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LEVEL UPsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:35 PM
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LIES MEN TELLsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:37 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:06 PM
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SEX STRATEGYsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:51 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:37 PM
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PICKME CULTUREsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:46 PM
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DATING THEORYsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:43 PM
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FIELD REPORT sadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:50 PM
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SEX STRATEGYsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 05:18 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:07 PM
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DISCUSSIONsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:41 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:55 PM
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DISCUSSIONsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:30 AM
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DISCUSSIONsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:59 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 05:58 AM
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DISCUSSIONsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:18 AM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:32 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:39 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEsadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/19 11:23 PM
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FIELD REPORT sadpourtoujours/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:42 PM
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Holy FUCK 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:20 AM
1

Bae!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:18 AM
78

LMAO. I gotta find her TikTok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:06 AM
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He needs help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:11 PM
13

Don’t be a Bob the Builder Chick. The moment this man gets financially stable he‘s going to toss her to curb and get something new and sparkly. Don’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:18 AM
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Seriously. I fucking hate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:24 AM
2

Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:23 AM
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Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:47 PM
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Great post. Also, to add, always keep him chasing. Dating, boyfriend, husband? Never let him get you. He will love and appreciate you more if he has to keep chasing you forever than if you declare your unconditional love for him and do anything for him (lol). You’re not being mean. Men like the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:53 PM
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Based.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:45 PM
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I feel this spiritually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:02 AM
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All men are shallow as shit and only prioritize their dicks. Their genetics make them want to chase new pussy constantly. It’s not really fixable. It’s like taking an animal and trying to dress it up in human clothes and teach it human ways. Eventually it’s going to revert back to being an animal. That’s why I advocate using men for resources only and dropping the romantic, true love BS because it doesn’t exist. Not with males. If you want true love marry a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:27 PM
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Yup all men are shallow fucks. Those of you who think your future husband is any better have a storm coming when you hit that age. Get the money and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:22 PM
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Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:19 PM
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I’ll give him a classic rock to the fucking face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:54 PM
2

Yes ma’am 👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:49 PM
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We need to get in her energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:33 PM
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Lmao! Legit where are the actual fucking men at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:07 PM
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Queen Aunty Shera 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:58 PM
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Online dating is a meat market to men. Men only care about sex. Read that again please. MEN ONLY CARE ABOUT SEX. No man goes on a OLD, or to the bar, or to the club looking for a wife or girlfriend. It’s just about sex, because they are men, not women, and that is what men want. If you’re going to use OLD, use a paid site. You’re more likely to find men who are serious about finding a relationship because they’re actually investing funds into it. Free dating apps allow any horny or bored male to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:42 PM
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This is fucking EMBARRASSING 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:32 PM
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Based.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:24 PM
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Yup. Men are always up to some bullshit on their phones. Always. Don’t trust men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:12 PM
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Reddit is a such a hellhole. Constantly try it to justify disgusting ass male behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:46 PM
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I love this meme! Keep ‘em coming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:51 PM
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It’s all bullshit. All the porn stars, strippers, and Insta models they masturbate to wear makeup. They’ll say that to you, then while you’re out, he’ll be checking out all the women with their makeup, hair, and wardrobes on point. Don’t let a man convince you that you should be low-maintenance if you’re not. Don’t give a shit what he thinks about you. If he says he doesn’t like makeup? Wear more makeup the next day. You don’t cater to him. Why the fuck would change to yourself to please him? Fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:41 PM
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I bet he thought that shit was real cute and funny. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:35 PM
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Men ain’t shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:33 PM
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The “man rant” tag is the best pink pill you’ll ever find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:30 PM
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Another fantastic ass post Jammies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:19 PM
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Yes, yes, and yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:48 PM
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Free sex is the most important factor. Men’s words are bullshit and don’t mean anything. Her ex-husband is buttering her up strategically in order to keep the sex coming. Men will say or do anything to get sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:06 PM
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This woman needs some serious self-respect and self-love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:16 PM
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Yep. The less you do for a man or care about him, the more crazy he is about you 🤷🏽‍♀️ Male psychology is some shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:41 AM
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Are these dumb fucks even straight? If they want to stick their dicks into the hole shit comes out of so bad, then they should fuck men and leave women alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:34 AM
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What in the fuck? Instead of asking Reddit for advice and crying yourself to sleep, uh, divorce the fucker! Better yet, spit in his face and then divorce him. Lord have mercy if some idiot I was involved with had the gall to say an iota is what her trash heap husband said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:32 AM
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There are so many women who walk into their man’s house and can’t help but clean. Ladies. Don’t. His laundry is in the floor? Don’t touch it. Dishes in the sink? Oh well. Trash on the floor? That sucks. You’re not his maid. You clean up after him now? You set the precedent and it stays there forever. If his place is a mess whenever you visit? He’s a slob and clearly doesn’t want to impress you. If his apartment is turning into a mess down the line, refuse to come over the next time he asks you o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:48 AM
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This guy 100% works at Taco Bell and uploads shirtless photos of his skinny-fat abdomen on Tinder. His bio probably says something about anime, video games, and he definitely has chin acne and mommy issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:18 AM
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I carry pepper spray. Stay spicy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:16 AM
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Tell ‘em sis 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:56 AM
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Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:55 AM
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Join the Dark Triad Woman sub, Read Art of Seduction, or start watching SheraSeven on YouTube.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:52 AM
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Performative femininity isn’t about being “nice” or becoming “small” and “meek” from a TDW perspective. It’s a weaponized seduction technique. Strength and femininity combined. Femininity doesn’t have to be docile and submissive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:09 AM
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For the clarinet player I dated, someone in his vocation would find it extremely difficult to make a decent living wage in his art form if it weren’t for the military. It paid him well and allowed him to go to grad school. It doesn’t mean he is immoral for choosing what would allow him to live a decent life. We all contribute to a system of oppression or immoral construct by what we purchase, media we consume, and the choices we make in one way or another. Its not fair to point the finger at mid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:27 AM
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If he ain’t your boyfriend, you can do whatever you want. I thought this was common knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:00 PM
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Girl...why you didn’t leave earlier? In fact, why did you meet him at all with all the red flags? I’m glad you walked out eventually, but you could have saved yourself the trouble by never meeting up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:37 PM
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They also train us to believe in romantic fairytale propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:35 PM
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Not all military are bad. I dated a Navy musician and a Navy IT who were normal. Army and Marines are very machismo, but there’s occupations that aren’t “hoorah!” types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:34 PM
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Lol, block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:54 AM
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Men are...the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:56 AM
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I’m DEAD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:20 AM
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Exactly. Just ask your Grandma, she’ll teach you all the game 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:14 AM
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Honestly? Give love to your family, friends, and pets. Not men. I know a lot of women will hear that and start to complain, “Well, what’s the point of having a man?” Here’s the thing. If you’re heterosexual, it’s biology that we will try to seek out males. So, since it’s mostly inevitable, we need to swallow the truth pill about male nature and learn how to strategically manage them accordingly to their REAL nature (not the Disney movie Prince Charming propaganda) in order to be benefited by the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:35 PM
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I keep trying to tell women... Men DO NOT experience love the way you do. The way you think of romantic love? It’s not how it is. Throw all that romantic fairy tale “he’s going love me forever no matter what” bullshit in the trash. That’s not how men are. Period. Their “love” is not deep or unconditional. It’s based off of sex, visual aesthetics, and how you make them feel/what you can do for them. That’s IT. Which is why women need to always hold back emotionally. ALWAYS. You cannot 100% be inv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:15 PM
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Sex? A man isn’t even getting second date if he ain’t paying lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:10 PM
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This made me BURST out laughing at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:09 PM
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Never tell men about your money/financial situation. It’s none of their fucking business 🙂 Good job girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:04 AM
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Cringe shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:58 AM
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What the fuck? What should you do? Bith, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:25 AM
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Based.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:22 AM
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Men want to fuck as many women as possible, play the game, chase new pussy, etc. Then, once they’re older they look at their friends who are married with children and realize they don’t want to die alone and latch onto whatever woman fits his wife ideal. That’s just the reality of male nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:10 PM
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They’re just feminine manipulation tactics. You don’t have to use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:07 PM
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Yes. The first time he fucks up THIS IS WHAT YOU DO. No forgiveness. No tolerance. No “communicate” and “make it work”. Walk out the door. Stop overvaluing men who disrespect you. Get another one or be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:23 AM
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Yeah, don’t say anything. Once I said my hair was annoying me that day (I have lonnngg curly hair and it’s a pain but I love it) and the man I was with goes, don’t worry, your hair is beautiful. I was like...I know? They definitely misinterpret it as an insecurity. But also, I know so many women who whine about their appearance in front of their boyfriends or husbands. My friend does it all the time in front of her husband and it’s embarrassing. He can’t see you as a Queen if you’re verbalizing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:32 PM
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Yesss! Don’t tell a man ANY of your insecurities. You hate your hair, don’t like your butt, wish your nose was smaller? Keep. It. To. Yourself. When you start whining and complaining about your appearance in front of a man you are devaluing yourself. He needs to see you as a confident woman in order to respect you. As OP said, men are used to women complaining about their appearances. Don’t. Come off as a confident ass bitch. If you really need to vent, call your girlfriend or your mom. Don’t in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:22 PM
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Sex positivity should be about learning to enhance each others pleasure, improving your emotional connection during intimacy, etc. Instead it’s been hijacked by the kink community, and also bastardized into “yes sis, be a hoe and screw as many strangers as you want 🤪”. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:10 PM
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If he’s pulling away, you match his energy. Why do you want someone who doesn’t want you? You don’t. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:02 AM
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I used to work at women’s hospital. Literally half the women were 35+.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:49 AM
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Reddit is full of reject males who have no real world experience with women, so they fantasize about these situations though they, in fact, will never actually be in them. Men suck, but men on Reddit are a special kind of depraved and pathetic. Click on their profiles and it’s basically misogyny, porn, anime, and video games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:44 AM
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Literally, all I needed to read was the first sentence of this post to conclude that this guy is a piece of shit. I didn’t read much further because that bit of information was all I needed to know. He clearly a) does not respect you, b) likes making you feel insecure, c) gives no fucks about what your opinion of him and his actions are. Dump him. Why you are choosing to stay with an asshole like this is so beyond me. You like men like this brining bullshit, pain, and confusion into your life? Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:38 AM
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I second that. Always meter interactions. Plan dates in advance. Five days is a good shot. See him 1x a week then gradually move it up to 2x. If you become too available he will get bored. Make him chase. Continue be nice, show interest, accept his dates, but space them out. Good luck, seems promising!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:29 AM
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I lovvveed her attitude about men in this show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:24 AM
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Your ex is absolute scum. Don’t blame yourself. God I want to beat his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:55 PM
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This ugly bastard looks like he’s missing too many brain cells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:50 PM
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Embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:59 PM
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Why do women date men like this? Then act like it’s cute to have a grown man whom you have to mother? I don’t get it. You’d catch me dead before you’d catch me reminding a man to shower or picking out his clothes. This is a grown ass adult. Fucking lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:54 PM
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This! Please remember this ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:57 AM
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FDS challenges the values you “learned and developed over the years” because, news flash, all dating, relationship, and marriage advice in OUR society been formulated to benefit MEN and NOT to be strategic for women’s benefit. You can either take the advice of women who have experience with men and know what they’re capable of, how they actually, think, etc., or learn the hard way. It’s not my life 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:34 PM
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If you’re dating someone for a significant amount of time, plus through the engagement period, there are going to be red flags that a man is a piece of shit. The majority of women a) ignore them, b) are too tolerant of bullshit (this women wasn’t even mad about the slave comment, it was funny to her teehee), or c) excuse/rationalize it because they wuve him and want to make it work. You forget that the majority of women wayyy overvalue men, have no backbone, are extremely tolerant of bad behavio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:40 PM
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This thread reeks of Pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:36 PM
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What the fuuucckkk. And she married this fucking dude?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:26 PM
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I haaaaatte threads like these. It’s PickMeisha heaven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:10 PM
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There’s no logical answer. Men just feel entitled to everything. It’s hilarious that broke, boring, insecure, man-children think they deserve beautiful women. They put in no effort to be interesting, develop integrity, or a good personality, bolster their careers, or find real hobbies aside from watching anime, playing video games, watching porn, and browsing the internet. Man-child culture is in full swing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 07:25 PM
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That sub is for upholding the status quo of popular misogynist, racist, homophobic, and xenophobic opinions everyone already has. Not for actually “unpopular” beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 07:17 PM
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Because they’re men? Lol. Men are concerned with their dicks snd that’s basically it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:40 AM
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Women like this have no self-respect or self-love and it’s saaddddd. The worse part it is there are tons of women who put up with shit similar to this everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:32 AM
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I would have immediately blocked that idiot after his long ass paragraph. Who’s got time to read that? Time wasting prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:48 PM
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Every woman needs to be in this energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:42 PM
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Your daughter is right. There aren’t any good ones. They’re all men at their core. Their dick is the only thing that concerns them. Just use men strategically to get what you want out of life instead of chasing some fairytale romance shit that doesn’t actually exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:24 PM
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A man should be crazy about you and want you more than you want him. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:47 PM
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☝️👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:50 AM
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I honestly hate that B, so lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:35 AM
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Some men are raised better and have more emotional intelligence and stronger values that they take seriously and therefore adhere to, but I believe at their core AMALT. Genetically, men are not like women in terms of their capacity for love, loyalty, and empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:51 PM
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Yesss, I’m always in this energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:13 PM
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As I always, say it’s not about looks. It’s about psychologically getting in their head. I’m sure you know of plenty of women who aren’t that attractive who get worshipped by their men. It’s not that their men are better or worse, because IMO all men are the same. It’s just that they knew how to play the game. Jessica Biel, Gwen Stefani, Beyonce, etc. They’re all goddesses, but if there’s no psychological game behind it, men will get bored and cheat all the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:06 PM
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Ew lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:23 PM
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This! My ex was a POS. It didn’t matter how many times I asked him to do something or change a behavior, he would not. My current BF? I don’t need to even say anything. He automatically picks up on if I’m uncomfortable or unhappy without my verbalizing it and makes adjustments in behavior. If a man doesn’t care about pleasing or impressing you, he will do the former. If he views you as a prize who he doesn’t want to lose? He’ll do the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:58 PM
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Seriously though ladies? Never believe what men say. Take everything men say with, not even a grain of salt, an atom of salt. Words are just words. Men use words to manipulate you into getting what they want (sex). All that, “you’re beautiful”, “I’m only talking to you”, “I’m looking for something real”, “you’re different than other girls”? It’s all bullshit. Never believe words or let words get to you. You should be observing actions ONLY and basing your opinion of a man on solely that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:54 PM
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Rule #1: You must be happy/satisfied single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:26 AM
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That’s great sis! The only thing is that you’ve only been dating five months. It’s too early to gauge whether he’s the man of your dreams or a perfect match. You also sound like you’re super emotionally attached to him. It’s always better to add a bit of “arms length” until you’re married IMO. But besides that, glad to hear it’s worked out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:21 AM
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Big lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:33 PM
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Romance as you think of it is basically fake and performative for men, also it’s propaganda that makes the idea of a relationship with a man seem tantalizing when in most cases it’s subtractive for women, so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:04 AM
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It’s also referring to your personal emotional investment. You shouldn’t be getting emotionally invested, attached, or falling in love with a man who isn’t, at bare minimum, your boyfriend. Even in marriage, emotional investment shouldn’t be 100%. Men can read the rug from beneath your feet at any second. Learning to hold on emotionally to man delicately, instead of like your life depends on it, is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:00 AM
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Men don’t appreciate sacrifices you make for them. If you pay their bills, cook, clean, perform emotional labor, move for them, cut out friends for them, etc. they will never fully appreciate it. That’s why you need to put yourself first. A man will appreciate a woman who doesn’t do jack shit for him MORE than woman who does everything for him. Why? Because she come off as being higher value. Not a servant, maid, or provider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 08:58 PM
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As the Beatles once said, let it be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 07:09 AM
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Block delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:23 PM
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I just vomited in my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:22 PM
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Stop getting this info. Who cares what the fuck head is doing. Tell people to stop updating you, block his timeline, whatever you have to do. Know your worth. He didn’t appreciate you? Oh well, his loss, he’s dumb. Someone else will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:46 PM
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My mom isn’t a Pick Me, but she’s a Doormat/Nice Girl and a Bob the Builder woman. She sees no problem living this way. It’s very frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:43 PM
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Don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:20 PM
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Y’all giving out your numbers tooooo freely lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:19 PM
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Compliments from women hit different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:41 AM
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I mean, most women are married, engaged, or dating LVM. Women generally don’t have or enforce standards, let men slip up without walking away, have no backbone to leave, are too nice/forgiving/understanding, etc. I’m not sure I know more than one woman in my life who has decent male partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:25 PM
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Ask yourself why you’re craving male attention. Really ask yourself. If you’re lonely, talk to your friends or make friends. If you need validation, learn to self-validate. If you’re bored, learn something new or go out and do something. If you crave love, love YOURSELF or get love from pets, friends, and family. If you’re horny, buy sex toys. Most men don’t add value to women’s lives. In the current pandemic climate, they especially can’t add any value to your life and can’t provide anything to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:19 PM
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Men are controlled by their penises and all of them of the consume some form of pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:11 PM
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The average British man is ugly as sin, so I’m not sure why he’s only ragging on British women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:12 PM
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Fat men always preferring a “petite figure”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:10 PM
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This is my ex holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:13 AM
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Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:59 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 06:27 AM
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✅ Correct!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:42 AM
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Honestly? Once you set the precedent, it’s extremely difficult to change that. From day one you have to show and teach men your expectations and standards. If you didn’t, inching him backwards will be a challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:18 AM
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Nope. Stop worrying about his life and who’s in it. It’s not your problem. She won’t care about what you have to say anyway and will view you as the enemy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:14 AM
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Misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:53 AM
12

