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the only metric is to create a connection, get her contact and set up a date, not the number of failed attempts
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:35 AM
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Meaning he gets rejected a LOT
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:21 AM
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There's nothing to improve. You already have it. So the better question to ask yourself is who or what makes you think you don't? There's nothing to fix and nothing to improve. You just need to accept it.
/r/seduction16/05/25 03:33 PM
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At the core this anxiety is rooted in a lower self worth so that's where I'd start. To drive the point, imagine you approaching a fat sloppy woman with a mustache, would you feel anxious? My guess is probably not because subcounsiously you value yourself higher than her ( sorry nothing against mustached women). You see my point? Remember, your personality is your personal reality. The world around you changes, including all the pretty women in it, when yuo change how you see yourself. It's a jou…
/r/seduction05/03/25 03:26 AM
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Go champ don't stop now
/r/seduction05/03/25 03:13 AM
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Here’s what I’m trying to share with you: Stop trying to act like a "player" and actually be one— . If you think you can fake it without anyone noticing, you're better off going to Hollywood! You're trying to act because you fear that being yourself is not enough, and that's a problem. Anyway, only you know if all these gambits really work for you.
/r/seduction06/09/24 01:59 PM
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attracting women is very easy if you know how to." Listen, I get that, unfortunately, this is the only advice you found online but it doesn’t make it true to correct. This reminds me of the mouse story that spoils a large bag of grains just to eat a few—focusing on tiny wins while missing the bigger picture: real connections, meaningful relationships, and genuine attraction. I'm sorry if i sound harsh but better you hear it now than later. All the best
/r/seduction06/09/24 03:29 AM
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You really think attracting women is as simple as following a step by step manual - like assembling a bookshelf or something? ‘Compliance tests’? really, that's creepy. Here’s the truth you're missing : People aren’t predictable, and no one’s falls for a guy working a checklist like an accountant in tax season. Ditch the script and start acting like an actual human being.
/r/seduction05/09/24 10:51 PM
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There's nothing creepy about expressing romantic interest or flirting as long as it's respectful and authentic. When a girl approaches you or smiles at you, do you immediately think she's creepy? Probably not, unless she really is, so same thing for guys. No one can think you're creepy if you leave them better than you found them, it's impossible :)
/r/seduction05/09/24 10:22 PM
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Watching lots of porn can give the impression that sex should be as simple as asking for it, but real life is a bit more complex. I think you're frustrated because you don't understand how the rules and how to play this game, not because sex it taboo. Sex isn't taboo, there are millions of people having sex right now! All the best.
/r/seduction04/09/24 08:53 PM
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100+ dates is great, you just need to figure out why you can't take it further. The word that stands out to me is "needy". Listen, I am sure you are a sweet guy, but being needy is a turn off to both men and women. One would think it's great to have someone who "needs you" right, but it's not. The psychology behind human interactions and relationships is complicated, so I'd suggest you to try to figure out where this need comes from, really sit with it, is it emotional need, go where it takes yo…
/r/seduction04/09/24 08:32 PM
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You might want to bring that spaceship down to Earth a bit. Being an aerospace engineer doesn’t make you smart, just like being successful with women doesn’t make one less smart. Passing judgements is such a turn off to women (and men) no one likes to be around that.
/r/seduction04/09/24 08:03 PM
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You're missing the point buddy. Remember, getting a number is NOT your goal; it's just a side effect of making a genuine connection.
