. (They were also both named Ben.) It’s amazing to feel that small with a man. I loved being able to climb all over them without fear of hurting them. I loved being picked up by a man who wasn’t struggling. The taller the better for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:34 PM
24

I guess his wife finds his performance pretty forgettable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:27 PM
10

Most of my clients are like this. The men know how to treat their wives and they understand their responsibilities. The women respond in kind. They aren’t as rare as a a unicorn, they are just already married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:26 PM
14

I’m out of this loop. Is Harry really all that masculine? I can’t imagine he has ever had to split wood or change the oil in his car. Maybe my idea masculinity is overly influenced by the region in which I live...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:21 PM
37

He says he is married and judging from the likely headless photo and the emojis, she isn’t aware that he is trolling for ass on Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:06 AM
76

“I’m actually kind of overwhelmed. There are so many people to choose from! How is it on your end?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:04 AM
58

No, let’s definitely poo poo men cheating on their wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:57 AM
5

I had an older friend who was a stripper. She had a married ‘customer’ who did crazy things like pay off her student loans and buy her expensive gifts. He would routinely come see her and occupy her attention at the club all night and she would leave with a $1000-$2000 check. This went on for years. She was adamant that she didn’t have sex with him. Compared to the other girls, I’m sure she was far more entertaining to talk with, but I simply can’t imagine any man paying a woman that much money …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:30 PM
2

The values you want are something a man has at any age. He will have learned how to be a good and loving person as a child from having good parents or, more rarely, from learning how not to be from shit parents. A young man simply has not had the time to develop the skills/get the education required to support a family. You can certainly find a young man who will become the partner that you desire, but it’s a bad idea to invest in someone’s potential. It’s probably better for young women to get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:18 PM
15

The description of Tinder in the App Store makes no mention of it being a hookup app. I delight in telling this to the fuck bois this when they get mad about the fact that I don’t want to hook up with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:30 AM
14

I thought that was a dick pick at first glance! Hahah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:21 AM
2

I’m gaining insight myself with every post I read and every comment I make. Most of the time, I’m just talking to myself! So, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:23 PM
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It must be so humiliating. Most of those guys can’t even convince one woman to entertain them. I’m sure there are slick guys slick who are managing a bunch of women, but I simply can’t imagine they spend much time on Reddit talking about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:45 AM
11

https://youtu.be/Fvv83jYh8pA Jenna Marbles Babying Her Dogs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:24 AM
12

I have a hard time blocking people I’ve dated as well. Part of it is definitely I felt that it stroked my ego when they came crawling back. They always come back. But, I now know it’s not because they like me, they just want to see if they can have easy sex again. I also love to shoot them down when they do. A false ego boost and being a dick to someone (no matter how much they deserve it) aren’t exactly noble motivations and this behavior doesn’t serve me. I need to get over myself and start bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:09 AM
31

The really annoying part is that men want you to get all dolled up when you go out with them because it reflects on them to be seen with a well put-together woman. Hair extensions can increase your beauty significantly. Fake lashes/extensions look amazing. Hiding a blemish or some discoloration and your dark circles pays dividends. These things all take a lot of time and money and we go to all the effort to maintain this routine because we love the way we look afterwards just as much as men. I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:42 PM
36

The makeup thing annoys me to no end. Yes, I look better with makeup, but I’m still recognizable without it. (Your Superman/Clark Kent analogy is beautiful.) Sure, it’s possible to make drastic changes with makeup, but most women have neither the time nor the skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:02 PM
8

I’m reading The Year of the Flood right now. After I finish this trilogy, I’ll do The Robber Bride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:47 PM
11

He knows what he did was wrong. He’s just unaccustomed to being held accountable for his shitty actions. It’s really brave what you are doing. Very few women have the strength and courage to stand up for themselves, but everyone needs to do what is right for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:45 PM
45

I had a fuck buddy last year who I thought was MIA. He came back out of no where and tried to act like he wanted to return some DVDs I’d loaned him then tried to hit me up for sex. I hadn’t eaten anything all day and it was around dinner so I told him I would need to eat first. I literally needed to eat, I could not have sex without eating first but he wanted to make it clear that we were ‘just friends.’ Yeah, friends eat sometimes. I just went to the the Thai drive through on the corner and ate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:27 AM
8

Tell him how you feel about the offensive behavior and see how he responds. If he gets all butt hurt, dump him. If he is responds well but does it again, dump him. No one is perfect and sometimes we need to work things out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:38 AM
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Ah, six kids he for whom he abandoned all responsibility. Get a fucking vasectomy you pile of shit! I hope they get together and file a class action lawsuit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:12 AM
117

What a wordsmith! You used to look so secluded? Now, tell us what he is embarrassed about from the good old days!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:09 AM
65

You’d think before you invested that much money in a very specific educational track, someone would let you know how much risk you will be taking and how little the establishments you work for do to protect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:34 AM
20

Yeah, because that is one of the terms they use to try and shame you for getting mad about things you should be mad about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:24 AM
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A few years ago I was at the gym in the locker room getting dressed alongside a few other ladies. One young woman was bending over tying her shoes or something and I saw that she was wearing a gun when her shirt raised up. I was too curious not ask why she was packing and she told me because she was a massage therapist. Oh, enough said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:11 AM
10

I scanned your post and comment history. Exactly what is the problem? I didn’t scour your history, but I got the gist. What have you said that is so offensive? You aren’t even particularly controversial. I’m going to need this neck beard to clarify exactly where you went wrong. Or is being a woman with self-respect who is trying to uplift other women your crime? I also want all the men who are bothered by your good nature to self identify. This reminds me of an OLD bio I made that was admittedly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:04 AM
9

The important part about being a good person is the ability to recognize when you are indulging in a negative behavior and making an effort to change. It’s okay if someone points out a flaw and you react defensively at the time, but upon later reflection you take the criticism into consideration. A pile of shit is not introspective and does nothing to improve himself or his situation. This is a person who blames everyone else and is not capable of taking any responsibility in any situation. Or, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:15 AM
4

I’m watching the Good Place again and they were just in the Museum of Human Misery in the Hall of Low-Grade Crappiness. There is a display of the first person to send an unwanted picture of his genitals. Dude is using one of those old timey cameras on his crotch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:01 AM
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Those proportions are disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:16 AM
6

Yeah, I know. But, I like to play coy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:40 AM
12

Look at him and think about something sexy. Imagine you are bluntly telling him what you would like to do him while looking in his eyes, then look away. Try wearing a sexy body suit or lingerie under you clothes. I like to lean back in my seat across from a man and have a nice stretch. Men seem to love my ribs for some reason.😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:38 AM
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I went to the courthouse to pay a bill for an ex for with his money. The clerk was crafty and suggested we peek through his file. He didn’t just have temporarily revoked license like he said, a felony DUI means a permanently revoked license in my state. Um, you can never legally drive? Like, I will always be responsible for all transportation for both of us? Nope. This was a million years ago. I didn’t have any self esteem yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:05 AM
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If he is waiting too long to respond, delete his number and assume he isn’t that interested. If he comes back in 2-3 days and asks for a second date, it’s your call if you would like to see him again. You should tell him that you would like better communication from him in the future at that point. You can ask him to formally end text conversations if you don’t like feeling like he just stopped responding. If he waits 2 weeks, “Who is this?” If you have been on a number of dates and he wants to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:23 AM
15

It’s funny that that dude wants to act like he has ever had the need for a pressed shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:04 AM
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This seems like the kind of thing you would say when you want someone to do the rejecting for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 07:31 AM
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I think a lot of these men just write this kind of ad to titillate themselves because it’s very unlikely that anyone is going to respond. He might get a response from a pro, but he’s probably the kind of guy who would be offended by the idea that he would have to compensate a woman to make this appealing to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:16 PM
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I too have noticed a drop off of attraction after dating someone a while, but I feel like that is correlated to how much irritation has built up over time. As I get to know a man, he always proves to be much less of a man that I thought and my attraction dies. We all make stupid mistakes, but if someone never learns from those mistakes or refuses to take steps now that will benefit him later, I lose respect for that person and the attraction. As far as your current relationship and sexual attrac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 05:22 AM
6

Put on a shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:06 AM
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I went on a first date last night with a man who had been divorced for almost 3 years following a 24 year married. He was definitely rusty on how to handle things. He wanted to prolong our date and didn’t know what to suggest, so he offered watching TV at his house. I declined and he understood perfectly. He really didn’t know what to offer me but he was clearly amenable to anything I wanted to do. I think we need to make allowances for men who mean well but might be a bit rusty or unaware of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 07:12 PM
2

Where I live, mechanics and other service providers including dentists have schedules that are always booked. That kind of shady thing isn’t really a problem here because there is more work than people to do it. Fixing my jaw would be the work of an orthodontist and that guy’s schedule is probably booked 2 months out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:19 PM
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Oh, girl you have to give yourself a break. If there is an obvious theme in this subreddit, it’s that all the women here have had a litany of shitty dates and dudes in their life. It’s not because they are unappealing or unlovable it deficient in some way. It’s men. It’s really discouraging when you know there are HVM out there and we all know couples who have wonderful relationships yet we seem to only attract losers. I think the issue isn’t who we attract, it’s who we pick from the men who are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:11 AM
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I have a fairly considerable underbite. When I was young, I absolutely hated it but I learned to keep my jaws open at rest so it isn’t as noticeable, but I’ve definitely got a pronounced jawline. When I got older, I got an estimate of $20K to fix it by breaking bits off my jaw and wiring it shut for six months. Once I realized that fixing it was out of reach for me, I basically forgot about it. Fast forward to a few years ago I went to a new dentist for a cleaning after an insurance change and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:29 AM
2

It’s five months out. What happens if you break up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:17 AM
21

If you are ever being irrational because of a misunderstanding, someone who loves you will be gentle when trying to help you understand. Not only that, if an action that upsets you is as meaningless as liking photos on the internet, someone who cares about you will stop doing that thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:03 AM
15

This is why I have a dash cam. I’m not having, “Sweetheart, I don’t think things happened the way you say they did.” said to me ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:49 AM
15

Exactly. Now, you need to figure out to properly respond to him when an issue arises. Being a nut case will not evoke the familiar response, it will only confuse him and add to your frustration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 03:00 AM
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I need anxiety to feel love. I met a man like this and I too felt the lack of spark as a sign that there was no chemistry. When it went sideways due to the narcissistic ex-wife, I lost my mind with love and grief. Give it time. Women can fall in love with anyone, they do it with shitheads all the time. You are in a great position to judge him objectively because your feelings aren’t clouding your judgment. Love won’t be blind here for you, it will be calculated. As he proves his value and devoti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:03 AM
5

