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Discussionreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:20 PM
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Question For Menreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:17 PM
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Question For Womenreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 06:15 AM
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Question For Menreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:27 PM
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Discussionreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:20 AM
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Question For Womenreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 01:27 PM
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Question For Menreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:12 PM
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Question for Womenreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:38 PM
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reddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:01 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEreddishrobin/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:48 PM
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Question for Womenreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:08 PM
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reddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 08:20 PM
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Question For Menreddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:14 PM
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reddishrobin/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:30 PM
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I agree with you. I always paid for myself on first dates because so many men seem to think if they pay, then you owe them sex and I didn't want to see any of that kind of expectation potentially interfering in deciding whether we liked each other enough to go on a second date. But I wasn't looking for a provider. I'd be interested in the experiences of the women here who had their date paid for and whether he had any expectation of sex in exchange.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/26 01:21 PM
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Tate is ugly with no chin. Women only fuck him because he is rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:06 PM
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You never know. People are weird about race and dating.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 01:26 AM
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That's not the point I was trying to make. I'll be blunt, I am wondering if racism is a factor. Or stereotypes about people from your country.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 12:41 AM
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What country are you from? That might be impacting men's decision to date you or not
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 08:00 PM
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From the Rules: Men are not allowed to ask questions and generally discouraged from participating unless they are older, partnered and have Red Pill experience.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/26 10:57 AM
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Watch him not answer!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:05 PM
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It's sad for the customers, but they must like it as they keep paying for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:04 PM
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Sorry, I was referring to the last paragraph regarding men spending all their time online whining rather then going out socialising and perhaps seeing a psychologist to improve their social skills and deal with any emotional and psychological issues that are preventing them connecting with women in the way they want. Every minute men spend complaining on Purple Pill Debate is a minute they could be spending improving themselves in real life. But most men don't want to change, they want women to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:20 AM
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Gee you are a nasty piece of work. I'm glad I don't know you in real life and I feel sorry for any woman that comes into your orbit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:19 PM
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Calling a woman that you want to repeatedly have sex with a slut probably contributes to the reason you can't get one. Do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 02:27 PM
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Only the men themselves can fix that. Are they making an effort? Or just complaining in their mom's basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 02:24 PM
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You do realise Ayn Rand ended up destitute on welfare before she died? And communities set up using her philosophies didn't last long before collapsing?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:52 AM
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If he wasn't rich, nobody would pay him any attention.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/25 08:45 PM
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As you are yours. Do you find him attractive?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/25 08:44 PM
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Tate is ugly.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/25 04:04 PM
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Have some pride. Better luck next time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/25 12:09 PM
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Don't act pathetic by begging for attention. If he doesn't frequently contact you, then he's not interested. Keep looking.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/25 11:20 AM
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Oh OK, true that was a great plot twist. Totally unexpected. I thought the marks on his legs were going to be cancer or something. I'm sure she did care about it more than she let on. When he bent his knees to show her what he would look like shorter, she had no comment of "that wouldn't have made a difference to me"., if she married and reproduced with him she'd probably have short sons who would also struggle. I don't know how to cover spoilers with the blackout so sorry to anyone who has it s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:46 PM
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That's one way of looking at it. On the other hand, it did seem to be intended for marriage minded people which is hard to find at bars and on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:36 PM
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Yes I suppose it is just as demeaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:33 PM
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The rich guy was into her and pursued her, but I didn't get the feeling that he really cared about her as a person and her feelings, she just ticked boxes for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:31 PM
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The plot twist at the ending? I think it sends a good message to women not to be a selfish gold digger and appreciate true friendship and love when it comes to marriage. But it comes with caveats - he seemed to want children and they would struggle on his salary alone. Plus men who earn less than their wives tend to cheat. But it makes a nice change from all the golddigger movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:28 PM
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So what's the minimum income and height for you personally and your friends to date a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:06 AM
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That's disgusting of those women. I didn't think any woman could watch that movie and hear about the painful leg lengthening operation and not have empathy for short guys. Seems like there's plenty of horrible women in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:28 PM
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Weird isn't it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 10:26 PM
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Yes I suppose I am. To me the friendship and love part of a long term relationship is more important than riches. How many of those East Asian and South Asian women who married for money are in happy marriages? They are both extremely patriarchal societies who frown on divorce no matter how unhappy the woman is. I'm glad I'm not from those cultures and I had the freedom to marry for love and get treated as an equal in my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:51 PM
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Are you saying the movie lead to a backlash against short men?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:47 PM
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I admit that I prefer to date men taller than myself and lost interest in a man once when I found out he was the same height as me ie 5'4". He's still a Facebook friend. That probably makes me shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:42 PM
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I also found it interesting that the matchmaker scolded the post Wall client for her pages long typewritten list of what she wanted in a man, telling her it not build-a-man, but men are people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:40 PM
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I think the movie is saying that it's typical for post-Wall women in NYC who want to marry to focus on the wrong things like height and income without considering who the man is are as a person. I don't know how true that is as I am not American.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:38 PM
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I found it interesting that a mainstream movie validated red pill talking points that men aren't evaluated by women for themselves,but for shallow things like height and wealth, which are apparently important to women, but things that are important to men aren't advertised and have to wait until he first sees her figure on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:36 PM
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I thought it interesting that a mainstream media movie acknowledged red pill talking points that short men are disadvantaged in the mating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:33 PM
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I wondered if the operation would make your legs weaker. I'm sorry you are in the position where you even considered it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:32 PM
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I thought it was interesting that the problems of shorter men was being validated in a Hollywood movie and their solution was a painful operation, not that women should change their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 09:31 PM
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How about instead of going back to the past, women insist the group of men who are "out of shape, unkempt, unhygienic, lack social skills, and are not financially stable" actually step up and improve themselves if they want to date and marry? Like the Red Pill says, hit the gym and smarten yourself up and improve your social skills and financial status. How would bringing back patriarchy increase the number of desirable men to date and marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 06:43 AM
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What was the X that he said was a flaw that you can't change? It might be a dealbreaker for him. We need to know so we can help you understand where he is coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 07:41 PM
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Sounds like you just woke up to the waste of time being an orbiter for the last however many years. Congratulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 02:12 PM
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I would wait until I had moved to the new city before trying to seriously date. It's only a couple of months away so not long for you to wait. It would be pointless to find a decent man where you are now if you plan to move. He would be unlikely to want to go with you and LTRs without a plan to close the distance are a waste of time. Good luck, and do update us again when you are in your new city and dating.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/24 10:11 PM
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Yet here you are, two years later, still upset over what he did. He's an asshole so put him in the past. What I wrote first still stands.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/24 12:43 AM
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It sounds like you would benefit from therapy to help you stop obsessing over this man and trying to understand him. I'm sorry he hurt you and I'm sorry none of your friends stood up for you. But it's time to leave him in the past and move on to find your Captain.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 11:40 AM
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Let him go. You're fooling yourself if you think he will change and want a relationship with you. He's lonely in a new country and wants company and probably sex down the line. Move on and find someone who want's to be in a relationship with you. Don't waste any more time on him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 05:44 AM
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Stop having casual sex. Casual sex is making you feel bad. Insist on a man investing in you emotionally for some time before sex.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 07:35 AM
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Hear hear
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:59 AM
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Read up on vetting. This man should have failed your vetting process and been 'nexted' ages ago. You are not doing anything wrong. It's him that's being abusive and is not husband material. You can't turn a sow's ear into a silk purse. If I were you I would cut my losses, move out, go no contact and search for someone better and vet better. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 01:00 PM
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This sub doesn't claim to be a safe space for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:21 AM
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You make good points. There's also the heritability of autism, one autistic parent is a risk, two autistic parents practically guarantee an autistic child who will be more challenging to rise. Show me a woman who wants a child and is willing for that child's father to be autistic. I bet there won't be many.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:19 AM
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People are assholes and dehumanise and categorise people all the time on all sorts of criteria. Good luck with your campaign to get women to be nice to autistic men. Women will always feel uncomfortable and threatened by creepy behaviour, and I think the problem is autistic men don't realise they are being creepy when they do things like stare obsessively or say inappropriate things that make women feel threatened. Of course women want threatening men or men who make them feel uncomfortable to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:15 AM
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If you don't want to be labelled a creep, then don't act in a creepy way. It's quite simple really.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:05 AM
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I agree with this statement and I am in a LTR with a very high functioning autistic man. It can be very challenging, especially his rigid need for planning in advance and inability to do anything spontaneous, his need to be a homebody, and his having meltdowns over things I think are trivial. Fortunately for me, his other qualities make him worthwhile and he is not socially inept. It's bad luck for autistic men, and I can understand them feeling life isn't fair, but most women want a fully funct…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:59 AM
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Need more info on your schedule and his not following it, and what you said when you raised your voice. Not enough info here.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 04:16 PM
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I third it. Stop wasting your time OP with this man who frequently insults you by saying you drain him and are annoying. He's not going to get any better.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 08:30 AM
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They wish they had such an affectionate, caring and protective man as their partner. Take it as a compliment to your relationship.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/24 04:08 PM
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Studies show that a third of men would like to rape a woman if they could be guaranteed of getting away with it. That's terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 01:40 PM
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you forgot /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 08:36 AM
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You should hang around the relationship subreddits when women are disgusted when they find out their male partner does this. It happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:20 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:19 PM
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What do you think a potential future husband will think of your current activities? There's your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 03:11 PM
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I'm glad you were able to break the spell.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 08:49 PM
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Tell him no more blow jobs before he gives you an orgasm. He sounds awfully selfish.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 01:27 PM
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How have you cared about unattractive people in your life? Are you M or F?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:11 AM
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Evolution acted on female mammals to help them with instinctive behavioural strategies to help choose the best father for their offspring. Humans are no different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:10 AM
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How do you care about women you don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:34 AM
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You made the claim that men as a group are more empathic to women as a group than vice versa. Many more men rape women than women rape men, so I suggest that rapists are not showing empathy to women. I don't know the population of men who are rapists because most rapes are not reported and most rapists get away with it. I found this by googling ​ 1 in 16 (6.5%) men are rapists. 2002 Lisak study, although other studies show as high as nearly 15%, or 1 in 7 men 1 in 3 (30-35%) of men would rape if…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:30 AM
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Sure, rape statistics agree with you /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:05 AM
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That's Mother Nature, all female animals do it. That's how nature designed female animals to pick the winners to mate with. Deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:02 AM
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Why should women care about the men they rejected? Do you care what happens to women you don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:01 AM
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Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 12:29 AM
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That would be a good start. Have you brought this problem to your therapist?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 03:28 PM
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"I talk about my problems with him a lot" Stop talking to him about all your problems for a start. That's what a therapist is for, do you have one? If not, get one. He is not your therapist and most of your conversations together should be positive and not focussed on you complaining about problems. Only bring a problem to him if you want him to provide a solution. I agree you should get more hobbies to stop you sitting there pining for his attention.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:51 PM
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He's just not that into you, and there's nothing you can do about it. He obviously has more interesting things to do in his life than talk to you. Sad for you. Find someone new who can't wait to respond to your messages.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 06:55 AM
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If a man wants to lead you to the wrong place, then its not turning on him not to want to follow. You are still in the early vetting stages and he has shown you that he has values incompatible with yours. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 01:47 PM
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If you send the list, be prepared for it to drive him away. He's just not that into you and he doesn't want your additional expectations. Wake up and smell the coffee.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 10:55 AM
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You have never even met in real life, so talk of marriage and kids is putting the cart before the horse. It's better to know sooner that he isn't as keen on children as you are, that gives you a chance to vet better next time if that is what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:28 AM
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So blame the Chads then for wasting the average women's time tricking her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 01:55 PM
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Why not presume every day that he is too busy to text. That way it will be a pleasant surprise when he does find time to text. Don't nag him for more contact. Shelve the husband/wife talk until you have spent at least a year together in real life. Slow way down and keep your options open to meeting someone local.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 09:44 AM
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Keep pushing the couples counselling idea until it happens. Don't let it slide.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 06:09 AM
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Stop blowing up his phone for a start. Poor man.
/r/RedPillWives17/11/23 12:14 PM
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Which third world country was this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:00 PM
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He updated his dating profile photos. He's just not that into you. Leave him and move on. He's not Mr Right and you would be wasting your empathy on him while he is busy seeking other women.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 09:06 AM
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I recently read it. It is an excellent book. I was shocked at the quoted studies that 1 in 3 men would commit rape if they could get away with it. Women need to know that so we can protect ourselves against predators.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 04:30 PM
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It does when the perpetrator is a priest. Far too much of that happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 12:11 AM
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It's not exhausting at all, I'm just alert and wary
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 05:48 PM
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Yes I think its wise to be vigilant against people who look like people who commit a large amount of crime. Call me racist or sexist I don't care. I'd rather be vigilant and safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 05:21 PM
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The news doesn't cover the tsunami of rapes and sexual assaults that happen behind closed doors with a perpetrator you know. Rape is rarely reported and only when its by a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 05:03 PM
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We can't tell which guy is going to suddenly become Mr violent 3% so have to be eternally vigilant
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 05:02 PM
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Because we've all had bad experiences and read the news. Men are the biggest threat to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 11:21 AM
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Because everyone here knows the women on this sub don't even make a percentage of the entire female gender
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 07:02 AM
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Do you seriously think no woman outside this sub has a problem with cold approaches?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 06:47 AM
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Sorry, I didn't read properly and thought your "yes" was to enjoying it, not to had it ever happened. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:10 AM
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BDSM is full of abuse and pain that the sub consents to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:58 AM
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Yes morals are important. I wouldn't date a criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:18 AM
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I agree with most of what the women here say. It's the men on here who continually call us liars when we speak our truth. I sometimes wonder why we bother really.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:09 AM
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You know more than the World Health Organisation? Where are your statistics if theirs are wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:38 PM
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I feel quite safe in my country and am not scared of being shot, unlike Americans. We can send our kids to school knowing they will be safe from a gun shooting. US police are paranoid because it only takes a few seconds for someone who has a gun on them to shoot them. That's why they are trigger happy. I know where I'd rather live, and it's not the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:00 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Did you actually enjoy rejecting them though?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:32 PM
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It's a fact. From the World Health Organisation: Violence against women – particularly intimate partner violence and sexual violence – is a major public health problem and a violation of women's human rights. Estimates published by WHO indicate that globally about 1 in 3 (30%) of women worldwide have been subjected to either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime. Most of this violence is intimate partner violence. Worldwide, almost one …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:31 PM
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US cops are paranoid because there are more guns than people, and everyone they stop might have a gun. In their paranoia they shoot first. You are part of the problem if you carry a weapon. There is no solution while you refuse to have gun control. Thank goodness I live in a sensible country with good gun control. We hardly every have gun murders here. I remember being shocked when chatting with a US friend and she could hear gunfire in her suburb. What is your solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:27 PM
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She's not in the US. The US would be an even more violent place without its cops.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 02:13 PM
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My niece is a police officer. She keeps the peace and is not an enemy. Life without police would descend into violent anarchy very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:58 PM
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No thanks, I don't want abuse or pain. I prefer loving passionate sex with someone I love and trust. I'm happily partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:35 AM
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If a guy I was interested in was seeing other women I would remove myself from the equation. I want to be the only one he is paying attention to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:09 AM
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This is why I have a problem with feminists as a woman. #killallmen. I've known for a long time that women are dependent on good men keeping them safe from bad men. But feminists don't acknowledge this, despite the first thing r/TwoXChromosomes tells the endless stream of women experiencing sexual assault and harassment by men is to go to the police. The police are still majority male, and are Daddy government with guns. Not that the police and courts actually do much about sexual assault and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:31 AM
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Male sexuality can be very dangerous for women. The biggest global threat to women is male violence, usually from their partner. Women are right to be cautious
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:13 AM
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Why would you have casual sex and be called a slut and whore by men and shunned for long term relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:11 AM
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Trouble is, women can't tell which group a man belongs in until its too late. Maybe men should hold each other accountable for treating women well and women will feel safer to love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:10 AM
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Has that ever happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 07:49 AM
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Why did you keep his money?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 07:33 PM
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Because women generally don't like to hurt people's feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 08:15 AM
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You'd prefer women said "I don't find you attractive"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 08:10 AM
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"Your not my type" means "I don't find you attractive"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 07:57 AM
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It's a difficult choice to trust someone with your body's health.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:44 AM
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I agree. Calling you a whore is unforfivable. He won't change and I wonder why you would spend the rest of your life in this horrible relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 05:05 AM
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Yep that passionate 'in love' feeling heady mix of brain chemicals never lasts longer than 18 months unfortunately. People can get addicted to it. That's why so many women are serial monogamists when they get bored with their current partner while he is writing to reddit asking why his wife doesn't want to sleep with him anymore and why has she left him when he's done nothing wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:51 PM
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They are a waste of time if you are looking for a commitment minded man.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 10:55 PM
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Their new sex partner is reaping the benefits for a few years before she gets bored again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:38 PM
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I don't see it as bitter and angry, I see it as she is sad. Definitely pining.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:52 AM
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She's not angry or bitter though, like men who complain bitterly they have been wrongly put in the "friend zone".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:02 PM
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Many women get bored with years of sex with the same man too,and their sex drive comes roaring back with a new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 11:34 AM
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wow that's very different from what I have previously read
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:39 AM
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I know you can tell the difference between fat and slim through clothes, but not your six pack. that's a huge difference in weight, is it healthy to fluctuate so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:28 AM
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Is a man with low self esteem who has his world broken when you criticise him a good Captain for you to be First Mate with? Have you vetted correctly? What exactly do you mean by "world broken"? It might be helpful for you to give us some examples of what you have criticised and how he responded. We can be supportive, but we can't fix our partner's mental health problems or change their character.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 07:16 AM
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But he didn't say he got feedback from the rejecting girl that it was his lack of muscle, or that the new girl who accepted him because of his muscle and would have rejected the old him. I'd love to hear from both of them to find out their side of the story. But then again, a lot of what attracts women is unconscious to them, so we would never know the full story.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:07 AM
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How do women tell you have muscles though when you have clothes on, presumably long pants and long sleeved shirts when you go out at night? It's not like you can go out to dinner or a nightclub on a date with your shirt off. That's why I don't give much weight to the amount of muscle a man has for women's attraction. Once he's got his clothes off, sure. But he's already attracted her by that stage. But then again, I don't want a man with a six pack, I'm quite happy with my dad bod man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:57 AM
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So soon you will turn your bulking fat into muscle and your woman will want more sex again? Is that the idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:50 AM
1

