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Plus learning a phsyical skill is incredibly valuable. Skating, skiing, martial art, etc... Dancing is a wonderful physical skill to hone. It is very similar to sex, an intertwining of external feminine and masculine energies. Also allows you to bring more awareness to you and your partner's energetic bodies (I mean this as far as FEELING the other person, staying the fuck out of the head) .
/r/seduction16/07/21 11:25 PM
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Victory pose is also the rune of Algiz and a man reaching to the heavens/higher self. Amazing post from Jack Donovan on his Conflict Bind Rune. https://www.jack-donovan.com/sowilo/2016/05/10/the-conflict-bindrune/
/r/TheRedPill16/07/21 11:16 PM
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It's strange. I did this with all my recent plates. One of them a BPD got under my skin. I literally did what you have here to a T, yet it blew up in my face and I became attached and she started to manipulate me. Do you recommend using this only on healthy people. If someone is mentally unstable to just leave? I took it as a slight on my ALPHAness or RP awareness to take an L and not keep her in my frame. Walking away from someone who is disrespectful. I nexted her after the first mishap, she a…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/21 06:38 PM
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DGAF attitude and living a life to "BE ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN" seem to be two different things in my mind. Living a life of abundance and DGAF and if women decide to be attracted to the aspects of my life that is their choice, my life is to live my life, attraction is an added aspect. A fun game if you will, yet one thing I misinterpretted in my early stages of RP is that I need Money so I can get women. My internal locus was existing externally and I was operating from a mindset of "getting women"…
/r/askTRP14/07/21 08:34 PM
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As I have said many times, shit tests happen: she's a child trying to get on even footing with the adult, and you see it as just cute. Needs no response. I don't know if I agree with this. I tried this approach with my BPD ex and that just blew up in my face. Maybe because she was BPD specifically, but honestly people treat you how you let them. If you don't have firm boundaries someone will walk all over them and continue to do so.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/21 11:31 PM
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At the core of this write up I think there is something more to be gained. Yes being firm and not letting her "push" you around is valuable. Where does that behavior come from though. "JUST BE MORE ALPHA" doesn't really cut it. What does that look like. "Agree and Amplify" "Use a stern voice" "just walk away" etc is an expression of having solid frame. Solid frame is built inside-out. If a man is struggling with "training" his lady he has a hard time training himself. There is something inside t…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/21 11:12 PM
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Therapy hasn't worked for me in the past. I have found a few coaches that specialize in what I'm going through. -Unhealthy Attachment issues -Core Trauma -Purpose It seems like it's working so I continue to walk this path. Nothing else has worked so far, perhaps this will. It feels like it is the way. ​ Thank you for sharing your experience, it gives me hope and courage.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/21 04:42 AM
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That is a difficult one for me. I have become a "people pleaser, overachiever, giver, martyr" which are ROLES I adopted to survive. That "role" is part of the programing in myself that kept me with the BPD ex. "If I keep giving, then it will work". My desire was to grow and help her grow, and my internal locus shifted from my growth to her. "If I am healed my healing tools will help her heal too".... The blurred lines between helping myself and "being there" for someone else.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/21 04:39 AM
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This is very interesting. One of the biggest reasons I stayed with my ex as long as I did was to see if I could exercise my frame. There was no control though. If I caved I was in trouble, if I stayed calm and did as I pleased I "got in trouble" there was no winning. Up was down, down was up. You mention "if you're healthy". I have come to the realization I have a lot of emotional work I need to do. One of the biggest realizations I have had recently is the way in which I internalize information…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/21 02:24 AM
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Thanks for your help. One of the biggest take aways for me is if she acts like a bitch just pull my attention away. If that triggers her, so be it. Act accordingly or I walk. Learning RP and trying to apply it to get the desired result. IE if I game correctly I get what I want (manipulation). Instead of this is what I want stay or don't. Let her walk. It was definitely weird with her wanting me so bad it threw me for a loop. Like she wanted me but the RP wouldn't work on her. So I thought I was …
/r/askTRP23/06/21 08:54 PM
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Fuck this is exactly what I needed a couple months ago. A plate kept vying for commitment with no real value to my life. "I want JUST you" "Am I not enough" "I don't want other dick and want someone who wants just me". All I had to do was say OK. This is what I want, I like what we have, if you need someone to commit to JUST you I understand, my door is always open to you, etc...
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 11:43 PM
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I have PTSD so you have to accept that I get triggered and freak out when you do or say certain things" What is the response to this in a fun dismissive way? "me too let's see how much we can trigger each other" with a shit eating grin on your face? Most men fail dominance tests because they have no idea there is a power struggle going on. They just think that if they comply with the woman they will make her happy, not realizing that the very act of compliance makes the woman lose attraction to …
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 11:32 PM
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This is more asshole game and works on SOME women. Both yours and OPS responses are valid and can be applied based on the situation imo. OPs is a little more easily applied IMO
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 11:30 PM
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This is spot on. You give the good emotions and relate it back to you. I am the giver/cultivator of GOOD TIMES. She comes to me because she wants to feel good. Very well done thank you for the improvement on the first comment. It didn't resonate with me.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 11:29 PM
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Well, this wasn't really seduction. Could you elaborate on this? You can't control women. You have some influence, they will have some motivation, but you can't control or change them. Agree I need to learn to let go of the idea of controlling others. I think maybe the idea that she "wanted to grow with me" "we can help each other grow". What I learned is that we both are emotionally immature so we can't grow together. Also being a healthy person I wouldn't have the desire to take on a project. …
/r/askTRP22/06/21 08:37 PM
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Thanks for the insight. I hamstered staying with her. Any time I didn't do shit right with a different chick it was "where did I fuck up to lose this chick". This ex she kept coming back, I couldn't get "rid" of her. That obsession made me think that I should be able to mold her into the woman I wanted. Teach her how to treat me well basically. If she's disrespecting me, dread her, go get more plates, etc... I'd do that and she'd freak out. The damned if I do damned if I don't. The FIX it Machin…
/r/askTRP21/06/21 04:42 PM
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Thank you. The BPD shit is different than everything else. People keep telling me "do X, Y, Z" I'm like FUCK YOU I AM AND HAVE it doesn't WORK!!!!! I've read Sharischreibers work. There isn't a lot of BPD stuff out there and what drew me to her is cellular. It's my Sympathetic Nervous System that got fucked from having a BPD mom. I "get" it, but my body still craves the high of the toxic rollercoaster. Stick in there, and don't stick your dick in crazy again. Absolutely. It's fucking so strange.…
/r/askTRP19/06/21 07:36 PM
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LOL I'm 28 and have dated multiple Cluster B personality types. I push myself constantly. That's what I became "addicted" to. Working on myself and pushing my boundaries. Hired coaches to push me. I went monk mode all last year and retained my seed, quit drinking, smoking cigarettes, watching porn, etc... Through these practices I created a new tribe. This ex was part of that tribe and I thought I had "finally arrived" so in my mind there is dissonance in the fact that I did all the "work" and f…
/r/askTRP19/06/21 07:08 PM
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Any ideas of how to work on that?
