Interesting comments on a man responding to a woman throwing a drink in his face

wanna_dance · 2009-07-15T03:36:03+00:00

I actually agree with a different article in this subreddit: if_a_chick_hits_you_call_the_fucking_cops_on_her.

Throwing a drink is simple battery, a misdemeanor charge. The hassle of having to go to court, hire a lawyer, pay expenses, etc, is fair punishment, even if she's found not guilty.

The response, to kick someone's legs out from under them, is fairly drastic. I understand the reason for the response: you want to be as drastic as possible, in order to finish the fight immediately.

However, the response was excessive for the following reason (and ignore that it was a woman, it would be as excessive if the recipient had been a man): the risk of causing long-term damage (even death) exists.

Aside from the obvious "that hurting people is wrong", and that most people will eventually suffer regret if they hurt other people, you really don't want to face criminal charges or pay damages because your anger got the best of you and you accidentally used too much force.

I know I'm a woman, but I want to say this, and I say this with the utmost respect for men:

Male violence is a men's issue (it's also a woman's issue, just as female violence is both a men's and women's issue, but that's a different thread. And I'm not even talking about domestic violence here).

Most men are recipients of men's violence in their lives. Men are murdered overwhelmingly by other men and most violence against men is done by strangers.

And from the perpetrator's point of view, most men who perpetrate were victims as well. They are just as hurt by violence, particular in countries where the criminal justice system is nasty. Men who perpetrate don't get the help they need and deserve. They are overwhelmingly ignored, not getting the help they need to break the cycle, or they're treated badly, thrown into prisons, treated as incorrigible.

And often, men's violence exist because of mental health oppression of men, in which anger is one of the few acceptable emotions available to men (to some respect). Men are discouraged from crying, from expressing pain. However, anger can be accepted as "manly", especially if it's focused into sports.

garyp714 · 2009-07-14T14:44:04+00:00

Alcohol turns people into abject fools. He and her are both drunk, preening and acting like ego-driven dumbasses. When you play with fire...

rmbarnes · 2009-07-14T19:24:11+00:00

I actually had an interesting thought about this. Many people consider it cowardly for a man to hit a woman, but I think it takes more balls for a man to hit a woman in public than it takes for a man to hit another man (unless they're huge!). This is because when a man hits a woman in public he's automatically viewed by many as being in the wrong, and likely many men in the vicinity will try and beat the shit out of the guy afterwards.

AnnArchist · 2009-07-14T14:51:02+00:00

I'd have probably kicked the guys sitting down immediately after dropping her because you know one of them is going to get the bright idea to be that douchebag who stands up for a girl who got hit "because you don't hit women."

More often than not, I've seen a girl get slapped or hit and then the entire party just gives the man the asswhooping of his life.

Title	Interesting comments on a man responding to a woman throwing a drink in his face
Author	rmbarnes
Upvotes	11
Comments	5
Date	July 14, 2009 12:35 PM UTC (17 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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