What does bulking mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:46 AM
1

Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:30 AM
1

Are you outside the USA? I understand participation trophies and certificates are big there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:30 AM
1

I hear you on the lazy!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:20 AM
1

Ouch, that would have hurt
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:45 AM
1

I hope she would stay with you even if you stopped exercising.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:44 AM
1

Great to hear!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:43 AM
2

Sorry to hear it, hope your leg gets better. I guess you get what you pay for?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:43 AM
1

Do you give the loser a participation trophy though?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:42 AM
1

Sorry to hear you have suicidal thoughts, but glad you have found a way to keep them at bay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:40 AM
1

Good to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:38 AM
1

No problem. I thought your user name meant you were a pick up artist and you had figured out the secrets to women's brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:37 AM
2

Haha she traded down!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:57 AM
2

I"m glad exercise has helped you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:51 AM
2

sounds anxiety producing to me. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:40 AM
2

I think that's a sad way to live your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:36 AM
3

That would have been a good feeling! Were you fitter than her husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:34 AM
2

You shouldn't base your life on shit red pill theory. I'm sure she's too emotionally attached to you to want to leave, if you are treating her right.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:33 AM
1

but do tell me, are you tall with a good face? as well as being confident of course...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:23 AM
2

my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:17 AM
1

Definitely a better outlet!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:15 AM
2

You think your partner would leave you if you stopped working out?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:14 AM
2

well the result turned out good so perhaps her breaking up with you was a blessing in disguise. That's an awful lot of exercise!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:07 AM
2

I should have put /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:04 AM
4

So your bodybuilding gets you in the door, then they assess your social skills. I hope a social worker can help you. They say early intervention with autistic kids helps, but I've heard autistic kids saying its torture being forced to mask and learn how to pretend to be normal. I've no idea what skills adults with autism can be taught to help make them more successful navigating a life full of normies. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:03 AM
1

OMG I am gobsmacked at the amount of time men in this sub spend in the gym. I'd rather be sleeping at 5am. Glad you have good habits and have kicked the drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 01:00 AM
2

Super dad!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:57 AM
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I'm sorry your autism is making it difficult to meet women and it sucks that they have stood you up or ghosted you. Glad you are happy with your body. My partner has high functioning autism but luckily it hasn't effected him too badly in the social skills area apart from not liking crowds. Its mainly his need for routine and simplicity and stress when things change, and his obsessive focus on a few topics. I wish you luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:41 AM
1

No I've never made a fake account as a man, I'll take the men's advice in this sub that it's a desert. I must admit when I was online dating years ago I was quite fussy. If I was doing it again, I would give more men a chance. But back then you had to pay to contact someone and I was conscious of making a man pay $7 just to message me then I would feel bad rejecting him. Until I went out with one of them and he said the $7 was no big deal, it was the same as buying a girl a drink. Nowadays with …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:36 AM
2

Good that you are happy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:27 AM
2

That wasn't my question, I was more after how you felt about the changes in your body. I'm glad you won't take steroids, that shit fucks you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:25 AM
2

Glad the work paid off for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:24 AM
3

You would have been a Red Pill man slaying in high school??
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:23 AM
2

You must be tall with a good face!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:08 AM
3

The Female Social Matrix can be toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:54 PM
3

Agreed. All things in moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:49 PM
2

I've never felt toxic just for being a woman. I am old and spent my formative years in the 80s where career women were encouraged and I was told never to let myself be put down just because I was a woman and that I was good enough to compete with men and win. Today's women seem weak to me complaining about absolutely everything and blaming everyone else for everything wrong in their lives and wanting their hands held and be spoon fed. Just get on with it and get in there and fight for what you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:48 PM
6

Sorry to hear things weren't good as a kid. Do you think working out back then might have helped improve things for you? Glad things are better now with your fiancee.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:40 PM
5

That's a good way to positively use the energy associated with anger and spite. Glad it works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:33 PM
3

That's a lot of time, I hope you enjoy it rather than just have it as a habit you force yourself to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:31 PM
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Wow that's a lot of time to invest in your body and health. I hope you enjoy it. I hate gyms, but I am F and have a BF who says he doesn't care if I don't have a perfect body.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:30 PM
5

Don't waste any more of your time in a fuck buddy type relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 03:57 PM
1

Please tell us more about what behaviour a woman needs to have after sex that would make you date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:29 PM
31

He hears you, he just doesn't care to be nicer to you. No, you are not being too much. Expecting your husband to speak nicely to you is the bare minimum in marriage. I note you said things changed since you had kids - is he feeling stressed by them? Have you talked to him about how he is feeling without criticism? Pick a time when you are feeling kind and supportive and invite him to open up about anything that is bothering him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 02:26 PM
10

Yes he sees you as a plate aka free prostitute and is hitting you up for sex. Block him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 11:00 AM
8

Exactly. All the men in this sub want to BE Chad just so women never reject them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:45 AM
3

You can't have been here very long then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 03:05 AM
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"men accept the fact that they can be rejected for any reason" HAHAHA have you been in this sub for more than 5 minutes? Its FULL of men complaining about the reasons why women reject them and demanding that women lower their standards. If men truly accepted that women could reject them for any reason, this sub wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:45 AM
5

there is no medical test for bipolar disorder so you can't screen for it
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 11:47 PM
20

Why on earth would you put up with a relationship with an insecure abuser like him? You deserve better and I hope you realise that and move on. Part of good vetting is checking for insecurity and abuse. He is a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 09:10 AM
3

Thought so. Well of course you want sex as soon as possible, most men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:04 PM
2