/r/askTRP19/06/21 06:27 PM
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Facts
/r/askTRP19/06/21 06:24 PM
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That is what my therapist is working with me on. I guess it's a feeling of "what does life look like". So throughout the week I'm "getting shit done" and then the weekend comes and I'm like "OK let's stop hiding away and get back to life, time to MAN UP/Get back on the horse, etc". I guess I should maybe just continue to isolate and sit with myself. Last time I did that is what led me to falling in love with meditation, yoga, self improvement, and to my BPD ex, so it's hard for my mind to differ…
/r/askTRP19/06/21 06:11 PM
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How does one learn this power?
/r/askTRP19/06/21 05:45 PM
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I had went to the Juul things because they were "healthier". Went from 1 pack + a day to those and ONLY smoking when I drank. Started drinking to be able to smoke and vice versa (cravings). Ended up buying multiple Juuls every time I drank and spending way more. Bought a Vape rig and juice. Spent way less but was using the fuck out of the rig. Caught Covid and couldn't taste the juice and my throat was super fucked. Finally healed and since I wasn't into drinking and partying anymore the habits …
/r/askTRP18/06/21 04:25 PM
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I have a brick and mortar business in town. I stopped going out and wasting my time drinking thanks to covid. Started back on my hobbies (the business was consuming me) lifting, reading, music, meditation/spirituality. Was starting a tribe and created a meditation group in the park. I was doing ME for the first time. She showed up and I thought I had done the work and was ready to get back into game. "used" her for awhile while stating what I was and wanted, but she chipped away at my frame litt…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 06:50 PM
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Absolutely. I was meditating this morning and it was my guilt/shame. I knew the red flags and I was just like whatever I'll ride this wave for the time. Used her as a "beta tester". I wasn't scared of losing her so I used her to try new things in bed and new "techniques" or game. Then she kept getting me shit and gifts that I tied to my new improving aspects in my life. I basically shamed/guilted myself into staying with her because "there are red flags but look how much she cares, don't be an a…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 06:38 PM
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Noted. Thank you. This plate is long gone now. I broke it off with her. She was my only plate after my others broke. I caught oneitus, she was BPD, disrespectful, manipulated me into commitment, and eroded away at my self worth (having been raised by BPD and still having some rescuer programming). Decided to hard next verbally. Initially I got with her and told her it was OPEN, in that time she'd constantly bitch for commitment. "I let you fuck me raw, what we do in the bedroom is special and yo…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 05:13 AM
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I like to use the gym as a catch and release playground. It's my church and I go there for myself. I don't really like the thought of fucking women that I see daily there and having to deal with that while I'm still "learning" game. If Approach anxiety is a thing, I'd say work more on day game and approaching women and people in general in your daily life. On your way to the store/ at the store/ on your way to work/ to the gym etc... Start small and approach 1 stranger every day. One thing I lik…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:42 AM
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SR?
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:35 AM
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I understand the desire to focus on LTR but using RP ideals to get BP results is a recipe for disaster. Vet properly. Also realize MOST women are sluts. The sooner you accept that the easier it will be to have FUN with them and enjoy your life. Women are additions to your FUN life. I was in a similar situation recently. You know what you have to do. Good luck
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:34 AM
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You're hamstering. Giving excuses for bad behavior. You came here because you can FEEL this is wrong. You're trying to THINK your way out of this. Your body knows much more and faster than the brain does. Our body FEELS things then the brain translates those FEELINGS into MEANING. IE: our body feels light through the eyes and the brain translates it into shadows depth color etc... The translation comes AFTER the FEELING. Trust your gut. Demote to FWB and get better women in your life.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:28 AM
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For now, I will detach emotions and keep her around for what I can get out of her. I think I will be hard nexting her in about a month or two. This sounds like a good plan. I'd say in the meantime of distancing to game other women and prepare to plate new prospects.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:25 AM
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I dealt with this with my last plate. I kept her around to try and learn more frame control..... Bad idea. All it did was erode away at my frame. NOT getting UPSET at it isn't "holding frame". It's actually losing frame. It's not that she's taking the lead it's that she's telling you "you are wrong" which is breaking your frame. It's an expression of her disrespect or doubt in your abilities. You're believing her and giving into guilt/shame that thinks she might be right and not confronting the …
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:23 AM
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Great advice. I'd like to add that coaching women constantly can get exhausting. Making sure to have more than one is a great way to not get caught up in trying to constantly "fix" each new problem that crops up with women. Like OP said it's not just the sandwich it's multiple things. From my experience women who do this can be a hassle and it's exhausting without other women who I could go to and not deal with the hassle. She either gets in line or gets nexted. Since she's already being aggress…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:17 AM
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Everyone has their own fun voice and "bitch I don't need anyone to tell me how to make a sandwich" could come off as confrontational antagonistic shamed depending on how it's delivered. The fact OP sounds like he has doubt in his mind of how to deal with it that will probably come through in the delivery of this "line". AA in my eyes for OP would be "you know you're right, here do it for me" and then continue that in the rest of the situations. Let her do the dumb shit while he focuses on more i…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:11 AM
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While this may be true I don't think this applies to OP's problem. The way in which she is approaching it and the way in which he is handling her approach to the situation are the deeper issue. NOT whether or not she is "RIGHT". The fact is she wants to take control "frame" and sees OP as weak and is picking her battles to where OP doubts himself and will slowly fall more into her frame over time. The tone of OP's post comes across as someone who is still trying to figure out what they want and …
/r/askTRP02/06/21 04:07 AM
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While I see your point on the value of money I disagree that this is Redpill. Yes women are hypergamous. This woman decided she wanted a better "provider". If money is all you have to offer women these are the types of women you will attract. If you are a provider for a woman and she feels she can do better she will jump ship for a more well off provider. For me (and if this isn't your intent I understand) this post can lead new comers to the thought that all women want are money and stuff and i…
/r/askTRP02/06/21 03:53 AM
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Definitely get into the gym. I'd say she is looking to branch swing. Their chemistry is pretty high and she likes the validation and attention. She's gaslighting (women always do this) and is using it as leverage to dread you in this relationship. I'd say go out and meet other women, have fun in your life. Act aloof and be ready to let her walk. With that she walks and you're fine already setup backup. Also if she goes out you can be like "cool me too" have some lil cutey that you zoom with that…
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:30 PM
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With text game Direct tends to be better. I don't think it would have made TOO much of a difference though tbh.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 08:00 PM
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Come here/ go away. She's attracted to you because you're closed off. As soon as you open up she gets what she wants and doesn't need it anymore. Briffualts Law. The narcissist and bpd trauma bond because she doesn't want someone to get to close and the narc is afraid of enmeshment. (this may not apply to you two but it sounds similar)
/r/askTRP29/05/21 05:48 PM
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this
/r/askTRP29/05/21 05:48 PM
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This is my strategy. Usually say "I'll get this one you get the next", if it's a dinner date (down the line if we get along) Ill tell her the same thing for dinner. I make decent money and it sets the tone. I'm not your provider, she needs to contribute value, and I like you lets do this again.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 08:02 PM
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Hahahah fuck this made me laugh EDIT: I thought you meant the chicks number.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 12:50 AM
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I've been considering saving some of my sperm in a sperm bank and getting a vasectomy. I practice circular breathing and have multiple orgasms already but I feel like getting the vasectomy just removes a lot of stress from fucking raw.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 12:37 AM
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I look forward to hearing from you and sharing in your experience as you grow.