/r/seduction04/09/24 03:09 AM
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You're not alone. Most guys have a hard time transitioning to physical, hence all the drinking and next day remorse. But it's nothing to beat yourself over because there's a simple fix to this. Laugh at yourself instead of feeling embarrassed. Laugh at your awkwardness and use it to your advantage. Girls at your age (assuming early 20s) don't expect you to be all confident and smooth (although it helps). So the easiest way you can resolve this is to just acknowledge it find humor around it (self…
/r/seduction03/09/24 10:23 PM
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Let me ask you, do you get anxious when offering help to an old lady with her bags? Probably not, right? That’s because in that moment, you’re outward-focused—you’re being of service, thinking about her needs, not your own. So here’s a quick solution you're looking for: apply that same outward mindset to everyone, including girls. Reframe your interactions as opportunities to give, not take. How do you do that with girls? Well, can you make her laugh or smile? Can you hold a door? Can you offer …
/r/seduction27/08/24 09:39 PM
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You're fine, you don't have to be perfect or really fix anything. Sorry i didn't answer your question directly. If you want lots of casual hook ups you'll need to go out more and approach more girls. Approaching is easy, the tricky part is to turn approach to a hookup. Easiest way is through humor. A french writer said "femme qui rit, femme au lit" or "a women who laughs is a woman in bed". Oh you're not a stand up comedian, that's ok, start with self witty deprecating humor plus is very charmin…
/r/seduction27/08/24 05:11 PM
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Yes it does. I'm an introvert :)
/r/seduction27/08/24 03:09 PM
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You've been fooled into this idea of "game" form the PUA , Alpha and whatever other community online. A bunch of nerds that never got laid, who spent their childhood and teenage years scrolling chat rooms, and yet have found "hacks", pink boas, openers, nail polish and whatever else that work on girls with daddy issues and low self esteem. My sense is this game is not you and deep down you know it, but you haven't found a better alternative. The only game to play is the game that you like, enjoy…
/r/seduction27/08/24 02:47 PM
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Attractiveness and not sure what outstanding means are not important to either white, red, yellow, black or any other color women. But the focus on white girls only is not healthy imo, perhaps your friend should reconsider where that comes from and why. I am what you call "brown", I am not a native speaker and I dated a ton from all races. There's beautiful women of every race. Keep in mind that if someone is somewhat prejudiced personally or culturally, then there's nothing you can do to change…
/r/seduction27/08/24 02:30 PM
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You're not being authentic to the girls or to yourself. It sounds like what you really want is a LTR, but don't think you can have a LTR because of reasons you convinced yourself are reality, so you're settling for FWB. First, decide what you want...If you want to sleep with a different chick every weekend, that's ok, but own it. If you want LTR that's ok too, own it. For many years all I wanted was to have as many romantic adventures with as many beautiful women as I could and I did. Now I don'…
/r/seduction27/08/24 02:12 PM
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Good advice. My only problem with "Acting/fakin your way to.." is that it's not as lasting as working on a deeper level like identity. You can act and it will work but you risk being "knocked off" that act and not have what it takes to overcome it or deal with it. Here's an example: I'm in line at the store, behind me is a couple, the guy is ripped with prison tattoos all over.. everything about him screams I am tough. A big black guy with dreads comes straight and goes for the register...Guess …
/r/seduction27/08/24 01:33 PM
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She's giving you a little test to figure you out a bit.. my guess is you're not getting an A here. Guys, please have a sense of humour, be charming, be playful. There's a million things you could say and it really doesn't matter what you say... What matters is HOW you say it. If she says "just be friends" you say "of course!" we're just friends... we're friends who kiss and hold hands..etc..just be playful. My advice to you is laugh at yourself and learn to detach yourself from what people say i…
/r/seduction27/08/24 01:01 PM
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The Basics are that it starts that way but rarely ends that way. Women who can be that "friend with benefits" are rare, and the reason is that sex for women is emotional while sex for men is physical. We (men) can sustain "friends with benefits" relationship forever but not women. Think of what's the friendship worth to you before jumping in bed.
/r/seduction27/08/24 12:33 PM
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Glad you asked. Edited, hope you like it. Thanks
/r/seduction15/04/24 05:51 PM
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witty banter
/r/seduction03/03/24 06:24 PM
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You're comparing seduction to a job interview and that's a mistake. Women dont tabulate you like an accountant. A woman does not calculate your assets and your 401k to decide to date or sleep with you. The only thing that will determine whether or not she will enter into any sort of relationship with you is the quality and intensity of the emotions that you makes her feel.