Are you a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:03 PM
16

Yes. One of the biggest fears of women in dating is being pumped and dumped by men lying that they want a relationship. It's always a risk no matter how long a woman makes a man wait for sex, many of the pumperdumpers are quite patient and will string a woman along for a few dates before finally getting sex and dumping them. Most women only want relationship sex and abhor casual sex. But most men on this sub refuse to believe that and I saw one recently insist that 80% of women were having casua…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:03 AM
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Hookup culture is bad for the vast majority of women who want relationships not casual sex. It's always a risk for a relationship minded woman to have sex no matter how long she makes him wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:35 AM
1

You know what more than 27% of women are doing in the bedroom??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:23 PM
1

Spend half an hour in this sub and you will see men complaining they can't get women for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:20 PM
1

How do you know this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:16 PM
1

Proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:12 PM
2

You didn't answer my question, which wasn't about marriage. What's the difference between a younger woman having sex with you for your money, and a prostitute having sex with you for your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:58 PM
8

What's the difference between a younger woman having sex with you for your money, and a prostitute having sex with you for your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 03:13 PM
21

Red Pill men don't realise that once they get older and richer that the young hotties only want them for their money, ie beta bux.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 03:02 PM
1

That's a new definition. A frigid woman used to be one uninterested in sex who couldn't orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:58 AM
1

Sad how we can understand their position but they refuse to understand ours. Most women do not want to be a free prostitute for the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:56 AM
0

I see what's wrong. From one of your comments, you are Muslim so no wonder you hold all women in disdain. Good luck with an arranged marriage to a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:54 AM
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I think that's terribly manipulative trying to make him commit to you out of jealousy of you dating other men. How do you think those men would feel about you still seeing him while seeking marriage with them? I don't think they would be impressed. How long do you think new men would date you without sex? I think you should have another serious conversation with him about your timeline and ask him his timeline and plans and if he doesn't want marriage within a time frame that's suitable for you,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 07:13 AM
6

The sheer amount of women complaining their partners want to do degrading acts to them to copy what they saw in porn shows your comment is not true for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 06:53 AM
0

Are you on drugs?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:42 PM
1

There's the problem. Men and women's experiences are so different we can't relate to each other or understand each other. Men want quantity and women want quality. Sweet dreams about LinkedIn hirers wooing you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:15 PM
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I'm happily partnered thank you. It's a bit sad that you call a woman explaining why pumperdumpers are disgusting and unwanted as virtue signalling. I'm explaining that many women do NOT WANT TO ENGAGE WITH A PUMPERDUMPER and being alone and childless is better than being used for sex and discarded. Men value any sex so highly that they can't fathom that casual sex is disgusting and unwanted for a significant number of women, and much worse than no sex. The vast majority of women only want relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:08 PM
3

Even a night of entertainment and nice treatment leading to nowhere because he doesn't ask for a second date because you didn't put out IS A WASTE OF TIME FOR A WOMAN. I'd rather stay home with my cats than waste an evening on a wannabe pumper and dumper.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:42 PM
0

See, as a man you just don't understand that for women celibacy is preferable to being pumped and dumped. Being used for sex then discarded IS horrible for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:40 PM
7

Then if you are unattractive, don't stare. Easy fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:02 PM
1

There are more gay men than lesbians, so that means more straight women than straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:42 PM
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No matter how many times women explain this to men that it's awful to be used for sex then thrown away, they just won't get it. But in the same breath they will say that casual sex makes a woman unworthy of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:41 PM
6

Men just can't understand that for a woman, to have a queue of men in your inbox wanting to pump and dump you is just gross and disgusting. Many men on here write like they would love to be able to yell FREE DICK out of the window and have any woman respond and take them up on it. They just can't understand how awful it is for women in that kind of situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:37 PM
1

Why would you say that women are frigid if they want to fuck you? Your comment doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:11 PM
1

The women are all on eHarmony wanting LTRs and wondering where all the men are, and the men are all on Tinder looking for casual sex. There's not enough women on Tinder looking for casual sex to satisfy all the men, so even the good looking men have to pump and dump a fat chick who is actually hoping for a relationship. It's just so sad that everyone can't get their needs met.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:09 PM
0

Most women aren't on Tinder. Its a sausage fest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:57 PM
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Frigid woman = any woman that doesn't want to fuck you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:57 PM
1

women must hold some value then if you spend so much time here discussing them and complaining about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:29 PM
0

about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:24 PM
0

This whole sub is discussing men vs women. If women have nothing of value to offer, again, I ask why are you here? This thread is about women and yet you are here discussing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:21 PM
1

So why are you here discussing them then?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:57 PM
2

Who are the wrong people?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:45 PM
10

Men in this sub would not marry a woman who has had a lot of casual sex. You hear them declaring this all the time. Obviously you are different. I don't know about Thai sexual culture vs Western sexual culture though and how it has changed over time. I bet Thai women didn't have a lot of casual sex last century unless they were sex workers. I bet the casual sex thing is more recent, and as you say, most Thai women still want marriage after their casual sex phase just like most Western women do. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:13 AM
7

You can't have been here very long. This sub is full of men whining that they have it harder than their fathers and grandfathers to get a woman in "olden days".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:02 AM
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Men in this sub: I want the old days back where women had to accept and marry a man she wasn't sexually attracted to just so she wouldn't starve to death, and casual sex was barely a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:38 AM
2

What gender are most politicians and business leaders?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:36 AM
10

Most women think beards are yuk. You lose 10 years when you shave them off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 04:21 AM
1

He could have saved you a lot of time and heartache by telling you this sooner and not meeting your family. Best of luck finding a quality new partner.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 11:49 PM
5

Strange isn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:17 AM
3

why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:29 AM
1

me too
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 02:04 PM
2

The delusion is strong with this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:04 AM
2

How do you know you won't end up with something even worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 09:08 AM
1

I'm sorry you had a deadbeat dad. I hope you managed to build a good life despite this setback. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 10:52 AM
1

You sound delightful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:23 PM
2

Weren't confirmed bachelors usually gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:07 PM
6

Yes! Make sure your Tinder photos are good! The amount of shitty men's photo I have seen online dating is ridiculous. No wonder women next them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:51 AM
1

thankyou
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 08:24 PM
1

Sorry for the typo in the heading, that should have been Do you think porn has affected your image of the quality of the woman you would date and marry? Can't edit that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 08:22 PM
1

Your thoughts more generally. Like should it be easily available. taxpayer supported etc
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 08:08 PM
1

What do you mean a person like you? What is your situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:58 PM
1

Thanks for the links.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:58 PM
1

what do you think about abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:56 PM
1

I'm asking about both. Custodial single fathers and non custodial single fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:56 PM
1

What is your opinion on abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:53 PM
1

What is your opinion on abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:53 PM
1

What is your opinion on abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:52 PM
1

What's your opinion on abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:51 PM
1

Japanese society is to blame for forcing the woman to be dead weight in the family. What is your solution apart from blaming Japanese women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:28 PM
1

I'm sorry you suffered for not having a father in you life. I can't even begin to imagine how hard that was. I hope your mom did the best she could.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 07:26 PM
1

That's probably what the women mean by not being able to find Mr Right - ie a man who wants kids and is willing to marry
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 05:28 AM
5

If I had to run a family on only my husband's income for a few years, I'd want a husband with a decent paying job too. Why would I want to put my family into poverty by marrying a man with a shit job with shit pay?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 11:52 PM
4

But aren't Japanese wives expected to give up their jobs and dedicate their lives to their husbands, children and in Laws? She can't do that unless her husband earns a decent wage to support the whole family. It's not hypergamy. Japanese call working mothers "Devil Wives".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 11:44 PM
2

I"m sorry you are in this situation, it must be painful to have your hopes dashed. It seems to be a weakness of us women, we stick around too long hoping for our man to change and improve and fail to realise that people are who the are and rarely change. I wish you better luck vetting your next boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 11:27 PM
3

He sounds awful. What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? I wouldn't put up with his nonsense and would dump him and look for a man who loved me and wanted to spend time with me and willingly give me affection on Valentine's day. I think you're wasting your time hoping for him to change. People don't change.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 10:22 PM
0

You're the first comment I've seen that asks men to step up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 09:17 PM
2

I agree with you there!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 09:13 PM
1

You never hear much single deadbeat father hate on here do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:14 PM
3

Aha, that's a bucket of popcorn icon. I expected much more single mother hate than I've seen so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:36 PM
1

How dare she not act like those PUA books say she should act.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:22 PM
1

Are you saying she only wants Chad but he doesn't want to marry her and have babies?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:18 PM
2

What does that icon mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:17 PM
2

What's stopping them now?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:17 PM
11

Of course they will fill up those empty spots by immigration. Capitalism requires an endlessly increasing population.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:16 PM
11

It would be very interesting to know more detail about why the women in the survey said they couldn't find the right partner to be a father to their future child and just what they found inadequate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:15 PM
13

Men Going Their Own Way. Essentially men checking out of dealing with women and living their own woman free lives. Except they seem to spend an awful lot of time on the internet complaining about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:09 PM
1

Well an awful lot of men ARE violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:03 PM
1

So why are you here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:55 PM
1

Sad but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:51 PM
1

You are Asian with autism? I'm so sorry. You are going to struggle with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:50 PM
2

I"m sorry you had this horrible experience. Not many people understand that the freeze response is common in women in addition to fight or flight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:49 PM
1

Because OP is complaining that the women he interacted with him did not act as he expected and wanted. He is not asking for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:47 PM
1

Good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:46 PM
1

EXactly. Well said. Unfortunately human interaction is very hard for autistic people and some of the autistic men on here seem to get upset when women don't act according like a computer program they have read in a book.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:39 PM
2

Has it not crossed your mind that she was telling the truth? She obviously only wanted to be your platonic friend. I highly doubt she was faking attraction just to reject you. Who cares what other women think, its what is in her mind that is important. You asked and were rejected, now move on to someone else rather than complain that she tricked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:34 PM
2

Well said. Except if a man gets rejected when trying to flirt then the woman must be an entitled slut who is tricking him /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:28 PM
1

I'm not sure about your claim that 90% of the men on here are not socially inept. I'm surprised by the amount of PPD men who admit they are autistic, even OP has autism in his name. One of the symptoms of autism is social ineptness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:24 PM
2

Unfortunately this is true for most autistic men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:21 PM
2

Women aren't tricking OP. All of those explanations that women have given OP are valid. There isn't a rulebook that says those actions of women must mean they are attracted to the man, and they are tricking him by saying they aren't interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:20 PM
2

Exactly. It's a gradual process of interaction between two people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:19 PM
1

Johnny Autism, you have autism in your name so if you are autistic, its not surprising that you struggle with social cues more than most men. You seem annoyed that the actions of women you have interacted with don't follow the playbook you have read of ways that women supposedly show they are romantically/sexually interested in a man. Women are not a monolith, and as you have found, actions that some women display to show interest are not universal. Women are not a computer program. Take the adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:17 PM
1

this is good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:08 PM
4

well said
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:41 PM
0

Exactly. I believe sex should be a mutually pleasurable experience, and its very unlikely that the woman is getting pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:18 PM
10

No I wouldn't. It would give me the ick to think he rented some woman's vagina to masturbate into.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:05 PM
0

She didn't force him to do all those things for her. He chose to do them, with invisible strings attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 08:51 AM
1

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 04:49 AM
1

You are obviously a bitter man who has swallowed the Red Pill Kool Aid. There's no hope for you. I feel pity for you that you will never know the joys of a loving heterosexual relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 03:54 AM
5

Women initiating divorce more is definitely about men dropping the ball in marriage. No woman divorces a good husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 06:05 AM
5

China already has a massive shortage of women due to decades of the One Child policy and couples preferring sons. Female fetuses were aborted and baby girls neglected to death. They are already trafficking women from other Asian countries for forced marriages. They don't have any spare women to marry off to Western incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:31 AM
1

Where's the evidence for that claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 03:33 PM
3

Are you a man or woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:10 PM
6

He's shown he likes you by asking you on a date. Why does money need to be involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:06 AM
3

So what is your reason for expecting men to pay for dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:41 AM
8