/r/seduction24/05/21 09:47 PM
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When you smile it's not a smile in your mouth. It's a smile in your being. The eyes are the gateway to the soul. Part of why eye contact is so important. When you smile with your eyes you're smiling with your being. The smile doesn't stop at your lips or cheeks it's in your eyes, all the way inside your head around your pineal gland to the back of your skull and down your spine. Your entire being is gleaming. It's the feeling of joy and the more you can tap into that state the more you can stay …
/r/seduction24/05/21 05:27 AM
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Hey bro! Saw your comment on a different thread asking the guy you're talking to for advice. I've skimmed through the thread and wanted to share some encouragement. Models by Mark Manson was the first book I read on my seduction journey. It's one of the most impactful books I've read in my life. I like yourself am very analytical and when I become focused on something I see it through to the end(th) degree xD Models has great PRACTICAL advice that is determined by YOUR developmental state. It br…
/r/seduction24/05/21 05:20 AM
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This self defeatist mindset is very destructive and non conducive to growth. I've seen some of the most unattractive men with some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. Also seen 6'3 200 lb body builder chads get shot down consistently. Game conquers looks. As a man you have so much at your arsenal. She doesn't know you, show her who you are by opening her. She's rooting for you, she wants you to be THE MAN! James Marshal has some great videos on approach. A lot of his in field work with g…
/r/seduction24/05/21 04:30 AM
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Funny you bring up James Marshal. He's my "go to" with seduction. His approach is very clear and I like the way he uses communication and staying in your truth/authenticity more than a lot of RP ideas/manosphere ideas I've seen that seem a little more malicious and manipulative for lack of a better term. I realized I was fucking up with her and started to draw my energy back. We would cuddle after sex and I held her hand, because it felt natural. Watched James video and was like FUuuuuukkkk. Pul…
/r/seduction23/05/21 06:23 PM
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There’s no fire and destruction if you leave the situation completely. She could very easily show up at his work or his home and try to "find out what is going on" I agree with you on the reasons for ghosting I just don't know if it's the best option for the desired result. EDIT: Imo verbalizing "this is done" then walking without giving reasons for WHY it's done and getting caught up in Circular Conversation and then proceeding to do all the same things as in the ghost situation
/r/askTRP22/05/21 08:01 PM
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It should be a copy pasta.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 07:58 PM
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(Note: A number of guys might not be honest with themselves about what they want or might not know how to date casually without accidentally getting attached, though.) Very important. I wasn't looking for anything and the girl I'm about to break up with today somehow hoodwinked me into being in a relationship with her. I was keeping things casual and she kept demanding exclusivity and commitment even though I set my boundaries from the get. She saw that and kept exploding using BPD tactics that …
/r/seduction22/05/21 07:57 PM
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Ghosting is hard for me with MLTRs that have been going for more than a few months. Tend to bring more fire and destruction than just ENDING it in person. Yes don't give closure but facing the problem seems more reliable. Just my opinion though.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 07:07 PM
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I'm in the same situation. Believed her and gave her a chance. Basically enabling her bad behavior, telling her she can continue to do X and all she has to do is gaslight me. She can have her cake and eat it too. I become her pawn/prey. I didn't want to believe my coach and others and gave it a shot, she continues to disrespect and it gets worse and worse.... the more she says "oh it's just because X and YOU just do Y now" I believe her and do Y, then she acts worse. I'm actually breaking it off…
/r/askTRP22/05/21 06:45 PM
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Good luck. Godspeed.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 06:40 PM
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LOVE THIS! Confrontation just gives them ammo to gaslight you and then also know where your weakness lies and use it against you in the future. Something something Briffualts Law.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 06:40 PM
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This idea is something I have been tossing around. I'm "in an LTR" that I never committed to with a woman who kept giving me red flags and demanding my commitment. I kept her around because it was free ass, but I did get attached. Now I feel guilty when I go and fuck other women and have her on my mind, haven't fucked women because I felt like I'd be cheating, all of which was nothing I EVER agreed to. Most likely loss of frame, but at the end of the day I'd say with OP he is committed to this w…
/r/askTRP22/05/21 06:38 PM
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HAHAAH this is a good ass copy pasta.