I never said it was easy love, but it must be learned. I did it, others can too. Women have been brainwashed to seek our love and romance by the media, so it’s especially difficult for us to be focused on what’s actually important in relationships and be logical and discerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:07 AM
51

This is the rule that needs to be learned by ALL WOMEN. Stop getting emotionally attached to men who are not your boyfriend or your husband! You will wait to have sex but won’t wait to give away your heart? Throw all that emotional shit in the trash until he’s proved himself to you, committed to you, and shown you he wants to be with you for the long haul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:52 PM
62

Sex for women incurs ✅higher chance of catching an STI, ✅pregnancy risk and costs/risks associated with pregnancy and abortion, ✅pain, ✅rarely reaching orgasm, ✅side effects and costs associated with birth control, ✅possibility of rape. AND YET men expect women to open their legs to just any man without the invest of time, energy, and money from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:24 PM
6

That dude in the comments is mad as hell because he’s broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:15 PM
18

If he’s not paying, I’m not staying 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 08:28 PM
11

More like all men and general. Y’all can cope all you want with that LV/HV label, but guaranteed if you choose to let a man impregnate you, you will be doing 90% of the work. Why? Because AMALT to more and lesser degrees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 08:23 PM
62

So much Peter-Pan Syndrome shit these days from men. Finding “real” men is hard af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:53 AM
6

🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:51 AM
5

Message the mods to get in again. There’s also a saidit and a Discord too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:17 PM
56

PP’s take is sooo true. Men don’t even like women’s bodies. Vaginas freak them out. Women’s reproductive physiology freaks them out. Women with natural body hair freak them out. Tits freak them out when they’re used what they were designed to be used for (breastfeeding). AND men want to, instead of putting their dicks in our sCaRY vaginas, want to stick them where shit comes out. They literally don’t even like female bodies lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:45 AM
13

👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:38 AM
12

We need to be in her energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:37 AM
31

Wanna hear the worst part? He was a professor. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:31 PM
55

My fuck ass ex asked me to miss my final exam so I could I spend time with him before he left for his trip. If men make you do things that are clearly not in your best interest, they’re 100% certified shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:11 PM
2

Lmao, I would have walked right out of his apartment when I saw that mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:35 PM
102

I could give two fucks if I’m considered a gold digger. The only men who care about paying for a woman are broke and I don’t date broke men anyways. Men are allowed to be as open as they want about wanting sex, but women can’t want money? It’s a complete double standard. “Show me your tits!” No, show me your bank account bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:28 PM
10

Omg. Is this real??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:26 AM
24

I’m hoping she got these bruises from an accident and just made it into a joke. Anyone wondering what that movie is, it’s more BDSM romanticizing trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:25 AM
29

Avoid men who teach at uni/college. They think they’re as old as their students and often try to date or screw them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:22 AM
66

That’s why women need to stop giving unconditional love to men. Love them contingent upon what they can provide and do for you in the same way they hinge their “love” (lol, if you can all it that) of us on the same shit. Love with a man should always be CONDITIONAL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:40 AM
8

Relatable! I hope one day I’ll wake up and realize I’m a lesbian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:21 PM
2

I used to be extremely emotionally-based with dating. However, I had a mindset shift. It’s possible to rewire your brain. If you follow feelings instead of logic, you will suffer in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:11 PM
4

Don’t get emotionally attached until you have a solid commitment. Personally, I don’t see why any woman would get emotionally attached to a man who hasn’t presented her with a ring, but I understand that’s not feasible for most of you. You need to treat men like jobs. Do you get emotionally attached to a job that won’t last forever? No, you wouldn’t get invested in your workplace until you knew you had a career that could last a lifetime. Stop getting emotional about men. Stop building them up i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:27 PM
57

So many porn-sick males and pickmes are trying to discredit her and say “not alllll porn stars feel this way” and “dOnT ViLiFy sEx WoRk”. It’s disgusting. We need to defend her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:22 PM
96

I keep trying to tell y’all men are an entirely different species. But nope. “My man’s different. True love exists. There are good men out there.” Sis? Men only keep girlfriends and wives because it’s the only way for them to get sex regularly. As much as they want to fuck a new woman every night, they realize that’s too expensive and not sustainable. So, they get a wife or a girlfriend for regular sex, plus other benefits like comfort and emotional support. If you’re going to be involved with m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:55 PM
18

Yikes. Sis made him dinner, bought him alcohol, AND invited him over to HER house for a Netflix and Chill? Well, unfortunately, sometimes fucking up is the only way to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:45 PM
42

Holy pickme 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:42 AM
6

If he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend at two months of dating and pursuing it’s time move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:37 PM
14

This made want to puke. Why are women constantly looking for a solution to fix broken ass men? Just LEAVE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:28 PM
30

God that guy is such a disgusting little rodent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:20 AM
32

Money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 09:00 AM
2

😂👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:25 AM
50

Men are ruled by their egos and a woman who says she’s not interested in marriage feels like a challenge to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:47 AM
30

☝️ding, ding, ding! The truth is right here ladies. Read it again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:41 AM
10

Love this 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:53 PM
14

Personally, I believe men fall on a terrible to decent spectrum. The concept of HV and LV is too black and white. All men are all controlled by their penises. All men are irreversibly socialized to view women as objects and providers of services. All men have internalized misogyny. That being said, none can be truly “good” or “high value” men. However, there are decent men. They harbor inherently negative male traits, but were raised better, or have more emotional intelligence, for example. If y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:45 PM
5