/r/seduction03/03/24 06:23 PM
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Alright guys, let me add this: you don't need to be on the dance floor if you don't like dancing. Unless you're in a Salsa club, your dance move won't be enough for you to pick up a chick but it's a good ice breaker. It shows you're comfortable in your own skin and willing to go along and have fun and not afraid to look stupid. unless you're MJ, that's what dancing portrays to others. There are many "personas" in clubs and the only one you should not adopt is the "guy standing in the bar staring…
/r/seduction03/03/24 06:14 PM
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To a certain degree but remember beauty is subjective. My friend who's short 5'6 and has a big hawky nose was considered very attractive in China. You don't have to look like guys in the magazines to be successful.
/r/seduction03/03/24 06:00 PM
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Yes, you're overthinking and in your head too much. Do you dance at home to a groovy tone when no one is watching? If so, than that's what you should be doing either on the dance floor, at the bar, whatever it feels like. If you dance and stare at people i.e. looking for validation than you're NOT having fun and you'll feel worse. Think about times you talked to a friend about the latest thing you're excited about, did you stare him down and were you worried about how you're looking? Prbly not, …
/r/seduction03/03/24 05:56 PM
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Some timewasters, some are actually guys in Nigeria but most likely it's about what you said or didn't say. By now this should tell you that you need to change something about your messaging, approach...etc. Take that as a positive sign and make changes. Only fools do the same thing expecting a different result. cheers
/r/seduction03/03/24 04:51 AM
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You're in your head too much. I was kinda like you 20 years ago but you wouldn't recognize me now. You live in your head too much. You're not autistic or whatever, you're shy and too much in your head. Forget girls for now. Do what makes you feel good and forget the rest. Please read some of my posts that can help. Otherwise, reach out directly if you need some help.
/r/seduction03/03/24 04:49 AM
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First, you don't really know if that's the reason. She could be dead for all you know or she was actually a dude in Nigeria. If you start reacting to the internet where nothing is real and everything is fake then you're in deep trouble. If you're short or really short you're gonna have need to compensate that with other things and that's just a fact. That's why lots of comedians are not good looking (they grew up compensating into something positive (humor). Also, the heigh issue seems to matter…
/r/seduction03/03/24 04:43 AM
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The only guys who think that women care about looks are the ones who have no idea what women want and women psychology. Sure you need to have good hygiene but looks not really. That's why you see so many guys drive to the gym in a brand new Tesla and a 6packs abs and still can't get a date. I've slept with an unreasonable number of women and I am just slightly above average looking. But what I do have is tons of charm, charisma witty bander and a good flirt. Don't let this false idea of looks ge…
/r/seduction03/03/24 04:24 AM
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Nightclubs are not the best places to approach especially when you're in a group of guys and the girls are in a group too. Add in large doses of alcohol, cock blockers, overprotective girlfriends and you have a recipe for rejection. That's not to say that you can't pick up in nightclubs. You can, but you can't do it while in a group, you can't hover etc. Best approach is to actually have fun! Who knew. GO on the dance floor and dance alone. Girls will notice you in minutes. Hopefully you're not …
/r/seduction03/03/24 04:12 AM
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Salsa is great if you like to dance. No point in learning to salsa if you're not the kind of guy who enjoys dancing right. I'd recommend you to pick activities or hobbies you enjoy and not to meet women. Women are everywhere and you'll find them in any class or activity you chose.
/r/seduction17/10/22 12:43 AM
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I'd forget about approaching just yet and focus on exercising your social muscles. Sounds like you already have the biceps taken care of so now its time for your social muscles. I would make it daily habit to talk to every cashier, sales person, old woman at the store, the homeless guy...etc. You need to be able to strike a conversation with anyone, learn how to ask for their name, where they're from...etc Try to learn one thing about them (you don't have to do this all in the same time). This s…
/r/seduction11/08/22 09:46 PM
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If you believe yourself to be low status then you're low status and you'll believe that life is unfair and unjust. Wrong, you're just not putting the work. Remember "the man who says I can and the man who says I can't are both correct"
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:08 AM
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Sure, thanks
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:00 AM
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okay, thank you
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:59 AM
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Before you go see her, take down the number of a good lawyer
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:58 AM
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I still think Indirect openers are best for newbies starting out.
