My outer game is steadily improving, but my inner game is tanking. What's going on?

The_1337 · 2016-05-04T16:56:10+00:00

What if she's a huge racist who does coke in the morning and heroin in the afternoon?

My point is, she hasn't proven much value to you yet. You know who you are; you know what you like about yourself and what you have to offer. You don't know jack shit about her.

Approaching isn't saying "I like you". It's saying "I feel like I could like you and I thought it was worth a shot to find out."

I don't give a fuck how shapely that ass is, if she can't hold a conversation I've got better things to do.

AttractandSeduce · 2016-05-05T01:05:28+00:00

If you really want to become good with girls, you got to go through the trenches like everyone else.

Two common ways to meet girls are #1: Through cold approach.

and #2: By following your strong desires in life.

With cold approach, you got to practice fairly often to meet awesome girls as well as keep your cold approach skills sharp.

Meeting girls through following your dreams and passions can take a longer time before you meet really awesome girls.

So really it comes down to two choices: Go through the trenches of cold approach or go through the trenches of patience before meeting amazing girls while pursing your true passions.

crazy234 · 2016-05-04T16:19:29+00:00

The way I worked on my self was when you see someone attractive think of a compliment about them. If you are with a friend tell them what you think is attractive about the person you see. Don't just say shes hot say whats hot about her. Then after a while just tell it to the person. Hey I really like the color of your hair or wow you have a unique sense of style. Opens up for conversation.

Dankob · 2016-05-05T12:44:20+00:00

Best advice IMO is be your self. Especially if you say you’re more confident in life. Don’t be shy to share your interests. Be open. if ur date or whatever doesn’t like it or doesn’t like you when your being urself you move on. Don’t force it.

You can also try making more friends and be social without any other intention (like having sex). This would open you up a bit and you learn to be yourself and share your interests to other people, and eventually to a potential mate.

DisBetterBeGud · 2016-05-05T17:14:56+00:00

Title makes no sense, there is no good outer game if inner is lacking.

I had some similar experiences, I went from super confident with lot's of approaches to shy and avoiding and back to super confident. It was a cycle.

Ask yourself why would you think that?

IMO best way to approach this is to invest in your looks and just establish irrational self confidence.

Just an attitude of ''Main motherfucker'' not because you are hot, smart, tall or rich, but JUST BECAUSE.

That works good. I mean, when you see what kind of trash has models with them then it's not hard to believe you are best men in the whole world.

We men sometimes suffer from our own thinking flaw - WE need things to MAKE SENSE. Learn to leave that need. Just accept yourself as the Big Deal in Town for no other reason but that you are YOU and not someone else.

Title	My outer game is steadily improving, but my inner game is tanking. What's going on?
Author	spiritualdissonance
Upvotes	6
Comments	6
Date	May 4, 2016 4:13 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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