I hate that ignoring shit and ghosting/withdrawing attention is the only option. Playing the game of “who cares less” when a girl your seeing is acting shitty.

I hate that you can’t treat a girl like a human being, and talk to her and say, “did you really not realize that when you did x, y, z, it was really hurtful? Put yourself in my shoes and imagine how you would feel, you would be upset if I did that to you.” Nope, you can’t do that. You have to say “yeah, everything is cool, I’m a cocky/funny robot” and just go game other girls and ignore her.

The only way to not get hurt, in my experience, is to remain completely unattached. Apathetic. Because if you get invested in her, and she does shit that hurts your feelings, you can’t talk about it. When you talk about it, it sounds like you are whining and bitching. Telling her that what she did was hurtful, makes her see you as less of a man. She will most likely gaslight you, think of you as a whiny bitch, and move on to someone else.

I hate that you need to play the game of “who cares less, who is more of an emotionless apathetic sociopath” when seeing girls.

How do you get over the need to tell her that she hurt you, when she is acting oblivious and gaslighting you?

How are you guys content with just ghosting her, and leaving her thinking she didn’t do anything wrong?