/r/askTRP22/05/21 06:32 PM
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Models by Mark Manson was the best book I've read that gave me executable actions to take in my life. Instant mindset reset and started seeing results from the actions I took each day. It gave me options to decide where I was at in my growth and build from there.IE: do I need to work on number closes or just maintaining eye contact with strangers, or do I need to build a social group OR work on my career.... etc.. Pick one thing and start there and move through it. Life is a big ass salad. Also …
/r/seduction22/05/21 06:29 PM
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Ok we should be wrapping this thread up. Agreed. I think the break up is better. We have been together for awhile now and I have been beta with her so she's very likely to get very explosive if I ghost her. IE: showing up at my work and causing drama until she gets her "closure". Ghosting will lead to me having to "break up" with her anyway in a place not of my own choosing. In any case don't try to give her closure and don't explain too much. This is not a negotiation. This is exactly what happ…
/r/askTRP21/05/21 10:50 PM
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But you don't search for unicorns, or else you end up glueing a horn into a horse. Definitely. I wasn't looking for a unicorn. I actually had a snow leopard and let it go because I didn't think I was "good enough" which came from programing from parents and Seeds planted from Bronco. Ended up fucking up and going with Bronco dying on my own sword. It's a mentality I've overcome but I still had echoes of it left in my system that are getting stamped out. What I do is I screen hard for bisexuality…
/r/askTRP21/05/21 08:34 PM
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Please don't try to use red pill tools to achieve blue pill goals. I can see how it appears like I'm TRYING to use RP ideals to achieve BP goals. The statement from me came from watching James Marshal and him talking about Multiple Relationships. Having Multiple relationships and then focusing on ONE monogamously after having so much under your belt that you know what you want and are with a SOLID valuable woman. I think maybe Provider and Monogamy are somewhat tethered in my vocab. I was monk m…
/r/askTRP21/05/21 03:44 PM
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Absolutely on point truth. The thing is I wouldn't mind being a provider to the right woman. One who respects me and helps me with my shit, who doesn't talk down to me, who handles her own shit. Basically being monogamous with a bad bitch who is low drama. I just fucked up picking her because I believed her bluffs and had a narcissistic martyr complex: "I deserve everything and I earn that everything by bearing other's crosses" Her and I trauma bonded. She expressed when "sex is sacred" shit "I …
/r/askTRP21/05/21 01:55 AM
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Well, the girl has game. No doubt about that. Yeah we met when I was in monk mode, at a meditation group I started. So I was the Alpha and she knew I had a business and saw the BIG SHINY thing that was me. I was in monk mode so I treated her as a friend. Cultivating social game and my businesses was my tactic so I gave her a little too much info. When we had another one of THE TALKS she said "sex is an intimate thing, it's an exchange of energy (which I expressed to her in the early stages) and …
/r/askTRP21/05/21 01:50 AM
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That was the weird thing with this chick specifically. She would be good and capitulate to my frame in the initial. She Told me "I am yours even if you don't want me" and then it slowly turned into "you need to give me commitment because of X and Y that we do in the bedroom" I did catch feelings for her, but I tried to keep it distant she sensed it and took her opportunity. Sleepovers were definitely where I fucked up. Too many provider interactions, made her too comfy in my space. She talks abo…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 09:21 PM
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When her and I were together at first she was 1 of 4 plates. She was the only one that would bitch. In hindsight I need to just hard next her when she said she'd be cool with it and then constantly brought up the talk. Over and over again. I didn't play those shit tests correctly. ANd that is why I think I can't salvage my frame with her.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 08:55 PM
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That is definitely the problem. We had the talk early on and she capitulated to my frame. She would have these micro explosions afterwards and when she did I would just soft next when she did. She then would blow up at me. I told her "i don't like x". She then did some super shady shit that I didn't like and nexted her, she blew up at me and said she needed to "let me go" I said "I understand" blocked her on all media. She reached out like a week later through text asking if we could talk. We ta…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 08:52 PM
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The worst number of girlfriends is one. Agreed. I understand this and most of my game is catch and release recently. Working on Isolation and growth atm. ALSO I've never broken up with a woman before, usually just end up becoming beta and they break up with me.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 07:21 PM
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I've had a few girls added to my rotation here and there but I get this guilty feeling when I do. I feel like I'm being sneaky and it feels beta not alpha doing so. As if I am cheating. Compared to when we first got together I was like "this is how it is deal or don't" compared to now. I feel as if I've fallen into her frame and need to break it off with her. I have never given her my commitment or given her signs that I am committed any time she talks about it I make a joke about sex slaves and…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 07:16 PM
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I meditate and have been working on expressing my emotions from some of the lifecoaches I've worked with, but that seems a little Blue Pilled imo. ​ I'm worried about getting incongruent advice from therapists and the stuff that I've tried and true.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 01:23 AM
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Definitely agree... ​ I'm trying to figure out how to end it. We don't HAVE anything together other than the time spent. We've known each other since November and have been fucking since January. I was in a 6 month semen retention and monk mode due to Covid lock downs and was cultivating friendships and social game. She was part of that. There's no love lost breaking up with her, she's given me gifts thats about it but if she wants them back she can have them. I'm just trying to think of how to …
/r/askTRP20/05/21 01:22 AM
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It was the first book I read on my RP journey. Gave me executable actions to try out little by little in my daily life. Locate where you lack and can use improvement. Here are things you can do to improve them daily. Very valuable
/r/seduction20/05/21 01:19 AM
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How would you recommend moving on? As far as breaking it off? Being straight forward "this isn't working out for me anymore", "you fucked up now this is done" seems kinda beta. "I'm not into the way things are anymore". The chick I'm with I told early on, since she'd tell me to do shit, to ASK. She now says "hey can you please do X and when you do....." like TF? hahaha it's like the mixture of bratting with Cluster B traits that I just feel like I have one hand tied behind my back and have gotte…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 11:56 PM
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Great response. I have a lot going on for myself in my life atm. Somehow I let a Cluster B set her hooks deep in my nervous system and care for some fucked reason what she thinks about me. I had multiple plates and they all broke. I decided to focus up on social game and my businesses. She stays around because I tolerate her shit due to her pussy and the lie of "we're twin flames" that is still deep in my system that I'm trying to rid myself of. She acts up and I usually don't care unless we're …
/r/askTRP19/05/21 11:49 PM
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I'm having trouble with this right now. I let most of my plates break and only have one right now and she calls me her BF and gets pissed when I talk about fucking other chicks. I've never committed to her or anything and she fucked up a few too many times for me to ever see her as LTR material. It fucks with my head because I still have ONS but I'm not really focusing on game ATM more on my businesses and social game. She gets pissed when I do shit without her and acts super disrespectful. It's…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 11:27 PM
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How would you recommend handling the beta emotions?
/r/askTRP19/05/21 11:15 PM
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I have a similar situation. The more "controlling" I am the more I feel like I'm falling out of my frame for hers'. She tops from the bottom. "Hey daddy tell me what to do but what I want you to tell me to do not what YOU WANT me to do" It's weird in my situation because when I DO control and demand she listens but then if things aren't to her liking she lashes out at me. It's VERY strange and something I'm still learning. Very close to calling it quits all together. Every time I'm about to she …
/r/askTRP12/05/21 09:38 PM
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Last but not least; if you cannot overcome your desire to fuck Mary's sweet pussy and you think she is the better deal, then do your chick the favor of breaking up with her. Could you expand on this point?
/r/askTRP12/05/21 08:29 PM
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Well tbh not everyone gets as far. I know for myself I was a PUA getting girls every other night for 1 night stands. Sometimes they'd be "plates" that we'd hook up multiple times after but it was always just meet up dance/drink/fuck. Fun stuff but very unfulfilling. I didn't know these women. I started exploring promoting plates to FWB... Then into OLTRs etc.... At each stage it was a new experience for me that I built upon based on my previous experiences. I had 4 women who were fuckbuddies tha…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 01:10 AM
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James Marshall has a really good story about his fwb Open Multiple Relationship. He was holding hands with one of them and pulled away. Told her straight up "That's what boyfriends and girlfriends do, I don't want to mislead you". She respected him for his openness and they went back to things as normal. If she wants to walk out let her. You set your terms. PROVE them with your actions. You are covertly "misleading" her if you treat her like an LTR with your actions while speaking differently. Y…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 11:13 PM
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Bro There's no worse feeling than cumming inside a woman you don't see a future with or that might be crazy or is crazy. The gymnastics you have to do to get them to take a Day After pill, and the fear of "what if this doesn't work" holy fuck dude. 20 years you'll be stuck with this broad. That moment of cumming in her is glorious but the pain and bs that comes after 100% not worth it unless vetted and you would be ok with having a kid with her. Get a vasectomy, pull out, use condoms, whatever j…
/r/askTRP17/04/21 03:30 PM
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4th option - Have a Harem of women that all fuck each other AND ME because I AM a WARLORD. FUCK YOUR REALITY
/r/askTRP17/04/21 01:22 AM
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This is probably the best advice on this thread. One problem though I've seen is doing this method, that you don't create enough sexual tension.
