Self-Soothing Lies Mothers Tell Themselves

C0CKPUNCHER · 2012-04-13T22:30:05+00:00

Why the kid gloves? There are lots of things mothers do to fuck up their children even aside from divorce. If you see a dog with it's tail down, shivering, or otherwise looking wretched, you know someone somewhere is treating it or has treated it like shit.

FAAAARGE · 2012-04-13T23:23:36+00:00

My parents 'stayed together for the kids'. Obviously, I have no idea how things would have turned out for my sister and I had they separated, but the toxic environment we grew up in left us with personal issues that stuck around for years after moving out. My father is an all-around bigot (misogynist, racist, homophobe). He has been physically abusive to my mother and emotionally abusive to all three of us. My sister and I were told our whole lives that our gender meant we were inferior beings, that men are by right the 'head of the household' and that going against a man's wishes makes you a 'stupid bitch'. My sister has had eating disorders, depression, and anxiety throughout most of her life, and tried to take her own life in junior high. It took me years after leaving home to realize that my own aspirations had any value; before that I struggled to follow a path that would make my father proud of me.

Obviously this situation doesn't apply to every semi-broken family but, growing up, the thing my sister and I wished for the most was for our parents to get a divorce. Sometimes trying to 'make it work' has a more negative effect on children than simply cutting losses and trying to provide a happy, healthy environment for them.

matt_512 · 2012-04-14T01:28:56+00:00

I think that it obviously depends on the severity of the fighting. Sometimes, a separation or divorce is for the best. That's all.

Title	Self-Soothing Lies Mothers Tell Themselves
Author	dicipres
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	April 13, 2012 10:19 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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