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:54 AM
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Never say never.. keep an open mind
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:47 PM
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Open with your NASA openers all you want, I am sure it's working out great for you
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:44 PM
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This rule is for men to accept their average condition... be happy with your average wife, average job, average salary... There are no rules.
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:42 PM
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Ok, so you define high status with external beauty. Right there is your problem.
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:33 PM
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Follow this rule if you want to live an average life and die full of regret. Would you not apply for a better job because you didn't think you'd qualify?
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:29 PM
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Thank you. Got similar posts you might like.
/r/seduction10/06/22 01:45 PM
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You don't approach your friend...that's the point of friendship. You approach strangers.
/r/seduction10/06/22 01:15 PM
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If you can't start a conversation with a complete stranger than this is definitely not for you (yet). When you can start conversing with just about anyone, you'll also be able to start approaching any girl you like.
/r/seduction10/06/22 12:56 PM
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Absolutely, minus the shouting of course. Think of the last time you started a conversation with another person, not talking just about women - Did you start by asking lots of questions or did you make a statement like "nice weather today" without really expecting a return? You guessed it, it's not about the shoes or the weather. Can you take something as mundane as a shoe or the weather and still be able to get the other person to feel a certain way - amused, intrigued, curious... Can you do th…
/r/seduction10/06/22 11:50 AM
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here's some examples: At the local grocery market parking lot ask for a ride to the other part of town or a ride to the next city. Ask stranger for a breath mint Ask a stranger for $100 Ask for a free room at a hotel Ask for a free diner at your local diner Ask a stranger to borrow their car Ask a motorcycle driver to borrow his bike Ask a stranger for deodorant Ask a stranger for their sunglasses Ask a stranger to cosign a car loan Ask a stranger to buy you alcohol
/r/seduction09/06/22 09:33 PM
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Absolutely. I could care less if she calls me flawed, or shallow, or both. My honor and self-respect are non-negotiables. These girls aren't evil and I like to think that most people aren't out there to hurt each other. However, people will give you, and continue giving you, only what you're willing to take. My experience is that most people have extremely low Emotional intelligence and/or are too lazy to see things from someone else's perspective because it's hard work. You can't ask people to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:56 AM
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Absolutely. See my inner game post on the same topic.
/r/seduction06/06/22 09:29 PM
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Great question, I'll edit the post to include that. So, here is what you can do. These may not look like they'd help you increase your value but from my experience they do and others who tried it. In a journal, write down - Write down all the qualities you have. In the event that you can't come up with any, what qualities do you think you can easily have? Are you kind, are you a good listen, are you empathetic, are fun, are you generous, are you healthy like a bull, are you punctual, hard-workin…
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:43 PM
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I wrote a post on the subject that might help. cheers https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies_guide_to_approach_rejection_isnt_what_you/
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:18 PM
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I wrote a post you might find helpful. cheers https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies\_guide\_to\_approach\_rejection\_isnt\_what\_you/
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:17 PM
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Wrote a post about this that might interest you. cheers https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies_guide_to_approach_rejection_isnt_what_you/
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:15 PM
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Wrote a post on the subject that might interest you. cheers https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies_guide_to_approach_rejection_isnt_what_you/
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:14 PM
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I wrote a post about that might interest you. Cheers https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies_guide_to_approach_rejection_isnt_what_you/
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:14 PM
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Great post. Wrote a similar post that might interest you. cheers https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies_guide_to_approach_rejection_isnt_what_you/
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:13 PM
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That's very kind. I can't write so i write like i speak :)
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:24 AM
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Vikings? nice lol
/r/seduction06/06/22 07:14 AM
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Thank you
/r/seduction05/06/22 05:06 PM
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Thanks for sharing. Kudos for self-reflecting and self retrospection you're doing. Looks like treatment has worked out well ;) I too remember dating pre-internet too. At the end is still a guy trying to meet a girl, only the how changes.