You are right. What kinds of self defense classes and weapons training do you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:56 AM
48

Fuck your dad. This is why women don’t come forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:49 AM
34

My friend told me about a Tinder date he had recently. The gal he was chatting with wanted to meet him despite it being around 9PM but she didn’t have a car. He was game to pick her up and go for a beer but when he arrived she had her young daughter with her. As soon as she got in his vehicle, she lit up a cigarette without even asking. He drove them to a nice place that serves only microbrews. He then finds out she had already had a 6 pack and was living in an inexpensive housing situation that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:44 AM
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A big part of who we choose as our partner has to do with the perceived social status that person has and can give us by virtue of willingly choosing to be with us. A man wants his friends to be jealous of him for being able to secure a beautiful and accomplished woman. No matter how lovely and charming your mail order bride may be, everyone still knows he bought her rather than won her affections. Everyone knows why she is with him and they laugh behind his back. My guy, it’s so much easier to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:35 PM
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I thought the woman was the grey at first! What a little bitch! This man has his FDS down, though. You go Man-Queen, don’t accept anything but the highest caliber Red Lobster dinner paid for by your lady!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:44 PM
10

I make new names for everyone I care about. And all the animals in my life. For me, names are constantly evolving. I fucking hate being call any generic pet name, especially by someone I’ve never met. I feel like that is the kind of thing that has to be earned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:44 AM
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That link will also take you to where you can register to vote. You can register again if you live in an area where this is an issue. Be sure to copy the information on your state issued ID EXACTLY on your application.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:29 AM
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Use this link to sign up to vote by mail for the US federal election. Each state is different, but if your state supports voting by mail it really makes it easy to make sure your vote gets counted. It arrives well before the election so you can take your time and avoid the lines. Make sure the application states it’s for the federal election. You will need to register separately to get state/local ballots in the mail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:59 AM
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It would be really amusing if people could publicly comment on dating profiles, but it would probably just be an opportunity for men to be disgusting creeps to women. Hmmm, maybe they should let people you match with leave a review of your interaction for other potential matches to read. 1 star- sent dick pick after two messages 1.5 stars- terrible conversationalist 4 stars- he was alright, but no chemistry 2 stars- super nice and paid for the date, but was wearing sweatpants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:46 AM
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I was having an issue with my doctor at the time giving me a muscle relaxer. I had back surgery a few years ago and my back was tensing up again, but that doctor told me to get another MRI and go to PT, both of which I did. Eventually one morning it seized completely and I could stand up but I couldn’t walk even one step. I have a very regular GI tract and it was morning but I couldn’t take the steps to the bathroom to get relief. Fortunately, I had a bedside commode in the shed and my boyfriend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:20 AM
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I think those are OP’s notifications.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:38 AM
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Throughout our lives we encounter situations that require us to do something disgusting for our partners and families. Vomit, diarrhea, blood, and open wounds are all things we must sometimes willingly deal with because the people we care about are in need. If a man can’t deal with just the idea of your normal bodily functions, he certainly won’t be willing to help you when you most need it. That’s not how a real man behaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:13 AM
8

I would use a direct spray for this behavior. More impactful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:35 AM
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I can’t understand the calculations these assholes make when it comes to human lives. It’s not just the other side that loses lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:20 AM
20

How about we draft Trump? Here is opportunity to make up for all the wars he missed out on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:17 AM
5

Here is the thing, 15-20 years ago you were a 9 and as you have aged your looks have declined, but so have the looks of all your peers. So, the scale has shifted for everyone and you are probably still a 9 by comparison. I dated a man who was very attractive at 42 and definitely a 10 when he was in college, but probably a 7.5 at the time we were dating. I definitely gave him credit for at one time being smoking hot and still looking pretty appealing. You still get credit for being a smoke show i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:17 PM
2

And being that thin would definitely deflate whatever natural breast tissue you would have had to begin with making your breasts appear even smaller and less perky. No way would that fly in the porn industry. Being radically thin isn’t a great look, especially as you age. Women are supposed to have body fat. If you are naturally a thin person, staying thin isn’t an issue but if you are 40 years old and finally drop those extra 20 pounds you have been too busy to deal with for the last ten years,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:01 PM
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The reason I never had kids before I not longer had an option was I never dated a man I trusted enough to take in that responsibility with me. I’ve never even dated a man that I trusted enough to co-sign a loan for. Fuuuuuck. I think the biggest risk when having kids is that you will soon be trying to raise them alone while fighting some fuck face about why the ~25% of his income in court ordered child support for the family who once benefited from nearly 100% of his income isn’t too much to exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 09:55 AM
12

There was a post earlier today about a dude complaining how women have the upper hand on Tinder. He said she usually made a judgement based on first picture alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:24 AM
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Jokes on him, I don’t read a Tinder bio until after he sends an opening message. There are way too many men on Tinder for all that noise, and I live in a small isolated city. In a metropolitan area? No one is reading a bio until it’s time to decide if they want to reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:16 AM
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Ask a question in your bio and request that they include the answer in their first message. I ask them to tell me in what city they live. 95 out of 100 responses will not include this answer. A man who does not read you bio cannot possibly be interested in you as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:12 AM
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Raising up a man with low self esteem will only make him imagine he can do better than you and he will try. And that man justifying going to strip clubs because women were mean to him in the past is predictive of him justifying anything shitty he might do to women in the future. Also, dating younger men has proven to be mistake for me. Their mothers will not be pleased about your age because grandbabieeeees and their families will look at you like a child predator. No matter what other amazing q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:57 AM
12

I can’t trust myself like that. I have a hair trigger. I was watching TV on the couch at a friend’s house last night and just touching feet under the blanket was exciting to me. If he made a move, I wouldn’t have been able to resist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:36 AM
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Brass tacks* And fucking duh! How does any man not understand this? If most men on Tinder will fuck anything and they know it, why would they imagine it’s not a buyers market for the women? This makes it even harder to understand why so many men have such outrageously lackluster photos and bios and use ineffectual to downright offensive opening lines. Don’t they realize they are supposed to up their games in order to compete? It makes me want to swipe right on a few very average men with good pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:35 AM
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What a tool. He can’t even neg right. I suppose honing in one someone’s insecurities requires some understanding of how women work. What? Sir? You don’t also think my big boobs are wonderful like everyone else, even women who aren’t attracted to women? Whhaaaaa!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:26 AM
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I created this alt as a throwaway two months ago because I wanted to comment here and make sure I stayed anonymous. Scrotes be angry. But, I have kinda abandoned my other alt and I basically stopped looking at all the subs I used to frequent. I quickly realized that commenting in other subs is toxic. I just want to interact with you ladies because the frequency of retarded bullshit is so low. I don’t want to just live in an echo chamber, but I also don’t want to be randomly attacked by disingenu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:22 AM
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Who doesn’t love a D cup? What a hateful person. That’s not even negging, that’s someone rejecting you before you get the chance to reject them because they know they have no chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:08 AM
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She says they have sex 1-2 times a week because she initiates but that he would be fine with once a month. I would agree that he might be gay except that it seems unlikely he would agree to that much sex with her 13 years into their relationship. I don’t see anyone having that much sex with someone to whom they weren’t at all attracted when he could get away with much, much less at this point and still maintain his cover. It seems more likely that he simply doesn’t understand that her satisfacti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:50 AM
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I think it’s got more to do with porn. Natural breasts very rarely look like even a somewhat decent boob job. Even before age, gravity, and pregnancy have a go at them, they come in all shapes and sizes. A man who says something like this obviously has very little experience with women. Most dudes don’t discriminate when it comes to boobs, they are just happy to have a set swinging over their face no matter what they look like. Bras aren’t just for women who don’t have pert breasts, most of us w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:06 AM
3

Facebook is a cesspool for sure. I was about to say that I feel a way about sharing the personal details of my life with strangers online, then I realized that is exactly what I am doing right now! Maybe I simply prefer exposition to pictures...I am terrible at taking pictures. To each his own I suppose. I don’t want to turn into my mom and have no idea how the world works, so maybe I should give it a try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:51 PM
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Exactly. I feel like a fool when I’m dressed nicely and he shows up in filthy rags or he is the only person at the venue dressed like a slob. I’m not a fashionista by any means, but I do make an effort to wear flattering clothing that is well cared for. That dude obviously has a style that indicates we will not get along at all. A nicely pressed shirt and actual dress shoes are the kind of flex that turns me on, not expensive jerseys and ball caps with the sticker still on them. (My bar is actua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:43 PM
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Girl, get some of those shelf stable single serve milks and hide them somewhere he won’t find them so you always have milk and let him learn by suffering from his mistakes. You obviously take your coffee very seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:00 AM
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Who can’t empathize with being stuck at work with no food or money to get food? No matter how well you try eat, sometimes you don’t have a choice and have to make do with a Taco Bell bean burrito. Maybe those commenters have never had a job...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:58 AM
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Even if it was not in his budget, this definitely qualifies as an emergency and he should have done everything in his power to make sure she got some food. Even just bringing her a PB&J, even if he had to walk or ride the bus. Honestly, if you loan someone $10 and they don’t pay you back, that was a very inexpensive way to learn that person can’t be trusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:55 AM
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Jew here, too. Would 100% lend/give my SO money in a situation like that. (I’m putting myself in that situation 20 years ago when a bank balance of $0 and no credit card was not a huge red flag.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:50 AM
25

I honestly think the only size queens out there are gay men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:42 AM
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I told a guy on OLD that it was a shame he took down his face picture because he was rather attractive. He asked me if it turned me on. I was baffled. How would a head shot of a man I’ve never met turn me on? I’ve been aroused by face pictures of men that I’ve been aroused by in person, but a complete stranger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:41 AM
11

I dint have any social media other than reddit. What do normal ladies who aren’t trying to be influencers or sell something post on Instagram?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:38 AM
26

Ladies, how many of you truly enjoy a huge dick? I prefer an average to above average dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:33 AM
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But, how? How is it possible to have such a fragile ego and impenetrable self esteem simultaneously? I get that men are visually aroused, so having zero ability to empathize with a woman and understand that her arousal is a bit more complicated, why on earth would he imagine that his gross lumpy body would arouse you? He undoubtedly hones in on any physical imperfections in the women in the porn he watches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:32 AM
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He’s not out of my league dressed like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:25 AM
14

Someone should tell him that his bedding requires sheets, pillowcases, and a duvet cover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:00 PM
8

I’m picturing Kate McKinnon playing Angela Merkel lamenting the loss of her dear Barack reading your response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:50 PM
6

