I've been the textbook definition of a "pick me girl". I finally found the guts to initiate NC with the ex-bf bc he ended up cheating on me. He came back twice prior to this and said he changed but soon realized that he was just seeking validation etc and maybe did not have the right intentions.

Knowing that I just recently discovered FDS- I cannot expect to become HVW overnight. Rn, I'm really trying hard to not romanticize the beginning stages of our relationship because it isn't worth it but it's really hard to miss the memories and everything. I still have a lot anxiety and sinking feeling that is associated with this breakup.

Just wondering how some of you transitioned from being a pick me to a HVW?