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I'm an average looking guy. I match with tons of girls on Tinder. Within the first three messages, I suggest meeting up for drinks to get to know each other. About half the time people agree, then when we meet, if I like the girl in person and we have some chemistry, about half way through the first drink I lean over and kiss her. After a few minutes of kissing I ask if she wants to come back to my place. They usually act shy, and then agree. It's easy. Girls want the same thing as you. You just…
/r/seduction22/04/16 01:56 PM
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I feel this way as well. The way I get around it is to make sure that I place respect above everything else. I make sure to approach in a way that doesn't startle a woman, as the OP said, and stay sensitive to the vibes she's giving the whole time. If I get a negative vibe or an indication that I'm somehow violating her boundaries, I immediately back off politely. Plenty of fish, no need to push things with someone who doesn't give you positive vibes. As OP said, [most] women love being approach…
/r/seduction30/12/15 06:00 PM
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I'm bored of the bars near my house. I wouldn't go by myself, or suggest going there with friends. I do invite girls there, it just doesn't work with OPs first strategy.
/r/seduction08/12/15 03:49 AM
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I've had decent success with approach #1. The problem that I run into is that the thing I want to do is usually either; a) Creepy for a first date; i.e. "Let's go for a hike in the woods." b) Terrible logistically in the sense that transitioning from being out to getting her back to my house is awkward. i.e. "Let's go check out this new bar that's 30 minutes from both of our houses. Meet you there." c) I just want someone to come over for Netflix and chill. That seems super awkward to ask someon…
/r/seduction07/12/15 01:35 PM
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A Guide to Turn Texts into Dates TL;DR, use your text messages to ask for a date. This doesn't need to be so complicated. Your advice isn't bad. But I think you're over thinking it. I'm an average looking guy, and I've almost never had a problem with getting dates just by asking, directly, using whatever words come to mind when I ask.
/r/seduction27/11/15 10:40 PM
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I've never enjoyed a kiss that felt forced. If the chemistry isn't there, don't go for it.
/r/seduction14/11/15 03:23 PM
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So for quiet girls especially you must assume your value to her For all girls. Always assume your value. If you can't assume it, increase it.
/r/seduction10/11/15 07:37 PM
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Sadly, I don't think many people in this sub are interested in applying seduction to long term monogamous relationships. Seems like it's been mostly taken over by pickup, which is a very narrow application IMO.
/r/seduction11/10/15 11:15 PM
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I don't agree with this. There are plenty of women that I've wanted really badly for a short period of time, but they weren't into me, but then after awhile my perspective changed and I realized they're way below my standards anyway.
/r/seduction09/10/15 01:08 AM
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Well, I'm more into traveling the world than playing Warcraft, but there are still women who just aren't interested, for whatever reason. I don't necessarily take it personally, I'm more interested in knowing how to respond and when to give up and move on to the next person.
/r/seduction05/10/15 07:05 PM
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Thanks! I'll check that out. Any particular suggestions for DHV?
/r/seduction05/10/15 06:21 PM
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Thanks. I don't think I have trouble recognizing IOIs, but I'll check those out.
/r/seduction05/10/15 06:20 PM
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Why is it useful on women over 30?
/r/seduction27/09/15 09:42 PM
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Life tends to favor those who ask for what they want. So, focus on being the best version of yourself, yes. But the best version of yourself should be someone who is confident enough to ask a girl out if you want to go out with her.
/r/seduction19/09/15 03:54 PM
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Excellent post. A positive, mature perspective on how to build rapport with women rather than just "game the system". I'd be interested in hearing follow up thoughts from you, or others, about what kinds of things men should be testing women for.
/r/seduction28/07/15 10:05 PM
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I went to a couple of meetups and the quality just wasn’t there. Yes, much better to stick with the quality girls at bars and grocery stores.
/r/seduction14/07/15 10:04 PM
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Excellent post. Focusing on this should help my social life as well, since I work from home and need excuses to go out and actually interact with people. Deleted by dating profiles.