I spent a lot of time on the Red Pill sub for men a few years back. All experienced contributers advised newbies to avoid relationships and seek only casual sex. All newbies complained that they couldn't get a series of women for casual sex. I never saw one single man asking how to get into a relationship. It's bizarre to see all the men in this thread saying they want relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:40 AM
3

You sound like a prostitute with such a transactional view of sex. I'm sad you sell sex to your dates in exchange for an expensive dinner. I am a woman and think sex should be a mutually enjoyable experience separate from money. I bet you complain when men say all women are whores for the right price.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:36 AM
2

Why shouldn't dates be cheap? It's just a time to get to know each other. Why should men pay for wining and dining anymore when women are legally supposed to get equal pay?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:35 AM
2

Do you think women are equal to men and women should have the right to equal pay with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:33 AM
17

I am a woman and think women who claim 'equality' yet men must pay for dates are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:32 AM
5

I'm sorry you went through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:22 AM
0

Yes it is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:16 AM
7

Rubbish. Where are you getting this from? Red Pill teaches men to avoid commitment, relationships and seek casual sex only and spin plates.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:15 AM
0

Red Pill teaches men to avoid relationships and just spin plates non comittally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:14 AM
2

It only takes one infected man to permanently harm your health. I am sad you refuse to take care of your sexual health. Good luck with playing Russian Roulette.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 09:58 AM
3

How do you know your new partner does not have a deathly disease that can't be treated like HIV AIDS? Or antibiotic resistant gonorrhea? Or incurable herpes? Imagine having to tell all your future partners before sex that you have herpes. I wish you would use condoms to protect your health.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 09:42 AM
1

What about STDs that are incurable and can make you infertile for life?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 09:37 AM
2

Those stats are only for America. That fact deserves a post of its own and asking who always uses condoms with new partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 09:36 AM
8

If you are determined on a homestead and homeschooling and not having an abortion if you fall pregnant, then he is not the one.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 01:50 AM
5

Aren't you afraid of STDs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:28 AM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 01:09 PM
10

well said
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:28 PM
7

You sound like you deliberately try to annoy people then get annoyed because they don't like you. Quit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:37 PM
5

Do this. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 11:49 AM
2

OK, I will add more definition and say a one night stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:33 PM
21

I thought you men WANTED women to lower their standards. Women say they like dad bods and you are complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 11:42 AM
1

A true GigaChad would have plenty of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:14 AM
1

Having no friends is a red flag for a woman evaluating you as a potential date
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:14 AM
-8

hmmmm sure sure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:19 AM
1

or false advertising??
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:59 AM
4

so explain how you chose your username?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:36 AM
3

that's very kind of you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:17 AM
8

they lie in bed doing nothing because you haven't turned them on, or they are giving you pity sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:56 AM
1

well said
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:39 AM
2

Hell - have a look at reddit's relationship advice subs and you see endless posts of women saying "my man started out good but is now trash, how can I change him to make him better like he was in the beginning" and they ignore everyone telling them they can't change their man, they have to dump him and find a non trash man. They are hooked on love and oxytocin and cling to the false hope that someone on reddit will wave a magic wand.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:02 AM
2

You say that as if men present their true selves when a woman chooses them for dating. Most men are smart enough to mask their bad qualities for long enough for a woman to get hooked on them via oxytocin. Most people are on their best behavior for at least the first few dates. RP men on this sub blame women for choosing trash men and divorcing them frivolously - trash men can usually hide it long enough for a woman to bond to them and its harder for her to ditch them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:41 AM
16

I agree. This is getting worse fast and I don't think she is safe living in the same house with him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 08:15 PM
19

OMG he sounds like you are in a nightmare. If he were my husband and he flipped into an abuser like this I would leave him. I'm so sorry you are in this shitty situation. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 08:14 PM
3

Maybe the men being inadequate or just awful is why women are initiating divorces?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 04:02 AM
15

Which pays more? Could you get work at another funeral parlour if you broke up?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 09:00 AM
1

If you are proposing one night stands and FWB with men, why the hell are you on RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 01:23 PM
-2

You haven't even been dating for a year. It's a little early to be planning your wedding. You are still in the honeymoon phase.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 08:54 AM
2

Move back to be near your parents.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 06:02 PM
2

CUT HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. You deserve love and commitment, not to be a booty call.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 06:48 AM
1

We even have a name for the "person he turns into" Bastard Head. When he is his normal self he tells me to Tazer Bastard Head, but if I tried that Bastard Head would go beserk.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 02:33 AM
2

I've found it best if I separate myself from him and let it play out and for him to self soothe. He always calms down within around an hour and comes and apologises. It doesn't stop the hurt though. Thanks for your reply.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 09:22 PM
5

You're making excuses to prolong this. Do not see him in person anymore. Send him a breakup text then block and delete.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 11:44 AM
9

My partner has occasional anger outbursts that I find irrational. Until I learned that this was how he expressed his anxiety. It doesn't make it any easier bearing the brunt of his anger when in truth he is really anxious about something else that has made him irritable and easily triggered by something minor. I'm still struggling with it as I can't remember in the heat of his anger that he is in reality feeling anxious and needs to be soothed. I just get upset and walk away, which is better tha…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 11:26 AM
11

That's a terrible indictment against male-male relations.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 11:24 AM
1

the former I hope....
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 06:12 AM
3

Either Fixed This For You or Fuck This Fuck You.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 01:24 PM
2

Congratulations on the pregnancy!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 09:45 AM
1

On the other hand, its unfair for women to deny their husbands sex and expect him to stay in the marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 02:18 PM
1

You did the right thing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/22 09:30 AM
1

Ask him on a date and see what he says and does.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/21 06:48 AM
1

Crochet is easier to learn than knitting. Try crocheting a simple scarf to start with. Both are very relaxing once you have mastered the basic skills.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 03:13 PM
1

That's great that you are feeling better.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 02:47 PM
2

Is duty sex better than no sex?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 02:55 PM
6

Welcome and thankyou.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/21 12:05 AM
6

Yes it lacks respect and shows he was never a true friend. Tell him where to go.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 05:57 AM
3

Warm baths with aromatherapy oils and candles might be a good start.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 01:44 PM
1

Never give up. If you aren't dating, then you aren't on the journey to find Mr Right. He's not going to fall into your lap.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 04:28 AM
17

He knows he fucked up. Its STFU time for you, and time to do nice things for him to distract him from his mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/21 10:20 AM
22

If you are bored with him and the sex is boring, I don't hold out much hope for the future of this relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 09:29 AM
4

Him living 2 hours drive away and him not driving and not wanting to take the train would be dealbreakers for me. Why bother going any further if logistics to see each other would be so difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:25 AM
2

Next! You need to spend your precious energy vetting for a man who is 100% into you, not this wishy washy waste of time. It will hurt to say goodbye and go No Contact, but it is for the best in the long run. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 01:56 AM
2

These are some concrete ideas you can propose to him rather than your vague descriptions prior.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 11:50 AM
2

What would he need to actually DO to make you feel like he was motivated to make money from his job to provide for you and your child? I hear your complaint, but don't understand what you actually want to see him do that would make you feel better. Can you refuse to move again, or can he unilaterally decide to take a new job and move you and your child without your agreement?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 07:46 AM
1

If you are thinking about trying JBP's suggestion, I suggest you work with a therapist rather than try do it on your own. Quite a few times I would cancel my appointments pretending I was sick as I couldn't cope with reading it out loud to my therapist. It really helped to have a structured framework of regular appointments and a therapist to guide the process. I don't think I would have stuck with it if trying to do it solo. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 02:47 PM
1

Great insights! Thanks for sharing. I've found that respecting my SO and doing things for him, motivates him to be nicer to me and do more things for me. We underestimate how much one person's behavior is influenced by the other person in the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 02:25 PM
2

If you want to know if he plans to bankroll a SAHM once he is married and has kids, ASK HIM! Everything else is guessing based on nothing. You've already discussed you both want marriage and kids in your future, ask him about whether he would consider a SAHM situation in his future, and let him know that is what you would like and see what he says. Trying to guess whether he would pay for a SAHM from him paying for all dates when he doesn't even have a job is ridiculous. You are both unemployed …
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 02:17 PM
1

Therapy and wide reading to learn that its common to blame ourselves with shame.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 02:04 PM
2

I had Exposure Therapy for childhood sexual assault and rape as an adult. Writing down in detail what happened, and reading it every day over and over until the pain lessened and I got bored of it. It worked really well for me too. I didn't know JBP advocated it too.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 02:03 PM
1

Next!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 03:07 PM
1

First love lost can be very painful. I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you. Best of luck for the next man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 02:38 PM
5

No you can't be friends. No contact and find a new man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 02:11 PM
2

He's too hung up on her to be available for you. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 12:28 AM
2

That's great that you have a job and are doing well at your studies. Congratulations. You can put this whole mess behind you now. I'm glad you are focusing on self improvement, and I recommend you check out the resources on Nun Mode. Onwards and upwards!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 10:07 AM
2

He told you that he loved you today? You are still seeing him and involving yourself in this toxic mess? Did you seriously think that telling her would bring him running back into your arms? I'm glad he had the good sense to block you. Are you still wasting your parent's precious money neglecting and failing your studies or have you pulled yourself together in that regard like we all told you in the previous post? For goodness sakes stop what you are doing and go re-read Red Pill Women theory. W…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 09:25 AM
1

That's a good sign. Do you have a personal timeline you might share with him eg marriage by age X, kids by age Y and say you aren't looking for a proposal but want to know that you aren't being disqualified as marriage material. Ask him if he every feels like he would never marry you, to let you know, as you have a biological clock to consider?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 07:43 AM
1

This. He has moved on. OP, you are wasting your time fantasising that you can invite him for a beer and talk him into getting back together. You already offered a relationship and said for him to let you know. He let you know by his silence that he does not want to get back with you. It's painful, but you need to go no contact and heal.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 07:21 AM
1

You need 3 routines, one for each shift pattern. Draft each one up and ask for his input eg how long he needs each time he gets home for decompression and what time he wants meals.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 07:15 AM
1

I'm interested in why you say you were a bad wife when you were working full time. Did he ever say you were a bad wife? I too think its important what the trigger was for him to start shouting that you ignored him for 5 years and had no respect for him and you didn't support him. When you have both calmed, maybe you can invite him to tell you more about why he shouted, and sit there and totally listen and accept his feelings. Then you can ask to change the discussion to how you are home now to c…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 07:11 AM
2

Have you asked if he sees marriage in his future as a general concept?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 07:02 AM
1

??
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 09:38 AM
1

Good for you. Make it positive about what the future will look like, rather than dwelling on criticising him in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 08:59 AM
10

He is being so unbelievably selfish. Maybe you can write down some points if you are nervous about raising the issue? Tell him exactly what would make you happy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 08:25 AM
1

How has this American man met all your criteria??????? You are still in the fantasy that you can marry him and live together. It can't happen. I give up trying to help you accept reality.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 08:24 AM
1

Now you are talking marriage??? This American man doesn't want to marry you and live with you in the US, Asia or Australia. You aren't making any sense. I think you are living in a fantasy world where he comes with you to Australia or you move to him in the US. Neither of which he is interested in.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:54 AM
1

I see plenty of white Australian men with Asian women
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:51 AM
1

Money is not the issue for this relationship. He wants to stay in the US and doesn't want you to come to the US. You will stay in Asia until you are approved for Australia. This is a dead end and I don't understand why you are wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:37 AM
22

His sexual attention should be directed to you as a priority, and his porn and toy use without you should come second.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:35 AM
1

I am Australian and am dating a marriage material man and I know many marriage material men. You are generalising from your bad experience. There are plenty of good men in Australia. Why would you want to move to Australia and keep going in an online relationship with an unavailable American man?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:32 AM
1

So are you willing to settle for online love, affection and companionship forever? As he will stay in the US and you will either stay in Asia or go to Australia. Red Pill Women is not about justifying in staying in dead end relationships without a real life future. Sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:31 AM
1

Your OP said you were a teacher, now you are a nurse? A nurse would find it easier to migrate to Australia than a teacher.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:29 AM
1

he wants to stay in the USA though
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:28 AM
1

so how does your American man fit in your plans to emigrate to Australia? It just doesn't make sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:27 AM
1

