Ask MensRights: My buddy's getting married. Pre-Nup checklist?

tomek77 · 2009-01-26T10:05:22+00:00

Pre-nups don't work, and even if they work, they can only be of very limited scope! Any family court judge can summarily dismiss the entire pre-nup: all it takes is one sentence in the pre-nup, that is not allowed by law (at the time of divorce, not at the time of writing the pre-nup), or his wife saying that she signed it during duress (basically her word vs his word). In addition, any substantial change in the marital situation (like kids) automatically voids the pre-nup.

Tell your friend one thing: DO NOT GET MARRIED !!!

Once he signs his marriage certificate, he is officially a slave. His wife can, at any time, and for no reason: have him thrown out of his house, make it criminal to go near his house or call wife / kids, steal his savings, make him a wage slave for many years, and ruin his criminal record (and therefore his career).

Even if he does not get divorced (which is unlikely because the majority of marriages fail), he will spent the rest of his life living in fear of what his wife could do to him. This is no way to live, and is border-line abuse in itself. Not to mention that such a one-sided balance of power, means that he could very likely be a victim of abuse down the road. And a final word: as many men have found out, 1 to 2 years after marriage, sex stops, just like that :)

Tell your friend that there is no reason to get married: everything that you could do with a marriage certificate, you can do without. If his girlfriend really loves him, why does she need a marriage certificate? Marriage is not about love, it is about money, property and power. I hope he won't learn this the hard way!

AnnArchist · 2009-01-26T15:35:55+00:00

make sure your friend offers consideration for everything he asks for.

obviously insist on premaritial property remaining with owner.....

also insist on ownership of any and all inheritances in full.

insist on a SET level and time for how long the marriage has to be before alimony payments, then set the level low as legally possible.

also set up custudy agreerments if they have any kids, split 50/50. must remain in the state and county you live in now... .etc

Title	Ask MensRights: My buddy's getting married. Pre-Nup checklist?
Author	marktully
Upvotes	6
Comments	5
Date	January 26, 2009 7:01 AM UTC (17 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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