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Guessing OP saw this was going to be an expensive challenge after day 3. Was thinking of hopping onto a challenge like this myself. I think I can make more then 3 days.
/r/seduction17/02/20 11:43 AM
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Yeah I think OP gave up after 3 days.
/r/seduction17/02/20 11:41 AM
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You sound a lot like me a few months ago. I am too serious. I want to be the funny guy in the group. The guy that, when I am not around my friends would say to others that they should meet me because I always brighten other's day and am suave. Then I started chasing it. Learning phrases I heard from my day-to-day people which always seem to come out wrong when I say it, if I remember them, or trying so hard to play things cool but come off like a dick for some reason. After tons of self-help mat…
/r/seduction04/11/19 09:03 PM
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Aproach Anxiety
/r/seduction16/07/19 06:41 AM
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Agreed
/r/seduction15/07/19 04:27 PM
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Dude, to be honest if they don't have the balls to cold approach and stay in their comfort zones then maybe its not a bad idea. At least they will get punished for not facing their Approach Anxiety. EDIT:Wrote out an abbreviation
/r/seduction15/07/19 04:27 PM
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I have a few tips. As I was an introvert when I came to my home town and now I know at least one group of people when I walk into my watering hole (pub if you missed it). If you cant already walk up to a group of people and introduce your self, sit down and talk to them then skip this message read this first otherwise if you want to know how to become the party and can already introduce your self skip this reply and read the reply to this comment. ​ I went through a baby step process. I could no…
/r/seduction21/06/19 09:53 AM
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Oh one more thing. Don't worry to much about the job level status or the age to much. Have you ever wondered why some ugly/fat guys have bangers for girls? Why collage students can roll with models even though they they have to live off bread crumbs and 2 minute noodles? It is not really that they showed they have money or good looks. It is because they proofed to the girl in some way or form that they are moving toward wealth and will be able to provide for the future. As long as you keep a hea…
/r/seduction21/06/19 09:30 AM
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u/africanpyjamas69 basically gave you the psychological reasoning. You need to up your inner game (read Mark Manson's Models) in the mean time bite the bullet, go on a date and ask her out. Get it over as soon as possible as well. Your brain will come up with bullshit excuses (I will do it tomorrow, I don't feel well, She won't go out with me etc.), learn what they are, prepare for them. Mine was always "I don't have time" when I see a hottie. I found a solution, I look at the time and re-assure…
/r/seduction21/06/19 09:24 AM
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It is actually not hard to find them but it is hard to actually take action to go out and find them. Find activities you like, join a club, look for the regulars (i.e. those that are there every time you are there) and then just introduce your self. If you are into self improvement like I am find classes about what you want to improve and go to them. This in my case is the BEST way to find giants. Why? Because they know they had a problem, they searched for a solution, they found it and then mos…
/r/seduction02/05/19 07:51 AM
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Dude... about the friends. I went on an immersion weekend which was about 18 hours of pure theory on pickup from the Thursday to Monday. We were 11 men pushed into a 3 bed room house. This forced us to get to know each other and every single person had something going for them. One was a pilot, 2 which owned their own bussineses. 2 of which was the instructors. The rest are young dudes studying and trying to improve their lifes. We did not drink a single drop of liqour the whole weekend and we s…
/r/seduction29/04/19 09:26 PM
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You know there is videos on text game right ? Watch todd valentines text game video.
/r/seduction29/04/19 11:15 AM
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Dude, well fucking done for going out on your own. I guarantee you 90% of this subreddit would not do what you did last night so you should feel great for ding this. With the good parts out of the way, lets jump into the advice. Fuck that, text her first. Could be a shit test as well. "This guy is confident lets see how he acts if I tell him I have a boyfriend to shake him." Best way is to just over exaggerate. Oh what a coincidence I have a boyfriend too. We should totally meet up and do a doub…
/r/seduction29/04/19 11:14 AM
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Your frame is completely wrong my friend. Women love shopping and can stay in a mall for 6 months before going home. They feed off the 50% off signs. You joining in for 10 minutes in her 6 month shopping spree REALLY does not bother them. You think to much of yourself in a bad way. You should think highly of yourself because you are a fucking ALPHA MALE ! Think of the joys you bring to those women that appreciate your jokes, the banter and even sometimes insta-dates. They would go home and call …
/r/seduction29/04/19 10:48 AM
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Funny you mention this because I am also stuck with the same problem. My friend seem to be somewhat the same level of confidence then your friend. Now what I soon realized is that you can walk a horse to water but you can't make it drink it unless you show it how tasty it is (The last part was my cringy addon). See my friend was the same or kind of still is but better now. He was low self confident and stuck, I could see it and like you I subtly threw hints and advice hoping he would listen. No …
/r/seduction09/04/19 12:56 PM
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Well... what I do know is, I don't masturbate or touch my self and rub my male pheromones on my neck in a club when I get rejected.