No you shouldn't waste your time with him if you are hoping for more than FWB. This relationship will go nowhere if he plans to stay in the US and doesn't want you to join him. Why are you wasting your time fantasising he will change his mind and bring you to the US in a committed relationship? Who do you think you are going to be in a relationship with when you make it to Australia? It's also very hard to migrate to Australia unless you have skills that are in demand and are wealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 11:52 AM
1

When he has an anger attack, walk away and shut yourself in a different room until he calms down. Expecting him to nurture you sounds pretty unrealistic. People don't change.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 11:44 AM
2

you might like to think on that for a while, and ask yourself what kind of attention you are wanting to get from potential selfies. Who is your target audience? Men or women? The rest of your topics sound good and geared towards women.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 07:10 AM
3

why would you want to share selfies? what kind of a response would you be seeking?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 06:26 AM
1

Sounds good, invite him back in once the baby is out and cleaned up and cuddling on your chest.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 04:55 AM
3

He has sex with you for 2 minutes then abandons you and rolls over and goes to sleep immediately and leaves you hanging? Then doesn't want to discuss it? Unforgivable. What does he think is in it for you? He doesn't deserve you. Why on earth would you want to stay with him?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:43 AM
3

No cuddles? That's terrible and unforgivable. He definitely needs to make sure you come first if he does that. No wonder you are so frustrated and unhappy. I hope you can talk to him and get him to see he is being so selfish and you NEED him to satisfy you. You are not a sex toy with no feelings or needs of your own. I hope he listens to your suggestions.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 01:40 AM
1

good, it was for the best
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 05:26 PM
2

What does your husband want?
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 05:24 PM
2

He needs to use his mouth and his fingers and toys to give you an orgasm each time, preferably before his orgasm as he will feel sleepy. Else you will begin to resent sex because there is nothing in it for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 05:16 PM
3

For goodness sake let him go and sort yourself out. He has a new girlfriend who has her act together and he is keeping you around on the back burner. You can't keep him as a friend so you must go no contact and move on. Your first priority should be standing on your own two feet, stop wasting your parents money, stop stressing them, and FOCUS ON YOUR STUDIES. You say you are in a hot mess, and you are. You created it, you are the hot mess and only you can stop it by taking personal responsibilit…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 05:11 PM
3

Who knows what he is thinking. Who cares. Don't waste your time. Look elsewhere for someone who is excited to be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 05:03 PM
1

It may be the actions of an attached person to you, but its not to him. You can't judge his actions by your standards. If he says he only meant friendship by checking in with you, then he only meant friendship. It sounds like you are in love with him, and he will never love you back or want to be in a committed relationship with you. The only way to cure this is to go no contact.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 07:28 PM
3

I am glad you are staying away from him and have blocked him. I know you love him (WTF is this BS about loving him platonically?) but he doesn't want a committed relationship, he has told you that many times. Keep blocking him and look for someone else who enthusiastically wants to be with you and love you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 04:10 PM
2

Since I discovered RPW and made deliberate efforts to care for my partner, the more he appreciated and reciprocated with caring for me. It's wonderful. So glad you are happy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 04:02 PM
2

Remember that actions speak louder than words. I hope you stop torturing yourself soon.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 03:58 PM
2

I'm sorry you are still stuck with this timewaster. I hope you decide to look for a decent man who wants you 100% and is happy to show it
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 07:43 AM
1

I hope you have stopped wasting your time chasing him. He's just not that into you unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 08:51 PM
1

Yes I have. It was for the best. If something important is missing, its important that you find that something.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 10:51 AM
23

So what exactly are you expecting from these online conversations? Sounds like you are reading a lot into the chats. Take note of what a lot of people on here say, that a relationship only starts once you have met in real life. I'd stop wasting your time and look for someone who lives near you if you want a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 07:16 AM
4

Have you even met him in real life?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 07:01 AM
1

was your comment directed at me? I have no idea what you are talking about
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 10:46 PM
2

of course she does.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 09:17 PM
3

I still think hubby should do it and not you. She ignores you. Document all her wrongdoings and BS.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 09:15 PM
3

She's making you too depressed and anxious to function. Not fair. They treat her like a teenager cos she acts like one with her irresponsibility. She's found you are a couple of suckers without boundaries who put up with her shit. Send her packing and don't open the door to her when she turns up unannounced and treats you like a free hotel.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 09:05 PM
3

I'm resigned to getting early dementia and and early death because of psych meds. I get suicidal depression without them. I wish you luck with therapy only.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 09:02 PM
3

GET HUBBY TO SEND HER BACK TO HER PARENTS STAT! She wants to be irresponsible like a child, let her parents mother her.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:54 PM
3

I suggest you STFU when tempted to apologise.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:53 PM
2

Jordan Petersen always tells us to clean our room!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:52 PM
3

Are you on antidepressants? You might need a med change. The tiredness and weight loss troubles might be a side effect, and you being depressed and immobile might mean the meds aren't working. I have depression and meds have mostly taken away the emotional pain and tears, but I still have trouble motivating myself to get out of bed and move. I'm always asking my psychiatist if he has new meds for me to try!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:51 PM
2

Good quality essential oils for the win! I have a toilet spray that is just a few drops of lavender essential oil and water, a quick shake and its ready to go
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:49 PM
3

Why is she living with you? I really feel for you. I would not tolerate this situation. I'd kick her out. Is she older or younger than hubby? Hubby needs to step up to the plate and lay down the law with her, not you. He needs to hold her accountable for the chores chart, make sure she cooks for herself (no more cooking for her or making special vegan meals), she housetrains her dog and keeps it away from your dog, and there need to be consequences for her not following through, like threatening…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:48 PM
2

sounds like a great plan
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:42 PM
2

Youtube meditations help me sleep. Search yoga nidra sleep for a guided progressive muscle relaxation meditation. Give it a few tries and see if it works for you. It gets me so relaxed within half an hour
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:40 PM
1

Stop those thoughts. Stop the hamster. Its hard to be the one who loves more, but you don't know his thinking if he wishes he was still with her. He says he wants to be with you, and he has invested financially in your relationship. Believe him. I agree with the others that therapy will help you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 02:03 PM
2

HE CAN'T GO BACK IN TIME!! He's with you, not her. He's not seeking her out. Get real and stop with your hamstering.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 12:35 PM
1

I know its hard, but you are going to have to implement a Red Pill Woman rule and STFU and not nag him about her or bother him with your insecurity. Do you journal? A journal is a good place to write distress out of your system without bothering anyone else. Best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 12:31 PM
2

no worries
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 01:57 AM
3

If you have been here a while you will know that your appearance is of importance to men. You haven't mentioned that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 08:37 PM
3

Truth hurts when delivered harshly. How old was the relative? The old saying is that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. There is no doubt that being a good cook is a desirable trait for a woman. Do you have a family member or friend who can cook and is willing to teach you? I recommend searching online for beginners recipes, either text or youtube, or get some cookbooks for beginners that explain the basics. I learned the basics from my mother years ago then got some introductory b…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 08:34 PM
6

Don't worry about the BS about men liking thick women. Plenty of men like slim women (just check Red Pill and see the mass of complaints about modern women being fat) and not all of them are obsessed by large breasts. Focus on having a healthy body and meeting new men and vetting them for their behaviour. Don't try and drastically change your body for some fad. Focus on health.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 08:31 PM
1

I second this suggestion for you to seek therapy for the trauma and betrayal of trust that the man who raped you showed. I know you want to shove it into the back of your mind and not bring it up to heal, but its something you need to do. It would be underlying your fears. Please call a sexual assault hotline if there is one in your country and look for a therapist you can trust. Does your current bf know about the rape? Please never speak to him again about your insecurity around his ex. He's n…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 08:26 PM
2

I'm so glad you did. You deserve someone who loves you and wants to show the world how much. It's painful though when we have feelings for someone and they don't share them. All the best finding someone who loves you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 08:19 PM
1

hey I can't help what name she chose
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 04:49 AM
6

Delete and block. He's just not that into you. Move on and keep looking for someone who is enthusiastic to spend time with you. Edit: I just found this quote on another post. "ElevatedEmpress: You cannot convince a man to love you the way you need to be loved, if he wanted to, he would."
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 12:14 AM
1

Maybe make a list of attributes of the kind of man you want to settle down with and mark those items which are non-negotiable. That might help you vet men against that list so you don't waste your time on those who won't be candidates for something long term.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 11:09 PM
1

I'd be wary too, lots of opportunities for him to stray when partying around other women
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 07:08 PM
2

Run, don't walk, away from this toxic abusive man. Red flag red flag red flag. It will only get worse if you stay. Is the sexual thrill worth spending the majority of your life with him being miserable?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 12:22 AM
1

How old are you? Are you living together? When do you plan actually breaking up with him? I'm not clear on exactly what you are asking us. I applaud you for not wanting to waste your time on a relationship that is going nowhere, and preferring to potentially be a spinster if you don't meet and connect with a decent man. You will probably experience a grieving period once you actually break up with him, and you might feel like you need to cave in and take him back. You will probably feel like thi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 03:17 AM
4

Of course we want the scorecard to have been written by men. Its men we want to attract. What use would a scorecard being written by women be? This is to tell us what men find attractive so we can focus on that, not stupid things that women obsess and compete over like fillers in your lips.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 01:34 PM
9

He has given you his timeline and it is unacceptable to you. Don't waste your time hoping for him to change.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 04:08 AM
1

Believe what you want to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:02 AM
1

I am a woman and it was me who branch swung. Did you even read the OP, there is no way to bring back the spark of the honeymoon period, it can only be experienced with a new man who you are falling in love with. How can a man make a woman agree that branch swinging is not OK - how can you possibly stop a woman from leaving when she is bored?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 09:31 PM
1

My SO would be my ex if he laughed when I cried. Otherwise, some good advice there. I have found STFU and asking his opinion and for his permission has helped heaps.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 08:32 AM
2

My SO instantly goes into protector comfort mode which is one of the many things I love about him. I hope you manage to find a balance where you can talk to him about important issues.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:32 PM
2

Having friends holding leverage over them is a very unhealthy attitude. Its not fair to those men.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 08:23 AM
1

I think you did fine with the empathy, understanding, support and respect. Who knows why it ended like it did, maybe he was embarrassed for showing you his vulnerable side. I wouldn't bring it up again unless he does, but showing him by your actions how much you love and respect him is a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 07:32 PM
2

Yes you need to vastly reduce contact with these men to free yourself up for a relationship. All of you are wasting your time in limbo.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 07:28 PM
2

I agree with the others that you are being used and abused and not to put your name on a financial document with him. Its not a RPW situation as the others say, I suggest you post at twoxchromosomes for more support and ideas. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 07:25 PM
1

hmm then why does TRP claim all its wisdom was created by men observing women? This is the first time I have heard that women told men how to create the red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:36 AM
1

I am glad you ended it. Here's hoping your next one is a good one!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 01:59 AM
2

Gee he is taking your kindness for granted already. You must be exhausted doing all that for him and working too. I would have thought you flew to him on your holiday time, not to be his unpaid maid. He does sound very selfish in this regard - right now your job is as important to you as his is to him as you need to pay the bills. Red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 01:52 AM
2

I love your description of a real woman standing next to her man, proud and strong of their combined power.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 12:48 AM
2

I also have nature spirituality. It sounds like you have a fantastic plan and are well on the way to achieving your goals. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 12:47 AM
1

The difference is that its males spilling the beans about horrifying male nature. Its when males think they understand the female experience and think their robotic programs will work the same on all women because we are apparently a hive mind that it gets ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 10:42 PM
2

I am purple as a lot of it makes sense. The misogyny saddens me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 10:39 PM
3

Yes I am sad and its the most amazing feeling while it lasts in the early stages of a relationship. I love him and I love having sex with him and he is a great lover and gives me great orgasms and he is an all round gorgeous man. Its not his fault the lust has gone, this has happened in every LTR that I have had and it seems common for women in LTRs. A sad fact of life. Fucked up female brain chemistry wanting us to find a new man for genetic diversity of our next baby. Fuck evolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 10:34 PM
2