/r/seduction14/07/15 09:54 PM
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If I see a beautiful girl, walk right up and tell her she's beautiful. If I like some dude's shirt, tell him. If I don't like how someone's behaving towards me, tell them. I see what you're saying with this, but it's not a rule about what you say or your actions. You should be saying things because you want to say them. Don't just say something because you had the thought. Sometimes silence is more effective. HB 8+s probably appreciate a compliment as much as anyone, but they also hear complimen…
/r/seduction08/07/15 09:31 PM
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Make it clear to her what you want, and what you're open to. Ask her to do the same. If you're not on the same page, maybe enjoy the evening, but then move on and find someone you're more on the same page with. Don't try to force something that you're not both looking for.
/r/seduction08/07/15 09:23 PM
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I would feel much more comfortable with a guy giving me his #, and not asking for mine. That's a natural feeling, and guys feel more comfortable with the reverse. Reason being, the person with a number has control. IMO, the best approach is to build up enough of a foundation/initial connection that both of you are interested in connecting again, and then exchanging phone numbers both ways. That way neither person has exclusive "control" of the next interaction, and it's a balanced connection wit…
/r/seduction08/07/15 09:21 PM
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Me: how was your 4th of July? Her: it was pretty good how was yours? Me: it was good. I got all bit up by mosquitos though lol Try something like: You: Do anything interesting for the 4th? (She feels pressure to tell you something interesting because the question was formed as a subtle neg.) Her: Yeah, I got to see my family, which is nice, since they live in three different states and we rarely get together. We went up to a lake house and spent the day boating and grilling out. At this point yo…
/r/seduction08/07/15 09:15 PM
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Sounds like he's already got the IDGAF attitude down. And always remember; "Sharing is caring".
/r/seduction01/07/15 01:50 PM
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Text her if you want, don't over think it. Stop using the phrase "steal away my fwb" right now. If you're not willing to share your fwb with your dudes, you are too clingy. Also, if she doesn't text you back, shake it off and find another fwb. If you consistently have the IDGAF attitude, you'll start making a long list of available fwbs.
/r/seduction01/07/15 01:29 PM
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when I DO get a dance/makeout with a girl at a club Clubs aren't for dance/makeouts wtf?! Dance in the club, make out later.
/r/seduction08/05/15 07:57 PM
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If a girl tells you to chill out when you say you want to kiss her, move on. Don't get oneitis. Sounds like this girl just used you as a rebound. Just be aware of that the next time. Go into it being honest with yourself about what it is.
/r/seduction07/05/15 04:06 PM
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It's more creepy if you just keep your desires to yourself secretly and never tell her. Non creepy people are very transparent, confident and straightforward.
/r/seduction18/04/15 03:29 PM
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I don't know why Because you're taking the decision making burden off of her. People are more likely to accept a default than to have to make a decision. Do the girl a favor, make a decision for her.
/r/seduction17/04/15 02:14 PM
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Take it one step farther, approach girls on the street and just straight up ask them to fuck. Don't stop until they fuck you then and there. DISCLAIMER: You may end up in prison. But don't be a quitter.
/r/seduction13/04/15 07:00 PM
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Simple. Don't allow yourself to feel threatened by him. The fact is, she's dating you, not him. So you're already shown who's alpha, and differentiated yourself. Be confident in that, and your confidence will show. I've always gotten an ego boost out of orbiters who were interested in my girlfriends. At the end of the day, if one does manage to steal your girl, whatever, more fish.
/r/seduction13/03/15 06:10 PM
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Those sound so unnatural. Why not just look at the mouth for a couple of seconds? Those sound so unnatural. Why not just look at the tits for a couple of seconds?
/r/seduction16/02/15 03:16 PM
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Just a PSA for white guys, go to the Caribbean if you want to experience the same thing.
/r/seduction18/10/14 12:02 AM
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Yes, you should always get tested after a new partner. You never know!
/r/seduction03/10/14 03:12 PM
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Wow. Sounds like a terrible situation! Get yourself tested for STDs in a few weeks!
