A shitty realization I had today

kzwrp · 2014-01-17T04:59:50+00:00

Let me pour some hydrofluoric acid on your theory and break it down a little more.

As you stated, girls like guys that don't try too hard to get them. Why are guys trying too hard? Because there's a fundamental need for this particular girl. Otherwise, if you didn't give a shit, she'd be next'd and this thread wouldn't exist. Something inside you needed her. What does need indicate to a woman? That you have a weakness. You're Achilles, strong and virtuous but that goddamn heel really fucks shit up, doesn't it? You want this heel of yours to be small, or even better, non-existant. She shouldn't be able to hit your heel without deep psychological analysis and carefully placed words. As it turns out, your heel was her. Your weakness was your need for her.

Since she literally was your heel, you're no longer the rock in her emotional typhoon to cling to dear life to. Your rock would wither the moment the wind exerted the smallest amount of force on it. So she became disinterested.

tl;dr Needing a girl makes you weak and girls hate weak men. Shit be whack, yo.

carrotplanter · 2014-01-17T04:52:29+00:00

Welcome to manhood. Have yourself a drink.

[deleted] · 2014-01-17T05:01:13+00:00

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[deleted] · 2014-01-17T12:26:40+00:00

No, it's not that humans are shitty in this case. I just wrote a reply about how shitty I thought humanity is for a different thread, but in your situation, this is not humans being shitty.

You WANT these girls. You need them. You are unhappy and incomplete with out them. They sense this, meaning they might get suckered in for sex by your "game", but they do not respect you as a complete MAN. You're bitterness while simultaneously wanting the very thing you are bitter about, a sweet BP style relationship where everything is all lovey dovey and she supports you as much as you support her... is making it so high quality girls will not fall in love with you. They will not view you as a higher value than them, because you have a wound, you have baggage. Women want men who cannot be beaten down by life or circumstance - you, and I say this not in an asshole way, have been beaten down again and again.

When you say "I need to treat women like I don't care" you are missing the point. You want this companionship, you want to not be alone because you are unhappy the way you are, and this makes you care and want these girls more than they want you. The solution then is not to be a bleeding heart who manages to "act" like he doesn't care. The solution is to change yourself so you ACTUALLY don't care and are 100% happy without a relationship.

Girls aren't retarded. For all their issues and problems, they are acutely aware of "fakers", or guys who pretend to be whole, but actually have a hole they are trying to fill with the relationship. They are better at guys than sensing that. In a relationship, eventually you will slip up and break character and reveal your need for her, and then its done. The only solution is to focus on building yourself up. You could spend a year becomming a great actor and create this elaborate charade of you not caring to sucker in a better girl than you deserve. Or... you could spend that time learning how to not actually care.

SgtBrutalisk · 2014-01-17T11:16:23+00:00

Here is an admission: I was a hardcore bluepill Disney fanboy, believing in true love, "I just haven't found the right one!".

I was thinking along the similar lines in the past 2 months, if true love is not possible, at least not in manner I thought it is, what are my options? Well, I concluded that the proper thing I should do is dive into that pool of pussy that surrounds me with reckless abandon and see what comes out of it. I think that integral part of becoming a Red Pill man is losing that unhealthy emotional obsession with women, which is best done by casual sex. But, the force of habit is the strongest force known to man, so it will take me some time, however, I am pleased with my progress and will keep you guys updated.

TheKamikazi · 2014-01-17T14:20:56+00:00

Ok, there's whole bag of right and wrong in your post. You don't need to treat women as if you don't care, you need to be confident in your actions. This confidence is achieved easiest by not caring about a particular spinning plate. This is the main reason LTR or oneitus game is hard mode.

Most importantly however, if you're going for a LTR, is developing your dating game so that you're having fun. In a LTR you must NEVER stop dating her. Your dating game is what made her like you in the first place. If it ever stops, naturally she will no longer want to be with you. All that other relationship stuff are addons to your dating game core.

As a side note, when someone stops dating their LTR, that's when the breakup line "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." comes out.

tr8 · 2014-01-17T05:12:57+00:00

You need a mission.

First because you really should have something better to do than writing up your introspections.

Secondly, and more importantly, then you don't have to play games, and fake not caring. She will genuinely become a secondary concern and she will like it, too. Most women love the supporting role.

xiko · 2014-01-17T11:01:31+00:00

Why did you want to build a relationship with them? What you would get from her that made you look needy? I am on the stage of questioning my intents to understand why the fuck would I want a relationship. I am happily spinning plates and actually connecting in a way with the women that I have never had. It is incredible when you talk to a new girl and you know that you actually don't need her and the entire interaction is much more pleasant.

Title	A shitty realization I had today
Author	Howmydiktaste69
Upvotes	26
Comments	27
Date	January 17, 2014 4:43 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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