There are men that are decent-er than others, but I don’t believe in the concept of HVM. I think men fall on a spectrum of terrible to decent. Not good, decent. You will find men who were raised better, etc., but at their core they are still men, and genetically (as well as through irreversible social conditioning) meet all the conditions you quoted me on, more or less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:23 PM
20

Dating men is fine, but being delusional and not accepting their true nature is stupid. They’re all porn-consumers. Men fall on a spectrum of, at worst, very terrible to, at best, eh, it’s a man. And FYI this sub was founded on PinkPill ideology. X# of “Queens Leveling Up” used to be “PinkPilled Women”. I’ve been a member for a looonnng time. Edit: You can downvote me all you want and believe there is a Prince Charming or a man who’s Different™. But when you discover that your fairytale male doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:18 PM
11

Keep dreaming love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 09:04 PM
7

I completely agree. I’m very thankful to have discovered Shera. She’s one badass witchy female and has taught me SO much! Your Grandma seriously understood the game too! Is your mom in her 40s-50s? A lot of woman in that Gen X age range seem to have that Bob the Builder, Nice Woman mentality. Whereas their mothers seemed to understand the game a lot more. My mom sound very similar to yours and is Gen X.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:32 PM
6

Ew. Glad you ghosted his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:56 PM
47

And women believe HVM actually exist lol. Reality check time. EVERY MAN watches pornography and this is literally one of the most popular categories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:54 PM
8

Yes, you’ll definitely find one that accepts your flaws. All men are trash, and I don’t really buy into the HVM theory because it’s just a cope for women IMO. BUT I do believe men fall on a trash spectrum, and there are men who are lower on that spectrum. Are they trash? Yes. Are they more well-behaved, self-aware, better raised, etc. Also yes. As long as as you have self-love (which it seems like you have) you can continue to weed out the more trash men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:05 PM
17

None of them are different. They’re men. Biologically, they’re all the same at their core. That hopeful “the one” and “a different guy” mentality you possess is a social fabrication sold to you from romance-geared (propaganda) film, television, and books. The best you can do is put yourself first and love yourself the most. Then, choose the man who treats you the best. Men have little value to add to your life aside from financial stability. They’re not loyal, don’t love like women, provide shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:38 PM
19

The moment you think “he’s different” about a man he’s already scammed you sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 04:58 PM
128

Same. Giving me ptsd from my old man-baby ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:28 AM
8

Preach Desiree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:51 PM
29

Why do y’all even bother dating online though? Are you masochists or something? Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:25 PM
13

Why are women, no offense, so pathetic in situations like this? Your husband is PEDOPHILE and instead of packing your shit up, leaving, and finding a divorce lawyer IMMEDIATELY, you’re on Reddit asking how to cOmMunIcATe with him? Please don’t be like this ladies. Whether it’s cheating, abuse, of some other offense, just flipping leave. Stop fooling yourself into thinking your man is the last one on earth. They’re all trash. He isn’t that great. Get another one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:22 PM
2

Lmaoooo! Saving this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:14 PM
14

Being curt and cold isn’t bad thing sister. Embrace being more a no-shits-given bad bitch. Men don’t appreciate nice women any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:05 PM
5

Men are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:02 PM
14

I have no problem being perceived as high maintenance. It deflects men that are lazy, low-effort, and broke and attracts the opposite 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:52 PM
4

I’m...I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:45 PM
10

Sooo why do you want to be with someone who doesn’t want a relationship with you? Why are you overvaluing him? There are plenty of males out there that would want a relationship with you. He doesn’t. Find another one. He’s not unique or special. You just got emotionally attached and now your judgment is skewed. If he’s not committed to you and you got emotionally attached you messed up. You’re giving him girlfriend benefits without a title which is stupid. That might sound mean, but tough love i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:18 PM
66

My cheating ex will send me emails every month (we’ve been over for two years now) and it’s always when something bad is happening to him. He wants a “friend” and “support”. Basically, he wants access to the emotional labor I used to provide. Obviously, I ignore all these messages. The audacity that he feels entitled to my friendship after cheating and being emotionally abusive makes me laugh my ass off. Suffer you miserable little worm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:05 PM
9

Men are ruled by their egos and their dicks. A small slight to the ego makes them angry. Their dicks make them irrational. At least a woman president wouldn’t be accused of rape and sexual assault. Males being unable to control their biological functions is huge problem. T-blockers should be necessity to control the rage and sexual perversion of men in power. Actually, men in general tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:03 PM
12

Whenever a man ignores your verbalized concerns/requests and continues to do [insert whatever makes you uncomfortable here] he is probably garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:56 PM
11

Listen, watch, observe. You set your expectations on the table verbally and a man will mold himself to be what you want in order to con you. Keep your cards close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:52 PM
10

If you cohabit before marriage you will end up doing the wifey shit and he will get wide benefits without an initial monetary investment and commitment (ring). That’s gonna be a no from me dawg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:49 PM
9

God men are pathetic. Their egos and everything else that occupies their brains is tied up in their peepees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:30 PM
45

Porn has ruined entire generations of men. Literally, every man on planet earth watches pornography and it has fucked with each of their heads to some extent. All males are fucked and HVM do not exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:23 PM
4

We’ve all been there girl. We live and learn. There’s no way to learn until you make mistakes, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:39 AM
1

Just want to point out that I don’t believe in the concept of a “wonderful, loving, forever husband” 😂 Being involved with men should be for strategic and beneficial purposes only (money/wealth/worship). Falling in love and believing in a romantic fairytale is part of the stupidity I allude do in my original post. Also, I love how this poster literally repeated my point. “There’s no reason to put up with the tiniest amount of nonsense”. That’s what I’ve been saying. When you’re taking everything…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:35 AM
1

What does feminine mean to you exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:56 AM
3

Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:50 AM
44

Keep a record of the interaction with proof. I don’t think it’s applicable in this situation (correct me if I’m wrong), but filing a place report to document the event is good. Besides that? You said you live on the other side of the country right? All you can do is change your number, make all your social media private (and make sure none of his friends/family member’a have access to your social media). Oh, and buy a gun if you don’t have one already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:49 AM
42

Is this guy buying you Louis Vuitton? Can his dick make you come faster than a Magic Wand? If not, there’s no reason to be putting yourself through this drama for some standard idiot male. (Btw, everyyy situation in the past where a man has a “crazy ex” that wouldn’t “leave them alone” was actually fucking them.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:39 AM
31

Word of advice. Men will appreciate a woman who doesn’t do jack shit for them MUCH more than woman that does everything for them. He won’t love a woman any less for doing nothing for him. In fact, he will love her MORE, because the woman that does everything will be taken for granted. Guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:18 AM
3

👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:13 AM
5

It’s not BLAME. It’s RECOGNIZING you put up with behavior you didn’t have to put up with. I don’t BLAME myself for being abused by my ex, but I RECOGNIZE I accepted his bad behavior when I should have left. Because of that experience, I was able to identify my weaknesses, change, and now I can’t be taken advantage of. If you don’t look back to your past and say, “Oh, I see what I could have done in order to protect myself better,” then cool? It doesn’t mean other people can’t look back on themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:26 PM
2

I can take responsibility for putting up with behavior I shouldn’t have in the past with men WHILE recognizing those men sucked. That’s part of life. Fucking up, then learning, growing, and finally owning up to when you were weak and changing. If you interpret owning your own errors as blame, then that’s your take. I’m not necessarily referring to you either, I’m speaking broadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 10:54 PM
66

Men aren’t funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:34 PM
3

Is this a joke? I hope this is a joke. If it’s not, I suggest you start reading up on the meaning of “self-respect”. Hopefully, by the time you’ve mastered that subject the solution to this problem will be as clear to you as it is to all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:33 PM
102

Then, a year later, men that do this will start joking with their buddies about how mArRiAgE Is a TrAp and how much they hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:29 PM
38

I’m about to be brutal, but only because I care. If you let a man into your pants before the 2-3+ month mark and before he has committed to you, you need to take responsibility for being stupid. I know this sounds harsh (because it is 🤷🏽‍♀️) but you ladies need to stop giving it up if he’s not your boyfriend. If you don’t wait until 2+ months AND wait until he’s made you his girlfriend, he will not be emotionally attached to you after sex. Men will be fake, lie, etc. to get into your pants. The …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:10 PM
9

Child molesters and rapists have among the highest recidivism rates. I’d lump them in with murders and serve them the death penalty if I had it my way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:43 PM
34

r/penispass_denied
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:35 PM
9

🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:20 PM
43

Now reveres this and ask why women date men shorter than 6 ft. or with small dicks and watch them implode with rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:17 PM
12

Testosterone causes mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:40 PM
5

Money. That’s all they have to offer. If you have money? Stay single. Friendship, love, and companionship can all be had via friends, family, children, and pets. Validation should be with ones self, not through a man. And sex? Sex toys will make you come 100% of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:40 AM
2

No, personally, I just break up once the time has been hit. I mean, men are men. There are others out there. If you don’t overvalue them and get super emotionally invested in a guy who’s not even your husband, it won’t be difficult to hit the rest button once he’s not met your expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:41 PM
6

Why do you want to get married so badly in your twenties? So your health can (statistically) decrease and you adopt a man baby to take care of for life? Plenty of people get married past thirty. Truly, I don’t understand. “Lemme throw away the most fun and free decades of my life to adopt a creature who can’t actually love me and won’t help me with chores.” Lol. Your fantasy about ”love” needs a reality check, because men don’t love women the way women imagine love. They’re also not loyal, empat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:44 PM
6

Could have been a neg. Hard to tell with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:40 PM
26

I can only imagine being attracted to men like that has something to do with not having enough self-love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:38 PM
24

That’s why women need to enter a relationship with a goal. Say to yourself, I want to be married by X. If he doesn’t propose by X then I’m moving on. Then don’t deviate from your plan or get soft and mushy. If he doesn’t meet the expectations you set for yourself, get another one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:36 PM
6

I’m sorry, but...god women can be pathetic. The dude explains his porn preferences to you, basically tells you you’re not his type, AND tells you to get a boob job and you don’t IMMEDIATELY break up with him?? I don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:05 PM
9

Fuck men’s feelings. I love hurting their feelings. Especially desperate fuck boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:02 PM
26

Having self-love and self-confidence is a great way to get rid of those bastards. When they realize you can self-validate yourself and won’t kill yourself over male validation, they won’t know what to do. They’re not used to women being in control of their emotions and having high self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 06:37 PM
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Brutally honest point of view incoming. HVM as a concept is a cope. All men are trash. Their place on the “trash spectrum” just varies. Men can’t love women (the way women imagine love), they are not loyal, they all consume pornography, and they cannot empathize with women and barley see women as human. No man is “good” and women who assume their man is different are deluding themselves. Remember that non-cheating married men who were asked why they didn’t cheat on their wives responded that the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:48 AM
4

Stop 👏🏼 posting your personal 👏🏼 information 👏🏼 on your Reddit accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:35 PM
8

I wish women would just immediately unmatch when they’re insulted instead of giving these idiots any fuel at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:31 PM
24

If a man dared to tell me to shut the fuck up he wouldn’t be my boyfriend anymore 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:54 PM
6

Lmao. But I mean, true, AMALT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:53 PM
31

Years ago, before I was shown the light, I used to love Shan Boody. Now, I can’t listen to her without fucking face palming. She’s still on my Instagram following list and whenever she pops up it’s always some shit about kInKy sEx or her poly relationship (marriage, now, I guess). Like, he only married her because he gets guaranteed regular sex (wife sex) from her, while also getting to screw other women on the side. It’s a win-win for him. She was the only woman who was stupid enough to let thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:40 PM
30

We have to remember that celebrity women are still women. Meaning they don’t have a clue how to date men strategically and aren’t self-aware. They, like a lot of women, put their men on a pedestal, and are so desperate for men’s love (lol, men can’t love) and validation that they try to please and impress them like this (become a PickMe). Meanwhile, the man in question has learned that he will be catered to because she so desperate for him (he can be mediocre because she accepts it), and takes h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:24 PM
26