/r/seduction14/03/19 01:30 PM
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Look I am just here to give advice. I honestly feel its way to neutral and unconfident opener in a space where probably a 100 men swiped right on her. The 1 out of the 100 that put in the effort to get a better opener the hi or how are you will get the attention. Not the other 99
/r/seduction12/03/19 05:29 PM
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I am going to try and shine a different light on this and the reason why I agree with u/itsfun2Bdumb. I really hope you read this. I understand the stigma around Pickup artists (which I believe is an horrible term and should be changed to "becoming alpha") . Men use this to manipulate women into bed and yes, it is possible, but here is the great part about the whole thing. Those men that use this bag of "tricks" to manipulate women can only manipulate the low self esteem women which, most likely…
/r/seduction12/03/19 02:41 PM
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Look sexual and flirting is two different things. I hate chatting on the phone so I use flirting to get the number. After that I take her number send a voice note or two and ask her out on a date. In person I do the sexual chatting.For instance the girl that matched with me last night. She cycles and travels, I am a marathon runner.Me (First message): Dam we can never become an item. I was really looking forward to it to.Her: How so..?Me: Well I am a runner, if I get into trouble you can just ho…
/r/seduction12/03/19 01:04 PM
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I am confused? I don't find the same thing funny over and over so why would I have premade sentences for it? On the other hand I laugh at my mistakes mostly or even take them further. I was driving past a Mr Courier truck and read it wrong. I read "Mr Cougar" and I started creating this fake company with a slogan. "Mr. Cougar for when you're wife needs servicing when you are on a business trip."
/r/seduction12/03/19 12:55 PM
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https://youtu.be/TRCueMMtUyg
/r/seduction28/02/19 09:33 AM
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Well if you are refering isolating from the group it depends how comfortable she is with you. If she is then throw a statement like. Me and your friend are going to grab drinks. Then look over at her and tell her that she cant make a move on you. This flips the script. If you feel like she is not comfortable with you yet. Talk to her at the group. Then move her so that she turns her back to her friends (if possible), remember out of sight out of mind. Then isolate her from the group.
/r/seduction28/02/19 09:17 AM
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You got it. Watch Todd Valentines video about group dynamics he goes way more in depth about this concept
/r/seduction27/02/19 04:18 PM
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Hi there fellow alpha male. There is a couple of solutions. One get a wing to keep the friends busy, two if you don't have wings make at the club. Befriend a group of guys, talk shit and once you have a social hub... approach. Once all the women in that group dont see you as a threat bring them over to the group of friends you made earlier. Now 2 sets are fun in the sense you can game your target through her friend. I would throw my arm around or stand next to her and say. Look I think your frie…
/r/seduction27/02/19 01:47 PM
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You have to keep in mind your frame as well. Be more persistent I say. "Hey, two seconds" she walks on "I need to ask your opinion about something" she keeps walking on "Have you seen the crazy robot guy outside". "OH my word I LOVE CRAZY ROBOT guys." Boom instantly makes out with you in the middle of the mall. Joking of course. Check your frame, it needs to be rock solid and I think this matters way more with older women. Also be more persistent on your approach. I remember this one time when I…
/r/seduction27/02/19 12:58 PM
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First off aces to you mate. You alone out performed 92% of men in the pickup community. Most guys would just sit, read and not take action so good fucking job but here is the harsh truth. Remember I am not here to make a mockery out of you this is constructive criticism that I am delivering. Take it or leave it. I am sure you are a great guy and this was one of my main arguments before I started doing game as well. "If they just get to know me" Dude, nobody gives a shit about your life. Especial…
/r/seduction27/02/19 12:51 PM
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Create an opener that includes the word's cockroach, balloon and moist. ​ Rapport back your results soldier
/r/seduction27/02/19 12:27 PM
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I agree, I think an older women had to deal with a lot more guys coming over and talking to her then the younger inexperienced one. I can imagine a 18 year old thinking "OMG I am getting validation from a mediocre guy, THIS IS SO AWESOME!" where as a 28 year old would think "Ugh I am so tired of mediocre guys comming over and saying hi". I am not saying you are mediocre but I am saying that in my opinion older women might have a harder shell to crack.
