Ever got treated so bad by an ex you started to hate your sex just because you have to deal with the shit they put you through?

Easymodelife · 2020-12-30T16:33:52+00:00

No, I've always placed the blame where it belongs - with the person treating me badly.

Mind-Objective · 2020-12-30T16:39:27+00:00

Yeah. I hated myself because I felt like as a woman I was weak. Me telling them I was being treated poorly was deemed as me building him up to be the bad guy and me liking playing victim. So I started ignoring some things. I was not empathetic or agreeable enough otherwise I would let things slide. I was too emotional and demanding even though what I wanted was just basic emotional support and communication. I hate being a woman. I still do to some extent.

Since the relationship and my discovery of FDS I have become more resentful and distrustful of men which I know while the latter will do me good as I’m a very naive and hopeful individual, that’s something I don’t like. It’s not a matter of being distrustful of one gender; that should apply to everyone. (I give credit to FDS though for helping me get back on my feet.)

(Side rant: I think posts critiquing OLD profiles is a waste of time especially when everyone is aware for the most part these sites are littered with avoidants and those looking for an easy lay. I’m sure that most of these OLD people are aware they’re putting in low effort towards writing their profile so why make fun of them? THEY KNOW.)

I remember one time my ex saying how emotions are a weakness to men and he wouldn’t expect me to understand because I’m a woman. I wasn’t emotionally supported well in the relationship and I brought up how emotions are important in a relationship ship and if you choose to shoulder all of it on your own it’s your personal responsibility. I don’t like assigning characteristics to gender because while I am aware there are societal standards each gender grew up with and to some extent follow, I believe strongly in personal accountability, especially because we all know it doesn’t cost a dime to be a polite, civil person.

SadClownProstitute · 2020-12-31T14:19:53+00:00

Like do you mean that your ex treated you so badly that you now hate other women?

Girl no. It's not women's fault your ex was a jerk.

Title	Ever got treated so bad by an ex you started to hate your sex just because you have to deal with the shit they put you through?
Author	Accomplished-Ad-6925
Upvotes	36
Comments	7
Date	December 30, 2020 12:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askFDS
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