/r/seduction29/09/14 12:58 AM
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Why don't you try approaching from the front, making eye contact, and smiling? If she smiles back, then start a conversation.
/r/seduction01/09/14 05:07 PM
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They are well into their careers and make good money. While I'm trying to save money with my entry-level engineering salary, my older friends have nice apartments and are out boating on the lake every weekend. I need to make boating every weekend a life goal.
/r/seduction31/08/14 09:57 PM
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You're probably right. Still the curiosity remains.
/r/seduction09/08/14 02:55 PM
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Doesn't seem to have been incredibly effective.
/r/seduction27/07/14 04:05 PM
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I generally find grabbing a strangers ass to be the best way to begin a conversation.
/r/seduction26/07/14 12:35 PM
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I've been thinking about this some more after my original comment. What about saying something that kind of makes her question her current boyfriend? Like "Yeah? So your boyfriend doesn't let you have any guy friends?"
/r/seduction19/07/14 07:11 PM
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I've spent time in cultures where it's normal/not socially awkward to ask a girl you're gaming if she has a boyfriend. But seriously, that's the problem right there. Don't concern yourself about whether or not a girl has a boyfriend. If she does, it's her responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to find out. Always assume a girl is ready and willing to get down with you, and don't live in fear of being shut down if she's not into it for whatever reason.
/r/seduction18/07/14 07:35 PM
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I don't know. It sounds like you're saying, "Hop over to the friend zone for now and hope that you can convince her otherwise later.". Personally I think it's better to just move on to the next girl. Plus if you say, "Oh, you have a boyfriend? That's cool, I just wanted to be friends anyway." That seems weak in the sense of being willing to compromise your desires and not be straightforward about what you want. I think that's the opposite of a lot of the self-improvement and balls to be aggressi…
/r/seduction17/07/14 03:14 AM
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I usually initiate that with a gentle bite on the girls lips kind of opening up her mouth and escalating that way. Don't try to shove your tongue in her mouth before she's asking for it.
/r/seduction05/07/14 02:49 PM
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I'm a good kisser, but I just do it by feel. One thing I do that girls seem to like is biting a girl's lips. But that can be really easy to botch too. The trick is that you're not really biting her, just using your teeth to pull gently on her lips and pull her toward you in an expression of desire. But it's really subtle, don't overdo it.
/r/seduction05/07/14 02:48 PM
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If he's annoying you, he's probably annoying girls too. You should never feel like you have to apologize for your wingman.
/r/seduction18/11/13 11:20 AM
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You shouldn't talk to someone with no reason, or just because someone else told you to. That being said, there could be plenty of reasons to talk to someone who you don't find attractive. If nothing else, you're practicing your skills introducing yourself to a random stranger, so that you're more prepared when that attractive girl does show up. Also, find a new wing man.
/r/seduction17/11/13 07:30 PM
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OK then, why did you remove the post? Which post did I remove?
/r/seduction17/11/13 04:10 PM
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Your first line included the words "She has a reputation for sleeping around". That's a fact. I offered no opinion about her based on that. There is no reason to assume that I think anything negative about sleeping around.
/r/seduction17/11/13 03:56 PM
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It might as well have been spin the bottle. There was alcohol and marshmallows involved. Thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction17/11/13 03:31 PM
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Slut shaming is pathetic and immature. Not sure how you misconstrued my post as slut shaming. I clearly stated that I'm looking to have fun and open to quick flings. The only reason I'm cautious is that I don't want to fall for someone who doesn't want anything serious with me.
/r/seduction17/11/13 03:30 PM
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I actually did kiss her briefly, but due to the circumstances surrounding it (long story) I didn't really think it meant much or was relevant to my dilemma. But you're right, I gotta learn somehow. Thanks.
/r/seduction17/11/13 03:14 PM
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Not sure why you're getting so much hate. I agree 100%.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/13 06:12 PM
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Would you continue a conversation with someone that approached you like that? Like what?