Considering all the stories I hear about ex wives who never lift a finger around the house and refuse to have sex, you’d think taking care of a man and being enthusiastic in bed would be points in your favor. But, that is just not how it works. The last guy I took home was after an amazing first date. It was supposed to just be coffee but it lasted a little over four hours through dinner and then drinks. I planned to not sleep with him, but he was so sexy and we got along so well. He told me it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:48 PM
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Honestly, I’m surprised porn is so widely available for free and there is somehow still a viable porn industry. Economically, it makes no sense why it isn’t all up behind a pay wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:28 AM
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42 is the year their dicks stop working properly in my experience. It’s such a chore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:24 AM
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I love taking care of people. I love doing things for a man when I like him. I also really, really love sex. It’s such a goddamned shame that I have to make a man prove he is worthy of me doing these things for/with him because it will result in him taking advantage of me. Fuck. (I have not done a single wifely thing for a man or had sex since I found FDS.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:14 AM
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Are those people supposed to be the Obamas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:44 AM
2

I say that I find men to be less likely to only be looking for sex on Bumble because that is what I have found...YMMV. The reason it’s not advisable to initiate contact with men is because it sets a bad precedent and gives them the idea that they do not need to pursue you, not because men gloat about it. Even a Pickmesha would take umbrage if a dude responded to her contact by gloating about it. Men can’t initiate contact with their female matches on Bumble, so initiating contact doesn’t really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:20 AM
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This guy is a mess. You and Victoria both need to be done with him. He is very afraid of a restraining order. Use that to your advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:41 AM
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It’s kind of a damned if you do damned if you don’t situation for him. He didn’t put the ball in her court to choose a place and he didn’t ask what part of town would be convenient for her either (read: he didn’t ask where she lived/worked). It seems pretty natural to pick a convenient location for yourself as a jumping off point for making plans. If a man takes the initiative to pick a time and place but it doesn’t work for me, as long as he is amenable to a different suggestion that seems fine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:20 AM
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Duuuude, I know. But, I would have to say that the vast majority of men I’ve gone to a Thai place with has never had it. I live in a very red state, in a very isolated city, but somehow we have a bunch of Thai restaurants and most of them are great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:59 AM
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Hahaha. Well, a group of them all possessing some unamed exhausted thing. Since they are Greek, probably young boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:02 PM
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I am a last word kind of gal. It’s not ideal. I also hate the idea of a man misunderstanding why I’m rejecting him. They will assume it has something to do with a perceived fault that they have no control over when it’s usually about something in their behavior I find unappealing. I think it’s a teachable moment if a man is redeemable. Plus, it really fucking irks me when a man shows up for a date 15 years older or 100 pounds heavier than his pictures expecting, what? I won’t notice? I won’t say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:52 PM
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That comment is fucking foul. But, yeah. My dogs do get what we call ‘huffy puffy’ when they feel put out. Like when they are instructed to get out of my spot on the bed and move to their respective pillow thrones. Poor things get no respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:40 PM
21

It’s not the same as approaching a man on other OLD platforms because there is no other option. You can just say hey or something generic and then the ball is in their court again. I find men to be less likely to only be looking for sex on Bumble. I don’t know how many times I’ve had to explain to dudes that nowhere in the app description for Tinder in the App Store is the word hookup used. I prefer the platforms that only allow men I’ve agreed to let contact me do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:08 AM
13

Offer a few places that work well for you and ask him which one sounds most appealing to him. If he can’t be bothered to Google your choices to see which menu appeals to him the most, drop him. Thai food is my favorite and if a man who hasn’t ever eaten Thai before doesn’t balk at the idea, that’s a good sign of an open mind. They always enjoy the food and sometime I can even get them to try tofu!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 08:26 AM
18

He may have used lube, but when you are in the stir ups, it isn’t easy to see what is going on. I don’t remember it being painful, just a humiliating violation. He simply chose to not do what a decent doctor would do and carefully explain what he was about to do and explain every step while slowly completing the process. I couldn’t complain because he had plausible deniability. I did cost him $1,150. We negotiated the bill and payment plan ahead of the surgery, but the final bill included the fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 08:10 AM
3

It’s very hard to date someone who has such a demanding schedule. You will become resentful if he doesn’t always prioritize you for his limited free time. My father was a doctor and every single time we tried to do something when he was on-call, he would have to bail. Your dude makes a ton of money, but you have to decide if you prefer a life of leisure or spending time with your partner. Unless he performs elective surgery, he will never have a normal schedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:51 AM
26

When he hits you up tomorrow to once again make spur of the moment plans, tell him you have a date. When he sulks again, tell him if he wants to spend time with you, he will need to make plans in advance. If he tells you he likes spontaneous women, tell him you don’t like low effort men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:43 AM
125

Most people don’t tell people their sob story right away, they will give you the broad strokes but details are withheld until trust is established. The red flag is at half mast because he is portraying himself as a victim with those statements. If he takes no responsibility for the situation or has no plan to rectify it, he’s not going to be a good partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:35 AM
8

Your core strength must be amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:11 AM
2

Howard Roark from The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. This book is not political at all, pure compelling fiction. I read voraciously (30-75 books a year) and this one remains in my top three to this day and read it again every few years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:03 AM
6

I love the new book he and Megan Mullaly wrote about their relationship. The Greatest Love Story Ever Told. But, watching the story arc on Parks and Rec about his character’s romance with Lucy Lawless is just as compelling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:55 AM
19

‘Quirky’ means it makes them uncomfortable when you stand up for yourself when they are accustomed to women silently enduring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:42 AM
38

It’s pretty ironic that male doctors routinely have a female nurse present for female patients to protect the patient from the doctors and that female doctors should have to start having another person present to protect them from their male patients. I think I see the problem here... I understand that false accusations and misunderstandings are an issue as well, but protecting patients from getting groped is probably the main reason it’s routinely done with male doctors now. Unfortunately, havi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:39 AM
22

Men almost always ask me to clean for them during or after a date, I never even consider it. They usually don’t offer to hire me, though. I suspect some imagine I work in the nude. Some even immediately propose marriage in failed and thinly veiled attempt at humor. I have ALWAYS been an naturally HVW when it comes to my work relationships, even when I didn’t understand why I set the boundaries I set at the time. Funny how I can’t say that for my dating life, but I feel optimistic about that thes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:13 AM
13

Oh, it sounded like you were making excuses for her boyfriend’s shitty behavior and encouraging her to try to “work it out.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:01 AM
34

I recently had a coffee date like yours. He was also late, but I waited for him to arrive in my car and we walked in together. I was irked that he didn’t pay the $3 for my coffee and after an hour of decent conversation I abruptly stood to leave. He messaged later saying that we clearly didn’t click and he was right about that but undoubtedly wrong about the reason why. He also asked how much I charge for cleaning which is my business. Well, he had a rental unit that was about to be vacated and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:55 AM
18

I had a boyfriend who farted all the time, about 25 times a day in my presence and they usually smelled pretty bad. (Is there a correlation to having a penis and smelly frequent gas?) Despite eating basically the same foods, I farted far, far less and they rarely had an obnoxious odor. I had a pretty bad accident that required me to wear a walking boot and I as had a manual transmission car at the time (he had no car, nor could he drive a stick) I had to take it off and put it back on before and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:17 AM
5

Of course being a woman of some years who knows what men are about and how to wield her seductive qualities to get she wants is exactly like a preteen who is wildly embarrassed by her body and bodily functions, frequently experiences unbalanced and crazed emotions and behaviors because her endocrine system hasn’t figured out the hormone dosages yet, and has no idea (at all) why she is no longer allowed to sit on her uncles’ laps at family get togethers. Exactly the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:35 AM
3

I’ve been 5’11” since I was 11 years old. I towered over the adults and teachers at my middle school. But, I, like 98% of all middle school aged children was an awkward pimply smelly insecure mess. I also had a Jew fro. No, it wasn’t cool. There is nothing sexy about someone who all of sudden becomes full grown. I’m imagining some of my friends’ kids whose limbs or other body parts are out of proportion and look like they are having a devil of time adapting to walking with their strange new grow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:27 AM
6

I was addicted to an Xbox game when I was a kid. I bought it for myself as a gift as I still have an Xbox that I got free with purchase of a Microsoft laptop a million years ago that I use only rarely to play DVDs. I’m still good at it, but I simply do not have the ability to play for hours at a time anymore. Maybe 15 minutes and I’ve played only a few times. I also used to love doing the crossword everyday with my friends at the pub on my university’s campus. I acquired a huge stack of newspape…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:10 AM
33

No, he is being a dick and men who love and respect the women they are with don’t do shit like this. Throwing a temper tantrum is bullshit. Being an asshole on purpose is bullshit. Withholding affection and love during a time where it is socially expected is bullshit. People who want to make their partner happy and are always making the effort required to do that don’t do any of these things when their partner is making an effort to make them happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:27 AM
8

Honestly, I’m beginning to think attracting shitty people is the norm because most people are shitty. And stupid. So many stupid people...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:04 AM
16

I imagine that dating as a black woman would have its particular bullshit, but I can assure that women of all kinds have a similar story to this one. I am constantly amazed that I have yet to see the end of all the possible ways dudes can let me down, piss me off, waste my time, and have nothing to offer all while talking down to me. He wanted to fuck you, he didn’t care what you wanted or didn’t want. He must have really respected you as a person because he decided that manipulating you into be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 06:56 AM
6

You got a taste of what it will be like to be with a HVM and of course you want that again. But, people change dramatically over their lifetimes and who you are now is not the same person you will be in a year, in 5 years, in 25 years. The same can be said for him and everyone else. There is no guarantee that had you and your ex stayed together and were married and started a family after you were both done with school that the two of you would still be compatible 10 years from now. Most people d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:27 AM
17

I got through all of them because I answered the way I knew he would want his “dream girl” to answer. I want to learn from him why Trump is amazing and what it means to be spiritual, am wasp-waisted, and have never touched any kind of mind altering substance (I’m high right now!) It’s amazing that just by looking at his pictures, I can tell what kind of idiot he is. Unfortunately, he isn’t rich enough for me to be entertained by actually cat fishing this dude. His age range includes women born u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:41 AM
14

I’m sure if he offered her enough money, Melania would go for it. I can’t imagine she feels like she made a good choice now that her humiliating marriage is on display for the whole world to witness. She would have done so much better for herself had she sold herself to a regular dude who made a few hundred thousand a year and treated her with a modicum of decency and could do a better job of hiding his infidelities. Questions about Trump’s actual net worth aside, there is no amount of money tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:28 AM
19