/r/seduction27/02/19 12:26 PM
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Shot. This is the article I read https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/science-says-92-percent-of-people-dont-achieve-goals-heres-how-the-other-8-perce.html The paper they found it from is from the University of Scranton. You can get that here. https://www.statisticbrain.com/new-years-resolution-statistics/
/r/seduction14/02/19 12:09 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to read my story and helping me out. I have only started getting into game 2 weeks into Jan. Before that I rarely went out to game and mostly watched videos and read books.
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:32 AM
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Nothing to get back to. Already been doing this for a month+
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:24 AM
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Nothing to get back to. Already been doing this for a month+
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:24 AM
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Dam dude how do you game and work a 9 to 5?
/r/seduction07/02/19 01:47 PM
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I use to meet up with my friends at 6 man, then I was late because they rocked up between 4 and 5, we got shit faced though. I was surprised when I got into game that most people see 10pm as early.
/r/seduction07/02/19 01:02 PM
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Also, u/f9RfsR has a point. If you did not have fun at any point then don't force yourself. Rather try day game and maybe meeting up people through other means. Some people are just not made for night life... Tread lightly though don't confuse discomfort for a horrible time. You might just not be used to the environment and still need to adapt to make it comfortable. I also hated going out alone because I felt awkward for being the only one there without any friends and also felt like people wer…
/r/seduction07/02/19 01:00 PM
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Great Job!!! Not a lot of guys actually go out and take action (studies state 8% of people try and actively better their life) so you are already better the 92% of mankind. You just have to keep at it. It seems you are new to the game. No worries, like stated earlier we all had to start somewhere. I suggest following all the local clubs on Instagram/Facebook or any other social platform so that you are always up to date with where the best spots are to go to. This will reduce time of finding a v…
/r/seduction07/02/19 12:07 PM
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Sorry I messed up. I meant the first sentance of the last paragraph.
/r/seduction06/02/19 01:26 PM
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It is your last sentance is in models as well.
/r/seduction06/02/19 01:00 PM
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I appreciate for correcting me. I fixed my mistake
/r/seduction06/02/19 12:49 PM
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Models ?
/r/seduction06/02/19 12:14 PM
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It is great to see some veterans still checking back in as I feel you can learn a lot from them. I would love to find out experiences that differ from mine. I am only starting off so please take this with a pinch of salt and also know I am not here for advise but just out of curiosity my self. Since I don't know what game use to be like back in the day I am just going to give you my routine and would be great to know how it differs from back in the day. Also I apologize in advanced as I don't kn…
/r/seduction06/02/19 09:57 AM
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Your frame is weak wherever there is fear, and by intentionally leaning into situations that trigger your fear, you will conquer the weaknesses in your frame. Some powerful stuff man. It seems you have been doing game for a while. Do you have a fan base, maybe Instagram?. I like surrounding my self with giants. I was looking for theory around frame control as infield I could see that my frame was not strong enough. My problem is whenever fear pops up everything goes out the window and I don't th…
/r/seduction05/02/19 09:46 AM
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How long have you been gaming ? Glad I am not the any one that is stuck at this part. All my numbers flake.
/r/seduction04/02/19 09:04 PM
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Yeah man, I am guessing you are as well. When did you get into game ?
/r/seduction04/02/19 06:19 PM
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Dude, just pay royalties. I have no problem for some adult shop in Germany to sell this shit. Can already imagine the neck beard on the shaft.