/r/seduction01/11/13 07:15 PM
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I'm not talking about what do you say first. I'm talking about what do you say five minutes into the conversation when she's still icey.
/r/seduction01/11/13 07:14 PM
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Can you give an example? "I'm mad at you." Why's that? "Oh nothing..." "I just had a great idea!" Yeah, what? "Oh nothing..."
/r/seduction27/10/13 01:08 AM
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I really like this, but I need some better ideas for things to ask girls opinion on.
/r/seduction14/10/13 02:55 AM
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I can translate fine. All I'm saying is that I draw a lot of blanks when I'm in the moment trying to make small talk with a girl. Thanks though.
/r/seduction13/10/13 09:07 PM
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I do try it. But that doesn't make awkward silence any less awkward.
/r/seduction13/10/13 08:06 PM
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Word.
/r/seduction22/09/13 09:28 PM
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Just dump your girlfriend and go for Rachel. Your ego will thank you for it. Also, I sure as hell hope you're not introducing yourself to girls as "seductionthrow44".
/r/seduction22/09/13 08:33 PM
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Just take it as a personal compliment directed at you. She's with you. It always makes me smile when another guy hits on my girl. Inside I'm thinking, "Fuck yeah, and she's with me, dude!".
/r/seduction22/09/13 08:31 PM
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Is hashtag closing different than regular closing?
/r/seduction22/09/13 08:27 PM
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If I was looking for 4s and 5s I wouldn't be online. I meet plenty of 6s and 7s in everyday life. I'm online to find 8s to 10s.
/r/seduction22/09/13 07:16 PM
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4-5s?
/r/seduction22/09/13 06:53 PM
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Thanks. Lot's of practical advice here. I took some time to look at which guys profiles are popular in my area, and many of them are wearing suits, so I uploaded a picture from a wedding, and my response rate skyrocketed. I can't believe it was that easy.
/r/seduction22/09/13 05:17 PM
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I think that's probably the best strategy. This is probably a lame excuse, but I'm often too busy to go out the same night (or even week) that I find someone interesting online. In that case, what are your thoughts on contacting someone before you're ready logistically to ask her out? Wait to contact her? Contact her and "save her" as an option for a night you do want to ask someone out? Contact her and try to keep a conversation going?
/r/seduction22/09/13 05:14 PM
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Doesn't work if you are not a decent looking white guy. Well, looks like I'm in luck. Girls will actually prefer you gathering you balls and approaching them in real life. I approach girls in real life. I'm just using online dating to explore more options. To be honest, it's rare that I meet girls in real life who are up to my standards.
/r/seduction22/09/13 03:13 AM
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So, how do you transition from having cool pics to meeting up?
/r/seduction22/09/13 03:12 AM
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I like Tinder. But in my area, there is literally only one girl that uses it... kind of defeats the purpose of the app.
/r/seduction22/09/13 03:10 AM
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Dominican Republic. There are literally like 3 people in my area on each of those sites.
/r/seduction22/09/13 03:09 AM
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Thanks. According to the site that I'm using (Badoo -- it seems to be the most popular in my local area), my profile doesn't even get many visitors. Not sure how to change that.
/r/seduction21/09/13 03:07 PM
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What I learned in sales; "If you don't ask, the answer is automatically no."
/r/seduction21/09/13 11:53 AM
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No. No. No. I fail to follow your logic for any of these.
/r/seduction14/09/13 02:07 AM
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You've got oneitis bad man! If you touch her and she doesn't respond, move on.
/r/seduction09/09/13 02:49 AM
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I live in a Spanish speaking country; last year I was hanging out with a German guy who spoke almost no Spanish and very poor English. He would approach Spanish speaking girls at clubs and say things like, "You no se fiesta. German se fiesta." Which Spanglish for "You I don't know a party. German I know a party." ... keep in mind, these girls didn't know any English. So, he sounded like a total idiot, but he still had success with girls. I honestly don't know how he was so successful, but a lot …
/r/seduction08/09/13 06:59 PM
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try to avoid counting out loud in your head. I'm trying to figure out how one counts out loud in their head.