OMG. I clicked through to the article and saw this ad for Pat McGrath’s $40 luxury lip balm. I know it’s my browser history that prompted this ad, but I guarantee Mother would not be best pleased. I feel like buying 50 of her lip balms and only getting through 4 or 5 before the whole lot went off would be a better use of $2000.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:10 AM
4

Oh, I agree. I wouldn’t go to his place either. I’m American too, but I love checking out the pharmacies in foreign countries to see what kinds of goodies I can get my hands on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:20 AM
6

In most countries, you can get antibiotics over the counter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:59 AM
16

You are shallow/wrong if the trait you desire is one he doesn’t posses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:01 AM
6

Give him 48.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:56 PM
69

Up the nose is the most appealing angle. Duh! Ladies love the inside of nostrils. It’s so erotic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:35 PM
46

It’s a way to determine if you are DTF or if he is going to have to work for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:23 AM
66

I like my dogs have a little autonomy, too. A man who freaks out if his otherwise good dog is a little naughty from time to time is not someone I want to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:31 AM
65

What if I have had sex with only one guy with 5.5” dick 600 times? Is it still an issue?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:47 AM
29

Yeah, he is so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:52 AM
34

Well, his height doesn’t matter to him so it shouldn’t bother you either. Remember that what you want isn’t relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:49 AM
34

Well, it is an indication of someone who doesn’t read much. If intellectual curiosity is important to you, this is a bad sign. The real kicker for me is when I mention to someone that there is an error or typo in their profile and they don’t edit it. I make a lot of mistakes when I write, I mostly skip words, and when I look back at an error I made, it makes my stomach turn. It’s important to me how my writing represents me. I find it very unappealing when someone doesn’t seem to care how their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:47 AM
2

Hey, girl, give yourself a pass. Why should you be ashamed of being a sweet, kind, honest , and forgiving person? Why should you feel bad about doing what you thought was the right thing to do to make someone happy or to make a relationship work? It’s your feminine nature to empathize with people and to try and help them. If we lived in an honest world, the men who wasted your time would have been honest with you and either ended a relationship they knew wasn’t working or they would have joined …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 10:09 PM
22

Me too! I’m way hotter at 41 than I have even been. I was under the impression that I was supposed to get a bunch of aches and pains and have no energy by this age. I honestly still feel like a goofy kid in almost all areas of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:59 PM
6

I agree with his desire to have a coherent correspondence, but his delivery is caustic and I think it’s directed at the wrong sex unless his object of desire is male. From my experience, it’s mostly men that take no pride in their writing and make excuses about how it saves time to abbreviate three letter words. On Reddit, I only engage with women. On OLD, it’s men. Obviously there are exceptions in both arenas, but it’s not the ladies that write like they smashed the keyboard with their fists. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:43 PM
12

My guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:26 PM
20

I subscribe to TravelZoo emails. I’ve gotten some great deals on international travel. Most of the packages include round trip airfare from LAX/JFK, 4/5 star hotels with breakfast, entry fare and tour guides, among other things all for about the price of the international airfare alone. You just have to get yourself LA or New York.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:42 PM
2

Yeah, when someone goes to a lot of trouble to figure out what to cook for me (somehow it seems pretty complicated to people) it shows they actually care. Same for restaurant choices. If a man picks a burger joint or a diner, I know he hasn’t put any thought into my needs. I’d actually rather not have an iceberg side salad with one bland tomato wedge and French fries for dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:58 PM
3

It sounds like you like him a lot. If the situation is working as it is, carry on. But, if you want more than he can give you it can’t hurt to keep your options open and see other people. I bet if you weren’t paying him so much attention because you were occupied with someone else at times that he might up his game a little.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:38 AM
2

Has he made mention of it bothering him that so much of the time and cost burden are yours? Does he show concern for you if you don’t let him know you got home safely?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:13 AM
99

This dude sounds like a little bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:41 AM
3

Okay, now you need to let him come to you. Maybe it’s time for you car to “break down” or something like that. Now I’m imagining the novel Jessica by Bryce Courtenay and about how dangerous it can be to live in rural Australia. I had a Dusty resurface the other day and he wanted me to drive the 25 minutes to come see him and it irritated the shit out of me because where I live it’s very dark and very, very cold this time of year and the roads are icy. The likelihood of hitting a game animal or s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:38 AM
7

It does sound as though he is pushing your boundaries at every turn. Beyond all the sex stuff, he violated your trust by telling people about your health issues. I don’t know what kind of person could justify blabbing about someone else’s private shit and then have the audacity to come back and tell you that his friend hopes you don’t ruin the trip by freaking out. Obviously he wasn’t being very generous about it when he was talking about it to his buddies. He is supposed to protect you from oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:16 AM
3

If nothing comes up that scares you off, go. Check out local places to stay in your budget and make a reservation somewhere that will allow for a cancellation without a fuss. Do your research now about local tourist options (Citymapper, city passes, hop on hop off bus tours) and the transportation situation. I’ve used Uber in lots of foreign countries and that would probably be the best way to catch a ride out of a sticky situation. Change money at your local bank if you need another currency wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:45 AM
104

I wonder how this fellow thinks girls are affected by being abandoned by their fathers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:31 PM
34

I love him! I came across his content before I found FDS and I was pretty surprised at his take on things at the time. Most men aren’t advocating for women in this way. Another great content producer is Kev Hicks. Like Derrick Jaxn, he is also very easy on the eyes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:47 PM
2

I understand that you aren’t necessarily trying to teach him something. Sometimes we need to say this kind of thing to dumb ass dudes who will never get it in an effort to remind ourselves. It’s like an affirmation and I feel like it is worth while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:37 AM
6

Some in the comments (maybe FDS ladies) have pointed out that this looks like only half of a conversation because he deleted his responses. This isn’t Nicegirl stuff, this is pissed off ex who was badly used by this parental basement dwelling retail monkey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:27 AM
28

Hahah haha haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:10 AM
24

This is why they hate FDS and it’s popularity. They take full advantage of the kind and giving nature of women that allows them use us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:48 AM
61

The assumption that his child will be a boy is pretty telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:44 AM
42

Sex matters to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:20 AM
51

You are a woman. You don’t need to pay for a dating site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:34 AM
118

If you are such a great lover, your wife would still be interested in having sex with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:30 AM
24

Yeah, but he’s still at least 40. When you are in your 20s, people in their 40s look old to you. Even if she is very naive, she isn’t going to think he’s 23 when she meets him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:27 AM
17

I’m a vegetarian. Problem solved where I live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:23 AM
53

How are you going to show up for the first date twice as old as advertised? He is banking on the fact that most women won’t call him out on it because they don’t want to be rude. Not this woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:21 AM
32

Me too, sis. They get so offended!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:16 AM
15

It looks like the chemo is really taking a toll on you. I’m so sorry for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:14 AM
11

I don’t wanna know anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:13 AM
30

They don’t fill out their profiles because they don’t read profiles. They hate it when I respond to their message about wanting to get to know me with disbelief considering they obviously haven’t taken the first and easiest step to do so by reading my profile. Oh, you live five hours away, are four inches shorter than me and smoke ‘occasionally?’ Please, try to convince me why what I want is wrong with your barely coherent word salad free from punctuation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:12 AM
21

They really seem to get upset when I point out that they look terrible for their age...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:06 AM
38

What you want is irrelevant because they want to fuck you. Not only that, but most of these idiots view OLD something akin to ordering a meal for delivery. I’m not a hooker, but if I was I certainly wouldn’t work for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:04 AM
1

You can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:52 AM
7

A laptop and a book will both make you look like you are busy and don’t want to be interrupted. I totally feel you about the phone, but if you are playing on it, it will appear to men that you are probably communicating with someone you will be meeting. Maybe a tablet would be better? You could write/sketch in a notebook. Now is a good time to do a little personal inventory and make some resolutions for the new year or make a to do list. I’d do a crossword, people usually like to get in on it if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:41 AM
33

I really don’t think wanting someone who is gainfully employed and doesn’t live hand to mouth, takes decent care of his health and home, handles his responsibilities, has a clean record, isn’t an alcoholic or drug addict, puts some effort into wooing a woman, and isn’t just trying to get his dick wet are unreasonable standards. I’m not missing out on anything but bullshit and wasted time with losers who won’t add value to my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:32 AM
10

If you are open to people approaching you, stay off your phone and make sure your body language and expression stay open and welcoming and that you don’t look like you are waiting for someone. Make eye contact and smile at people. Stay off your phone but if you need something to do, make sure it doesn’t appear as though you don’t want to be bothered (crossword puzzle vs homework). Don’t allow a LVM to orbit as other men will be hesitant to approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:24 AM
20

Eh, it’s no big deal. You did what you did and that’s behind you now. He doesn’t matter and his opinion of you matters less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 08:15 AM
28

Got an IUD after a close call. Had a bad time with it for about a year. Took it out, felt much better mentally. Started having progressively worse periods until I’d lost so much blood I need a transfusion of four units. I was just going about my business perpetually tired and out of breath and near death. Then they removed my uterus. Where exactly is this half way I should meet you and how much pressure for sex despite making it clear I’m not ready do I have to endure before I get there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:54 AM
21

Proofread? Can men do that on their phones?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:39 AM
6

I think he means that he can’t get off in 5-10 minutes anymore like with his stolen Playboy magazines. I think he means he is trying to finish for 8 hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:43 AM
4

I’m a lady that had a period for twenty years but it’s been over seven since the last time I experienced it. Now that it has been so long, it seems so foreign and bizarre. I kinda get why men react poorly to periods, but at this point most men should be more accustomed to them than me because I don’t date women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:10 PM
10

You should have sent him your Venmo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:05 PM
6

I have explosive diarrhea and the toilet is out of order, so not great. How are you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:03 PM
10

Because he can’t request made to order porn from you unless you move to SC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:02 PM
21

Plenty of Fish censors naughty words. As if the creeps can’t be creepy with an asterisk in the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:55 AM
-2

Every time I go to a store that sells vacuums, I have to actually chastise myself aloud that I do not need another vacuum. I have five Dysons, like a Christmas Card family of them. I don’t know if I’d have a problem with this gift, but then again, I make sure to tell people what I want as a gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:07 PM
25

I ran into a dude at the store the other day. He is a solid 9 aesthetically (tall, very fit), but a full on mess otherwise. I wasn’t paying much attention to what was going on in that moment and I was kinda high so he scared me when he grabbed my waist. The conversation very short because after he informed me that he hates this time of year, I suggested that was because he is lonely and walked away. It was mostly the pot and being startled that caused me to say something like that to him, but I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:45 PM
9

I really hope English is not his first language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:36 PM
15

Yellow? Yellow? What the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:12 AM
38

Spoiler: he’s 50. He hasn’t been able to find the right woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:11 AM
61

