#TellHimTheTruth2020

HolyIsTheLord · 2019-12-17T02:34:42+00:00

My commentary on this screenshot (won't let me add it to my OP lol):

This post really stood out to me and hit home.

Why on earth are we expected to coddle men's delicate emotions, fragile egos, and be responsible for building their self esteem?

Why are we reluctant to give honest feedback of their shortcomings, let downs, inadequacies, and personality flaws.

I'm done sparing their feelings or remaining silent when a man screws up or has a glaring flaw we're supposed to overlook or even encourage.

Tell him the truth! Be direct. Put our own needs and expectations out there.

Love this hash.

jewdy09 · 2019-12-17T03:50:09+00:00

Teach these devils!

I had a date the other day that went well (mostly because the waitress was very amusing) but he was looked to be about 100 pounds heavier than a friend of mine who is the same height (6’3”) and weighs in at 270 who I find very appealing physically.

I felt bad after this conversation, but judging by his response, I think he has become accustomed to women not saying anything about his deception because we are socialized to not be rude. Men want that courtesy but rarely extend it to women and make no effort to soften the blow when they find something unappealing about our appearance weather an attempt to obscure said “flaws” is made or not.

I didn’t find him attractive in his current state and I couldn’t imagine that oaf huffing and puffing on top me but he should have given me the opportunity to reject him BEFORE I accepted the date by representing himself accurately. The deception is the main issue, but putting me in the position of either lying, ghosting, or being brutally honest was a dick move so I let him have it. I’m sure he thinks I’m just a superficial asshole who rejected him for his looks, but it’s more than that.

Ms_Tilly · 2019-12-17T02:42:25+00:00

Already on board and have been for years. The looks on some of their faces when you do it are PRICELESS.

Scotsburd · 2019-12-17T06:19:07+00:00

It's a kindness, really and I'm really, really kind... 😁

Haltthemoon · 2019-12-23T06:34:26+00:00

Agreed! Also, if you've had a bad experience with a date from OLD, please report them. If you felt that another woman shouldn't have to endure what you went thru, report them. They need to be held accountable.

A guy almost sexually harrassed me on our third date. I reported him. Then, I saw him on a different app, I reported him there as well.
A guy I went out with 4 times started acting weird. Then, the last night we hung out, he was like half-heartedly tried to mess around with me. The next day, he texted me saying he also was seeing someone else and decided to go with her. The fact that he still tried to mess around with me but couldn't go thru with it, that is a poor character trait. I reported him.
Another one is silly and stupid, but if a guy has been chatty for too long without asking me out, I report him as 'Spam'.
Last but not least, if a guy writes inappropriate messages, that's amongst the guidelines of reporting. Number 2 & 3 are open interpretations.

Title	#TellHimTheTruth2020
Author	HolyIsTheLord
Upvotes	115
Comments	14
Date	December 17, 2019 2:30 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ebpfnc/tellhimthetruth2020/
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