Thoughts on No More Mr Nice Guy

themostgianthorse · 2022-05-23T00:18:08+00:00

Life changing shit if it applies to you and you are willing to do the work.

I read the hard copy the first 3-4 times through and now I listen to it on audible quarterly.

Every guy I’ve spoken to that read the book has the same reaction I did. “Has someone been following me around my whole life and then wrote a book about it?”

High level takeaways:

covert contracts are social/relationship killers. A covert contract is “I will do this thing for you and you will do this thing for me but we will not speak about this thing.” Then I will be effected(usually negatively) when you do not react the way I want you to.
nobody owes you shit
whatever happens, you will handle it
nice guys are bad enders
you are responsible for your life
set boundaries and enforce them

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-05-23T00:01:47+00:00

Read the book! Its pivotal for many. Its not a rule book, its a mindset modifier.

montanalombardy · 2022-05-23T00:30:16+00:00

Very good imo. But it's more about how you act in a relationship than about meeting women.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-23T01:21:15+00:00

Guys confuse being a nice guy for being a simp and a doormat.

CRDLEUNDRTHESTR · 2022-05-23T04:25:38+00:00

I read it because I feel like I come off as a typical nice guy, but nothing in the book seemed to apply to me.

Idk the book seemed more like it was for scrubs who let people walk over them, or do everything someone wants just to make them happy. It seems more so for the person who struggles at setting boundaries and saying no.

Me personally, I love saying no and setting boundaries, but I also like being dragged along with things just for the adventure and it leads people into thinking they're walking over me lol.

eszibit · 2022-05-23T00:18:11+00:00

Pretty good, read it

spaceoprah · 2022-05-23T02:46:00+00:00

all the information in the book is common sense for most people.

Justin3263 · 2022-05-23T11:56:35+00:00

Could this book be considered a general application for men to just level up in the lives in general? As if to say, Take the women out of the equation and just work on being a better male as a whole?

Happy_Ad_5555 · 2022-05-23T03:23:13+00:00

I think it literally changed my life. It made me deal with my childhood and made me take care of myself. It is a very small book so I would absolutely recommend you read it at least once.

Beautiful_Ad_4970 · 2022-05-23T05:45:37+00:00

Who's is the author of the book, I see multiple No More Mr Nice Guy book.

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-05-23T11:01:48+00:00

I think the biggest thing I took from it is how it set up things with women up front and stick to it

These-Calligrapher · 2022-05-23T16:11:28+00:00

Nice is different from kind.

Nice is what you are when you want something. Nice people want to be liked. Nice is fake.

Kindness is done without wanting anything in return.

VDKay · 2022-05-23T06:50:05+00:00

Unfortunatelly it applies to a large number of guys out there. If it applies to you, it's quite radical and because of that, it WILL be difficult to digest and apply because it requires a pretty significant "reality-shift" from your part.

If it does not apply to you, it's bullshit.

classics109 · 2022-05-23T12:27:47+00:00

Must read for every man. I would add 48 laws od power and Rationale Male.

PatientAssociation62 · 2022-05-24T09:57:31+00:00

I dislike the term "nice" guys, at least in the context of my relationships with women. I used to think I was "nice" and the dudes they dated were "douchebags" or "assholes". But then I realized the only reason I was friends with certain women and did things for them was because I just wanted to fuck them. What is "nice" about that?

yourcousinrafa · 2022-05-23T08:38:05+00:00

All these books written by pseudo alpha wanna be guys are just a bunch of crap. These books are written by guys who mask their insecurities with caricature of machismo behavior, or jacked muscles, male warrior bullshit lol.... give me a break!! Do you think men were not men before these idiots? Real men don't need muscles, or copy macho behavior. You're either macho or your not. This stuff works on a new yersey dancer with daddy issues but that would never work on a real women. What these guys talk about is waaay to simple. We Humans are much more complex than that. if you want to learn about human psychology, social relationsh..you should read the great classics, classical tragedies or simply volunteer at your local homeless shelter.

Cheers

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-05-23T16:25:42+00:00

Faaaaakin excellent book

xonbuhg · 2022-05-24T22:36:40+00:00

My first pass was that I learned I should treat myself better. I deserve to be treated better. And most of the examples provided in the book are married men who are not satisfied with their marriage. So I think you should take what applies to you. For example, it talks about men growing up with no bad father figure. While my case is having no father figure. Regardless, I was drawn to reading such a book though. I learned quite a bit and reflected a lot on my life.

Title	Thoughts on No More Mr Nice Guy
Author	No-Target2572
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Date	May 22, 2022 11:52 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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