Diana’s tweet is a whole mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:52 PM
9

I knew my boyfriend was a decent one when, among other things, I noticed that when we finally had sex he was shaved down there EVERY TIME. He still is, six months later. Whereas my POS trash-male ex had shaved once or twice within the span of three years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:10 PM
1

You cannot tell right off the bat. You’re asking for a miracle answer that doesn’t exist. Unless they a) tell you b) you can read minds or c) you straight up ask them, or ask inadvertently (which, even then, they could still lie) you won’t know at first. Men are depraved and you will never know the depths of man’s sexual depravity. That’s the risk you take getting involved with men. If they start acting porn-sick (ask you to call them daddy, obsession with you being hairless down there, want to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:01 AM
1

Point out where exactly I implied that men your age can’t have a teen fetish. I said, older men are more likely to fetishize you at your age. Which, hint hint, coincides with my advice not to date older. Duh men of any age can fetishize teens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:37 AM
1

You won’t. Unless, for some reason, they mention it before you have sex. Which isn’t likely to happen. Men older than you are more likely to have this fetish. Therefore, following logic, date within your age range until you age out this vulnerable demographic, or risk being fetishized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:05 AM
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Sigh. It’s so sad to see women in these kinds of situations. Hailey, who is not only an absolute goddess, but filthy rich, has absolutely no reason to be in this position. Given her looks alone, she could easily have a man who worships the ground she walks on and caters to her every need. Instead, she chose this man child. It’s not her fault. Women are basically trained to be too nice. Hailey is definitely a nice girl/doormat and Justin walks all over her. Evidenced by her body language alone. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:28 AM
6

Fucking clown. Die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 12:38 AM
22

All men have rapist and pedophilic tendencies. That’s why their porn features a) widespread abuse (pornography featuring the suffering and abuse of women, i.e. a woman choking on a man’s penis, crying, clearly in discomfort) and b) teen/barely legal categories (being the most popularly searched). Ask yourself, how could a man see a woman with tears running down her face, slobbering all over herself, choking, and get off on that? Or a woman who’s being used violently and clearly in pain? They’re …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:33 PM
2

Soooo true. Please know your worth ladies. That the first step to not falling into that mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:18 PM
11

Auntie Shera dropping the knowledge 🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:38 PM
10

More proof that men are the one that need hormone stabilizers, not women. They can’t help themselves from assaulting, raping, and otherwise being sexually inappropriate with women ranging from their own fucking family members, to co-workers, friends, strangers, and their SOs. Clearly, males need their hormones checked by medication to keep them from acting like animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:21 PM
4

Most basic fucking creatures on earth. Hurrr penis sex vagina am I not original and quirky 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:44 PM
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*most men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:36 PM
11

Truth 🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:33 PM
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So true. Also, this is why, ladies, you should not cook, clean, or do any sort of serious emotional labor for a man you’re dating. If you went to his apartment and cleaned up a little, or cooked him dinner one night, you already fucked up! Do not cook or clean for that man! If you do, you’ve set the precedent. He now sees you as a domestic servant. He cooks, it’s takeout night, or he’s taking you out to eat. Period. You don’t clean his messes. It’s not your space. (This is why you DON’T move in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:04 PM
4

Right-wing libertarians are among the most dumb fuck male population in to ever crawl out of the womb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:38 PM
11

The legit reason is likely because she gives him free sex and emotional support. He likely would have no issue dating a 21-year-old or younger in a different situation 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:20 PM
5

🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:43 PM
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Plus, guaranteed any man you talk to on these dating apps right now is either just a) bored or b) horny. If and when this blows over, I would predict those of you trying to date right now will probably get ghosted. You’re their temporary entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:42 PM
22

I wish we could do this. There are so many Pick Mes that ruin that possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:44 PM
11

Unless a man benefits you and adds to you in a positive way, having a man around isn’t worth it. If he’s paying all your bills, for example, and adding value to your life without subtracting from it or adding negativity, then good, keep him. If he’s subtracting or you’re being worn thin, giving too much, etc. then it’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:44 PM
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When you give, they want more and just pay attention to what you didn’t do... Very true! Part of being a woman is being the receiver. Feminine energy is passive, not active. The man is a one that’s supposed to give, impress, please, etc. Men want a challenging woman, not a Yes Woman, even though they claim the opposite. I think what drives a lot of women to overextend themselves, though, is fear. They fear losing a man, so they go overboard and assume the masculine role of the giver. Ladies, nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:47 PM
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Don’t feel bad. It takes experiences like this to grow. Men will want and respect women who do nothing for him more than women who do everything for them. It doesn’t make sense, I know. Especially since men claim to desire women to cook, clean, and give them sex everyday, five times a day. But when given everything they want? They get bored. They blow you off. They take you for granted. The more you try, the more they devalue you. It’s illogical, but it’s the truth. That being said, don’t ever t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:10 PM
3

Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:41 AM
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I have no patience for the idiots who come stumbling over here trying to contradict our principals. Instead of asking us for advice, if you hate it so much, go to r/dating and have a man tell you to split the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:54 AM
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Yep. Basically, don’t ever agree to go to a man’s house, or invite him to yours, unless you’re planning to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:39 PM
1

Be a jerk if you want and let the man resent you 🤷🏽‍♀️ It’s not my life. Basically all adult women are educated, have a career, are attractive, and have good personalities. You’re not a unicorn or special. A man can find an equally educated/attractive/employed women who isn’t insensitive on top of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:31 PM
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Porn just continues to get more and more sickening and perverse. The worst part is that all men consume this disgusting shit. It’s revolting to think what filth your boyfriend/husband is watching in his spare time. Tbh? One of the easiest ways to remain emotionally unattached to men, for me, is remembering this. AMALT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:32 PM
1

That is such bullshit. None of that arouses me, or most women with a degree of self-worth. That only arouses insecure women. On the flip side, those traits in women arouse insecure men. Men who implore chivalry and court me turn me on. I like well-mannered, respectful, affectionate gentleman. Men can show strength and masculinity in positive ways (i.e. helping women carry heavy things, offering to open her door, protecting her). Positive masculinity is a turn on. The arrogant, narcissistic trope…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 05:37 PM
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If a man isn’t chasing me like his life depends on it then the dude can go. More women need to have this mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:45 PM
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Broke and stingy men are an automatic next. If you’re not spending money on me, then you clearly don’t want to impress me 🤷🏽‍♀️ Men can be candid all day long, as loud as they want, about their expectations for sex. That all they talk about and aren’t shy about it. But we can’t discuss our want for provision, security, investment without being shamed? If we “screened” men for being pussy-chasers 100% of them would lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:35 PM
39

Being a “provider” and paying bills goes hand in hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:26 PM
425

Seriously. Stop wasting your time on men who aren’t crazy about you. Life is too short to be wasted on ambivalence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:58 PM
5

I haven’t tried it, but quite enjoy her YouTube videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:33 PM
6

Sex does not mean anything to men. You can only get a man emotionally attached to you by withholding sex (two month rule) and waiting until he’s offered commitment. If he’s committed to you, it means he’s mentally connected to you. Sex will then reinforce his connection with you. It will not make him fall “harder”, however.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:32 PM
1

☝️☝️👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:27 PM
6

Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:23 PM
22

This is absolutely true. Women are genetically more compassionate, tolerant, and nurturing. Due to be programmed for motherhood. Unfortunately, this works to our disadvantage when we’re not self-aware about this. It’s fine to use these traits on children or pets. When it comes to men though? It’s good to be selfish and more intolerant. Otherwise, women get trampled on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:17 PM
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No, these couples were not religious. Maintaining separate bedrooms resulted, from what I remember, in better sleep quality. Couples also were shaded from their partners less desirable habits, like snoring, or in the case of separate bathrooms, seeing their SO’s gross bathroom habits. It’s about maintaining that degree of privacy and mystery that keeps a LTR fresh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:26 AM
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I agree 100%. Co-habitation before you are married is a mistake. You should be spending enough time with your SO to know what their living habits are like. You shouldn’t have to live with them to know if they do their laundry, keep a clean house, and cook their own meals. Moving in with them before marriage will just result with you doing wifey shit before you’ve achieved wife status. It also kills mystery and excitement. If he wants access to you at all times as a co-habitant partner, he needs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:52 AM
8

Would have be instantly unmatched after “Would you send me some pics” why even carry on the conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:53 AM
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This is actually super common. Men move on quick as fuck after their wives pass away. That’s because men don’t love like women, barely see women as human, and only love women relative to what services they can provide. Once you die, he’ll need a new woman to be his bangmaid/therapist/domestic servant, after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:49 AM
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If the gender roles were reversed, and a woman here had mentioned that a man she was seeing romantically joked about her best friend being hot, and potentially having sex with her, what do you think the response would be? Overwhelmingly, likely, that she should dump him. Yeah, it’s completely inappropriate and I find it bizarre that you think it’s okay. It even comes off as sort of neg tbh. Take into consideration, also, that you don’t know his romantic past. Maybe his ex-partner cheated on him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:16 PM
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Continue to vet him. The only thing I think should be closely monitored is the ex girlfriend thing. He will ask you out eventually. Also, as others have pointed out, you were extremely tactless and disrespectful for joking about the threesome, and mentioning the STD test in an immature way. You came off as the LV one to me. You need to have manners and respect in a relationship. The fact that you don’t see the issue with joking about having a threesome with his best friend who, to add fire to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:23 PM
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I’d add ten years to that. But tbh? Men age so shitily that who knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:12 PM
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Unpopular opinion, but love is probably the worst reason to get into a relationship with a man. Love should be grown into over time (not fallen into) after he has continuously demonstrated value to you consistently over a long period of time. When a man adds something to your life; whether that’s happiness, monetary value, etc. or a combination of factors, that’s when you should agree to a relationship. When it benefits you. Not because you’re chasing some fairytale romance that doesn’t actually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:05 PM
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Means he’s not that into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:30 AM
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You can only be happy, period, if you’re happy on the inside. Being single or with a man isn’t going to change that. You shouldn’t really be getting into a relationship in the first place if you’re not a happily single woman. Too many women get into romantic relationships attempting to fill a void that can’t be filled by a man anyways (friendship, validation, love, etc.). Often times this is unconscious because people aren’t self-aware enough to realize what drives them to seek a romantic partne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:47 AM
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If you’re conventionally attractive as you say, and dress decently, you shouldn’t struggle with men approaching you. Go out wherever you got to socialize, alone. Men find it easier to approach you when you’re not surrounded by a wall of meandering girlfriends. Next, try to look inviting. If your arms are crossed and you’re frowning, men won’t want to approach you. Grab a drink, smile subtly, and look confident and pleasant. Be aware of what kind of energy you’re radiating. Last, tone down your a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:32 AM
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You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. Don’t jump through hoops to look a certain way if you’re going to be miserable doing it. Yeah, appearance is going to influence the way you’re perceived and treated, but the majority of people live life as normal-looking people and get by fine. Personally, I do go far for my appearance. I’m really feminine and go the extra mile. Makeup, skincare, fashion, nails, hair, exercise, etc. I also plan on getting cosmetic surgery. I do this for me, becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:16 AM
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Actual nice people aren’t nice because they hope it will earn them something in return. They’re nice because they are genuinely and intrinsically kind. The simply wish to bring happiness to others, wanting nothing in return. Being nice to get something is called manipulation. Read that last sentence again any lurking nIcE gUy scrote. It’s manipulation and you don’t deserve shit for being a manipulative fucking weasel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:43 PM
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I‘m just going to pray none of our ladies are stupid enough to do a “car date”. What in the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:21 PM
3

