Losing interest after one or two texts.

Borsao66 · 2016-05-16T16:24:05+00:00

"Text game"???

Phones are for setting meets, not for gaming.

theresyourproblemrightthereson

jeezydasnowman · 2016-05-16T17:27:03+00:00

You are probably talking to all bots on OkCupid anyways. Approach in real life, not from the comfort of your computer.

fnordsnord · 2016-05-16T19:25:53+00:00

The guys here are being a little abrupt, but I think that they are spot on with their approach: quit trying to text game. Instead, open them, give them your best open, and then IMMEDIATLY move for a meet. If they say "no" or don't respond, swipe on and try the next one.

SoRedSuchAlpha · 2016-05-16T20:48:57+00:00

I'm not Asian and don't live in Asia so I can only advise based on America.

I basically agree with Fnordsnord, depending on what he means by "immediately after the open." Personally, I feel that 2nd message is slightly too soon. I'd suggest asking to meet on the 3rd or 4th message. The banter you're doing is valuable, you're just doing too much. Another good rule of thumb -- figure out how many messages you're typically sending, over how much real time, before girls ghost. Do 50%-66% of that and then ask to meet.

Note: This is my advice for a typical guy. The folks who say text should only be used for logistics are generally correct.

I believe that text game is a real thing, but it's a specialized strategy that's useful only for a few goals and situations, and it requires some advanced skills.

CatFancier4393 · 2016-05-16T22:09:15+00:00

This is going to happen a lot, not matter how good your game is. Just try to stay interesting, and don't take it personally when they ignore you.

Title	Losing interest after one or two texts.
Author	winterequinox007
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	May 16, 2016 4:21 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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