A friend of mine wrote me this message, what is the best advice can I give him in this situation ? .

The message is :

( Hey! Can we talk next week? I got some question tbh… the thing is, that it’s pretty bad between ** and me. We are not really clicking and she can’t understand my habits. Otherwise, it’s hard for me to understand her since she got ADHS. It’s the disease, where people cannot pay attention to other people and are always hyperactive. In addition to that, people with AHDS are always nervous and extremely (hyper) emotional. So moving to Berlin would be more or less and escape from me to leave **** in Dresden. I never really talked to you since I’m a bit ashamed that I still got to deal with things likes this. It affects my whole life and I can’t control her anymore. She started to take pills against which gives us a window of 10 hours normality before things get even worse. For example today I just told her, that she looks incredible good in the dress Hanna gave her. She kinda misinterpreted that and went full 0 to 120. She ruined the dinner and so on by bullshitting on me, that I’m a superficial person and bla bla bla. I really started to feel like nils since she is in charge of everything.

you are one of my closest friends and you know that I would never talk to you about things like this if it wouldn’t be that serious. I’m really thinking of a break up. But I’m 26 now and I always wanted to have a career with a wife and kids. But isn’t able for anything. She fucks up every appointment and cannot even take responsibility for herself. I was about to break up 5 weeks ago but then sentences like “I was thinking of killing myself” appeared and I tried to calm the situation by taking all blame on me. It’s always like it. Since 4 weeks I changed my life drastically and even took distance to my family just to be there for her. Just to fulfil her emotions. I tried everything by marking borders of things which aren’t okay. She started to talk to her German girlfriends (which all are obviously dominating her boyfriend) and they support her. I really overthink everything and went for action. But beside leaving my hometown, which is also a good experience for me, I don’t see any solution. I even applied for 6 jobs overseas. Just to be away so time will kill our relationship naturally. It’s sounds hard, but I really love her. But her attitude, her friends and her ADHS destroys almost everything and I started to be a fucking, small minded village guy. Any advice? I know, that I sound enormously desperate but I just needed this to tell to you. You know how my friends in the village are. For them, a ruling girlfriend is normal. For me, it’s a nightmare which literally kills everything in me. Please never ever mention anything in front of . Act like u never heard anything about it. )

So he is stupid, he allowed her to act like this around him, as the saying says ( Give them a finger, and they'll take the whole hand ). ADHS was there when she talked to him the first time and isn’t an excuse and she isn’t not to blame, he allowed this behaviour and always ignored the red flags.

So a Little background : This guy finished his bachelor degree and started working, the first thing he did after he worked is that he looked for a fancy apartment to live with his girlfriend, his girlfriend chooses one of the most expensive apartments with a rent that is just stupid for a young man to pay. He was spoiled, he worked as a manager in club and girls always used him to get whatever they went in the club and he enjoyed the attention. His grandmother died 3 weeks ago and his girlfriend asked him for a vacation for both of them so after the death of his grandmother he just left for a vacation. He was always used by every girlfriend he had and this story keep repeating it self with just different girls.