/r/seduction05/06/22 04:40 PM
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Thanks for your comment. Her perceived value is not as important. Yours is the only one that matters. If She's a 6 and thinks she's a 10, man good for her, everyone should feel like a 10. But does it mean she's not worth meeting? perhaps yes or no. The only question worth answering is are you attracted to her? if not, move on and let them be. Also, your 10 might be my 6 and vice versa. That's why i never use numbers like that. Imo, If you always wait for signals you're missing so many fun and in…
/r/seduction05/06/22 02:50 PM
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Solo is best always.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:21 AM
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3 messages and you still think it's a good strategy? Time to change your appraoch if you ask me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 06:20 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with putting a girl on a pedestal for a while at least. Guys, how can you seduce and romance a woman if you don't put her on a little pedestal? You can't have it both ways. You can't seduce her and not give in a little from your end. it's a 2 ways street. You catch more flies with honey type of thing. You have to get comfortable with being vulnerable. Approaching women and seduction is about being vulnerable, it's like being naked. This is what attracts women, it's not…
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:34 PM
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thank you
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:11 PM
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Happy to hear, thanks
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:11 PM
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Partly yes. here is a fun exercise to seek rejection: Everytime you are at a cashier, ask for a 10% discount. Two things will happen: 1. you'll be surprised how often you get teh 10% lol 2. You'll see that most cashier want to do it, but they can't bc their boss, policy..etc SO, what does this tell you? You're not rejected because YOU asked.... you're rejected because of sometihing else. See the difference? it's not personal. LIsten, in the grand scheme of things its just words exchanged in this…
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:03 PM
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Nothing wrong with showing interests to women you like even if it doesn't result in much.I personally don't like to stare too much without doing anything else, especially if our eyes cross. I have to show interest with a smile, or i can tilt my head to the side and smile or make a face, or i can simply wave hi.... She may not respond the way you want it but trust me she'll notice and if nothing else she'll appreciate the genuine effort and compliment... cheers
/r/seduction04/06/22 08:57 PM
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I focused on people not just women, but honestly your affirmation is as good as mine. This is by no mean a set in store list but just to show examples. What more important is Repetition. Daily, many times a day if possible. Keep it short 5-10 so that you memorize quickly remove any excuses for missing. Repeat them while you walk, while you brush your teeth. Also smile when you say them. The footballl player Ray lewis has a great short list on Spotifiy "The IAM affirmations" and "affirmations for…
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:10 PM
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You know what I'd kill to have? Your courage and resolve buddy ;) My older brother stutters to this day, although less noticeable now, and he's 20 times more accomplished that I could ever dream to be.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:52 PM
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Really Happy you liked it. Thank you
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:37 PM
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Gladly
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:13 PM
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Truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:06 PM
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I did too. I recommend it to everyone.
/r/seduction04/06/22 04:41 PM
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You're the reason girls don't do one-night stands...Stop clinging. Enjoy the memory and the sex for what it was....a 1 night stand. If it's really meant to be it will happen.
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:08 PM
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Great question: Use your hands, use fun metaphors and analogies and my favorite practice saying " I want a ham sandwich" Imagine conveying emotions, directiosn..etc by only those 5 words. Last, watch comedy, join drama or improv class.