/r/seduction03/02/19 08:27 PM
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I need to actually add my other field rapports as well. I made them just not yet added them. ​ Pleasure mate.
/r/seduction30/01/19 07:42 AM
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Yes bassically what happen to me. I was zoned then eventually after a long while I moved on. Started seeing other girls, posted some stories and guess who asked me to meet up.
/r/seduction20/01/19 12:50 PM
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Man, parents not teaching social skills hits so close to home.
/r/seduction18/01/19 06:00 AM
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Its hard to explain since you don't know him or his game but I will try and give an example. Me and him usually when we open sets we get the girl to laugh, we twirl them and they would seem to enjoy her time a lot eventually the set dies down, we would grab the number and move on to the next set. Thing is those numbers rarely respond and usually ends up in a flake On the first day with the mentor he wanted to see at what level his game was so they opened a two set together and he would do his ro…
/r/seduction18/01/19 05:31 AM
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I was also was a huge fan of RSD Max. He was very relatable. He also played the same games I liked i.e. Starcraft. We both had the same origins with girls. I was one of those theory guys that studied game, watched videos but never took action. Luckily not anymore. The reason I mentioned it is because I went through most of his content. Yes Max gave great advise when he started off. He hit all the points that he should have but it seems he stopped finding newer and better ways on improving game. …
/r/seduction17/01/19 01:34 PM
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Hey man, this is great. Me and my wings also take our stuff seriously. We are planning to go more serious about the topic. 2-3 hours theory, day game 3 hours then 2-3 hours theory and night game over weekends. Weekdays we can only do night game due to our day jobs. Here is some tips but take it with a grain of salt as I am no pro my self. I agree with @ntipz011 7-8/10 is not a great ratio. What I suggest is maybe have your phone in your hand with the recorder on or a wing to be in the area to li…
/r/seduction17/01/19 01:14 PM
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My advise, go up to her and start a normal conversation as friends "Hi there, how is your day going" and then out of the blue or if you run out of topics bring it up "Oh by the way I am sorry for the other night, I had a drink to much and I stumbled over my own feet. I felt like a dumb-ass ever since" and change the topic. After apologies and she actually finds you attractive you shoot it down straight away. If she seems weirded out from the get go immediately make it your topic as soon as possi…
/r/seduction17/01/19 09:49 AM
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Don't fuel the fire. Just state it was lame and move on
/r/seduction17/01/19 09:38 AM
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Humans are complex beings that we don't as people still don't understand completely. That is why.
/r/seduction15/01/19 11:28 AM
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It was last year so I can't remember everything but I will mention what I can remember. We went on two dates and I think I was into game for like a month. Remember to turn the conversation sexual. Talk about history you had with other women. She will do the same with her history, this will show you are open sexually and also should increase your value as a man. A good way to turn things sexual is saying stuff like this "You seem more adventures than I last met you. You must have gone skydiving, …
/r/seduction15/01/19 06:44 AM
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Hey man I ended up making out with a girl that friendzoned me as well. (It would have gone further but something happen that I did not know how to handle, that is a story for another time) I would say it actually helped that I was friendzoned by this girl because we were comfortable with each other off the bat and catched up like friends do just with me doing actual advances this time. The only way out of the zone is by taking a really long break from the relationship which you did. I would let …
/r/seduction14/01/19 02:20 PM
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Funny, when I think of my first approach it sounds a lot like yours. Two of my friends came into town and we hit dinner at a restaurant. We had this gorgeous red head waitering us and also speaking our home language fluently which was hot. All three of us liked her so we started flirting and she reciprocated very well. Once the bill came around nobody had the balls to ask her number so we just left. My friends took their flight to America but this girl stayed behind stuck in my head so one day I…
/r/seduction07/01/19 11:58 AM
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Honestly it sounds like she moved on and so should you. See a girl moves on pretty quickly if you dont show intent early on she friendzones a guy. Once you are in the zone it is extremly hard to get out, hard enough to not waste anytime on it. The best to lose feelings for a girl is to talk to other girls.
/r/seduction31/12/18 12:17 PM
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Yes, you need to treat Tinder as a bonus.