This is what you get when you lower your standards. It’s not worth it for the mediocre dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:55 AM
30

A strip club is one of the few places that men have their choice of hot women. He is empowered to reject women that he would never get any attention from outside the club. I’m guessing the OP probably works in a smallish club with only limited number to girls to choose from. I’d also be willing to wager that her ATM dude thought she was the hottest woman working that night. He was rejecting all the other women working and giving the OP cash just to hang out. Whatever he was up to, it was in a ef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:44 PM
11

Yeah. I don’t think that’s an unreasonable savings goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 07:09 AM
30

No personal drive = broke. I’m sorry. I can usually bank about $800-$1000 a month. If he can’t match or beat that most months, I’m out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:06 AM
44

I’m not sure why he’s having this issue because he says in another post that he broke up with her because during drunken sex she asked him to cum inside her, he refused, so she rolled over and took care of herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:54 AM
0

I’m 41. I still have it and sex has only gotten better. You have plenty of time. You are not wasting anything. Focus on leveling up. Focus on yourself. Create the life you want for yourself and things will fall into place. I’m listening to The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene right now and it is very illuminating and fascinating. Watch Shallon Lester’s YouTube video from today. She is pretty motivational and she also recommended Greene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:22 AM
15

Hey old man, go to the fucking senior center in your area. If you can drive yourself to Best Buy, you can manage to get out and meet actual people. Those places are filled with old ladies and the men are in high demand because men die younger than women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:07 AM
2

At least he is offering to pay. Yesterday, we saw the post of a 45 year old man looking for barely legal girls to come give him sloppy blowjobs for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:00 AM
25

Either a rapist, or more likely simply one of those assholes who has no idea that unless everyone is enthusiastically consenting, it’s not consensual. He is probably also one of those people who upon hearing of assault accusations immediately asks about what she was wearing, drinking, or doing in X place and thinks her sexual history is relevant to the man’s defense. Same dude who finds it suspect when a woman waits until a man who assaulted her is in the public eye and/or others have come forwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:55 AM
12

His net worth is 20 million dollars according to Google. At a modest 4% APY in a mutual fund, he would earn over $66K a month interest on $20 million. So, if his portfolio is properly diversified, he is probably earning 2-5 times the $50K monthly alimony in interest. With his other streams of income, he probably has no reason to touch his savings (unless he balls out on something) living very well himself and paying her alimony. When you consider the lifestyle they lived and the amount of money …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:25 AM
10

I get this all the time. I want to put my dick in you so you are being unreasonable. Fuck that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 06:46 PM
29

Because her domestic labor that isn’t bound by a 40 hour work week with days off, benefits, employee protections etc. is worthless. How much would it cost to pay an employee to do what she does? Housekeeper $80/day Personal Chef $250/week Childcare $750/month per child Personal Assistant (10 hours/week) $500/month Sounds like a $40-$50K a year position...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:48 AM
9

The $100 is for the Christmas surprise from her and the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:38 AM
12

RIP his inbox! /s At least he didn’t make mention of something putting someone “to the front of the line.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:32 AM
9

Very few men appreciate flowers. Why not just buy flowers for yourself? I do every Friday. Safeway has a $5 deal every Friday and they last!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:29 AM
16

Considering what happens to babies who don’t get enough touch it would suggest that growing inside an actual human is probably developmentally important and how babies who aren’t exposed to their mother’s microbiome during birth are at a health disadvantage compared to those that are, this seems like a great way to produce the most dysfunctional and sickly humans possible. Assuming they could get the eggs in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:11 AM
20

This guy seems pretty optimistic about his ability to “convince the feminists.” It kind of sounds like he assumes that unless they are told of this benefit to this idea, it would never occur to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:04 AM
42

Did he mention what else he brought to the table? Strong mouth game? Wicked sense of humor? Outrageously charming personality? Enormous trust fund? Sheets on an actual bed instead of a filthy bare mattress on the floor?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:13 PM
2

Sell anything you don’t use anymore online. You’ll reduce your clutter and make some money to buy something lovely to level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:09 AM
25

You have to want to lose weight more than you want the comfort you find in food. I know that sounds trite, but having lost a considerable amount of weight, I assure you that it is that simple. I wanted to lose weight more than I wanted to turn to my bad habits for comfort. It was the beat thing I ever did. You sound a little ambivalent about your goal of losing weight and finding a lover right now so maybe you should consider doing something else for yourself until you are ready to focus or find…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:08 AM
-1

I agree that becoming legally bound to someone seems like a bad bet. Taking vows seems to mean very little, so why complicate matters with the financial liabilities of a marriage/divorce when you will more likely than not end up splitting eventually? If you don’t need to get hitched for health insurance or whatnot, why not just have a ceremony and a party and skip the part where you pay the state for a license? I think it’s an outdated romantic ideal. But, some states treat common law marriages …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:10 AM
2

That was weird. I managed to fix it. Now it just wants to make sure you are an adult. Thanks for the heads up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:33 AM
24

If a woman were to demand only fine dining and expensive dates and the man wasn’t in a position to sustain that, he probably should look elsewhere. I just want a man who is thoughtful enough to suggest a place that has a few vegetarian options and a decent atmosphere. I don’t require fine dining, but I do require a man who isn’t running in the red every month. I’m not looking for a man to support me financially, neither do I want to financially support a man. I don’t want to be put in the positi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:02 AM
39

It’s ridiculous because a great dinner date does not need to be expensive. I’m sure there are local restaurants that serve great food at reasonable prices available to almost everyone. My favorite meal at my favorite local eatery is $8, if I was on a date, I’d probably also get a $4 beer. Please do let me know right away if a $30 date is a hardship. I fart $30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:43 AM
17

I wasn’t even trying to be a dick. Something interesting I just realized is about the feeling I got when he said he is “literally the same size” as the photos. That feeling when someone is lying, but I feel like there is no way to refute that obvious lie and it would be pointless anyway. It’s the same feeling I got twice in this screenshot. It’s my bullshit detector and it’s been there wildly alerting me all this time, but I have trained myself to ignore it. It’s was the same feeling for all thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:26 AM
54

If you ask for what you need and are satisfied when it’s given, how is that needy? That’s just being good at recognizing your emotional needs and communicating them effectively. If you huff and puff around the house and act like an asshole because you expect your partner to just intuitively know when you need emotional support and then get mad when you don’t get it, then you are needy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:59 AM
48

Delete his number and all your call and text history so you aren’t tempted to contact him again. I find this very helpful because I will text eventually even if it’s just to yell at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:55 AM
31

Teach these devils! I had a date the other day that went well (mostly because the waitress was very amusing) but he was looked to be about 100 pounds heavier than a friend of mine who is the same height (6’3”) and weighs in at 270 who I find very appealing physically. I felt bad after this conversation, but judging by his response, I think he has become accustomed to women not saying anything about his deception because we are socialized to not be rude. Men want that courtesy but rarely extend i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:50 AM
107

“Maybe you should get your finances in order before you start dating. I certainly wouldn’t want to you to spend money on a date with me that you don’t have. Honestly, I don’t have much respect for people who overextend themselves financially. It shows poor judgment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:18 AM
7

I suspect there is a point at which as intelligence increases, social skills decreases. I also suspect those kinds of people require a partner with above average EQ who are able to better read people with limited communication skills. There are definitely some people who think so differently from the masses that they are hard with which to relate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:50 PM
4

Sephora does a sun safety set every year that comes with a bunch of minis to try. This year’s wasn’t very well received for some reason, so it might still be available in your area but watch the expiration dates. If I were you, I would try a physical sunscreen versus chemical. There are lots of formulas out there with lots of pros and cons. Most people object to physical sunscreen because it can leave a white cast, but since you are already paper white, that shouldn’t be an issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:33 PM
1

Right now I’m using Farmacy Green Screen on my face because it’s nice under makeup. I love the Cotz natural if I’m a little tan and not wearing makeup. It’s really just a matter of personal preference, but I definitely recommend only using one designed for the face on the face. You can use whatever you like on your hands and body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:52 PM
2

That sounds like a long date. I’d go on another date and see how it goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:59 AM
22

Don’t engage. There is nothing you could say to him that you haven’t already said 100 times, nothing will be accomplished. Don’t offer any defense to his accusations, you are above defending yourself. Staying calm and courteous is the way to go. It’s only been two months, so if you do get emotional don’t be too hard on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:01 AM
75

Men already assume they are smarter than women. Throw in an age gap, and they may as well consider you as subhuman. I would prefer to date only men that I believe to be more intelligent or better educated than me, but they seem to be few and far between outside of academia. It’s very frustrating to be talked down to but a complete bafoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:56 AM
54

Sunscreen. Every day, rain or shine. Even if you don’t leave the house. Neck, chest, hands and face. Reapply if you are spending time outside. Eat vegetables and fruit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:37 AM
60

This is her first relationship and it’s just turned into her first abusive relationship. She needs to leave right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:08 AM
25

What goes on in your head is yours alone. Even if you have dark impulses, only acting on them makes it wrong. However, I do find that if I find myself thinking about another person during sex, especially a man who is a viable option or in the context of a new relationship, it means I’m no longer interested in the person I’m with. I don’t like that feeling at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:42 AM
18

I’m beginning to realize that being alone is preferable to being stuck with a partner that isn’t worth a shit. Our bodies change over time. We accumulate injuries and damage from wear and tear. It’s ridiculous to imagine that your partner will always look like they did when you met and people that choose their partner based solely on looks almost invariably come to regret that sooner rather than later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:36 AM
22

“Hold on, Friend. I’m going to stop you right there. I bill at $250 an hour and I don’t bill your insurance for you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:43 PM
6

No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:54 PM
1

Sometimes I just want a man to smother with my crotch. If I get an itch I need help to scratch, I’m going to do it on a pretty face! (A less violent one that doesn’t live in the halfway house, of course.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:14 AM
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He looks pretty good to me. Over 6’, solid muscle, and a full head of hair. I live in a very red state. It’s very hard to find anyone with a brain here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:08 AM
24

He loves pit bulls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:58 AM
39

Most men would not admit to any of that. I have to give him credit for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:37 AM
15

Judging by his pictures, I don’t think so. If he would have said he was unemployed, I would agree with you but he has pictures that are clearly him on the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:36 AM
2

1%?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:57 PM
29

Yeah, go ahead and give that creepy troll a chance but be prepared for what happens when you reject him after meeting him and realizing that there is no way you would let him touch you. Make sure you keep your real number to yourself, meet in public so he doesn’t know where you live, and don’t reveal any details about your life that will allow him to find you. Some of these guys can’t even manage to accept it gracefully if you choose not to reply to a message on OLD. The more unappealing they ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:53 AM
39