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:05 PM
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Stop trying to not act as if .. its counter productive
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:02 PM
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I was exactly like that. I just wrote this post that I hope can help. ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v4olvs/rookies_guide_to_overcoming_approach_anxiety/
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:00 PM
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I wrote about this a post. Part of having low self-esteem or negative self-esteem often translates into falsely believing that women look for and desire those qualities we lack. If you're 5'5 there's no hiding that. So you have to own that. Think Of Joe Pesci in Goodfellas....did you even for one second think about why you'd scared of such a small guy? No because he owned it. You can embellish certain aspects of your life such as inflate your income but that's a waste of time. Women don't care a…
/r/seduction04/06/22 01:58 PM
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Wrote similar post that might interest you. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v4olvs/rookies\_guide\_to\_overcoming\_approach\_anxiety/
/r/seduction04/06/22 01:43 PM
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Just Wrote a post based on your feedback. Hope you and rookies find it useful: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v4olvs/rookies_guide_to_overcoming_approach_anxiety/
/r/seduction04/06/22 01:24 PM
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If your majority of approaches don't result in success, maybe it's time to change it up a bit, no? I agree that the less attached you are to the outcome the more successful you'll be. I disagree with hanging out with a bunch of dudes. The pack is the refuge for guys and it's obvious. And Women rarely approach groups of men hanging out drinking. It could happen in a crowded bar, or if you're in college, sure I can see that. but it doesn't work any other place imo. here is why: The way you interac…
/r/seduction03/06/22 11:36 AM
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Thank you. You're already putting way too much pressure on yourself and the situation. You can open with anything but I recommend using environmental or situational queues around you. This will also help you stay in the moment and not in your head as much. You can always use the simple and tested opener like "hi i saw you sitting there and I had to come over and say hello" , or is she seems to be waiting alone for someone you say something like "is your internet date running late again" she'll s…
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:08 PM
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Good looks help for sure but still go out an improve your self.
/r/seduction02/06/22 06:46 PM
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To the contrary. It shows respect to the other person's time and attention. You're asking from someone to give you -the stranger- their full attention and time. Let's say you want to talk to you boss, you'll probably say something like " Mike, do you have a couple of minutes to talk about this and that" or something of that nature. And that's with someone you know, so why would it be different with a complete stranger No one knows your schedule or what you're doing. That's the same voice that te…
/r/seduction02/06/22 05:57 PM
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Exactly. You do your best and whatever happens after that is almost not important. But do you best first. Glad you like it, means a lot.
/r/seduction02/06/22 05:45 PM
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Don't get bogged down on the technicals... remember the whole thing is about you learning and growing as a person. She's not attracted who cares.. you don't need her validation anyways ;)
/r/seduction02/06/22 05:02 PM
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I wouldn't this seduction but the points i mentioned will increase the chances of you getting to the seduction part. Does it make sense?
/r/seduction02/06/22 05:00 PM
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Women (for the most part) don't care as much about the physical appearance as we do. She may not be attracted to you, so what?? That doesn't ruin everything does it? You've just met someone new and you've expanded your social circle.
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:21 PM
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Correct, when gesturing and if you talk with your hands a lot ( like i do). I'll edit the post. Thanks
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:41 PM
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Great analogy and advice!!
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:39 PM
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Thank you. I still think time constraints is important to the person you're approaching but also for the approacher. Say the interaction isn't going the way you want or maybe she turns you off, you can end it quickly and gracefully. It puts you in command of the interaction so to speak. Notice salesmen use that all the time.
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:37 PM
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You never rethink what you say or question yourself? Must be nice to have that luxury. For me I think of myself as a work in progress. There is a great quote that sums my motto best: " If you're not ashamed of the person you were 6 months ago, you're not learning enough"
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:30 PM
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Not when you walk man lol when you speak. Always use an open hand and up if possible.