Are you sure Chad doesn't stop sexing them on their 30th birthday?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:41 PM
3

I don't have to use lube, I was suggesting that women who aren't interested in sex with their LTRs should use it if they need. Yes, sadly the lust has gone but I still find him very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:19 PM
1

Maybe I exaggerated
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:55 PM
2

Maybe I exaggerated
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:55 PM
1

I felt worried that a large amount of men insisted all men prefer casual sex and only settle for a LTR. It made me sad for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:53 PM
2

I am happily in a LTR of 15 years. I asked him if he would prefer casual sex to a relationship and he said no. So at least one man didn't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 05:52 PM
1

huh? I am an old Gen Xer. How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 02:15 PM
1

I understand where you are coming from, I too like to learn about the thought processes of those who think oppositely to you. Banning people for commenting on a BadThink subreddit is just stupid but also a sign the mods want to preserve their precious thought bubble clique echo chamber and stagnate and not grow. I have had my mind changed by new information from positions I had virulently opposed before. I guess people like us are rare and unappreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 02:05 PM
1

So why are you still here taking up half the comments complaining about women? Haven't you got your own way to go?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 01:52 PM
6

So you have no choice but be a rapist and hope the woman secretly meant yes by her no? Good luck with that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 01:34 PM
1

Your wife is weird. Most women are not like her. There are far more women who are devastated that their saying no to sex was ignored, than there are crazy women like your wife who want you to effectively rape her. Have a look at all the testimonies of women and girls devastated by rape and sexual assault on r/twoxchromosomes if you don't believe me. Its far better for men to err on the side of caution and avoid a rape charge, than pushing through the so-called Last Minute Resistance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 01:32 PM
1

Why do you have to use that word though?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:57 AM
1

And she stays with you if you call her a slut to her face and she knows you mean it as an insult?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:48 AM
1

I still don't get your point without the full story and I guess we will never know now as the page is down. Do you know why you were banned?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:46 AM
1

That hasn't been true in my case, my partners have been great and giving lovers, it has just been that their touch stopped thrilling me after a few years. No fault of theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:45 AM
1

Easy? Talk to the red pill plate spinning pump and dump guys who wouldn't be seen dead providing for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 10:31 PM
4

Huh? The drive for orgasm is different for the drive for sex? What on earth do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 05:27 PM
1

There seems to be a difference between RP men who accept this without anger and see it as their responsibility to become attractive to women for casual sex, and those RP men who are angry that women they target refuse to have casual sex with them and the man is insulted when they believe the woman is rejecting them for not being attractive enough for casual sex, despite whether that woman is into casual sex or not. Some RP men seem to be angry that all women don't see them as Chads and give them…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:41 PM
2

Does your gf know you think she is a slut and not worthy of your commitment and is ok with that? Or do you keep it a secret.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:36 PM
2

Hear hear
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:34 PM
1

Agreed. Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:32 PM
3

I disagree that women love nice guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:31 PM
3

If women have no sex drive, how do you explain the female orgasm and the sales of hundreds of thousands of vibrators and dildos?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:46 PM
7

Enjoy your wrong assertations and false views of reality. I wish you were able to experience the full bliss of the female multiple orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:44 PM
9

women want eternal courtship. men want to stop having to bother with courtship effort by getting into a LTR then wonder why their woman loses interest and looks for a new man to court her
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:41 PM
0

until they hit the wall and sexy Chads no longer want them. No more hot sex for them, its only dead bedrooms with BB for the rest of their lives. They only get the sex life they dreamed of for 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:39 PM
1

amen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:29 PM
1

who enjoyed themselves more?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:29 PM
2

I just got one removed for posting prior to a 12 hour gap. Ask modmail?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:27 PM
1

page not found. care to summarise his story?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:26 PM
0

Men evolved to have random sex to maximise their chances at increased numbers of offspring, and some of them evolved further to be dad providers. The sheer number of player cads who only want casual sex proves that all men did not evolve to be providers. It can be argued that players are parasitic in their pumping and dumping women and betting on someone else sacrificing to provide for and raise their children. It would be interesting to know historically how successful each of the cad and dad s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:23 PM
2

You mean Madonna-Whore?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:17 PM
2

so are you saying that slut is not an insult?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:16 PM
2

But they don't call women who don't have casual sex sluts do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 03:15 PM
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women do not want to fuck every man, so that male fantasy will never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:58 PM
1

thankyou
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:56 PM
1

that's why I addressed my question to Reds, Purples and Blues
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:54 PM
2

Men change once they put that ring on your finger. They put their feet up and stop trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:52 PM
0

How do you know that women are sexually far happier than they were in the past? Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:46 PM
3

I experience my sex drive as spontaneous and you can ask my partners if I have been an enthusiastic sex partner. Are you calling me a liar? I never said all women have a spontaneous desire, just me. Proving you wrong when you say all women have no sex drive. Do you think women don't have a sex drive when Chad is hitting on them? Change your statement to "many women seem to have little no spontaneous sex drive with beta and omega males" and I will agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:41 PM
5

Monogamous marriage is also a logical male invention so most males can get sex and reproduce and have an increased likelihood that their wife's children are biologically theirs and pass on inherited property. Even Chad benefits from a monogamous society that doesn't have hordes of sexless men causing unrest and violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:35 PM
1

Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:18 PM
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I am curious how you know that women don't have a sex drive. I am a woman and have a spontaneous sex drive and crave sex when I haven't had any for a while. I am not the only woman who feels like this. I guess I don't exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:16 PM
3

Women start off madly in love and very sexually attracted to their partners and have no comprehension that it is not likely to last. An evolutionary theory is that wild sex at the beginning of a relationship gets her pregnant, and continued sex keeps the man around helping raise the kid until its around 5-7 years old and can feed itself. The woman then gets sexually bored and starts falling for another man so her next kid is genetically diverse. I don't know the solution if we want a monogamousl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:12 PM
4

Surveys show that women are unhappier now than they were in the past
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:08 PM
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Most women don't know that a few years cohabitation will kill their sex drive. Its not common knowledge that its an inevitable feature of cohabitation and marriage. It seems to just happen and its the reason for branch swinging, she finds she has doesn't get turned on anymore by his touch, and she is attracted to and falls in love with someone else and leaves. Happened to me many times without me understanding it. Now I am older wild sex and being madly in love is no longer as important and comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:03 PM
1

are you using the word slut as a criticism?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 07:16 PM
1

You can read plenty of men criticising women for being 'sluts' on TRP
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 07:15 PM
3

So why is every second TRP post criticising women for being 'sluts'?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 07:13 PM
2

email is a good idea
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:12 PM
3

Thank you everyone, I am going to talk to him about it today to find out why its still a problem for him when I thought we had resolved it. I will give the proviso that if I start getting really upset then I will ask that we stop the discussion and resume at a different time when hopefully we both can be calm.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:11 PM
5

Mine does the "bet you say that to all the boys" joke with me whenever I said something that he could pop in that response. I used to get a bit upset and try to reassure him that I only had eyes for him, as I was worried there might be a bit of seriousness behind the joke and it was a shit test of my loyalty. Nowadays I just joke back and agree with him that I do say that to all the men, he takes that well and I think its become an in joke reply to his joke. I guess that is me agreeing and ampli…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:59 PM
1

Finishing a PhD is a very demanding and stressful time so I wouldn't be pressuring for marriage until its over. You do need to have a discussion on where he plans to work - you say he is mainly looking in your area, but what if he gets a job not in your area? Would he expect you to move or go LDR or break up? I would be discussing that with him, without mentioning marriage, that can wait until he is settled in his job.
/r/RedPillWives19/02/19 06:46 AM
2

I was shocked and very upset to hear so many men in the manosphere say that a woman's only value is her youth and beauty.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:36 AM
2

Ask him to spell out exactly what he means by letting yourself go, and to be specific about how he would like you to change your look. Only he knows what he means and we are all guessing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:26 AM
1

Of course I would help him. Whyever not? Those moms are selfish.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:17 AM
2

why are you even bothering with her?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 12:35 PM
1

Do men care about cute baskets and nice bows?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:34 PM
2

Big fat red flag that he has ignored your request to be given the status of girlfriend, let alone the further commitment I would require to consider packing up my life and taking a risk on a man who won't even call me his girlfriend. I wouldn't go. You need to have a serious conversation with him about his intentions towards the future of your relationship. Your youth is too precious to risk on someone so uncommitted. Sounds like he might think of you as his semi-permanent live in sole plate? Ti…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 02:16 PM
1

Never happened in my day, maybe things are different now. I bet the men are not Chads though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 04:44 PM
1

Their target market will be women who are less than 5/10 but I bet they will stay with their vibrators and their romance novel fuelled imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 07:47 PM
1

Unattractive women can't get Chad dick on Tinder. Less than 5/10 women will probably be the target market, but I think they will stay with their vibrators.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 07:45 PM
1

Unattractive women don't have access to Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 07:42 PM
1

Not if you are an unattractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 07:39 PM
5

Women want to be loved, and sex is only a part of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 07:35 PM
1

I found Billy Idol hot. But that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 07:27 PM
1

their choice. nobody has a gun to their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 01:23 PM
-1

Makes sense. So RP men need to hang out at a campus dominated by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 08:22 PM
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"He said that it isn't a relationship and that it will never be." That's all you need to know. You are a plate. If you want something better for yourself, next him, and find someone who cherishes you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 08:49 PM
5

Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. I am sorry. I hope you decide not to continue with him knowing he will keep on hurting you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 02:49 AM
5

Even if he miraculously stopped saying critical things, you know he is still thinking them and judging you harshly. I wouldn't put up with it, and I would next him and search for someone who loved my looks and cherished my body and was happy to grow old with me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 03:28 PM
10

totally agree. the forced medicating of boys diagnosed with "ADHD" is a tragedy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:14 PM
4

Psychologists have enormous amount of power in child custody disputes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:13 PM
1

Economics is not a science or they would have figured out you can't have infinite growth on a finite planet. Their theories don't take into account the limits of the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:11 PM
1

psychology is not a science. It is riddled with cultural opinions and SJW untruths. As a scientist, I am offended by psychologists who pretend they are scientists. Science deals with facts, not opinions. Just because they use statistics for evaluating their flawed culturally dependent studies doesnt make them scientists.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:09 PM
7

This is a really bad thing that is unfortunately not unexpected now psychology has become dominated by ideological leftist women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:05 PM
1

This is a great post explaining why toxic masculinity as a concept harms men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:02 PM
3

My partner hates makeup and prefers me without. He can't stand high maintenance women and appreciates very much that I am low maintenance. Its nothing to do with him being afraid I might look better and attract the attention of other men. He also can't stand the wastefulness and silliness of fashion. He calls fashionistas shallow "shiny button" obsessors. Most women don't know that men don't give a toss about fashion, they just like women to wear clothes that are tight and show a lot of skin. Si…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 10:16 PM
1

I didn't see that definition, discussions here should have said "available income" rather than just "income" as they are two different things. Just using the word income implies that bosses give men a pay rise when they divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 08:59 PM
1

Most women don't self identify as sluts even if they have a high partner count. I think many women successfully keep their N count a secret. Do you straight out ask them their N number?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 08:56 PM
3

you telling them you don't date women who have had many partners is an incentive for them to lie if they have had many partners if they want to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:31 PM
2

The articles say that income increases for men, that is different to expenses decrease.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:23 PM
2

are you serious or are you really a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 02:09 PM
2

What on earth reason did he give for cutting out sex but keeping everything else the same?? Very suspicious
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 10:15 AM
5

I find it hard to believe that men who are so selfish are in marriages. I have luckily never been in this position but no way would I put up with it. Sex is about mutual pleasure for me. I would make future sex conditional on him wanting to learn how to give me pleasure. Maybe alternating sessions, one for his pleasure, one for mine. I wish you luck, him pretending that he is unable to learn from you what makes your body feel good is just downright unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 10:00 AM
0

