Confusion with TRP and LTR

Wolfwoodd · 2014-01-27T22:05:38+00:00

A few thoughts in no particular order:

You are allowed to show your emotions to women who have earned the right to your emotions. If you're girlfriend is doing everything right and making you a happy man, then you should be rewarding that good behavior by giving her praise and attention. That's part of being a leader, acknowledging good work.

Being controlling is bad. Insecure guys end up being controlling / spying on their girlfriends because they are afraid that another man will steal their girl away. Confident guys don't feel the need to police who their girlfriend's talk to / associate with.

Find a happy medium.. don't try and change everything about yourself all at once. Implement new ideas slowly.. test them out. See if they work for you. Figuring this stuff out is a lengthy process. It took me a few years to really master, and I still make mistakes every now and then.

A good first step is focusing on your personal fitness and your social life (outside your girlfriend). It's fairly simple step to make and it will raise your perceived social value, which can only help your relationship.

Just my 2 cents.

circlhat · 2014-01-28T06:40:17+00:00

LTRs are about a balance between alpha and beta behaviors. What's mostly talked about here is how to get women to be SEXUALLY attracted to you, which consists largely of alpha behavior. But since LTRs are about more than sex, they're about more than being an "alpha".

It's like, I can fuck a hot chick, but I don't want an LTR with her if she's not smart and humble as well. Similarly, a woman will fuck a fit alpha but that guy is going to need some empathy and caring attributes if she's going to be comfortable staying with him.

I'm in an LTR, one MUCH longer than yours. I, like you, realized after reading TRP that I was doing a lot of things wrong which resulted in less sex and more fighting. I'm doing a lot more right now (like working out, instilling some "dread" here and there, etc.) and my wife (I call her that but we're not actually married) seems WAY more attracted to me, like night and day. But after awhile, I think she started to miss me being sweet to her, so now I open up to her and be sweet to her as a form of positive reinforcement for when she's a good girl.

You don't have to go full alpha and never express your emotions, you just need to find a good balance that works for both you, and her.

You attract girls with ALPHA, then, if you want, you keep them around for more than sex with some (not too much) BETA.

DevilishRogue · 2014-01-27T21:54:23+00:00

Is there something I am missing here?

There is a lot you are missing here. Red Pill is about understanding how relationship dynamics work. If you understand the dynamics you'll understand how cause and effect work within relationships and so can manage those relationships more effectively. You don't have to do or not do certain things, you just have to understand potential outcomes and consequences of them and then make an informed decision whether to do or not do them.

HeadingRed · 2014-01-27T22:29:30+00:00

Do try to keep your emotions (at least sadnessupset) to yourself. Too often and she will start to see you as a child or worse.

It won't feel natural for a while. It will start to feel more so as time goes on. Don't obsess over mistakes- just try not to make them again.

Keep in mind alphaeta canis a part of game. Attracting women? It's all alpha. In a LTR- it's a mix. That being said you still look our for yourself and don't get walked on. In an LTR you are not only the leader but also need to take care of things. When I hear "beta provider" I think a guy who gives and never gets back. In a LTR- yeah sometimes you gotta unclog the sink, take out the trash, change the battery in her car.

Title	Confusion with TRP and LTR
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Date	January 27, 2014 9:47 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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