/r/askTRP16/04/21 03:22 PM
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?
/r/askTRP15/04/21 04:24 AM
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Rollo Tommasi talks about the times when he got the most play was when he was sleeping on a mattress in a hallway of a shanty apt that he shared with others. He just didn't give a fuck. Also if he fucked up and he lost all his wealth tomorrow his wife would stick with him. Because he has something that a lot of people don't have. The ability to pick himself back up, and build from scratch again. The never ending drive and pursuit and passion. I AM
/r/askTRP15/04/21 03:31 AM
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Definitely sounds like someone who just didn't want kids and is upset that they missed out on the cock carousal. I've met women who had kids at 19 with their childhood sweetheart. They're in not the best marriage and long for alpha vibes because dad is a beta, but the kids are their life and why they both stay there. Just sounds like a woman that isn't a good mom and didn't want to be a mom.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 03:25 AM
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You have value. Manifest it in yourself rather than in others. Take that energy you want to spend on her and spend it on yourself. Those that have done the same will resonate with you. DO the work and those that have done the work. You will find each other and you will know them by the fruit they bear.
/r/askTRP15/04/21 03:20 AM
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Facts
/r/askTRP14/04/21 12:38 PM
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Seems healthiest imo. You telling her to apologize seems like negotiated desire. You're telling her to act right, she's showing you how she's going to act in the future. Demoting to plate you could try to tell her to apologize but that seems like more investment IMO and showing you care what she thinks/says and giving her validity and frame. While simultaneously losing yours which IMO will lead to wack sex and more distance from her more frame loss from you. If you can maintain frame of you are …
/r/askTRP14/04/21 03:14 AM
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I literally am dealing with this exact situation. The chick in my situation is BPD. This chick sounds hella similar. I'd say fucking HARD NEXT before you invest anymore time into someone that doesn't respect you. Spend your time getting more plates, cultivating abundance, getting on your game, Frame, gym, hobbies, man shit. Keep up the good work.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 02:01 AM
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Thanks for the clarification.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 01:43 AM
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Ie sometimes my OLTR likes to go walking. So we turn it into a dogging mission. What?
/r/askTRP12/04/21 10:41 PM
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BROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ​ Hahahahahahaha..... do you want a girl that loves you who doesn't fuck you? Sexless marriage? Holy shit. I don't care, it's your life not mine. You're playing these mental gymnastics when it's literally Tball my guy. I love my friends. I love my Parents and My sisters. I DON'T FUCK THEM! The Greeks have 6 different words for love. I can see a flower and get oxytocin release.... I don't care what your decision or choices are. BUT, it sounds like you're playing this cov…
/r/askTRP10/04/21 05:16 PM
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Ok? Then she's using you to get validation and an oxytocin boost. I use my guy friends for emotional stability at times. Just because you use something doesn't mean it's intrinsically "BAD". I use money to get food. I USE food to keep my body healthy. It's a trade. Trading energies, frequencies, goods, currencies of EMOTION, w/e you want to call it. Break it down to it's simplest form. You're getting to existential and semantical. DO YOU ENJOY THE DYNAMIC AND WHAT YOU ARE RECEIVING FOR WHAT YOU …
/r/askTRP10/04/21 04:21 PM
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"i DoNt Do HoOk UpS" Have you seen my onlyfans?
/r/askTRP10/04/21 04:15 PM
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I emotionally like my guy friends. They give me good emotions. They are there for me when I need them emotionally to vent to. It's literally the same thing for a woman. Hence why I said emotional tampon. You're there soaking up all her emotional drama and BS. If she reciprocates and soaks up yours too then cool w/e but in my experience doing so to a woman sets me back. Puts women in my mind as a my mom, someone to bitch to, etc... Also women talk. So she's going to spread your dirty laundry out …
/r/askTRP10/04/21 04:11 PM
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What? If you enjoy just being in a relationship with this person and not getting sex then why the fuck are you here asking? It's not about what she does or doesn't do. It's about your frame. Your reality. I have a handful of women who bring value to my life that I don't fuck. I CHOOSE THAT. I like the attention they give me and the other women they bring around for me to fuck. Doesn't matter what their intentions are or anything else. It's my life I choose how to live it. If you like this chick …
/r/askTRP10/04/21 02:53 PM
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Emotional Tampon.
/r/askTRP10/04/21 02:45 PM
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Partying is fun while you're young. Use it as a tool. Learn how to have fun while you're young. Only thing is don't stay there. If you can transmute that fun energy into all aspects of life it will be invaluable learning experience and great memories. Partying was fun for me in my early years. Fucked chicks, had great experiences, got hammered, did dumb shit. I don't do that anymore. I still go out from time to time but I learned from my adolescence. I enjoy partying from excess and abundance.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:49 PM
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You came here asking for help. Name calling isn't productive energy. You never mentioned you stopped watching porn of fapping in your OP. I found for myself when I was watching porn and jerking off all the time it was because I was bored. Sometimes horny but I was bored and wanted to "get off" "feel something" and that's how I channeled that boredom. Realizing this is unhealthy is a great first step. Not watching porn and fapping is a great first step. NOW direct and channel that energy into som…
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:46 PM
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Law 5: So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.com/2011/05/law-5-so-much-depends-on-reputation.html#:~:text=Especially%20when%20you%20are%20first,places%20others%20under%20a%20spell.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:35 PM
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I think either deleting or not deleting is a solid move. He made the best decision he could at the moment for the outcome OP wanted. Did fine. Not every moment has a perfect correct answer that works for ALL. Why RP is a tool to use in the moment to achieve the desired outcome, not a ONE size fits all for every situation like a cheat code you use in a video game to unlock the legs and get the reward of puss.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 04:24 PM
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“Life is Conflict. Peace is Death.” -Jack Donovan
/r/seduction09/04/21 02:00 PM
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James Marshal on Multiple Relationships. Great video for the talk and the dynamic. One of his rommates before James because who is now. Huge black guy. Had threesomes almost every night. He told James, it's easy just do it. He would tell the women "look I'm the guy you come to for sex. my door is always open, as is my bed. If you're not in it someone else WILL be"
/r/askTRP09/04/21 12:31 AM
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Almost had a virgin unicorn married highschool sweetheart cheat on her husband with me. AWALT
/r/askTRP08/04/21 06:01 AM
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Hahahah I didn't say judging them is a no-no. Do as you please. If though your intentions are to explore and have fun, expressing needy, judgmental attitude towards her will close exploratory paths. Also non judgement ties into fucking a married woman. If you don't judge you are free to do as you please. I don't understand the comparison you are attempting to make between non judgement and fucking married women.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 09:32 PM
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Women will move mountains to be with someone they are attracted. In my book it's either "FUCK YEAH" or "FUCK NO". Imagine if LEO DICAPRIO was messaging her or calling her..... do you think any of those excuses would have come out? Every opening was closed. I'd suggest soft nexting, focus on yourself and gaming other women. Hit her up in a month or so if you feel like it. Most coaches recommend refocusing energy towards new prospects rather than trying to rekindle a doused flame.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:54 PM
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When a woman opens up about her kinks/fetishes and the man reacts (freaks out, weirded out, OMG!) she gets embarrassed/ kink shamed/ DON'T be a HOE societal pressure. She will never open up again and the door is closed. IF you're NOT into it just make note as far as your vetting process for LTR commitment, but ride the wave. Life's a garden, dig it.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:30 PM
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AWALT Branch Swing You weren't fucking her right Loss of Frame Became comfortable AKA BOREing It was just your turn Didn't VET properly Your SMV isn't where it should be / dropped Oneitus set in AND a MILLION MORE A man can drive himself crazy trying to understand why a woman breaks up with him. Re-focus that energy towards yourself, your mission, investing in YOU. IE: Meal prepping, gaming new women (abundance), Lifting, Meditating, Reading, Money in order, hobbies, etc....