I imagine that he isn’t telling the whole story. It seems unlikely that anyone in that situation wouldn’t discuss the plans for after the date with their partner. I could be wrong, but it seems like something that would be pretty hard to keep under your hat. Or maybe she did it to provoke the very reaction that she got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:47 AM
19

Just the fact that you already knew he wasn’t available is enough. Your gut already told you all you need to know. Always listen to your gut. As for your friend, if she insists on pressuring you to change your mind, put your foot down and stand up for yourself with her as well. A well meaning friend will state her opinion when she disagrees about something and then shut up about it if you aren’t responsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:42 AM
10

I’m not going to fall for another LVM again thanks to you ladies and this sub, but I have done it plenty in the past. Though, I do need to give myself some credit because a lot of what I have learned here I can claim to have known at one time or another, but have only put it into practice sparingly compared to the amount of bullshit I have allowed myself to accept. In the past, when I finally wised up about the reality of my relationships with LVM I went from your basic Pickmeisha behaviors disp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 11:49 PM
36

I’m just regular tall, but taller than the average man. Most men tell me that me being taller than they are is not an issue for them and very rarely does one ask if it’s an issue for me. It doesn’t seem to occur to them that what I think about it might matter. Of course I don’t mind if I tower over you and feel enormous when we are together! Tell me about all the other concessions I’ll have to make to date you. I make more money than you and most of what you do make is already obligated? Your cr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 11:35 PM
10

It reminds me of my visit to Thailand. All the hotels we stayed at had breakfast buffets so we would bring a baggie and steal ham slices or whatever breakfast meat seemed the least processed to feed to street dogs. In Phuket, I had leftover white bread from feeding fish and the street dogs there ate the bread but rejected the meat. Those were some high-falutin’ street dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 08:08 PM
37

Because I know exactly zero women who have made false rape accusation against men and the same number of women who have not been molested, regularly harassed to the point of feeling real fear, assaulted, or raped by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:42 PM
12

I sometimes say this to other women as a joke. How do men not know this is such a tired and offensive line?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:38 PM
58

And it’s on the ground outside. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:16 PM
29

Why do men always get so offended when I suggest that they consider hiring a professional when they approach me on OLD for a hook up or FWB? You are totally right, a hooker makes much more sense if you aren’t interested in finding a partner with whom you want to build a life with or without kids. A professional is there to provide an experience and service that caters specifically to her customer and then fucks off until he would like another booking. Why are they asking me to do that job for fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:07 AM
22

I enjoy men who are on the spectrum. I’m excellent at communicating with people who are a little robotic. I’m friends with a man who is like this and while it can be a little rough sometimes and I need to avoid subtleties when we text, it feels amazing that I can understand another person so intuitively during our phone or in-person conversations. We can talk for hours. He is like a math problem that needs to be told when I need something from him that isn’t something practical. He is a very HVM…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:34 AM
17

I’ve only ever experienced this issue with men my age (41) and older. I was going through some things last year and I dated three men in their 20’s casually. 22, 26, and 27. All three of them had no issues getting hard, staying hard, and coming more than once a night. The 26 year old could stay hard after he came and he came four times one night. The 22 year old was very fit, lots solid muscle. His penis felt outrageously hard, much harder than the usual penis gets it seemed to me. I’ve also not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:01 AM
16

It’s absolutely too forward. Why would you give a man you have never met written consent to touch you? Most of the dates I go on are not men that I am interested in perusing anything at all with and like most of us, I usually need some time to get comfortable with someone before I will enjoy and respond to physical affection with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:35 AM
12

Maybe we could start making donations to charities that support women and girls in each other’s names when the mood to reward with our wallets strike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:30 PM
16

Spend your money on yourself, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:38 PM
36

We can worry about the quality of sperm after we deal with the more pressing issues about his ability to get and maintain an erection over 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 03:38 PM
5

I enjoy jokes and humor as well. I don’t enjoy wasting money on crap that doesn’t fit my aesthetic that will just go to Good Will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 03:19 PM
4

I don’t get it. The kind of men she tells her viewers to target are the kind of men who understand their money is the most attractive thing about them. Obviously, there isn’t a old 1% man for every hot 25 year old, but these dudes trolling her during the middle of the day on her live streams probably haven’t ever paid taxes on income beyond the first tax bracket. Let the gold diggers and the super rich men have at each other. I guess that must mean they are mad at her for telling women to stay a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 10:37 AM
11

I’d be pissed if I got a mug as a gift from someone that knew me at all. Don’t give me clutter and call it my gift. I definitely put a lot more thought and money into anything I give as a gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 10:22 AM
33

Here is a much less generous one: men know a lot of women out there are haunted by their biological clocks and he is just trying to bag as many women who fear they are running out of time as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 10:09 AM
4

Hey, cartoon Percocet! Interesting choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 10:02 AM
18

I recently had an awful dinner date. I agreed to pick him up at his hotel near the airport because he was flying out for a remote job in the morning and his vehicle was stored somewhere and his residence was in a town about an hour away. I contacted him 15 minutes prior to the agreed upon pick up time and he wasn’t even back at his room and had yet to even shower. He told me because women were always late he thought he had more time. WTF? We go to the restaurant and he orders oysters Rockefeller…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:51 PM
14

I hate to be the kind of person that says they hate small talk, but I really do. It’s absolutely pointless on OLD. It’s not the same thing as exchanging pleasantries with your coworker or your server at lunch. I’ve actually been called negative when I explained that I’m not going to be honest when you ask how I’m doing nor do I want to be lied to about how someone else is doing. Can we just figure out if we are looking for the same thing and are minimally compatible? Can you then just ask me out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:43 PM
27

You are spot on about meaningful consent when a woman is afraid. Men seem to have a hard time grasping the effects fear have on women. Most of us will allow men to do things we don’t really want done to us if we feel like the alternative is getting punched in the face and then assaulted anyway. We need to have more conversations about consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:21 PM
11

But, they do know how men and boys pressure and manipulate women and girls to have sex and they also know what kinds of despicable acts they will perpetrate against a vulnerable or inebriated woman because they have done or would do the same. That’s why men are overprotective of their daughters when they start dating. Even if they view their daughters as property, they certainly don’t want them badly used. I find putting their bad behavior into the context of how they would like their daughters …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:41 AM
44

As a ‘41 year old lady’, 🎶most of the men I’ve dated have kids. About half of them have daughters. If having a daughter doesn’t put a man into the proper perspective about how to treat women, nothing will. I enjoy helping them get there by suggesting they teach their daughters how to learn to avoid men like themselves when they prove themselves to be shit bags. They do not like that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:33 PM
23

Knock yourself out dude. The legal fees are definitely going to be greater than half of the winnings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:54 AM
39

How about you just stop leaving the milk out? Fuck! It’s not that hard to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:41 PM
3

Values aren’t religion specific. Being an atheist doesn’t mean being amoral. I understand that is not what you are trying to say here, but I think it’s important to understand that most adults don’t require a religious doctrine to understand right and wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:39 PM
24

Consider the amount of time and effort you put into getting ready for a date. This is a flat lay of the products I used to prepare for a date a few weeks ago. The kinda of clothes I wear out to a date don’t make it to my normal rotation, though the products get daily use. All told, time and money spent on this date is far greater than the cost of a meal. Consider that you could save a lot of time and money if you just stayed home and made soup. Think of all the stuff you could get done with the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:55 AM
59

Once someone gets the “ick” for their partner, it never goes away. Even if she was hairless with 20% body fat and saw a cosmetic surgeon to get her pre-babies body back, he would still not find her attractive. It’s over and he isn’t going to try to change. He doesn’t want anything to change because he has a nice life as a kept woman with very few responsibilities. The only thing that will change in that relationship before they get divorced is he will probably start cheating (or she will become …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:54 PM
24

Have they never heard of such a thing as a vasectomy? This dude needs to hang up his baby making hat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:51 PM
14

That sounds like me when it comes to politics and things I consider unjust. But, I only forbid them to speak about the idea that men are the real victims of #metoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:53 PM
21

She is 18. Give her a few more decades to figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:36 PM
7

Get a Google Voice. Your phone number is linked to too much of your private life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 04:30 AM
28

I love getting texts every day because it means I’m on his mind and he wants my attention. Of course, plans for the next date should be in place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 04:28 AM
67

A while back I read something where after a lady dumped a Dusty, he revealed to her that on their first date he only pretended to forget his wallet and he was gloating that he tricked her into paying. I have a plan for this if it ever happens and you have a car that you drove there (or can feasibly pretend that is the case). Bring only a card case with a key ring on it and fill it only with your ID and a couple of small bills and put your car key on it. If he pulls this move, you can open your c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 04:01 AM
6

More time, less words. Got it. No more snark. When I think about it, being cunty isn’t really that much fun and it flips my conflict/anxiety switch which actually makes me like a man more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 08:53 AM
4

Everything that I enjoy doing I want to do as well as possible. I want to learn everything about it and acquire the best tools and accessories. I love sex and am therefore incredibly good at it. I can deal with boner issues or a bad lover and have a good time even if I find myself in bed with the most useless man, but why should I? I’d rather be with someone who is as enthusiastic about giving pleasure and open to trying new things as I am and who also doesn’t need his ego stroked every step of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:20 PM
20

They don’t read your profile before messaging you because they aren’t interested in what you want or anything about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:10 PM
10

Ask them to post the pictures they offer to send to their profile. Then you know for sure. No one in his life would shame him for getting out there and trying to date except his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:06 PM
6

I met a man at a restaurant for a date last year. When I arrived, he was already seated. It was okay, but he was about 50 pounds over weight so I was already on the fence. But, I’m 5’11” and he was well over 6’ and was telling me how he had been working on it and his successes so far. When we stood up to leave I saw that he was wearing basketball shorts. Aren’t those basically pajamas? Did I mention it was -34C (-30F)? Sure, lots of people can deal with running to and from the car improperly dre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:01 PM
23

I’m 41 and I’ll be all over some limp dick, bald, dad bod because he is my only option? I think they aren’t taking into account how desirable we are to men in their 20s. Men with under 15% body fat and extraordinarily hard cocks that stay hard until they come and then get hard again after a pee break and a glass of water. Have any of you noticed how they dive straight into your crotch with their faces when they are 25? They are so eager to please and willing to learn. If you are on Tinder, drop …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 08:28 AM
6

It’s totally reasonable to expect a 35 year old man to get hard when he is kissing a woman he has never had sex with and it’s also totally reasonable that he would not get quite so excited a few months down the road with the same lady. The newness adds another layer of excitement. If the woman is experienced, and it sounds like OP is not new here, her confidence, skill, and her ability to transmit her own arousal will add more layers of excitement. Making out after making it clear that sex is no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 08:02 AM
22