I don’t stop entertaining other men until I’m exclusive with a man. I don’t try to fool myself into thinking that doesn’t apply to the men I’m dating too. Unless you’re in a relationship, you’re single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:06 PM
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Literally me and my ex-boyfriend. Bitch would write me paragraphs and paragraphs of delusional shit when we broke up. “You’re this, you’re that, etc.” Okay...block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:56 PM
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Requirements for females: -Be skinny/slim thick. Must have small waist. Must have nice ass and boobs. NO STOMACH FAT! NO FAT ANYWHERE! EXCEPT ASS AND THIGHS! (But not too much in thighs, and NO CELLULITE!) -Be between the ages of 18–23 FOREVER! -Don’t have sex until marriage, but once married? MUST transform from a virginal bride into an insatiable, sexual goddess with an impossibly high libido and MUST perform like a porn star. -Don’t neglect hair, makeup, clothing, manicures, pedicures, shavin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:32 PM
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Trash takes itself out. Works for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:33 PM
25

Yup. You can sacrifice everything for those fools and they won’t care. They will actually probably think less of you ironically. I don’t do anything for men anymore. Unless you’re my husband, I don’t owe you jack. And even then, still not doing that much for you 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:45 PM
3

This show is always such a wild ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:21 AM
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Well, I don’t date them anymore for the delusion of love or romance. Men can’t love. Romance is just fake fantasy that doesn’t actually exist. Now, I date (manipulate) them to get worship to be catered to. That’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:20 AM
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Men are already ugly and get uglier the older they get. How these fools overestimate themselves to the degree they do is beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:09 PM
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Those are great qualities. But not qualities you should be wasting on male romantic partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:44 AM
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What is the obsession with these penis-demons wanting to stick themselves into a hole that shit comes out of? OP’s dad should just start fucking men since being forced to have sexual intercourse with just a vagina is grounds for divorce. Porn sick nasty losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:33 AM
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Oh god everything is just bad. I can’t explain how much I hate that dirty, long-hair/beard, tattoos look. Even before the quarantine, there’s no way this guy had a proper career. The video games and tech decks shit is just the nail in coffin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:58 PM
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Don’t do it again 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:34 AM
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Dude do and think whatever you want. Men that want long term sex and to get their wives pussy’s wet, however, can take my advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 02:52 AM
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One important lesson our girl Sherry Argov teaches is to set the pace in a relationship. She gives a great example in her book of situation similar to yours. The man is smitten and was happy to rush ahead with marriage before the first year was even up. The woman wanted to be married, of course, so she let him forge forward. What ended up happening? He got cold feet and said it was moving too fast. In my personal opinion, that is what’s happening here. It’s up to you as the woman to slow things …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:20 AM
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Eh, hard to tell, but nothing glaring. Most men suck, so until you meet in person or he messes up you’ll never know. Btw, you shouldn’t go spilling your guts about your past, traumas, etc. to men you hardly know. If you do that, you’re going to become emotionally reliant on them as a consequence. You also give them an idea of what you might be willing to put up with. Maintain privacy with your vulnerabilities and weaknesses until he’s your boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:03 AM
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Again, you don't understand, and clearly aren't listening. It's not about "changing who you are to desperately attract men". I already stated it's not about attracting men. It's about controlling them and making them perform for you. Men are seduced by femininity. They aren't going to be seduced by a woman who looks and acts masculine. It will only bring competitive instinct, instead of the the instinct to provide, protect, and serve. Women here can do what they want. If they want to use feminin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:55 PM
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I'm not following your logic. Femininity is a woman's power. It is only powerful against heterosexual men. Heterosexual men are weak against femininity because they are masculine and not feminine. They crave what they are not, that being femininity and feminine energy. Whereas woman crave the opposite, masculinity. I'm not sure what's so difficult to follower here. I already explained where I'm coming from. In case you weren't aware, the majority of the books in our Wiki discuss how femininity c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:37 PM
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They’re just mad because “gold diggers” are usually very hot expensive-looking women and they know they could never afford her and she would never look twice at their scrub asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:27 PM
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Men like that will be automatically filtered out given women are using the principals here as they should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:19 PM
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Usually because the gentleman who wooed and romanced her and got her all slick between the legs with his chivalry, romance, and consideration turns into a lazy, inconsiderate, man-child who doesn’t lift a finger to help with chores, the baby, or any other domestic or emotional labor. The woman takes on the majority of the household, usually “nags” her husband to take more responsibility (he doesn’t), and as a result resentment grows. The woman is put out and turned off mentally because the man n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 08:13 PM
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Yesss! We love a girl with standards 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:39 PM
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Let them cry. Cheap and stingy men will be automatically nexted the fuck out of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:34 PM
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It’s not working to keep a man? Femininity is passive. A lot of women here aren’t even aware of the Dark Triad perspective. I’m allowed to provide it. Many of our mods are DTW members. Feminine manipulation equates to framing men as a prize? How so, exactly. Men are attracted to us, and femininity makes them more pliable to cater, serve, and please. It’s strategic. There’s a misconception in this thread, I believe, that femininity equates being a ditzy, docile, submissive woman. That’s not the c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:00 PM
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You don’t use it for the purpose of quantity. Femininity exacts better treatment from men. When men feel more masculine, they’re more likely to perform masculine roles. To a woman’s benefit. It also attracts more masculine types (providers, etc.). Additionally, it’s a manipulation tactic. I lean towards the Dark Triad subset of FDS. We practice to maximize control in relationships. She asked for tips and I answered her question. (Also, I never said women should not be choosy?) If that’s not what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:25 PM
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Your book isn’t God’s word on dating. It is an opinion. Feminine energy in your context, differs from mine. How does being unmarried and a non-virgin equate non-success? You sound like a misogynist. Accept that people can agree to disagree instead of acting like know-it-all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:18 PM
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What exactly did you have questions about? Maybe I can help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:13 PM
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Femininity is an outward appearance and an atmosphere. It does not reflect internal emotions, beliefs, or feelings. It’s an outer shell, a mirage, and that is all. Putting on a dress, makeup, heels, and perfume does not make someone more emotional or prone to crying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:11 PM
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Search Mrs. Midwest on YouTube. Or SheraSeven. They have tips on being more feminine. Femininity is very seductive to men and can be used for power. Use femininity to your advantage. Regardless of how politically correct everyone is trying to be in the comments here, the fact is that a feminine woman will always garner more appreciation and better treatment from men than a masculine woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:26 PM
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First message alone would have been an immediate unmatch. Stop wasting your energy on these fools. They don’t deserve a single reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:03 PM
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The Y chromosome is a defect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:38 PM
5

Craving and prizing male validation. Inability to validate yourself. Insecurity, low self-esteem, internalized misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:30 PM
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Males are the worst. Thank god for Reddit for helping me understand their true nature. It’s much easier to not give a fuck about them when you see them for what they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:27 PM
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Because we expect them to pAy FoR dAteS! The horror! How dare we expect them to implement the most basic principals of Female Courtship 101 that their fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers have been practicing for centuries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:36 PM
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Oh god I hope she dumps him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:58 PM
7

Sending hugs :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:56 PM
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If a man didn’t approach you, you didn’t catch his interest that much. Period. If you approach him, he’ll accept your advances because men consider the prospect of sex. He might even date you and let you continue to do most of the work. You’re not the woman he would have crossed the room for though. Just wait for them to come to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:55 PM
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Literally stop entertaining men that aren’t crazy about you ladies. If a dude isn’t enthusiastic about seeing you you, impressing you, and courting you? Next. Life is toooo short to be wasted on ambivalence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:39 PM
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I think this is just a difference of opinion between us that won’t resolved. Agree to disagree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:30 PM
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I never suggested that women be dishonest about their feelings. I also addressed mentalizing in my original post. (To reiterate once more, saying to oneself, “These are just feelings. I need to think logically.”) You cannot be rational without recognizing your feelings first and identifying them as being rational or irrational. Saying to oneself, “Oh, that’s right—love is brain chemistry that exists to encourage me to procreate. Just because I’ve entered into a verbal agreement to be his girlfri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:39 AM
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Exactly and women forget that men don’t love like women do. The way women imagine love is not the way men experience their version, which is watered down in comparison and very conditional. Women will get into a relationship, fall in love after only a couple months of exclusivity, then when they break up four months later, she’s heartbroken. Only to find? He’s dating again the next week. In the beginning especially, men are not controlled by their emotions the way women are. They don’t see you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:24 AM
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Yes. It’s not about stamping out emotions. It’s about growing in love, opposed to falling in love. It’s much more beneficial to retain emotional integrity as a woman. Until a man has proven he is serious. Until he’s proven himself continuously, consistently. Logic and rationality are blighted by emotions, feelings, and love. Which why maintaining a degree of emotional distance is necessary. Need proof? Visit r/relationship_advice. Then take a shot every time a woman stays with an abuser because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:02 AM
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You’re not going to teach a man like that anything. That kind of behavior is rooted in their character. Besides, guaranteed there’s a Pickmeisha he’ll match with at some point who will positively respond to any male validation, regardless of how slimy it is, and therefore ruin any “teaching” you attempted to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:48 PM
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Um it would have been an immediate unmatch. Why even entertain that idiot for a second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:46 PM
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I love how these idiots always say “blocked” when they get pissy. As if you’d ever try to text them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:51 AM
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Don’t get emotionally attached to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:51 PM
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Meh, I don’t want to freak you out by my ex was messaging his ex-girlfriend all the time in the beginning of our relationship, and he assured me they were just friends, but turned out they were fucking. Males are slimy and I wouldn’t trust him. Monitor the situation closely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:48 PM
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I think most of us can agree that heterosexuality is mental illness we wished we weren’t cursed with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:41 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:14 PM
2

Be self-sufficient, make sure he likes you more than you like him, learn the art of seduction/feminine manipulation, and make your goal something other than love and romance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:37 PM
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I’m not sure if you misread or misinterpreted what I wrote, but I’m not following your response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:30 PM
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I hate reading this sub and other relationship subs in general because, not to sound cruel, but the women are always so pathetic and have no self-respect. The formula is something like, “My man has done A, B, and C disrespectful, abusive behavior, how do I fix this?” You don’t? Leave. The problem is women don’t put themselves first. Instead, their man and his needs are put on a pedestal. Men have NO problem putting themselves first. Women need to do learn to do the same instead of assuming the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:30 PM
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Yup. The moment you’re in the casket they’ll be flirting with the female mortician at the ceremony. Y’all that think your man is different? He’s not. There are no unicorns. Keep deluding yourself if you want, but men are opportunists, not loyalists. Be strategic or get fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:18 PM
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Emasculating comments. Their egos are fragile as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:27 AM
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Either naive or after money. I fully condone the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:49 PM
6

Men only care about what you look like, how you make them feel, and/or what you can do for them (the latter being only if you’ve been a Pickmeshia).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:34 PM
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Why do women put up with this disrespectful shit? When a man is with you his phone and video games go AWAY. This goes for both parties. It’s basic fucking politeness and manners. His phone should not be out, and neither should yours unless it’s necessary for something. Protip: When you start dating a man and he keeps his phone out while on a date, that should be an automatic next. If you’re sitting down to dinner it should be out of sight. Work call? Emergency? Fine. But him checking his text me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:32 PM
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Please let this be a joke. No woman can have that little self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:24 PM
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It’s not like men are unique. There’s millions of them. Find one that pleasures you correctly. To answer you more directly though, yes, of course you should voice your desires. However, I’m hesitant to say, “If you don’t speak up, how would he know?” Because isn’t it kind of a no-brainer that you play with a woman’s boobs, eat her out, and tease her body during sex? Even some of the most clueless men know to do this. It doesn’t sound like he cares about your orgasm. Honestly...just get another o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:37 AM
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True, a LVM would take advantage of the Pick Me. A HVM might get some free sex, attention, etc. for awhile, but eventually grow bored and leave because they want a challenging HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:48 PM
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Broke men can get fucked lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:45 PM
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I’m sorry, but at a certain point I can only sympathize so much with women who choose to act this pathetic. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s like come on girl, a little self-respect and reflection isn’t that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:18 PM
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Aside from not getting emotionally attached to men you’re dating, you also need to self-validate. It sounds like the blow of losing his interest is more devastating than losing him as a potential partner. You feel rejected and male attention and interest can be validating. However, again, you need to learn to validate from within and not use male attention/affection/desire as a validator for your self-worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:08 AM
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I don’t know the details about you and him, but in the future, don’t settle for a man who isn’t crazy about you. If he isn’t bending over backwards to please you, impress you, and keep you interested, then move on. Life is too short to waste time on men who are ambivalent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:04 AM
38