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:27 PM
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Check out the Multi Orgasmic Man. Learn your body and how to control it. Masturbation and sex don't have to be a race (sprint or marathon), they can (and it's more rewarding IMO) if it's treated as an exploration. When I go for a hike I don't race to the end. I take in the scene as I go, look around, watch my steps in some places, look for trinkets, bring my awareness to my body as I'm able, etc... Are you hiking or racing?
/r/askTRP04/04/21 02:44 PM
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"I figured it would be the only way to get YOUR attention. Looks like I was right." Bonus points if you wink and lick your lips after
/r/askTRP04/04/21 02:41 PM
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Do you have any plates? Are you going to the gym? I know I see butts, I want to touch the butt. Usually I project that energy out and they receive it and open to my approach or approach me. That comes from comfort in my sexuality. Yes I am a man. Yes you are attractive. Yes I want to fuck you. Yes I am going to fuck you. Frame the concepts into valuable data. It's overwhelming due to not being channeled correctly. Channel it into getting pussy, improving yourself, or into your work (FUCKKK THAT …
/r/askTRP01/04/21 09:48 PM
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"how do I stop years of evolution from effecting my day to day?"
/r/askTRP31/03/21 10:53 PM
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OLTR are things
/r/askTRP27/03/21 09:36 PM
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The world is a big place. What do you want?
/r/askTRP20/03/21 05:48 PM
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Idk what rapport you have with her but: "See you then" or wait for Thursday/ Friday "8 pm (tomorrow/tonight) wear something nice" Or "Yeah my earlier appointment may go longer than expected" She's bratting and trying to control the Frame. Maintain frame, set your boundaries. It will improve your SMV if she is attracted, seems like a shit test. If she isn't she will stop and you won't have to waste time with her. FUCK YES FUCK NO mentality. Polarize her to learn where you stand for your own menta…
/r/askTRP17/03/21 10:33 PM
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Learn Day Game. Much more success.
/r/askTRP17/03/21 09:15 PM
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I don't think it's OVER but it was an opportunity that could have added to your situation that you missed is all.
/r/askTRP17/03/21 08:27 PM
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Giving a warm hug is usually an invitation to kiss. She's ok with physical touch from you, initiated it but due to social constructs most women won't initiate the kiss. Don't worry about ALWAYS kiss closing, not always the best since you're giving her validation without sex. Not game ending but it wasn't a net positive in my mind. Keep up the good work, learn from it, you're aware enough to recognize what you did and how to improve. Do better next time. Get outta your head and FEEL your body, it…
/r/askTRP17/03/21 07:48 PM
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A king doesn't have to tell his minions he is king.
/r/askTRP17/03/21 07:23 PM
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Yeah this sounds fucked. Never show a girl your exs. If she wants to show you her exs say something like -No thanks, -Change subject -Amused Mastery (ew just because you like dick doesnt mean I do) It all depends on the girl and your frame. NEVER I repeat NEVER lose your cool like that. It can be used VERY sparingly, but only once you've established frame and she is in it completely. VERY RARE cases you can get "MAD" to demonstrate "this behavior is not ok". BUT, Usually just soft nexting and re…
/r/askTRP17/03/21 07:08 PM
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Miyazaki movies can be a fun time.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:52 PM
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This guy.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:46 PM
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I disagree. That type of thinking in my mind is irresponsible and can lead to making people feel very uncomfortable, cause unwanted pain/damage, trauma, and getting involved with unsafe people. As the top you are 100% responsible. IMO your comment sounds like "sex is natural, sleep with anyone whenever however, don't use protection".
/r/askTRP13/03/21 07:52 PM
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That's fantastic. You're well on your way. Keep up the good work. I'd like to talk with you more about your career coaching in DM's if you're comfortable with that. I've really resonated with James Marshal's Lifestyle Dynamics recently. His approach to game and life sync up with my experiences. I was going to sign up for his retreat coming up soon, but have been hesitant to jump in. On the lady, thanks for the advice. I plan on calling her later. The flak on target really resonated with me. She …
/r/askTRP11/03/21 12:48 AM
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She and I haven't talked on the phone before so I figure it'd be a little out of ordinary to do so. Sent her "aww she's learning. apology accepted". Her and my dynamic started out as me being a "teacher" since I started the group. She latched to me instantly as the "leader" "her teacher" thing. Stuck with it and I allowed her to get close and start sleeping together. Our dynamic is very d/s but she's constantly trying to top from the bottom. She responded with "yea yea we'll see how long that la…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 09:17 PM
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Your advice is spot on. Thank you! Are you working towards coaching?
/r/askTRP10/03/21 07:58 PM
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Big facts on them being cute when they learn. Honestly I have no idea how to respond. I'm kind of shook, wasn't expecting the change. I'd like to reward the correction of behavior but I don't want to fall into her frame. ​ Any idea?