You have to turn notifications off on dating apps and most social apps or you will be blinging constantly. And honestly, I don’t want the Plenty of Fish or Tinder logo showing up on my watch just whenever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:47 PM
19

When you are in an appropriate setting for men to approach you, you need to make sure you are approachable. You need to make eye contact and smile. Your face and body language need to invite a man to approach. Make sure you don’t have resting bitch face. If you are wearing headphones, buried in your phone or a book some men will take that as a signal that you don’t want to be disturbed. The kind of men who bother you anyway are not the kind of men you are looking for. Being in a group of too man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 04:29 AM
28

For me a big part of leveling up means getting up earlier so I have time to make sure I look my best when I walk out the door. This is a bit of undertaking because I am working on updating my wardrobe so that I can ensure everything fits well, getting rid of and replacing anything that is no longer in good condition, and putting together outfits ahead of time. I’m also putting more effort into doing skincare and hair treatments, changing my nail polish as soon as it chips, and overall lady maint…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 04:15 AM
8

I have been firmly in the camp of “teach these devils,” but I’m coming to the conclusion that I’m wrong. A well reasoned argument holds no sway with dummies on Reddit just as it holds none with fuckbois. The reason for this is simple: we are rejecting them and we are telling them it’s because we don’t view them as man enough. Low effort dates, shitty communication, fear of intimacy, and a limp dick aren’t my idea of a man and if they were honest with themselves, they would admit it isn’t their i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 03:36 AM
41

Is it possible that you require conflict and anxiety for it to feel like love for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 07:21 PM
20

Chinese women have historically had it really badly and the government has always had very little respect for human life in general. Awful shit is happening there right now to the people of Hong King and they are trying to ethnically cleanse their population of the Uyghur ethnic minority in horrific style right now. It’s kind of easy for us to imagine that as China has grown to become a major player in the world economy and as some of its people (Han majority) have become vastly more wealthy com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 06:30 AM
30

5 emojis? I already hate him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:19 AM
1

Remember the last time it felt like this after something ended? Remember all that pain and feeling sorry for yourself you experienced? How do you feel about that dude now? Couldn’t possibly care less? You will feel this way about this situation in the future too. Mentally transport yourself to this time. Every time you start to spiral, take yourself into the future where you no longer care. Leveling up requires discipline. Don’t allow yourself to indulge in behaviors that don’t serve you. Level …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 07:40 AM
5

He doesn’t like Eskimos? What? What man tells a woman he barely knows that she is clearly smarter than he is? Men always think they are smarter than women, especially if they are really stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:57 AM
15

If you do try Tinder you need to figure out what you are looking for and kinds of things are dealbreakers. Let them initiate conversation. Get a Google Voice number so you don’t have to give out your number. Always meet in public the first time, NO EXCEPTIONS. Let him suggest the place so you can gauge his intent. A parking lot means he has no respect for you. Alcohol will lower your inhibitions, but that’s your call. Protect your drink no matter what you are drinking. Don’t find yourself alone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 01:18 AM
3

That sounds like narcissism. Do a little research because it will help you understand what the fuck happened there and help you learn to recognize if one attempts target you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:50 AM
7

Oh for sure. But, what I found most interesting was my reaction to a man who looks like Ryan Reynolds behaving in this way. Obviously, I don’t know him personally and have assigned character traits to him based on his roles in movies, but he looks to me like he must be really nice and like he treats women well. Why do I assume this? Why do I imagine Deadpool to be flawed but ultimately a good person just because that is what is shown to us of his character? Why do I want to make myself believe t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 09:08 PM
2