It sounds like you’re overvaluing him. Women tend to do that. In reality, he’s just some guy you knew for a handful of months. Probs has three tabs of porn open on his phone browser right now and doesn’t wash his hands like every other male. His opinion shouldn’t matter. A dude’s opinion of you should never matter. Just get another one and live your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:59 AM
37

Stop caring. He’s just a man. You weren’t even dating that long. Sometime you click better with the next person 🤷🏽‍♀️ It has nothing to do with your worth or value. Not even remotely a reflection of that. Also, don’t get emotionally attached to men you’ve only known for a couple months. Or shit, until there’s a ring on your finger tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:50 AM
65

When it comes to men, I don’t cook, I don’t clean, I don’t play therapist, I don’t psychoanalyze, I don’t try to “fix” him, I don’t mommy his life or tell him what to do. This is exactly why. Condition men NOT to see you as a mother and as a provider of services. He’s a grown man. He can do his own dirty work and act like a functioning adult. The moment you show you’re willing take on that role he will use it as a crutch for his adulthood. Don’t allow it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:27 AM
3

Men don’t value women who come cheaply or easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:17 AM
4

I agree, but not 100%. Acting like a Pick Me or a Doormat invites mistreatment even from the best men. A woman who is throwing herself at a man, giving him free sex, and bending over backwards will inevitably bring out low-quality traits. Whereas a woman who takes no shit, has standards, and is leveled-up won’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:14 AM
3

Nope, would not text. 🤷‍♀️ Nor would I be stressing about this situation as much as you are. I don’t over-value men I don’t know and have done nothing for me. Especially if they expect me to contact them first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:19 AM
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All men are LV until they encounter a woman who inspires them to exercise their HV traits, IMO. Some men, of course, have more intelligence, were raised with better manners, etc. and therefore have a greater capacity to be HV when the time comes. On the other hand, some will always be LV at best due to improper raising, entitlement, stupidity, etc. Ultimately, HV traits depend upon the woman he’s with. If a man meets a prize and really wants her he’s going to act right. If he’s ambivalent toward…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:11 AM
14

No, but you can assume if your male partner is doing that he’s not that into you, and should be next’d as soon as possible. There’s no point in dating a man who isn’t crazy about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:06 AM
5

In sickness and in health... Except for the fact that husbands are 7x more likely to divorce or separate from their ill wives than wives are to husbands who are ill. Just never get cancer or some other serious illness and you’re gravy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:45 AM
10

Exactly. Men all want the same thing. New pussy on demand and the younger and hotter the better. The only things stops them from acting out on their impulses are: a) they are too lazy to peruse other women or don’t want the additional drama that follows it b) they are too comfortable in their current situation (have a Pick Me who cooks, cleans, and mommies him) c) they don’t have the means or resources to attract women to them, being either too unattractive, poor, or socially weird But if a, b, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:47 PM
9

Recognizing the true nature of males isn’t man hating. That’s the point of this sub. To identify and understand their actual nature in order to protect yourself and manage them. Why are all these newbies speaking as if they’re gatekeepers for what this sub is for? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:40 PM
23

Basically. The sooner women realize this, the better. There are no unicorns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:47 PM
3

Are you really asking if he’s LV after hearing his response??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:24 AM
8

“Wahh, they expect me to pay for things!” —Pathetic ass Reddit males
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:26 PM
2

Psychopath level empathy, I fucking swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:43 AM
5

Wow, relatable. The most interesting and HV men I’ve dated in my life were avid readers. My current BF reads vicariously. The only other HV man I dated, one of my exes whose relationship ended due to us both moving, read constantly. In comparison, my most recent ex never read books for pleasure and was a boring idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:48 PM
28

God men are sick. Truly, they have psychopath level empathy for their female partners. First priority is always their dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:31 PM
1

You clearly don’t get it and don’t care to. Evidenced by your replies in this thread. Scurry over to r/dating and go take advice from men and Pick Mes instead of wasting our time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:40 AM
1

The question is why do you care so much about this scrub? Why did him sending you a message even affect you to the point where you decided to reply at all? Y’all be obsessing over most basic ass useless males. He should not be taking up so much headspace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:26 AM
98

It feels almost effortless. You don’t feel like you’re being inconvenienced. LVM had made me feel overtaxed. With my current boyfriend, everything just feels easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:23 AM
2

Women helping women 🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:50 AM
27

You handled it perfectly. If a man asked me to split on the first date he’d never hear from me again. Clearly he’s not interested in impressing his date if he wants her to split the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:48 PM
3

It’s pretty clear that most of you are single or have poor luck in relationships because you overthink this kind of dumb shit too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 05:36 PM
27

Most women do this in my experience. My mom does and several of my friends do. If the marriage goes sour (which, let’s be real, it’s men we’re talking about—disloyal creatures with psychopath level empathy for their female partners—of course it will), women need to have money as a backup plan. Getting upset over that seems like a control issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:21 PM
10

Attractive? What does attractive get me? Does attractive mean he’s going to treat me well? Does it mean he’s a man of means? Attractive isn’t going to do shit to benefit me. I think I’m terms of my own benefit. All attractive means is that he has more options and opportunities to mess around imo. And since men are opportunistic, that’s not a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:18 AM
17

Don’t use dating apps lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 12:41 AM
17

Most men are LV. The moment you sense it, don’t even entertain it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:54 PM
3

It’s sad how many grown ass adult fucking men act like literal children. It’s also sad how women put up with that man-child bullshit. This some 13-year old middle schooler tier behavior. My male partner either acts his age or I walk out. That’s how it should always be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:06 AM
9

If you fuck them before commitment you just become the chick they’re getting sex from while they pursue the actual woman they want a relationship with. You’re doing her the dirty work, so she can wait until he commits to give it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:01 AM
18

Only special attention when he wants sex? Girl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:24 AM
46

This is a man who cares about his wife 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:23 AM
1

All men are like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:58 AM
1

AMALT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:08 AM
21

Looking back, can you think of any red flags you didn’t notice back then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:07 AM
34

Lol, only men ever cry about how snooping on a phone is equivalent to murder. Tbh? SNOOP LADIES. Snoop on that fuckers phone. Better to know sooner rather than later what kind of man you’re dealing with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:11 AM
31

That sub is so sad. It’s hard to believe some of the shit women put up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:57 PM
8

The Adams are goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:23 AM
16

This is why women need standards. If we can teach women to love themselves and see their value, eventually men like this might finally be thrust out of the gene pool because they'll have no chance to procreate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:45 PM
7

He should be trying to accommodate you, not the other way around. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:56 AM
18

Yup! Men just want to chase the new pussy. The best bet for a woman in a relationship with a man is to KEEP HIM CHASING. Never let him have you 100%. Not even if you’re married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:25 AM
4

Lol. Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:33 PM
2

r/lesbiandatingstrategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:27 AM
11

Lol men are fucking sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:33 PM
9

Thank you! 👏👏 Do not co-habit until he’s married you! People think I’m crazy for saying this, but it’s so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:13 PM
5

In addition to everything everyone else has said, delete all the photos of him or him and you from your phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:12 PM
14

Yep, that’s why you set the precedent from the beginning that you won’t be the aggressor. Don’t plan anything, don’t chase, don’t do the work. That’s his job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:33 PM
3

Sick 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:03 AM
1

Just imagine, if that degenerate sees no issue with what his shit friend did, what will happen to this woman’s nudes when they break up? Let’s hope she hasn’t sent him any, but chances are she has. If so, they’ll likely circulate the group chat too. When men show their true character to you like this, fucking DUMP THEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:54 AM
8

Girl, it feels amazing. My BF did so much for me yesterday. I couldn’t believe it. All my shit ex-boyfriend did was buy me flowers from Safeway the morning of and called it a day 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:52 AM
26

My boyfriend (who I acquired through FDS) is surprising me with a dinner event tonight. This is my first HVM Valentine’s Day y’all, I’m excited! It’s nice to have someone who values you, looks out for you, and treats you like a Queen. Don’t settle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:13 PM
12

Animals 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:22 AM
7

What a Cool Girl™
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:47 PM
20

Just don’t entertain them at all. Ghost, ignore, block, walk away, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:08 AM
14

👆👆👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:02 AM
2

Yes, it is an insult in the context of feminine and masculine energy and roles during courtship. Feminine behaviors are passive - i.e. being chased, not chasing; being the receiver. When a woman leans into her feminine energy, she allows the man to take control, impress, and provide. Masculine energy, on the other hand, is that of the aggressor. He chases and tries to impress; he gives and she receives. That is the context I’m speaking in. So no, you would not want a feminine man who expects you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:59 AM
8

If he deserves it, get something small and not gushy/sentimental/romantic. Men aren’t really into that. They’re just excited about the prospect of sex that night, lol. I went on Etsy and spent $20 on an engraved pen with his name on it. Not sentimental, practical, and a fairly masculine gift. Wearing some sexy lingerie that night (or letting him buy you some) can be an added bonus, again, if he really deserves it. I think you’re gift is a good idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:56 AM
19

True, they will react ultra defensive. A HVM will want to please you, make you happy, or at the very least want to impress you, so he will adjust his behavior. OLD is a steaming trash heap of entitled, man-children. I really recommend you ladies go out into the real world to meet men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:49 AM
35

It’s funny because when I discuss with topic with the men in life (family/friends) all of them laugh and tell me paying for a woman’s dinner on a date is literal no-brainer tier chivalry. I tell them men online cry about it and their responses are always confused. It’s basic Courtship 101. These men must be ultra feminine, because a masculine man has no issues taking care of a woman. Stinginess is so unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:07 AM
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Passionate, “vanilla” sex is THE fucking SHIT! When you both are respecting each other’s bodies, focusing on mutual pleasure, making out passionately while fucking, in tune with one another, etc. There is nothing better than that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:24 PM
5

I can’t exactly quantify that, but it’s always going to be a component. However, in your case, it‘s likely that the man you were with just wasn’t that into you and thus wasn’t willing to do as much for you. Unfortunately, that’s the case sometimes. Even if you’re on your game, if you’re not the woman he would cross the room for, then your behavior won’t change that. There are a lot of little components that go into a man’s behavior. (Which is why it’s always good to find a man who’s really, real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:11 PM
5

Start being attracted to how men treat you above anything else. That’s what I did. Before I based it off of looks/style and political ideology. Looks obviously had no effect on a man’s treatment of me. And political ideology? Men that claimed they were feminists had sexually assaulted me in the past. Instead, I threw that mindset in the trash and just paid attention to the men who chased me the hardest and tried the hardest to impress me. Attraction is necessary, of course, but be more open-mind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:23 PM
8

They are rare, certainly. Our own behavior counts too. You can be a Pickmeshia to the highest of the HVM and bring out LV qualities in him. When you’re on your best game (standards, self-respect, confidence, leveled-up) men act differently. Obviously, the majority of men are entitled, lazy, insecure, porn-sick, misogynist, etc., but a HVM will stand out because he will be drawn to your I-take-no-shit (while still being a feminine woman) qualities and will aim to try to win you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:07 PM
10

