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"Law Makes Men Alimony Slaves": Judge Selah Strong in 1939

thetrollking

September 21, 2011

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Title	"Law Makes Men Alimony Slaves": Judge Selah Strong in 1939
Author	thetrollking
Upvotes	14
Comments	4
Date	September 21, 2011 10:55 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/kn9da/law_makes_men_alimony_slaves_judge_selah_strong/
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[–]carchamp1 2 points3 points4 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]kronox 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I recently went to second tier mediation where we were discussing custody rights over my second child. I have the more supportive household (4 people aside from me including my mom, dad who works mon thru fri, sister, and girlfriend, plus i live in a beautiful two story that we own next to a big park), She lives in a fairly decent one story house next to a bad school paid for by a local church to help her dying grandmother who suffers from Alzheimer disease. Her only support in her home is her two parents who both work, at the same time she works mon thru fri 40 hours a week.

I happen to be attending college full time with a part time job of only 20 hours per week but all my classes are online so i am home A LOT more than she is. On top of this i dont work weekends either and that happens to be my time with my children every week.

My schedule with my children is as follows: My son i have exactly equal amounts during the week meaning i take three days she takes four days, next week i take four days she takes three days. Now my second child is different i have her currently from thursday till friday morning and saturday through sunday afternoon. I have been trying to change the time i have her to be the same as my son for consistency, stability, convenience, on top of the fact that my son who is older is already asking why his sister can't come over as often as he does.

Keep in mind the mother of my children is only interesting in claiming some amount of child support so the only actual reason she is not in agreement is because she realizes she would end up owing me child support as should works more and thus gets paid more. I have had my son in my custody primarily since he was 4 months old, it was only recently about a year ago (he's three now) that we changed the arrangements to be 50/50. My mediator told me i could not have my 8 month old daughter for my proposed amount of time because she was too young....

My kids mother does drugs sells drugs for her mother who does cocaine and has a father who has a marijuana plant growing in their house. I may dabble in some occasional pot but i am nowhere near as irresponsible as this group of white trash morons.

Anyway in the end i have to wait till my daughter is 18 months to make any changes to custody. Thank you gloriously fucked up court system that assumes women are more capable than men at raising children. THEY ARE NOT. In my experience i have seen many more irresponsible young women parents than irresponsible young men parents. After all it was the irresponsible young female (in my situation) who lied about taking birth control in order to get pregnant just to try and scam me out of custody but luckily my parents have money so i was able to pay a lawyer who created the shithole mess i'm in now.

[–]chavelah 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"In my experience i have seen many more irresponsible young women parents than irresponsible young men parents."

Well, no kidding. Irresponsible young men parents are generally not seen by anybody. They're in the wind.

I feel sorry for your mediator. Two young people, hostile to each other, both still dependent on their OWN parents basic needs such as housing. It's wrong that you can't have 50/50 of your infant daughter, but damn if I, as a mediator, would be impressed with your argument that the kids should live with you because your Mom and Dad can afford a nicer house. You know what would impress me? You (or her!) establishing your own household and demonstrating that you can provide for your kids without handouts from anybody.

If you want primary custody of your kids, then get your ex busted for drugs. (Stop doing drugs yourself first, as you'd probably end up being tested by Social Services.) If what you actually want is 50/50 physical custody, then it sounds like you may end up with that fairly soon, and I'm glad for you.

[–]Aggressive_Front_296 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link