Honestly, I think the newer stuff is better but it’s mostly live stream and long. It’s perfect to have going in the background while you do other things. Most of it doesn’t need to be viewed at all and she does stay mostly on topic throughout her streams between questions and trolls, so if you don’t have time for the whole thing, you will still get the gist of it if you stay for the first 30 minutes or so. I listen to some Law of Attraction stuff and then some SheRaSeven1 stuff while I’m putting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:18 PM
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Fatfish! That’s hilarious. I wrote your new bio. It’s simply: No fatties. That will drive them up the wall!!! I mean, they wrote it. I save screenshots of conversations because I want to save the world and I try to teach these devils. But, I’m wasting my time. I should make an album to post...actually, I should delete them. As much as I like bitching about this stuff, I know it doesn’t serve me. If there is one thing we can learn from the Incels it’s that endless complaining only compounds our m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 09:31 AM
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Feel free to present yourself as a raging bitch harpy and use it whenever you like. I’m kind of a master at writing bios based on shit that ticks me off and making men so mad they feel compelled to inform me of their ire then block me when I challenge them to explain what they find so offensive. I usually try to reign it in because I hate when a man’s bio is just criticizing the generic woman’s bio, but I am pretty sure that liking the office and having too many pictures with lots of friends in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 09:17 AM
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A line I’ve used in profiles on OLD in the past: If you are only here for something physical, then my judgement of you will be based solely on the physical. Boy, do they hate that. I’m attractive, but I’m not perfect so how dare I judge them like that when all they want from me is to perform sex doll with no expectations. This is just sex, Baby. Don’t worry about what you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 09:06 AM
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I actually don’t find men who tell me why I will be attracted to them all that attractive especially when the reason is a personality disorder. He comes off as very insecure. I’d probably match with him just to fuck with him, but I’m trying to refrain from that kind of behavior even though it’s so much fun! Also, I’m not trying to read bios before we match and they send the first message. I have a lot of free time, but not enough for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 09:01 AM
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I’m taller than the average man at 5’11”. My perfect height for a man is 6’2” or better. Only 3.9% of adult men fall into that category. It’s nice when they are tall, but it’s better when they don’t have kids and those are the only two negotiables on my list. (No one wants a stupid, broke, addicted, Dusty who lives in filth.) I did date two men who were 6’7” last year and they were both named Ben. I don’t know what the odds of that are, but one was also uncircumcised and that drives me crazy so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:49 AM
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If I broke my phone or some other circumstance prevented me from accessing whatever app we were using, I would find a way to log in on another device. Go home and get your iPad, back to work for your laptop, hell, go to a store where they have display phones. Even if I had to borrow a friend’s phone to download the app and log in so I could let them know what was going on, I would. It would be a top priority. If I had to go to the store and buy a burner smartphone, I would. There are a million w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:38 AM
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SheRaSeven1 on YouTube gives advice that is ostensibly about gold digging, but I have figured out that it runs deeper than that. She is giving women advice on how to attract the kind of man who WANTS to take care of a woman in every way and how to stay away from those that will never be able to do so. I didn’t understand just what she meant until I compared it to the NEED I feel to help a man with his day to day life. When I am into a man, I feel a drive to do things for him like cooking and cle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:24 AM
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I always want to know if this ever actually works or if this is just another oblivious sad old dude past his prime who thinks OLD is for ordering up a free prostitute like he might order a pizza (which isn’t typically available free, certainly not made to order and brought to your door). What do you have to offer that might appeal to that rare horny lady who somehow has no one in her contact list that she can hit up for a quickie? What is the incentive for any woman to take on the very real risk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:02 AM
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Before my hysterectomy and some considerable weight loss, sex was pretty mediocre. I didn’t realize how much my fear of becoming pregnant and my self-consciousness about my body was impacting my ability to relax and enjoy myself. Being comfortable and relaxed are essential to a woman’s pleasure. Now, I always have good sex as far as my pleasure goes. When I have great sex, it’s with someone who listens without getting all butthurt when I tell him how I like something to be done and who takes the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:31 PM
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I imagine that has a lot to do with you and your confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:07 PM
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She has as a horrible self image which doesn’t help anything. We need to stop describing ourselves with a list of our perceived flaws. Every woman does this, even the ones we can all agree are “conventionally beautiful.” I’m a million things but the things I don’t love about my body aren’t at the top of that list and only make up a small fraction of that list. Knowing your worth and being proud of your accomplishments doesn’t make you an egomaniac. It makes you confident and more desirable. Anyo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:03 PM
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I like to let them suggest a place for the same reasons as you. They all know by the time we get to the planning stage that I am a vegetarian so when they suggest a shitty burger joint I now know two things about the dude that disqualifies him from dating me. If a man can’t respect my well-reasoned dietary choices or he can’t pick an eatery that knows what to do with vegetables, it’s a pass. I want a man who is willing to accommodate my personal choices as well as makes sure I have what I want a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 05:38 AM
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Isn’t it funny how much more likely you are to meet another woman with whom you have that spark? I really wish I was into ladies sometimes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 07:10 PM
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Let me guess! You are way out of his league? He probably has met quite a few women he has rejected or just ghosted because they didn’t fit the vision of who he had in mind for people to see him with. But, you are the kind of girl he wants because his friends and coworkers will be jealous. How dare you have your own vision of being with someone with hair or an expectation of a spark of attraction? You should accept what is being offered even if it’s not what you want because he wants you! It trul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 06:51 PM
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You are right, attempting to reason with him was futile but, he didn’t seem like a radical. He just seemed like one of the guys who lurks here and is frustrated that he can’t participate in the conversation. But, his logic was flawed and his suggestions were contrary to my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:02 AM
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Hey, I get it. Trust me that I do. But, this guy is a rapist and maybe the police in her area are not as awful as they are in others. What other option is there, just accept that men are going to do whatever they want no matter what you explicitly say you do not consent to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:58 AM
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I got one the other day too. Like, thanks for the advice dude but I’ve tried that so, no thanks. FDS has immediately proven itself to be more effective than interacting with men I’m dating like I do with other people in my life. I’m sorry if they would prefer I lower my perfectly reasonable standards and accept their bullshit to make things easier for them, but that simply doesn’t work. I’m committed to being dust-free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:54 AM
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I don’t understand why this woman doesn’t go to the police. This is absolutely appalling. That dude has absolutely no respect for women and should face consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 04:20 AM
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You can share your phone’s location temporarily or permanently with a friend or family member so they can track your phone in real time. Unless it turns out you are dealing with Dexter, most creeps won’t think about your phone being tracked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 03:39 AM
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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told a man that I’m about to come only to have stop doing whatever he was doing. Just stop moving. Hey buddy, freezing is not the appropriate response to that declaration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 02:57 AM
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You are 100% correct. Thank you for your input and know that I am finally ready to give up my resistance to blocking because that means I can’t get the evidence that they are chasing me. Why the fuck do I want someone I’m not interested in chasing me?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:27 PM
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Don’t give me too much credit. He’s a dud. But, I’m glad I posted it because of the effect it’s having on other ladies like me and you and the responses from others who are gently causing me interrogate a few of my behaviors that I didn’t realize were problematic. Why do I feel the need to even respond when men approach me that are clearly not it? Why do I delight in shooting men down who have no chance? I am a confident person and I have a very large ego and I should not need to validate myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:23 PM
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You can count whoever you want. Only an abuser would make the effort to try to find out if you are lying if your body count is plausible. I suppose if a woman took men home and only let them go down on her to completion and never let them fuck her (touching his dick otherwise is optional) she could technically claim a 0 body count. (This idea is amusing to me except the part where men angry men become violent men, so I don’t recommend.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 08:54 PM
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Yeah, in the evening I want to chat with people so I don’t play the game. But, I had no interest in that lumpy mess so I was just having some fun with him. I don’t live in region where I will get 50 messages in one day. But, I did open my app last night to 6. I take you point and I trust that it is true. I will take your prescription and I will use it on men I’m actually interested in and I will ignore the ones I’m not. I’m over here asking myself some hard questions about my delight in shooting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 08:05 PM
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I probably have a warped view of short men because I’m 5’11” (and have my own shit about my size) and the idea of a man more than a few inches shorter than me, especially if he is also skinny, is an anathema to me. So, thank you for offering me some perspective. I was under the impression that even short women want a man over 6’ and leave all the 5’8”ers to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:48 PM
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For my next trick, I’ll try to be that curt with an attractive man...wish me luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:34 PM
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He logged off immediately after and no response. Honestly, I’m surprised he understood that I wasn’t being nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:33 PM
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Nope! Shut him down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:32 PM
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I can’t tell you how many mornings I have been lying in bed and been inspired to take a picture of my dogs but had to get up and make the bed first. Even pictures that show them covered in leaves or snow needs to be in a tidy background!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:27 PM
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I mean, I do feel very sorry for tiny little men. I saw one cooking “food” at the gas station today. He was very short and slight and though he didn’t seem like he had a bad attitude, I immediately felt sorry for him. It must be awful to be a man that very few women would be interested in romantically and it makes me feel bad for them. I can understand why they become bitter and direct that bitterness toward women because even the most unattractive woman can find someone willing to sleep with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:10 AM
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I always know in the first few moment if it’s a ‘no’. It only takes a few minutes after that to figure out if I want him touch me. After about thirty minutes of conversation, if the idea of having sex with him doesn’t make me hot, it’s a no. I’m a very sexual person, but I have never met a man who started out as a ‘no’ or about whom I felt ambivalent who was later upgraded to a ‘yes.’ Any bad feeling (dread, ambivalence, anxiety, disgust) I felt during the first meeting was consistent throughout…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 08:37 AM
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This is their talking point to avoid the issue because it usually works to shut women up because, of course, we have compassion for anyone who experiences unwanted sexual attention and, of course, we are appalled at the idea of a woman falsely accusing a man of assault or rape. But, the reality is that a man being ogled, fondled, or otherwise objectified experiences none of the FEAR that almost all women experience under similar circumstances. Humiliating someone isn’t cool, but what these guys …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 08:15 AM
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You and I are on the same page. I made a comment about him looking like a smoker further down. I always try to convince men to wear sunscreen and they act like it’s a point of pride that they never touch the stuff and then tell me how I don’t look my age in the same breath. So dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 07:06 AM
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Why are other women subs so anti-FDS? Is it just because men aren’t allowed to chime in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:40 AM
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At least Ignatius worked...sort of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:32 AM
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I’m sure I wouldn’t have a very good opinion of my mother if I still lived with her, but fortunately I moved out at 19 so we have a good relationship. But yeah, this guy sounds like a fucking gem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:31 AM
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And consider that there would be no need for this kind of subreddit if there was no red pill mentality. Hey dudes, you don’t need to try and fool women and train them to do your fucked up bidding. You don’t need to collect as many not he’s on your belt as possible. Just be a decent human being and bring some desirable qualities to the table. Have your fun when you are young and getting your education/career established with other young women who are doing the same then commit to making a good li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:16 AM
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I think the issue is that men don’t consider it rape unless they actually get in trouble and face consequences. Men think pushing and pushing to get a girl to relent is fine and some men can’t be bothered to understand that sometimes a woman is so scared that she will let him do what he wants to avoid getting punched in the face. If there isn’t enthusiastic consent from both parties, it’s not consensual. I will say that Title IX universities are making all students complete lengthy online traini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:58 AM
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He looks like a long time smoker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:50 AM
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Hahah, that was my exact thought. Rough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:49 AM
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If the difference between a condom and no condom is so dramatic, why do men rarely notice when a condom breaks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:28 PM
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I don’t understand this wall concept as it applies to women. The only thing she can’t do without a lot of money and medical technology is have a child, but she and most age appropriate men are probably done with having children. For me, the real wall is the one that prevents a person from fully satisfying their partner sexually. In my experience, aging has increased my libido but seems to be causing it become very difficult for my male peers to get and maintain the erections required to satisfy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 09:40 PM
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I wasn’t referring to the circumstances of any other case but the one at hand. There is no reason why supporting this woman should shame another person because, like you say, every case is different. I would never suggest a woman who was trapped in an abusive relationship cycle because of her compassionate and caring nature was “too blind to see what was happening.” That is a very uncharitable view. I think most women are intelligent enough to recognize when they are in a toxic relationship. It’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:07 PM
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Men have one bad relationship and never get over it and all subsequent women will have to work to overcome his insecurities. That’s not my job. Bad relationships are a part of life. Grow up and get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:56 PM
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Be proud that you weren’t battered. Be proud of yourself for recognizing what was about to happen and that you didn’t allow it. It’s not easy to do, so many women never see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:52 PM
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I’m a housekeeper. I work for myself. My clients treat me exceedingly well and I love taking care of them. There aren’t a lot of the kind of people living here who might be easily exploited, but I can’t imagine the people I work for treating anyone who works for them poorly. I have had some shitty clients over the years, but I don’t keep them on the schedule very long. It’s definitely a luxury to hire someone to do the work that might otherwise be a point of contention in a household, but it’s n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 05:55 AM
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I guess he isn’t an incel then...what a life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 05:33 AM
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I’ve noticed a trend in bed with older men. Most men over 42 that I’ve taken to bed in the last two years have had some kind of boner issue that I had to pretend wasn’t bothersome to me. They can’t get hard, stay hard, cum immediately, or can’t ever cum. The ones who were fit and ate well were the exception. None of the men in their 20’s or early 30’s that I’ve taken to bed in the last two years have had any problems. They usually can perform well more than once. I have also noticed a lot of men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 05:27 AM
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Thanks. The advice given in this sub would be useless if we were all hideous trolls that can’t get dates or dick. Blocking and deleting is not necessary if dudes aren’t constantly trying to crawl up your ass. Just ask the incels how effective raising their standards for prospective dates is when no one wants you in the first place. So, why are you so mad, bro? Oh yeah, because pick up artist techniques were your only hope, albeit a very slim hope, of getting a woman to allow you to touch her. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 05:11 AM
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Can someone who has watched the video give a summary for those of us who don’t want to give his video any traffic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:01 AM
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Right? It’s much more likely that he would just ‘break’ his dick against her body if it came out and while he was thrusting so wildly. That’s happened a few times for me, but I’ve never had an accidental full anal penetration and I enjoy some vigorous sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 07:34 AM
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If you decide to respond and can’t think of something clever to say, crowd source some options here. It’s so much easier to be ice cold when you aren’t emotionally involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:44 PM
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Nevermind all the other piles of flaming shit in this bio, why the fuck does anyone think it’s okay to write this way? Why do so many men not understand that representing yourself like this does you no favors? If you can’t be fucked to edit any these glaring typos because it looks like shit, I am confident there is very little in your life you take pride in doing well. You do the bare minimum in every arena. You live in filth, you have a low skill job at which you will never advance, and you don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:14 PM
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I have had a hysterectomy. When I tell a new man this, almost without exception his response is to ask if that means he doesn’t need to wear a condom. I respond by telling them that I can’t get pregnant but I can still get AIDS. And of course they immediately declare that they are clean. Yeah, because you are adamant about practicing safe sex with everyone except me. People who declare they are clean and accept my response that I am also without any follow up reveal themselves to be high risk be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:02 PM
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This community isn’t about hate. There is definitely some bitterness about being badly used, and like any advice, some of it will be useful and some less so. Coming together to advocate for women to demand to get at least as good as they give and to protect themselves from the many predatory men and their tactics while they search for a partner is beautiful and uplifting. I too am amused at how this enrages some men. I don’t think the generous nature of most women that makes these tactics so eff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 05:14 AM
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It’s bizarre to me that these techniques men use on women is so ubiquitous to men, but the reasonable and right response that women who are otherwise capable and competent should employ is so eye opening. The shit messaging from men is so insidious and pervasive but the advice found here seems so revolutionary to us even as it resonates so much truth and makes so much sense in light of our experiences. I’m amazed at how quickly men coalesce around some talking point and together, seemingly witho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:35 AM
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I live in a medium sized city that is a six+ hour drive from the next largest city. I get lots of messages from men in that city even though I’ve explicitly stated that I am seeking a serious monogamous relationship with people who live in or near to the city in which I live because I don’t want a long distance relationship. They tell me the distance doesn’t matter. I tell them I’ll let them know when what I want is no longer important to me. One dude beleaguered the point and I attempted to mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 03:50 AM
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Or that it’s worth it to tolerate the company and terrible conversation of someone we have no interest in for a free meal. I’d rather try to scape something resembling a meal together at home alone having not gone to grocery store for two weeks than try to explain why a child’s safety at school trumps anyone’s 2nd amendment right to have fun with their murder toys or why my choice to not eat meat should not be so bothersome to them. My time is worth more than whatever meal they buy me, even if I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 03:15 AM
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WhatsApp seems scammy. Everyone who has asked me to use WhatsApp has been really pushy about it to hostile. Snapchat = they want to make pornography requests. I tell them the internet is filled with dirty pictures and videos. I fail to see how my naughty bits differ from those of any other person he has never met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 03:03 AM
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Brutal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 02:58 AM
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I believe I this was an attempt to neg me. I couldn’t understand why a man pursuing a woman would say something like that. And I’ve shut him down a few times now after he attempted to change our coffee meeting to an outdoor event locale that is deserted in the summer at the last minute. Of course I want to meet you in the woods where no one will find my dismembered body! I’ve since blocked him. (I thought about my terminology before I sent my response and came to the conclusion that it was appro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 04:40 AM
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I can change it to a bad time if you’d like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 03:59 AM
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