If he’s the one making your dinner on Valentine’s Day, I wouldn’t consider that low-effort. Depending on what he decides to cook you, it could cost more than a two-person dinner. Plus there’s the extra effort of prepping and cooking the food. If he expects you to cook that’s a different story, but if he’s the one doing it I wouldn’t see a reason to complain. What you’ve describe doesn’t sound low-effort so far. I would wait and see how it plays out before getting testy about it. Dinner out can g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:56 PM
2

Men are genetically and biologically different from women. They do not possess the unconditional, nurturing type of love that women possess. They are not as selfless, loyal, and can barely empathize with women. They don’t love like us. That’s just the way it is. If you want to coexist in a relationship with a man that is beneficial to you overall, you need to understand their true nature. Which is what this sub is all about, dealing with men given the knowledge of how they actually are. Not what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:24 PM
472

So glad Ricky Gervais took a shot at him during the Oscars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:46 PM
15

Yes, exactly! Plus meeting men in person is so much more fun! Dating apps are also sort of a gamble on physical attraction and chemistry. In person though? When a man crosses the room for you because he saw you and just had to speak to you, you can rest assured that he was very attracted to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:48 PM
3

Yeah, I don’t get the backslash either. This has been discussed here a long time. Our girl SheRaSeven, who this sub drew a lot of it’s strategies from, talks about this all the time. (Not to mention Why Men Love Bitches, The Rules, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:37 PM
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The problem with dating apps is that you’re automatically placed into the “woman I can potentially fuck” category by men who match with you. When you meet a man organically, at an outing, event, group, meetup, etc. he is able to see you as human being, not a potential screw. You’re more likely to be humanized because you can become acquaintances first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:18 PM
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It’s genetic. That’s how they’re wired. Whereas women are wired for our biological drive (motherhood). That’s why it important to understand the true nature of men while dating. They don’t have the same sort of nurturing, loving instincts we do. You need to level the playing field by not giving it all up emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:43 PM
20

Male entitlement 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:39 PM
4

Well, whatever you choose to do, good luck to you! You've got good resources here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:16 PM
4

Attraction isn't the reason for acting and looking feminine. Sure, it will be easier to grab male attention. What's actually important is how femininity impacts how a man treats you. If you appeal to his masculine side strategically by being feminine, he will do more for you. He will ask less of a feminine woman than he will a masculine woman. You can use your femininity to your advantage when it comes to cleaning, cooking, and other wifey-level shit he tries to make you do. "Oh, I can't do the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:08 PM
2

Femininity won’t just help you attract men. It will result in them treating you better and doing more for you, such as providing. You’re appealing instinct to protect and provide which will benefit you in the long run. But to reiterate my first point: No, men do not care about what you have to say until you’ve “hooked” them. Their first and foremost drive is to sleep with you. Don’t ever be under the pretense that there’s anything else on their mind in the beginning. It’s only after you’ve menta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:52 PM
2

I’m not sure why you’re getting defensive sis. There is no need for the cattiness. My goal is to benefit you and making dating easier for you. I want you to succeed and attract the man you want. Gorgeous or not, a woman who puts effort into looking feminine will attract better treatment. Much like a lot the advice given on this subreddit, it’s not politically correct statement, but it’s the truth. It will help you. It’s a no brainer that masculine men do more for feminine women. Observe how they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:46 PM
2

You’re assuming men actually value you for who you are. Most men can’t actually love you the way women think of love. They only love how you make them feel or love you relative to what you can do for them. Much like other advice that’s given in this sub (which is manipulation—our recommended reading list includes the Art of Seduction), being feminine is another tool in your arsenal. You didn’t have to use it. However, it will make dating and relationships easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:34 PM
5

Again, it’s not impossible, but it’s a lot easier with femininity. I’m not sure why everyone is getting so defensive in this thread. The truth is ugly and hard to swallow, but femininity will incite better treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:29 PM
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Stop acting so high and mighty lol. I’ve been a lurker on this sub for well over a year, well before it hit popularity. This weird possessive tone you’re taking, as if you speak for this sub is really cringey. I’m not breaking any rules and am free to offer any advice that would maximize female benefit. Just because you’re taking what I said personally because you have an issue with it, doesn’t mean anything. I’m not holding a gun to this woman’s head and forcing her to change. She can read my a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:24 AM
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You disliking that I’m giving her advice about having a feminine appearance sounds like a personal problem. I’m going to give the advice the most beneficial to her and looking more feminine will help her game. Looking feminine will maximize her female benefit. I don’t really care if you want to dance around in La La Land and act as if what I’m saying isn’t true, because it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:13 AM
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Femininity is a manipulation tactic and women need to stop being so adverse to using it. Changing your clothes and wearing some perfume isn’t ”changing who you are” at your core. It’s a costume not a character assassination. Men are more willing to cross the room, sacrifice, protect, and provide for feminine women. You can’t expect to attract a protector-type, the type this sub wants to attract, while not being a feminine woman. Providers are typically very masculine, and are attracted to femini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:41 AM
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Cold Hard Truth #1: Men don’t actually care about what you’re saying, your feelings, or anything that comes out of your mouth prior to falling in love with you. Better to be mysterious and intrigue them with your elusive air so they will want to chase you and “figure you out” than expend energy trying to tell them your life story when, frankly, they don’t care. Cold Hard Truth #2: Men are visual and you’re not doing yourself any favors by looking bookish. You need to level up and get feminine. L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:38 AM
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I feel so bad for girls in the zoomer generation. Their generation of men are extra fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:52 AM
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Don’t respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:55 AM
4

Y’all for real need to get off OLD and go out into the world to find men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:43 PM
138

This is exactly why female-only spaces like this must exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:39 PM
3

You know got yourself a dusty if he gets you one of these and some $1 Walgreens roses he bought thirty minutes beforehand on Valentine’s Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:34 PM
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You should have never mentioned LV or HV. That entire conversion was incredibly cringey and should have never happened. Keep the terminology to yourself outside of this sub. You also critiqued his entire gender by telling him most men are LV. It doesn’t matter how smart, or whatever, a man seems. They don’t like that and you will automatically put them on the defensive. It also sounds like you were tooting your own horn a lot. “I’m a HVW because I’m this and that.” Bragging is a very masculine t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:25 PM
5

A ton of texting should be not done. It creates a false sense of intimacy. He’s also likely to get bored of you quicker because you’re revealing too much about to yourself if you’re texting that frequently. In person should be the meat and potatoes. Not texting. Unless you’re a teenager that’s not how you get to know someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:52 AM
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Tbh I hate this general look: https://i.pinimg.com/564x/87/03/1a/87031a7f97f1d0aa8e8d56b4c449f1bd.jpg I don’t entertain guys that approach me looking like that. I don’t get why so many women find that look hot. To me they just look dirty and fuckin’ broke. More like this please: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/18/9e/98/189e9894332de97ca954ed64ee527d33.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:56 AM
13

I’m not sure which I hate more. Number two though. Can’t seem to get away from that Peter Pan Syndrome shit these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:45 AM
4

Even if you don’t mind cleaning, or like it, or whatever, you should never clean for them unless you’re their wife. And even then, if you don’t want to, don’t—I wont be. You set the precedent and it remains there forever. They don’t care or appreciate you for doing it and just value you less for submitting to be their domestic servant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:24 AM
6

Oh god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:16 AM
6

Don’t clean, don’t cook, don’t nag. How? From the very beginning don’t cook or clean. Tell him you can’t, you just got a manicure, you’re allergic to cleaning supplies, or you straight up hate cooking, but are happy to buy him takeout. Tell him to hire a maid. Walk into his apartment and say you can’t live in a filthy place like this, then walk out, get in your car, and go get your nails done, Don’t nag. Men don’t listen to you and they especially don’t listen to you when you try to be their mot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:13 AM
67

Men like women who appear unattainable because it’s a challenge. They enjoy the chase. Additionally, having to earn her affection and time makes her more valuable than a woman who throws herself at him. It’s more exciting to them. That being said, as others have mentioned, it’s not about “plying hard to get”. It’s about prioritizing yourself and your life, hobbies, interests, etc. over a man and not putting him on a pedestal. Which translates into being hard to attain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:33 PM
2

The majority are definitely depraved in this way. Especially since it’s so normalized in the media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:50 PM
42

The first time a man yells, cusses, or raises his voice at you, it should be over. No second chances, no excuses. There’s millions of these creatures in the sea, and you can find a better model then subpar asshole who’s currently emotionally abusing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:22 AM
5

Being with a woman is amazing because, as we all know, men don’t actually love women. They just love how we make them feel or what we can do for them. With a woman, she can ACTUALLY LOVE YOU as a PERSON. It’s amazing, but can be very emotionally intense. My romantic relationships with women in the past, compared to men, have been those kinds of loves where I look back and go, holy shit. I don’t even entertain the idea with falling in love with the men I date anymore or get emotionally attached t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:17 AM
4

It’s perfectly descriptive. Your husband is an exception when it comes to cooking and cleaning. Broadly these functions are performed mostly by women, unless women train their men to do otherwise. In your situation, you really don’t need a man since you’re financially stable on your own. It sounds like he is benefitting you by doing chores, at least. (Although I don’t know how relative “more” is.) I wouldn’t count on the emotional labor gap closing anytime soon. Men aren’t built to be nurturing,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:47 PM
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Men really have little to offer women aside from a financial benefit. They don’t offer empathy, love, loyalty, etc. at the same level as women (if at all). Not to mention their lack of contributions to domestic and emotional labor. Younger women could benefit from marrying into wealth, but would have to have clear boundaries and set precedents from the beginning to keep from becoming the typical bangmaid, therapist, and domestic slave that is so common for women in marriages (and LTRs).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:28 PM
66

IMO marriage is only an option if the woman is benefiting from it. Otherwise, there no reason to marry a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:06 PM
4

I don’t empathize with men. I’m only concerned with benefiting myself. That’s all they’re concerned with. Thinking otherwise will only end up getting you used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:11 PM
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You can be totally open and vulnerable, but the control you have over yourself and in the relationship will not be the same. Men aren’t like us. They do not love like us. Giving in entirely will lead to you ultimately giving more and loving more. This leads to being taken for granted, more emotional labor, etc. Again, it’s really up to you and what your goal is. If your goal is long-term, i.e. to get treated like a, b, and c by a man, then remain in control and keep distance emotionally. If you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:57 AM
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Women, if you really need to exercise those motherly instincts that badly buy a fucking puppy. Stop treating men like children and taking care of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:26 PM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:24 PM
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If a man wants you, he will act like he wants you. Women need to stop buying their lame ass excuses. “Oh, work was rough today, that’s why it took me a full 24-hours to text you back.” No. The only reason he’s too busy for you, etc. is because he doesn’t want you that much, but likes the attention. Find a man who will do for you, make time for you, and makes you a priority. Don’t settle for someone ambivalent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:23 PM
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And and FYI you must remain emotionally unattached to do this easily. If you go being a clown and fall in love with a guy within the first several months of dating him and being his girlfriend, you’re fucked. Dating and relationship does not = time to fall in love. Has he put a ring in your finger or indicated he wants you to have his last name? Then don’t fall in love. Treat it like a job. You don’t get emotionally attached to a job, because you might leave at any second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:16 PM
16

If it isn’t pleasing or involving their dicks, they’re apathetic. Sadly, that’s just the nature of males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:19 AM
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Most men have psychopath level empathy. You forget that they don’t see us as human. They just value what we can provide or do for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:45 PM
10

Yep, men care about one thing only—their fucking dicks. Which is why it’s perfectly okay to only care about your wallet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:44 PM
17