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:49 PM
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My definition of "approach Failure" is to NOT get a number at the end of the approach, not failing to approach. Perhaps I should have made that more clear. I struggled with anxiety too. I'll share things that worked for me in another post. Of course rejection is part of the game. I get rejected all the time. Actually, often i seek rejection to move on to the good stuff faster. Cheers
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:33 PM
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Absolutely! 80% of the time men get rejected because of how they approached, what they said or didn't say. It's that simple. If you don't take responsibility for yourself and your actions you'll never succeed at anything. Of course I try to avoid failures.. who doesn't ?? When you go in for a job interview do you dress nice and talk nice, yes mam no mam,...etc why? Same thing here. Go out there and have fun
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:12 PM
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You are so correct. This explains the point I was making better. I edited the post. Great feedback thanks
/r/seduction02/06/22 11:39 AM
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The only rule in approaching is to NOT be boring. You don't sound like a boring person but you might come off as one. It's not about what you say, the openers, thepickupp lines, and all the rest of the PUA BS. It's about your experience. What is your experience? Right now your experience is boredom. When you approach a woman, the approach part is just to make contact. You can open with anything but you need to immediately bring her into your experience. I think that's where you're failing. So cr…
/r/seduction30/05/22 11:43 AM
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It's hard to not get laid as a gringo in Colombia. Latin women know that white guys are shy and awkward so don't worry about it. It will work for you. If you just want to get laid in colombia that's easy. Just go to any club or bar and chill. Chicks will come to you or give you strong signals. Just say hi and smile. Toast from far if you're really shy. But If you want to get more social or get out of your shell and feel comfortable around women while in Colombia then just be friendly, curious ab…
/r/seduction30/05/22 11:04 AM
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Would you give your number to a complete stranger without any conversation? Then why would you expect anyone else to do that
/r/seduction30/05/22 10:28 AM
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8 months and 100 isn't that many but at least you're approaching, so good job there. Without more details its hard to give you advice: are you getting numbers? how are you being rejected? Rejection is normal. If you're approaching a hot lawyer on her way to court then you'll get rejected. So Time and place is very important.
/r/seduction30/05/22 10:23 AM
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Exactly, don't be "that guy" he describes. You obviously don't get women yet, which is ok, but what's even worse is that is you'll never be able to understand women with this mentality. What you describe is not working for you which is why you're posting about it. It might be time to accept that you're wrong and course correct. have you ever thought that you might be the problem and not every other women on earth?
/r/seduction30/05/22 09:58 AM
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It's normal to feel all those things. I personally approached many hundreds of women and it takes time for the anxiety to turn into fun. Everyone should learn how to approach because every relationship on earth started with an approach. Albeit, not all were complete strangers, but you get my point. I recommend every guy should learn this because the skills you'll have to develop will positively impact all areas of your life. Aside from the opportunity to meet a complete stranger, it will help yo…
/r/seduction26/05/22 08:01 AM
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Sounds like you're a better man for it now. I am not sure how long you've been out of the game but you just need to get out there but this time with an improved strategy. Maybe not strategy but let's call it mindset and inner frame. It also depends on your age, location etc. For example I live in Miami Beach and age is never an issue. I could easily date a 23 year old , which I don't, and no one would care. Contrast that with living in DC, age is the first thing chicks ask and then it's "where d…
/r/seduction25/05/22 09:44 AM
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My initial comment was "good riddance", but i didn't know how you'd take that lol.. I see life as a train ride. Some passengers come in for 1 stops, others 2 stops and so on. Mine were mostly 1 stoppers and I am grateful for each one of them. Each added something to me. Our lives merged for a few miles and because we both kinda knew that we lived it to the fullest. Anyway, I think If you look at life this way, it gets easier to let them go and to see them go. Cheers,
/r/seduction24/05/22 10:49 AM
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So you're misunderstanding my attempt to help guys who struggle with approaching women with me boasting on reddit, great. You said you don't believe me, and that's fine, but what you're really saying here is that you believe it is impossible for YOU to sleep with hundreds of women, and you're probably right on this one. The point I was trying to make, which you missed, is that Anyone can get good at approaching and attracting women, and to sleep with tons of women if that's what you want. Why? B…
/r/seduction24/05/22 10:16 AM
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Absolutely right!!
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:36 PM
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Sorry I didn't realize it was a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 09:34 PM
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Sorry about your break up. I think the principle of what I call the Attractive man applies to all aspects of your life. Since I started working on my "game" years ago I can honestly say that it has made me a better person overrall, I am a better listener(always kinda was), I am much more at ease in public spaces, I don't get shy about anything anymore - contrast that with my childhood when i couldn't answer our home phone- i am fitter, healthier. I think we all need that firestarter to get us to…
/r/seduction23/05/22 06:51 PM
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I have. I've read it when I wasn't doing so well and it made sense to me back then. However, knowing what I know now it wasn't that helpful. I am not going to say all of it was bad as it possibly helped get me over the hump. My issue with all these books is that they focus on the past. Healing past traumas and past experiences. When in reality, we're not driven by our past as much as we think we are. However we are driven by our lack of a great future. Check out Dr. Benjamin Hardy "personality i…
/r/seduction23/05/22 10:21 AM
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need a few more karma point to start posting on here..