/r/askTRP10/03/21 06:43 PM
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Holy cow! This is nuts. Normally she reacts and lashes out. I didn't respond all day since I was busy. She sent another message Paraphrasing: I know you haven't had the opportunity to respond yet. I'd like to acknowledge I could have expressed myself and my emotions to you in a mature and respectful way. In the future if we get together like that again hopefully I can regulate my emotions and express them rather than shutting down and being cold. I'm not happy with my insensitivity to you and I'…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 05:33 AM
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HAHAHA! That's hilarious. I'm a little rusty, and my other two plates are great. Very little shit tests. They are very feminine and fun. This other one is always fighting for power and fitness in the relationship. I'm a little out of shape (relationship wise, physically I'm fit af) so I've made some mistakes along the way but I'm just getting back into shape so no harm done. I'm not worried about the group. Since we all met at the same time she and I are basically on equal footing. I "started" a…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 02:23 AM
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Hahaha I was actually going to send her a "i don't negotiate with terrorists" message. I've been rp for about 5 years now since dating a dark triad bpd woman. It's been awhile though with covid and my games a little rusty. I let this plate hold my hand because I was rusty on my game. Getting her got me back in the groove and helped my mindset to get the other 2 (I was doing semen retention due to covid). I held hands with her a few times in public but I'd usually gently pull away. When people wo…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 02:11 AM
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She's very immature. That's why I don't really care. Every time I set a boundary she tries to change logistics and fight for power. Constantly trying to get me to succumb to her. I lift, have a business, have a mission that this group was part of, and dgaf. She knows that but she's very experienced so she catches me slipping sometimes and takes a mile. All my other plates stay in line and we all do whatever the fuck we want.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:59 AM
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Yup/ I just fucked up because when she bluffed to cut me off I gave in. So now I've no contact. It's been about a week? Idk I do "care" because I enjoy having her around, but I have other plates so she wants to pull some shit, bye.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 12:45 AM
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21 studios and James Marshal's LifestyleDesign are very powerful and align more with my values than some RP amoral stuff does. That being said, you are valuable and you don't know your worth yet. There are valuable women but you don't know what they look like. The reason you spin plates and set rules and "play games" is to hone your skills at being a valuable human and being able to tell the difference between a trash fire and a snow tiger. Anderson Paak has a line "all my chicks cook grits, and…
/r/askTRP05/03/21 09:17 PM
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She texted me she was home I said I was glad she was safe. Haven't heard from her. Probably won't. If she does reach out to me I need to let her go. More asking how to let her go when/if she reaches out.
/r/askTRP05/03/21 07:52 PM
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Those are my thoughts. A week or two unblock her and leave it at that, possibly a "hey how are you?" text. If she brings up "the situation" ignore it and talk about something else, or just ignore all together but leave social media unblocked.
/r/askTRP20/09/19 08:29 AM
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When does it blow over? Is there a marker? Also what is my course of action after the fact. Unblock social media and then hit them up with a "hey whats up?" like nothing happened? My only concern is she believes I did something wrong, and my dad told her "I was hurt" and other emotion language so she thinks I'm in my feels. Which isn't true and that didn't help my cause. I was planning on just blocking and then picking up later as if nothing happened, like with any soft next, but there's been mo…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 04:39 AM
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That's why I blocked everyone. I was tired of getting involved in it all. The biggest flaw was I was upset in the beginning of the situation since the Friend basically told me goodbye. The whole reason I was being nice and friendly to her was since I wanted her to work for me. She has a skill set and access to a demographic I've been trying to sell my product to and she would have been a huge asset to my company in marketing. With that anger I had no one to go to and confided in my dad. He saw m…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 04:36 AM
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Exactly. And we weren't up late texting. The friend and her husband live with my sister and her family. I have been visiting every few weekends. We all stay up and watch a netflix show after the kids are in bed. It was a nice way for me to relax and live a non RP life for a moment. Last time I visited the night I visited the friend and I stayed up late talking. We all watched the show, everyone went to be I'm in the living room she's doing the dishes. She has anxiety and it's hard for her to sle…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 04:32 AM
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I blocked my sister and she is trying to guilt trip me since she's trying to resolve the issue and I'm ignoring her.
/r/askTRP20/09/19 01:56 AM
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Wut?
/r/askTRP20/09/19 12:35 AM
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I planned on soft nexting and eventually talking letting it all blow over, but my dad spilled the beans to them and tried to "fix" it. I told him in the beginning about the situation and asked him not to mention anything. He couldn't do that. Told my sister that I "was hurt, the way she acted was wrong, nothing happened so she overreacted, etc..." Kind of spoiled the pot on that end. I still think I just let it ride let everyone get all crazy, just doesn't seem like it'll be that easy since my d…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 12:00 AM
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Lol bro it's so ridiculous. My sister said it was wrong of us to: -stay up late talking -go on a walk alone with her kids (we went to look for my other siblings who went on a walk with their kids) -exchange gifts (she's an old friend and I let her borrow a movie and she let me borrow a book) At the end of the day she was attracted to me and me her there were IOI's but nothing happened. So much so that the above are the best examples she could come up with us being inappropriate. I know it's not …
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:56 PM
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Exactly! Thanks for reaffirming what I felt. I keep letting it get under my skin and realized it was the last chink in my armor (probably not last but a blind spot I was unaware of). My sister knows how to push my buttons and wanted to shift the power dynamic back in her favor. Her husband is a beta who lets her act out and is the sole provider. They're super religious and I cut them off. Each time I cut them off and get over it (about a day or 2) they prod at me again. Done with it.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:51 PM
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This exactly. I was using my sister as an escape from real life. Got to go be uncle me and not have to deal with all the stress of my normal life. I showed up and had the freedom of no family and the responsibility of making myself into a great human and so she tried to get at me and "prove" I'm still the beta I used to be. So I cut it off. I don't need that kind of shit testing. I don't blame my dad for his actions just need to be more cautious and change topics with him. My sister fabricated s…
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:47 PM
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It seems like the last blue pilled part of my life. I have quite a bit going on and it keeps nagging at me every time I deal with it. It's like I block one leak and 2 more pop up. I got fed up with it and walked away since it's not my fucking problem and I have enough on my plate. Also my sister has always known how to get under my skin, so I thought asking RP what they thought might help me get perspective.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:44 PM
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When you re-read the sidebar do you just start from the beginning. I got wrapped up in some BS and feel like I could use a refresher course.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 09:53 PM
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The one hard part is my dad. He's not involved in the life of the sister that started all this drama. I confided in him in the very beginning and asked him not talk to them about any of it if confronted. He agreed to say "that is between you and your brother talk to him." My sister contacted him and he crumbled like a dry muffin under pressure. "Your brother is hurt, the way you accused him wasn't right, nothing happened, etc..." So that throws a wrench into everything as well. I figure talking …
/r/askTRP19/09/19 09:51 PM
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That's what I did 3 weeks ago and my sister just realized I blocked her. She contacted me through text. I ignored it, she contacted me again giving me this guilt trip pity party "look I'm trying to fix this" bs. Yet the whole text was riddled with condescending attitudes and whenever she took responsibility she then laid it back at my feet. IE "I did this wrong and you did this wrong lets fix it". She reads a bunch of self help mommy instagram BS and thinks she's fucking doctor phil.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 09:44 PM
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LOL ​ Very insightful thanks for the help.
/r/askTRP14/09/19 07:47 PM
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Oh like whine about my sisters being mean to make her see me as a bitch? lol
/r/askTRP05/09/19 07:33 PM
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whining?
