I am 18 and waiting until marriage to have sex. Honestly, people are not waiting anymore so what happens when I'm in my mid 20s and not married (aka a big red flag)?

[deleted] · 2016-05-16T21:34:47+00:00

Most guys will ghost you or pressure you. That's something you have to deal with. I would suggest looking for something through your religious organization

SoRedSuchAlpha · 2016-05-16T21:34:55+00:00

Plenty of men are willing to date virgins -- including almost all the men you would likely want to marry. Men who bail when they learn you're a virgin are actually doing you a favor by not wasting your time.

Wanting to stay a virgin until the wedding is the problem. I'm much more pro-marriage than most people here, but I could never marry someone without having sex first, or advise anyone else -- man or woman -- to do the same. What if you get married and find out the sex isn't good? You're both screwed.

fnordsnord · 2016-05-17T01:54:50+00:00

I smell troll.

sierratangovictor · 2016-05-18T01:11:56+00:00

I will date a virgin. Nothing will be better than knowing that a woman whom I marry found me the best, and wasn't just drifting around. I have old school values.

WildmanThaGod · 2016-05-17T02:23:04+00:00

Don't give it away for anyone! Please do us all a favor and save it until marriage. Beat the odds, don't be like the sluts we all hate. Have respect for your own body and save it. I would much rather have a girl like you (I'm 18 as well) so try your hardest to stay pure.

huge_gap · 2016-05-16T22:37:52+00:00

You're fine if you hit the gym and become desirable.

quicklogaccount · 2016-05-16T23:56:53+00:00

From TRP, you can derive this. Men seeking LTRs are seeking relationships in which they can rely on their partners, open themselves, and have their partners energy to work for them pushing them toward their goals. It is of primal importance that you don't stop physical intimacy if you do need to offer emotional support.

That said, such a man will hardly be here. We advise men to forgo these ideals because such women don't exist. With comfort, partners tend to become whinny, bossy, whimsy and disrespecting, as well as to indulge themselves with food and easing on the self care, becoming less attractive.

If I have to bet, you'll be looking for a guy either your age or a bit older. I'd advise you to look in groups that are not very sexual and yet hold promising potential. STEM campuses and geek activities should have a few of them. You also said you want a "quality man". I doubt a man that fits most concepts of "quality man" will accept your conditions. What you want here the best man who'll accept and respect your boundaries you can find, and you'll take your place in giving him incentive in working on himself so he can become a "quality man". Keep in mind you'll also have to be a "quality woman".

A friend of mine married recently, she was 31 I guess. I met her as she took her second degree in Engineering, after the first one in Math. Much as you, she was raised a catholic, and had quite older parents and siblings (miracle child). Her approach was to get to know, befriend and show interest in men she found worthy, and the reason she took so long to find one was because she lost some years dating men she couldn't marry (we're talking a woman with two STEM degrees) because they approached her and "since they already did..." she gave them some years as a chance. I guess you'll be ok with her strategy and avoiding her mistakes.

[deleted] · 2016-05-17T14:14:54+00:00

Some guys are into that and looking for marriage... not me though, I like slutty women.

privilegechecked85 · 2016-05-16T21:29:18+00:00

My wife and I lost our v-cards to each other. But it wasn't on our wedding night.

Don't really have any advice for you. However I think holding out will benefit you in the long run.

GainzdalfTheWhey · 2016-05-17T03:59:15+00:00

You're fucked, or rather never fucked

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