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:35 AM
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I can't give you advice on Instagram because I don't use it like that or much at all. I think all of that is fake and you're bound to get hurt and it won't do much to improve you as a man or your game. Don't forget that most profiles on Tinder are either i.e created by bots. Ans the hot chicks on Tinder are marketing their Insta & tiktok accounts. They are not on tinder to find a man. They're on tinder to find followers. That said I am not the best at dating apps but I do have "scripts". It's th…
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:32 AM
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Just remember that Nice guys finish first. Never forget that. You don't need to be anything other than who you are. I've slept with hundreds (not joking) of women and I can tell you that the best womanizers I 've met are not the caricature that you read about on PUA forums or these reddit posts. All that content is misleading and works on d-class women. You don't need to be more assertive, you need to know who you want to be then everything will flow. Create your ideal future self - use movie ca…
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:00 AM
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What works for you may not work for me. Perhaps you're into music a lot or you have DJ friends. Then clubs would make sense for you. My only thing with clubs is I don't get satisfaction of taking a drunk girl home and I usually put them in cabs instead. Older women in clubs are better because they drink less. Wait...Dating apps are great. I picked up lots of chicks from it. One thing you shuold use tinder for is this: S Scroll tinder and give 1 like for every 25-30. Basically you're just Not lik…
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:48 AM
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All these books written by pseudo alpha wanna be guys are just a bunch of crap. These books are written by guys who mask their insecurities with caricature of machismo behavior, or jacked muscles, male warrior bullshit lol.... give me a break!! Do you think men were not men before these idiots? Real men don't need muscles, or copy macho behavior. You're either macho or your not. This stuff works on a new yersey dancer with daddy issues but that would never work on a real women. What these guys t…
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:38 AM
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Generally public places where people aren't in a rush like cafes, terraces, the beach (my fav), strolling on weekends, the mall, bar to some extent, grocery store around 7pm, the juice shop etc. My only excuse is I want to meet her and see her again. The best ways to open with situational cues whether it's something she wears, a cute dawg, whatever....But you should instantly switch to a routine you're familiar with. Btw You should have many routines that you created i.e that work for you. These…
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:14 AM
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You're going to have to learn to deal with cockblockers and the overly protective fat chick. To summarize it, you have to charm the fat chick first because she's going to do everything she can to block you. When you see a girl you like in a group, don't go directly talking to her. Talk to the least pretty one and make her laugh and get her interested. Be as friendly and animated and fun as you can be. This will do a few things for you: You come off as genuine and friendly, you're social and you …
/r/seduction22/05/22 10:04 PM
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What you say doesn't matter but how you say it matters. It's all in the delivery. Clubs aren't the best for pick up. The girls are drunk and even more fearful and guys...well you know how we are lol. I've approached hundreds of women and slept with most of them. Less than 5% from clubs. Picking up in clubs you're not going to get better at it. If you want to really be able to approach and pick up a girl anytime and anywhere you're going to have to do it outside of clubs. Bars are kinda ok. Good …
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:54 PM
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I empathize with you but I don't feel bad for you. You're met with indifference and rejection because what you're doing is not working (obviously). So why would you want to repeat the same behavior expecting a different outcome? Women have it a lot harder than you might think. How do you think it feels to walk down the street and feel like a potential prey to every guy that walks by. I rather deal with rejection all day long that feeling insecure. I think you have a bit of low self esteem which …
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:36 PM
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Didn't realize anyone resented this. It's only natural in my opinion. I think what you resent is that you're not able to approach women successfully. Trust me when you can approach any women anytime and anywhere get their number and have amazing experiences you won't resent anything. Work on your approach and you'll never feel resentful. Cheers
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 07:39 PM
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Literally everywhere, although some places are better than others. You can approach anywhere but you can't pick up from anywhere. Hope this makes sense.
/r/seduction22/05/22 05:19 PM
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