Following a divorce, if shared parenting is impossible, the children are likely to do better when the primary parent is dad.

aenea · 2008-09-28T13:20:12+00:00

Interesting point that they do better because mom actually stays involved even if she's not the custodial parent. It's too bad that he doesn't give any references to all of the studies that he mentions.

I've known fantastic fathers and bad mothers, and bad fathers and amazing mothers. Parenting skill and effectiveness is not gender-determined, and hopefully at some point not only the courts, but the extremists on either side will realize that. I don't think that anyone would disagree at this point that children can do well post-divorce regardless of who is the main custodial parent (if there is one), providing that both parents stay involved and are respectful of not only the children but each other.

barryk · 2009-09-08T12:00:02+00:00

"to the child, one-parent stability is also one-parent abandonment. " This is a great statement. Regardless of who has custody this is valid. 50/50 should be the norm, period. Unless unusual circumstances.

dkinmn · 2008-09-28T21:57:21+00:00

Not surprising.

Living with the man will show someone who works hard for money which he is forced to give to someone who didn't earn it.

Living with the woman MAY show someone who is stealing money from the child's father.

Sorry if that sounds blunt, but that might go a long way to explain some of the difference. I'm not saying it's the case 100% of the time, but I'll bet that narrative works for at least 15% of divorces.

trackerbishop · 2008-09-28T20:03:43+00:00

youre all sexist morons

Title	Following a divorce, if shared parenting is impossible, the children are likely to do better when the primary parent is dad.
Author	kanuk876
Upvotes	48
Comments	9
Date	September 28, 2008 10:26 AM UTC (17 years ago)
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