Crosspost "My girlfriend [F24] called men "failed abortions" and is now trying to walk it back [M23]" from /r/relationship_advice:

My girlfriend has always had a hot streak in her for social issues. Normally this doesn't bother me at all, I agree with her on most issues.

Yesterday we got into a fight because she saw an article about police violence and how it was mostly perpetrated by men. She said that men were "failed abortions" and we wouldn't have these problems if they were born women. I took offense to that and we ended up in an argument where she said that she clearly didn't mean all men and said I was being oversensitive. I felt like it definitely crossed a line, and it hit particularly hard because I've had some questioning of my gender identity and haven't always wanted to have been born a man (I've been open with her about this and she's usually supportive).

The argument simmered down after a day or so and now she's trying to walk the statement back and be apologetic for it. I'm having a really difficult time getting it out of my head and I'm not sure what to do.

Edit: this is getting a lot of traction and I just want to try to clarify some things. We've had the whole discussion about hyperbole and how people expressing frustration against a group doesn't necessarily mean they hate them. I get that and I'm fine with it, but this was hard to hear and I'm having real trouble separating my feelings from hyperbole. This especially hurts because of the gender identity stuff I've shared before and how unilateral of a statement it was, and she initially acted like I shouldn't have been offended. I just feel really sick about myself and my body and at the very least I think I need time to process things

Edit 2: removed references to feminism because multiple commenters have said that this isn't it, and I agree. I spent some time looking up feminist resources and I urge others to do the same, because whatever you think it is, it's not about hatred

Posted by throwra_sodaa | 2 June 2020 | Link