/r/seduction31/12/18 12:11 PM
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Ok I have a question. After you approached the whole group, say 3 friends, they all 3 keep their attention on me. I can keep them busy but how do I transition from the whole group to 1 by 1. This rarely happens that the other two friends talk to each other and I get to talk to the friend
/r/seduction30/12/18 10:13 PM
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Awesome advise. I made this mistake yesterday without me knowing this. I saw a beautifull blond sitting on the side on her phone with her friends next to her, looking bored. I went over and asked could I join her. She accepted and the game was on. I did ok until her sister jumped in and just talked to her, ignoring me. I tried to get her on my side by playing games and doing cold reads but no dice. Eventually I saw I am not getting anywhere so I left. When you told your side of the story, which …
/r/seduction30/12/18 10:10 PM
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I just want to take a second and congratulate you on all your achievements thus far man. It takes a lot to make changes like these. So be proud. Tinder is no way of measuring success. I boot it up every now and then and would only get 1 like per month, though infield says otherwise. It seems that you don't setup a great man to women frame from the start. Your target needs to know early on in the interaction ok this guy digs me. This is done by a quick physical touch close to the elbow or even a …
/r/seduction29/12/18 07:20 AM
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You are placing way to much value on her instead of your self. Sure it sucks but remind yourself that she just missed out on the best fucking guy in the world and its her loss. Not only that you actually went and talked to someone which is already a huge win most guys not only on here but everywhere cant even walk up to a girl.
/r/seduction28/12/18 11:40 PM
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Most advise on here is perfect but I feel I can share this as it helped me. I got this from the book models and I highly recommend it if you have not read it. Mark in his book models took a baby step approach. First ask directions, do this until you dont have a problem doing it. Then start adding onto it. Like ask directions and then after ask how her day is going. Do that until you are comfortable. Then add onto it. Etc. Hope this helps
/r/seduction28/12/18 11:30 PM
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Sure, you ask them if they ever did the best friend test . Most likely they would say no. The you say ok I am only going to ask 1 question and depending on the answer they are best friends. The questioj can be anything. "What shampoo do you use?" Then when they answer you look at thei reaction. If they look at each other or have the same hand gestures then they are beste friends.
/r/seduction23/11/18 07:36 AM
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I agree whole hartedly with what you said. Though it goes without saying when you never had great experience with women you will get oneitis. Its your job to realize what is happening and then implement the solutions @TheJoeyJoeJoementioned.
/r/seduction23/10/18 03:27 PM
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Don't you guys have Uber ?
/r/seduction01/10/18 09:18 AM
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Thank you for this message. Not only did you gave some tips but also explained other possible questions. In order to break down a piece of conditioning you need to create experiences and events that directly contradict it. Say you're afraid of women & think they won't dig you but you push through it and find that not only are they not really scary but some of them actually do dig you I agree and understand this. This is still a big hurdle for me but it is getting better. I better this by trying …
/r/seduction20/09/18 12:45 PM
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You make a very solid point here. Looking back now at my conditioning I realize how many things changed my course. The question is how do you change your social conditioning to a point where you don't see strangers as threats and girls as potential sex partners. I know the answer will take patience ?
/r/seduction20/09/18 10:52 AM
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Love this statement Struggle to get excited in the field? Think about how awesome it’s going to be when you get good? These girls that are rejecting you will soon be excited to have sex with you. What a positive out look
/r/seduction17/09/18 01:42 PM
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Hey there I was a high school nerd (even still am right now, I just own up to it). I remembered a big event that happen to me and made me introverted was when we grouped up for athletic practice and this one guy gut punched me just after I greeted him. I was new at the school and wanted to make friends. I don't necessarily blame just this one event, there are a couple of others but this was a big contribution. Basically my mind told me don't talk to strangers they will punch you I was like you m…
/r/seduction17/09/18 09:10 AM
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I would also like recommending a tip. This helped me a bit. If you want to take baby steps. Start by socializing with anybody. Take out your earphones on the metro and start a conversation with the people in your immediate area. Old, young, ugly, beautiful, anybody. Remember these people live the same routine every day, by you engaging conversation is out of the norm and you would make that person's day. Then progress to starting conversations with woman you don't find attractive until you event…
/r/seduction28/06/18 09:15 AM
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