Jennifer Aniston: Women Don't Need Men For A Family

2010-08-10T04:04:54+00:00

As long as you have lots and lots of your own money to hire someone to help you or a very strong family support system.

I am a woman and I would rather not raise a child without a man. Not as a moral/anti-feminist choice but because it is FUCKING HARD TO DO IT ALONE. I can barely take care of a dog by myself.

It sounds like a NIGHTMARE to me.

DOGA · 2010-08-10T16:22:42+00:00

That's true. But then, men don't need women for a family either.

Honztastic · 2010-08-10T03:22:52+00:00

She's right.

But it's selfish and foolish to do so. It has been shown quite clearly in lots of studies that a traditional family structure; or at least 2 parents is better for the development of the child.

Jumping in before you have at least a partner to help raise the child will be detrimental, and all because of her selfish "I don't need a man" attitude.

FishKiss · 2010-08-10T07:04:55+00:00

Sure children can be raised without a father--but that's just saying they can cope with an undesirable situation, getting through it even while suffering its ill effects.

There is a huge difference between a mother making the best of a situation not of her creation (e.g. her husband leaves her or dies), trying to make the best life she can for her child--and a woman deliberately seeking to create a child who will never have a father, simply because she wants a child. The former is putting her child's needs first, with her wants put aside as the lower priority; the latter is putting her wants first with her child's needs put aside as the lower priority.

These women want to have a child without a father because they don't want to "settle" in their own lives. They have to be in total control and get their wants and needs fulfilled in a way that brooks no compromise where they ever get the short end of the stick--yet to get what they want they are perfectly fine with making the child pay the price in their place, with the baby having to "settle" and compromise in an immense and permanent way right from the outset of its life.

The way this is justified is for the women to rationalize it away by trying to convince themselves that fathers aren't needed or important to a child, that the child won't suffer any major ill effects by not having one. Jennifer Aniston is assisting in this.

What kind of mothers would these women make anyway? They don't want to share parental authority, yet they are exactly the type of parent that needs to have a balance to counter their drive for control, for always being "right"-- a child is just at their mercy.

The truth is that no matter how loving a single mother is she can't replace the contribution a father brings to a child's life--it's a different and extremely valuable kind of child-raising, role-modeling, love and care. No matter how hard a single mother tries she can't spend as much time with her children providing love and support (or at work providing a good lifestyle for them) as a two-parent family can--the child comparatively misses out in one way or another. Then there is the mother and father's relationship itself and what it models to the child and teaches it about relationships, compromise, etc.

The costs of fatherlessness to a child are huge--to downplay or deny this in order to justify these women acting purely in their own interest is sickening.

(And to those who might say "some fathers are abusive and no father is better than that" let me point out that some mothers are abusive too. The existence of these bad apples doesn't negate the value of mothers and fathers in general.)

2010-08-10T08:05:08+00:00

Why is she wrong? She's in a fairly unique position: she's financially able to have a kid on her own. She's 41, so biologically, there's not all that much time left. I'd rather her have a child (or even adopt one, what a novel idea for a celebrity...) than someone who doesn't want one have one. Plenty of kids grow up with their grandparents, or with one parent, or with gay parents. I don't really see the difference, if the caregivers are good parents.

Are there studies that say that wanted children in single parent situations suffer a detriment that wanted children in two-parent situations don't? I haven't seen any that adequately account for socio-economic biases and so on.

This kind of talk seems very close to the 'but two fathers can't raise a baby!' anti-gay adoption rhetoric.

JamminCrumpets · 2010-08-10T04:05:43+00:00

I don't think the article is as inflammatory as the title suggests. Truthfully, all I could think about while reading it is, "Wow! She has big pores."

meshosh · 2010-08-10T03:23:45+00:00

She's just bitter, because Pitt left her talentless ass.

2010-08-10T12:48:14+00:00

She still wants kids someday? she's 41 right now, how long is she planning on waiting?

2010-08-10T04:09:31+00:00

Wow now I have a reason to dislike her yay!

Arthaios · 2010-08-10T15:10:34+00:00

I thought Aniston only got where she was because of her Farther.

Gormogon · 2010-08-10T16:32:19+00:00

This comes from the girl that Brad Pitt dumped...wonder if there's a correlation?

2010-08-10T14:25:56+00:00

By implication, she is saying men have no place IN a family ... or society anymore.

Title	Jennifer Aniston: Women Don't Need Men For A Family
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Date	August 10, 2010 1:39 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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