Yeah, men are incapable of loving women as human beings. It’s only relative to what we can provide for them or how we make them feel. Which is why you ladies need to stop falling for them and get icy. Start viewing men through the same lens. What can he do from you? How will he provide for you? Make your goal concrete instead of “Love”. Men have little to offer you aside from monetary treats or attention. It’s not like they will empathize with you, split the domestics, sacrifice for you, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:47 AM
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Broke or stingy men. Automatic next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:44 AM
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Don’t set the precedent or you’re clowning yourself ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:43 AM
1

Latin dance or ballroom, yoga, painting/pottery class, volunteering activities, book clubs, poetry/comedy open mic clubs, etc. Join meetup and see what’s happening in your area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:48 AM
2

Don’t use dating apps. Find a hobby or outing where there are men and meet them that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:34 PM
3

Oh god. There’s just so much wrong. Why do women allow themselves to tolerate this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:26 PM
6

Go out into the word. Latin dance, hiking groups, outdoor yoga, book clubs, comedy nights, beach cleanups, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:38 AM
1

I recommend watching SheRaSeven on YouTube. She’s great inspo! Good luck girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:35 AM
4

Yeah, you’re going to have to work on not being submissive. You need to be more self-assured, confident, and more of a bitch if a) you don’t want men to walk all over you and b) you want to attract a man with HV qualities. Feminine, yet firm and self-confident is the aura to project.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:44 PM
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I second this. Ultimately, you need to remain uninvested in a man and unattached emotionally. I suggest instead of making your goal while dating love or romance, you attach it to a different goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:43 AM
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Men with HV qualities exist, but you must handle them in a certain way (using the methods here) to enforce and encourage those qualities. Otherwise being a Pickmeisha/LVW will lead to be being taken advantage of, etc. However, don’t ever fall into the preconceived notion that any man is “different” or a “unicorn” because at their core, men are men. Once you think “he’s different” about a man, he’s already scammed you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:32 AM
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It’s never too late. Don’t think about it in that way. Think about it like this—How many more years, minutes, or seconds do you want to waste with this lazy piece of trash? You will never be younger and more beautiful than you are right now. Drop him like it’s hot and begin to live your life for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:36 PM
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Meanwhile Finn, the actual HVM, is completely passed up for the psycho, tantrum throwing murderer. What shitty writing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:37 PM
8

Yes! 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:21 PM
1

Why are you still with this man-child? A man’s top priority should be to please and impress you. If he’s not, it’s time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:15 PM
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What else do they have to offer? Love, loyalty, empathy? Lol. You can make your own money and still marry for money. Why spend mine when I can spend his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:56 PM
1

It’s not so much the magazines, but the principal of leaving them out where I can see them. Covered by books or not, I could tell what they were. While Playboy doesn’t bother me, online-porn does and it gives the impression that he’s a porn-consumer. If he didn’t think I’d care to see them out that’s one thing. If he’s stupid enough that he forgot to put them away, that’s another. But if it was intentional for some reason, that’s a whhhooole ‘nother story. I’d like to figure out which is true, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:54 AM
2

Pornography is a toxic industry that hurts women and normalizes sexualized violence and pedophilia. Any man that wants to be with me will understand that porn is inherently misogynistic or they can be fucking nexted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:40 AM
1

I definitely want to get to the bottom of it. It rubbed me the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:05 AM
11

Pornography and vibrators aren't comparable. Does the vibrator industry dehumanize men and encourage sexual violence against them? Does it entrap young men into sex trafficking? Encourage pedophilia? No, that's what the pornography industry does in regards to women. Anyways, if you want your boyfriend or husband consuming that, it's your prerogative. Either way, leaving pornography magazines in plain view during a planned date with a woman is extremely tone deaf. It's the principal of the act of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:00 AM
1

Good advice. I also wondered if it was intentional. I mean, if a man's girlfriend is coming to his apartment for the first time, surely a man would be smart enough to stash away his Playboy mags, right? Either there was some weird reason for leaving them out, he didn't think I'd care, or he's actually that dumb and stupid. I suppose I'll find out after I bring it up next time I see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:46 AM
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Fantastic response! You're absolutely right, I shouldn't guide his answer. It would invite dishonesty. I didn't even think about that. What do you think my response should be afterwards? If (worst-case scenario) he's defensive about the magazines (or pornography) and tries to justify them, should I just play it calm in the moment? Like, "Oh, I see," pause--change subject. Then just be cool until it's time for me to leave and then distance myself? Or do I give my opinion? ("I think those magazine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:42 AM
2

Oh that’s a good point! I should make to known that it’s not a joke to me. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:48 PM
5

What do you think of me pretending to notice them next time and saying, “Oh. That’s a brazen display of female objectification,” in a sort of nonchalant/teasing way? I feel like that will cue him in that the shit won’t fly while also putting him in an awkward position where he feels shamed, without it being overt/aggressive shaming (or coming off as me “telling him what to do”) and maintaining some sweetness and femininity. Then if they’re not gone by the next time, I cool things down with dista…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:15 PM
6

Exactly, it’s so bizarre to me too. Aside from that, there have been zero red flags, so I was thrown off. But that shit isn’t going to fly with me. Yeah, not only did I want to be safe, but it was a test to see how he would react. If he accepted begrudgingly, acted offended, or his demeanor changed after I asked, I would have known he was trash. Luckily, none of that happened. Afterward he was still sweet and affectionate, and agreed to it immediately. He said it seemed important to me. But I ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:07 PM
3

Sis we’ve been dating for two months and some change, and he already asked me to be his girlfriend, lol. It’s been two weeks since he asked me to be exclusive, which why I asked that he get tested, since he committed and I’m considering putting sex on the table soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:57 PM
2

Some of these things come to surface slowly. what’s the approach if you come across one? Give him an ultimatum?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:01 PM
11

Request to get into the verified sub. It’s still small but you can post without men looking at it and getting triggered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:58 AM
22

Just try to remember that most men aren’t shit and want you for sex. You need stop romanticizing their nature when in reality they’re all playing an intricate game to get to your vagina. There’s literally nothing worth romanticizing about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:54 AM
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Read 5:42 PM would be the only shit this dumbass would see from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:43 AM
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I think that’s the first sane post I’ve read on that hell sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 06:02 PM
15

What is with LVM and their disgusting obsession with female reproduction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:49 PM
9

Men make me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 02:16 AM
10

Boba? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 02:14 AM
9

Clearance special low value man. Intimidated by confident women who know their worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:59 PM
19

Clownery at its finest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:36 AM
11

This sounds good, but how do you do this/implement this exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:21 AM
9

Dating men in general tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:17 AM
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Always checks these fucker’s phones. They are always up to some shit, and better to find out sooner than later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:56 PM
3

Thanks love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 02:24 AM
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Thanks so much love, I will keep it up. And thank you ladies for getting me here lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:29 PM
16

Thank you girl! This is exactly what I needed to hear and I agree 100%! I read your advice so often on this sub and always appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:25 PM
4

Onision is pure filth and it blows my mind that people watch his shit content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:53 AM
14

Yup, me with my ex. It’s because they are immature man-children who prey on young women who don’t realize how fucked up and childish they are. Women their own age with insight and experience wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:06 PM
1

Thanks love. Yeah, I’m trying to mentally fuck the shit out of him before we have sex, so that he’ll be enamored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:42 AM
2

By got too sexual, what do you mean? I wasn’t sure if you were referring to how soon you had sex or just having it too often? Two months seems like a good amount of time to wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:59 PM
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Yeah, exactly. If for some reason I ever wanted children it would be via adoption or a sperm donor and I would either raise it independently, with family, or with another woman. Have you ever read through r/breakingm*m (mom)? It’s heartbreaking what those women go through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:29 PM
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Also fuck having children with a man. As if I’d sacrifice my body and identify to play domestic and emotional slave for the rest of my life for a man while he plays vidya games and doesn’t help change the diapers. Big lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 08:25 PM
14

Oof. Love yourself ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 05:06 AM
8

I was thinking the same thing. Date for awhile and just enjoy it for the time being. His chivalry is out of this world. Basically though, I'm a leftist and he's a conservative, though he doesn't like Trump! Tbh if he had said he was a Trump supporter I don't think I could have maintained respect for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:50 PM
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respect is more important than agreement, or being a clone of me. Wow, that was an awesome statement. I hand't thought about it like that before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 07:18 AM
2

That’s solid advice, thank you. I love the last bit. I still see him in a “getting to know you” way and yeah, I definitely don’t feel I know him well enough for him to be kissing me in public in front of people or anything. I barely know him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 01:17 AM
1

Ooh I like the first idea. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 01:14 AM
1

Separately because it’s an activity that I attend weekly and I ended up meeting him there. I go for the activity, not him, lol! It’s a medium sized group depending. I’ll try to talk to other people. If he tries to hold my hand or kiss me, do you have pointers on how I can phrase a “slow down” rebuttal? Are my ideas acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 12:45 AM
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We aren’t “sexual” yet, so I’d rather not allude to sex altogether. I just need a way to tell him I’d like to slow down the physical things. Especially in a public setting since he’s not my BF. I feel like most men have benchmarks (1st date kiss, second date make out, third date heavy petting, 4th date home run) which ain’t happening. If he tries to hang all over me tonight, kiss me, etc. can I just say, “Not here, can we slow things down?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 12:33 AM
1

Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 12:30 AM
1

u/TheOGJammies, what do you think, lol?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 12:27 AM
2

I do plan on being honest, but I’m trying to phrase it correctly. That is, in a firm way that gets my message across while still maintaining sweetness. Personally, I do count dates in part. Two dates is not remotely enough of an investment on his part to receive “girlfriend experience” type behavior. That’s something saved for commitment or once he’s demonstrated value consistently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/19 11:43 PM
1

Wow, amazing advice! Thank you so much for such a detailed response! When it come to the STD testing, in the past I’ve asked right before the act itself (which was big mistake I realize as it could result in lying, after all, what man is going to own up to not being tested and ruin his chances of getting laid, right ). How should you state this and when? If we haven’t touched on topic of sex yet especially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 09:32 PM
5

Well he ended up not flaking! It went okay. He seemed kind of nervous and rambled a lot about his life/school, but overall was a decent date. Paid for dinner and was a gentleman. I’d see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 06:27 PM
4

Update: He totally didn’t flake and just texted me five to 6:00 PM so I basically ran out as fast as I could lol! I said I got stuck in traffic 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 08:03 AM
5

True, true. No we haven’t. And the fact that he was “sick” the first time makes me think maybe he’s flaking. What’s weird is that I saw him at the social like two days ago and he asked me if my schedule was still clear for today (because I’m on call at work sometimes). Well, it’s thirty minutes till so I’m just going to read a book and eat, and if texts me where I’m at and it’s not too late maybe I can say there’s traffic and I’m onw 😂 Otherwise I guess that ship has sailed and I’ll delete his n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 03:35 AM
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I guess I’ll just feel bad if he actually shows up and was just working or something. Or figured since I had the time + place I’d show up you know? Like if he texts me he’s there and I’m sweaty and at the gym I just say since I hadn’t heard from you I didn’t know if we were still on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 03:09 AM
1

It’s about twenty minutes away. The caveat though is that I’d be Ubering there and I don’t want to waste my money. What do you think of a feeler text? Like, “Hey, I didn’t know if we’re still on tonight, so I was going to make other plans if not.” ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:59 AM
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Oh that’s smart! Yeah I don’t want to make that impression at all. What about, “Hey I wasn’t sure if we’re still on tonight because I haven’t heard from you, so I was going to make other plans.” And see what he says? Just because I’d like to know if I can take my makeup off or not and got to they gym instead of deciding what outfit to wear right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:50 AM
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There is a date, time and place, but no confirmation text. I don’t want to drive to the place I picked out only for him to not be there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:45 AM
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