The chief "rebuttal" against the fiebert bibliography is that it relies upon the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS), and often go on to say that a hit from a man isn't as bad as a hit from a woman, nor a gun, nor a verbal slight, because reasons.

remind them of "little rapes":

"Categories of male violence against women and children are not distinct: beating a wife or girlfriend is not distinct from raping or murdering strangers, not distinct from molesting a niece or nephew. A guy who slaps his wife around is along the same continuum as rape and incest and murder, which are merely situations farther along this spectrum. Street harassment is on this same continuum. Pioneering feminists in the early seventies had a name for such hectoring as wolf whistles and animals noises. They called them 'little rapes'. My body knew this all along, the primal fear I felt in my early twenties when I heard hissing on the street--like a rattlesnake in the grass."

http://hollabacktalk.blogspot.com/2007/07/little-rapes.html

there are other, better arguments. please make them here.