I don't believe we can radically change our personalities by implementing red pill ideas, just enhance and modify, and it can be a ton of work. Maybe just try to tone down the masculinity and domineering a bit, rather than trying to eliminate it altogether? The best things I found from RPW were to keep doing nice things for my partner "just because" (and finding the more I did nice things, the more nice things he did for me) and learning to STFU. Regarding your masculinity, can you modify the wa…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 03:50 PM
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Can you be more specific about what parts you are struggling with and finding hard to accept?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 01:39 PM
2

she IS doing it - starfish style. Do you want her to fake it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 05:21 PM
7

What else do you expect women to do if they are not feeling it anymore? Fake it or leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 05:18 PM
5

This is the real reason for dead bedrooms. The wife gets bored. She would get her desire back with a new man, but that is bad for families and bad for society to bust up so many marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 06:33 AM
3

How do you think that being a single mother would mean less time doing household management, child rearing and working?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:01 PM
-2

So you can't give me an example of femininity being strong?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 11:56 AM
1

RP theory was derived by men, for men. Women have adapted it to suit our needs, and we need to be wary of men trying to hijack our K-selection of mates to trick us into r-selection of mates. Its a major part of what vetting is about.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 09:25 AM
-9

Give me examples of feminine power then. I bet all you have got is femininity inspiring men to do things with their worldly power. Women will always be weaker than men, and will always need men to protect them. Its biology.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 09:23 AM
-7

I don't understand the relevance to my comment? Femininity is not powerful.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 07:12 AM
3

You do realise that for most of human history a woman had no choice of who her husband would be? In the West, it took the Catholic Church to ban forced marriages by requiring the bride's consent. In hunter gatherer societies a newborn girl could be promised to an adult male. In third world countries men still get wives by kidnapping and raping a woman then paying compensation to her family. In Africa men buy a wife with cows and pigs. In the Middle East and India, arranged marriages are the norm…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 06:31 AM
0

The RP emphasis is on sex for men as the theory did not focus on breeding, rather just sex only. But what RP men are trying to do is get past a woman's K-breeding psychological barriers which predispose her vetting for a high quality man looking for a long term relationship, and trigger her more primitive r-selection psychology where she will mate with just about any man who shows her some attention.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 05:24 AM
3

Yes I am familiar with it, and in the West we have moved from a K strategy for mostly everyone with socially enforced monogamy, frowned upon premarital sex and a low safety net, right to the opposite. r selection is not fair on the kids, and they will grow up to be the same.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 05:21 AM
-3

My experience is that its balanced between male-female polarity or even female led, so I don't think it correlates with RPW. The feminine power emphasis seems to be You Go Girl Grllpower. But if you are a solitary then you can do it your own way.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 05:17 AM
1

OP what happened with the men who were interested in you?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 05:04 PM
5

I agree 100% with Kara. You've lost him, move on.
/r/RedPillWives03/11/18 04:51 PM
1

Explain golddiggers
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 06:52 AM
3

Side effects are not good. My bf pops them like they are candy and trys to push them on me whenever I have a stomach upset. I am glad my country does not have direct to consumer marketing for prescription medication.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:54 AM
1

But older men have higher SMV!! Trp says so. Was the BF a beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:51 AM
1

That's sad, are they irredeemably lost to inceldom, or is there hope for them do you think? Seems that once they find poisonous hopeless inceldom philosophy then all hope for improvement is lost as they give up and wallow in their misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:03 AM
1

Very interesting! Thanks for sharing. Proof that not all women want to commit to sexy but poor Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:01 AM
5

Huh? I'm curious if they were already a whiny bitch before puberty hit and they found out they couldn't get the sex they want. Chicken or egg. If they only turned into a whiny bitch after they found out Stacy didn't want them, then there is more hope for them to work on fixing their horrible personality as well as their physical appearance. If they were a whiny bitch as a kid then there is less hope. Though if you talk to them, they all think their personality is fine and their lack of success i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 11:59 PM
1

Re the alpha: Was it the best sex you ever had? Did he offer commitment, or if he didn't, were you upset? Did he alpha widow you? Can you describe the attributes of the Kappa
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 10:57 PM
1

he can't possibly have been a Chad if he offered you commitment, can he? Fake Chad detected. Or do you mean he didn't offer commitment and you didn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 10:45 PM
10

Which came first, the horrible personality or the inceldom? It would be interesting to know what they were like before puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 10:34 PM
1

Was it the best sex you ever had? Did he offer commitment, or if he didn't, were you upset? Did he alpha widow you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:16 PM
2

like yours and other incels?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 09:49 PM
1

I was thinking the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 08:58 PM
2

Only since the end of the olden days when everyone was married by age 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 08:55 PM
10

You made the right decision, men from his culture are usually pressured by their parents into marrying a woman from their own culture. His own actions showed he did not intend his parents to know he wanted to marry you, sounds like he might have been stringing you along.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 09:08 AM
1

Tell him that you understand that a ring is not important to him, but you would like one to signify to the world that you are promised to him, and to keep other men away. Tell him you don't want a flashy ring or a diamond, but something classy, feminine and subtle and are happy to pay for it yourself but would like his approval after you have picked it out and are ready to buy it. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 11:42 PM
3

They are following the raw male imperative and fantasy to have sex with as many different women as possible while demanding that all the women are faithful to the man.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/18 11:18 PM
1

I would slow down on the bjs and ask for sex that is mutually pleasurable where both of your needs are met.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:45 AM
6

STFU and step back and let him lead. Don't automatically jump in to take the reins. It might take a while for him to get out of the habit of expecting you to take over.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:17 AM
1

OMG what a ridiculous price for a one day party. That's an expensive new car or a house deposit.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/18 05:53 AM
2

Forgive me for being excited that a man recognised that its not only women who enable the carousel. Its the first time I have ever seen a man suggest that men's behavior should also be under scrutiny. I imagine the poster felt safe to make his comment in a sub reddit that does not condone the carousel. I can imagine he would be attacked if he posted his comment in a red pill forum, as most men there seem to want to be part of the carousel. I apologise for my comment and did not mean to cause off…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 02:05 AM
1

Maybe its time to stop wasting your time trying to defend him and understand him, and focus on finding a decent man who will treat you right.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 02:01 AM
1

Thank you. As well as sad, I am angry with feminists for their relentless attacks on men and masculinity that you mention. Your tongue-in-cheek comment reminded me of how I get criticised on Facebook by women friends whenever I post anything even mildly supportive of men and masculinity. Some of the vitriol from especially older women is shocking. They don't seem to realise that there are plenty of good men in the world and tar all men with the All Men Are Evil brush. I love this subreddits appr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 01:59 AM
1

I know you are being sarcastic, but you using the words "filthy" and "y chromosome" next to each other make me sad.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 01:05 AM
1

I thought it good advice for men to act respectably and not enable the carousel
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 01:00 AM
1

its called gaslighting
/r/RedPillWives13/08/18 02:36 PM
1

thankyou! what is MFP? I am also reducing calories along with the keto as I am not very active. It is surprising what little food we actually need to survive, I am attuned now to eating much less. Do you want to keep supporting each other here on this thread, or do you have other ideas?
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 12:46 AM
1

I second keto. I have been on it 2.5 months and lost 10 pounds. I'd be happy to be a weight loss buddy.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/18 03:02 PM
6

I would have laughed, its a cute joke.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/18 02:54 PM
4

Definitely a keeper! What a lovely story.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/18 02:46 PM
2

it works now, thanks
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 09:59 PM
2

Its you who is saying her statements are "blanket" and its you who is saying they are "wrong". You didn't answer my question on who made you the authority to decide if other experienced people's posts are wrong or right?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 09:56 PM
1

The wiki link says its forbidden
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 07:54 PM
1

Congratulations! I echo what the others have said, tell us more about the changes you made to become the new improved you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 07:00 PM
2

I would like to know more about what you mean by : "It makes me think back to my old triggers and tapes that play in my head, "he will love me more if I were just thinner" Has something come up in the past linking his love for you to you being thinner?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:58 PM
5

You are LDR and he is not enthusiastically making plans to be together in real life. Red flag that he is not as invested in this relationship as he was in the beginning. You want to help him grow up and mature and prioritise you? Changing a person is impossible, you can only change yourself. I think the best thing you can do is pull back and see if he misses you enough to reach out and draw you back in. If he doesn't, then you have your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:51 PM
1

That sounds bossy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:44 PM
1

How about "ouch" as a code word for whenever he says something that hurts your feelings
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:44 PM
1

He doesn't want to get married, even with a pre-nup. You want to get married and its very important to you. Dealbreaker. Or - could you be satisfied with being a perpetual girlfriend? You seem very invested in fantasising about marriage with him, but its a fantasy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:21 PM
2

Allocating tasks is something a mother would do. He doesn't want to feel responsibility at home, he is happy having you take care of it all so he can play video games. He doesn't feel the need for change. He is not leading or acting as a captain, and his description of his future doesn't match yours, so it sounds like you are wasting your precious youth on a relationship going nowhere. Would you be happy if things are exactly the same in 10 years time? That's where this is headed. You have inves…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:16 PM
3

Who says that girlwithabike's "blanket" statements are almost always wrong? Who made you the ultimate authority? She already said that she writes about the perspectives of the majority of men and women -which means there will always be some people who disagree. That doesn't make them wrong. She also said her husband has input into her posts before she publishes them, so that gives the stamp of approval from a well respected male contributor.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 06:10 PM
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Good point, as if the men studied on OK Cupid are representative of all men. Plus men are notoriously bad at taking good photos of themselves for their dating profiles, whereas women are very good at choosing their most flattering photos.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 05:39 PM
1

About his anger phase towards women, would it help to calmly ask him what he hopes to achieve by venting to you and your kids about how evil he thinks women and feminism are? Ask him how he wants you to feel and respond? Explore what he is trying to communicate. If you do this, don't do it when he is mid rant. It might be that he is trying to indirectly express how angry he is at your past behaviour that has hurt him. Ask him what he wants you to do, if he just wants you to listen and validate h…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 05:25 PM
1

I used to be hurt by my boyfriend looking at other women early in our relationship and found it insulting and it made me question his commitment to me. After realising it was biological and with time passing seeing evidence in his behaviour of his commitment to me, I did a 180 and started making a joke of seeing beautiful women and pointing them out to him eg "yoga pants at 3 o'clock" - but of course he has always already seen the woman first! This has really helped me not to be jealous in reali…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 05:07 PM
1

This is such a positive sign that you stepping up your intimacy with frequency and creativity has resulted in him needing less porn and masturbation!! How do you feel about that realisation, does it make you happy and encourage you that you are on the right track?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 04:52 PM
1

These sound like wonderful attributes. Maybe focus more on showing appreciation and encouragement for these things you like about him, rather than focussing on all the negatives.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 04:42 PM
1

Like what principles?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 02:48 PM
1

Brilliant analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 09:04 AM
1

this is good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 05:46 AM
1

be extra kind and understanding and affectionate. Ask him what he would like to do and if there is anything he would like you to do
/r/RedPillWives05/02/18 02:55 AM
5

I agree with all this except the take the kids part. Why should she take his kids from him?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/18 09:34 AM
-3

Stop trying to control him and trying to fix him. Leave the man alone to live life his way, or leave him and find someone who enjoys the same "fun" things that you do. If you decide to stay, accept him how he is, stop nagging, and have fun on your own or with other friends. Sounds like he is just a serious person. Number one rule in relationships is you can't change the other person, only yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/18 09:30 AM
3

At the right time, gently ask him what he would like you to do
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/18 09:34 AM
3

Its not just women who have stopped wanting children. Many women, especially in their 30s, have trouble finding a man willing to be the father. As Red Pillers we know many of the reasons for that. There are far more Western women than men who want children. Fixing that will be very difficult if not impossible, and feminists wont like the solution being fixing the unfairness of divorce and child custody to men.
/r/RedPillWives09/01/18 09:27 AM
1

We don't yell at each other any more. When things start to get heated, one of us walks away and goes to another room until we both calm down and can discuss it rationally. When he starts getting angry at me, I walk away. He always calms down after a while and apologises
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 10:33 PM
2

His behaviour is toxic and unlikely to change. You deserve better
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 08:23 PM
4