/r/askTRP05/09/19 07:20 PM
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For sure. I don't have many friends and having a female friend with no strings attached felt good. Thanks for the advice. This is is incredibly helpful.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 02:02 AM
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I care because this chick is a cool friend and my sister just told me I was disrespectful to everyone in her home. That sounds like an attack. Do you recommend I just ignore?
/r/askTRP05/09/19 12:22 AM
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Tell who? My sister? She's upset because it "happened under her roof".
/r/askTRP04/09/19 11:05 PM
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You're telling me. My sister has to police her friend and roommate who is an adult and I'm the bad guy for enjoying my visit. So ridiculous. I'm so bewildered.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 11:05 PM
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Interesting take.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 10:59 PM
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Went to sister's house. She has a married woman living with her. When I left my sister accused me of being inappropriate with the married woman. She is "upset and embarrassed" that it happened "under her roof". Nothing happened.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 10:58 PM
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I don't think that would ever happen. She apologized to me taking all the blame actually. That's part of why I even care. This woman is a really nice human and we get along really well. She's a really good friend and one of the few people I'm open with. Another part of why I'm even posting this and upset. This chick is an awesome part of my life and allows me to just talk openly without judgement. That's rare to find, and it blows my mind since I'm so what I would consider BP with her and she's …
/r/askTRP04/09/19 10:57 PM
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I basically did every BP thing that RP says not to do with women, since she's a friend and I put my guard down and friendzoned her.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 09:36 PM
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Long talks = drytown Which is the crazy thing. Her and I stayed up late the first night having a long talk. I thought it was friendzone territory.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 09:15 PM
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In her text she basically said "I'm sorry I'm attracted to you and I behaved inappropriately". This is uncharted waters for me. How do I make a joke of that? Mr S and I are not super close but we get along when we hang out. Talk about life music video games
/r/askTRP04/09/19 08:50 PM
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How would I go about bringing it up to her husband to joke about it. "LOL did you hear what T and Z texted me. These bitches are crazy?"
/r/askTRP04/09/19 08:33 PM
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Solid gold.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 08:24 PM
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Why is this posted in the askRP subreddit? This isn't a question.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 02:29 AM
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"kiss-closes may look impressive and feed your ego, but aren't technically optimal." That's an interesting point. Yeah most of my encounters at night I'm able to skip a lot of the lower steps so I need more practice in those areas. Thanks again for the recommendation.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 09:08 PM
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Awesome! Thank you.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 08:30 PM
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Any recommendations? We live 2hrs from each other. I plan on visiting my family again in 2 weeks so maybe then but it's on her turf again. She goes to school and works. I run a business 8-10 hours a day so the only time would be when I visit really. Unless I invite her out for night time, but it would be premeditated sleep over, which most likely won't fly (plausible deniability/excuse to come out that isn't "wants sum fuk"). ​ The biggest thing is setting it up. Interest fades after about a wee…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 12:34 AM
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if a woman throws you her validation and you throw it on the floor and step on it, the bagina waters will flow. I didn't feed into her validation and she got hurt/offended.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 12:31 AM
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Hmmm idk it seemed like when her demeanor changed it almost came across as she was offended I didn't make a move or act more aggressive. Or at least disappointed. I get the taking girls for rollercoaster of emotions and not putting them on pedestals (you are the prize), but it was almost like she was hurt I didn't reciprocate. IE: "i set the meet place, and what to do. The least he could do is make a move". I could be reading too much into it, projecting my own insecurities, etc.. but it was new…
/r/askTRP31/07/19 08:16 PM
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That's how I am proceeding with her. Ya this whole post came down to I was feeling trapped. Work, gym, yoga, day in day out. Then the little time I had to enjoy myself I was wasting going out to the bars, to spend time with people I don't like. She was one of the few people I enjoyed spending time with and it became and "escape". Her not being interested or whatever is that went on just made me realize I wasn't happy with myself and what I was doing. What's the point type mentality. Headed out o…
/r/askTRP31/07/19 08:07 PM
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Yeah I hit her up again and she said she was out of town asking what I was doing. Told her to hit me up when she was back in town. No response. I'll give it a poke later down the line, but it's either more work that it's worth or she's just not that into me, meaning I should be working on myself more anyway. It hit me hard not because of the event, it was more the straw that broke the camels back. I took the weekend and went to the beach. Reset with family and I'm back on track.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 09:50 PM
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Yeah, I used to be a class 5 clinger and would get oneitis really fast and easily. Now all I do is ONS so I'm probably over compensating.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 08:44 PM
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Yeah that makes sense. I wouldn't say I ignored her, but I was trying to not be stuck on her. Plus most of the party she was hanging out with our mutual friend. He and I are really close and always together so I try to not spend the whole time with him and expand my social circle. While they were hanging out it was nothing but highschool catching up and gossip and I was not about to join that conversation. Also trying to work on "you can do your own thing and I can do my own thing" mentality and…
/r/askTRP23/07/19 08:03 PM
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Hahaha good point. I over analyse everything.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 07:57 PM
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That's what I was trying to go about doing when I said food sounds good but she basically said no to that. Yes. How does plating work? I've read about it on here, but I pretty much have only done ONS since any time I try to plate I catch oneitis so I've just avoided it. Unless she fucked guy X, lets be honest she probably did.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 07:56 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. ​ I understand I need to improve and am constantly trying to, hence this post. Is there anything specific that stood out or just overall?
/r/askTRP23/07/19 07:20 PM
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Obviously, but I can't get it out of my head. Haven't really been rattled in a minute and it upsets me that I'm rattled, and it's a snowballing affect. For sure, you don't think I should proceed with her at all just chalk it up as a loss and move on?
/r/askTRP23/07/19 07:06 PM
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I didn't pay for Guy X and her drinks? I bought a pitcher when we arrived. Guy X got in the car with her and I on the way to the bar and then I left the bar after the food conversation. Yeahhh the text from me could have been more like "Yeah it was a fun night" or anything other than "lol I thought you were leaving". Wait what? I don't get the third mistake? I meant every "other" chick if that's what you meant.
/r/askTRP23/07/19 07:03 PM
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True.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 04:23 AM
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Well yeah, I think someone else already is, and very poorly at that. Otherwise I wouldn't have them wanting me.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 02:32 AM
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Pretty sure she's engaged (not married, even tho she said "married") and religious. ​ Also guessing she was down, thought it over, realized her religious beliefs and social circle friends etc.. hold more weight and backed out, while trying to simultaneously put the burden on me. ​
/r/askTRP28/02/19 06:10 AM
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I was trying to get as many people to go as possible and thought it would be fun tbh.
/r/askTRP28/02/19 03:30 AM
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I didn't mind if it was on the table, but also wasn't going to push it. Figured "hey we're going as a group if you want to come" was clear enough.
/r/askTRP28/02/19 03:30 AM
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