So just wondering what kind of dates you would accept during a pandemic since more things are closed down? Also maybe some people just don't want to be going out to a crowded place. A guy I thought I might be interested in and I were talking about shows we like and then I told him about my favorite show and he said "maybe you'll have to show me sometime".
I said what do you mean? And then he said well I was thinking we could hangout sometime. And I said oh haha like a "netflix and chill?" Next I was going to say I'm not down for that but then he replied haha well I was thinking we could hang out and get to know each other more. I met him when I went to go and buy an instrument. anyway he said maybe he could also show me a thing or two on this instrument.
I haven't replied back yet but I'm just wondering about this? doesn't sound like a date? but a hangout? and I'm not into hanging out at random guys house or them coming to mine that's for sure. Any thoughts and in general what are dates that are high value to accept during this pandemic?
Thank you
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No that's not a date.
First of all, you want to do phone calls and video calls as pre-screening. It's going to take a lot longer to get to a first date than it used to. I wouldn't want to go on a first date with someone I barely knew during a pandemic. I'd want to make sure they're practicing social distancing, not going to parties, not going to bars, etc. and you can really only tell that by talking to them over a period of time.
Don't waste your time asking men if they're being cautious because that gives them an opportunity to lie. You should be able to find out based on how they interact with you.
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I think once you go on dates a dinner date, at a restaurant that practices social distancing or has seating outside (if it's warm enough where you are) is acceptable. As long as spiddle isn't flying everywhere you'll be fine.
Doing a video dinner date for the first date is best... But that would count on you feeling comfortable to give him your address for a delivery... You could also suggest you both do pick up with him paying.... So if he asks you to go to dinner you could say something like "I'd love for you to buy me takeout while we video call".
A picnic outside would be good if he brings the food and something to sit on so you're not super close.
It's about making sure he's invested in you. Most men don't buy women they want to "pump and dump" dinner. So right now men have to be creative if they genuinely want to court you. And that can look a lot of ways, but spending $5 or $0 isn't the way.
Many FDS women are foregoing dating right now. But expecting food delivery w/a video call for a first date is a great way to weed out LVM.
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