/r/seduction08/09/13 06:14 PM
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I see two general attitudes being posted here: one is talking about "eye play" and the focus is on having the guts to make eye contact. The other is talking about holding eye contact as long as possible, "drilling" into a person's skull, or forcing them to break eye contact. The first one is a good approach. The second is just creepy. If you're using eye contact as "game", you have to have a goal. Your goal is not to burn through the other person or kill them with your gaze. Your goal is to expr…
/r/seduction08/09/13 06:12 PM
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Could mean a lot of different things, but generally the same physical process that cause a person to feel "butterflies in their stomach" are the same physical processes that cause a person's eyes to dialate. Roughly translates to the person being interested. Usually it's a subconscious signal that people pick up on.
/r/seduction08/09/13 05:55 PM
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eye play This.
/r/seduction08/09/13 05:53 PM
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Do you mean Public Relations or Puerto Rico? I'm in the DR.
/r/seduction06/09/13 03:27 PM
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What about "solo quiero divertirme y no quiero comprometerme ahora mismo" or "no quiero comprometerme en este momento"? I've only been speaking Spanish for a year, so I'm trying to figure out what sounds natural and communicates the right idea. My English speaking mindset still overpowers the way I form sentences in Spanish.
/r/seduction05/09/13 11:45 PM
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Could I say "Solo quiero divertirme, y no quiero comprometerme ya."? Is that the right way to say "yet"? I want to leave the option for a relationship in the future... I'm not just trying to bang girls meaninglessly. That's what "my friend Manuela" is for. ;)
/r/seduction05/09/13 02:01 AM
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The women will try to trap you. Exactly. Not all of them are like that, of course. But culturally that is a very pervasive thing. They have a joke where they say to boys, "Mi visa! Digo, vida!" Translation: "My visa! I mean, life!". That's a freudian slip that I really don't want to get too mixed up in.
/r/seduction03/09/13 08:42 PM
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So I'm trying to have fun, not make enemies, and end up with people trying to pin me with responsibilities. More or less, you fuck a girl here, and she becomes your "dependent", you end up with the equivalent of having to pay child support whether she gets knocked up or not.
/r/seduction03/09/13 08:33 PM
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Solo quiero divertirme, y no comprometerme This is exactly the phrase I need. Thank you.
/r/seduction03/09/13 08:17 PM
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Probably a good idea, got to figure out how to say that in Dominican Spanish. The literal translation would mean that I'm gay.
/r/seduction02/09/13 11:33 PM
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What does the girls' hotness have to do with the size of the island?
/r/seduction02/09/13 05:24 PM
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Very true. But they also go nuts for my blue eyes. Several times I've overheard groups of girls "negotiating" over my eyes when they didn't think I could understand them. A female airport security person told me that she was going to have to cut out my eyes because they couldn't leave the country. And a few girls have told me that they want to have babies with me so that their babies have blue eyes. That last one is flattering, but I'm definitely not going to fuck a girl who's trying to get preg…
/r/seduction02/09/13 03:52 PM
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For anonymity's sake, I don't want to reveal which organization or island.
/r/seduction02/09/13 03:51 PM
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Not exactly, but close. For anonymity's sake, I don't want to reveal which organization or island.
/r/seduction02/09/13 03:51 PM
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Ban yourself from porn and video games. Leave the house, even if you have no destination. You'll find something to do.
/r/seduction01/09/13 04:54 PM
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Hit the bars? He's 19.
/r/seduction01/09/13 04:53 PM
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Its hard because the cultural expectation that they and their families have is that if you fuck, you're considered married.
/r/seduction01/09/13 04:43 PM
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I use this all the time, mostly as a way to be respectful of a girl's feelings. A kiss on the cheek is usually something that would be acceptable even with your sister or your mother, so if a girl doesn't want to kiss you, this will give her a chance to say no without either of you losing any dignity.
/r/seduction01/09/13 03:21 PM
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