How to respond on tinder to girls who leave you hanging?

ponkyol · 2016-06-07T09:50:53+00:00

You don't. The medium is the message; if these girls are interested in meeting you, it'll happen.

trippymofoAF · 2016-06-07T09:57:07+00:00

A good percentage of them use Tinder as a supplement to FB just to get more attention and guys hitting on them, basically attention whores, once they have their fix they let you loose. Next.

[deleted] · 2016-06-07T09:34:13+00:00

I say "glad we had this talk" and next. It leaves the door open but you can move on.

pm_your_nudes_women · 2016-06-07T09:59:00+00:00

Do you people delete these attention suckers or just leave them there unnoticed?

[deleted] · 2016-06-07T11:00:43+00:00

If they flake they're uninterested. You've got a log of you're entire conversation to see where you went wrong, which is nice, but generally it's because you moved too slowly and didn't show your intentions.

banica24 · 2016-06-07T11:47:46+00:00

What about: I understand you are afraid but I don't bite or something similar?

Please never say that.

How many messages do you exchange on Tinder? Sounds like too many. You should be getting the number within the first hour of matching. Otherwise she gets distracted with real life, goes offline and when she comes back there 20+ more messages from dudes on top of yours.

^ That's also why I don't like online dating - you're competing with hundreds of other guys (whether Chads or betas) while she's getting the attention boost she wants while behind a screen... As opposed to in-person approach where it's just you and her

fnordsnord · 2016-06-07T13:25:11+00:00

Forget them. You are corresponding too long and not setting up a meet quickly enough, so they are losing interest. Alternately, they are interested initially, but then a higher SMV male shows up on the scene and you get back-burnered.

So your advice is twofold (yes, I actually talk like that - get over it): Escalate to a meet faster and the ones that ghost need to be swiped past.

2Bait4Me · 2016-06-07T15:19:04+00:00

get your interaction off tinder quickly as possible. get the number and use that only for logistics, Game face to face.

The following was written by "Manwhore" and was in ref to POF:

You DO want to get a phone number within 2-4 messages with a girl. Any longer than that and you become a penpal..

When I get a number I’ll say something like “Hey this pof stuff is too nerdy for me. Shoot me a text (###) ### ####” or something like “Ya I’m done with this pof. Shoot me your num I promise to only stalk you on sundays..”

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/169887

Title	How to respond on tinder to girls who leave you hanging?
Author	pm_your_nudes_women
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	June 7, 2016 9:22 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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