Maybe sit him down and have a serious discussion about his unsupportive behaviour and how it is making you feel, and ask him what his intentions are for the rest of the pregnancy and afterwards? He seems to be taking his anger out on you and its not helping you or the baby. Him being mean won't make the baby go away. You need to know his plans. It might help for you to acknowledge his anger each time he expresses it. Eg "I know you are angry about the baby and at me for not having an abortion, w…
/r/RedPillWives26/12/17 02:35 AM
3

hehe this is so cute, I heard Facebook is going to start monitoring posts and giving supportive messages to people who seem to be in distress, didn't know reddit was already doing it! Thanks for the cute cat pic, bot.
/r/RedPillWives26/12/17 02:33 AM
9

Have you read the side bar? It doesn't sound like you have. Read the section "RPW and TRP" and then get back to us.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 01:53 AM
5

Wow this is a hard one. I'm sad to hear you are in such a situation. I get the feeling you haven't had a discussion with SO about how he will act after your baby is born? I'd hate for him to treat your new baby with contempt, or take it out on your other kids, or leave you all. How is he acting with your other kids? I guess enough time has passed that it is too late for an abortion anyhow, so he is coming to terms with the reality that there will soon be a third baby. I'm sorry I don't have any …
/r/RedPillWives26/12/17 01:49 AM
1

You are a plate and he is a shit captain. Next him
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 06:11 PM
7

I'm sorry you are feeling hearbroken. This happens to so many young women. Orgasms for us result in lots of oxytocin in our brain, which is the bonding hormone that makes us crave connection to our sex partner. FWB relationships are generally not good for women. Part of your new you should be the resolution NEVER to settle with being a FWB ever again. Make sure you read the side bar fully, more than once. Good luck in your journey.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 11:30 PM
3

What a great follow up report! Well done for such a positive approach to your SO. It really paid off.
/r/RedPillWives13/12/17 05:25 AM
1

You know that if you want to be a wife and mother that your time is starting to run out to find the right relationship. Is it right that your boyfriend has not indicated he is interested in marriage and children if you just fell into a live in relationship? Time for you to have a solid conversation to find out his intentions. If you do have kids with him, then would you be happy being effectively a single mother for nine months out of the year? It doesn't sound like he would have much input into…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 03:39 PM
1

Why are you wasting your time with a man who says he is not ready for a relationship? You know that time is the most precious thing for a woman with our SMV declining every year. Red Pill Wives is about finding and maintaining a long term committed relationship with a quality man. If this man is treating you as a fwb then he is not worthy of your precious time.
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 03:31 PM
1

Do you have an update for us?
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 03:29 PM
1

Do you have an update for us?
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 03:28 PM
2

He's told you he doesn't want to marry you, isn't taking the relationship seriously and you feel like he is treating you like a fwb. What more do you need? If you keep on hamstering your fantasy that he will morph into husband material if you just wait long enough then you are wasting your best years. Next him and vet better next time rather than listening to your fantasies.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 03:03 AM
1

Congratulations!!
/r/RedPillWives10/12/17 02:54 AM
1

That's so good that you are both active. I hope his group appreciate your efforts!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/17 06:44 PM
2

That's great you were able to stop your hamstering. So good your husband was able to reassure you.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:49 PM
1

Victory!! He vanquished that dirty floor.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:48 PM
1

p.s. that was mean of your girlfriend to break his confidences with her like that, and get your hopes up. I don't think its a problem for a man to buy a ring that doesn't fit, sure you can't wear it straight away but you still get the surprise. Its no big deal to get a ring re sized.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:47 PM
2

How exciting! Have a wonderful holiday.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:45 PM
1

thankyou!
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:45 PM
3

I'd prefer masculine men who smacked the shit out of other men who commit sexual assault. Masculine men are furious at the feminisation of Europe and I agree with them. We need good masculine men to protect us from the predation by evil men. Even feminists who are raped expect the cops and judges and prison guards to protect them. They certainly don't turn to the mini skirt wearers.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:25 PM
2

Thank you Camille. I have read that article before a long time ago and its good to read it again as a refresher! Regarding the female tendency to want to fit in and not have leaders, I have experienced this and being new to the group have waited for someone else to take leadership and organise what is going to happen next - and nobody does! In some cases out of frustration I have stepped up and made suggestions as to what happens next and they all followed my instructions. I was so surprised. Re…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 10:19 PM
1

Hi Camille, I'm not a Christian and even militant atheist Richard Dawkins has said that Christianity is a bulwark against the invasion of Islam. Though many crazy Christians are actually supporting the importation of Islam into western countries. I think atheists like me tend to focus on the negatives of Christianity and refuse to see the positives like charity for everyone, Islam only has charity for Muslims. I don't think its a coincidence that majority atheist UK and Sweden have the highest n…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 09:34 PM
1

Plus, white men have granted white women the most rights in the world and in the history of the planet. I like white male patriarchy as it protects me from the horrors of all the other patriarchies in the world.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 09:30 PM
1

and don't get me started on Leftists who love the violent misogynistic religion of Islam despite claiming to be against violence and misogyny! I have some real life friends that way. Sometimes I gently try to present them some facts on Facebook including references but they still don't get it. I have to bite my tongue as I work with some of these people.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 09:28 PM
1

Those same women cry out "where are all the good men" as soon as they hit 30. They also are in denial of the violence some Islamic women face if they refuse to wear the veil.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 09:27 PM
1

But saying that makes you a far right Nazi! or so the stupid extreme left will say. I have seen articles that people still dodn't accept some migrants are dangerous after they have been raped or a family member murdered by one. I also read that sales of guns has skyrocketed in Germany. I think things are going to get much worse unfortunately. Mad Merkel has to go. Glad your partner is doing something about it.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 09:22 PM
1

Masculinity and femininity is much more than just hormones. Science has shown our brain structures are totally different, and medicine is finding that our organs and some body functions are totally different too. One example is the symptoms of heart attacks are very different in men than women. Also with depression women tend to withdraw and become sad while men get aggressive.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 08:09 PM
1

I'm sorry to hear what is happening to Germany, its madness to invite a hostile aggressive culture. I hope you stay safe.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 08:06 PM
2

Glad to hear things have gone well. Thanks for the tip on Longmire, will look into it. Sounds like you have a good man there.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 08:04 PM
3

My SO has been very stressed this week and has had to cancel some plans. I've been feeling lonely cos he's been sleeping a lot, but I haven't complained and entertained myself without feeling annoyed. Its felt good to support him and bring him food in bed when he wasn't well enough to get up. He initiated watching a series about cowboy times, and instead of complaining that I don't like cowboy movies I STFU and watched without complaining and am now enjoying it. I like that he gets movies etc to…
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 08:03 PM
2

This is a good theory. You don't find many slim attractive women that turn to feminism.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 07:59 PM
2

I quite like the white western patriarchy, it protects me from all the other coloured men's patriarchy which is far worse.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 07:59 PM
2

This article is so true. It makes me mad that feminists want all women to attack their menfolk and bring them down. I agree they only hate white men and put all other colours of men on a pedestal. How can a society succeed if its men fail? I hate how feminists bow to that horrible misogynist religion of Islam too which is very threatening to the west. I have no kids, but my nieces and nephews are going to have to deal with it.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 07:58 PM
2

Let your husband decide if he wants to be with you or not. Sounds like he hasn't said he doesn't, so believe that. Keep trying the red pill and allow yourself to fail as long as you pick yourself back up and try again. Changing the habits of a lifetime won't happen overnight. Plus its easy to understand the theory but a whole other ball game to remember to put them in practice, especially in times of high emotion. Keep practicing in times of low emotion, you'll get there if you don't give up.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/17 07:54 PM
2

or maybe I am wrong for suggesting you make suggestions to him rather than just bring your problem to him
/r/RedPillWives03/12/17 12:59 PM
2

I totally agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 12:29 PM
1

My goodness why are you still with this man hoping for marriage after all the changes he has made to his promises (I am giving him the benefit of the doubt in not calling them lies). Only allowing you to visit 4 times in 2 years? Massive red flag dealbreaker. You can do better.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 11:45 AM
2

ps he is still grieving so now might not be the best time to dump a whole lot of relationship unhappiness on him, maybe do it in bite sized pieces and be supportive about his healing from grief?
/r/RedPillWives03/12/17 11:00 AM
3

Do you have any concrete things you can offer as suggestions to make you feel better? I understand what you are saying, but to a man it might seem very vague as to what change would make you happy. If you just went to him with what you have told us here I don't think you will get a positive resolution. Try to be more specific about what each problem is and give examples of what you would prefer instead, eg do you want to get rid of your chairs and go back to a shared couch where you can sit clos…
/r/RedPillWives03/12/17 10:30 AM
2

I wondered if you were in Vic. I am in SA and the storm was pretty minor here - I hope your home stays OK and you sound like you are very well prepared. I have a plastic tub full of canned and packaged food that we can survive on for emergencies and we have rainwater tanks so I feel quite prepared. Hopefully the worst doesn't come to pass and you are safely holed up with your hubby and dog.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/17 06:11 AM
5

Go for it!
/r/RedPillWives23/11/17 05:13 PM
2

My goodness. You asked for advice and RP Wives gave you advice from their years of experience. You said their advice was 'negative'? Just because you wanted them to tell you that you should stay with him? Sounds like you have decided to stay with him, good luck with that as he doesn't sound like good Captain material at all despite his cocky assurance that he will turn into one. Character is important and he has shown you his. I hope your future with him isn't too painful and your time not waste…
/r/RedPillWives18/11/17 06:12 AM
5

You are just making excuses for him. You sound like you want to stay with this asshole, good luck to you with that, its not going to be fun
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 01:24 AM
3

Cut your losses. His behaviour with the other woman and with you is unforgivable. If you stay there will only be more heartache
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 12:29 AM
2

did he tell you exactly what he was looking for if he didn't want the longer kiss? Ask him for specific details
/r/RedPillWives30/10/17 08:27 AM
3

I know that feeling, had it for years, a kind of aching emptiness in the middle of my chest. For me it was related to depression and the right medication that healed my depression also seemed to heal the void. Exploring your spirituality and your relationship to yourself with your therapist sound like good ideas.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/17 08:57 PM
3

I find my subconscious works in mysterious ways as I often find a song coming into my head and when I stop and pay attention to the lyrics, its very relevant to expressing what I am thinking and feeling. I like the idea of deliberately creating pins/anchors especially of good times. I'll try this.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 11:13 PM
3

its a good time to practice STFU. I try not to unload the minutia of my day and only let him know the important things.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 10:38 PM
1

This is excellent information. I shall put it into practice. When SO was mad at me I used to argue back and defend myself and the argument escalated. Now I just walk away and go to my room and allow him time to cool down. Within 20 minutes he always comes to me and apologises and we can discuss rationally without all that angry emotion. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 10:37 PM
2

thankyou, I didn't know you could do that deliberately
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 10:14 PM
1

Don't keep unhealthy snacks or empty calorie food in the house! Stock up on healthy snacks and eat in moderation
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 09:31 PM
1

What a great success! Well done.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 09:23 PM
2

Can you explain more what you mean by sensory pins and auditory pins? Thankyou
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 09:21 PM
2

the urban myth is that large trucks compensate for small penis size
/r/RedPillWives16/09/17 04:38 PM
1

It doesn't sound like you two have much of a relationship if all his energy is directed elsewhere. I would have another discussion and make concrete suggestions like an agreement on how often to schedule a date night or a joint activity outside watching tv in the bedroom. I would also be discussing love languages with him and finding out what his are and stressing to him how much you need touch and quality time to feel loved. Being in this situation would be a huge red flag to me if he didn't th…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/17 03:28 PM
1

Is it serious enough to consider divorce?
/r/RedPillWives16/09/17 03:20 PM
3

It would be a hard hard hard no from me as well. To the point of ending the relationship if he chose to move her in.
/r/RedPillWives08/07/17 07:48 PM
1

I would be running from this man. He won't change. No matter how much you beg or pressure him, there is a pattern here. Staying with him and hoping for him to be faithful is a waste of time. You can't fix this. Part of the vetting process is to test for faithfulness and this man has spectacularly failed. If you continue to see him you are setting yourself up for heartache and emotional pain. This is not what you want to hear but its the truth.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 09:06 AM
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