I don’t get it. It’s a reoccurring thing you see in here. And mostly the root of all our issues. Again and again we’re told we need frame. Read post after post. And still it seems like such an abstract concept.

then you look at the wives of all us faggots around here. And they don’t even know what frame is and it’s stronger than ours. I don’t get why I find it so difficult.

I been reading and trying to internalize this damn concept for far too long and I’m missing something still. I am looking for some perspective change or “ah Ha” moment. And I don’t have it yet.

“I am the prize” like I truly do believe this. I’m higher valve than my wife. I rarely get shit tested anymore. It’s all been comfort, comfort, comfort. So I believe I’m headed on the right track but still something is fucking missing because I’m frameless.

I read jacktens post and I’m like this fucking guy gets it. I’m a fucking retarded so I need those analogies and examples to really internalize what I’m reading.

Something as simple as a perspective change can be a game changer.

For example in my OYS post I talked about getting pissed off at women because they post their asses and tits for attention. I get it’s faggot behavior and I wanted to get rid of that negative energy because for years it’s something that infuriated me.

User literally saved me from years of this shit bothering me by saying “tits and ass gives you a testosterone boost where anger and stress lower it. Take your free spike of T and move along”

That shit was like a lightbulb going off in my head.

But frame is something I’m not getting. I’m starting to think I’m actually autistic because it just seems so foreign to me.

Everyone is saying do what you want to do. So I do then my wife says she can’t believe she has to ask me for a back massage and then I think we’ll she did just blow me without me asking 3 times this week but I just got done doing everything in the fucking house and for the family while hitting the gym and playing with the kids. while you laid around all day. And are making messes WHILE I’m cleaning up everyone else’s shit. So now I don’t feel like it.

But then I think we’ll she’s asking for comfort. No comfort = less blowjobs and I like blowjobs. So there I go rubbing her back as I tell myself I’m a faggot with no frame who can’t just get it. And is wrapped up in these shitty covert contracts.

am I just going to keep going down this rabbit hole driving myself fucking crazy till I no longer give a shit and then I’ll finally aquire frame?

Is this really something that comes with time or did it just flip like a switch for some of you guys?